AMEN, she is hands down THE GREATEST female artist to ever live in my opinion. I've tried really hard to find a song of hers I don't like, and I have failed.
She's not glamorizing abuse, she's just trying to explain to us how a woman in love with an abusive person feels: she tries to justify every form of abuse as if it was her fault or a love proof. This song is so much deeper than everybody thinks. And whether she's talking about physical or psychological violence, she's not glamorizing it, just showing the point of view of a manipulated woman by a toxic man. EDIT : Thank you so much for your support ♡ and by the way, the song is not only about strictly heterosexual toxic relationships, but about everything kind of relationships ;)
You got it all right! ❤️ Of course people are going to misunderstand it: 1. People nowadays get offended for no reason. 2. They’re too used to those stupid pop songs were the lyrics suck and there’s not a deeper meaning to them. So clearly they wouldn’t be able to interpret Lana’s songs. 🤷🏽♀️
there’s a difference between romanticizing and portraying. she’s not saying it’s good to be in an abusive relationship, she’s singing from the point of view of a woman who is trapped in one and in deep denial, which resonates with many.
Very well said !! That is a perfect description of this song and what it's meaning/ intent is. Thank you for sharing such a concise and helpful description!!! She is an incredible artist. I just wish there were more intelligent people like you out there. Sadly, I believe most people are loosing their ability to think logically. The discussions I have had with people lately because "they know its true because they saw a story on facebook." God help us all.
This album needs to be taught at schools, made into a national holiday, permanently displayed at museums, made into the national anthem, made into a motion picture
A motion picture, yes, maybe... But all that other stuff, okay it's not that serious lol. You're just super into your emotions right now listening to the song 😂😂😂
I hate that it's "forbidden" to describe this side of the toxic relationship. Art isn't supposed to always be encouraging to do the right thing. It's about describing feelings and thoughts and ideas.
And it was a trend even without Lana, it is just people who didn't recognize aesthetic found Lana and started thinking this. Just correcting again not hating.
@@lumityviktuuristanartist4100 she my favorite artist but it's true she literally says in one of her songs "I'm a different type of woman" like I'm not like other girls
Fr when I made my playlist of her songs I just went through lyric videos adding them without listening to the whole song Just one second and I knew And finally listened to every song after finishing the playlist all songs were bomb
Lana Del Rey perfectly embodies the innocent, misguided, lost and abused American youth; abused by ideology, envy and greed. I feel like that's the origin of her hauntingly beautifully sound, that pain.
joemcbee that's because they're androids made of flesh and bone. only 2% of humans born since 1995 and forward have a personality. the rest are just wheels in a brainwashing machinery ruled by their master: technology. this is horrible and sad to say but it's actually true.
@@TaraTheAndroid technology really is a huge part of why people have become so disconnected. On top of that, the 'progressive' goal is destroying the traditional family unit, by promoting single mother families, marginalizing the importance the role of fathers in the family. They really are a product of their environment. There are easy to see examples in the comments for this video. things talking about 'having a mental breakdown eating sugar' trying to sound legit in order to get likes. I rarely see any honest thoughts from anyone. But they dont know any better. Maybe it's just a phase kids will grow out of as they mature. Either way people need to start putting down the phones and reconnect with the people in their lives. Your parents aren't going to live forever. In 50 years are you going to regret not posting enough on Instagram, or developing strong lasting relationships with your friends and family? Tangent over haha
people just don't understand the lyrics of this song. She's not romanticizing anything, she's singing about the point of view of a victim of abuse. There's so much behind her lyrics and this song represents it so well. Love this masterpiece
Exactly !! This is actually quite important to talk about because a lot of times people blame women for the abuse done to them or downplay it because they don’t leave their abuser, but it’s so much complicated than that. The brain of an abused woman doesn’t see things like she would have done it before she was in that abusive relationship
@@Moonsong_ it’s not just that also if the victim believes she loves him that turns into a trauma bond and she feels like it’s better to be in that abusive situation than the feeling of being without that person even if that abuse is truly destroying her. That’s why you should never truly get mad and leave alone a victim of abuse you have to make her realize that there’s a world outside of that relationship. Because the abuser also will do everything to isolate her and control her so she sees him as her whole reality and life and that way the trauma attachment gets stronger
Or maybe thats her artistic thing, her gloomy doomy american gothic part of women that feminists can't accept nowadays. If you leave to feminists pulp and american gothic will cease to exist.
"He hit me and it felt like a kiss..." Love that line. For me, this song demonstrates beautifully what it's like to be in love with someone who abuses you. From the outside, no one can even come close to understanding why in the world you would stay with someone who harms you. Like anything else, love can be very addicting, and even the ups and downs, the highs and lows of a toxic relationship can be intoxicating, like a chemical rush of adrenaline, fear, love, lust, and sadness. There is something very strange and unique about this particular human behavior. It is completely beyond any rationale, and even though you don't like being hurt, you don't like being mistreated, it is very easy to get caught up in the desire to fix the person and save the relationship. Your own behavior is reinforced every time you do something "right" and the abuser rewards you with affection and praise, or compensates for the latest abusive incident by showering you with the love that you want most. Once you see that they are capable of being loving, it's so easy to get trapped by the idea that you can somehow "make" them treat you with respect indefinitely. This is what people don't understand about victims of abuse. Not only are they afraid of leaving the person, they are actually addicted to the relationship because they feel that they NEED that person in order to feel whole.
this was literally why I cried the instant I first heard this song, the day it came out. I was actually at the airport, it released, and I listened to ultraviolence before even checking anything else because a clockwork orange is one of my favorite all-time novels/movies. the very first verse and chorus poured tears down my eyes, ironically the first time in a while I had gone to the airport without makeup, because my first love was my abuser and we 'dated' for the first time when we were preteens, basically "reminded me of when we were kids", you know. I could go on and on what each lyric relates intensely to me and my past relationship that took 8 on and off years to get out of, but regardless this song had me ON THE metaphorical (and literal a lot of the time tbh) FLOOR and still takes my breath away over that line "he hit me and it felt like a kiss." I will never get over it, and the whole UV era fulfilled my own aesthetic and one of my favorite forms of Lana. I will forever feel blessed by this song and album, and I couldn't have said it (the significance you stated in your comment) better myself. thank you.
