GOD DOES NOT WANT ANY OF HIS DAUGHTERS TO BE ABUSED BY A MAN MENTALLY OR PHYSICALLY. Ladies, if your spouse loves you like Christ loved the church you would not have to endure abuse of any kind.
But the reality is that we're all just human at the end of the day. Yes Scripture says our husbands are to love us like Christ loves the church but when you really deep it it's kind of an impossible standard. Or atleast the husband won't just wake up in that mindset. It takes sanctification for any man to get there and sanctification takes time. Same as the mandate on us to submit to our husband as we submit to Christ. In 2023, which woman wants to dedicate herself to any man that deeply? And with zero reluctance? I'm not condoning abuse and I doubt Tim is referring to cases where abuse is present. However, to expect perfect or anything close to perfection is a one way ticket to divorce. No matter how much a man loves me it doesn't mean he's incapable of hurting me and that's just life. Which is why the caption says it's humbling to know you can't change anyone. The ony choice we have is accept them for who they are today and pray for and help them become better versions of themselves. Only thing we should lookout for is reciprocity. Because the presence or lack thereof of reciprocity is usually where abuse begins. Abuse is usually present in one-sided relationships.
@@traceydumase nothing in God is impossible standards. With God all things are possible that's is why he gave us holy spirit. I don't understand why you commented under a post of her telling women not to stand abusive relationships. She posted it because she knew some women would take what he said out of context and maybe stay in an abusive relationship. Deuteronomy 30:11-14 New International Version The Offer of Life or Death 11 Now what I am commanding you today is not too difficult for you or beyond your reach. 12 It is not up in heaven, so that you have to ask, “Who will ascend into heaven to get it and proclaim it to us so we may obey it?” 13 Nor is it beyond the sea, so that you have to ask, “Who will cross the sea to get it and proclaim it to us so we may obey it?” 14 No, the word is very near you; it is in your mouth and in your heart so you may obey it.
@@cmdubwms Ofcourse we can only achieve it WITH God but again you can't force anyone to submit to God's will. Do you get my point? Ultimately you only have control over yourself. And God won't force His will on anyone either. So as far as a husband is concerned, all you can do as a wife is stay in prayer and ask for perseverance. Otherwise there's absolutely nothing you can do to force or coerce your husband into being anybody other than who he is. That again the point Tim is making.
@@cmdubwms Also I did explicitly say I don't condone abuse. My comment was in no way shape or form meant to offend. We're all just sharing opinions here.
I accept who my husband is right now because he accepts who I am right now. When I feel disappointed in him I remember I’m not as amazing as my ego thinks I am.
I waited 4 years for a guy that God showed me this man as my husband, after the fourth year. I cried out to God and said that I wanted a man that would pick me first. That I deserve a man that is willingly waiting to serve and urgently repenting and going back to the lord not putting things on hold, like his breakthroughs or his relationships with God. Don’t be to quick to wait for a man that isn’t urgently waiting for the lord steps. God will send you a man that is willingly and wanting to love his daughter like they should be loved.
Wow! This is literally me. And I very prayerfully am fully dedicated no matter what. If this takes 10 more years, I’m here. If it takes 50, I’m still here. And I will work and work, and love and love, and strive to be the hands and feet of our Lord to my husband, no matter the outcome or the timeline. I’ve read enough scripture to grasp suffering, and I know God is blessing this, and me, and our children through it all. I pray for the change, but if it never comes I will still serve the Lord in this house and marriage. And if that’s the case for me, I know my reward will be great in Heaven at least. 🙏🏽♥️
We never talk about how some people are never going to change. You see there's a issue but they don't. They're living how they want to..Their freewill will not be over rode because you want it to be not even by God.
Yes,I witnessed this. I dedicated myself to God. He came back, after being divorced and said he wanted to earn me back and proceeded to do the same behavior that ended our marriage all over again. All while saying he was a God fearing man. Nope. Some don’t want to change, even when a brother in Christ tells them they need to. They can’t or won’t. It’s sad but it is true.
Maybe some women or men should wait to marry this person if they are not married. The resentment often comes when people get married and start thinking the vows will change that person. Don't do that to yourself.
I remember a minister saying many years ago that a man came to him and said that he wanted to marry his daughter but he wasn’t ready. The minister told the young man that he thanked God for his honesty because his daughter was ready at that time. His suggestion to the young man was to come back when he was ready, but there was no guarantee that she would still be available because he was open to interviewing other suitors for his daughter. Wise father and the daughter who obeyed him.
Been 25 years and 9 babies later has evolved into mental abuse. I won't end up in a box waiting. Life is just too short. My children can't afford for me to be oh so patient. Respectfully 🙏🏾
I've been separated for almost 6 years. God said leave. I said tell me when. He said stay still. I'll tell you when to change. He's told me to move a few times. But never back. I have neither a desire to be with him nor a desire move on. My job, for now, is to focus on my kids my purpose my growth. Soooooo I get it.
I needed this.. I never see comments pertaining to what I am going through... I was elated to read about your situation. It's been 4 years for me. Thank you for sharing your story!❤
My husband and I have actually debated on this topic. I'm honestly not sure where the line is. Physical abuse is definitely a time to leave. But how do you define verbal abuse? How long should it go on before you need to leave? Should it be contingent on whether or not you've gone through counseling together and whether or not he/she is penitent? There's a lot of people who misunderstand what verbal/emotional abuse is today, and I don't know how clearly God defines it as something to divorce/separate about.
