Men cheat! That’s why women need to find their own money. I’ve seen my own mother unable to leave a relationship because of having zero income from being a stay at home mother. You refuse to talk about this basic fact! Talk about the cheating of men
I was subbing a class one day, 3rd grade I had a boy that was over the top emotional. He cried about everything. Sweet boy just so emotional. I mentioned to the class that I had 4 boys so lived with all men. He told the class he wished he could be in my family because he had 4 sisters and 2 moms. It all made sense.
He will be told all his life he is bad for being male, having any semblance of masculinity squashed and shamed out of him. When he is hyper emotional, confused and frustrated, he will be told it is because of his toxic masculinity and to top it off, the sweet effeminate man he becomes, being told that is what women want, he will be repeatedly taken advantage of by women and passed over again and again.
Suzanne, you are one of the few people on social media that is honest about this. There are too many children being raised by single mothers. Worse, now it has become normalized. I am a married man who has been married to the same woman for 35 years. All of our children are now adults. We live in NYC. There is a huge population of single women here. Over the last 30 years I have been approached by single women who tried to seduce me so they could get pregnant. One of them ,was a woman I worked with, who claimed to be a lesbian. This normalization of single parenthood not only is bad for children, but it weakens the institution of marriage overall. This is a catastrophe that nobody is talking about.
Appreciate your channel and videos. As a widowed, single dad of two boys, I can tell you that finding a more traditional wife for the home is just as hard. Keep making great content. 👍
I'm a woman who grew up with a terrible father, which, among other negative experiences, made me a man-hating feminist. Fortunately a few years ago I left the cult of woke and realised that the world is many more shades of grey than I'd known. Now I'm happily engaged to a wonderful strong man and hoping to be a homeschooling traditional wife and mother in the next few years. I see on social media a swing back in this direction among young women. I believe things are changing. Best wishes to your sons 🙏
Most starts in the Black community. Fallout from national economic issues, unemployment/ underemployment, housing inaffordability, self medication in the terms of drug use, kids dealing with school bullies, on and on and on. People vilify this community for all that they’re experiencing because they’re not experiencing it. Then it happens to them Now it’s a brand new “problem.” Let’s make marijuana use legal! No prison time. Sell it in stores. Lighter sentencing for cocaïne than crack is a must. Let’s have tax breaks for single mothers and work benefits for struggling parents! Let’s show some COMPASSION!!
Good morning to you, Mrs. Venker. Thank you so much for believing in marriage, and thank you so very, very much for believing in men. You are not a whisper in the crowd. 🌹
My husband and I were just talking about how unfortunate it is that the overwhelming majority of children are being raised in households with a single parent. My cousins are ages 19, 16 and 10. They live with their single mom (my uncle’s ex wife) who has different men in and out of her house. She permitted the oldest to drop out of school, didn’t even push him to get his GED. The 16 yo used to be a great student but now his grades are getting unsatisfactory. The 10yo was held back a grade and has been suspended from school recently. Ughh I feel for them and pray for them.
This isn't your responsibility. You couldn't save your cousins parents marriage or make them see reason. They picked what they picked and sadly that is going to be at the expense of the kids.
Single healthy parent households are better than toxic 2 parent households. I would know because I grew up in a toxic 2 parent household and would have much preferred if my parents weren't together as they brought the worst out of all of us. We need to stop looking at things purely from a black or white stance. Life is complicated. I also commend women for stepping up and stepping out of toxic relationships and marriages for the sake of theirs and their kids sanity. Kids will more likely have less trauma and stress from this decision.
saddest fact of life is this -- none of us gets to choose our parents or family unit, if we're not lucky we may end up with losers as parents, many people simply are not fit to be parents or have kids at all -- the govt. doesn't help by giving incentives to single mothers to have kids so the problem is now much worse
This is exactly the flimsy excuse that allows the single mother problem to exist. Every woman thinks she used to be in an abusive relationship. Every one of them.
This was spot on. A lot of women also don’t even want a good man, they consider that boring. They are more attracted to the uncertainty of the bad boy riding the motorcycle, and we all know how that ends up long term.
women hang out at the finish line, then pick the winners, women go after men who arouse them, bad boys and losers are good at this, normal nice guys can't do this, so they get rejected
He’s that 30 something CPA. He's not fat, he's not skinny ,not very good looking, not funny, not charismatic, not interesting in the least . But he makes 150,000k a year, and he won't cheat on you ,and his folks own a lake home.
@@sitka49 Sounds like a good consistent man that a normal woman should value. A 30 year old woman who is at the end of fertility years, attractiveness is already on a decline.
In my early 30’s, after a failed long term relationship, that never led to marriage…I began considering having a child as a single mother. However, as I began a closer relationship with Christ, I realized that I had to think about what was best for a child and that was a 2 parent home with mother and father. So I chose to let go of motherhood. Marriage never happened for me, although I hoped for it. I remain single at 64, and have been saddened by the war on men, hate the poison of feminism that lied to women for decades. We must reclaim our femininity, appreciate men and their key role in the family, society and culture. Most importantly, bring children to the world in the traditional 2 parent family. I agree 100% with the comments in this video.
Feminism gave women the choice you have now to be 64 and not married and childfree. Before then a woman could do nothing without a daddy/husband’s permission. I’m glad to label myself a feminist.
It’s hilarious that we keep assuming that there’s only a lack of marriageable men in America. I’m sorry to tell you, but American women are not a catch either and men are going overseas to find wives for a reason. If American women were a catch, men would be flying here to marry them
You should look into the recent articles about European women that are making fun of American men who are coming there and think that the women are going to be a doormat and they can have no money and the women will cook for them and so on but, the European women laugh at American men and say their standards are even higher than American women’s standards but men don’t realize until they show up and then are very disappointed lol
@@mmonroe259 oh you read an article about some women in a continent? I guess that negates the fact that American women are undesirable and men prefer to take a 10 hr flight instead of dealing with them. Oh and who told you men are going to Europe? You know the world is more than just N. America and Europe right? What’s next, you’re gonna get an article from Canada and Australia? Besides, European men are going abroad too because their women are as bad as American women
No one’s job is stable these days BUT I work, have a home, six figures but I’m not edgy enough, not 6 feet, no tattoos. I cook daily for myself. Men can ask where’s the wifely women? They ain’t even at church
There was a girl that I was talking to about seven years ago (she was 18 I was 21) and she told me that she was considering just being a single mother. Apparently her dad wasn’t in her life and she just didn’t trust men. I wouldn’t think she feels this way but just hearing someone say that when they’re only 18 was such a shock to me
her mother failed her, she wasn't taught what marriage and family life are like, parents role model this, and when kids don't have this growing up, they won't know how to be parents when their time comes
Beautiful truth speaking Suzanne ❤ We finite beings cannot change this on our own. It's a catch 22 - We need good men in order to create good men. That's where God will shine, if each individual let's Him 🙏
Women are the biggest influences in the home. So we need better women to raise good men. Coddling children girls and boys is the issue. Enabling bad behavior of our children is the problem. Producing poor quality human beings is the problem. It’s not just men.
@@Lifelessons101-23 Men are just as huge an influence. I have seen so many women blamed for not handling their children well...when in fact their supposedly upstanding religious great husband emotionally abused them for years on end. No woman can function well under those circumstances and it is far more common than anyone realizes.
My sons are not married for several reasons. The women they have been interested in all came from divorced families and raised by single mothers. They all had serious "daddy" issues. The other reason is women today have had many sexual partners and abortions. These issues are not a good reason to base future success and happiness inmarriage. I do understand not being "judgmental" but this is more of a discernment and risk issue.
It’s truly heart-breaking…so many damaged young women out there have been brain-washed to believe they should take on the roles of porn star and career woman. Where does that leave room for a sweet young man?
late Keving Samuels said " women today are often a liability not an asset, and this is why men are choosing not to marry them" kids from single parent homes often have poor life outcomes, this has been studied for a long time - jails and prisons are full of young men who came from broken homes or single parent families
your sons are very smart, I'm 68, and when I was in college over 40 yrs. ago, I rarely saw students dating, this was at Ohio State university no less, it was hard even to find a girl to talk with, many people I knew from that time never married and died single, girls then were pushed to get careers etc. , if they ever married it came later maybe by 40
Hi Suzanne! I’m currently reading “How to get Hitched…” and Omg. You are changing my life. I think you are saying out loud what every woman is thinking. I was raised by a strong, independent, feministic mother- very loving I might add, but didn’t believe in monogamy with a splash of new age. I was a mess. For a long time. You are giving me hope, guidance and I couldn’t be any happier in my marriage. THANK YOU ❤ so happy I found you!
One of the biggest reasons we have our kids homeschool is that we get to "vet" the families that our children are around. Our children are around other families with two parent homes. Their relationships are positive, and when they have conflicts, as we all do, the moms and dads are able to participate and help the kids get through it. We emphasize family in this community, unlike what you would get in the public school realm where you more than likely don't meet your classmates families.
Yes! This!! My husband and I finally found a homeschool community in our area and a great church that the majority in this circle attend. I joined a MOPS group in my area and met a lot of the same friendly faces I met at playgrounds nearby. Now, we have scheduled playdates several times a week and run into these families every Sunday for church and Wednesdays for MOPS and AWANA. It is such a relief to find a community of like-minded people who ENJOY being with their children and others’ children as well. It is a collective mindset rather than a “me, my, mine” mindset.
Wow, this actually brought tears to my eyes. My husband left me and our daughter 2 years ago after he had multiple affairs. My daughter is an incredible little girl who is very resilient and sweet. She is a wonderful friend. But you wouldn’t let your kids be around her because her dad walked out on us? I am teaching my daughter to be kind to EVERYONE and know that everyone has different circumstances and sometimes tough situations happen. I should also add I have my daughter in a private Christian school. Do you think she shouldn’t be allowed in because of her dad’s poor decisions?
I hope you put each other first so the kids learn they're not the center of the universe while seeing how competent adults act. If kids are put forth, we end up with current society - narcissistic/leftist.
@@pinkva23 Bad decisions? Would it be reasonable to argue that it would be a bad decision for a woman not to vet a male properly and extensively before deciding to have children together?
Ironically, the Brady Bunch nailed it in the 70's. Watch the episode where the boys had a fort, and the girls wanted a fort. Where did they get the nails?, and what happened to the boys fort?. Now compare that to what Disney has done to Star Wars, for example. Basically the same thing.
No men who are “gainfully employed.” I tend to push back on that point. There are many good men, who make median to top 10% money, that are single, that I often interact with. I think that women have lost the ability (and guidance) to picking a solid man.
Women never had the ability to pick a solid man. They follow their emotions, and historically the extended family helped people pick their husbands and wives. As a young person you don't know what makes a good relationship.
Guidance is the point. Fathers had a role in this. Now she picks what she likes and it is always tatted up two time felon Tyrone Tyreesius Dickerdown Brown with the 12" personality.
@@ShannonsBibleStudye often not true at all! The courts are wildly in favor of full custody being granted to the mother (no matter how unfit), and many "good men" are pushed out of the home by that fact.. Horrible women verbally demonizing their childs father with no regard to those effects, and social media backing it up.. It's a wonder we even try at all! Lastly, I hear many complaints of husband's breaking the marriage contract by stepping out, but I would argue it's often a response to that contract already having been broken by the mother assuming some masculine roll and cutting off all intimacy. No man I know wants to be sharing parenting skills with another dude!
@@kayakandbikeexploringontar174 you are literally listening to a mommy podcast crying about the “Chads”. I’m glad women are not giving it up for you, thank god. Y’all weren’t in women’s podcasts crying even 5 years ago.
@@hwoodist all the research I’ve seen shows that’s not why the INCELs are not getting laid. 20% of men are not with 80% of the women. Also INCELs can’t seem to make up their mind if the Chads are “hot”, “bad”, or “rich”. I’ve seen INCELS complain about women getting with “bad” guys, “rich” guys and “hot” guys but those are 3 different groups of dudes. Also seen INCELs complain about “tall” guys which seems to be a personal hang up. My husband never had any issues getting dates in highschool or college. He took the prom queen to prom, was a national merit scholar, played tennis, track and swimming. He’s regular height (5’10”). He’s not bad looking but I wouldn’t say he’s super handsome, he looks like a regular dude. Wouldn’t call him a “Chad”, he’s a pretty well rounded, wholesome dude. He went to one of the best colleges and majored in finance. He always had (long term) girlfriends. He was certainly not a “bad boy” but he had no issues getting with women. When I worked I worked as a software engineer. Almost all of the men were married. Almost all the professional men and highly technical men I have came across over 30 are married. A lot of INCEL resentment seems being mad the hot cheerleader from highschool didn’t get with them. No one is entitled to anyone. There were probably “nerdy” and “bookish” girls but the INCELs weren’t checking them. It tends to be women with _severe_ _mental_ _illnesses_ and were raised really messed up who go after the “bad boys”. Don’t know why any man would cry over losing those women. They would be a real piece of work to actually be with. There’s more women in college than men and they are not chasing convicted felons. Maybe these men should work on their own social EQ, get therapy to get over hang ups, “glow up” and make themselves more attractive. Just having a good sense of humor and hygiene can go a long way.
