Lindsay Jenney I think the reasoning, that desperate mothers wouldn`t abandon the babies, if he didn`t provide a place to put the babies, is flawed. As was shown in the documentary, they try to stop the mothers and talk them out of it, and some come back after a while and change their minds. What`s the alternative? It`s naive to think that the women wouldn`t get rid of the babies in some other way.
Maybe some of you are confused by my post. I support the pastor and his work. The single mothers in korea facebook group does not. I was doing a charity drive of diapers for the pastor and was kicked out of the unwed mothers group bc i was helping a man that they believe is harming the orphans. Its a long story and has to do with these orphans not having registered birth certs bc the mothers dont register the birth. This causes SERIOUS problems for that child in the future. The unwed mothers charity group blames the pastor for letting this happen rather than the govt for shuttung out unregistered korean children... they end up not being allowed into public schools or get a bank account or govt recognition as a citizen of their own country. Unwed mother group actively tries to derail and criminalize the pastors efforts.
No matter. This non support has to change. Would people prefer that the babies be abandoned in the streets and left to die!? What the heck is the matter with people? The laws need to change #1 so that every human being has a birth certificate (government) Leave the pastor alone for doing God's work. Use all of that energy to change government laws.
to the other mothers asking how this lady could be a single mom: because she loves her child more than herself and her status in society. How dare you even ask something like that?
unFayemous I agree. Instead of asking why she’s a single mom they need to ask why is the man is being so irresponsible and vile. How could a man abandon his child.
That stigma would impact the child's life too. That's why they do it, The whole thing is disgusting. So irrational to have such pointkess moral standards that do so much harm.
@@eb7446 it is not irrational. the south koreans are a cohesive culture that has not been infiltrated with marxist/communist ideology and they have intact families there. Their culture is much safer and the children are brought up in 2 parent households which benefits everyone. Morality does matter very much. Western society is now failed due to the low morals and breakdown caused by that.
@@1ireneaustin Idealy, raising a child with two parents is best, I totally agree. But the woman didn't have a choice and she raised her son well. Otherwise, he would have ended up in an orphanage... Why trying to find him a new family when he lready has one...? And being raised in a two parents household isn't always perfect...before thinking about wanting a child and what he could bring to you, you should try thinking about what you could give to him... and she gave him a home. The perfect family doesn't exist, you do best with what you have. Western society is far from being perfect but one parent family households are deffinitly not the cause... What are your moralities?? Abandoning a baby?!
Sagar Sagar It's not stupidity. It's a mother's love. They are willing to give up everything they are and everything they have for the sake of their children.
Olivia Brown my mother is a single mom and loves me unconditionally I love her too she's taken care of me and I will also take care of her, I don't know why sugar is so bitter.
It can never be stupidity. Do you know how difficult it can be for adopted children to know that they were given away, even if it was for a good reason? The heartache, the endless wondering and questions about who you really are. Even if your adoptive family are the very best, everyone has a yearning inside them to know who they truly are, who they look like, where their characteristics and attitude comes from. When your parent or parents choose to raise you in spite of the odds stacked against them, you get the chance of growing up with your real family which is a truly wonderful gift.
Hhuhuhuh.... there are tons of confusion going around here! NOOOOO IT'S NOT ABOUT DISCRIMINATION. "Single parent, single child" family is "exempted" from military service; it's a privilege. Military service is mandatory in Korea. My dad was also got exempted from it, cuz my grandpa passed away early and he was the only son in the family.
Yess because they considers the son as the breadwinner for the family, of course there are another criteria for the consideration, such as family financial status, etc
This is so sad and it's even sadder to see that the pastor receives so much hate for doing this for the single moms. I saw a tv show on Netflix about single Korean moms called *Love and Marriage*. I watched without believing this about the South Korean culture, surely, it wasn't that bad for single moms in a first world country. But then I saw this documentary and others. I never knew South Korea was this much of a backwards place. It is absolutely disgusting to see new moms and single moms in general have to live so much heartbreak. It isn't just their lives that would be ruined if they kept the baby, the baby will have a horrible life too if the mom kept him/her. Horrible.
4surprisingly Love and Marriage is not on Netflix anymore. Grrrr...😡...But I'm sure there's more documentaries about single moms in South Korea. Just a matter of looking them up.😊
This is common in East Asia--Japan, China, Korea, Taiwan and even in other parts of Asia because of conservative cultures. Adoption is also frowned upon because the bloodline is so important. This is the reason why a son is more precious than a daughter in most Asian families. But that is another story.
The irony is, that due to long 'working' hours, adultery and alcoholism, most children in a Korean family dynamic will only see their fathers once a week or on weekends anyway. The mother and teachers are more involved than the fathers in the up-bringing of most children in Korea. That's a topic for another 101 east doco though.
Capitalism loves to create misery. Does so much harm to family life and social relationships. Korea worships Capitalism, no coincidence for its high suicide rates.
Luke Tarrant very true. Most of my job as a teacher is nurturing children. Many of them are wealthy. So the absence of the father and sometimes mother is worse.
Lol Rosalina90, have you ever been to Korea? If so, how long did you stay there? Lol Korea is the most culturally socialist country I know of. Only a superficial form of capitalism exists in the country. You want cultural capitalism? surprise yourself and go to China. The reason why there's so much misery in this video is because of the Confucianism. in Korea that has always placed women as second citizens. High suicide rates - ALSO the factor of "shame and humiliation" again derived from Confucianism.
I am surprised korean men are abandoning their kids. i am of asian background and i know if any man in my family got a girl pregnant. my family would've forced him to marry her. i always just thought other asian families where the same because we do have conservative and strict beliefs that if you have a child. you automatically have to marry the person. so this surprises me that the men's families are not pressuring the man to step up or be involved.
Orange-teeth My father is a product of a father from us army whom left soon after my grandmother was pregnant and she (my granny) was complete forced away from her family, her parents disowned her. Fast forward to me, my parents split due to issues and my grandma even being disowned from her family has issues with my birth since I was never from a marriage. Even with me and my ex boyfriend his parents had negative reaction to me because being boring out of marriage is negative in korea. not to mention even though I live and born in Korea and lived there most my life being a half half I'm not pure enough.
I'm really sorry. American chimming in. You're fine just the way you are. It's hard when people act like you're responsible for mistakes that you never made.
@Orange-teeth I am surprised as well about Korean men abandoning their kids. In eastern Asian culture, men are more responsible when it comes to getting a women pregnant. If not, then their parents like you said will force the son to marry and take care of the women, he got pregnant. It makes me suspect, did some of the women that got pregnant not know who the father is because they had a one night stand with a stranger they met at the bar or somewhere? Regardless the government should provide better assistance to these single moms.
Korean men constantly abandon children of women they are not married to. Korea has an abortion doctor on every block regardless of it technically being illegal. In my neighborhood in Seoul, "hooker hill" is directly behind the police station. Hookers in windows selling themselves. Prostitution is also illegal. But...like abortion, not REALLY illegal. So, men expect the women to get an abortion. They would leave a woman that refused. How dare a woman disobey a korea man? Women in korea are subservient to all men..when they defy...they get thrown away, along with any unwanted baby.
It is so sad that women have to give their son up for adoption becuse of dicrimination. Here in America we aplaude single mothers for raining a child on their own. I am a single divorced mother and it is hard but also a huge blessing from God.
veronica thode keep in mind that most single mothers that give up their children aren't divorced mothers but unwed mothers. here, in the united states, unwed mothers arent praised, many of them are looked down on, especially if they are on welfare or use public services. I read so many forums where Americans call for the sterilization of unwed mothers who have more than one child out wedlock.
casualsuede there are some corners of America that feel that way, but if there is an unwed mother who is working and/or going to school she is seen as a hero, doing it all when the father runs away. most families I know offer as much assistance as they can and employers can't fire her for being a single mom. you cut these moms off at the knees if you don't allow them to work to support themselves.
***** i was also raised by a single mom (woohoo) and live in the USA.Let me say, for anybody who doesn't know, it is ILLEGAL to ask you if you have children or her marital status during an interview. Thats according to the EEOC. Its also illegal to penalize her for taking time off to care for her child or for getting pregnant. Discrimination against single moms is a rarity these days, but if you experience it PLEASE report it.
