It’s a little off topic but that’s so true. We weren’t made to know everything that’s going on. I personally have a Christian family member whom I love dearly but they’re so into everything that’s going on in the world, and all the signs “for propaganda reasons” that they’re so obsessed over it and instead of preaching God’s love they’re preaching signs… I do need a social media detox, I just have a hard time doing it! 😫
Jess 🫶🏽 this is sooo wonderful! I was initially inspired by YOU during your social media detox days. I’ve been taking Sundays off and it’s been so life changing. Love love this challenge 💕
Deleted all social media (except RUclips, but don’t have the app) almost a year ago and I do not miss it! It feels so much better without it and worrying what other people think about you, especially people who aren’t your community! Definitely recommend!
Just wanna say Jess you are a hardworking person and you deserve everything. A rest and your time . We love you and you inspire us each day to be a better person. If one day you feel like you wanna take a break from this social media and RUclips. You deserve it. As you are working hard for so many years
I’ve been on a Conte grind lately rewatching all your old vlogs so this 20+ min post came just at the right time 🥹 your vids never fail to calm me, love you Jess!
Okay, you've inspired me. I was traveling for the past month and spent so much time away from my screen. And guess what, I was happier, less stressed, lost weight, more confident, and felt BEAUTIFUL. Now that I'm home I don't want to pick up old habits and be glued to my screen again.
When you said “this is not a plug for my journal” I literally went straight to Amazon and bought it because your journal is a perfect way to get away from the phones and exactly what I needed 😊 This was so inspiring, thanks for all your great insight Jess as always!
I recently also took a break from Instagram and it really does feel good not constantly seeing what’s up with other people’s lives that don’t necessarily add value to mine ☺️ happy to hear about your experience as you def inspired me to start this kind of social media detox!
Woah that line “it feels good not constantly seeing what’s up with other people’s lives that don’t necessarily add value to mine.” A great reminder to focus on myself & not so much on those who don’t add value to mine. I definitely want to do a sm detox even more so that I have anxiety & I know being off sm will help tremendously.
thank you for the *very* brief cutting down expenses chat! it can be such a taboo topic, but you mentioning “paying off some debt” with a slight sigh lifted a weight off my shoulders.
I feel like this is what I’ve been needing. I do feel that social media sometimes can be so distracting and it steals sooo much time from our lives, time we could be living and doing something meaningful. 😕
I find this so inspiring because I’ve been feeling like I need to detox from social media! One thing that helps me when I have instagram is I have muted all of the people that I follow except the close family and friends i like to keep updated with. This helps me from scrolling and allows me to still feel connected! It’s a long process to mute about 150-200 people but it’s worth it!
I recently deleted my socials, and it's been so freeing! Love that you do this. Also, I've had your new song on repeat constantly over the past few days. So beautiful
I am so proud of you both for doing a social media cleanse! I have been off of all social media (except for RUclips) for the past 5 years, and it has been the most incredible thing for my soul and my life. I encourage everyone to try it if you’re able to. ☺️💕
Momma here. I completely understand. I got rid of social media after my 2nd, and I was less stressed, more present, and more in tune with my spouse. I think in some ways we're not meant to have it but somehow we do and it makes people less social and less talkative.
Hey Jess! I just wanted to say that you are such an inspiration to me and I am so obsessed with your content! You are such a light to so many people and I am so grateful for you! Thank you for always showing up for us every week and I hope you’re having an amazing day! Ilysm and watching you be a mother to Makaiah is so sweet and humbling 💕💕
I do the social media detox ever so often, and what really helps me to more discipline my self is implementing Bible time. Bible study is very motivational. I highly recommend to anyone. I thank yo so much Jess for encouraging me to do this more often. ☺️
Oh my god needed this sign! It’s quite a lot of effort and I think we’re so comfortable with being on about phones but it’s for the better to set time limits and reduce our usage. I am trying to reduce my screen time and start doing little things everyday instead of scrolling for hours. I am going to embrace this new routine in July and just suddenly significantly reduce me screen time. And I think the key is not telling anyone you’re going to do it but just go ahead and do it and then tell them!!
