I think its really sad that society makes people feel like their life will be "empty" w/o a romantic partner...I once told a man that loving a woman will not be the best thing he's ever done and he said he wouldn't see a point in living if that were true. I found that to be very sad and I have found that a lot of people feel that way. They think getting married and having kids means you are successful. I am capable of romantic love but I don't think it is the end all be all.
Yess that's a great way of putting it, i'm feeling kind of sad and down because i'm pretty sure i'm asexual, maybe i'm too young to know yet but society has put so much pressure on us to all be in relationships, particularly romantic and sexual, but deep down friendships mean so much more to me so screw society
The bad thing about that is some people who have broken up with their partners have committed suicide because they relied too much on that relationship for their happiness and aren’t happy when they’re not with that partner... You should NEVER rely on a romantic relationship for your happiness.
I think I might be aro? ... I get “crushes” on people. I can like somebody and want to hang out with them, they give me butterflies and at most I want to hug them or hold their hand, buts that’s a stretch and doesn’t happen often and it’s only in a platonic way. I’m 21 and Never once in my life have I liked somebody and wanted to kiss them or be in a relationship with them. I’m totally happy being really close friends, but closer than my other friends.. but not together. I like when there’s physical contact but not in a romantic way. I’ve never understood my friends when they’d go on about boys/girls and wanting to date them and being sad if they weren’t single. I’d be totally ok if the person I liked was in a relationship, just as long as we get to be really close friends.
"I'm so full of love but it's not romantic" yes! this totally explains how i feel. I'm just now realizing I am aromantic and everything you talked about, I relate to so much. I feel relieved at finally being able to put a name to it.
I just found out that I‘m aromantic and asexual. I also ship pairs and I enjoy romance in movies and books, I „crushed“ over fictional characters more than over real persons years ago. But I‘m not into being in a relationship myself, I‘m not going out at weekends, get drunk and flirt with strangers; that‘s not me. I‘ve tried once with someone from school, it didn‘t work and now I‘m happy I experienced it because it helped me finding out I‘m aro-ace. What I hate the most: people who want you to have a romantic partner and who almost force you to date and you don‘t want to come out to them because you know they‘ll just say that you should meet that person and everything is ok (almost like „being aromantic and asexual isn‘t real, you just haven‘t met the right person yet“)
Unfortunately asexuality and aromanticism aren't widely known yet, but hopefully we can help to change that and people will be more accepting and understanding 💜
One of the hardest things about being aro for me is that all of my friends are looking for this gold standard, all-important romantic relationship, because for some reason, in our society romantic relationships are understood to be more meaningful. It's incredibly frustrating because I don't understand why friends can't have a deep connection with each other without any romance, but my friends seem to associate deep connections with romantic partners. Friendships just aren't as important to them as they are to me.
I didn’t even know about the term aromantic until a couple days ago. I’ve always been physically attracted to women and came out years ago but I’ve never had feelings of romance for someone since I was still in school. My family thinks it’s strange that I’m not trying to get in a relationship and I thought maybe I was just weird for not wanting one but I’m so glad I found out about this. Now I know I’m not alone.
I love the Christmas analogy - anyone can celebrate whether you're religious or not. I love how much you're full of love - I'm sure it's a common misconception that aro people aren't.
Yeah, I sort of wish Christmas was renamed so that it was super inclusive to everyone but I know that would be against the original point and most likely disrespectful 😅 I just find it sad that some people don't celebrate just because!
@@SamanthaAimee well some Muslim still celebrate it and some don't but those who don't are not sad about it, they re is no law for having the right to celebrate it or not. And Christmas has becoming more like a marketing day. For example Christmas tree has nothing to do with the Christian tradition but lots of people think that having a Christmas tree is a Christian thing when really it's not .
@@SamanthaAimee I'm and Indian Hindu, but I LOVE Christmas sooo much. I always try to celebrate it grandly. I love Hindu culture too, but ive always been attracted to Christmas.
THISS!! I love watching romance in movies/TV but the thought of it for myself is just a no-go. I took me a long time to realize I was an Aro because I thought if I appreciated romance for others then I should feel it too. Thanks for explaining this so well!
I think I’m ace, but how do you tell the difference between romantic attraction and just like aesthetic/ emotional attraction? I feel like i have a romance drive, but it’s not directed anywhere. I too love my friends so much and I wish that society valued friendships more, because they are SOOOOO important to our survival.
To me, aesthetic attraction is looking at someone like their a painting, you think they look amazing but you wouldnt want to do anything about that. You're not about to go and kiss or want to have sex with that painting
Perhaps you could fall somewhere on the spectrum? Aromantics are able to feel romantic attraction to some degree - looking into demiromanticism may help
You just *know* it if you enter a romantic relationship with someone you care about. Its like you come to understand that the role of being a boyfriend/girlfriend or whatever is not for you. You feel like a square peg in a round hole.
A lot of us asexuals are full of love, very loving and giving people, on the radio today, a question as to what we are missing during this time, I answered cuddles with my friends and loved ones as I am a cuddle slut!!! Would I ever have a relationship with them? Nah, why spoil that special bond I've got with them, I knew years ago, I am not relationship material, I just love those who mean everything to me
Are you me?? I've never had anyone formulate my feelings on romance so accurately. I used to think I wasn't aromantic because I love rom coms so much. I did have one crush, but that's over 10 years ago now. I'm so happy I've found this label, and I feel like I know myself so much better.
Such a great Video. I am a 19 year old male who is also Aromantic and Asexual. I find kissing and sex repulsive and would never do either. I also love my friends and family so much. I don't celebrate Valentine's Day but I enjoy Romantic movies. I'd prefer a platonic relationship with hugs, high fives and pats on the back. No-one really believes me and just says "you're still young" or "You just haven't met the right person" or they assume I am gay. Thanks for the Video. #Love isn't always Romance.
