just like my mum would say, aside the usual "why haven't you married and give me grandchildren? you shamed me to our ancestor! you'll be the death of me and the end of my line!"
@@nalissolus9213 Eh, I grew up in a similar home and my parents were pretty dismissive of the way they raised us. It's annoying having them try to make it out like they made you successful, but it's not super depressing or anything. It doesn't affect me at all, just parents being parents
+bmcgmusic I put it in quotes because I'm not too fond of the word. It doesn't make sense to me how ALL these people of color are considered the "minority". But I used it just in case someone didn't know who I was talking about.
i do not believe her, she does not act like it in real life, she has friends that has lived through it, she is an actor they act out other people's lives or thoughts!
+rassi13 I know right..there was no such thing as a "time out corner" or spanking...you mouth off or get bad grades, your ass is going flying across the room or you get a full blown beat down.
+rassi13 hispanic here, we got hit by belts,wires, whatever could be grabbed. multiple layers, and to get hit at the end of the day when they are tired.
Both of my parents are Asians. I am a first generation Swede. I've NEVER been hit or had anything thrown at me EVER by my parents. Their words terrified me enough!
I'm not condoning hitting kids, but I know a good number of Asians and Black people who were hit as kids, but turned out to be great individuals today.
People who were hit as kids are more likely to think of violence as a way to solve problems. That doesn't mean they'll all be violent - it's just more likely.
Generalization is how science works. It's not every kid who was hit is a violent adult and none of the kids who were are, just that they're more likely to be violent. As far as the respect thing goes - it's possible that the parents don't actually care. And why would they? Having a kid with a smart mouth doesn't actually hurt you in any way, so long as they ultimately do what they're told.
well, it's true - you generalize from data, from experiments, etc. As long as your statistical methods are sound. A lot of times people generalize without doing the proper math. And the reality is, people who were hit as children are more violent. It's a fact. Whether you believe it or not doesn't make it any less true.
The reason we have kids with behavioral problems is because we have kids with psychological issues that need to be addressed. Nicodemeus says he's "still a kid". Last time I checked, most children don't know a lot about neuroscience.
Being half white, half Asian, my Asian mom did hit me when I was a kid, in fact she used to hit me a lot. And talking to other Asian friends, it was actually quite common.
Ivy W. Li Oh definitely, I cannot count how many times my parents used to talk about which colleges other people's kids went to and how much more amazing they are as a human being compared to me -__-
Asian? Ha! I'm Celtic European descent 😎 and I was smacked Never did me any harm Taught me not to get caught, didn't get grounded and taught me not to do stupid dangerous things and made me want to take more risks like extreme sports
Whaaaaat? Im asian and my mom actually do more lecture and tbh lecture is worst than getting hit! It takes boring 3-5 hours and she makes you feel guilty lol but u learn from the experience and dont want another boring lecture
69ouroboros69 Eh i don't know,i would say good portion of kids only learn how to look like they are paying attention but really are just letting it go in one ear and out the other.
greevve22 That's why you have them explain back to you in their own words the meaning of what you said to them. Also important to let them express themselves verbally even if you don't like what they say. Encourage questions if anything is unclear.
She's really funny. Every interview I see of her she has crazy dark stories that are hilarious and always kind of freak the entire audience out because they're not use to celebrities being so honest.
This girl, as a half Asian, surprises me so much with her false stereotypes towards other cultures. Your mam does that, doesn’t means all Asian does that! As a public figure, she should know not to make over generalized statement like that. Especially, why everyone has to know how to speak English “properly”? And why people have to lose their accent? I am sure there are deeper and more significant reasons than getting out of parking tickets!
Meka Gojira , Nicolas G Hi guys, I would be more than happy to discuss with you whether Munn's joke was appropriate or not. But I hope that the discussion doesn't need to evolve me as a person. Whether I am a calm person or not, or my sense of humor is quite irrelevant to the topic. Culture awareness is something I love and passionate about. If you disagree with me and are interested in having a little debate, I respect that and I am all for it. But I think we should leave any criticism on each other off limits, so that the discussion could remain meaningful. I say the above with no intention to accuse you of anything. Thank you for replying to my comment.:) Words like uptight and bad sense of humor are not exactly the most hurtful things in the world, but I am sure you understand that they are not very pleasant to hear.
I joke about all the humiliating staff I did when I first came to this country all the time. However, It is one thing to talk about personal experience and another to talk about the action of a collective group.The reason why I believe there is a problem in what she said it is not that she made “negative” comments to certain culture. It is because her replacement word for “My mom” was “Asian”,which means that she generalized one person’s behavior to all the other 2 billion people only because they have the same ethnicity. At the beginning of this clip she said” Are there any Asians in the audience? You are probably all hit.” I really means no offense here. But if we change the perspective, wouldn’t you consider it is not right for a person on a national broadcast program to say: ”Are there any Americans in the audience? You are probably all overweight.” There are so much more in a person than his or her weight. There are so much more in a culture than parenting skills. We all know that. However, for people who don’t have many Asians in their lives, her comment is misleading. I as an Asian would not enjoy a stranger seeing my face and associating me with “Hitting her kids in every single way she possibly can” and “garbing everything in reach and throw them at her kids.”, which according to Munn “that’s what Asians do.” And I am sure many other Asian will agree with me. Hope that makes sense to you. And feel free to let me know your opinion.
Out of my Asian parents, my Mom was the strictest one. She spanked, pinched, hit me & my sister for discipline. She also yelled a lot. My Mom has always been my harshest critic. I always made good grades in school. When I was in Graduate School, my cumulative grade point averages was literally perfect - 4.0 out of 4.0 cumulative grade point average - all straight A's. I remember one time I invited my parents to attend one of the honor society events where I was being inducted into one of the National Honor Society organizations at my Graduate School, and instead of focusing on the happy event, my Mom criticized the outfit I was wearing. My Dad said my outfit was fine. But yeah, many times I felt that no matter what I did - my Mom would find something to criticize about me - what I wore, what I ate, how I cleaned my room, why I did this and that. She still criticizes me even now. It's in her nature to do it. So, having a strict Mom ended up not spoiling my sister and me. At the same time, I always swore to myself that if I had a kid of my own, that my parenting style would be different than my Mom's. I felt she was too strict. I hardly misbehaved growing up because I was afraid of getting pinched, spanked, hit, etc. Even some of my friends were scared of my Mom because they saw my Mom pinch me in front of them or heard me getting spanked or hit while I was talking to one friend on the phone. The reasons why my Mom spanked or hit me were kind of tame and lame. What I did was nothing compared to what many kids did. I never dated any guy until I was in college. I have never gotten arrested in my entire life. I have never gotten sloppy drunk. My Mom has always been generous when it came to paying for my college education and buying material things for me and giving me money. And giving generous gifts on birthday, holidays, & special occasions, and we would say we loved each other often. She would compliment me from time to time, but growing up with a Mom who humbled me too much by criticizing me often, has made me crave a partner in a relationship - a boyfriend who compliments me, emotionally lifts me up, who gives positive affirmations. Even though I have always had teachers, many friends, many people give positive affirmations to me and say that I'm a sweet, intelligent, hardworking, smart, thoughtful, observant, considerate, generous, pretty, beautiful, etc. gal, the one thing I seek in a personal relationship is a guy who gives positive affirmations, is sweet, is complimentary, says nice, thoughtful, sweet words & things to me on a weekly basis, because it's something I need & desire. I had to grow up with my Mom being strict & harsh. Even though my Mom has mellowed out - I still feel she is nicer & more complimentary to people outside of the family & is the harshest with me, my sister, and my Dad at times. Even my Mom has admitted to me & my family many times that she was the hardest & harshest on me - the oldest child. And that she overdid it with the spanking, hitting, pinching, and yelling of me. So, she toned it down with my sister. When I was growing up, I didn't have a TV in my bedroom. By the time I went to college, my sister had a TV. My sister got her way many times with my Mom. I sometimes wonder how I would've turned out if I was raised by a Mom who complimented me often. Anyways, I think that's partially why I crave & desire a guy who makes up for the lack of positive affirmations I got when growing up with my Mom. Even now, when I interact with my Mom, even though I have a great Mom, my Mom is still my hardest & harshest critic. She has been generous to me, but at the same time showed a lot of tough love to me. Since I'm dealing with medical issues, I doubt I'll ever find a guy who will shower me with positive affirmations each week in a good quality relationship right now or in the future. Maybe in my next reincarnated life, I hope that my next boyfriend & partner is one who is nice, thoughtful, sweet, and who is complimentary & positively uplifting, motivating, encouraging, and completely supportive of me. That's what I wish & want. Anyways, I can empathize with Olivia Munn when she talked about her Mom getting upset that her sister & her were talking loud at nighttime.