Ooooo I feel called out! I’m a single mom. My husband left us 2 years ago after he had multiple affairs. I’ve been trying to find a partner but it’s difficult. We single moms aren’t all the same. I’m giving motherhood 110%, even when I feel like crying. Please don’t hold it against us. Some of us had zero input in whether our husbands stayed or left.
no man wants to pay to raise another man's children, if they do get involved, the single mother often breaks it off once the kids are raised -- men know this, whatever this man has invested is gone with no return
I mean this as gently as possible. You picked your husband so to an extent you did have an input on the character of the man you married. That doesn’t remove his responsibility but it also takes into consideration your role in the break up. I would even add that usually affairs are a symptom of a bigger problem in the marriage that takes both party to participate in. Very rarely do men just cheat out of boredom. Usually it’s because of marital problems. Not an excuse for their immorality, just what I’ve seen.
I’m sure you didn’t do anything to contribute to the end of the relationship. He was abusive, narcissistic, controlling, and a terrible father… while you were supportive, loving, caring, and a great mother. Did I miss anything? Edit: Oh crap, I just noticed something: she said HE left HER. She said he cheated on her multiple times and still stayed with the POS…HE had to leave HER. Now she’s crying the victim. OMG you can’t make this sh!t up
@@Kiki-fe2lemy ex withheld sex from me for 3 years and didn’t even sleep in the same bed as me. She was shocked when I started dating someone else and served her with divorce papers. I do admit to be the worst man in the world for that. Adolf is a Boy Scout next to a monster like me
@@Kiki-fe2le Sometimes men are only as faith as their options. I would say you're right that there are other issue in the marriage for someone to one cheat in most cases. ( be a 100 reasons but no good excuses, most affairs are never discovered) but not always there are people in good marriages that do cheat. where there is ongoing affairs where these couples will hook-up maybe a few times a yrs. Infidelity has happened in good marriages, bad marriages ,and even marriages were adultery is punishable by death, it has happened in open marriages where sex is carefully negotiated before hand , freedom to leave or divorce has not made cheating obsolete. People cheat on each other in a hundred different ways: indifference, emotional neglect, contempt, lack of respect, years of refusal of intimacy. Cheating doesn't begin to describe the ways that people let each other down.
Four things that should be done to make marriage thrive. 1. Putting Family first again. Raise your children with the ideology of two genders. Stop promoting single parenting. 2. Stop demonizing men. Stop making general statements about men. Men are not scum. It is that man that hurt you that is a scum. Stop generalizing men's bad attitudes. 3. Learn to talk about the difference between a man and a woman. Men and women are not the same. 4. Let's start raising boys to become men/fathers.
sadly govt. today has incentivized single parenting with welfare benefits, many women get more money by having more kids and not being married, this needs to stop
In fact, only one thing would solve it: remove the government from marriage and let it return to being a matter for the Church. Marriage makes no sense without a metaphysical dimension involved.
@@kramerpoker9666 Wrong. Marriage is a legal arrangement that has existed long before the dark ages of Christianity. Metaphysics are a superstitious side dish that many unfortunately consider central to its purpose.
A couple of thoughts about Suzanne video. It's been pointed out by some that men and women enter relationships without being prepared to sustain a relationship. Little wonder that relationships break down and then fail. Videos like this need a wider audience. Only the people looking to correct the situation are listening. Several You Tube channels have had their videos demonitized for talking about relationship problems they don't want to acknowledge.
Boys don't just become men like girls becomes a woman, it's different lived experiences. For a man to have the financial weight on his shoulders to provide for a family while the woman is pregnant is a lot, and he needs a strong male role model in his life early on teaching him, it's vital because it's hard out here in the world by yourself.
It used to be viable when one man with one income could provide for 4 people but nowadays with inflation and money laundering- it's actually financially ludicrous to have kids unless you have ludicrously amazing family/community backing and a ludicrous amount of resources i.e. land to grow food.
This is a very interesting perspective I worked during pregnancy; actually 2 jobs but I was able to get support by living with family regardless of gender; people have to work
As a single mom (not by choice, I divorced my abusive husband and then he passed away) I agree, single motherhood is not the way it should be. It’s hard on the kids and it’s hard on the moms, I want so much more for my children and myself. Very few men these days will take a chance on a single mom however no matter how well behaved the children are and how traditional the mom is. Thankfully my three oldest children have beaten the statistics. I homeschooled them and they all went to college early and are thriving successful, mentally healthy and happy young adults. Two girls and a boy, the boy just turned 18 and is so far ahead of his peers and he has a lovely traditional provider male mindset I love to see. My girls are smart and thriving and have beautiful healthy relationships. I have two younger girls (11&12) and their dream is to get married and have babies and stay at home. I always make sure to cheer this dream on and to point out the many positive behaviors of the men surrounding them. We never speak poorly of men in our family. Nor women. We also make sure we speak of the differences and how each gender has their own strengths and weaknesses and we are meant to balance each other out. I say all of this to say that I am one of the single mother success stories but I still wouldn’t choose this life. I would give up so many things to have had my children raised in a two parent household and have had a healthy engaged father.
You're right, few men will. Other single mothers ruined this for good women that ended up in your situation. But if I may offer some advice as a married man of twenty years. One of my best mates is a single mother, she is a sister to me. Her kids have had a great male role models because I hire men and her son and daughters have had a lot of contact with great men. Not all male figures need be romantic attachments to yourself. Find communities with decent men, there's millions of them. Just because the risk factors for relationships have driven off these men, does not mean they hate women or kids. Most are eager to be of service to others, what women do not understand is that men want to love other people, we need to love women and children, it is our strongest instinctual urge.
@@loganblackwood2922I am a widowed mother and I am glad to hear that other men want to help and be role models but where would you recommend to find them? I do have a caring boyfriend who serves as a positive role model to my son but I feel like my son needs many positive male role models not just one.
@@The-Oneness11That's a complicated question, since social norms can interfere with what would be deemed acceptable. Where I live, we have much more relaxed views between adults and children interacting but where I am from originally, anything not officially recognised with clear guidelines and so on, it would be considered taboo for adults to have any interactions with children. Though a lot of normal things still transfer over. Social clubs, charity events, church are all good starts, as long as boys are actively involved in some form of *doing* alongside other males. Men bond through action and boys become men through this bond with men. It would be helpful if your son had specific interests or desires to try things. A form of tutelage from a senior male figure can come from almost anywhere, martial arts, some form of kids scouts, anything involving sports is typically good. The best thing is when these things revolve around a club, which has both the activities and a social component. Clubs involved with computer tinkering, chess etc are also good if there are some physical restrictions for your child, or if they're simply disinterested in sports and the outdoors.
you did the best you could, but from my experience most single mothers were women who made poor choices in men, they were often were promiscuous when young, didn't use protection, or were careless -- there are govt. incentives today to reward single motherhood, one woman I met as a librarian had 4 kids out of wedlock, all were boys, all had different last names -- she said, "yes they're mine, they all have different fathers, and I'm not married to any of them" this was over ten years ago, hope those boys made it to adulthood intact
At least you both weren't trapped with an abusive man/dad. That would make you realize that your situation really isn't as bad as you're acting like it is.
I am 46 yrs old and have been working and had regular good job for years, marriage never really crossed my mind at all. I dont drinks, smikoes, do drugs, or have kids out of marriage whatsoever. Most of my friends are the same. As long as laws and benefits around marriage and kids wont benefits us same as women we dont care about your marriage and kids..
There is not a lack of marriageable men. Women want the power and freedom that were traditionally reserved to men… but resent the risks and responsibilities that went with them. Men had authority…but also had the responsibility for being heads of households and providing for wife and children. You were expected to SHARE those resources with those who did not have them. Too many women want to amass those resources for themselves, and grow resentful at the idea of sharing them with a man or her being the head of a household financially. If a woman does this, she eventually “prices herself out of the market”. The pool of men of her economic status (or higher) grows so small as she becomes more affluent…that she reaches a point where the available men she wants don’t want her. She’s been left without a chair now that the music has stopped…. This is why men have always “married down” socioeconomically. It expands the pool of available mates. Single mother hood is a effort to bypass this at the expense of the child’s well-being….
Agree, except I doubt that men "marry down" as a strategy. They simply don't care that much about a woman's socioeconomic status. If she's pretty, sweet, and fun to be around, most men are all in.
I grew up with 6 brothers and was raised by my single dad and when I tell you my view of men was extremely negative, you'll just have to take my word for it. in my early 20's I fell in love with my husband, the complete and total opposite of anything I thought men to be, and suddenly I started to notice all of the good men in my life. I noticed good men when I met them, worked with or for them, observed them with their wives and children, etc. My gripes with my father and brothers and abusive exes are with them, and it breaks my heart to think of women hurt so badly by the men closest to them that they would demonize my husband and my son in the same ways they might demonize my male abusers. They just aren't the same. We need to be teaching girls that "good men" are the norm, the same way we raise our sons to BE those "good men." This blurring of the sexes and their roles that we have been doing for decades is obviously not working.
Based 👍🏽 I grew up with a great dad, very loving, kind but was stern and did not play at the same time. I knew all men were not bad Man or a big disappointment and didn't carry myself to have that mentality and because of that I found my husband at the age of 17 out of town at school and he turned up to be a great dad and husband. Cultivating the abundancy mindset works for me so far, any way, thank you for this insightful podcast I really enjoyed it. I will spread the word and share this video. ❤
Really a great lesson in living. Focus on what is good and works for you, keep that in mind and look for that - which brings what you want into your life! We, ourselves, "create the conditions" for the very best things to come our way.
I always told my mom that I never thought I would have kids. Not because I didn’t think I would be an amazing mother- but I just didn’t have faith that I would find a man acceptable enough to conceive children with. I was ok with this, even tho I love children. I did not want to bring kids into the world unless I had a worthy father to give them. I figured maybe I’d be able to be a foster parent at some point. Anyways I ended up finding my Prince Charming and we got married.. now I am pregnant with our second child. I never allowed myself to dream or hope for the life I have now. I thank God every day. I wish there was a practical solid way to find a suitable partner. Me and my husband always think we just got lucky.
maybe you did, but what were your standards for a man to be acceptable? today too many women are unrealistic and entitled, they stay single because there is no one who can meet their list of requirements and they refuse to settle for less, the best way to meet quality partners is begin your search early, date with a purpose, never date anyone you wouldn't marry, and be realistic -- Lori Gottlieb wrote a great book on this called Marry Him, all young women should read it
@@michaelsix9684 I agree I think a lot of people are searching for probably the wrong things. I wanted some one of stable mind, responsible, shared the same values as me, had a stable job/career, and also we had to have chemistry. I didn’t expect like a supermodel or some guy who makes 6 figures.. just someone similar to me with a similar mindset.
Come on Suzanne, it's not about Women not finding Men that are financially able (there are plenty of us), but more about not finding Men that are BOTH financially able & sufficiently hot. I'll leave it at that...
It's really hard to find either or at this rate. I work with the public, and I see people's bodies on the daily. Most men, even the young ones are obese, with poor hygiene. Do you know how many men that I discover don't even wash their bodies with soap? Learned over the years that some men don't even wipe between their butts. At this point, most women would take an average looking man, over what I see at work on a daily basis. I keep hearing so many men say that our standards are too high? Really? So wanting somebody who is physically active, cares about what he puts in his mouth, and bathes regularly is too picky? I have a guy friend, who I had to reprimand because once we went out to a live music event, and he smelled like marijuana and armpits. He had holes in his shirt. I don't know why he would have ever thought that that was okay. Yes, we are not romantically involved; but that doesn't matter, have enough respect for the person that you are being seen in public with, to at least be clean.
@@PaisleyMarie80You work in a city, clearly. Or work with addicts. This problem of women's expectations is a problem in my home country too and I can assure you, men bathe.
@@Naturestheway Yup. You're observant. Who is going to value my body, energy, and future if I don't? Dating and partnership is all about discrimination, and how much you value yourself. This should be the case for both men and women. Your problem, is that you'll take what you can get. But you can't get it, so you're bitter. You named yourself "Wonderboy"? You see yourself as a boy? That says a lot.
@@loganblackwood2922 You are correct, I do live in a city, and it is part of the problem. I do not work with addicts. If I did, I would have had enough intellectual power to connect those dots. I would not be comparing the general population, to a population of addicts. That was a poor assumption on your part. I have no idea what your home country is, so I can't even have an opinion on that. But I will say, that where I live; the standards are very low. The men play video games, are obsessed with pornography, and can't really hold deeper intellectual conversations. They're still screaming at you from your car, when you're walking into the gym, or to your own car in a parking lot. They're still lifting their shirts up in the gym and flexing their abs or lack thereof. They're still peacocking, sagging their pants, smoking weed all day, and just generally acting like knuckle draggers. This is why I am laboring to leave the city.
