and it’s gonna waste your time when you tell me you charge $3000 and my budget was $1000. I’ve had this happen on multiple occasions and end up feeling guilty about it even though they are the ones beating around the bush when I just want the price to know if I need to move on.
I have a personal policy when it comes to purchasing anything. If a particular vendor fails to provide a unit price for goods or services where one could reasonably be provided, I will find another vendor. When I'm beginning a project, I build a budget for it. I will end up purchasing from the vendor who gave me a price point out of the gate, because there are no surprises.
A family member of mine is a wedding vendor... They have a price range on their website but they really can't give a proper estimate without knowing exactly what the couple wants, and even then a demanding client can take hours more work than planned after the contract is signed. It's a tricky industry on both sides!
If you ancestors are unhappy with the choise of you wedding dress, they rise from their graves and claw your eyes out, obviously. Thats why you have to spend at least 2000$ on the dress..
What I mean is that when you look at the cost of the wedding itself, it is a drop in the bucket compared to the lifelong cost of a marriage as a whole. Plus, you have a lot more control over the cost of a wedding than the cost of childcare or court-ordered child/spousal support.
Also marriage itself is kind of useless unless you have some laws wherever you live that gives some benefits for married couples. Other than that it's useless.
My wedding cost almost nothing. We had a reception at our church (free to book) with just a few snacks for people to come and go whenever they pleased, family made the cake and helped decorate the reception area, and we had a simple wedding breakfast with just close family at an inexpensive buffet restaurant. I have never understood the mentality of spending thousands of dollars on a wedding.
+David Ripplinger Friends of mine did a very similar thing. They had the wedding at their church, close friends of the bride let them use their property for the reception, they just had a big marquee with fairly inexpensive decor. The most amount of money they would've spent was on the catering and their clothes (the dresses, suits, etc.). Friends of the husband filmed the whole thing, so they probably got mate's rates on that as well.
In most asian cultures, wedding is where families who wed their children. "show-off" their wealth buy inviting large amounts of people (consists of close relatives, distant relatives, colleagues, families that were brought by the guests, and so on), heck it can even reach to more than 400-ish people came to the wedding event. also renting a big ballroom in hotels or someplace, hiring a reputable catering service, wedding gifts for guests that came to the wedding, music/band, photo/videographer and so on. All of this can cost up to $100k-$150k and can be even more!
same in my country, poor families even borrrow money so they can have a "decent" wedding party for their children but it's an unwritten rule that everyone invited to the party has to put an at least "acceptable" sum of money in the pink envelope that contains their invitation letter in the first place and put it in a box at the wedding, other kinds of gifts only optional, you can actually profit from that and people kinda have to pay to go to your wedding so if there is anything they don't like, they'll probably talk about it behind your family's back and everything is just ugly and annoying
Quốc Tiến Hà yes indeed, I totally forgot the whole envelope with the money inside thing, it's considered a "wedding gift" lol. Most of the time, all the money that were given by the guests only cover some of the costs. I rarely see someone profited from them.
Latin as in ethnically Latin (the descendants of central italian city-states), Italians, Spanish, Spanish-speakers, or Romance language speakers? The whole term is a load of ambiguity.
key crum Because they are not princesses. Ever consider how one sided weddings really are? For me, it is a major waste of money. The man and woman love each other they can get married for a reasonable cost and put that money towards better use.
I'm a woman, and I definitely agree. Huge waste of money, the marriage is more importantly than the wedding. Why spend so much money on something that'll last for a day? Just get married at the court house and call it a day..
Ancestors are those that were here BEFORE you. Descendants are those that will come after. I hope they are all great and that they appreciate all we have done for their benefit, don't you?
my ex and I got married in the park and had a BBQ afterwards. cost about $500. we divorced 8 years later so I am glad I did not waste 10's of thousands on a silly wedding.
my ex and I got married in the park and had a BBQ afterwards. cost about $500. we divorced 8 years later so I am glad I did not waste 10's of thousands on a silly wedding.
we did a backyard wedding - 75 people.. wife's dress was from a second hand wedding store - we rented a pizza truck and we hired a dj who was cool to not overcharge.. it cost us under 7k including the dress and my outfit.. everything! we had an excel spreadsheet :)
OneHourShower i love this idea! I Wanna do all the decorations and stuff myself. My mom got married recently and she had a tiny budget and the wedding was still super nice. the only thing Im going to splurge on is an open bar 😂
I think that last bit of advice is a good one. Rather than being like "This is what I need, what are your prices?" saying "This is my budget, what can I get with it?" will give a salesperson less of a reason to give you the most expensive thing possible, and make them think of the best thing within those limitations. I used to work for a wireless service provider, and when selling a phone I would always ask them their budget first, because my commission was usually the same no matter what they chose. When the money you make is directly proportional to the money the client is spending, however, you're going to want to do what's best for the business and try and entice them to buy more.
Not going to go through all of this ceremonial crap. I'm going to make the honeymoon the actual wedding. And get a drone to photograph and film all of our experiences. Problem solved.
My wedding, and dress cost my husband and I about $1,500 for 110 guests. There was no way on earth we were going to start off our lives together in debt by throwing a party for people who would forget every detail the next day. We took a week long honeymoon in an expensive hotel in the mountains of Colorado to celebrate US. We have never been in debt, we travel the world with our son, and wouldn’t change a thing about our wedding day.
I don't think there's a need to shame, so long as the choice is informed! There's a bit of an inverse relationship between the amount spent on wedding and the length of a marriage, unfortunately. If we are looking to stick to those marriage vows then encouraging people to curb a little might not be a terrible idea. (source: papers.ssrn.com/sol3/papers.cfm?abstract_id=2501480) Interestingly having lots of guests is correlated with longer marriages as well, so courthouse/elopement might not be ideal either :D balance! (And of course there's the fact that every few thousand dollars might save/radically change the life of someone less wealthy, which is worth considering....)
The problem is pressure to do more than you can afford. I had a friend that I had to talk out of getting a loan for her wedding. No one should feel like they should be going into debt to put on a celebration. But some people do. And it's not good for the relationship
The problem here is that the same thing for wedding is more expensive then if it's not related to wedding. Remember when I saw some hair decoration in various colors and it was also very cheap. The seller had like all the colors... except white. The same item, but in white color was available only in wedding specialized shop not far away but ten times more expensie.
Its about the venue. we all want a nice placement for a wedding. but all the venues charge heavily and not a single venue charges less than $2000 for 50-150 guests
Then it settles it I'm getting married at a courthouse and throw a small party for friends and family afterwords in the back yard complete with cake I baked myself.
I got married in June and it was very small! I only invited 25 people, the party took place in my in-laws their backyard. Food consisted of fries with Flemish beef stew and the only thing ordered was the dessert table which only was 50 euros). We decorated the place ourselves and my sister-in-law served as the photographer. It was a small and inexpensive wedding but I would never trade it for the big lavish weddings these people in this video have. My advice is just plan the wedding you want and invite the people you want. Who cares if someone gets offended? Someone will end up offended no matter what, at least let it be on your terms.
Heck no!!! 15,000 dollars? In that case I will have a nice little ceremony with family and close friends, i mean close, at my home church. Then rent out an affordable reception hall, maybe one in an inexpensive hotel. Food, cake, fam, friends, dj, photographer, videographer. No extra. That's what I see at weddings. A lot of extra things done for just one day. One main thing for is having flowers as the center pieces to be honest. Guest will be less than 70 people and that's pushing it. Have a cheap wedding and then go somewhere nice for your honeymoon, at least for me that's what I want. I love traveling. You can have a beautiful, cheap wedding.
that's the point of the video...vendors will charge MORE just because you tell them it's for a wedding. i'm a photographer trying to steer clear of the wedding industry, for this exact reason. if i underprice what everyone else does, then people think they aren't getting good photos. You can buy a cheap bouqet of flowers from the grocery store, but a centerpiece for a wedding will cost more. JUST because it's for a wedding. you want to book a venue for 70 people for an afternoon? don't say it's for a wedding (although i dont know if they require that information) because it WILL cost more for the same thing, because it's a wedding. you CAN have a beautiful cheap wedding, but any services you use will cost more than for a same sized party, and anything else you want, you'll need to DIY it.
That's the problem though, usually the "inexpensive hotel" or "affordable reception hall" does not exist. I am from Orlando FL and most places around here just for a reception (no ceremony or catering included) is still a few thousand dollars. It's ridiculous.
Princess Lunar, totally agree. When planning our wedding, we were firstly just going to hire a small marquee and have a backyard wedding, but the price we got quoted for just the hire and set up of the marquee was more than the beautiful wedding venue we ended up going with (who don't often do weddings and therefore their prices weren't crazy high). So our idea of having "a cheap backyard wedding" was pretty quickly extinguished...
Echaka Monjok What You just descibed is considered an expensive wedding, here in Denmark. Usually people go to the ceremony in the Church/City hall (more often than not in a rented dress) and Then heads straight for the couple's home or the local community centre. No photographer. No hotel. No videographer. Wedding decorations made by yourself, a friend or bought for cheap. There's usually 30-50 guests.
Both my parents have been married several times and they've gotten cheaper prices from caterers and other vendors by calling the event a "party" rather than a wedding, some companies really do take advantage
My wedding cost less than $6,000. I bought my dress online (8 months in advance just in case), it was a bbq style reception so I DIYed some mason jar center pieces that had wet wipes and condiments, all of the decor I made by hand. We got married at a Trap Falls in Townsend MA (look it up, it's beautiful) next to the waterfall, and had the reception at my parents house in NH. The most expensive thing was the food, which was about $2,500 for 125 people, and we did a pig roast which was a huge hit. Next most expensive thing was renting the two tents and tables and chairs , which was about $2,000. When I called into book all of the tents, tables and chairs, I did not tell him it was for a wedding, I told them that it was for a family gathering. Because when I called in a week earlier and told them it was for a wedding (for a price quote) they quoted me $4,000. I used to work in a cake shop and I kept in contact with the owner, who gifted us our wedding cake. My dress alteration was done by a family friend as a present too. All in all, we had an unforgettable day, and walked away debt free. We still get messages about how much people loved our wedding compared to other weddings people have been to. It was so much fun the caterer even came back and partied with us when he was done
For some reason I've always hated economical plots and strategies in general. Makes it feel like you sell a little of your soul or sacrifice some of your empathy for others in order to make greater profit.
