I just wanna say thank you so very much everybody from the bottom of my heart, for all of your wonderful awesome and supportive comments for the Franke kids and also for me as well too!!!! I'm so moved cuz it's going to be very validating for those kids to see how the world is reacting to the things ruby did to them. It is for me too The reason that is cuz it gives me hope that if it was the same when I was a child that yall would've stood up for me too and protected me. It would've been so validating and healing to know i was right and it was wrong toxic and abusive what my birth mother did to me.
You gave such a great explanation of narc abuse. It seems like you've become very strong and rebelled against that toxic behavior, rather than continuing the cycle. it's very admirable! As a victim of the same type of abuse, I really appreciate you pointing out those micro-expressions. It may seem like nothing from the outside, but if you've experienced it - it's terrifying. Validation is the only thing that can maintain one's sanity in these situations. You did nothing to deserve vile abuse you went through, you deserved unconditional love. These narcs are evil and borderline psychopaths, keep spreading awareness
You have talked about is so true. I'm so sorry you went through this. You are spot on with this about this monster. I hope to that she and her partner stay in jail for life. I agree the children are scared of her. These are such beautiful children. I hope too that she never sees these children again. Thank God that young boy had enough courage to climb out the window. So proud of him to save his siblings. He is a true hero💕. Love him💕
I find the Ruby Franke story so triggering as well. I'm so sorry for what you experienced.....Please take time out for self care! Deep breaths, time in nature etc. ❤ Sending you love. Thanks for speaking out but please remember to comfort yourself after you share.
@@Krtwells thank you darlin!!!! I do all of those things only cuz I learned them from therapy. so I'm glad there are people like you giving great advice for coping tools and skills thank you dear!!!
No she was evil way before meeting her not saying her influence didn't make things worse but this woman was abusing these children long before how that animal that calls himself a father stood by and did nothing appals me he should be in jail too
Actually, it looks like Ruby broke her son's femur bone when he was 1 years old and got away with saying he fell off of the couch. She is an evil skank all on her own. Jodi abused numerous children including her own niece, Jessi. When Jodi and ruby teamed up they intensified the hate to the point where the children may have been killed. I am hoping that the 4 children taken into custody are raised in a loving home and find the right therapy to heal. As for the two not yet convicted felons they belong under the jail.
I completely agree. A person who has lived through abuse can almost always see it in another. Can you imagine what she did off camera considering what she did on? Ruby Frankie is an abuser and I hope she gets everything she deserves. Plus, the children are going to need a lot of therapy. Also, that father has NO business getting those children. Nobody can tell me that he didn't know what was going on. He knew.
I don't know everything yet about the father but i'm sure I will have more opinions when more information does. For my family and what happened to me personally my Dad didn't know the full extent of what was happening in our home while he was gone or working 3diff jobs to support his family of 5. My mom left my dad she just didn't want to do it all anymore. so she dumped him for some Crack addict and just drank partied and did drugs none stop. My dad was then a single parent of 3 kids age 13,11 &9 alone not knowing how to do any of it. He told me years later that I saved his life one night months after she left when he was going to take his life. He felt lost and hopeless and thought he was a terrible father and i just told him how much i loved him and how much he did for us and how much i got appreciated that he was still here. She just stopped being our mother. Anyways as time went by my dad started learning what she was doing by us 3 girls and friends and family. It was hard to do cuz we all were so afraid of her but with her gone we all found the strength to stand up against her and tell the truth. My dad couldn't believe it in the past when we were younger the things ppl were saying. He was like how could my lovely all together wife do that to our children... but once she was gone and he wasn't being abused manipulated and gaslighted by her too it all just started clicking. He then spiraled into a deep dark dangerous depression and blamed himself. He struggled bad cuz his dad was the worst abuser, then both of his wives were crazy narcissistic monsters.. so all he knew his whole life was all forms of abuse and trauma. It wasn't my dad's fault what our mother did to us. She abused us and then she wouldn't tell him she would beat me then when he came home she would force him to spank me with the belt. so if get double the punishment. He does take some fault because he did not listen when he should have. He also said he should've stopped us from being around her. instead of letting us make the decision on our own because his therapist told him because they were divorced she was no longer his problem. He wishes he wouldve realized what she was doing to us was actually his problem because We were his children. It was his job to protect us. My dad has asked for forgiveness and we have given it to him because he never did those things again. he did fail us multiple times but he never did again!!! Ive lived with my Dad now for 10 years and i absolutely love him to pieces!!! Hes a completely different man now that he's been away from the toxicity, dramas, traumas and abuse. He had to seek out different forms of therapy too for years to heal himself from a child up. Now i'm not telling you this to take any blame away from the father i just wanted to give you maybe a different perspective of what a father can go through with a narcissistic abuser wife and mother to their children.
I'm with you! I haven't spoken to my mother for 7 years as well. I left at 43. I'm now 51. Narcissist horrible woman! There is nothing harder yet more freeing for me. Thank you this video was needed! ❤
Thank you dear and i'm really proud of you for doing that it is not easy to go no contact. I have found so much peace and pure freedom being without her. I am free in thousands of ways!!!!
I grew up with narc parents and then became one myself and am now recovering because my child made me realize it. When I see people like Ruby and people like that I am so happy my family is healing from generations of narcissist abuse. My youngest son was rushed to the hospital last week for seizures. Decided not to tell my narc dad because he would have made it about him. Told him later. He actually got pissed I called my brother instead of him. I told him calmly it's not about you. It's about my son. My dad becomes the victim when he's not center of attention. You are so brave to go no contact. I go grey rock with mine. I'm scared my narc dad will harass us if we go no contact. I limit contact with him as much as possible and when I do it's grey rock. I'm subscribing to you!
I just subscribed to you too if you have instagram mine is mammadukes30 id love to follow and support you back!!! It was a really hard decision to make and i had tried to go no contact a couple times but she was always able to manipulate and gas light her way back into my life. but i couldn't let her hurt my family and i anymore she has hurt me beyond words can even explain. She just hurt me so much I can't have contact with her because all she knows how to do is destroy every relationship and burn down every bridge. I always do have it at the back of my mind that she will try to come crawling back because she always does.. but i'm hopeful that she stays away. the only two things that she's ever done good in this world is give birth to us three girls but also to leave and never come back. Which is so sad and heartbreaking I wish she would have just changed and put in the work that I did to get better and break the cycle of abuse and trauma. And let me tell you what please be gentle and go easy on yourself because it takes years to change and to become better. You have to wait for a certain situation to come up so you can have practice to try better and to do better the next time something comes up that would normally trigger you. I realized that it doesn't matter when i do it that it was time for me to change and become a better parent to my son. And i'm so grateful he does not remember how much I used to scream and throw things across the room. But i also told him as you age in adulthood your mind might become ready to process through and heal through traumas. i will always be here to talk to you about them and to apologize for things that i did to you. My mother asked for forgiveness and i always gave it to her so when i yelled at my son or i did not handle my emotions properly I would hug him cry and apologize and he would say it's okay mommy. I would make sure to have him look me in the eyes and i would tell him it is not okay i threw something it is not okay i talked to you like and said those hurtful words. I made sure he knew that it was not okay but i was working on myself to be better.
I'm long past the stage when I would watch a parenting video, so when this came out I had to do the research as I'd never heard of Ruby Franke or Jodi Hildebrand; but the videos are triggers of my childhood as well and what gives me chills is that at one point Ruby says something to the effect of "the camera is on right now, so I'm not going to show how angry I am". I was suddenly SO scared for those kids because I recall that feeling of "Uh oh, something's set her off again" - the horrible suspense about what was coming, the old familiar drop in my stomach and the terror that caused me so much physical pain and I saw that in the faces of her children. I totally believe that that terror has caused me digestive issues that I live with to this day - and science now backs it up. When Mom finally died, I mourned. Not so much because I missed her, but for the loving relationship I never truly had
I was always so confused about why she would keep the "bad" parts in, like the one you just mentioned.....or when the younger son said one time in the van, "well you did yell at me" and she looked at the camera, gave a smirk and then joked "you're not supposed to tell the people I yell at you hAhAhAaAaAaaaa."
The way she smiles when she catches them at whatever “crime” they’re committing is telling and chilling. It’s disgusting that no one listened, but you’re right, they’re snakes.
Even if Ruby didnt hit her kids what she has done is bad enough. She is a truly awful mother. I hope she stays in jail for a long time. And I'm so sorry you had to go through that as a child. ❤
Thank you so much dear and a lot of people don't understand that abuse doesn't have to just be physical. the things my mom said to me and did to me psychologically still scars and fucks me up to this day. The people who say words can never hurt me have never dealt with narcissistic abuse cuz those words can cut so deep that nothing heals those wounds
I remember when I was 10 or 12 my friends mother told me what a good person my mother was. The look on my face must’ve been epic. It took me 40 years to realize my parents never wanted kids. I walked away from that abuse 5 years ago, it’s like a weight lifted off my back.
I'm so glad you were able to walk away but i'm also really sorry that you had to come to that realization about your own parents and walk away. The thing that gets me every time is people are like oh now that you're a parent it's going to change your whole life.... and yes for some people that is true like for me but some people are just that.. people and their bad at being a parent or never should have been a parent. Having sex and getting pregnant doesn't mean you will be a good parent. that takes time, education, experience, knowledge, and training. Just because you give birth doesn't automatically make you a great mother. It's hard work to be a good or great mother and I wanted to be one of those not what my mother showed and trained me to be.
Hopefully She'll keep digging her own grave with her vile defense strategy. The fact that 2.5 million people were validating her, supporting her and funding her millionaire lifestyle is disgusting. I don't care how young they are. There's no excuse.
I completely understand what you're saying but i also see the other side too of that a lot o of those followers were Mormons too and were brainwashed into thinking these behavior are normal and how they were raised. And yes all of her behavior and rules under the guise of god is disgusting
I felt relief when my mom past...then I felt guilt for feeling that way. It's crazy what abuse does to you. My father still doesn't know the things she did to me. She wasn't all bad but never should of had me (she wanted an abortion). My father is the best dad a girl could ask for and it's been hard seeing him so heart broken over her passing. Those women are demons and should be treated as such.
