This Husband And Wife Each Have A Lover They Consider Part Of The Family | Megyn Kelly TODAY
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- Опубликовано: 28 фев 2018
- Joe Spurr and his wife Zaeli started dating when they were 21. Now they have an open marriage and a daughter together. They join Megyn Kelly TODAY along with their respective lovers, Ixi Kirkilis and Blake Wilson, for a frank discussion about their unconventional arrangement. “No one is being cheated in a family like this,” Spurr says.
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This Husband And Wife Each Have A Lover They Consider Part Of The Family | Megyn Kelly TODAY
The girlfriend looks like the wife. Clearly he has a type.
neikaplay exactly, why doesn’t he pick a different type if he already has one?!
Clearly they have very different personalities. Maybe he, I don’t know, loves them for more than their looks?
Also, their lower face shape is completely different than one another. I don’t see what you’re seeing.
LOL! You make it sound like women are collector's edition dolls! Maybe she is a completely different "type" of human being who brings out different parts of him!
Yeah and the two of them have made that very joke! You've got a good sense of humor :)
Yeah, the Goddess type!
Lets interview them in 5 years time!
Queen Speaker why? Interview me. I've been in a nonmonogamous relationship for 15 years. Longer than the average marriage lasts by a wide margin. 🤷♂️
Queen- Yes, because every monogamous relationship lasts more than five years, right? This comment is ridiculous.
I know, right ?
I don't believe you.
No, it doesn't. You're ridiculous.
So, what exactly is marriage? Why get married at all? I'm not being judgemental, sarcastic or whatever else others may perceive my questions as, I'm legitimately looking for the answers?
Ha that is where the confusion lies when one is of this world
these are the questions that should be asked when these people are destroying its purpose. If we want to stay ahead of these tumultuous times we should reform by destroying the concept of marriage entirely so polygamists, polyamory families and these people who believe in having lovers can be happy.
Marriage is like a contractual agreement. It has its benefits outside of the paper. Its knowing if your partner falls ill, or dies, things like the home, or life insurance will help. But marriage is a life long commitment, and there will be plenty of issues that come with that. Having an open marriage, or relationship allows for alleviating getting bored in the relationship. You love this person, but you have other interest, that the other partner may not be into. It works for some, I have been in a polyamorous relationship before. It was nice, and the only reason I'm no longer with her, because the woman I was dating wasnt open to a poly relationship so I made the choice to leave, and my poly partner understood, and was supportive.
@@chrisb9445 another crazy like you. The world has gone insane, change is not always a good thing. If your partner finds a dude with AIDs outside of you in one of their open relationships and you sleep with them because you are open to everything then dude I have to say you have some heavy tastes.
Bc of the children
What’s the point of even being married?
Emilie Modaff Like I said, what’s the point?
Claudia Vlahović To more than one person all at once? Yeah no thanks, I rather stay single.
it's like kings with concubines. marriage is done to legally unite between two families together, while concubines are there for sexual or servitude purposes
@@mrpeach2023 until you try. Its worth it.
Joshua Mercer well, the fact that 80% of divorces are initiated by women, and most women cheat their way out of relationships, it actually makes sense for many women these days. The idea of being with the same man forever, is not what most women want OR are even capable of these days. With cheating being much easier (and accepted) than ever before, most people are not even monogamous. These couples on this show are not any better, at least they're honest about it, and honest with their partners about who they sleep with. But, yeah it's not for everyone .
The girls literally look the same with different hair colours
They rather curiously embody the nature of a couple anthropomorphic Capras. The entire group appears to have succeeded in remaining aloof from achieving basic standards of evolutionary acumen.
Sara Barill yeah and neither of them are in the slightest bit attractive
Scott Harris I’m intrigued...honestly, as a woman
What is attractive to you?
And how have you been influenced by societal standards?
Thank you :)
They look like Jews! 😂
@@scottjharris your feelings are invalidated
Anyone else think the husband found a lover who looks and sounds and acts so much like his wife?
Anyhow I doubt this union will last long!
You are free to doubt, just as they are free to disregard your doubts as ungrounded.
Sounds like *Bipolar* disorder and low self esteem. No need to get married then. Just date 20 people if you cant decide who you wanna be with each day. Get married while doing this makes no sense.
Blake's voice & body language seems feminine to me. Maybe he's confused & experimenting....
Lmao and monagmy does?
TheCommotion ... I love and admire the 4 of you! All of you could be living the same lie of a life that countless other unhappy un/married couples live everyday. Lying, cheating, and fighting, and being almost miserable; and still staying together bc it's what society says we are supposed to do. Get married, have kids, raise a family, be "normal".. I don't think "normal" is a word that describes anything these days except the same old basic ideals of how people think we shouls live our lives, "normal" to most ppl is how they think the majority of ppl live their lives, the sad thing is, that not nearly as many ppl live that ideal "normal" life, it's just they lie and hide everything that doesn't fit that mold so that they aren't judged by society for not being "normal".. Yet at the end of the day they are very unhappy and miserable... Kuddos to you and hubby for being open and honest with one another from the beginning! I am happy to see you 4 shatter the mold!!
