Don't agree with the no apologies bit. One of the fastest things my ISFP has done is apologize when we have a dispute (as do I). This is about maturity.
rakawistar Did she say that ISFP's don't apologize or that it's hard for you to apologize. One thing I notice about ISFP's is they twist with the person is saying so they can reject it without really listening to the perspective.
As an ISFP; I have a hard time apologizing. It's a (failure thing). It's not because I don't care. I just can't stand that I did something wrong... I'm also stubborn.
I’m an INFJ. It’s a real challenge that my info doesn’t need validation, is often closed off, will not plan things and is not romantic or thoughtful. All live languages an INFJ needs. He’s very loyal & dependable, wants to please, but just won’t do the simple things I need in order to be pleased. He feels attacked when I express hurt feelings
It's funny, I read so much on forums about how awful ISFPs are to deal with and yet none of this has been said about me personally in real life. One thing I will say about us, though is that yes, we can have a hard time admitting we did something wrong, but it is not because we don't feel responsible for what we've done. I actually need to stand by everything I do and I feel like my name is engraved on everything I do. What really happens is that we just don't like to spend time laying blame on anyone, including ourselves. I guess I can't speak for all ISFPs, but I never ultimately find the blaming and shaming process to be worth my time or even my state of conscience.
Well, as an INFJ it is important to us to apologize when we do sth wrong to someone and we expect that from others too. Let's say we over react to everything related to morality, I wish I was a little carefree like ISFP...it seems you are enjoying your life which I really envious about.
Isfp here i agree thanks for that , you just articulated my thoughts , also those who do blame and shame ussually are proud and find themselves humiliated more than us ,ive seen it happen time and time again ussually with an estj or the likes but i just go into my supper power
@@sarina3089 my enfj better half for 21 years now says shes envious of my personality but to b truth full i wish i could experience true empathy and have her FE
please read only the last paragraph in you are in a hurry thanks hey as a isfp myself i can your pov , but i think you told in this video about you have to tell everything to a isfp for them to understand everything so why not try to tell then their relationship roles , i think i am a bit matured but i can clearly see my not matured self doing things you told me in this video, and about being skeptical , i think its not whole isfp thing but just your thing , however there was a point in my life where i actually thought my friends are fake and they were using me , so i made a habit of analyzing people , suppressing my emotion , being intellect , etc and these habits effected me a lot , at one point i literally had no friend it was because i was analyzing a lot , i forgot that everyone has a bad side , good people have more good side then bad , i forgot this simple principle and ghosted so many people a isfj just told me a small lie to start a conversation , i ghosted her , a intp had hard time saying they were wrong , i ghosted him , i didnt like entj style of doing thing , also ghosted him , a esfp was acting dumb , also ghosted him and when i wanted to approch new people i literally made a super plan , because my belief was nothing is possible without a plan which is dumb when i think of it now this was my super low point in life , i failed to realize the things we humans need are already here you dont have to do research or make a plan to do basic things a poor person who lives in a small hut , he has to work day and night just to get food everyday , if he gets sick one day he will not get any food that day , these type of people are happy , but me? did me being selfish made me happy? did me thinking no one is worthy of being my friend help me become happy or did me getting smarter then others in some particular things help me get happy or did me analyzing people is making me happy? the answer is noooooo this is when i started reading self help books , i was very good at conversation and talking with people especially 1 v 1 but now i cant even approach anyone , so i build myself from scratch ones more and i think now i only do the right thing and self improvement and now i have a habit of fixing all wrong habits and behavior of mine , therefore i cannot be typed i am a isfp most of the time but i analyze things which is not very isfp thing i also read and apply philosophy which is also not a very isfp thing i literally get orgasm when i see free informartion and one thing i noticed is i copy people unconciously which people say is a infj thing so i dont reslly know my type now am i a isfp or intp or infj but after a lot of research because i self improved a lot and i am so different from my old self and all 16 personality it seems i cant be typed but the closest thing of my personality type is isfp , and i do remember i was a isfp before as well so what i am trying to say is a isfp is a good person he just doesnt understand you so tell them what you want them to understand and also help your partner out understanding the things that they cant see if your partner is a immature isfp then as for your partner you should make a effort isnt that your duty? because this youtube video indirectly is saying dont pick isfp as your partner because of their habits however if you really love a isfp i think you should think more about how you both can understand and help each other out if you are a infj then you know why are you hating a isfp? because you think your way of thinking is how they need to see about our relationship but the thing is isfps are thinking the same the world is not fully correct nor it is fully wrong everyone is correct everyone is wrong , everyone is good and everyone is bad if you think it using this principle it may click your head in a lot of things similarly if you are a infj show then your world how you operate , example you are a windows 11 and a isfp only knows about macos and you are not telling them how to use windows , they will not figure it out so tell them you are a windows 11 which will help a isfp understand how to operate you , how to create folders , how to download things etc
I'm having a hard time managing an LDR with an ISFP as an INFJ, I would say that our relationship is on the brink of chaos, therefore ending. This video has helped me realize much things, thank you so much for this opportunity, m'lady.
