- See the book on Amazon (affiliate): amzn.to/3XEmOaY - 9-day mini-email class on positive communication for leaders: www.alexanderlyon.com/free-resources
Thank you. I can see you both are committed to helping people improve and understand each other better. The fact that you are offering all of this for free says a lot.
Love the close and open ended questions topic! As a teenager i was very shy, so a therapist explained me the difference between close and open questions. It's crazy how you can change a conversation and be replied from "It's a good movie." to "You know, a think that..." 😃. Also i was with a cousin who know about wines, So i was from "Is this wine good", to "How the wine is made?"
00:57 🤔 Questions engage and lead to concrete outcomes, making them powerful tools for leaders. 02:24 💡 Asking questions enhances leadership perception, effectiveness, work relationships, and employee motivation. 03:51 🔄 Open-ended questions foster deeper understanding and connections compared to close-ended ones. 05:46 💬 Open-ended questions prompt engaging conversations, fostering deeper connections and discovery. 07:11 🌟 Committing to asking open-ended questions can transform interactions, fostering understanding and enriching relationships.
Thank you for sharing with us amazing knowledge. In fact, asking questions gives the person power and control, which we might all love. We love to be asked our opinion or our thoughts that make us feel valuable.
Hi from Argentina! Well when I arrive at home I always said to my daughter; How was your day? and she ask the same. During the weekend, I like to ask about dreams; so during the breakfast the question is" tell me something about your dream😅..it is very funny start the day wiht crazy stories😊
I love the idea of stacking questions as a way to expand your open ended question... something like this for my kids... "When you think back to your day at school, what was the most exciting thing you learned. It's open ended, "what was the most exciting thing you learned," but it also puts them in time and space by starting with, "When you think back..." Almost always, the response is more thoughtful and allows for deeper interaction then the simple what did you learn in school today?
I have to say I've been struggling with open-ended questions for a long time now. I feel it's never the right time to ask these because everyone is busy and answering them takes too much time. At the office people are busy. On break, you only have 15 min, or maybe 30-40 minutes to eat and do your thing, but still, not enough to really talk so much. At work events, people want to mingle and talk to multiple people, you don't want to be the clingy person asking them all these questions. Any advice on this? Additionally, whenever I tried asking more in-depth questions and we went down that road, I feel our conversations never went over professional topics anymore, which is also not ideal. What is the right balance? How do you talk about more personal things to get to know the people you work with, but also bring it back to business when it is necessary to do so? Any advice would be greatly appreciated! I'm curious if anyone else has had this conundrum and found a solution.
What would you do or try? If you knew you couldn’t fail? I heard it somewhere but it is always been a wonderful question. I’ve used to explore peoples goals and personality.
Possible Q’s: What are you most proud of accomplishing this year? What goals do you hope to achieve in the coming year? How can I help you meet your goals?
The exact open-ended questions that typically start with how, what, why, coincidentally is mentioned in never split the difference by Chris Voss. It's the exact words, just point that out.
I haven't read that book but I've heard good things about. Those are the classic words used to form open-ended questions. I'm not surprised Voss mentioned them. They are great words to get people to open up.
Julien and I have known each other since graduate school almost 25 years ago. We've published together before this book and we used to teach at the same college.
Out of all of the communication happening (counting all questions and all statements), only 6% are questions. The rest are statements. But 60% of everything we say is in response to questions. In other words, questions drive the vast majority of discussions rather than people making statements. By asking questions, you are leading the conversation. I hope that helps.
- See the book on Amazon (affiliate): amzn.to/3XEmOaY
- 9-day mini-email class on positive communication for leaders: www.alexanderlyon.com/free-resources
Thank you. I can see you both are committed to helping people improve and understand each other better. The fact that you are offering all of this for free says a lot.
Thank you. We are on a mission!
"How did you feel about that?" is a powerful conversation hack. It outright surprises some people because it's a question that's rarely asked.
Yes, that question can lead to new directions. It's a go-to question for therapists.
Love the close and open ended questions topic! As a teenager i was very shy, so a therapist explained me the difference between close and open questions. It's crazy how you can change a conversation and be replied from "It's a good movie." to "You know, a think that..." 😃. Also i was with a cousin who know about wines, So i was from "Is this wine good", to "How the wine is made?"
Great examples!
