Wow!! This was a right on word for me. I have my older daughter living with me & has been the last 5 1/2 years & it was to only be a year. Watching this, I have learned that I have to set the boundaries for her otherwise she will not grow. I need to let go & let God be her mediator, not me. Thank God for this word & these beautiful women.
@@ShyquannaGordon I just gave my daughter a curfew that starts tonight that she needs to be in the house at 10 & I want her car keys. I told her that it's not a punishment, it's a boundary. She understands & is in agreement. I am praising God because this is a step in the right direction.
THIS RIGHT HERE...... I WAS THE RESCUER, AND FIGHTER FOR MY FAMILY TOO, I ALSO WAS THE FIXER AFTER I MET MY HUSBAND JOHN THINGS BEGAN TO CHANGE, I HAVE LEARNED HOW TO SET UP HEALTHY BOUNDARIES WITH TOXIC FAMILY MEMBERS. I AM HATED AND TOLD I AM BEING RELIGIOUS OR WHATEVER THEY MAY SAY BUT I AM CALLED TO MY HUSBAND, AND MY CHILDREN FIRST. GOD HAS BEEN TEACHING ME BOUNDARIES, WHERE IN MY CHILDHOOD I NEVER SEEN NOR WAS BOUNDARIES MODELED FOR MY SIBLINGS AND MYSELF. I NEEDED THIS
I have to be learning the hard way to do this because I have been going like Energizer bunny, thinking I can fix and save everything and everyone but I have learned the hard way to learn to set boundaries if I want to live a whole and healthy life
This is exactly what I'm going through... feeling guilty by not rescuing everyone...💔 Learn to pray for someone. God does his best works when we are broken. I need to set healthy boundaries.
Just what I needed to learn. My dad is a narcissist and my mom has been conditioned to this treatment even when there’s solution, she doesn’t want to change new ways. I felt bad for her and kept trying to build her up in God but to no avail. She only hears and doesn’t act on it. Today I stopped! I will not be guilty for the choice that she makes consciously every single day.
Thankyou for these talks they are so filled with wisdom, I'm from a non Christian family who's really affected my life for so long, and what your talking about is untalked about at church, bless you ladies 😊
I have had to put boundaries on people. You only take what you allow! There has to be healthy, Godly boundaries in any healthy relationship. Restoration requires repentance. This can take time and the time for restoration varies with each child of God and situation. The Bible says guard your heart.
Jesus, hear my prayers. I want to quit but I’m holding on to my faith. As a single parent things are hard on me both of my sons are special needs and require so much from me. I’m constantly struggling to provide the basic necessities for them I’m so ashamed. God hear my prayers. Every month I constantly struggle to pay my bills and struggle to provide groceries for my children Im so ashamed. BUT I KEEP FAITH. Even though I want to give up. Amen!
Thank you ladies for your transparency. I’m just like Lisa was and I needed to hear this because I definitely enable my mom and excuse her behavior. This just help me understand what I need to do. God bless you all. 🙏🏾❤️
I love this!!!! Train my children. love my husband. Got it. This is the second time I'm hearing it. First from Pastor Mildred. Love it! Secondly, the message on forgiveness and restoration is WOW!
🔥🔥🔥 My Family Is Torn Apart, There Are Some Who Wish To Reconcile, But Some Want Nothing To Ever do With Each Other Again, Yet It is All From Very Small Misunderstandings..Jesus Have Mercy, 🙏 My Prayer That We All Can Love❤ Each Other Again As Christ Loves❤ Us Unconditionally.. Thank You For This Message And Prayers By Cece.
I Most Definitely need this because sometimes you teeter between a false peace vs needing to have an in depth conversation because we absolutely need the Holy Spirit and His Gift of Discernment.
This is one of the most honest and vulnerable videos I’ve seen. So beautiful. Thank you. We’re all doing our best and with the grace of our God it’ll all work together for good. ❤️
God bless each and every one of the women on this video. I’ve learned something and received clarity concerning situations from each of you. God bless you all and God bless this ministry.
Thanks, I am blessed by this message. It has given me peace over one family relationship that was making me feel like I am a bad person. It got me to a point where I had to leave everything to God.