Same is happening to me now wow so weird to see how similar our experience is with isfps. Just finished ldr with one and yikes, it was lovely until the storm came.. We were both kind to each other and supportive but now.. I'd say it's very hard for them to meet our needs, they listen but not hear, they can't really acknowledge why we value certain things, horrified of responsibility, surprisingly not much iniciative unless it's their spontaneous idea... and oh boy, actually planning the future and meetings, good luck with that 💀😅 nonetheless lovely people but sadly not a good much, that's all..
the "I like your shoes part" yeah I can understand that because we usually go off of tone of voice rather than listening to hardly to the words being said, if its said in a certain way it might get taken the wrong way or we sense something that's a little off we dont like it :)
Ha ha yer totaly right esecially when your supper power is noticing nuances , reading body language and are second to none with physical ques , and usually penetratingly right about people ,the poor girl commented on her shoes but really was probably jelous any way
I'm a INFP normally wouldn't make a comment but I figured I would share some light on this, my wife is a ISFP we are best friends with each other and love each other dearly. As for spending time with each other I don't like spending time with anyone that's not family or her but even with family it's hit or miss, bit with her I find out that she loves too spend time with me but has no issue being on her own at all, I am the same way which is nice, only thing I can say that are "downsides" she states in the video it's very accurate too the stuff my wife "struggles with"
Wow, it is my dream to get married into an INFJ-A....i find them so attractive even when they are silent. Its okay, i will do the talking and will listen to them when they need me too. It sound easy but i know it wont be easy as that. All in all, really like to try that out first
I was sure I was an INFJ. I took the test to see what they had to say. I found out I am really an ISFP. I still get a lot of valuable information on your videos.As a ISFP I always apologize when I do wrong. Mainly because I want to move on and own up to my mistakes. I really get upset listening to some of the most feeble excuses.
This was really helpful and I see how it relates to my experiences with ISFPs. For example, sometimes I get nervous with my Se around them (like in making music) because it comes so naturally for them and I falter a lot. But, you are right that they seem to genuinely want to encourage me along there. Thank you for making this and your other videos. Your insight is appreciated. :)
As an ISFP I apologize even when I have nothing to apologize for. I have a problem with saying thank you, just cause I don't think about it and when I do I feel horrible for not saying it
For real. This got me thinking I may be ISTP, but I’m definitely Fi-Se I’ve always apologised even if I’ve done nothing wrong. And when I did do something wrong, I apologised formally detailing everything I’ve done, and what I’ll do in the future Hearing ISFPs never apologising is baffling; not that I don’t agree- it can be true, since I don’t know all ISFPs- but two things can be true at the same time. It’s true ISFPs can not apologise because of egotistical Fi. It’s also true ISFPs apologise because of sensitive Fi that wants to please others. Therefore, saying “ISFPs don’t apologise” is inaccurate because of the dual nature of Fi
Since getting the two-box shipment of pictures and items from my pre-Texas years, I've been thinking a lot about my high school and early college days. From your description, I'm fairly sure that my my best friend was (and still is) ISFP. We got along well - in fact, I don't think we ever had an angry word between us in three years. After all these years we still keep in contact and in fact, she helped look after my parents, too. She could get riled once in a while, but very seldom. i get the idea that ISFPs are usually easy to get along with. While watching the video she came to mind right away. (My friends were all musicians - not surprising, although misic is spread out over all the personalities.)
Wow i realy appreciate your sharing all that , im Isfp and you were so spot on esthetics are such a big part of my life , i specialize in decorative concrete am a 44 year old body builder, married for 21Years to my enfj wife who thinks i have PeterPan syndrome , i don feel as though i really have any thing to offer though other tham my admiration for you NF,s , i love you guys and respect my wife to the core becaue of her fe ; she she is a true empath , i am to as i woud love to b a nurse or paramedic but its a bit different with fi , any way you guys are so together ifell like an imature selfish child , peace & love ;;;;;;
Not only respecting but even cheering you on. I went with my colegues on a trip and I decided I will have fun and do what I like. And I really wanted to play tennis and this ISFP let me play in his place and said to beat the guys and to not get intimidated by them.