Phenomenal Wrestling i am the same as you, only 25, female, and just now discovering that i am actually aromantic as well. My dream would be to find a guy like you who i can have a qpr with. Just occasional hugs, maybe cuddling on the sofa while watching netflix or gaming. My family also has told me on numerous occasions that its ok if i would be a lesbian🙄 they dont understand when i tell them i am asexual...“you just havent met the right person yet“
if / when u do the whole wedding dress thing PLEASE provide us all with pictures !! also i would TOTALLY do a “u may hug the (not) bride” or “the bride may now kiss her bf” thing as well. this is a scenario i wasn’t even aware of and it just made its way onto my bucket list. this video made me feel so normal. thank you💚💚
I've always heard about romance, listened to it in songs, watched it on TV and read it in books. I've dreamt about it, but shortly after realising I was asexual, I started questioning my romantic orientation. I thought I was heteroromantic, since I occasionally develop "crushes" on guys, I fantasize about the deep conversations about poetry we might have and so on. But is it really romantic attraction? Now I don't think so. If I got to know the guys I had a crush on (which never happened, ever), I am quite sure I would stop liking them. Not 100% sure, yet. I am in love with love. But I don't think I have felt it/will ever feel it. I'm still questioning all this, I don't understand anything of sexualities and this is driving me crazy. Sex? I am almost 17 and never experienced it. I don't dream of having sex, I don't think much of it. Kissing? Eh. I'm indifferent. Cuddling? Now I may like it, the next minute I may not. I am probably aro ace, and I am not scared of it. I am scared of changing my mind, though. I am scared of realising that I may not be. And yes, I know sexuality is fluid and there's nothing wrong with it. But I'd like to be sure about myself, you know? To be deadly sure. I've never felt sexual attraction, this is true. I don't even know how it's supposed to feel like. But romantic attraction... What is it? When I have crushes, my only desire is to get to know them and develop a sort of platonic relationship as strong as romantic ones, but not... Romantic. I could think of kisses, but would I accept them in reality? Not sure about that. As I said previously, I fancy romantic love. I really do. I don't know if I could see myself in all this. In the past, I have. But I never wanted to be in a relationship. I liked the idea of being loved by someone, and love them back, and write poems about them. But the real relationship... I am not ready for it. And I don't think I'll ever be, one day.
i totally understand the desire to be sure. i've been struggling with my identity this year and knowing is definitely a better feeling than not knowing. but like i said, not knowing is okay. changing your mind is okay. 🥰
Hi! I just wanted to say i loved your video and your personality is awesome !! I've been in a dilemma whether or not i am aromantic or even asexual. I never get those desires to be like that with others and it really made me comfortable and happy that you talked about this. In our society we always get told we need to feel these emotions and i always felt bad because I've never felt those.. Maybe when i was young but even then i wasn't really that into it. Either way i just found your channel and thank you so much for helping me realize myself a little bit :) much love
Aw you're so sweet, thank you for reaching out 💚 know that even if you don't know your label yet, what you feel is valid and no one can tell you otherwise 🖤
I am so happy to see more awareness being spread about the other sides of the LGBTQA+ community! Also your accent is so cute! I absolutely love it 🖤🖤 and I see you’re a Harry Potter fan as well! I have a few people who are Ace and they are all different from one another so I love hearing that you’re saying everyone who is Aero is also different from one another! I had never heard of the term aromatic so thank you so much for doing this video! Keep up the great work and I’m going to direct a friend to this video so they can watch it, because right now they are saying they are Ace but I think this sounds more like them. Thank you again!
Im aro and ace. I really would love to have a few close friends throughout my life, where we can share the joy and sadness together. While i stay alone in my house in the end of the day. And yeah i love my family and my friends so much too. So aro = heartLess is very weird misconception lol
Hi, I just wanted to say that I really loved your video! I’m aro questioning, and I actually think watching this video made me realize i’m not aro. I’m still not completely sure what i am, but I really appreciate you helping me figure out myself a bit more ❤️
OMG THANK YOU!! you speak how I always felt! I thought something is wrong with me, for the way I feel. I am so full of love, but NOT in a sexual or romantic way.
To understand you can have the" wedding" dress minus the marriage and to go after it is awesome. Maybe we should just call it a fancy dress for any occassion like grocery shopping? ;)
I discovered the aro ace term 10 years ago after an Emilie Autumn concert. I was so happy but over these 10 years I’ve still agonized over it. Your videos have been so empowering and helped to put it in the proper perspective. THANK YOU!
Great video, Sam! I related to a lot of what you said since I’m romance indifferent (internally) and positive (externally). Happy Aromantic Awareness Week! 😊💚🖤
kinda venting lol uhh i find it really hard to accept that im aromantic :// when I found out I was asexual it was easy for me but its way harder with aromanticism because I always wanted to be in relationship, fall in love, have a crush and knowing that ill never experience loving someone romantically :(( I still catch myself thinking "oh ill have that one day" or I keep invalidating myself with shit like "I just havent found the right person yet" and deep inside I know that its not true- I am aromantic but it feels so weird when youre surrounded by romantic love..
OMG! I love your room! I also love Harry Potter and have been a collector over the years as well. There has to be something to obsess over as an Aroace 😊
I plan on wearing a weddinggrade dress, throw a party with all my loved ones and declare my eternal, universal love when I get myself my bachelors degree. There are so many beautyfull aspects to a wedding; speaking out about your goals, loyalty in the presence of friends and family. I will say "I do" , I will take myself, my doughter, parents, chosen family as we are, in sickness and in health. And than we celebrate! I feel I should do that to break the stigma'sin myself and others; that an Aro doesn't feel love, misses out on life and basically is too scared and scarred by life to manage a "normal" relationship. So lookingforward to it; it gives me butterflies ^^ Live your life! Thnx for sharing
Tbh I would love to be friends with an aro/ace (or both) person. They won't annoy you by talking about romance all the time, no worries about catching feelings and weirdly enough, I feel like if you were to talk about relationships with them, it would be much more of a valuable talk. Aro and Ace Volk seem so sincere and so nice. I wanna protect all of you valid as hecc peeps
I know your attraction for me runs very deep, I can feel that, remember all the cows and minecraft life! lol ok seriously this was cool to hear you open up about your personal life.
Heeey. I don't usually comment on videos especially ones that I'm not subscribed to. But I only found out about aromantic a day or two ago and this video has probably been the best one I found that discribes me! Like I love romance in films and books and I ship characters and love my friends and family but romance and a relationship for me? Nah. I've know this for years but didn't know there was a word for it! So thank you for this video!
You are a beautiful person aam you're awesome i never really acknowledged Valentine's yo would look gorgeous in a wedding dress you are definitely not heartless you always seem such a loving person love you sam
This was genuinely really helpful for me because I've been wondering whether or not I'm aormantic for several years (I have an incredibly difficult time differentiating between different types of attraction) and this helped clear up a lot of things for me. There are so many things that I just... assumed automatically meant that I was alloromantic, so this video and its information means a lot to me! Thank you!
I’ve never had a crush, and never had or wanted a girlfriend or boyfriend but I never really thought about it until recently, a couple of days ago I was looking at asexuality and it felt like it was half right but I still feel some sexual attraction, but then yesterday my brain just went ‘ hey maybe your Aro’ And it just makes so much sense
For years I kind of knew I had no intrest being in a relationship. I enjoy cuddles and sex so it was hard not jumping in relationships despite me knowing I didn't love them romantically. Recently I found out I was aro and stoped dating and I never felt happier. Being in a relationship made me depressed because I knew my partners loved me differently from how I loved them and I felt like I was lying.