Please do more on this topic. I've had to set firm boundaries with a family member due to unstable behavior. It's really challenging bc they'll act fine in public and for periods of time but then have this random unkind, manic behavior with family. There's never an apology or acknowledgement of the bad behavior. It's really tough bc kids are affected and we've set a boundary not to be at family gatherings with this individual.
This hit me SO HARD today..I’m struggling badly with my 78 year old Mom whom I have always been made responsible for since I was a baby. My Dad passed away three years ago and, since then, I and my Husband are the only two people she’ll allow to help her with anything. She refuses to drive, always has, won’t call a Dr for herself more often than not, won’t go anywhere with anyone else, has no friends and doesn’t want any and is extremely difficult to be around. Shes narcissistic and completely self absorbed. I cannot figure out how to have boundaries with her when she relies on me for everything. Grocery shopping, Dr appointments, picking up prescriptions, getting to church etc etc etc. and it causes a LOT of stress on myself, my Husband and our adult handicapped Son we are guardians of. Help…please
It may be a challenge right now. But if you and your husband would come together and pray to God for the answers and also to give you strength and wisdom on how to care for her. She is a widow and that is one of our charges as a believer. I encourage you to pray and don’t get weary. Find some kind of way to bring positivity in it day by day. I am so sorry you are having to deal with this but pray the will of the Lord and ask Holy Spirit to help you and to reveal what it is you need to know and do. Pray for her health and strength and also for you and your spouse! I hope this is encouraging.
Thank you for this I needed it , I currently don't have my daughter in my life she is 22 and took away my grandson, She has walked away from God, I am so broken but all I can do and accept that God will restore the relationship with her and I. I trust hes going to bring her back home. He knows her heart and she is his prodigal daughter.
Many times depression is caused by biological factors: vitamin & mineral deficiencies, thyroid hormone imbalances, sex hormone imbalances & brain chemical imbalances. Of course trauma & outside factors too.
Awe. Thanks for sharing sister Lisa. I know I needed to hear that as a form of confirmation. God bless. I pray your strength in the Lord in Jesus' name. AMEN. ❤❤❤❤
I had this in my family of origin, boundaries needed in order to survive abuse, mental illness and toxic family dynamics. Unfortunately I married into a different but still very toxic family dynamic. It has broken me so much and the whole concept of family just makes me cringe because I've never had a positive experience💔 so hard.
Thank you Lord I needed this wod today!!! I grew up in a very dysfunctional home never learned and saw boundaries. And over this past year the lord has been trying to teach me boundaries especially with toxic family members. I love my husband but his family As so much hatred towards me And just completely loves his ex girlfriend who he shares two of his children with. I have 2 children from previous marriage and we also share a precious child together also. And his ex and family have tried to start drama and cross our boundaries.. This has been very difficult For me especially over the years!! Hearing this today I felt like i'm not alone that I want to show love even when I am totally talked maliciously to and disrespected!! But I. Also learned today that godly boundaries are so necessary And not everyone will like them but So necessary!!! I definitely felt encouraged to day.But I just asked that your ladies will.Please pray for my family The god will continuously show me the boundaries that needs to be in place with the toxic family members That our union will be respected But also God to show us us how to love them even when they hurt us.. Thank you all and god bless
Unsafe is not limited to the physical. Abuse to your soul in form of little stings, demeaning speech, micro aggressions etc. . . is not okay. And as Christians we need to learn to protect ourselves from that as well. Most of us wait till we are fully burned out.
My porch light is always on" that was good and it's key when there is a lot of pain and suffering generations and generations and no caring or considering someone else pain is cold hearted and as Christians I always expected so much more but then I had to ask myself am I asking too much?
Mrs. Havilah, does the Christian counselor you mentioned in the beginning do remote consultations or sessions? I am also a preacher's kid and I would like her help, please (I live in Ohio)
What if u dont love your mum. She tries to support some things but also puts me down ALOT! we are total opposites she is a miserable Mandy and me i will try all options before i give up yet she gives up before she even starts. I told her about abuse from an ex she said im talking text book. I told her i wanted to get my power back, she said i was talking shit and laughed. I told her want to be happy in life and she called me selfish because i didnt memtion my child despite my child being my world. I try to cut her off but shes got her own relationship with my child. But i dont love her at all. It hurts be aus eim an only child, dont have much family around me and rhe one person whom i love truly, her mother has dementia, so i feel that motherly love i havent experienced and i didnt have one from my non present father too.
