If I understand you, this is what you´re saying? 1.Be a woman of value-respect yourself 2.Support and be interested in his goals and desires3.State from get-go what you want-marriage etc.4.Avoid closing doors through negative,vendictive or angry behaviors 5.Stay positive and think the best of him and his intentions toward you...ultimately he wants you to be happy.
Nope did that! Doesn;t matter what the woman does, if he doesn't want to marry you, there's nothing we as women can do. You can't make or entice a person to do something they don't want to no matter how you act or treat him
i think Chazz is speaking truth. may not apply to all situations but I prefer a male perspective vs a female perspective. Ladies if you have questions about men who better to give advice than men. ijs
I disagree with the vindictive part. Sometimes a man will doing something extremely disrespectful, that it warrants a reaction from the woman. For instance, I did a lot of things for my ec, bought him gifts, sex him really good, sent his mother flowers when she was sick in the hospital, bought him tickets to the NBA game, supported him with his business (which he continues to procrastinate and wont open it) and after all of this, he still don't appreciate me. He didn't buy me anything for my birthday or Xmas but he expects me to be there. I finally snapped and cussed him out. I said a lot of hurtful things, but I don't regret it because he deserved it. He treats me bad when I treat him good and I got fed up. It is what it is. I have no regrets for telling him exactly how I feel
curvychic1 Yep, I recently called a guy everything but a child of God because of the shit he did. I *thought* he was marriage material, but boy was I wrong. I wouldn't even date his ass again, much less marry him.
It's the same with women. You have to make it worth our while. What it took to get us, it takes that after the marriage as well. Both have to work at it and put their best foot forward. It's not a one-way street.
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When he told me he wanted to be engaged and married by next year, (4-5 months), which he said in Sept. 2017! I said okay, lets work toward it and do it the right way, starting with separation, counseling, and celibacy! Cool!
Some family members don't give the best advice. My husband's parents are very supportive and never judge our marriage vs my family on my side always wants to say something negative about our role as parents or say something about my husband and my husband has stood up for me 8 solid years. So you cannot always take family advice.
don't care for marriage it's all about what works for you! I raised my 3 son's as a single mom and blessed to have done that on my own! Happy being not married I don't have to answers to nobody and I support me and my family! I can't miss what I don't have! I do date and enjoy life!
Emma Rivas i agree with you. Im a single mom, too. Im raising my kids now. My husband passed away 2 yrs ago. It's ok to be single anyway. Being a single parent makes us more confident and independent. In this world no one is deserving unless we are doing the right way for ourselves
missball404 men benefit more from marriage? I totally disagree. Do your research. Men don't marry as much or have kids as much nowadays because the benefits of marriage and kids fall more in the woman's favor
I believed in their dream I tried to interact in their business I got the hot and cold treatment the Mind Games the manipulation selfishness and even when I stood for myself to protect myself against his family and nonsense I was the person that was causing all the drama when it was just his family with the drama and they put up with his nonsense and etcetera so now I'm on the road to recovery of healing I'm blessed by the best my God Jesus Christ
number 5 is key...some guys might actually still want to be with the girl after they break up...or may end up marrying them....but the girls that get vindictive just prove to the guy that he made the right choice in not popping the question!
Donisha Thomas What? Aren't vindictive women the exact opposite of good women (or at least definitely not good as far as that man is concerned)? That would be like me saying that if a woman breaks up with a dude, and he starts sabotaging you at your job, then that doesn't mean the woman was right to cut him off. Instead, that means the woman just didn't know a good man. I imagine that genuinely good people don't get vindictive and undercut their exes.
SAM INTERESTED There are guys out there who legitimately enjoy women kicking them in the nuts. There are guys who enjoy watching their wives get banged by another dude (particularly by black dudes). Just because you found an exception to the rule doesn't mean they're anything other than that. An exception.
+SAM INTERESTED You said your dude came back to you after you "tried to ruin his fucking life". And just like dude's who are cuckolds and masocists, he was an exception to how the average dude normally reacts. Just because he didn't mind doesn't mean most other dudes won't.
+SAM INTERESTED If it was actually true that everyone in the world was completely different and that certain groups of people don't act and think alike, then sciences like psychology and sociology wouldn't exist. Sure, there always exceptions to the rules. Not all wolves run in packs. Not all germs are bad for your health. But just because there are always people who don't follow the rules doesn't mean the rules should be ignored, like what you're saying. I guarantee you that if you were to pick two random guys off the street, they'd probably have more in common with each other than they'd have differences.
SAM INTERESTED Exactly. And when it comes to relationships, many guys want similar things for certain reasons. There are certain traits that men generally like in women, that can be seen in literally every culture on earth. For example, all men across the world value "beauty" in women first and foremost, even if they have different ideas of what beauty is. That means that even as individuals, men have more that unifies them with other men, other than simply having a penis. Same with women. I'm pretty sure there are a number of things you've seen women think and do that you either rarely or almost never see men do. That should be a sign that men have some form of thinking or behavior-pattern that most men share to a degree. Being an individual doesn't mean being nothing like the next person.