Please Help I am pretty sure that I am aromantic. I am only 18 and I have never ever had a crush on anyone. I always thought there was something wrong with me because all my friends would talk about boys and crushes and I had no idea what that felt like. ( keep in mind that I have had plenty of opportunities to date because guys would have romantic emotions towards me but I couldn't reciprocate) at one stage I had deluded myself into think that I liked a guy but as I kept on getting to know him, I realized that I liked the idea of him, the idea of having a crush. I never actually meant to hurt him but I did. When people would ask me about if I've dated or when I would date, i felt out of place and just told them when the "time comes" it will happen. I like the idea of romance and having that connection with someone but to tell the truth having someone want that with me makes me so uncomfortable because I have had no interest in anyone and I have no idea how to respond and I don't want to hurt anyone. I often found myself at a lose on how to respond. When I found out about aromanticism I felt like I had finally found myself. There has only been one person I've told. Honestly I just want to know how you truly knew that you were aro because honestly I don't feel like this is just a "phase". ( edit- I also feel kind of forced to get into a relationship )
Thank you so much for making this video . This really explained the doubts I had and now I am sure that I am an aromantic . The statement you made regarding living with a dog and loving them that whole heartedly that is my ideal life dream . Thank you so much sam for making this video. Sending you lots of love from India ❤❤
I absolutely get the friendship relevance. Anyone who I consider a friend, I would willingly put myself in front of them so that they could live if that happened (not that it would) and I don't expect the same back because I am so chill most of the time
Then spend a day in a wedding dress Don't let anyone tell you you can't just because you don't have anyone to wear it for Because you can wear it for yourself Live your best life
See I get that with the whole aromaticism idea and comparing it to atheism because I acknowledge Christmas, Easter and the like but I won't celebrate it now because the novelty of it all has worn off and to be, I just see it as whenever Easter is or the 25th December, they're just another day for me I reckon I could love again, had my heart broken into itty bitty little pieces too many times and just about put it back together with sticky back plastic and blue tac so I reckon I might just take up aromanticism
I think i'm aromantic... i've never had a crush on anyone ever and I can't like people romantically even when I try and it really scares me. I feel like i'm not normal? I tried to convince myself i will like someone eventually but i'm really scared.
I am Aromatic and it is quite interesting to hear about others same as and similar to such. Not quite sure were I would be on the spectrum. I have never had any sort of 'crush' or romantic attractions. There are some iffy 'romantic' thing that my friends and I do that I am fine with as long as they are not 'weird' about it. Though the most defiantly 'romantic' things are completely not happening with me. I do not find a quick kiss to be 'romantic' though this is still a no for me. I am fine with holding hands or cuddling though. (Sorry if this was a 'weird' or overly revealing comment.)
Liking someones appearance falls into aesthetic attraction as when u said “I can really appreciate someone’s looks” and there is also squishes and maybe u didn’t experience crushes but a mix of squishes, aesthetic attraction and sensual attraction if that makes sense, at least that’s what happened to me as I tought that was a crush when it wasn’t
Within the usual Ace spaces the Aro side of things doesn't seem to get talked about that much, so from a curious Ace's perspective it's nice to learn more about it. If you do more I'd suggest making it clear that Aromanticism isn't just a subset of Asexuality, eg you can obviously be both, but you can also be one and not the other, it's an overlapping venn diagram. I think many asexuals mistakenly think (I've corrected several people over the years) that all aro people are also ace, perhaps because within ace spaces those are the ones we most often meet.
The thing is for me when I will become attracted to someone maybe in the beginning or a little later, but usually once I know them for a little bit, I don’t feel romantically attracted. I don’t know if that means I’m aro or I’m just looking for perfection. I’m confused. Plus where are you from? I don’t recognise the accent
Do you think people can be aromantic after some life experiences? I used to have romantic fantasy however as I grew up, I started to see the difference between real life and what is fantasized in the media. I barely felt romantic attraction for 10 years I would say. I still have sexual attraction tho which means a certain type of people will give me sexual tension immediately. But the tension usually stays there cuz I learned to not judge a book by its cover. So I don't really know what I am. I'm still interested in dating in the sense that I don't want to be seen as a weird single person because my surrounding is still hetero people. And also my culture is very family-oriented. But tbh I can't even imagine me being with someone 24/7 or getting married or having kids.
There's a lot of speculation and taboo around aromanticism/asexuality and cause, but I think if you identify as aro or ace because of a certain event or circumstance you're just as valid as the next person 😊
The one thing I hate about being ace is that people assume that I can't get a girlfriend and they'll point out a bunch of reasons. Even if what people say is true, it doesn't matter because I'm aromantic and demisexual.
Thank you so much. This video helped. But I’m still not sure. Like...i put my friends and family (mainly friends) on the first place. And even Chen I dated someone and was in a “relationship” after some time a wasn’t happy. Like if I can I would go to my friends and be with them. Also I’ve had some “crushes” like oh he/she is so cute/hot. But i don’t really know. Every one is talking about relationships but I’m like a bird with something really heavy thing on my leg in a trap. I feel so distanced from my friends and I don’t like it. So I don’t know what to do. Some time I’m questioning my sexuality, but I’m stil not a 100% sure. I’m sad because if I’m right about being aromatic I feel like I can’t never be in love and happy....I know I might be too young but I don’t think it’s a good argument. Because I just want to know my self better. And...I just want some support and help. Because I don’t know what to do. PS. I’m sorry for waisting your time with my broblems.
You should take a look at AVEN, it's such a great resource. Aromanticism is a spectrum and it could be that you fluctuate. However you feel is valid, just be patient with yourself 💜
I'm a straight demisexual aromantic but I'm still questioning the aromantic part. I'm not even 100% sure what "romance" means! Is it kissing? Going on dinner-dates? Holding hands? Cuddling? I like cuddling to be honest! When I imagine myself with a partner, I like to imagine movie nights, cuddles, laughing over stupid shit, etc! Kinda like how I do with my friends (except the cuddling part). But the romantic thing confuses me, how am I even supposed to know if I don't feel romantic attraction when.. I don't know what romantic attraction feels like? Romance is just a very complicated term for me, and I think I get it mixed up with other types of attraction a lot.
Do you know how to best explain to people you meet about your aromanticism? So they don’t get confused and think they are in a relationship with you.....
Bruh, just because I think your cute or hot doesn't mean I don't want to date you lol. Also, I love having friends and the way platonic relationships feel is so good but sexual and romantic don't feel right.
I DID marry my best friend for financial reasons. We broke it off in 2012 because I had another (abusive) partner. That obviously ended poorly. My best friend is planning to be my roommate next month and we are going to have a QPR and not try to have a relationship by anyone else's standards. :)
I think i might be aromatic because I’ve never felt any romantic feelings..? But like I want to have a close friend in my life who I can casually kiss and stuff but the idea of a ‘relationship’ just isn’t nice for me. But I have no idea and it’s kinda weird
I am Aromantic and I just figured out I'm Fictosexual ,it means I only feel sexual attraction to fictional characters ! I can't deny that it felt good when I found they made an official flag for that 😅
Can someone help me please ? I am so confused with myself. So my problems are I feel disgusted and scared when someone wants to be in relationship with me . In my 21 years life i have never dated anyone and also don't want to . But i like romantic movies , dramas and also imaging romantic relationship with someone but in reality i feel so disgusted with it . I love this thinking in fantasy but i don't love it in reality . Sometimes i also think of having someone , someone who will take care of me and also will love me . But when someone comes and show their love for me i run away from them . I don't know why i do that even though i love to imagine a romantic relationship. Also one point i feel sexual attraction . Soo now i am not asexual but am i aromantic? Why i want to run away from someone who loves me and feel disgusted in relationship??