Number one, as typical of my ISFP self, I think you are absolutely beautiful, mannerisms, physicality and bob hair cut and all. Secondly, I think it's funny that you say that ISFP's low TE makes them not very proficient at processing facts objectively when all your videos are about dealing with the all the types... if you're an INFJ. lol So not that objective, yet your descriptions are general rules of thumb. Yet it's through your window. I do agree with what you said, I just have a super hard time with infj boundary and territory marking. I don't like that if I am making my presence known, or socializing with whom I choose, an INFJ might have stink face about it, but as you say, may just be because of their own inhibitions. I hate this so very much because let me say, I absolutely adore the dreamy introverted intuition and the plasticity with which they reach out to others. It could potentially be more effective than any extroverted combination of strengths. When I look at an infj, I feel like they are going to make me angry and we are going to fight. Then I will feel bad and just go away from them.... What you said about skepticism is so right. I just do not do that. Since I can remember.
Infj sees in big picture. Isfp tends to creat a picture/ art. So infj is visionary and isfp is visual. I’m an infj and I love and respect isfp types but do not wish to spend much time with them. Kind of polar opposites. This is my opinion not facts.
i am isfp t. when i think it was not worth it to apologize i wont apologize. i rebel and after sometimes, when i find the value in it, i tend to recool back and manage the values in me only.
?????? Maybe I'm not really an Isfp. . I apologize all the time and consider others feelings before my own. I can easily put myself in others shoes and do it quite often. I have been told that I'm empathetic to a fault.
There’s no one size fits all. Your experiences as an individual are going to be just as important in shaping who you are as a person as your personality type does. What you’ve described isn’t actually all that uncommon for ISFPs from what I’ve heard/read. Having high Fi can often times have a way of making you “mimic” a high Fe user, so it’s not all that surprising that you have this experience.
+Steven Blancher Books unfortunately not, but in general I would look into the socionics system. ISFP is ISFj there (since the first function FI is a j-udging). The things you find there are really going a lot deeper than MBTI in a lot of cases.
INFJ:BelowtheRadar-AbovetheSystem Thanks, yes I really want to find specifics of the function stacks... so far awareness has developed which is good but I want to dive deeper for better consciousness. Again, thank you a million! Your videos are great, I wish people did them on Isfp and esfp as well as you do.
I'm an INFJ and my mom is an ISFP and she annoys me so much. She can not understand me sometimes and it irks me so much.She only see things her way and is selfish with always wanting her way and and wants everyone to do what she says. I have learned to distance myself from her to keep my peace. When she is in a good mood she is nice, but she can be manipulative and negative at times and I can't stand that.
danielle johnson she doesn't listen to me either when I talk and when I tell her what is going on in my life it just feels like she does nit care at times. As an introvert it is hard to have both parents who are not intuitive.
+danielle johnson My mother is ISFP also. I have wondered for 40 years why we just don't click. We repel and ignite. Everyone loves her. Everyone loves me. But we don't get along well and she could care less about what I have to say. She has zero empathy and little sympathy. During the worst times of my life, like disastrous, heart breaking, soul searching, wanting to evaporate times, she has almost always managed to make it worse with her words. Just one sentence. Uncanny for saying the EXACT thing that will twist the knife and I truly believe she does not mean to do this. I don't she how she doesn't get that saying that or being so flippant about bad things that happen to her child but she does. Then when I tell her how hurt I am and ask her why she said that she either says "I didn't say that!" or "You're just too sensitive." Thank god my father is intuitive. The way he 'speaks' to mean understands me, literally and figuratively is highlighted by the lack of those things in the relationship I have with her. I understand more now, but the relationship doesn't get better just because I understand how she is different and how I expect something from her that she just can't give me. I disappoint her in ways too. It is obvious. It has gotten worse as I have gotten older. The bigger the problem I faced, the worse she was/is and I needed her badly about 4 years ago and it just became unbearable. I just have to keep things as surface as possible with her. I don't talk about my problems. I don't pretend to be Pollyanna Sunshine either which is I think what she wants. If I do behave excited and happy she acts suspicious like I'm on drugs or something. Can't please her. I do believe having her as a mother did make my weaker functions more developed at a very young age. So that's cool.
I believe that's normal of mother-child relationships. My mother is an ISTJ and she doesn't understand me either and annoys me (I'm an ISFP). Yet outside of my family I could get along with ISTJs.
Same here. Very difficult relationship. INFJ kid with ISFP mother. Very explosive, violent childhood.. Apology? Didn't come until I was 35 and put my foot down and said I would no longer be her emotional punching bag. She stopped hitting when I left for college.. I also told my dad, "This is yours, not mine, you deal with her." It finally hit home for her that her emotions are hers to handle. My three girls are ESTP, ESFP, and ISFJ. Much easier to navigate!
i really love your advise so much. Did you think that isfp alway tell a lie ? How you deal with them? if isfp say they dont love you and want to over with you , how do you deal with them
+Kobkiart Positwinyu I don't think you can generalize 'a type' lying. Rather look why do you think that person is lying? Are they scared of your reaction, are they so unhealthy that they can only look at their own pain and not others...one way or the other - it is your job to set a boundary and distance yourself if you you are not treated correctly
+INFJ:BelowtheRadar-AbovetheSystem I've seen alot of blogs about isfp's lying (more specifically secret affairs, sortof a secret life) to infjs in romantic relationships, and have had personal experience with this, would u find it logical to warn infjs of this possibility or would this also be sortof an illogical generalization?