+Joseph Ang I don't want a good product at low price, I want a good product at normal price and I want you to believe in what you're selling and help me. I'm a software salesman. I don't try selling our software, I try helping the people who I believe would most benefit from the software. As a bonus I get a sale from that, but my main goal isn't selling, It's helping others. A purchase still happens, we still need an exchange in value so the world keeps spinning, but it becomes a different thing when you apply reasonable prices to your product and seek to help others rather than trick or fool or use psychology to encourage other human beings to purchase your overpriced stuff. That's dishonest and only cripples our social development as an empathic and kind race.
If you work and make money your going to make $30k any way what matters is where it goes. I work and I'll be to making that 30k in a couple of months so.. Plot twist that. And last time a checked anything that has to do with money and a contract is business, that is an investment not worth risking to me , but that's my opinion to each his own.
tip #1: make your own dress or wear your job interview dress same for tux tip #2: make your own cake tip#3: learn to make paper flowers tip#4: you can make beautiful decoration with things from dollar tree tip#5: go to a courthouse for the actual marriage part and just have an after party tip#6: Call everyone to see if they would bother attending before sending invites tip#7: There are plenty of photography students at community colleges who want money and charge less tip#8: use a small local park as a venue just like people do for birthday parties
@@zozhang7478 But happy weddings literally cost a fortune these days. A marriage would not start well if the couple has to go into debt just for a glorified party.
REALITY CHECK: Weddings do NOT have to be so damn expensive. All you *have* to pay for is the marriage license, which costs around $20 - $100, depending on where you live. Everything else (the rings, ceremony, gown, suit, food, afterparty, etc) are things *you* choose to purchase and you are under no obligation to spend a certain amount on any of it. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Well, my husband and I spent maybe $3000 for our wedding, and honestly, it was just as amazing as those $25,000 weddings. Heck, my wedding dress was $750 alone.We didn't get a wedding planner, we were only engaged for 6 months, and it went really smoothly. Both our families were involved and helped out a lot and we were able to find amazing deals. It may be my inner cheap Mennonite heritage coming out, but I think people really don't need to spend so much on a wedding.
Well.... better than the funeral industries. Also a "once in a lifetime" experience (literally) but the cost of caskets, embalming and services are super high with no reason being why. The funeral industry is basically a cash cow. This industry target extremely unstable and emotionally vulnerable just like the wedding industry (yes, i just said wedding couples are unstable. Its true sometimes!) to get a shit ton more cash. There's a circle called Greed in hell just for them.
I'm going to build my own casket and buy a simple block of granite. I'll have my children bury me in the back garden, and they can carve and etch the stone in whatever way they like, using the stone working skills I taught them. I will live in a way that hopefully gives them a reason to make a beautiful headstone.
My fiancé and I had set a budget of $4000 for our Harry Potter themed wedding thinking 'yeah that should be enough'. Little did we know looking for vendors that our entire budget would be the down payment for one place. At first we thought 'are we crazy, but does $4000 for a single vender sound too much?' After watching this video we realized that 'YES' it was too much. We think it's absolutely horrible that certain vendors take advantage of new couples just because we drop the 'W' word. Going into shopping for the rest of our wedding, (were still in the process of planning it), we are supper careful when using that word, and now we know the truth of why they are so expensive. p.s. Still considering elopement as an option!
A difference between not getting married and not having a wedding. Getting married at a court house is under $100. Weddings are the expensive thing. Unfortunately people think if you get married you have to have a wedding.
One of the reasons I loved my florist is that when she saw pictures of what I want see immediately warned me about the prices of the flowers. We then talked about substitutes for the really expensive ones so I could get the look without the cost. That kind of thinking and consideration of my budget is why I recommend them to everyone in my area. And the flowers were great! But she was one of the only people who were honest and upfront about price.
I'm so glad I didn't make the big mistake of paying $31,000 on my wedding. My husband and I only spent about $3500 on our small, DIY church wedding and only invited families and friends. It might not have been the grandest wedding, but we had the time of our lives. Honestly, the way I see it, what makes a wedding day memorable is finally being able to marry the love of your life and being surrounded by the people that truly matter. People spend thousands, sometimes even millions, of dollars to have their dream wedding, only to divorce soon after. In the end, it's the quality of your marriage that matters not the quantity you spend on your wedding day.
many years ago, my girlfriend was planning her wedding and she noticed when she called around for prices if she said it was for "a party" the prices were quite a bit lower than if she said it was for "a wedding" for the same exact thing.
3:14 If there's ever one picture your ANCESTORS have of you, it's the one in your wedding dress. Man, I wish my ancestors had photos of me. Maybe I should mail some back to 1758...
Even though weddings may be more expensive for vendors, they should then create a portfolio of pricing just for weddings. I am in the wedding industry myself (event staffing company called Barspirit) and we service the expensive markets of New York, Los Angeles, etc. That said, we have a clear outline of our pricing and even a "immediate quoting" tool so clients can see what they are getting into before hitting that submit button. That way, everyone is on the same page about the cost and if they looked us up (e.g. on Yelp), they know that we are good for it. It shouldn't be hard for experienced vendors to estimate pricing like that.
you can go get married at the town hall for less than $100. Nobody ever said you have to invite 100 people to your wedding and spend $30,000. it's your choice.
Screw weddings , why in the hell are funeral so damn expensive! I think they prey on the families . Same as they do for weddings. all about FEELINGS! So what is the price for YOUR feelings?
Lady Hawk yes! I watch a lot of morticians on RUclips lol they always talk about how funeral homes pressure families to embalm the deceased for viewing without giving alternatives
we needed a hotel room for after the wedding before we left for our honeymoon. we asked for the wedding night package (whatever it was called) which was supposed to include stuff like rose pedals, champagne, candles, late check-out, his and her robes, etc.. the hotel didn't do any of that so I figured ok they just put us down for a normal suite and ordered a bottle of champagne via room service. next morning they slid the paper under the door at normal time and when we went to checkout they still charged us the special wedding price like 300 buck MORE than a normal suite. unbelievable.
The expensive wedding is a total scam. Imagine what you could do right now with an extra $30,000. Pay off some debt? Buy a new car? Put a down payment on a house? I guarantee you aren't thinking about throwing a one time party/religious ritual/family reunion get together where you only like 5-10 of the 200 people attending, that will be an absolute nightmare to plan and which you won't even be able to enjoy because of how much it stresses you out.
My wedding was under $1k. I refuse to participate in this ridiculous cultural status-flaunting ritual. It was beautiful and fun and that is all you're gonna care about in 20 years. Also, the rest of my life with my spouse is more valuable and important than one day. I will have happier days I spent $0 on!
My wife and I got married by the justice of the peace at the courthouse. It cost $75. We bought no flowers, no new clothes, no cake, no reception hall, no wedding planner, no professional photographer, no DJ, no catering and we didn't fly anybody in from out of town. We JUST GOT MARRIED. We wanted to be able to focus on getting our mariage right, rather than obsessing over the details of just one day. Not only did we save ourselves a ton of money, we saved ourselves a ton stress!
I bought a long white lace dress from TJ Maxx for like 30 bucks and got married in that. Didn't stick out at all because people don't wear those poofy dresses from the 90s anymore. The wedding dresses of today are just white, long cocktail dresses. Now, people WANT to spend that money on that dress. They want to feel "special". Of course the woman who asked for a 5000 dollar diamond ring won't feel special with a cheap dress. It has to cost more than anyone else's dress in the room. I understand that and respect that. If you feel good doing that, hey who am I to talk. What I am trying to say is, it isn't just the fault of the companies that mark up the prices and rip you off. People want to be told that what they are wearing that day is incredibly special. And they actually want to pay a very big amount to feel like they got what they were looking for.
Weddings have gone from an informal occasion where two families witness one of each of their children unite as a couple to just another thing that became reserved for the rich as a way to show off their immense wealth.
Unpopular opinion down below, if you get upset then sorry ⬇⬇⬇ Weddings are highly unnecessary. Tons of money, making a hundred people come see it, some words and a kiss, immense pressure. Another reason humanity is very unintellectual. What does it do for you? A little less than half of married couples are unhappy with their relationship at some point in the future. Going to a fancy restaurant (or your house if your comfortable with that), having yourselves a feast, and having a close friend ask those magical questions would be much better
How is that unpopular, Everyone here thinks the same. You know what I'm going to do,have a nice dinner at my house, And we make dishes together or apart, And then we put them on the table and try out the dishes, Then we go to city hall.
Clearly it was worth it for those other half of married couples. I also think you mean "wedding reception". A wedding is basically a contract between two people. Yes, a piece of paper.
An average Muslim wedding (Qitab) ranges from $1,500-$2,000 for the entire thing. The most expensive thing would mostly likely the mahr (agreement to the bride from groom) itself. The food is probably made the family, and the Imam (Priest) could be free. Mine was really cheap and my mahr was $1,000.
I love the idea that the food is made by the family. It really is a big family party in that case. It's so personal. Nowadays, in bigger cities, for example, where everything is "go go go", it's harder to do that. For us, food was the most expensive thing. We kept the whole thing under 10 000$, but - I mean, me 10 000$, you 1000$ ... heh.
I don't every want to get married, but I think its unfair for people to judge others on what they spend for their wedding (providing the couple can afford it). I mean, even though the idea of marriage to me is ghastly, I still understand that for others its very important and their wedding day is expected to be one of the highlights of their entire life, surely that justifies a couple trying to make it as perfect for them as possible, and that means high costs are almost always inevitable.
There's a bit of an inverse relationship between amount spent on wedding and length of marriage, unfortunately, so if we are looking to be wedded forever then encouraging people to curb a little might not be a terrible idea. (source: papers.ssrn.com/sol3/papers.cfm?abstract_id=2501480) Interestingly having lots of guests is correlated with longer marriages as well, so courthouse/elopement might not be ideal either :D balance!
