My Breastfeeding Journey | Triple Feeding, Pumping & Emotional Health | Annie Jaffrey
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I am not yet a mother but still watch these videos, educating myself and I cannot stress enough how useful sharing them is. So thank you!
I appreciate your efforts to educate yourself, but it's important to recognize that many videos, including this one, may not accurately represent reality. Unfortunately, there are creators who have perpetuated false impressions in the past and even until today, which might have had a negative impact on some viewers. As consumers of online content, we need to be more critical and not blindly accept everything we see. Make sure to research from various sources and always question the authenticity of the information being presented. It's up to us to hold creators accountable for the content they share and to demand a more accurate portrayal of reality, especially when it has the potential to affect people's lives and decisions.
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@@EmpiricalApe ........what are you really saying...the girl just sharing her experience....
Omg Annie I got tears in my eyes while watching the video. I gave birth to a baby girl 1 week after you and went thru the same things with breastfeeding. Ended up breastfeeding my baby for only a month and then switched to formula cuz I just stopped producing milk after that. I was so tired of thinking that I was not a good enough mother, that I was doing something wrong. It’s definitely an emotional and difficult time for all moms, and there is nothing wrong with formula by the way 😊
Yes same!! Mine stopped after a month and I just couldn’t take triple feeding anymore so for my mental and emotional health I switched to formula ❤
@@rebecamunoz3662 a month is more than enough, if only I knew this 8 months ago. And formula is amazing. And Annie’s mom is right, as long as the baby is fed and happy, it does not matter if it is breast milk or formula. I am gonna remind myself all of this if I have a second kid ☺️
I had the exact same experience with breastfeeding. My baby was in NICU for 10 days and so many people shamed me for not being able to get her to latch! I hate how guilty the people in my life make me feel to this day
Can you share the formula you used . I use HIPP ORGANIC
@@foda2202 yep that’s what I used. I still use it and my toddler is 21 months old. I use number 3 organic combiotic ☺️
I really enjoyed this more realistic video on motherhood...I think a lot of so called "influencers" these days forget that their appeal was reliability and not selling us an unachievable perfect life.
I am pregnant myself and quite astonished that you were not made aware of the challenges of breastfeeding. I am literally bombarded with information on how difficult labour, delivery, sleep management, breastfeeding literally EVERYTHING is and it has been very negative for me and overwhelming. At the end of the day, we as new mother are doing our best. We will all have very unique experiences and we will handle them the best we can. There is no one fit all formula. A lot of courage to all my new mummy to be out there, we can do it 🤍
This is honestly such a blessing that you published this. This is extremely raw and vulnerable. This was my story, to a T. I felt so alone, like a failure. It put me in a quick downward spiral of post partum anxiety and extreme sleep deprivation. Your midwife vouching for your personal rest is incredible. Thank you for sharing this. This could save a new mama from PPD or PPA.
In tears listening to your story! All of the emotions in that new mom phase are so overwhelming! I remember all the guilt and second-guessing and pain of breastfeeding when you first begin, you are not alone. Baby Nalia is so beautiful and healthy and smart you are doing amazing!
Omg. I cried watching your story. This was exactly my story as well. Incompetent nurses in the hospital, they didn’t even bother showing me how to pump. And didn’t try to help me with my baby (also in Germany). I was eating myself alive. But I fought through t and I managed to breastfeed my baby. He is now almost two years old and I still breastfeed him and it means world to both of us.
Also I would like to remind all new mamas that however you feed your baby the bond will always be there! I spend so much time worrying for my forst one that if I stop breastfeeding he won’t need me anymore and that made me spend 2 years stressfully breastfeeding him, while on my second one I stopped on 6 months as she wasn’t gaining anymore and I accepted that my body did everything it could!
Don’t push yourself over limits!
Babies love mamas either way! ❤
Oh my goodness Annie. I’m so sorry that the nurses let you down like this. This is trauma. I’m so glad you can talk through this. Big hugs. You are a fabulous momma.
its normal in Germany....so sad :(((
Hi Annie
I got tears in my eyes watching this! Took me back to my own breastfeeding journey which was so so similar to yours. I can still remember the relief when I stopped pumping. I suddenly felt like I had all this extra time to spend with my baby! Fed is truly best!
Breastfeeding is so mentally taxing and emotionally draining that mothers don't get enough credit for their efforts. Anyway you choose to feed your baby, most women are amazing mothers who truly are doing the best they can. Thank you for sharing your honest experience with us, Annie. I'm glad things worked out in the end 🤍🤍🤍
As a mom, I do understand why you put so much pressure on you, I did the same. Looking back it seems crazy but I regret nothing because I did what I thaught was the best for my baby at that time and we went throught it together. I think you are the perfect mom for Nalia ❤
Annie, you are unbelievably brave for sharing your story!