@@angelinaworley8361 Read the Bible verse regarding love. Love is patient, love is kind. Verbal and emotional is anything that harms your spirit or threatens your sense of self and emotional wellbeing. A God fearing spouse will truly repent and refrain from that behavior.
Praying for all the faithful ladies here. May God bless us all with a glorifying life like in proverbs 31, even without the convenience of having a proverbs 31 husband.
Actually talk to wives more - why is missing more than commitment is a man who demotes his ego to follow god and love his wife properly - most marriages don’t fail bc of a lvl of commitment - that’s easy to say - but most fail bc of it never being a true marriage covenant taken seriously by the man - much more than the woman - woman is naturally suited to marriage - men need to have wisdom - which means fear of god - many men don’t fear god at all unless they become physically sick! That’s Fact!
Seriously. To me friendship means everything. Don’t have that in the relationship (family, dating, spouse, friends) then you have nothing in my opinion.
Ayo! 10 years of "patiently waiting " and God did change the situation. He took my husband's life... We cannot control who people CHOOSE to become. But, my God is real and very able! Tim you hit the nail on the head! I'm living this thing out and it's not the outcome I had hoped for, but because of God's compassion on our lives and the whole situation, I know that it's his will, not mine. Be encouraged because being a proverbs 31 woman in a marriage alone isn't easy. I just thank God for his grace and mercy and love for us. He is faithful. Things happen. Acceptance is definitely a key. But praying through a situation and having that time alone with God is what gets u to the other side free of mental stress and all the things that come with the decision to be that woman for that man. All praise to the most high 💯🔥💯🔥💯
Now this information is well and good. But if this person is a narcissist, please don't bother doing this waiting for them they might and will very much likely run you down to an early grave literally.
I turned my back on God to the point that I married an atheist 27 years ago. But 8 years ago I came back to Jesus and after 8 years of prayer shared with multiple small groups, pastors, Christian family and friends, he now states that he is a former atheist. Mind you, he doesn't yet know exactly who or what God is, but is asking questions, attending church and even visiting my small group. God has started a work in my husband, and I rely on His promise that He absolutely WILL finish it! PRAISE GOD FOREVER! HALLELUJAH!
We hold the power to change ourselves. instead of looking and tirelessly trying to change our partner. Do what you already have the power to do and change. It'll save you so much time, but you'd be amazed at how quickly your partner will change in response to you changing. It's OK to bend so that someone else can stand because they'll love to reach out their hands to you and help you stand too. But we live in a society where far too many people are unwilling to bend, but it is bold enough to ask the other person to do the bending.
I’m so glad you posted this because that’s been Gods Word for me, and my rebellious side has made Plan A, B &C to get away… but I know God told me to be still😅😔. Resting in faith is HARD for my personality type. Can I get a Amen!?!?
Somewhere he stopped communicating … I tried to stop there and find the flat that needed to be fixed… he said it was nothing, I was trippin… I been waiting patiently for 6 years… communication hasn’t improved, lies enough to get caught up… I feel worthless, and am an emotional wreck- 16 yrs his house wife… my start again looks very gloomy… but what do you do when nothing else is working?? You get up and do something god can use for his glory!! starting to grocery shop for money to pick up my pieces- don’t want to leave him, but I gotta pick me up out this place! Love me or let me go boo!! Let’s work together to build this thing, or let’s call it god and be friends!
I wasn’t patiently waiting, but I was waiting. For 6 years I waited….and then I messed up. And he should me how much he loves me….and I had to move to another state for a month to take a reset so that I could carry on patiently waiting. But it’s true. Don’t set a time limit. It could be 5 years. It could be 10 years. Just be careful not to let the devil trick you either
This is why premarital counseling is so important. Someone should help remove the blinders and ask those penetrating and uncomfortable questions y’all don’t want to ask when you’re in love. What do healthy finances look like to you? If your spouse becomes ill because of poor lifestyle choices and noncompliance, do you think you should have to stay and deal? Will the dealbreakers you had while dating still apply after marriage? After children? Let’s talk about the in-laws. Social media. Friends of the opposite sex. Some of these topics need a mediator.
sometimes the people we thought we know and love so dearly are not the same people we grow with, life in itself is difficult to live, if I definitely understand this podcast it means we will wait the longest time for our partners to change. one thing have learnt is that people don't change, they adjust or adapt new behaviors, so you on the other hand have to be decisive on what you want Regardless of how long you have been in that relationship, so that your God given purpose will come to fruition .
I'd choose to leave. Life is short and I refuse to allow another person to make me miserable endlessly. Waiting on another person to change, who is not working towards that change, is pointless. What if they never change or change for the worse? I'm the type to wish you the best for the next person who may experience the change I never did.
Amen!!!! I'm waiting, but I'm not toiling...like in Mark 6:48, Jesus was going to walk past the disciples because they were struggling at the oars... I'm good on my own until God brings me the man for me... I'm NOT settling.
Don’t believe God to change a man! Believe him to change your mind. Then when you are ready you can patiently and lovingly say goodbye! This is not what I want!
