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I’m 51 and I’m still figuring things out. At age 29 I still wasn’t sure what I wanted. I got married to a man at age 31 and was miserable. I didn’t feel my life was going in the right direction until I was 40. I became a mom in my 40’s, bought a house, my ex husband I was separated from passed away, and reconnected with my soulmate in my 40s as well. We never know when things will turn positive for us and be on the right path.
I am 29 also and when it comes to the topic of kids, I think it's very unnatural for us women to feel like we're ready for kids without the right partner (or even a partner in general). I was just like you very unsure about this, all until I met my current partner. That’s when things started to make sense. I realized why I hadn’t felt ready before, even though I’ve been in long-term relationships. Now I deeply want kids and feel ready all because I know I have his support and care, and because it would mean starting a family together. And I’ve realized that it’s hard to want kids without that kind of stability and trust, as it’s such a complex experience, we want to feel reassured that someone will be there for us fully if it ever feels overwhelming.
You are still very young, Lana, and you have time. My wife was 39 when we had our 1st and only child. My advice is to keep being your awesome self and continue to love what life has in front of you. My guess is that your future will be amazing! Best of luck!
While your intention may be good, telling woman around 30 that she is very young leads exactly to where we are now. Lana, you are smart. You are right about illusion of endless opportunities. Being single woman is hard. World is not fair, yet we are still lucky. Think about living in the war region, or in the society where woman rights are suppressed. I think you are asking question that goes beyound psychology. You mentioned you are peeking into the christianity. I want encourage you and everyone to learn about story of redemption. One may not accept love of every person, but the love of god is overwheling.
That’s great for you, but some people have a hard time conceiving or like me have a miscarriage. Luckily I still have time to think about trying again and take my time recovering emotionally. If you’re 39 and have any of these issues that might not just be a baby you’re grieving but all hopes of having any biological kids.
@@kellyanne744 I find it a bit strange that you take offense to a a sweet and reassuring comment that was meant to help. You can't rush finding a partner and having kids even if there is a biologial clock ticking. That's a one way ticket to ending up with the wrong person and being miserable.
I recently went through a difficult breakup. My five year relationship ended few month ago, and it's been incredibly hard. I still have so much love for my ex boyfriend, and I can't seem to get him out of my mind. Despite my best efforts to win him back, nothing has worked, and the thought of being with anyone else feels impossible right now. I know it might sound odd to share this here, but I miss him deeply and can't stop thinking about him
I completely understand the pain of letting go of someone you love. I went through a similar experience when my 10 year relationship ended. I couldn't imagine my life without him, so I tried everything to rekindle our love. I eventually found guidance from a spiritual counselor, and their support helped me bring him back into my life if you're open to it, seeking help from a spiritual counselor might make a difference.
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😂😂 I'm 35 without making a single date ..... it sucks but it's normal , but for girls there's something called biological ⌚ watch don't forget that, Would like to be,
That last bit really hit me. I had a breaking up with a friend around two years ago because of a mutual friend. I've come recently to regret my past decision, since we really had bonded over a couple months of time back then and had quite a bit in common. I'm moved to reconnect with this friend, and thus, I've been in this fight with my ego for the past couple of weeks. Apologizing and admitting my faults is hard, but I think not knowing and living with regrets is harder
Lana, there's such a thing as pathological introspection where you try to tie every aspect of your being to some event, childhood, etc. Sometimes, it just is what it is. You have a dog. Do you ever question why every little thing your dog does is due to some event? Obviously no because that's crazy. Sometimes humans are that way too, and you know what? Sometimes it is due to something. However, does that matter? I think you'd be much happier refocusing yourself in being who you want to be. Also, don't overthink kids. You don't have to decide today, even though I personally think you'd be a great parent
Lana, you are a special soul. Your wisdom and abilities to self-examine are well beyond your years. You manner of speaking with us in your uploads is very soothing and gently loving… that is quite unique and beautiful 🙏🏻❤️ As to “figuring it all out” you’re going to go through phases of that due to wisdom acquired through experience. I will tell you that I sincerely hope that you find that special man to spend your life with, and that you do have children… you will make a wonderful mother and any children you have will be blessed for having you as a mother. God bless you sweet girl 🙏🏻… much love from Texas ❤️😘
I've heard a lot of elder people usually say that is better to be single than rush into marriage with the wrong person. Living life in regret. Yikes! Which is harder to endure? Being alone? Or being lonely and full of regret?
