when you feel like you have nothing to offer, you can do this...
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- Опубликовано: 7 сен 2024
- This is something I've been thinking a lot about.
I feel that since I have experienced it myself, I have a unique perspective on this.
I hope to god it is useful or helpful in some way because I am very well aware of how serious of a subject this is.
This is just one tiny peice of the puzzle. it wont solve all your problems. But I do beleive it will shake the inner belief enough for you to start questioning if it is actually true.
Obviously, please go to a professional if you are dealing with feelings of worthlessness.
I just felt like I need to share what I've learned for anyone seeking answers here on youtube.
Hi guys! I am overwhelmed by the love!! Thank you so much! I was terrified to post this one because I only want my vidoes be helpful and I didn't know if this one would help other people as much as it has helped me. But I see from the comments that it is having a positive impact!
If you believe in this message, if it has helped you and if you think more people should see it... please leave a comment and share the video, this will help the video reach more people who may need to hear it.
I love, love, love reading all your comments and feedback. Interacting with you is my favorite part of all of this.
There is any way that I can contact you? I wish I could talk to you
@@melisma8747 Dear Melisma. I understand your wish. I would like to talk to Myra, too. Probable we're not the only ones. Just imagine 112000 followers wanting to talk to Myra. She just would't get any more sleep at night. So I'm happy we can't reach her. But you can always ask Myra some questions in the comments. I'm pretty sure she will answer you.
Heyy, just listening to you has changed my life, I just celebrated my 38 bday and I've genuinely believed in friendship and love all my life. Hope is a good word and holding on to it has been the most helpful in times where I deeply felt the need for someone, there's nights where I wish I had conversations with someone or woke up to someone I would love everyday. I have often felt that I have so much love to give yet people don't even notice me.
Hey Myra. I get you, I used to feel like that but not anymore, it is hard, because we are humans. So I decided to be important to me and not to others. Greetings from Lima Peru.
Hi, Myra! You are always looking for suitable background music for your videos. An hour ago the Austrian artist and scientist Clemens Arvay uploaded his piano pièce "The old willow" on his channel. I felt so free to tell him you might like it and might perhaps want to use it. He plays the piano in the forest. He knows all about health and healing people. If the two of you worked together you'd be the most sympathetic team in the world. I'd be happy if you listened to Clemens Arvay: "The Old willow". Have a nice Sunday, Myra.
"If you have nothing to give, give a smile." That is SO powerful, because something as simple as that can set off a whole chain of great things. It can make a bunch of people feel good, which increases positive energy, which comes around back to you. Lots of wisdom here.
Thank you ♡ yes, I have so many memories of someone smiling at me and it changed me so much
And a Helping HAND... Thanks for reminding me Julie m... WelderX
And I think smiling physiologically makes you feel good.
That made my cry. I was already at the verge of tears.
I've had social anxiety for so long, i've pretty much forgotten how to smile, honestly.
Honesty is a scarce resource in RUclips.
Keep delivering :)
I always strive to be authentic and genuine!
One of my biggest frustrations is how fake people are on RUclips and I want to fly in the face of that!
I had in 2014 brain bleed and 4 brain operations the last operation i went to a coma for about two months and one day doctors asked my now ex wife and my parents to say thier good byes and disconnect me from life....i came back on the last day....so they put hold on everything and i guess they were all happy :) i was born from that day again and had to learn to walk and talk and much more..i battle with it all and today i won it all never the less i lost my wife and family down the road and end up being all by myself.....i left the country and now i am starting new life once again..... it has been rough ride but am doing oke. Smile is a powerfull act of kindness and cost you nothing.....so give it up and recive a lot more.
uau not easy at all, you are kinda of a warrior. Wish you the best luck for the rest of your life!!
I remember a saying from a while ago that I've just been reminded of. ' if you see someone who has run out of smiles, give them one of yours.'
