Dietitian Reviews Tara Michelle’s REALISTIC THAT GIRL Routine (ARE WE DONE WITH THIS YET?!)
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- Опубликовано: 6 фев 2025
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Hey everyone I’m Abbey Sharp welcome to Abbey’s Kitchen. In todays video, we will be talking about Tara Michelle's "realistic That Girl" lifestyle.
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Abbey this video is weird. Actually this whole genre of video you do is odd. Like hater energy? Also you have a big ego - you spoke like you were an authority on someones lifestyle. Not even just their food choices but their lifestyle. Odd behavior. No one said that one video is the only way to be "that girl" no one said you have to be a morning person. People are documenting what works for them. You don't need to be following behind a 20-something anyways. Obviously a single, childless, young woman has time for different things/proirties that you might.
@@sportyteenhair21 exactly
@@sportyteenhair21 the problem with the trend is that it's not adaptable for the average human being. it perpetuates a stereotype of 'if you're like this, you're better than everyone else', plus it promotes disordered eating. and abbey is just being sarcastic - she's just saying that it's not realistic for the majority of people
@@user-er2dz4ws6z can you seriously sit up here and say that?? You choose to consume the content you want. There is SOOO much out there. Like literally so much content/lifestyles.
Also that is not disordered eating. Most people do not eat a ~perfectly~ balanced diet for every meal. That’s called life. Not an eating disorder.
I’m a regular person who eats very similar to that. I’ve been to the doctor for physical recently - body is normal.
Also if you consume content and feel you have to be exactly like that person or with the lense that that’s the “only” way to eat or live. 🙃 ok. Lol.
@@user-er2dz4ws6z and for the record it IS weird af for Abbey to use this shaming and inflammatory method of reviewing girls diet with lifestyle completely different than hers and 10+ years younger to “help” them eat better and critiquing very normal food choices. Obviously as a nutritionist she has way more information than the average person - why does she talk at these girls like they are responsible for building a nutritious meal for every meal???? Like??? Weird. Odd. Strange. We know why she loves to shame women younger than her $$$$$$
I want to see some ACTUAL realistic "that girl" routines. 9-5 workers, moms, women with disabilities, more women of color etc.. it's like the same thing over and over with slight alterations! We can be the best version of ourselves in different ways. (:
We dont have time
I literally get up at 7 to walk my dog and look decent and pack lunch and head to the office
My coffee is breakfast and then i get back at 6 or 7 depending on my lovely boss to have dinner then i workout for an hour and sleep
But this is an "actual" "that girl" routine. She's an actual person, there are others who follow similar lifestyles who are actual people. This might not be your lifestyle but that doesn't mean this isn't real. If you want to see different content, make that content, I'm sure there would just as many if not more people who relate.
Preach 🙏
💪💪 YES!
It's really easy to be "that girl" when your job is to film being that girl. Influencers are doing 2 things at once. Be that girl while having to work a job that's not being an influencer. I know many people say filming adds time, which I'm sure that part of the job feels the most joby (?). Lol. But it's a different thing when you're attempting to be "that girl" in addition to being a real ass person.
Love the point :)
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It’s the analytics and editing that take the most time; posting on social media is work! I did it professionally for companies and it’s a lot more than just filming; capturing footage is the easy part. I think we need to re-evaluate though; why don’t women with “normal” lifestyles have time to create content? Or have hobbies? I think we work too much and should analyze that instead of going after women who escaped the grind.
@@summer-xt1gg they didn't "escape the grind", they promote it, just sugarcoated and pretending it's healthy and for your best self.
@@oe9993 You’re referring to one type of social media personality; not everyone is a girl boss influencer. Don’t downplay the fact that it’s a lot easier to project one version of yourself online for 2 hours a day than it is to fit yourself into the corporate identity box for 8 hours a day for half the money.
With chronic health issues, each day is unpredictable. I embrace being "Adapt Girl" 🤷♀️😅
I love “adapt girl” you should copyright that one lol
I love this! I try to make my bed in the morning (on good days… when they happen) bc it helps me not go back into it.
GIRL, yes. Love this. So much more relatable.
I struggle with chronic pain and I can't do those intense workout those "that girl" routines entail. Just getting up in the morning is difficult.
