I would have pressed charges against that idiot for assult and filed for a annulment or divorce . He will be a cruel abusive husband . Don't forget a court order to keep him away .
Well. You haven't been seeing a lot. One in five women are abused. One in three are raped. This is the real life of women today. It's true you might not see a shoe hit. Because most perpetrators do all this in private. Nice in public. Dangerous at home. @@anngoldberg7857
Please involve yourself in rescuing women in these circumstances. Your anger is useful. You will quickly find out how complicated it is to get away. And also simple. In some parts of the u.s. there is important support for survivors of violence. And many places where law enforcement is very much concerned and laws that help them, where someone might be taken to jail. Also common is police that believe what your abuser does. So people are wise to plan when to go, where you can go to, how to keep your children, even resources like food and shelter. And most important people who give a damn. Want to stop the horror. It's all too common. Wish it were as possible to send batterers to jail. Takes the court. So it takes time and courage to deal with it all. We should be very proud of women who have given themselves a new life.
UK here, hitting someone with a shoe doesn't mean total disrespect. Its classed as assault and the police should have been called to have the groom arrested.
This is my life for 22 years..when I tired to leave..he would assault me n keep my kids..I had 2 children within 3 years of our marriage.then the violence started..he died 9 years ago..I'm in peace...sometimes you can't run away from everyone..some r devils
I feel so sorry for You❣️🙏best wishes for rapid & thorough healing! My your days from now on be happy and filled with peace so that you can enjoy your freedom ❤🙏
What a toxic husband. You should leave when he and mother ststted to control you. When he hit you during your wedding this is not the type of husband you want to spend your life with. You should report him to the police. Your wedding day should be the happiest day of your life not hitting you with his shoe. He should be ashamed of himself. No woman should be treated badly at her wedding day. Its good you left him.
Well, being from Texas, this may have turned into a missing person story instead😂😂😂 But I really love this story and the end result was the best result it could have been. Well done writer!! 💔💔🤦♀️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
If he is abusing you in public, in front of all those people, what do think he will do to you when you are alone? My God woman, RUN, don't walk away. I'm sure there were warning signs that she just brushed aside. So very sad. Amy is a true friend to always treasure. Poor Ryan. He feels so bad. Yah right. You are not the one who's humiliated. Ryan and his mother are the ones who humiliated themselves. You want Sarah to fix this? You "fix" this yourself, it's YOUR problem now. If your mother means that much to you, marry her.
This must be a good lesson for every mother in law to distended them from their daughters and sons if they are married let them lived their own lives if they are in a relationship or married let them make their own decisions and mistakes and please keep your distance ,and if he hit you any time in your life leave him or her because they will never stop
It sad that some weak ass men let ther mothers run and ruin theirs lives. And some mothers have a thing for their sons and dont understand it. They need professional mental health intervention. They are sick and dont know it. That is so sad.
Unfortunately, restraining orders don’t stop bullets. You might qualify for a restraining order with all the criteria that so you can get one, but unfortunately, if that asshole wants to kill you or hurt you, it’s a free-for-all in the police, contrary to what I believe is their job requirement, don’t always take the person to jail or arrest him or anything. So be aware and get a lawyer get the restraining order but get the lawyer tell him what happened and see what other things you can do to keep that turkey away from hurting you again or from hurting your family. I used to be an advocate against domestic violence, and the women always managed to return to their abusive Husband/boyfriend within a two week time period because of promises that he made to say I’ll never do it again, I’m really sorry and it was all bullshit and lies. Once they start to hurt you, they’re always going to hurt you. Our legal system has to find better consequences for abusive jerks before they kill the woman. One more thing, the police seem to be more than happy to arrest the woman if she hits or shoots her abusive partner and I know that for a fact. Good luck with everything. Also, they do hide what they are really like. Hers hid his real personality for three years. Mine hid his personality for two years and then the abuse was on.