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“Any gift, however small, improves the condition of humanity. You cannot see this, of course, but it is true because it is an aggregate. It is like a scale. If evil and oppression are weighing down the scale completely on one side, you don’t have something as great as that to counteract it, to balance the scale, to offset the overwhelming dominance of evil and circumstance, of ignorance, of oppression, of poverty and so forth. When you add to the other part of the scale something small, it seems to have no effect, but when others add something small, sooner or later, in time, the scale is balanced, and beyond this it moves in favor of what is true and natural for human beings-which is to be united with others, which is to be creative, which is to be in service to their families and cultures in the world, to preserve the world, to take care of people, to be inspired and to have the glow of an inner life within themselves. Even when circumstances look bad, even in the face of failure and defeat, the power of Knowledge is within you.”
If you resonate with this quote, I recommend exploring The New Message from God free online along with the work of Marshall Vian Summers.
Thank you
Your beauty is not only outside, but also inside, hidden in the kindness and care you have for others. You are beautiful
Did you say that to Bulma too
@@northerncaliman9295 ahhh hahhaha
@@northerncaliman9295 whos bulma?
@@pandacake7661 Vegeta's wife in Dragon Ball Z
My father always smiled at me. I often wondered why. But now that I may listen to you, Myra, l'm beginning to understand. He had such a warm, friendly smile.
I’ve been feeling this a lot lately!! I appreciate this 💛
Same
Sending love ❤
@@myrawest ♥️
@@myrawest sending love to you too ❤️
Sweet and lovely
The world is so beautiful because it got Myra in it. 💖
Thank you so much Myra, this has helped me fight depression another day. Really means a lot that you posted this because for over ten years now I have felt I have nothing to give. You are appreciated and love your smile sister🤍
Sending so much love your way!! ❤❤❤
Everyone has something to offer. Meaning and value is in the eye of the beholder. Giving a smile is like lighting a candle than just cursing the darkness.
I think most people have felt similarly at one time or another. I think it's great that this fella is showing up to your group gatherings. He's making an effort to get himself out there which is a huge step and kudos to you for reaching out to him despite his behavior. Keep reaching out and sharing. You have such a beautiful soul. Love ya, Myra! ....and don't forget to smile. :)
I agree! It is super brave to keep coming even though you battle those thoughts every time!
So many people struggle in life
Yes.
@@myrawest ♥️
Myra words can’t describe how much you have helped me, I am literally you as a guy in every aspect. Even the same age. You’re a beautiful soul thank you very much for being you.
I love this. We're kindred spirits. Thank you so much ♡♡♡
@@myrawest I also observe how I develope a little crush on you while following your channel for a while :-)
Much love!
I love this thought. Sometimes I find it hard to show genuine interest for someone because my social anxiety makes me focus so much on myself and how I think I appear to others. But I will try this and maybe I'll get better at it over time :-)
I totally get that. I have social anxiety too and it is incredibly difficult for me to focus on the other person sometimes.
But I do beleive it gets better the more we do it. It is like anything else the brain has to learn and practice.
It definitely hurts to feel inadequate or excluded, or like you have nothing to offer to others. But having someone that makes you feel included or is genuinely interested in you really means the world. It can change a person's life, seriously. Even if it's just one person.
I agree completely
Oh, so pleased to see you back. Well done you for sharing!
Smile. It's crazy how that one simple action is so hard to do lately.
“Even god doesn't propose to judge a man till his last days, why should you and I?” - Dale Carnegie
Make one small change week and don't go back on it. After a year's worth of small changes every week your life will be very different and you will barely even recognize yourself when from when you started.
Good places to start are meditation/mindfulness/eating healthier/exercising more/cutting down on screens/learning about the human body and the science behind mental health. I truly believe if anyone implements everything on this list one thing at a time they can get themselves out of the deepest depression possible.
