I don't think you guys realize how much you're helping the Muslim community. Especially the younger generation since we don't have anyone to talk to out of fear of judgment. Thank you so much!
I'm not Muslim (or religious at all) but I have huge respect for people who choose to live their life in accordance to their beliefs. What you are doing is amazing, it's so valuable for non-Muslims to be able to learn about Islam from people who live it rather than the islamaphobic propaganda spun by the media
A woman came to the Prophet and told her that her father had psychologically pressured her into marriage. The Prophet declared the marriage null and void.
Dina nailed it when she said parents have the old mentality. Times have changed, but our parents are still behind. Shock factor is needed (i.e. police) to convince parents that their children are not dumb bafoons who'd accept violent black mail etc. I think we should all respect our parents as much as we can, but this is our lives we're talking about. For me, to live in an arranged marriage with someone I'm incompatible with just to fulfill a 'promise' is terrifying, cause you'll always know it's gonna be like this till death, LAME.
+Naila K If you read my comment in reference to the video, I was giving my own opinion of the girl's (who asked the question) position. Of course you have the right to reject it (Islam says this), as Sid and Dina said in the video.
+haajar samsodien "arranged can be forced", therefore it is forced not arranged. The second someone loses their right to agree or oppose to the marriage, it's forced.
+kailan321 Probably for all Muslims who are living in NON-Muslim country. By the way, Saudis would be a great example of a hypocrite, so called "Muslim" country.
+Shifa Afrin , I am a Muslim myself. You´re totally missing the point or you´re ignorant of "Muslim" countries or even Islam itself. There are reasearch that says that non-Muslim countries are more islamic (following Qurans texts of human rights, politics etc) than those countries who are called Muslim country. Fact is that in "Muslim" (still not all) countries the culture seems to be in a bigger role than religion. Like in Saudi, tell me where in Quran Islam forbids woman of working, driving a car and _forces_ then to wear hijab. And there is a lot examples of other "Muslim" countries too.
no I'm with Sid on this. It was a forced marriage, which is islamically invalid. There really is no reason for them to be together. Unless it still somehow did work out which it didn't, she's been trying to make it work, he obviously isn't interested & that's not fair to her at all, she doesn't need this. She deserves to be with someone she's compatible with & that can love her. But 100 agree with the rest, your general view on forced marriages & backwards mentalities. That's some sick shit.
Exactly. Both parties didn't consent, therefore making their marriage invalid. They truly shouldn't have to make something of a marriage they didn't want to be part of . A divorce is the best solution.
I 'm from Europe and Christian, my first marriage was emotionally forced by my mother because she thought what will people in our community will say and everything was set up, she told me there is no way out. I lived in it for 2 years I was miserable, depressed some of the nights I was sleeping on the couch. The marriage became emotionally and physically abusive and when I stopped caring what other people in my community think I got a divorce and now I'm getting married to a person I love and I'm happy...
I am non muslim but Sid and Dina definitely helped me respect muslim and their religion. Your videos helped me break so many stereotypes. And you guys are so cute and real, i can tell you are happily married but i can always tell you dont always see eye to eye. And thats how i think it is when to normal people get together. Its not alwys sunshine and i we agree on everything!
sure . and she don't need to be someone's wife to be fine I hope that she will start making her own decisions cause she has the right to be happy and free
sure . and she don't need to be someone's wife to be fine I hope that she will start making her own decisions cause she has the right to be happy and free
Agreed!! Plus if both sides arent happy and signed the "nikkah" papers...the marriage is still invalid...signatures arent enough to make it official, islamically both sides have to agree especially the girl has the right to make a decision first whether she wants to marry the man or not.
You covered so many serious topics within this video in such a mature and sensible way. I'm not a Muslim nor am I Asian and being an outsider looking in, i've always found it to be quite sad when people are pressured into a relationship. If you want your parents to choose your partner, fair enough. However, for those that don't, what happens when the woman has children and every time she looks at them, instead of feeling joy, she'll look at them in sadness knowing that she never even wanted to have children with that man? As Sid and Dina said - Do the right thing for you!
You seem to be such a sweet tolerant person. I swear I get emotional seeing people like you. I am muslim but I don't care if you aren't, I still pray God ( or "Allah" as we muslims call him) blesses you with a life filled with happiness, strength, health and joy. Peace out ... #tolerantcoexistance
"When a man gives his daughter in marriage and she dislikes it, the marriage shall be repudiated" (Bukhari, 67:43) Forced Marriage is acc Islamically wrong, so these cultures that promote it need to get to grips with what they're actually practising
Not Muslim, but my family is from India and I 100% agree about culture being different from religion. So much shit kept under locks, I wish I had more balls to to call everyone out when I was younger. Always speak out for what is right and those in need of help.
This case is not an arranged marriage, it was a forced marriage. There is a big difference and I feel the distinction was not made clear in this video from the offset. Being emotionally blackmailed into agreeing to marry someone is still forced, not arranged. Forcing someone to marry is now a criminal offence in the UK so anyone involved in a forced marriage or knows someone who is, please seek help and contact the forced marriage unit.
He married you for the passport love, he will never truly love you. This is common in men from Pakistan, they will marry a disabled girl as long as it gets them to the UK.
Not just the men but the women to, and not just from Pakistan but from all over the Middle East. So be careful of who you think you love or that you think will be a possible suitor for your children weather that be boy or girl. In fact I would recommend only asking them to marry someone from the uk or EU or the western countries you live in. Never force your child into doing anything, because they will never really forgive you and you will ruin their life. Causing more shame on your family than if you refused to get them married to their family.