Chazz- some men you can't help but treat them the way they treat you after a while. It's draining to "put forth effort" when the other person clearly isn't. Also....I actually would prefer a man that is not ran by the opinions of his family members. I like men who can think for themselves.
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Once you r in a relationship he thinks everything going great dump his behind. .he won't know what hit him and will be trying to get you back but make it hard for him to get you back and when you get back with him he will never ever let you go because he will never ever want to feel those emotions of rejection again not knowing that it was difficult for you to do this but had to in order for Jhim to appreciate you to the fullest and if he didn't pursue you after dumping him he never ever would had considered you marriage material to begin with so in a sense saving yourself a lot of valuable time wasted on someone who will never marry you
I died laughing when chazz backed up in the chair,"saying " I want to get married after six years later " !! He was about to fall out the chair . Lmaoo chazz a fool !!
Chazz I'm from Jamaica, and I have been listening watching your videos and I thank GOD for you. You have inspired , changed and uplifted my state of mine about relationships and right now I'm happy were I am today. Please keep doing what you doing. God bless I'm always watching. My first time commenting.
I wanted him to marry me but I don't want to scare him away. Guys are afraid of commitments, now I have to pretend that I don't want too so I won't look desperate.
+nicole saporta This video was made for women who are looking for marriage and need advice. So why does it matter that there exist women who don't want to be married?
SAM INTERESTED Your peers may have more experience than you with how people act in certain situations. And they can tell you some of the things to watch out for that you would've never known otherwise without firsthand experience. I once had my Dad tell me that a relationship I was in was already over, and I just didn't know it yet. 2 weeks later, I found out my ex was cheating on me. And he told me, based on how he noticed her acting and certain ways she'd phrase things to me, that he already knew where it was going. And I blew him off, because I figured there was no possible way he knew her better than I did. Which was true. However, he knows people in general way better than I do so he didn't have to know in order to know what she was going to do.
SAM INTERESTED No it's not different. All "experience" means is that after going through the fire, now you know what to look for. And when you know what to look for, you don't need a whole mountain of information. For example, people who are bad influences hang out with like-minded people. So if there's a group of 9 people who gang bang, I don't have to meet the 10th in person to simply assume that they gang bang to. Sure, there's a good chance the 10th person could just be friend who hangs out. But that's usually not the case 90% of the time. If a person wants a relationship, then no matter who they are, there are usually certain things they do and think. So even without meeting every guy in the world, you can zero in on very specific actions to know how likely it is that a specific person is serious or just running game.
SAM INTERESTED People do it all the time. Have you ever been talking to a random black person, and casually mentioned something about Rap or R&B? Most people in America don't like Rap. But most black people do. So it comes as a common assumption that any black person you meet listens to rap. I'm not talking about anything completely alien here. We always make assumptions based on generalizations, especially when those generalizations are usually true. I assume you're a black woman. Would I be wrong to say that you like at least some Rap and R&B music, have ever eaten soul food in your life, and you've ever wore a weave or wig before? None of those things have anything to do with being black or a woman, but I'm willing to bet that even if all these may not ring true for you, they're true for 90% of all other black women.
wow, I've only seen a couple videos from you and I subscribed on the second one I saw! you keep me watching the entire time! your opinions and mind set is just amazing! I've learned so much! thank you!!! Wow
Girl lol.. my current guy in a LDR still speaks about marrying me and being with me forever and I know I’m crazy asf.. I’m trying not to be that way though 🙂🤦🏽♀️
Yes, I met a great guy a few months after he was divorced. We shouldn’t have messed around but fortunately it worked out. After a year of a fantastic “situationship” and him meeting someone else b/c he thought I was moving out of state, we are now in a committed monogamous relationship and it’s a billion times better being together!
This video makes me so glad I am one of the few women who has never been that interested in marriage. I am excited that I won't have to struggle to get some reluctant guy to the altar. Still, good information to have. I really appreciate all the information about supporting their dreams though. I just wish guys understood that they also need to support their woman's dreams the same way. I see a lot of females support guys in reaching their dreams, but a lot of times it seems to be part of the female helping to 'fix' the guy so that she can marry him later.
Belloran24 Totally agree 100%!! Some of us have so much going on in our lives that we couldn't imagine having the type of time it would take to follow someone else's rules lol I say live your life to the fullest, make every minute and every moment count and if you find a partner willing to compliment your life goals and plans, then good for you.. but for the rest of those who don't find that partner then focus your attention on yourself, your plans, dreams and YOUR passions in life and live life TO THE FULLEST EVERY DAY LADIES!! It'll pay off in the end.. I promise!! :-) much love and respect to everyone
I like your delivery. You make listening to you so fun. I just started a long distance relationship 1 month ago and he already talking about marriage and saying "we". Your advice has been working (for reals)
yes you have the point it's better to tell the guy what kind of relationship you want or what your interested in so atlis if you both know what you want on each other so its easy to understand.