I was married 28 years but she had changed completely into exactly who I didn’t want in a wife and did nothing to support of encourage me. God used Covid to split us up and I decided to keep it that way and it’s been. A huge blessing in my ability to focus on my walk with god
Agree! Sometimes you God let God do the work in the person. Husband cheated and I firmly believe it was God that twice showed me my husband was a cheater; and he was waiting for me to be obedient and leave. I Can not control my husband’s actions, but my own response. I also think God wants us to be responsible of what he has given us and my life is a blessing and I have to manage and protect my peace and I have a responsibility to actively monitor my boundaries.
I waited 7 years, 5 kids and 4 baby mamas. I left for my mental health. He himself together 11 years after I left with our daughter. Never once did he try to keep a relationship with her. But now he has enough kids for a football team.... I'm sorry but I waited to long with that one. May God bless with better
I am currently going through my trials and am the 1 on the other side am waiting on my wife and on GOds perfect timing or his will to restore my marriage!!! It isn’t easy I left my old ways and now I have GOD in my heart and it’s been 3 years so far !!! I love my daughter and wife but she isn’t leaving her ways or the past go!! Witch I have apologize for many times . I even apologize to oldest daughter for not being mentally there for her 1st ten years of life , I have always been in her life but not as a father !!! But now GOD has giving me a new heart and open my eyes to life and now my daughter have their father thank you Jesus !!!!
i been waiting almost 15 years for a breakthrough thats still not come, and guess wait? my patience is not even tested yet for waiting for good things has no timeline or end AMEN!
I Absolutely believe in god & his strength & abilities! I have been patiently waiting for 21 years & had four children with this man & he has only gotten worse. I no longer believe this is what god wants for me. Sometimes we have to scream in order to be heard, but sometimes our silence & absence speaks louder.
I want to highlight that sometimes you got to walk away to let God work on them one on one. Sometimes God says He’s got better planned. Sometimes God says not yet. No one size fits all in this lesson. Pray hard, every situation is different.
Please folks, whatever you do, don't ask for patience - you asking for trouble, just wait: Romans 5:3 And not only so, but we glory in tribulations also: knowing that tribulation worketh patience; Just as how reps and sets works your muscles, so it is tribs/troubles gives/builds patience; Nobody have to ask for trouble, that just comes all by itself, "as the sparks fly upward"
It’s funny how no one talks about the verses before this particular verse about how the story is about a mother talking to her son, telling her son how he has to be in order to get the proverbs woman?
Is moving on giving up or is ir redirecting you’re life. Can you still support them without being with them. Holding on may hold you back. Is that worth it?
I was going to be there but he was already replacing me instead of healing himself so that just shows me he’s the type that will never be grateful. He believes he deserves green grass without watering it himself. He wanted his cake and to eat it too. He was never around when I needed him. When I needed emotional support, he was busy playing video games and pleasing his guy friends instead. One advice is never fall for looks because that’s what they have been using to get their way without actually ever being accountable for their own selfish actions. Be friends for at least 6 months and see how he shows up for you. Most likely he won’t. And he doesn’t show up then don’t say anything and walk away. No point in fighting for a man who is willing to jeopardize maintaining a relationship with you because he’d rather play video games or watch some sport that comes around every week. All these distractions men try to normalize to gas light women’s needs is crazy to me. But they show up for sex with no intention to give you anything in return is the saddest part. These guys were really raised with no values. Be careful out there because love is not enough anymore.
I know of a relationship where the women did just that for her husband who needed a lot of breakthrough. She prayed and stayed vigilant for yearsssss but sadly she died. He ended up devoting his life to Christ after this. This is the challenge. Will you be consistent and do what God wants from you even if you won’t see the result? Sometimes what you labor for is not for you but rather for someone else. This is why God says And whatever you do, do it heartily, as to the Lord and not to men, knowing that from the Lord you will receive the reward of the inheritance; for you serve the Lord Christ. Work As Unto The Lord. Colossians 3:22-24 ❤
Each person has to be working towards God, his will, and ways. This is not for the mentally, emotionally, and physically abused proverbs woman. 26 years is patience. How much does a person have to take. The rib comes from the man. A Proverbs 31 woman is what I strive to be daily. Also, the man cultivating the rib from his side should be a goal.
I've seen GOD do it. But it was the husband waiting for GOD to change his wife. The key point in this process was for the husband to obey Ephesians 5: 25-33 and not switch up and allow the flesh to destroy what GOD is doing. GOD was used that season to change the husband in order for him to properly love his wife so that he could sow seeds and water his garden and GOD have the increase!
Going through this right now with my woman , we are not married , I want to marry her , eventually , if and when she gets her mental health in order . She used to be physically abusive , she has stopped that and now it's just verbally , mentally , and spiritually abusive . I love her kids like they are my own ... any prayers would be helpful . Thank you
This is positive, but reality is some don't want to change and never will. Pray on it, watch carefully and move accordingly if there is no real effort to truely change.
