first girl was quite dense or in denial, but it's weird that her friends refused to say anything when she clearly needed help seeing the madness and accepting her feelings toward him
The first girl was manipulated. I've seen it happen to so many super intelligent people when they fall in love with the wrong person, and refuse to listen to their loved ones perspectives. She's not stupid; she just been gaslit.
Right? Her friends should be upfront- on one hand your FRIEND deserves honesty, and on the other hand, then we'll see if it's denial or not. My friend brought her boyfriend to stay with us, and my gut was right when it came to not liking him. I'm upfront with her- he doesn't spend time with you, instead choosing his mostly(if not entirely) female friend group, he insists on calling you something you've expressed multiple times you dislike, and when something negative happens, whether it has to do with him or not, he takes it out on you by blocking and breaking up. HE DOESN'T LIKE YOU. Now it's on her whether she stays with him or not
@@vitisvinifera1590 no seriously like why did so many of them just...not say anything??? and then she ended up staying with a friend in the end, so clearly they were helpful in that way. i don't get it💀
1st story: i hope someone on reddit screenshotted that last chunk of her tale about the control examples and says "this is what your friends are seeing, and they are doing everything they can to alert you but not to cause drama to have him have you kick them out of your life and you end up isolated in a DV situation." which their method has apparently worked as OP is taking to reddit and can list the red flags, but for so unholy reason wasn't connecting the dots. update: yippee internet strangers gave her a reality check and saved her from herself.
1st story : Oh boy 😅 back in my college days I've seen so many girls destroying their futures over these kind of boys. They're still suffering from the consequences
0:05: All OP needed to do was to reread her post and see all the red flags her friends see. He saw her a possession that he needed to be in control of 24/7/365, not as a GF. Good thing OP is considering kicking this controlling, manipulative clown to the curb, and hopefully she has the courage to follow through with this. 6:30: OP's GF was willing to take a 12 hour round trip flight to visit a male friend (gee, I wonder what she would do with this male friend), and not be willing to drive one hour to visit him. That fact alone is reason enough to dump her, whether she's in his league or otherwise.
In the second story OP is probably the "I'll stay with him until I find someone better". From what she told her sister she's staying with him because he makes her happy, but doesn't want a future with him. So yeah, OP should break up with her
Story #1: Wait for a day when he's not at home and then *move ALL your things out* to another friend's place. UNfriend him and block him any way you can. IF he stalks or harasses you, get a court order to make him stop. But be on your guard after that too.
First story: Oh, girl, just wait. Before too long you will see, but by the time you see it will be too late. You are willfully blind to what is going on. You may not literally end up barefoot in the kitchen but figuratively speaking, that's exactly where you're headed. The conversation that you had in the update revealed the truth to you, finally. Second story: Now he knows that he is nothing to her but an emotional security blanket. She's obviously not interested in the so-called boyfriend but is keeping him around until she finds someone more to her liking. This is going to end badly for him so he should pre-emptively end it now.
Story 1 is a good reminder of what people in toxic or abusive situations don’t always see immediately or are willing to overlook because of the good moments making it seem like it isn’t actually that bad. I feel like lots of people need this reminder nowadays because I see so much “are you blind this is so obvious” bs nowadays like yeah of course it’s obvious when you have no prior emotional connection clouding your judgement!!
First story is kinda of confusing because why aren’t the friends telling her the reason to her? They said “you should leave him before things get worse” and proceed not to tell her the reason? I feel like if I was her friend, I would be straightforward because everyone needs a friend who will shake up your delusion fantasy. I would probably say “Do you want to hear my reason? If yes then do not hate me because I just want the best for you. I’m gonna be straightforward”. I know her friends probably want her to solve it herself or just didn’t want her to hate them but like if you were a real friend, you should definitely tell her the reason. If she is in denial then that’s on her because you did your part as a friend and that’s all that matters. Eventually she will understand. Sometimes people do need help in understanding. That these kind of behavior is not okay.
In the first story, why aren't the friends more direct?? Like, if I was in a relationship with a controlling abvsive person but couldn't see it bc of lovebombing and other manipulation, I'd like my friends to be direct with me, or bye bye to those friends too 👋
To be fair, depending on the desperation for a partner and level of delusion, a girl will fight and cut off friends for implying such things, even if they see the same things their friends do. But I'll fight my friend if it means I'm trying to help her, so couldn't be me
@vitisvinifera1590 that's fair. I'm just the type of person (also probably the neurodivergence of me lol) that hates indirectness. If there's an issue with anything, whether relationship or with me as a person, I want it laid out directly in front of me. Idk, it just rubbed me the wrong way that the only things the friends would say is "I can't explain why, but you'll see one day." That's just not helpful in an abvsive relationship imo
I've witnessed and experienced the loss of close friends and relatives due to the lack of confidence in themselves, and thus feel attacked, become defensive and cave into what they're s.o. has always meant for them to do. Which is to manipulate their vulnerability into "taking control" and digging a grave for themselves for their partner.