I love that for those of us with disabilities and chronic illness! Thank you! 💛🌿
RE: making your bed in the morning
I make my bed almost every day. I understand the thinking of "why bother when it's just going to get messy later." But for me, it's 100% psychological. It takes me maybe a minute and when I walk in the room later and it looks nice and the bed is made it's a HUGE weight off my anxiety. It also helps me start the day with a "win." A tiny accomplishment where, if I get nothing else completed for the day, that task, which doesn't take me long, is reliably done. I never was required to make my bed as a kid and rarely did it as a young adult, but since making it a habit, it's been something I've really enjoyed having completed every day. But that's just me of course. Love your content so much, Abbey!
@@KateS1980 to further institute thoughtless order and rule following?
It also acts as a deterrent to me crawling back into bed and oversleeping!
That’s exactly how I feel about it too. At least at the end of a bad day, my bed is made and looks neat.
As someone with a chronic Illness, making my bed helps me not get back in it unless I need to
I don't really. I fluff up my duvet, fold it in half with the top toward the foot of the bed, then fluff up my pillows. It still looks tidy and the mattress and the part of the duvet I was sleeping under can air out all day. We lose a LOT of fluid overnight even if we wake up feeling bone-dry, and a bed has to air properly. Anything else is unhygienic as heck. Plus, mites and bed bugs LOVE made beds, sealing in all that moisture. It's gross.
I’m not huge into lifestyle bloggers but I actually really like Tara!!
Yeah, same! I don’t watch any other lifestyle vloggers but Tara is awesome
Same
I do too. So many influencer’s just irritate me. But Tara i fell has a very chill vibe.
@@a.k.akarin saaame!! She’s one of the only lifestyle vloggers I’ve ever been into.
Same. It’s not usually my thing but I love watching a Tara vid when I’m feeling stressed.
Yesterday I had a binge for the first time in months and immediately felt the impulse to restringe the next day, but then I remembered Abbey’s teachings about not letting ourselves get into the binge-restringe cycle and it helped me a lot. Thank you for helping me in this journey of healing my relationship with food
So glad my content has been helpful for you ❤️
8:05 made me cry and changed my life. I just wish the rest of the world, especially schools and employers, would respect that.
Realistic for you may be very different from realistic for others. Whatever routines make people feel better and take care of themselves (in various ways) is good by me
I feel like being “that girl” should be different for everyone. I’m a mom of 3 and am so busy in the mornings that just waking up 30 minutes early to wash my face, brush my teeth and have some coffee makes me feel like “that girl”. 🤷🏼♀️
I love the idea that you should implement only those parts of 'that girl' into your routine that bring you joy! Personally, I noticed that when I spend 3 additional minutes on styling my food and making it look pretty, I feel so much better and it seems like even the taste itself improves. So for me spending time on this little thing is not a sacrifice but a simple way to bring more joyful moments into my day!
For real. "Shoulding" myself into these activities was causing me MORE stress!!!!!
I always use the phrase “you don’t have to have a perfect ___ in order to have a healthy ___.” Lately it has been super comforting and is a great way to be kind to myself. I want to see this more in that girl routines!!
Love that!
I've always been an early morning kinda girl (workout, shower, cook, eat, clean, grocery shop all before 9 am). However, I feel like a lot of "that girl" videos glorify getting up early as a discipline thing like you mentioned when really it requires a give and take and a flexible schedule. If I had a job that made me work late or kids or anything that requires me to do anything after 10 pm there's no way I could have this routine. And if I go too hard on my workout I need a 3pm nap which is definitely not their version of "productive and disciplined." I'm lucky since I get to mostly make my own work schedule but for so many people it's simply unattainable.
Totally. Thank you for sharing!
@@AbbeysKitchen omg thanks for replying! I love your channel and it's helped me so much!
Can I just say how much I appreciate this take!? Social media has this way of pressuring you into thinking all of these will better your life but nobody ever asks if they is something that just causes this weird pressure to do it all, without thinking if it actually makes you happy? This was super eye opening, thank you!
Toward the end, your "You're that girl, you're enough" message really hit home. I feel like that girl.... but my routine as a stay at home mom and Co business owner, does not qualify at all... not even close. I'm barely holding it together most days. Thanks for being real 💕
So glad that was helpful for you ❤️
I don't tick-tock, but I think someone needs to champion the "this girl" tend. This girl wakes up 30 minutes before signing into work. This girl is sometimes late because she had to poop a second time. This girl eats when she has time and ain't nobody got time to make flavored water.
Totally!
So much this!!!!
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Hahah omg yessss
Tara is the only lifestyle influencer I follow on RUclips.