VelvetGal5 Most likely your mom was criticized a lot as a kid, and she is expressing her inner monologu to you. So don't take it personally. Encourage yourself. Your mom will pick it up from you. :) And yes look for a nice guy, don't find another harsh person.
VelvetGal5 You are intelligent, honest, eloquent, brave. Yes, you are great. All that in spite of the harsh disipline and criticism you received. I hope everything good for you. Never doubt that you do deserve the best in life. I wish you love, health and happiness.
I'm the oldest offspring (a daughter to boot) and my parents were mellower with my younger sister as well. No matter what happened, I think the firstborn will always freak out the parents. I think we're like practice dummies? Not that you're dumb; you sound intelligent and thoughtful. Good luck with finding a supportive and loving partner in life, and remember that these will be the same traits to look for when looking for friends as well.
yeah, my mum used to beat the fuck outta me with anything that was around her. if there wasn't anything she'd beat me with her slippers and they were those hard plastic bottom ones with little flower designs. you would see me with swollen flower markings on my arm, LOL, kinda funny now that I think about it. I really really really love my mum tho. she's the best :) and she did a great job at raising me
I think it's wrong to like seriously beat kids, like til they're bloody and bruised and maybe broken bones but I don't see anything wrong with hitting them when they act like little turds.
Katherine Smith well, my mom never broke any of my bones or made me bleed. when I mentioned it to her she said it also hurted her to see me with "flower tattoos" xD its just that I WAS acting like a little turd I guess xDDD
It's all about love. My siblings were hit. I was the youngest I wasn't hit. We all turned out fantastic people.We all love our mum. Stop concentrating on the one thing. Hit or no hit, if you love your children things will take care of themselves just fine most of the time. Not just one way of life, people!...
I gotta agree with Olivia on this one. As an Asian myself, my mom has always hit me. I'm not saying this happens to ALL Asians, but it happens to most of them. And now I finally understand a bit about the stereotype that Asians are quiet, no personality, etc. (I'm not being racist! Yes, it's true for the most part. There's a reason why stereotypes exist, anyway) I used to be super quiet myself because I felt that there must've been something seriously wrong with me for my mom to hit me. Thank god I've come to understand that it's just the Asian (Chinese, in my case) culture. So for all the young Asian teenagers out there who have this issue, don't feel ashamed of who you are. There's nothing wrong with you. There's just something wrong with how (*most*) Asian mothers treat you. I don't blame my mom either! She was beaten as a kid by her father. Her father was beaten as a kid, and so on. It's just the way things are. And hey, I'm not asking for pity on this at allllll. I'm just spreading this message out there to my fellow Asians: DON'T BE AFRAID TO EMBRACE YOURSELF FOR WHO YOU ARE. LET YOUR YOURSELF GO, LET YOUR PERSONALITY GO, BECAUSE I AM SURE YOU'RE AMAZING. DON'T PUT YOURSELF DOWN. I hope one day to write a book on this to inspire others not to feel ashamed of who they are. Yeah, most Asians tend to have an inferiority complex because of this whole culture thing. I'm so proud of who I am today and the steps I took to overcome the past. If anyone ever needs to talk, just message me!
man I can really relate... my parents had birch rods when I was younger. I'm Asian too but I don't think it's that deeply embedded in Asian culture, most of my asian friends didn't go through the same. It made me and my siblings very quiet obedient kids, but I still think it's the easy way out. Instead of building a relationship with your kids you make them fearful of you -- I don't remember being actually comfortable around my parents for a long time. My parents and I have a great relationship now, but that took a long time to build, and to this day I sometimes still feel the psychological association with fear.
'YOU STUPID KIDS TRICKED ME!' 'But that's the good thing about beating your kids because then they get smarter' lmaooo this portion was hilarious, Olivia was basically doing a stand-up set here!
I'm a 28-year-old journalist + university professor (without being anyone's "daughter" or "girlfriend" or whatever), and I wasn't beaten as a child! Also, I'm mixed raced, and no, we don't all get physically punished. Look, I'm fully aware that there are different "parenting approaches" based on culture, class, religion, but let's not seriously justify domesticate violence by arguing that that's what leads to intelligence. It just leads to fear and that may or may not translate into (the negative kind of) motivation to do better at school or hobbies, or around the house, but you can . And most importantly, beating up your kids is for parents who either don't wanna put effort into actual parenting (or who really don't know any better) because obviously, you can be firm but fair without throwing every object in the room after your child.
omg Olivia Munn is like Telemundo gorgeous. I really dont understand why she doesnt get too many roles in Hollywood. Intiually, I thought she was Hispanic but after I found out shes Euroasian I'm like wow. I love her so much, definitely one of my fashion and movie idols.
An ex boyfriend of mine brags about how his mom beat him up and always says it turned him into a great person. Honestly, yes he was a nice guy with a good heart, but he also had a shit ton of emotional problems. And some anger issues--he once randomly attacked a guy at a fast food place. No idea why he wasn't arrested. Now when I meet people who say "I was beaten and look how great I turned out!" I don't really believe them.
Uh oh. Looks like I've offended the childhood abuse community. You know political correctness is out of control when people start whining that I'm "Stereotyping" people who were beaten up as children, and that I should be more open minded towards them.
It's not just my ex. I've worked with foster kids and mental patients. 99% of the time ones who were in the worse shape either were smacked around as kids or were molested. If asian parents are good at raising smart kids, it has more to do with the fact that they make them actually do their schoolwork. unlike a lot of American parents, who might tell their kids a few times, but don't really follow through with enforcing the rules.
And seriously, are you really that stupid to think that because I dated ONE guy with emotional problems, then that means all my exes were the same? Of all my ex boyfriends, he was the only one who I would call dysfunctional. And he was the only one who got slapped around by his mom. What a coincidence.
Her posture stresses me out. It's so straight and perfect, I found myself subconsciously imitating it and holding my breath while she talked fast. I was getting stressed and didn't know why lmaoo
Jim Beam different culture mate. I got beaten on my legs and ass till my skin was flayed, even bruises turned yellow purple and it hurts to sit down. by my maths teacher. She had different wooden canes of varying thickness. that was 15 years ago.. and back then parents supported the teachers beating kids. They were always on the teacher's side. Asian culture.
mintsnap I only accept cultural differences to a point. Foot binding was part of asian culture too, and I'm sure there were idiots 50 years ago who defended foot binding because it was an aspect of culture. Some things are so repellant that they go beyond cultural tolerance. Adults beating children is one of those things.
Jim Beam true. i was heavily physically disciplined but my younger siblings werent ( my parents really chilled out once they were born) Having experienced two different discipline styles firsthand within my family i wouldnt go so far as to say beating children = abuse. But withholding physical discipline doesn't always result in delinquent children too.
mintsnap A lot depends on how the beating is structured. A lot depends on the kid too. For the most part though, you're playing with fire when you choose to discipline your kid that way.
Same thing when I was a kid in my very Korean household. When I brought home a report card, I'd go into the bathroom and have a very long shower so my mom would have time to cool down before seeing me again.
Update: My Dad has said sorry, and I'm adulting and whatnot. I'm 22 and white. I grew up in Connecticut. My Dad hit me all the time. He had mental illness issues. My Mom didn't hit me, she felt bad about my Dad.