In this situation, I think your feelings for your mother are valid. If you start to feel bad about feeling that way, call your dad and give him someone to talk to. You can counter balance the potential bad vibes by doing something kind for someone who is actually feels bad about the situation, and hopefully help you feel better because your dad is someone you actually want to talk to anyway. Just my 2 cents for what they might be worth (probably only 2 cents, ha!). Sending condolences for your difficult time, regardless.
I completely understand my dad went through huge bouts of depression when he finally learned what that woman did to us 3 girls while he was gone working 3 different jobs to provide for a family of 5. she should have never had us... but i am glad that she did because i had my son david 22yrs ago and even though it's been really hard to raise him by myself i'm glad for every single day i have had with him!!!
I also didn't want my daughter, was not expecting to get pregnant and I was not a good mom to her,no physical abuse but was not protective and nurturing with her, will regret it my whole life but this comes from my own upbringing.....guide,nurture and show l9ve to your k8ds so they grow up somewhat balanced and funcional .
Neglect is abuse too, which is what he's done for the last 1.5 years. Before that he was Ruby's child abuse partner; I want to see his butt in prison too m
The video where the older son is laughing while telling the story about why he lost his room and Ruby goes "maybe if you think thays still funny you need to lose your room longer" and his face and body language completely changed. It was very alarming to witness
I think it was his bed? When he played a prank on younger brother about them going to Disney? Unless she later took his f*ing room for something else?? Any who, not important, but if it was the same video, what got me was that SHE WAS LAUGHING AND GIGGLING alongside him while he was telling the story!!!!
What a b*****. Obviously, her extreme punishments have no effect on the children’s behavior, because they’re not related to the ‘crime’ & they’re TOO long! The child doesn’t have an incentive to change their behavior! 🤬
@@mastiffmom2592 Yes! I watched a couple videos after and they said she took the bedroom but I've watched so many of these, I couldn't remember which video to correct, so thank you! haha. Also, agree with Kevin agreeing with this punishment and/or allowing. However, we know his defense is going to be shifting the narrative and pointing blame on Ruby starting to follow along Hildebrant's BS therapy. But it's alllll on tape, Kevin ;)
Separate comment for a separate topic. I am so very sorry for the trauma your mother put you through as a child. This is my first time finding your channel, and I will say that I admire how open you are about this. It is certainly not expected of you in any way, but it is important for people to understand what others have had to endure, and hopefully better understand why so many terrible situations like these fall through the cracks and how to fix them. I hope you have been able to work through this trauma in some way. You are strong and courageous. Don't ever forget that.
Awweeee thank you so very much!! such beautiful supportive words!! 🫂 🖤🫂🖤🫂 I've worked through a lot of my trauma but the best thing I've ever done to help me heal is to stop having my mom in my life the past 7 years. Finding out she was my main #1 trigger the whole time and being able to tell her that before she left really helped me heal a looooot!!!
@@trishaaudettemammadukes30You turned up in my suggestions as well. Severing ties with abusive parents completely when you’re ready saved me 50 yrs. ago when I was 30. Next to marrying my late husband, this decision was bar none, *the best decision of my life.* Best wishes to you, my friend and to my brothers and sisters who have endured decades of their parent’s criminal behavior. The fact they were not caught and successfully prosecuted makes them no less criminal.
NEW SUBSCRIBER....I just love you already. Wish I could have been there to protect you from your Mom. As a Mom myself, my heart hurts for what you had to endure. Hopefully, that monster that is Ruby Franke pays for what she did to those babies.
I agree with you on Ruby. You can literally see the meanness in her whole countenance, and I find it so disturbing how many parents didn't pick up on that and watched her content.
i was raised the same way and this whole thing triggered me so bad i cried for 3 days and lost my voice. i wrote a letter on my community tab to that c8nt. i was also locked in my room for 3 months and only allowed one book at a time because i spilled tea on the counter and wiped it up. i still have food issues. i don't think there is any recovering when you were robbed of your very basic formative years. how can you go back as an adult and teach that kid inside you things like love, nurturing, nourishment, support. how can you trust anyone but yourself? i think everyone is always out to get me, and i think the worst of every situation. now i am living with family at the age of 41, and i'm writing my autobiography, which is extremely painful but i think it's helping. even as i write my memories down, i can hear adults from my childhood in my head telling me not to write those things, but those are my memories. they cant take them from me. maybe they arent 100% accurate but i'm not letting anyone gaslight me.
The way i was able to heal from being neglected and denied my most basic rights of a safe shelter, love, protection and food i had to retrain and rewire my brain, reparent myself and heal my inner child. I know exactly what you mean about not trusting anybody I've been single now for ten years. Also what you're doing is called catastrophizing Because so many horrible things happened to you your mind always goes to the worst possible things over and over again playing in your mind like switching the channels with a remote. Therapy was very helpful for me but when I started dbt therapy that's when I really started understanding what had happened to me, for it out of my brain and talked about them.. then healing from all of it. You got this dear im so proud of you!!! Keep going keep fighting keep surviving so one day you can start really living!!!!
I’m just so glad you are starting to heal, but this Ruby thing has opened wounds for you. Thanks for speaking out, and you knew what Ruby was like. These kids will survive they should get lots of help. That boy is a hero for escaping Sending love from Australia ❤
I think and say that all the time to my son!!! I said I wish I could go back and protect younger me. Now in the past i have wanted to go back and beat the living shit out of her and speak her language but i think i would actually go the route of showing her compassion and understanding. teaching her about patience and empathy and compassion. Teach her about all emotions and how to control them. it's good to have emotions when it's appropriate. it's really hard to teach a narcissist feelings That they don't have. But you can help them they can rewire and retrain their own brains and get better. I really wish i would have been able to help her break the cycle. i tried as an adult but she just failed every time and went back to boze and drugs. we were no longer safe with her in our lives.
Thank you dear I am too cuz she tried to physically kill me many times. with pillows over my face and chocking me till i blacked out. I was always so terrified daily but i'm so free from her abuse and pain. So glad I stood up against her and put my foot down and said enough is enough. I'm done with you you can leave and never come back.
i know what things are like, growing up with a bad childhood. (not only did we have a Dad that was outta control, but we ALSO had a Mom who wasn't afraid of hurting us.. i grew up in the middle, between an older Brother & a younger Brother.. 1 of them tormented me, to the point of Mom finally catching him, after 6 years of it, & sending him to a BootCamp.. THEN i also got bullied over all the symptoms, by my YOUNGER Brother, & all his friends that he ran his mouth to) then, after my Mom finally left our Dad, we had to watch her love the StepKids MORE.. (she'd even go as far as locking us OUTSIDE to sleep, so THEY can take OUR BEDS, when her BoyFriend had them on his weekends) i gotta bad feeling Eve mighta been going thru something similar.. ppl NOT believing that it'd b a possibility, makes me feel some type of way, that i can't quite explain.. (& the nightmares NEVER stop 🥺)
I see you! And I see your truth! You are correct. But you knew that! And when your muther’s “friends” that could See, Saw, they RAN. Their simple awareness conjured fear such that self preservation had them too afraid to even call children’s protective services on your behalf. The bells go ding ding ding in their heads when they realize this monster can and will discredit them, prolly already has! Those who speak against or judge you now for what you “shoulda done”, would be the first to jump in your arms like Scooby Doo and cry, “Hold Me” if they had any awareness. The telltale sign of abuse with the wheel of emotion face, spinning to land on whatever inevitably won’t be the “appropriate emotion for mom” demonstration was edifying! And I loved seeing you tell your mother off in the last quarter!!! 7 years!!, yer Awesome. For me, most of the name calling stopped when no name I could imagine was large enough to hold all the bully’s putrescence!!! You are a super hero keeping it real
Thank you for doing this video. I grew up with my Grandmother and she did sadistic things to me and yet around neighbors and authority she was an angel. Scary to have that kind of authority over a child or adult. I ran away at 16 but in my head she went with me.
Its a life sentence but I heal a little bit each day. I am 58 now and grateful that I made it this long. Way too many of us have gone through torture and it is my dream that we can break the cycle of generational disfunction so our future generations can live in a better world. Thank you for your loving words. It heals the heart.
The last time my mother put her hands on me was the first time I fought back. I was 26, about 7 months pregnant and she beat the crap out of me and convinced herself I was Satan because I wouldn't abort my son
Omg im so sorry dear. So glad you had the strength to stand up for yourself proud of you!!!! I was 15 when I fought back 1st time and I was arrested and put in Juvenile jail for 3 months.
You are completely on point. I want to see Ruby going to jail and I hope that will make abusers scared from now on. I am glad your mom is out of your life. People like her never change. They are a waste of air.
I saw that video and you are 100% right. People need to really look at this and I feel her husband is also to blame for this. So who believes these creeps are just as sick as them.
I also hope that their father doesn't get custody. I'm not sure who should get it, but their entire family are vloggers, and there is not way their father didn't let the abuse happen. So they may not be safe with any of their family members, sadly. Likely not safe from exploitation on family channels at the very least. It's so sad.
In one of her videos, she states that the discipline happens off-camera, so your instincts are probably spot on. My situation was not as bad as yours, but at 65, I still have my moments.
Thank you for being brave enough to share your story. You have my full support. I too have a mother with problems (borderline personality disorder if I had to guess) and she caused so much pain in my life. Abusive in every way, gaslighting, keeping odd hours, overeating, gambling, controlling, etc. You know the deal. Stay strong. I'm glad you're away from that stressful situation. Keep your head up. There are good people out there who will listen to you. We got you. Sending thoughts and prayers.
Thank you dear!!! My ex is Spanish and about 11 years ago I was looking for a tag name for the Playstation. My exes0 brother thought about it and said every where we go people flock to you for everything and you are always so lovely, beyond helpful and amazing to everyone so he said I was mammadukes. I asked him what it meant and he said it's the Spanish version of Big Momma and that's what you are the best Mamma to everyone!!!! It was so sweet and even though I hate my ex and what he did to me I still kept the name cuz I love it so much and what he said. Meant so much to me and still does!!!!
Ruby and Jodi are both sociopathic child abusers. I hope they are locked away for a very long time. Sorry that you suffered abuse. Hope you are doing well ❤
Big hugs! My mom was like your mom. I left home as soon as I graduate HS. 2 years ago my mom was in the hospital and chose to remove her o2. I was there to support my dad. My mom asked me " you had a good childhood right?" I said, " no, no I didn't " And apparently my brother answered her the same. I'm near 60yr old, so I've had alot more time to heal, though if never really goes away.