People who say that she’s “glamorizing” abuse have never been in an abuse relationship. That’s why don’t know how blind can make you, they don’t feel what you feel. They judge because they don’t understand it. She’s not normalizing it, she’s just singing about how it feels to be in an abusive relationship. Period.
@@Jami-kj4fm she can only show her own perspective, if she never been abused then she should not have wrote this, if SHE felt this way then ok, but I can tell you most victims do NOT feel like this. Abuse is scary, you feel trapped, you feel small, you feel embarrassed! You think the person hurting you loves you, and is just unable to control their rage, or you did something to provoke them! No way does it feel like love, good, or like a kiss, it BREAKS your spirit. PERIOD
Just found this song and it reminds me of my parents. They were together since they were 16 until mid 50s 4 years ago, my dads nickname is Jim, it's what my mum would call him and he was abusive and aggressive to her on and off for many years with a drinking and drug problem. But there was still an underlying love, and they had so many stories from their past they shared together until eventually having me. Such a shame things had to end that way after so long.
I believe this song is about Jim Jones, the cult leader associated with the Jonestown Massacre. But I also believe it relates to a Pam Morrison, my own sister Mary, and myself who was married to a "Jim". Watch out for those Jims.
for me, this song isn't glamorizing abuse. it takes us into the mind of someone in an abusive relationship. when you're in a codependent, abusive (emotional or physical) relationship you don't see what other people are seeing. you just know you love the person and you can't afford to lose them, love means pain and you're ready to receive every blow just so that person stays. i've been there. it's painful to leave and heal but more painful to stay. this song is deep and real but it's difficult to understand when you haven't lived it.
I am a death metal musician, but I recognize talent in other genres. Miss Del Rey(i know that"s not her real name)is the best in the pop world at this moment. There is a sultry genius to her. It's easy for people to hate on things they don't understand, but as one who has stepped out of his comfort zone; I would ask you not to hate this artwork, but accept it as an alien idea. Men were afraid of electricity at one time.
I can totally relate. I'm a lover of music, and genres don't defy my taste in music. Though i mostly listen to bands like Judas Priest, PanterA, Primus and Death, i also listen to rap music like N.W.A and Eminem, electronic music like Major Lazer and so on... Again, music taste not defied by genres, but i find that most modern music is really awful, so it's really nice to see new artist like Lana Del Rey, producing soulful, magical music! And seeing that other people like yourself, that also normally listens to metal, also likes this says quite something about an artist from a whole other genre!
I feel ya, I normally listen to metal as well like lamb of God, suicide silence, slayer, Pantera, also a big fan of deftones, recently been listening to a lot of Chino Moreno's side projects like crosses and team sleep, but when I first heard lana I was thinking my god, finally a artist who is sincere and makes the music she wants
I respect your opinion, but I do beleive it is narrow.I think if you give music a chance, you will find that there are a myriad of great choices to listen to. OPEN YOUR MIND!!!!
I used to be in a toxic relationship when this song came out and it made me cry every time I listened to it. This song is not glamorizing abusive relationships, it's genuinely sad and deep. I ran away from that toxic environment and one of the persons I have to thank is Lana.
Lily. Genuinely sad & deep. Exactly ! Lana brings honesty whether people want to hear it or not. How it's perceived is irrelevant. She's courageous. Life's like mother nature. Turn on u in the blink of an eye. Mame. Hurt. Even kill you indiscriminately. Don't have feelings like us. I love Lana's writing talents!! Good for u relating to her song & saving yourself.
@@obeydastrawberry8875 why would anyone think it's good to be in an abusive relationship? after that abusive partner I learned to defend myself and set boundaries, I wouldn't forgive and forget their terrible wrong doings ( like cheating or ignoring and hurting me ) like I used to do before. He did hit me but it did not felt like a kiss and I do not look pretty when I cry.
Let's be honest, this song alone deserved a Grammy, let alone the whole album. Critics are saying that she's mad that she didn't get a Grammy but the women she named in her post did. Even if it was her intention, it's cool. Anyone who has worked hard would feel this way. Some stupid people are just taking it the wrong way. I'm not a huge fan of Lana but i appreciate good music when I hear it. And who tf takes Grammy's seriously now ? Trashy artists have been winning.
agreed. and they said she 'glamorizes abuse' but she's just singing about her experiences. Anyway lana >>>>all the artists she mentioned, so even if she was calling them out, she wasn't wrong. They're nowhere near her level.
right? Cardi b got a grammy before Lana it's ridiculous. If she's mad at that she has any fking right to be and that shows how trash these awards shows can be
I get why she's mad. She's out here writing her own songs and they sound straight up like poetry, but instead people who are singing generic pop songs with no significant meaning written by someone else are winning. This is art, and some of the other artist that won are legit just mass producing cheap music made for drunk people in night clubs. Not all of them, but many.
Lana has lots of success too and a solid ride or die fanbase. And she gets to live a more private life than these ultra famous celebrities. I understand the frustration because the critics and mainstream public were totally unfair to her during the Born to Die era and the subsequent albums too, but in terms of success and fanbase, I think she's doing alright. Her music is amazing but is not for the masses and that's alright.
Lana Del Rey is killing it on this track! The short video *on my channel* gave Lana Del Rey the boost they needed to get the recognition they’ve worked hard for.
Many will say you were born at the wrong time. I would say that you came at the right time for us who are tired of manufactured and emotionless mainstream crap. You are kind of a saviour who recreated the timeless hippie age (late 60s-70s) and made us feel that we exist in a different time, gave us that vibe of how it felt to live in that era. A big thank you for that!
As the daughter of a woman who suffered domestic violence at the hands of my father for 22 years of her life, i dont get why Lana is accused of glamorizing violence; if you’ve ever known someone thats in an abusive relationship but refuses to leave because they “love” their abusive partner, ultraviolence’s lyrics actually do make sense given that the song is a traumatized woman’s permanent state of mind just put into words and music.