I love Olivia Munn & that comforter trick is real life! Children of Asian and/or Black parents know what's up. Gotta be prepared. She is great on The Newsroom.
My mother beat the everloving shit out of me, and I am a complete fuck up, so that approach doesn't always work. If you beat a child, it's parenting, if you beat an adult, it's an assault.
In Philippines, that's how we got disciplined when we were kids. Maybe not all of us but definitely most of us. We don't hate our parents for that, we love them instead. We turned out good.
it's an immigrant thing. i'm haitian and i've had epic conversations comparing notes with other kids from other immigrant families of all ethnicities. it's seen as appalling in america for obvious reasons, but it's more or less the norm for other countries around the world from the carribbeans to asia. Though this is well known so I don't know why people are acting surprised or hating on her for just describing how she was brought up.
when you hit a child for doing something wrong, it leaves an impression or a mark deep, it sends a message relative to the issue at hand that causes a form of interruption and segmentation. there are better ways that dont involve heavy violence and the ensuing impression that is left
Let me explain something to you, you can't reason with a 2 year old, Sometimes kids SHOULD get their asses warmed up. I'm certainly not condoning punching a child or striking them in the face but sometimes kids need a reminder of who is the boss. Don't give me that DR Spock bullshit either. Everyday I see so many kids that are crying out for an asswhooping because all their parents did was give them timeouts and now they have no respect for their elders, authority or anything else
AceJams there are other ways than violence. you're taking a dominant position over a very small being and taking away their power, which will have ramifications on a child because at that time they dont have resources to deal with such an event. if you avoid treating them with a level of respect and explaining the problem or what went wrong and allowing them an avenue of reconciliation so that they may actively take responsibility for what they did wrong, then offer a blunt impression filled with violence and powerlessness. no one wants that. less violence, more positive options.
I agree with you as a mother myself that hitting a child is not necessary and there are much better and effective ways to discipline a child. I disagree with the comment that you can’t reason with a two year old. If you can’t communicate with your child, that’s the parent’s problem and not the two year old child’s. I choose to raise a child who understands the ramifications of her decisions and consequently makes good choices. Not a child that does so out I’d fear, because the moment they are strong enough to fight back, they will. We teach our children that violence is not okay and we need to lead by example. Violence is a symptom of that person’s failure to reason.
You can reason with a two year old much the same way you can reason with a dog - reward when he does good, punish when he does bad. Small children understand little more than that and as they start to develop they will instinctively learn to test your limits and try to establish a hierarchical structure long before they develop the empathy or moral compass to understand why not to do things because they hurt people's feelings. You see kids walking all over their parents nowadays, throwing fits in public places and even hitting their parents when they're frustrated. This is not unlike a poorly trained dog growling and biting at the owner to try and establish dominance through intimidation. Sometimes the only solution to that problem is putting them back in their place and reminding them you have the power over them and not the other way around, physically if need be. The idea that people don't do bad things because they have good kind hearts is extremely naive. The vast majority of people don't do bad things because they are always aware, even if at a subconscious level, that there will likely be a punishment for doing something bad. That's why there is law enforcement, without it (almost) nobody would actually obey the law and they'd just do as they please. I could give you countless examples of the selfish and destructive nature of humans coming out very quickly when the legal and social boundaries that keep us in check break down. Someone who doesn't learn these boundaries at some point in their development will probably end up in prison or dead once they're adults (or even sooner). Letting a spoiled brat kick and scream all he wants and think he's the center of the world isn't actually doing that child any favors on the long run, thankfully most children will learn this lesson in kindergarten if their parents fail to teach them sooner, when they hit another kid or try to take his toy and that kid hits them right back.
I know this was supposed to be funny, but it just kind of made me sad. It made me want to give this girl a hug. There's no reason she had to grow up in that kind of environment. I don't like to disparage anyone's parents, but her mother clearly had some very serious anger issues. Poor girl.
That not mean her mom have serious anger issues, silly. Im Asian myself and my mom not hit me, do you know asian's parent is one of most caring, take care their child? Im not mean asian parent better than others but sure, asian parents take care their kids alot & so deep than any imagine people can image, all they do just for their child, no matter how old their kids in their eyes their son/daughter still a little one. Gerenal, parent at any race, anywhere was beat their children not only Asian, its depend on person/personality not about race. But i admit, asian family seems much more than others race but thats not mean they're bad at all, i know its a wrong to teach a kids (except the case, violence/child abuse) PS: My parents, siblings take care for me than any race can imagine, even now im 27year-old, they never hit or focus me, they can spend time, money and everything for me. And we born& raise in Asian not oversea, we're also decent family not high-class. Around me is same also, sure still have some case child abuse, that case im 100% agree they're sickness parents not a human, have no words to justify for them.
That's wonderful for you. I'm glad you had loving parents. Every child should have that. However, if what Ms. Munn is saying is true, then yes, her mother DID have anger issues. I don't care what her ethnicity is. No child should have to grow up in an environment of fear. For you to make generalizations about how some ethnic groups care more about their children than others is not only irrational, but ignorant as well. No one ethnic group is "better" than another.
***** you dont seem to understand... They dont hit because of anger issue. They hit because they care and for them its the way to educate(not saying its the right way). Its a hard concept to understand when you've never been hit, I've received myself some good ass whooping by my parents and now i'm 20 years old and never would I say they were beating me it was more an education thing.
Marc Watier Who says I've never been hit? My mom broke a yard stick on my ass when I was 10, and I'll tell you, it wasn't to "educate" me. It was because I was being a little shit at the time and she lost her temper. I know you don't want to call it that, but "beating" is exactly what your parents were doing to you. Think of it this way. If your parents would have done to me, or any other adult, what they did to you, they would have been charged with assault and gone to jail. But because they're your parents, and you're their child, it's permitted. I'll say it again, fear, intimidation and violence have no place in a healthy home environment. I don't care if it's done under the guise of "education".
My wife is Vietnamese like Olivia. When we lived in Saigon I saw lots of Vietnamese hitting their kids but they never hold grudges and they all love each other far more than Americans.
Jejune Brozv Yet this woman has achieved, whereas you are just an insignificant thing. Perhaps you had dumb parents. Hopefully you will not breed. Humanity can do MUCH better.
There are other ways to not spoil your kids. Hitting is more for the lazy or stupid who don't have the time or the problem solving skills to discipline(teach) their kids without hitting them. I was hit a few times as a kid, but it had nothing to do with the way I turned out.
Yes, of course I understand your point of view. I understand that not all Asians are the same. There are different features, characteristics, behaviors, cultures, and mentalities for each group. I understand all of this. We are all unique, but, like I said, because of our uniqueness, people find it "fun" or "fair" to criticize each race - sometimes good and sometimes bad. As long as we are all different, there will ALWAYS be opinions. If we were all the same, what would there be to comment on.
"[Asians,] You're probably all hit." My Mom hit me when I deserved it and my Dad never laid a hand on me, ever. Lots of Asian parents physically discipline their child, but not everyone. I did not like the way Olivia Munn straight up put an entire culture on blast as if she asked every family how they run. Smh, don't speak for me unless you know me.
My asian grandmother never tried to hit me. She would just kick me out of the house and tell me not to come back until my parents came to get me. The Filipino lady down the street would also kick her kids out of the house if they pissed her off. Those kids would sometimes sleep in the yard. No exaggeration.
Hahaha tell me about it. Pacific Islanders suffer the worst hahaha bruises from anything that our parents can get their hands on hahaha That disciplined us very much!!
This is sad for any kid who was hit and knows now that it’s never ok. Hope this doesn’t perpetuate more needless corporal punishment, that results in kids thinking violence is normal, or worse- love, and that they are not safe and their bodies can’t even be respected by their parents.
are you close to your mother more than olivia munn? that clearly loves her mother and takes her anywhere. Or you put your mom in retirement home and visit her once a year and profess you love your parents so much that you never visit her
>>RE: It was actually in Sept 09 according to this tweet. twitter*com/oliviamunn/status/3703968803 This tweet may explain why she did it but doesn't change the fact that Tom was shooting in his PERSONAL living room whereas AOTS is a studio.