I tell everyone that even though you heal from your past it will never go away because all of that did happen to you. and just because you can put it aside doesn't mean it will ever go away and i'm sure i will be affected by the horrible abuse i endured for the rest of my life... but i am sooooo much more stable and stronger than i used to be and i'm so happy for that. I'm very happy that I got as much help as I did. I am glad you were able to tell your mother the truth. i was able to do that before my mother moved away as well. i told her that i thought i had hundreds of triggers but come to find out you were my main trigger the whole time having you around is triggering and that your grandson thinks you are a monster and he's absolutely right. it felt really good to tell her how i felt
I, too, often wrote comments against Ruby Franke, and this was even prior to her involvement with Jodi of Connectxions! When I commented I received replies on-site from her fans that adored her. Of course those fans were her church members from her “ward” community. Yes, if you see those videos any normal person can detect her verbal abuse, most-likely her emotional abuse, and truly, it is my belief the dad (Kevin Franke) was the favorite parent of these children! They would run to greet him when he came home. Probably because once he was home Ruby’s punishment would lessen. I think Kevin Franke was brainwashed! He tried to be the balanced one, attempted to side with his kids and when he did she obviously took that anger towards her children out on him! Every time she reprimanded her children on camera Shari, her oldest, would be right there observing…she, too, was being groomed to be hateful as well! Yet, her cup runneth over, she “finally” wised-up, and went against her mother! Shari lives away from home now and is in college, but the other children - Chad and the two teen girls were living with their father at the time. They chose their dad over their mom! The two youngest remained with Ruby, and these two youngest were more abused than the others! None of these crimes any of the kids made deserved the horrific punishment that Ruby would inflict on them!
Our abusive parents got away with it for decades and if one continues contact with them, the abuse never ends. They never age out of their abusiveness and we’re the targets.
Ruby is abusive, entitled and self serving. Jodi on the other hand is diabolical, manipulative and power hungry. Mormon Stories did a 2part interview with a man named Adam and his story is absolutely heartbreaking from what Jodi did to him and how she destroyed his family. She systematically deconstructed every human and she had the backing and active support from the Mormon church. It’s insane with what she has been allowed to get away with for years and gets paid very handsomely doing it. neither one of them ever get out of jail. If you have some time to kill, I suggest you watch the interview with Adam. You can physically see the affects that trauma has taken on him and yet he still fights to speak the truth. Ruby is dangerous to her family but Jodi is in a whole different category of extreme abuse, manipulation, division and control. The level of corruption , abuse and cover up that this “church” facilitates is mind blowing. Thank goodness the Franke kids are finally away from both of those monsters but there is probably 100’s of families that have sought Jodi out for help and she has driven a wedge between a family unit and destroyed it and I hope every single person that Jodi has harmed physically, mentally and emotionally comes forward and tells their story because their story matters and they deserve to regain their voice , something that Jodi took away and destroyed years ago. UGH!!!
I am currently 18, but even as a 13 year old I had been leaving comments and really judging Ruby Franke and her parenting. I always thought family channels were a sort of problem due to these kids essentially making the parents money (while have no option to opt out of it). I can't say I wasn't expecting something like this, it was just a matter of time. I'm very happy for all the kids, I hope they find their peace as you mentioned. And, I feel for you - you seem like such a caring, generous person. I am glad you escaped your situation as well. Have a good day, and thank you for posting this video! Personification of my thoughts, literally
I think you did a great job by talking about this commenting brings awareness dear. Thank you so much I try to be there for as many people as I possible can. thank you for listening to what I had to say! 🫂🖤🫂🖤🫂
your comments of support are worth more than you could ever know. words can have a butterfly effect and change the entire world for someone. especially when there are so many ignorant people out there who don't get it. some people will never understand what people like ruby's kids, myself, and @trishaaudettemammadukes3019 have been through and how it leaves lifelong scars. thanks for being a warrior.
My mom is a narcissist as well we were verbally abused mostly. Now I’m no contact and my sisters are upset with me for outing the abuse on social media. I’m just glad I finally get to live my life in peace because she will no longer be in it your brave and a great person I hope you are able to live with peace now
😢I’m so sorry that happened to you. It burns me up. It makes me long for my passed on father and soon passing mom and grateful to them. I have watched some of some of the Frankie children and Ruby with them, it’s bizarre, and I actually picked up on it too. Sadly there is another woman I’m suspected of mental and isolation abuse, I have called the police and got the “nothing we can do “ story.
Exactly they're the dumb ones that actually put it on the internet. criminals are sometimes sooooo stupid. Reddit collected all of eight passengers videos before she shutdown her channe.l and i know other people are collecting all of Jodi Hildebrandt videos. One of Rubys daughters created a very large google doc with everything in it
@@trishaaudettemammadukes30 Don't forget, the 6 counts each of felony c.a. are the arresting charges, the prosecuters may bring far more including kidnapping. These 2 aren't getting out of this. The father has a legal mountain to climb to get the kids back. Once J&R are found guilty the kids can bring civil charges that will very likely stick and get their fair share of the income generated online.
I am so sorry this happened to you. I cannot imagine... I have subscribed to you, I can feel your honesty, anger, kindness for victims. But please, don't forget to look after yourself. I hope that your life is wonderful now. Sending Love, Isabelle, 👋🇨🇦⚘🦋💐
Thank you darlin!!! I subbed back!!! And I promise I do take very good care of myself now (lots of training and therapy) I've learned how to utilize my trauma and pain to help others
I hope and pray for your continued healing. Also has a funny point the Jail they are in is called Purgatory so they are only 4 short steps from Hell itself.
the nightmares NEVER stop!! (which is why I'VE even been trying to speak out against their "parenting skills," for the past YEAR) her allegations REALLY make me wonder tho.. did any of those kids go thru what I went thru, in the other sense TOO?? 🤔 (i REALLY CAN'T help but wonder) my monster's multiple offenses has landed him a "tier 3" for LIFE!! (ppl like that tend to NOT change) this whole story has triggered something in me, that i can't quite explain.. 🥺 .. i just find this whole situation to b ABSOLUTELY horrendous..
Thank you for saying that dear. I actually tried to in college to become a case manager but i wasn't ready in my healing journey. so instead of doing it for a profession i do it in my real life with my friends, my friend's children, my son and all of his friends and anyone online that needs help. I try to be advocates for people, teach them how to advocate for themselves, and to get the help they need or I help them when and if i can. Because people need people we need each other!
Great video.. Her and her horribile friend will probably die in prison. They love to dish it out to innocent children and adults also, but they cant take punishment
So very true. I knew i didn't like what my mother was doing but because she didn't let me sleep over a lot at friend's house i didn't know it was horribly wrong and abusive. as i grew up i started learning that her behavior was toxic and abusive and learned about boundaries. So I started trying to set healthy boundaries with my mother and she just thought i was picking on her. i said no you are doing things to me and my son and you will stop or you will not be around us anymore...she could not stop so bye Felicia
Im so sorry you had to go through that. Im so thankful you're free and at peace. I pray you can live your best life ever now. You certainly deserve too. 🙏🏾🤗 I pray those kids stay free and heal. 💔💜
Thank you so much and I agree I hope those babies will be ok and live and lead a healthy life now that they are away from them and can get real mental and physical therapy
Thank you for speaking out not only for you but you're speaking out because of what happened don't let your mother control one more minute of your you life you keep fighting girl❤❤❤
I remember I had watched swift's video about Ruby and her channel before she got arrested, so last week, when I started seeing videos on my timeline pop up about Ruby I thought they were old until I saw the upload date then I realized that she finally got caught. It makes me wonder how many other youtubers who have family channels will get caught and arrested next! I feel so bad for her kids. To think that the media says she may only get 15 years max. I hope the judge sentences her to 15 Years per the 6 counts of child abuse and that she had to do the time back to back, like if she gets 60 years would be more appropriate!
i agree, you could smell the abuse from a mile away if you have survived it, i had cps in and out of my life growing up as well, same thing 24hr notice like you said, i had to practice my lines and take epson salt baths 😭 we get better it just takes time
I'm so sorry you had to go through that as well dear. Sending you so much love and support. you're right i always told the truth and i always got my ass beat when i got and then my older sister was telling the truth and i would get beat even worse when we got home. so then my sister started lying for her but it was too protect me. She actually started beating me and smothering with a pillow and almost killed me couple times just like she saw our mother did. She apologized years later and we just cried and hugged it out. We forgave each other from what we did to each other. But those things happen between siblings when you're in such a abusive home.
@@trishaaudettemammadukes30 thats truly terrifying, my mother was bad but her motto was if shes keeping us alive shes doing one thing right. Which i dont agree with at all. Emotional abuse really causes a lot of problems and as does physical abuse. I am glad to hear others live to tell crazy stories of their past as well but also hurts my heart because your child self didnt deserve that.
…her main punishment seemed to center around depriving food from her children. Often she would mention that the kids were served oatmeal for breakfast…lunch…and dinner - when the dad would be working late! Who knows if the dad ate out, or Ruby made him a meal other than oatmeal!?! She was always body-conscious! Especially with the two teen daughters! She did a lot of body shaming on film,!and exploration for their first bra wearing and their first menstrual to film and for the girls to hold up on camera some new underwear they were sent from a company that obviously Ruby would receive a kick-back from. Many meals the kids ate were cooked by the girls because Ruby was too occupied at that time writing her book on how to be a great mom! She loved throwing bouquets at herself, complimenting herself as if she was at war, and it was her versus her many children she was in combat with! At beginning of her fame her videos would record all the cute things the kids would do as toddlers, and it was enjoyable. But, as they grew she became obsessed to purposely film her children to air to the world all their faults! She gained great pleasure in mocking them, belittling them, and assigning their punishment! It didn’t matter if the children would cry - she filmed their tears! If they were sad about anything, she used it as more content for her videos! When they were punished she would take away something the kids valued the most, and that is what she would take from them; a loved toy, or a prized stuffed animal, or doll, or for the older kids; their cellph! Chad was rough-playing with his young brother (the one that escaped and ran seeking help from a neighbor)…so Chad was told he had to sleep in the living room - although I thought it was the basement(?!?) on the floor! It was Chad that used the beanbag and did not sleep on the floor! He also had no door to the bathroom he was told to use! He had no privacy when he had to use a toilet or to shower/bathe! Chad and Abbie both stated on camera they had no friends! I don’t believe the mom allowed for them to mingle with peers outside of school or home! Ruby was very self-centered when it came to expenses for herself versus her kids! Not only was she clothes-conscious for herself but also for designer-matching hats, shoes, handbags, her frequent trips for hair coloring & cuts at the salon, and eyebrow tattooing. Not only did I find her hateful demeanor sinful, but her self center was as well. There were times I wondered if she was a pill-popper type of mom to habitually take something for the times making breakfast or other meals was too taxing for her. That includes all domestic chores a wife would normally do, but since she has three daughters old enough to do what she herself doesn’t want to do I suppose that’s when she retreated to her bedroom to be the lady in repose and to tune-out what was required of her. I’m sure in this category her eldest daughter Shari was called upon 24/7!