Love your style. Straight to the point. I’ve watched Tara videos off and on even though I’m almost 70. Enjoy seeing different parts of Toronto and her place in Los Angeles. She’s a little over dramatic at times but I love her parents. Thank you for sharing. New subscriber 💕🇨🇦
Same, 57 and adoring her cute but focused life!
Omg I was so nervous when I saw Tara Michelle in the thumbnail- because I love her! 😅 So glad this was a good video. 💕
Appreciated the content today! Carbs aren’t bad, sugar isn’t evil, and being THAT girl looks different for everyone!
I needed this reminder that we don't need to be productive every day. Thank you!! I love your videos!
Totally! ❤️
My self care doesn’t revolve around my beauty. I play the piano and get so much more satisfaction and relaxation from that. Then the rest of the day on my off days I feel like I’m brain dumping the work week 😆
I LOVE the way you reference papers in your videos.
I don't know if I don't really understand the trend, but to me ''that girl'' just means appreciating and romanticizing the little things in life. I don't see it, that you HAVE to get up at 5, workout every day, eat cute food etc. But just applying some of theses things to your life, the ones that suit you?
About making the bed, I guess it depends on your situation. I'm a student so I spend a lot of time in my room and it would bother me if it were messy. But if I left my bedroom in the morning and wouldn't spend any time in it during the day, I wouldn't mind the unmade bed.
I agree.
Personally, I don’t think it’s a bad thing, on the contrary. Some of these little things might inspire others to integrate something that’s good for you in your life or appreciate things you have taken for granted.
I have found a good routine for me and some things I integrated in my life and it makes my whole day better and me more happy. I get up at 7 am, make my bed (I just don’t like it when anything is messy and you have already accomplished one little thing in the morning), workout, have a healthy breakfast, go for a nice walk, draw or read a bit during the day, have a nice lunch, a run before dinner, and finish the day with a good dinner, skin care, and a nice book or movie. In between other things I have to do for university. That’s just a routine that makes me feel good and that works for me. I sometimes add little rituals that make me feel better or help me calm down, like reflecting for a minute in the evening.
I mean, I know my routine doesn’t work for everyone, but it works for me - and everyone can find those little things or routines that suit their life. Really makes you more appreciative in my opinion.
Omg! If I don’t make my bed in the mornings, I’ll make it before I get in bed to sleep because having the sheets tucked make my sleep experience WAY better. Highly recommend adding it to your routine especially with sleep issues
Thanks for sharing!
If I don't make my bed first thing in the morning I will crawl right back in, sleep for another half an hour and sacrifice breakfast so I am not late to work. Not making my bed can literally ruin my day😂
I totally understand!
I adore Tara Michelle because she is more realistic in general. She shares her “ugly” moments, eats what she wants, shares her vulnerable times openly, is honest about her mental health journey, she’s just such an awesome person. Thank you for sharing hee “That Girl” vlog so positively 🙏🏻♥️
I don’t know, this didn’t feel much different from any other “that girl” videos. It seems only realistic for RUclipsrs not the average working adult.
For sure!
Except for the fact that Tara does the bare minimum compared to other "that girl" videos, and says multiple times that the "that girl" trend is unrealistic. That's how it's different.
I watch the That Girl Night Routines as asmr at night to calm down before doing my own routine. Plus it makes me have motivation to do things other than just going to bed without taking care of myself and giving myself time to relax my brain.
I agree, I find some that girl routines helpful.
If it doesn’t help you don’t watch it simple enough, no need to talk so much shit on people for trying to improve themselves.
Get unready with me videos do give a certain type of dopamine that cannot be replicated
@@emilierose-biche It’s not about shitting on ppl who want to improve themselves. It’s shitting on a standard that really only works for content creators working from home leaving millions of women feeling like they can’t ever be good enough because they can’t have 5 hour morning routines and can’t spend 4 hours in the gym everyday or can’t cook every meal from scratch. Hope this helps
Thanks for sharing!
I feel like that girl when I get up and actually get dressed 🤣 depression sucks sometimes but I didn't sleep till 2 after getting home from work then awake at 9 had breakfast got dressed walked 2 miles and done a mini food shop/put it away and done the dishes and now I'm chilling in the garden sunbathing and watching RUclips 😊
Proud of you
I definitely am NOT an influencer, but I do like to style every meal I can. But, well, kids happened, but I try tô style my plate as much as I can, It feels like I care a little more about myself when I do... 😊
same!