I can't believe they gave Nalia formula without asking you. Even that they took her to another room without you and Mo and that Mo couldn't stay seems crazy to me. I always thought Germany is among the best in the world for providing health care, but in this case they totally let you down at such a critical time. You did your absolute best and you're an amazing momma!! ❤
I know how it feels - i had similar experience with both my babies ❤️ You are a great mom!
Annie I have to tell you I know SO many moms that have been through this as well. Breastfeeding is HARD… it’s almost like all the stars need to align perfectly in order for it to workout. Most people go through so much difficultly the first few months and I could just cry watching this video. I feel these feelings so much and I will send this video to all my new mom friends so they understand what a labor of love it is. Your baby is so beautiful and you are the best mom no matter how she is fed ❤
Writing this in hope that it will help someone in breastfeeding journey. I gave birth last May and all along I knew that giving birth is hard but the hardest job will come when baby will be born. So, I decided to prepare myself and took breastfeeding classes, it covered it all: different scenarios, breastfeeding positions, what to do if formula needed in the first couple of days ect ect. IM SO GLAD I DID!!!! Because like Anne, I was advised at the hospital to give formula , luckily I was able to advocate for myself and avoid making mistakes ! I CAN NOT stress enough how important it is to educate yourself about breastfeeding BEFORE baby is born. And also, colostrum collecting. We are now 10months old exclusively breastfeeding.
Annie, thank you for being so vulnerable in this video. I can imagine it was so difficult to relive this. As a mom myself, my heart breaks for your experience and what was robbed of you by not having proper care ❤ i’m literally sick to my stomach for you, being a new mom is so difficult and you need so much support, not to be alone as soon as you’re settled after you give birth😢❤
Dear Annie, I had a similar experience, it is such a shame that even private hospitals fail in providing real breastfeeding and postpartum support. I worked with several IBCLC lactation consultants, was breastfeeding 24/7, SNS feeding for over 2 months, took even medication, but all of this still didn't increase the milk supply, it is most probably genetics. It took me months to process and accept what happened, I felt like a failure and each bottle feeding hurt. I am still considering therapy. The pressure is really big on moms, thank you for sharing your experience so openly!
So appreciate your honesty. I had such a similar experience - and the relief I felt when I finally decided to stop pumping and accept the formula journey, it changed everything for my mental state and helped me be a better, more present mom. Us moms tend to put so much blame on ourselves, but we are really incredible and resiliant x
Annie, this is such an important video to share with new moms/expectant moms. I’m sixty now and my “babies” are 6ft+.tall men, but I can still remember those early breastfeeding days like it was yesterday. I was very lucky that I was able to attend a breastfeeding class before my first son was born. Even with that knowledge it was a struggle in the beginning and I think the only thing that kept me trying was to prove to others that I could do it. I followed what the books all said and breastfeed exclusively. The trouble with that is after about 6 weeks I wanted to try pumping so someone else (my husband or my mom) could enjoy feeding him a bottle. My son totally refused a bottle from anyone. It made babysitting so difficult for my poor mom…she would joke that she could stand on her head and yodel and he still wouldn’t take a bottle. So with my second son I decided from the beginning that he would get one small bottle of formula each day from someone other than me and that worked for him. Every baby is so different and every mom’s experience is too. But Annie, your mom is so right…as long as you are feeding your baby and she’s happy that’s all that matters. And yes, we definitely all need to be extra helpful and nonjudgmental to new moms. ❤
Annie, this was so kind of you to make this video and show such vulnerability. I hope this message and everyone else’s helps you because you certainly aren’t alone. Like many others here, your experience was also my experience with my first child, 26 years ago. I felt like I had done so many wrong things. I had pre-eclampsia and because of that, a 3 week hospital stay as my son was induced early and was a low birth weight- 4 lb 9 oz just over 2 kg I think that is. I had the same problem breastfeeding and he preferred a bottle even though I didn’t want to feed him that way. I managed to breastfeed him for just four months, the first two exclusively. My second baby didn’t have any formula as I learned a lot after the first time. I breastfed her for 17 months and I have to say I tried just as hard with both of them.
Your accident must have made things really hard for you. Look what you have done though, Annie. She’s a little poppet, absolutely gorgeous!😍😍
Thank you Annie for you story. In Argentina 🇦🇷, as a third world country we have a million problems. But something I am proud of is our "Humanizied Delivery Law" consisting of basically the following points:
1- Choose the person who will accompany you during labor, delivery and postpartum.