🤮🤮🤮these people have no self respect. When you truly love someone , you won’t be able to think of them making love to another. This is not love , it’s some form of mental problem.
100000000000% agreed
Let's all be so open minded our brain falls out.
Reanna Lilley lol this made me laugh
Sadly your comment makes sense.
Head and mind aren't the same🤦♀️
Why take the vows, if you don't want to commit. ...
Lisa Bullock exactly.
Seriously, give those vows back. We are running low and we don't get another shipment until Friday.
Lisa Bullock good point. Abolish Monogamous marriage. 😂
How is this not committing ? It's commuting to the rules you set in your relationship.
For tax purposes?
Both lovers are physically uglier than their counterpart, which makes them less of a threat
Boobear read what you said back to yourself? Do it again... Slowly.
Do you actually believe that garbage? Do you think relationships boil down to outward appearance?
1. Looks never last. Everyone looks like crap at someone in their lives.
2. If you think the value of a person is in how physically attractive they are (which is in the eye of the beholder fyi. Is subjective, not objective) then I feel sorry for you because you're clearly never had a meaningful romantic relationship in your life.
My feelings for my partners wouldn't change regardless of they were swimsuit models or 300lb and most people who aren't shallow losers would say the same about their partner (s)
My thoughts exactly
Boobear 😂
Threat? Is that why everyone is so up in arms about this because this type of thing makes them feel threatened? This is about cooperation vs competition. Cooperating with your spouse to empower them to get the most out of life. Cooperating with their lover to achieve that same goal. Its not a " threat" thing. The threat is mediocracy, control, and a soul-crushing relationship that leads to divorce.
I'm dead. I'm seriously looking through these comments and then I see this. Lmao
Poor daughter. How humiliating this must be for her! I pray she finds a great therapist when she's older.
Yes it's crazy how people will do the selfish thing (who cares who it hurts as long as I'm "happy")
What happens if the wife gets preggy with boyfriend or if girlfriend gets preggy with husband?
Exactly! Or if wife gets pregnant, then who's the father? Husband or boyfriend 😖
Seems like they would make great parents and the children would be well taken care of. 😁
Andrea Rich that is what I tho about
The girlfriend doesn't seem to want kids, i'm pretty sure she's on birth control... The wife also seems smart enough to have figured out how to not get pregnant unless it's planned.
@@dainonmcduffie4396 yes
The wife and the girlfriend look related.
This shouldn’t be normal, there’s no point of getting married if they want to be open relationship
Lulu Rod normal is subjective not objective but thanks for trying to push your narrow minded heteronormative/mononormative view on the rest of the world 👍
first last everything these days is narrower minded or bigoted anything new you can use as an insult?
Lulu Rod I believe the same.
Christine P. Is it not narrow-minded? Everyone must live the way you do? And you became the authority on the way people should live their lives? 🤔
first last She was right. Also, what you asked, already happens with the criminal and civil court system and laws in the hypocritical, twisted, and depraved American society. There are many laws in America that are based on the way people feel or think and are biased.
I'm sorry, they don't look happy. Those two ladies look like sisters.
It sounds to me that you’re projecting your feelings into the situation because of your discomfort. I don’t feel like any of them look unhappy at all.
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Jacqueline Alvarado those girls do look similar for sure!
Jacqueline Alvarado they do, very similar looking!
Morgan King So do the men. Just plop hair on the bald guy.
Sick, sick world we're living in
Yes, Trump is president
These sick sick diseased people need killing.
Why? If they are consenting adults and making every effort to keep the relationships healthy....if they are ok with it what do we really have to say about it?
Paul Deeny why is sick because you were forced feed to think like a closed minded person.
Nothing sick about living a life that makes you happy. Nobody is being hurt.
There is absolutely no way that this can emotionally work. Some day it will blow up in their faces. Sick.
Yet, it works...
has worked for centuries too... It's not like polygamy is a new concept.
Why wouldn't it work emotionally? I don't get it...
Don Quixote jealousy will someday rear its ugly head
It worked when men had multiple wives and concubines and noone cared about a woman's feelings or wellbeing. We have evolved.
Well 50% of marriages blow up in people's faces. I've been poly for 15 years... No explosions yet...
@@karendelgado456 oh i see now
The victim in here is the innocent child. Poor kid will be in counseling for a long time.
AllforCJW yeah. The products of Monogamous relationships don't need any counseling. 🙄
Feel sorry for the child. So gross this is
True. .There are innocent children.
AllforCJW I would've thought the same thing at first. But then you think..what about step parents? Like it's somewhat like that. As long as the child isn't being exposed to anything weird which I'm sure they aren't, and as long as the child has those clear boundaries of "this is my mother, this is my father", it might not actually be that big of a deal. Like in a way, it's almost like the kid gets four parents instead of two. Two being kind of like "step parents".
Yvonne M show me one child from a nonmonogamous family who shot up a school. 😂 please . You can't blame less than 10% of the population for the majority of what's wrong in America. 90%+ of all people in America are Monogamous. So try again
SO SAD.... I FEEL SO SORRY FOR THEIR DAUGHTER.....