The thumbnail and title is so misleading as if Tara was doing the “damaging” routine when in reality it was a realistic one and exactly what you preach about…don’t appreciate potentially making another creator look bad just for clickbait purposes.
Nightshift nurse literally never make my bed, plus my cat likes to snuggle up in the messy blankets. I'd love it see more routines for us crazy nightshifters.
Nigh shift worker and mum here! I wish to see video about this lifestyle 😅
Same!!
I dont think that girl works late nights. But a routine for it would still be nice.
This morning I was glad to even manage to roll out of bed and get myself ready for work in as little time as possible...I was at work all day, worked out in the evening and now I am eating ice cream in bed and watching RUclips...it is beautiful..this is my kind of THAT girl...😆 Thank you for another great video 😊
It's like we're having the same day, except my ice cream and RUclips were on the couch instead of in bed 😄
That actually sounds like such a good routine! There’s so much pressure on morning routines, which is not for me. I’ve actually been challenging myself to set a timer and get everything done in 20 minutes. I don’t have the energy or desire to get up, workout, journal, cook a meal, full skincare and then go to work for 8 hours lol
@Rachel Forshee Yes, I am from Slovakia in central Europe. Hello 😊
@@anoukduboisbe Ice-cream is always a good idea, no matter where you eat it 😃
@@knoweverythingsokay Exactly. I am not a morning person and it is just too much to do. I would rather have a nice relaxing evening than this 😊
Always remember that those girls don’t have a 9 to 5… They don’t have to be in an office with colleagues and bosses. They have the whole time in the world…!
Nobody commenting on her "I've been so productive, I've had breakfast, I made coffee..." I may have a little different idea about productivity.
I made my video thumbnail.. 🙄
Ikr 🤣🤣 I laughed so hard on this :)
THANK YOU! I am so tired of being told "not making my bed" every morning makes me a less motivated person. Like, my cat needs those blankets messy!
honestly f*ck that people who push that narrative non-stop, i’ll not f*cking make my bed and i’ll be motivated af 😂
@@eafafeayd motivated to do something more productive;)
I’ve read that leaving the covers back for at least a little while allows your bed to breathe after a night of skin sloughing and sweat… much less other “stuff” 😆
I feel stupid saying this but why do people want to be ‘that girl’ - just be you. Being your authentic self whilst finding rhythms that work for you is so much more powerful that ‘I’m ‘that’ girl’.
Two years ago when I started my weight loss & health journey, Tara was a creator I started watching that genuinely made me feel good, even though I wasn't in the same place she was. Her videos were a breath of fresh air compared to some of the other videos I was seeing.
Abbey, I appreciate this content, but really don't like the thumbnail style you're using. You overall had a really positive review of this person, but if someone just saw this thumbnail and scrolled on, they may have judged them incorrectly due to the "is this a joke??" Statement combined with your expression. I mean this in the nicest way as I can express, but I don't think this tactic suits you.
Someone feel free to correct me if I'm wrong.
I also rarely make my bed. I don't see the point either and I actually read somewhere that it's good to let your sheets air out a bit. Also would love to see a "that girl" routine for moms. Some mornings it's a struggle to just have a few sips of coffee and scrap of food off my child's plate.
When Emma Chamberlain said “it’s not bad to want to live a simple life” that was the validation I needed to stop trying to be “that girl.” Bc I stressed for so long trying to do so much when that just isn’t me. I don’t want to be that girl that is so busy and is doing all of these things. I’d rather do the things I actually enjoy and simply live my simple life. If anyone else is feeling this way, this is your sign to live your life the way you want, not how others make you think you should.
Some of us are short and only need 1200 cals on sedentary days. I hate the toddler sentence.
as a fellow star-glazer, I sleep at 7 am and get up at 12:30pm... I don't know I admire that morning ppl but I also enjoy me appreciating the sunrise on my way home at 5 am :)
Working graveyard its nice on a Friday(I work Sunday- Thursday) to be able to see the sun and be out in the sun. Its good to hear the comment about the sun.
Do you use a SAD lamp/ Sun lamp? I love mine.
“Look at what I’ve done before 12 noon!”
OMG! I have to be out of my house and on the road by 6:00! If I go swimming before work I I am out of the house by 4am.