If your Indian or Bengali, you know how huge weddings are and how much of a big deal it is. You have to invite cousins whom you've probably never met before and never will and all those relatives and even multiple events.
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Hey, thanks for that! As a wedding vendor I’d like to add that besides we get more work as you explained, in my point of view there’s a key factor that goes within the price: operations. The team that we need to set for a wedding has always to be way more experienced that a regular gathering. Because you don’t have the right to do any mistakes. You HAVE to be PERFEC to achieve a bride expectation and that’s ok, it’s in the job description of a wedding vendor! You have to set a perfect plan B as well, there’s more risk of being sued (yes!), and all of this comes with a cost. Of course we have to nail in any event. Everyone deserves to get what they’re paying for. I’m just pointing that brides always need more attention, vendors get more responsibility and a lot more of expectations to achieve. The prices are a fair reflection of all that.
How great this is to have you, from within this business, come with such a truthful depiction of what is going on and give such honest, blunt advice for future brides and grooms. Thank you. It would be hard to explain here, but this brings me a lot of comfort. I had my wedding last year, in the fall, and it was quite the battle breaking through the marketing techniques to respect my budget.
Here in the Philippines, weddings can be as cheap or as extravagant as you want it to be. Prices here are way cheaper compared with the US. On average, weddings here in the Philippines with 100 guests with quality suppliers (venue, caterer, photo/video, clothes, rings, flowers, etc) start at around $3,000.00. Some brides can even reduce it to $1,000.00. Our wedding cost us at around $8,000.00.
2:43 also when you click on the link to some pins it’s also not the actual website for the dress you just pinned...example: you’ll see a Hailey Paige (INSPIRED) wedding dress on a low budget website called “LaLas” or something for $200 knowing the actual dress pictured is $3000....so I personally think Pinterest is strictly used for inspo for girls like me planning their own wedding.
Being a millennial I've already thought about it just in case I decide to get married with a party, and one thing is certain: I'm not telling people that I'm planning a wedding. I could book a venue for a "celebration" and it would cost less than a wedding. It would cost less to commission a "princess dress" over buying a premade wedding dress, if it's even something I want to keep (what use will I have of it afterwards?). I could get a cooler and rarer stone in a ring for less than a diamond. I could get catering and an open bar for a "party" and it would cost less. In the end I'd rather plan it out so we could spend less on things like a venue, but more on fun stuff for our guests (like an open bar) and a honey moon
I'm 14 and Indian and was just having a debate with my parents about why there is a need to spend so much money on weddings and why do we need to invite so many people and something that they mentioned felt pretty true to me. I have grown up in an apartment complex with over 200 families and many of them have known me since I was like 3. If I get married and don't invite 1 such family, they will most likely get offended. Also, I have a huge extended family, we don't live together, but they do exist. And of course each of them will definitely expect to be invited. Plus my childhood friends, college friends, my parents friends etc. And that is just my side of the family. This is why sooo many people need to be invited and why sooooooo much money is spent. Plus it's all just a way of telling others that you can afford to have a glamorous wedding. In conclusion, I never want to get married. Thanx for reading. Have a good day :)
Why don't you invite the people that you just see pretty often instead of whole acquaintance thing? If they offend you can say you also won't go their wedding and they will save money as well. It will benefit them too. Because it seems like you will bankrupt even before marrying m
@@nevergiveupdearfriend7289 yeah that idea wouldn't work in front of indian parents and trust me, in India your parents are the decision makers for all finances especially if you are the bride, not all but the majority. kind of a cultural thing
@@astitvavarma1079 i see. İ hope parents will also consider financial things too for their children. İt is not about what everyone else says but their happiness. İt would be so unfortunate if they got into debt etc. Wish best for them
I got married in 2013 at a country club for less than $5000, including the stuff I didn’t pay for such as tuxedo rental and bridesmaid dresses. 50 guests. No one believed how cheap it was. My advice, shop around and be flexible.
This is the second or third video that RUclips has recommended about how expensive weddings are. Like RUclips is trying to discourage me from having a wedding at all 😭😭
Guess I'm the only woman around here not giving a flying fart on weddings. My husband and I wanted to marry, but not the party with over-sweet cake, never-ending boring speeches, hysterical mother-in-laws and oh the facade! We're so happy happy and in a moment a unicorn wil merge from the woods along with a million butterflies. Hell no, we married without telling anybody, and took a long walk in the moonlight. He's even the first guy I ever met, and we're still together.
+Anina Holbek I'm not tight with many family members and my partner isn't even out to his semi-traditionalist parents so my fingers are crossed that if we marry, it'll just be an extra-fun outing with a passionate message expressed to each other and our CLOSEST family and friends. But so far it sounds like he wants a church (while damn, I'm verging on anti-theistic) that would take same-sex couples and to keep it relatively close to what his family would otherwise expect (Christian Lebanese). I'll whittle him down! rofl
+Anina Holbek I would want to splurge on a damn suit of armor and slay a dragon (someone dressed as one) with a fake sword, save her from the post, sword fight a pirate, then a ninja, then Darth Vader, haul her off the lane, and into our car.
Anina Holbek I just wanted a small house party for mine after I went to court,but our parents want to do something more fancy so we will see what ends up happening. They are paying so idk .
What I advocate to save money on a wedding is make a dress from white bin bags and toilet paper, a suit from a charity shop or use black cardboard, no reception unless you use some aunties house and bring your own food, and have a honeymoon in your neighbours house or shed. Or just don't get married. There problem solved.
Actually, some study suggests that there's a correlation between money spent on weddings and divorce rate--the more money spent, the higher the chance of divorce.
I can see that. Most couples argue about finances , and if a wedding was beyond their means.. I can see it leading to a divorce. I believe a nice celebration can happen, but people need to be realistic to what their budgets are.
Weddings are expensive because the customer wants everything. Don't want an expensive wedding? Have a wedding at the beach with 15 guests. Oh, that's not your dream wedding? Then be prepared to pay $$$.
Because women want to be a princess/queen for a day. There I just saved yall over 4 mins. You're welcome. - Sincerely, a woman...who labels herself a queen. DAMN IT EVEN I'M NOT IMMUNE!
When I get married. I'm getting married in the room/building where we first met. Then we all head home and my mom makes the guest some jerk chicken and we are done for the day/night
+Kennedi Crafter I have no intention of getting married or even being in a relationship but that sounds really sweet and a lot more special than a standard expensive wedding. I hope you're able to do that one day :)
+The Dynast Queen I'm preparing myself for the wedding, I'm a very pragmatic guy who would go very cheap if I could, but it's her day and I'll bite the bullet.
As a photographer, I do charge extra for weddings. A few reasons why as well as how I set my prices 1) I know their budget is higher as the event. I plan my prices based on overall budget of an event. The impact is minimal, but it is there. The local band will pay less than the big AAA. 2) I don't charge by the hour. I charge one off fees, tax included. So I want to know exactly what you want, and base myself accordingly. I will provide what was agreed upon and nothing more. Weddings demand more. You have specific moments that needs shooting, client usually wants the photos on an album, etc etc. The more work there is to do, the more you'll pay. If I feel there's going to be more than you initially ask for, I'll quote higher. Gonna avoid the annoying "U didn't pay me enough for that" moments. 3) Weddings are not fun. Simple. You get a discount if I get to enjoy the event. The more professional I need to be, the more I charge. And oh god are weddings rigid and professional. Compare that to a concert/nightclub where I get AAA pass, +1 invite for my friends and free booze from the backstage minibar and you wonder why the price doubled. 4) To quote the CEO of Luxotica "everything is worth what people are willing to pay". Photographer isn't that well paying, so i'll grab every penny I can by charging as high as I can. That's simple business. Rule of thumb is, if you get a job too easily, you're priced too low. 5) Finally, time of the event. If I have to re-schedule or cancel something, I'll add extra for it. High demand hours where I know I almost always get booked, or vacation times will cost more. Book me on April 20 (By bday) Halloween, Xmas, NYE or the day of a festival I planned to go to and it will be astronomical.
I don't up charge by thousands. But hundreds can easily rack up. So, your wedding, Assuming it's 50 miles from where I live, with a 3 hour shoot and 200 photos with basic editing. would go as follow. Travel £50 (50p per mile, return included) Hours x3 £300 (Base of 100 per hour) Proper photoshoot and portraits, £50 per portrait. Book or album. £25+ price of printing. Price of all materials at your expanse. Includes film rolls, processing, polaroids etc if you want those. Your photos done in 24 hours is an extra £50 or more depending on the when, else it's 5 business day. Then there is a + or - 25 to 50% ish on the price depending on how demanding you'd be. The less formal, the more free food and champagne I get, the cheaper I go. If I have to follow a tight schedule and strict guidelines, that's extra. On the extreme, I will charge you for the dry cleaning of my tux if I have to wear one. On a standard pricing, I do a shared rights license. Meaning You and I own all rights to the images and I can use them for promotional purposes. In practice it means I'll use 10 photos (including 2 portraits) on my website and social media as a way to promote myself and enlarge my portfolio. If you refuse that and want to be the sole owner of all rights, there is a 100% extra fee to the shoot. Editing and taxes included. I gather all of this over the phone or emails and would give you quoted. So for you.... that'd be in the 400. Or 800 for all rights transferred to you+raw files.
Our wedding was pretty modest, planned for 150 people, located in a small town venue, did our own taco bar from Costco, bought flowers from a farmers market, etc. and it was still $10k. Even “cheap” weddings with more than just your immediate family are expensive!
India has the lowest amount of divorce rates because dude you can't clearly afford another wedding unless you are hella rich. And for those people who don't know Indian weddings can go on for days, 3 days minimum.
Good lord. The amount of sexism in these comments is disappointing to say the least. Re the video, the only thing I'd nitpick is the study referenced at the beginning. Two issues with it: one, it used mean, not median, so expensive outliers shifted the average to an unrepresentative level; and two, it suffers from selection bias - an obvious consequence of a wedding website polling its users. Other than that it makes some solid points. To disagree with many other commentors, I'm male and I'm looking forward to having a nice wedding, but obviously spending the money where it counts. I highly suspect $15,000 would be an upper limit for me.