@@sinbeforegød I've witnessed and experienced similar, and have lost many friends whom were some of my best friends and their partners. I still would rather if I was in that scenario be told that my partner is a red flag and the reasons why, but maybe that's just me. My perspective is also that if that friend lashes out at you for trying to help them, and I don't care how manipulated they are, they are no longer your friend. I personally am in a very neurodivergent circle of friends, so we are all very blunt when we have issues with each other or someone they know. We like to be direct about concerns, because indirectness isn't going to get anything anywhere. This is just my personal perspective, and I can get your perspective, but personally I won't continue a friendship with people that are super indirect with me, because it feels dishonest in a way. Maybe that's just my own personal trauma getting in the way of that, but it's still a deal breaker for me, as it would be a deal breaker if a friend went off on me for being direct and decided to stick with the partner. I'd rather lose that type of person as a friend at that point, because even though they're manipulated, the person you knew is gone, absorbed by the abvsive significant other.
First story 'don't dress up, you're already mine' Giiiiiirl. 'He even threw out a few of my favorite outfits once, saying they...' Girl! Your property! 'He's even asked me to quit my job'. Get out. Get out, get out, get out! After the update. Oh great she's getting out. Hope she stays safe.
0:45 - There it is, right there! He's controlling about how she spends her time, doesn't like her to go out with her friends unless he's there (to monitor everything that is said?) calls and texts her constantly when she's out, so she can't just relaxe and enjoy herself. Then, he tries to isolate her from her friends, telling her "I just don't think they'ree good for you." and "They're jealous of what we have." THIS WILL ONLY GET WORSE! Her friends are right! RUN! 1:40 - He threw out several of her outfits??? HUGE red flag! Wanting her to quit her job (so he can have all control of the finances) ? Going through her phone??? These are so many red flags of an abuser, OP should dump this guy *NOW!* Thank God she seems to have awakened to the reality!
How are you doing sweetie? How are you feeling? I hope just wonderful!! In the very first story, her friends definitely are jealous of her boyfriend, but they do have a point because he shouldn't be getting upset just because she's not answering his calls or responding back to his texts immediately. Dump him right away because he is just way to controlling and he is trying his best to completely isolate her from all of her friends and possible family too. In the second story, the main protagonist should just leave her because the three years that he's spent with her have been nothing but a lie. She finally exposed her true feelings to her sister instead of just being straight up with her man. I love you!! Have a great day day!! Stay safe beautiful!!
story 1: My girl is in delululand. her bf is super controlling. he is controlling her about hanging out with her friends. he is controlling her about what she wears/makeup. he is trying to control her financially. he wants to isolate her & have her only depend on him. so she can't leave him bc if she has no friends & no money/job. she would be stuck in the relationship. So good & glad that she is trying to leave safely. story 2: she is extremely rude & cocky. she doesn't have her priorities straight. so yea break up.
OMGGG ur videos popped up on my algorithm after so long! i remember watching u when i was like 10/11 and i'm 18 now turning 19 ☹️☹️☹️ i'm so glad to see ur still making videos!!!
Story 1: good on op for realizing the red flags and is thinking about how to end the relationship. If your friends and family are telling you to leave a relationship, take it into consideration and pay attention to how your partner is treating you. And if you feel "you're walking on eggshells" around your partner, it's time to reflect and act accordingly. Story 2: she has plans on cheating with that male friend, it's suspicious.
1st Story: I've dated someone similar, and I'll tell you now they are beyond toxic. I'm happy OP realised and ended things. 2nd Story: Okay, what the hell? So she can travel 12+ hours for the male ''friend'', but not 1 hour for her boyfriend? Something is definitely going on there, and I'd be out if I were OP.
Hii Ellen I love the video and your outfit I hope that you and coco have had a wonderful day and that the both of yall stay healthy and safe also coco is adorable I love the both of yall💜💜💜
first girl was quite dense or in denial, but it's weird that her friends refused to say anything when she clearly needed help seeing the madness and accepting her feelings toward him
The first girl was manipulated. I've seen it happen to so many super intelligent people when they fall in love with the wrong person, and refuse to listen to their loved ones perspectives. She's not stupid; she just been gaslit.