I'm a INFP normally wouldn't make a comment but I figured I would share some light on this, my wife is a ISFP we are best friends with each other and love each other dearly. As for spending time with each other I don't like spending time with anyone that's not family or her but even with family it's hit or miss, bit with her I find out that she loves too spend time with me but has no issue being on her own at all, I am the same way which is nice, only thing I can say that are "downsides" she states in the video it's very accurate too the stuff my wife "struggles with"
The irony here is that Wenzes is actually an ISFP; the attached Fi logic is highly conscious with the Ni vague abstractions - no offence my Ti is constantly looking for inconsistencies but this is very apparent from all your content & most of your commentators; INFJ literally the type everyone wants to be but isn't. You can't be a Ti convergent as it evident you struggle with cerebral logic. The struggle with Ne-Te is also apparent; you refer to socionics but you can't blend from a variety of sources or make any Ti deductions that aren't Fi imbued from them. No offence but mistyping needs to stop. It's a fallacy that ISFP are naturally competent with their Se; many convergent subtypes like yourself are more Fi-Ni activated.
I found this video very negative and you put a negative stance on everything. Its just your opinion but that doesnt make it right in anyway shape or form at all. Isfps are the kindest out of all the personality types google it as that is everywhere.
So because someone is kind they can't be negative? Huh? Just because isfp's are kind doesn't mean they do not have problematic functions. That is very self-centered. You are not perfect angelic beings and do have a problem with looking at the world with an objective worldview and choose perspectives as it relates to you and how it affects you. What else explains you being here saying Google says no no no we are so awesome instead of taking in how 15 other personalities might see you or the other constructive information out there that may not be telling you how fabulous you are while sipping daiquiris. I would advise you to read the wealth of information out there that gives you information about your negative function instead of obsessing only on the ones that make you feel good. I'm sure you might be a good person but that doesn't mean you aren't self-involved "12. Nearly all of the problematic characteristics described above can be attributed in various degrees to the common ISFP problem of only taking in data that justifies their personal opinions. Look around this block of gaining information, even if it doesn't have an immediate reward for you. 13. ISFPs have a massive disdain of criticism. It hits them in the heart. Try to see criticism as a chance to grow, blossom, and be better. If the ISFP does not learn how to deal with this perceived criticism, the ISFP will begin to shut out the incoming information that causes them pain. 14. The ISFP has a built in system to protect the moral / value system which it upholds. Criticism to this causes the ISFP to shut out any criticism with which it may come across, which actually causes more harm, less preparation for hearing others, more drops into being a loner, and problems with understanding other people's viewpoints."
@@aminap.2221 I don't see anything wrong with being true to yourself. I also don't understand why she said we can not put ourselves in others shoes. I do that all the time. Probably too much and usually consider others feelings before my own. I would never think that I'm the greastest of anything. I do get hurt easily by criticism that is very true. However to me she did make it sound like we are awful selfish inconsiderate assholes. I hope that that is not true. Also I have no problem in apologizing to people. I don't want to hurt anyone. If I am wrong about something I will be the first to admit it. I do realize that I'm human ya know. I will not apologize for staying true to my values ever that is true but I don't think anyone ever should. Criticism does hurt but I do not shut it out. Honestly how can you? It actually causes me to look at myself and see if it is correct. If I agree that it is then obviously I would hope and try to fix the problem. Maybe people are misreading us or just stay don't understand what is going on in our heads and make assumptions or maybe I'm not an ISFP. Lastly I always see things from nanny and I mean many different perspectives.
Don't agree with the no apologies bit. One of the fastest things my ISFP has done is apologize when we have a dispute (as do I). This is about maturity.
rakawistar Did she say that ISFP's don't apologize or that it's hard for you to apologize. One thing I notice about ISFP's is they twist with the person is saying so they can reject it without really listening to the perspective.
As an ISFP; I have a hard time apologizing. It's a (failure thing). It's not because I don't care. I just can't stand that I did something wrong... I'm also stubborn.
I’m an INFJ. It’s a real challenge that my info doesn’t need validation, is often closed off, will not plan things and is not romantic or thoughtful. All live languages an INFJ needs. He’s very loyal & dependable, wants to please, but just won’t do the simple things I need in order to be pleased. He feels attacked when I express hurt feelings
It's funny, I read so much on forums about how awful ISFPs are to deal with and yet none of this has been said about me personally in real life. One thing I will say about us, though is that yes, we can have a hard time admitting we did something wrong, but it is not because we don't feel responsible for what we've done. I actually need to stand by everything I do and I feel like my name is engraved on everything I do. What really happens is that we just don't like to spend time laying blame on anyone, including ourselves. I guess I can't speak for all ISFPs, but I never ultimately find the blaming and shaming process to be worth my time or even my state of conscience.