You're terribly single, you say. I am, too. Isn't it wonderful that we can share this treeible feeling? When I walk through the "glowing" forest I'm so happy about nature's beauty. At the same time I'm feeling so lonely. That hurts. But then I think: "Myra feels the same lonelyness, too." Sharing this same loneliness with you, Myra, is a good feeling. I'm sure many of your fans can relate... 💝
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@Wolfgang Sprenger I'm not crying... you are...
You understand lonely hearts, Myra. And you know how to heal them with your smile. ❤️
you've touched on a key point there.. wish someone told me this earlier. god bless you
This is a great reminder that most people want to be listened to, so just lend an ear and a smile. A warm, empathetic smile is invaluable.
Biggest FOMO for me is the Fear Of Missing Out one of your videos, Myra‼️😘
Hard to smile when you are stressed out/tensed in social situations. I already try to be nice to people, to the point that I think I seem even more weird. Often I'm not able to have normal conversations with people. You are right that we feel to have to give something to people, that's a side-effect of low self-esteem.
Either way I believe like you that being nice is a good start to try to interact with people and it's better than doing/speaking nothing at all. (It's also a good character trait to keep to a healthy extent) But you still have to be careful, so you don't get exploited and don't stop building and trying to be able to show your real personality. Many people won't respect shy and kind people.
And letting the other person speak more is also a good advice, even though even listening to people often also makes me nervous, since in some way or another I have to react to what the other person was saying.
Totally relate. Add hearing loss which is even worse in group settings and everything becomes even that much more awkward and stressful. Feel like an idiot asking people to speak up or repeat themselves, especially if they have an accent (my children's Dad/family are Jamaican). Can't afford hearing aids. I've done so many solo trips and events that has gotten boring. Just feel blah and unmotivated anymore.
Thank you very much for your advice!!
I have been a lone wolf pretty much all my life. Always felt more comfortable to stand on the outside and watch other people interact rather than join the group.
I think a lot of time I scare people of because they mistake my serious expression for grumpiness.
Your advice is very helpful.😊
Messages are usually written in the condensation of rain soaked windows but only some of us can read. The background reminds me of a famous painter btw. God bless
im almost crying watching. wow its really like you read my mind. im depressed for 20 years, always anger, frustrated, upset, never no one doctor helped me. looks i always have to offer something(materially) so i can get i little bit of credit. in this process i lost a lot. i know im important but i cant feel that. i will subscribe, tks. you look very positive.
I endured trauma and have a mental illness. We know pain. Stay strong. ❤️
Myra, thank you for sharing of your goodness.
OMG - I JUST bought that book last week! I also bought the Power of Now. I’ve noticed my mental health and social skills plummet in the past ten years or so. I’d love to feel better and find it a bit easier to talk to people. I’m very shy and have no friends and am always anxious. Really hope these books help.
So beautifull
Yes
Very true
Thank you
You are "worthy"
Whomever you are
Smiling can lift mountains
Much love
thank you so much, i'm gonna start a new job and i want to do better. i quit my first job feeling that i didn't deserve it, becoming a regular employee. i'm trying again.
I had a great group of friends that I slowly stopped seeing because I felt worthless to them. And i wanted time to do my own things. But that was 5 years ago and I still havent talked to any of them since. Ughhhh.
Hmmm. I totally understand that. Feeling worthless every time you hang out with friends. I hope you'll delve into this and challenge that belief as not true.
Reach out and ask them how they are? Maybe your assumptions aren't true. Is 5 years enough time to do your own things? In that 5 years did you form new group of friends then?
@@lavans06 I didn't do shit. I finished my degree, worked, worked out, and played video games. Didn't make new friends, in fact I hardly saw anyone I didn't have to see. I shut myself out from the world and I hate myself for it. But i'm working on it. I've woken up this year, my mindset's changed drastically. I spent my whole life hiding, escaping...but i don't want to hide anymore. Maybe Ill reach out to them when I'm ready, but fuck...5 years is a long time.
@@Oh_its_Mike my dude, I hear you on "I spent my whole life hiding, escaping" - but in my case it's social anxiety / approach anxiety lol but damn. Meeting a few folks pre-pandemic and managing to keep in touch is what keeps me going for the tomorrows.