2- Choose in which position to give a light.
3- That biological and psychological times be respected; preventing invasive practices and medication supply without justification.
4- Be informed about the different medical interventions and participate in decisions about the alternatives.
5- Decide not to be part of any exam or intervention whose purpose is teaching or research.
6- Stay in contact during your stay in the establishment.
7- Receive comprehensive and continuous information about the health of your daughter or son.
8- Give informed consent about any medical practice that is performed on the newborn.
9- Have continuous access to their daughter or son as long as the clinical situation allows, as well as participate in their care and in decision-making related to their assistance.
10-Receive advice and information about care.
I hope this inspires other nations ❤
Even if you know you're not alone, I think it's inevitably isolating because everyone wants to have that beautiful experience and it's not always easy. I lasted 4 months exclusively breastfeeding and then starting combo feeding with Bobbie and now at 6 months she's completely on formula. I've made peace with it because she's happy and thriving and that's all that matters! I have my body back and that's also making me happier now. It's so hard being a mother but it's just an incredible journey
Omgoodness your video has been so helpful I have passed it to me Daughter who has just given birth to our beautiful grand daughter. I went through your experience 37 yrs ago. I didn't have any help, thank goodness times have changed with so much more support for new Mothers. You are doing so well, yes I saw your video where you broke your finger at that stage. Phew. Sending you love from Rosie O from Devon ❤🇬🇧👏🙏
Annie I’m so sorry! I credit my ability to breastfeed my son directly to the immediate support I had following delivery. They even suggested my husband and I stay an extra night at the hospital to have access to the lactation consultants for every single feeding. I can say with confidence I think my journey would have been much different if I didn’t have that support. It seems the care for new mothers has a long way to go. Things need to improve all around, everywhere. I’m so sorry you had not only a tough time but unsupportive nurses that didn’t honor your wishes. This video brought tears to my eyes and brought me back to the newborn stages. It’s such a scary, precious, and unnerving time. Thank you for sharing so openly and eloquently. Sending you lots of love! ❤️
Huge respect and admiration for you Annie.❤ I’m amazed by how much time and energy you gave to the whole process when the first weeks and months of motherhood are already as exhausting as they are! Thank you for sharing your story. I’m so sorry that the midwives didn’t give you more help in the early days as it’s so crucial. You are a great mum to a beautiful, healthy baby. Well done! Xxx
Not even halfway through this and in tears for you. I’m so sorry you had to go through this at the clinic at such a tender time for a new mom. ❤❤❤
Literally in tears listening to your story. It brought up so many emotions that I had experienced with my first and I can completely relate. You are doing a wonderful job. Thank you for sharing. ❤
Annie♥️ I was there with my second child, after more than a year of successful breastfeeding, I didn't even think that I might have problems with breastfeeding... I struggled a lot, consulted a lactation consultant and a speech therapist several times, went to cut the frenulum, did mouth and face exercises, I stopped using the pacifier etc. All of it with taking care of 3 years old daughter. Now my son is 6 months old and we exclusively breastfeed, but it was difficult. Sending love ♥️ And thank you for telling your story publicly. This is very supportive ♥️
I’m so sorry you went through this.. I experienced something similar and it took a good 3 months to finally get the hang of breastfeeding. Moms NEED a lot more support in those first few months PP.
Oh Annie I’m in tears…! I’m so sorry for your struggles ❤️ I have two daughters, one who is four years old and one who’s four months old. Both of them started to drop in weight when they hit the three months old mark, breastfeeding was such a struggle then… they both screamed at every feed because they weren’t getting fully satisfied. So we had to start giving formula as well to top off. Like in your case, giving formula was very emotional for me with my first daughter, I cried a lot and felt like such a failure for not being able to feed my baby….
But now with my second daughter, I’m way more calm and ok with the fact that she needs more then just my breast milk.
It’s like what you said, the most important thing is that your baby is fed and happy, it doesn’t matter how you feed them ❤️
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It's like I'm hearing my own story. Thank you for sharing Annie. 💗
I am so sorry that you did this experience in the hospital in the beginning. The nurses failed ! Not you, dear Annie ! ❤
Thank you Annie for posting this! Currently in the middle of my breastfeeding journey and I'm having a very similar experience to you. From the hospital and lack of support, to difficulty latching, to being hooked up to the wall pumping all day, to formula guilt. I'm hoping to make it 1 more month (baby will he 6 months) and I will be returning to work. So thank you for sharing and allowing us mamas to feel like we aren't the only ones!