Please stop spreading false facts, the prophets first wife, Khadijah, had tow precious husbands but BOTH passed away leaving her a WIDOW. There's a biiiiig difference between being divorced and widowed. It is encouraged to marry a widow not a divorcee. That being said, divorce is literally the last option for Muslims.
Thank God you two making videos about these topics and talking about the real issues that are still around today, you two have got so much sense and watching your videos with your views is helping thousands of people out there, please make lots more (the roles of daughter in law/ son in law and keeping in laws happy and general duties- thanks!) videos, we look forward to them everytime x
I'm just watching your videos because I want to educate myself about islam from someone who is actually a muslim, because I feel like there's sooo much islamophobia around me and it's just a thing that people don't even realize that they're being islamophobic, it's just an accepted way of thinking and I hate it. I want to correct people around me but I don't actually know very much, so I want to know. And so far I have learnt what I think is really important, that islam and the culture in the countries that are islamic, are two very different things. But I kinda understand the people who think the way they think because they don't have the knowledge, or they think they have but they are actually wrong. They just hear these things from other people and they read the news about these horrible things, terrorism and all that, and that's what they ground their "knowledge" on... And usually they don't even know anyone who is muslim or have never heard anything about islam from a muslim
+Sorbet You should watch Mufti Menk talks to learn more about Islam. I don't know where in the world you are but he does talks all over the world and he recently came to London and did a talk about this very subject where he went in on parents who put culture over islam.
Just come across your channel and subscribed, I think it's great your addressing real life issues that are not talked about it's a great help to a lot of us british Muslims. You both make a gorgeous couple Marshallah
Communication is key. I would definitely advise this woman to try hard to have him sit down and have a real conversation about the issues in their marriage and if things get too overwhelming or she's at risk, definitely get professional help. I'm glad you guys do these videos. I as well as many other people appreciate you bringing up taboo topics that are generally not spoken about especially when it involves Muslims but doesn't involve Islam at all but the backward traditions of cultures. Thank you Sid and Dina!
I love that you guys aren't afraid to speak up. Some people think that they'll get hate or put down for having an opinion. But I think your opinions are actually something to think about. Thank you for talking about things that aren't spoken up about. I love these videos so much. ❤
Thankyou so much for your videos! I love that you're fighting ignorance by giving understanding. Some people may click on your videos simply out of hate but you prove them wrong every time. Wishing you all the best x
i just love these two, i'm not a romantic girl but you two made me believe in love and respect again. Thanks for showing me what is like to marry your bestie♥
I'm not a Muslim I'm a British devout Christian, but I really enjoy listening to you two because you are just real people who discuss real issues who happen to br Muslim. You don't hide behind your religion you incorporate it into your view of what's morally right and wrong and share with the community. Love it! i enjoy your personalities and i love listening to you guys x God bless you two!
i appreciate that you guys so openly criticize our older generation. the problems and backward mentality there are so obvious but when we as the youngsters try to discuss these things we are labelled as rude and shameless etc. Thanks for keeping it a 100!!! :D
If you are being taken to your parents country to be forced married, or think thats why they are taking you, and you have no possibility to call the police, hide some metal cutlery in your clothes (underwear) on the day you are to fly, and when you are being taken by the security at the airport you tell them and they can help you. Sorry if its hard to read.
If you don't want to hide cutlery just cause a scene at the airport before you get on the plane then you'll get taken away and can let the officers know what's happening. I know it's not the best thing to do but once your in the foreign country there's no going back.
Yeah but calling police on your parents i can never do it and even if i did call them or the airport stuff i don't think anything will happen i would just disgrace myself and my parents and hurt them real bad which i can't do and my parents have accepted a proposal for me which i don't want i have been fighting this fight for almost 3 years now... My mother's dibeties is out of control because of it i just can't give in right now i have stop protesting i am just making dua i don't want to marry that person but i do want to get married real bad
Nashea Rehman You have to have power and you have to get that from God. God never want you to marry someone forced or to be less of value that people choose for you and control you! If you believe in God, you believe in your freedom and in your choice! No one has a force over you but God. I will pray for your strength and trust me is it your destiny as a God loving muslim person more important or the culture and parents? If you know this is wrong and you do it, you are doing wrong to yourself. You have to get power to refuse and never be in that marriage. Find ways to say no and if you said no while at home, prepare to hell: because controlling parents don’t care for your feelings or what you want nor love you! They want the end for them! They want themselves to shine and be the parent’s of the bride and that’s it. Love isn’t control so don’t think it’s love. Please seek help and try to stop them. Don’t do it and say what you want. I am sorry you have to go through this but God wouldn’t leave your side and as long as your beliefs in him are bigger than your fear from anything, you will have a way and life will unfold. If your parents are very bad and extreme, police must be called. Do you realise you where not raised by loving caring nor Islamic people? Try seeking a good religious figure, find someone who will stop this and can talk your parents out of it. If you live in a community where men or parents have power or your children has no value or love this is even the worst scenario because then only help is seeking law and police. Work fast and ask God for strength and power because in this earth, humans are powerless in front of God. God never want you to be forced, aimless and trapped or feel controlled. These are all results from your parents coming from wrong and no parenting or loving families. My mother is the control unloving and hateful person in my life. It’s a challenge to accept that we don’t always have good parents. My mother bad side win over her good and I don’t speak nor communicate with her and see her but rarely. She also shamed me and tried to bring hell on earth but I knew I should speak of my truth and it’s not right. My father was always on her side but it changed after years! I lived with them for awhile while opposing especially because I was in arrange engagements twice and I unveiled hell of information behind my mother actions that I simply had to leave home. I don’t belong with her and I know she brought me to life and I hope God will see her well and treat her with kindness in the end day. You should focus on God and your part of life but not on the events of life or what pleases who. If your parents are wrong or bad they are not to be obeyed before God. I saw it as I am doing myself bad thing and God clearly say not to do so. Respect your parents for doing their best to raise you and pray for God forgiveness for them. Not everyone knows God or Islam and sometimes people don’t even care. My mother didn’t and she will do what pleases her and use God or religion to be right or to get what she wants. Manipulating religion is so bad and not knowing the truth is a curse in my opinion. Don’t go anywhere unless you agree and please seek help and ask God for guidance.