This is exactly the story of my life and the older I get the more true it feels. Being in a group and feeling like you do not have enough to add value to the conversation is depressing. Well, you could be really good at one thing (especially at your job) but still have imposter syndrome about everything else.
There are kinds of women that will come and go in a man's life that stop him right in his tracks and they end up leaving a mark on his soul for the rest of his life. My intuition knows you are definitely that kind of woman.
You're soul feels so kind to me, so warm, and so beautiful that you have to fight back the tears, it genuinely breaks my heart. It's that kind of beauty that's so intense, and so gentle, that no matter what, it cannot be resisted. it will inevitably penetrate through any armor someone may have guarding over their hearts. What a great gift to give to others.
A true inspiration that you are indeed for all to see, you're exemplifying femininity in it's purest art form. Thank you.
Let us all keep giving the smile that's above all other smiles, that genuine smile, forever and ever. :)
Oh my gosh. Wow. Thank you so much. This is incredibly encouraging to me
"Only after loosing everything, you are free to do anything."
That helps sometimes when you get in the right mindset. Most of the time, it all comes down to what fiction writer Carlos Castaneda said on one of his books:
You have to stop your internal noise. In this case, it means trying to quiet down, or more likely, calm down your internal voice.
All of this works if you are the person in the corner, brooding.
For you to stop feeling you are worthless, you first need to find your worth. But to find your worth firts you need to stop battling against yourself.
One way is the one Myra (the OP) says in this video.
Another way is saying to yourself "ok, right now I have nothing to give, but at the same time I have nothing to loose. That means I can try whatever I want and fail as many times as I need until I find what I'm good at." And remember you are going to fail, but keep doing stuff, keep trying new stuff, specialy stuff where you have to create or build something. Try them for long enough (3 to 6 months, minimum) so you actually get to know a bit of what you are doing.
I know this takes time and discipline, but at the very least, it will show you what you don't want or what you are not good at, and that's half the battle.
But the other perk is better: it will let you know other people that are also getting to know themselves through learning something new.
And if you are thinking "but I already know i'm a failure, why bother?", then think to yourself "why not? What else do I have to loose?".
Hence quote from the begining.
This has helped me through more than 10 years of cronical depression. Hope it helps you fellas too.
We'll give it a shot.😗
Thanks for sharing that the kids teenagers needed to hear this so I sent that to both of my children
Wow. I'm so honored you shared it with people....
I really like your channel ❤️, I have no friends and am lonely everyday as I don’t fit in but these videos do keep me going
Your smile gives me everything I need. You saved my day once again! 🌞😘
Thank you Myra for turning your experiences into compassion, wisdom, kindness and love and for choosing to pass it along to the world. You inspire, and I will do my best to pay it forward! Thank you for making the world a better place, one step at a time!
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That's a wonderful idea, Myra!😊💙💙💙💙💙💙👍. If I see a bird in the sky, I will close my eyes and humming a music tune from Jan Hammer.⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐👍
Sometimes we have plenty to give, we just don't know it. The way you speak, the way you try to help other people shows your character. There is true beauty in your heart.
You are a very special young Lady Myra. You are beautiful on the outside but more important in the inside. You care about others and give good advise on positive things to others. Whoever you end up marrying in the future will have a true gem!