Lana, Hi. I wanted to share my thoughts. I'm a 33 y/o man. Loner. Visionary. Introspective. INFJ as well. I feel very similarly. As another year closes and we're just days before entering into a new year, I can't help but feel like I stagnate, missed out on certain milestones, and continue to feel as if I fall behind. I sometimes feel as if I'm not really living. I'm just existing. I'm a late bloomer. I see nothing wrong with this as we all progress at different paces and everyone leads different paths. But with each passing year, I sometimes can't help but get a little more worried that certain doors are slowly closing as I continue burning time focusing on self-development. Another year passes. I'm another year older. Time passes. And me not being where I wanted to be with things not turning out like I hoped/imagined, and not having things "figured out." I also happen to struggle with comorbid chronic anxiety (social & generalized) and AVPD. I ask myself why I am the way I am. But strangely, at the same time, I also feel this sense of inner peace. I may never have things totally "figured out." And I'm alright with that. The _Serenity Prayer_ is also something that I like to live by too. I'm also a firm believer in most things (if not everything) happening for a reason. We may receive the answers to certain things. Some things, we may never ever know. Some of them could be signs. While often times, not explicitly expressed or directed at you. They tug at us. They could manifest themselves through _coincidences._ *Godwinks.* Thank you for always sharing your calming insights and wisdom. _"What we are looking for is what is looking"_ *All the best to you*
I feel like I relate to you a lot, Lana. It's nice to know that there are people in this world that feel similar to how I do. I'm 25 years old, and I feel like I'm so sensitive to life and the actions/behavior of people, while also feeling like I'm unfeeling to certain situations/interactions. Often I'll just go with whatever my family/friends want to do, but I'm working on exploring my own interests/goals. Thank you for the video, Lana.
Lana's a poetry which was written by the god When the days went down, her video got me up When the voice calms me down more than anything The choas that run away after watching her on my phone's screen The presence of hers, which makes me thank god for it To the moon and back I'll be here supporting her for always -nandiniyadav
Your conversations are so insightful. Truly a joy. You’re a gifted communicator and life analyst. People of all ages can gain value from your pondering 🌸
I knew you for 4 years and nothing changed about my love for you wish you all the best l hope when day l move out live in a peaceful house and help ppl like you do ❤❤❤❤❤❤
For anyone who may read this, I want to encourage you with this: I see many people here saying that they haven't figured it out yet and they're not sure they ever will. I can relate. I have been there. It may sound strange to some, but I have found that through the reading of scripture, learning about Jesus, and prayer, so many things have come into focus. If you know, you know. I encourage anyone to try it.
I'm in my 50s and for most of my life I didn't know what I want my life to be like. Only after starting over and having to really focus on my new life, have I got to better understand how I want my life to be like. You have time on your hands and I say live life to the full! Whatever that means for you ❤
I like the “it’s always a once in a lifetime opportunity” way of phrasing to cherish each moment as super lovely and honorable even if it’s mundane. Life sort of becomes a self fulfilling prophecy if you give meaning to it - it develops into full of meaning and purpose. I def liked this point and also the idea to getting to know oneself.💜
Thank you Lana for the words. You are a great inspiration to ask questions about my own life. Life isn't such a straight line. It's feels more like a Labyrinth. The next way could be right or a unsusptected discovery. I wish you a happy new year.
This video reminded me of something I read recently. Have you ever heard of 'The Irresistible Seduction Formula' by Olivia Simmons? That book is so transformative, it's a life changer.
Thanks for sharing this @LanaBlakely definitely helps put perspective through the year. Let's not forget to value those people who support us through our "journey" and be gentle with who we are becoming today and tomorrow.
Lana, you’re such a wholesome person and when I watch you, I see this calm and deep understanding in your eyes. I’d really like to see you transfer all this wisdom to a son or a daughter ❤ Also, follow life the way it is taking you, do not compare. Someone may have had kids at your age or even before, it doesn’t mean it’s time for you to go and get one. Life is just leading you on a different course, the best route for you.
You are only 29 Lana. The older you get the more you realize you do not have anything figured out. 🙂 You are an exceedingly intelligent (most important), and exceptionally introspective and beautiful person inside and outside. I know you will meet the right person for you someday. He's out there. You can have everything you want in life and it will happen for you.
The last edvice is the one I need to hear lately. I met someone new through a gathering, I don't know where this will lead, but i think it worth putting the effort, time and energy to explore. As anyhow, it is a very nice experience to have and there is only this one unique person on earth, how beautiful! Thank you Lana for another good video!