Oh yeah i watched all of this happen on her channel and i've seen hundreds of videos that she tried to wipe from the internet. my mom used to make me plain shredded wheat in the morning (this is just one example) and if i didn't eat it for breakfast she put it back in the fridge and tried to force me to eat it for lunch. if i didn't for lunch she'd take it back out of the fridge again and forced me to eat it...while i was throwing up and she was beating and screaming at me And trying to shove it down my throat. my grandfather came home cause we were living with him at the time i was 4 and he almost beat the shit out of her. he took the bowl of disgusting soggy shredded wheat almost shoved it down her throat and threw it against the wall and was like "get your fucking ass in there and make my granddaughter a fucking sandwich". "I work really hard to pay for all this food and by god damn it you're gonna feed that fucking child". she would make me starve all the time and use so much food as a weapon against me and would starve me and neglect me so much.
Hugs to you ❤ I'm a survivor of horrific child abuse. I'm almost 18 now. The trauma never leaves. The ptsd is REAL. My dad AND mom are complete abusers. Ik the signs. And I feel awful for you 💔 😞 I hope ur ok now.
Oh,hun. I'm sorry you've lived through abuse by patents too. I. Hope you can get out soon. My ticket out of the house was college. I hope you get higher education or any trade so you can become independent and get out too. Best wishes
I know that you wrote in the comments that you still live with your father and he's not as bad as he used to be... but i know that being around someone that did things to you in the past can be very very triggering. i let my mother come back multiple times and i found out i didn't have hundreds of triggers.. that she was my main trigger the entire time. so i hope that as time goes by you will be able to heal more. And please be patient and very gentle with yourself okay it takes years to process and heal through that trauma. If you need anything my insta is mammadukes30 I'm right here if and when you need support, love and guidance
I haven't read through all of the comments but this lady and the counselor Jodi Hildebrandt had the support of the LDS Church. They are just as culpable in all this. Thank goodness for this sweet boy who ended up being a hero well just trying to save himself hopefully both women will pay for their crimes and be forced to face the other people that they have effed-up
All power to you! You are free and you are fighting for justice, and that is all that matters. As far as Ruby Franke is concerned, one sees her bit*ing about school flashmob songs and one naturally thinks she is just such a cultic prude. Well, no she is NOT. For a long time, there have been strange rumours about the entire Griffiths family and how in real life they are far less "holy" than they pretend to be on their vlogs. Now there is actually a very cringeworthy video that substantiates a good part of those rumours. The video is on the RUclipsr Headlines channel (if I remember correctly, the title mentiones Ruby's name and the word bathtub) and it shows all four sisters in bathing suits, yelling, laughing and dancing provocatively to loud background music. It was recorded by someone who was also participating during the Griffiths family annual hotel party. All witnesses describe drunken pool adventures and wild parties, but in this video we see "only" the four sisters eventually ending on top of each other in a small hotel room bathtub, while Ruby carresses one of her sisters.... There is nothing explicit in the part I've seen, but the drunk (or high) Ruby in her bathing suit, shrieking with laughter and shaking her bottom is something VERY different than the moralistic, conservative Ruby that she has been faking for us for years. On top of all her psychopathology, Ruby Franke is a huge hypocrite, as are her sisters. There is not a trace of "sanctity" in them. On the contrary.
Fortunately I have never been through anything like that with my mother however I am very sensitive and watch my surroundings very well. The first thing I noticed with these children is that they always in every picture no matter what season's head on long sleeve shirt And dresses so yes she was beating them and also the extreme reactions that the kids had to Cry when they did something wrong I watched that even in my everyday life.. I signed up years ago to be a foster parent and also a refuge home for children who need To be placed in an emergency and when I was going through the classes it amazed me how many child Abusers I could pick out in that room that they were giving these licenses too have children in their home it is very scared
It's really good for people to get educated and learn how to see the signs that's really important because when you see something you should say something. So i'm really glad that you're an advocate for people like me and abused children I think it's amazing what you're doing thank you so much!!!
Nope they never apologize and if they ever try to do it they just deflect and turn it around on you cuz they did nothing wrong. It's a always full of manipulation and gas lighting victim blaming deflecting diverting the conversation... it's Such a waste of time and just so annoying and exhausting. It's not that hard. i fucked up i'm sorry i will never do it again and then you don't do it again. but narcissist people need years and years of constant types of ongoing lifelong therapy and she did not want to get better.
Thank you so much darlin I'm just so sorry that your can relate. What ever you went through in so sorry and if you want to talk in right here. It's never trauma dumping to me cuz we've both gone through trauma so you can talk to me. I'm here for you ok 🖤🫂🖤🫂
I agree with 1000% and I’m so sorry you had an evil mother💔 you deserve the very best in life and I’m so thankful you and the Franke children are free of that evil monster of a mother! I pray she and her girlfriend NEVER see the light of day as free women again!!! GOD Bless you and GOD Bless all precious children 🙏🙏
my 1st 30 years of life was spent under an extreme amount of abuse (& the 1 who tormented me, who's multiple offenses have landed him a "tier 3" for LIFE, is STILL effecting me)
It was sad to me to see her force those kids to smile all the time but if you look at their eyes, you can tell it is not a real smile. Her oldest daughter has come out against her which is good but I worry as the Lawyer for their father said he thinks his wife was influenced by this other woman and he wants the family to heal and come back together. NO NO NO. It will happen all over again. The oldest girl wants her younger siblings. I hope she gets them.
That's exactly what i did over 7 and a half years ago. i had gone no contact with my mother A couple times in the past but it never lasted. she always knew how to weasel her way back in and chip away at me until i let her back. but ive been going 7 and a half years strong and i will never let her come back to hurt me, my son, my family or my friends ever again. I don't let her have access to my mind or my body.
I only am from my life long abusive past and i've worked with a lot of people to help them through these things. I also took Psychology, abuse, neglect, and trauma classes in college. so I have a lot of education, knowledge, and first hand accounts and experience.
I feel so sorry for the hell you have been through. I will never understand why someone hit a child. Kids need love, compassion, empathy, understanding, good food, have roof over their head, and lots of cuddles and « I love you ».
I just wanna say thank you so very much everybody from the bottom of my heart, for all of your wonderful awesome and supportive comments for the Franke kids and also for me as well too!!!! I'm so moved cuz it's going to be very validating for those kids to see how the world is reacting to the things ruby did to them. It is for me too The reason that is cuz it gives me hope that if it was the same when I was a child that yall would've stood up for me too and protected me. It would've been so validating and healing to know i was right and it was wrong toxic and abusive what my birth mother did to me.
You gave such a great explanation of narc abuse. It seems like you've become very strong and rebelled against that toxic behavior, rather than continuing the cycle. it's very admirable! As a victim of the same type of abuse, I really appreciate you pointing out those micro-expressions. It may seem like nothing from the outside, but if you've experienced it - it's terrifying.
Validation is the only thing that can maintain one's sanity in these situations. You did nothing to deserve vile abuse you went through, you deserved unconditional love. These narcs are evil and borderline psychopaths, keep spreading awareness
Awweeee thank you so much darlin and I totally will!!!!!
You have talked about is so true. I'm so sorry you went through this. You are spot on with this about this monster. I hope to that she and her partner stay in jail for life. I agree the children are scared of her. These are such beautiful children. I hope too that she never sees these children again. Thank God that young boy had enough courage to climb out the window. So proud of him to save his siblings. He is a true hero💕. Love him💕
I find the Ruby Franke story so triggering as well. I'm so sorry for what you experienced.....Please take time out for self care! Deep breaths, time in nature etc. ❤ Sending you love. Thanks for speaking out but please remember to comfort yourself after you share.
@@Krtwells thank you darlin!!!! I do all of those things only cuz I learned them from therapy. so I'm glad there are people like you giving great advice for coping tools and skills thank you dear!!!
When Ruby connected with Jodi the abuse got way worse.
I’m so sorry what you went through in your childhood.
No she was evil way before meeting her not saying her influence didn't make things worse but this woman was abusing these children long before how that animal that calls himself a father stood by and did nothing appals me he should be in jail too
Actually, it looks like Ruby broke her son's femur bone when he was 1 years old and got away with saying he fell off of the couch. She is an evil skank all on her own. Jodi abused numerous children including her own niece, Jessi. When Jodi and ruby teamed up they intensified the hate to the point where the children may have been killed. I am hoping that the 4 children taken into custody are raised in a loving home and find the right therapy to heal. As for the two not yet convicted felons they belong under the jail.
I completely agree. A person who has lived through abuse can almost always see it in another. Can you imagine what she did off camera considering what she did on? Ruby Frankie is an abuser and I hope she gets everything she deserves. Plus, the children are going to need a lot of therapy. Also, that father has NO business getting those children. Nobody can tell me that he didn't know what was going on. He knew.
