Radhika Lee - I left him for me

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  • Опубликовано: 11 сен 2024
  • So many times women are told to make life saving decisions for others... but does that work? In this heart shredding talk, Radhika shares that ultimately, she left her abusive marriage for herself and why. What did she do with her first night of freedom?

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  • @adrianlunga4646
    @adrianlunga4646 5 лет назад +129

    I often feel so ashamed at being part of a gender that could cause such pain to other humans. I swore as a teenager that I would NEVER lay a hand on a partner. I hope I never find myself in such a position.

  • @Busia254
    @Busia254 5 лет назад +79

    This story from Radhika made me cry.Am married to a Beautiful kikuyu lady for 16 yrs and I’ve never laid my hands on her.I promise I’ll love & protect her for the rest of my life.

  • @oviebateren
    @oviebateren 5 лет назад +13

    You are an amazing woman! Your resilience is second to none. As a man with 3 daughters and committed all my life to the unquestioned equality of the female gender I applaud you. You are a true hero and living legend in your humility.

  • @bw4423
    @bw4423 5 лет назад +48

    I hear you mummy i stayed for 9 nine years in an abusive marriage when you talk of sleeping without fear i can relate very well ...its not easy to leave ..2 and half years later am getting on my two feet with my kids...God is gracious...Thanks for sharing this story.

    • @jeannedignite5425
      @jeannedignite5425 5 лет назад +3

      Same here Beth!!! I left mine after 10 years of abuse with my 3 kids with no money, just clothes we were standing in. Went to a refuge for women and slept like never before. A year on I am still finding myself and God has been good to me!!! Sending love and hugs

    • @mercymusinguzi3375
      @mercymusinguzi3375 5 лет назад +1

      Ladies your bravery is extraordinary!!!

    • @roseapunda3299
      @roseapunda3299 3 года назад +1

      Proud of you girl❤️

    • @bw4423
      @bw4423 3 года назад

      @@jeannedignite5425 sending love dear ,,we wil overcome,,who is like our God

  • @maureenwangati6593
    @maureenwangati6593 5 лет назад +44

    Those with thumbs down must be abusers themselves. Her story is so well to,d yet so tragic. Thank God for her house help Jane

    • @lizgathu7098
      @lizgathu7098 5 лет назад +2

      Maureen Wangati maybe they’re part of the exes family, just thinking out loud.

    • @perryovercommer1562
      @perryovercommer1562 4 года назад

      Abusers are always like that.. my husband would celebrate when he see on news women who had been killed or abused by their partners saying how they deserved it.

  • @naimaadan1263
    @naimaadan1263 5 лет назад +25

    My mother's story. She has healed and forgiven..i don't think I would be able to do that. These r brave women.

  • @lensaalila6479
    @lensaalila6479 5 лет назад +9

    Wow...You are and you still remain an inspiration to me as a young woman and a teacher,Ms Lee. Thank you for the opportunity you gave me back then at NIS and thank you for believing in me even when i was still in doubt..I still count you as 'my rainbow in the clouds' you know.Keep up the good spirit,the nations greatly awaits.Stay blessed!

  • @richardgaya3965
    @richardgaya3965 4 года назад +2

    Thanks for sharing. We must nevertheless NOT forget for any single moment that out there there are still many Rhadhikas who are still ensnared in similar situations!

  • @WamuyuGatheru
    @WamuyuGatheru 5 лет назад +11

    beautifully told. Beautiful woman. Her courage is big for an Indian woman where family is often one's livelihood and marriage for women so central

  • @MonicaENjeri
    @MonicaENjeri 5 лет назад +6

    Abuse can be physical or emotional BUT the underlying word is ABUSE!!!
    I don't allow abuse of any kind,i might not know the right channels to handle but if I can walk, then walk away without looking back if I can't I warn you and block you outright without fear or worry, you simply don't exist in my life

  • @laokwatta
    @laokwatta 5 лет назад +23

    I can so relate with your story, and after 19 years now trying to find my purpose.

  • @faithmigwi2008
    @faithmigwi2008 5 лет назад +9

    The lowest ebb is the turn of the tide,I walked out of that kind of a marriage five years ago without a dime and two kids now we are better off,Surely God will never forsake his children...thank you for sharing,women suffer a lot sometimes torn apart to leave or to stay for the sake of the kids, its painful. One can never understand unless you've been there.