Loved by four parents instead of two? You’re right, this kid has it so rough ;)
That's a silly way to waste your energy -- their daughter is thriving.
Tiffany Bond
Haha. Keep telling yourself that. You replied to every single comment on this video. Obviously you are with somebody that does not find you to be enough for them and so they are sleeping around. Now you're scrambling to justify it in an attempt to make yourself feel better.
blakeANDzaeli
Sure, keep telling yourself that. The more you replied to every single comment the more true it becomes 😂😂😂
Ewww whites
This is an act of the devil on its face. I feel like throwing up watching this.
I always feel like throwing up when I encounter poly stories/people. I'm not a jealous or possessive person. I don't have delusions about "disney" marriages. It just makes me feel like vomiting.
The girlfriend and boyfriend should just get together
MYB Misa
I wonder if the wife and husband would feel betrayed if their extra “partners” got together. LOL! I wouldn’t put it past them to have already gotten together.
the husband and wife don’t even look happy together so what’s the point of them being married
Them not looking happy to you has no impact on their actual happiness and thus - on there being a point to their relationship.
I hope that is clear.
I thought the same thing thing. They don’t touch or even look at each other. It’s weird. Sorry. Somethings off and it’s not just the fact they are cheating on one another.
The wife's leg is pointing away from her husband. That is the body language I noticed right away. As if they are on the outs.
Ashlee Marie...I thought the same too....why bother marrying when living together works. There's more to this than they are telling...not that I care what they do. But, I AM curious how much this show pays these weirdos to come on national t.v. & spread their liberal ideas.
Anna Wixon...Not "cheating". It's "swinging". And no one can convince me that they are NOT swapping & having male-to-male, female-to-female too. A lot of deception here.
Nope I’m not buying it. I feel like they are trying to convince everyone this is a good thing. But they themselves are dying on the inside.
This never ends good ☹️
I agree Maribel Quitos
Why would they choose this lifestyle then? It's their life, no one is forcing them. Being polygamous is actually very liberating. You get to say goodbye to learnt insecurities and really truly trust your partner wholeheartedly. None of this 'what if' mentality.
Maribel Quiros I've been in a non-monogamous/polyamorous relationship for 15 years now. If I were dying on the inside this whole time I'd already be dead. 😂
You're projecting your own (Monogamous) feelings on these people.
A Monogamous person's logic doesn't always easily translate to a nonmonogamous person's logic.
Source: 15 years of being confronted by those who share your opinion.
Maribel Quiros agreed!
Maribel Quiros just like those polygamist cults
And they describe their relationship like they’re cousins and tries to say it’s better for kids because they have more role models... that’s what aunts uncles and friends are for lol
Well said Ashley..!
Ashley Steffen Preach girl!!!
The daughter is young right now but it won't be long before she's in school and starting to go to friends' homes to play or have sleep-overs and she'll realize that something's different in her home - she can go into Mommy's bedroom in the morning and find one of two different men there. How can that be healthy for a child?
@@2ndhandSue How can it not be healthy to have more loving positive role models? Don't be so threatened of people who manage to handle more successful relationships than you.
The more they talk is like their trying to convince themselves that this is right smh
No, they were being interviewed. This has been going well for them for years, they're not trying to convince anyone. Didn't sound that way to me
@@PaperRaines been going well? And you know this how exactly?
@@dxshawn532...... I watched and listened to the same segment that you did?
@@PaperRaines so you believe everything you see and hear? You're gonna have trouble in life, people always try to save face Eduardo
@@dxshawn532 and you're the guy with superior wisdom that sees through everything? There's one in every crowd.
Seriously what is the point of making a commitment like marriage if you want to continue to date other people?! All four of these people deserve to have someone who will give them their entire heart mind and body. We all deserve more than just half of someone.
Amanda white monogamy = exclusivity.
Exclusivity ≠ commitment. They generally go together but they are not the same thing
Nonmonogamy ≠ lack of commitment
By the same token, it's unrealistic & unhealthy to expect one person to be your "everything" & fulfill the roles of friend, lover, therapist, financial adviser, sounding board for rants & ideas, co-parent, etc. Too many married couples end up in co-dependent relationships where they lose their identity & autonomy. At least these two are avoiding that miserable mess.
I agree .. but some people don't want or aren't capable of that apparently :/
MsNooneinparticular why is it unrealistic? You don’t expect everything from the other person in a healthy realitionship. You complete each other. Nothing will work out for a “normal” human being to be the second choice.
They don't deserve that. This was their unfortunate choice. The victims here are the children.
So how is a hug an intimate action yet marriage isn't you've got to be kidding me you're ridiculous
blakeANDzaeli whatever makes you able to sleep at night you're delusional Can't Open the Eyes of delusion thanks for the chuckle
How is marriage an action, dork? :D
A very, very odd situation, 'open marriage' seems like an oxymoron. I feel the "boyfriend & girlfriend" are definitely getting the short end of the stick. I get it's a choice, but I feel like they're almost being used in a way. But regardless of my assumptions and opinions, if they're all ok with it and are TRULY happy....let it be! I do hope they are actually all happy in this relationship/agreement =)
me me RIGHT!!!!