The problem is the man is put into the position of leader ship by God, which means he’s leading the relationship so if the man is not correct with God, it means there is no leader ship and that makes it incredibly hard for the woman to do her job, so I think it’s about discernment, on who to marry - and also a conversation on what is marriage to God versus how do we see marriage because we see marriage we go to a church we get married we go to the ceremony, but how does God judge marriage? Is that what God feels is marriage because Adam and Eve didn’t do that that we are aware of mean who was marrying them I guess maybe Jesus was there in the garden marrying them I don’t know, but I feel like marriage is a covenant and you can be legally married to someone and not be in a covenant. I would imagine I don’t think that’s outside of the realm of possibility, so I feel that there are spiritual things to consider but it’s increasingly difficult to really have a spiritual conversation in the Christian community because if you bring up the spirituality of marriage and the idea that you might think you’re married, and you might’ve gone through the motions to be married, and you might have the government certificate, but God might not see you as married then that makes people even more uncomfortable because they want a surety. I’ve been good and have been right and that is the very thing that got Adam and Eve you know in their little predicament, right like Adam and Eve were trying to figure out what was right and wrong after God told him not to and so I just feel like there’s so much depth to the conversation and Christians just you know it’s just a hard community because everyone wants a surety. Everyone is seeking a surety instead of understanding that the very nature of spiritual knowledge is personal is unique is murky even and is something that is really personal between you and God like it’s only that a couple between God and himself do you know if they are really married in the eyes of God and people don’t like to hear that people don’t like to hear that, but that is true
@@ledonahentley4488 awww thanks it’s what god has been laying in my heart - the church preaches so confidently against so many things like divorce and all sorts of other things to be avoided but where are the spiritual eyes - if I are in a false marriage - meaning not a true Coventry is divorce really divorce? In the eyes of god? So it’s hard to have spiritual discernment bc there is no definitive answer - god has the true answer - we must learn to hear the Holy Spirit over men - even over pastors
When i met my wife I was a "Christian man" drinking, smoking pot, signs of godliness but denying its power etc but I figured "everything in moderation" right? Ill tell you, if that was all she saw in me when we were dating 5 years ago, she wouldn't have said yes when I asked her to marry me. If she didnt say yes, I wouldn't be assisting pastor a church and I wouldn't have attempted to walk a straight path, not just for her but for others. If the right man is in your life he will change because he loves God, not because he loves you. If your partners relationship with you is more important than their relationship with God, you may always face abuse.
If you are in an abusive relationship and you waited and waited for this person to change we're talking years mental and physical abuse I don't think God wants you to stay there and as a matter of fact God will show you the way to get out when God doesn't want you with somebody it just won't work
Did GOD say so? If GOD said it he will give you the patience, the real LOVE, the stamina, the bull-dog tenacity to hold on and trust GOD to do what he said..GOD's word will not return to him void but will accomplish what he sent it out to do. Break through will come, you just continue to pray..for better or for worst, richer or poore, till death do us part, we say these vows at the alter but we don't stand on it. Trials and tribulations show us who we really are...
NO. Trust & believe in God and yourself. Do NOT EVER wait for a man. If you are meant to be together then God will bring him back to you when it is ordained. Do not waste your life “waiting” for someone that God tried to keep away from you.
GOD DOES NOT WANT ANY OF HIS DAUGHTERS TO BE ABUSED BY A MAN MENTALLY OR PHYSICALLY. Ladies, if your spouse loves you like Christ loved the church you would not have to endure abuse of any kind.
That's right
But the reality is that we're all just human at the end of the day. Yes Scripture says our husbands are to love us like Christ loves the church but when you really deep it it's kind of an impossible standard. Or atleast the husband won't just wake up in that mindset. It takes sanctification for any man to get there and sanctification takes time. Same as the mandate on us to submit to our husband as we submit to Christ. In 2023, which woman wants to dedicate herself to any man that deeply? And with zero reluctance? I'm not condoning abuse and I doubt Tim is referring to cases where abuse is present. However, to expect perfect or anything close to perfection is a one way ticket to divorce. No matter how much a man loves me it doesn't mean he's incapable of hurting me and that's just life. Which is why the caption says it's humbling to know you can't change anyone. The ony choice we have is accept them for who they are today and pray for and help them become better versions of themselves. Only thing we should lookout for is reciprocity. Because the presence or lack thereof of reciprocity is usually where abuse begins. Abuse is usually present in one-sided relationships.
@@traceydumase nothing in God is impossible standards. With God all things are possible that's is why he gave us holy spirit. I don't understand why you commented under a post of her telling women not to stand abusive relationships. She posted it because she knew some women would take what he said out of context and maybe stay in an abusive relationship.
Deuteronomy 30:11-14
New International Version
The Offer of Life or Death
11 Now what I am commanding you today is not too difficult for you or beyond your reach. 12 It is not up in heaven, so that you have to ask, “Who will ascend into heaven to get it and proclaim it to us so we may obey it?” 13 Nor is it beyond the sea, so that you have to ask, “Who will cross the sea to get it and proclaim it to us so we may obey it?” 14 No, the word is very near you; it is in your mouth and in your heart so you may obey it.
@@cmdubwms Ofcourse we can only achieve it WITH God but again you can't force anyone to submit to God's will. Do you get my point? Ultimately you only have control over yourself. And God won't force His will on anyone either. So as far as a husband is concerned, all you can do as a wife is stay in prayer and ask for perseverance. Otherwise there's absolutely nothing you can do to force or coerce your husband into being anybody other than who he is. That again the point Tim is making.