Well said Safura...know your interview rights before you go for one. Watch out for situational questions, they try and get around many taboo questions with these.
veronica thode I am too! My kids were born in USA and it was so hard to bring them over to Vancouver,BC.😐 When I registered my youngest for school a few weeks ago they toughen up the rules due to foreign students and they asked me about the father. I had to write a statement as to why the father isn't here, ect. When my oldest started school I realized how challenging it is for Single divorced mom's without a dad. I learned to read the forms before filling them and my mom is the emergency pickup. Most couples don't understand what the whole divorce process is like and it's not easy. I had to apply for my kids Canadian passport twice and I received them the second time! Would I remarry and have a blended family? No I seen what happen to one of my dad's sisters and now she's unemployed with two teen girls. Her husband works and her son is in Toronto with his GF. She wasn't a good mom with her son.
Asian countries are paternalistic societies. When the U.S. army was in Korea and Vietnam. Children without fathers were looked down on. Sons inherit from their father not only wealth but place in society. If they had no father they had no place in society. Those values have to change. The value of a human life is equal.
To be honest, that was also the attitude in the west until the last century. In older times in the English-speaking world, illegitimate children couldn't inherit property and often would not be allowed to use the surname of their father - i.e. they were disowned. In Asian countries, children without fathers are indeed disadvantaged because they often live in poverty because fathers are the breadwinners. Also, there's an inherent stigma against unwed mothers because it implies that they were sexually promiscuous. This is mostly to children whose parents never married. I know a person who hasn't got a father because his died soon after he was born. These types of kids aren't looked down against - the stigma is more to mothers who never married. But yes, I agree, children should not be discriminated against for what their parents did. Discrimination is only one problem that fatherless children face: bad upbringings, poverty and broken homes are larger concerns that are almost universal to single-parent children.
Where are the fathers in this documentary? It makes me sick to see these children abandoned without any patriarchal identity. At least their mothers try to give them some sort of care and loving. Where are the men?
pretty much what happens in today's society. Korea culture follows the US closely and single families are now a norm in many parts of the US. People choosing freedom over security, along with the death of religion, society is changing.
A lot of children are raised by grandparents with both parents leaving the kids to find new lives with new people. Culturally, children from prior marriages is considered as unwanted baggage. This still continues today in Korean communities even in America. I know of quite a few families like this personally.
Unfortunately umiluv is right. Many children of divorce parents end up in orphanages. Most Korean men won't marry a woman that has children or even one that has been married before.
Truth Seekers: Gods Final Call Why don't they find someone with out kids like in the west? Do they have to marry the first person with kids who they date?
Burton L Ahh did you forget how Jesus came into the world . To a mother who was pregnant out of wedlock ? Was he not blessed? Last time I checked the scriptures, God doesn't work in the manner of I scratch your back you scratch mine. He loves and blesses us regardless of our flaws and the decisions we make. He blessed Paul who was persecuting and killing Christians so I'm positive he can look passed our mistakes as long as we earnestly seek to love him and seek to be like Jesus Christ.
Wow this is beyond pathetic. They let the father's run away, when they could at least make them pay child support like other sensible countries. Come on now.
Lucy it’s s not a stupid remark at all. If there isn’t a law put in place to mandate the men to be identified and pay child support they are actually leaving them off the hook. They’re reinforcing the idea that’s all right to flee from responsibilities.
How is it, these women can't even put the children up for adoption without the fathers? They should be allowed to put their names down if they deny the child then they can pay for a DNA test. These men need to have their names publicly broadcasted..so they can pay child support. They didn't get pregnant by themselves.
Hating single moms is not conservative but just plain ignorant and hateful! How does conservatism and hate go together?! People really have a way of thinking. Those people should be ashamed to for firing someone because they are a single mom and the parents who wanted her fired should be ashamed too.
@@rachel39321 And sticking to that ideal hurts people. Do women have to stay when the man is abusing her? What if he runs away? Why would you then blame the mother?
Mondoshawn if that's your barometer then America isn't a first world country either. California has a safe surrender law in place similar to the baby box. 🙄
Why Bee I don't live in the US, so I don't know how it is there but I meant the mobbing of single mothers for no reason at all in korea even if they are able to take care of their children just fine all by them selves (I did not mean the baby box). That is a mindset from the middle ages for me. It is like even a grown woman with a job is worth nothing without a man. She is not allowed to have a child when she wants to. How are koreans not ashamed to be like that? I mean they travel everywhere. Don't they see how in other countries single moms contribute to society?
Mondoshawn I understand that but I was addressing your overstatement that you can't look at SK as a first world country anymore because of that. I'm merely pointing out that comparable if not worse situations occur in countries like the U.S., would you say the same about them?
Pie Luv I never said it wasn't messed up. You guys are arguing moot points here. Yes, it's messed up. Yes, it doesn't make sense. Yes, they should have a social welfare system set up to address this. All I simply pointed out was the overstatement of saying that this constitutes a non first world.
What bothers me more is that they won't even give her a job just because she's a single mom. You can let go of everyone who disapproves and live a lonely life just for your baby, but if you can't even support yourself?..jeez... this just breaks my heart and ik for a fact its not just south korea that this happens :(
Not excusing that behavior in any way, but an employer might not hire single mothers as they are usually the only person to care for the child whenever a child is sick, has some sort of problems at school etc. This way she might not focus on her work as much as her employer expects her to. That being said, single mothers are usually the hardest working people I've ever met and there is some sort of sexist/misogynistic mindset behind such treatment of women too.
@@TipsyTimeline I almost agreed with you , but then you come up with misogynistic bulshit . employers don't want to hire people who bring losses to company . You can't describe hard working person by having kids or not. Usually it comes by the mentality and approach . I found many foreign people are the most hard working people,you ask me why? because they need to make a living and usually they support their families in their home land ,they have no privilege to take time of and many work few jobs . I may surprise you many of these people are sons ,husbands and fathers .
wow, I'm really shocked actually about the fact that in a technically supermodern country like South Korea it is possible at the same time that women and their children are treated so badly, left alone, being blamed and shunned by society. I'm friends with a Korean woman for several years now and we do talk about personal and critical issues and she already suggested very often how extremely high the negative pressure for young women is there these days, be it about jobs, a very disturbed artificial beauty image or this old-fashioned pressure of the families for them to marry at a certain age, no matter who, or if they like him, just so the family is not embarrassed. That is horrible enough, but I didn't know to this day the extent of what happens to women when they get pregnant and are single. This pastor is a good person, and I am shocked again to read in other posts that other Korean women hate and blame him for offering help instead of questioning their almost middle-aged system and laws as well as anti-social behaviour towards those who need help. As I know from my friend many Koreans are Buddhists and I really wonder how they then bring together the main and basic idea of this religion - which is empathy! - and their cruel, cold behaviour to those affected and in need of help. What a horrible thing and it shows a lot of what is going on inside people for real, no matter if they call themselves Buddhists, they certainly are not. And one has to wonder why the Korean state punished those totally innocent - the children born by these mothers, by not letting them register, stigmatising them and ruining their lives in the worst case. Absolutely shocking.
beverly ledbetter i would never tell a christian their believes aren’t real, and i firmly believe true christians would never do this to someone else’s religion. you seemed to have learned nothing from your own “superior” religion. best of luck.
God bless that Pastor. For his naysayers, are you doing anything to help? He isn't encouraging women to abandon their children. Even if he wasn't there, babies would still be abandoned. He's simply and compassionately doing what he can to save a life.
i dont understand Korea is very wealthy country dont have any government programs and assistance to help pout single mothers?how is the security system there i came from Poland which was never very wealthy but single mother is provided there with housing money and assistance and she get all the help -even in communism there was unheard of that mom had to give up the baby because of poverty because the mother and child were protected and state was helping as much they could....paid maternity leave ,medical care ,nursery and kindergarden were provided food stamps even free vacation and camps for children free books and lunches at school and of course free education with possible so called social scholarship -student grant for families with low income-which never had to be repaid and wasnt any loan,free dormitory as well and lunches for students from low income families..and in wealthy Korea mothers are forced to give up their children???