+Angry dude with no future I don't have that, it's just a broad estimate of what I think would be my absolute maximum. In any case, I don't think it disallows my original complaint.
We spent about 5.000 euros for our wedding in Greece ( for 100 guests ), which was a really good price since most people spend around 20 to 30.000 euros. We got all our money back, since we asked for money as a wedding gift because we didn't need any more stuff to fill the house. We did some diy stuff but not a lot, since the hotel where we had the reception covered the food, the service and the cake. Even if I had a ton of money I wouldn't spend so much money for just a day. We still had a great wedding day and we didn't go broke. Also part of the money we got back from the wedding we will spend to go to Bali for our honeymoon!
I refuse to ever pay for a wedding and reception. It's a huge waste of money in the name of tradition. I'm going to get married in a courthouse and meet friend's/family at Texas Roadhouse. If my SO doesn't want that... A) she's not the one OR B) the parents will have to pay for it.
when i got married, it wasn't that expensive. i got a cheap beautiful wedding dress from david bridal. photographer was someone my in laws knew. cater was someone the in laws knew and we did the ceremony and reception in one location for cheap. honeymoon was covered.
As someone who worked in weddings for years, I can't agree that people are getting ripped off because they are unaware. It's not that hard to do a little research and there are SO many ways to save money and keep things classy and elegant. The people that lose sight of the meaning of a wedding or are really, really lazy are the mostly the ones who spend thousands and thousands of dollars. The best weddings I've worked are the ones who were chill, happy, kept things simple, and invested in the most important aspects.
Yeah...35 grand for one day? Hell no. I'm going to rent a wedding dress (why pay 1500 dollars for something to sit in my closet? You will NEVER re-use a wedding dress, and no your daughter won't want to wear your old wedding dress, she wants her own.) I'm going to get a cheap venue (find a friend with a farm) and make my own decorations. I'm going to spend money on catering and a photographer but that's about it. F*ck $10,000 dresses, f*ck $15,000 venues, and f*ck the greedy industry that rips young couples off. Spend that money on your marriage, not the wedding.
80 bucks for the license, 40 for the priest. We got a cake and apps for the reception. It was at my house and I have no regrets. Now I’m saving few thousand dollars to have a second wedding. Just need chairs and backyard with a band. Rather save for a down payment for a condo/business.
A reason I read online was that wedding cakes are typically made differently than regular cakes. Wedding cakes have to sit, usually in un-ideal conditions, for long periods of time. Also, a delivery is preferred so it won't get damaged in transit
I do not understand why everybody just " gets married" and thinks they have to have this costly wedding. Seriously, you dont have to rent some giant ballroom, have everybody dress like penguins, buy a stupid giant cake and the likes. Just meet all your friends and family at a park and have a picnic, or throw some chairs and food in the back of a car and drive up to the top of a mountain. That would be much cooler and cheaper. Traditional weddings are silly
I had a small Asian wedding, most extended family were not invited. 80ppl on the wedding evening. Total cost £5k and we had it in London. 3 day event. I did a lot of things myself, hand made decorations etc family and friends helped, friends made my flowers and did my photos, it’s how I kept the cost down. Main point is you don’t have to be OTT!
Historically, wedding comes from religion concept, if you're not religious people (atheist/agnostic) and live in western countries, Why bother??? I know there is _marriage without religious content carried out by a government institution_. But, what for? commitment? prevent breakups? parenthood? There are so many marriage failures out there. In certain (eastern) countries yes the procedures are needed for having a child at least.
In Islam .. wedding have to be simple not 1 million the table... But the way the pricing discussed in the video talk about how the economic runs the wedding industry. their'S nothing on religion here...
In traditional Kiwi (New Zealand) fashion, when I get married, I'd probably just have a small Church or outdoors wedding, and as for food, maybe we could just do a BYO kinda thing in which the guests just bring their own food and have kind of a shared lunch sorta thing. I heard couples who have more expensive weddings also are more likely to get a divorce.
+Sam Saad As a brown person, it is of a great deal of shame that our culture is so fixated on appearances. Can't just invite the maybe 100 people you like, it has to be the 500 you see once every 3 years.
SpadesHeart I agree. I hate how loud and extravagant our weddings are. I find weddings like the one in the video are so sophisticated and they only invite close friends and family.
In India an average wedding costs around 65k and lasts for 2-3 days.We usual have around 300-500 guests, because it is a once in a lifetime event (divorce is very very rare) which is meant to be enjoyed with all family members and have a good time.
Got married in church, reception in my parents backyard and bought my dress second hand for $500. Catering from a local restaurant around $400 at most. We ordered flowers from Sam’s club and my mom made the cake. Most expensive cost was the photographer. You can do it for cheaper and it will still be a beautiful day if you don’t buy into the hoopla of it all. There is a correlation between wedding cost and success of the marriage that the more you spend you’re more likely to split up later because you may have prioritized the wrong thing. Everyone’s different but I loved our wedding day and simply focusing on our love for eachother and be surrounded by our favorite people! 💓
The attitude of avoiding talking about price makes me furious. It's just disrespectful to the customer.
It's better to say nothing and just shock them with the bill afterwards. They won't complain because they are still in awe of the wedding.
yes that made me so mad!
and it’s gonna waste your time when you tell me you charge $3000 and my budget was $1000. I’ve had this happen on multiple occasions and end up feeling guilty about it even though they are the ones beating around the bush when I just want the price to know if I need to move on.
I have a personal policy when it comes to purchasing anything. If a particular vendor fails to provide a unit price for goods or services where one could reasonably be provided, I will find another vendor. When I'm beginning a project, I build a budget for it. I will end up purchasing from the vendor who gave me a price point out of the gate, because there are no surprises.
A family member of mine is a wedding vendor... They have a price range on their website but they really can't give a proper estimate without knowing exactly what the couple wants, and even then a demanding client can take hours more work than planned after the contract is signed. It's a tricky industry on both sides!
If you think a wedding is expensive, wait till you get a divorce.
Lmao get a prenup
And pre-nups aren't even legally binding in some countries!
lololololololol
Prenups should come as default in marriages. Opting out of prenup should be a hassle instead of getting one.
MAYBE THAT IS THAT PLAN,HEHE...
If Americans think their weddings are expensive, wait till you see the Indian ones!
People go bankrupt after them, and I'm not even kidding
Ab Sir True XD
And I'm sure the arranged brides can be quite expensive as well
Guilherme C. actually it's the other way around.
***** but still, they don't care. All that matters is how expensive the wedding was - for most Indians.
Ab Sir the 3 day celebrations?
my 'ancestors'?? Did she mean my 'descendants'?
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i didn't even notice that Intel now
until*
The pics definitely is of an ancestor.
If you ancestors are unhappy with the choise of you wedding dress, they rise from their graves and claw your eyes out, obviously. Thats why you have to spend at least 2000$ on the dress..
And we wonder why millennials don't bother with marriage.
The wedding business is killing the wedding.
Oh, I think it is more to do with millennial seeing too many divorce horror stories. The cost of the wedding itself is the least of their concerns.
carultch it's a concern to me! I've got 35,000 in student loan debt. If I'm getting married it better cost under $2000!
What I mean is that when you look at the cost of the wedding itself, it is a drop in the bucket compared to the lifelong cost of a marriage as a whole. Plus, you have a lot more control over the cost of a wedding than the cost of childcare or court-ordered child/spousal support.
Also marriage itself is kind of useless unless you have some laws wherever you live that gives some benefits for married couples. Other than that it's useless.
Same with children. They wonder why we aren’t having children. It’s expensive to even give birth in the us
My wedding cost almost nothing. We had a reception at our church (free to book) with just a few snacks for people to come and go whenever they pleased, family made the cake and helped decorate the reception area, and we had a simple wedding breakfast with just close family at an inexpensive buffet restaurant. I have never understood the mentality of spending thousands of dollars on a wedding.
Stijn Van Halen Replace the word smart with cheap and I agree with you!
***** Actually they found that couples who splooge on their weddings have a higher divorce rate
www.cnn.com/2014/10/13/living/wedding-expenses-study/
David Ripplinger Mine too!! in a prom dress at a park. Music via youtube. Gourmet appetizers and fancy cupcakes for 25 people. ;)
+David Ripplinger Friends of mine did a very similar thing. They had the wedding at their church, close friends of the bride let them use their property for the reception, they just had a big marquee with fairly inexpensive decor. The most amount of money they would've spent was on the catering and their clothes (the dresses, suits, etc.). Friends of the husband filmed the whole thing, so they probably got mate's rates on that as well.
+David Ripplinger Smart move, it is never worth getting into debt when you are just starting your life with someone.
The 3 biggest rip off industries:
Weddings, Homes and Funerals.
You forgot printers
олен specifically ink cartridges
@@snowpawzvideos and razors (specifically the blade refills)
Brian Johnson
Make that 5. Add healthcare and higher education/student loans.
My husband is a mortician. Go to a family owned business. They will work with you to make sure that it’s affordable.
In most asian cultures, wedding is where families who wed their children. "show-off" their wealth buy inviting large amounts of people (consists of close relatives, distant relatives, colleagues, families that were brought by the guests, and so on), heck it can even reach to more than 400-ish people came to the wedding event. also renting a big ballroom in hotels or someplace, hiring a reputable catering service, wedding gifts for guests that came to the wedding, music/band, photo/videographer and so on.
All of this can cost up to $100k-$150k and can be even more!
Same with many African cultures.
I think its only white people who don't to that XD
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same in my country, poor families even borrrow money so they can have a "decent" wedding party for their children but it's an unwritten rule that everyone invited to the party has to put an at least "acceptable" sum of money in the pink envelope that contains their invitation letter in the first place and put it in a box at the wedding, other kinds of gifts only optional, you can actually profit from that and people kinda have to pay to go to your wedding so if there is anything they don't like, they'll probably talk about it behind your family's back and everything is just ugly and annoying
Quốc Tiến Hà
yes indeed, I totally forgot the whole envelope with the money inside thing, it's considered a "wedding gift" lol. Most of the time, all the money that were given by the guests only cover some of the costs. I rarely see someone profited from them.