I deactivated Twitter and Tiktok for good and it was lowkey one of the best things I've done. My mind is so much more quiet with not as much (unnecessary) nonsense occupying it.
I totally agree! Social media can be very addicting, can put your mind in comparison and let you feel that your not doing enough with your life, I find myself feeling looking everyone highlight filter world..makes me feel I’m not doing anything huge in my life..which I feel people now and days people live showing..honestly I don’t like it because people need a be a empathetic and now that not everything is perfect and glamorous..
I stopped looking at people’s sorries maybe about a year ago, but I deleted my social media apps completely in March, except for RUclips. I rarely comment on videos so I don’t really count it as “social” media, I mainly watch videos that I can play in the background while I’m walking or cleaning the same way I do with podcasts. But I wanted to input on this one because it definitely was one of the best things I could have done for myself. Social media is a good way to connect, but it’s also such a toxic place and so bad for you. I wish everyone would regularly take time off of social media, I feel like we would all be a lot happier.
You don't know how loved you're.... and being a mom there's alot of personality change that I see in you which is so lovely and amazing to watch you're growing and glowing jess.... God bless 💛💛
I took a 30 day social media break at the start of the year, deleted all my apps and I STILL haven’t re downloaded them 😅 besides RUclips which is gonna be my next task 😆). It really is peaceful and I honestly don’t miss it or care much. Now, occasionally I’ll check FB/IG on my laptop and I’m like …. This is lame and boring and log off after 2 min 🤪 personally, I keep it for networking and check it for messages and what not. I think breaks are a great thing! 💖
When I get off of social media, it’s usually for a week. I’ve done it a couple times now, and I felt like I could breathe & had much more time for my hobbies and class work! Social media is great, but as a Christian, I realized I started putting it above God. That’s when I realized how I started to idolize social media. Glad to hear that you benefited so well from the social media break!
I've done social media detox before and it just feels amazing. It allowed me to focus on myself because in social media esp. instagram, it made me compare myself to other people. I deleted tiktok last year and still didn't installed it back, then i also deleted Instagram, Facebook, twitter and stopped watching RUclips. It was really the best thing for me and was a great help for me focusing on my studies. I started to have better grades and appreciate the things and people around me more. Now, since it's summer, i'm back in socials but when classes start again, i'll go again on my social media hybernation lol
So inspiring:) it made me further encouraged to do a detox but in a way that didn’t feel like I was a failure or needed to get my entire life together. It was in a pleasant way of just a “yeah you know what, I think I will detox”
for the last week and a half, I've been not letting myself scroll on social media. I've let myself watch stories and catch up on friends posts for about 10 minutes then if I clicked on reels or started looking at things from not friends or family I immediately got off the app. I still watched youtube (on computer instead of phone) or a show because I can do productive things while I do that. It's been so freeing and I've been trying to find things to do with all the extra time during the day.
Shoutout to COTC with that Digital Detox series 👏🏻 my wife and I felt the fomo at the beginning but felt so freed from comparison and so much less anxious all the time.
There are no coincidences with God! He’s always speaking to us and when we shut off distractions is when we hear/feel His presence/voice more!💛 so proud of you Jess! Keep being amazing!
It is my summer & i could be doing so much more things, but i spend my days on youtube. This is a sign, i am going to take up your challenge. Wish me luck!!!❤
From the people I am around, I have noticed my generation (Gen Z) is able to be off their phone and enjoy time with others and/or do something without technology. I’m always hearing my friends say "Ugh, I need to do something other than stare at my screen!" However, with older generations I’ve noticed they will be on their laptop or phone. Many times a family member of mine and I will be out to lunch and I’m trying to talk to her, and she’s just on her phone scrolling the whole time.
i wanna do a social media detox but i’m not kidding if i tell you that the main reason i always install instagram again is because i don’t wanna miss out on yours and gabe’s content 😭😂
omg haha wait that is so sweet 🤣😭 I guess you could always just use the computer/website of instagram if you ever want to check in one someone specifically 🤭
@@JessConte yess that’s exactly what i do in the periods of time i don’t have instagram installed on my phone haha! i’m thinking it would also be helpful if i would go through my following pages and see if i can make a selection there: the less content, the less distraction (right? 🫣)
For me every time I try a digital detox, it's more about having a time limit. I spend hours scrolling, and if there are timers in place or time limits it helps so much. As digital creators you and Gabe do need to know what trends are going on and things like that for work reasons.