You guys are literally the best couple, muslim or otherwise. You have great advice for all teens and young adults transitioning into mature situations and we need people like you in the world. Masha'Allah!!
Hey Sid & Dina! You guys give the BEST advice ever. I agree with both of your points, i agree 101% about the fact how some of the older generation have a 'backwards mentality' and 'shaming the family'. This is the realist video ever, i swear, I feel the older generation should all sit and watch this video, and get stuff in their head. This was so amazing!
I think many people especially Muslims prefer to act like our communities are so perfect and everything's fine and peachy. When in reality it isn't we face issues such as adultery, drugs, alcohol, porn, racism, mental illness, premarital relationships, abuse and other things. That people prefer to ignore rather than discuss and try to put an end to it. I feel like people need to wake up and stop turning a blind eye to these type of issues. So thank you Sid and Dina for discussing these type of subjects that are often unspoken about in our communities.
Ive never watched aay of your vids before but a friend sent me this video and honestly its BRILLIANT. cant believe i missed out on so much positivity from ppl my age that can relate to problems we all have had n speak so freely nabout them in a way that helps everyone. bless yall
Hahahaha! Imagine going to Sid & Dina for advice, they start out good but end up arguing with each other. I totally laugh!! No hate here at all :) You guys are so funny 😂😂
You are doing SUCH AN IMPORTANT JOB, guys!!!! I have learnt a lot about Islam and Muslims from your channel and I think knowing more about each other is the basis for peace.
I seriously LOVE your videos, and as soon as that notification comes through I am straight over here 😂 I'm not a Muslim but its so interesting to see what Islam means to you and not just the hateful media spin on things. I think that your religion is beautiful, the love you spread to the community on RUclips is beautiful and KEEP DOING YOU, YOU WONDERFUL HUMAN BEINGS SPREAD THAT LOVE ❤❤❤❤❤❤
I'd love to hear more about you guys' experiences growing up and living as British Muslims. I'm fascinated by the dual cultures and how you reconcile them into a healthy balance ❤
You guys are so cute!! Thank you for taking the opportunity to address some really serious issues that people are unwilling to discuss under normal circumstances. Like you said Dina, its wrong for people to just pretend this stuff isn't happening. Hopefully people will become more willing to open their eyes and do something about it now!
This is mainly a Pakistani and Afghan issue. Some Somalis have this problem back home but when they come to the west, they have full choice in who they marry.
+Fuji I'm Somali and my dad wants me to marry his brother's son from back home just to "keep things in the family" but I'm trying hard to stand my ground but it's hard
I hate when people get religion and traditions and culture mixed up and tell you alllllllllllllll this random stuff.. Especially when it comes to wedding ceremonies.. Chat poo! Leave me be!
I had an arranged marriage and it was not force, is more like an introduction. It's often the only option for observant Muslims that don't want to date and possibly fall into something considered sinful Islam. Forced marriage is coercive and can be violent, it is abuse and has nothing to do with a normal and freely entered into arranged marriage.
You guys are addressing really important topics bravely and often the topics that 'shouldn't be brought up' I think it's very important to raise more consciousness to these issues that are prevalent Keep it up!
I honestly looooooove how these taboo issues are being discussed and the fact that u guys are showing the difference between culture and Islam. I hope people can learn from this. No marriage is perfect but u guys are setting a beautiful example. Thank u for that ❤️❤️
RoseP well obviously she's not satisfied with it but maybe she doesn't want to divorce as it will make more trouble. So she's trying to make it work as she feels she has no escape
Thank you so much for bringing out this particular subject, analyzing the difference between Islam and culture. Love you Sid and Dina! Hanna is so lucky to have you both
the incest thing you have talked about is SO true too, intermarrying too close leads to this, many incestual abuse and relationships going on between uncles/aunts and nephews/nieces etc
So important y'all are talking about this and other related issues. Sooo many people equate what goes on in so-called Muslim countries with Islam! Lots of love to you both--keep up the good work!
It might just be his personality. I had a partner the same, like a robot. He never thought i was pretty when i am always told i am. He never showed emotions to me, was sweet to me. Some guys are cold, it is how they were brought up (not a normal amount of love from mother or other person) and they dont know how to show it.
+Antonya Rosalina he was out of the house a lot.... Now he lives overseas and we arent together. Thanks God i got away from him. The worst thing in this world is for a woman to be ignored. I felt like i was worthless.
+butterfly98971 we have 2 children. He hasnt even met the second one. Cold as ice. Even though when in his country he introduced me to his whole family as his wife, even though we werent technically married. I dont even have words to describe him or how i feel. A normal person doesnt move overseas ALONE when their son is 18 months old then cry that he misses his family. He isnt normal. Full stop.
I really want to get married when I'm older but it's so scary because you never know what the other person is actually like, even if you think you know them inside out, you probably don't.
I'm a 52 yr old American mother and wife to a family I adore. I have watched several of your videos, and this is the 1st time I have been exposed to such a normal precious Islamic family that I would not be afraid of. I took a risk sending this, knowing many will judge my statement, but I say this for a very real reason. You and your husband have this unique ability, and opportunity to reach a huge audience. I pray God will make this a reality. We all need some healing.