Whenever I walk through the forest and the sun is shining on this fresh green I remember your words, Myra, when you said: "Oh look, the forest is glowing." And then you whispered: "It is so beautiful!" And then I smile and I'm happy. 🌞🙋🏻♂️
This is so sweet ♡
@@myrawest In your sunset video, Myra, you said: "I feel this is what living life is all about. This is how I want to live." And whenever I listen to these words of yours I am so happy and I smile. I then know there is someone in the world who feels just like me. And when you whisper: "It is so quiet" I feel this moment of perfect bliss. There is so much human warmth in your voice that matches the perfect harmony of nature. Perhaps you could whisper more often in your videos. It makes your audience feel even closer to you and creates an atmosphere of intimacy. In such moments you make me feel it is worth while being alive. It is good to be alive after all. I'm so lucky to have found your channel ! Listening to you I'm learning so much about myself and how I should live. I feel less lonely because in my thoughts and in my heart you're always by my side. And I'm sure I'm not the only one. Lonelyness no longer hurts that much with your voice in my ears. With you the world is a much better place. Thank you Myra. ❤️
One great thing about diving into nature is that you get to watch animals. Eye contact with the smallest mammal, or sometimes just seeing a little bird take notice of me and for a brief moment look me straight in the eye, can make me feel lighthearted and more alive.
Thank u 😊 I needed to hear this ❤️
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@@myrawest 🐽
Listening to your beautiful voice always brings a smile on my face. 🦄🤗
There are many things we have that money can not buy 😀 Empathy, Love, Compassion, Kindness, Respect, and our wisdom are just some of them! It’s amazing how you’re sharing yours with others! ✌️❤️ ✊
I feel like I have all the good stuff money can’t buy but I’m very much an introvert and I’m also very shy 🙈
Myra, you say: "I'm so sorry I'm not posting a lot lately." - It is not Christmas every day. And it is not your birthday every day. But when I get a video from you, Myra, that's like Christmas and my birthday on the same day. So please don't worry about not posting enough videos. For me it is enough that I was born once. That is perfectly okay. I need not be born every day. But when you send us something new, Myra, this is like Christmas and our birthday on the same day. Uuhh, I've let the milk cook over on the stove again. Myra, I'm the most terrible fool you've ever met. But I do love you! Oh yes I do ! 🌞💖💕😊😍💜
Grrl, no, I'm so glad YOU'RE here. You're a goddamn light, and I love to see you shine.
This comes from such an authentic place. You are very much needed here. Keep passing along your messages.
Myra: constantly puts out value, puts out a video - about adding value. This is so meta, and I love it! 🤩💖✨
Matt ♡♡♡
Never felt so inspired to go out and smile as right now.
Thank you and have a beautiful day!
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Let us smile away all our sorrows. I think it works. ☺️
You are truly amazing Myra, thank you so much for sharing!
You are my therapy. And you always leave me feeling happy and positive.
Oh my gosh, thank you ♡
Feeling absolutely the same. Take a sympathetic hug from another male. Best wishes and lots of love.
im a quiet person, i smile at people dont complain, speak when spoken too, listen to them with interest, yet i am still bullied about being quiet and avoided more and more each day, today i am dead to everyone outside my tiny family, and with lock down, losing my job, i am totally out of society for good now. i cant deal with it. it feels like a life of solitude and as i get older the more i start to resent others and happier alone
Every morning when I'm get up the sleep i was telling my self to do what she wants and lovely. Thank you From Somalia(East Africa).
Honestly, I think people overlook the gift of being self reliant. If you can take care of yourself, other people don’t have to take care of you. In societal and economic terms this is overlooked for how wonderful that is. Once you can do that you may find you have a little to help another stay on their feet.
I feel these things, I tend to avoid social situations almost always, and now after watching this, I actually feel something within myself that is pleasant and enough for me to want to try and not avoid people. And to think that it was this simple.
Myra who are you! This is great.
Your self awareness is a gift to others Myra.
The grumpy man you talked about demonstrates:
"So as man thinketh so he is"
Also the lighting is gorgeous. Sunkissed golden midwesty farmland and it compliments your hair and skin tone.
Aww thank you! I am so happy all that time being blinded by the sun was worth it! 😊😆
Really enjoy your talk
Thank you!
I understand the Man in the corner.
thank you so much, i am definitely going to keep this in mind every time I feel like this.
Thanks for this. 🙏🏽 I’m on a low and need to see this 🥲
watching you sitting at a serene place and talk itself is soothing.
A new video from Myra West always makes me "smile".