Thank you Annie for speaking on the mental struggles of motherhood especially as a first time mom. I also struggled those first couple of weeks of breastfeeding, it was painful, raw, and emotionally draining. I remember feeling like you said “a bad mother” because my baby would cry from not being full. Those couple of weeks were tough. My son is now 5 years old and I have my second son who is about to turn 7 month old. I gave myself Grace this time around, we both enjoy our breastfeeding bond.
Thank you for sharing this story with us. You are such a great mum you give so much effort and energy for motherhood ❤ I’m so inspired of you doing what’s best for you and your baby no matter what others say 🙏🏼
Thank you so much for sharing your journey. I experienced something similar with my first child. With my second I was determined to be more relaxed during nursing and it made so much difference! Every time I would relax I could feel my milk to come in more. You are a wonderful mother and your baby is so blessed to have you!
When I listen to your story, I feel as if I am listening to myself and my experience. When I gave birth to my older daughter, I went through a very difficult birth, and I was unable to breastfeed. The nurses were not very accommodating and did not explain anything to me. I came home with inflamed breasts, only to find out in the end that I could not breastfeed. Because of all this, I got postpartum depression, it was very, very hard for me to get out of it.
When I gave birth to my young daughter, I did everything differently. I had my own opinion, I asked the doctors and nurses to help me and explain everything. Unfortunately, I didn't manage to breastfeed the second time either, but I knew that we had done everything we could.
My children are happy and contented. Regardless of whether they eat formula or are breastfed, as long as they are happy and as long as we as mothers are happy, the children will be fine.
If the mother is happy, the baby will be too
Thank you for the experience you shared with us.
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What an incredible video and information for new moms. Thank you for your vulnerability ❤
You are amazing !!!!!!!!!! THANKYOU for your 100% honesty. I pray other Mums see this and it takes the pressure off many other Mums. THANK You Annie !! Love Dee in Adelaide Australia 🌹🌹🌹🌹
I'm in tears for you. You are such an amazing mom. I’m so sorry you had to go through this. I ended up in the hospital because of a double breast infection and also had to switch to formula. It was such an emotional time, really traumatic.
Watching this while pumping and I can’t relate more. Thank you Annie for sharing your story ❤ you are incredible, learning so much through your content.
Annie, you are not alone. I struggled with the exact same situation with both my girls. I had this guilt that my body wouldn’t make enough milk for my babies. I can’t say it got better, I just had to give myself grace and be ok to give them formula on top of my breastmilk. I just wanted you to know that you are doing great! And be gracious on yourself!
So emotional. 😢 This is almost the same as my story and it was the most painful and difficult start to motherhood. I remember the midwife gave my son formula on the second night and I was devastated. I did not get any support on how to breast feed properly, I didn't even really know about colostrum. He would cry on the boob and not suckle then I would have to pump and also give formula. I felt like a failure. Now I feel so differently about it all, I feel so positive and proud of myself. My son is a few days away from turning 6 months and now I have a great routine of giving him 2-3 bottles of formula a day and breast feeding at night and in the morning. I pump occasionally and give him an afternoon feed if he wants it or my breasts feel full but I do not put all that pressure on myself to exclusively breast feed. Whatever we are doing, we are amazing mothers and we deserve to feel that way! ❤
I’m sorry you went through this experience, however you are not alone. I gave birth to a baby girl about 2 months after you and I had the same struggles and it is so heartbreaking it being able to provide the amount of milk for our babies. I went into thinking it was going to be this easy, wonderful experience and it became so stressful. However know that you are not alone. Seeing how emotional and how difficult this one’s for you really shows for caring mama you are.💜
Breastfeeding is the hardest in motherhood but to succeed and i waa an exclusively expressed mom of two kids. I breastfed each kid for a year. The tip if anyone is reading is natural breastfeeding did not work for me so i pumped out my milk every 1.5 hourly for the first 1 month then 2 hourly throughout day n night for at least 2 months or until you build enough to freeze then every 3 hourly and it worked! It's a lot of hard work and no sleep in first 6 mths. I did not give formula milk from day 5 onwards. All the best moms! ❤
I relate so strongly to your experience. Nearly identical. I have a 7 month old and our breastfeeding journey has been the most challenging experience I've been through. I have never cried over anything as much as I have over this. I think the need to provide nutrition for our baby is so strong, it's difficult to put into words how devastating it is not to give them enough. I found myself crying to this video, it is so validating. I felt so alone during this experience. Thank you for sharing ❤ we're still supplementing and I'm primarily pumping. I'm so happy you're in a better place emotionally as well. You're so strong to stick with it as long as you did
Hi Annie,
I'm really excited every time you post a pregnancy/motherhood related video because I'm also planning to become pregnant soon and I find them very helpful.