I always make my food look pretty before eating because cute things make me happy lol. and I struggle with binge eating and overeating so it helps me to wait and then eat when my food is all nice and ready instead of just shoveling it straight into my mouth while I'm still making my plate
Thanks for the “morning person” fact! I always felt so lame for not being one of those people who can wake up at 6am.
I love this. We shouldn’t punish ourselves or feel guilty for taking some time out for ourselves. We do… but we shouldn’t 😫 Thanks for this video, I love your take & humour 😘
I was a morning person for like the longest time. Even now I have no issue waking up between 4:00 and 5:00 a.m. fully awake energetic. But my reality is getting up at this time by 1:00 in the afternoon I felt like I needed a nap.
So now I force myself to go back to sleep till between 6:00 and 7:00 and then I can generally make it through the day. I don't wake up as refreshed and sometimes they still need a 4:00 p.m. 15 minute.
I wish Abbey was the angel on my shoulder every time I see a "what I eat in a week" video...telling me- this has signs of someone with an eating disorder, you'll find this triggering, this one is GREAT to get ispo, this one is full of balanced meals etc
By 9 am I’ve already been at work for at least two hours. I can’t imagine the luxury of a leisurely cup of coffee and a half an hour with my journal.
7:40 So much accomplished... eating breakfast, drinking coffee, posting a video. All right :D
those videos don't make themselves lol, a lot of planning and editing goes into them. Also, it's quite possible that she's done more things than she mentioned, she was just casually talking about her day, not writing a dear diary
Idk if I haven’t been a fan of your channel long enough to know if you’ve already done this, but I would LOVE to see what you eat in a day! Balancing having kids and working, I’m curious to see how you, as a dietitian, gets in those hunger crushing combos!!!
Hi from Saskatchewan 🙋♀️ Abbey 👍👍 another great video 👏 I too don't make my bed; unless I have just changed the sheets. I'm not a morning girl either because my husband and I often work till 10 or even past midnight. If I have to wale up to take my husband to work for a morning shift and my kids to school; I usually take a morning or early afternoon nap.
Okay yes, but where is your green dress from please?! It’s beautiful 😍😍
Abbey, your makeup looks especially great in this video!! 😍
I've never really understood being triggered by that girl videos. I have a full-time job, I'm not a vlogger, so comparing my life to theirs is like apples and oranges. Yeah there are no "realistic" that girl videos because the only people making lifestyle videos for the internet are lifestyle vloggers. I get that this genre can be potentially irritating but like, calm down. Spend less time on the internet...
For older people like us, it is something that you can understand. The problem I see as a psychologist is that most of my patients are teenagers that watch these bloggers and think their lives have to be like theirs to be successful. They compare their routines, etc to these "influencers" and they will never have the time to do all those things because normal people have jobs and or school and not all the time in the world to film the perfect edit for a video.
It is so true, that some people are just not morning persons. I need my coffee, no people and riding my bike to the clinic. There I eat my breakfast and lunch later. I make my bed and slithly tidy up beforehand, simply because I am to tired in the evening and it is an easy task for me to slowly wake up. As I am busy all day round I need a tidy home as a safe space to calm down. But that's my way. And if I am fricking lazy one day, that's it.
Being close to finals after surviving 2.5 years of Covid working in health care, I can only say my colleagues and I we rock, whether or not we are instagramable or not. So her way to do it is really refreshing!
Early wake up at 7:36?! Me - three little ones - „that’s sleeping in!“. 😅😅😅
“If it feels good to rub a rock on your face then rub a dub dub, do it’l 🤣 Had me cracking up Lol
I only just found your channel- I love it!!! Thank you!!!! FYI (LOL) I had no idea “that girl” was a fad, craze, thing???? You do you people 😊 you Rock Abby!!! 😘😘😘
I hear you Abbey, I don’t make my bed either.I will straighten my sheets if they are falling off. Good to see a more realistic approach to life. I am not type A and some days do not feel like doing much of anything,but, I am retired. I’d like to focus on eating better to give me more energy and be healthy. Great video.
I’m so relieved. I’ve watched both you and Tara for years so I’m very happy this was a positive review. 😅
Hi Abbey 👋 same for me, I think the only times my bed gets made, is on the days I wash bedding. Most other days, I just can’t be bothered. I was raised to clean my room and get my bed made first thing in the morning. But, as I took on adulthood, I decided that I just didn’t see the purpose of making it, to climb right back into it a few hours later lol 🤷🏼♀️ to each their own. I hope you and your beautiful family had a wonderful Fathers Day weekend 💙🦋🙏🏼✌🏻
I think the world would be nicer if people would stop caring about what life social media portrays. Like, come on, even "that girl" has some bad days like all of us do, but she won't dare to share.