Why? People have been using corporal discipline for thousands of years. If it was so bad that it wrecked peoples souls, I don't think civilization could have advanced to where it is today.
Elurin Yes I would agree corporal discipline can go a long way with the proper personality types - depending on what outcome you are looking for. I wouldn't say that today people's entire souls are wrecked, but I would argue that we could use more love and understanding now, than anything. I believe if we are to move up to a more evolved way - that it will be turning all outward aggression inwards, to master ourselves - in order to help others do the same - which one could say corporal discipline helps us do - whilst another personality type would say "not me man, don't whip my hands with a ruler, Ill educate myself, Ill discipline myself, and get this shit done, without all that". And that's what we need more of today - so that people don't HAVE to have their hands whipped with rulers in order to do the right thing, they just do the right thing cause its the right thing :PPP - then again - I think if you see things done in a loving way, and see that it has a positive result - like planting a flower, watering it, and watching it grow - we wont see so much corporal discipline anymore - and we will have evolved, I think.
Elurin just because something progressed whilst embodying violent methods, dosent justify those violent methods. sure a corporation could become progressive via attacking and harming and bullying, dosent speak for the emotional and personal damage that is caused and the ensuing life that is lost, and consequent repercussions.
Yes exactly - and just because humanity may have progressed up to a certain point utilizing aggression - doesn't mean it is meant to stay that way forever - and mostly: don't underestimate the power of love and intelligence, to go a long way - you may find, if you look in the right places, where we are spreading good vibrations of one form or another, we are usually also experiencing good things, positive emotions, higher intelligence, and higher creativity. Even water understands the difference - between saying "I love you" and "You fucking suck!" - just look up Masaro Emoto, he's a household name. We are mostly composed of water. What you give your attention matters, and the way you do it matters - your intention matters. We all have imaginative solutions to the worlds problems, that our unique perspective and abilities allows us to give.
HuckleberrySlim"Aggression" implies intentions that are negative, as does the term "Punishment" as opposed to discipline which implies "Training" I respected my parents for discipline I received from them because I knew that they loved me and, at times, I know I needed a heavy hand to correct me from following a path that could lead me into self-destructive behaviours. I believe Corporal discipline administering in love, at the right age range (which is pretty narrow) is far better than time-outs, grounding or whatever 'soft' discipline that some parents come up with sometimes.
I'm Asian in Asia. Generally, Asians do discipline their child by hitting regardless of other cultures disagreement but it works. We come out okay and we know it is not abusive type of hitting. My mum won't hit me unless I did something wrong. Probably works otherwise in other homes but I suppose she did paint a picture about Asians that would make others think that it's abuse
I'm asian and I only got spanked once in my life or atleast that's what I remember. Judging by how common spanking seems to be, I must either have been a very good kid or I have the nicest parents in the world!
Olivia Munn was on the Tom Green Show once back in 06ish and was being a major dick to Tom. She came on and broke a coffee mug that was given to Tom by Ed Mcmahon. You could tell Tom was a bit hung up on that happening. Before that, she was being rude and stuck-up the entire interview. The footage doesn't appear to be anywhere except for possibly on Tom Green's premium archived subscription. If you find it, let me know!
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"Look, she successful now, I do good job!" OMG I couldn't stop laughing haha
just like my mum would say, aside the usual "why haven't you married and give me grandchildren? you shamed me to our ancestor! you'll be the death of me and the end of my line!"
@@nurlindafsihotang49 Being indifferent is kind of heartbreaking too though.
@@nalissolus9213 dude, yeah
@@nalissolus9213 Eh, I grew up in a similar home and my parents were pretty dismissive of the way they raised us. It's annoying having them try to make it out like they made you successful, but it's not super depressing or anything. It doesn't affect me at all, just parents being parents
If you're a "minority", you can relate. Black, Hispanic, Asian etc. We all get our ass whooped when we're little.
+J Holmes European kids too!!
+bmcgmusic I put it in quotes because I'm not too fond of the word. It doesn't make sense to me how ALL these people of color are considered the "minority". But I used it just in case someone didn't know who I was talking about.
+bmcgmusic to answer your question I'm quoting the people that gave people of color the "minority" tag.
+J Holmes It is not really a race or ethnicity thing, but a class thing. Most lower and mid-lower middle class parents are like that even for whites.
It's not uncommon with slavic parents either. I would know lmao.
I appreciate how honest she is during the whole interview. Very few people would say that on television.
John Stone only very few white people would say that on television. If you talk to any Asian, this is a fairly normal story
Bill Burr usually does that. Often on Conan, too.
And the audience usually gets just as quiet as it has here with Olivia! *lol*
i do not believe her, she does not act like it in real life, she has friends that has lived through it, she is an actor they act out other people's lives or thoughts!
@@vinnyl264 It's not just Asians, African Americans too. We are pretty honest about our upbringing.
@@Maxton01you really are pathetic😂
Andy is hilarious, always the perfect line.
Without Andy, Conan wouldn't even exist
Have you been to Walmart? A Hall of fame line.
"Have you been to Walmart?"
GOLD.
"Have you ever been to Walmart?!" That was such a good retort....and so true!
so relatable and so quick too. that convo went 4 different ways and boom he had the best joke
Shes never been to eastern europe, parents go medieval on us.
Hahaha, I wanted to say that! :D A kod nas niko ne kuka :p
hahaha
hahahahaha same thing in middle east
Nice Pulp Fiction reference
***** Well yes I can see that you turned out quite wonderful, you seem like a kind and intelligent person, maybe the next dalai lama?
White people are so traumatized by her story, meanwhile us kids from immigrant parents are like "yup, totally my childhood too!" Lol
+rassi13 I know right..there was no such thing as a "time out corner" or spanking...you mouth off or get bad grades, your ass is going flying across the room or you get a full blown beat down.
+rassi13 Lol, I know right? getting beaten is the childhoods for most kids of immigrants.
+rassi13 hispanic here, we got hit by belts,wires, whatever could be grabbed. multiple layers, and to get hit at the end of the day when they are tired.
+rassi13 I'm white and an immigrant...totally my childhood lol. Eastern European parents don't play.
Karan Gandhi same. they ever throw or hit you with the wooden spoons? lol
asian here! all true! wore layers of clothing and hid all the sticks around the house!
+Laurette Illy HAHAHA so funny an image! i slid magazines under my clothes!
DylanGaine
omg thats even funnier! lol
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word, bamboos sticks, 6'1 mom is 5'1 used to get my ass kicked when I was a kid
samy arafa
damn i remember the bamboo sticks, they were the worst!
That Wal-mart line was great! lol
That's crazy how she can wear a giant white sandal.
And still look good in it
a very tight, revealing giant white sandal.
It's all about posture.
My left butt cheek is slightly disproportional thanks to a wooden spoon.
Lol
Wooden spoon my mother also used this weapon
@@IHav3No3n3mies So you know how much it stings 🤣
@@tango8011 yes yes I do formidable weapon used by my mother
Have you ever wondered, maybe it's always that way.
Both of my parents are Asians. I am a first generation Swede. I've NEVER been hit or had anything thrown at me EVER by my parents. Their words terrified me enough!
I'm not condoning hitting kids, but I know a good number of Asians and Black people who were hit as kids, but turned out to be great individuals today.
People who were hit as kids are more likely to think of violence as a way to solve problems. That doesn't mean they'll all be violent - it's just more likely.
Generalization is how science works. It's not every kid who was hit is a violent adult and none of the kids who were are, just that they're more likely to be violent.
As far as the respect thing goes - it's possible that the parents don't actually care. And why would they? Having a kid with a smart mouth doesn't actually hurt you in any way, so long as they ultimately do what they're told.
well, it's true - you generalize from data, from experiments, etc. As long as your statistical methods are sound. A lot of times people generalize without doing the proper math.