The Korean government does offer welfare for single moms - watch the whole documentary. They don't get much but it's still better than nothing. It's Not lack of wealth that these babies are being abandoned, they are being left because of South Korea's patriarchal society that stigmatize single, unwed mothers and their children. Families are willing to kick out or abandon their daughters who fall pregnant out of wedlock
Wow! Now I can see the reasons that might have led to my mother gave me up for adoption. Koreans don't accept single parenthood very well. Maybe my mother did want to keep me, but was afraid of what people would think. Now I pity her. This explains so much. Thanks for putting this video up.
Women give up their babies for many reasons. My sister was born to a 16 year old who knew she couldn't provide for a child so she willingly gave her to our parents. She now has a wonderful life and was given a lot more opportunities than she would have had with a teenage mother who was also very poor. Her bio mom is very happy with how she turned out and they occasionally talk, but she considers our parents as her "real" mom and dad. I honestly wish more women would consider adoption. There are so many people out there who desperately want kids and can't have them, and so many women, like my sister's bio mom, who just can't provide for them but choose to keep them anyway and both mother and child end up miserable. I understand it's hard to give up a child that you love but sometimes you need to do what's best for them. There are such things as open adoptions.
You should look into how Korean babies are systematically sold to the west to get money. The young mothers are more or less coerced to sell their unborn child. Western countries "demands" that a certain amount of Korean child must be available for their citizens to buy, its an agreement that Korea had made with USA and EU. Its proper childselling industry. In South Korea, its a huge moneymaking business were everybody, except you the merchandise, get a piece of the cake. In Korean newspapers international adoption is described as a win-win were "unwanted" and "unintelligent" children can be shipped out of Korea, and Korea get money for it. You must understand that its not a coincidence, nor is it a good deed that you were "adopted", its an industry with a turnover of billions of USD. Its a huge huge moneymaking industry and mostly legalized. It also is a deeply malechauvinist society where the supply of young children and girls is demanded. Its a slavestructure and I erge you too look into it, if you re really interested in why you were adopted. International adoption perpetuates the powerless situation for Korean women. Even if you get mad with what I am saying, I earge you to look into it deeply bc the truth is truly horrifying and the West perpetuates the continuous violations of Asian women is truly terrifying.
We had the exact same problem in the UK, Australia and the USA with stigma for being a single mother and they were forced to give up their babies for adoption. Australia has now apologised for this because it ruined the lives of so many people. I hope that Korea changes, no mother and baby should be separated it's too much trauma.
Payhole Everdouche So the Church is a colonial institution in Korea? As in, Christianity isn't the indigenous religion on Korea, right? Hopefully the returning adoptees will have some influence and help out these single mothers.
i live in a country in latin america, many of you only think we are jungle people o think in tacos and burritos but honestly in this matter i can't feel we are late, in chile (my country) a single mum have to say to the police who is the father and he HAS to take care and if he says he is not the father he HAS to take a DNA paid by him to demostrate he is not, and if you dont pay child support, go straight to jail
glek023612 I have children from three women and I’ve supported all of them financial and have started to pay for higher education of three of them so far. I don’t have vices to waste money on. I do a high level technical job with circuits and run a lawn care and snow removal business on the side and always entertain at my home. We spend all the holidays together (including the mothers) and attend Church every Sunday (I’m an atheist btw). I give everything to them because I live them all and I’m friends with these women. I basically live to take care and provide for them.
Another gender baiter. This is NOT a gender issue its an unfit parent issue and cultural stereotypes. That is just passing on the blame asking where the men are. Its no excuse for a mother to abandon a baby just like a father shouldnt if mom left to use drugs.
I watched this last year. I'm watching it for the second time today. I thought it won't bring tears to my eyes again. Boy, I was wrong. God bless the Pastor!
To pastor Lee and to all the staff who help him, thank you for the unconditional love that youre showing to all the babies and special children, for taking care of them, when no one’s there for them when they open there eyes to this world.
I am glad that I stumbled upon this youtube channel. While I already know full well a lot of what this topic is about, it definitely still needs to be addressed. Thank you.
this is so sad how the moms are the ones who get lumbered with this. i can feel apart of my heart torn for the women that have to give their children up. what makes it worst the fathers have no responsibility to their part in this whole life of bring a child up. it sounds like the fathers can do as they please. so sad and so wrong.
it's such a horrible thing... women feel unsupported... I live in a society that is starting to beleive a mother cannot stay home and raise her child "go to work" Is she the father, half a father or a mother?
The single mum raising the little boy and protesting the military's decisions can adopt me any day even though I'm not a kid. She is wonderful and should be very proud for following her own path and leading with her heart. Much admiration.
I want to donate to that single mother kay who is living in a shelter, living that way with a child without the father's support is simply terrible but at the same time admirable. She has so much strength.
This man has a giant heart. Bless him. It's terribly unfair that only half of those in the relationship bear the stigma of having a child out of wedlock. My heart breaks for the abandoned babies. The fathers should have to at least pay support.
The problem is the society .why? because they most of the time discriminate these single moms or teenage mom. To the future single mom if you read this, let me tell you. You will be a great mom and you shouldn't abandon your precious child even the society tells you. even the society will hate you . Just don't. if you'll leave him/her then who is the person that can love her/ his the most? it's you. It will always be you.
I ll never be a single mother Get married At least if the couple can t get along you ll get divorced and get your rights you and your children Don t be dumbed Don tgive your body to whomever Men must be involved in raising the children If he can t marry you don t get involved with him I feel so sorry for those babies
I was raised by a single mom, and it was hard, and it was never easy for me. I worked hard to get over the fact that my father chose not to be in my life. It takes two TWO to make a baby, and everyone is responsible, these women need support. A tale as old as time, women need support
This broke my heart entirely... those babies and all those moms having the throw away their children worst of all the sick ones. Bless the pastors soul he's a beautiful person it's rare to see good hearts like his
I remember the last time I watched this, I cried. This is so fricking sad, I can't believe this was real but this guy is such an amazing person.He's so good to all of these kids and he really loves them with all his heart. His own child really enriched his life. This makes me so sad because it's so amazing- but it's so depressing for the mother.
As a single mom myself, this hurts my heart. We go through soooo much with our babies and get judged constantly for it. I only wish the best for anyone else out there raising their babies alone and fighting the good fight 😘😘😘
I was raised by a single mom and I wouldn't have it any other way. She made me who I am, worke, studied, cleaned, cooked, and she did it all on her own for her family. She is the strongest person I know.
I really admired these single mom to make a stand to keep their child despite the stigma they are facing in their society.....my mother is a single mom she became widow at an early age and left with a responsibility to raise us her 4 children, but regardless of what circumstances it is being a single mom is difficult so Kudos and salute to all the single mom out there...we appreciate all your effort and unconditional love.😘😘😘
They should do a documentary featuring: 1. Who are the fathers, their biography and background? 2. Why are these most males irresponsible or conscienceless? 3. What's the kind of life they are leading after disposing the female and baby altogether? I want to see how great life has promised them after making such coward decisions.
I used to be so in love with Korean culture and their beautiful country. I watch k drama's and listen to Kpop. But recently I've come to see what a disgusting society and culture they live in. Their culture is one that is very harsh and the people are so negative towards others. Celebrities can't even work in peace let alone these poor mothers. It's just a sad society and the people there really need to reflect on how their bad attitudes affect others.
Hnub Yaj it's just different from your society. are there a lot of things that need to be fixed? Sure. But every culture has two sides, and the good things about Korea should not dissuade you so heavily into being biased and frankly racist.
Why there is no law for all these ( Wild ferocious animals ) !!! Father. ( really I feel shame for using honorable word " Father " . Thanks this Bravo young lady ( mother ) for taking appropriate & humatarien decision.
I understand why black mothers keep their children. Society is going to look down on them but it is their choice. We must never forget that in slavery, the children were taken away from their mothers and never seen again.