What I love most about your videos is that they're not only hilarious but you address some very taboo topics in Islam that need to be talked about. It is very important for these topics to be talked about because people are miserable and they really don't need to be because Islam is beautiful and it is a very fair religion. I love your videos and love your relationship, you two are so funny ❤️
Watches that! It was so disturbing! But some of the story want really very realistic... like most of these forced marriages in the UK are not between two British people, but between a British person and one from another country that wants to migrate here. But generally did a goodish job of showing the pressure placed on parents that they then transfer to the son or daughter in question.
You guys need to stop getting pissed off with each other so easily - both of your opinions are valid, let each other speak and accept that you may not agree, you don't have to come up with one solid statement, you both have insightful things to say so listen to each other and disagree in a less aggressive manner haha keep up the videos though!x
Love these question videos so much. I only wish more of your viewers were of our parents' generation as some of them really need to hear this and get with the times! Keep up the good work :)
I don't think you guys realize how much you're helping the Muslim community. Especially the younger generation since we don't have anyone to talk to out of fear of judgment. Thank you so much!
I completely agree with you, their are many young Muslims who look up to them Ma Shaa Allah!
yay your right
definetley agree with you!!!
They are definitely doing an amazing job helping that many people)) I am a Jewish girl, living in Russia and I do look up to them 💕☺️
+Sleeping Tiger I agree as well bless them
I'm not Muslim (or religious at all) but I have huge respect for people who choose to live their life in accordance to their beliefs. What you are doing is amazing, it's so valuable for non-Muslims to be able to learn about Islam from people who live it rather than the islamaphobic propaganda spun by the media
true👏
thank you so much for understanding 😊
Well said!
:)
Sid and Dina are the voice for Muslims of the next generation. Thank you
A woman came to the Prophet and told her that her father had psychologically pressured her into marriage. The Prophet declared the marriage null and void.
The Muslim Comb but do they listen no they don't
Allah aalam, was it pressure or did she say that she didn't even giver her okay for the marriage? #hadiths
Forced marriage is haram! How disgusting of the father to put his daughter through this for his own gain. So selfish.
+Aya Elomrani Although like you said I do believe that it's largely an old cultural issue.
Agree, it's not considered as marriage in Islam if they both aren't willing.
+Azhar Dirie IKRRRR THATS THE POINT
+Aya Elomrani- yh marriage isn't valid without asking permission but she did end up saying yes. And parents think good for their children.
a lot of people in the South Asian community still do this.
Dina nailed it when she said parents have the old mentality. Times have changed, but our parents are still behind. Shock factor is needed (i.e. police) to convince parents that their children are not dumb bafoons who'd accept violent black mail etc.
I think we should all respect our parents as much as we can, but this is our lives we're talking about. For me, to live in an arranged marriage with someone I'm incompatible with just to fulfill a 'promise' is terrifying, cause you'll always know it's gonna be like this till death, LAME.
very well said!
+Naila K If you read my comment in reference to the video, I was giving my own opinion of the girl's (who asked the question) position. Of course you have the right to reject it (Islam says this), as Sid and Dina said in the video.
+The Math Magician the girl who asked the question was forced married not arranged. Don't get the two mixed up as they mean different things.
+Abdul Muqtadir arranged can be forced . depends on if the girl agrees or not .
+haajar samsodien "arranged can be forced", therefore it is forced not arranged.
The second someone loses their right to agree or oppose to the marriage, it's forced.
My favourite issue 💕 The difference between culture and Islam.
yes!!! me too. that is the biggest issue for many muslims
+kailan321 Probably for all Muslims who are living in NON-Muslim country. By the way, Saudis would be a great example of a hypocrite, so called "Muslim" country.
+kailan321 totally!!!!
+Noor Assad tht is soo rude why r u offending us muslims
+Shifa Afrin , I am a Muslim myself. You´re totally missing the point or you´re ignorant of "Muslim" countries or even Islam itself. There are reasearch that says that non-Muslim countries are more islamic (following Qurans texts of human rights, politics etc) than those countries who are called Muslim country. Fact is that in "Muslim" (still not all) countries the culture seems to be in a bigger role than religion. Like in Saudi, tell me where in Quran Islam forbids woman of working, driving a car and _forces_ then to wear hijab. And there is a lot examples of other "Muslim" countries too.
no I'm with Sid on this. It was a forced marriage, which is islamically invalid. There really is no reason for them to be together. Unless it still somehow did work out which it didn't, she's been trying to make it work, he obviously isn't interested & that's not fair to her at all, she doesn't need this. She deserves to be with someone she's compatible with & that can love her.
But 100 agree with the rest, your general view on forced marriages & backwards mentalities. That's some sick shit.
Exactly. Both parties didn't consent, therefore making their marriage invalid. They truly shouldn't have to make something of a marriage they didn't want to be part of . A divorce is the best solution.
Of course; it's unfair to BOTH of the "involved parties": Neither One's going to be happy, in the current/existing circumstance(s).
I need my daily dose of Sid & Dina 💗💗💗
RUMENAA X I love your videos 😘
lots love rumena
+Haaireofficial of maybe she doesn't mind us showing get our love??
ik u u r my aunts friend she said she is gonna take me one day
+Haaireofficial stfu ill bitch slap you😂😂
I 'm from Europe and Christian, my first marriage was emotionally forced by my mother because she thought what will people in our community will say and everything was set up, she told me there is no way out. I lived in it for 2 years I was miserable, depressed some of the nights I was sleeping on the couch. The marriage became emotionally and physically abusive and when I stopped caring what other people in my community think I got a divorce and now I'm getting married to a person I love and I'm happy...
That's so fantastic to hear! May God bless your beautiful marriage! ❤️
I'm so happy for you ❤️❤️ wish u all the best
good for you!