It's funny to see people say "Invite only a dozen" clearly you don't have an Arab or Latin family... Am I Right?
Just invite your immediate family only.
or African
Latin as in ethnically Latin (the descendants of central italian city-states), Italians, Spanish, Spanish-speakers, or Romance language speakers? The whole term is a load of ambiguity.
+robert owuor True
I guess he meant latino (as in from latin america), but italian and spanish people are usually very familiar too.
Weddings are expensive because society, especially women, have taught young women that being princess for a day is so dang important.
What's wrong with that?
key crum
Because they are not princesses. Ever consider how one sided weddings really are?
For me, it is a major waste of money. The man and woman love each other they can get married for a reasonable cost and put that money towards better use.
+mrbandishbhoir THIS! ALL THIS! I strongly agree with you and OP.
I'm a woman, and I definitely agree. Huge waste of money, the marriage is more importantly than the wedding. Why spend so much money on something that'll last for a day? Just get married at the court house and call it a day..
*important
Your ancestors are going to see your wedding photos? Do you have a time machine, because that is awesome!
I think they meant descendants
+Kennedi Crafter Pshhh
I ain't even see my grandma or greatgrandmother in her wedding dress
overrated
+Catherine Rose ikr
I don't know what the point is.
This may be mean
But they're dead anyway.
Ancestors are those that were here BEFORE you. Descendants are those that will come after. I hope they are all great and that they appreciate all we have done for their benefit, don't you?
Hahahaha
Descendants, right?
And then they divorce afterwards. A huge waste of money! Marriage is way more important than the wedding.
totally agreed!
true lol
But the wedding is important to get married.
+Smellycharly ROBLOX no. no its not. its all a scam like mining companies make us think diamonds are rare when there have mountains of them
Nvm you are right, the only thing needed to get married is a man and a woman and God of course
Remember the wedding lasts one day but the marriage lasts a lifetime. Save on the wedding and splurge on your marriage ;)
As a former wedding photographer, I listed the price range on my site. The clients appreciated the transparency and I avoided all the tire kickers.
my ex and I got married in the park and had a BBQ afterwards. cost about $500. we divorced 8 years later so I am glad I did not waste 10's of thousands on a silly wedding.
LOL.
Marten Dittmann in a way it’s true lol
Dexxter 😂😂 this is my favourite comment
but she is not tho. LOL
Marten Dittmann
spending money=/=love
30k?
You can get a all expenses paid year round vacation with that money...
+Uncrowned And instead you spent it on a party that few people will really remember a year from now.
+krim7 lemme just invite my third cousins current fling
Year round? Maybe a year in a poorer country.
+MJW238 If you do odd jobs here and there and cut cornes money can go a long way
+Tunaland Gaming the point is wedding money could go to something better
American channel: Weddings are expensive.
Me: *laughs in Indian*
my ex and I got married in the park and had a BBQ afterwards. cost about $500. we divorced 8 years later so I am glad I did not waste 10's of thousands on a silly wedding.
Are Indian weddings inexpensive thanks to Ethnic tradition?
Edit:
Nope.
People spend half there life savings on wedding 😂
It's actually sad😭😭
It's almost 1-10 lakh rupees (1000 dollar+ basically for middle class people) and if it goes to west, it inflames to
50,000 Dollars, noice.
cause the guest list is your entire bloodline or, and if so otherwise it’ll be an insult to your entire race.
we did a backyard wedding - 75 people.. wife's dress was from a second hand wedding store - we rented a pizza truck and we hired a dj who was cool to not overcharge.. it cost us under 7k including the dress and my outfit.. everything! we had an excel spreadsheet :)
Awesome....
nice!
pizza?????? really
OneHourShower i love this idea! I Wanna do all the decorations and stuff myself. My mom got married recently and she had a tiny budget and the wedding was still super nice. the only thing Im going to splurge on is an open bar 😂
Starting a marriage with a huge (unnecessary) debt doesn't sound smart. It will just create stress and unhappiness later on.
I think that last bit of advice is a good one. Rather than being like "This is what I need, what are your prices?" saying "This is my budget, what can I get with it?" will give a salesperson less of a reason to give you the most expensive thing possible, and make them think of the best thing within those limitations. I used to work for a wireless service provider, and when selling a phone I would always ask them their budget first, because my commission was usually the same no matter what they chose. When the money you make is directly proportional to the money the client is spending, however, you're going to want to do what's best for the business and try and entice them to buy more.
try a Chinese wedding. you get red packets from guests and this way the it pays for the wedding itself plus you get extras. Chinese are smart :)
True lol
At a nigerian wedding double the fun, u get money sprayed on you and traditional gifts
Not going to go through all of this ceremonial crap. I'm going to make the honeymoon the actual wedding. And get a drone to photograph and film all of our experiences. Problem solved.
awesome idea.
I wish everyone's like you.
nice! congrats
Weird
Smart choice👍🏻
My wedding, and dress cost my husband and I about $1,500 for 110 guests. There was no way on earth we were going to start off our lives together in debt by throwing a party for people who would forget every detail the next day. We took a week long honeymoon in an expensive hotel in the mountains of Colorado to celebrate US. We have never been in debt, we travel the world with our son, and wouldn’t change a thing about our wedding day.
honestly, if you can afford it, why not? I don't see any reason to shame a couple who wants to go full out, same goes to those that don't.
I don't think there's a need to shame, so long as the choice is informed!
There's a bit of an inverse relationship between the amount spent on wedding and the length of a marriage, unfortunately. If we are looking to stick to those marriage vows then encouraging people to curb a little might not be a terrible idea. (source: papers.ssrn.com/sol3/papers.cfm?abstract_id=2501480)
Interestingly having lots of guests is correlated with longer marriages as well, so courthouse/elopement might not be ideal either :D balance!
(And of course there's the fact that every few thousand dollars might save/radically change the life of someone less wealthy, which is worth considering....)
The problem is pressure to do more than you can afford. I had a friend that I had to talk out of getting a loan for her wedding. No one should feel like they should be going into debt to put on a celebration. But some people do. And it's not good for the relationship
I agree
@@heyerj I agree
Have you just said: If you can afford to be scammed by wedding industry, why not?
I don't understand why people think weddings are always expensive. You literally choose how expensive its going to be. It could be $200 if you wanted
The problem here is that the same thing for wedding is more expensive then if it's not related to wedding. Remember when I saw some hair decoration in various colors and it was also very cheap. The seller had like all the colors... except white. The same item, but in white color was available only in wedding specialized shop not far away but ten times more expensie.
Its about the venue. we all want a nice placement for a wedding. but all the venues charge heavily and not a single venue charges less than $2000 for 50-150 guests
Then it settles it I'm getting married at a courthouse and throw a small party for friends and family afterwords in the back yard complete with cake I baked myself.
+L. T C. Bet your cakes better anyways
+L. T C. Hey, my wife and I did this 42 years ago. It worked fine.
+chefranden i salute to you sir!
I got married in June and it was very small! I only invited 25 people, the party took place in my in-laws their backyard. Food consisted of fries with Flemish beef stew and the only thing ordered was the dessert table which only was 50 euros). We decorated the place ourselves and my sister-in-law served as the photographer. It was a small and inexpensive wedding but I would never trade it for the big lavish weddings these people in this video have. My advice is just plan the wedding you want and invite the people you want. Who cares if someone gets offended? Someone will end up offended no matter what, at least let it be on your terms.
That’s sweet
Heck no!!! 15,000 dollars? In that case I will have a nice little ceremony with family and close friends, i mean close, at my home church. Then rent out an affordable reception hall, maybe one in an inexpensive hotel. Food, cake, fam, friends, dj, photographer, videographer. No extra. That's what I see at weddings. A lot of extra things done for just one day. One main thing for is having flowers as the center pieces to be honest. Guest will be less than 70 people and that's pushing it. Have a cheap wedding and then go somewhere nice for your honeymoon, at least for me that's what I want. I love traveling. You can have a beautiful, cheap wedding.
that's the point of the video...vendors will charge MORE just because you tell them it's for a wedding. i'm a photographer trying to steer clear of the wedding industry, for this exact reason. if i underprice what everyone else does, then people think they aren't getting good photos. You can buy a cheap bouqet of flowers from the grocery store, but a centerpiece for a wedding will cost more. JUST because it's for a wedding. you want to book a venue for 70 people for an afternoon? don't say it's for a wedding (although i dont know if they require that information) because it WILL cost more for the same thing, because it's a wedding. you CAN have a beautiful cheap wedding, but any services you use will cost more than for a same sized party, and anything else you want, you'll need to DIY it.
That's the problem though, usually the "inexpensive hotel" or "affordable reception hall" does not exist. I am from Orlando FL and most places around here just for a reception (no ceremony or catering included) is still a few thousand dollars. It's ridiculous.
Princess Lunar, totally agree. When planning our wedding, we were firstly just going to hire a small marquee and have a backyard wedding, but the price we got quoted for just the hire and set up of the marquee was more than the beautiful wedding venue we ended up going with (who don't often do weddings and therefore their prices weren't crazy high). So our idea of having "a cheap backyard wedding" was pretty quickly extinguished...
Princess Lunar That is ridiculous!! I will find a way to have a cheap but beautiful wedding lol.
Echaka Monjok What You just descibed is considered an expensive wedding, here in Denmark. Usually people go to the ceremony in the Church/City hall (more often than not in a rented dress) and Then heads straight for the couple's home or the local community centre. No photographer. No hotel. No videographer. Wedding decorations made by yourself, a friend or bought for cheap. There's usually 30-50 guests.
I wonder how much a Red Wedding will cost.
Boogster Su At least $10,000 on the clean up alone.
Boogster Su An arm and a leg.
Boogster Su It cost a kingdom. In cash.
Boogster Su I know it's enough to lose your head over it.
Boogster Su Your first unborn baby...