I feel kinda the same thing and during these months I may have arrived to an answer: I think the reason some people like you and me fantasize about love or enjoy romantic movies etc. is because we have always been taught since we were kids to aspire to be in a relationship and that romantic love is really important, so we internalized this idea. Dunno if this makes sense to you, but more I think about it more I belive it works, at least for me. Also sorry for my English 😅
I think I'm an aromantic lesbian because I'm attracted to women but marrying them or going on dates with them just sucks to me I am TERRIBLE at showing affection. Even with my family, I am an awkward hugger, I am an awkward kisser, and I come across as aloof and socially awkward Also the whole gushy, romantic talk people love to do just makes me cringe, for example "oh I love you more than the stars in the sky"
I'm still only young so I dont really know my sexuality quite yet Like you know the basic saying "You'll find the one someday" But I'm 13 in a few weeks and I've not yet had a crush in my life And usually girls my age experience them So at my age I'm not sure if I'm asexual but If I'm correct I'm pretty sure I am aromantic I don't want or think I feel like I need a relationship I might someday but basing off of my view of it now I'm sure I am aromantic
It's completely valid if you identify with ace or aro labels - or in fact any other label - no matter what your age! Remember sexuality and romantic orientation are fluid, so you can absolutely identify as aro now and decide later that you're not. You know yourself best. Much love, and I hope you're doing okay 💜
Can someone please help I feel like I don’t get it yk? Like I wanna be free and single live my life with no barriers and no one holding me yk wt I mean? And i have aesthetic attraction to people like wow cute hair,clothes etc.. but not like omg wish it was my girl/boyfriend And When i like someone I start thinking about them like would they do that or that..for a while and then id be like meh who cares probably cuz I overthink literally everything But the thing is I really don’t know the difference between romance and anything else like loving you siblings and your friends how can it differ to loving someone else romantically wt is the damn difference 😭 I thought I figured out myself but then i started questioning it I sometimes imagine myself with like an actor and be like imagine if we did that and that but eww not kiss this is boring like just have fun laughs and hugs So what does this mean? Also I always say why would they have boyfriends or why would they marry They don’t need that in not necessary Then i think I’ve never been in love how would i know But if im aro how would i even know how does it feel It’s so confusing and as i said I overthink alot
Romantic attraction is wanting to kiss, cuddle, hold hands, that sort of thing. It sounds like you could be aro, and if you are that's completely fine! It is something you need to figure out for yourself though because no one knows you better than you do.
Samantha Aimee thank you so much for your answer and tome❤️ Yea I think I’m aro, cuz whenever I like someone I don’t really wanna kiss em or any of that I feel like why..yk? There’s no need for intimacy in relationships I feel like that make things worse 😂😭 we can be like very close friends like siblings like what you mentioned in your video..thank you so much again
i overt thing all the words and i don't know what things mean and not sure if I am, but I do "fall for" fictional men . i'm not happy that the man i think i want to be with is copyrighted and from someone's imagination. i don't want to call myself something a tumblr user invented. like cupio- or myr-
Samantha Aimee it is something I want and I have been in them before but they didn’t last very long. So no I feel as if there isn’t anyone out there for me
why do people want same sex/same gender character representation more than QPR? Bert and Ernie have to be gay lovers for the lil gay kids, but we can't let people know QPR exist.
“I love romance, just not for me.” Same. I love romance in concept and in theory but I don’t personally want it.
Same , its like a cute dress you see on a girl, you can think it’s pretty on her, but not really wanna wear it 🤷🏻♀️
I love being in romantic situations but I can't feel romantic attraction (but I have tried)
I feel this! I'm really big on shipping but personally romance isn't something I have any interest in whatsoever.
I'm glad it isn't just me 🥰🖤
SAME
Same!! I am in it for the dynamics
I think its really sad that society makes people feel like their life will be "empty" w/o a romantic partner...I once told a man that loving a woman will not be the best thing he's ever done and he said he wouldn't see a point in living if that were true. I found that to be very sad and I have found that a lot of people feel that way. They think getting married and having kids means you are successful. I am capable of romantic love but I don't think it is the end all be all.
Yess that's a great way of putting it, i'm feeling kind of sad and down because i'm pretty sure i'm asexual, maybe i'm too young to know yet but society has put so much pressure on us to all be in relationships, particularly romantic and sexual, but deep down friendships mean so much more to me so screw society
The bad thing about that is some people who have broken up with their partners have committed suicide because they relied too much on that relationship for their happiness and aren’t happy when they’re not with that partner... You should NEVER rely on a romantic relationship for your happiness.
I have known love but now I am not interested in it. I have no romantic feelings anymore and I am very happy.
I think I might be aro? ... I get “crushes” on people. I can like somebody and want to hang out with them, they give me butterflies and at most I want to hug them or hold their hand, buts that’s a stretch and doesn’t happen often and it’s only in a platonic way. I’m 21 and Never once in my life have I liked somebody and wanted to kiss them or be in a relationship with them. I’m totally happy being really close friends, but closer than my other friends.. but not together. I like when there’s physical contact but not in a romantic way.
I’ve never understood my friends when they’d go on about boys/girls and wanting to date them and being sad if they weren’t single. I’d be totally ok if the person I liked was in a relationship, just as long as we get to be really close friends.
That's completely okay and valid! Your life can be so full without romantic relationships in it 🖤
I relate to this so much :O
That sounds like a squish to me. You should look it up! It's like a platonic version of a crush.
Third option regarding wedding dress: marry yourself which other People have done before.
I totally would, I 💚 me!
@@SamanthaAimee 😄
"I'm so full of love but it's not romantic" yes! this totally explains how i feel. I'm just now realizing I am aromantic and everything you talked about, I relate to so much. I feel relieved at finally being able to put a name to it.
I just found out that I‘m aromantic and asexual.
I also ship pairs and I enjoy romance in movies and books, I „crushed“ over fictional characters more than over real persons years ago.
But I‘m not into being in a relationship myself, I‘m not going out at weekends, get drunk and flirt with strangers; that‘s not me. I‘ve tried once with someone from school, it didn‘t work and now I‘m happy I experienced it because it helped me finding out I‘m aro-ace.