As a teacher at a public school here in Korea - that 10 year old boy could easily be one of my students. I can't speak on behalf of any Korean teachers however in my school we know the students who have issues in their personal lives. We know students who get bullied and why. Even me, as the foreigner who is usually cut out of things like this. Fortunately my close co-workers are very much in agreement with me that this kind of behavior towards a child who's not to blame - is 100% unacceptable. Maybe its because they are a younger generation of Korean teachers. I feel so bad for that little boy. If he was in my class, he would at least have one classroom in which he is protected. Most often Korean teachers fear interfering too much behaviorally due to backlash from parents, so I predict that's why he was beaten up at school (unless it was outside of class time). As for the Professor - MAN she hit the nail on the head there. I have had the hardest time adjusting to life here because this place looks modern, feels modern, feels democratic, feels progressive - until you get knocked down with widely held social opinions that seem like they're from 100 years ago. It's quite a mind bomb and often unexpected. Especially just how bad treatment of women can actually be here. I never ever would have guessed. I love this country and I love living here. This is my home. However, as someone who used to be on the outside, I never could have realized these things until I moved here. I can only hope that Korea catches up socially and quick. I can already tell the generations in their teens and twenties think MUCH differently than their parents. I'm talking extreme, stark differences. However the poor mother who's friends abandoned her - I can imagine the scenario being "my parents think you're xyz so I am no longer your friend." Most young people I've met dont hold fast to such antiquated beliefs anymore. However, stating an opinion and standing up for it in Korea or standing out at all is something most average Koreans would rather die than do. Especially against their parents. The cycle is really never ending. I'd be really curious to see where Korea will be in 50-100 years socially.
I swear that if a man had to leave me after being in a relationship just because I got pregnant, I would blackmail him so that his parents and all his family will feel he is a disgrace because he will be doing the same to me! NO woman should be a "disgrace" for being a single parent, the father takes part of that responsibility as well because he decided to leave.
And sometimes the family will just deny it and go away anyway. With my youngest and third son, his mother outright told me Ezra wasn’t her son’s. I had him alone, stillborn. His father did find out (he was divorced from BDs mom) and he apologized and said had he known he wouldve helped
As someone who lives in the UK and knows a tonnnn of single mums and dads through my friends I just find all of this absolutely astonishnig..... we should be admiring the strengh of these women!! When I hear that their families and friends cut them off it just blows my mind how narrow-minded a society can be
Not even 5 mins in and I'm cry holding my son. I'm a single mom and could never give up my son's I love them to much to care about what other people think of me
How beautiful ! Is there a way for me to support the pastor ? I would love to donate money every week to help him. This makes me want to move to Korea !
There is a special place for this man in Heaven. The good he has done for this world and brought and love he has given for so many children. What a beautiful soul and sad story.
every human deserve to have a life in this world, and they also deserve a happy life. I hope one day S.K goverment would protect these women rights because they deserve it.
I'm in tears. I cannot imagine giving up my child. God only knows what pressure these women are under to do something like that. Nobody WANTS to give up their child.
Al Jazeera, you made a documentary about South Korean men turning to foreign "order brides," and a predominant reason given in your video for this is because many women expect a man to care for a future family financially, and have generally high standards for guys. Couldn't this cultural pressure be part of the reason for many women's terms?
al jazeera is an arabic propaganda arm. just look at how many negative pieces they made on all countries and cultures around the world and compare it with how many negatives about the arab world
What's wrong with being an arab channel? and for your information Al jazeera has been criticizing Arab countries since the 90's, the arabic channel is already banned in numerous arab countries.
Dang, this pastor is a saint! Give that man a medal. I hope this documentary gets a lot more attention, very well done and informative, I'm glad I stumbled over it.
The mothers that go and get their children back are true heroes. I don’t have words for their bravery. They deserve to be at the top of society. A social stigma that keeps a mother and her child separated is reprehensible at the deepest level. I’m a single mom to a Korean child, but I live in America and don’t have to face anything even close to what these women have to go through. Everyday I hope that things will get better in Korea. Please Korea, I love you so much, but there are so many scars. Stop sending your precious children oversees. I deplore you to change such harmful ideologies and support these mothers and their beautiful children.
in some situations if the parents are so worried about status why don't they send her on a "vacation" then after she gives birth adopt the child until the mother becomes stable
that pastor is such a good person
Tell that to the Single Mothers in Korea group in FB. They despise him and what he is doing.
Lindsay Jenney
I think the reasoning, that desperate mothers wouldn`t abandon the babies, if he didn`t provide a place to put the babies, is flawed. As was shown in the documentary, they try to stop the mothers and talk them out of it, and some come back after a while and change their minds. What`s the alternative? It`s naive to think that the women wouldn`t get rid of the babies in some other way.
The pastor is not making it easy for them to abandon, he is just keeping abandon babies safe.
Maybe some of you are confused by my post. I support the pastor and his work. The single mothers in korea facebook group does not. I was doing a charity drive of diapers for the pastor and was kicked out of the unwed mothers group bc i was helping a man that they believe is harming the orphans. Its a long story and has to do with these orphans not having registered birth certs bc the mothers dont register the birth. This causes SERIOUS problems for that child in the future. The unwed mothers charity group blames the pastor for letting this happen rather than the govt for shuttung out unregistered korean children... they end up not being allowed into public schools or get a bank account or govt recognition as a citizen of their own country. Unwed mother group actively tries to derail and criminalize the pastors efforts.
No matter. This non support has to change. Would people prefer that the babies be abandoned in the streets and left to die!? What the heck is the matter with people? The laws need to change #1 so that every human being has a birth certificate (government) Leave the pastor alone for doing God's work. Use all of that energy to change government laws.
to the other mothers asking how this lady could be a single mom: because she loves her child more than herself and her status in society. How dare you even ask something like that?
unFayemous I agree. Instead of asking why she’s a single mom they need to ask why is the man is being so irresponsible and vile. How could a man abandon his child.
That stigma would impact the child's life too. That's why they do it, The whole thing is disgusting. So irrational to have such pointkess moral standards that do so much harm.
unFayemous Amen!
@@eb7446 it is not irrational. the south koreans are a cohesive culture that has not been infiltrated with marxist/communist ideology and they have intact families there. Their culture is much safer and the children are brought up in 2 parent households which benefits everyone. Morality does matter very much. Western society is now failed due to the low morals and breakdown caused by that.
@@1ireneaustin Idealy, raising a child with two parents is best, I totally agree. But the woman didn't have a choice and she raised her son well. Otherwise, he would have ended up in an orphanage... Why trying to find him a new family when he lready has one...?
And being raised in a two parents household isn't always perfect...before thinking about wanting a child and what he could bring to you, you should try thinking about what you could give to him... and she gave him a home. The perfect family doesn't exist, you do best with what you have.
Western society is far from being perfect but one parent family households are deffinitly not the cause...
What are your moralities?? Abandoning a baby?!
the strength of the women, who chose to raise their children, is phenomenal.
More like stupidity
Sagar Sagar It's not stupidity. It's a mother's love. They are willing to give up everything they are and everything they have for the sake of their children.
I'm guessing sugar was given up.......
Olivia Brown my mother is a single mom and loves me unconditionally I love her too she's taken care of me and I will also take care of her, I don't know why sugar is so bitter.
It can never be stupidity. Do you know how difficult it can be for adopted children to know that they were given away, even if it was for a good reason? The heartache, the endless wondering and questions about who you really are. Even if your adoptive family are the very best, everyone has a yearning inside them to know who they truly are, who they look like, where their characteristics and attitude comes from. When your parent or parents choose to raise you in spite of the odds stacked against them, you get the chance of growing up with your real family which is a truly wonderful gift.
What a truly beautiful man! I wish I could tell him personally how incredible he is & what he does for these precious children.
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I wish mothers stayed with the baby until a couple is found... If not, with father and mother and he got money for the couple to make it...
where are the fathers in all this? why do they get a pass in all this?
the women bear the childrens.....
so... you're point is?....
it s easier for a man, to feel less concerned about a child he had with some women; if he doesn t care that is
Mailliw Nimeuqcaj ah I thought you were saying that since women have the children, they must have sole responsibilty, sorry :3
the korean society still has some pretty misogonistic views which put the 'blame' on the women for 'being promiscuos'.