I've been told so many times that I'm not needed I started to believe it. Like many others, I gave up and don't even try anymore. David's Bridal isn't happy about it 😂
Never married woman in her sixties here. I can't tell you how many times people have said to me upon learning that I don't have children because I am not married, well, you don't have to be married to have children. That is true. However, there is not one single mother that I envy. Not one. My life as a single woman is hard enough without adding a child into the mix. I grew up in a middle-class two-parent stay-at-home household and if there is one thing I remember hearing over and over, especially as I got older, it was "we can't afford that." And we were not poor! So whether it really was a matter of not being able to afford extra-curricular activities or simply those things weren't a priority, I have no way of knowing, but I do know what it felt like to have to live life on the sidelines--and that was one thing I swore I would NEVER do to any child of mine. To have to repeatedly say to him or her, no, you can't join this or that, because we don't have the money for uniforms or equipment or whatever. But that is exactly what I would be doing if I chose to be a single mother. My income would not be enough. On the other hand, I DO know single mothers who used the assistance they received to pull themselves out of poverty; so maybe theirs was the wiser choice even though it came on the backs of their children. Now there is one thing I have noticed missing from discussions like these, and that is the voices of women like myself who have never married. When single women say there are no longer any marriageable men from which to choose, THEY KNOW WHAT THEY ARE TALKING ABOUT! We are the ones out on the front lines. Janis Ian had a line in her classic '70's hit, "At Seventeen" about the girls "who married young and then retired." If you are reading this and you are married, you are "retired." You are coming from this issue from a perspective of privilege, much as I hate to use the term. Right now as I am typing this I see listed in my RUclips feed a video from Chris Williamson titled "50% of Men Have Given Up on Women Entirely." Fifty percent! If you think that you can just walk up to these men and tell them they need to change their minds, you are living in la-la land. They aren't. This is reality. This is what we have to deal with. This is the result of cumulative choices made by individuals. It's too late for me to have kids now, but--really, if I were younger and I was a woman who really really wanted to have kids of my own, holding out for marriage is not going to be the way to achieve that goal. A lot of people blame feminism for this. I am glad that my parents, especially my mother, who was no feminist, raised me to be self-sufficient. They made it very clear that choosing not to go to college and getting a degree was not an option. As I said, my mother was no feminist. But she had enough experience with marriage, both her parents' and hers, to realize that without the option of being able to support oneself a woman could find herself trapped in a very bad situation. Maybe you think this is a bad thing. I don't know. But I was expected as an adult to go out and work and not rely on a man's support. Maybe that made me unmarriageable. I do know, given how things turned out, that this has made me a stronger person. As I enter the last act of my life, I see women who relied on their husbands for everything fall apart when they become widowed or divorced. I've seen some pretty sad situations where these women are condemned to a life of poverty, trapped in homes they can no longer afford to maintain, but unable to move on because living anywhere else would cost even more. So I don't envy married women any more either.
First, there may be many women out there who feel similarly to the way you felt by not being able to give children the life you think they deserved. From the other side, the men see women wanting someone who makes at least 6 figures before she would consider a relationship. Apparently, this is the cost of becoming retired to a man as good woman. The not-so-good women want a wealthy man solely for The Lifestyle. Either way, the vast majority of men cannot and may not ever be able to provide for a woman's requested retirement. Therefore, the men who can't meet that one basic standard are invisible to women. Multiply that by the other 300 items on a woman's preference list, and you see why 50% of men have given up. When the chances of getting a date because of failing any one of those 300 items is practically zero for the men, there's no point in even trying anymore. It's going to be the rare man who turns down an offer of a date from a genuine request. I'm sure some celebrity actor gets offers continuously, except they are not genuine offers for a possible RELATIONSHIP. They are offers for a "hall pass". Those men who have given up definitely would do a 180 for a real opportunity with a genuinely good woman. We just have a culture of women not being the pursuers or willing to ask a man they want to date. If a man she does not want to date asks her instead, the outcome many times becomes a viral warning plastered on the internet. The death spiral of cumulative choices can be changed provided the reasons the spiral exists can be flipped over to a positive and productive spiral. I know a woman whose last husband died when she was in her mid 80's. She couldn't even pump her own gas for her car. I understand the need for women to have at least the backup plan of being self-sufficient enough to survive should a black swan event occur. However, modern women are not looking for self-sufficiency; they are looking for (I'm going to call it) "corporate retirement" + a man above them financially to marry. There aren't enough of those men on the planet to go around for what women request these days. Women in the end either get marital retirement with a husband and children, or they get corporate retirement with a fancy job and a personal petting zoo. Rarely do they get both at the same time. And, if a woman begins to out earn her husband, there is a nearly 90% chance she files for divorce to focus on the corporate retirement package. Which ever retirement package a person chooses is fine by me, and many men know the statistics of those choices thanks to the internet. To end, the old lady who couldn't pump her gas found some friends at her church who helped her out for a number of years. A few months ago, she moved in with her daughter in Texas at the age of 92. She just got her Texas drivers license and is still driving too.
@@pace1195 I don't know about any other women but speaking strictly for myself, personally, at the very least a man should be able to support himself. Doesn't have to be six figures. In fact, I do not want a man who makes that much money! Why? Because that puts me at a very big disadvantage as I have never in my life made a six-figure income. I never in my working life even got up to half of that! His making that much more money gives him a power advantage. If things go sour, he can afford the better attorney. Let's say I do get the house, what good is it if down the road I can't afford the upkeep but I can't go anywhere else because I can't afford to go anywhere else? And yes, I DO know divorced women in that situation! They may SEEM to have gotten the better deal and maybe even for a while they actually have--but there's a lot of "invisible" poverty out there in places you wouldn't even suspect. I believe the Victorian term was "genteel poverty". We just don't see it unless we volunteer at food pantries and other such services. We don't see the families who are one step away from homelessness, who can't pay their utility bills--because they look like us. I know what the myth is, and I also know what the reality is. On the other hand, I am also not interested in a man who is not making enough money to support himself at a decent level. I am not interested in someone who is just getting by. I know what that life looks like for ONE person. I do not even want to imagine it for TWO people, if one is already struggling and the other is unable to contribute to the household income at a meaningful level. I'm not talking about short periods of bad luck, like unemployment. I'm talking about a chronic inability to support oneself so that one must rely on others. Now I don't know where you live, but in my neck of the woods, it doesn't take a six-figure income to be able to put a roof over your head and food in your belly and have transportation. So yes, that is what I am looking at. Do you have a decent roof over your head (apartment, mobile home, single-family house)? Do you have reliable transportation? Can you shop at the grocery store or do you have to rely on the food pantry? What is the state of your health? Do you have any habits like gambling, alcohol, drugs or tobacco, that could be a liability for both of us? That, more than any six-figure income, is what I take into consideration. A six-figure income is nice, sure, I'd like to have it, but if the person making it is just pissing it away, forget it. There may be women out there who are looking for "corporate retirement" as you put it but quite frankly I've never met any of them. There are women who have unrealistic expectations and are high maintenance; I think it should be obvious when you meet them and get to know them who they are. They're not shy about advertising that fact. They're the flashy ones. The ones who get all the attention while others, less flashy, less attractive, get overlooked. If all you want is shallow, there is plenty of shallow out there. But you can't date shallow and expect something else.
@@theresemalmberg955 Let me go in reverse. The less attractive and less flashy women still get magnitudes of times more offers for dates than the average man. They are not overlooked if they don't want to be. You said yourself there are women who have unrealistic expectations and are high maintenance. From a man's perspective, an ever increasing number of women, flashy or not, have those unrealistic expectations. The problem is dating apps don't filter for financial intelligence and diligence when it comes to money. It only filters for income. Therefore, women are not willing to do some digging or sleuthing about a man who makes less money regarding his financial and personal habits. It is much easier to only reply to the high status occupation man with a larger income and pretty face. If you are unwilling to date a man because of fear of becoming part of the genteel poverty class, you have other issues. First, it assumes any relationship you get into will fail because you see all men as power hungry and abusive. Second, you probably are not as good with money if you believe you will have to sell the half of his assets to live when the relationship inevitably goes bad. Third, you don't realize people routinely down size as empty nesters who get smaller houses, apartments, or live with grown children to stay within their means. It has been shown across cultures all over the world women want men who can garner the most resources. I don't believe you would forego a wealthier man if you had the chance because of some altruistic fear a man will like you less if you earn less. Men don't care how much women make. For most of human history, women made zero because they were the homemakers. It's not all men's fault when SOME women make bad life choices and end up not being able to live The Lifestyle they feel entitled to live.
define marriageable men please? I'm 68, your story sounds like mine, grew up with 5 siblings, only four ever married, my 3 brothers had kids neither of my sisters did, I knew raising a family and being married was not something I wanted, women never had any interest in me, and after 5 dates I quit dating at 46, don't miss the hassle, turned down sex with 3 different women when I was younger, who does that? at 20 I got ulcerative colitis, it is a terrible chronic health issue, at 56 I had to retire due to colon cancer, many times I wondered if I could have managed a family/marriage with constant health issues -- I didn't think I could so I think I'm where I should be as a single person, a final note -- I'm Catholic and we are taught marriage is a vocation, a special calling from God, some of us won't get that call and it's okay, God had other work for me to do instead - I'm grateful to be retired, while it is lonely, this state won't last forever -- I hope when I pass my life meets God's approval, marriage and kids isn't for everyone, and more people need to see marriage as part of God's plan for their lives and not something you do casually -- treat it with the dignity and respect it deserves
I agree with all Suzanne has said. Even if here in southern Europe is not as bad as in the US I’m very worried that this destructive 3rd wave feminist and gender ideology will reap havoc also here sometime in the future
I wish this video offered more solutions to single mothers raising boys. Find male role models for your sons to ensure they know how to grow up to be men. You have to make the best of what you have. If the fathers dont want to be involved the moms have to find another way. In the end this video didnt offer solutions to the lack of marriageable men. There are also statistics on single mothers bringing men into their lives that are not the fathers of their children that cause more harm than good. Single Moms have to do a lot of vetting.
Women don't want marry or date tradesmen, a poll done showed that over 85% of women would sooner marry a someone who's a lawyer that makes 80k a year than say a electrician that makes 100k a year. I realize it's more about money, but you certainly want marry someone that you engage in similar topics and values, and philosophies.
One more thing that is forgotten about single mothers.. their daughters also have a high chance of becoming single mothers themselves due to no father figure and the daughters seeking a male role model. It's a vicious cycle.
I could not agree more. My father had no father and thus my brothers had a rather sketchy father and thus I would not recommend my brothers for marriage material until they took some serious education on how to be a husband,father and respectful partner in a relationship. My three sons will not be getting my blessings unless I too see that they can take on marriage and a family. That is where my responsibilites lie. Thank you thankyou.
Love your work. I’m a 61 year old black man. And I’ve been saying this for the last 50 years. Seems that the roosters had come home to your community and now is a problem. maybe you can save a few women that will listen, but most won’t and in 20 years this country will be finished. By the strong and independent matriarchy.🎙️
I am fed up with nonsense ideology from both the left and right. There is absolutely nothing about women being successful and thriving in so many areas that proves a threat to mankind. Not unless we truly believe the communist manifesto and think that finances are a pie we must divide, rather than life being a world open to infinite pies. Men and women are not on a balancing scale where if one is up, the other goes down. Men don't spontaneously mutate to develop brain atrophy in proportion to the number of degrees women have. That's Marxism right there. The right is just as guilty of it. One thing that people of any side do is send their kids to public schools, to a place where people are segregated from reality for 12 years and think that answers on standardized tests being them success. It's one huge demoralizing lie. That one factor erases any generational continuity or proper sense of agency...and yet it's the one thing that literally almost everyone wants to hold on to.
Great video Suzanne. You made so many great points about the value of men in a society. These kind of statements are not said, out loud, enough, especially from women to women. Please look up the term, passport bros....this movement started because men do not feel valued and respected in the U.S. by the women. Men will simply leave a bad situation and go find one that works for them and for the men who can't travel, they will simply withdraw from the dating/mating market. I think most men want a family or husband and wife (not a partnership) relationship but are refusing to settle for a bad deal. We should return as close as possible to traditional families, this templet has worked for many years. Again, great video!!!!
Suzanne, you are so right on it hurts. Husbandless women raising fatherless children -- quite the difficult circle. Your conclusion that family orientation and gender training and understanding must be on the curriculum from second grade on. Who will champion the movement? The single mothers will (and must) because they understand how crucial it is for future generations.
U doing Gods work Suzanne. I am sick of red pill stuff but grateful they started conversation. Liberal experiment failed. We need a return to basics. Family first
It's good to have youtube. Unfortunately the other side of the coin is that kids can see the crazy stuff the opposite gender gets up to, and that just adds to the dissatisfaction for marriage.
S*xual liberation liberated (the top 5% of) men from commitment. Women choose to lay down with high status men and make children for them without asking anything for it. It's a s*xual strategy enabled by safe enough environment. It has a high cost to the children. They get good genes but bad parenting.
lots of celebs role model single motherhood ie. Sheryl Crow -- she has two teen boys she is raising, sorry boys needs a man around -- 40% of all kids today are being born out of wedlock, who knows how they will turn out?