@@cmdubwms Also I did explicitly say I don't condone abuse. My comment was in no way shape or form meant to offend. We're all just sharing opinions here.
I accept who my husband is right now because he accepts who I am right now. When I feel disappointed in him I remember I’m not as amazing as my ego thinks I am.
You just wrote a beautiful mesaage.
This one almost laid me out 😳🤯🙋🏽♀️🙌🏽🙌🏽🎯🙏🏽
Well Said
@ Courtney Alison… WOW, just WOW! Your heartfelt comment has blessed me more than you know! 💯🙌🏽
This was beautifully said!❤
I waited 4 years for a guy that God showed me this man as my husband, after the fourth year. I cried out to God and said that I wanted a man that would pick me first. That I deserve a man that is willingly waiting to serve and urgently repenting and going back to the lord not putting things on hold, like his breakthroughs or his relationships with God. Don’t be to quick to wait for a man that isn’t urgently waiting for the lord steps. God will send you a man that is willingly and wanting to love his daughter like they should be loved.
Wow! This is literally me. And I very prayerfully am fully dedicated no matter what. If this takes 10 more years, I’m here. If it takes 50, I’m still here. And I will work and work, and love and love, and strive to be the hands and feet of our Lord to my husband, no matter the outcome or the timeline. I’ve read enough scripture to grasp suffering, and I know God is blessing this, and me, and our children through it all. I pray for the change, but if it never comes I will still serve the Lord in this house and marriage. And if that’s the case for me, I know my reward will be great in Heaven at least. 🙏🏽♥️
We never talk about how some people are never going to change. You see there's a issue but they don't. They're living how they want to..Their freewill will not be over rode because you want it to be not even by God.
This!!!!
Yes,I witnessed this. I dedicated myself to God. He came back, after being divorced and said he wanted to earn me back and proceeded to do the same behavior that ended our marriage all over again. All while saying he was a God fearing man. Nope. Some don’t want to change, even when a brother in Christ tells them they need to. They can’t or won’t. It’s sad but it is true.
@@marieavila870 It’s True. Sometimes the most loving thing we can do is tell someone no and hold them responsible for their actions.
Facts!
Maybe some women or men should wait to marry this person if they are not married. The resentment often comes when people get married and start thinking the vows will change that person. Don't do that to yourself.
^this
Agreed❤
I remember a minister saying many years ago that a man came to him and said that he wanted to marry his daughter but he wasn’t ready. The minister told the young man that he thanked God for his honesty because his daughter was ready at that time. His suggestion to the young man was to come back when he was ready, but there was no guarantee that she would still be available because he was open to interviewing other suitors for his daughter. Wise father and the daughter who obeyed him.
There's nothing easy about relationships. Bottom line, always rely on God's Love and Strength to get you through it all.
Been 25 years and 9 babies later has evolved into mental abuse. I won't end up in a box waiting. Life is just too short. My children can't afford for me to be oh so patient. Respectfully 🙏🏾
I hear your heart.
Facts Pastor Tim. This is a humbling sobering truth that I have been hesitant to accept. But I surrender my timeline to God.
Waiting on a breakthrough! I am praying for endurance and resilience.
I've been separated for almost 6 years. God said leave. I said tell me when. He said stay still. I'll tell you when to change. He's told me to move a few times. But never back. I have neither a desire to be with him nor a desire move on. My job, for now, is to focus on my kids my purpose my growth. Soooooo I get it.
I needed this.. I never see comments pertaining to what I am going through... I was elated to read about your situation. It's been 4 years for me. Thank you for sharing your story!❤
As long as there is NO abuse verbal, emotional , or physical going on.
My husband and I have actually debated on this topic. I'm honestly not sure where the line is. Physical abuse is definitely a time to leave. But how do you define verbal abuse? How long should it go on before you need to leave? Should it be contingent on whether or not you've gone through counseling together and whether or not he/she is penitent? There's a lot of people who misunderstand what verbal/emotional abuse is today, and I don't know how clearly God defines it as something to divorce/separate about.
its gonna be one or the other..lol
@@angelinaworley8361 Read the Bible verse regarding love. Love is patient, love is kind. Verbal and emotional is anything that harms your spirit or threatens your sense of self and emotional wellbeing. A God fearing spouse will truly repent and refrain from that behavior.
So much truth here....25 years and am still waiting, still praying, still believing God.
I feel this. I’m only 14 years in, but I feel the long stretch. May God bless you with grace, patience, and endurance sister. 🙏🏽♥️
Amen I'm on year 10 as well. I want my husband saved so badly. I'm praying for his breakthrough
Me too❤️
Praying for all the faithful ladies here. May God bless us all with a glorifying life like in proverbs 31, even without the convenience of having a proverbs 31 husband.
More people need this jewel. People lack dedication and commitment nowadays.
Actually talk to wives more - why is missing more than commitment is a man who demotes his ego to follow god and love his wife properly - most marriages don’t fail bc of a lvl of commitment - that’s easy to say - but most fail bc of it never being a true marriage covenant taken seriously by the man - much more than the woman - woman is naturally suited to marriage - men need to have wisdom - which means fear of god - many men don’t fear god at all unless they become physically sick! That’s Fact!