You are definitely speaking the truth. Can't dispute these simple and very effective tips. I was very interested in to hear what you had to say, glad I listened. I have applied these simple tips and they definitely work. Just don't he fake about it. Thanks again
I agree. Get intertwined in what they do. My fiancee wants to twitch for a living. Meaning stream videos of him playing games and get paid to do it. So even though I don't know much about streaming he teaches me some. You need 20,000 subscribers to get paid through twitch so what do I do I get involved behind the scenes and I post links to his twitch channel on you tube and put a link to his twitch channel on google plus. Also when he achieves something positive towards his goal I tell him how proud I am and give him praise. I think guys like to hear that and love the woman to do that stuff for them.
Laura Heidorn lol my man does twitch too and plays video games. He doesn't really have that many followers plus one day he wants to get paid to do it. What i do is ask about the games he's playing and to explain it to me and he gets all passionate about it
Vindictive people are unbalanced and irrational are to be left alone. I am cool with exes we dont do the relationship disrespect either. Friends just because you did not work romantic wise doesnt mean I hate them...ending relationships with respect is grown.
Thank you Chaz heartily for your wonderful, thought-out, honest, and down-to-earth videos of yours. You don't hold back important info, and you say things like they are without really offending anyone, like some other speakers might. I love you and your videos. Please keep up the great job, and God bless you :)
Believing in a man's dream/being supportive of him is not a problem for me. However, men have been not so supportive of my dream and have been intimidated 🤔
The first option is horrible advice!! Why would you ever advise someone to be with their "second choice", especially if the relationship could end in marriage? If two people are willing to commit to marriage, which is supposed to last a life time, then why be with someone you're just not that into? People need to go with option 2, put in the time and effort, or else they don't deserve real love. Would you marry someone who considered you a "second choice"?
This guy is a sell out,he don't make sense..You're right Jennifer,i agree with you..why settle for second best..this guy advice education is second choice..hahaha..I'm seeing somone right now and she first class,the best.
1st of all a relationship doesn't "end in marriage" that sounds dumb. Marriage is when the relationship BEGINS. It's the beginning of your life together being as ONE & I think you took what he was saying out of context. Try listening again.
Lol, chazz you are so funny, " you could pick somebody that ain't really what you want" so funny yet there's truth in that statement. Your videos are a great resource. Please keep making them, will donate something one of these days..lol...for real.....
I’m with a man who’s family I’ve been around a lot. His uncle is always boasting me wondering why he won’t just marry me. I cook, clean, iron and love well. He has withheld sex, I hurt my back the other day and have been flat on my back with the worst pain ever. He checked on me a few times today, came home and dropped off some food left and he never came back. I had to crawl to the restroom. I’ve never been vindictive towards him but at my weakest he disappears. To an ungrateful and no good man this advise won’t work on.
So true. I had a misunderstanding with my ex's family, and that side iced me during the whole period. My ex did nothing to correct it, even though it wasn't entirely my fault.
what do u do when we talking about marriage, been together 5 years, talking about moving in, but he has a business and always saying he has to get this business thing together first, then another business thing,i am tired of waiting , I did all this ...he never said well idk if I want to go married but yet I feel strung along.so right now we kinda not talking for over a week , I miss him but I cant keep waiting. what u suggest.. ty papi
Chazz or somebody please help!!! My single friend thinks that it is okay to show a man that she just met online or met while she was out dressed up and with makeup on her uncle face. Okay she calls herself auntie when she is dressed up, hair done and makeup on. Uncle is her without her wig, no makeup on with less than perfect skin. I'm telling her that she has to hold off on showing the uncle face until they get to know her better and they are a little more invested. She thinks that it doesn't matter but I think it does. Please chime in.
yes, maybe....it depends on how long you've been together.after two years,the honeymoon stage,you both should havean idea on if marriage is a possibly in your future.talking about it sooner may be too soon.if he keeps saying..."let's just live in the present" after that he doesn't want to get married.there's really no viable reason why he can't bc it won't really change much in his(or your) life anyway.you two r already practically married anyway.if you really want to get married four years is max,after that you should probably considered dating again,and finding a "marriage minded" man,imho.
i have told him in the get go that i would love to marry him someday and gave him 2 years but 5 years later and on top of it he moves in his slob daughter and still doesn't want to get married. so i packed up. his house is empty because i bought bunch of stuff into the relationship.
I have a slight issue with the “Make yourself and asset” piece. Just to clarify, before you make yourself an asset to a male, he has to not be a PROJECT, but a PRODUCT of his own ambition, personal work, etc. Making yourself an asset to a MALE is not the same as making yourself an asset to a MAN. If not applied carefully, this is the very type of advice that keeps many women loyal to the wrong men.