Aww thanks !! 😉
I'm a lot like that fellow in the back corner, and I want to thank you so much for helping me see that. You've kindly given me so much of your time, like when you helped me on android photo settings, and all the times you were just simply kind to me, even though I didn't feel deserving of it. Inside of you, there's a huge loving heart, I really know there is, and it has helped me open my heart. One of my hardest things to do is to simply smile... you taught me to smile. It seems like a simple little thing, but that alone opened up the world for me to explore! I hope you don't mind that, without expectations, obligations, or sexualizations, I open my heart to you and confess that I love you! Hey, what the heck, I might as well love everyone! Maybe then we all can smile unified! (yes you too, the guy in the back, and anyone like you and me... group hug!!!) ...my computer lacks emoji support so: strings of hearts, smiles, and happy things!
This is so sweet. I always feel so encouraged by you. So thank YOU so much! I think you're an excellent writer too!
@@myrawest awww shucks (blushing)💋⚘
I always referred to as a very good and reliable person. But I am alone, 41, worthless, etc. No one needs such people.
A super secret smile, Myra!
What you are sharing may be little, but I believe it is of so much value. Especially because the typical advises people like us get from "normal people", as you said, never work.
I hope you allow me to add something even more little.
"Feeling worthless, sitting in the corner and looking grumpy" accurately describes most of my life. And it hurts so much, but what hurts even more are those times where I know I have something to offer, but I believe no one actually want it from me.
I often find it awkward to smile to people or say "Hi!". Probably because during elementary and middle school i got criticized and laughed at even for smiling or just saying "Hi!".
During my sacred music degree I discovered almost by chance how much better my music lessons were if I just entered the room with a smile. Even no need to say "Hi!"
For a long time I did not realize how often my grumpy face actually put me in a bad starting position even before having the chance of smiling and saying "Hi!" and by that potentially "ruining everything".
This bad starting position often brought other negative feelings and required me to focus on myself in order to somehow "not freak out and run away" making it much more difficult to give a smile or even approach someone.
So if I may just add some little advice from my own experience, avoiding that grumpy face and entering a room with a slightly smiling, positive and open face helps a lot with actually being able to smile and say "Hi!" to someone.
After that comes the awkwardness, but that might be material for another video.
Reaching out to that guy... you are a superhero!
You worry too much about the lighting in your videos, your beautiful soul will shine trough and brighten everything up anyways, the dark days of your viewers included 😊
"If you have nothing to give, give a smile."
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True words
A lot of truth !
Jesus summed it up for me when he said
"Do unto others what you would want done unto you" (treat other people the way you would want to be treated )
So if you like it when people are kind to you , then be kind .
If you like it if someone smiles when they see you , then smile to greet them too.
It works pretty well , unless you're a sociopath 🙈
I agree. Its such a good thing to live by. (Hi Pam 😊❤)
I have learned to watch your videos intentionally. They are so much better when I set aside time to solely watch them. I doubt I will ever be first to comment, but I am okay with that. I think you have hit upon the key to interacting with people. I still consider myself an introvert, but question that as well. A friend asked me how I was able to talk to anyone, how I never met a stranger. My response was that I asked questions and then listened. I didn't turn the conversation toward my topics, I kept with their's. I have been practicing for decades, and now it is a natural thing without much thought. I find that people will, in turn, ask questions back. That allows me plenty of space to discuss my passions as well. Also, I have found that I am giving them something that few people have, an ear that truly listens. People find value in that, and subsequently find value in the listener. My closest friendships started with the simplest of things, genuine interest in what people are saying. Thanks for the video!