Fun fact: the lily flower represents rebirth and also associated with Virgin Mary in christianity. The white lilies particularly are also strongly associated with purity and heaven, this is why they are commonly used both for weddings and funerals.
Lana’s portraits perfectly an abusive relationship is and how brainwashed and gaslighted we are when we are in that kind of relationship. The very first I listened this song I’ve cried recalling all the bad episodes I got myself into when I was in a toxic relationship 😢 This song helped me to get through the zero contact and my journey to recover myself for a pathological relationship
Born To Die : Dating Ultraviolence : Wedding Honeymoon : Honeymoon Lust For Life : Thinking about all the good years Norman Fucking Rockwell : Divorce Chemtrails Over The Country club : Being happily single Blue Banisters : Thinking about the man who broke you Did you know that there's a tunnel under Ocean Blvd. : Just one night
almost 10 years later, this song still really gets me. I recently managed to escape an abusive relationship where i was simultaneously 'loved' and abused daily. It was so exhausting, confusing and i felt trapped. Whatever your interpretation is of the lyrics, this song is so powerful. Lana's music has always reminded me to stay true and stand up for myself. I hope anybody going through similar finds peace and true happiness
Not so much depressing but forcing the listener to acknowledge his or her dark moods, you know otherwise the mentality of persuading people to be upbeat all the time, it is sickening.
literally me. i’m 19 too, and during those years i isolated myself from my friends, i was on my own all the time, high school was horrible. then in 2014 when Ultraviolence came out i became obsessed with Lana and her music, it basically saved me lol I’ll forever love her and this album in particular🖤
I'm a Lana fan. I've been through so much shit while listening to her music and can apply a lot of it to moments I've shared with others in my life. So yeah.
When this album came out I was 18. Me and my best friend blew off classes and impulsively took a train to New York City. We brought edibles in my bag and shared them with a group of friends we made at Central Park. We literally skipped down the street while listening to these songs for the first time. We got very lost and met weird but delightful people and no one knew where we were. We walked for an entire day and relied on complete strangers to find our way back and it was great. We played this song at night while waiting for our train and talked about love. Every time I hear it now I think about that day and how free I felt
she’s talking about that part in a abusive relationship where you’d rather be physically hurt than abandoned. this is not romanticized this is real trauma
She doesn't need over-the-top music videos to sell her songs, she doesn't need gimmicks or "stripper" style dancing. She just needs her angelic voice and real simple video. This is why I love her. :)
this song is life its a masterpiece. i swear to God ppl don't understand this woman's art, she is way ahead of our time she created this genre , i can not think of any other artist that's as unique as she is she js so original so precious
Exactly~ most abusive relationships end up with the other (person who's being abused) feeling important or that if he hits me then he must truly love me. They are blinded by their harmful relationship.
Imagine not being emotionally, perspectively and intellectually capable enough to understand that this song isn’t about glorifying anything. Emotions are so much more complicated than good and bad. And words can be meant in so many different ways. Her music is only for a select few who understand the connotations of her lyrics and melodies.
When I first started listening to Lana I was 14 and didn’t understand this album much, but as the years went on I understood it more and more, the emotions, aestethic, everything.
Nobody can compare , her music is on a whole other level , I feel as if I'm in a state of euphoria when I'm listening to her music. Everything about her is perfect.
She’s an artist not a pop singer for a season. Being an artist means embracing your uniqueness, being authentic and using what makes you special as a gift and put it into art, that’s why she’s on a different level compared to mainstream singers who haven’t even found their authenticity and just deliver for the💸💸
Thanks God for creating her, she helps me when i’m completely down. I just need that rythm which seems to say “come here, I know everything is a shit, I do not ask questions, i’m here for listening to your soul”
I got this song from my crush, Hemalata. She gave me the song, but not her heart. Even though she rejected me, I can't stop loving this song-it's like a bittersweet reminder of what could have been. Anyone else have that one song tied to memories of someone who got away?
“He taught me that loving him was never enough” . Damm... I really felt that. The moment of a toxic relationship when you love someone so much that it even hurts you but it’s never enough. No matter what you say or how much you show your feelings . First, they make you feel like your love is not enough and finally you feel like you’re not enough for them. After 3 years of physical and emotional abuse I came to the conclusion that some wounds will never heal. But after all, I have realised that the best thing for oneself is to stay away from these toxic people. Remember, stay away from people who make you feel you’re hard to love.
please leave worthless awards out of the comments section. it's just like in The Simpsons. "wow, an award statue! oh, no, it's a grammy" and then he throws it away
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Lana Del Rey isn't a name. It's an emotion.
honestly the best comment/description of lana del rey
And a name
And perfection
Sí, sí, claro
AMEN, she is hands down THE GREATEST female artist to ever live in my opinion. I've tried really hard to find a song of hers I don't like, and I have failed.
She's not glamorizing abuse, she's just trying to explain to us how a woman in love with an abusive person feels: she tries to justify every form of abuse as if it was her fault or a love proof. This song is so much deeper than everybody thinks. And whether she's talking about physical or psychological violence, she's not glamorizing it, just showing the point of view of a manipulated woman by a toxic man.
EDIT : Thank you so much for your support ♡ and by the way, the song is not only about strictly heterosexual toxic relationships, but about everything kind of relationships ;)
EX👏AC👏TLYYY
THIIIISSS
Yeah! Right on! So well said in the most relatable way.
Yessssssss some people still have a brain I’m happy ✨👌
You got it all right! ❤️ Of course people are going to misunderstand it:
1. People nowadays get offended for no reason.
2. They’re too used to those stupid pop songs were the lyrics suck and there’s not a deeper meaning to them.
So clearly they wouldn’t be able to interpret Lana’s songs. 🤷🏽♀️
there’s a difference between romanticizing and portraying. she’s not saying it’s good to be in an abusive relationship, she’s singing from the point of view of a woman who is trapped in one and in deep denial, which resonates with many.
tell it.