And the reality is, people who were hit as children are more violent. It's a fact. Whether you believe it or not doesn't make it any less true.
I bet a lot of people who were tortured turned out to be great individuals also, doesn't mean it's right, what a dumb argument.
The reason we have kids with behavioral problems is because we have kids with psychological issues that need to be addressed. Nicodemeus says he's "still a kid". Last time I checked, most children don't know a lot about neuroscience.
Any Pacific Islanders nodding and reminiscing with this?! LOL
Being half white, half Asian, my Asian mom did hit me when I was a kid, in fact she used to hit me a lot. And talking to other Asian friends, it was actually quite common.
Asian parents love to compare their children to other Asian children.
Ivy W. Li Oh definitely, I cannot count how many times my parents used to talk about which colleges other people's kids went to and how much more amazing they are as a human being compared to me -__-
+Ivy W. Li They compare you to other children in front of your face/berate you but boost about how amazing you are to relatives/friends
From an Asian to another Asian, yes I totally feel and relate to your stories.
Asian?
Ha!
I'm Celtic European descent 😎 and I was smacked
Never did me any harm
Taught me not to get caught, didn't get grounded and taught me not to do stupid dangerous things and made me want to take more risks like extreme sports
"No, no, no
it's a whole cultural
thing." lol
"Have you been to WALMART?!" I am laughing SO hard right now.
Whaaaaat? Im asian and my mom actually do more lecture and tbh lecture is worst than getting hit! It takes boring 3-5 hours and she makes you feel guilty lol but u learn from the experience and dont want another boring lecture
that's the best way! You learn something without getting hurt and know why it's wrong.
69ouroboros69
Eh i don't know,i would say good portion of kids only learn how to look like they are paying attention but really are just letting it go in one ear and out the other.
greevve22
That's why you have them explain back to you in their own words the meaning of what you said to them. Also important to let them express themselves verbally even if you don't like what they say. Encourage questions if anything is unclear.
Im asian and so does my mom!! If we start talking at 7pm it would not end until i beg her to stop talking at 3am
Hans Ivander so true.. I'd e like christ, just hit me already
"Is your mom okay with this?" Really Conan? That's what we are concerned about?
We just don't want Olivia to get a kicking when she gets home after the show
She's really funny. Every interview I see of her she has crazy dark stories that are hilarious and always kind of freak the entire audience out because they're not use to celebrities being so honest.
This girl, as a half Asian, surprises me so much with her false stereotypes towards other cultures. Your mam does that, doesn’t means all Asian does that! As a public figure, she should know not to make over generalized statement like that. Especially, why everyone has to know how to speak English “properly”? And why people have to lose their accent? I am sure there are deeper and more significant reasons than getting out of parking tickets!
It's a joke, calm yourself.
Besides, _most_ asians _do_ hit their kids.
Meka Gojira Same in Eastern Europe :))
You just proved 2 other stereotypes towards Chinese: Easy to be offended; Poor sense of humor.
Meka Gojira , Nicolas G
Hi guys,
I would be more than happy to discuss with you whether Munn's joke was appropriate or not. But I hope that the discussion doesn't need to evolve me as a person. Whether I am a calm person or not, or my sense of humor is quite irrelevant to the topic. Culture awareness is something I love and passionate about. If you disagree with me and are interested in having a little debate, I respect that and I am all for it. But I think we should leave any criticism on each other off limits, so that the discussion could remain meaningful.
I say the above with no intention to accuse you of anything. Thank you for replying to my comment.:) Words like uptight and bad sense of humor are not exactly the most hurtful things in the world, but I am sure you understand that they are not very pleasant to hear.
I joke about all the humiliating staff I did when I first came to this country all the time. However, It is one thing to talk about personal experience and another to talk about the action of a collective group.The reason why I believe there is a problem in what she said it is not that she made “negative” comments to certain culture. It is because her replacement word for “My mom” was “Asian”,which means that she generalized one person’s behavior to all the other 2 billion people only because they have the same ethnicity.
At the beginning of this clip she said” Are there any Asians in the audience? You are probably all hit.” I really means no offense here. But if we change the perspective, wouldn’t you consider it is not right for a person on a national broadcast program to say: ”Are there any Americans in the audience? You are probably all overweight.”
There are so much more in a person than his or her weight. There are so much more in a culture than parenting skills. We all know that. However, for people who don’t have many Asians in their lives, her comment is misleading. I as an Asian would not enjoy a stranger seeing my face and associating me with “Hitting her kids in every single way she possibly can” and “garbing everything in reach and throw them at her kids.”, which according to Munn “that’s what Asians do.” And I am sure many other Asian will agree with me.
Hope that makes sense to you. And feel free to let me know your opinion.
"YOU'RE PAINTING A HORRIBLE PICTURE OF ASIANS"
ahahahaahahahaahahahaha haha ha h a a c r a i s
Out of my Asian parents, my Mom was the strictest one. She spanked, pinched, hit me & my sister for discipline. She also yelled a lot. My Mom has always been my harshest critic. I always made good grades in school. When I was in Graduate School, my cumulative grade point averages was literally perfect - 4.0 out of 4.0 cumulative grade point average - all straight A's. I remember one time I invited my parents to attend one of the honor society events where I was being inducted into one of the National Honor Society organizations at my Graduate School, and instead of focusing on the happy event, my Mom criticized the outfit I was wearing. My Dad said my outfit was fine. But yeah, many times I felt that no matter what I did - my Mom would find something to criticize about me - what I wore, what I ate, how I cleaned my room, why I did this and that. She still criticizes me even now. It's in her nature to do it.
So, having a strict Mom ended up not spoiling my sister and me. At the same time, I always swore to myself that if I had a kid of my own, that my parenting style would be different than my Mom's. I felt she was too strict. I hardly misbehaved growing up because I was afraid of getting pinched, spanked, hit, etc. Even some of my friends were scared of my Mom because they saw my Mom pinch me in front of them or heard me getting spanked or hit while I was talking to one friend on the phone. The reasons why my Mom spanked or hit me were kind of tame and lame. What I did was nothing compared to what many kids did. I never dated any guy until I was in college. I have never gotten arrested in my entire life. I have never gotten sloppy drunk.
My Mom has always been generous when it came to paying for my college education and buying material things for me and giving me money. And giving generous gifts on birthday, holidays, & special occasions, and we would say we loved each other often. She would compliment me from time to time, but growing up with a Mom who humbled me too much by criticizing me often, has made me crave a partner in a relationship - a boyfriend who compliments me, emotionally lifts me up, who gives positive affirmations. Even though I have always had teachers, many friends, many people give positive affirmations to me and say that I'm a sweet, intelligent, hardworking, smart, thoughtful, observant, considerate, generous, pretty, beautiful, etc. gal, the one thing I seek in a personal relationship is a guy who gives positive affirmations, is sweet, is complimentary, says nice, thoughtful, sweet words & things to me on a weekly basis, because it's something I need & desire. I had to grow up with my Mom being strict & harsh.
Even though my Mom has mellowed out - I still feel she is nicer & more complimentary to people outside of the family & is the harshest with me, my sister, and my Dad at times. Even my Mom has admitted to me & my family many times that she was the hardest & harshest on me - the oldest child. And that she overdid it with the spanking, hitting, pinching, and yelling of me. So, she toned it down with my sister. When I was growing up, I didn't have a TV in my bedroom. By the time I went to college, my sister had a TV. My sister got her way many times with my Mom. I sometimes wonder how I would've turned out if I was raised by a Mom who complimented me often. Anyways, I think that's partially why I crave & desire a guy who makes up for the lack of positive affirmations I got when growing up with my Mom. Even now, when I interact with my Mom, even though I have a great Mom, my Mom is still my hardest & harshest critic. She has been generous to me, but at the same time showed a lot of tough love to me. Since I'm dealing with medical issues, I doubt I'll ever find a guy who will shower me with positive affirmations each week in a good quality relationship right now or in the future. Maybe in my next reincarnated life, I hope that my next boyfriend & partner is one who is nice, thoughtful, sweet, and who is complimentary & positively uplifting, motivating, encouraging, and completely supportive of me. That's what I wish & want. Anyways, I can empathize with Olivia Munn when she talked about her Mom getting upset that her sister & her were talking loud at nighttime.