There have been many studies to show statistically boys without fathers turn out worse ON AVERAGE. Two young men are being raised by a wealthy, celebrity single mother. Her status gives them a better chance than most because of the opportunities she can provide for education, activities, and other great male role models the vast majority of single mothers cannot provide for their sons.
@@pace1195 you have it wrong, a woman can't be a man, ask Steve Harvey -- I was the oldest of four boys, my father was tough, and we needed it at that time, how can a woman over 60 possibly relate to two teenage boys of today? she lived in a different world growing up, their world is vastly different from what she knew as a teen , doesn't matter how much money or status a celebrity mom has, she cannot teach what she doesn't know, kids live what they learn
@@michaelsix9684 I agree with you. My point is a wealthy celebrity can give her children opportunities to learn from successful men even if not their father. She can put them in higher quality schools so they can learn under better quality teachers. She can fund any activities they may want to be involved in to learn from other knowledgeable experts. A coach can be a father figure. A teacher can be a father figure. A colleague or acquaintance of hers can be a father figure. The only thing which may hold them back is learning her life philosophy. In that case, they may become worse than average.
@@pace1195yes other men can mentor boys, but there is no replacement for them having a dad in their lives on a daily basis, you only get one chance to raise your kid, a celeb of all people should know you can't teach what you don't know
@@michaelsix9684 I totally agree with you there is no replacement for fatherhood. That doesn't mean there aren't single parent households with children who must get by learning to become adults through extended family members, coaches, teachers, or other mentors. Celebs are people too. I think many of them believe they do know more because they played a character on screen once. Celebs are validated constantly because of their skills to pretend to be someone else. I think that makes them more likely to believe in their own magnificence when it comes to teaching what they believe they know even if they are unaware of any ignorance.
@@tehamill1Yes? You can see it in action. Women don't clearly offer to men what men want from women. Women expect men to fulfill their traditional role but don't offer anything in return. Men act rationally.
My man wasn't "marriable" (and let's face it neither was I) but when got married God worked in our hearts and, one step at a time, is turning us both into the perfect gift for one another ❤ God believes in marriage. You just have to believe in God (and trust Him). 🙏 😊 (Harold's wife)
my late parents were married 51 yrs., they met on a blind date in 1951, and got married 2 years later, they raised 6 kids, both worked, and today I don't this would happen
It takes work and more than prayer. My marriage has struggles from almost day one. No room for selfishness and no room for spiritual or educational or professional growth. It's all one sided. I made a mistake.
back in 1980 a woman in CA started group Single Mothers by Choice, this has been a long term trend -- having a child alone is narcissistic, dangerous for a child -- divorce laws have made it risky for men to marry
11:52 Get your health under control! A man had anger issues the couple was on the brink of divorce the therapist suggested to doc to a specialist. Turns out the man had toxic kidneys and over some months he cleaned out his kidneys and as I last knew the couple said they were the happiest they had ever been.
As a woman I don’t even want kids enough to be a single mother. My mum was basically a married single mother who did everything. Worked full time and did all the housework. No thanks 😅Men just want kinds to prove their masculinity but don’t actually want to do the work
There is only ONE reason for a man to get married. That is to have a secure, long term nest, to raise his own genetic children in, to success. All else can be had cheaper, elsewhere.
Something's got to give. People complain that too many women aren't having children. If I was going to have children I wanted a traditional nuclear family. I wanted to be married before having children. I never had children because I never met anyone to marry. That's why the trad wife propaganda is fan fiction. I'm happy for those that have the opportunity for a traditional family but many women will never get that chance.
I could not agree more and I am a single adoptive mom! I am not sure I really thought I didn’t need a man, but two kids in my life were in fostercare and they needed a home. Since adopting my son and daughter, God truly showed me gender roles. I wish I could be a stay at home mom! I wish I could have babies and raise my kids with a Godly man. I am 37 and never married. I am not sure where you find them, so if you know someone send them my way! 😂
40% of all kids born today are born out of wedlock, 75% of all divorces are filed by women, men don't want to end marriage, it's too hard to find a good spouse, but divorce makes marriage very risky for men
if you think housing prices are bad, it will only get worse because so many people are separated and you now need two houses per family, not just one. sheeple never think or learn.
If all these people are single, you can have same sex roommates to save on rent or mortgage costs. People may just live together into adulthood with a friend or college roommate if they can't get into a relationship with another person. A two bedroom house with two roommates takes the same amount of housing as a married couple with a child, pet bed, or home office in the second bedroom.
Women also need to understand the high income earners, that are tall, and non obese and non married are not very common. Its not common for a man to make $100,000 a year, is over 6 feet tall, and is not obese or married
Where is Suzanne based out of? My mother is from Michigan and I have a positive regard for the Midwestern culture and states.... She speaks the truth and I'm not a conventional person in any way.... The damage however can be healed, through gratitude affirmations, emir, fasting, dropping emotional reactions, affirmations etc........
Suzanne, have you seen Richard Reeves’ work, “Of Boys and Men”? If you haven’t, please give it a go. It’s more than just social conditioning against men. (I also don’t agree with all of Richard’s inferences and opinions but his data is on point.) Also as other have pointed out let’s not ignore the lack of marriageable women: promiscuous, arrogant women are not attractive to many men.
I’m certainly what one might consider “marriageable” at least in terms of what you were referring to ie a stable earner. Yet there is no way I would ever consider marrying. For one thing I have never aspired to parenthood. But the real reason is the horribly one-sided divorce laws. All in all it is a rotten deal for men, and I want no part of it
A good book for raising boys is "Raising Boys" by Steve Bidulph. I've raised our 15 year old son by following this book. I can recommend it as it teaches how to raise boys to become men and not soy boys.
A feiend of mine decided to be a single parent. Her son gets to spend a lot of time with his grandfather and uncle, but I am waiting for the moment when he hits adolescence and begins to rebel against her and lash out in anger as he has no stable father in his life. She doesn't see it coming, but I do.
then she needs to get tough; and hopefully she is tough kids need a healthy level of fear of their parents a child should never ever ever think to intimidate or harm their mother
Hi I would if you were able to create a list of book recommendations. Doesn’t have to be on parenting but just on non woke topics. I would love some recommendations xxx
Society isn't prioritising the need for women to stop acting like spoiled children when it comes to family matters, and where the government will "condition" men for her needs and feelings. If the Government thinks they can control her natural hypergamy, we'll all be in for great re-awakening. Unfortunately the long term plan is to break apart the family structure, so that the children can be "re-wired."
Society is being made up of unconscience male aggressive women and vulnerable boys are seriously suffering. There has been a male antagonistic rind over my entire life and nobody even noticed because i was only around dysfunctional women. I love chicks i am quite the romantic, but i am also strong, smart and disagreeable and i was hated for it.
I hear you, but I do have to say my own actual experience of what I have gone through and quite a few of my friends (mid 30s) is that the majority of the husbands cheat, are abusive, or neglectful. I have multiple friends going through divorces currently (including me) because their husbands are not good people. I had no clue my husband would have multiple affairs, pull a gun on me, or “border line rape me” as my counselor has described it. Men do seem to not be able to handle marriage or raising a family. I don’t think I’ve seen ONE healthy marriage in my age group, ever. And yes I am heavily involved in my church and my daughter’s Christian private school.
As I read your message, you didn't take any accountability in choosing the wrong man to get married to. You choose him, so you take responsibility for your choice. You mentioned " men seem not to be able handle marriage or family" What men are you talking about? The man you choose. Don't speak about all men because majority of men stay in marriages and take care of their family. 90% of divorces are filed by women, so women can't handle relationship or a married. Immediately it get tough, they filed for divorce and take half of everything, take the child and ask for child support. Learn to take accountability, stop blaming men for your choices.
@@davidmambu7936I was going to say the same thing! My husband and the husbands we know in church are amazing. Faithful, strong, gentle, and loving. I dont associate with men or women who hate marriage or who lack accountability. Birds of a feather flock together. I would reevaluate who you associate with and look in the mirror because you are picking those people to fellowship with.
No, it is definitely not the majority of men or husband's that are as you describe. That describes the men you chose to associate with and the common events that seem to plague you and your friends are because you all have the same traits. There's probably a reason why you're friends. Birds of a feather flock together. I have the exact opposite experience and coming from an abuse background with an absent father. For whatever reason, you all are choosing bad men. Don't demonize all men because your picker; and the pickers of the women around you, are broken.
This is how you sound but in reverse: My wife stopped having sex with me, cheated on me, divorced me, and took half my money and the kids. I did everything I was supposed to do! I’ve been victimized by XXX. Same thing happened to a guy at work…all women are evil! What do you think about the man making this statement? That’s what we think about you.
It isn’t the majority of men. I know so many amazing men. And although I, myself, and my children were severely abused by my ex husband (strangulation) I know that he was the minority. However, I can’t get onboard with this idea that a woman “chose” a bad partner. If you know anything about true narcissism (mine was diagnosed) then you know it’s not something that actually shows any red flags initially. They seem do healthy and loving and don’t rip off the mask of who they are until you’re married and pregnant. So no, women didn’t choose a bad partner, they chose a good partner in most cases who then turned out to be an abusive narcissist who kept that under wraps until the woman was hooked and “stuck” with him. We need to stop acting as if victims of domestic violence had any say in their abuse.
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Men cheat! That’s why women need to find their own money. I’ve seen my own mother unable to leave a relationship because of having zero income from being a stay at home mother. You refuse to talk about this basic fact! Talk about the cheating of men
I was subbing a class one day, 3rd grade I had a boy that was over the top emotional. He cried about everything. Sweet boy just so emotional. I mentioned to the class that I had 4 boys so lived with all men. He told the class he wished he could be in my family because he had 4 sisters and 2 moms. It all made sense.
Dang poor kid..hopefully his parents are wise enough to get him around some good mentors
That’s so sad😢
Wow. That poor baby
That’s stinks and sad
He will be told all his life he is bad for being male, having any semblance of masculinity squashed and shamed out of him. When he is hyper emotional, confused and frustrated, he will be told it is because of his toxic masculinity and to top it off, the sweet effeminate man he becomes, being told that is what women want, he will be repeatedly taken advantage of by women and passed over again and again.
Suzanne, you are one of the few people on social media that is honest about this. There are too many children being raised by single mothers. Worse, now it has become normalized. I am a married man who has been married to the same woman for 35 years. All of our children are now adults. We live in NYC. There is a huge population of single women here. Over the last 30 years I have been approached by single women who tried to seduce me so they could get pregnant. One of them ,was a woman I worked with, who claimed to be a lesbian. This normalization of single parenthood not only is bad for children, but it weakens the institution of marriage overall. This is a catastrophe that nobody is talking about.
Ann Coulter warned about this, women who are single are usually entitled, unrealistic, and have unrealistic standards when looking for men
@@Cocoisagordonsetter cant get child support if they use a sperm bank
Single mothers should not be allowed to exist.
@@Cocoisagordonsetter In NYC sperm banks and artificial insemination is expensive. 10k-20k. For most women grabbing a guy is free.
we see the consequences daily, most of the criminals today come from broken homes, jails and prison are full of young men who didn't have families
Appreciate your channel and videos. As a widowed, single dad of two boys, I can tell you that finding a more traditional wife for the home is just as hard. Keep making great content. 👍
Yes, I agree. My sons are finding it difficult to find a traditional woman. But we won't give up. I will keep praying and believe it will happen.
I'm a woman who grew up with a terrible father, which, among other negative experiences, made me a man-hating feminist. Fortunately a few years ago I left the cult of woke and realised that the world is many more shades of grey than I'd known. Now I'm happily engaged to a wonderful strong man and hoping to be a homeschooling traditional wife and mother in the next few years. I see on social media a swing back in this direction among young women. I believe things are changing. Best wishes to your sons 🙏
@@maryrankin9869Good luck, my brother and I failed. I encourage you to impress upon them a certain amount of urgency. The odds are not in their favor.
@@Zzz-ij4ck Just don't swing so far that you fall into the Evangelical cult!
@@Zzz-ij4cknice 👏 good that you saw the light. Feminism deceived women
This been hitting the black community for decades.
@sharronewilson4761 - I absolutely see this correlation.
No sign of slowing down either.
LBJ’s “Great Society” policies DESTROYED the black family.
prior to LBJ, the divorce rate (and single parenthood) was higher in the white community.
It’s surreal but not surprising that it’s happening to the greater culture.
Most starts in the Black community. Fallout from national economic issues, unemployment/ underemployment, housing inaffordability, self medication in the terms of drug use, kids dealing with school bullies, on and on and on.
People vilify this community for all that they’re experiencing because they’re not experiencing it. Then it happens to them
Now it’s a brand new “problem.”
Let’s make marijuana use legal! No prison time. Sell it in stores. Lighter sentencing for cocaïne than crack is a must. Let’s have tax breaks for single mothers and work benefits for struggling parents! Let’s show some COMPASSION!!
Good morning to you, Mrs. Venker. Thank you so much for believing in marriage, and thank you so very, very much for believing in men. You are not a whisper in the crowd. 🌹
My parents stayed married, I wish they didn’t. Went their own ways and co-parented instead. It has been very toxic and not good role models.