TheCommotion If you guys are truly happy with how you live, then why are you even responding to most of these comments? Only people that are guilty about something (Like knowing this is wrong period. If your married you should be with only the person you made vows before God to; no one else.) Yet you keep responding to everyone that thinks the moral compass is off here (Which it is) but why are You and Blake defending it so hard if it's okay? If I was doi g something that I know is not part of the norm, and know that people will have an opinion about it, I wouldn't even bother with the scrutiny.
Why bother getting married if you're going to choose an "open" arrangement? They say that nobody is losing anything in this four-person relationship, but how does this story end? Are Ixi and Blake going to be "the other" for the rest of their lives? They'll never get to be married? What about children for Ixi and Blake if they want children in the future? I guess this is just so far out of my realm that I can't wrap my head around it.
ooh this sn't going to end well.
Vegan Dolls actually let me say from my own personal experience it can end well. It depends on the people involved
Exactly... It's not!
I’m pretty sure this marriage will survive just as well as any other marriage. And I grew up with Zaeli, she’s always been a free spirit. Plus all parties involved are highly highly educated so I think they’ll be just fine.
@@kcarterid education makes a difference
It may not “end well”...but it ALWAYS ends.
This isn’t a marriage it shouldn’t be called that
do whatever you want, but brining a kid into this unstable mess is the sad part.
and yes you could argue, than more people = more love to give to a child. But i still wouldn't play that game with a kid. I can do whatever I want, I just wouldn't subject a kid to those odds and wouldn't have any.
Unstable mess? Oh good lord, muggles just don't get it haha
And you're so happy with yourselves, experts on parenting apparently (how many kids do you have?), yet you feel the need to declare 'korean guy/white girl? Aren't you just two people? I'd say sort out your own insecurities rather than judging others
I'll add if you think this is shocking, my lifestyle would probably give you heart failure 😂 I've been open/talk openly with my children about it. I didn't want them to grow up sexually repressed and closed minded, and I'm proud to say they are both amazing/open/non-judgemental/non-racist/wonderful human beings. The only 'sad part' as you put it, are the ignorant judgements usually born out of jealousy
Seems a lot more stable than most of my parents' marriage(s)
Blake deserves his own wife..he seems like he would be a good husband.
Sounds like he wants one too.
What's the point of being married?
Probably because they want to
Exactly!!!!
That's a good question. I've never married and cannot see why people do it. From what I've seen, it looks horrific.
In general because divorce rate it’s at 50 percent, open marriages seem to be more happily married
@@The81titans Sample size comparison is absolutely massive compared with one another
Something about this is off :/
yea them, whole four of them
There is a long laundry list of things off about this whole set up. More than I can fit in one comment. Where do I begin???
FlickerFlame all of these people are off in the head ! They seem weird
They do not look happy and this will never last.
Prank Girl agreed
Prank Girl not true.
< 15 years here.
+first last Are the third wheels that you discarded happy? Or are you the third wheel?
They seem genuinely happy! The concept of different ppl bringing out different parts of someone is undeniably true. An open relationship wouldn’t work for everyone, but if it does work, I don’t see anything wrong with it. Children are allowed to see violence and be forced into religions and schools and ideologies but they can’t see a great example of consent and selflessness? I think there are lots of things that kids are exposed to that harm them wayyy more than this arrangement
our world is getting sicker! yeah! news! poison the minds of our children! making it all sound and look okay!!!!!!!!!
You look like you don't need external poisonous influence, your children will have a steady supply just by you breathing.
Henny C-Lee Eldridge
Yeah, chillax.
Well said
Henny C-Lee Eldridge agree. Kind of tired of people justifying everything as normal.
It’s the only way they feel normal. Those who are twisted try desperately to make themselves feel normal. They are hugely insecure and probably have never seen a normal relationship growing up so they grasp at anything.
They all seem so lost and confused. Like deep down they arent fully contempt. The only one who seems happiest of all is Joe.
Who wants to share their lover? This isn't real love. Real love is so powerful, that the THOUGHT of your partner is with someone else makes you sick to your stomach.
Sweet T Walker
Maybe that’s your version of real love. What makes you the authority on what real love is?
Tiffany Bond like I said, that's my version of what I feel real love is and that will never change. That doesn't mean I find polygamy disgusting or the people that do it. I just don't define that as real love in MY LIFE. No need to get defensive if that's the way you live. No matter if I feel that it is right or not, I respect other people's way of life.
Sweet T Walker you're deep in Monogamous logic.
I've been nonmonogamous for 15 years and my partner (of 15 years) met a new partner of mine and those two ladies are the best of friends. Your logic only applies to Monogamy because if what you said was universally true they should hate each other and want to fight Jerry Springer style. Instead each of them tells me, "I can definitely see what you see in her" and giggle all day back and forth texting each other.
To say what I am experiencing isn't real love is false
Sweet T Walker yeah i agree with u 100%
😂😂😂
That’s called jealousy bro. Not “real love”. Goodness gracious...