    • @zubedakenei896
      @zubedakenei896 5 лет назад +1

      May God bless and protect you and your children.

  • @gloriamutoni5137
    @gloriamutoni5137 5 лет назад +12

    "True love is not one that kills you"..word

  • @rosewafula2756
    @rosewafula2756 5 лет назад +10

    The sleep that first time after you leave an abusive marriage....my goodness... I resonate with that so so much ....

  • @maggymm7302
    @maggymm7302 5 лет назад +18

    These stories.. makes me scared of marriage jaman.. dah. Mungu nibariki na ndoa salama.

    • @lifetobelived9102
      @lifetobelived9102 5 лет назад +1

      Don't be scared. Just be your healthiest self by taking care of your mind and body and it will help you make the right choice. For me therapy helps me balance out my decisions.
      I chose my ex husband because he was a good man with a kind heart but he also had emotional trauma from growing up in Iraq. He used alcohol to numb the pain and he would not go get treatment. I did stay too long and it became an emotional burden. The key is that if a relationship is not in your best interest leave the relationship whether it be a love relationship or a friendship. . A relationship should not always be hard work. There should be at least 80% good times. A dating coach I listen to say don't judge a man how he was at the first 30 days of your relationship but the last 30 days. He says men should do the same.
      My parents were together for over 50 years. They were best friends as well as husband and wife. What I am looking for now is a strong friend relationship with love/sex as the icing on the cake.

  • @rayrayndiema
    @rayrayndiema 5 лет назад +2

    A standing ovation for you and all women who have been in your situation and a prayer for that Hope that met you that day for those who are going through this. And yes, God's conversations through meditation in Him bring forth the most amazing of Fruits!!

  • @ireneatieno3197
    @ireneatieno3197 5 лет назад +24

    Love should nurture and nourish! Thank you for this!

  • @wilfredkibiti8847
    @wilfredkibiti8847 5 лет назад +3

    I'm so. .. proud of myself Coz I've been married for 12 years now blessed with Two Girls n I've never Hit my wife. Peace in marriage is the way to go 🙏

  • @felixsang7777
    @felixsang7777 4 года назад +3

    one day i will tell my story too

  • @janicemugz1952
    @janicemugz1952 5 лет назад +11

    Out of your pain something beautiful was born.. Thanks for the encouragement.

  • @gracejohns6108
    @gracejohns6108 5 лет назад +1

    True love nourishes your body and nature your soul.. Very inspiring glad you developed self-love and left. Very inspiring. Real men should never violate women.

  • @vanesaowuor7587
    @vanesaowuor7587 5 лет назад +3

    What an abhorrent situation that needs not to be endured by any human being. Albeit you took so long to leave, but you eventually did. I salute you for you are such a strong woman

  • @samkimani5426
    @samkimani5426 5 лет назад +10

    Sorry for what you went through. You are a courageous lady. Your decision led you to your purpose.

  • @faizaosman8496
    @faizaosman8496 5 лет назад +11

    Am so proud of u and we are all glad that u came out victorious

  • @thesilverliningpodcast
    @thesilverliningpodcast 5 лет назад +4

    Such an inspiring story. Lee is truly a strong woman!

  • @jesloi.a8391
    @jesloi.a8391 5 лет назад +3

    Mum I salute you for your love for our children. I have discovered why you love us so much.
    I do conquer with you on frustrations you went through.
    God bless for you.

  • @mercymusinguzi3375
    @mercymusinguzi3375 5 лет назад +1

    Anyone going through an abusive relationship please leave now!!! You only owe yourself and your children an explanation...and that explanation is choosing life for you and them.

  • @pauldiaz8335
    @pauldiaz8335 5 лет назад +5

    anyone who attended NIS or is a parent at NIS ...we appreciate you Madam Lee

  • @ZawadiBirya
    @ZawadiBirya 5 лет назад +4

    Mrs. Lee is such an amazing person.

  • @johnjimngugi6053
    @johnjimngugi6053 5 лет назад +4

    Mama you are strong...your marriage breakdown was just a blessing in disguise..Thanks for sharing

    • @wangugithui502
      @wangugithui502 5 лет назад +2

      You are blessed of the Lord. Your suffering was not without gain. God put you to test and you came out a strong. Thanks for sharing and making us strong.