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My husband and I were just talking about how unfortunate it is that the overwhelming majority of children are being raised in households with a single parent.
My cousins are ages 19, 16 and 10. They live with their single mom (my uncle’s ex wife) who has different men in and out of her house. She permitted the oldest to drop out of school, didn’t even push him to get his GED. The 16 yo used to be a great student but now his grades are getting unsatisfactory. The 10yo was held back a grade and has been suspended from school recently. Ughh I feel for them and pray for them.
kids need and want security, discipline, and structure at home -- Dr. Phil said this all the time -- kids don't want chaos
This isn't your responsibility. You couldn't save your cousins parents marriage or make them see reason. They picked what they picked and sadly that is going to be at the expense of the kids.
This harsh but reality. You didn't break them and you can't fix them.
There Dad can get them if he sees that
.clearly he doesn't care
kids need structure, security, discipline in their lives-- boys very much need dads, dads offer discipline and support for the family
Single healthy parent households are better than toxic 2 parent households. I would know because I grew up in a toxic 2 parent household and would have much preferred if my parents weren't together as they brought the worst out of all of us. We need to stop looking at things purely from a black or white stance. Life is complicated.
I also commend women for stepping up and stepping out of toxic relationships and marriages for the sake of theirs and their kids sanity. Kids will more likely have less trauma and stress from this decision.
saddest fact of life is this -- none of us gets to choose our parents or family unit, if we're not lucky we may end up with losers as parents, many people simply are not fit to be parents or have kids at all -- the govt. doesn't help by giving incentives to single mothers to have kids so the problem is now much worse
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Right. Of course. But in general, her message is the same.
She’s NOT referring to a situation like that. She’s talking about willful single motherhood.
This is exactly the flimsy excuse that allows the single mother problem to exist. Every woman thinks she used to be in an abusive relationship. Every one of them.
This was spot on. A lot of women also don’t even want a good man, they consider that boring. They are more attracted to the uncertainty of the bad boy riding the motorcycle, and we all know how that ends up long term.
women hang out at the finish line, then pick the winners, women go after men who arouse them, bad boys and losers are good at this, normal nice guys can't do this, so they get rejected
Girls want that. Not women
Start dating women, stop trying to date girls
He’s that 30 something CPA. He's not fat, he's not skinny ,not very good looking, not funny, not charismatic, not interesting in the least .
But he makes 150,000k a year, and he won't cheat on you ,and his folks own a lake home.
@@sitka49 Sounds like a good consistent man that a normal woman should value. A 30 year old woman who is at the end of fertility years, attractiveness is already on a decline.
In my early 30’s, after a failed long term relationship, that never led to marriage…I began considering having a child as a single mother. However, as I began a closer relationship with Christ, I realized that I had to think about what was best for a child and that was a 2 parent home with mother and father. So I chose to let go of motherhood. Marriage never happened for me, although I hoped for it. I remain single at 64, and have been saddened by the war on men, hate the poison of feminism that lied to women for decades. We must reclaim our femininity, appreciate men and their key role in the family, society and culture. Most importantly, bring children to the world in the traditional 2 parent family. I agree 100% with the comments in this video.
Feminism gave women the choice you have now to be 64 and not married and childfree. Before then a woman could do nothing without a daddy/husband’s permission. I’m glad to label myself a feminist.
It’s hilarious that we keep assuming that there’s only a lack of marriageable men in America. I’m sorry to tell you, but American women are not a catch either and men are going overseas to find wives for a reason. If American women were a catch, men would be flying here to marry them
Good point!
You should look into the recent articles about European women that are making fun of American men who are coming there and think that the women are going to be a doormat and they can have no money and the women will cook for them and so on but, the European women laugh at American men and say their standards are even higher than American women’s standards but men don’t realize until they show up and then are very disappointed lol
@@mmonroe259 oh you read an article about some women in a continent? I guess that negates the fact that American women are undesirable and men prefer to take a 10 hr flight instead of dealing with them. Oh and who told you men are going to Europe? You know the world is more than just N. America and Europe right? What’s next, you’re gonna get an article from Canada and Australia? Besides, European men are going abroad too because their women are as bad as American women
You said what I was trying to, in a much more articulate and concise way 👍
Yup. American women don't care about motherhood or being a wife. They care about travel, romantic adventure, gym/yoga, and Netflix.
No one’s job is stable these days BUT I work, have a home, six figures but I’m not edgy enough, not 6 feet, no tattoos. I cook daily for myself. Men can ask where’s the wifely women? They ain’t even at church
Somewhere abroad, I think.
@@edheldudeThis is a worldwide phenomenon.
@@edheldudeIt's just the worst in the West. The world is still screwed.
Be the man your dream woman would want.
There was a girl that I was talking to about seven years ago (she was 18 I was 21) and she told me that she was considering just being a single mother. Apparently her dad wasn’t in her life and she just didn’t trust men. I wouldn’t think she feels this way but just hearing someone say that when they’re only 18 was such a shock to me
her mother failed her, she wasn't taught what marriage and family life are like, parents role model this, and when kids don't have this growing up, they won't know how to be parents when their time comes
We model what is modeled for us.
This is commonplace and with good reason.
Women know they can't depend on a man
@@wyleecoyotee4252 Men just don't want you to rely on them.
@@loganblackwood2922
Then they should stop babbling about 'providing and protecting' women
Beautiful truth speaking Suzanne ❤ We finite beings cannot change this on our own. It's a catch 22 - We need good men in order to create good men. That's where God will shine, if each individual let's Him 🙏
Women are the biggest influences in the home. So we need better women to raise good men. Coddling children girls and boys is the issue. Enabling bad behavior of our children is the problem. Producing poor quality human beings is the problem. It’s not just men.
@@Lifelessons101-23 Men are just as huge an influence. I have seen so many women blamed for not handling their children well...when in fact their supposedly upstanding religious great husband emotionally abused them for years on end. No woman can function well under those circumstances and it is far more common than anyone realizes.
My sons are not married for several reasons. The women they have been interested in all came from divorced families and raised by single mothers. They all had serious "daddy" issues. The other reason is women today have had many sexual partners and abortions. These issues are not a good reason to base future success and happiness inmarriage. I do understand not being "judgmental" but this is more of a discernment and risk issue.
It’s truly heart-breaking…so many damaged young women out there have been brain-washed to believe they should take on the roles of porn star and career woman. Where does that leave room for a sweet young man?
Promiscuity among young women is such a huge issue. I would say there is a lack of marriageable women, not men
@@sonofthesOUth77 they both suck, and many adult men lack initiative and are still teenage boys
late Keving Samuels said " women today are often a liability not an asset, and this is why men are choosing not to marry them" kids from single parent homes often have poor life outcomes, this has been studied for a long time - jails and prisons are full of young men who came from broken homes or single parent families
your sons are very smart, I'm 68, and when I was in college over 40 yrs. ago, I rarely saw students dating, this was at Ohio State university no less, it was hard even to find a girl to talk with, many people I knew from that time never married and died single, girls then were pushed to get careers etc. , if they ever married it came later maybe by 40
It’s not just about being employed, men today are weak, fearful and not good marriage material!
Define: Gainful employment. If the woman’s answer is a six figure income, it ain’t the men who are the problem.
Feminism also downgrades mothers. Homemakers are looked down upon.
Hi Suzanne! I’m currently reading “How to get Hitched…” and Omg. You are changing my life. I think you are saying out loud what every woman is thinking. I was raised by a strong, independent, feministic mother- very loving I might add, but didn’t believe in monogamy with a splash of new age. I was a mess. For a long time. You are giving me hope, guidance and I couldn’t be any happier in my marriage. THANK YOU ❤ so happy I found you!
happy for you
One of the biggest reasons we have our kids homeschool is that we get to "vet" the families that our children are around. Our children are around other families with two parent homes. Their relationships are positive, and when they have conflicts, as we all do, the moms and dads are able to participate and help the kids get through it. We emphasize family in this community, unlike what you would get in the public school realm where you more than likely don't meet your classmates families.
Yes! This!! My husband and I finally found a homeschool community in our area and a great church that the majority in this circle attend. I joined a MOPS group in my area and met a lot of the same friendly faces I met at playgrounds nearby. Now, we have scheduled playdates several times a week and run into these families every Sunday for church and Wednesdays for MOPS and AWANA. It is such a relief to find a community of like-minded people who ENJOY being with their children and others’ children as well. It is a collective mindset rather than a “me, my, mine” mindset.
Wow, this actually brought tears to my eyes. My husband left me and our daughter 2 years ago after he had multiple affairs. My daughter is an incredible little girl who is very resilient and sweet. She is a wonderful friend. But you wouldn’t let your kids be around her because her dad walked out on us? I am teaching my daughter to be kind to EVERYONE and know that everyone has different circumstances and sometimes tough situations happen. I should also add I have my daughter in a private Christian school. Do you think she shouldn’t be allowed in because of her dad’s poor decisions?
you are very smart, I would never send my kids to public schools today
I hope you put each other first so the kids learn they're not the center of the universe while seeing how competent adults act. If kids are put forth, we end up with current society - narcissistic/leftist.
@@pinkva23
Bad decisions?
Would it be reasonable to argue that it would be a bad decision for a woman not to vet a male properly and extensively before deciding to have children together?
Ironically, the Brady Bunch nailed it in the 70's. Watch the episode where the boys had a fort, and the girls wanted a fort. Where did they get the nails?, and what happened to the boys fort?. Now compare that to what Disney has done to Star Wars, for example. Basically the same thing.
General Leia?
No men who are “gainfully employed.” I tend to push back on that point. There are many good men, who make median to top 10% money, that are single, that I often interact with. I think that women have lost the ability (and guidance) to picking a solid man.
Women never had the ability to pick a solid man. They follow their emotions, and historically the extended family helped people pick their husbands and wives. As a young person you don't know what makes a good relationship.
Guidance is the point. Fathers had a role in this. Now she picks what she likes and it is always tatted up two time felon Tyrone Tyreesius Dickerdown Brown with the 12" personality.
@@edheldudeYep.
they never learned how, their mothers failed them in that area
Men are supposed to pursue women. Women aren't supposed to pursue men.
We don’t want to admit men are valuable.
The sacrifice of single mothers is what they love more, their children. The children will forever live with the scars of not having a father.
The men weren't involved in the child's life because they didn't want to be.
@@ShannonsBibleStudye often not true at all! The courts are wildly in favor of full custody being granted to the mother (no matter how unfit), and many "good men" are pushed out of the home by that fact.. Horrible women verbally demonizing their childs father with no regard to those effects, and social media backing it up.. It's a wonder we even try at all!
Lastly, I hear many complaints of husband's breaking the marriage contract by stepping out, but I would argue it's often a response to that contract already having been broken by the mother assuming some masculine roll and cutting off all intimacy. No man I know wants to be sharing parenting skills with another dude!
There’s not a lack of marriageable men. There’s a lack of marriageable Chads
I see you are in club V and spent covid listening to manosphere podcasts
@@MsFlamingFlamer Keep getting boosters. Thanks!
@@kayakandbikeexploringontar174 you are literally listening to a mommy podcast crying about the “Chads”. I’m glad women are not giving it up for you, thank god. Y’all weren’t in women’s podcasts crying even 5 years ago.
@@MsFlamingFlamerplease, don’t just toss aside his comment. Have you not seen women avoid decent men only to chase after bad ones?
@@hwoodist all the research I’ve seen shows that’s not why the INCELs are not getting laid. 20% of men are not with 80% of the women. Also INCELs can’t seem to make up their mind if the Chads are “hot”, “bad”, or “rich”. I’ve seen INCELS complain about women getting with “bad” guys, “rich” guys and “hot” guys but those are 3 different groups of dudes. Also seen INCELs complain about “tall” guys which seems to be a personal hang up.
My husband never had any issues getting dates in highschool or college. He took the prom queen to prom, was a national merit scholar, played tennis, track and swimming. He’s regular height (5’10”). He’s not bad looking but I wouldn’t say he’s super handsome, he looks like a regular dude. Wouldn’t call him a “Chad”, he’s a pretty well rounded, wholesome dude. He went to one of the best colleges and majored in finance. He always had (long term) girlfriends. He was certainly not a “bad boy” but he had no issues getting with women.
When I worked I worked as a software engineer. Almost all of the men were married. Almost all the professional men and highly technical men I have came across over 30 are married.
A lot of INCEL resentment seems being mad the hot cheerleader from highschool didn’t get with them. No one is entitled to anyone. There were probably “nerdy” and “bookish” girls but the INCELs weren’t checking them. It tends to be women with _severe_ _mental_ _illnesses_ and were raised really messed up who go after the “bad boys”. Don’t know why any man would cry over losing those women. They would be a real piece of work to actually be with. There’s more women in college than men and they are not chasing convicted felons. Maybe these men should work on their own social EQ, get therapy to get over hang ups, “glow up” and make themselves more attractive. Just having a good sense of humor and hygiene can go a long way.