I would have a heart to heart with God concerning your situation. Everything you said here, I would say it to Him. When he reveals the answers to you be patient with yourself because healing is a process.
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My take away is sometimes there is not restoration. God knows best, and if He doesn't restore, then its best. Amen..
Wow!! This was a right on word for me. I have my older daughter living with me & has been the last 5 1/2 years & it was to only be a year. Watching this, I have learned that I have to set the boundaries for her otherwise she will not grow. I need to let go & let God be her mediator, not me. Thank God for this word & these beautiful women.
Thank you for sharing your personal takeaways!
I’m in the same place with my daughter and I’ve been overthinking this is Christ like .. but God keeps sending messages like this to me ..
@@ShyquannaGordon I just gave my daughter a curfew that starts tonight that she needs to be in the house at 10 & I want her car keys. I told her that it's not a punishment, it's a boundary. She understands & is in agreement. I am praising God because this is a step in the right direction.
THIS RIGHT HERE...... I WAS THE RESCUER, AND FIGHTER FOR MY FAMILY TOO, I ALSO WAS THE FIXER AFTER I MET MY HUSBAND JOHN THINGS BEGAN TO CHANGE, I HAVE LEARNED HOW TO SET UP HEALTHY BOUNDARIES WITH TOXIC FAMILY MEMBERS. I AM HATED AND TOLD I AM BEING RELIGIOUS OR WHATEVER THEY MAY SAY BUT I AM CALLED TO MY HUSBAND, AND MY CHILDREN FIRST. GOD HAS BEEN TEACHING ME BOUNDARIES, WHERE IN MY CHILDHOOD I NEVER SEEN NOR WAS BOUNDARIES MODELED FOR MY SIBLINGS AND MYSELF. I NEEDED THIS
I have to be learning the hard way to do this because I have been going like Energizer bunny, thinking I can fix and save everything and everyone but I have learned the hard way to learn to set boundaries if I want to live a whole and healthy life
That was a word a word a word! "I was trying to train my husband and serve my kids" Thank you🙏🏾
We agree! We absolutely loved the wisdom in that statement!
@@BetterTogetherTV Indeed!
This is exactly what I'm going through... feeling guilty by not rescuing everyone...💔 Learn to pray for someone. God does his best works when we are broken. I need to set healthy boundaries.
Just what I needed to learn. My dad is a narcissist and my mom has been conditioned to this treatment even when there’s solution, she doesn’t want to change new ways. I felt bad for her and kept trying to build her up in God but to no avail. She only hears and doesn’t act on it. Today I stopped! I will not be guilty for the choice that she makes consciously every single day.
Thankyou for these talks they are so filled with wisdom, I'm from a non Christian family who's really affected my life for so long, and what your talking about is untalked about at church, bless you ladies 😊
I have had to put boundaries on people. You only take what you allow! There has to be healthy, Godly boundaries in any healthy relationship. Restoration requires repentance. This can take time and the time for restoration varies with each child of God and situation. The Bible says guard your heart.
Jesus, hear my prayers. I want to quit but I’m holding on to my faith. As a single parent things are hard on me both of my sons are special needs and require so much from me. I’m constantly struggling to provide the basic necessities for them I’m so ashamed. God hear my prayers. Every month I constantly struggle to pay my bills and struggle to provide groceries for my children Im so ashamed. BUT I KEEP FAITH. Even though I want to give up. Amen!
Be encouraged and continue to lean on Jesus. There's no need to be ashamed. God doesn't shame you.
Dear sister, keep the faith. God will supply all your needs according to His riches in glory. Amen
You’re so brave! Continue to have faith and God with guide you! ❤
Hey you gotta this,may the Holy spirit direct you in the situation
I see this comment often on other channels.
Ladies, this is so good, wise and full of so much grace. Thank you.