Well, I have most of the points you mentioned on my favor. The only problem is we started dating being teenagers, and yeah, he proposed, but at the moment he was sooo into parties, alcohol and drugs that it would've been too silly to say yes. Anyways, we never REALLY broke up, we split a couple times and we started seeing other people, we never cheated each other, but we cheated on them together. It was like: "this isn't cheating, this is us". The last time this happened he proposed again, but I had moved in with this amazing guy by the time, I ended it with both of them right away, I realized I still loved him but anyways I chosed to remaine single once again. A year later he got married with a party girl he used to hook up when we were not together because she was pregnant with his child. His family adviced him not to, but even when she was like this second option you mentioned since I rejected him again and she loved her enough to marry her, he did. Plus, she was waiting the bb he craved. I was the one in the pedestal, loved by him, his family and friends (last week his mom told me how much she wished it was me instead of her, but I was too afraid back then to say yes since I didn't know if he really was done with his party life). It turned out he was, and he became an amazing father and husband (something he asked me billions of times). We remained friends, and after a couple years his wife cheated on him. I felt really sorry for him, but after a few months I took it like a chance to give it a REAL (and hopefully last) shot. We're dating now: our new begining, we say. The only problem is he is still legally married to her, the little girl lives with her and sometimes she doesn't aloud him to see her. It brakes my heart seeing him so sad when that happens. There's other bb on the way he is not even sure is his, so we're waiting the bb is born to get DNA tests. We want to have our own children too, later of course, but right now things are tough since his ex hates my guts and my mother is going to lose her mind when she knows about all this. He is a great guy and he loves me, so she likes him, but just like a friend of mine! So I guess I will have to make my mind and accept that my mom won't talk to me in a long time. I'm ok with that, I just want to make it work between us, now that we are both old and healthy enough. Any advice to handle this crazy situation and make things work, considering the children well being as main priority? THANK YOU.
Should we women let the man know about the timetable/cutoff point??....ex: If we dont get married by 6yrs Im leaving...but he doesnt know that 6 yrs is the cutoff.
I told him that I wanted to get married early on. I did that part right. He said he couldn't promise me marriage. He said he does want to get married cos his parents got divorced. He says marriage as a bad thing. What can I do to get him to see that marriage is a good thing. I don't really want to walk away. I do all the right things when it comes to mentioning marriage but nothing has changed.
If I understand you, this is what you´re saying?
1.Be a woman of value-respect yourself 2.Support and be interested in his goals and desires3.State from get-go what you want-marriage etc.4.Avoid closing doors through negative,vendictive or angry behaviors 5.Stay positive and think the best of him and his intentions toward you...ultimately he wants you to be happy.
Monica Schmidt so well put!!♡
Monica Schmidt Yes! Because I Was Kinda Second Guessing What He Was Saying Lol You Made It So Clear! 💕👏🏽
Nope did that! Doesn;t matter what the woman does, if he doesn't want to marry you, there's nothing we as women can do. You can't make or entice a person to do something they don't want to no matter how you act or treat him
@@Petlex67 Lol damn had to be one Debbie Downer 🤦
@@MrsBryant1024 Lol. So sorry but had to share my experience. On the bright side, I got myself a new guy. Just keep trying I guess.
i think Chazz is speaking truth. may not apply to all situations but I prefer a male perspective vs a female perspective. Ladies if you have questions about men who better to give advice than men. ijs
I agree. He offers a logical, rational and refreshing perspective. NOT the same old cook, clean and screw advice!
Totally agree!
I disagree with the vindictive part. Sometimes a man will doing something extremely disrespectful, that it warrants a reaction from the woman. For instance, I did a lot of things for my ec, bought him gifts, sex him really good, sent his mother flowers when she was sick in the hospital, bought him tickets to the NBA game, supported him with his business (which he continues to procrastinate and wont open it) and after all of this, he still don't appreciate me. He didn't buy me anything for my birthday or Xmas but he expects me to be there. I finally snapped and cussed him out. I said a lot of hurtful things, but I don't regret it because he deserved it. He treats me bad when I treat him good and I got fed up. It is what it is. I have no regrets for telling him exactly how I feel
Your man was a piece of shit.
tutu milz I agree that's why I dumped him. I hope he regrets it one day.
curvychic1 Yep, I recently called a guy everything but a child of God because of the shit he did. I *thought* he was marriage material, but boy was I wrong. I wouldn't even date his ass again, much less marry him.
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leave shit lol dam
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It's the same with women. You have to make it worth our while. What it took to get us, it takes that after the marriage as well. Both have to work at it and put their best foot forward. It's not a one-way street.
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Second choice bought me a Saks fifth avenue dress, first choice bought me a $5.00 chocolate tin...I think your point is valid lol
Christina Cha Who did you end up going with? :)
None second choice insulted my clothes and made me feel like if I gain weight he will dump me
A man that wants to be with you, will do everything and anything to be with you amd make you happy.
hilarious! lol
i am married 20 years, and you are absolutely correct
You are so smart!! I am taking notes my brotha. When the man God has prepared for me is ready, I will be ready too :)
"I'd like to get married to YO ASS" im lmao
When he told me he wanted to be engaged and married by next year, (4-5 months), which he said in Sept. 2017! I said okay, lets work toward it and do it the right way, starting with separation, counseling, and celibacy! Cool!
Some family members don't give the best advice. My husband's parents are very supportive and never judge our marriage vs my family on my side always wants to say something negative about our role as parents or say something about my husband and my husband has stood up for me 8 solid years. So you cannot always take family advice.
unconditional love and commitment will answer all you questions about love and marriage.