Yes!! Love this video and normalization of “every day is different” ! Love the green Abbey!
LOVE her realistic take on the trend. :) I try to take the inspiring parts for myself and apply it to my life - though waking up at 5 am has never been me. I'm more of a wake up at 7:30-8:30 AM type of girl and workout later in the day. As you say, everyone ought to do what works best for them.
Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts and wisdom
Abby, I love that lime green on you!
I tried the built bars, they are divine! Just wished they were a bit cheaper for Canadians since the showed price on their website is Americain dolllars. But I am a regular, and my husband also loves them!
I have to make my bed cause if I get in at night into “last nights sheets” it “feels different” even though they are last nights sheets 🤦🏻♀️😂
I’d love to see you review Brittany Lupton! She’s amazing and has such a healthy mindset around food!
I LOVE to make my bed. The room looks much calmer + it's the best feeling to see a made bed in the evening (or nap time) 😄
I just hate how these trends, and the whole “billionaires get up at 4am” push this idea that you are a better (superior to the rest of society) person for getting up early, working out, drinking lemon water. If that feels good for you, thats fine. But you aren’t superior now. You aren’t superior because you are “productive” - also productive is very subjective.
I make my bed every morning however, I don't keep a million pillows and blankets on it. I literally have the pillows my husband and I sleep with and then for the bedding, we have the top sheet and the duvet. That's it! All we do is straighten up the bedding and the pillows lol
Omg I had no idea you guys didn’t have Trader Joe’s I’m so sorry!!!
And so true I’m just over here surviving right now with a 3.5 year old and a Newborn I’m lucky to get a shower everyday 😆 I definitely enjoy seeing peoples different versions of how they “try” to better themselves. I’m one of those people who actually eat keto now for weight loss but because it’s the only way of eating I found controls my debilitating migraines…trust if a beautiful creamy bowl of pasta is around I still eat it. I don’t believe in total restriction (I can’t live like that) but we all gotta do what works best for Our Own Bodies! For me higher fat just works, I think it’s sad so many women especially are showcasing such calorie restriction (I’m 4’10 and eat way more) I just more women understood that that’s not what your body needs to operate at it’s best.
You should check out Keto Rewind. She is definitely in her struggles with diet culture, massive calorie restriction, binge and purge cycles, and it really gives keto are horrible look when some people really do genuinely feel physically and mentally better eating higher fat, yet she is starving herself and having pity parties over gaining back weight cause she restricts in such a drastic manner. Breaks my heart to see so many people starving for a number on a scale when it’s not the case. I just had my baby 3 months ago and just eat what makes me feel my best and it’s foods I love (bring me cheese 😆) . Life is meant to be enjoyed and eat what you love the massive calorie restriction is just so disturbing to watch at this point, you should check it out
I’m sure there’s many aspects that make this trend attractive. I have pretty severe adhd and sometimes the most mundane things seem organized and well planned when I look at how someone else lives their life. I do tho watch a lot of those “I get up at 5 am” videos that come from big cities in China, Korea, Japan and other urban cities where people wake up super early to do chores before going to work. But I also understand those climates get SO HOT and HUMID late morning that most of those people do chores that early cause it’s almost impossible to wait until later when it’s 105 degrees and 80% humidity…. PLUS most of those demographics have insane work weeks. I think losing that context is what causes them to explode and seem like something one must mimic…. When I watch those videos, I keep in mind the cultural and regional aspects that are at play…Food for thought.
Thank you for this video! Btw I love this green outfit on you, this colour suits you sooooo well!
Ooohhh… I’d love to learn more about body clocks (early vs late risers) because this “that girl” trend on early rising is really making me feel inadequate, even as I’ve *never* been a “morning person”… never ever ever. I’d also love to know how to adjust eating so it corresponds to the different body clocks, since I rarely feel hungry first thing upon waking.