This is the most sickest thing I have ever heard. Way to sick for me to watch
This is not being a role model for children, so sad...
To be yourself and make yourself happy? To care for others? To not make yourself miserable in the hopes of being accepted by society, a society that lies itself and won't be paying your bills in your house? I don't know, if the kids are being raised like that I don't think they're going have anxiety and depression issues later in life, like most adults in America do
Well, i raised my daughter on my own, i would have loved it..
Ya let’s teach them lies and jalousie instead
@@jenmalbaie maybe there is no lies and jealousy here?
Just because you were force-fed to have a shallow mind doesn’t mean everyone has a shallow mindset
i get the vibe they all do shrooms together and go on some spiritual journey 😂
Braeden Millar 😂😂😂😂😂😂😍😂😂hahahahahaha
So question. Does the lovers have other lovers? Where does it end. This is not a marriage!
Alicia torres I've been in a nonmonogamous relationship for 15 years. I love with one partner and the other is married with 2 kids. 🤷♂️ it can be done.
It sounds like the girlfriend prefers to round out her life with professional pursuits and travel. Not everyone wants their life to be dominated by a full time romantic schedule.
Asia Reeves What is right? And does it have to be right for everyone? I can give you a hundred examples of a right living based on economy, health, ecology, law, etc. but hardly anyone lives by all of those rules- and mind you, some of those rules are more impactul on our present lives and the future lives of out children then how and whom someone chooses to live with.
Asia Reeves Which god's laws? I don't believe in any, but I know of many beliefs. For example, if you were born in Afganistan, you'd believe in Alah and he alows men to have 4 wifes. Obviously, your perspective would be different then. It's just that you were lucky to be born in USA which is much less male dominated environment, and you can express your way of living. Obviously, I don't know you or your religion, but if you are christian, somehow I higly doubt you're practicing every law that is in the bible (and you shouldn't, but then don't be a hypocrite), since for women there are some rather wicked and unfair expectations in that book. True christianity is as cruel and islam in treating women. But to be fair, most of the frligions are...
Asia Reeves I typed a long answer and then I realized I lost my point somewhere along the lines, so I might not be as warm as I'd like to be, and I'll try to be clear.
1. you really seem nice, and a good human. I agree with most of your views. Were not that diferent, we both search for the truth- we just look at different places. Most religious people, however, are not- they don't search, they just accept authorty.
2. I have to stress that morality is not a property of religions, and that most atheist are very moral. The source of our morality, however, is varied and different. In regard to this couple- monogamy itself is not moral- it's the honesty, the altruism, the love and care that people associate with monogamous relationship. Now, I am too jealous and posesive to be willing to give it a go, since I have a more nuclear concept of family, but I do understand that there are many functional societies where poligamy is encouraged and has some benefits. And I don't think this open couple is not moral- they all know everything and seem to colaborate well, so nobody is lied to or taken advantage of...
Wrong on every level....And the fact that there is a little girl involved in this...yikes!
Kimberly Wimmer that child is going to be messed up in the head
yes, it just sucks.
And the mother says, she's happy her daughter has gotten to witness it 😲😲 my God! This world is pretty messed up!! Sigh
Notice how they each found proximal twins! How passive aggressive. Just leave each other alone!
Call them what they are: Swingers!
This isn’t swinging. Maybe educate yourself on the difference?
But they are not swingers so your comment makes no sense.
Um, words have specific meanings, Elyse. Thanks for trying to help, though.
Tiffany Bond You're right. I made that comment before fully watching the whole video. No hard feelings.👌
feels more like polygamy haha
Nothing new, they are open swingers. I do feel sorry for the daughter though !!!
Why?
Why?
The daughter might one day feel the same for you being monogamous.
Why would you feel sorry for their daughter? She has 4 loving parents
I'd like to correct that a bit. Two loving parents, two loving parental figures. Still, four loving adults to raise her, but only her bios are her parents at the moment.
"They have a very successful relationship" Uhhhhh no they don't. That's why it's an open marriage.
Absolutely right!
That’s like calling a nonprofit business a bad business just bc it doesn’t make as much money as your for-profit business. Who gets to dictate what success in a relationship is?
They have a more successful relationship than anyone married to a cheating mate, an abuser or a sociopath.
Why do you think that?
All of these people are in the sunken place... including Megyn.
BHI
Jonah Welch Agreed
Exactly ...!!!
True, even audience clapped like dumb.
How is that worse than cheating?
It doesn’t feel right watching this. I hope nbc would stop covering story like this. This is not normal and don’t normalize this. Thank you.
elfprincessyovie Yeah just keep covering school shootings and corrupt politicians, please! That's the normal we want for our reality!!
elfprincessyovie Nah. NBC won't stop. It has shown or 'normalized' other things on this show.
grow up it happens.no matter how weird
lol go back under your rock please. Thank you.
elfprincessyovie I agree. Marriage is suppose to give glory and honor to God!!
They do not look happy.
Body language says it all, divorce so them two can be together with his beard, husband n wife don't love each other anymore n that spare wheel wants to get married in the future n hv a child, hello
"Blake shines his light on her"...."I want her to be fully illuminated" lmfao, okay, joe.