I was in tears as I went through this story. I guess most girls across the planet can relate to such horror. I have had my share of it and it all just came back to me. My Husband's mother left no stone unturned to make my life miserable in every possible way. Even to the point of instigating him to slap me. Despite being a Mamma's boy thankfully he didn't. We drifted apart and lived in separate rooms under the same roof for years. Gradually, my patience paid off and my relationship with my Husband changed for the better. My son, now a big boy, played an important part in bringing us together. Ofcourse "she" could not digest that and till date leaves no attempt to tear us apart again. Why do these women get their sons married when they can't tolerate sharing him with another woman, to whom too he rightfully belongs? I live with her under the same roof but loom right through her as if she doesn't exist at all. For me she actually doesn't. 18:45 (such awesome lines) I am stronger now, not because of what "she" did. I stonger because of what I did. I walked away. It was definitely not easy and I had to gatber a hell lot of courage to do that. But I am proud of myself for being able to do so. To all the girls out there who are still in a mess - walk away. You have the courage within you. You just need to realize it. More power to you.
Stupid girl, left 2 villens free to spoil some other girl She had all the weapons to stop them hurting other Both in jail. No job or no face left.wrong totally wrong
Shenazz - decide who the abuser is? Not the mother in law, or the bride, or even the jail. To get away with these attitudes and actions toward women such people will find scapegoats or someone else to blame. Even whole countries do this!
Final gesture could only have been the culmination of many, over preceding months, leading up to this ... lots of red flags -- ignored .. perhaps cos bride did not love or value herself a whole lote more -- she deserved a whole lot better than this oaf.
Ridiculous story. He says “I didn’t mean to.” ??? He took off his shoe and slapped her face with it! What man does that? I know that people sadly, live in abusive relationships, but this story sounds made up. She wouldn’t all of a sudden have the nerve to stand up to him like that if he had been in an abusive relationship. And, I don’t believe the incident at the wedding would have been the first time he hit her-in front of everyone-no… If he had enough self-control to not ever have hit her & then lose it at a public event-their wedding, no less.
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Must be nice having all these supportive friends and family. How could three years living with someone and buying a house not alert her somewhere? Most people would know and go through with it anyway, be urged to forgive this man. Who has a fantastic friend like this woman? Who has a big loyal available brother to be all there? Me thinks this is a made up story to get views.
She said when she ran out, she was looking for her car keys. So, why would she have her car at her wedding? It's a good story, but that part is kind of strange😮 I don't think we're hearing the whole story, because they had 3 years to figure out if she loved him enough to put up with his mother, especially knowing how he felt about her. If she did roll her eyes that would have been wrong. On the other hand if he has a temper and he felt she did something wrong and felt like hitting her Why would he not use his hand instead of his shoe? And also do it in private. If the mother hates her so much, and he is such a mama's boy, then why would he go through with a wedding? They probably had similar situations over the three years.
Too few women understand the warning signs; &, mistake them for "positive traits." I'm not even halfway through the video; &, can see numerous "red flags." If this is based upon a true story, the gal is really lucky that the POS "blew his cover" when & how he did. I'd go into more detail; but, I need to be getting outside & trying to get a lot done today. The warning signs & the "abuse cycle" are available to anyone on-line... BTW: Although it's far more common for the female to be the victim; sometimes, the roles are reversed. This stuff really should be taught in high schools, instead of a lot of the pure crap that been getting taught in recent years...
Hard to believe this unless he had a psychotic meltdown. Most abusive husband's would have displayed hidden signs if you'd been together long enough. To have his mother mother him right up to the wedding day is a red flag. A red flag to have a man's mother involved in your relationship ANYWAY... he obviously will always need a mother! Also an abusive man, a psychopath and sociopath will usually hise this well, hurting you definitely where others cannot see or hold him accountable.A real psychopath would never want blame or be ridiculed and seen publically as the bad guy.AND RISK JAIL IMMEDIATELY AND SOOOO.MANY WITNESSES. PRETTY DUMB STORY!
What’s with the hands on some of the women in the pictures? Some have extra fingers, some look as though they have 2 right or 2 left hands, it’s kind of creepy and distracting!