Both my parents have been married several times and they've gotten cheaper prices from caterers and other vendors by calling the event a "party" rather than a wedding, some companies really do take advantage
My wedding cost less than $6,000. I bought my dress online (8 months in advance just in case), it was a bbq style reception so I DIYed some mason jar center pieces that had wet wipes and condiments, all of the decor I made by hand. We got married at a Trap Falls in Townsend MA (look it up, it's beautiful) next to the waterfall, and had the reception at my parents house in NH. The most expensive thing was the food, which was about $2,500 for 125 people, and we did a pig roast which was a huge hit. Next most expensive thing was renting the two tents and tables and chairs , which was about $2,000. When I called into book all of the tents, tables and chairs, I did not tell him it was for a wedding, I told them that it was for a family gathering. Because when I called in a week earlier and told them it was for a wedding (for a price quote) they quoted me $4,000. I used to work in a cake shop and I kept in contact with the owner, who gifted us our wedding cake. My dress alteration was done by a family friend as a present too. All in all, we had an unforgettable day, and walked away debt free. We still get messages about how much people loved our wedding compared to other weddings people have been to. It was so much fun the caterer even came back and partied with us when he was done
For some reason I've always hated economical plots and strategies in general. Makes it feel like you sell a little of your soul or sacrifice some of your empathy for others in order to make greater profit.
+Ricardo Camacho welcome to capitalism :-(.
+Joseph Ang I don't want a good product at low price, I want a good product at normal price and I want you to believe in what you're selling and help me. I'm a software salesman. I don't try selling our software, I try helping the people who I believe would most benefit from the software. As a bonus I get a sale from that, but my main goal isn't selling, It's helping others. A purchase still happens, we still need an exchange in value so the world keeps spinning, but it becomes a different thing when you apply reasonable prices to your product and seek to help others rather than trick or fool or use psychology to encourage other human beings to purchase your overpriced stuff. That's dishonest and only cripples our social development as an empathic and kind race.
+Ricardo Camacho you are a sweet sweet man. marry me
+bluefavorites that will cost $30,000
Yeah I'mma just use that 30k for vacations and Start ups
plot twist: you dont have those 30k anyways
lmao
If you work and make money your going to make $30k any way what matters is where it goes. I work and I'll be to making that 30k in a couple of months so.. Plot twist that. And last time a checked anything that has to do with money and a contract is business, that is an investment not worth risking to me , but that's my opinion to each his own.
Breaking News no we arent
tip #1: make your own dress or wear your job interview dress same for tux
tip #2: make your own cake
tip#3: learn to make paper flowers
tip#4: you can make beautiful decoration with things from dollar tree
tip#5: go to a courthouse for the actual marriage part and just have an after party
tip#6: Call everyone to see if they would bother attending before sending invites
tip#7: There are plenty of photography students at community colleges who want money and charge less
tip#8: use a small local park as a venue just like people do for birthday parties
Sounds like a sad wedding 😂
@@zozhang7478 But happy weddings literally cost a fortune these days. A marriage would not start well if the couple has to go into debt just for a glorified party.
REALITY CHECK: Weddings do NOT have to be so damn expensive. All you *have* to pay for is the marriage license, which costs around $20 - $100, depending on where you live. Everything else (the rings, ceremony, gown, suit, food, afterparty, etc) are things *you* choose to purchase and you are under no obligation to spend a certain amount on any of it. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Well, my husband and I spent maybe $3000 for our wedding, and honestly, it was just as amazing as those $25,000 weddings. Heck, my wedding dress was $750 alone.We didn't get a wedding planner, we were only engaged for 6 months, and it went really smoothly. Both our families were involved and helped out a lot and we were able to find amazing deals. It may be my inner cheap Mennonite heritage coming out, but I think people really don't need to spend so much on a wedding.
Well.... better than the funeral industries.
Also a "once in a lifetime" experience (literally) but the cost of caskets, embalming and services are super high with no reason being why. The funeral industry is basically a cash cow. This industry target extremely unstable and emotionally vulnerable just like the wedding industry (yes, i just said wedding couples are unstable. Its true sometimes!) to get a shit ton more cash. There's a circle called Greed in hell just for them.
That's what cremation is for lol I'm not going to burden my children with a funeral cost and an expensive as hell box.
Kevin Jones or donate your body to science
I'm going to build my own casket and buy a simple block of granite. I'll have my children bury me in the back garden, and they can carve and etch the stone in whatever way they like, using the stone working skills I taught them. I will live in a way that hopefully gives them a reason to make a beautiful headstone.
@@hamnchee in some countries that would be illegal.
It is because it is embarrasing to argue about cash in front of your spouse on your wedding day.
My fiancé and I had set a budget of $4000 for our Harry Potter themed wedding thinking 'yeah that should be enough'. Little did we know looking for vendors that our entire budget would be the down payment for one place. At first we thought 'are we crazy, but does $4000 for a single vender sound too much?' After watching this video we realized that 'YES' it was too much. We think it's absolutely horrible that certain vendors take advantage of new couples just because we drop the 'W' word. Going into shopping for the rest of our wedding, (were still in the process of planning it), we are supper careful when using that word, and now we know the truth of why they are so expensive.
p.s. Still considering elopement as an option!
Maybe do a wedding like the one in harry potter at the weasley's house where there is a tent outside? That wedding was super pretty!!!!
The most un-original comment in the comment section:
"Save your money, don't get married."
which is complete bullshit because you'll spend that money anyway on some other stupid thing
lol down payment on a house? business start up? investments? you kid's college fund? a long honeymoon? a new car? "stupid things"
Marriage is basically a scam
A difference between not getting married and not having a wedding. Getting married at a court house is under $100. Weddings are the expensive thing. Unfortunately people think if you get married you have to have a wedding.
Silver Linings Un-original maybe, but still true.
One of the reasons I loved my florist is that when she saw pictures of what I want see immediately warned me about the prices of the flowers. We then talked about substitutes for the really expensive ones so I could get the look without the cost. That kind of thinking and consideration of my budget is why I recommend them to everyone in my area. And the flowers were great! But she was one of the only people who were honest and upfront about price.
I'm so glad I didn't make the big mistake of paying $31,000 on my wedding. My husband and I only spent about $3500 on our small, DIY church wedding and only invited families and friends. It might not have been the grandest wedding, but we had the time of our lives. Honestly, the way I see it, what makes a wedding day memorable is finally being able to marry the love of your life and being surrounded by the people that truly matter. People spend thousands, sometimes even millions, of dollars to have their dream wedding, only to divorce soon after. In the end, it's the quality of your marriage that matters not the quantity you spend on your wedding day.
many years ago, my girlfriend was planning her wedding and she noticed when she called around for prices if she said it was for "a party" the prices were quite a bit lower than if she said it was for "a wedding" for the same exact thing.
3:14
If there's ever one picture your ANCESTORS have of you, it's the one in your wedding dress.
Man, I wish my ancestors had photos of me. Maybe I should mail some back to 1758...
Maybe ancestors up to two or three generations up...
Even though weddings may be more expensive for vendors, they should then create a portfolio of pricing just for weddings. I am in the wedding industry myself (event staffing company called Barspirit) and we service the expensive markets of New York, Los Angeles, etc.
That said, we have a clear outline of our pricing and even a "immediate quoting" tool so clients can see what they are getting into before hitting that submit button. That way, everyone is on the same page about the cost and if they looked us up (e.g. on Yelp), they know that we are good for it.
It shouldn't be hard for experienced vendors to estimate pricing like that.
Weddings are a ripoff, why spend all that money when there's student loans and mortgages to be paid?
you can go get married at the town hall for less than $100. Nobody ever said you have to invite 100 people to your wedding and spend $30,000. it's your choice.
Screw weddings , why in the hell are funeral so damn expensive! I think they prey on the families . Same as they do for weddings.
all about FEELINGS! So what is the price for YOUR feelings?
Lady Hawk yes! I watch a lot of morticians on RUclips lol they always talk about how funeral homes pressure families to embalm the deceased for viewing without giving alternatives
we needed a hotel room for after the wedding before we left for our honeymoon. we asked for the wedding night package (whatever it was called) which was supposed to include stuff like rose pedals, champagne, candles, late check-out, his and her robes, etc.. the hotel didn't do any of that so I figured ok they just put us down for a normal suite and ordered a bottle of champagne via room service. next morning they slid the paper under the door at normal time and when we went to checkout they still charged us the special wedding price like 300 buck MORE than a normal suite. unbelievable.
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pedal= bike
That's just sad.
did anyone else think the intro was an ad?
In business, that's called “catering to your costumer.”
+princess jellyfish I love your profile pic and name!!!! ^-^
I was waiting for the ad finish
The expensive wedding is a total scam. Imagine what you could do right now with an extra $30,000. Pay off some debt? Buy a new car? Put a down payment on a house? I guarantee you aren't thinking about throwing a one time party/religious ritual/family reunion get together where you only like 5-10 of the 200 people attending, that will be an absolute nightmare to plan and which you won't even be able to enjoy because of how much it stresses you out.
My wedding was under $1k. I refuse to participate in this ridiculous cultural status-flaunting ritual. It was beautiful and fun and that is all you're gonna care about in 20 years. Also, the rest of my life with my spouse is more valuable and important than one day. I will have happier days I spent $0 on!
lol 120-115 ppl wedding? lol that's less than half the helpers involve in an average Indian wedding.
+Indian Anime Guild True, my sis went to a cousin's wedding and there were soooo many relatives in the pictures but it looked awesome.
LMAO true my sisters wedding had 1,000+ guests and 200ish workers
Best 4 Less yeah exactly. Not to mention that Indian weddings take place for days and the preparations start 1/2 months before the wedding.
@@MishkaSinghi28 1-2 months ? more like 6 months lol
I wonder how many people get divorced why they are STILL paying off the wedding? OUCH that's gotta suck
My wife and I got married by the justice of the peace at the courthouse. It cost $75. We bought no flowers, no new clothes, no cake, no reception hall, no wedding planner, no professional photographer, no DJ, no catering and we didn't fly anybody in from out of town. We JUST GOT MARRIED. We wanted to be able to focus on getting our mariage right, rather than obsessing over the details of just one day. Not only did we save ourselves a ton of money, we saved ourselves a ton stress!