It's all fun and dandy until you start planning your dream vacation and your spouse tells you they have a prior commitment with their lover lol
I think the lovers go on vacation with you !! Nobody gets left behind. I wonder if they'd qualify for "family pricing" at Disneyland?
When me and the wife planned our vacation we normally bring her side boyfriend and have a great time. It’s really not that complicated
What happens when they find out the husband and the boyfriend are sleeping together too...
lol Right? The bald dude definitely has gayvoice.
what happens when they find out that the boyfriend and girlfriend have a girlfriend...and that boyfriend and girlfriend have a bofriend and girlfriend..or three or four boyfriends or girlfriends..There's a reason why you get married..and it isn't so you can spread herpes around
@TheCommotion Hi there! Just saw the segment and found the way you all explained it to the audience just wonderful.
This is just weird!
Do you prefer "they're cheating on me" ,lots of confrontation and divorces?
You do know, men had multiple wives.. as stated in the Bible.. its only weird because you're not used to it.
Dazy Kid well said.
Ashley Allbee Yes it is....But look at all the replies to the comments they are actually taking the time to explain and defend themselves. If they were truly happy as I stated before they would not bother responding to people who will have an opinion about how they live, unless they KNOW in their heart of hearts it's wrong and Immoral.(Which it is) just be single.
To each its own who cares is not u right so keep walking and mind your business.
Not for me at all. I am 100% monogomist. And I dont believe any one who says this works for them. It may seem that it "works" momentaraly. But never long term, trust me.
You're right.
Careful buddy, you seem like a good guy and there are plenty of women out there looking to you as their meal ticket and nothing more.
So, for the wife , a hug is a very intimate act?
Novascotia Skater man i thought allowing another woman to fxck your Husband was intimate 🤔
What if the boyfriend and girlfriend also find another relationship? And then their other relationship finds another.... and on and on. If they keep going, they could easily have a hundreds of people in their circle of intimacy that they will never know.
Joe T nobody has that much time on their hands
Source: me. Someone who's been nonmonogamous for 15 years. I've never had more than 2-3 relationships at any given time. People have jobs and what not lol
Yes, think of all the babies!
Joe T - Yup. Sooner or later they are going to pay for the consequences, STD or HIV AIDs. Good riddance. They are behaving like animals.
That would've been a good question for Megyn to ask
a world joined by herpes...SCARY
This is so disgusting ,why even get married if your going to see other people. Why does everything have to be accepted??
Marriage is a legal contract that about it...people are lying if they say they would love their spouse for the rest of the life the same way....in reality ppl fall in love fall out of love we are not robots. I they are happy in this I say great for them atleast they are happy not miserable like most of the married couples these days
The devil has always tried to pervert what God made holy. 🙄
You're talking as if there were no polygamy or concubines in the bible
Amen to that!
@@atomnous pfft Polygamy was encouraged in the Bible but i digress because most Christians dont actually read it
Relationship is relationship, marriage is marriage.
Feel disgusting!
I can't even watch this clip to the end!!
Nope could never do that!
Kimberly K me either, I would be hurt. To me it is saying you're not enough
blakeANDzaeli Relax it's just an opinion!
blakeANDzaeli if you don't want opinions don't put it on RUclips
Kimberly, that is because you are a decent Lady, much unlike those in this video.
It’s 😠 madness
Might as well not get married. Gross. Society has normalized this type of thing. Glamorizing being promiscuous. If you’re not 100% content with your partner, don’t marry them.
Trevor Dumont i agree
Let's talk about the 50% divorce rate and 65% infidelity rate, and serial monogamy.
Stay in your lane if you can't pass the runner ahead of you
11 minutes of life I’ll never get back! What a joke.🙈
I get it but i am way to protective and my love is strong. My guts would explode dealing with this.
As would those of most people. That's why monogamy prevails throughout history.
Why is America accepting just to accept?? Like of course I love when people are happy & im not perfect to judge..but this is so wrong. Why normalize things like this? Such a let down. Why make a commitment & not commit? & "be brave for each other" ...Give. Me. A. Break.
Commitment ≠ Monogamy
Exclusivity = monogamy
Commitment ≠ exclusive
Humans normalized marriage.
They are committed, just to more than one at a time.
I don't think this is an American thing lol It's kind of just a western thing in general. But yeah I completely agree with you. We shouldn't be normalizing these things like this
Soul Healing & Tough Advice this is not liberalism, but it can be something leftists take in. Being open minded is not a mental disorder. If it’s not for you, it’s not for you. Don’t be ridiculous.
People seem to have a problem with this.. yet people are having affairs everyday... cheating is a real issue so if you want to have multiple partners let me know so I can find me someone who can stick to one partner.
Tanisha Salmon-Williams Cheating in any way shape or form just disgust me and tears my heart apart. It bothers me so much and makes me afraid of being in a relationship knowing I'll for sure be loyal and unsure of my potential partner being the same. :,(
You have a great point Tanisha
Tanisha Salmon-Williams men don't love women they have affairs with, they are using them in the worst way.