VelvetGal5 Most likely your mom was criticized a lot as a kid, and she is expressing her inner monologu to you. So don't take it personally. Encourage yourself. Your mom will pick it up from you. :)
And yes look for a nice guy, don't find another harsh person.
VelvetGal5 You are intelligent, honest, eloquent, brave. Yes, you are great. All that in spite of the harsh disipline and criticism you received. I hope everything good for you. Never doubt that you do deserve the best in life. I wish you love, health and happiness.
+VelvetGal5 While I understand she's been generous, giving your kids money doesn't justify them beating you.
Some people get in the habit of complaining & being critical of everything. You definitely sound like a good person! 💪
I'm the oldest offspring (a daughter to boot) and my parents were mellower with my younger sister as well. No matter what happened, I think the firstborn will always freak out the parents. I think we're like practice dummies? Not that you're dumb; you sound intelligent and thoughtful.
Good luck with finding a supportive and loving partner in life, and remember that these will be the same traits to look for when looking for friends as well.
I love Andy's quick jokes😂
She made her mom's accent sound like Miss Swan.
yeah, my mum used to beat the fuck outta me with anything that was around her. if there wasn't anything she'd beat me with her slippers and they were those hard plastic bottom ones with little flower designs. you would see me with swollen flower markings on my arm, LOL, kinda funny now that I think about it. I really really really love my mum tho. she's the best :) and she did a great job at raising me
I think it's wrong to like seriously beat kids, like til they're bloody and bruised and maybe broken bones but I don't see anything wrong with hitting them when they act like little turds.
Katherine Smith well, my mom never broke any of my bones or made me bleed. when I mentioned it to her she said it also hurted her to see me with "flower tattoos" xD its just that I WAS acting like a little turd I guess xDDD
There’s nothing to LOL here about :( hope you got some therapy
Jeff Garland should be Andy Richter's backup on sick days, his laugh is freaking hilarious
Glen Park Lol, a sidekick for the sidekick! 👍
It's all about love. My siblings were hit. I was the youngest I wasn't hit. We all turned out fantastic people.We all love our mum. Stop concentrating on the one thing.
Hit or no hit, if you love your children things will take care of themselves just fine most of the time.
Not just one way of life, people!...
I gotta agree with Olivia on this one. As an Asian myself, my mom has always hit me. I'm not saying this happens to ALL Asians, but it happens to most of them. And now I finally understand a bit about the stereotype that Asians are quiet, no personality, etc. (I'm not being racist! Yes, it's true for the most part. There's a reason why stereotypes exist, anyway)
I used to be super quiet myself because I felt that there must've been something seriously wrong with me for my mom to hit me. Thank god I've come to understand that it's just the Asian (Chinese, in my case) culture.
So for all the young Asian teenagers out there who have this issue, don't feel ashamed of who you are. There's nothing wrong with you. There's just something wrong with how (*most*) Asian mothers treat you. I don't blame my mom either! She was beaten as a kid by her father. Her father was beaten as a kid, and so on. It's just the way things are.
And hey, I'm not asking for pity on this at allllll. I'm just spreading this message out there to my fellow Asians: DON'T BE AFRAID TO EMBRACE YOURSELF FOR WHO YOU ARE. LET YOUR YOURSELF GO, LET YOUR PERSONALITY GO, BECAUSE I AM SURE YOU'RE AMAZING. DON'T PUT YOURSELF DOWN.
I hope one day to write a book on this to inspire others not to feel ashamed of who they are. Yeah, most Asians tend to have an inferiority complex because of this whole culture thing.
I'm so proud of who I am today and the steps I took to overcome the past. If anyone ever needs to talk, just message me!
Cant you imagine her in a "dr lomp" video?
man I can really relate... my parents had birch rods when I was younger. I'm Asian too but I don't think it's that deeply embedded in Asian culture, most of my asian friends didn't go through the same. It made me and my siblings very quiet obedient kids, but I still think it's the easy way out. Instead of building a relationship with your kids you make them fearful of you -- I don't remember being actually comfortable around my parents for a long time. My parents and I have a great relationship now, but that took a long time to build, and to this day I sometimes still feel the psychological association with fear.
'YOU STUPID KIDS TRICKED ME!' 'But that's the good thing about beating your kids because then they get smarter' lmaooo this portion was hilarious, Olivia was basically doing a stand-up set here!
I'm a 28-year-old journalist + university professor (without being anyone's "daughter" or "girlfriend" or whatever), and I wasn't beaten as a child! Also, I'm mixed raced, and no, we don't all get physically punished. Look, I'm fully aware that there are different "parenting approaches" based on culture, class, religion, but let's not seriously justify domesticate violence by arguing that that's what leads to intelligence. It just leads to fear and that may or may not translate into (the negative kind of) motivation to do better at school or hobbies, or around the house, but you can . And most importantly, beating up your kids is for parents who either don't wanna put effort into actual parenting (or who really don't know any better) because obviously, you can be firm but fair without throwing every object in the room after your child.
omg Olivia Munn is like Telemundo gorgeous. I really dont understand why she doesnt get too many roles in Hollywood. Intiually, I thought she was Hispanic but after I found out shes Euroasian I'm like wow. I love her so much, definitely one of my fashion and movie idols.
She's Euroasianokie
An ex boyfriend of mine brags about how his mom beat him up and always says it turned him into a great person. Honestly, yes he was a nice guy with a good heart, but he also had a shit ton of emotional problems. And some anger issues--he once randomly attacked a guy at a fast food place. No idea why he wasn't arrested. Now when I meet people who say "I was beaten and look how great I turned out!" I don't really believe them.
He's an ex for a reason, dude.
So you're a closed minded individual that stereotype about everything?
Uh oh. Looks like I've offended the childhood abuse community.
You know political correctness is out of control when people start whining that I'm "Stereotyping" people who were beaten up as children, and that I should be more open minded towards them.
It's not just my ex. I've worked with foster kids and mental patients. 99% of the time ones who were in the worse shape either were smacked around as kids or were molested.
If asian parents are good at raising smart kids, it has more to do with the fact that they make them actually do their schoolwork. unlike a lot of American parents, who might tell their kids a few times, but don't really follow through with enforcing the rules.
And seriously, are you really that stupid to think that because I dated ONE guy with emotional problems, then that means all my exes were the same?
Of all my ex boyfriends, he was the only one who I would call dysfunctional. And he was the only one who got slapped around by his mom.
What a coincidence.
Her posture stresses me out. It's so straight and perfect, I found myself subconsciously imitating it and holding my breath while she talked fast. I was getting stressed and didn't know why lmaoo
She is so fun and full of life. Love her!
Hitting kids is cowardly. Discipline is important but physical discipline seems like bullying behaviour to me.
Jim Beam different culture mate. I got beaten on my legs and ass till my skin was flayed, even bruises turned yellow purple and it hurts to sit down. by my maths teacher. She had different wooden canes of varying thickness. that was 15 years ago.. and back then parents supported the teachers beating kids. They were always on the teacher's side. Asian culture.
mintsnap I only accept cultural differences to a point. Foot binding was part of asian culture too, and I'm sure there were idiots 50 years ago who defended foot binding because it was an aspect of culture. Some things are so repellant that they go beyond cultural tolerance. Adults beating children is one of those things.
Jim Beam
true. i was heavily physically disciplined but my younger siblings werent ( my parents really chilled out once they were born) Having experienced two different discipline styles firsthand within my family i wouldnt go so far as to say beating children = abuse. But withholding physical discipline doesn't always result in delinquent children too.
mintsnap A lot depends on how the beating is structured. A lot depends on the kid too. For the most part though, you're playing with fire when you choose to discipline your kid that way.