I feel I'm going through this now.....I have to keep praying for strength and wisdom and more patience than what I have
This is why I wish there were more healthy platonic relationships
Seriously. To me friendship means everything. Don’t have that in the relationship (family, dating, spouse, friends) then you have nothing in my opinion.
I agree
Ayo! 10 years of "patiently waiting " and God did change the situation. He took my husband's life... We cannot control who people CHOOSE to become. But, my God is real and very able! Tim you hit the nail on the head! I'm living this thing out and it's not the outcome I had hoped for, but because of God's compassion on our lives and the whole situation, I know that it's his will, not mine. Be encouraged because being a proverbs 31 woman in a marriage alone isn't easy. I just thank God for his grace and mercy and love for us. He is faithful. Things happen. Acceptance is definitely a key. But praying through a situation and having that time alone with God is what gets u to the other side free of mental stress and all the things that come with the decision to be that woman for that man.
All praise to the most high 💯🔥💯🔥💯
Do no do that if your spouse is toxic. Do not make idols of a spouse. Do not choose you over your spouse.
Now this information is well and good. But if this person is a narcissist, please don't bother doing this waiting for them they might and will very much likely run you down to an early grave literally.
Amen and Amen they thrive off your pain
Amen
I turned my back on God to the point that I married an atheist 27 years ago. But 8 years ago I came back to Jesus and after 8 years of prayer shared with multiple small groups, pastors, Christian family and friends, he now states that he is a former atheist. Mind you, he doesn't yet know exactly who or what God is, but is asking questions, attending church and even visiting my small group. God has started a work in my husband, and I rely on His promise that He absolutely WILL finish it! PRAISE GOD FOREVER! HALLELUJAH!
I'm on the other side of this & it took 8 years. Worth every minute & every tear
I gave up and God is moving in my life and blessing me left and right ever since by putting Godly ppl in my life at the right time 🥰❤️
I don't even pray for patience. I want him about as much as he wants me. Not only that, there's a smarter man right behind him😏
We hold the power to change ourselves. instead of looking and tirelessly trying to change our partner. Do what you already have the power to do and change. It'll save you so much time, but you'd be amazed at how quickly your partner will change in response to you changing. It's OK to bend so that someone else can stand because they'll love to reach out their hands to you and help you stand too. But we live in a society where far too many people are unwilling to bend, but it is bold enough to ask the other person to do the bending.
I’m so glad you posted this because that’s been Gods Word for me, and my rebellious side has made Plan A, B &C to get away… but I know God told me to be still😅😔. Resting in faith is HARD for my personality type. Can I get a Amen!?!?
Somewhere he stopped communicating … I tried to stop there and find the flat that needed to be fixed… he said it was nothing, I was trippin… I been waiting patiently for 6 years… communication hasn’t improved, lies enough to get caught up… I feel worthless, and am an emotional wreck- 16 yrs his house wife… my start again looks very gloomy… but what do you do when nothing else is working?? You get up and do something god can use for his glory!! starting to grocery shop for money to pick up my pieces- don’t want to leave him, but I gotta pick me up out this place! Love me or let me go boo!! Let’s work together to build this thing, or let’s call it god and be friends!
I wasn’t patiently waiting, but I was waiting. For 6 years I waited….and then I messed up. And he should me how much he loves me….and I had to move to another state for a month to take a reset so that I could carry on patiently waiting. But it’s true. Don’t set a time limit. It could be 5 years. It could be 10 years. Just be careful not to let the devil trick you either
I'm doing exactly that it is not easy 🙌🙌🙌🙌
That gave me chills! “If you are believing God…” that applies to everything in life!
This is why premarital counseling is so important. Someone should help remove the blinders and ask those penetrating and uncomfortable questions y’all don’t want to ask when you’re in love. What do healthy finances look like to you? If your spouse becomes ill because of poor lifestyle choices and noncompliance, do you think you should have to stay and deal? Will the dealbreakers you had while dating still apply after marriage? After children? Let’s talk about the in-laws. Social media. Friends of the opposite sex. Some of these topics need a mediator.
Ok, but how do I know if I am the one that should be next to him when the breakthrough happens? What if I am holding him back from the breakthrough...
What if the hurt and pain from me leaving is what leads him to the breakthrough?
@@elizabethwilson6118 that happens sometimes. Look up RC Blakes. He shares how his now-wife leaving him was a catalyst to him changing.
sometimes the people we thought we know and love so dearly are not the same people we grow with, life in itself is difficult to live, if I definitely understand this podcast it means we will wait the longest time for our partners to change. one thing have learnt is that people don't change, they adjust or adapt new behaviors, so you on the other hand have to be decisive on what you want Regardless of how long you have been in that relationship, so that your God given purpose will come to fruition .
True. While back at the ranch.. we and God doing our thing.. ill pray for him... but I'm living in the progress
I'd choose to leave. Life is short and I refuse to allow another person to make me miserable endlessly. Waiting on another person to change, who is not working towards that change, is pointless. What if they never change or change for the worse? I'm the type to wish you the best for the next person who may experience the change I never did.
Amen!!!! I'm waiting, but I'm not toiling...like in Mark 6:48, Jesus was going to walk past the disciples because they were struggling at the oars... I'm good on my own until God brings me the man for me... I'm NOT settling.