I was wondering if you could do a video about Nalia's sleep schedule and how you got her to sleep so well.
Wishing you and your family all the best!
Annie you are truly and angel, I did not know about this and I learn so much from you from all your videos. Thank you so much for sharing your story with us I know it wasn’t easy. You are beautiful and inspirational and definitely a blessing to anyone watching your videos 💗🤗 lots of love
I can relate so much, my breastfeeding story was almost the same. No help from the nurses, one lactation consultant did not help me, my baby was losing weight and we ended up on a hospital again which was very traumatic for me. I did breastfeeding and formula for a year, then I gave up breastfeeding completely. It was very difficult and now I'm pregnant with baby 2 and I'm hoping for a better story this time. Thanks for sharing your story. People should know more about how difficult it can be and what can go wrong.
Oh Annie I felt the exact same way. I really struggled with BF my first and it was during COVID so there was such a lack of resources and guidance. I am also a nurse and advice parents all the time that formula is ok and yet i struggled with my own perception of being “the perfect mum”. It really took me a long time to come to terms with this. Then I fell pregnant again and I felt like I had learnt so much and was so ready to implement all the tips and tricks I had learnt with my first. It turned out I was pregnant with twins and although i tried to tandem feed ect I had a 20 month old toddler who wasn’t patient. I was pumping and BF and formula feeding and sterilising everything. It really took a toll on my mental health. I found feeding in general was a big cause of my anxiety and this video you have made has truly resonated with me. I have been watching RUclips videos since I was 15 and am now 30 and have never commented on a video before. You are doing an amazing job and you are an amazing mother. Sending all the love, peace and light.
Thank you so much for this video Annie! I'm so sorry for everything you had to go through, it made me so emotional and I'm really grateful that you shared your journey because I'm in such a similar situation! My baby was born a bit early (and by c-section) so she was 2.54kg and the nurses said she wouldn't have the strength to breastfeed entirely and insisted to give her formula. And as you said, it's so much easier for the babies to feed with a bottle... At the moment I feel that we're on a good way to do half and half (nighttime is for formula, daytime if possible breastfeeding).
Thank you for sharing your story Annie. You are such a helpful resource to your community in all areas of life and we are so blessed to have you ❤
You are Annie a wonderful person. Nalia is so lucky to have such a good mom like you. Thank you for this video.
I am so sorry this happened to you, it is totally not right or justified. What I have learned from my own birth experience and going through breastfeeding - postpartum support and breastfeeding support is practically nonexistent. One of the reasons I chose a homebirth because I wanted complete autonomy over my birth and what happens right after baby is born. We need a caring and informative providers around us who will help/support us through this process. It took me about 1 month to actually get a hang of breastfeeding, it was long painful journey of getting to the point I am today with my 3 month old. Working with a compassionate/educated LC was life-changing for me. Sending you love, and thank you for sharing you story!
I’m so sorry you went through this experience😢 no mum should ever feel this way when they only want the best for their babies. You’re amazing mother, Annie, and I hope you realise that, no matter what happened in your bf journey.❤
Annie thank you so much for this video. My bf journey wasnt has hard as ur story, but still very difficult. Exhaustion takes such a toll and i became so emotional. Im pregnant with baby #2 and my anxiety for this second journey is starting to kick in but ur video has given me so much encouragement. We are not alone, we have to find our village
Thank you for sharing Annie. My son never latched properly after seeing several consultants, it just never worked and i was shattered.
Here in Australia we have to sign a contract at the hospital to approve formula been given to the baby, I’m so sorry the nurse gave her formula without consent . I pumped for 3 months and formula in between, after that I solely formula fed him, he thrived and my husband was able to pitch in which was so nice. You’re an amazing Mum ❤❤
I have never seen you emotional like this. I wish I was there to support and cheer you on sis❤ I am so glad you have came this far. Motherhood is not easy. Sending my love to all mothers out there❤️
I had the same experience on both babies. Midwives should also cover the breastfeeding part. It’s not only the labor but the postpartum situation that should be covered worldwide.
From my first experience I learned my lesson and didn’t expect from midwives to help at all. And also they left me by myself without my partner the hall night after a c- section! So I couldn’t even move to get to the baby while she wanted to breastfeed so I ended up sleeping with the baby on my lap. Which is so dangerous and no one came in to check on me.