Thank you ladies for your wisdom and prayer at the end for families. Blessings 💛
God is good! Thank you, ladies, for this platform 🎉
AMEN to kindly truth-telling the toxic person; describing for them what healthy behaviour looks like. Thank you, Ladies, for the much needed topic!❤
Thank you ladies for your transparency. I’m just like Lisa was and I needed to hear this because I definitely enable my mom and excuse her behavior. This just help me understand what I need to do. God bless you all. 🙏🏾❤️
Lisa Bevere is the truth!
I love this!!!! Train my children. love my husband. Got it. This is the second time I'm hearing it. First from Pastor Mildred. Love it! Secondly, the message on forgiveness and restoration is WOW!
Lisa Bevere - I totally understand the dynamic you described. Thank you
Blessings to everyone thank you for being real and sharing your stories. Thank you for your wisdom and nuggets. Thank you for your advice.
Personal stories are very encouraging to others. Thank you for your kind words!
I agree with you, this was very helpful. 💞
By far the best episode ever!!
Thank you!
🔥🔥🔥 My Family Is Torn Apart, There Are Some Who Wish To Reconcile, But Some Want Nothing To Ever do With Each Other Again, Yet It is All From Very Small Misunderstandings..Jesus Have Mercy, 🙏 My Prayer That We All Can Love❤ Each Other Again As Christ Loves❤ Us Unconditionally.. Thank You For This Message And Prayers By Cece.
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Me and you both🥺🥺
I Most Definitely need this because sometimes you teeter between a false peace vs needing to have an in depth conversation because we absolutely need the Holy Spirit and His Gift of Discernment.
Thank you for your insight!
This is one of the most honest and vulnerable videos I’ve seen. So beautiful. Thank you. We’re all doing our best and with the grace of our God it’ll all work together for good. ❤️
God bless each and every one of the women on this video. I’ve learned something and received clarity concerning situations from each of you. God bless you all and God bless this ministry.
May God bless you too! We are so happy you received words of wisdom from this conversation!
Amen God will fill in the gaps I cannot do thank you Jesus ❤❤
Amen, yes He will!
So glad to have Ms Taylor Madu on this set❤
We are too!
Loved this💞. Thank you ladies, for being real, it was a blessing. God bless you all.
Such a beautiful episode 🥹🥹
We are very happy that you enjoyed this episode!
God bless all of you together with your families ❤
Thank you for your kind words!
Thanks, I am blessed by this message. It has given me peace over one family relationship that was making me feel like I am a bad person. It got me to a point where I had to leave everything to God.
Luv luv luv Lisa Bevere!
We love her too!
I really needed to hear this
We are so glad you came upon this episode!
Please part 2 o ... thank you for the part 1
Please do more on this topic. I've had to set firm boundaries with a family member due to unstable behavior. It's really challenging bc they'll act fine in public and for periods of time but then have this random unkind, manic behavior with family. There's never an apology or acknowledgement of the bad behavior. It's really tough bc kids are affected and we've set a boundary not to be at family gatherings with this individual.
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We love her too!
Really Needed to hear this….Honouring and being Responsible for your family/ parents
Thank you for shairng this. Definitely needed to hear this today. God bless you all ❤
This hit me SO HARD today..I’m struggling badly with my 78 year old Mom whom I have always been made responsible for since I was a baby. My Dad passed away three years ago and, since then, I and my Husband are the only two people she’ll allow to help her with anything. She refuses to drive, always has, won’t call a Dr for herself more often than not, won’t go anywhere with anyone else, has no friends and doesn’t want any and is extremely difficult to be around. Shes narcissistic and completely self absorbed. I cannot figure out how to have boundaries with her when she relies on me for everything. Grocery shopping, Dr appointments, picking up prescriptions, getting to church etc etc etc. and it causes a LOT of stress on myself, my Husband and our adult handicapped Son we are guardians of. Help…please
It may be a challenge right now. But if you and your husband would come together and pray to God for the answers and also to give you strength and wisdom on how to care for her. She is a widow and that is one of our charges as a believer. I encourage you to pray and don’t get weary. Find some kind of way to bring positivity in it day by day. I am so sorry you are having to deal with this but pray the will of the Lord and ask Holy Spirit to help you and to reveal what it is you need to know and do. Pray for her health and strength and also for you and your spouse! I hope this is encouraging.