I believe we're the sum accumulation of our past, present and the influences of our environment and what we learn from others. How we feel about a topic is to what differentiates us from one another. We were taught that you should have a family ideally at the age of 25 and above for example. I do not feel like having a family at that age nor gravitate towards the concept. You might feel differently. This is just my food for thought on why you don't feel the rush or urgency to be with someone and start having babies. Your points are always great. Listening to you has always been a therapeutic and learning experience. I hope you get what you want in life and be happy with whatever choices you make. Sincerely.
I still struggle with whether or not I want children, even though I have found the person that I would want them with. I really love my peace and solitude, and the freedom to pick up and travel whenever I want. I often think, however, that I would regret it more if I don’t have them, and I also want the chance to relive being a kid with them again 😅 There will be upsides and downsides to both choices, and there are days that I have doubts, but most of the time I believe having children will be more fulfilling long term ☺️ All that being said, it’s normal to not have it figured out yet 🥰
my goal for the new year is to stop taking things so seriously, stop feeling like one mistake or bad decision is the end of the world. i want to start believing that even if one path gets blocked off, there are a million other paths i could take at any given point. maybe the point of life is to just get back up and try something else. i want to believe there is no such thing as failure
In my 20s and 30s I also had a goal of 25 good literature books a year- that was aside from what I called vacation reading. It did so much for me. I think I read so much that I just insisted most of it be education. About kids- I never planned to have them and then when I was 39 one accidentally came and then another. They are now the best and most meaningful part of my life. I also didn’t have someone I wanted as a partner. I’m divorcing their dad now. I don’t know what to say otherwise. Good luck.
Your channel inspired mine I now study cinema you said once in a video that you wanted to make movies you should try becoming a filmmaker for narrative work! TIs very fun!
The phrase "gifts are meant to be given" came into my awareness a few months ago. So my goal for 2025 is to spend less time grinding away at $dayjob (the essentially meaningless thing) and more time sharing my gifts with the world. It's literally what I was born for.
I’m in the similar stage of life. Has been really difficult to decide if I really want certain things or is it because others are also wanting it and also navigating through the feelings of seeing others having it and wondering about the what ifs. I’m okay with being forgotten by people once I die, but I would really be unhappy to not completely live life in it’s entirety and how I want it to be, but life is not easy to do either. I think I’m understanding what I want through the feelings of envy, which is so unpleasant at this age and I don’t want to feel it and I’ve not felt it even as a child very often, but it’s showing me what I want in some ways.
I live a very intentional time based life but I've made time to make chocolate treats because it makes my tummy and sense of smell happy. Also sharing said treats with other makes me happy ❤
I reckon if I was 15 years younger we would have got on great. You seem emotionally intelligent and I doubt you are as prim and proper in real life as you come across on your videos. (in a good way) Don't worry about the future it will happen no matter what....just enjoy the journey, you are going to be just fine. Merry Christmas.
Lana, you are incredibly intelligent and absolutely stunning, and that combination can make finding a partner challenging. Your sharp mind allows you to see through people easily, making it hard for anyone to fool you, while your beauty often leads others to assume that someone as exceptional as you couldn’t possibly be single. In my 20s, I didn’t spend much time reflecting on what I truly wanted in life. Like many others, I simply assumed things would follow a conventional path. I’d graduate, start a career, get married, and eventually have a family. But now, in my 30s, I’ve come to realize that I don’t want to have children. Don’t get me wrong. I love kids, and they usually adore me too. But for me, the thought of the immense responsibility and deep attachment that comes with parenthood feels overwhelming. I’m already so deeply attached to my parents that their well-being is a constant source of stress for me. The idea of one day losing them is unbearable, and I can’t imagine adding that level of worry and emotional vulnerability to my life by having children. So, after much thought, I’ve decided that parenthood isn’t the right path for me. I always thought it’s just me, as most people don’t dwell on these things as deeply, they just go with the flow. It’s just my overthinking mind couldn’t help but take me here. So it’s good to know that at 29 you deeply think about these things too…❤❤❤
Lana, I was in the same thought process at your age, I’m 46 now, still looking for the right woman that comes from a good background to raise a family.
I am reading books that you suggest; I finished Attached, and right now I'm on Quiet. I am looking forward to reading more books that you mentioned in the video or in the description. Like your videos always give me new perspectives on life and day-to-day situations.