I got goosebumps listening to this, as I am experiencing the exact same thing with my baby. I felt as a failure, I hated the word formula, my heart was aching every time he was on my breasts screaming because he was not satisfied. I would forget to play with him and give him more attention, because I was obsessed with my milk supply and got anxious every time he was awake and I had to feed him. Breastfeeding skin to skin- giving formula- pumping -this was my life. It has been two months now and I still give the bottle after almost every daytime breastfeeding and it’s OK. I know I am the best mum for my baby and so are you ❤. Happy mom = happy baby. Doing your best does not mean doing everything at the border of mental breakdown. I now want to shake myself from two months ago too 😃 Thank you for sharing this , you are not alone and I am happy to read and hear that I am not either. ❤
Oh Annie! I just want to give you a hug! Breastfeeding was so much harder than labour!
Thank you for posting this- I think it’s a topic that really should be spoken more about. I can relate immensely to what you experienced as I had a very similar experience with my baby.
The stress, exhaustion and guilt is massive for first time mothers around breastfeeding and there is always this perceived magical image that breastfeeding would come naturally to mamas and it’s all happy and easy but for many mamas it’s SO difficult and painful
We should all be proud whatever journey we end up taking because as you said as long as the baby is fed you have done a good job ❤
This is very relatable. I had a very hard time with my first child and got very depressed. Baby number 2 is now 8 weeks and I'm less hard on myself and that is so much better for my production
Thank you so much for sharing your experience and talking about something most people never talk about. My midwife told me that it's incredibly rare for a 1st time mom to be immediately successful at breastfeeding, imagine if we all knew that rather than think breastfeeding is so natural and effortless....
You have such a tender heart!!❤
I cannot image someone not helping you at this difficult time( giving birth, nursing etc!)
Glad you are sharing Annie!!❤
You being vulnerable will help so many!!
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Thank you for sharing this Annie, I’m pregnant and hoping I can breast feed- hearing this I will try to be as kind to myself as possible.
It’s so crazy what women go through, carrying and then delivering a baby, then having the hardest job in the world straight after. It sounds like you’re doing an AWESOME job, don’t ever forget that 💗💗💗
Thank you for sharing. To me . The problem is that I had sickness for 9 months and I could not eat at all. I had anemia and I had C section. And my anemia was very strong and I BF my son. I am so proud of myself for not listening to any one who told me to stop. But the PAIN IS SO STRONG in my breasts . It did not help that I had postpartum depression. I am better now. I started talking about four months later to my mom then my husband . Thank god for the support I had but it all comes down to me to lift myself up.
Hi Annie,
Thanks so much for sharing your story ! I can totally relate to your breastfeeding journey. I had very similar struggles because of my baby's tongue tie. For so many weeks, my only daily task was feeding my baby but feeling so desperate as she was always crying and obviously still hungry. I also went through triple feeding : breastfeed, pump and bottle feed. I'm now exclusively pumping to relieve myself a bit and as I have family around to help, but as pumping is really not fun and so time consuming, I will stop when she turns 6 months (one more month to go!) and will go to formula exclusively then!
I know I will feel this sense of guilt that you mention when I stop, and I wish I could have exclusively breastfed so that I could do it for a longer time, but we did what we could with the the issues we were facing and I'm also very proud of our journey now. It's crazy how much pressure we put on ourselves on breastfeeding and I agree with you that there is a lack of information as well as a lack of empathy from people around us (medical staff as well as loved ones sometimes). Always remember that fed is best and that the mother's and baby's happiness are the most important things in the end
Oh Annie😢 I’m so sorry breastfeeding didn’t work out the way you had hoped for. I struggled with multiple problems with my first son as well but my second time breastfeeding was wonderful. Everything went very smoothly. I hope you have the same experience with your next baby. Thank you for sharing your story. God bless you and your family ❤️
Oh Annie… such an emotional video. I am so happy you found your peace and you and baby Nalia are both happy and content. I remember in 2020 when in the middle of lockdowns I was left as a first time mum with all breastfeeding difficulties and oh boy! It was hard! But I think it all depends on the baby too as my first baby was amazing at it and after 10 days of pain we were breastfeeding beautifully. Now I had my second baby in 2022 and completely different story! Was nearly ready to give up as my boobs were so sore ( a small tongue tie ) but thanks to the Lord I pushed through and she’s 6m now and still going strong. You never know maybe with your second one it could be a completely different story. I wish you all the best and you are doing an amazing job ❤
Oh my god Annie, I'm exhausted just hearing your story... Sending you big virtual hugs. This is a classic example of your head getting the better of you, we both have babies just days apart but I'm a 3rd time mumma not first, so please my advice is trust your mum's intuition, you know exactly what your bubba needs and you need to do what you need to do to function & for your bubba to thrive. A happy mum means a happy baby. Please take care of yourself you are doing amazing, and Nalia is a thriving beautiful bubba ❤
Thank you for sharing, currently 7 weeks into our journey and pumping and giving formula too. It’s been emotional and exhausting, your video helps so much and it’s nice to know it gets better ❤
I’m watching your video while pumping, you are describing exactly the same experience i had. Thank you Annie you were a great help for me during this journey of becoming a mome for thé first time. Thank you.