What I hate the most: people who want you to have a romantic partner and who almost force you to date and you don‘t want to come out to them because you know they‘ll just say that you should meet that person and everything is ok (almost like „being aromantic and asexual isn‘t real, you just haven‘t met the right person yet“)
Unfortunately asexuality and aromanticism aren't widely known yet, but hopefully we can help to change that and people will be more accepting and understanding 💜
You are also Aegosexual
One of the hardest things about being aro for me is that all of my friends are looking for this gold standard, all-important romantic relationship, because for some reason, in our society romantic relationships are understood to be more meaningful. It's incredibly frustrating because I don't understand why friends can't have a deep connection with each other without any romance, but my friends seem to associate deep connections with romantic partners. Friendships just aren't as important to them as they are to me.
I didn’t even know about the term aromantic until a couple days ago. I’ve always been physically attracted to women and came out years ago but I’ve never had feelings of romance for someone since I was still in school. My family thinks it’s strange that I’m not trying to get in a relationship and I thought maybe I was just weird for not wanting one but I’m so glad I found out about this. Now I know I’m not alone.
I love the Christmas analogy - anyone can celebrate whether you're religious or not. I love how much you're full of love - I'm sure it's a common misconception that aro people aren't.
Yeah, I sort of wish Christmas was renamed so that it was super inclusive to everyone but I know that would be against the original point and most likely disrespectful 😅 I just find it sad that some people don't celebrate just because!
@@SamanthaAimee well some Muslim still celebrate it and some don't but those who don't are not sad about it, they re is no law for having the right to celebrate it or not.
And Christmas has becoming more like a marketing day.
For example Christmas tree has nothing to do with the Christian tradition but lots of people think that having a Christmas tree is a Christian thing when really it's not .
@@SamanthaAimee I'm and Indian Hindu, but I LOVE Christmas sooo much. I always try to celebrate it grandly. I love Hindu culture too, but ive always been attracted to Christmas.
THISS!! I love watching romance in movies/TV but the thought of it for myself is just a no-go. I took me a long time to realize I was an Aro because I thought if I appreciated romance for others then I should feel it too. Thanks for explaining this so well!
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When you talked about the wedding dress, I instantly was like "Me too". I'll probably never get married, but I will buy a wedding dress
I think I’m ace, but how do you tell the difference between romantic attraction and just like aesthetic/ emotional attraction? I feel like i have a romance drive, but it’s not directed anywhere. I too love my friends so much and I wish that society valued friendships more, because they are SOOOOO important to our survival.
Alot of people define romantic attraction as wanting to hold someone's hand, and aesthetic attraction as wanting to steal their outfit idea
To me, aesthetic attraction is looking at someone like their a painting, you think they look amazing but you wouldnt want to do anything about that. You're not about to go and kiss or want to have sex with that painting
Perhaps you could fall somewhere on the spectrum? Aromantics are able to feel romantic attraction to some degree - looking into demiromanticism may help
Samantha Aimee thank you!! I definitely resonate with a lot of demiromantics
You just *know* it if you enter a romantic relationship with someone you care about. Its like you come to understand that the role of being a boyfriend/girlfriend or whatever is not for you. You feel like a square peg in a round hole.
A lot of us asexuals are full of love, very loving and giving people, on the radio today, a question as to what we are missing during this time, I answered cuddles with my friends and loved ones as I am a cuddle slut!!! Would I ever have a relationship with them? Nah, why spoil that special bond I've got with them, I knew years ago, I am not relationship material, I just love those who mean everything to me
Are you me?? I've never had anyone formulate my feelings on romance so accurately. I used to think I wasn't aromantic because I love rom coms so much. I did have one crush, but that's over 10 years ago now. I'm so happy I've found this label, and I feel like I know myself so much better.
Such a great Video. I am a 19 year old male who is also Aromantic and Asexual. I find kissing and sex repulsive and would never do either. I also love my friends and family so much. I don't celebrate Valentine's Day but I enjoy Romantic movies. I'd prefer a platonic relationship with hugs, high fives and pats on the back. No-one really believes me and just says "you're still young" or "You just haven't met the right person" or they assume I am gay. Thanks for the Video. #Love isn't always Romance.
Phenomenal Wrestling i am the same as you, only 25, female, and just now discovering that i am actually aromantic as well. My dream would be to find a guy like you who i can have a qpr with. Just occasional hugs, maybe cuddling on the sofa while watching netflix or gaming. My family also has told me on numerous occasions that its ok if i would be a lesbian🙄 they dont understand when i tell them i am asexual...“you just havent met the right person yet“
When you find another ace Slytherin 💚💚
Yay! 🥰🐍
Ayo same
if / when u do the whole wedding dress thing PLEASE provide us all with pictures !! also i would TOTALLY do a “u may hug the (not) bride” or “the bride may now kiss her bf” thing as well. this is a scenario i wasn’t even aware of and it just made its way onto my bucket list. this video made me feel so normal. thank you💚💚
Yessss let's start an aromantic wedding day trend! 🙌🏻🙌🏻 much love 🖤🖤🖤
I've always heard about romance, listened to it in songs, watched it on TV and read it in books. I've dreamt about it, but shortly after realising I was asexual, I started questioning my romantic orientation. I thought I was heteroromantic, since I occasionally develop "crushes" on guys, I fantasize about the deep conversations about poetry we might have and so on. But is it really romantic attraction? Now I don't think so. If I got to know the guys I had a crush on (which never happened, ever), I am quite sure I would stop liking them. Not 100% sure, yet.
I am in love with love. But I don't think I have felt it/will ever feel it. I'm still questioning all this, I don't understand anything of sexualities and this is driving me crazy.
Sex? I am almost 17 and never experienced it. I don't dream of having sex, I don't think much of it. Kissing? Eh. I'm indifferent. Cuddling? Now I may like it, the next minute I may not.
I am probably aro ace, and I am not scared of it. I am scared of changing my mind, though. I am scared of realising that I may not be. And yes, I know sexuality is fluid and there's nothing wrong with it. But I'd like to be sure about myself, you know? To be deadly sure.
I've never felt sexual attraction, this is true. I don't even know how it's supposed to feel like. But romantic attraction... What is it? When I have crushes, my only desire is to get to know them and develop a sort of platonic relationship as strong as romantic ones, but not... Romantic. I could think of kisses, but would I accept them in reality? Not sure about that. As I said previously, I fancy romantic love. I really do. I don't know if I could see myself in all this. In the past, I have. But I never wanted to be in a relationship. I liked the idea of being loved by someone, and love them back, and write poems about them. But the real relationship... I am not ready for it.
And I don't think I'll ever be, one day.
i totally understand the desire to be sure. i've been struggling with my identity this year and knowing is definitely a better feeling than not knowing.
but like i said, not knowing is okay. changing your mind is okay. 🥰
I don't understand how you get your eyeliner so perfect! They have days and weeks for everything these days! haha!
Aha I think it's luck 😅 they do, but it's great! Awareness needs to be spread about a lot of things 🥰💜
I'm glad I'm not the only one who just wants to have a wedding dress day! Cheering you on to do it!