Just because they made this adultery open does not make it normal or ok
Mebrice Depace They shouldn’t have married.. it’s almost like those polygamy folk
This doesn't end well...never does!!! Open marriage....disgusting.
??? I think that is some CRAZY CRAP. They must be very unhappy with there lives
The boyfriend and girlfriend, have low self-esteem.
Oh, I wasn’t aware you knew them personally.
Laura Hale projecting much?
The boyfriend seems like he has an undercurrent of dislike for the situation. He’s fallen in love with a girl, and she comes with this mess.
They obviously have the short end of the stick, so yes, they after getting screwed over and letting someone do it to them
Laura Hale -I think the boyfriend and girlfriend enjoy the benefits of a relationship without exclusivity. Some people are just like that.
I find this so stupid .What a great example for a daughter .Not.That child would be confused.
Danii M That's America for ya. Filth like this is broadcast and normalized and American society members, like those twisted audience members, who obnoxiously, laughed and clapped, follow through with the nonsense. She even had transgender' teens on one episode and 'transgender' parents on another. It was the same sort of deal with the audience members. The people of tomorrow will have a 'new normal' in America.
No outrage or backlash on NBC itself. No outrage or backlash on the media or news, no so-called 'CPS' or 'DCF' involved or calls or reports made to them, no arrests, and no calls for laws against these things. Never in America. The country a certain being, 'loves'.
Just because you are confused doesn’t mean the kid is. This is not the Middle Ages anymore.
M who said I’m confused .Re read what I wrote I didn’t mention anything about me being confused
Having more parents to help raise a child is a good problem to have considering how many people only have one.
M this is going backwards to middle ages
Blake is the flunky. I don’t think the wife is really interested in him as a partner but he is convenient because he runs errands. The issues are going to arise between the women. When the”girlfriend” decides she no longer wants to concede to the wife, there will be problems.
It's already been going on for several years. At what point would this issue arrive? And what point does it occur to you the wife does love her boyfriend? Just because it's alternative doesn't make it illegitimate. It's just not your cup of tea
You seem so certain.
no cheating here, I like that part!!
Vomits
To each their own. I prefer beer to vomit, for example, but help yourself.
Only if it is how u like it, boy :3 (I dont like that btw, lol)
Jesus have mercy on us humans!!! The god of this world has blinded their eyes so they may not see the truth of your Word!!! I pray they repent and accept you as their Lord and Savior!
AMEN...LOVERS OF THIS WORLD... DO WHAT THY WILL.. FEEL SO SAD..JUDGEMENT IS COMING..PRAYING THEIR EYES ARE OPEN
@@jernigan0217 nasty people
What is good will be bad & what is bad will be good...as the Bible says.
Amen
AMEN @B.christine
Well the boyfriend and girlfriend don't feel like having other partners themselves?
Loving the comments! It’s so fun to see how people react to this sort of thing.
They all seem like.. just hypnotized or not necessarily happy. Just like.. going through the motions .
Sure you’re not simply projecting your disapproval Alexa? They seem perfectly happy to me.
blakeANDzaeli Fart on you .
Tiffany Bond clueless
It's because they're being put on the spot on a tv show. It happens.
Quite the contrary ... they are present, focused, articulate and emanating sincerity and contentment.
I personally wouldn’t feel comfortable with this, but if it works for them... live and let live! If you’re letting another persons life (especially people who you don’t even know) bother and bring up anger for you, that’s your personal problem. You need to take a look inside yourself and figure out your own judgement and insecurities. You don’t have to live like them. How about instead of judging another persons way of life, you people look to improve your own life.
OhhMyAnnie I wish I could like this comment more than once
Hmm
Well said!
OhhMyAnnie amen to this. My only thought was I couldn't do this. But I'm happy they have found a situation that has made them happy.
OhhMyAnnie well said.
I just love this idea! It's complex but deep. They must have a lot of in depth conversations about everything. It takes so much trust and love to let your partner experience this kind of fulfillment. So great for pooling resources too! Sign me up!
“We have to agree to be brave together”
- LOL
Just admit it! You need constant change in the bedroom
"Open marriage" is just an excuse to do what you want, have no true responsibility, and ultimately just be selfish. Freaks.
Lol your comment makes no sense to me. It's the opposite of selfish literally sharing your partner, doesn't seem selfish. It's added responsibility because now you have to be considerate for more than one person's feelings at all times. The joy of being an adult is making your own decisions. So they have a right to do what they want. You didn't think through your statement you just judged these people through a very narrow lens.
Madlow-What a great comment! My question is... what is so wrong with doing what you want? Or being happy that your spouse, whom you love, is also doing what they want? It's as if people are programmed to feel like they are somehow "better" if they make themselves and everyone around them miserable. I don't get it.
This ideal that everyone has to live the exact same lifestyle as you do or they are wrong saddens me. I'm trying to figure out what makes one way of living better than another and who gives people the authority to judge so passionately. People are so conditioned they prefer to live their lives miserably judging others than to take the time to love themselves and figure out what they really want. Marriage is not for everyone nor is monogamy that's why so many children are growing up in broken homes. People realize the "ideal" is not all its cracked up to be after the fact. Judge not lest ye be judged.