VivaGlamUA 😭❤ I LOVE YOU your so brave im very proud of you girl 👏👏👏👏
That’s so amazing. So happy for you ❤️❤️❤️
I am non muslim but Sid and Dina definitely helped me respect muslim and their religion. Your videos helped me break so many stereotypes. And you guys are so cute and real, i can tell you are happily married but i can always tell you dont always see eye to eye. And thats how i think it is when to normal people get together. Its not alwys sunshine and i we agree on everything!
I need to study but I'm watching all 20 minutes because I missed these two
Zara Star what's that?
omg same I have a maths exam😭😭😭
concentrate 25 min then watch a bit and repeat. at least you get something done :-)
Summer K me
Summer K sameee
i agree with sid ... i dont have the time and the effort to make a guy loves me or likes me .... if a guy likes me thats good but if he DOESNT BYE !
sure . and she don't need to be someone's wife to be fine I hope that she will start making her own decisions cause she has the right to be happy and free
sure . and she don't need to be someone's wife to be fine I hope that she will start making her own decisions cause she has the right to be happy and free
بيا تريس i agree
Agreed!! Plus if both sides arent happy and signed the "nikkah" papers...the marriage is still invalid...signatures arent enough to make it official, islamically both sides have to agree especially the girl has the right to make a decision first whether she wants to marry the man or not.
Haaya Rizvi i agree
You covered so many serious topics within this video in such a mature and sensible way.
I'm not a Muslim nor am I Asian and being an outsider looking in, i've always found it to be quite sad when people are pressured into a relationship. If you want your parents to choose your partner, fair enough. However, for those that don't, what happens when the woman has children and every time she looks at them, instead of feeling joy, she'll look at them in sadness knowing that she never even wanted to have children with that man?
As Sid and Dina said - Do the right thing for you!
You seem to be such a sweet tolerant person. I swear I get emotional seeing people like you. I am muslim but I don't care if you aren't, I still pray God ( or "Allah" as we muslims call him) blesses you with a life filled with happiness, strength, health and joy. Peace out ... #tolerantcoexistance
+journeytopeace Amen. Thank you so much, God bless you too!
+Faith You're welcome sweetie 😍😍
:)
Forced marriage is haram. Period. May Allah keep us all safe from this shambles.
+TheBlooRayChannel: Does Allah not help those who help themselves...?
"When a man gives his daughter in marriage and she dislikes it, the marriage shall be repudiated" (Bukhari, 67:43)
Forced Marriage is acc Islamically wrong, so these cultures that promote it need to get to grips with what they're actually practising
My favorite couple 😍😍😍😍
Invite them for a spit roast with you, why don't you?
+Polymath I dont scroll through comments to see your shitty self in every respone Get lost
+Daydreamer6805 Say mashAllah!!!xD
Yes finally! Been checking everyday to see if they've uploaded now they have! Who's happy 🙋🏻
Yeah they're awesome
the problem with most people (Muslims included) is the culture is infused into religion. there's no clear division between the 2.
Thats so true. As a muslim I sometimes notice this mixture. Thank god now my people are waking up 🙏🏼❤️
Not Muslim, but my family is from India and I 100% agree about culture being different from religion. So much shit kept under locks, I wish I had more balls to to call everyone out when I was younger. Always speak out for what is right and those in need of help.
This case is not an arranged marriage, it was a forced marriage. There is a big difference and I feel the distinction was not made clear in this video from the offset. Being emotionally blackmailed into agreeing to marry someone is still forced, not arranged. Forcing someone to marry is now a criminal offence in the UK so anyone involved in a forced marriage or knows someone who is, please seek help and contact the forced marriage unit.
Chill bruh
True
So true!
He married you for the passport love, he will never truly love you.
This is common in men from Pakistan, they will marry a disabled girl as long as it gets them to the UK.
Bitch, he was born in England ...😁😖
+Milly Richards bruh a white girl watching a Muslim couple advice
Not just the men but the women to, and not just from Pakistan but from all over the Middle East. So be careful of who you think you love or that you think will be a possible suitor for your children weather that be boy or girl. In fact I would recommend only asking them to marry someone from the uk or EU or the western countries you live in. Never force your child into doing anything, because they will never really forgive you and you will ruin their life. Causing more shame on your family than if you refused to get them married to their family.
+Milly Richards lol she's not talking about Sid and Dina. She's talking about the Girl who married a guy from Pakistan 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
+Milly Richards they meant the people in the email, the guys from pakistan and the girl from australia
I agree with Sid, get fking divorce..
Case closed
Another e-mail pls..
Lol it's not always that simple
getting divorced for some women in some culture can be even worse. it's horrible how they treat divorced women. sad.
Please stop spreading false facts, the prophets first wife, Khadijah, had tow precious husbands but BOTH passed away leaving her a WIDOW. There's a biiiiig difference between being divorced and widowed. It is encouraged to marry a widow not a divorcee. That being said, divorce is literally the last option for Muslims.
nah divorce is getting more normal among muslims. at least in the west
Thank God you two making videos about these topics and talking about the real issues that are still around today, you two have got so much sense and watching your videos with your views is helping thousands of people out there, please make lots more (the roles of daughter in law/ son in law and keeping in laws happy and general duties- thanks!) videos, we look forward to them everytime x
I'm just watching your videos because I want to educate myself about islam from someone who is actually a muslim, because I feel like there's sooo much islamophobia around me and it's just a thing that people don't even realize that they're being islamophobic, it's just an accepted way of thinking and I hate it. I want to correct people around me but I don't actually know very much, so I want to know. And so far I have learnt what I think is really important, that islam and the culture in the countries that are islamic, are two very different things. But I kinda understand the people who think the way they think because they don't have the knowledge, or they think they have but they are actually wrong. They just hear these things from other people and they read the news about these horrible things, terrorism and all that, and that's what they ground their "knowledge" on... And usually they don't even know anyone who is muslim or have never heard anything about islam from a muslim
+Sorbet You should watch Mufti Menk talks to learn more about Islam. I don't know where in the world you are but he does talks all over the world and he recently came to London and did a talk about this very subject where he went in on parents who put culture over islam.