She also have readed it crime and punishment by dovi,yeah you're right by reading the books she recommended us,you should give a try on this also.buddy
Kids? In this world, under these terms and conditions?? I've many regrets but the older I get the biggest relief and proudest thing I've never done is have kids. To subject them to a world that is so riddled with corruption, from the smallest scale to the sheer insane psychopathy at the upper realms of power, I would never want a soul to know the depths of depravity, insidiousness and sheer and utter confusion that would await them here. Don't subject anyone to this place. Yes, I get it, rivers, trees, autumn sunsets and evening coffee with friends, I'm not a lunatic who's just bitter, I've just looked at the world with a sober eye and see how so many get burned over and over and over. Don't bring someone here who never asked.
@@robinredondo9427 I almost had a kid too in my early 20's, more just out of not being careful. It was then that I realised the consequences of having a child. Honestly, I dont have the answers were they to ever ask the big questions that involve pain, sadness and confusion. To bring them into a reality that simply doesnt make any sense is despicable. Ppl deserve better, ppl deserve a good life without having to toil, adhere to a boss or a company, ppl deserve to have far more than we do. Most ppl, relative to those who are lucky, have fucking nothing to sing about. We, as ppl, as souls walking the earth, deserve better.
I agree with this so much. The idea of burdening a child with existence in a sociopolitical landscape that promises to only get worse and worse is so grim to me. I’ve watched the hopes and dreams and love of life in my younger siblings get stumped by the current circumstances and I’m not willing to see my kids go through that as well.
I hope i will never have the feeling of having things figured out. That would mean there isn't anything left to learn. What a mind numbingly boring life that would be. The feelings of either having things figured out or being dumbfounded by how little you know don't have to be mutually exclusive. As the saying goes: “As our circle of knowledge expands, so does the circumference of darkness surrounding it.”
I have been following your channel for almost year,i occasionally watch your videos ,but i still remember the light in your eyes,now you seem tired upset …. But I really hope you will be ok and happy❤❤❤
I can relate to feeling pressure in the late 20s. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and reflections. You are embracing life well and I love your videos.
hi lana. you are a beautiful lovely young woman and deserve happiness.You have a lovely voice also. I hope you, your family and friends have a lovely Christmas. Ian
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I always get a feeling of warmth and comfort when I see an upload from you. Your energy is ethereal Lana
how kind of you. thank you :)
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These comments are so sweet. It's amazing to see people uplifting each other.
I’m 51 and I’m still figuring things out. At age 29 I still wasn’t sure what I wanted. I got married to a man at age 31 and was miserable. I didn’t feel my life was going in the right direction until I was 40. I became a mom in my 40’s, bought a house, my ex husband I was separated from passed away, and reconnected with my soulmate in my 40s as well. We never know when things will turn positive for us and be on the right path.
I am 29 also and when it comes to the topic of kids, I think it's very unnatural for us women to feel like we're ready for kids without the right partner (or even a partner in general). I was just like you very unsure about this, all until I met my current partner. That’s when things started to make sense. I realized why I hadn’t felt ready before, even though I’ve been in long-term relationships. Now I deeply want kids and feel ready all because I know I have his support and care, and because it would mean starting a family together. And I’ve realized that it’s hard to want kids without that kind of stability and trust, as it’s such a complex experience, we want to feel reassured that someone will be there for us fully if it ever feels overwhelming.
You are still very young, Lana, and you have time. My wife was 39 when we had our 1st and only child. My advice is to keep being your awesome self and continue to love what life has in front of you. My guess is that your future will be amazing! Best of luck!
While your intention may be good, telling woman around 30 that she is very young leads exactly to where we are now.
Lana, you are smart. You are right about illusion of endless opportunities. Being single woman is hard. World is not fair, yet we are still lucky. Think about living in the war region, or in the society where woman rights are suppressed.
I think you are asking question that goes beyound psychology. You mentioned you are peeking into the christianity. I want encourage you and everyone to learn about story of redemption. One may not accept love of every person, but the love of god is overwheling.
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That’s great for you, but some people have a hard time conceiving or like me have a miscarriage. Luckily I still have time to think about trying again and take my time recovering emotionally. If you’re 39 and have any of these issues that might not just be a baby you’re grieving but all hopes of having any biological kids.
Maybe she wants more than one child. The older you are the harder it is... Your comment is not helpful at all.
@@kellyanne744 I find it a bit strange that you take offense to a a sweet and reassuring comment that was meant to help. You can't rush finding a partner and having kids even if there is a biologial clock ticking. That's a one way ticket to ending up with the wrong person and being miserable.