ISFP here...I never understood why I wasn't into blaming and shaming, now I do. :)
Completely agree!
Well, as an INFJ it is important to us to apologize when we do sth wrong to someone and we expect that from others too. Let's say we over react to everything related to morality, I wish I was a little carefree like ISFP...it seems you are enjoying your life which I really envious about.
Isfp here i agree thanks for that , you just articulated my thoughts , also those who do blame and shame ussually are proud and find themselves humiliated more than us ,ive seen it happen time and time again ussually with an estj or the likes but i just go into my supper power
@@sarina3089 my enfj better half for 21 years now says shes envious of my personality but to b truth full i wish i could experience true empathy and have her FE
please read only the last paragraph in you are in a hurry thanks
hey as a isfp myself i can your pov , but i think you told in this video about you have to tell everything to a isfp for them to understand everything so why not try to tell then their relationship roles , i think i am a bit matured but i can clearly see my not matured self doing things you told me in this video, and about being skeptical , i think its not whole isfp thing but just your thing , however there was a point in my life where i actually thought my friends are fake and they were using me , so i made a habit of analyzing people , suppressing my emotion , being intellect , etc and these habits effected me a lot , at one point i literally had no friend it was because i was analyzing a lot , i forgot that everyone has a bad side , good people have more good side then bad , i forgot this simple principle and ghosted so many people
a isfj just told me a small lie to start a conversation , i ghosted her , a intp had hard time saying they were wrong , i ghosted him , i didnt like entj style of doing thing , also ghosted him , a esfp was acting dumb , also ghosted him
and when i wanted to approch new people i literally made a super plan , because my belief was nothing is possible without a plan
which is dumb when i think of it now
this was my super low point in life , i failed to realize the things we humans need are already here you dont have to do research or make a plan to do basic things
a poor person who lives in a small hut , he has to work day and night just to get food everyday , if he gets sick one day he will not get any food that day , these type of people are happy , but me? did me being selfish made me happy? did me thinking no one is worthy of being my friend help me become happy or did me getting smarter then others in some particular things help me get happy or did me analyzing people is making me happy? the answer is noooooo
this is when i started reading self help books , i was very good at conversation and talking with people especially 1 v 1 but now i cant even approach anyone , so i build myself from scratch ones more
and i think now i only do the right thing and self improvement
and now i have a habit of fixing all wrong habits and behavior of mine , therefore i cannot be typed
i am a isfp most of the time but i analyze things which is not very isfp thing
i also read and apply philosophy which is also not a very isfp thing
i literally get orgasm when i see free informartion and one thing i noticed is i copy people unconciously
which people say is a infj thing
so i dont reslly know my type now
am i a isfp or intp or infj
but after a lot of research because i self improved a lot and i am so different from my old self and all 16 personality it seems i cant be typed but the closest thing of my personality type is isfp , and i do remember i was a isfp before as well
so what i am trying to say is a isfp is a good person he just doesnt understand you so tell them what you want them to understand and also help your partner out understanding the things that they cant see
if your partner is a immature isfp then as for your partner you should make a effort
isnt that your duty? because this youtube video indirectly is saying dont pick isfp as your partner because of their habits however if you really love a isfp i think you should think more about how you both can understand and help each other out
if you are a infj then you know why are you hating a isfp? because you think your way of thinking is how they need to see about our relationship but the thing is isfps are thinking the same
the world is not fully correct nor it is fully wrong everyone is correct everyone is wrong , everyone is good and everyone is bad
if you think it using this principle it may click your head in a lot of things
similarly if you are a infj show then your world how you operate , example you are a windows 11 and a isfp only knows about macos and you are not telling them how to use windows , they will not figure it out so tell them you are a windows 11 which will help a isfp understand how to operate you , how to create folders , how to download things etc
I'm having a hard time managing an LDR with an ISFP as an INFJ, I would say that our relationship is on the brink of chaos, therefore ending. This video has helped me realize much things, thank you so much for this opportunity, m'lady.
thank you :)
How is everything now?
We are on the same situation right now
Went through this recently, they hardly admit their wrongs
Same is happening to me now wow so weird to see how similar our experience is with isfps. Just finished ldr with one and yikes, it was lovely until the storm came.. We were both kind to each other and supportive but now.. I'd say it's very hard for them to meet our needs, they listen but not hear, they can't really acknowledge why we value certain things, horrified of responsibility, surprisingly not much iniciative unless it's their spontaneous idea... and oh boy, actually planning the future and meetings, good luck with that 💀😅 nonetheless lovely people but sadly not a good much, that's all..