You too! Let's make a pact 🤞🏼
@@SamanthaAimee Yes! 😊
Hi! I just wanted to say i loved your video and your personality is awesome !! I've been in a dilemma whether or not i am aromantic or even asexual. I never get those desires to be like that with others and it really made me comfortable and happy that you talked about this. In our society we always get told we need to feel these emotions and i always felt bad because I've never felt those.. Maybe when i was young but even then i wasn't really that into it. Either way i just found your channel and thank you so much for helping me realize myself a little bit :) much love
Aw you're so sweet, thank you for reaching out 💚 know that even if you don't know your label yet, what you feel is valid and no one can tell you otherwise 🖤
I am so happy to see more awareness being spread about the other sides of the LGBTQA+ community! Also your accent is so cute! I absolutely love it 🖤🖤 and I see you’re a Harry Potter fan as well! I have a few people who are Ace and they are all different from one another so I love hearing that you’re saying everyone who is Aero is also different from one another! I had never heard of the term aromatic so thank you so much for doing this video! Keep up the great work and I’m going to direct a friend to this video so they can watch it, because right now they are saying they are Ace but I think this sounds more like them. Thank you again!
Wow thank you so much!!! I hope this helps your friend 🥰🖤
Im aro and ace. I really would love to have a few close friends throughout my life, where we can share the joy and sadness together. While i stay alone in my house in the end of the day. And yeah i love my family and my friends so much too. So aro = heartLess is very weird misconception lol
Hi, I just wanted to say that I really loved your video! I’m aro questioning, and I actually think watching this video made me realize i’m not aro. I’m still not completely sure what i am, but I really appreciate you helping me figure out myself a bit more ❤️
You could be on the spectrum! Try looking up demiromanticism or grayromanticism 🖤
OMG THANK YOU!! you speak how I always felt! I thought something is wrong with me, for the way I feel. I am so full of love, but NOT in a sexual or romantic way.
To understand you can have the" wedding" dress minus the marriage and to go after it is awesome. Maybe we should just call it a fancy dress for any occassion like grocery shopping? ;)
I discovered the aro ace term 10 years ago after an Emilie Autumn concert. I was so happy but over these 10 years I’ve still agonized over it. Your videos have been so empowering and helped to put it in the proper perspective. THANK YOU!
As an Aro-Ace, I relate so much!! Thank you so much for the video!
Thank you! 🥰💜
Great video, Sam! I related to a lot of what you said since I’m romance indifferent (internally) and positive (externally). Happy Aromantic Awareness Week! 😊💚🖤
Thank you friend! You worded it a lot better than I did 😂💚 happy aro week!!! 🖤
I always learn so much from your videos, and I like that you are really open about your feelings. I really admire your honesty and openness.
kinda venting lol
uhh i find it really hard to accept that im aromantic :// when I found out I was asexual it was easy for me but its way harder with aromanticism because I always wanted to be in relationship, fall in love, have a crush and knowing that ill never experience loving someone romantically :(( I still catch myself thinking "oh ill have that one day" or I keep invalidating myself with shit like "I just havent found the right person yet" and deep inside I know that its not true- I am aromantic but it feels so weird when youre surrounded by romantic love..
aromantic means less drama and mental work in our lives and I'm always happy for that
OMG! I love your room! I also love Harry Potter and have been a collector over the years as well. There has to be something to obsess over as an Aroace 😊
I plan on wearing a weddinggrade dress, throw a party with all my loved ones and declare my eternal, universal love when I get myself my bachelors degree.
There are so many beautyfull aspects to a wedding; speaking out about your goals, loyalty in the presence of friends and family.
I will say "I do" , I will take myself, my doughter, parents, chosen family as we are, in sickness and in health.
And than we celebrate!
I feel I should do that to break the stigma'sin myself and others; that an Aro doesn't feel love, misses out on life and basically is too scared and scarred by life to manage a "normal" relationship.
So lookingforward to it; it gives me butterflies ^^
Live your life! Thnx for sharing
Tbh I would love to be friends with an aro/ace (or both) person. They won't annoy you by talking about romance all the time, no worries about catching feelings and weirdly enough, I feel like if you were to talk about relationships with them, it would be much more of a valuable talk. Aro and Ace Volk seem so sincere and so nice. I wanna protect all of you valid as hecc peeps
Awww that's so sweet 🥰🥰🥰🖤
Hello! One aro is here ☺️ Happy for this Aromantic Awareness Week uwu
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I know your attraction for me runs very deep, I can feel that, remember all the cows and minecraft life! lol ok seriously this was cool to hear you open up about your personal life.
Eheheeh then you know how special you must be! 😉
Samantha Aimee hehe true 😁
As a aromatic lesbian (and a over the top shipper) I understand stand this on a over the top level
Heeey. I don't usually comment on videos especially ones that I'm not subscribed to. But I only found out about aromantic a day or two ago and this video has probably been the best one I found that discribes me! Like I love romance in films and books and I ship characters and love my friends and family but romance and a relationship for me? Nah. I've know this for years but didn't know there was a word for it! So thank you for this video!
aw, i'm so glad i was able to help! congrats on your newfound label ❤️
@@SamanthaAimee just feels a bit of a relief that there was a word out that fitted with how I felt. So thank you for the video!
You are a beautiful person aam you're awesome i never really acknowledged Valentine's yo would look gorgeous in a wedding dress you are definitely not heartless you always seem such a loving person love you sam
Love u friend
Love this video! From one aro/ace to another, happy Aro Week!
Thank you!!! Happy aro week!!!!!!
This was genuinely really helpful for me because I've been wondering whether or not I'm aormantic for several years (I have an incredibly difficult time differentiating between different types of attraction) and this helped clear up a lot of things for me. There are so many things that I just... assumed automatically meant that I was alloromantic, so this video and its information means a lot to me! Thank you!
Aw I'm so glad 🥰💚
@@SamanthaAimee ^-^
I’ve never had a crush, and never had or wanted a girlfriend or boyfriend but I never really thought about it until recently, a couple of days ago I was looking at asexuality and it felt like it was half right but I still feel some sexual attraction, but then yesterday my brain just went ‘ hey maybe your Aro’
And it just makes so much sense
For years I kind of knew I had no intrest being in a relationship. I enjoy cuddles and sex so it was hard not jumping in relationships despite me knowing I didn't love them romantically. Recently I found out I was aro and stoped dating and I never felt happier. Being in a relationship made me depressed because I knew my partners loved me differently from how I loved them and I felt like I was lying.