Thjs is made up, you got slapped and walked out immediately to your car, you were at your wedding reception and you had the keys in your hand??? You got in your car, so on your wedding day you went to the reception in your own car??? Did your husband go in his??? Also his ex girlfriend said it happened to herc2 years ago and supposedly you were with him 3 years
These stories are always way too long by way of repetitiveness to watch to the end....point being...if she doesn't annul the marriage and press charges.. The story isn't worth watching anyway
Whats wrong about calling yourself a victim or survivor? Its a put down to tell someone your struggles dont matter. Abuse makes victims. Fighting back with every tool in the book makes you a survivor. Avoiding others trying to victimize you again is real survivor ability. Its abusers that say dont call yourself a victim. Especially those who have strict expectations of roles. Especially the lingo of the far right trump types who think women should be kept in their place, which inclu des keeping in private the abuse at home. Survivors are the ultimate winners!
Why is your mortherlaw(rco)hate her son and the bride(LGV) not support her husband emotionally when he needed encouragement left him alone , brokenhearted,betrayed,stress, abandoned by his bride😢 many nights crying because wife didn't have faith in god to stand by her husband side where your love ,courage, strength to support,love,care for marriage in real life and make about other people this is private matter between family and god only and no one else's business people make mistakes all the time they dont make it everybodys business people need to respect couples privatecy
You did the right thing... you walked away from the Devil's den.
Absolutely 💯 right Thanks
They were together 3 years but ex girl friend said they did the same thing 2 years ago to her. Evidence of cheating.
Start with calling the cops and have that POS arrested for assault. Start annulment, ask if there is a lawyer present! WTF!
My dad, brothers and best friends would’ve seen to that abusive groom…best wishes to the poor bride.
Something tells she would have changed her marital status from married to WIDOWED? 😉
Yep. And the mother as well.
I would have pressed charges against that idiot for assult and filed for a annulment or divorce . He will be a cruel abusive husband . Don't forget a court order to keep him away .
Have him arrested. Let mommy bail him out.
Run girl, run and she did. Good story.
Sad story, she did well to cut ties with that man; it would only have gotten worse with his evil mother pulling the strings. Greetings from USA
If my husband hit me with a shoe it would be the last thing he ever did on this earth
Exactly. I've never even heard of such a thing.
Well. You haven't been seeing a lot. One in five women are abused. One in three are raped. This is the real life of women today. It's true you might not see a shoe hit. Because most perpetrators do all this in private. Nice in public. Dangerous at home.
@@anngoldberg7857
In some cultures, it is one of those 'ultimate insults' to strike a person's face, and to use a shoe (touches the ground) compounds the insult.
he has to sleep sometime, wouldn't wake up.
I know right the come to Jesus meeting would be a reality
I would have called the police to lock him up and put into jail immediately
Probably not in the US. Domestic abuse is ignored in some countries.
Please involve yourself in rescuing women in these circumstances. Your anger is useful. You will quickly find out how complicated it is to get away. And also simple.
In some parts of the u.s. there is important support for survivors of violence. And many places where law enforcement is very much concerned and laws that help them, where someone might be taken to jail. Also common is police that believe what your abuser does. So people are wise to plan when to go, where you can go to, how to keep your children, even resources like food and shelter.
And most important people who give a damn. Want to stop the horror. It's all too common.
Wish it were as possible to send batterers to jail.
Takes the court.
So it takes time and courage to deal with it all. We should be very proud of women who have given themselves a new life.
Plenty of witnesses 😊
YOU DID THE RIGHT THING, MOVE ON TO BIGGER, BRIGHTER AND BETTER THINGS.
LET GO OF THIS EVIL NARCISSISTIC MEN AND MOTHER!
Abusive men.... run!
The shoe in every culture means total Disrespect....call police now and leave him Now..while you are still alive!!!❤😢
UK here, hitting someone with a shoe doesn't mean total disrespect. Its classed as assault and the police should have been called to have the groom arrested.
That would have been the last time he hit anyone. Ever.
Assault!! I would've dialed 911 if I saw that!! That guy and his mother were big POS!! Glad you left, and ended it. Keep that friend who rescued you!!
Whether this story is true or not I’m glad she saw the sign to not continue being a part of that family.
THE TRUTH BEING EXPOSED! HE WILL NEVER CHANGE!!
Girl you have way more strength 💪🏻 than alot of us women have went through...
If he hits you once and he will do it again
A brilliant video with a strong message. Everyone needs to watch this!