Very well said !! That is a perfect description of this song and what it's meaning/ intent is. Thank you for sharing such a concise and helpful description!!!
She is an incredible artist. I just wish there were more intelligent people like you out there. Sadly, I believe most people are loosing their ability to think logically. The discussions I have had with people lately because "they know its true because they saw a story on facebook." God help us all.
she's showing the "he isn't hurting me he loves me" side of being in a toxic relationship.
this!! thank you!
exactly
Happy 10 years old Ultraviolence, I love you.
TEN YEARS??? I cannot believe this
I don't understand your grammar.
@@freddurstswife the didnt use any special grammar? I think they only need to remove the “old”
@hanna-ey9lx I do not understand their sentence at all I'm having a panic attack
I love you too🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉❤❤❤❤❤❤❤🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉❤❤❤❤❤🎉🎉🎉
I love how she doesn't just sing, she tells a story. Truly one of the greatest artists of our time
the best*
not of our time its of all time period
True all ofher songs have some of the meanings ever
Her songs arent even good
@@spippin for people with bad taste
She always looks so sad, but her music is still one of the best at the moment
It's bc the tone of her music is sad and dark.
irrelevanz yeah it's blues, it's like a sad jazz💖
irrelevanz yeah it's blues, it's like a sad jazz💖
She's a sad a girl but she doesn't mind..
does one interfere with the other?
This woman calms me down during my anxiety attacks
Same !
SAMEE 😍
Say my name me too it calms my anxiety
Same ❤️
Sameee💓
this whole album was so ahead of it's time. it's geniusly crafted.
When Lana invented vintage aesthetic,vintage filters, whispering, hípster culture, sugar daddies, tumblr aesthetic. She was ahead of her time.
amen
PERIODT
She was and is still our Queen!!🤟🏼🤟🏼🤟🏼
Queen of alt for a reason
She didn't invent em, she's just into vintage.
This song hit me and it felt like a kiss.
@ÖYKÜ ORAL türk buldum
Me too
LMAAAOOO
Yes.
YEA
Lana Del Rey is not just a musician she's a poet
poets are artists but ok
lmaoo
@@ellie-za-bif what i meant was singer or musician i just didn't put the right word and this comment was ages ago
TRUE!
Lana not just a musician, she's a poet
I don’t think I’ll ever get over this masterpiece
How is it going?
@@nein2844 still not over it
lana del rey is not just a person, she is a legacy for the humankind
Of course 😒
she’s going to be memorable for many many generations
@@art3mis837
Bro your a new fan? Acongrats?
Hahaha
Bruh!😘😘
*Lana Del Rey : breathes*
*me : I stan her for a reason*
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Stop glazing her she don’t know you lil bro
@@chxngez1737 its a joke?
This album needs to be taught at schools, made into a national holiday, permanently displayed at museums, made into the national anthem, made into a motion picture
🤣i agree ❤️
A motion picture, yes, maybe... But all that other stuff, okay it's not that serious lol. You're just super into your emotions right now listening to the song 😂😂😂
@@PlusVK22 its called hyperbole
i think that in one school in NYC they study her music and lyrics, collectivly her work, i just dont know which.
Real
Can't believe this masterpiece was released 10 years ago
Ikr
I hate that it's "forbidden" to describe this side of the toxic relationship. Art isn't supposed to always be encouraging to do the right thing. It's about describing feelings and thoughts and ideas.
👏👏👏👏👏
i know right shes not a fucking social worker lol
she`s describing feelings
@@luiysia omfg 🤣 this is perfect, exactly
I'm d'accord.
lana had that vintage aesthetic vibe even before it became a trend (and bruh can y'all calm down my comment is not that deep don't be salty😳)
This is so true
Lana invented aesthetic.
Aesthetic existed before Lana. Be careful what you say. I'm not hating just correcting.
And it was a trend even without Lana, it is just people who didn't recognize aesthetic found Lana and started thinking this. Just correcting again not hating.
she invented the vintage aesthetic
Queen.
Queen > Lana ;p
Boi go play fortnite
Didn’t know you liked Lana
omg wig stan list
Omg why am I just seeing this comment, I love your videos!
Lana Del Rey she is not a singer, she is an emotion
*Lana isn't afraid to write about heavy topics. I love that about her.*
Me too
I love her music but She a little pick me 💀💀
@@fay5870 how ?
@@fay5870you're so weird ☠️
@@lumityviktuuristanartist4100 she my favorite artist but it's true she literally says in one of her songs "I'm a different type of woman" like I'm not like other girls
she doesn't deserve a Grammy, a Grammy deserves her
well put
The Grammys don't deserve her
They don't deserve her
For real
She deserves better than the Grammys 😀
lana: ultr-
me: omg!! wow this is masterpiece
Fr when I made my playlist of her songs
I just went through lyric videos adding them without listening to the whole song
Just one second and I knew
And finally listened to every song after finishing the playlist all songs were bomb
JASMINE ???!!!!??
the "lay me down tonight"
ugh I live for it.
Lana Del Rey perfectly embodies the innocent, misguided, lost and abused American youth; abused by ideology, envy and greed.
I feel like that's the origin of her hauntingly beautifully sound, that pain.
Depeche Mode fan here I guess oh new name then my respond seem pointless but who cares
I completely agree!
This generation is utterly apathetic. People only 'care' about whatever popular cause is 'in' these days. This means they truly care about nothing.
joemcbee that's because they're androids made of flesh and bone. only 2% of humans born since 1995 and forward have a personality. the rest are just wheels in a brainwashing machinery ruled by their master: technology. this is horrible and sad to say but it's actually true.
@@TaraTheAndroid technology really is a huge part of why people have become so disconnected. On top of that, the 'progressive' goal is destroying the traditional family unit, by promoting single mother families, marginalizing the importance the role of fathers in the family.