I always feel a little bad when I watch videos like this, because i really want to take part of the "movement" of not using your phone as much. Bit as i get those feeling, I am sitting in my bed watching youtube. And then I feel bad for watching RUclips, but I don't know what else to do, when i want to relax. The quote about a pre/post iPhone mom really scared me, because I don't remember a pre iPhone me at all. I grew up with a screen and now I don't know how to live without it.
My husband and I are actually going to be doing a 40 day social media detox and a no spending rule. I have noticed myself consumed with social media lately and we are spending a little too much money so praying that the Lord reveals himself and shows us what is important and that we don’t need to spend money to have fun.
I believe our hearts and minds aren’t meant to know about so many peoples lives also. I unfollowed a lot of people (you can always silence them versus unfollowing) , and created a new rule for myself - if I don’t talk to this person in real life I won’t follow them, with the exception of a few bloggers. It’s really minimized my feed and I see the people I want to know about ! I also take around 3 social media breaks a year. Social media has its benefits but I think to use it healthily we need to be okay with taking occasional breaks from it.
i did too a fast on social media and secular music for the whole of may and it was honestly the best. my attention span was improved and i learned a lot about God and just overall had a lot of piece!!
At the end of last year I decided to take a break from social media for a week and it was hard at first getting used to it because it made you realize how often you mindlessly just open them and I felt like I had fomo too lol but after the first week it felt so good and I ended up staying off for over a month! It was amazing! I recommend to everyone! So good for your mental health and being present with loved ones.
I like how you said that you “can’t delete all your social media apps” but mentioned also that that’s an excuse. It shows that you are very aware. Even our jobs can become an excuse. Ultimately it is still our choice how much we are willing to surrender to do such a challenge but ofcourse no judgment here, it is always our choice between us and God and not for others to judge. But it really challenged me internally when you said that because i realised it is true, it is never that we can’t do something but how much we are really willing to go all out to do it.
Cant say I’ve ever actually deleted the apps 🙈 but I do have some boundaries that I’m finally following that are helpful! 1. 20 min time limit for Facebook and Instagram 2. I also did no RUclips videos for a month! Took me a month to binge yours and the other few families I follow 😅 3. I “muted” a few hundred, and I do mean hundreds, of stories so that I would only see my actual friends stories and I watch about 5-10 before scrolling to catch up on big news (if you’re not on much, the most important news comes up in the first few posts), and then a few minutes answering DMs 4. I pretty much don’t watch TV (but when I do, I binge 😂) but typically watch cozy RUclips videos or working on personal development. 5. Mornings I look at my phones screen to see if there are any main notifications but I have notification settings set so that the badge app doesn’t show if it’s an app I have a set time for (eg emails, socials, etc) but I still see the notification on my homepage. The quick check is just in case of emergency. 6. I use Alexa as an alarm! 7. When I come home from work, I check my emails and finances/budget, but then work on personal projects/hobbies or read! I’m a bit worried for kids who just watch content rather than get creative themselves and learn skills for themselves! Gotta learn to learn new things haha. But I’m trying to learn that I can actually rest and not worry if someone needs me one day a week, I would LOVE to be able to actually shut off my whole phone for a day, so that I can’t even be “productive.” I’m working toward that! But I feel for you, there’s no shame in using socials for work, since it’s your job! Most of us can’t say that 😅
I deleted TikTok and Instagram a few months ago. Was supposed to be just for a small period of time when I had a lot to study. Never returned though, it's just so much better for my time management and productivity and mental health.