This is my life for 22 years..when I tired to leave..he would assault me n keep my kids..I had 2 children within 3 years of our marriage.then the violence started..he died 9 years ago..I'm in peace...sometimes you can't run away from everyone..some r devils
I feel so sorry for You❣️🙏best wishes for rapid & thorough healing! My your days from now on be happy and filled with peace so that you can enjoy your freedom ❤🙏
Thoroughly enjoyed this story, well done 👍
Glad you enjoyed it
I was pleasantly surprised! I enjoyed this story very much. Thank you.
Glad you enjoyed it!
Realistic story, nicely edited for proper English.
Glad you think so!
Where does it originate from? India?
What a toxic husband. You should leave when he and mother ststted to control you. When he hit you during your wedding this is not the type of husband you want to spend your life with. You should report him to the police. Your wedding day should be the happiest day of your life not hitting you with his shoe. He should be ashamed of himself. No woman should be treated badly at her wedding day. Its good you left him.
She did.
No woman (or man for that matter) should be treated badly at any time.
Its a story
Hitting with a shoe in your wedding day. He will kill you if it's just the 2 of you. Never looked back.
A restraining order is just a piece of paper.
I can’t see a person would do such a stupid thing, with everyone watching.
But is this story true ?
If this was a little bit realistic, the assoult would have happened behind closed doors
Good for you for getting away from him!!!!!🎉🎉🎉
Well, being from Texas, this may have turned into a missing person story instead😂😂😂 But I really love this story and the end result was the best result it could have been. Well done writer!! 💔💔🤦♀️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Good Story !!!
Glad you liked it!
Three years ? There had to be a sign ! No way this was hidden ! He’s a demon, get away from him
Where the hell were your parents????? Your father stood by and watched this?
It’s a story…
@ stories on instagram are ridiculous. Not why I’m on it
You thrived lovey❤
You're lucky he showed his true color ....sue him for assault and divorce him. Make him stay in jail for assault.
TYPICAL BEHAVIOUR OF A NARCISSIST! BEING SET FREE!!!!!
This was an excellent story! It had everything in it. I truly enjoyed every word of it. Thank you. 😊😊😊
If he is abusing you in public, in front of all those people, what do think he will do to you when you are alone? My God woman, RUN, don't walk away. I'm sure there were warning signs that she just brushed aside. So very sad. Amy is a true friend to always treasure. Poor Ryan. He feels so bad. Yah right. You are not the one who's humiliated. Ryan and his mother are the ones who humiliated themselves. You want Sarah to fix this? You "fix" this yourself, it's YOUR problem now. If your mother means that much to you, marry her.
This must be a good lesson for every mother in law to distended them from their daughters and sons if they are married let them lived their own lives if they are in a relationship or married let them make their own decisions and mistakes and please keep your distance ,and if he hit you any time in your life leave him or her because they will never stop
Yes Right 👍
That's when I would say it's over! Marriage annulment and police to take pictures and charge him. Never never again.
It was better that he showed his true colors in front of witnesses.
It sad that some weak ass men let ther mothers run and ruin theirs lives. And some mothers have a thing for their sons and dont understand it. They need professional mental health intervention. They are sick and dont know it. That is so sad.
Also sick is how women are portrayed as the wicked ones. The actual perpetrator was the son.
@j.elampland1206 not all the time. The parent are the sick ones in some cases.
Run from a mama's boy as far as you can.
Unfortunately, restraining orders don’t stop bullets. You might qualify for a restraining order with all the criteria that so you can get one, but unfortunately, if that asshole wants to kill you or hurt you, it’s a free-for-all in the police, contrary to what I believe is their job requirement, don’t always take the person to jail or arrest him or anything. So be aware and get a lawyer get the restraining order but get the lawyer tell him what happened and see what other things you can do to keep that turkey away from hurting you again or from hurting your family. I used to be an advocate against domestic violence, and the women always managed to return to their abusive Husband/boyfriend within a two week time period because of promises that he made to say I’ll never do it again, I’m really sorry and it was all bullshit and lies. Once they start to hurt you, they’re always going to hurt you. Our legal system has to find better consequences for abusive jerks before they kill the woman. One more thing, the police seem to be more than happy to arrest the woman if she hits or shoots her abusive partner and I know that for a fact. Good luck with everything. Also, they do hide what they are really like. Hers hid his real personality for three years. Mine hid his personality for two years and then the abuse was on.