Your videos feel like a warm hug on a gloomy day, Lana ! Thank you 🩷
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I recently went through a difficult breakup. My five year relationship ended few month ago, and it's been incredibly hard. I still have so much love for my ex boyfriend, and I can't seem to get him out of my mind. Despite my best efforts to win him back, nothing has worked, and the thought of being with anyone else feels impossible right now. I know it might sound odd to share this here, but I miss him deeply and can't stop thinking about him
I completely understand the pain of letting go of someone you love. I went through a similar experience when my 10 year relationship ended. I couldn't imagine my life without him, so I tried everything to rekindle our love. I eventually found guidance from a spiritual counselor, and their support helped me bring him back into my life if you're open to it, seeking help from a spiritual counselor might make a difference.
How did you find your spiritual counselor, and how can I get in touch with them?
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I just checked Father Obah Eze online, and he's really genuine. Thank you again ❤
am 32 and i think having it figured out is knowing that it will never be figured out
😂😂 I'm 35 without making a single date ..... it sucks but it's normal
, but for girls there's something called biological ⌚ watch don't forget that,
Would like to be,
That last bit really hit me. I had a breaking up with a friend around two years ago because of a mutual friend. I've come recently to regret my past decision, since we really had bonded over a couple months of time back then and had quite a bit in common. I'm moved to reconnect with this friend, and thus, I've been in this fight with my ego for the past couple of weeks. Apologizing and admitting my faults is hard, but I think not knowing and living with regrets is harder
Agreed ❤️🩹
Your voice is so calming! It’s the perfect unintentional ASMR
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Lana, there's such a thing as pathological introspection where you try to tie every aspect of your being to some event, childhood, etc. Sometimes, it just is what it is. You have a dog. Do you ever question why every little thing your dog does is due to some event? Obviously no because that's crazy. Sometimes humans are that way too, and you know what? Sometimes it is due to something. However, does that matter? I think you'd be much happier refocusing yourself in being who you want to be. Also, don't overthink kids. You don't have to decide today, even though I personally think you'd be a great parent
Lovely message Lana, please remember that you are not old and that each new day could be a specific turning point that you are waiting for. 😊
Your voice calms me down so much thank you
Lana, you are a special soul. Your wisdom and abilities to self-examine are well beyond your years. You manner of speaking with us in your uploads is very soothing and gently loving… that is quite unique and beautiful 🙏🏻❤️ As to “figuring it all out” you’re going to go through phases of that due to wisdom acquired through experience. I will tell you that I sincerely hope that you find that special man to spend your life with, and that you do have children… you will make a wonderful mother and any children you have will be blessed for having you as a mother. God bless you sweet girl 🙏🏻… much love from Texas ❤️😘
I've heard a lot of elder people usually say that is better to be single than rush into marriage with the wrong person. Living life in regret. Yikes! Which is harder to endure? Being alone? Or being lonely and full of regret?
Lana,
Hi. I wanted to share my thoughts. I'm a 33 y/o man. Loner. Visionary. Introspective. INFJ as well. I feel very similarly. As another year closes and we're just days before entering into a new year, I can't help but feel like I stagnate, missed out on certain milestones, and continue to feel as if I fall behind. I sometimes feel as if I'm not really living. I'm just existing.
I'm a late bloomer. I see nothing wrong with this as we all progress at different paces and everyone leads different paths. But with each passing year, I sometimes can't help but get a little more worried that certain doors are slowly closing as I continue burning time focusing on self-development. Another year passes. I'm another year older. Time passes. And me not being where I wanted to be with things not turning out like I hoped/imagined, and not having things "figured out." I also happen to struggle with comorbid chronic anxiety (social & generalized) and AVPD. I ask myself why I am the way I am.
But strangely, at the same time, I also feel this sense of inner peace. I may never have things totally "figured out." And I'm alright with that. The _Serenity Prayer_ is also something that I like to live by too. I'm also a firm believer in most things (if not everything) happening for a reason. We may receive the answers to certain things. Some things, we may never ever know. Some of them could be signs. While often times, not explicitly expressed or directed at you. They tug at us. They could manifest themselves through _coincidences._ *Godwinks.* Thank you for always sharing your calming insights and wisdom.
_"What we are looking for is what is looking"_
*All the best to you*
5:06 - it's called "rejection therapy". It's simply getting out of your comfort zone while learning to trust yourself more. I want to practice it too!