Jim Beam Footbiding was a part Han Chinese culture not "Asian culture " as only China practised it idiot.
I love her! She's always super funny in her interviews.
My friend Richie and Alex got beat with a high heel shoe by their mom! They looked at me laughing." It's ok she's columbian!" ( what?)😅😂
Same thing when I was a kid in my very Korean household. When I brought home a report card, I'd go into the bathroom and have a very long shower so my mom would have time to cool down before seeing me again.
1:16. I like how the audience can laugh it out 😂😂
"Have you been to Wal-Mart?" Andy got a good one in there.
Andy stay KILLING it! I LOVE IT!
1. She's absolutely charming.
2. Sometimes, not all the time. But sometimes, a child needs a smack.
No, no they don't.
Qataqo
wat
Perhaps we all do. But the smartest of us have found other methods.
"Just a nice asian lady...."
Sounds like a South Park quote.
i had no idea what the video was gonna be about with that weird ass metaphor in the title.
Not all Asian parents are like this. Mine aren't and they were very lenient. I had a chill childhood.
My mom caught me trying to break the stick LOL... red handed.. shit went down
MusingsofaJay♡ oh man that would have been perfect for ***** 's #HowIGotBusted.
I have a southern dad and an Asian mom. I'm a punching bag.
Adults don't hit adults so why is it OK to hit a child? There are many ways to discipline children without hitting them.
+Robert Nooney What world do you live in where adults don't hit each other?
Adults are not allowed to hit other adults in every country in the world by law. Under common law it's called assault.
Robert Nooney keyword was 'allowed' which was missing before. be more specific
i agree
my mom beat me so bad she went to jail for 3 months... then when she got out she learned to pop me where you couldnt see it... sniff sniff..
Update: My Dad has said sorry, and I'm adulting and whatnot.
I'm 22 and white. I grew up in Connecticut. My Dad hit me all the time. He had mental illness issues. My Mom didn't hit me, she felt bad about my Dad.
I hope you've forgiven your dad.
I love Olivia Munn & that comforter trick is real life! Children of Asian and/or Black parents know what's up. Gotta be prepared. She is great on The Newsroom.
My mother beat the everloving shit out of me, and I am a complete fuck up, so that approach doesn't always work.
If you beat a child, it's parenting, if you beat an adult, it's an assault.
Unless it's consensual then it's kinky.
asian mix with caucasian- my kryptonite.
Same here Bro. Still can't get rid of it. Powerless
In Philippines, that's how we got disciplined when we were kids. Maybe not all of us but definitely most of us. We don't hate our parents for that, we love them instead. We turned out good.
Hanggang sa malagay ang kuwento ng buhay natin sa isang episode ng MMK.
What is your definition of "good"? Are you happy, or anxious, or yourself someone who hits to get their way? Just curious.
God, she's so funny in that clip. And her imitation of her mom just cracks me up. :)
Miss Munn is magnificent. Brilliant style.
Her eyes glowed in the dark.... All Asian moms 😂😂😂😂
I love walmart jokes.
I want that dress! Now that is a first date killer dress!
What Olivia says about Chinese mothers are pretty much the same! Hit first then talk later!
it's an immigrant thing. i'm haitian and i've had epic conversations comparing notes with other kids from other immigrant families of all ethnicities. it's seen as appalling in america for obvious reasons, but it's more or less the norm for other countries around the world from the carribbeans to asia. Though this is well known so I don't know why people are acting surprised or hating on her for just describing how she was brought up.
when you hit a child for doing something wrong, it leaves an impression or a mark deep, it sends a message relative to the issue at hand that causes a form of interruption and segmentation. there are better ways that dont involve heavy violence and the ensuing impression that is left
Let me explain something to you, you can't reason with a 2 year old, Sometimes kids SHOULD get their asses warmed up. I'm certainly not condoning punching a child or striking them in the face but sometimes kids need a reminder of who is the boss. Don't give me that DR Spock bullshit either. Everyday I see so many kids that are crying out for an asswhooping because all their parents did was give them timeouts and now they have no respect for their elders, authority or anything else
AceJams there are other ways than violence. you're taking a dominant position over a very small being and taking away their power, which will have ramifications on a child because at that time they dont have resources to deal with such an event.
if you avoid treating them with a level of respect and explaining the problem or what went wrong and allowing them an avenue of reconciliation so that they may actively take responsibility for what they did wrong, then offer a blunt impression filled with violence and powerlessness. no one wants that.
less violence, more positive options.
I agree with you as a mother myself that hitting a child is not necessary and there are much better and effective ways to discipline a child. I disagree with the comment that you can’t reason with a two year old. If you can’t communicate with your child, that’s the parent’s problem and not the two year old child’s. I choose to raise a child who understands the ramifications of her decisions and consequently makes good choices. Not a child that does so out I’d fear, because the moment they are strong enough to fight back, they will. We teach our children that violence is not okay and we need to lead by example. Violence is a symptom of that person’s failure to reason.
You can reason with a two year old much the same way you can reason with a dog - reward when he does good, punish when he does bad. Small children understand little more than that and as they start to develop they will instinctively learn to test your limits and try to establish a hierarchical structure long before they develop the empathy or moral compass to understand why not to do things because they hurt people's feelings.
You see kids walking all over their parents nowadays, throwing fits in public places and even hitting their parents when they're frustrated. This is not unlike a poorly trained dog growling and biting at the owner to try and establish dominance through intimidation. Sometimes the only solution to that problem is putting them back in their place and reminding them you have the power over them and not the other way around, physically if need be.
The idea that people don't do bad things because they have good kind hearts is extremely naive. The vast majority of people don't do bad things because they are always aware, even if at a subconscious level, that there will likely be a punishment for doing something bad. That's why there is law enforcement, without it (almost) nobody would actually obey the law and they'd just do as they please. I could give you countless examples of the selfish and destructive nature of humans coming out very quickly when the legal and social boundaries that keep us in check break down. Someone who doesn't learn these boundaries at some point in their development will probably end up in prison or dead once they're adults (or even sooner). Letting a spoiled brat kick and scream all he wants and think he's the center of the world isn't actually doing that child any favors on the long run, thankfully most children will learn this lesson in kindergarten if their parents fail to teach them sooner, when they hit another kid or try to take his toy and that kid hits them right back.
@@AceJams I bet you feel like a real adult hitting a 2 year old
"You stupid kids. You tricked me!" XD
I know this was supposed to be funny, but it just kind of made me sad. It made me want to give this girl a hug. There's no reason she had to grow up in that kind of environment. I don't like to disparage anyone's parents, but her mother clearly had some very serious anger issues. Poor girl.
That not mean her mom have serious anger issues, silly. Im Asian myself and my mom not hit me, do you know asian's parent is one of most caring, take care their child? Im not mean asian parent better than others but sure, asian parents take care their kids alot & so deep than any imagine people can image, all they do just for their child, no matter how old their kids in their eyes their son/daughter still a little one.
Gerenal, parent at any race, anywhere was beat their children not only Asian, its depend on person/personality not about race. But i admit, asian family seems much more than others race but thats not mean they're bad at all, i know its a wrong to teach a kids (except the case, violence/child abuse)
PS: My parents, siblings take care for me than any race can imagine, even now im 27year-old, they never hit or focus me, they can spend time, money and everything for me. And we born& raise in Asian not oversea, we're also decent family not high-class. Around me is same also, sure still have some case child abuse, that case im 100% agree they're sickness parents not a human, have no words to justify for them.
That's wonderful for you. I'm glad you had loving parents. Every child should have that. However, if what Ms. Munn is saying is true, then yes, her mother DID have anger issues. I don't care what her ethnicity is. No child should have to grow up in an environment of fear. For you to make generalizations about how some ethnic groups care more about their children than others is not only irrational, but ignorant as well. No one ethnic group is "better" than another.
***** you dont seem to understand... They dont hit because of anger issue. They hit because they care and for them its the way to educate(not saying its the right way). Its a hard concept to understand when you've never been hit, I've received myself some good ass whooping by my parents and now i'm 20 years old and never would I say they were beating me it was more an education thing.