They really are a product of their environment. There are easy to see examples in the comments for this video. things talking about 'having a mental breakdown eating sugar' trying to sound legit in order to get likes. I rarely see any honest thoughts from anyone. But they dont know any better. Maybe it's just a phase kids will grow out of as they mature. Either way people need to start putting down the phones and reconnect with the people in their lives. Your parents aren't going to live forever. In 50 years are you going to regret not posting enough on Instagram, or developing strong lasting relationships with your friends and family? Tangent over haha
It's 2020 and I still can't get over "he hit me and it felt like a kiss"
01emercado01 it’s from a song by the Crystals called he hit me and it felt like a kiss, maybe you’d like it!
Same, the way she says it is so powerful.
@@7211_ I love that song!! It was also Amy Winehouse’s favorite song :)
same
Burnt Norton Are you okay? I used to love that song... when I was in a toxic relationship. I also adore Amy.
people just don't understand the lyrics of this song. She's not romanticizing anything, she's singing about the point of view of a victim of abuse. There's so much behind her lyrics and this song represents it so well. Love this masterpiece
Hii
Exactly !!
This is actually quite important to talk about because a lot of times people blame women for the abuse done to them or downplay it because they don’t leave their abuser, but it’s so much complicated than that.
The brain of an abused woman doesn’t see things like she would have done it before she was in that abusive relationship
@@clotildemartinezlopez7017 I couldn’t agree more. The abusive person has to brainwash the victim into believing that they’re safe with them.
@@Moonsong_ it’s not just that also if the victim believes she loves him that turns into a trauma bond and she feels like it’s better to be in that abusive situation than the feeling of being without that person even if that abuse is truly destroying her.
That’s why you should never truly get mad and leave alone a victim of abuse you have to make her realize that there’s a world outside of that relationship. Because the abuser also will do everything to isolate her and control her so she sees him as her whole reality and life and that way the trauma attachment gets stronger
Or maybe thats her artistic thing, her gloomy doomy american gothic part of women that feminists can't accept nowadays. If you leave to feminists pulp and american gothic will cease to exist.
Her songs helps me to float in depression rather drowning🖤🖤🖤
"He hit me and it felt like a kiss..." Love that line. For me, this song demonstrates beautifully what it's like to be in love with someone who abuses you. From the outside, no one can even come close to understanding why in the world you would stay with someone who harms you. Like anything else, love can be very addicting, and even the ups and downs, the highs and lows of a toxic relationship can be intoxicating, like a chemical rush of adrenaline, fear, love, lust, and sadness. There is something very strange and unique about this particular human behavior. It is completely beyond any rationale, and even though you don't like being hurt, you don't like being mistreated, it is very easy to get caught up in the desire to fix the person and save the relationship. Your own behavior is reinforced every time you do something "right" and the abuser rewards you with affection and praise, or compensates for the latest abusive incident by showering you with the love that you want most. Once you see that they are capable of being loving, it's so easy to get trapped by the idea that you can somehow "make" them treat you with respect indefinitely. This is what people don't understand about victims of abuse. Not only are they afraid of leaving the person, they are actually addicted to the relationship because they feel that they NEED that person in order to feel whole.
I love this. ❤❤❤
Perfect
this was literally why I cried the instant I first heard this song, the day it came out. I was actually at the airport, it released, and I listened to ultraviolence before even checking anything else because a clockwork orange is one of my favorite all-time novels/movies. the very first verse and chorus poured tears down my eyes, ironically the first time in a while I had gone to the airport without makeup, because my first love was my abuser and we 'dated' for the first time when we were preteens, basically "reminded me of when we were kids", you know. I could go on and on what each lyric relates intensely to me and my past relationship that took 8 on and off years to get out of, but regardless this song had me ON THE metaphorical (and literal a lot of the time tbh) FLOOR and still takes my breath away over that line "he hit me and it felt like a kiss." I will never get over it, and the whole UV era fulfilled my own aesthetic and one of my favorite forms of Lana. I will forever feel blessed by this song and album, and I couldn't have said it (the significance you stated in your comment) better myself. thank you.
veggiesaremurder I totally agree.. you explained it so well and this quote from Lana’s song resume everything
he raped my soul
People who say that she’s “glamorizing” abuse have never been in an abuse relationship. That’s why don’t know how blind can make you, they don’t feel what you feel. They judge because they don’t understand it. She’s not normalizing it, she’s just singing about how it feels to be in an abusive relationship. Period.
PERIOD! Lana writes this song to show the perspective of these victims yet people still don’t get it
when i got hit, it NEVER felt like a kiss ;/ and I have to wonder who the hell enjoys getting hit? or even compares it to being kissed?
@@Jami-kj4fm she can only show her own perspective, if she never been abused then she should not have wrote this, if SHE felt this way then ok, but I can tell you most victims do NOT feel like this. Abuse is scary, you feel trapped, you feel small, you feel embarrassed! You think the person hurting you loves you, and is just unable to control their rage, or you did something to provoke them! No way does it feel like love, good, or like a kiss, it BREAKS your spirit. PERIOD
@@SABY1561 he hit her and she felt it like a kiss because she loves him very much and she’s blind and thinks he hits her because he loves her
Periodt
Lana isn’t an obsession. It’s a lifestyle.
Chill
Fr
@@guilhermegarcia8750Nope they’re right
@@guilhermegarcia8750 Lana is life. 24/7 In my mind
Cringe
Just found this song and it reminds me of my parents. They were together since they were 16 until mid 50s 4 years ago, my dads nickname is Jim, it's what my mum would call him and he was abusive and aggressive to her on and off for many years with a drinking and drug problem. But there was still an underlying love, and they had so many stories from their past they shared together until eventually having me. Such a shame things had to end that way after so long.
Prayers for any girl who once loved a “Jim”
*pam looks to the ground awkwardly*
@@astridvvv9662 same
Pam standing there like
I believe this song is about Jim Jones, the cult leader associated with the Jonestown Massacre. But I also believe it relates to a Pam Morrison, my own sister Mary, and myself who was married to a "Jim". Watch out for those Jims.