ISFPs are awesome.
the "I like your shoes part" yeah I can understand that because we usually go off of tone of voice rather than listening to hardly to the words being said, if its said in a certain way it might get taken the wrong way or we sense something that's a little off we dont like it :)
Ha ha yer totaly right esecially when your supper power is noticing nuances , reading body language and are second to none with physical ques , and usually penetratingly right about people ,the poor girl commented on her shoes but really was probably jelous any way
I'm sorry, ISFP and I don't have a problem apologizing. Helpful video btw thanks
Thanks for the feedback Sheldon! Yeah, the more input we get, the better of an evaluation we can make, so thanks :)
Thanks! A lot of truth here. An INFJ married to a ISFP for 11 years.
Thank you for the feedback 😊👍much appreciated
How is everything going between you both?
I'm a INFP normally wouldn't make a comment but I figured I would share some light on this, my wife is a ISFP we are best friends with each other and love each other dearly. As for spending time with each other I don't like spending time with anyone that's not family or her but even with family it's hit or miss, bit with her I find out that she loves too spend time with me but has no issue being on her own at all, I am the same way which is nice, only thing I can say that are "downsides" she states in the video it's very accurate too the stuff my wife "struggles with"
Wow, it is my dream to get married into an INFJ-A....i find them so attractive even when they are silent. Its okay, i will do the talking and will listen to them when they need me too. It sound easy but i know it wont be easy as that. All in all, really like to try that out first
What’s the secret ? INFJ here married to ISFP!!
I was sure I was an INFJ. I took the test to see what they had to say. I found out I am really an ISFP. I still get a lot of valuable information on your videos.As a ISFP I always apologize when I do wrong. Mainly because I want to move on and own up to my mistakes. I really get upset listening to some of the most feeble excuses.
This was really helpful and I see how it relates to my experiences with ISFPs. For example, sometimes I get nervous with my Se around them (like in making music) because it comes so naturally for them and I falter a lot. But, you are right that they seem to genuinely want to encourage me along there. Thank you for making this and your other videos. Your insight is appreciated. :)
+Chandra West And thank you so much for your feedback :)
As an ISFP I apologize even when I have nothing to apologize for. I have a problem with saying thank you, just cause I don't think about it and when I do I feel horrible for not saying it
For real. This got me thinking I may be ISTP, but I’m definitely Fi-Se
I’ve always apologised even if I’ve done nothing wrong. And when I did do something wrong, I apologised formally detailing everything I’ve done, and what I’ll do in the future
Hearing ISFPs never apologising is baffling; not that I don’t agree- it can be true, since I don’t know all ISFPs- but two things can be true at the same time. It’s true ISFPs can not apologise because of egotistical Fi. It’s also true ISFPs apologise because of sensitive Fi that wants to please others. Therefore, saying “ISFPs don’t apologise” is inaccurate because of the dual nature of Fi
Me and my mom bump heads a lot and so do me and my friend...come to find out they are both isfp. And the arguments we have sound almost identical
Omg my wife, the isfp, hardly listens when i have insight about health or parenting.
Same problem friend.
Since getting the two-box shipment of pictures and items from my pre-Texas years, I've been thinking a lot about my high school and early college days. From your description, I'm fairly sure that my my best friend was (and still is) ISFP. We got along well - in fact, I don't think we ever had an angry word between us in three years. After all these years we still keep in contact and in fact, she helped look after my parents, too. She could get riled once in a while, but very seldom. i get the idea that ISFPs are usually easy to get along with. While watching the video she came to mind right away. (My friends were all musicians - not surprising, although misic is spread out over all the personalities.)
Wow i realy appreciate your sharing all that , im Isfp and you were so spot on esthetics are such a big part of my life , i specialize in decorative concrete am a 44 year old body builder, married for 21Years to my enfj wife who thinks i have PeterPan syndrome , i don feel as though i really have any thing to offer though other tham my admiration for you NF,s , i love you guys and respect my wife to the core becaue of her fe ; she she is a true empath , i am to as i woud love to b a nurse or paramedic but its a bit different with fi , any way you guys are so together ifell like an imature selfish child , peace & love ;;;;;;
Yesssss my wife is an ISFP and she rarely apologizes.. and she thinks i do it too much 🤦🏾♂️🤷🏾♂️🤣😂
Not only respecting but even cheering you on.
I went with my colegues on a trip and I decided I will have fun and do what I like. And I really wanted to play tennis and this ISFP let me play in his place and said to beat the guys and to not get intimidated by them.
Thanks for this! I really see these things in the dynamic with the ISFP in my life.
Are there any socionics books you would recommend?
Can't spell SelFIsh without Fi....