I don't know everything yet about the father but i'm sure I will have more opinions when more information does. For my family and what happened to me personally my Dad didn't know the full extent of what was happening in our home while he was gone or working 3diff jobs to support his family of 5. My mom left my dad she just didn't want to do it all anymore. so she dumped him for some Crack addict and just drank partied and did drugs none stop. My dad was then a single parent of 3 kids age 13,11 &9 alone not knowing how to do any of it. He told me years later that I saved his life one night months after she left when he was going to take his life. He felt lost and hopeless and thought he was a terrible father and i just told him how much i loved him and how much he did for us and how much i got appreciated that he was still here. She just stopped being our mother. Anyways as time went by my dad started learning what she was doing by us 3 girls and friends and family. It was hard to do cuz we all were so afraid of her but with her gone we all found the strength to stand up against her and tell the truth. My dad couldn't believe it in the past when we were younger the things ppl were saying. He was like how could my lovely all together wife do that to our children... but once she was gone and he wasn't being abused manipulated and gaslighted by her too it all just started clicking. He then spiraled into a deep dark dangerous depression and blamed himself. He struggled bad cuz his dad was the worst abuser, then both of his wives were crazy narcissistic monsters.. so all he knew his whole life was all forms of abuse and trauma. It wasn't my dad's fault what our mother did to us. She abused us and then she wouldn't tell him she would beat me then when he came home she would force him to spank me with the belt. so if get double the punishment. He does take some fault because he did not listen when he should have. He also said he should've stopped us from being around her. instead of letting us make the decision on our own because his therapist told him because they were divorced she was no longer his problem. He wishes he wouldve realized what she was doing to us was actually his problem because We were his children. It was his job to protect us. My dad has asked for forgiveness and we have given it to him because he never did those things again. he did fail us multiple times but he never did again!!! Ive lived with my Dad now for 10 years and i absolutely love him to pieces!!! Hes a completely different man now that he's been away from the toxicity, dramas, traumas and abuse. He had to seek out different forms of therapy too for years to heal himself from a child up. Now i'm not telling you this to take any blame away from the father i just wanted to give you maybe a different perspective of what a father can go through with a narcissistic abuser wife and mother to their children.
My mom finally died. It set me free. I was not supposed be happy she was gone, but I was! Hang in there.
This clicked with me when my mum died I felt a sigh leave me it was over stay strong
@trina415 The first thing I said was, "I made it, I won." that was truly how it felt.
I could have said exactly the same words. Bless your heart for writing and speaking them! ❤❤❤
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@@Tachunda thank you 😊
The one that impressed me was the bean bag. The kid exposed her and she was not expecting it. Her face was priceless…
I totally get what you’re describing… I am sorry you had to endure all your mom’s abuse. Thanks for speaking up against child abuse❤!
Thank you darlin and I'll never stop talking about any abuse towards others cuz it's never ok to put your hands on anyone no matter the race or age
I'm with you! I haven't spoken to my mother for 7 years as well. I left at 43. I'm now 51. Narcissist horrible woman! There is nothing harder yet more freeing for me.
Thank you this video was needed! ❤
Thank you dear and i'm really proud of you for doing that it is not easy to go no contact. I have found so much peace and pure freedom being without her. I am free in thousands of ways!!!!
Thank you
I grew up with narc parents and then became one myself and am now recovering because my child made me realize it. When I see people like Ruby and people like that I am so happy my family is healing from generations of narcissist abuse. My youngest son was rushed to the hospital last week for seizures. Decided not to tell my narc dad because he would have made it about him. Told him later. He actually got pissed I called my brother instead of him. I told him calmly it's not about you. It's about my son. My dad becomes the victim when he's not center of attention. You are so brave to go no contact. I go grey rock with mine. I'm scared my narc dad will harass us if we go no contact. I limit contact with him as much as possible and when I do it's grey rock. I'm subscribing to you!
I just subscribed to you too if you have instagram mine is mammadukes30 id love to follow and support you back!!! It was a really hard decision to make and i had tried to go no contact a couple times but she was always able to manipulate and gas light her way back into my life. but i couldn't let her hurt my family and i anymore she has hurt me beyond words can even explain. She just hurt me so much I can't have contact with her because all she knows how to do is destroy every relationship and burn down every bridge. I always do have it at the back of my mind that she will try to come crawling back because she always does.. but i'm hopeful that she stays away. the only two things that she's ever done good in this world is give birth to us three girls but also to leave and never come back. Which is so sad and heartbreaking I wish she would have just changed and put in the work that I did to get better and break the cycle of abuse and trauma. And let me tell you what please be gentle and go easy on yourself because it takes years to change and to become better. You have to wait for a certain situation to come up so you can have practice to try better and to do better the next time something comes up that would normally trigger you. I realized that it doesn't matter when i do it that it was time for me to change and become a better parent to my son. And i'm so grateful he does not remember how much I used to scream and throw things across the room. But i also told him as you age in adulthood your mind might become ready to process through and heal through traumas. i will always be here to talk to you about them and to apologize for things that i did to you. My mother asked for forgiveness and i always gave it to her so when i yelled at my son or i did not handle my emotions properly I would hug him cry and apologize and he would say it's okay mommy. I would make sure to have him look me in the eyes and i would tell him it is not okay i threw something it is not okay i talked to you like and said those hurtful words. I made sure he knew that it was not okay but i was working on myself to be better.
I'm long past the stage when I would watch a parenting video, so when this came out I had to do the research as I'd never heard of Ruby Franke or Jodi Hildebrand; but the videos are triggers of my childhood as well and what gives me chills is that at one point Ruby says something to the effect of "the camera is on right now, so I'm not going to show how angry I am". I was suddenly SO scared for those kids because I recall that feeling of "Uh oh, something's set her off again" - the horrible suspense about what was coming, the old familiar drop in my stomach and the terror that caused me so much physical pain and I saw that in the faces of her children. I totally believe that that terror has caused me digestive issues that I live with to this day - and science now backs it up. When Mom finally died, I mourned. Not so much because I missed her, but for the loving relationship I never truly had
I'm so sorry you went through this stuff too. I grew up before cell phones, in the time of "just wait until we get home. " it still scares me
I was always so confused about why she would keep the "bad" parts in, like the one you just mentioned.....or when the younger son said one time in the van, "well you did yell at me" and she looked at the camera, gave a smirk and then joked "you're not supposed to tell the people I yell at you hAhAhAaAaAaaaa."
The way she smiles when she catches them at whatever “crime” they’re committing is telling and chilling. It’s disgusting that no one listened, but you’re right, they’re snakes.
Oh yeah you can see her Dupers delight all over her face it's sick she's sick
Even if Ruby didnt hit her kids what she has done is bad enough. She is a truly awful mother. I hope she stays in jail for a long time.
And I'm so sorry you had to go through that as a child. ❤
Thank you so much dear and a lot of people don't understand that abuse doesn't have to just be physical. the things my mom said to me and did to me psychologically still scars and fucks me up to this day. The people who say words can never hurt me have never dealt with narcissistic abuse cuz those words can cut so deep that nothing heals those wounds
She hit them where it hurts the most, in their hearts 💔 I'm so glad they're free
I remember when I was 10 or 12 my friends mother told me what a good person my mother was. The look on my face must’ve been epic. It took me 40 years to realize my parents never wanted kids. I walked away from that abuse 5 years ago, it’s like a weight lifted off my back.
I'm so glad you were able to walk away but i'm also really sorry that you had to come to that realization about your own parents and walk away. The thing that gets me every time is people are like oh now that you're a parent it's going to change your whole life.... and yes for some people that is true like for me but some people are just that.. people and their bad at being a parent or never should have been a parent. Having sex and getting pregnant doesn't mean you will be a good parent. that takes time, education, experience, knowledge, and training. Just because you give birth doesn't automatically make you a great mother. It's hard work to be a good or great mother and I wanted to be one of those not what my mother showed and trained me to be.
Hopefully She'll keep digging her own grave with her vile defense strategy.
The fact that 2.5 million people were validating her, supporting her and funding her millionaire lifestyle is disgusting. I don't care how young they are. There's no excuse.
I completely understand what you're saying but i also see the other side too of that a lot o of those followers were Mormons too and were brainwashed into thinking these behavior are normal and how they were raised. And yes all of her behavior and rules under the guise of god is disgusting
I felt relief when my mom past...then I felt guilt for feeling that way. It's crazy what abuse does to you. My father still doesn't know the things she did to me. She wasn't all bad but never should of had me (she wanted an abortion). My father is the best dad a girl could ask for and it's been hard seeing him so heart broken over her passing. Those women are demons and should be treated as such.
In this situation, I think your feelings for your mother are valid. If you start to feel bad about feeling that way, call your dad and give him someone to talk to. You can counter balance the potential bad vibes by doing something kind for someone who is actually feels bad about the situation, and hopefully help you feel better because your dad is someone you actually want to talk to anyway. Just my 2 cents for what they might be worth (probably only 2 cents, ha!). Sending condolences for your difficult time, regardless.
I completely understand my dad went through huge bouts of depression when he finally learned what that woman did to us 3 girls while he was gone working 3 different jobs to provide for a family of 5. she should have never had us... but i am glad that she did because i had my son david 22yrs ago and even though it's been really hard to raise him by myself i'm glad for every single day i have had with him!!!
My crazy mother past a few years ago and I almost feel guilty for how calm and peaceful my life is now.
I also didn't want my daughter, was not expecting to get pregnant and I was not a good mom to her,no physical abuse but was not protective and nurturing with her, will regret it my whole life but this comes from my own upbringing.....guide,nurture and show l9ve to your k8ds so they grow up somewhat balanced and funcional .
Kevin needs to be held accountable also.
Neglect is abuse too, which is what he's done for the last 1.5 years. Before that he was Ruby's child abuse partner; I want to see his butt in prison too m
Definitely! He went along with it and still wants her back!
Prey he don't get custody 😢😢😢😢 he went along with her .. sending her oldest lad to boot camp they said would whip him into shape .. 😢
The video where the older son is laughing while telling the story about why he lost his room and Ruby goes "maybe if you think thays still funny you need to lose your room longer" and his face and body language completely changed. It was very alarming to witness
Yes the fear on his face like omg I can't even laugh at a joke I played on my brother or ill lose it all again my heart sinks when i see that part.
I think it was his bed? When he played a prank on younger brother about them going to Disney? Unless she later took his f*ing room for something else?? Any who, not important, but if it was the same video, what got me was that SHE WAS LAUGHING AND GIGGLING alongside him while he was telling the story!!!!
What a b*****. Obviously, her extreme punishments have no effect on the children’s behavior, because they’re not related to the ‘crime’ & they’re TOO long! The child doesn’t have an incentive to change their behavior! 🤬
@@ItsMeHi116she took his whole room away, for 7 months.