Thank you Annie for sharing your experience. I went through a similar process 4 months ago after giving birth. I thought I’d breast feed for a year but couldn’t push past two months. Every feed and pump was very difficult and the lack of sleep incredibly draining. Thank you for sharing your experience and I admire for vulnerability. I’ve been a long time fan … since your New York days ❣️
I had a similar experience with my first baby, having done a combo of breastfeeding, pumping and formula supplementing for 3 months before I gave up and strictly formula fed. Now that I’m expecting my second baby, I’m prepared to do my best to breastfeed but if it doesn’t work out, I won’t beat myself over it like I did before. Fed is best. My eldest is sharp as a whip and none would be the wiser that she was a formula fed baby.
Omg it's like you were describing my story with my daughter. ❤I am pregnant with my second right now,and was thinking the other day about not putting so much pressure on myself this time. ♥️ Thank you so much for sharing.
Dear Annie, I'm sorry you had to go through this negative experience😢 I have to say that I was so lucky to have the best pregnancy course ever when I was prepared 100 procent not only physically but psychologically what everything might come once the baby is born. My breastfeeding didn't go well but I was so positive (I have never daugted that I am bad mother thanks to the best pregnancy guide)and calmly swapped to the formula. I didn't cry or was unhappy that I couldn't brestfeed my baby. I was happy that something like formula existed and my baby was happy once she was fed ;) Remember everything is in your head , birth , breastfeeding..and I have tried to do feeding with the bottle easier as it was possible ;) I have never used any steriliser for bottles ;) only washed the bottles in hot water + washing thing for baby bottles and that is ;) I didn't have any help from anyone only the help of my husband ❤
I am so sorry you had to go through this but I am so appreciative you posted this. You have no idea how much this is going to help others.
Wow … 🥺 You are a wonderful mother, I hope you know that !
Annie so happy you made this video. I had the exact same experience with my 1st born and had so much PTSD. I pumped for 14 months just to prove to myself that I was not a failure but it also put pressure on me to wake up when everyone was asleep to keep up supply.
Thank you SO much for sharing this! I’ve been through the same problems with my first and now with my second child and I suffered so much for not being able to breastfeed. My desire to breastfeed is so much that it motivates me to keep having more children so I could have another shot at it.
Thank you so much for sharing. I’m 4 months postpartum and our baby was born early and had to spend several days in the NICU. We had to start with a bottle to be able to measure her intake so I pumped and have been pumping ever since. We were eventually able to start nursing as well but it’s usually just as an “appetizer” before her bottle. Our circumstances were not what we expected at all and I didn’t feel like I had proper support in place at the beginning of our journey to really be able to nurse as much as I had hoped. In hindsight I wish I had established a relationship with a lactation consultant way sooner. But I’m thankful for being able to pump and nurse the little bit that we have. 💕
Wow, you are a superhero!! Fortunately I didn’t have issues with breastfeeding my three babies (I am a pediatric/neonatal nurse, this helped a lot). But I don’t know if I could have done this marathon of feeding for so long. You gave everything❤ and like your mom said it doesn’t matter how a baby is fed.
But one question: why do you feed the Hipp 1 and not Pre? This is the one which is the most similar formula to breastmilk. The 1 formula contains a lot of „Stärke“
Omg going thru exactly this and just tearing up. For the longest time I’ve been pthinking my body is defective 😭 I agree. We need to be more graceful with ourselves. Fed is best. And our interactions with our baby (and our relationship with ourselves, our partners, and support people) matter more than anything. Thank you so much for sharing your story 🙏
omg! Thank you for sharing this! My breastfeeding journey is so similar to yours, I am exclusively pumping + formula for my 3-month-old baby after he refuses to feed from the breast. I will do the same thing you did, give until my last drop to my baby. Breastmilk and formula are amazing, and I feel blessed for the opportunity to feed my baby no matter how!