Right? Her friends should be upfront- on one hand your FRIEND deserves honesty, and on the other hand, then we'll see if it's denial or not.
My friend brought her boyfriend to stay with us, and my gut was right when it came to not liking him. I'm upfront with her- he doesn't spend time with you, instead choosing his mostly(if not entirely) female friend group, he insists on calling you something you've expressed multiple times you dislike, and when something negative happens, whether it has to do with him or not, he takes it out on you by blocking and breaking up. HE DOESN'T LIKE YOU. Now it's on her whether she stays with him or not
@@vitisvinifera1590 no seriously like why did so many of them just...not say anything??? and then she ended up staying with a friend in the end, so clearly they were helpful in that way. i don't get it💀
Story 1: OP is in denial.
1st story: i hope someone on reddit screenshotted that last chunk of her tale about the control examples and says "this is what your friends are seeing, and they are doing everything they can to alert you but not to cause drama to have him have you kick them out of your life and you end up isolated in a DV situation." which their method has apparently worked as OP is taking to reddit and can list the red flags, but for so unholy reason wasn't connecting the dots. update: yippee internet strangers gave her a reality check and saved her from herself.
1st story : Oh boy 😅 back in my college days I've seen so many girls destroying their futures over these kind of boys. They're still suffering from the consequences
So glad that's not me anymore. 🥳
0:05: All OP needed to do was to reread her post and see all the red flags her friends see. He saw her a possession that he needed to be in control of 24/7/365, not as a GF. Good thing OP is considering kicking this controlling, manipulative clown to the curb, and hopefully she has the courage to follow through with this.
6:30: OP's GF was willing to take a 12 hour round trip flight to visit a male friend (gee, I wonder what she would do with this male friend), and not be willing to drive one hour to visit him. That fact alone is reason enough to dump her, whether she's in his league or otherwise.
In the second story OP is probably the "I'll stay with him until I find someone better". From what she told her sister she's staying with him because he makes her happy, but doesn't want a future with him. So yeah, OP should break up with her
First story:
Girl: idk why my friends don't like my bf
Also girl: *proceeds to write an essay about all the reasons why her friends don't like him*
Story #1: Wait for a day when he's not at home and then *move ALL your things out* to another friend's place. UNfriend him and block him any way you can. IF he stalks or harasses you, get a court order to make him stop. But be on your guard after that too.
First story: Oh, girl, just wait. Before too long you will see, but by the time you see it will be too late. You are willfully blind to what is going on. You may not literally end up barefoot in the kitchen but figuratively speaking, that's exactly where you're headed. The conversation that you had in the update revealed the truth to you, finally. Second story: Now he knows that he is nothing to her but an emotional security blanket. She's obviously not interested in the so-called boyfriend but is keeping him around until she finds someone more to her liking. This is going to end badly for him so he should pre-emptively end it now.
Story 2: OP is a safety net.
Glad that girl got out of it!
Story 1 is a good reminder of what people in toxic or abusive situations don’t always see immediately or are willing to overlook because of the good moments making it seem like it isn’t actually that bad. I feel like lots of people need this reminder nowadays because I see so much “are you blind this is so obvious” bs nowadays like yeah of course it’s obvious when you have no prior emotional connection clouding your judgement!!
First story is kinda of confusing because why aren’t the friends telling her the reason to her? They said “you should leave him before things get worse” and proceed not to tell her the reason?
I feel like if I was her friend, I would be straightforward because everyone needs a friend who will shake up your delusion fantasy.
I would probably say “Do you want to hear my reason? If yes then do not hate me because I just want the best for you. I’m gonna be straightforward”.
I know her friends probably want her to solve it herself or just didn’t want her to hate them but like if you were a real friend, you should definitely tell her the reason.
If she is in denial then that’s on her because you did your part as a friend and that’s all that matters.
Eventually she will understand.
Sometimes people do need help in understanding.
That these kind of behavior is not okay.
Sometimes, EVEN if you tell them, they will not believe you.
Or they'll confront their partner and tell them you told them that.
@ yes thats why I said “If she’s in denial then that’s on her because at least you did your part as a friend”.
In the first story, why aren't the friends more direct?? Like, if I was in a relationship with a controlling abvsive person but couldn't see it bc of lovebombing and other manipulation, I'd like my friends to be direct with me, or bye bye to those friends too 👋
To be fair, depending on the desperation for a partner and level of delusion, a girl will fight and cut off friends for implying such things, even if they see the same things their friends do. But I'll fight my friend if it means I'm trying to help her, so couldn't be me
@vitisvinifera1590 that's fair. I'm just the type of person (also probably the neurodivergence of me lol) that hates indirectness. If there's an issue with anything, whether relationship or with me as a person, I want it laid out directly in front of me. Idk, it just rubbed me the wrong way that the only things the friends would say is "I can't explain why, but you'll see one day." That's just not helpful in an abvsive relationship imo
@kenniengland exactly.