Ooooo I feel called out! I’m a single mom. My husband left us 2 years ago after he had multiple affairs. I’ve been trying to find a partner but it’s difficult. We single moms aren’t all the same. I’m giving motherhood 110%, even when I feel like crying. Please don’t hold it against us. Some of us had zero input in whether our husbands stayed or left.
no man wants to pay to raise another man's children, if they do get involved, the single mother often breaks it off once the kids are raised -- men know this, whatever this man has invested is gone with no return
I mean this as gently as possible. You picked your husband so to an extent you did have an input on the character of the man you married. That doesn’t remove his responsibility but it also takes into consideration your role in the break up. I would even add that usually affairs are a symptom of a bigger problem in the marriage that takes both party to participate in.
Very rarely do men just cheat out of boredom. Usually it’s because of marital problems. Not an excuse for their immorality, just what I’ve seen.
I’m sure you didn’t do anything to contribute to the end of the relationship. He was abusive, narcissistic, controlling, and a terrible father… while you were supportive, loving, caring, and a great mother. Did I miss anything?
Edit: Oh crap, I just noticed something: she said HE left HER. She said he cheated on her multiple times and still stayed with the POS…HE had to leave HER. Now she’s crying the victim. OMG you can’t make this sh!t up
@@Kiki-fe2lemy ex withheld sex from me for 3 years and didn’t even sleep in the same bed as me. She was shocked when I started dating someone else and served her with divorce papers. I do admit to be the worst man in the world for that. Adolf is a Boy Scout next to a monster like me
@@Kiki-fe2le Sometimes men are only as faith as their options. I would say you're right that there are other issue in the marriage for someone to one cheat in most cases.
( be a 100 reasons but no good excuses, most affairs are never discovered) but not always there are people in good marriages that do cheat. where there is ongoing affairs where these couples will hook-up maybe a few times a yrs. Infidelity has happened in good marriages, bad marriages ,and even marriages were adultery is punishable by death, it has happened in open marriages where sex is carefully negotiated before hand , freedom to leave or divorce has not made cheating obsolete. People cheat on each other in a hundred different ways: indifference, emotional neglect, contempt, lack of respect, years of refusal of intimacy. Cheating doesn't begin to describe the ways that people let each other down.
Four things that should be done to make marriage thrive.
1. Putting Family first again. Raise your children with the ideology of two genders. Stop promoting single parenting.
2. Stop demonizing men. Stop making general statements about men. Men are not scum. It is that man that hurt you that is a scum. Stop generalizing men's bad attitudes.
3. Learn to talk about the difference between a man and a woman. Men and women are not the same.
4. Let's start raising boys to become men/fathers.
sadly govt. today has incentivized single parenting with welfare benefits, many women get more money by having more kids and not being married, this needs to stop
In fact, only one thing would solve it: remove the government from marriage and let it return to being a matter for the Church. Marriage makes no sense without a metaphysical dimension involved.
@@kramerpoker9666 Wrong. Marriage is a legal arrangement that has existed long before the dark ages of Christianity. Metaphysics are a superstitious side dish that many unfortunately consider central to its purpose.
How can any of this be done in a culture that values debauchery and hates patriarchal families?
@@booksquid856 you're so gay
A couple of thoughts about Suzanne video. It's been pointed out by some that men and women enter relationships without being prepared to sustain a relationship. Little wonder that relationships break down and then fail. Videos like this need a wider audience. Only the people looking to correct the situation are listening. Several You Tube channels have had their videos demonitized for talking about relationship problems they don't want to acknowledge.
Boys don't just become men like girls becomes a woman, it's different lived experiences. For a man to have the financial weight on his shoulders to provide for a family while the woman is pregnant is a lot, and he needs a strong male role model in his life early on teaching him, it's vital because it's hard out here in the world by yourself.
It used to be viable when one man with one income could provide for 4 people but nowadays with inflation and money laundering- it's actually financially ludicrous to have kids unless you have ludicrously amazing family/community backing and a ludicrous amount of resources i.e. land to grow food.
This is a very interesting perspective
I worked during pregnancy; actually 2 jobs but I was able to get support by living with family
regardless of gender; people have to work
As a single mom (not by choice, I divorced my abusive husband and then he passed away) I agree, single motherhood is not the way it should be. It’s hard on the kids and it’s hard on the moms, I want so much more for my children and myself. Very few men these days will take a chance on a single mom however no matter how well behaved the children are and how traditional the mom is.
Thankfully my three oldest children have beaten the statistics. I homeschooled them and they all went to college early and are thriving successful, mentally healthy and happy young adults. Two girls and a boy, the boy just turned 18 and is so far ahead of his peers and he has a lovely traditional provider male mindset I love to see. My girls are smart and thriving and have beautiful healthy relationships.
I have two younger girls (11&12) and their dream is to get married and have babies and stay at home. I always make sure to cheer this dream on and to point out the many positive behaviors of the men surrounding them. We never speak poorly of men in our family. Nor women. We also make sure we speak of the differences and how each gender has their own strengths and weaknesses and we are meant to balance each other out.
I say all of this to say that I am one of the single mother success stories but I still wouldn’t choose this life. I would give up so many things to have had my children raised in a two parent household and have had a healthy engaged father.
You're right, few men will. Other single mothers ruined this for good women that ended up in your situation. But if I may offer some advice as a married man of twenty years. One of my best mates is a single mother, she is a sister to me. Her kids have had a great male role models because I hire men and her son and daughters have had a lot of contact with great men. Not all male figures need be romantic attachments to yourself. Find communities with decent men, there's millions of them. Just because the risk factors for relationships have driven off these men, does not mean they hate women or kids. Most are eager to be of service to others, what women do not understand is that men want to love other people, we need to love women and children, it is our strongest instinctual urge.
@@loganblackwood2922I am a widowed mother and I am glad to hear that other men want to help and be role models but where would you recommend to find them? I do have a caring boyfriend who serves as a positive role model to my son but I feel like my son needs many positive male role models not just one.
So you have five children in total?
@@The-Oneness11That's a complicated question, since social norms can interfere with what would be deemed acceptable. Where I live, we have much more relaxed views between adults and children interacting but where I am from originally, anything not officially recognised with clear guidelines and so on, it would be considered taboo for adults to have any interactions with children.
Though a lot of normal things still transfer over. Social clubs, charity events, church are all good starts, as long as boys are actively involved in some form of *doing* alongside other males. Men bond through action and boys become men through this bond with men.
It would be helpful if your son had specific interests or desires to try things. A form of tutelage from a senior male figure can come from almost anywhere, martial arts, some form of kids scouts, anything involving sports is typically good. The best thing is when these things revolve around a club, which has both the activities and a social component. Clubs involved with computer tinkering, chess etc are also good if there are some physical restrictions for your child, or if they're simply disinterested in sports and the outdoors.
you did the best you could, but from my experience most single mothers were women who made poor choices in men, they were often were promiscuous when young, didn't use protection, or were careless -- there are govt. incentives today to reward single motherhood, one woman I met as a librarian had 4 kids out of wedlock, all were boys, all had different last names -- she said, "yes they're mine, they all have different fathers, and I'm not married to any of them" this was over ten years ago, hope those boys made it to adulthood intact
Thank you so much for your message, Suzanne! I’m sure you know it’s desperately needed.
You're going to have to get rid of the family courts!
I was raised by a single mom, and it was not good. 1 out of 5 stars, would not recommend.
Next time pick a two parent household to be born in. 👍
Yep.
At least you both weren't trapped with an abusive man/dad. That would make you realize that your situation really isn't as bad as you're acting like it is.
@@SuperFunJess alrighty then
I am 46 yrs old and have been working and had regular good job for years, marriage never really crossed my mind at all. I dont drinks, smikoes, do drugs, or have kids out of marriage whatsoever. Most of my friends are the same. As long as laws and benefits around marriage and kids wont benefits us same as women we dont care about your marriage and kids..
Saludos from sunny South FL & thank you for your work; subscribed & looking forward to the thought-provoking discussions.
There is not a lack of marriageable men. Women want the power and freedom that were traditionally reserved to men… but resent the risks and responsibilities that went with them.
Men had authority…but also had the responsibility for being heads of households and providing for wife and children. You were expected to SHARE those resources with those who did not have them.
Too many women want to amass those resources for themselves, and grow resentful at the idea of sharing them with a man or her being the head of a household financially.
If a woman does this, she eventually “prices herself out of the market”. The pool of men of her economic status (or higher) grows so small as she becomes more affluent…that she reaches a point where the available men she wants don’t want her.
She’s been left without a chair now that the music has stopped….
This is why men have always “married down” socioeconomically. It expands the pool of available mates. Single mother hood is a effort to bypass this at the expense of the child’s well-being….
Promiscuity among young women has led to a lack of marriageable women
Totally agree 👍
Agree, except I doubt that men "marry down" as a strategy. They simply don't care that much about a woman's socioeconomic status. If she's pretty, sweet, and fun to be around, most men are all in.
@@kevinboothby5260 It’s a strategy. It’s just not one we have to think about.
@@sonofthesOUth77Oh, really....but not among men? Right.
it's so bad in the dating world, matchmakers have given up, speed dating has disappeared
Great episode Suzanne you're speaking facts. Please do an episode on Parental Alienation thank you.
I already support women and children... it's called taxes. Whoever and wherever you are, you're welcome.
Suzanne, you are a voice in the dark!!! Thank you so much !!!
I grew up with 6 brothers and was raised by my single dad and when I tell you my view of men was extremely negative, you'll just have to take my word for it. in my early 20's I fell in love with my husband, the complete and total opposite of anything I thought men to be, and suddenly I started to notice all of the good men in my life. I noticed good men when I met them, worked with or for them, observed them with their wives and children, etc. My gripes with my father and brothers and abusive exes are with them, and it breaks my heart to think of women hurt so badly by the men closest to them that they would demonize my husband and my son in the same ways they might demonize my male abusers. They just aren't the same. We need to be teaching girls that "good men" are the norm, the same way we raise our sons to BE those "good men." This blurring of the sexes and their roles that we have been doing for decades is obviously not working.
Based 👍🏽 I grew up with a great dad, very loving, kind but was stern and did not play at the same time. I knew all men were not bad Man or a big disappointment and didn't carry myself to have that mentality and because of that I found my husband at the age of 17 out of town at school and he turned up to be a great dad and husband. Cultivating the abundancy mindset works for me so far, any way, thank you for this insightful podcast I really enjoyed it. I will spread the word and share this video. ❤
Really a great lesson in living. Focus on what is good and works for you, keep that in mind and look for that - which brings what you want into your life! We, ourselves, "create the conditions" for the very best things to come our way.
I always told my mom that I never thought I would have kids. Not because I didn’t think I would be an amazing mother- but I just didn’t have faith that I would find a man acceptable enough to conceive children with. I was ok with this, even tho I love children. I did not want to bring kids into the world unless I had a worthy father to give them. I figured maybe I’d be able to be a foster parent at some point.
Anyways I ended up finding my Prince Charming and we got married.. now I am pregnant with our second child. I never allowed myself to dream or hope for the life I have now. I thank God every day.
I wish there was a practical solid way to find a suitable partner. Me and my husband always think we just got lucky.
maybe you did, but what were your standards for a man to be acceptable? today too many women are unrealistic and entitled, they stay single because there is no one who can meet their list of requirements and they refuse to settle for less, the best way to meet quality partners is begin your search early, date with a purpose, never date anyone you wouldn't marry, and be realistic -- Lori Gottlieb wrote a great book on this called Marry Him, all young women should read it
Good luck staying married with that mindset because he will come up short someday
@@michaelsix9684 I agree I think a lot of people are searching for probably the wrong things. I wanted some one of stable mind, responsible, shared the same values as me, had a stable job/career, and also we had to have chemistry. I didn’t expect like a supermodel or some guy who makes 6 figures.. just someone similar to me with a similar mindset.
@@sonofthesOUth77 seriously? 😂 not everything in life is a disappointment
Come on Suzanne, it's not about Women not finding Men that are financially able (there are plenty of us), but more about not finding Men that are BOTH financially able & sufficiently hot. I'll leave it at that...
It's really hard to find either or at this rate. I work with the public, and I see people's bodies on the daily. Most men, even the young ones are obese, with poor hygiene. Do you know how many men that I discover don't even wash their bodies with soap? Learned over the years that some men don't even wipe between their butts. At this point, most women would take an average looking man, over what I see at work on a daily basis. I keep hearing so many men say that our standards are too high? Really? So wanting somebody who is physically active, cares about what he puts in his mouth, and bathes regularly is too picky? I have a guy friend, who I had to reprimand because once we went out to a live music event, and he smelled like marijuana and armpits. He had holes in his shirt. I don't know why he would have ever thought that that was okay. Yes, we are not romantically involved; but that doesn't matter, have enough respect for the person that you are being seen in public with, to at least be clean.
@@PaisleyMarie80You work in a city, clearly. Or work with addicts. This problem of women's expectations is a problem in my home country too and I can assure you, men bathe.
@@PaisleyMarie80So you think you're too good for every dude you see😂 this is hilarious
@@Naturestheway Yup. You're observant. Who is going to value my body, energy, and future if I don't? Dating and partnership is all about discrimination, and how much you value yourself. This should be the case for both men and women. Your problem, is that you'll take what you can get. But you can't get it, so you're bitter. You named yourself "Wonderboy"? You see yourself as a boy? That says a lot.