  • @zaharafatma507
    @zaharafatma507 5 лет назад +8

    Am so proud of u Radhika. Keep inspiring

  • @willhector9478
    @willhector9478 5 лет назад +2

    Life is a journey and everyone has their paths so let us choose wisely. Thank you for this powerful message of inspiration.

  • @rankzkate
    @rankzkate 5 лет назад +8

    This is sad. Glad you came out alive

  • @faithinchrist8078
    @faithinchrist8078 5 лет назад +1

    Who is cutting onions in here...
    So inspirational, God bless her

  • @genovevamurorunkweri981
    @genovevamurorunkweri981 5 лет назад +12

    Honestly with all due respect if a person is watching this waiting while you are getting abused is not a good advice,God will always back you up when you call on His name don't stay in a violent because you may never live to tell the story..

    • @Whenlifehappens40
      @Whenlifehappens40 5 лет назад +3

      you are so right ..others have not lived to tell the story coz they stayed a day too long . please leave God will provide and take care of you and you will live to testify. don't wait a few days or weeks or months ..save yourself !!!!

    • @senges6751
      @senges6751 5 лет назад +2

      I left an abusive marriage though I waited long. Leave the very moment it starts.

  • @judemazho9612
    @judemazho9612 5 лет назад +8

    Many people have piles and piles of hurts of life. Most of the times they have to keep feeding those demons in the name of revenge. That man who try to kill his own wife, he is not alone he is tormented by revenge spirits.

  • @hendricaokondo1476
    @hendricaokondo1476 5 лет назад +2

    great work well done for you hard work and courage Radhika

  • @rosallikethiskeepitupevans297
    @rosallikethiskeepitupevans297 5 лет назад +3

    Sad story ,
    the words flow is fabulous

  • @lizgathu7098
    @lizgathu7098 5 лет назад +2

    Thank you so much for sharing your story. I’ve learnt a lot.

  • @dorothyokoth209
    @dorothyokoth209 5 лет назад +2

    I am glad you found yourself finally.

  • @eileenanampiu2243
    @eileenanampiu2243 5 лет назад +3

    Shalom and God's comfort my sister.

  • @maggiembaluka9573
    @maggiembaluka9573 5 лет назад +1

    Such a moving and inspiring story...

  • @maxinemakena
    @maxinemakena 5 лет назад

    Well done Radhika! Keep going and trust God for everything!

  • @eileenanampiu2243
    @eileenanampiu2243 5 лет назад +4

    May the Lord our God heal the wounds of your soul in the matchless name of Jesus Christ

  • @thesstorytellerspace5061
    @thesstorytellerspace5061 Год назад

    The employers who paid Radhika's deposit and advance for the house she moved into... STARS ⭐

  • @akinyiokeyo4618
    @akinyiokeyo4618 4 года назад

    Wisdom galore.Thank you.

  • @maureenwm
    @maureenwm 5 лет назад +12

    I couldn't help but notice that she mentioned that she had to hide in the smelly staff toilets, I hope your staff toilets are clean now that you own a school.

  • @vickykamungele4934
    @vickykamungele4934 5 лет назад +1

    You are brave.
    Thank you for sharing.

  • @maureenw7678
    @maureenw7678 5 лет назад +9

    You are brave.

    • @irenemapenzi8097
      @irenemapenzi8097 5 лет назад

      This is my story told to the end. I'm encouraged as my story will end on a high note.

  • @maryamjey6340
    @maryamjey6340 5 лет назад

    What a strong Lady... Mmmh My Allah protect girls n women in our society's. We are the weakest.

  • @josephinekoki5376
    @josephinekoki5376 5 лет назад +5

    U r strong mama.

  • @murugafrancis1445
    @murugafrancis1445 5 лет назад +2

    hii story ya kuchapa mabibi watu hawajai acha?

  • @lydyaomondi6929
    @lydyaomondi6929 5 лет назад

    Thank you

  • @sarahnyambura1634
    @sarahnyambura1634 5 лет назад

    😭😭😭😭😭

  • @hanniewangari6908
    @hanniewangari6908 5 лет назад +2

    Your pacing is disturbing

    • @beeb4466
      @beeb4466 5 лет назад

      Why? It helps stay calm. It helpsbalanxe the tears for me.

  • @katenjoroge
    @katenjoroge 5 лет назад

    😭😭😭😭