Male children with single mothers are seen as unfit for military service? Wow, I'm truly speechless
Hhuhuhuh.... there are tons of confusion going around here! NOOOOO IT'S NOT ABOUT DISCRIMINATION. "Single parent, single child" family is "exempted" from military service; it's a privilege. Military service is mandatory in Korea. My dad was also got exempted from it, cuz my grandpa passed away early and he was the only son in the family.
Sunghee Kim Its a privilege for the ones that dont want to fight for their country or get the experience. I dont think that is fair for everyone.
Leopold has the best sense of humour.
Yess because they considers the son as the breadwinner for the family, of course there are another criteria for the consideration, such as family financial status, etc
17:32 The "are classified as being at risk of a mental breakdown."
Same is true in the USA or anywhere else that I know of.
This is so sad and it's even sadder to see that the pastor receives so much hate for doing this for the single moms. I saw a tv show on Netflix about single Korean moms called *Love and Marriage*. I watched without believing this about the South Korean culture, surely, it wasn't that bad for single moms in a first world country. But then I saw this documentary and others. I never knew South Korea was this much of a backwards place. It is absolutely disgusting to see new moms and single moms in general have to live so much heartbreak. It isn't just their lives that would be ruined if they kept the baby, the baby will have a horrible life too if the mom kept him/her. Horrible.
they are drunks and self loving plastic surgery idiots
4surprisingly Love and Marriage is not on Netflix anymore. Grrrr...😡...But I'm sure there's more documentaries about single moms in South Korea. Just a matter of looking them up.😊
Try DramaFever
This is common in East Asia--Japan, China, Korea, Taiwan and even in other parts of Asia because of conservative cultures. Adoption is also frowned upon because the bloodline is so important. This is the reason why a son is more precious than a daughter in most Asian families. But that is another story.
WHATEVER GOES FOR ME
look at the commie imbalance. what is it up to these days? 44 million less eligible women?
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Life is tough journey
God bless the pastor
Of course God blessed the pastor. He's getting free babies! Remember that. God pays with babies.
Asad Zaidi yes i agree with you
The irony is, that due to long 'working' hours, adultery and alcoholism, most children in a Korean family dynamic will only see their fathers once a week or on weekends anyway. The mother and teachers are more involved than the fathers in the up-bringing of most children in Korea. That's a topic for another 101 east doco though.
yep... their society is on the brink of cataclysm.
The next generation is gonna so dysfunctional it'll be heartbreaking to see it
No worries. The next generation will be hooked up to virtual reality and play a perpetual game. Everybody happy.
Capitalism loves to create misery. Does so much harm to family life and social relationships. Korea worships Capitalism, no coincidence for its high suicide rates.
Luke Tarrant very true. Most of my job as a teacher is nurturing children. Many of them are wealthy. So the absence of the father and sometimes mother is worse.
Lol Rosalina90, have you ever been to Korea? If so, how long did you stay there? Lol Korea is the most culturally socialist country I know of. Only a superficial form of capitalism exists in the country. You want cultural capitalism? surprise yourself and go to China. The reason why there's so much misery in this video is because of the Confucianism. in Korea that has always placed women as second citizens. High suicide rates - ALSO the factor of "shame and humiliation" again derived from Confucianism.
The Pastor is a HERO! for wanting to help mother's and babies...I salute you Sir!
I lost it when those women were dropping off a baby. That pastor is amazing wow.
Blockhead V.I.P there's actually another documentary about the pastor and his family alone. I believe it's called "the drop box"
VinessaGaming omg yes, i watched that one too.
I am surprised korean men are abandoning their kids. i am of asian background and i know if any man in my family got a girl pregnant. my family would've forced him to marry her. i always just thought other asian families where the same because we do have conservative and strict beliefs that if you have a child. you automatically have to marry the person. so this surprises me that the men's families are not pressuring the man to step up or be involved.
Orange-teeth My father is a product of a father from us army whom left soon after my grandmother was pregnant and she (my granny) was complete forced away from her family, her parents disowned her. Fast forward to me, my parents split due to issues and my grandma even being disowned from her family has issues with my birth since I was never from a marriage. Even with me and my ex boyfriend his parents had negative reaction to me because being boring out of marriage is negative in korea. not to mention even though I live and born in Korea and lived there most my life being a half half I'm not pure enough.
men walk away regardless or race.....they always have and always will.
I'm really sorry. American chimming in. You're fine just the way you are. It's hard when people act like you're responsible for mistakes that you never made.
@Orange-teeth I am surprised as well about Korean men abandoning their kids. In eastern Asian culture, men are more responsible when it comes to getting a women pregnant. If not, then their parents like you said will force the son to marry and take care of the women, he got pregnant. It makes me suspect, did some of the women that got pregnant not know who the father is because they had a one night stand with a stranger they met at the bar or somewhere? Regardless the government should provide better assistance to these single moms.
Korean men constantly abandon children of women they are not married to. Korea has an abortion doctor on every block regardless of it technically being illegal. In my neighborhood in Seoul, "hooker hill" is directly behind the police station. Hookers in windows selling themselves. Prostitution is also illegal. But...like abortion, not REALLY illegal. So, men expect the women to get an abortion. They would leave a woman that refused. How dare a woman disobey a korea man? Women in korea are subservient to all men..when they defy...they get thrown away, along with any unwanted baby.
That pastor has such a beautiful soul!
It is so sad that women have to give their son up for adoption becuse of dicrimination. Here in America we aplaude single mothers for raining a child on their own. I am a single divorced mother and it is hard but also a huge blessing from God.
veronica thode keep in mind that most single mothers that give up their children aren't divorced mothers but unwed mothers. here, in the united states, unwed mothers arent praised, many of them are looked down on, especially if they are on welfare or use public services. I read so many forums where Americans call for the sterilization of unwed mothers who have more than one child out wedlock.
casualsuede there are some corners of America that feel that way, but if there is an unwed mother who is working and/or going to school she is seen as a hero, doing it all when the father runs away. most families I know offer as much assistance as they can and employers can't fire her for being a single mom. you cut these moms off at the knees if you don't allow them to work to support themselves.
***** i was also raised by a single mom (woohoo) and live in the USA.Let me say, for anybody who doesn't know, it is ILLEGAL to ask you if you have children or her marital status during an interview. Thats according to the EEOC. Its also illegal to penalize her for taking time off to care for her child or for getting pregnant. Discrimination against single moms is a rarity these days, but if you experience it PLEASE report it.
Well said Safura...know your interview rights before you go for one. Watch out for situational questions, they try and get around many taboo questions with these.
veronica thode I am too! My kids were born in USA and it was so hard to bring them over to Vancouver,BC.😐 When I registered my youngest for school a few weeks ago they toughen up the rules due to foreign students and they asked me about the father. I had to write a statement as to why the father isn't here, ect. When my oldest started school I realized how challenging it is for Single divorced mom's without a dad. I learned to read the forms before filling them and my mom is the emergency pickup. Most couples don't understand what the whole divorce process is like and it's not easy. I had to apply for my kids Canadian passport twice and I received them the second time! Would I remarry and have a blended family? No I seen what happen to one of my dad's sisters and now she's unemployed with two teen girls. Her husband works and her son is in Toronto with his GF. She wasn't a good mom with her son.
The single mom with the older son is incredible!! That boy will never let anyone put his mother down!
Asian countries are paternalistic societies. When the U.S. army was in Korea and Vietnam. Children without fathers were looked down on. Sons inherit from their father not only wealth but place in society. If they had no father they had no place in society. Those values have to change. The value of a human life is equal.
To be honest, that was also the attitude in the west until the last century. In older times in the English-speaking world, illegitimate children couldn't inherit property and often would not be allowed to use the surname of their father - i.e. they were disowned. In Asian countries, children without fathers are indeed disadvantaged because they often live in poverty because fathers are the breadwinners. Also, there's an inherent stigma against unwed mothers because it implies that they were sexually promiscuous. This is mostly to children whose parents never married. I know a person who hasn't got a father because his died soon after he was born. These types of kids aren't looked down against - the stigma is more to mothers who never married. But yes, I agree, children should not be discriminated against for what their parents did. Discrimination is only one problem that fatherless children face: bad upbringings, poverty and broken homes are larger concerns that are almost universal to single-parent children.
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Karendal Sadik which civilized country isn't?