@@loganblackwood2922 You are correct, I do live in a city, and it is part of the problem. I do not work with addicts. If I did, I would have had enough intellectual power to connect those dots. I would not be comparing the general population, to a population of addicts. That was a poor assumption on your part. I have no idea what your home country is, so I can't even have an opinion on that. But I will say, that where I live; the standards are very low. The men play video games, are obsessed with pornography, and can't really hold deeper intellectual conversations. They're still screaming at you from your car, when you're walking into the gym, or to your own car in a parking lot. They're still lifting their shirts up in the gym and flexing their abs or lack thereof. They're still peacocking, sagging their pants, smoking weed all day, and just generally acting like knuckle draggers. This is why I am laboring to leave the city.
You're awesome. I wish your video had many more views.
I've been told so many times that I'm not needed I started to believe it. Like many others, I gave up and don't even try anymore.
David's Bridal isn't happy about it 😂
Never married woman in her sixties here. I can't tell you how many times people have said to me upon learning that I don't have children because I am not married, well, you don't have to be married to have children. That is true. However, there is not one single mother that I envy. Not one. My life as a single woman is hard enough without adding a child into the mix. I grew up in a middle-class two-parent stay-at-home household and if there is one thing I remember hearing over and over, especially as I got older, it was "we can't afford that." And we were not poor! So whether it really was a matter of not being able to afford extra-curricular activities or simply those things weren't a priority, I have no way of knowing, but I do know what it felt like to have to live life on the sidelines--and that was one thing I swore I would NEVER do to any child of mine. To have to repeatedly say to him or her, no, you can't join this or that, because we don't have the money for uniforms or equipment or whatever. But that is exactly what I would be doing if I chose to be a single mother. My income would not be enough. On the other hand, I DO know single mothers who used the assistance they received to pull themselves out of poverty; so maybe theirs was the wiser choice even though it came on the backs of their children.
Now there is one thing I have noticed missing from discussions like these, and that is the voices of women like myself who have never married. When single women say there are no longer any marriageable men from which to choose, THEY KNOW WHAT THEY ARE TALKING ABOUT! We are the ones out on the front lines. Janis Ian had a line in her classic '70's hit, "At Seventeen" about the girls "who married young and then retired." If you are reading this and you are married, you are "retired." You are coming from this issue from a perspective of privilege, much as I hate to use the term. Right now as I am typing this I see listed in my RUclips feed a video from Chris Williamson titled "50% of Men Have Given Up on Women Entirely." Fifty percent! If you think that you can just walk up to these men and tell them they need to change their minds, you are living in la-la land. They aren't. This is reality. This is what we have to deal with. This is the result of cumulative choices made by individuals. It's too late for me to have kids now, but--really, if I were younger and I was a woman who really really wanted to have kids of my own, holding out for marriage is not going to be the way to achieve that goal.
A lot of people blame feminism for this. I am glad that my parents, especially my mother, who was no feminist, raised me to be self-sufficient. They made it very clear that choosing not to go to college and getting a degree was not an option. As I said, my mother was no feminist. But she had enough experience with marriage, both her parents' and hers, to realize that without the option of being able to support oneself a woman could find herself trapped in a very bad situation. Maybe you think this is a bad thing. I don't know. But I was expected as an adult to go out and work and not rely on a man's support. Maybe that made me unmarriageable. I do know, given how things turned out, that this has made me a stronger person. As I enter the last act of my life, I see women who relied on their husbands for everything fall apart when they become widowed or divorced. I've seen some pretty sad situations where these women are condemned to a life of poverty, trapped in homes they can no longer afford to maintain, but unable to move on because living anywhere else would cost even more. So I don't envy married women any more either.
First, there may be many women out there who feel similarly to the way you felt by not being able to give children the life you think they deserved. From the other side, the men see women wanting someone who makes at least 6 figures before she would consider a relationship. Apparently, this is the cost of becoming retired to a man as good woman. The not-so-good women want a wealthy man solely for The Lifestyle. Either way, the vast majority of men cannot and may not ever be able to provide for a woman's requested retirement.
Therefore, the men who can't meet that one basic standard are invisible to women. Multiply that by the other 300 items on a woman's preference list, and you see why 50% of men have given up. When the chances of getting a date because of failing any one of those 300 items is practically zero for the men, there's no point in even trying anymore.
It's going to be the rare man who turns down an offer of a date from a genuine request. I'm sure some celebrity actor gets offers continuously, except they are not genuine offers for a possible RELATIONSHIP. They are offers for a "hall pass". Those men who have given up definitely would do a 180 for a real opportunity with a genuinely good woman. We just have a culture of women not being the pursuers or willing to ask a man they want to date. If a man she does not want to date asks her instead, the outcome many times becomes a viral warning plastered on the internet. The death spiral of cumulative choices can be changed provided the reasons the spiral exists can be flipped over to a positive and productive spiral.
I know a woman whose last husband died when she was in her mid 80's. She couldn't even pump her own gas for her car. I understand the need for women to have at least the backup plan of being self-sufficient enough to survive should a black swan event occur. However, modern women are not looking for self-sufficiency; they are looking for (I'm going to call it) "corporate retirement" + a man above them financially to marry. There aren't enough of those men on the planet to go around for what women request these days.
Women in the end either get marital retirement with a husband and children, or they get corporate retirement with a fancy job and a personal petting zoo. Rarely do they get both at the same time. And, if a woman begins to out earn her husband, there is a nearly 90% chance she files for divorce to focus on the corporate retirement package.
Which ever retirement package a person chooses is fine by me, and many men know the statistics of those choices thanks to the internet. To end, the old lady who couldn't pump her gas found some friends at her church who helped her out for a number of years. A few months ago, she moved in with her daughter in Texas at the age of 92. She just got her Texas drivers license and is still driving too.
@@pace1195 I don't know about any other women but speaking strictly for myself, personally, at the very least a man should be able to support himself. Doesn't have to be six figures. In fact, I do not want a man who makes that much money! Why? Because that puts me at a very big disadvantage as I have never in my life made a six-figure income. I never in my working life even got up to half of that! His making that much more money gives him a power advantage. If things go sour, he can afford the better attorney. Let's say I do get the house, what good is it if down the road I can't afford the upkeep but I can't go anywhere else because I can't afford to go anywhere else? And yes, I DO know divorced women in that situation! They may SEEM to have gotten the better deal and maybe even for a while they actually have--but there's a lot of "invisible" poverty out there in places you wouldn't even suspect. I believe the Victorian term was "genteel poverty". We just don't see it unless we volunteer at food pantries and other such services. We don't see the families who are one step away from homelessness, who can't pay their utility bills--because they look like us. I know what the myth is, and I also know what the reality is.
On the other hand, I am also not interested in a man who is not making enough money to support himself at a decent level. I am not interested in someone who is just getting by. I know what that life looks like for ONE person. I do not even want to imagine it for TWO people, if one is already struggling and the other is unable to contribute to the household income at a meaningful level. I'm not talking about short periods of bad luck, like unemployment. I'm talking about a chronic inability to support oneself so that one must rely on others. Now I don't know where you live, but in my neck of the woods, it doesn't take a six-figure income to be able to put a roof over your head and food in your belly and have transportation. So yes, that is what I am looking at. Do you have a decent roof over your head (apartment, mobile home, single-family house)? Do you have reliable transportation? Can you shop at the grocery store or do you have to rely on the food pantry? What is the state of your health? Do you have any habits like gambling, alcohol, drugs or tobacco, that could be a liability for both of us? That, more than any six-figure income, is what I take into consideration. A six-figure income is nice, sure, I'd like to have it, but if the person making it is just pissing it away, forget it.
There may be women out there who are looking for "corporate retirement" as you put it but quite frankly I've never met any of them. There are women who have unrealistic expectations and are high maintenance; I think it should be obvious when you meet them and get to know them who they are. They're not shy about advertising that fact. They're the flashy ones. The ones who get all the attention while others, less flashy, less attractive, get overlooked. If all you want is shallow, there is plenty of shallow out there. But you can't date shallow and expect something else.
@@theresemalmberg955 Let me go in reverse. The less attractive and less flashy women still get magnitudes of times more offers for dates than the average man. They are not overlooked if they don't want to be.
You said yourself there are women who have unrealistic expectations and are high maintenance. From a man's perspective, an ever increasing number of women, flashy or not, have those unrealistic expectations.
The problem is dating apps don't filter for financial intelligence and diligence when it comes to money. It only filters for income. Therefore, women are not willing to do some digging or sleuthing about a man who makes less money regarding his financial and personal habits. It is much easier to only reply to the high status occupation man with a larger income and pretty face.
If you are unwilling to date a man because of fear of becoming part of the genteel poverty class, you have other issues. First, it assumes any relationship you get into will fail because you see all men as power hungry and abusive. Second, you probably are not as good with money if you believe you will have to sell the half of his assets to live when the relationship inevitably goes bad. Third, you don't realize people routinely down size as empty nesters who get smaller houses, apartments, or live with grown children to stay within their means.
It has been shown across cultures all over the world women want men who can garner the most resources. I don't believe you would forego a wealthier man if you had the chance because of some altruistic fear a man will like you less if you earn less. Men don't care how much women make. For most of human history, women made zero because they were the homemakers.
It's not all men's fault when SOME women make bad life choices and end up not being able to live The Lifestyle they feel entitled to live.
I’m in the same situation and 100% agree with you.
define marriageable men please? I'm 68, your story sounds like mine, grew up with 5 siblings, only four ever married, my 3 brothers had kids neither of my sisters did, I knew raising a family and being married was not something I wanted, women never had any interest in me, and after 5 dates I quit dating at 46, don't miss the hassle, turned down sex with 3 different women when I was younger, who does that? at 20 I got ulcerative colitis, it is a terrible chronic health issue, at 56 I had to retire due to colon cancer, many times I wondered if I could have managed a family/marriage with constant health issues -- I didn't think I could so I think I'm where I should be as a single person, a final note -- I'm Catholic and we are taught marriage is a vocation, a special calling from God, some of us won't get that call and it's okay, God had other work for me to do instead - I'm grateful to be retired, while it is lonely, this state won't last forever -- I hope when I pass my life meets God's approval, marriage and kids isn't for everyone, and more people need to see marriage as part of God's plan for their lives and not something you do casually -- treat it with the dignity and respect it deserves
Your vids are supremely rational, well though through, with useful info.
How is there no good men to marry but men to a have a baby with????😕 That makes NO SENSE!
I agree with all Suzanne has said. Even if here in southern Europe is not as bad as in the US I’m very worried that this destructive 3rd wave feminist and gender ideology will reap havoc also here sometime in the future
I wish this video offered more solutions to single mothers raising boys. Find male role models for your sons to ensure they know how to grow up to be men. You have to make the best of what you have. If the fathers dont want to be involved the moms have to find another way. In the end this video didnt offer solutions to the lack of marriageable men. There are also statistics on single mothers bringing men into their lives that are not the fathers of their children that cause more harm than good. Single Moms have to do a lot of vetting.
Women don't want marry or date tradesmen, a poll done showed that over 85% of women would sooner marry a someone who's a lawyer that makes 80k a year than say a electrician that makes 100k a year. I realize it's more about money, but you certainly want marry someone that you engage in similar topics and values, and philosophies.
One more thing that is forgotten about single mothers.. their daughters also have a high chance of becoming single mothers themselves due to no father figure and the daughters seeking a male role model. It's a vicious cycle.
I could not agree more. My father had no father and thus my brothers had a rather sketchy father and thus I would not recommend my brothers for marriage material until they took some serious education on how to be a husband,father and respectful partner in a relationship. My three sons will not be getting my blessings unless I too see that they can take on marriage and a family. That is where my responsibilites lie. Thank you thankyou.
Big thanks to you for speaking about and for men as well..
So glad you are speaking these truths.
Love your work. I’m a 61 year old black man. And I’ve been saying this for the last 50 years. Seems that the roosters had come home to your community and now is a problem. maybe you can save a few women that will listen, but most won’t and in 20 years this country will be finished. By the strong and independent matriarchy.🎙️
You're right, things have had a trajectory downward for so long, you cannot make a sinking ship float.
Yep.
Just as it is in the black community, the number that can be saved will be overshadowed by those who cannot or will not.
I am fed up with nonsense ideology from both the left and right. There is absolutely nothing about women being successful and thriving in so many areas that proves a threat to mankind. Not unless we truly believe the communist manifesto and think that finances are a pie we must divide, rather than life being a world open to infinite pies. Men and women are not on a balancing scale where if one is up, the other goes down. Men don't spontaneously mutate to develop brain atrophy in proportion to the number of degrees women have. That's Marxism right there. The right is just as guilty of it. One thing that people of any side do is send their kids to public schools, to a place where people are segregated from reality for 12 years and think that answers on standardized tests being them success. It's one huge demoralizing lie. That one factor erases any generational continuity or proper sense of agency...and yet it's the one thing that literally almost everyone wants to hold on to.