I feel like I relate to you a lot, Lana. It's nice to know that there are people in this world that feel similar to how I do. I'm 25 years old, and I feel like I'm so sensitive to life and the actions/behavior of people, while also feeling like I'm unfeeling to certain situations/interactions. Often I'll just go with whatever my family/friends want to do, but I'm working on exploring my own interests/goals. Thank you for the video, Lana.
Love Your Videos always feels like a hug
Lana's a poetry which was written by the god
When the days went down, her video got me up
When the voice calms me down more than anything
The choas that run away after watching her on my phone's screen
The presence of hers, which makes me thank god for it
To the moon and back
I'll be here supporting her for always
-nandiniyadav
Your conversations are so insightful. Truly a joy. You’re a gifted communicator and life analyst. People of all ages can gain value from your pondering 🌸
I knew you for 4 years and nothing changed about my love for you wish you all the best l hope when day l move out live in a peaceful house and help ppl like you do ❤❤❤❤❤❤
Best wishes for 2025 and I hope your hearing recovers as soon as possible. ❤
For anyone who may read this, I want to encourage you with this: I see many people here saying that they haven't figured it out yet and they're not sure they ever will. I can relate. I have been there. It may sound strange to some, but I have found that through the reading of scripture, learning about Jesus, and prayer, so many things have come into focus. If you know, you know. I encourage anyone to try it.
I'm in my 50s and for most of my life I didn't know what I want my life to be like. Only after starting over and having to really focus on my new life, have I got to better understand how I want my life to be like. You have time on your hands and I say live life to the full! Whatever that means for you ❤
Thank you Lana, there was so much to learn from this video.
Thank you Lana. wish u all the love in the world💗
Thank you, Lana. I really needed to hear this. Your message at the end... thank you. Thank you ❤🥹
I needed it too.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts Lana 💛 this is like balm for my soul
I like the “it’s always a once in a lifetime opportunity” way of phrasing to cherish each moment as super lovely and honorable even if it’s mundane. Life sort of becomes a self fulfilling prophecy if you give meaning to it - it develops into full of meaning and purpose. I def liked this point and also the idea to getting to know oneself.💜
Thank you Lana for the words. You are a great inspiration to ask questions about my own life. Life isn't such a straight line. It's feels more like a Labyrinth. The next way could be right or a unsusptected discovery. I wish you a happy new year.
Beautiful message and very deep Lana!❤
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Happy new year Lana.
I l’ve been watching your channel for more than 4 years! You’re a great content creator. Thank you 🤍
Thanks for sharing this @LanaBlakely definitely helps put perspective through the year.
Let's not forget to value those people who support us through our "journey" and be gentle with who we are becoming today and tomorrow.
Merry Christmas Lana!🎄♥️🌸🎁
I wish you health, love, and send you hugs. We love all your content.
Keep being the best 🎄🎁♥️🌸
Lana, you’re such a wholesome person and when I watch you, I see this calm and deep understanding in your eyes. I’d really like to see you transfer all this wisdom to a son or a daughter ❤ Also, follow life the way it is taking you, do not compare. Someone may have had kids at your age or even before, it doesn’t mean it’s time for you to go and get one. Life is just leading you on a different course, the best route for you.
Your videos are filled with so much grace and solace. Just amazing :)
You are only 29 Lana. The older you get the more you realize you do not have anything figured out. 🙂 You are an exceedingly intelligent (most important), and exceptionally introspective and beautiful person inside and outside. I know you will meet the right person for you someday. He's out there. You can have everything you want in life and it will happen for you.
I always find your videos and reflections so comforting
The last edvice is the one I need to hear lately. I met someone new through a gathering, I don't know where this will lead, but i think it worth putting the effort, time and energy to explore. As anyhow, it is a very nice experience to have and there is only this one unique person on earth, how beautiful!
Thank you Lana for another good video!
I believe we're the sum accumulation of our past, present and the influences of our environment and what we learn from others. How we feel about a topic is to what differentiates us from one another. We were taught that you should have a family ideally at the age of 25 and above for example. I do not feel like having a family at that age nor gravitate towards the concept. You might feel differently. This is just my food for thought on why you don't feel the rush or urgency to be with someone and start having babies.
Your points are always great. Listening to you has always been a therapeutic and learning experience. I hope you get what you want in life and be happy with whatever choices you make. Sincerely.
Thanks for the video, Lana! It's always refreshing to hear your thoughts.