Karendal Sadik The same goes in the macho men countries like Italy, Spain, Mexico Centroamerica and south America do the same.
Matriarchies are no better.
Where are the fathers in this documentary? It makes me sick to see these children abandoned without any patriarchal identity. At least their mothers try to give them some sort of care and loving. Where are the men?
Welcome to Asia.
busy being online gaming addicts
WarlordRising, watch South Korea's Gender Wars on this channel, there they are!
mainly run away. Korean law have no power to make father their duty for baby. so they just run away.
pretty much what happens in today's society.
Korea culture follows the US closely and single families are now a norm in many parts of the US.
People choosing freedom over security, along with the death of religion, society is changing.
A lot of children are raised by grandparents with both parents leaving the kids to find new lives with new people. Culturally, children from prior marriages is considered as unwanted baggage. This still continues today in Korean communities even in America. I know of quite a few families like this personally.
Unfortunately umiluv is right. Many children of divorce parents end up in orphanages. Most Korean men won't marry a woman that has children or even one that has been married before.
I just moved here in America and i tell you there are more single moms here than south korea. I never heard of word baby daddy till I moved here.
Truth Seekers: Gods Final Call Why don't they find someone with out kids like in the west? Do they have to marry the first person with kids who they date?
Thank God for that pastor and may God bless him, the mothers and the children.
A Christian behaving in an actual Christian manner.
If God had blessed them, would they have ended up abandoned? Nay. Hence God must have seen it fit not to bless them in the first place.
Burton L
Ahh did you forget how Jesus came into the world . To a mother who was pregnant out of wedlock ? Was he not blessed? Last time I checked the scriptures, God doesn't work in the manner of I scratch your back you scratch mine. He loves and blesses us regardless of our flaws and the decisions we make. He blessed Paul who was persecuting and killing Christians so I'm positive he can look passed our mistakes as long as we earnestly seek to love him and seek to be like Jesus Christ.
Wow this is beyond pathetic. They let the father's run away, when they could at least make them pay child support like other sensible countries. Come on now.
They don't let the father run away, what a stupid remark to make. There's no legal action seriously taken to make the father pay to be honest.
technically since the child is theirs, they should help pay child support at least.
Lucy it’s s not a stupid remark at all. If there isn’t a law put in place to mandate the men to be identified and pay child support they are actually leaving them off the hook. They’re reinforcing the idea that’s all right to flee from responsibilities.
beverly ledbetter K pop and K drama are like Hollywood movies made in Korea. It’s all made up
How is it, these women can't even put the children up for adoption without the fathers? They should be allowed to put their names down if they deny the child then they can pay for a DNA test. These men need to have their names publicly broadcasted..so they can pay child support. They didn't get pregnant by themselves.
Hating single moms is not conservative but just plain ignorant and hateful! How does conservatism and hate go together?! People really have a way of thinking. Those people should be ashamed to for firing someone because they are a single mom and the parents who wanted her fired should be ashamed too.
Nobody hates anyone, but such concept is unacceptable and should be said.
I think they meant conservative as in soft spoken, which is a different meaning of it, but it could also mean conservative.
@@rachel39321 And sticking to that ideal hurts people. Do women have to stay when the man is abusing her? What if he runs away? Why would you then blame the mother?
after this documentary I can't even think of south korea as a first world country anymore.
Mondoshawn if that's your barometer then America isn't a first world country either. California has a safe surrender law in place similar to the baby box. 🙄
Pie Luv Those laws exist to address the stigma. So there's a stigma in the US, too. That's my point.
Why Bee I don't live in the US, so I don't know how it is there but I meant the mobbing of single mothers for no reason at all in korea even if they are able to take care of their children just fine all by them selves (I did not mean the baby box). That is a mindset from the middle ages for me. It is like even a grown woman with a job is worth nothing without a man. She is not allowed to have a child when she wants to. How are koreans not ashamed to be like that? I mean they travel everywhere. Don't they see how in other countries single moms contribute to society?
Mondoshawn I understand that but I was addressing your overstatement that you can't look at SK as a first world country anymore because of that. I'm merely pointing out that comparable if not worse situations occur in countries like the U.S., would you say the same about them?
Pie Luv I never said it wasn't messed up. You guys are arguing moot points here. Yes, it's messed up. Yes, it doesn't make sense. Yes, they should have a social welfare system set up to address this. All I simply pointed out was the overstatement of saying that this constitutes a non first world.
What bothers me more is that they won't even give her a job just because she's a single mom. You can let go of everyone who disapproves and live a lonely life just for your baby, but if you can't even support yourself?..jeez... this just breaks my heart and ik for a fact its not just south korea that this happens :(
lipsohlips97 it’s like the society just wants the unwed mothers to die.
That cut deep for me too. It is very disturbing.
What I don't understand is employers: how does her marital status affect her ability to work?
That was crazy. I just don't understand it too.
Arthur Nelson I only see more of a reason to employ them, you can tell they are hard working and in need of a job so why not
Not excusing that behavior in any way, but an employer might not hire single mothers as they are usually the only person to care for the child whenever a child is sick, has some sort of problems at school etc. This way she might not focus on her work as much as her employer expects her to. That being said, single mothers are usually the hardest working people I've ever met and there is some sort of sexist/misogynistic mindset behind such treatment of women too.
@@TipsyTimeline I almost agreed with you , but then you come up with misogynistic bulshit . employers don't want to hire people who bring losses to company . You can't describe hard working person by having kids or not. Usually it comes by the mentality and approach . I found many foreign people are the most hard working people,you ask me why? because they need to make a living and usually they support their families in their home land ,they have no privilege to take time of and many work few jobs . I may surprise you many of these people are sons ,husbands and fathers .
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wow, I'm really shocked actually about the fact that in a technically supermodern country like South Korea it is possible at the same time that women and their children are treated so badly, left alone, being blamed and shunned by society.
I'm friends with a Korean woman for several years now and we do talk about personal and critical issues and she already suggested very often how extremely high the negative pressure for young women is there these days, be it about jobs, a very disturbed artificial beauty image or this old-fashioned pressure of the families for them to marry at a certain age, no matter who, or if they like him, just so the family is not embarrassed.
That is horrible enough, but I didn't know to this day the extent of what happens to women when they get pregnant and are single. This pastor is a good person, and I am shocked again to read in other posts that other Korean women hate and blame him for offering help instead of questioning their almost middle-aged system and laws as well as anti-social behaviour towards those who need help. As I know from my friend many Koreans are Buddhists and I really wonder how they then bring together the main and basic idea of this religion - which is empathy! - and their cruel, cold behaviour to those affected and in need of help. What a horrible thing and it shows a lot of what is going on inside people for real, no matter if they call themselves Buddhists, they certainly are not.
And one has to wonder why the Korean state punished those totally innocent - the children born by these mothers, by not letting them register, stigmatising them and ruining their lives in the worst case. Absolutely shocking.
beverly ledbetter i would never tell a christian their believes aren’t real, and i firmly believe true christians would never do this to someone else’s religion. you seemed to have learned nothing from your own “superior” religion. best of luck.
God bless that Pastor. For his naysayers, are you doing anything to help? He isn't encouraging women to abandon their children. Even if he wasn't there, babies would still be abandoned. He's simply and compassionately doing what he can to save a life.
i dont understand Korea is very wealthy country dont have any government programs and assistance to help pout single mothers?how is the security system there i came from Poland which was never very wealthy but single mother is provided there with housing money and assistance and she get all the help -even in communism there was unheard of that mom had to give up the baby because of poverty because the mother and child were protected and state was helping as much they could....paid maternity leave ,medical care ,nursery and kindergarden were provided food stamps even free vacation and camps for children free books and lunches at school and of course free education with possible so called social scholarship -student grant for families with low income-which never had to be repaid and wasnt any loan,free dormitory as well and lunches for students from low income families..and in wealthy Korea mothers are forced to give up their children???
lyanna lyanna
S korea is N korea with money.Very backwards.