Their way ***
Marc Watier Who says I've never been hit? My mom broke a yard stick on my ass when I was 10, and I'll tell you, it wasn't to "educate" me. It was because I was being a little shit at the time and she lost her temper. I know you don't want to call it that, but "beating" is exactly what your parents were doing to you. Think of it this way. If your parents would have done to me, or any other adult, what they did to you, they would have been charged with assault and gone to jail. But because they're your parents, and you're their child, it's permitted. I'll say it again, fear, intimidation and violence have no place in a healthy home environment. I don't care if it's done under the guise of "education".
She practically described Mexican moms too. :p
My wife is Vietnamese like Olivia. When we lived in Saigon I saw lots of Vietnamese hitting their kids but they never hold grudges and they all love each other far more than Americans.
yep my mom threw plates
Spare the rod, spoil the child.
Yes
Jejune Brozv Yet this woman has achieved, whereas you are just an insignificant thing. Perhaps you had dumb parents. Hopefully you will not breed. Humanity can do MUCH better.
Jejune Brozv You sound fat.
There are other ways to not spoil your kids. Hitting is more for the lazy or stupid who don't have the time or the problem solving skills to discipline(teach) their kids without hitting them. I was hit a few times as a kid, but it had nothing to do with the way I turned out.
heh? No bibles for me.
Yes, of course I understand your point of view. I understand that not all Asians are the same. There are different features, characteristics, behaviors, cultures, and mentalities for each group. I understand all of this. We are all unique, but, like I said, because of our uniqueness, people find it "fun" or "fair" to criticize each race - sometimes good and sometimes bad. As long as we are all different, there will ALWAYS be opinions. If we were all the same, what would there be to comment on.
I am asian
this is semi accurate
her mom is more extreme than mine
For me, it's my grandma and Grandma is worse because she's less consistent.
What is the name of the TV show that the clip is from?
It's called The Newsroom
RobBluth
Thanks!
Kind of a sad story, actually. Straight up child abuse. But Andy nearly killed me with his Wal-Mart comment.
"[Asians,] You're probably all hit." My Mom hit me when I deserved it and my Dad never laid a hand on me, ever. Lots of Asian parents physically discipline their child, but not everyone. I did not like the way Olivia Munn straight up put an entire culture on blast as if she asked every family how they run. Smh, don't speak for me unless you know me.
LOL. OMG. Asian too. My siblings talk about my mom's red eyes when she gets mad at us. Oh those young days.
Olivia Minn is SUPER TALENTED!!!
I'm asian and my parents never did that.
It's from an HBO show called The Newsroom. I just watched the first season after watching this interview. It's really good.
yeah, that's not asian mom, it's abusive agressive mom -_- . sincerely, asian girl
My asian grandmother never tried to hit me. She would just kick me out of the house and tell me not to come back until my parents came to get me. The Filipino lady down the street would also kick her kids out of the house if they pissed her off. Those kids would sometimes sleep in the yard. No exaggeration.
Hahaha tell me about it. Pacific Islanders suffer the worst hahaha bruises from anything that our parents can get their hands on hahaha That disciplined us very much!!
Hawaiins aren't Asians. They are pacific islanders.
This is sad for any kid who was hit and knows now that it’s never ok. Hope this doesn’t perpetuate more needless corporal punishment, that results in kids thinking violence is normal, or worse- love, and that they are not safe and their bodies can’t even be respected by their parents.
are you close to your mother more than olivia munn? that clearly loves her mother and takes her anywhere. Or you put your mom in retirement home and visit her once a year and profess you love your parents so much that you never visit her
>>RE:
It was actually in Sept 09 according to this tweet.
twitter*com/oliviamunn/status/3703968803
This tweet may explain why she did it but doesn't change the fact that Tom was shooting in his PERSONAL living room whereas AOTS is a studio.
crazy to think that violence or aggression could lead to something positive - kind of hard to believe
Why? People have been using corporal discipline for thousands of years. If it was so bad that it wrecked peoples souls, I don't think civilization could have advanced to where it is today.
Elurin Yes I would agree corporal discipline can go a long way with the proper personality types - depending on what outcome you are looking for. I wouldn't say that today people's entire souls are wrecked, but I would argue that we could use more love and understanding now, than anything. I believe if we are to move up to a more evolved way - that it will be turning all outward aggression inwards, to master ourselves - in order to help others do the same - which one could say corporal discipline helps us do - whilst another personality type would say "not me man, don't whip my hands with a ruler, Ill educate myself, Ill discipline myself, and get this shit done, without all that". And that's what we need more of today - so that people don't HAVE to have their hands whipped with rulers in order to do the right thing, they just do the right thing cause its the right thing :PPP - then again - I think if you see things done in a loving way, and see that it has a positive result - like planting a flower, watering it, and watching it grow - we wont see so much corporal discipline anymore - and we will have evolved, I think.
Elurin just because something progressed whilst embodying violent methods, dosent justify those violent methods. sure a corporation could become progressive via attacking and harming and bullying, dosent speak for the emotional and personal damage that is caused and the ensuing life that is lost, and consequent repercussions.
Yes exactly - and just because humanity may have progressed up to a certain point utilizing aggression - doesn't mean it is meant to stay that way forever - and mostly: don't underestimate the power of love and intelligence, to go a long way - you may find, if you look in the right places, where we are spreading good vibrations of one form or another, we are usually also experiencing good things, positive emotions, higher intelligence, and higher creativity. Even water understands the difference - between saying "I love you" and "You fucking suck!" - just look up Masaro Emoto, he's a household name.
We are mostly composed of water. What you give your attention matters, and the way you do it matters - your intention matters. We all have imaginative solutions to the worlds problems, that our unique perspective and abilities allows us to give.
HuckleberrySlim"Aggression" implies intentions that are negative, as does the term "Punishment" as opposed to discipline which implies "Training" I respected my parents for discipline I received from them because I knew that they loved me and, at times, I know I needed a heavy hand to correct me from following a path that could lead me into self-destructive behaviours. I believe Corporal discipline administering in love, at the right age range (which is pretty narrow) is far better than time-outs, grounding or whatever 'soft' discipline that some parents come up with sometimes.
Poor girl is traumatized.
when Munn and Pereira left AOTS, I left AOTS
Yep. And the replacement hosts were the worst hosts... Ever
I'm Asian in Asia. Generally, Asians do discipline their child by hitting regardless of other cultures disagreement but it works. We come out okay and we know it is not abusive type of hitting. My mum won't hit me unless I did something wrong. Probably works otherwise in other homes but I suppose she did paint a picture about Asians that would make others think that it's abuse
+LileeSoeliani19 Maybe uh, because it is abuse.
+MAJE5TYY in your small frame of mind, most probably
So basically, that's why asians knows martial arts ?
She got killed with that Walmart line lol
I'm asian and I only got spanked once in my life or atleast that's what I remember.
Judging by how common spanking seems to be, I must either have been a very good kid or I have the nicest parents in the world!
Olivia Munn was on the Tom Green Show once back in 06ish and was being a major dick to Tom. She came on and broke a coffee mug that was given to Tom by Ed Mcmahon. You could tell Tom was a bit hung up on that happening. Before that, she was being rude and stuck-up the entire interview. The footage doesn't appear to be anywhere except for possibly on Tom Green's premium archived subscription. If you find it, let me know!
I have a hispanic mother and she used to slap me and that's about it but I got the worst of it from my hispanic grandma and white granddad lol
Happy Man u mad bruh???
Happy Man You are so embarrassing
0:45 that laugh though. Lol
"I'm just a little Asian lady"
-Conan
"This is how I feel on the inside"
-Dave Chappelle
😂😂😂😂😂😂
I was also beaten badly growing up so I can relate. It seems to be a common trend among Asians so she has a point.
She's does the worst interviews... She's seriously f-ed up just search for the one she did with comedian Aziz...
Sounds like "Now I'm famous and can out mom for abusing us." LOL