Same with ammar nakshawani 👍🏽
Look up the RUclips channel called "Merciful Servant" :-)
Just come across your channel and subscribed, I think it's great your addressing real life issues that are not talked about it's a great help to a lot of us british Muslims. You both make a gorgeous couple Marshallah
Communication is key. I would definitely advise this woman to try hard to have him sit down and have a real conversation about the issues in their marriage and if things get too overwhelming or she's at risk, definitely get professional help. I'm glad you guys do these videos. I as well as many other people appreciate you bringing up taboo topics that are generally not spoken about especially when it involves Muslims but doesn't involve Islam at all but the backward traditions of cultures. Thank you Sid and Dina!
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You both are just so funny together, I LOVE watching every video no matter what it's about.
I love that you guys aren't afraid to speak up. Some people think that they'll get hate or put down for having an opinion. But I think your opinions are actually something to think about. Thank you for talking about things that aren't spoken up about. I love these videos so much. ❤
Starts at 02:58 you're welcome
thanks 😊👍👍
+MiBeforeChelle LMAOO I was thinking, "UM K Are you done checking yourselves out yet?"
+Fatima A Haha yeah ikr. The time I put is when they read the question out.
Lol when it's them I don't even care when it starts. 😏
+Flory Jimenez Maghad so true😂
Thankyou so much for your videos! I love that you're fighting ignorance by giving understanding. Some people may click on your videos simply out of hate but you prove them wrong every time. Wishing you all the best x
I'm not Muslim, but personally I look up to you guys. I really enjoy your videos!(:
I just don't understand why the family's honor is placed in a womans vagina like who placed it there it just sickens me
i just love these two, i'm not a romantic girl but you two made me believe in love and respect again.
Thanks for showing me what is like to marry your bestie♥
Agree! they are so real and genuine!
I feel like they were best friends before getting married thats why there relationship works so well😀
Your videos help people so much and please don't stop because you relate so well with us all! ❤️
Sounds like that BBC programme- Killed by my Father
I'm not a Muslim I'm a British devout Christian, but I really enjoy listening to you two because you are just real people who discuss real issues who happen to br Muslim. You don't hide behind your religion you incorporate it into your view of what's morally right and wrong and share with the community. Love it! i enjoy your personalities and i love listening to you guys x God bless you two!
Sids Hair is on fleek this episode
i appreciate that you guys so openly criticize our older generation. the problems and backward mentality there are so obvious but when we as the youngsters try to discuss these things we are labelled as rude and shameless etc. Thanks for keeping it a 100!!! :D
If you are being taken to your parents country to be forced married, or think thats why they are taking you, and you have no possibility to call the police, hide some metal cutlery in your clothes (underwear) on the day you are to fly, and when you are being taken by the security at the airport you tell them and they can help you. Sorry if its hard to read.
If you don't want to hide cutlery just cause a scene at the airport before you get on the plane then you'll get taken away and can let the officers know what's happening. I know it's not the best thing to do but once your in the foreign country there's no going back.
actually...as "extreme" as that may seem...it's absolutely BRILLIANT! And, SO True...!!
Yeah but calling police on your parents i can never do it and even if i did call them or the airport stuff i don't think anything will happen i would just disgrace myself and my parents and hurt them real bad which i can't do and my parents have accepted a proposal for me which i don't want i have been fighting this fight for almost 3 years now... My mother's dibeties is out of control because of it i just can't give in right now i have stop protesting i am just making dua i don't want to marry that person but i do want to get married real bad
Nashea Rehman You have to have power and you have to get that from God. God never want you to marry someone forced or to be less of value that people choose for you and control you! If you believe in God, you believe in your freedom and in your choice!
No one has a force over you but God. I will pray for your strength and trust me is it your destiny as a God loving muslim person more important or the culture and parents?
If you know this is wrong and you do it, you are doing wrong to yourself. You have to get power to refuse and never be in that marriage. Find ways to say no and if you said no while at home, prepare to hell: because controlling parents don’t care for your feelings or what you want nor love you! They want the end for them! They want themselves to shine and be the parent’s of the bride and that’s it. Love isn’t control so don’t think it’s love.
Please seek help and try to stop them. Don’t do it and say what you want. I am sorry you have to go through this but God wouldn’t leave your side and as long as your beliefs in him are bigger than your fear from anything, you will have a way and life will unfold.
If your parents are very bad and extreme, police must be called. Do you realise you where not raised by loving caring nor Islamic people? Try seeking a good religious figure, find someone who will stop this and can talk your parents out of it.
If you live in a community where men or parents have power or your children has no value or love this is even the worst scenario because then only help is seeking law and police.
Work fast and ask God for strength and power because in this earth, humans are powerless in front of God. God never want you to be forced, aimless and trapped or feel controlled. These are all results from your parents coming from wrong and no parenting or loving families.
My mother is the control unloving and hateful person in my life. It’s a challenge to accept that we don’t always have good parents. My mother bad side win over her good and I don’t speak nor communicate with her and see her but rarely. She also shamed me and tried to bring hell on earth but I knew I should speak of my truth and it’s not right. My father was always on her side but it changed after years! I lived with them for awhile while opposing especially because I was in arrange engagements twice and I unveiled hell of information behind my mother actions that I simply had to leave home. I don’t belong with her and I know she brought me to life and I hope God will see her well and treat her with kindness in the end day. You should focus on God and your part of life but not on the events of life or what pleases who.