Hi Jess, I have a tip for you, what I usually do with social media is that I use the browser version rather than downloading the apps, what I have found is that since the browser version is super restricted you just give up half way lol, I also noticed once I downloaded the apps it made me feel addicted.
I could easily 'give up' Social Media (fb, ig, tik tok) BUT i must say that i LOVE my RUclips time... RUclips Time has been my version of 'TV Time' for the last 9 years. 💖
I think thats why I love your videos. We are very similar, sometimes I wish we could get back to dumbphones. You can read the book of digital minimalism is so good!
I don't watch TV so I use RUclips. But I do set times for myself on IG. I set a timer on the app, avoid it when I wake up and I use RUclips during lunch and night before I sleep if I don't feel like reading. I try to implement this so when I am not on social media I find my mind is full.
8:02 when you said this it really hit home. Lately I am trying to minimise my usage. I am currently have it at 45 minute every day but I want to reduce. I spend so long viewing people's stories. I think I will also limit to only those who I am really interested in viewing.
Tip for still making content* setting aside intentional time somewhere during the day to go on the app and create but setting boundaries the rest of the time so you’re cutting out the mindless scrolling but still doing work 😊
I actually singed out of all my socials and mannnn lol its hard but 6 days strong and hoping to go 30! Thanks for the inspiration. It started to become toxic and I needed to change the relationship with it. Thanks girl! 💕✌️
i've been trying to stay off of my phone(social media) more and it is SO needed and refreshing! It can be hard but it is so worth it. you don't even have to stay off of your phone all the time just limit and it'll get easier. love you jess!!
So funny I’m on a 30 day fast right now as well!! I am on RUclips since I do have a newborn and felt like it’s different and need a little something to watch! I am LOVING the time off.
Definitely need to do a phone detox 😅 It is pretty crazy though when you think about it how much better you feel off of it. We’re constantly trying to figure out why we feel down/anxious/stressed or just unable to be as happy. But when we were growing up (depending on age 😂😅) we weren’t surrounded by social media and tech nearly as much and were way more present, active and not competing with so many opinions or ideas of how our life should look. Not to mention our attention spans now 😅 I’m keen to try it!
Been watching you, Jess, from the start and wow! You have really grown as a person. You are such a woman of God and I love how comfortable you are now to show your true goofy self 🤪
Thank you for sharing things like this, Jess. 👐 I've found having a detox on Sunday and focusing on the Word, has really added to the Day of Rest. 😌 But definitely need to set more boundaries, though... it's scarily too easy to just 'doom scroll' time away. #BeMoreIntentional ✨
I can delete all apps but i can't go without RUclips. I love watching videos of influencers like you..but you are right it's so toxic. And I do the detox of social media one day per month and painting has really helped. All your tips, paint by numbers, going outside, watching the sunset.. all of it helps. It makes you realise how your brain feels so calm without phones. It's like those old times, the pre phone times, when instant gratification was not a thing. If you wanna shop, you go to the malls and look for that perfect dress and not online shop. You want to talk to a friend, you dail it personally and memorize the number after a point 😂 Or if you want food, you ask your dad to get something once he's back from work instead of Uber Eats. For someone who hasn't done it they might find it weird but that's also how we used to live..... N not just early men but also are parents, our grandparents... They loved their life and it was without social media. Phones were introduced but it wasn't like "you can text in one second to anyone".being off our phones helps us to be more present and for health purpose also it's better
I use the Unhook chrome browser extension to limit what gets shown on RUclips. I.e. I have no home page, no recommended videos etc. All I can see are the ~10 channels I subscribe to (I removed like 50 subscriptions) so I can be more intentional with what I watch. So basically youtube is now a very personal channel with only a select number of videos to watch. I have all social media including youtube deleted from my phone. And I only have access to them on my iPad which only stays in one room and becomes a very intentional media device (I have no TV). It's also my business and study device. The good thing about instagram on iPad is that it's not addicting for me and it's easy to forget about (it loses the effect of picking up a phone from boredom and you don't carry it everywhere).