00:57 🤔 Questions engage and lead to concrete outcomes, making them powerful tools for leaders.
02:24 💡 Asking questions enhances leadership perception, effectiveness, work relationships, and employee motivation.
03:51 🔄 Open-ended questions foster deeper understanding and connections compared to close-ended ones.
05:46 💬 Open-ended questions prompt engaging conversations, fostering deeper connections and discovery.
07:11 🌟 Committing to asking open-ended questions can transform interactions, fostering understanding and enriching relationships.
Thank you.
I teach english conversation as a second language. I use this method all the time. Thank you for the new ideas.
It feels like a blessing that I found your channel, thank you for the great wisdom packed videos
Thank you for sharing with us amazing knowledge.
In fact, asking questions gives the person power and control, which we might all love.
We love to be asked our opinion or our thoughts that make us feel valuable.
it is really helpful to hear to such a good idea like this, make me realize the importance of asking questions .
This is brilliant, and incredibly simple. I’m often struggling to ask good conversational questions and this will help a lot. Thank you!!
Glad it was helpful.
Yes these teachings are fantastic i learnt so much from you guys thank you
Hi from Argentina! Well when I arrive at home I always said to my daughter; How was your day? and she ask the same. During the weekend, I like to ask about dreams; so during the breakfast the question is" tell me something about your dream😅..it is very funny start the day wiht crazy stories😊
I love the idea of stacking questions as a way to expand your open ended question... something like this for my kids... "When you think back to your day at school, what was the most exciting thing you learned. It's open ended, "what was the most exciting thing you learned," but it also puts them in time and space by starting with, "When you think back..." Almost always, the response is more thoughtful and allows for deeper interaction then the simple what did you learn in school today?
That's a great idea!
Thanks!
Great questions I ask:
"What is Your GIFT/Talent?"
"What is Your Purpose?"
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Excellent!
Thank you for sharing this!
My pleasure!
I have to say I've been struggling with open-ended questions for a long time now. I feel it's never the right time to ask these because everyone is busy and answering them takes too much time. At the office people are busy. On break, you only have 15 min, or maybe 30-40 minutes to eat and do your thing, but still, not enough to really talk so much. At work events, people want to mingle and talk to multiple people, you don't want to be the clingy person asking them all these questions.
Any advice on this?
Additionally, whenever I tried asking more in-depth questions and we went down that road, I feel our conversations never went over professional topics anymore, which is also not ideal.
What is the right balance? How do you talk about more personal things to get to know the people you work with, but also bring it back to business when it is necessary to do so?
Any advice would be greatly appreciated! I'm curious if anyone else has had this conundrum and found a solution.
Thanks for the content!
Right question at the right time.
Congratulations professor
This changed my everyone give this a million likes
my personal favorite, "what excites you most about your life right now?"
Excellent question!
What would you do or try? If you knew you couldn’t fail? I heard it somewhere but it is always been a wonderful question. I’ve used to explore peoples goals and personality.
Good!
Possible Q’s: What are you most proud of accomplishing this year? What goals do you hope to achieve in the coming year? How can I help you meet your goals?
Great examples!
one possible question : what skill do you want to master?
Great example. Thank you!
What has been the most rewarding experience in your career so far, and why?
Hello my dear teacher how've you been today? 😊😊
The exact open-ended questions that typically start with how, what, why, coincidentally is mentioned in never split the difference by Chris Voss. It's the exact words, just point that out.
I haven't read that book but I've heard good things about. Those are the classic words used to form open-ended questions. I'm not surprised Voss mentioned them. They are great words to get people to open up.
A lovely interview. Lots to learn.
My questions 😊
Where did you meet him first ?
What lead you to this interview ?
Julien and I have known each other since graduate school almost 25 years ago. We've published together before this book and we used to teach at the same college.
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What would prevent you from doing that?
Hello Alexander how you have doing does you remember me who am I.
What does the fact "Only 6% of all acts of communication are questions... 60% of what we say is in response to questions." really mean ?
Out of all of the communication happening (counting all questions and all statements), only 6% are questions. The rest are statements. But 60% of everything we say is in response to questions. In other words, questions drive the vast majority of discussions rather than people making statements. By asking questions, you are leading the conversation. I hope that helps.
Wait. What was the question?
I missed it too! Ha!
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