The punishment did not fit the crime! Also, guess who agreed with it? Kevin…
@@mastiffmom2592 Yes! I watched a couple videos after and they said she took the bedroom but I've watched so many of these, I couldn't remember which video to correct, so thank you! haha. Also, agree with Kevin agreeing with this punishment and/or allowing. However, we know his defense is going to be shifting the narrative and pointing blame on Ruby starting to follow along Hildebrant's BS therapy. But it's alllll on tape, Kevin ;)
Separate comment for a separate topic. I am so very sorry for the trauma your mother put you through as a child. This is my first time finding your channel, and I will say that I admire how open you are about this. It is certainly not expected of you in any way, but it is important for people to understand what others have had to endure, and hopefully better understand why so many terrible situations like these fall through the cracks and how to fix them. I hope you have been able to work through this trauma in some way. You are strong and courageous. Don't ever forget that.
Awweeee thank you so very much!! such beautiful supportive words!! 🫂 🖤🫂🖤🫂 I've worked through a lot of my trauma but the best thing I've ever done to help me heal is to stop having my mom in my life the past 7 years. Finding out she was my main #1 trigger the whole time and being able to tell her that before she left really helped me heal a looooot!!!
@@trishaaudettemammadukes30You turned up in my suggestions as well. Severing ties with abusive parents completely when you’re ready saved me 50 yrs. ago when I was 30. Next to marrying my late husband, this decision was bar none, *the best decision of my life.* Best wishes to you, my friend and to my brothers and sisters who have endured decades of their parent’s criminal behavior. The fact they were not caught and successfully prosecuted makes them no less criminal.
NEW SUBSCRIBER....I just love you already. Wish I could have been there to protect you from your Mom. As a Mom myself, my heart hurts for what you had to endure. Hopefully, that monster that is Ruby Franke pays for what she did to those babies.
Awwweee that is so sweet thank you dear and I subbed right back 🖤🫂🖤🫂
I agree with you on Ruby. You can literally see the meanness in her whole countenance, and I find it so disturbing how many parents didn't pick up on that and watched her content.
I appreciate you.
Please do not stop speaking!
Thank you darlin and I promise I won't ❤️
i was raised the same way and this whole thing triggered me so bad i cried for 3 days and lost my voice. i wrote a letter on my community tab to that c8nt. i was also locked in my room for 3 months and only allowed one book at a time because i spilled tea on the counter and wiped it up. i still have food issues. i don't think there is any recovering when you were robbed of your very basic formative years. how can you go back as an adult and teach that kid inside you things like love, nurturing, nourishment, support. how can you trust anyone but yourself? i think everyone is always out to get me, and i think the worst of every situation. now i am living with family at the age of 41, and i'm writing my autobiography, which is extremely painful but i think it's helping. even as i write my memories down, i can hear adults from my childhood in my head telling me not to write those things, but those are my memories. they cant take them from me. maybe they arent 100% accurate but i'm not letting anyone gaslight me.
The way i was able to heal from being neglected and denied my most basic rights of a safe shelter, love, protection and food i had to retrain and rewire my brain, reparent myself and heal my inner child. I know exactly what you mean about not trusting anybody I've been single now for ten years. Also what you're doing is called catastrophizing Because so many horrible things happened to you your mind always goes to the worst possible things over and over again playing in your mind like switching the channels with a remote. Therapy was very helpful for me but when I started dbt therapy that's when I really started understanding what had happened to me, for it out of my brain and talked about them.. then healing from all of it. You got this dear im so proud of you!!! Keep going keep fighting keep surviving so one day you can start really living!!!!
I’m just so glad you are starting to heal, but this Ruby thing has opened wounds for you. Thanks for speaking out, and you knew what Ruby was like. These kids will survive they should get lots of help. That boy is a hero for escaping
Sending love from Australia ❤
So sorry that happened to you. Don’t you wish you could go back in time, knowing what you know now! Your mom wouldn’t stand a chance ❤
I think and say that all the time to my son!!! I said I wish I could go back and protect younger me. Now in the past i have wanted to go back and beat the living shit out of her and speak her language but i think i would actually go the route of showing her compassion and understanding. teaching her about patience and empathy and compassion. Teach her about all emotions and how to control them. it's good to have emotions when it's appropriate. it's really hard to teach a narcissist feelings That they don't have. But you can help them they can rewire and retrain their own brains and get better. I really wish i would have been able to help her break the cycle. i tried as an adult but she just failed every time and went back to boze and drugs. we were no longer safe with her in our lives.
I'm glad u made it out alive thank you for sharing your story !
Thank you dear I am too cuz she tried to physically kill me many times. with pillows over my face and chocking me till i blacked out. I was always so terrified daily but i'm so free from her abuse and pain. So glad I stood up against her and put my foot down and said enough is enough. I'm done with you you can leave and never come back.
Sending so much love to you! 👍🙏💞💖💓
Thank you and right back at atcha 🫂🖤🫂
Whatever she was doing behind the scenes, those kids looked terrified.
Thank you for sharing your story. God bless you dear. You called it out!
Thanks so much dear I only saw the signs cuz my life was filled with them big small and micro actions
i know what things are like, growing up with a bad childhood. (not only did we have a Dad that was outta control, but we ALSO had a Mom who wasn't afraid of hurting us.. i grew up in the middle, between an older Brother & a younger Brother.. 1 of them tormented me, to the point of Mom finally catching him, after 6 years of it, & sending him to a BootCamp.. THEN i also got bullied over all the symptoms, by my YOUNGER Brother, & all his friends that he ran his mouth to) then, after my Mom finally left our Dad, we had to watch her love the StepKids MORE.. (she'd even go as far as locking us OUTSIDE to sleep, so THEY can take OUR BEDS, when her BoyFriend had them on his weekends) i gotta bad feeling Eve mighta been going thru something similar.. ppl NOT believing that it'd b a possibility, makes me feel some type of way, that i can't quite explain.. (& the nightmares NEVER stop 🥺)
I see you! And I see your truth! You are correct. But you knew that! And when your muther’s “friends” that could See, Saw, they RAN. Their simple awareness conjured fear such that self preservation had them too afraid to even call children’s protective services on your behalf. The bells go ding ding ding in their heads when they realize this monster can and will discredit them, prolly already has! Those who speak against or judge you now for what you “shoulda done”, would be the first to jump in your arms like Scooby Doo and cry, “Hold Me” if they had any awareness. The telltale sign of abuse with the wheel of emotion face, spinning to land on whatever inevitably won’t be the “appropriate emotion for mom” demonstration was edifying! And I loved seeing you tell your mother off in the last quarter!!! 7 years!!, yer Awesome. For me, most of the name calling stopped when no name I could imagine was large enough to hold all the bully’s putrescence!!! You are a super hero keeping it real
Thank you so much dear I really appreciate that!!!
You're a very strong woman. I hope you know that.
Thank you for doing this video. I grew up with my Grandmother and she did sadistic things to me and yet around neighbors and authority she was an angel. Scary to have that kind of authority over a child or adult. I ran away at 16 but in my head she went with me.
I'm so sorry that happened to you sweetie. I hope you are able to heal soon and heal your inner child and your adult mind and body.
Its a life sentence but I heal a little bit each day. I am 58 now and grateful that I made it this long. Way too many of us have gone through torture and it is my dream that we can break the cycle of generational disfunction so our future generations can live in a better world. Thank you for your loving words. It heals the heart.
They need to arrest the dad too
She convinced her husband he had to move out of the house, so they could work on getting back together!
I am so sorry you went through all that.
Thank you dear it was pure hell for so long but I've been free for 7 years now
The last time my mother put her hands on me was the first time I fought back. I was 26, about 7 months pregnant and she beat the crap out of me and convinced herself I was Satan because I wouldn't abort my son
Omg im so sorry dear. So glad you had the strength to stand up for yourself proud of you!!!! I was 15 when I fought back 1st time and I was arrested and put in Juvenile jail for 3 months.
@@trishaaudettemammadukes30 amazing skill abusers have deflecting blame.
She just was afraid the kids were enjoying doing the flash mob. She is evil!
Child abusers will be caught in this WWW. There’s no escape!
The title of your video says it all! Thank you!
You are completely on point. I want to see Ruby going to jail and I hope that will make abusers scared from now on. I am glad your mom is out of your life. People like her never change. They are a waste of air.
I saw that video and you are 100% right. People need to really look at this and I feel her husband is also to blame for this. So who believes these creeps are just as sick as them.
The father knew his son was forced to sleep on a bean bag for 7 months. He was fine with that. He doesn't deserve custody of his children.
Thank you for sharing your experience.
I also hope that their father doesn't get custody. I'm not sure who should get it, but their entire family are vloggers, and there is not way their father didn't let the abuse happen. So they may not be safe with any of their family members, sadly. Likely not safe from exploitation on family channels at the very least. It's so sad.
I agree
In one of her videos, she states that the discipline happens off-camera, so your instincts are probably spot on. My situation was not as bad as yours, but at 65, I still have my moments.
Thank you for being brave enough to share your story. You have my full support. I too have a mother with problems (borderline personality disorder if I had to guess) and she caused so much pain in my life. Abusive in every way, gaslighting, keeping odd hours, overeating, gambling, controlling, etc. You know the deal. Stay strong. I'm glad you're away from that stressful situation. Keep your head up. There are good people out there who will listen to you. We got you. Sending thoughts and prayers.
Exactly and thank you so much. ill talk about it and yell it from the rooftop if it'll help ppl.
Omg I love love your video, sorry for the abuse you had to endure❤
The older kids tried to tell CPS
Yup they did but the system is so fucked up its pathetic
Thank you for sharing. Your are a strong warrior. Peace.
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Awweeee thank you so much that's so sweet!!!!
Yes, I recall the belt buckle.
So glad you put this out there. You are such a strong woman.
So glad that you are able to speak out now. Keep your head held high and know that you are the better person 😊
Awwweee thank you sweetie that really means a lot!!! 🖤🫂🖤🫂
😂my youngest son always calls me ' Mamadukes ' tooo funny.
Good video!!
Thank you dear!!! My ex is Spanish and about 11 years ago I was looking for a tag name for the Playstation. My exes0 brother thought about it and said every where we go people flock to you for everything and you are always so lovely, beyond helpful and amazing to everyone so he said I was mammadukes. I asked him what it meant and he said it's the Spanish version of Big Momma and that's what you are the best Mamma to everyone!!!! It was so sweet and even though I hate my ex and what he did to me I still kept the name cuz I love it so much and what he said. Meant so much to me and still does!!!!