The Korean government does offer welfare for single moms - watch the whole documentary. They don't get much but it's still better than nothing. It's Not lack of wealth that these babies are being abandoned, they are being left because of South Korea's patriarchal society that stigmatize single, unwed mothers and their children. Families are willing to kick out or abandon their daughters who fall pregnant out of wedlock
Wow! Now I can see the reasons that might have led to my mother gave me up for adoption. Koreans don't accept single parenthood very well. Maybe my mother did want to keep me, but was afraid of what people would think. Now I pity her. This explains so much. Thanks for putting this video up.
Women give up their babies for many reasons. My sister was born to a 16 year old who knew she couldn't provide for a child so she willingly gave her to our parents. She now has a wonderful life and was given a lot more opportunities than she would have had with a teenage mother who was also very poor. Her bio mom is very happy with how she turned out and they occasionally talk, but she considers our parents as her "real" mom and dad. I honestly wish more women would consider adoption. There are so many people out there who desperately want kids and can't have them, and so many women, like my sister's bio mom, who just can't provide for them but choose to keep them anyway and both mother and child end up miserable. I understand it's hard to give up a child that you love but sometimes you need to do what's best for them. There are such things as open adoptions.
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You should look into how Korean babies are systematically sold to the west to get money. The young mothers are more or less coerced to sell their unborn child. Western countries "demands" that a certain amount of Korean child must be available for their citizens to buy, its an agreement that Korea had made with USA and EU. Its proper childselling industry.
In South Korea, its a huge moneymaking business were everybody, except you the merchandise, get a piece of the cake. In Korean newspapers international adoption is described as a win-win were "unwanted" and "unintelligent" children can be shipped out of Korea, and Korea get money for it.
You must understand that its not a coincidence, nor is it a good deed that you were "adopted", its an industry with a turnover of billions of USD. Its a huge huge moneymaking industry and mostly legalized.
It also is a deeply malechauvinist society where the supply of young children and girls is demanded. Its a slavestructure and I erge you too look into it, if you re really interested in why you were adopted.
International adoption perpetuates the powerless situation for Korean women. Even if you get mad with what I am saying, I earge you to look into it deeply bc the truth is truly horrifying and the West perpetuates the continuous violations of Asian women is truly terrifying.
We had the exact same problem in the UK, Australia and the USA with stigma for being a single mother and they were forced to give up their babies for adoption. Australia has now apologised for this because it ruined the lives of so many people. I hope that Korea changes, no mother and baby should be separated it's too much trauma.
Payhole Everdouche So the Church is a colonial institution in Korea? As in, Christianity isn't the indigenous religion on Korea, right?
Hopefully the returning adoptees will have some influence and help out these single mothers.
i live in a country in latin america, many of you only think we are jungle people o think in tacos and burritos but honestly in this matter i can't feel we are late, in chile (my country) a single mum have to say to the police who is the father and he HAS to take care and if he says he is not the father he HAS to take a DNA paid by him to demostrate he is not, and if you dont pay child support, go straight to jail
I think South Africa, my country, should do the same. A lot of men get away with not paying child support.
glek023612 I have children from three women and I’ve supported all of them financial and have started to pay for higher education of three of them so far. I don’t have vices to waste money on. I do a high level technical job with circuits and run a lawn care and snow removal business on the side and always entertain at my home. We spend all the holidays together (including the mothers) and attend Church every Sunday (I’m an atheist btw). I give everything to them because I live them all and I’m friends with these women.
I basically live to take care and provide for them.
Same does to Uganda where I come from. Men no longer get away with neglecting their children especially financially.
What happens if he isn’t the father?
@@shonnie81 then they can choose for themselves if they want to help out the mom of their own free will.
Goddess Bless the pastor
sooooo where are the men?!? The jerks who got those women pregnant and then left!
They're off making more babies with, you guessed it, more women.
Marriage ≠ No Relationship. Marriage is just a paper contract, nothing more.
野村ERIK talk about yourself
Another gender baiter. This is NOT a gender issue its an unfit parent issue and cultural stereotypes. That is just passing on the blame asking where the men are. Its no excuse for a mother to abandon a baby just like a father shouldnt if mom left to use drugs.
William Connell in South Korea women don’t get aid for their kids like women in the us, some women have no other choice
I watched this last year. I'm watching it for the second time today. I thought it won't bring tears to my eyes again. Boy, I was wrong. God bless the Pastor!
To pastor Lee and to all the staff who help him, thank you for the unconditional love that youre showing to all the babies and special children, for taking care of them, when no one’s there for them when they open there eyes to this world.
How different the culture is compared with North America, where we usually don't blink an eye when someone is divorced, remarried, or a single mom
discrimination is ridiculous over there...
Of course, the fathers suffer no ill consequences...they had nothing to do with it.
The whole video I was expecting to hear what the goverment did to those irresposible fathers. It's outrageous men face no consecuences at all
Well, the other extreme is the USA where fathers have negative rights and women are basically demigods with legal/social immunity.
This was a movie on Netflix called the 'Baby Box' I cried because of all the babies that were given away
I am glad that I stumbled upon this youtube channel. While I already know full well a lot of what this topic is about, it definitely still needs to be addressed. Thank you.
this is so sad how the moms are the ones who get lumbered with this. i can feel apart of my heart torn for the women that have to give their children up. what makes it worst the fathers have no responsibility to their part in this whole life of bring a child up. it sounds like the fathers can do as they please. so sad and so wrong.
it's such a horrible thing... women feel unsupported... I live in a society that is starting to beleive a mother cannot stay home and raise her child
"go to work" Is she the father, half a father or a mother?
Altagracia Pimentel i agree with you
That s scary
Women are struggling everywhere in this world
The single mum raising the little boy and protesting the military's decisions can adopt me any day even though I'm not a kid. She is wonderful and should be very proud for following her own path and leading with her heart. Much admiration.
I feel so bad for these mothers, no woman should have to give up her child like that.
I want to donate to that single mother kay who is living in a shelter, living that way with a child without the father's support is simply terrible but at the same time admirable. She has so much strength.
single mother should be helped
My tears won't stop falling😩😭😭😭😩 God Bless that Pastor...now that is really doing God's work.
This man has a giant heart. Bless him. It's terribly unfair that only half of those in the relationship bear the stigma of having a child out of wedlock. My heart breaks for the abandoned babies. The fathers should have to at least pay support.
The pastor is such an amazing person, God bless him
World outside of Kpop...
The problem is the society .why? because they most of the time discriminate these single moms or teenage mom. To the future single mom if you read this, let me tell you. You will be a great mom and you shouldn't abandon your precious child even the society tells you. even the society will hate you . Just don't. if you'll leave him/her then who is the person that can love her/ his the most? it's you. It will always be you.
mavis ary. Yeah family should always be the center of society.
I ll never be a single mother
Get married
At least if the couple can t get along you ll get divorced and get your rights you and your children
Don t be dumbed
Don tgive your body to whomever
Men must be involved in raising the children
If he can t marry you don t get involved with him
I feel so sorry for those babies
The Pastor is an awesome human being. God blessed.
Poor women and poor babies it is heartbreaking
I was raised by a single mom, and it was hard, and it was never easy for me. I worked hard to get over the fact that my father chose not to be in my life. It takes two TWO to make a baby, and everyone is responsible, these women need support. A tale as old as time, women need support
I have so much respect for all single mothers. They are truly amazing people.
This broke my heart entirely... those babies and all those moms having the throw away their children worst of all the sick ones. Bless the pastors soul he's a beautiful person it's rare to see good hearts like his
I remember the last time I watched this, I cried. This is so fricking sad, I can't believe this was real but this guy is such an amazing person.He's so good to all of these kids and he really loves them with all his heart. His own child really enriched his life. This makes me so sad because it's so amazing- but it's so depressing for the mother.
I would take a page out of a novel and say the father is dead. Tell my child that daddy is dead.
There must be a reason why they don't do this... Maybe because the registry?
Bless the man who created the baby box. A true hero. A true man. A true human.
As a single mom myself, this hurts my heart. We go through soooo much with our babies and get judged constantly for it. I only wish the best for anyone else out there raising their babies alone and fighting the good fight 😘😘😘
I was raised by a single mom and I wouldn't have it any other way. She made me who I am, worke, studied, cleaned, cooked, and she did it all on her own for her family. She is the strongest person I know.
If only they had a donation page, I would definitely donate in a heartbeat
the pastor is an amazing human. God bless him.