I've witnessed and experienced the loss of close friends and relatives due to the lack of confidence in themselves, and thus feel attacked, become defensive and cave into what they're s.o. has always meant for them to do. Which is to manipulate their vulnerability into "taking control" and digging a grave for themselves for their partner.
@@sinbeforegød I've witnessed and experienced similar, and have lost many friends whom were some of my best friends and their partners. I still would rather if I was in that scenario be told that my partner is a red flag and the reasons why, but maybe that's just me. My perspective is also that if that friend lashes out at you for trying to help them, and I don't care how manipulated they are, they are no longer your friend. I personally am in a very neurodivergent circle of friends, so we are all very blunt when we have issues with each other or someone they know. We like to be direct about concerns, because indirectness isn't going to get anything anywhere. This is just my personal perspective, and I can get your perspective, but personally I won't continue a friendship with people that are super indirect with me, because it feels dishonest in a way. Maybe that's just my own personal trauma getting in the way of that, but it's still a deal breaker for me, as it would be a deal breaker if a friend went off on me for being direct and decided to stick with the partner. I'd rather lose that type of person as a friend at that point, because even though they're manipulated, the person you knew is gone, absorbed by the abvsive significant other.
First story 'don't dress up, you're already mine' Giiiiiirl.
'He even threw out a few of my favorite outfits once, saying they...' Girl! Your property!
'He's even asked me to quit my job'. Get out. Get out, get out, get out!
After the update. Oh great she's getting out. Hope she stays safe.
Story 1..run now
0:45 - There it is, right there! He's controlling about how she spends her time, doesn't like her to go out with her friends unless he's there (to monitor everything that is said?) calls and texts her constantly when she's out, so she can't just relaxe and enjoy herself. Then, he tries to isolate her from her friends, telling her "I just don't think they'ree good for you." and "They're jealous of what we have." THIS WILL ONLY GET WORSE! Her friends are right! RUN!
1:40 - He threw out several of her outfits??? HUGE red flag! Wanting her to quit her job (so he can have all control of the finances) ? Going through her phone??? These are so many red flags of an abuser, OP should dump this guy *NOW!*
Thank God she seems to have awakened to the reality!
Story 1: red flags???? Babes those ain't red flags. Those are red throw blankets.
How are you doing sweetie? How are you feeling? I hope just wonderful!! In the very first story, her friends definitely are jealous of her boyfriend, but they do have a point because he shouldn't be getting upset just because she's not answering his calls or responding back to his texts immediately. Dump him right away because he is just way to controlling and he is trying his best to completely isolate her from all of her friends and possible family too. In the second story, the main protagonist should just leave her because the three years that he's spent with her have been nothing but a lie. She finally exposed her true feelings to her sister instead of just being straight up with her man. I love you!! Have a great day day!! Stay safe beautiful!!
story 1: My girl is in delululand. her bf is super controlling. he is controlling her about hanging out with her friends. he is controlling her about what she wears/makeup. he is trying to control her financially. he wants to isolate her & have her only depend on him. so she can't leave him bc if she has no friends & no money/job. she would be stuck in the relationship. So good & glad that she is trying to leave safely.
story 2: she is extremely rude & cocky. she doesn't have her priorities straight. so yea break up.
OMGGG ur videos popped up on my algorithm after so long! i remember watching u when i was like 10/11 and i'm 18 now turning 19 ☹️☹️☹️ i'm so glad to see ur still making videos!!!
don't break up in a text message, do it over the phone
To the second story.. Yes, break up with her. You'll be much happier.
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Story 1: good on op for realizing the red flags and is thinking about how to end the relationship. If your friends and family are telling you to leave a relationship, take it into consideration and pay attention to how your partner is treating you. And if you feel "you're walking on eggshells" around your partner, it's time to reflect and act accordingly.
Story 2: she has plans on cheating with that male friend, it's suspicious.
1st Story: I've dated someone similar, and I'll tell you now they are beyond toxic. I'm happy OP realised and ended things.
2nd Story: Okay, what the hell? So she can travel 12+ hours for the male ''friend'', but not 1 hour for her boyfriend? Something is definitely going on there, and I'd be out if I were OP.
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