Ruby and Jodi are both sociopathic child abusers. I hope they are locked away for a very long time. Sorry that you suffered abuse. Hope you are doing well ❤
Swoop. Hoping she does a follow up .
Thank you for honesty. Mental health is tricky and manipulation works well for narcs
Yup very true
Her name is Jodi Hildebrant.
Big hugs! My mom was like your mom. I left home as soon as I graduate HS. 2 years ago my mom was in the hospital and chose to remove her o2. I was there to support my dad. My mom asked me " you had a good childhood right?" I said, " no, no I didn't "
And apparently my brother answered her the same. I'm near 60yr old, so I've had alot more time to heal, though if never really goes away.
I tell everyone that even though you heal from your past it will never go away because all of that did happen to you. and just because you can put it aside doesn't mean it will ever go away and i'm sure i will be affected by the horrible abuse i endured for the rest of my life... but i am sooooo much more stable and stronger than i used to be and i'm so happy for that. I'm very happy that I got as much help as I did. I am glad you were able to tell your mother the truth. i was able to do that before my mother moved away as well. i told her that i thought i had hundreds of triggers but come to find out you were my main trigger the whole time having you around is triggering and that your grandson thinks you are a monster and he's absolutely right. it felt really good to tell her how i felt
I, too, often wrote comments against Ruby Franke, and this was even prior to her involvement with Jodi of Connectxions! When I commented I received replies on-site from her fans that adored her. Of course those fans were her church members from her “ward” community. Yes, if you see those videos any normal person can detect her verbal abuse, most-likely her emotional abuse, and truly, it is my belief the dad (Kevin Franke) was the favorite parent of these children! They would run to greet him when he came home. Probably because once he was home Ruby’s punishment would lessen. I think Kevin Franke was brainwashed! He tried to be the balanced one, attempted to side with his kids and when he did she obviously took that anger towards her children out on him! Every time she reprimanded her children on camera Shari, her oldest, would be right there observing…she, too, was being groomed to be hateful as well! Yet, her cup runneth over, she “finally” wised-up, and went against her mother! Shari lives away from home now and is in college, but the other children - Chad and the two teen girls were living with their father at the time. They chose their dad over their mom! The two youngest remained with Ruby, and these two youngest were more abused than the others! None of these crimes any of the kids made deserved the horrific punishment that Ruby would inflict on them!
I agree with everything you said
You’re an amazing human and I absolutely solute your bravery to not only tell your story but to help others stand up for themselves
Thank you so much!!! People need people we need each other!!!! 🫂🖤🫂🖤
I cant believe she's got away with it all this time!
Our abusive parents got away with it for decades and if one continues contact with them, the abuse never ends. They never age out of their abusiveness and we’re the targets.
Hello new friend. I feel a trauma bond with you. I'm sorry for what happened to you. I'm so sorry. 💔
Ruby is abusive, entitled and self serving. Jodi on the other hand is diabolical, manipulative and power hungry. Mormon Stories did a 2part interview with a man named Adam and his story is absolutely heartbreaking from what Jodi did to him and how she destroyed his family. She systematically deconstructed every human and she had the backing and active support from the Mormon church. It’s insane with what she has been allowed to get away with for years and gets paid very handsomely doing it. neither one of them ever get out of jail. If you have some time to kill, I suggest you watch the interview with Adam. You can physically see the affects that trauma has taken on him and yet he still fights to speak the truth. Ruby is dangerous to her family but Jodi is in a whole different category of extreme abuse, manipulation, division and control. The level of corruption , abuse and cover up that this “church” facilitates is mind blowing. Thank goodness the Franke kids are finally away from both of those monsters but there is probably 100’s of families that have sought Jodi out for help and she has driven a wedge between a family unit and destroyed it and I hope every single person that Jodi has harmed physically, mentally and emotionally comes forward and tells their story because their story matters and they deserve to regain their voice , something that Jodi took away and destroyed years ago. UGH!!!
I am currently 18, but even as a 13 year old I had been leaving comments and really judging Ruby Franke and her parenting. I always thought family channels were a sort of problem due to these kids essentially making the parents money (while have no option to opt out of it). I can't say I wasn't expecting something like this, it was just a matter of time. I'm very happy for all the kids, I hope they find their peace as you mentioned. And, I feel for you - you seem like such a caring, generous person. I am glad you escaped your situation as well. Have a good day, and thank you for posting this video! Personification of my thoughts, literally
I think you did a great job by talking about this commenting brings awareness dear. Thank you so much I try to be there for as many people as I possible can. thank you for listening to what I had to say! 🫂🖤🫂🖤🫂
your comments of support are worth more than you could ever know. words can have a butterfly effect and change the entire world for someone. especially when there are so many ignorant people out there who don't get it. some people will never understand what people like ruby's kids, myself, and @trishaaudettemammadukes3019 have been through and how it leaves lifelong scars. thanks for being a warrior.
What a great video! Keep speaking truth!!!
Thanks dear and I will!!!!
My mom is a narcissist as well we were verbally abused mostly. Now I’m no contact and my sisters are upset with me for outing the abuse on social media. I’m just glad I finally get to live my life in peace because she will no longer be in it your brave and a great person I hope you are able to live with peace now
My life is filled with peace and love it's beautiful and I made it this way!!!!! Thank you so much dear!!!
😢I’m so sorry that happened to you. It burns me up. It makes me long for my passed on father and soon passing mom and grateful to them.
I have watched some of some of the Frankie children and Ruby with them, it’s bizarre, and I actually picked up on it too.
Sadly there is another woman I’m suspected of mental and isolation abuse, I have called the police and got the “nothing we can do “ story.
The good thing is prosecuters will use all the videos they can gather as evidence against both Franke and Hildebrandt
Exactly they're the dumb ones that actually put it on the internet. criminals are sometimes sooooo stupid. Reddit collected all of eight passengers videos before she shutdown her channe.l and i know other people are collecting all of Jodi Hildebrandt videos. One of Rubys daughters created a very large google doc with everything in it
@@trishaaudettemammadukes30 Don't forget, the 6 counts each of felony c.a. are the arresting charges, the prosecuters may bring far more including kidnapping. These 2 aren't getting out of this.
The father has a legal mountain to climb to get the kids back. Once J&R are found guilty the kids can bring civil charges that will very likely stick and get their fair share of the income generated online.
So sorry for what you went thru and those poor kids too. May God bless you.
I am so sorry this happened to you.
I cannot imagine...
I have subscribed to you, I can feel your honesty, anger, kindness for victims.
But please, don't forget to look after yourself.
I hope that your life is wonderful now.
Sending Love,
Isabelle, 👋🇨🇦⚘🦋💐
Thank you darlin!!! I subbed back!!! And I promise I do take very good care of myself now (lots of training and therapy) I've learned how to utilize my trauma and pain to help others
I hope and pray for your continued healing. Also has a funny point the Jail they are in is called Purgatory so they are only 4 short steps from Hell itself.
Hahahaha nice
Also thank you dear I really appreciate that 🫂🖤
the nightmares NEVER stop!! (which is why I'VE even been trying to speak out against their "parenting skills," for the past YEAR) her allegations REALLY make me wonder tho.. did any of those kids go thru what I went thru, in the other sense TOO?? 🤔 (i REALLY CAN'T help but wonder) my monster's multiple offenses has landed him a "tier 3" for LIFE!! (ppl like that tend to NOT change) this whole story has triggered something in me, that i can't quite explain.. 🥺 .. i just find this whole situation to b ABSOLUTELY horrendous..
You should be a counselor for children. ❤
Thank you for saying that dear. I actually tried to in college to become a case manager but i wasn't ready in my healing journey. so instead of doing it for a profession i do it in my real life with my friends, my friend's children, my son and all of his friends and anyone online that needs help. I try to be advocates for people, teach them how to advocate for themselves, and to get the help they need or I help them when and if i can. Because people need people we need each other!
Great video.. Her and her horribile friend will probably die in prison. They love to dish it out to innocent children and adults also, but they cant take punishment
I’m sorry you were abused. I hope you find healing.
I am thank you so much !! I've been no contact for 7. 5 years now and I heal now every single day im away from her and her constant abuse
Children don't know they're being abused until they grow up, sadly. I know.
So very true. I knew i didn't like what my mother was doing but because she didn't let me sleep over a lot at friend's house i didn't know it was horribly wrong and abusive. as i grew up i started learning that her behavior was toxic and abusive and learned about boundaries. So I started trying to set healthy boundaries with my mother and she just thought i was picking on her. i said no you are doing things to me and my son and you will stop or you will not be around us anymore...she could not stop so bye Felicia
Im so sorry you had to go through that. Im so thankful you're free and at peace. I pray you can live your best life ever now. You certainly deserve too. 🙏🏾🤗 I pray those kids stay free and heal. 💔💜
Thank you so much and I agree I hope those babies will be ok and live and lead a healthy life now that they are away from them and can get real mental and physical therapy
I agree with you 100%. Been there too.
Thank you for speaking out not only for you but you're speaking out because of what happened don't let your mother control one more minute of your you life you keep fighting girl❤❤❤
Thank you dear and I totally will she's been completely out of my life for 7 years now and I hope it stays that way forever
I remember I had watched swift's video about Ruby and her channel before she got arrested, so last week, when I started seeing videos on my timeline pop up about Ruby I thought they were old until I saw the upload date then I realized that she finally got caught. It makes me wonder how many other youtubers who have family channels will get caught and arrested next! I feel so bad for her kids. To think that the media says she may only get 15 years max. I hope the judge sentences her to 15 Years per the 6 counts of child abuse and that she had to do the time back to back, like if she gets 60 years would be more appropriate!
Oh it is 15 years per charge dear also in sure more and more will come out and new charges will be added to the case
I am so sorry you had a mean bad Momma.
You are 💯% correct
i agree, you could smell the abuse from a mile away if you have survived it, i had cps in and out of my life growing up as well, same thing 24hr notice like you said, i had to practice my lines and take epson salt baths 😭 we get better it just takes time
I'm so sorry you had to go through that as well dear. Sending you so much love and support. you're right i always told the truth and i always got my ass beat when i got and then my older sister was telling the truth and i would get beat even worse when we got home. so then my sister started lying for her but it was too protect me. She actually started beating me and smothering with a pillow and almost killed me couple times just like she saw our mother did. She apologized years later and we just cried and hugged it out. We forgave each other from what we did to each other. But those things happen between siblings when you're in such a abusive home.