I really don’t get the hate for the “that girl” trend (aside from the eating disorder and manifestation bs). If it’s not for you it’s not for you, plain and simple. I don’t see how it’s a crazy idea to live a life like this. I’m child free by choice and so I have much more time to myself and highly enjoy living an aesthetic life and making my food pretty even though the only social media I have is watching RUclips. If you’re a mom and don’t have this kind of time, that’s not everybody else’s problem to create realistic routines for you. Even if these girls don’t live their lives like the way they post all the time, if posting that type of content makes them happy then shouldn’t that be all that matters? If you’re jealous that they have this kind of time or privilege, it helps nobody to try and tell them they’re making you feel insecure about your life, and you should really be focused on trying to be less insecure and judgmental. I hate the fact that if anybody in this comment section met me, they would automatically assume I’m trying to fit the mold of that girl, when in actuality I just live my life like this and have for a long time, even before it became cool. I hate it not because I’m insecure about people disliking me, but because I think it’s a gross mentality to automatically dislike somebody off of assumptions you’ve formed from trends on social media. It’s along the same lines of disliking somebody for being vegan because That Vegan Teacher makes obnoxious content. Would it be nice to see representation for other lifestyles, sure, but hating on people who aren’t giving you that representation and are living a life that presumably makes them happy is weird
THIS.
I agree! I've been called variations on "that girl". I too am childfree, I often get up at 4:30 (it gets hot here so if I want to go for a run or hike before it heats up, that's the right time to do it), I eat very healthy, I'm a size 2 because I work very hard for it (I used to be 262 lbs, so it takes a lot of work in my case!), I live by the beach by choice. I have a chronic skin condition that means I spend a lot of time on skincare (with great results). Etc. I have worked really hard for the lifestyle I have. If other people see my lifestyle and think it's "unrealistic", that's just bizarre to me -- it's my real life, so how unrealistic can it be? It's not their life, but why would I be living someone else's life?
This trend towards promoting mediocrity, and calling it realism, is unfortunate. There's nothing wrong with identifying the kind of lifestyle you desire and setting up your life to be that way. Wallowing in mediocrity isn't helpful.
see, the thing with your comment is that you're hating too. "Eating disorder"- eating disorder is a psychological issue (with physical symptoms, obviously) but you cannot look at one video of someone eating (or not eating) and go on claiming that they have an eating disorder. As for manifestation etc, it's like praying or/and thanking god- it either works for you or it doesn't, if it does then good and if it doesn't then maybe something else will, no need to trash on something that works for other people. (It works for me and I'm not some un-sciencey cultist, I'm a medical student at one of the most prestigious medical schools in the world). In fact, positive mindset (which manifestation is, basically) helps patients perform better during surgery as compared to those who're very scared/negative. There are things about the universe that we don't understand yet but that's how it's been since the dawn of time- everything steadily uncovers. A lot of top doctors believe in God, are they BS too? No one's asking you to believe in something, we're just asking you to be respectful.
@@mockingbirdnightingale7169 yo good for you! So proud, hope things go great! xo
@@nini-qc1qd that part of my comment was worded poorly and I should have checked before posting. I wasn’t saying eating disorders were bs, I was only addressing it because Abby mentioned it almost as being part of her criteria for being a “that girl”. You’re absolutely right that you can’t look at one video and know if somebody has an eating disorder, which is why I take issue with a lot of Abbys content. My point in mentioning it was to say I don’t support EDs and I hope anybody who has one can find the support they need. When I said manifestation bs, I mean that’s how I feel about it and it’s not something I align with in the same way I don’t align with religion in any form, but I don’t care if anybody else does it because it has no effect on my life. I’m happy to hear it’s worked for you, and I hope you continue to have positive things in your life. I can think something is bullshit without holding any sort of judgement towards anybody else who subscribes to that mentality because I know we’ve all been through different things to get us to the beliefs we’ve reached. Maybe it’s different to you, but to me, saying something is bs is like saying I think fish tastes like dirty sewer water. If you like fish then great, but I personally think it tastes like trash and that’s okay too. The difference between my comment and Abby’s videos is that she actively shits on people or mocks them for doing the things that make them happy, and then she provides examples of how she’s “relatable” because she doesn’t make her bed in the mornings and her food isn’t perfect all the time. It seems very pick me and it honestly seems to stem from a place of jealousy, which is a concept I think is toxic
Amazing video, Abbey! I love the way you think of food and healthy lifestlye so much!
I definitely agree that you shouldn’t do things that aren’t serving you but some things I know I will feel so much better after but in the moment I don’t feel like doing it. I feel so much more calm after meditating but it’s really easy to convince myself to skip. Same with exercise. Plus, it’s really important to find a kind of movement you personally enjoy! I really don’t like running on a treadmill or using gym equipment but I love doing HIIT RUclips workouts and swimming.