I bought a long white lace dress from TJ Maxx for like 30 bucks and got married in that. Didn't stick out at all because people don't wear those poofy dresses from the 90s anymore. The wedding dresses of today are just white, long cocktail dresses.
Now, people WANT to spend that money on that dress. They want to feel "special". Of course the woman who asked for a 5000 dollar diamond ring won't feel special with a cheap dress. It has to cost more than anyone else's dress in the room. I understand that and respect that. If you feel good doing that, hey who am I to talk.
What I am trying to say is, it isn't just the fault of the companies that mark up the prices and rip you off. People want to be told that what they are wearing that day is incredibly special. And they actually want to pay a very big amount to feel like they got what they were looking for.
Weddings have gone from an informal occasion where two families witness one of each of their children unite as a couple to just another thing that became reserved for the rich as a way to show off their immense wealth.
I rather have one of those backyard home weddings
Unpopular opinion down below, if you get upset then sorry ⬇⬇⬇
Weddings are highly unnecessary. Tons of money, making a hundred people come see it, some words and a kiss, immense pressure. Another reason humanity is very unintellectual. What does it do for you? A little less than half of married couples are unhappy with their relationship at some point in the future. Going to a fancy restaurant (or your house if your comfortable with that), having yourselves a feast, and having a close friend ask those magical questions would be much better
How is that unpopular,
Everyone here thinks the same.
You know what I'm going to do,have a nice dinner at my house,
And we make dishes together or apart,
And then we put them on the table and try out the dishes,
Then we go to city hall.
Yes. It's just a really expensive dinner party
PREACH
Clearly it was worth it for those other half of married couples.
I also think you mean "wedding reception". A wedding is basically a contract between two people. Yes, a piece of paper.
c4
Absolutely
An average Muslim wedding (Qitab) ranges from $1,500-$2,000 for the entire thing. The most expensive thing would mostly likely the mahr (agreement to the bride from groom) itself. The food is probably made the family, and the Imam (Priest) could be free. Mine was really cheap and my mahr was $1,000.
I love the idea that the food is made by the family. It really is a big family party in that case. It's so personal. Nowadays, in bigger cities, for example, where everything is "go go go", it's harder to do that. For us, food was the most expensive thing. We kept the whole thing under 10 000$, but - I mean, me 10 000$, you 1000$ ... heh.
I don't every want to get married, but I think its unfair for people to judge others on what they spend for their wedding (providing the couple can afford it). I mean, even though the idea of marriage to me is ghastly, I still understand that for others its very important and their wedding day is expected to be one of the highlights of their entire life, surely that justifies a couple trying to make it as perfect for them as possible, and that means high costs are almost always inevitable.
There's a bit of an inverse relationship between amount spent on wedding and length of marriage, unfortunately, so if we are looking to be wedded forever then encouraging people to curb a little might not be a terrible idea. (source: papers.ssrn.com/sol3/papers.cfm?abstract_id=2501480)
Interestingly having lots of guests is correlated with longer marriages as well, so courthouse/elopement might not be ideal either :D balance!
You must be dirtpoor. Lol
Or, get married and don’t have a wedding. Just get legally married.
@@kittypixie.x You don't even have to do that
We spent under $1000 (including our clothes, rings, licences and everything) to elope at the courthouse in NYC. It was great and we had fun!
I spent $0 and didn't get married. It was great and we had fun!
sorry, in America it is not "once in a lifetime".
Not just America now. Unfortunately
If your Indian or Bengali, you know how huge weddings are and how much of a big deal it is. You have to invite cousins whom you've probably never met before and never will and all those relatives and even multiple events.
Hey, thanks for that! As a wedding vendor I’d like to add that besides we get more work as you explained, in my point of view there’s a key factor that goes within the price: operations.
The team that we need to set for a wedding has always to be way more experienced that a regular gathering. Because you don’t have the right to do any mistakes. You HAVE to be PERFEC to achieve a bride expectation and that’s ok, it’s in the job description of a wedding vendor!
You have to set a perfect plan B as well, there’s more risk of being sued (yes!), and all of this comes with a cost.
Of course we have to nail in any event. Everyone deserves to get what they’re paying for. I’m just pointing that brides always need more attention, vendors get more responsibility and a lot more of expectations to achieve. The prices are a fair reflection of all that.
How great this is to have you, from within this business, come with such a truthful depiction of what is going on and give such honest, blunt advice for future brides and grooms. Thank you. It would be hard to explain here, but this brings me a lot of comfort. I had my wedding last year, in the fall, and it was quite the battle breaking through the marketing techniques to respect my budget.
Here in the Philippines, weddings can be as cheap or as extravagant as you want it to be. Prices here are way cheaper compared with the US. On average, weddings here in the Philippines with 100 guests with quality suppliers (venue, caterer, photo/video, clothes, rings, flowers, etc) start at around $3,000.00. Some brides can even reduce it to $1,000.00. Our wedding cost us at around $8,000.00.
When I get married, I’m just going to go to city hall to sign papers, then go for a celebratory drink
2:43 also when you click on the link to some pins it’s also not the actual website for the dress you just pinned...example: you’ll see a Hailey Paige (INSPIRED) wedding dress on a low budget website called “LaLas” or something for $200 knowing the actual dress pictured is $3000....so I personally think Pinterest is strictly used for inspo for girls like me planning their own wedding.
Being a millennial I've already thought about it just in case I decide to get married with a party, and one thing is certain: I'm not telling people that I'm planning a wedding.
I could book a venue for a "celebration" and it would cost less than a wedding.
It would cost less to commission a "princess dress" over buying a premade wedding dress, if it's even something I want to keep (what use will I have of it afterwards?).
I could get a cooler and rarer stone in a ring for less than a diamond.
I could get catering and an open bar for a "party" and it would cost less.
In the end I'd rather plan it out so we could spend less on things like a venue, but more on fun stuff for our guests (like an open bar) and a honey moon
I'm 14 and Indian and was just having a debate with my parents about why there is a need to spend so much money on weddings and why do we need to invite so many people and something that they mentioned felt pretty true to me.
I have grown up in an apartment complex with over 200 families and many of them have known me since I was like 3.
If I get married and don't invite 1 such family, they will most likely get offended.
Also, I have a huge extended family, we don't live together, but they do exist. And of course each of them will definitely expect to be invited. Plus my childhood friends, college friends, my parents friends etc.
And that is just my side of the family.
This is why sooo many people need to be invited and why sooooooo much money is spent.
Plus it's all just a way of telling others that you can afford to have a glamorous wedding.
In conclusion, I never want to get married.
Thanx for reading.
Have a good day :)
Why don't you invite the people that you just see pretty often instead of whole acquaintance thing? If they offend you can say you also won't go their wedding and they will save money as well. It will benefit them too. Because it seems like you will bankrupt even before marrying m
@@nevergiveupdearfriend7289 yeah that idea wouldn't work in front of indian parents and trust me, in India your parents are the decision makers for all finances especially if you are the bride, not all but the majority. kind of a cultural thing
@@astitvavarma1079 i see. İ hope parents will also consider financial things too for their children. İt is not about what everyone else says but their happiness. İt would be so unfortunate if they got into debt etc. Wish best for them
I got married in 2013 at a country club for less than $5000, including the stuff I didn’t pay for such as tuxedo rental and bridesmaid dresses. 50 guests. No one believed how cheap it was. My advice, shop around and be flexible.
Nothing destroys marriages more than the wedding industry.
This is the second or third video that RUclips has recommended about how expensive weddings are. Like RUclips is trying to discourage me from having a wedding at all 😭😭
Guess I'm the only woman around here not giving a flying fart on weddings. My husband and I wanted to marry, but not the party with over-sweet cake, never-ending boring speeches, hysterical mother-in-laws and oh the facade! We're so happy happy and in a moment a unicorn wil merge from the woods along with a million butterflies. Hell no, we married without telling anybody, and took a long walk in the moonlight. He's even the first guy I ever met, and we're still together.
+Anina Holbek I'm not tight with many family members and my partner isn't even out to his semi-traditionalist parents so my fingers are crossed that if we marry, it'll just be an extra-fun outing with a passionate message expressed to each other and our CLOSEST family and friends. But so far it sounds like he wants a church (while damn, I'm verging on anti-theistic) that would take same-sex couples and to keep it relatively close to what his family would otherwise expect (Christian Lebanese). I'll whittle him down! rofl
+Anina Holbek I would want to splurge on a damn suit of armor and slay a dragon (someone dressed as one) with a fake sword, save her from the post, sword fight a pirate, then a ninja, then Darth Vader, haul her off the lane, and into our car.
Anina Holbek I just wanted a small house party for mine after I went to court,but our parents want to do something more fancy so we will see what ends up happening. They are paying so idk .
Your husband is the first guy you ever met before? Elsa didn't approve this
Another cool video from Vox.
What I advocate to save money on a wedding is make a dress from white bin bags and toilet paper, a suit from a charity shop or use black cardboard, no reception unless you use some aunties house and bring your own food, and have a honeymoon in your neighbours house or shed. Or just don't get married. There problem solved.
Actually, some study suggests that there's a correlation between money spent on weddings and divorce rate--the more money spent, the higher the chance of divorce.
I can see that. Most couples argue about finances , and if a wedding was beyond their means.. I can see it leading to a divorce. I believe a nice celebration can happen, but people need to be realistic to what their budgets are.
Weddings are expensive because the customer wants everything. Don't want an expensive wedding? Have a wedding at the beach with 15 guests. Oh, that's not your dream wedding? Then be prepared to pay $$$.
Because women want to be a princess/queen for a day. There I just saved yall over 4 mins. You're welcome.
- Sincerely, a woman...who labels herself a queen. DAMN IT EVEN I'M NOT IMMUNE!
Lol
When I get married. I'm getting married in the room/building where we first met. Then we all head home and my mom makes the guest some jerk chicken and we are done for the day/night
+Kennedi Crafter
I have no intention of getting married or even being in a relationship but that sounds really sweet and a lot more special than a standard expensive wedding. I hope you're able to do that one day :)
+Kennedi Crafter you forgot the wedding sex
+The Dynast Queen I'm preparing myself for the wedding, I'm a very pragmatic guy who would go very cheap if I could, but it's her day and I'll bite the bullet.