Never get in his presence again !
Ive been with my hubby since 1978. Never ever has he ever struck me. He could never ever be like that jerk.
You should have left then and never looked back sue him into hell
Why is her car at the reception venue? She drove herself there?
And the groom? Did he drive myself there? Weird.
Great story. Nice sequencing.
Glad you enjoyed it!
Your story would seem more believeable if someone had called the police . In reality someone would have done so.
Distracted from the story when she states they have been together for three years, but the ex girlfriend says 'he did the same to her two years ago'.
Ex gf said 2 years ago, but op said her and Ryan were together 3 years
So, he had another girlfriend on the side.
Holes in this story big enough to pilot a transport ship through.
Good story.
The marriage would be annulled in 24 hours!
Why would a bride have her car keys and not her wallet, brides don't usually have either at the reception, don't believe this is true
She could have driven their in her own car it happens sometimes.
Thats because it’s a story…..however I did drive myself to our wedding venue
If she clowns that house, she can force a short sale.
I was in tears as I went through this story. I guess most girls across the planet can relate to such horror. I have had my share of it and it all just came back to me. My Husband's mother left no stone unturned to make my life miserable in every possible way. Even to the point of instigating him to slap me. Despite being a Mamma's boy thankfully he didn't. We drifted apart and lived in separate rooms under the same roof for years. Gradually, my patience paid off and my relationship with my Husband changed for the better. My son, now a big boy, played an important part in bringing us together. Ofcourse "she" could not digest that and till date leaves no attempt to tear us apart again.
Why do these women get their sons married when they can't tolerate sharing him with another woman, to whom too he rightfully belongs? I live with her under the same roof but loom right through her as if she doesn't exist at all. For me she actually doesn't.
18:45 (such awesome lines) I am stronger now, not because of what "she" did. I stonger because of what I did. I walked away.
It was definitely not easy and I had to gatber a hell lot of courage to do that. But I am proud of myself for being able to do so.
To all the girls out there who are still in a mess - walk away. You have the courage within you. You just need to realize it. More power to you.
Is this real? insane
I didn’t bring my car keys to my wedding.
I brought my purse, keys and ID.
No cell phone since it was 1970.
Stupid girl, left 2 villens free to spoil some other girl
She had all the weapons to stop them hurting other
Both in jail. No job or no face left.wrong totally wrong
Shenazz - decide who the abuser is? Not the mother in law, or the bride, or even the jail.
To get away with these attitudes and actions toward women such people will find scapegoats or someone else to blame. Even whole countries do this!
'I did not mean to take off my shoe and slap you on the face with the shoe . . .'
The bride
RUN NOW girl he NEED s to marry his mammy. Get out now
So sad, but he did you a favor. Usually they do not start hitting you until you have signed on the dotted line.
Did the right thing and left
A.I. narration needs work. Pauses are not right.
He had to have signs before
Final gesture could only have been the culmination of many, over preceding months, leading up to this ... lots of red flags -- ignored .. perhaps cos bride did not love or value herself a whole lote more -- she deserved a whole lot better than this oaf.
Ridiculous story. He says “I didn’t mean to.” ??? He took off his shoe and slapped her face with it! What man does that? I know that people sadly, live in abusive relationships, but this story sounds made up. She wouldn’t all of a sudden have the nerve to stand up to him like that if he had been in an abusive relationship. And, I don’t believe the incident at the wedding would have been the first time he hit her-in front of everyone-no… If he had enough self-control to not ever have hit her & then lose it at a public event-their wedding, no less.
Put it in the papers ! He’s a fool, and a liar
Wasn’t made to be, o yeah we all got over possessed in laws. It would be even worse if you had done
If you had married him
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She should have charged him with assault
Must be nice having all these supportive friends and family. How could three years living with someone and buying a house not alert her somewhere? Most people would know and go through with it anyway, be urged to forgive this man. Who has a fantastic friend like this woman? Who has a big loyal available brother to be all there? Me thinks this is a made up story to get views.