Laura Petrilli Does that include a cheating ass that may give you some STD?
That unfortunately takes two
Orianna see part 2: commitment 🙃 if they didn’t provide it that’s a wrap. Also not really love if they made the decision to cheat.
don't care for marriage it's all about what works for you! I raised my 3 son's as a single mom and blessed to have done that on my own! Happy being not married I don't have to answers to nobody and I support me and my family! I can't miss what I don't have! I do date and enjoy life!
Emma Rivas it aint all its cracked up to be!!! enjoy your life definitely
Emma Rivas men benefit more from marriage then woman do
luvuback you're right actually
Emma Rivas i agree with you. Im a single mom, too. Im raising my kids now. My husband passed away 2 yrs ago. It's ok to be single anyway. Being a single parent makes us more confident and independent. In this world no one is deserving unless we are doing the right way for ourselves
missball404 men benefit more from marriage? I totally disagree. Do your research. Men don't marry as much or have kids as much nowadays because the benefits of marriage and kids fall more in the woman's favor
Honest & open communication is key knowing where you stand in relationship
I believed in their dream I tried to interact in their business I got the hot and cold treatment the Mind Games the manipulation selfishness and even when I stood for myself to protect myself against his family and nonsense I was the person that was causing all the drama when it was just his family with the drama and they put up with his nonsense and etcetera so now I'm on the road to recovery of healing I'm blessed by the best my God Jesus Christ
number 5 is key...some guys might actually still want to be with the girl after they break up...or may end up marrying them....but the girls that get vindictive just prove to the guy that he made the right choice in not popping the question!
Donisha Thomas What? Aren't vindictive women the exact opposite of good women (or at least definitely not good as far as that man is concerned)? That would be like me saying that if a woman breaks up with a dude, and he starts sabotaging you at your job, then that doesn't mean the woman was right to cut him off. Instead, that means the woman just didn't know a good man.
I imagine that genuinely good people don't get vindictive and undercut their exes.
SAM INTERESTED There are guys out there who legitimately enjoy women kicking them in the nuts. There are guys who enjoy watching their wives get banged by another dude (particularly by black dudes).
Just because you found an exception to the rule doesn't mean they're anything other than that. An exception.
+SAM INTERESTED You said your dude came back to you after you "tried to ruin his fucking life". And just like dude's who are cuckolds and masocists, he was an exception to how the average dude normally reacts. Just because he didn't mind doesn't mean most other dudes won't.
+SAM INTERESTED If it was actually true that everyone in the world was completely different and that certain groups of people don't act and think alike, then sciences like psychology and sociology wouldn't exist.
Sure, there always exceptions to the rules. Not all wolves run in packs. Not all germs are bad for your health. But just because there are always people who don't follow the rules doesn't mean the rules should be ignored, like what you're saying. I guarantee you that if you were to pick two random guys off the street, they'd probably have more in common with each other than they'd have differences.
SAM INTERESTED Exactly. And when it comes to relationships, many guys want similar things for certain reasons. There are certain traits that men generally like in women, that can be seen in literally every culture on earth. For example, all men across the world value "beauty" in women first and foremost, even if they have different ideas of what beauty is. That means that even as individuals, men have more that unifies them with other men, other than simply having a penis.
Same with women. I'm pretty sure there are a number of things you've seen women think and do that you either rarely or almost never see men do. That should be a sign that men have some form of thinking or behavior-pattern that most men share to a degree.
Being an individual doesn't mean being nothing like the next person.
Want him to marry you? Don't put out until after the wedding.
Doris White Good luck finding a guy who will stick around with you for that long. Especially if you've slept with other dudes before him.
AJweathersby right she will be single forever thinking like that. I wish a man would not give me none till marriage lol.
*To love is nothing. To be loved is something. But to love and be loved, that's everything* 🥰
"Ima have those lavendar flowers in my sh*t" LOOOOL!!!
these videos have opened my eyes to see through all the Bullshit thank you for all the honesty
just be happy if you get married God bless you and if not be happy enjoy your life! you only have one life live it up,!
Chazz- some men you can't help but treat them the way they treat you after a while. It's draining to "put forth effort" when the other person clearly isn't. Also....I actually would prefer a man that is not ran by the opinions of his family members. I like men who can think for themselves.
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EXACTLY i had 2 momas boys one i divorced and if this Valentine's isnt good im done!!!
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sounds like women are supposed to revolve their life around a "second best" person? wow men really are from another planet lol
Once you r in a relationship he thinks everything going great dump his behind. .he won't know what hit him and will be trying to get you back but make it hard for him to get you back and when you get back with him he will never ever let you go because he will never ever want to feel those emotions of rejection again not knowing that it was difficult for you to do this but had to in order for Jhim to appreciate you to the fullest and if he didn't pursue you after dumping him he never ever would had considered you marriage material to begin with so in a sense saving yourself a lot of valuable time wasted on someone who will never marry you
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I laughed so hard! You have great advice, but ultimately you're a comedian. Enjoyed!