My uncle is a Jim and he’s alright😁 p”P.S. he’s been married for like 26ish years.
for me, this song isn't glamorizing abuse. it takes us into the mind of someone in an abusive relationship. when you're in a codependent, abusive (emotional or physical) relationship you don't see what other people are seeing. you just know you love the person and you can't afford to lose them, love means pain and you're ready to receive every blow just so that person stays. i've been there. it's painful to leave and heal but more painful to stay. this song is deep and real but it's difficult to understand when you haven't lived it.
incredible description i completely agree
ok but why lana eating an orange is the most glamorous thing
It brings you down when you get too high
Hahahaha! I adore your comment!!
clementine! she mentioned it in her latest album
it's a tangerine
Now she is married 😭🙏🏻
Надеюсь, Аллигатор будет с ней нежен. Классная пара.
♡♡♡♡
Coming from a gay man.. even I can agree. 😭😭😭😂😂😂 Hope she continues her career, I'm sure she will.
I am a death metal musician, but I recognize talent in other genres. Miss Del Rey(i know that"s not her real name)is the best in the pop world at this moment. There is a sultry genius to her. It's easy for people to hate on things they don't understand, but as one who has stepped out of his comfort zone; I would ask you not to hate this artwork, but accept it as an alien idea. Men were afraid of electricity at one time.
I can totally relate. I'm a lover of music, and genres don't defy my taste in music. Though i mostly listen to bands like Judas Priest, PanterA, Primus and Death, i also listen to rap music like N.W.A and Eminem, electronic music like Major Lazer and so on...
Again, music taste not defied by genres, but i find that most modern music is really awful, so it's really nice to see new artist like Lana Del Rey, producing soulful, magical music! And seeing that other people like yourself, that also normally listens to metal, also likes this says quite something about an artist from a whole other genre!
***** same lol
I feel ya, I normally listen to metal as well like lamb of God, suicide silence, slayer, Pantera, also a big fan of deftones, recently been listening to a lot of Chino Moreno's side projects like crosses and team sleep, but when I first heard lana I was thinking my god, finally a artist who is sincere and makes the music she wants
I personnaly see NO talent in metal
I respect your opinion, but I do beleive it is narrow.I think if you give music a chance, you will find that there are a myriad of great choices to listen to. OPEN YOUR MIND!!!!
I'm a man of 30 years old and I just discovered her music two days ago ... Her music is like some sort of magic spell ...
💯
Sir, kiss me
it’s so ethereal
How did you just discover her? She literally came out with music on tumblr when you were a teenager
Welcome to the cult
Lana is art.
there are no words for ultraviolence this change everything forever
I used to be in a toxic relationship when this song came out and it made me cry every time I listened to it. This song is not glamorizing abusive relationships, it's genuinely sad and deep. I ran away from that toxic environment and one of the persons I have to thank is Lana.
And are completely over abusive relationships or this song made you think its good to be abused?
I'm so sorry that happened to you. I hope you're doing well now.
@@obeydastrawberry8875 Can't your read?
Lily. Genuinely sad & deep. Exactly ! Lana brings honesty whether people want to hear it or not. How it's perceived is irrelevant. She's courageous. Life's like mother nature. Turn on u in the blink of an eye. Mame. Hurt. Even kill you indiscriminately. Don't have feelings like us. I love Lana's writing talents!! Good for u relating to her song & saving yourself.
@@obeydastrawberry8875 why would anyone think it's good to be in an abusive relationship? after that abusive partner I learned to defend myself and set boundaries, I wouldn't forgive and forget their terrible wrong doings ( like cheating or ignoring and hurting me ) like I used to do before. He did hit me but it did not felt like a kiss and I do not look pretty when I cry.
Lana Del Rey is not a storyteller, she IS the story.
What she is in the Islamic State?
5 years later and still haven’t found my wig
Sadbby 22 don’t even bother sis Lana disintegrated it
my wig is gone
Mine has been reportedly noticed in outer space
her best album, the true gospel
English isn't my first language and I saw it pretty much everytime what does that mean to find a wig? Think it's a slang, isn't it?
Anyone here in 2025?
Hi 👋
Hi👋👋👋
Hi
Hi
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Let's be honest, this song alone deserved a Grammy, let alone the whole album. Critics are saying that she's mad that she didn't get a Grammy but the women she named in her post did. Even if it was her intention, it's cool. Anyone who has worked hard would feel this way. Some stupid people are just taking it the wrong way. I'm not a huge fan of Lana but i appreciate good music when I hear it. And who tf takes Grammy's seriously now ? Trashy artists have been winning.
you're so right!!!
agreed. and they said she 'glamorizes abuse' but she's just singing about her experiences. Anyway lana >>>>all the artists she mentioned, so even if she was calling them out, she wasn't wrong. They're nowhere near her level.
I fucking know right! I can’t believe how this album never won any awards
bc they deserved grammys. plus theyre rigged anyway who cares
right? Cardi b got a grammy before Lana it's ridiculous. If she's mad at that she has any fking right to be and that shows how trash these awards shows can be
I get why she's mad. She's out here writing her own songs and they sound straight up like poetry, but instead people who are singing generic pop songs with no significant meaning written by someone else are winning. This is art, and some of the other artist that won are legit just mass producing cheap music made for drunk people in night clubs. Not all of them, but many.
Agreed ✅
You're absolutely right ❤
Exactly
Honest truth i love it and i agree.... Waiting for some people to come and be mad because of ur brutal honesty which is not wrong
Lana has lots of success too and a solid ride or die fanbase. And she gets to live a more private life than these ultra famous celebrities. I understand the frustration because the critics and mainstream public were totally unfair to her during the Born to Die era and the subsequent albums too, but in terms of success and fanbase, I think she's doing alright. Her music is amazing but is not for the masses and that's alright.
She absolutely got a grammy in my reality. She doesn't need to win bullshit to win.
Grammys need Lana ✨
Who cares? She is a living legend and grammy is just a trendy moment, a marketing thing.
Literally grammys don't deserve Lana
Lana Del Rey is killing it on this track! The short video *on my channel* gave Lana Del Rey the boost they needed to get the recognition they’ve worked hard for.
Ultraviolence is the best era. You can't change my mind
Ezlem Usun Absolutely
FACTS.