Additionally, I have two phones. My iPhone is what I use for business and back-up (it has social media for my business, editing apps, production etc.), and my Samsung is my personal device. Having a dedicated phone for their own purposes is so useful. It removes the link from "I need my phone on me because it has these apps because it's my business" to having one device just that feels business and doesn't feel addicting (that I don't need to take everywhere, and can leave in a bag or my room if ever), and then my personal phone just becomes texts, quick browsing and all things that I know is me - it gives back so much control, personally. So I recommend two phones - one for business, and one for personal that is your main device you keep on you.
I was just talking with my family about how the kardashians is my guilty pleasure show haha! Glad I’m not the only one! It’s so fascinating for some reason.
I also did a social media cleanse! 😊 I deleted Tiktok, Instagram and Netflix. I kept Snapchat so I could send my daily streaks lol and I don’t really use it that much anyways. Netflix isn’t really social media, but I enjoy watching the romance genre and I need to work on denying flesh 👏🏾👏🏾 I need to work on actually using that time I would spend on social media with God tho, because sometimes I still come on RUclips to help the time go by…
Honestly I deleted Instagram for a year and it was the best decision then I reopened for like 2 months and I was like nope this isn’t for me anymore. I only keep Facebook because of family but I think I’m done with social media there’s no need to know what everyone is doing at all times. I think that if you are not talking to these people at least once a week they probably also don’t need to know everything you are doing with your life? That being said though, I do enjoy RUclips long content because I can sit with some tea or coffee and relax for those 20-25 minutes and then it’s done.
Maybe take a break from caffeine, i.e. tea/coffee if you're still breast feeding so that you're not transferring caffeine to baby. Don't know if it's related with your baby not sleeping well or not, but worth a shot.
I am actually really interested what you would say differently in your vows today! I just got married a few weeks ago and excited to see if they still apply to future us
I don't know if this was a coincidence or if it was a sign but in the middle of watching this video the power went out on my street for about 5 minutes and it gave me a chance to think of what do I do now? love watching your content 💝💝
I deleted all my socials a few months ago, the only thing i kept was youtube. It has been so nice and I have way less anxiety. We are so overloaded with information, politics and comparison. Today, I deleted youtube off my phone and I'm only watching it on my laptop (which makes it way harder). I don't want to be scrolling youtube reels infront of my kids anymore.
It’s a little off topic but that’s so true. We weren’t made to know everything that’s going on. I personally have a Christian family member whom I love dearly but they’re so into everything that’s going on in the world, and all the signs “for propaganda reasons” that they’re so obsessed over it and instead of preaching God’s love they’re preaching signs… I do need a social media detox, I just have a hard time doing it! 😫
I totally recommend it!! Even starting with one day off is so refreshing 🥰
Jess 🫶🏽 this is sooo wonderful! I was initially inspired by YOU during your social media detox days. I’ve been taking Sundays off and it’s been so life changing. Love love this challenge 💕
ahhh no way, that is so good! 🥹 they truly make such a difference!
Sundays off are awesome.
Such a great idea!!
Deleted all social media (except RUclips, but don’t have the app) almost a year ago and I do not miss it! It feels so much better without it and worrying what other people think about you, especially people who aren’t your community! Definitely recommend!
I deleted all social media accounts when I was a teenager, I'm in my 30s and I don't have an urge to have any of them besides RUclips.
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Just wanna say Jess you are a hardworking person and you deserve everything. A rest and your time . We love you and you inspire us each day to be a better person. If one day you feel like you wanna take a break from this social media and RUclips. You deserve it. As you are working hard for so many years
that's really kind of you, thank you 🥲
So glad you did that Jessie! Social media is so toxic! It makes me happy that you (who inspire and influence so many) advise this
It felt so so good!