As a photographer, I do charge extra for weddings. A few reasons why as well as how I set my prices
1) I know their budget is higher as the event. I plan my prices based on overall budget of an event. The impact is minimal, but it is there. The local band will pay less than the big AAA.
2) I don't charge by the hour. I charge one off fees, tax included. So I want to know exactly what you want, and base myself accordingly. I will provide what was agreed upon and nothing more. Weddings demand more. You have specific moments that needs shooting, client usually wants the photos on an album, etc etc. The more work there is to do, the more you'll pay. If I feel there's going to be more than you initially ask for, I'll quote higher. Gonna avoid the annoying "U didn't pay me enough for that" moments.
3) Weddings are not fun. Simple. You get a discount if I get to enjoy the event. The more professional I need to be, the more I charge. And oh god are weddings rigid and professional. Compare that to a concert/nightclub where I get AAA pass, +1 invite for my friends and free booze from the backstage minibar and you wonder why the price doubled.
4) To quote the CEO of Luxotica "everything is worth what people are willing to pay". Photographer isn't that well paying, so i'll grab every penny I can by charging as high as I can. That's simple business. Rule of thumb is, if you get a job too easily, you're priced too low.
5) Finally, time of the event. If I have to re-schedule or cancel something, I'll add extra for it. High demand hours where I know I almost always get booked, or vacation times will cost more. Book me on April 20 (By bday) Halloween, Xmas, NYE or the day of a festival I planned to go to and it will be astronomical.
I don't up charge by thousands. But hundreds can easily rack up.
So, your wedding, Assuming it's 50 miles from where I live, with a 3 hour shoot and 200 photos with basic editing. would go as follow.
Travel £50 (50p per mile, return included)
Hours x3 £300 (Base of 100 per hour)
Proper photoshoot and portraits, £50 per portrait.
Book or album. £25+ price of printing.
Price of all materials at your expanse. Includes film rolls, processing, polaroids etc if you want those.
Your photos done in 24 hours is an extra £50 or more depending on the when, else it's 5 business day.
Then there is a + or - 25 to 50% ish on the price depending on how demanding you'd be. The less formal, the more free food and champagne I get, the cheaper I go. If I have to follow a tight schedule and strict guidelines, that's extra. On the extreme, I will charge you for the dry cleaning of my tux if I have to wear one.
On a standard pricing, I do a shared rights license. Meaning You and I own all rights to the images and I can use them for promotional purposes. In practice it means I'll use 10 photos (including 2 portraits) on my website and social media as a way to promote myself and enlarge my portfolio. If you refuse that and want to be the sole owner of all rights, there is a 100% extra fee to the shoot.
Editing and taxes included.
I gather all of this over the phone or emails and would give you quoted. So for you.... that'd be in the 400. Or 800 for all rights transferred to you+raw files.
Our wedding was pretty modest, planned for 150 people, located in a small town venue, did our own taco bar from Costco, bought flowers from a farmers market, etc. and it was still $10k. Even “cheap” weddings with more than just your immediate family are expensive!
India has the lowest amount of divorce rates because dude you can't clearly afford another wedding unless you are hella rich. And for those people who don't know Indian weddings can go on for days, 3 days minimum.
Good lord. The amount of sexism in these comments is disappointing to say the least.
Re the video, the only thing I'd nitpick is the study referenced at the beginning. Two issues with it: one, it used mean, not median, so expensive outliers shifted the average to an unrepresentative level; and two, it suffers from selection bias - an obvious consequence of a wedding website polling its users.
Other than that it makes some solid points. To disagree with many other commentors, I'm male and I'm looking forward to having a nice wedding, but obviously spending the money where it counts. I highly suspect $15,000 would be an upper limit for me.
+Angry dude with no future I don't have that, it's just a broad estimate of what I think would be my absolute maximum. In any case, I don't think it disallows my original complaint.
+Matt Taylor I wouldn't spend more than two monthly salaries.
My teacher got married in Las Vegas...in a drive thru wedding ceremony for like $50
Drlittleman23 Is your teacher Britney Spears?
+Drlittleman23 Is your teacher still married? xD
M4d Alex yes. Hes about 60.
We spent about 5.000 euros for our wedding in Greece ( for 100 guests ), which was a really good price since most people spend around 20 to 30.000 euros. We got all our money back, since we asked for money as a wedding gift because we didn't need any more stuff to fill the house. We did some diy stuff but not a lot, since the hotel where we had the reception covered the food, the service and the cake. Even if I had a ton of money I wouldn't spend so much money for just a day. We still had a great wedding day and we didn't go broke. Also part of the money we got back from the wedding we will spend to go to Bali for our honeymoon!
I refuse to ever pay for a wedding and reception. It's a huge waste of money in the name of tradition. I'm going to get married in a courthouse and meet friend's/family at Texas Roadhouse. If my SO doesn't want that... A) she's not the one OR B) the parents will have to pay for it.
when i got married, it wasn't that expensive. i got a cheap beautiful wedding dress from david bridal. photographer was someone my in laws knew. cater was someone the in laws knew and we did the ceremony and reception in one location for cheap. honeymoon was covered.
also our cake was bought by a family friend so we didn't have to pay for it. just find the kind we wanted.
+janitza ayala I know David bridal's,that place is really nice dresses.
As someone who worked in weddings for years, I can't agree that people are getting ripped off because they are unaware. It's not that hard to do a little research and there are SO many ways to save money and keep things classy and elegant. The people that lose sight of the meaning of a wedding or are really, really lazy are the mostly the ones who spend thousands and thousands of dollars. The best weddings I've worked are the ones who were chill, happy, kept things simple, and invested in the most important aspects.
Yeah...35 grand for one day? Hell no. I'm going to rent a wedding dress (why pay 1500 dollars for something to sit in my closet? You will NEVER re-use a wedding dress, and no your daughter won't want to wear your old wedding dress, she wants her own.) I'm going to get a cheap venue (find a friend with a farm) and make my own decorations. I'm going to spend money on catering and a photographer but that's about it. F*ck $10,000 dresses, f*ck $15,000 venues, and f*ck the greedy industry that rips young couples off. Spend that money on your marriage, not the wedding.
80 bucks for the license, 40 for the priest. We got a cake and apps for the reception. It was at my house and I have no regrets. Now I’m saving few thousand dollars to have a second wedding. Just need chairs and backyard with a band. Rather save for a down payment for a condo/business.
A reason I read online was that wedding cakes are typically made differently than regular cakes. Wedding cakes have to sit, usually in un-ideal conditions, for long periods of time. Also, a delivery is preferred so it won't get damaged in transit
I do not understand why everybody just " gets married" and thinks they have to have this costly wedding. Seriously, you dont have to rent some giant ballroom, have everybody dress like penguins, buy a stupid giant cake and the likes. Just meet all your friends and family at a park and have a picnic, or throw some chairs and food in the back of a car and drive up to the top of a mountain. That would be much cooler and cheaper.
Traditional weddings are silly
I tried convincing my parents to make my sister's wedding more low-key/casual...no such luck :/
I had a small Asian wedding, most extended family were not invited. 80ppl on the wedding evening. Total cost £5k and we had it in London. 3 day event. I did a lot of things myself, hand made decorations etc family and friends helped, friends made my flowers and did my photos, it’s how I kept the cost down. Main point is you don’t have to be OTT!
Historically, wedding comes from religion concept, if you're not religious people (atheist/agnostic) and live in western countries, Why bother??? I know there is _marriage without religious content carried out by a government institution_. But, what for? commitment? prevent breakups? parenthood? There are so many marriage failures out there. In certain (eastern) countries yes the procedures are needed for having a child at least.
Anone Kun Social structure and balance in the household? Can't have people screwing each other and having kids with a bunch of short termers.
In Islam .. wedding have to be simple not 1 million the table...
But the way the pricing discussed in the video talk about how the economic runs the wedding industry. their'S nothing on religion here...
1:46 Unless you are Ross Geller
In traditional Kiwi (New Zealand) fashion, when I get married, I'd probably just have a small Church or outdoors wedding, and as for food, maybe we could just do a BYO kinda thing in which the guests just bring their own food and have kind of a shared lunch sorta thing.
I heard couples who have more expensive weddings also are more likely to get a divorce.
Wow it just perfect in my opinion. In my culture wedding should be big and fancy. It has to be show the wealth of both families. Thats just sad.
That's why I'm eloping and spending the money saved on an amazing vacation and maybe a down payment for a house.
Pssh please have y'all seen a brown wedding? At least costs 3x more than the ones in this video.
+Sam Saad As a brown person, it is of a great deal of shame that our culture is so fixated on appearances. Can't just invite the maybe 100 people you like, it has to be the 500 you see once every 3 years.
SpadesHeart I agree. I hate how loud and extravagant our weddings are. I find weddings like the one in the video are so sophisticated and they only invite close friends and family.
+Sam Saad A brown wedding?
+Nido Hime Middle and south east Asian. Heck maybe just Asian in general
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weddings aren't expensive....people choose to blow too much cash because they aren't being realistic.
In India an average wedding costs around 65k and lasts for 2-3 days.We usual have around 300-500 guests, because it is a once in a lifetime event (divorce is very very rare) which is meant to be enjoyed with all family members and have a good time.
Got married in church, reception in my parents backyard and bought my dress second hand for $500. Catering from a local restaurant around $400 at most. We ordered flowers from Sam’s club and my mom made the cake. Most expensive cost was the photographer. You can do it for cheaper and it will still be a beautiful day if you don’t buy into the hoopla of it all. There is a correlation between wedding cost and success of the marriage that the more you spend you’re more likely to split up later because you may have prioritized the wrong thing. Everyone’s different but I loved our wedding day and simply focusing on our love for eachother and be surrounded by our favorite people! 💓
Wedding is not expensive...people makes it expensive...by showing off to others...I got married in less than 500$