The Best álbum!
Ultraviolence paradise and honeymoon are my favourites ❤️
Best album
Many will say you were born at the wrong time. I would say that you came at the right time for us who are tired of manufactured and emotionless mainstream crap. You are kind of a saviour who recreated the timeless hippie age (late 60s-70s) and made us feel that we exist in a different time, gave us that vibe of how it felt to live in that era. A big thank you for that!
Yes ❤
COULDNT BE ANY TRUER 💯
👏👏👏such beautiful truth
Great comment! Very well put!
Return of the ankh, #ReturnOfThe🌼Children 💗
As the daughter of a woman who suffered domestic violence at the hands of my father for 22 years of her life, i dont get why Lana is accused of glamorizing violence; if you’ve ever known someone thats in an abusive relationship but refuses to leave because they “love” their abusive partner, ultraviolence’s lyrics actually do make sense given that the song is a traumatized woman’s permanent state of mind just put into words and music.
sorry you had to go through that :((
Becouse this kind of songs make people that being abused is beautiful
It’s not for glamorizing.
blah blah blah
@@obeydastrawberry8875 that's super dumb to say
Love Lana del Rey. She started as a zero and I am so happy to see her as a super star. Who is here in 2025?
She's just art, she's special, she's everything
Fun fact: the lily flower represents rebirth and also associated with Virgin Mary in christianity. The white lilies particularly are also strongly associated with purity and heaven, this is why they are commonly used both for weddings and funerals.
They are also toxic for humans and pets
I just thought it was dead
I will never get bored of her songs those are like a drug
Her eating an orange plus the title of the song being "ultraviolence", is that a reference to A clockwork orange?
I feel like a more simplistic video like this makes you think more about the lyrics and come up with your own interpretation
Finally someone here that understands the beauty and depth of this music video with an artistic eye
Sherlocksashadowhunter you need your own interpretation because of simplistic video ? xD
Sherlocksashadowhunter yep that's what Michael Jackson said when he did "billie jean"
Omg yass! Someone couldn't have said it better
Sherlocksashadowhunter it is also know as Art! :)
Lana’s portraits perfectly an abusive relationship is and how brainwashed and gaslighted we are when we are in that kind of relationship.
The very first I listened this song I’ve cried recalling all the bad episodes I got myself into when I was in a toxic relationship 😢
This song helped me to get through the zero contact and my journey to recover myself for a pathological relationship
ml i hope ur fully healed nobody deserves that
I wasted 15 years on such a relationship, but I’m so glad we’ve made it out and stayed strong. We are worth it and deserve better.
I knew this song for many years ago and I really liked it but I'm coming back to it right now in the exact same way that you described ❤️🩹🩵
As much as I love Lana’s new works, nothing will EVER top the Ultraviolence era.
AMEN
And she got married !! Love that for her ❤️❤️
The references about her alcoholism past is AMAZING, she turns her life into a really magnificient piece of art, I love her.
Born To Die : Dating
Ultraviolence : Wedding
Honeymoon : Honeymoon
Lust For Life : Thinking about all the good years
Norman Fucking Rockwell : Divorce
Chemtrails Over The Country club : Being happily single
Blue Banisters : Thinking about the man who broke you
Did you know that there's a tunnel under Ocean Blvd. : Just one night
ocean blvd: one night stand
@@FrontRowSeatToEarth how? its literally a breakup nostalgic song ahah
@@legacyfreemedia the era
@@FrontRowSeatToEarth ohh ahah i thought u meant like title tracks ect lol, my bad :)
Fuck it makes senseeee lol
It’s not that she can’t win a Grammy, it’s that a Grammy can’t win her.
almost 10 years later, this song still really gets me. I recently managed to escape an abusive relationship where i was simultaneously 'loved' and abused daily. It was so exhausting, confusing and i felt trapped. Whatever your interpretation is of the lyrics, this song is so powerful. Lana's music has always reminded me to stay true and stand up for myself. I hope anybody going through similar finds peace and true happiness
I hope ur doing fine now, wish the best for ya ❤️🩹
the bit at 3:04 when it zooms in on her eating the orange is absolutely hilarious
xD
Oh god. You got me laughin at it hahahaha
Bloody Twins I'm jealous of that orange
When she is eating the orange u can tell shes high af. But thats ok.
this hits different after lana actually getting married
frrrr that’s why i’m here
''yo soy la princesa''
NO LANA TU ERES UNA REYNA
Literal
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Facts
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The aesthetics and vibes are so depressing but it's weird how much I love it when it's actually such a scary feeling.
Yeah, I think everything about this song is intentionally made this way. Addictive, alluring, yet still very depressing.
@@0mik3mik3 yes! her mind ugh
true af
this song sounds like something would be haunted, its what makes it pretty
Not so much depressing but forcing the listener to acknowledge his or her dark moods, you know otherwise the mentality of persuading people to be upbeat all the time, it is sickening.
When i was 13-17(I am 19)I've been going through a lot and Lana's music was like the best friend i never had
I agree with that.Depressed.broken.high.loved.soft.dark. so many feelings.Queen mother is queen mother.
Same
Same
literally me. i’m 19 too, and during those years i isolated myself from my friends, i was on my own all the time, high school was horrible. then in 2014 when Ultraviolence came out i became obsessed with Lana and her music, it basically saved me lol I’ll forever love her and this album in particular🖤
@@brisakruspe 😌 the same ✨ LDR✨
Therapy is expensive so I listen to Lana Del Rey.
2:38 The butterflies with Lana are so Aesthetic
HAPPINESS IS A BUTTERFLY
She's not aesthetic ,i think
@@liliamuseum196 she IS aesthetic
@@celestecity2707 in my opinion ,no but think what you want !
@@liliamuseum196 lol what
Ultraviolence is a timeless record
I'm a Lana fan. I've been through so much shit while listening to her music and can apply a lot of it to moments I've shared with others in my life. So yeah.
ese40ounce Omg same
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100 million views, oh my god I've been here forever, I love you Lana! ❤️
5 years later, I still can't get enough of how ICONIC this album is.