I’ve been on a Conte grind lately rewatching all your old vlogs so this 20+ min post came just at the right time 🥹 your vids never fail to calm me, love you Jess!
awww haha thank you!! 🥹
Your regular vlogs are the only thing that gives me peace when I'm anxious🥺🥺❤
You should try reading The Bible! Highly recommended (psalm 91)
Okay, you've inspired me. I was traveling for the past month and spent so much time away from my screen. And guess what, I was happier, less stressed, lost weight, more confident, and felt BEAUTIFUL. Now that I'm home I don't want to pick up old habits and be glued to my screen again.
You felt more confident and beautiful… that is amazing. 😭🩷
When you said “this is not a plug for my journal” I literally went straight to Amazon and bought it because your journal is a perfect way to get away from the phones and exactly what I needed 😊 This was so inspiring, thanks for all your great insight Jess as always!
Aw wow, well thank you!!! I hope you love it 🥲
I recently also took a break from Instagram and it really does feel good not constantly seeing what’s up with other people’s lives that don’t necessarily add value to mine ☺️ happy to hear about your experience as you def inspired me to start this kind of social media detox!
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Woah that line “it feels good not constantly seeing what’s up with other people’s lives that don’t necessarily add value to mine.” A great reminder to focus on myself & not so much on those who don’t add value to mine. I definitely want to do a sm detox even more so that I have anxiety & I know being off sm will help tremendously.
absolutely agree! social media detox is really necessary these days!
mental peace is utmost priority :)
love you jess!!
It felt so so good ☺️
thank you for the *very* brief cutting down expenses chat! it can be such a taboo topic, but you mentioning “paying off some debt” with a slight sigh lifted a weight off my shoulders.
I love your channel so much! It’s so positive and relatable! Thank you for being so open about your faith as a Christian it’s really encouraging ❤
I appreciate that so much xx
I feel like this is what I’ve been needing. I do feel that social media sometimes can be so distracting and it steals sooo much time from our lives, time we could be living and doing something meaningful. 😕
totally! it steals so much time that we dont even realise 🥲
Waiting for you and Gabe to do a podcats! Would listen to it all the time!!
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I would love it too. And i am dreaming of a girl faith podcast from Jess for years 😬🤷🏽♀️🧡🧡
I find this so inspiring because I’ve been feeling like I need to detox from social media! One thing that helps me when I have instagram is I have muted all of the people that I follow except the close family and friends i like to keep updated with. This helps me from scrolling and allows me to still feel connected! It’s a long process to mute about 150-200 people but it’s worth it!
I recently deleted my socials, and it's been so freeing! Love that you do this. Also, I've had your new song on repeat constantly over the past few days. So beautiful
I am so proud of you both for doing a social media cleanse! I have been off of all social media (except for RUclips) for the past 5 years, and it has been the most incredible thing for my soul and my life. I encourage everyone to try it if you’re able to. ☺️💕
Momma here. I completely understand. I got rid of social media after my 2nd, and I was less stressed, more present, and more in tune with my spouse.
I think in some ways we're not meant to have it but somehow we do and it makes people less social and less talkative.
Hey Jess! I just wanted to say that you are such an inspiration to me and I am so obsessed with your content! You are such a light to so many people and I am so grateful for you! Thank you for always showing up for us every week and I hope you’re having an amazing day! Ilysm and watching you be a mother to Makaiah is so sweet and humbling 💕💕
I do the social media detox ever so often, and what really helps me to more discipline my self is implementing Bible time.
Bible study is very motivational. I highly recommend to anyone. I thank yo so much Jess for encouraging me to do this more often. ☺️
I’ve been off social media for 2 months now and it’s improved my mental health 😊
Oh my god needed this sign! It’s quite a lot of effort and I think we’re so comfortable with being on about phones but it’s for the better to set time limits and reduce our usage. I am trying to reduce my screen time and start doing little things everyday instead of scrolling for hours. I am going to embrace this new routine in July and just suddenly significantly reduce me screen time. And I think the key is not telling anyone you’re going to do it but just go ahead and do it and then tell them!!