My partner is ISFP and it fits well
Number one, as typical of my ISFP self, I think you are absolutely beautiful, mannerisms, physicality and bob hair cut and all. Secondly, I think it's funny that you say that ISFP's low TE makes them not very proficient at processing facts objectively when all your videos are about dealing with the all the types... if you're an INFJ. lol So not that objective, yet your descriptions are general rules of thumb. Yet it's through your window. I do agree with what you said, I just have a super hard time with infj boundary and territory marking. I don't like that if I am making my presence known, or socializing with whom I choose, an INFJ might have stink face about it, but as you say, may just be because of their own inhibitions. I hate this so very much because let me say, I absolutely adore the dreamy introverted intuition and the plasticity with which they reach out to others. It could potentially be more effective than any extroverted combination of strengths. When I look at an infj, I feel like they are going to make me angry and we are going to fight. Then I will feel bad and just go away from them.... What you said about skepticism is so right. I just do not do that. Since I can remember.
Infj sees in big picture. Isfp tends to creat a picture/ art. So infj is visionary and isfp is visual. I’m an infj and I love and respect isfp types but do not wish to spend much time with them. Kind of polar opposites. This is my opinion not facts.
ISFP's aren't really sceptical. I think that is just a personal thing with your friend...
i am isfp t. when i think it was not worth it to apologize i wont apologize. i rebel and after sometimes, when i find the value in it, i tend to recool back and manage the values in me only.
?????? Maybe I'm not really an Isfp. . I apologize all the time and consider others feelings before my own. I can easily put myself in others shoes and do it quite often. I have been told that I'm empathetic to a fault.
You may done the test wrong...you could be an INFJ...or an ENFJ...maybe.
yea same i think i should do the test over
There’s no one size fits all. Your experiences as an individual are going to be just as important in shaping who you are as a person as your personality type does.
What you’ve described isn’t actually all that uncommon for ISFPs from what I’ve heard/read. Having high Fi can often times have a way of making you “mimic” a high Fe user, so it’s not all that surprising that you have this experience.
Do you have some book recommendations to learn this sytem better? Or, specifically learn myself better to control then interact with others? I am ISFP
+Steven Blancher Books unfortunately not, but in general I would look into the socionics system. ISFP is ISFj there (since the first function FI is a j-udging). The things you find there are really going a lot deeper than MBTI in a lot of cases.
INFJ:BelowtheRadar-AbovetheSystem Thanks, yes I really want to find specifics of the function stacks... so far awareness has developed which is good but I want to dive deeper for better consciousness. Again, thank you a million! Your videos are great, I wish people did them on Isfp and esfp as well as you do.
+Steven Blancher Thanks ;)
I'm an INFJ and my mom is an ISFP and she annoys me so much. She can not understand me sometimes and it irks me so much.She only see things her way and is selfish with always wanting her way and and wants everyone to do what she says. I have learned to distance myself from her to keep my peace. When she is in a good mood she is nice, but she can be manipulative and negative at times and I can't stand that.
danielle johnson she doesn't listen to me either when I talk and when I tell her what is going on in my life it just feels like she does nit care at times. As an introvert it is hard to have both parents who are not intuitive.
+danielle johnson My mother is ISFP also. I have wondered for 40 years why we just don't click. We repel and ignite. Everyone loves her. Everyone loves me. But we don't get along well and she could care less about what I have to say. She has zero empathy and little sympathy. During the worst times of my life, like disastrous, heart breaking, soul searching, wanting to evaporate times, she has almost always managed to make it worse with her words. Just one sentence. Uncanny for saying the EXACT thing that will twist the knife and I truly believe she does not mean to do this. I don't she how she doesn't get that saying that or being so flippant about bad things that happen to her child but she does. Then when I tell her how hurt I am and ask her why she said that she either says "I didn't say that!" or "You're just too sensitive."
Thank god my father is intuitive. The way he 'speaks' to mean understands me, literally and figuratively is highlighted by the lack of those things in the relationship I have with her. I understand more now, but the relationship doesn't get better just because I understand how she is different and how I expect something from her that she just can't give me. I disappoint her in ways too. It is obvious. It has gotten worse as I have gotten older. The bigger the problem I faced, the worse she was/is and I needed her badly about 4 years ago and it just became unbearable. I just have to keep things as surface as possible with her. I don't talk about my problems. I don't pretend to be Pollyanna Sunshine either which is I think what she wants. If I do behave excited and happy she acts suspicious like I'm on drugs or something. Can't please her. I do believe having her as a mother did make my weaker functions more developed at a very young age. So that's cool.
danielle johnson you are probably a handful yourself
I believe that's normal of mother-child relationships. My mother is an ISTJ and she doesn't understand me either and annoys me (I'm an ISFP). Yet outside of my family I could get along with ISTJs.