When this album came out I was 18. Me and my best friend blew off classes and impulsively took a train to New York City. We brought edibles in my bag and shared them with a group of friends we made at Central Park. We literally skipped down the street while listening to these songs for the first time. We got very lost and met weird but delightful people and no one knew where we were. We walked for an entire day and relied on complete strangers to find our way back and it was great. We played this song at night while waiting for our train and talked about love. Every time I hear it now I think about that day and how free I felt
what a gorgeous story
You lived my dream, I wish I did things like that when I was younger
omg need. that's so cool
Lana : starts singing
Me: I think im pregnant
Yeah, same for me.
Male, 21 y.o.
😂😂😂
❤️
😂
Lmao 😂😂😂
Her music ,her songs ,her voice ,her videos ,her vibes all are so aesthetic and so beautiful ❤️❤️
When I listen to her music it is almost like i've been there too. She gives me her memories
exactly
same
+Ellen Marie When I listen to her music I want to smack the naivety out of her nasally voice.
+DoJo Starfox damn, savage
So deep, much emo
she’s talking about that part in a abusive relationship where you’d rather be physically hurt than abandoned. this is not romanticized this is real trauma
This is art.
Why do people ask if somebody here in 2025. We never left , and will never leave
She doesn't need over-the-top music videos to sell her songs, she doesn't need gimmicks or "stripper" style dancing. She just needs her angelic voice and real simple video. This is why I love her. :)
↑ totally agreed
well put.
exactly
Simple is not the same as simplistic. This is simplistic.
'"Stripper" style dancing'? What about "Ride"? I love Lana but it's always the same videos with the same effect...
this song is life its a masterpiece. i swear to God ppl don't understand this woman's art, she is way ahead of our time she created this genre , i can not think of any other artist that's as unique as she is she js so original so precious
Period!!💯💯
Legit!!!!
Omg r u Azerbaijanian ?
💯💯💯
"He hit me it felt like a kiss" I truly love the message of this song it makes me think of those who actually go through such abuse.
If he hit her then it is abuse...how can it feels like a kiss?
Exactly~ most abusive relationships end up with the other (person who's being abused) feeling important or that if he hits me then he must truly love me. They are blinded by their harmful relationship.
I've been through a relationship like this, and thought that violence was love ... to break free from what was difficult.
It was a Phil Spector song performed by The Crystals
glad you did! sending you good thoughts 💖
LOVE THE WHOLE ULTRAVIOLENCE ALBUM SO MUCH WITH MY WHOLE HEART ❤❤
supposed to be doing homework but here i am watching lana del rey eat an orange
Lana was supposed to be doing the music video but here she is eating an orange
haha me too
oh my god. 😭
lmao same
should be adulting but i;m watching lana walk up a hill
She laughs like god, her minds like a diamond....
a tad ugly wrong song
Idk tbh lmao u hear lana laughing in the video, that’s what she meant
bloom audios Its a line from Carmen
Imagine not being emotionally, perspectively and intellectually capable enough to understand that this song isn’t about glorifying anything. Emotions are so much more complicated than good and bad. And words can be meant in so many different ways. Her music is only for a select few who understand the connotations of her lyrics and melodies.
This comment right here 🏹🤍
Great, you use the word "connotations" with precision. I would add emotions and feelings, which not always are the same.
Good music can be appreciated by the many; but curated lyrics may be understood by the few.
When I first started listening to Lana I was 14 and didn’t understand this album much, but as the years went on I understood it more and more, the emotions, aestethic, everything.
Nobody can compare , her music is on a whole other level , I feel as if I'm in a state of euphoria when I'm listening to her music. Everything about her is perfect.
She’s an artist not a pop singer for a season. Being an artist means embracing your uniqueness, being authentic and using what makes you special as a gift and put it into art, that’s why she’s on a different level compared to mainstream singers who haven’t even found their authenticity and just deliver for the💸💸
@@yourmajesty5842 she is a pop singer, but the type of pop that isn't commercialized happy music for h&m stores. She's more art pop or dream pop imo
Ultraviolence album is like the most amazing wine,it becomes better with every listen. It has slowly become my favorite Lana Del rey album.
annie jackson sammeeee
Agreed
Agreed!!! I don’t like her lust for life album :p or the new songs she’s releasing... this is the Lana I love!
so mine !
AGREED!
Thanks God for creating her, she helps me when i’m completely down. I just need that rythm which seems to say “come here, I know everything is a shit, I do not ask questions, i’m here for listening to your soul”
Stelina Hallulli yes yes yes
You are probably an introvert, too.
I go crazy with her vocals!😭😭😍😍😍
A message to the future generations:
Don't let this song die.
Lana Del Rey will never die.
forever in my ultraviolence era💋
I can find no fault with anything Lana does. She's a breath of fresh air to the music industry.
I got this song from my crush, Hemalata. She gave me the song, but not her heart. Even though she rejected me, I can't stop loving this song-it's like a bittersweet reminder of what could have been.
Anyone else have that one song tied to memories of someone who got away?
“He taught me that loving him was never enough” .
Damm... I really felt that. The moment of a toxic relationship when you love someone so much that it even hurts you but it’s never enough. No matter what you say or how much you show your feelings . First, they make you feel like your love is not enough and finally you feel like you’re not enough for them. After 3 years of physical and emotional abuse I came to the conclusion that some wounds will never heal. But after all, I have realised that the best thing for oneself is to stay away from these toxic people. Remember, stay away from people who make you feel you’re hard to love.
Thanx for this explenation, i really miss the girl who sang this to me as a cry for help i guess
How did cardi b win a grammy before lana
_we live in a society-_
please leave worthless awards out of the comments section. it's just like in The Simpsons. "wow, an award statue! oh, no, it's a grammy" and then he throws it away
ON THE FU*KING POINT LANA DESERVES A GRAMMY FOR EACH SONG
gr*mmy??:D
because shallow commercialism is rewarded.
Lana is bette r off without awards. it gives her the edge
This whole grammy thing is not fair at all, the grammy doesn't deserve Lana.