If your parents are wrong or bad they are not to be obeyed before God. I saw it as I am doing myself bad thing and God clearly say not to do so. Respect your parents for doing their best to raise you and pray for God forgiveness for them. Not everyone knows God or Islam and sometimes people don’t even care.
My mother didn’t and she will do what pleases her and use God or religion to be right or to get what she wants. Manipulating religion is so bad and not knowing the truth is a curse in my opinion. Don’t go anywhere unless you agree and please seek help and ask God for guidance.
Really awesome idea. Thanks for sharing as it migut just help someone.
You guys are literally the best couple, muslim or otherwise. You have great advice for all teens and young adults transitioning into mature situations and we need people like you in the world. Masha'Allah!!
I'm really glad that you take the time to create these types of videos ❤
MUSKA JAHAN I love your channel x
Hey Sid & Dina!
You guys give the BEST advice ever. I agree with both of your points, i agree 101% about the fact how some of the older generation have a 'backwards mentality' and 'shaming the family'. This is the realist video ever, i swear, I feel the older generation should all sit and watch this video, and get stuff in their head. This was so amazing!
Did anyone else get irritated by the monitor noise😂😂
+Polymath wat the hell ? Calm down , i dont even know you
Yes !! I went to search through the comments to see if someone commented on it, aha! & saw your comment straight away :)
Yes !! I went to search through the comments to see if someone commented on it, aha! & saw your comment straight away :)
+Instagram: RoastOfSladam lmao wtf man its a name we cant choose our names
NO I'm used to it my bro always has a nap during the day and the monitor is on😡
you guys keep the good work going! it's so frustrating to hear about people that still think this way!
I think many people especially Muslims prefer to act like our communities are so perfect and everything's fine and peachy. When in reality it isn't we face issues such as adultery, drugs, alcohol, porn, racism, mental illness, premarital relationships, abuse and other things. That people prefer to ignore rather than discuss and try to put an end to it. I feel like people need to wake up and stop turning a blind eye to these type of issues. So thank you Sid and Dina for discussing these type of subjects that are often unspoken about in our communities.
Ive never watched aay of your vids before but a friend sent me this video and honestly its BRILLIANT. cant believe i missed out on so much positivity from ppl my age that can relate to problems we all have had n speak so freely nabout them in a way that helps everyone. bless yall
In this video we saw the passionate Dad come out of Sid! 👍😊
Great video! Great content! Thanks Sid and Dina :)
I pray that inshaAllah the girl finds peace in whatever she decided to do. Ameen
whenever dina cuts sid off i feel really bad for him 😂
I KNOW RIGHT OMG HAHAHA everytime he gets cuts off i just laugh 😂😂
He kept giving her "side-eye" like "Woman! Let me speak too!"😁
They're getting a lot better without talking over each other lol
+Ums Sal hahahhaha yess! My favorite couple on RUclips 😂🙋🏻
I hope parents are watching. You guys are using your platform for such good reasons, it's so refreshing to see!!
Hahahaha! Imagine going to Sid & Dina for advice, they start out good but end up arguing with each other. I totally laugh!! No hate here at all :) You guys are so funny 😂😂
You are doing SUCH AN IMPORTANT JOB, guys!!!! I have learnt a lot about Islam and Muslims from your channel and I think knowing more about each other is the basis for peace.
The start of the story sounded like murdered by my father...
Hannah is a lucky child to have parents like you guys..
Allah save your family from nazar
I agree with Sid's advice, you see you're not happy with it so it's time to move on.
you guys are such a great help for this generation , because you guys explain things what younger generation understand (language and patience)
God bless sid and dina 💞
I seriously LOVE your videos, and as soon as that notification comes through I am straight over here 😂 I'm not a Muslim but its so interesting to see what Islam means to you and not just the hateful media spin on things. I think that your religion is beautiful, the love you spread to the community on RUclips is beautiful and KEEP DOING YOU, YOU WONDERFUL HUMAN BEINGS SPREAD THAT LOVE ❤❤❤❤❤❤
Definitely with Sid on this one...and many others.
I'd love to hear more about you guys' experiences growing up and living as British Muslims. I'm fascinated by the dual cultures and how you reconcile them into a healthy balance ❤
I LOVE it when Dina has her Hijab that way! 😍
Thank you for speaking on behalf of all the ppl who are going through this . this is the real deal ...Bravo !! 👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏
I love you guys! and the platform you have created!!
You guys are so cute!! Thank you for taking the opportunity to address some really serious issues that people are unwilling to discuss under normal circumstances. Like you said Dina, its wrong for people to just pretend this stuff isn't happening. Hopefully people will become more willing to open their eyes and do something about it now!
This is mainly a Pakistani and Afghan issue. Some Somalis have this problem back home but when they come to the west, they have full choice in who they marry.
Somali people are generally more tolerant and accepting towards other cultures Mashallah
+Fuji they have full choice in who to marry except marrying other cultures/ethnicities
+12Deep I know a few somali women in interracial marriages.Infact, A close friend of mine is a British-Somali & is married to a Swiss guy.
+12Deep A lot and I mean a lot of Somalis are married to Arabs,Ethiopians,Kenyans aswell as sudanis. Especially arabs
+Fuji I'm Somali and my dad wants me to marry his brother's son from back home just to "keep things in the family" but I'm trying hard to stand my ground but it's hard
Loved this video and the fact that you guys address such issues which are considered a taboo in most cultures!
God bless you both!
I hate when people get religion and traditions and culture mixed up and tell you alllllllllllllll this random stuff.. Especially when it comes to wedding ceremonies.. Chat poo! Leave me be!