2nd choice make some of the best mates!! you are right.
"i don't like the way she talk to you."...LMAO Yep Chazz you right bout all that...lol
Your advice is spot-on. As a woman waiting for her man to take that step, I found this very valuable. Thanks!
I love this man. Marry me lol
I died laughing when chazz backed up in the chair,"saying " I want to get married after six years later " !! He was about to fall out the chair . Lmaoo chazz a fool !!
Got married! Lost allllll the weight! Ditched the dude! He got fat! My bad!!!!!
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Chazz I'm from Jamaica, and I have been listening watching your videos and I thank GOD for you. You have inspired , changed and uplifted my state of mine about relationships and right now I'm happy were I am today. Please keep doing what you doing. God bless I'm always watching. My first time commenting.
this is so informative....and hilarious at the same time. Great advice.
If someone sees you as an OPTION and not a PRIORITY? You know what to do. Enough said.
The one that loves more in a relation ship is the one that has all the control in the relationship.
I wanted him to marry me but I don't want to scare him away. Guys are afraid of commitments, now I have to pretend that I don't want too so I won't look desperate.
Not all women looking for marriage...Either.
+nicole saporta This video was made for women who are looking for marriage and need advice. So why does it matter that there exist women who don't want to be married?
SAM INTERESTED Your peers may have more experience than you with how people act in certain situations. And they can tell you some of the things to watch out for that you would've never known otherwise without firsthand experience.
I once had my Dad tell me that a relationship I was in was already over, and I just didn't know it yet. 2 weeks later, I found out my ex was cheating on me. And he told me, based on how he noticed her acting and certain ways she'd phrase things to me, that he already knew where it was going. And I blew him off, because I figured there was no possible way he knew her better than I did. Which was true. However, he knows people in general way better than I do so he didn't have to know in order to know what she was going to do.
SAM INTERESTED No it's not different. All "experience" means is that after going through the fire, now you know what to look for. And when you know what to look for, you don't need a whole mountain of information. For example, people who are bad influences hang out with like-minded people. So if there's a group of 9 people who gang bang, I don't have to meet the 10th in person to simply assume that they gang bang to. Sure, there's a good chance the 10th person could just be friend who hangs out. But that's usually not the case 90% of the time.
If a person wants a relationship, then no matter who they are, there are usually certain things they do and think. So even without meeting every guy in the world, you can zero in on very specific actions to know how likely it is that a specific person is serious or just running game.
SAM INTERESTED People do it all the time. Have you ever been talking to a random black person, and casually mentioned something about Rap or R&B? Most people in America don't like Rap. But most black people do. So it comes as a common assumption that any black person you meet listens to rap. I'm not talking about anything completely alien here. We always make assumptions based on generalizations, especially when those generalizations are usually true.
I assume you're a black woman. Would I be wrong to say that you like at least some Rap and R&B music, have ever eaten soul food in your life, and you've ever wore a weave or wig before? None of those things have anything to do with being black or a woman, but I'm willing to bet that even if all these may not ring true for you, they're true for 90% of all other black women.
+nicole saporta most are.
“Second choice” seems harsh but basically someone that isn’t your usual type
I've been married and am not that bothered about it. I just want him to love me.
A lot of men must hate you for leaking these juicy secrets LMAO ;)
Gosh your laugh is contagious lol
wow, I've only seen a couple videos from you and I subscribed on the second one I saw! you keep me watching the entire time! your opinions and mind set is just amazing! I've learned so much! thank you!!! Wow
I love your attitude, also this was a very helpful video thanks 🔥
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Did all of this and was vindictive! but when they love u they just love u #putARingOnIt
Michele G but is he loyal Chris brown voice sike no
Girl lol.. my current guy in a LDR still speaks about marrying me and being with me forever and I know I’m crazy asf.. I’m trying not to be that way though 🙂🤦🏽♀️
U give me hope sus
Yes, I met a great guy a few months after he was divorced. We shouldn’t have messed around but fortunately it worked out. After a year of a fantastic “situationship” and him meeting someone else b/c he thought I was moving out of state, we are now in a committed monogamous relationship and it’s a billion times better being together!
This video makes me so glad I am one of the few women who has never been that interested in marriage. I am excited that I won't have to struggle to get some reluctant guy to the altar. Still, good information to have. I really appreciate all the information about supporting their dreams though. I just wish guys understood that they also need to support their woman's dreams the same way. I see a lot of females support guys in reaching their dreams, but a lot of times it seems to be part of the female helping to 'fix' the guy so that she can marry him later.
Belloran24 Totally agree 100%!! Some of us have so much going on in our lives that we couldn't imagine having the type of time it would take to follow someone else's rules lol I say live your life to the fullest, make every minute and every moment count and if you find a partner willing to compliment your life goals and plans, then good for you.. but for the rest of those who don't find that partner then focus your attention on yourself, your plans, dreams and YOUR passions in life and live life TO THE FULLEST EVERY DAY LADIES!! It'll pay off in the end.. I promise!! :-) much love and respect to everyone
you look like you are having so much fun, its contagious , delivering your truth with comedy... enjoyable & authentic.