People need to heed this warning
Great Video 🔥🔥🔥
Great video Suzanne. You made so many great points about the value of men in a society. These kind of statements are not said, out loud, enough, especially from women to women. Please look up the term, passport bros....this movement started because men do not feel valued and respected in the U.S. by the women. Men will simply leave a bad situation and go find one that works for them and for the men who can't travel, they will simply withdraw from the dating/mating market. I think most men want a family or husband and wife (not a partnership) relationship but are refusing to settle for a bad deal. We should return as close as possible to traditional families, this templet has worked for many years. Again, great video!!!!
That's why I left America.
This is why I encourage my sons (whom I’ve raised to be traditional) to look outside of America and other western countries for wives.
Thank you so much for your videos. They are so helpful. Its like a beacon of light in an abyss of darkness. There are so many lies out there.
Thanks for doing this - can you please speak about Single Moms by Choice movement.
Suzanne, I think this is one of your best !!
Wohoo 🎉 another episode
Suzanne, you are so right on it hurts. Husbandless women raising fatherless children -- quite the difficult circle. Your conclusion that family orientation and gender training and understanding must be on the curriculum from second grade on. Who will champion the movement? The single mothers will (and must) because they understand how crucial it is for future generations.
I always enjoy your channel. I don't believe that this can be fixed in a few years. Its a generational time line. or longer.
U doing Gods work Suzanne. I am sick of red pill stuff but grateful they started conversation. Liberal experiment failed. We need a return to basics. Family first
Hello Susan, thank you for sharing the truth. By the way, it is great to have video too.
Thank you for saying it Suzanne! Thank you for saying it 🎉🎉🎉
It's good to have youtube.
Unfortunately the other side of the coin is that kids can see the crazy stuff the opposite gender gets up to, and that just adds to the dissatisfaction for marriage.
Single motherhood isnt just a United States issue. Its happening all over the world.
S*xual liberation liberated (the top 5% of) men from commitment. Women choose to lay down with high status men and make children for them without asking anything for it. It's a s*xual strategy enabled by safe enough environment. It has a high cost to the children. They get good genes but bad parenting.
@@edheldude"High status" as in Chad and Tyrone.
lots of celebs role model single motherhood ie. Sheryl Crow -- she has two teen boys she is raising, sorry boys needs a man around -- 40% of all kids today are being born out of wedlock, who knows how they will turn out?
There have been many studies to show statistically boys without fathers turn out worse ON AVERAGE. Two young men are being raised by a wealthy, celebrity single mother. Her status gives them a better chance than most because of the opportunities she can provide for education, activities, and other great male role models the vast majority of single mothers cannot provide for their sons.
@@pace1195 you have it wrong, a woman can't be a man, ask Steve Harvey -- I was the oldest of four boys, my father was tough, and we needed it at that time, how can a woman over 60 possibly relate to two teenage boys of today? she lived in a different world growing up, their world is vastly different from what she knew as a teen , doesn't matter how much money or status a celebrity mom has, she cannot teach what she doesn't know, kids live what they learn
@@michaelsix9684 I agree with you. My point is a wealthy celebrity can give her children opportunities to learn from successful men even if not their father. She can put them in higher quality schools so they can learn under better quality teachers. She can fund any activities they may want to be involved in to learn from other knowledgeable experts.
A coach can be a father figure. A teacher can be a father figure. A colleague or acquaintance of hers can be a father figure.
The only thing which may hold them back is learning her life philosophy. In that case, they may become worse than average.
@@pace1195yes other men can mentor boys, but there is no replacement for them having a dad in their lives on a daily basis, you only get one chance to raise your kid, a celeb of all people should know you can't teach what you don't know
@@michaelsix9684 I totally agree with you there is no replacement for fatherhood. That doesn't mean there aren't single parent households with children who must get by learning to become adults through extended family members, coaches, teachers, or other mentors.
Celebs are people too. I think many of them believe they do know more because they played a character on screen once. Celebs are validated constantly because of their skills to pretend to be someone else. I think that makes them more likely to believe in their own magnificence when it comes to teaching what they believe they know even if they are unaware of any ignorance.
It’s also marriageable men that want to marry them. Many women can find boyfriends with jobs but they won’t marry or have kids with them
Do the jobs pay enough to support a family?
Yes, because the women aren't worthy of that kind of commitment.
@@edheldude 🙄
@@tehamill1Yes? You can see it in action. Women don't clearly offer to men what men want from women. Women expect men to fulfill their traditional role but don't offer anything in return. Men act rationally.
Why should men keep playing Russian roulette?
My man wasn't "marriable" (and let's face it neither was I) but when got married God worked in our hearts and, one step at a time, is turning us both into the perfect gift for one another ❤ God believes in marriage. You just have to believe in God (and trust Him). 🙏 😊
(Harold's wife)
Facts for us all.. Amein ❤️
Amen!
my late parents were married 51 yrs., they met on a blind date in 1951, and got married 2 years later, they raised 6 kids, both worked, and today I don't this would happen
It takes work and more than prayer. My marriage has struggles from almost day one. No room for selfishness and no room for spiritual or educational or professional growth. It's all one sided. I made a mistake.
so true, no marriage is perfect, it takes time to grow into a solid loving couple, so many people give up and quit too soon
back in 1980 a woman in CA started group Single Mothers by Choice, this has been a long term trend -- having a child alone is narcissistic, dangerous for a child -- divorce laws have made it risky for men to marry
11:52 Get your health under control! A man had anger issues the couple was on the brink of divorce the therapist suggested to doc to a specialist. Turns out the man had toxic kidneys and over some months he cleaned out his kidneys and as I last knew the couple said they were the happiest they had ever been.
That's interesting. Even taking certain medications affect people's moods.
This lady is a genius!!!!!!!!!!!
As a woman I don’t even want kids enough to be a single mother. My mum was basically a married single mother who did everything. Worked full time and did all the housework. No thanks 😅Men just want kinds to prove their masculinity but don’t actually want to do the work
There is only ONE reason for a man to get married. That is to have a secure, long term nest, to raise his own genetic children in, to success. All else can be had cheaper, elsewhere.
Something's got to give. People complain that too many women aren't having children. If I was going to have children I wanted a traditional nuclear family. I wanted to be married before having children. I never had children because I never met anyone to marry. That's why the trad wife propaganda is fan fiction. I'm happy for those that have the opportunity for a traditional family but many women will never get that chance.
role of men to be protector, provider for the family has been removed, now men are ignored
I could not agree more and I am a single adoptive mom! I am not sure I really thought I didn’t need a man, but two kids in my life were in fostercare and they needed a home. Since adopting my son and daughter, God truly showed me gender roles. I wish I could be a stay at home mom! I wish I could have babies and raise my kids with a Godly man. I am 37 and never married. I am not sure where you find them, so if you know someone send them my way! 😂
40% of all kids born today are born out of wedlock, 75% of all divorces are filed by women, men don't want to end marriage, it's too hard to find a good spouse, but divorce makes marriage very risky for men
if you think housing prices are bad, it will only get worse because so many people are separated and you now need two houses per family, not just one. sheeple never think or learn.
Consumerism at it's finest. Humanity is screwed.
As a property owner and stock holder in Black Rock, I guess I’m betting on things between the sexes getting worse.
If all these people are single, you can have same sex roommates to save on rent or mortgage costs. People may just live together into adulthood with a friend or college roommate if they can't get into a relationship with another person. A two bedroom house with two roommates takes the same amount of housing as a married couple with a child, pet bed, or home office in the second bedroom.
@@pace1195 Exactly! That is one reason rent is exploding, many people have roommates, and still struggle to afford things.
@@pace1195 i read pet bed and realized i'm dealing with a moron
Women also need to understand the high income earners, that are tall, and non obese and non married are not very common. Its not common for a man to make $100,000 a year, is over 6 feet tall, and is not obese or married
I knew all of this back in 93.
Where is Suzanne based out of? My mother is from Michigan and I have a positive regard for the Midwestern culture and states.... She speaks the truth and I'm not a conventional person in any way.... The damage however can be healed, through gratitude affirmations, emir, fasting, dropping emotional reactions, affirmations etc........
Suzanne, have you seen Richard Reeves’ work, “Of Boys and Men”? If you haven’t, please give it a go. It’s more than just social conditioning against men. (I also don’t agree with all of Richard’s inferences and opinions but his data is on point.)
Also as other have pointed out let’s not ignore the lack of marriageable women: promiscuous, arrogant women are not attractive to many men.
I’m certainly what one might consider “marriageable” at least in terms of what you were referring to ie a stable earner. Yet there is no way I would ever consider marrying. For one thing I have never aspired to parenthood. But the real reason is the horribly one-sided divorce laws. All in all it is a rotten deal for men, and I want no part of it
Wow misogyny much. No body wants to become a single mother, it's just the cards that are dealt to them.
A good book for raising boys is "Raising Boys" by Steve Bidulph. I've raised our 15 year old son by following this book. I can recommend it as it teaches how to raise boys to become men and not soy boys.
celebs who role model single motherhood ie. Sheryl Crow, Laura Ingraham, etc. doesn't help either - surrogate motherhood is also in play
A feiend of mine decided to be a single parent. Her son gets to spend a lot of time with his grandfather and uncle, but I am waiting for the moment when he hits adolescence and begins to rebel against her and lash out in anger as he has no stable father in his life. She doesn't see it coming, but I do.
it takes a man to raise a boy, women just don't get this
then she needs to get tough; and hopefully she is tough
kids need a healthy level of fear of their parents
a child should never ever ever think to intimidate or harm their mother
"Lack of marriageable" men ugh please 🙄 anything to avoid addressing the warped family legal system. What a surprise 🙄
Hi I would if you were able to create a list of book recommendations. Doesn’t have to be on parenting but just on non woke topics. I would love some recommendations xxx
Society isn't prioritising the need for women to stop acting like spoiled children when it comes to family matters, and where the government will "condition" men for her needs and feelings. If the Government thinks they can control her natural hypergamy, we'll all be in for great re-awakening.
Unfortunately the long term plan is to break apart the family structure, so that the children can be "re-wired."
Women acting like spoiled children? Um...and the men? Good grief.
I cant imagine willfully being a single mother! I guess thats what desperation looks like.
Society is being made up of unconscience male aggressive women and vulnerable boys are seriously suffering. There has been a male antagonistic rind over my entire life and nobody even noticed because i was only around dysfunctional women. I love chicks i am quite the romantic, but i am also strong, smart and disagreeable and i was hated for it.
Have things progressed beyond the point where society can self correct?
I hear you, but I do have to say my own actual experience of what I have gone through and quite a few of my friends (mid 30s) is that the majority of the husbands cheat, are abusive, or neglectful. I have multiple friends going through divorces currently (including me) because their husbands are not good people. I had no clue my husband would have multiple affairs, pull a gun on me, or “border line rape me” as my counselor has described it. Men do seem to not be able to handle marriage or raising a family. I don’t think I’ve seen ONE healthy marriage in my age group, ever. And yes I am heavily involved in my church and my daughter’s Christian private school.
As I read your message, you didn't take any accountability in choosing the wrong man to get married to. You choose him, so you take responsibility for your choice.
You mentioned " men seem not to be able handle marriage or family" What men are you talking about? The man you choose. Don't speak about all men because majority of men stay in marriages and take care of their family. 90% of divorces are filed by women, so women can't handle relationship or a married. Immediately it get tough, they filed for divorce and take half of everything, take the child and ask for child support.
Learn to take accountability, stop blaming men for your choices.
@@davidmambu7936I was going to say the same thing! My husband and the husbands we know in church are amazing. Faithful, strong, gentle, and loving. I dont associate with men or women who hate marriage or who lack accountability. Birds of a feather flock together.
I would reevaluate who you associate with and look in the mirror because you are picking those people to fellowship with.
No, it is definitely not the majority of men or husband's that are as you describe.
That describes the men you chose to associate with and the common events that seem to plague you and your friends are because you all have the same traits. There's probably a reason why you're friends. Birds of a feather flock together.
I have the exact opposite experience and coming from an abuse background with an absent father.
For whatever reason, you all are choosing bad men. Don't demonize all men because your picker; and the pickers of the women around you, are broken.
This is how you sound but in reverse:
My wife stopped having sex with me, cheated on me, divorced me, and took half my money and the kids. I did everything I was supposed to do! I’ve been victimized by XXX. Same thing happened to a guy at work…all women are evil!
What do you think about the man making this statement? That’s what we think about you.
It isn’t the majority of men. I know so many amazing men. And although I, myself, and my children were severely abused by my ex husband (strangulation) I know that he was the minority.
However, I can’t get onboard with this idea that a woman “chose” a bad partner. If you know anything about true narcissism (mine was diagnosed) then you know it’s not something that actually shows any red flags initially. They seem do healthy and loving and don’t rip off the mask of who they are until you’re married and pregnant.
So no, women didn’t choose a bad partner, they chose a good partner in most cases who then turned out to be an abusive narcissist who kept that under wraps until the woman was hooked and “stuck” with him.
We need to stop acting as if victims of domestic violence had any say in their abuse.