#PREACH Thank you for addressing such a vital message that unfortunately still plagues our society today. There is no excuse for such ignorance.
Intro funny as hell! 😄👱🏽 I really enjoy watching their videos.
You guys are friging amazing. Bringing reality to the light. Stay real.
There is a difference between arranged marriage vs forced marriage. Please clarify next time for "those who don't know".
"Extreme" arranged marriages are pretty much forced marriages. No say whatsoever in the matter.
All or at least the majority of forced marriages are arranged
+Zainab Mirza Arranged is when parents FIND someone for you and you say yes or no.
Forced is when parents CHOOSE someone for you and you have no say.
I had an arranged marriage and it was not force, is more like an introduction. It's often the only option for observant Muslims that don't want to date and possibly fall into something considered sinful Islam. Forced marriage is coercive and can be violent, it is abuse and has nothing to do with a normal and freely entered into arranged marriage.
+Rabeya Ali there is no such thing as an extreme arranged marriage. It's either forced or its arranged.
You guys are addressing really important topics bravely and often the topics that 'shouldn't be brought up'
I think it's very important to raise more consciousness to these issues that are prevalent
Keep it up!
Im gonna have to agree with Sid, whats the point of a marriage with no love and compatibility
Great video! More people from within the Muslim community need to speak out against these outdated issues.
U guys are amazing 💕
I honestly looooooove how these taboo issues are being discussed and the fact that u guys are showing the difference between culture and Islam. I hope people can learn from this. No marriage is perfect but u guys are setting a beautiful example. Thank u for that ❤️❤️
The fact that this writer is not upset (or not saying she's upset) about marrying her cousin FREAKS ME OUT
Lol I'm sure she said she never wanted to marry him in the first place
RoseP well obviously she's not satisfied with it but maybe she doesn't want to divorce as it will make more trouble. So she's trying to make it work as she feels she has no escape
Thank you so much for bringing out this particular subject, analyzing the difference between Islam and culture. Love you Sid and Dina! Hanna is so lucky to have you both
The only think i could look at this whole video were Dina's eyelashes! MashaAllah they're so long!
Does she have extensions?
+Halah Al yep^^
So.. do you take back your mashallah now or what?
+Polymath 😂😂
+Polymath Lol! I'm curious too, haha
+Zara Haro she has
Well said Dina! About the older generation always going backwards instead of moving on forwards! :)
If it was forced, then its not a real marriage as she did not truly consent to the marriage.
the incest thing you have talked about is SO true too, intermarrying too close leads to this, many incestual abuse and relationships going on between uncles/aunts and nephews/nieces etc
It might just be me but Sid looks hella good in this vid lol
So important y'all are talking about this and other related issues. Sooo many people equate what goes on in so-called Muslim countries with Islam! Lots of love to you both--keep up the good work!
It might just be his personality. I had a partner the same, like a robot. He never thought i was pretty when i am always told i am. He never showed emotions to me, was sweet to me. Some guys are cold, it is how they were brought up (not a normal amount of love from mother or other person) and they dont know how to show it.
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+Antonya Rosalina he was out of the house a lot.... Now he lives overseas and we arent together. Thanks God i got away from him. The worst thing in this world is for a woman to be ignored. I felt like i was worthless.
+Sarah W didn't he ever talk about the future? Having kids maybe?
+butterfly98971 we have 2 children. He hasnt even met the second one. Cold as ice. Even though when in his country he introduced me to his whole family as his wife, even though we werent technically married. I dont even have words to describe him or how i feel. A normal person doesnt move overseas ALONE when their son is 18 months old then cry that he misses his family. He isnt normal. Full stop.
Sarah W So you were married and since you have 2 kids so you were intimate with each other? isn't it?
Great video. I love how you guys address subjects that a lot of people are afraid to talk about :)
notification squad we outcheaaaaa 💯
Thank you sid and dina. I'm sure all those in these situation have found this useful. Thank youxx
dina pulling her scarf further and further back loool
This series is so good! !!
You are speaking to meny generations about such important themes 👌
I really want to get married when I'm older but it's so scary because you never know what the other person is actually like, even if you think you know them inside out, you probably don't.
I'm a 52 yr old American mother and wife to a family I adore. I have watched several of your videos, and this is the 1st time I have been exposed to such a normal precious Islamic family that I would not be afraid of.
I took a risk sending this, knowing many will judge my statement, but I say this for a very real reason.
You and your husband have this unique ability, and opportunity to reach a huge audience.
I pray God will make this a reality. We all need some healing.
i love love love these kinds of videos
What I love most about your videos is that they're not only hilarious but you address some very taboo topics in Islam that need to be talked about. It is very important for these topics to be talked about because people are miserable and they really don't need to be because Islam is beautiful and it is a very fair religion. I love your videos and love your relationship, you two are so funny ❤️
The way sid is describing it makes me think he has watched murdered by my father😂😂😂😂
Watches that! It was so disturbing! But some of the story want really very realistic... like most of these forced marriages in the UK are not between two British people, but between a British person and one from another country that wants to migrate here. But generally did a goodish job of showing the pressure placed on parents that they then transfer to the son or daughter in question.
+ShakirahIbaad true true sid n dina touched on the topic n they couldn't be more right good movie though
sid and dina thank you for existing.
You guys need to stop getting pissed off with each other so easily - both of your opinions are valid, let each other speak and accept that you may not agree, you don't have to come up with one solid statement, you both have insightful things to say so listen to each other and disagree in a less aggressive manner haha keep up the videos though!x
Love these question videos so much. I only wish more of your viewers were of our parents' generation as some of them really need to hear this and get with the times! Keep up the good work :)