Thank you for reminding me to slow down and enjoy progress of some activity in my life. I appreciate you, Lana.
Always waiting for your videos because they bring me comfort and realizations. Good night from my country❤
You are too amazing for this world❤
Thanks so much, Lana🌻. Take care!
You are very pretty teacher,thank you for your teachings May God bless you.
Thank you Lana it was really interesting and warm your voice is calming ❤🎉
I still struggle with whether or not I want children, even though I have found the person that I would want them with. I really love my peace and solitude, and the freedom to pick up and travel whenever I want. I often think, however, that I would regret it more if I don’t have them, and I also want the chance to relive being a kid with them again 😅 There will be upsides and downsides to both choices, and there are days that I have doubts, but most of the time I believe having children will be more fulfilling long term ☺️ All that being said, it’s normal to not have it figured out yet 🥰
my goal for the new year is to stop taking things so seriously, stop feeling like one mistake or bad decision is the end of the world. i want to start believing that even if one path gets blocked off, there are a million other paths i could take at any given point. maybe the point of life is to just get back up and try something else. i want to believe there is no such thing as failure
Thanku Lana for existing on this planet...love from India ❤
Immediately put that book you recommended (The Body Keeps the Score) into my cart
I am new to your channel and I have to say I love you so much that I've just subscribed to your channel ❤️ 😊
Your voice is so calm ❤ God made you perfect in every term....very beautiful ✨
In my 20s and 30s I also had a goal of 25 good literature books a year- that was aside from what I called vacation reading. It did so much for me. I think I read so much that I just insisted most of it be education. About kids- I never planned to have them and then when I was 39 one accidentally came and then another. They are now the best and most meaningful part of my life. I also didn’t have someone I wanted as a partner. I’m divorcing their dad now. I don’t know what to say otherwise. Good luck.
Your channel inspired mine I now study cinema you said once in a video that you wanted to make movies you should try becoming a filmmaker for narrative work! TIs very fun!
Her work truly is like a little movie
I'm like a statue
Stuck staring right at you
Got me frozen in my tracks
The phrase "gifts are meant to be given" came into my awareness a few months ago. So my goal for 2025 is to spend less time grinding away at $dayjob (the essentially meaningless thing) and more time sharing my gifts with the world. It's literally what I was born for.
I’m in the similar stage of life. Has been really difficult to decide if I really want certain things or is it because others are also wanting it and also navigating through the feelings of seeing others having it and wondering about the what ifs. I’m okay with being forgotten by people once I die, but I would really be unhappy to not completely live life in it’s entirety and how I want it to be, but life is not easy to do either. I think I’m understanding what I want through the feelings of envy, which is so unpleasant at this age and I don’t want to feel it and I’ve not felt it even as a child very often, but it’s showing me what I want in some ways.
Lana, thank you for sharing these insights!❤️
I live a very intentional time based life but I've made time to make chocolate treats because it makes my tummy and sense of smell happy. Also sharing said treats with other makes me happy ❤
I reckon if I was 15 years younger we would have got on great. You seem emotionally intelligent and I doubt you are as prim and proper in real life as you come across on your videos. (in a good way) Don't worry about the future it will happen no matter what....just enjoy the journey, you are going to be just fine. Merry Christmas.
Your voice Lana. Your voice...
Lana, you are incredibly intelligent and absolutely stunning, and that combination can make finding a partner challenging. Your sharp mind allows you to see through people easily, making it hard for anyone to fool you, while your beauty often leads others to assume that someone as exceptional as you couldn’t possibly be single.
In my 20s, I didn’t spend much time reflecting on what I truly wanted in life. Like many others, I simply assumed things would follow a conventional path. I’d graduate, start a career, get married, and eventually have a family. But now, in my 30s, I’ve come to realize that I don’t want to have children. Don’t get me wrong. I love kids, and they usually adore me too. But for me, the thought of the immense responsibility and deep attachment that comes with parenthood feels overwhelming.
I’m already so deeply attached to my parents that their well-being is a constant source of stress for me. The idea of one day losing them is unbearable, and I can’t imagine adding that level of worry and emotional vulnerability to my life by having children. So, after much thought, I’ve decided that parenthood isn’t the right path for me.
I always thought it’s just me, as most people don’t dwell on these things as deeply, they just go with the flow. It’s just my overthinking mind couldn’t help but take me here. So it’s good to know that at 29 you deeply think about these things too…❤❤❤
You have a great goals for such a young girl wish you all the best and lots of luck in everything you're dreaming off
Lana, I was in the same thought process at your age, I’m 46 now, still looking for the right woman that comes from a good background to raise a family.