You are sooo real. This video is one the best I have heard by a man.
I like your delivery. You make listening to you so fun. I just started a long distance relationship 1 month ago and he already talking about marriage and saying "we". Your advice has been working (for reals)
yes you have the point it's better to tell the guy what kind of relationship you want or what your interested in so atlis if you both know what you want on each other so its easy to understand.
I love this guy! Blunt and funny in his delivery.
You are definitely speaking the truth. Can't dispute these simple and very effective tips. I was very interested in to hear what you had to say, glad I listened. I have applied these simple tips and they definitely work. Just don't he fake about it. Thanks again
Lol great points and great video. The faces you're making omg too funny. Love your valuable videos.🌟🌟🌟
Your personality is amazing so funny tell a man you wonna get married.
Been watching you for years your one of the first guy on utube with good relationship advice your so funny 😂😂😂
yo you a funny dude ha ha " I told you not to smoke that Crack,😨😂😂😂 ha ha
I agree. Get intertwined in what they do. My fiancee wants to twitch for a living. Meaning stream videos of him playing games and get paid to do it. So even though I don't know much about streaming he teaches me some. You need 20,000 subscribers to get paid through twitch so what do I do I get involved behind the scenes and I post links to his twitch channel on you tube and put a link to his twitch channel on google plus. Also when he achieves something positive towards his goal I tell him how proud I am and give him praise. I think guys like to hear that and love the woman to do that stuff for them.
Laura Heidorn lol my man does twitch too and plays video games. He doesn't really have that many followers plus one day he wants to get paid to do it. What i do is ask about the games he's playing and to explain it to me and he gets all passionate about it
Vindictive people are unbalanced and irrational are to be left alone. I am cool with exes we dont do the relationship disrespect either. Friends just because you did not work romantic wise doesnt mean I hate them...ending relationships with respect is grown.
Chaz speaks truth weather you wanna hear it or not.
Thank you Chaz heartily for your wonderful, thought-out, honest, and down-to-earth videos of yours. You don't hold back important info, and you say things like they are without really offending anyone, like some other speakers might. I love you and your videos. Please keep up the great job, and God bless you :)
Believing in a man's dream/being supportive of him is not a problem for me. However, men have been not so supportive of my dream and have been intimidated 🤔
Desiree Taylor they are boys get a man !
Most men think of themselves first, it’s a social conditioning.
Like not even being funny. Every guy I date falls in love with me after six months and I never feel the same. Is something wrong with that?
I love when you laugh into the camera when something is funny. You are hilarious! Thank for all you do
The first option is horrible advice!! Why would you ever advise someone to be with their "second choice", especially if the relationship could end in marriage? If two people are willing to commit to marriage, which is supposed to last a life time, then why be with someone you're just not that into? People need to go with option 2, put in the time and effort, or else they don't deserve real love. Would you marry someone who considered you a "second choice"?
This guy is a sell out,he don't make sense..You're right Jennifer,i agree with you..why settle for second best..this guy advice education is second choice..hahaha..I'm seeing somone right now and she first class,the best.
Jennifer Larsen Sometimes first choice is not always the best choice. We also learn from the first choice and do better with the second
1st of all a relationship doesn't "end in marriage" that sounds dumb. Marriage is when the relationship BEGINS. It's the beginning of your life together being as ONE & I think you took what he was saying out of context. Try listening again.
I Lmao'ed at what you said Chaz at 7:03-7:09. Lol!
Lol, chazz you are so funny, " you could pick somebody that ain't really what you want" so funny yet there's truth in that statement. Your videos are a great resource. Please keep making them, will donate something one of these days..lol...for real.....
I just died laughing to this video "YO AZZ"
I’m with a man who’s family I’ve been around a lot. His uncle is always boasting me wondering why he won’t just marry me. I cook, clean, iron and love well. He has withheld sex, I hurt my back the other day and have been flat on my back with the worst pain ever. He checked on me a few times today, came home and dropped off some food left and he never came back. I had to crawl to the restroom. I’ve never been vindictive towards him but at my weakest he disappears. To an ungrateful and no good man this advise won’t work on.
She Wins true
So true. I had a misunderstanding with my ex's family, and that side iced me during the whole period. My ex did nothing to correct it, even though it wasn't entirely my fault.
Dang Chazz let me plug my ears, I'm part of that women's movement you like making impressions about 😂😂. Hahaha nice video, good points
I like it, true! I use to be the one who didn't want to get married but my mind change. I just never thought about marriage late bloomer in this area.
these videos make me laugh so much, brilliant and awesome 😀
The second choice thing is true....
Chaz your my first choice so I choose you boo! With your fine self!!!
It had been so fun to see this video!, I will see the others for sure, you have an interesting point of view, thank you for sharing it!