Yes. Letting your partners have real freedom and autonomy is so selfish. 😭
Well, I wish more imagination for you, then, providing you see it in your own light.
Oh, and condolences to your close ones.
Poor daughter will be confused .sick
Why?
Less confused than you, apparently :D
I love Megyn Kelly. She is open minded, respectful, kind and always shows empathy. In addition her questions are always considerate to the situation at hand, which helps us educate ourselves more on the subject.
That is MESSED UP!
Forgive me for sounding sounding ignorant but I just think it's all very greedy. Why do you need a wife AND a girlfriend?
the opposite situation also applies as well.
Someone explained polyamory to me once in a way that cleared things up for me. They said, most people have more than one friend. And making a new friend doesn't mean you love your old friends any less. People who are called to polyamory feel the same way about romantic relationships. I thought that was an interesting analogy, so I figured I'd pass it on.
@@amaliacollins5691 - I can't help feeling that it's a cop-out. They won't commit to just one person.
@@2ndhandSue Correct. I am polyamorous, so I commit to multiple people. Two for me and they are life long relationships.
@@amaliacollins5691 lol really? What a dumb analogy
It’s amazing!! All that worrying “could I be cheated on”- out of the window:))
that's true,it actually is much better to not have the jealousy that some people have
2:20 "Blake has his angle that shines on different parts of Zaeli.." LMAO
I'm sorry i tried really hard to UNDERSTAND this but i clearly CANNOT. this is just sick.
This is not right :(
Christy Beauty says?
Sure it is, they're adults and they're happy.
Is it better than confrontation, fighting, screaming, yelling, drama, sneaking around weakening trust of your partners, and divorce? Seems like a mature responsible step up from that to me.
"Right" is just one direction, intelligent people are aware of the choice.
Nobody is winning but the wife, she has two extra babysitters.
That said, all of them look very nice but frankly, this is not the kind of lifestyle I support ... or would ever support.
To each their own, no one is forcing you to engage in it.
Nobody is asking you too. 😂😂
How does it affect you personally ? No one is asking you to support it to start with .
Then don't do it. Leave your judgement behind.
i cant beleive how low and filthy the media had become. the lovely music on the background and staging it as a pefect life. braking the sacrity of marriage will only destroy society more.
The wife doesn't like the girlfriend at all the snarky comment oh she has finally stepped up to watching our daughter so we can have a date night who said she had to be obligated to the child nope that wife is jealous.
Wow Michele, you seem very interested in my rapport with Ixi. If you'd like to know us better you can follow our friendship at instagram.com/ixiandzaeli :)
Noticed that too. I don't know about jealousy, but that and the comment about being chased around the house for a hug came off like snide remarks.
I noticed both times she made snarky remark twice about a hug and babysitting. The wife must be feeling she is doing the girlfriend a favor for sharing her husband. Maybe, the wife too insecure about her marriage and jealous
@@saragirma6577 You seem to have a difficult time telling when someone is joking with someone else. I got that she was gently teasing someone she considers one of her best friends right away. That is why they all laughed afterward.
I think you may be bringing your own baggage into this &, because you are, you seem to be reading more than what is actually there.
Not everyone wants or needs the same life. Not everyone is the same person. We don't all react to things in the same way.
I was married 14 years & together for 2 years prior to a RN (car accident with a semi-truck about 15 months ago). He worked exclusively with females. I was never jealous of a single one of them, even when he had them as close friends. I am a secure person & I was very secure in his feelings for me. Sometimes there just is no jealousy because it serves no real purpose. His friends used to joke with me that they knew more about me than they knew about him because I was one of his favorite topics of conversation.
These people seem at the very least fine, if not extremely happy with their lives as they currently are. Why are you having an issue if they are not?
@@ZaeliKane you tell her. you go, girl.
had friends do this. guy took off with the added lover! good luck.
Why getting married when u don't even respect it. This is messed up I feel sorry for the little girl.
Their lives, their sexual organs. Doesn't bother me one way or the other. I'm a jealous person though so I couldn't even think about trying that kind of "arrangement"
This is not right...I feel sorry for their daughter...scaring, confusing and stupid.
Open mariage is an ather way to cheat
Cheating is about deceit. Everyone in this situation wants the same thing, and they’re all aware and consenting. That’s not cheating.
llyes44
Definitely and it will never, ever work.
Prank Girl 9f caurse it will never work, one day he will wack up to find him self left alone .. his wife find an ather man and shr run with him
llyes44 that's ridiculous. You're trying to use Monogamous logic with people who are not Monogamous.
And if one wanted to cheat they would do what cheaters do...pretend to be in Monogamous relationships and carry on behind the back of their partner.
False, cheating is doing something behind one's back. That has nothing to do with open marriage, which is the opposite of cheating.
they all seem happy, I wouldn't be able to be involved in this type of relationship, but I don't see why people have such a problem with it
Imagine being their kids and having to explain this to your friends😂😂