Please Help
I am pretty sure that I am aromantic. I am only 18 and I have never ever had a crush on anyone. I always thought there was something wrong with me because all my friends would talk about boys and crushes and I had no idea what that felt like. ( keep in mind that I have had plenty of opportunities to date because guys would have romantic emotions towards me but I couldn't reciprocate) at one stage I had deluded myself into think that I liked a guy but as I kept on getting to know him, I realized that I liked the idea of him, the idea of having a crush. I never actually meant to hurt him but I did. When people would ask me about if I've dated or when I would date, i felt out of place and just told them when the "time comes" it will happen. I like the idea of romance and having that connection with someone but to tell the truth having someone want that with me makes me so uncomfortable because I have had no interest in anyone and I have no idea how to respond and I don't want to hurt anyone. I often found myself at a lose on how to respond. When I found out about aromanticism I felt like I had finally found myself. There has only been one person I've told.
Honestly I just want to know how you truly knew that you were aro because honestly I don't feel like this is just a "phase".
( edit- I also feel kind of forced to get into a relationship )
Thank you so much for making this video . This really explained the doubts I had and now I am sure that I am an aromantic . The statement you made regarding living with a dog and loving them that whole heartedly that is my ideal life dream . Thank you so much sam for making this video. Sending you lots of love from India ❤❤
Aw I'm glad it helped. Much love 🖤🖤🖤
I absolutely get the friendship relevance. Anyone who I consider a friend, I would willingly put myself in front of them so that they could live if that happened (not that it would) and I don't expect the same back because I am so chill most of the time
I absolutely get the chill vibe from you!
Unrelated to the video but omg I love ur room and the outfit ur wearing😍
Thank you 🥰
Then spend a day in a wedding dress
Don't let anyone tell you you can't just because you don't have anyone to wear it for
Because you can wear it for yourself
Live your best life
wedding ... who needs that? xD
pure love ... exactly! :D
I wanted to point out how the Christmas comparison was a great one- I realised it already had been but HEY i'll double the amount
Aha thank you! 😁 metaphors ftw
I’m so the same. Like I want nothing to do with anyone except as best friends but I ship all of the tome
See I get that with the whole aromaticism idea and comparing it to atheism because I acknowledge Christmas, Easter and the like but I won't celebrate it now because the novelty of it all has worn off and to be, I just see it as whenever Easter is or the 25th December, they're just another day for me
I reckon I could love again, had my heart broken into itty bitty little pieces too many times and just about put it back together with sticky back plastic and blue tac so I reckon I might just take up aromanticism
We welcome you to the aro club, friend 💚
this video descibed me perfectly omg you have reallly helped me figure my sexuality :)
Aw I'm so glad! Welcome to the family 🥰🖤
glad someone's saying smooch still- I knew it couldn't just be me
It's a brilliant word!
I think i'm aromantic... i've never had a crush on anyone ever and I can't like people romantically even when I try and it really scares me. I feel like i'm not normal? I tried to convince myself i will like someone eventually but i'm really scared.
Being aromantic doesn't make you abnormal 💚 you can still love and cherish people without romance.
I am Aromatic and it is quite interesting to hear about others same as and similar to such. Not quite sure were I would be on the spectrum. I have never had any sort of 'crush' or romantic attractions. There are some iffy 'romantic' thing that my friends and I do that I am fine with as long as they are not 'weird' about it. Though the most defiantly 'romantic' things are completely not happening with me. I do not find a quick kiss to be 'romantic' though this is still a no for me. I am fine with holding hands or cuddling though. (Sorry if this was a 'weird' or overly revealing comment.)
I'm learning more about being aro and I just learned that the flag has greens and I'm also a slytherin. So hello fellow aro slytherin!👋🏽
Wooo! 🐍🐍
Cool. Fellow aroace🎉
Yay! 💚
Great information I always learn something new watching your videos thank u
Liking someones appearance falls into aesthetic attraction as when u said “I can really appreciate someone’s looks” and there is also squishes and maybe u didn’t experience crushes but a mix of squishes, aesthetic attraction and sensual attraction if that makes sense, at least that’s what happened to me as I tought that was a crush when it wasn’t
Within the usual Ace spaces the Aro side of things doesn't seem to get talked about that much, so from a curious Ace's perspective it's nice to learn more about it. If you do more I'd suggest making it clear that Aromanticism isn't just a subset of Asexuality, eg you can obviously be both, but you can also be one and not the other, it's an overlapping venn diagram. I think many asexuals mistakenly think (I've corrected several people over the years) that all aro people are also ace, perhaps because within ace spaces those are the ones we most often meet.
Very good point!! I'll have to reference Connie Glynn's video on aromantic dating advice, that's such a good source!
The thing is for me when I will become attracted to someone maybe in the beginning or a little later, but usually once I know them for a little bit, I don’t feel romantically attracted. I don’t know if that means I’m aro or I’m just looking for perfection. I’m confused. Plus where are you from? I don’t recognise the accent
I'm from Bristol, UK 🖤
Do you think people can be aromantic after some life experiences? I used to have romantic fantasy however as I grew up, I started to see the difference between real life and what is fantasized in the media. I barely felt romantic attraction for 10 years I would say. I still have sexual attraction tho which means a certain type of people will give me sexual tension immediately. But the tension usually stays there cuz I learned to not judge a book by its cover. So I don't really know what I am. I'm still interested in dating in the sense that I don't want to be seen as a weird single person because my surrounding is still hetero people. And also my culture is very family-oriented. But tbh I can't even imagine me being with someone 24/7 or getting married or having kids.
There's a lot of speculation and taboo around aromanticism/asexuality and cause, but I think if you identify as aro or ace because of a certain event or circumstance you're just as valid as the next person 😊
@@SamanthaAimee could trauma change a person? like from almost dyeing during surgeries?
The one thing I hate about being ace is that people assume that I can't get a girlfriend and they'll point out a bunch of reasons. Even if what people say is true, it doesn't matter because I'm aromantic and demisexual.
Don't listen to what other people say. You know yourself best 🖤
really felt 5:50ish about loving everyone
This was so helpful. Thank you.
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Thank you so much. This video helped. But I’m still not sure. Like...i put my friends and family (mainly friends) on the first place. And even Chen I dated someone and was in a “relationship” after some time a wasn’t happy. Like if I can I would go to my friends and be with them. Also I’ve had some “crushes” like oh he/she is so cute/hot. But i don’t really know. Every one is talking about relationships but I’m like a bird with something really heavy thing on my leg in a trap. I feel so distanced from my friends and I don’t like it. So I don’t know what to do. Some time I’m questioning my sexuality, but I’m stil not a 100% sure. I’m sad because if I’m right about being aromatic I feel like I can’t never be in love and happy....I know I might be too young but I don’t think it’s a good argument. Because I just want to know my self better. And...I just want some support and help. Because I don’t know what to do. PS. I’m sorry for waisting your time with my broblems.