Don’t believe God to change a man! Believe him to change your mind. Then when you are ready you can patiently and lovingly say goodbye! This is not what I want!
I was married 28 years but she had changed completely into exactly who I didn’t want in a wife and did nothing to support of encourage me. God used Covid to split us up and I decided to keep it that way and it’s been. A huge blessing in my ability to focus on my walk with god
How far do we step back?
Agree! Sometimes you God let God do the work in the person. Husband cheated and I firmly believe it was God that twice showed me my husband was a cheater; and he was waiting for me to be obedient and leave. I Can not control my husband’s actions, but my own response. I also think God wants us to be responsible of what he has given us and my life is a blessing and I have to manage and protect my peace and I have a responsibility to actively monitor my boundaries.
man I love listening to you
I just wish I had this wisdom years ago
God blessed you greatly🙏💯
I waited 7 years, 5 kids and 4 baby mamas. I left for my mental health. He himself together 11 years after I left with our daughter. Never once did he try to keep a relationship with her. But now he has enough kids for a football team.... I'm sorry but I waited to long with that one. May God bless with better
REAL TALK!!!💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯
I am currently going through my trials and am the 1 on the other side am waiting on my wife and on GOds perfect timing or his will to restore my marriage!!! It isn’t easy I left my old ways and now I have GOD in my heart and it’s been 3 years so far !!! I love my daughter and wife but she isn’t leaving her ways or the past go!! Witch I have apologize for many times . I even apologize to oldest daughter for not being mentally there for her 1st ten years of life , I have always been in her life but not as a father !!! But now GOD has giving me a new heart and open my eyes to life and now my daughter have their father thank you Jesus !!!!
God told me to let go cause he has better for me so I did what he said
I waited 10 years!, 2 times cheated on, 19 years of marriage, I’m pretty sure God said enough!, and he helped me through!
i been waiting almost 15 years for a breakthrough thats still not come, and guess wait? my patience is not even tested yet for waiting for good things has no timeline or end AMEN!
I Absolutely believe in god & his strength & abilities!
I have been patiently waiting for 21 years & had four children with this man & he has only gotten worse. I no longer believe this is what god wants for me. Sometimes we have to scream in order to be heard, but sometimes our silence & absence speaks louder.
Maybe 20 to 30 or never! Only GOD can change a person, so let GOD keep you!❤
I want to highlight that sometimes you got to walk away to let God work on them one on one. Sometimes God says He’s got better planned. Sometimes God says not yet. No one size fits all in this lesson. Pray hard, every situation is different.
I am waiting on my husband and it’s hard 😢but I know for a fact that I will not do marriage this way forever, so I wait😢
So good! Any1 know what season & pod this is from? Plez & TY! 😁☺️
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Oh no I publicly give up. Noo no no. It just won't be him.
Please folks, whatever you do, don't ask for patience - you asking for trouble, just wait:
Romans 5:3
And not only so, but we glory in tribulations also: knowing that tribulation worketh patience;
Just as how reps and sets works your muscles, so it is tribs/troubles gives/builds patience;
Nobody have to ask for trouble, that just comes all by itself, "as the sparks fly upward"
I needed this!!!! Amen God is good
A thousand years I will wait!!!
It’s funny how no one talks about the verses before this particular verse about how the story is about a mother talking to her son, telling her son how he has to be in order to get the proverbs woman?
1000 years = 1 day for God
Is moving on giving up or is ir redirecting you’re life. Can you still support them without being with them. Holding on may hold you back. Is that worth it?
It’s nice to know I’m not alone in this…
I was going to be there but he was already replacing me instead of healing himself so that just shows me he’s the type that will never be grateful. He believes he deserves green grass without watering it himself. He wanted his cake and to eat it too. He was never around when I needed him. When I needed emotional support, he was busy playing video games and pleasing his guy friends instead. One advice is never fall for looks because that’s what they have been using to get their way without actually ever being accountable for their own selfish actions. Be friends for at least 6 months and see how he shows up for you. Most likely he won’t. And he doesn’t show up then don’t say anything and walk away. No point in fighting for a man who is willing to jeopardize maintaining a relationship with you because he’d rather play video games or watch some sport that comes around every week. All these distractions men try to normalize to gas light women’s needs is crazy to me. But they show up for sex with no intention to give you anything in return is the saddest part. These guys were really raised with no values. Be careful out there because love is not enough anymore.
Good morning brother
Thank you for your message. It’s was very helpful to me, but I want to know where do you get frames for lenses. ❤❤❤😊
It’s been 15 + years of waiting for breakthrough to happen. He doesn’t want breakthrough…
I know of a relationship where the women did just that for her husband who needed a lot of breakthrough. She prayed and stayed vigilant for yearsssss but sadly she died. He ended up devoting his life to Christ after this.
This is the challenge. Will you be consistent and do what God wants from you even if you won’t see the result? Sometimes what you labor for is not for you but rather for someone else.
This is why God says And whatever you do, do it heartily, as to the Lord and not to men, knowing that from the Lord you will receive the reward of the inheritance; for you serve the Lord Christ. Work As Unto The Lord. Colossians 3:22-24
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Each person has to be working towards God, his will, and ways. This is not for the mentally, emotionally, and physically abused proverbs woman. 26 years is patience. How much does a person have to take. The rib comes from the man. A Proverbs 31 woman is what I strive to be daily. Also, the man cultivating the rib from his side should be a goal.