Annie
I brestfed both of my kids for three years. It was the most challenging experience but also so beautiful. I feel so blessed.❤
I have 3 Kids, every time I learned something new, and what I learn is that breastfeeding is not easy, it hurts, it’s painful, it’s is learning process, but one nurse in hospital told me that every breastfeeding problem can just be solved only with breastfeeding. But if you don’t have help from stuff that is another story. But Annie if you read this just consider one hospital in Austria, you live in Munich so it is near by, Hallein Birth hospital, I delivered my 3 babies there, the stuff is AMAZING. I’m also from Salzburg ( I’m not Austrian, I don’t speak German) and I live 10 minutes walk from Main hospital I didn’t want to deliver there. Hallein hospital stuff is amazing and please consider it. ❤❤❤
NOBODY TALKS ABOUT THIS!!!!! is such a mommy shame if you express your struggles with others....THANKS!! THANKS!!! THANKS!!!
I 100% agree and feel everything you said in this video. I am a first time mom myself and I felt/feel so alone sometimes in my thoughts of how everything is going with breastfeeding. Thank you for sharing and making others feel heard and not alone.
I had something happen during the birth of my daughter. She had to be in NICU for 24 hours and she got used to the bottle there. I wasn’t able to produce much milk and she LOVED the bottle. I remember something the nurse told me. Fed is best. I stopped pumping at 3 1/2 months. I tried my best but she never latched. She only took it from the bottle. I think we opten put a lot of pressure on ourselves. Yes we want to do the best for them but, again, fed is best. As long as they are fed and they thrive is all it matters. Good job!!!! Baby is doing amazing and you are doing the best. That’s all it matters. Much love from NYC
I really think i needed to hear this since ive been so set on breastfeeding exclusively. Hopefully i can, but if i cant i wont be hard on myself. Im expecting this summer! Id love a video on all the baby stuff you love and regret buying ❤️
I've been following you more than 6 years. You r one of my favourite youtubers that i constantly enjoyed your contents. Pls share your weight loss journey after giving birth. Love you..
I got tears when you told what happened to you in the hospital! I totally get how you must have felt! This must have been so hard on you! Especially after birth! WTF is wrong with that hospital! I would have gone nuts! My baby girl is 3.5 months old and we had a bumpy road with breadtfeeding too. But luckily the hospitals in Australia where I birthed was really supportive and well staffed. I highly recommend taking the Thompson method breastfeeding course for any expecting mamas. It helped me to understand how it all works and how to establish your supply etc. she talks a lit about the golden 3 hours after birth and how important they are for you, your baby and your supply.
Hello Annie! You are a beautiful mom and you are doing everything right! As a mom of two, I know that breastfeeding can have its challenges.. some of us have an easy pregnancy yet we cannot breastfeed our baby, some of us have a difficult pregnancy but we have plenty of milk to give to our baby.. its all different and its all fine. I think the problem is that us mom, often times perfectionists, think about this jurney as an idillic time when all is perfecf, we have unrealistic expectations towards ourselfes and babies and then when they are not as we imagened we are dissapointed. We have to learn to not have expectations then we are not dissapointed.. we have to learn to go with the flow.. The hormones deffinitely dont help us but its a phase and we have to write a lot of emotions down to the hormones.. ❤
Annie, I had exactly the same experience 🙈 baby boy 3.1kg, they started to supplement him already in hospital, extremely hungry all the time and with colic. I also believed my breast milk was causing the colic. Even though he had colic also with formula. I did the same combo of feedings but after 2 weeks I just gave up 🙈 cause I started to get really bad PPA and PPD. It was just a survival, I literally have trauma from postpartum period. We mothers lack support system - emotional, physical, brestfeeding, with baby etc. You are brave for trying to BF that long!🎉
I got emotional watching this because I felt everything that you felt especially being in hospital with a newborn and your partner having to leave you overnight alone, and the limited hospital staff etc. My son was born two months after Nalia and I wish I had given myself more grace especially with a caesarean, people also need to be sensitive to ftm as it’s such a emotional and physical rollercoaster. Thank you for sharing this as I couldn’t find anything at the time when I needed someone to relate to ❤
Omg. You did your best and give yourself grace. I went through a similar journey and kept going 8 months later still going.
So glad you are bringing awareness to this. Most people don’t talk about it.
Hospitals are liable for all the emotional and physical abuse moms go through the first days of motherhood. This is really sad Annie and thank you for sharing your story
I totally agree!!! I’m in the US - mothers here envy European countries about how they treat mothers and children; this video says the opposite; I saw 3 lactation consultants after delivery; none of them were helpful; I saw one that was recommended by a friend and I exclusively breastfed for 9 months; lactation is a science and it’s not easy and has to be learned and taught; I spent countless hours researching and reading about anecdotal evidence and that was also very conducive for my journey
Spot on! I hated being there