I really admired these single mom to make a stand to keep their child despite the stigma they are facing in their society.....my mother is a single mom she became widow at an early age and left with a responsibility to raise us her 4 children, but regardless of what circumstances it is being a single mom is difficult so Kudos and salute to all the single mom out there...we appreciate all your effort and unconditional love.😘😘😘
They should do a documentary featuring:
1. Who are the fathers, their biography and background?
2. Why are these most males irresponsible or conscienceless?
3. What's the kind of life they are leading after disposing the female and baby altogether? I want to see how great life has promised them after making such coward decisions.
FreeLy me too
think nothing has changed for them tbh .
I used to be so in love with Korean culture and their beautiful country. I watch k drama's and listen to Kpop. But recently I've come to see what a disgusting society and culture they live in. Their culture is one that is very harsh and the people are so negative towards others. Celebrities can't even work in peace let alone these poor mothers. It's just a sad society and the people there really need to reflect on how their bad attitudes affect others.
Hnub Yaj it's just different from your society. are there a lot of things that need to be fixed? Sure. But every culture has two sides, and the good things about Korea should not dissuade you so heavily into being biased and frankly racist.
Every country has problems that need worked on. I guarantee the country you live in has some problems too.
Because they are perfectionist...
Why there is no law for all these ( Wild ferocious animals ) !!! Father. ( really I feel shame for using honorable word " Father " . Thanks this Bravo young lady ( mother ) for taking appropriate & humatarien decision.
one word...korea
I understand why black mothers keep their children. Society is going to look down on them but it is their choice. We must never forget that in slavery, the children were taken away from their mothers and never seen again.
Racist dickbag
Burton L fucktwat
Burton L hahahhahahahahaa
nubianqueenx1 .....so we should sympathize with the single mother parenthood without caring about the reasoning behind her pregnancy? ok.....
no40 what happened to "her body her choice"? Only when its convenient to your personal agenda i presume.
The pastor is a great man and human being.
I want to go and work there and take care of the babies.
As a teacher at a public school here in Korea - that 10 year old boy could easily be one of my students. I can't speak on behalf of any Korean teachers however in my school we know the students who have issues in their personal lives. We know students who get bullied and why. Even me, as the foreigner who is usually cut out of things like this. Fortunately my close co-workers are very much in agreement with me that this kind of behavior towards a child who's not to blame - is 100% unacceptable. Maybe its because they are a younger generation of Korean teachers. I feel so bad for that little boy. If he was in my class, he would at least have one classroom in which he is protected. Most often Korean teachers fear interfering too much behaviorally due to backlash from parents, so I predict that's why he was beaten up at school (unless it was outside of class time).
As for the Professor - MAN she hit the nail on the head there. I have had the hardest time adjusting to life here because this place looks modern, feels modern, feels democratic, feels progressive - until you get knocked down with widely held social opinions that seem like they're from 100 years ago. It's quite a mind bomb and often unexpected. Especially just how bad treatment of women can actually be here. I never ever would have guessed. I love this country and I love living here. This is my home. However, as someone who used to be on the outside, I never could have realized these things until I moved here. I can only hope that Korea catches up socially and quick. I can already tell the generations in their teens and twenties think MUCH differently than their parents. I'm talking extreme, stark differences. However the poor mother who's friends abandoned her - I can imagine the scenario being "my parents think you're xyz so I am no longer your friend." Most young people I've met dont hold fast to such antiquated beliefs anymore. However, stating an opinion and standing up for it in Korea or standing out at all is something most average Koreans would rather die than do. Especially against their parents. The cycle is really never ending. I'd be really curious to see where Korea will be in 50-100 years socially.
I do agree that the pastor IS indeed a good person. The world needs many more like him.
I swear that if a man had to leave me after being in a relationship just because I got pregnant, I would blackmail him so that his parents and all his family will feel he is a disgrace because he will be doing the same to me! NO woman should be a "disgrace" for being a single parent, the father takes part of that responsibility as well because he decided to leave.
And sometimes the family will just deny it and go away anyway. With my youngest and third son, his mother outright told me Ezra wasn’t her son’s. I had him alone, stillborn. His father did find out (he was divorced from BDs mom) and he apologized and said had he known he wouldve helped
As a child of a single mother who's father never was around this absolutely breaks my heart seeing how they are treated
As someone who lives in the UK and knows a tonnnn of single mums and dads through my friends I just find all of this absolutely astonishnig..... we should be admiring the strengh of these women!! When I hear that their families and friends cut them off it just blows my mind how narrow-minded a society can be
Not even 5 mins in and I'm cry holding my son. I'm a single mom and could never give up my son's I love them to much to care about what other people think of me
I'm 26
Alot happened when I was young I had my son at the age of 19
To get away from my family
United States
I'm sorry I don't understand insta
There is a documentary about the Pastor, the name is the baby box. Is really good and emotional.
2 thumbs up for all the women anywhere who decide to be a single/solo Mom. They are strong and brave people..
How beautiful ! Is there a way for me to support the pastor ? I would love to donate money every week to help him. This makes me want to move to Korea !
I got to visit this pastor and his wife in korea and to see all of the children in the orphanage, breaks my heart cause they’re so precious.
We as women suffer so much 😫
@Hieu TV she never said that men were bad you weirdo.
There is a special place for this man in Heaven. The good he has done for this world and brought and love he has given for so many children. What a beautiful soul and sad story.
every human deserve to have a life in this world, and they also deserve a happy life. I hope one day S.K goverment would protect these women rights because they deserve it.
God bless the Pastor for his hard work and kind heart. What would they do without this great humanitarian?
What's the big deal about being a single mom? How is it possible that people make a big deal out of it?
Agree. I wonder if widows have the same treatment
This pastor is a wonderful person. The world needs more people like him.
I am so proud of these mums!
The love and pride in her eyes when she look at her son, what a strong wonderful mother.
"I'm considered dirty" my gosh that hurts to hear but it's also true in many other parts of the world. We have to do better as humans.
that pastor is such a pure soul..i wish there were more people like him.
Love that pastor for putting up the sign on the dropbox. Jesus loves you.
I'm in tears. I cannot imagine giving up my child. God only knows what pressure these women are under to do something like that. Nobody WANTS to give up their child.
Al Jazeera, you made a documentary about South Korean men turning to foreign "order brides," and a predominant reason given in your video for this is because many women expect a man to care for a future family financially, and have generally high standards for guys. Couldn't this cultural pressure be part of the reason for many women's terms?
al jazeera is an arabic propaganda arm. just look at how many negative pieces they made on all countries and cultures around the world and compare it with how many negatives about the arab world
Elisabeth Nordin same as our western media lol
What's wrong with being an arab channel? and for your information Al jazeera has been criticizing Arab countries since the 90's, the arabic channel is already banned in numerous arab countries.
Dang, this pastor is a saint! Give that man a medal.
I hope this documentary gets a lot more attention, very well done and informative, I'm glad I stumbled over it.
Sad. Just Sad. This world really needs a drastic change .
Matriarchies have been known to sacrifice babies.
Burton L - Can you please cite a reference for this?
+umiluv My sister tells me mum want's to kill her. My mum tells me I don't have a sister.
Yes. It's so true.
I hate those who discriminates single mom's and father's.
I was confused by the title, until I remembered that al-jazeera uses the Queen's English.
The mothers that go and get their children back are true heroes. I don’t have words for their bravery. They deserve to be at the top of society. A social stigma that keeps a mother and her child separated is reprehensible at the deepest level.
I’m a single mom to a Korean child, but I live in America and don’t have to face anything even close to what these women have to go through. Everyday I hope that things will get better in Korea. Please Korea, I love you so much, but there are so many scars. Stop sending your precious children oversees. I deplore you to change such harmful ideologies and support these mothers and their beautiful children.
God bless Lee Jong Rak! 💖
Once again, the dead beat dad has no repercussions..
in some situations if the parents are so worried about status why don't they send her on a "vacation" then after she gives birth adopt the child until the mother becomes stable
GOD please give this man a long long life to help others Ive been touched for his good deeds..bless you Pastor 😘
This is sooo off topic...but I always wondered why they never show single mums in kdramas. Now I know...