I love this comment. Theres so much truth in what you said. And wow, what an honor that you set aside time to watch my videos. Thank you so much. I'll remember you if you comment agian
You're vulnerability gives me hope that there's genuine people in humanity , we all imperfect but the fact that u acknowledge it and u want to do good , I acknowledge it and I applaud u because u are trying to make this hell hole a lil Bit better , so THANk YOU FOR TRYING ❤️
You..... you are a gift from up above. I think you are the only person that I have ever heard speak this truth
Dear Myra,
You know everything about life that is important. I agree with you on every single point. Keep on sending us your messages. They go right into our hearts. We all love you, Myra. You make all the difference. 😍😘❣️
Yep! The art of reciprocity heals... express your ever evolving needs, wants and feelings and ask the same for the other person and see if you guys can make a good deal! From that evolving discussion, you can tell stories about your experiences too and the other person may be inclined to do so as well... or perhaps they'll tell you first, especially if you're listening to them. Then you can learn from what they tell you and then you can try and implement it for your own self. So you can also garner self-respect through this way too through these types of external means. I think the general rule is something like this - if you're stuck and suffering too painfully inside, reach out and if too difficult, reach out one 0.001% step or smaller, at a time. And vice versa - if you're stuck and suffering too painfully outside, reach/reflect inward and if too difficult, reach/self-reflect one 0.001% step or smaller, at a time. The idea is to balance your map between your internal information mechanisms and your external information mechanisms so either one doesn't tilt too far/much in one direction whilst also expending the other where, intentionally or unintentionally, you're falling apart or destroying everything and/or taking others down with you (unless you want that, then that's intentional).
I love the light you're bringing to others. Thank you for shining the light.
We're sendling you tons of love from Europe to California ! 🇪🇺💋🇺🇸‼️
Dear Myra
I have watched several of your videos, after watching and commenting on your first one. I have great admiration for your work, and your messages to this world. You truly make this world a better place to live. You are gifted, smart, natural and talented person providing great inspiration to this world. I feel you have found your calling in helping others by sharing your videos. This makes you a true Angel, and if there are Angels in this world, for sure you are one of them. Keep contnueing your beautifull work. The world needs inspiring people like you. Sending a big hug. Kindest regards, Andre
Thank you so much for your kind words.
I know I am following the right path when I make these videos. It feels very purposeful. I know it's part of my calling.
I can relate to that. I've always felt like the person others need to take care of, like a patient. It started in childhood and has been very difficult to shake.
I think we have all felt that way sometimes in our lives. You are a smart girl. A smile and a hug wouldn’t hurt if appropriate. You can’t force people to love you, you can only allow yourself to love. The most important person in your life is you. Self love isn’t easy but once you achieve it then you will be free to help others achieve. Everyone is important and I agree with you as we are all in this together . Hope everyone has a wonderful weekend.
I just receive very helpful pieces of advice from you. The key here is to have a genuine interest in others. Thank you, Myra.
i have felt like an outsider for such a long time. having a history of being bullied and living in a not-so-safe place, it's been hard opening up to others. it's as if I have this fear that someone will provoke me in some way. this has made me avoid and become dismissive towards situations like that. it's also caused me to beat myself up for not living up to anyone's expectations, especially since I desire a sense of acceptance. thank you, myra. thank you for talking about this as this helped me realize what I would now like to directly self-improve.
Hi, I just saw you other video from 2 years ago when you said you have no friends.. Look at you now. So good to see you're feeling better and more secure. May God bless you
When you decribed a behavior i just feeled it. Thanks for the video, that helped me
You are speaking our language, Myra. 😘😍
It’s heartwarming, even when a random person smiles at you. We could probably all be better at showing and having sincere interests in people, but I think that can be difficult when you keep finding people so self-interested/absorbed.😞
Loved the video...❤️
Careful who you smile to. I smiled at a coworker and she took it the wrong way and I was fired. If people don't like you for some reason, you're an enemy. Bitterness and confusion consumed me.
My god Myra, how right you are about this. You might not know it, but you're so motivational and inspiring:)
You have a very empathetic soul Myra. Thank you for being alive :)
I often feel this way too. In a social settings, I think it's important to also approach someone who you may notice acts withdrawn, much like that guy in the corner in the group, to make them feel important and valued. Please keep approaching this guy as you don't realise how important it is for someone recognising him.