What episode is this??
That Really Just Opened My Mind❤
I've seen GOD do it. But it was the husband waiting for GOD to change his wife. The key point in this process was for the husband to obey Ephesians 5: 25-33 and not switch up and allow the flesh to destroy what GOD is doing. GOD was used that season to change the husband in order for him to properly love his wife so that he could sow seeds and water his garden and GOD have the increase!
Going through this right now with my woman , we are not married , I want to marry her , eventually , if and when she gets her mental health in order . She used to be physically abusive , she has stopped that and now it's just verbally , mentally , and spiritually abusive . I love her kids like they are my own ... any prayers would be helpful . Thank you
How long is too long? No one doesn't wait long enough to end up marrying him to be his unpaid nurse.
Not waiting for any man to grow up... Advice like this primes women for narcissistic abuse
There is only one person I will wait a long period of time for, and it has been 14 years.
This is positive, but reality is some don't want to change and never will. Pray on it, watch carefully and move accordingly if there is no real effort to truely change.
The problem is the man is put into the position of leader ship by God, which means he’s leading the relationship so if the man is not correct with God, it means there is no leader ship and that makes it incredibly hard for the woman to do her job, so I think it’s about discernment, on who to marry - and also a conversation on what is marriage to God versus how do we see marriage because we see marriage we go to a church we get married we go to the ceremony, but how does God judge marriage? Is that what God feels is marriage because Adam and Eve didn’t do that that we are aware of mean who was marrying them I guess maybe Jesus was there in the garden marrying them I don’t know, but I feel like marriage is a covenant and you can be legally married to someone and not be in a covenant. I would imagine I don’t think that’s outside of the realm of possibility, so I feel that there are spiritual things to consider but it’s increasingly difficult to really have a spiritual conversation in the Christian community because if you bring up the spirituality of marriage and the idea that you might think you’re married, and you might’ve gone through the motions to be married, and you might have the government certificate, but God might not see you as married then that makes people even more uncomfortable because they want a surety. I’ve been good and have been right and that is the very thing that got Adam and Eve you know in their little predicament, right like Adam and Eve were trying to figure out what was right and wrong after God told him not to and so I just feel like there’s so much depth to the conversation and Christians just you know it’s just a hard community because everyone wants a surety. Everyone is seeking a surety instead of understanding that the very nature of spiritual knowledge is personal is unique is murky even and is something that is really personal between you and God like it’s only that a couple between God and himself do you know if they are really married in the eyes of God and people don’t like to hear that people don’t like to hear that, but that is true
I wish I could like this a thousand times!!!
@@ledonahentley4488 awww thanks it’s what god has been laying in my heart - the church preaches so confidently against so many things like divorce and all sorts of other things to be avoided but where are the spiritual eyes - if I are in a false marriage - meaning not a true Coventry is divorce really divorce? In the eyes of god? So it’s hard to have spiritual discernment bc there is no definitive answer - god has the true answer - we must learn to hear the Holy Spirit over men - even over pastors
Anyone know where this original video is?
This speared my heart. Gotta digest this. Wow.
What broadcast is this from?
Stepped straight on my toes 😢
What episode is this called?
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This right here!!! ❤
Which episode is this from?
I waited 2 years.
Then I did what was best for him and for me.
Take him to God and leave.
Hope he Is taking good decisions.
So deep!!
Sometimes it is not meant for you....
This hurts but it’s true
This is so true.
The Almighty pleads our cause.
Amen Amen Amen
When i met my wife I was a "Christian man" drinking, smoking pot, signs of godliness but denying its power etc but I figured "everything in moderation" right? Ill tell you, if that was all she saw in me when we were dating 5 years ago, she wouldn't have said yes when I asked her to marry me. If she didnt say yes, I wouldn't be assisting pastor a church and I wouldn't have attempted to walk a straight path, not just for her but for others. If the right man is in your life he will change because he loves God, not because he loves you. If your partners relationship with you is more important than their relationship with God, you may always face abuse.
It took 22 years, but, we’re married now.
You better walk!!!!👣👣👣👣👣👣👣
If you are in an abusive relationship and you waited and waited for this person to change we're talking years mental and physical abuse I don't think God wants you to stay there and as a matter of fact God will show you the way to get out when God doesn't want you with somebody it just won't work
Thank you ❤
Did GOD say so? If GOD said it he will give you the patience, the real LOVE, the stamina, the bull-dog tenacity to hold on and trust GOD to do what he said..GOD's word will not return to him void but will accomplish what he sent it out to do. Break through will come, you just continue to pray..for better or for worst, richer or poore, till death do us part, we say these vows at the alter but we don't stand on it. Trials and tribulations show us who we really are...
This guy called Jesus a stripper
It's so hard.
NO. Trust & believe in God and yourself. Do NOT EVER wait for a man. If you are meant to be together then God will bring him back to you when it is ordained. Do not waste your life “waiting” for someone that God tried to keep away from you.
Why are you encouraging someone WAITING for someone to be whole when they can just go get someone THAT IS whole or just be single????
Amen.
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