Loved this 🤍🩷🤍
I truly believe that you deeply care about us.
I am reading books that you suggest; I finished Attached, and right now I'm on Quiet. I am looking forward to reading more books that you mentioned in the video or in the description. Like your videos always give me new perspectives on life and day-to-day situations.
She also have readed it crime and punishment by dovi,yeah you're right by reading the books she recommended us,you should give a try on this also.buddy
@@movie_box00thanks for suggestions I will give it try.
You are too good.Best wishes.
Kids? In this world, under these terms and conditions?? I've many regrets but the older I get the biggest relief and proudest thing I've never done is have kids. To subject them to a world that is so riddled with corruption, from the smallest scale to the sheer insane psychopathy at the upper realms of power, I would never want a soul to know the depths of depravity, insidiousness and sheer and utter confusion that would await them here.
Don't subject anyone to this place. Yes, I get it, rivers, trees, autumn sunsets and evening coffee with friends, I'm not a lunatic who's just bitter, I've just looked at the world with a sober eye and see how so many get burned over and over and over.
Don't bring someone here who never asked.
I agree. I think my having a child 29 years ago wasn’t a great move. I love him dearly but I feel it was very selfish on my part.
@@robinredondo9427 I almost had a kid too in my early 20's, more just out of not being careful. It was then that I realised the consequences of having a child. Honestly, I dont have the answers were they to ever ask the big questions that involve pain, sadness and confusion. To bring them into a reality that simply doesnt make any sense is despicable. Ppl deserve better, ppl deserve a good life without having to toil, adhere to a boss or a company, ppl deserve to have far more than we do. Most ppl, relative to those who are lucky, have fucking nothing to sing about. We, as ppl, as souls walking the earth, deserve better.
@@michaelshannon9169 you said it very well….
I agree with this so much. The idea of burdening a child with existence in a sociopolitical landscape that promises to only get worse and worse is so grim to me.
I’ve watched the hopes and dreams and love of life in my younger siblings get stumped by the current circumstances and I’m not willing to see my kids go through that as well.
Can you please tell how to stay grounded? I would appreciate it a lot. Happy New Year Lana ❤
You're so sweet lana ❤
Lana I enjoyed this and thank you.Jerome❤❤❤
I hope i will never have the feeling of having things figured out. That would mean there isn't anything left to learn. What a mind numbingly boring life that would be. The feelings of either having things figured out or being dumbfounded by how little you know don't have to be mutually exclusive. As the saying goes: “As our circle of knowledge expands, so does the circumference of darkness surrounding it.”
I have been following your channel for almost year,i occasionally watch your videos ,but i still remember the light in your eyes,now you seem tired upset …. But I really hope you will be ok and happy❤❤❤
I always listen your comments and suggestions
We both got similar birthdays well both be 30 soon
I’m 29 gonna be 30 next month. I wonder many of the same things you mention here. Don’t worry you are beautiful and successful.
❤ lovely video have a wonderful festive Christmas holiday 🎄⭐
When it comes to relationships, we live in the worst time ever in the history of humanity
I’m 25 and I’ve got my first child recently
Is ok you feel like that, be patient we will eventually meet.
I can relate to feeling pressure in the late 20s. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and reflections. You are embracing life well and I love your videos.
Greetings beckoning you from London Great Britain 🇬🇧🇬🇧🇬🇧🇬🇧
hello mate !!
When one comes to the place in life where they’ve figured out what’s actually important in life and what is not…one will have figured it all out.
Thanks for share
hi lana. you are a beautiful lovely young woman and deserve happiness.You have a lovely voice also. I hope you, your family and friends have a lovely Christmas. Ian
congratulations
Better to be alone and unsure than to be with someone and sure that you're love bombed.
Lana How are you doing today I hope you are doing good today🥹♥️ and How's your health and How's Everything
Lana, we are in the same page thank you for the inspiration 🙏 love from NE india❤
We can talk about, how to heel the space around us. Its not simple, but sometimes things in life do it for us
Lana Croft! 😘😘😘
Lana, kid is a very big responsibility and it take 2 people to do it. Sometime it's a live time responsibility.
Hi Lana, I like your contents. Was wondering if you will keep on updating your Patreon in the near future? 😊 Thanks!
You should try asmr, you have a very calming voice.
My big sister posted ❤