And damn you should never get fam all up in your biz
Chazz YOU ARE HILARIOUS!!!!!!!! I appreciate your coaching :)
what do u do when we talking about marriage, been together 5 years, talking about moving in, but he has a business and always saying he has to get this business thing together first, then another business thing,i am tired of waiting , I did all this ...he never said well idk if I want to go married but yet I feel strung along.so right now we kinda not talking for over a week , I miss him but I cant keep waiting. what u suggest.. ty papi
Chazz or somebody please help!!! My single friend thinks that it is okay to show a man that she just met online or met while she was out dressed up and with makeup on her uncle face. Okay she calls herself auntie when she is dressed up, hair done and makeup on. Uncle is her without her wig, no makeup on with less than perfect skin. I'm telling her that she has to hold off on showing the uncle face until they get to know her better and they are a little more invested. She thinks that it doesn't matter but I think it does. Please chime in.
How do I get him to want to be my boyfriend? Mind you we're already getting to know each other
You are so right!!! Get involved in their day to day lives!!!
His family and friends love me but his best friend said I can't talk to him about he's messing up when he's my friend. What about that?
Thanks so much for this, Chazz Ellis. Love your videos!
Just found your channel.. Lovee your delivery and all tips were great! lol
You make me smile, the stuff you say is so real.
what if someone doesn't like to talk about future and only think about present, does it means he/she doesn't want to marry you?
yes, maybe....it depends on how long you've been together.after two years,the honeymoon stage,you both should havean idea on if marriage is a possibly in your future.talking about it sooner may be too soon.if he keeps saying..."let's just live in the present" after that he doesn't want to get married.there's really no viable reason why he can't bc it won't really change much in his(or your) life anyway.you two r already practically married anyway.if you really want to get married four years is max,after that you should probably considered dating again,and finding a "marriage minded" man,imho.
i have told him in the get go that i would love to marry him someday and gave him 2 years but 5 years later and on top of it he moves in his slob daughter and still doesn't want to get married. so i packed up. his house is empty because i bought bunch of stuff into the relationship.
its Me I pretty sure he’s sees your post saying he’s slob daughter be the bigger person and show unconditional love to he’s daughter like he does
lol, love this! Insightful thoughts and information yet still funny and engaging like all the other videos 👌✔💯😆
I like your hair
I have a slight issue with the “Make yourself and asset” piece. Just to clarify, before you make yourself an asset to a male, he has to not be a PROJECT, but a PRODUCT of his own ambition, personal work, etc. Making yourself an asset to a MALE is not the same as making yourself an asset to a MAN. If not applied carefully, this is the very type of advice that keeps many women loyal to the wrong men.
Well, I have most of the points you mentioned on my favor. The only problem is we started dating being teenagers, and yeah, he proposed, but at the moment he was sooo into parties, alcohol and drugs that it would've been too silly to say yes. Anyways, we never REALLY broke up, we split a couple times and we started seeing other people, we never cheated each other, but we cheated on them together. It was like: "this isn't cheating, this is us". The last time this happened he proposed again, but I had moved in with this amazing guy by the time, I ended it with both of them right away, I realized I still loved him but anyways I chosed to remaine single once again. A year later he got married with a party girl he used to hook up when we were not together because she was pregnant with his child. His family adviced him not to, but even when she was like this second option you mentioned since I rejected him again and she loved her enough to marry her, he did. Plus, she was waiting the bb he craved. I was the one in the pedestal, loved by him, his family and friends (last week his mom told me how much she wished it was me instead of her, but I was too afraid back then to say yes since I didn't know if he really was done with his party life). It turned out he was, and he became an amazing father and husband (something he asked me billions of times). We remained friends, and after a couple years his wife cheated on him. I felt really sorry for him, but after a few months I took it like a chance to give it a REAL (and hopefully last) shot. We're dating now: our new begining, we say. The only problem is he is still legally married to her, the little girl lives with her and sometimes she doesn't aloud him to see her. It brakes my heart seeing him so sad when that happens. There's other bb on the way he is not even sure is his, so we're waiting the bb is born to get DNA tests. We want to have our own children too, later of course, but right now things are tough since his ex hates my guts and my mother is going to lose her mind when she knows about all this. He is a great guy and he loves me, so she likes him, but just like a friend of mine! So I guess I will have to make my mind and accept that my mom won't talk to me in a long time. I'm ok with that, I just want to make it work between us, now that we are both old and healthy enough. Any advice to handle this crazy situation and make things work, considering the children well being as main priority? THANK YOU.
Thanks for the advice, especially the last part.
Do you want to get married?
i love the imations ( i cant figure out how to spell this)u did lol u so funny .
I literally never planned my wedding ever in my head, I planned my wedding one week prior lol.
That had me Rollin with laughter,but it was the truth.well said.
Should we women let the man know about the timetable/cutoff point??....ex: If we dont get married by 6yrs Im leaving...but he doesnt know that 6 yrs is the cutoff.
I told him that I wanted to get married early on. I did that part right. He said he couldn't promise me marriage. He said he does want to get married cos his parents got divorced. He says marriage as a bad thing. What can I do to get him to see that marriage is a good thing. I don't really want to walk away. I do all the right things when it comes to mentioning marriage but nothing has changed.
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There are guys who do think about their weddings. My son-in-law is one and he's perfect for my daughter.