This also has a mirror effect on you. Being kind to other people you'll find the majority of the time they will be kind to you. I work face to face customer services and often I'll find that some people may appear aloof or quite stern when you first greet them, then when you smile and ask how they are, how their day is, you start to see that wall coming down and see them in a completely different light and not what your first impression of them was.
Thank you Myra! I needed that reminder! God Bless you ❤️
Thanks going through rough times 🙏 its hard when you feel people just ignore you.
Thank you for sharing this video! I was challenged by this for many years. I have been using some of these steps and its been so helpful for me. 1. I smile in social settings. 2. I always focus on the other person. 3. I listen but do not interupt, I try to nod my head and maintain eye contact. 4. I have a younger person who reports to me at work, I focus on always complimenting her work both one on one and in public meetings. 5. I also want to suggest a plan for remembering names, if you forget someone's name at a social gathering, when asking again, say "oh I meant your last name" 99% of the time they will say both names. This video has so much excellent advice and its been working for me. Thank you always for posting, each time you post its a treasure for me.
Thanks you soo much for posting this!
Whenever i feel lonely and sad i always come here
You always make me feel seen
And heard
It's feels comforting to know someone is out there who feels the same as you
Thanks for your vulnerability!
I have always felt this way.
I always felt like even if i try contribute i will mess it up and people will judge me. And they wouldn't want to be around me
So i always felt like maintaining distance from them, feeling soo lonely and adequate and thinking nobody would want you is heart wrenching feeling!
And admitting this has been always hard for me.
Even commenting this feels like a big step!
But i am trying to work on it.
Your videos surely help me in that ..gives me hope
Thank you alot for that 💜
AWWWWW 😭 This means so much to me to read!! Thank you so much for sharing. It means so much to hear that I can bring comfort or make someone feel seen because that is the only reason I made this channel.... I wanted to help others who struggle with what I struggled with. I always felt so alone and I wanted to make sure others knew they are not struggling alone.
And I want to give hope that things can get better. They really can! You can work on self love and self acceptance every day and over months and years, you become much happier
@@myrawest this channel definitely does that!
All the best to you 💜
You felt* alone yet you had friends at school and been ok with everyone. You are in your prime and you are capable to talk for a reasonable amount of time against camera which makes you not antisocial. I mean you are like top 1/5 by attractivness. Your value* is skyhigh, you just complain too much and overdramatize your parents. People have literally zero friends without ever having any and you still manage to play a victim lol, sounds like toxic behaviour probably unintentional.,but still, to get attention...@@myrawest
I am absolutely everything like this gal,I thought I was missing out,and cannot relate,and now I know am cool ☺️
The man sounds to me as a victim of altruism in full execution. He sees his value to society to be the sacrificial lamb to others, and it is a defeating way to live. If you take a step back and think to yourself "What do I want from life and from the people around me?" and "What would give me the highest form of joy?" Those things are not given by others as a sacrifice, but as desires. What we want *is* what we give. Nobody says to their spouse, "You love me, *selflessly.*" to feel love. They say, "I love you, *selfishly.*" And when we are told that, it is the highest compliment, and we feel loved. It is not our role on this planet to live for others while we are here. When we smile at someone, it is what we feel internally for others, and we communicate to others that we desire their company. It is so simple, yet an extremely powerful human connection.
Don't smile at just anyone. Smile at the people we enjoy the presence of, and tell them with your smile. That is giving and receiving.
you are so honest and thoughtful, I wish more people were like you, great videos and incredible insight !
Be kind. That is all. If we can be kind to each other, we can create a domino effect and make this world a nicer place. Of course, that is all easier said than done. Kindness requires wisdom and wisdom is unfortunately, an asset in short supply.
As some here say: Keep delivering. You're so thoughtful, so touching. (Can't understand why so few views. In fact I do, which is all the more disappointing)
Thank you so much! There is so much more coming!