You should take a look at AVEN, it's such a great resource. Aromanticism is a spectrum and it could be that you fluctuate. However you feel is valid, just be patient with yourself 💜
Samantha Aimee thank you. I just...thanks. I needed to tell it to someone. I really appreciate it💕
I'm a straight demisexual aromantic but I'm still questioning the aromantic part. I'm not even 100% sure what "romance" means! Is it kissing? Going on dinner-dates? Holding hands? Cuddling? I like cuddling to be honest! When I imagine myself with a partner, I like to imagine movie nights, cuddles, laughing over stupid shit, etc! Kinda like how I do with my friends (except the cuddling part). But the romantic thing confuses me, how am I even supposed to know if I don't feel romantic attraction when.. I don't know what romantic attraction feels like? Romance is just a very complicated term for me, and I think I get it mixed up with other types of attraction a lot.
You could just say arospec-- or stick with aromantic until you're more sure
@@SamanthaAimee alright, ty!
Do you know how to best explain to people you meet about your aromanticism? So they don’t get confused and think they are in a relationship with you.....
Bruh, just because I think your cute or hot doesn't mean I don't want to date you lol. Also, I love having friends and the way platonic relationships feel is so good but sexual and romantic don't feel right.
I DID marry my best friend for financial reasons. We broke it off in 2012 because I had another (abusive) partner. That obviously ended poorly. My best friend is planning to be my roommate next month and we are going to have a QPR and not try to have a relationship by anyone else's standards. :)
I'm sorry you had to deal with that but glad things seem to be looking up! 🖤
I think i might be aromatic because I’ve never felt any romantic feelings..? But like I want to have a close friend in my life who I can casually kiss and stuff but the idea of a ‘relationship’ just isn’t nice for me. But I have no idea and it’s kinda weird
It could be worth pursuing a queerplatonic partner/relationship. Have a lil google and see what you think!
@@SamanthaAimee wait its literally an exact definition of how I feel! Thank you so much oh my god
I am Aromantic and I just figured out I'm Fictosexual ,it means I only feel sexual attraction to fictional characters ! I can't deny that it felt good when I found they made an official flag for that 😅
You're a princess every day 😘👸🏻 xxxxxxxxxxx
I LOVE YOU FIANCEE XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
We are both Aromantic and have the same bed sheets. Bruv
Can someone help me please ? I am so confused with myself.
So my problems are I feel disgusted and scared when someone wants to be in relationship with me . In my 21 years life i have never dated anyone and also don't want to . But i like romantic movies , dramas and also imaging romantic relationship with someone but in reality i feel so disgusted with it . I love this thinking in fantasy but i don't love it in reality . Sometimes i also think of having someone , someone who will take care of me and also will love me . But when someone comes and show their love for me i run away from them . I don't know why i do that even though i love to imagine a romantic relationship. Also one point i feel sexual attraction .
Soo now i am not asexual but am i aromantic? Why i want to run away from someone who loves me and feel disgusted in relationship??
I feel kinda the same thing and during these months I may have arrived to an answer: I think the reason some people like you and me fantasize about love or enjoy romantic movies etc. is because we have always been taught since we were kids to aspire to be in a relationship and that romantic love is really important, so we internalized this idea. Dunno if this makes sense to you, but more I think about it more I belive it works, at least for me. Also sorry for my English 😅
So maybe you are aro but you have been influenced by society 🤷♀️
Do you know the dates for the 2021 edition?
Ummm it's usually around valentines day!
I think I'm an aromantic lesbian
because I'm attracted to women but marrying them or going on dates with them just sucks to me
I am TERRIBLE at showing affection. Even with my family, I am an awkward hugger, I am an awkward kisser, and I come across as aloof and socially awkward
Also the whole gushy, romantic talk people love to do just makes me cringe, for example "oh I love you more than the stars in the sky"
Ugh y e s at that last part!!! It's so uncomfortable isnt it 😂
I'm still only young so I dont really know my sexuality quite yet
Like you know the basic saying
"You'll find the one someday"
But I'm 13 in a few weeks and I've not yet had a crush in my life
And usually girls my age experience them
So at my age I'm not sure if I'm asexual but If I'm correct I'm pretty sure I am aromantic
I don't want or think I feel like I need a relationship
I might someday but basing off of my view of it now I'm sure I am aromantic
It's completely valid if you identify with ace or aro labels - or in fact any other label - no matter what your age! Remember sexuality and romantic orientation are fluid, so you can absolutely identify as aro now and decide later that you're not.
You know yourself best. Much love, and I hope you're doing okay 💜
third option: make a movie where your character wears a wedding dress
Oooh fun idea!!
How about "you may now high-five the bride" ?
Aha yes!!!
A secret handshake would be cool instead of kissing at a friend wedding
Can someone please help
I feel like I don’t get it yk?
Like I wanna be free and single live my life with no barriers and no one holding me yk wt I mean? And i have aesthetic attraction to people like wow cute hair,clothes etc.. but not like omg wish it was my girl/boyfriend
And When i like someone I start thinking about them like would they do that or that..for a while and then id be like meh who cares probably cuz I overthink literally everything
But the thing is I really don’t know the difference between romance and anything else like loving you siblings and your friends how can it differ to loving someone else romantically wt is the damn difference 😭 I thought I figured out myself but then i started questioning it
I sometimes imagine myself with like an actor and be like imagine if we did that and that but eww not kiss this is boring like just have fun laughs and hugs
So what does this mean?
Also I always say why would they have boyfriends or why would they marry
They don’t need that in not necessary
Then i think I’ve never been in love how would i know
But if im aro how would i even know how does it feel
It’s so confusing and as i said I overthink alot
Romantic attraction is wanting to kiss, cuddle, hold hands, that sort of thing. It sounds like you could be aro, and if you are that's completely fine! It is something you need to figure out for yourself though because no one knows you better than you do.
Samantha Aimee thank you so much for your answer and tome❤️
Yea I think I’m aro, cuz whenever I like someone I don’t really wanna kiss em or any of that I feel like why..yk? There’s no need for intimacy in relationships I feel like that make things worse 😂😭 we can be like very close friends like siblings like what you mentioned in your video..thank you so much again
I think I might be aroace or somewhere on the spectrum but I still don't know😅
It's okay to not know 🖤 for now you could just say you're arospec if that helps
im aromantic gay asexual introvert, try to explain all that to clueless people
Can someone be aromantic but not asexual?
Yes!! Lots of people identify as sexual aros
you may shake hands with the bride
0:29 oh look my brothers birthday hmm
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i overt thing all the words and i don't know what things mean and not sure if I am, but I do "fall for" fictional men . i'm not happy that the man i think i want to be with is copyrighted and from someone's imagination.
i don't want to call myself something a tumblr user invented. like cupio- or myr-
Soooo me! Love so much but no interest in sex or romance
Is it possible to think there’s not anyone out there for you to love but not be aromatic?
Of course! It's natural to feel lonely sometimes but if a relationship is something you want, keep at it 💚
Samantha Aimee it is something I want and I have been in them before but they didn’t last very long. So no I feel as if there isn’t anyone out there for me
why do people want same sex/same gender character representation more than QPR? Bert and Ernie have to be gay lovers for the lil gay kids, but we can't let people know QPR exist.