Same here. Very difficult relationship. INFJ kid with ISFP mother. Very explosive, violent childhood.. Apology? Didn't come until I was 35 and put my foot down and said I would no longer be her emotional punching bag. She stopped hitting when I left for college.. I also told my dad, "This is yours, not mine, you deal with her." It finally hit home for her that her emotions are hers to handle.
My three girls are ESTP, ESFP, and ISFJ. Much easier to navigate!
i really love your advise so much. Did you think that isfp alway tell a lie ? How you deal with them? if isfp say they dont love you and want to over with you , how do you deal with them
+Kobkiart Positwinyu I don't think you can generalize 'a type' lying. Rather look why do you think that person is lying? Are they scared of your reaction, are they so unhealthy that they can only look at their own pain and not others...one way or the other - it is your job to set a boundary and distance yourself if you you are not treated correctly
+INFJ:BelowtheRadar-AbovetheSystem I've seen alot of blogs about isfp's lying (more specifically secret affairs, sortof a secret life) to infjs in romantic relationships, and have had personal experience with this, would u find it logical to warn infjs of this possibility or would this also be sortof an illogical generalization?
I personally haven't experienced this, I actually have found the infps I know as very truthful...so I think there is no correlation :)
This makes me sad to be an ISFP. I'm sorry🙁
Why? ISFP can be just as wonderful and not wonderful like every other personality type 😊
Every type has its limitations
I'm a INFP normally wouldn't make a comment but I figured I would share some light on this, my wife is a ISFP we are best friends with each other and love each other dearly. As for spending time with each other I don't like spending time with anyone that's not family or her but even with family it's hit or miss, bit with her I find out that she loves too spend time with me but has no issue being on her own at all, I am the same way which is nice, only thing I can say that are "downsides" she states in the video it's very accurate too the stuff my wife "struggles with"
The irony here is that Wenzes is actually an ISFP; the attached Fi logic is highly conscious with the Ni vague abstractions - no offence my Ti is constantly looking for inconsistencies but this is very apparent from all your content & most of your commentators; INFJ literally the type everyone wants to be but isn't. You can't be a Ti convergent as it evident you struggle with cerebral logic. The struggle with Ne-Te is also apparent; you refer to socionics but you can't blend from a variety of sources or make any Ti deductions that aren't Fi imbued from them. No offence but mistyping needs to stop. It's a fallacy that ISFP are naturally competent with their Se; many convergent subtypes like yourself are more Fi-Ni activated.
Sorry but really disagree with you.
I found this video very negative and you put a negative stance on everything. Its just your opinion but that doesnt make it right in anyway shape or form at all. Isfps are the kindest out of all the personality types google it as that is everywhere.
So because someone is kind they can't be negative? Huh? Just because isfp's are kind doesn't mean they do not have problematic functions. That is very self-centered. You are not perfect angelic beings and do have a problem with looking at the world with an objective worldview and choose perspectives as it relates to you and how it affects you. What else explains you being here saying Google says no no no we are so awesome instead of taking in how 15 other personalities might see you or the other constructive information out there that may not be telling you how fabulous you are while sipping daiquiris. I would advise you to read the wealth of information out there that gives you information about your negative function instead of obsessing only on the ones that make you feel good. I'm sure you might be a good person but that doesn't mean you aren't self-involved
"12. Nearly all of the problematic characteristics described above can be attributed in various degrees to the common ISFP problem of only taking in data that justifies their personal opinions. Look around this block of gaining information, even if it doesn't have an immediate reward for you.
13. ISFPs have a massive disdain of criticism. It hits them in the heart. Try to see criticism as a chance to grow, blossom, and be better. If the ISFP does not learn how to deal with this perceived criticism, the ISFP will begin to shut out the incoming information that causes them pain.
14. The ISFP has a built in system to protect the moral / value system which it upholds. Criticism to this causes the ISFP to shut out any criticism with which it may come across, which actually causes more harm, less preparation for hearing others, more drops into being a loner, and problems with understanding other people's viewpoints."
@@aminap.2221 I don't see anything wrong with being true to yourself. I also don't understand why she said we can not put ourselves in others shoes. I do that all the time. Probably too much and usually consider others feelings before my own. I would never think that I'm the greastest of anything. I do get hurt easily by criticism that is very true. However to me she did make it sound like we are awful selfish inconsiderate assholes. I hope that that is not true. Also I have no problem in apologizing to people. I don't want to hurt anyone. If I am wrong about something I will be the first to admit it. I do realize that I'm human ya know. I will not apologize for staying true to my values ever that is true but I don't think anyone ever should. Criticism does hurt but I do not shut it out. Honestly how can you? It actually causes me to look at myself and see if it is correct. If I agree that it is then obviously I would hope and try to fix the problem. Maybe people are misreading us or just stay don't understand what is going on in our heads and make assumptions or maybe I'm not an ISFP. Lastly I always see things from nanny and I mean many different perspectives.