Have you ever considered some people like to watch RUclips vlogs like it's entertainment? Some people aren't fooled by the perfection shown on their screen. If I want real life, I'll put my phone down and go live it. But for now, I'll continue watching people act like they have it all figured out
So, I totally get it. It’s easy to have a “that girl” routine, when your job is being that girl. I do love Tara Michelle’s vlogs, I feel like she’s pretty raw about a lot of things, this is just one of her videos. I like that she tries to start new routines (like many of us), and is open about being inconsistent sometimes, because that’s reality lolol. I think we all wake up and try to our best version of ourself, but shit happens, and Tara let’s us see that part 💕 also I’m sure she wants Trader Joe’s in Canada as much as you 😂much love to you and your vlog
I used to like her a lot and watch her all the time, until she started complaining all the time about having two homes, about all the things she has to buy and not caring how much she spends, its like she was relatable but not anymore. Her dad is the only thing that saves her vlogs for me.
Honestly as a working mum.... when I get the dishwasher on, hang out a load of washing and actually eat breakfast before heading out for the day.... I feel like that girl 😂😂😂😂
I love watching Tara’s videos! She’s super real and relatable. Loved watching your take on her “that girl” video. Also side note, she’s also Canadian!
I love watching Tara too, I have followed her for years. She is great!
LOVE your edits :D
Completely LOVE your realism …your SOOOO relatable .. xx
Hi Abbey, I'm an active viewer, I've learned so much from your videos & I'm really grateful for all you've taught me 💖 I'm currently recovering from a restrictive eating disorder and it's a lot more difficult than I thought it would be, to say the least. I was wondering if you could do a video about digestive issues caused by restrictive eating - I'm currently trying to be all in but it's hard when I get severe stomach pain, cramping and gas from eating, which makes me want to relapse and eat less. I don't know how to recover and go all in while dealing with this pain that makes me want to stop and go back to my old habits, which triggered these issues in the first place 💔 Love you and your content
you should speak to a dietitian asap and she will be able to help!
Exercise and meal prep are really important to me and I think that to make it a daily reality takes burning the candle in the morning or the evening (if your more of a night person) when you know you'll have the most uninterrupted time . It doesn't have to look pretty like an "It girl," and for some people it may be an art project or writing a book instead but unless your retired there aren't too many other viable options .
Today I did laundry and got groceries before 9 am, that's my win
I want to see a rebuttal to all the “that mom” routines. Like, who is waking up at 5am so they have time to prepare for there day and get things done before their kids wake up? Or the moms that always have a clean house and apologize to the camera for the 5 toys on the floor???
my grandmother was a single working mother (my grandfather passed away suddenly when my mom and uncle were still very young kids) and she used to wake up at 4 to get ready, work out, make breakfast and lunch etc etc. She was also super disciplined and her house was very, very clean. Sadly my mom's super lazy but hey, at least she has a good job and buys us whatever we want so it could've been worse lol
Totally!
@@nini-qc1qd so inspiring!
Love this video 😍 it was so enjoyable to watch
I used to have the exactly the same mentality about making my bed as you - what’s the point. And there are still days like that. But since I had kids I try to make my bed for two reasons: 1. To have a flat surface to fold laundry and 2. So that if I get absolutely nothing else done that day I can’t at least say I made the bed and that make me feel good.
I started my day with leftover pizza for brekkie so totally love the message 😅 Also, those days when you feel like IG "that girl" might be great, but also they make you feel even worse when you're not achieving all those goals. So yeah, WE ARE ENOUGH and all we can do is to do our best. And that's also enough. ❤
elsa with “lemon water” just made my day
Can you please cover the bean protocol? I genuinely love Unique Hammond and I understand the importance of insoluble fiber/ fully believe it's helpful with clearing a lot of imbalances. Other than that-it's restrictive and makes me anxious.
I am with you on the trader joes...I wish we had one here
Great video as always! And I must know where you got that amazing dress!
sometimes, just getting through the day is good enough. the guilt and shame people feel from not waking at 6am after having had a terrible night sleep and being utterly exhausted and not manifesting, followed by a 10k run and yoga then eating a organic smoothie bowl with hand grown fruit, is insane. sure, if that’s what feel best to you then go you, i’m glad. i just think for the vast majority of people it is a way to feel guilty and burnt out.