@@trishaaudettemammadukes30 thats truly terrifying, my mother was bad but her motto was if shes keeping us alive shes doing one thing right. Which i dont agree with at all. Emotional abuse really causes a lot of problems and as does physical abuse. I am glad to hear others live to tell crazy stories of their past as well but also hurts my heart because your child self didnt deserve that.
Great Video….THANK YOU! Love to you! 💕
Thank you and ditto right back atcha 🖤🫂🖤🫂
…her main punishment seemed to center around depriving food from her children. Often she would mention that the kids were served oatmeal for breakfast…lunch…and dinner - when the dad would be working late! Who knows if the dad ate out, or Ruby made him a meal other than oatmeal!?! She was always body-conscious! Especially with the two teen daughters! She did a lot of body shaming on film,!and exploration for their first bra wearing and their first menstrual to film and for the girls to hold up on camera some new underwear they were sent from a company that obviously Ruby would receive a kick-back from. Many meals the kids ate were cooked by the girls because Ruby was too occupied at that time writing her book on how to be a great mom! She loved throwing bouquets at herself, complimenting herself as if she was at war, and it was her versus her many children she was in combat with! At beginning of her fame her videos would record all the cute things the kids would do as toddlers, and it was enjoyable. But, as they grew she became obsessed to purposely film her children to air to the world all their faults! She gained great pleasure in mocking them, belittling them, and assigning their punishment! It didn’t matter if the children would cry - she filmed their tears! If they were sad about anything, she used it as more content for her videos! When they were punished she would take away something the kids valued the most, and that is what she would take from them; a loved toy, or a prized stuffed animal, or doll, or for the older kids; their cellph! Chad was rough-playing with his young brother (the one that escaped and ran seeking help from a neighbor)…so Chad was told he had to sleep in the living room - although I thought it was the basement(?!?) on the floor! It was Chad that used the beanbag and did not sleep on the floor! He also had no door to the bathroom he was told to use! He had no privacy when he had to use a toilet or to shower/bathe! Chad and Abbie both stated on camera they had no friends! I don’t believe the mom allowed for them to mingle with peers outside of school or home! Ruby was very self-centered when it came to expenses for herself versus her kids! Not only was she clothes-conscious for herself but also for designer-matching hats, shoes, handbags, her frequent trips for hair coloring & cuts at the salon, and eyebrow tattooing. Not only did I find her hateful demeanor sinful, but her self center was as well. There were times I wondered if she was a pill-popper type of mom to habitually take something for the times making breakfast or other meals was too taxing for her. That includes all domestic chores a wife would normally do, but since she has three daughters old enough to do what she herself doesn’t want to do I suppose that’s when she retreated to her bedroom to be the lady in repose and to tune-out what was required of her. I’m sure in this category her eldest daughter Shari was called upon 24/7!
Oh yeah i watched all of this happen on her channel and i've seen hundreds of videos that she tried to wipe from the internet. my mom used to make me plain shredded wheat in the morning (this is just one example) and if i didn't eat it for breakfast she put it back in the fridge and tried to force me to eat it for lunch. if i didn't for lunch she'd take it back out of the fridge again and forced me to eat it...while i was throwing up and she was beating and screaming at me And trying to shove it down my throat. my grandfather came home cause we were living with him at the time i was 4 and he almost beat the shit out of her. he took the bowl of disgusting soggy shredded wheat almost shoved it down her throat and threw it against the wall and was like "get your fucking ass in there and make my granddaughter a fucking sandwich". "I work really hard to pay for all this food and by god damn it you're gonna feed that fucking child". she would make me starve all the time and use so much food as a weapon against me and would starve me and neglect me so much.
Hugs to you ❤ I'm a survivor of horrific child abuse. I'm almost 18 now. The trauma never leaves. The ptsd is REAL. My dad AND mom are complete abusers. Ik the signs. And I feel awful for you 💔 😞 I hope ur ok now.
I see you, survivor. Hope you’re out of that house & that you are ok now, and healing❤️🩹
@@Vegas_Mel i still live with my dad. But he's not as bad anymore. ♡
Tysm for support!
Oh,hun. I'm sorry you've lived through abuse by patents too. I. Hope you can get out soon. My ticket out of the house was college. I hope you get higher education or any trade so you can become independent and get out too. Best wishes
I know that you wrote in the comments that you still live with your father and he's not as bad as he used to be... but i know that being around someone that did things to you in the past can be very very triggering. i let my mother come back multiple times and i found out i didn't have hundreds of triggers.. that she was my main trigger the entire time. so i hope that as time goes by you will be able to heal more. And please be patient and very gentle with yourself okay it takes years to process and heal through that trauma. If you need anything my insta is mammadukes30 I'm right here if and when you need support, love and guidance
@@trishaaudettemammadukes30 tysm♡♡ im sure I'll message u later.
FACTS💯😁THANKYOU. I see it too! My mother is also a narcissistic bi+ch that had me 34 years before I quite her. GOD BLESS, F ya, I HEAR YOU!
I was in the same shoe as your. I had to discuss to stay to myself for year's. Yes it was mother and other's. Thanks for the post.
I haven't read through all of the comments but this lady and the counselor Jodi Hildebrandt had the support of the LDS Church. They are just as culpable in all this. Thank goodness for this sweet boy who ended up being a hero well just trying to save himself hopefully both women will pay for their crimes and be forced to face the other people that they have effed-up
I completely agree!
All power to you! You are free and you are fighting for justice, and that is all that matters. As far as Ruby Franke is concerned, one sees her bit*ing about school flashmob songs and one naturally thinks she is just such a cultic prude. Well, no she is NOT. For a long time, there have been strange rumours about the entire Griffiths family and how in real life they are far less "holy" than they pretend to be on their vlogs. Now there is actually a very cringeworthy video that substantiates a good part of those rumours. The video is on the RUclipsr Headlines channel (if I remember correctly, the title mentiones Ruby's name and the word bathtub) and it shows all four sisters in bathing suits, yelling, laughing and dancing provocatively to loud background music. It was recorded by someone who was also participating during the Griffiths family annual hotel party. All witnesses describe drunken pool adventures and wild parties, but in this video we see "only" the four sisters eventually ending on top of each other in a small hotel room bathtub, while Ruby carresses one of her sisters.... There is nothing explicit in the part I've seen, but the drunk (or high) Ruby in her bathing suit, shrieking with laughter and shaking her bottom is something VERY different than the moralistic, conservative Ruby that she has been faking for us for years. On top of all her psychopathology, Ruby Franke is a huge hypocrite, as are her sisters. There is not a trace of "sanctity" in them. On the contrary.
Fortunately I have never been through anything like that with my mother however I am very sensitive and watch my surroundings very well. The first thing I noticed with these children is that they always in every picture no matter what season's head on long sleeve shirt And dresses so yes she was beating them and also the extreme reactions that the kids had to Cry when they did something wrong I watched that even in my everyday life..
I signed up years ago to be a foster parent and also a refuge home for children who need To be placed in an emergency and when I was going through the classes it amazed me how many child Abusers I could pick out in that room that they were giving these licenses too have children in their home it is very scared
It's really good for people to get educated and learn how to see the signs that's really important because when you see something you should say something. So i'm really glad that you're an advocate for people like me and abused children I think it's amazing what you're doing thank you so much!!!
My mother, too, was a narcissist. They don't think they can do any wrong. They never apologize.
Nope they never apologize and if they ever try to do it they just deflect and turn it around on you cuz they did nothing wrong. It's a always full of manipulation and gas lighting victim blaming deflecting diverting the conversation... it's Such a waste of time and just so annoying and exhausting. It's not that hard. i fucked up i'm sorry i will never do it again and then you don't do it again. but narcissist people need years and years of constant types of ongoing lifelong therapy and she did not want to get better.
I can relate...sorry u had to deal with that .....send healing thoughts...great video
Thank you so much darlin I'm just so sorry that your can relate. What ever you went through in so sorry and if you want to talk in right here. It's never trauma dumping to me cuz we've both gone through trauma so you can talk to me. I'm here for you ok 🖤🫂🖤🫂
Ahh honey so sorry,im glad you got out ,ive been through this too.
I'm so sorry dear 🫂🖤🫂🖤
Well said !!!!!!
Thank you dear
I agree with 1000% and I’m so sorry you had an evil mother💔 you deserve the very best in life and I’m so thankful you and the Franke children are free of that evil monster of a mother! I pray she and her girlfriend NEVER see the light of day as free women again!!! GOD Bless you and GOD Bless all precious children 🙏🙏
my 1st 30 years of life was spent under an extreme amount of abuse (& the 1 who tormented me, who's multiple offenses have landed him a "tier 3" for LIFE, is STILL effecting me)
Victim shaming and blaming IS REAI.
I'm proud of you.
Exactly and thank you hun!!!!
It was sad to me to see her force those kids to smile all the time but if you look at their eyes, you can tell it is not a real smile. Her oldest daughter has come out against her which is good but I worry as the Lawyer for their father said he thinks his wife was influenced by this other woman and he wants the family to heal and come back together. NO NO NO. It will happen all over again. The oldest girl wants her younger siblings. I hope she gets them.
I'm 66 years old. I have been there, Trisha. Stand strong and don't let others hurt you. Walk a way.
That's exactly what i did over 7 and a half years ago. i had gone no contact with my mother A couple times in the past but it never lasted. she always knew how to weasel her way back in and chip away at me until i let her back. but ive been going 7 and a half years strong and i will never let her come back to hurt me, my son, my family or my friends ever again. I don't let her have access to my mind or my body.
In so sorry you was abused n I hope you are in a better place now ❤
Thank you dear and I totally am but I'll continue to heal everyday
Wow you are so perceptive! Most of us don't even think of looking for those signs as we don't know them.
I only am from my life long abusive past and i've worked with a lot of people to help them through these things. I also took Psychology, abuse, neglect, and trauma classes in college. so I have a lot of education, knowledge, and first hand accounts and experience.
I feel so sorry for the hell you have been through. I will never understand why someone hit a child. Kids need love, compassion, empathy, understanding, good food, have roof over their head, and lots of cuddles and « I love you ».