Ryan is a mommies boy.. MIL is a controlling B... EFF em both. Let Ryan, marry his mother.
Why is it necessary to use God's name in vain?
She said when she ran out, she was looking for her car keys.
So, why would she have her car at her wedding?
It's a good story, but that part is kind of strange😮
I don't think we're hearing the whole story, because they had 3 years to figure out if she loved him enough to put up with his mother, especially knowing how he felt about her. If she did roll her eyes that would have been wrong.
On the other hand if he has a temper and he felt she did something wrong and felt like hitting her Why would he not use his hand instead of his shoe? And also do it in private. If the mother hates her so much, and he is such a mama's boy, then why would he go through with a wedding?
They probably had similar situations over the three years.
Run
.Curious...why was her car at the venue? Why did she have her car keys with her ? A fake story with a good message.
Too few women understand the warning signs; &, mistake them for "positive traits." I'm not even halfway through the video; &, can see numerous "red flags." If this is based upon a true story, the gal is really lucky that the POS "blew his cover" when & how he did. I'd go into more detail; but, I need to be getting outside & trying to get a lot done today. The warning signs & the "abuse cycle" are available to anyone on-line...
BTW: Although it's far more common for the female to be the victim; sometimes, the roles are reversed. This stuff really should be taught in high schools, instead of a lot of the pure crap that been getting taught in recent years...
So where is the video of the assault?
Hard to believe this unless he had a psychotic meltdown.
Most abusive husband's would have displayed hidden signs if you'd been together long enough. To have his mother mother him right up to the wedding day is a red flag. A red flag to have a man's mother involved in your relationship ANYWAY...
he obviously will always need a mother!
Also an abusive man, a psychopath and sociopath will usually hise this well, hurting you definitely where others cannot see or hold him accountable.A real psychopath would never want blame or be ridiculed and seen publically as the bad guy.AND RISK JAIL IMMEDIATELY AND SOOOO.MANY WITNESSES.
PRETTY DUMB STORY!
Pretty sure plenty of evidence from videos.
What’s with the hands on some of the women in the pictures? Some have extra fingers, some look as though they have 2 right or 2 left hands, it’s kind of creepy and distracting!
Bla bla bla.... should have been the end of the story before it started.
And u had ur keys and ur phone in your wedding dress ?????
When you call people cockroaches you best take a good look in the mirror!!!
Thjs is made up, you got slapped and walked out immediately to your car, you were at your wedding reception and you had the keys in your hand??? You got in your car, so on your wedding day you went to the reception in your own car??? Did your husband go in his??? Also his ex girlfriend said it happened to herc2 years ago and supposedly you were with him 3 years
I was at the 1:27 mark and said this is fake! Lol
These stories are always way too long by way of repetitiveness to watch to the end....point being...if she doesn't annul the marriage and press charges..
The story isn't worth watching anyway
Rubbish story why would the brides car be at the reception
My first thought
That's what bothers you? Is this what is called denial? Missing the point maybe?
So your keys were in your wedding dress pocket?😢😢😢
Whats wrong about calling yourself a victim or survivor? Its a put down to tell someone your struggles dont matter. Abuse makes victims. Fighting back with every tool in the book makes you a survivor. Avoiding others trying to victimize you again is real survivor ability.
Its abusers that say dont call yourself a victim. Especially those who have strict expectations of roles.
Especially the lingo of the far right trump types who think women should be kept in their place, which inclu des keeping in private the abuse at home.
Survivors are the ultimate winners!
Over done. Like a bad written drama.
why make a terrible story Bout such a tragedy??? Don’t you think people have struggled enough the last four years? Why not drum up a happy story
Fake, fake, fake.
I don't believe this happened for a minute.
It’s too extreme
I think it’s just a RUclipsr who wants lots of hits
That eas assult report him
Why is your mortherlaw(rco)hate her son and the bride(LGV) not support her husband emotionally when he needed encouragement left him alone , brokenhearted,betrayed,stress, abandoned by his bride😢 many nights crying because wife didn't have faith in god to stand by her husband side where your love ,courage, strength to support,love,care for marriage in real life and make about other people this is private matter between family and god only and no one else's business people make mistakes all the time they dont make it everybodys business people need to respect couples privatecy