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I'm really sorry I know how awful this can be
@@JKnSK Thank you!
@@gingerlee4116 Thank you for the encouragement 🙏🏻
Sooooo good and important
Great talk ❤
Thank you for your kind words!
Agreed I know this will bless me
God bless you!
I absolutely love this!!
So good! 🔥
Thank you for this I needed it , I currently don't have my daughter in my life she is 22 and took away my grandson, She has walked away from God, I am so broken but all I can do and accept that God will restore the relationship with her and I. I trust hes going to bring her back home. He knows her heart and she is his prodigal daughter.
Bless you am in the same situation without a grandchild.
Amen 🙏🏽 🙌🏽🕊️✨ I really needed this 😭😔🤧
Great message
This!! Thank God for this message
Many times depression is caused by biological factors: vitamin & mineral deficiencies, thyroid hormone imbalances, sex hormone imbalances & brain chemical imbalances. Of course trauma & outside factors too.
Thank you for your comment!
This was so good
Awe. Thanks for sharing sister Lisa. I know I needed to hear that as a form of confirmation. God bless. I pray your strength in the Lord in Jesus' name. AMEN. ❤❤❤❤
Amen 🙏🏾.
I had this in my family of origin, boundaries needed in order to survive abuse, mental illness and toxic family dynamics. Unfortunately I married into a different but still very toxic family dynamic. It has broken me so much and the whole concept of family just makes me cringe because I've never had a positive experience💔 so hard.
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Training a child is so challenging.
Boundaries are so important
Love people from a distance
Place them at the altar
AMEN. EXACTLY.
Thank you Lord I needed this wod today!!! I grew up in a very dysfunctional home never learned and saw boundaries. And over this past year the lord has been trying to teach me boundaries especially with toxic family members. I love my husband but his family As so much hatred towards me And just completely loves his ex girlfriend who he shares two of his children with. I have 2 children from previous marriage and we also share a precious child together also. And his ex and family have tried to start drama and cross our boundaries.. This has been very difficult For me especially over the years!! Hearing this today I felt like i'm not alone that I want to show love even when I am totally talked maliciously to and disrespected!! But I.
Also learned today that godly boundaries are so necessary And not everyone will like them but So necessary!!! I definitely felt encouraged to day.But I just asked that your ladies will.Please pray for my family The god will continuously show me the boundaries that needs to be in place with the toxic family members That our union will be respected But also God to show us us how to love them even when they hurt us.. Thank you all and god bless
My head is fried 😢
Unsafe is not limited to the physical. Abuse to your soul in form of little stings, demeaning speech, micro aggressions etc. . . is not okay. And as Christians we need to learn to protect ourselves from that as well. Most of us wait till we are fully burned out.
My porch light is always on" that was good and it's key when there is a lot of pain and suffering generations and generations and no caring or considering someone else pain is cold hearted and as Christians I always expected so much more but then I had to ask myself am I asking too much?
Mrs. Havilah, does the Christian counselor you mentioned in the beginning do remote consultations or sessions? I am also a preacher's kid and I would like her help, please (I live in Ohio)
The devil will also use scriptures to try to keep you in bondage. 📌
Forginess doesnt mean you allow them access.. We not buddy buddy..FORGIVE LEAVE THEY AT THE ALTAR
What if u dont love your mum. She tries to support some things but also puts me down ALOT! we are total opposites she is a miserable Mandy and me i will try all options before i give up yet she gives up before she even starts. I told her about abuse from an ex she said im talking text book. I told her i wanted to get my power back, she said i was talking shit and laughed. I told her want to be happy in life and she called me selfish because i didnt memtion my child despite my child being my world. I try to cut her off but shes got her own relationship with my child. But i dont love her at all. It hurts be aus eim an only child, dont have much family around me and rhe one person whom i love truly, her mother has dementia, so i feel that motherly love i havent experienced and i didnt have one from my non present father too.
I would have a heart to heart with God concerning your situation. Everything you said here, I would say it to Him. When he reveals the answers to you be patient with yourself because healing is a process.
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What do you do when a family member is a molester or some other criminal ?
Never around unsafe people
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Turn them in. You need to think of others. They can hurt someone