I deactivated Twitter and Tiktok for good and it was lowkey one of the best things I've done. My mind is so much more quiet with not as much (unnecessary) nonsense occupying it.
Jess, I loved your little fox and suitcase story!! Such a cute way to insert something different in the video
I totally agree! Social media can be very addicting, can put your mind in comparison and let you feel that your not doing enough with your life, I find myself feeling looking everyone highlight filter world..makes me feel I’m not doing anything huge in my life..which I feel people now and days people live showing..honestly I don’t like it because people need a be a empathetic and now that not everything is perfect and glamorous..
I stopped looking at people’s sorries maybe about a year ago, but I deleted my social media apps completely in March, except for RUclips. I rarely comment on videos so I don’t really count it as “social” media, I mainly watch videos that I can play in the background while I’m walking or cleaning the same way I do with podcasts. But I wanted to input on this one because it definitely was one of the best things I could have done for myself. Social media is a good way to connect, but it’s also such a toxic place and so bad for you. I wish everyone would regularly take time off of social media, I feel like we would all be a lot happier.
You don't know how loved you're.... and being a mom there's alot of personality change that I see in you which is so lovely and amazing to watch
you're growing and glowing jess....
God bless 💛💛
I took a 30 day social media break at the start of the year, deleted all my apps and I STILL haven’t re downloaded them 😅 besides RUclips which is gonna be my next task 😆). It really is peaceful and I honestly don’t miss it or care much. Now, occasionally I’ll check FB/IG on my laptop and I’m like …. This is lame and boring and log off after 2 min 🤪 personally, I keep it for networking and check it for messages and what not. I think breaks are a great thing! 💖
I love that so much!!! 🥲
Yes!! Once you take that break it only gets easier to not be on it so much!🙌
When I get off of social media, it’s usually for a week. I’ve done it a couple times now, and I felt like I could breathe & had much more time for my hobbies and class work! Social media is great, but as a Christian, I realized I started putting it above God. That’s when I realized how I started to idolize social media. Glad to hear that you benefited so well from the social media break!
I've done social media detox before and it just feels amazing. It allowed me to focus on myself because in social media esp. instagram, it made me compare myself to other people. I deleted tiktok last year and still didn't installed it back, then i also deleted Instagram, Facebook, twitter and stopped watching RUclips. It was really the best thing for me and was a great help for me focusing on my studies. I started to have better grades and appreciate the things and people around me more. Now, since it's summer, i'm back in socials but when classes start again, i'll go again on my social media hybernation lol
So inspiring:) it made me further encouraged to do a detox but in a way that didn’t feel like I was a failure or needed to get my entire life together. It was in a pleasant way of just a “yeah you know what, I think I will detox”
for the last week and a half, I've been not letting myself scroll on social media. I've let myself watch stories and catch up on friends posts for about 10 minutes then if I clicked on reels or started looking at things from not friends or family I immediately got off the app. I still watched youtube (on computer instead of phone) or a show because I can do productive things while I do that. It's been so freeing and I've been trying to find things to do with all the extra time during the day.
I love that so much!!
Shoutout to COTC with that Digital Detox series 👏🏻 my wife and I felt the fomo at the beginning but felt so freed from comparison and so much less anxious all the time.
There are no coincidences with God! He’s always speaking to us and when we shut off distractions is when we hear/feel His presence/voice more!💛 so proud of you Jess! Keep being amazing!
It is my summer & i could be doing so much more things, but i spend my days on youtube. This is a sign, i am going to take up your challenge. Wish me luck!!!❤
From the people I am around, I have noticed my generation (Gen Z) is able to be off their phone and enjoy time with others and/or do something without technology. I’m always hearing my friends say "Ugh, I need to do something other than stare at my screen!" However, with older generations I’ve noticed they will be on their laptop or phone. Many times a family member of mine and I will be out to lunch and I’m trying to talk to her, and she’s just on her phone scrolling the whole time.
i wanna do a social media detox but i’m not kidding if i tell you that the main reason i always install instagram again is because i don’t wanna miss out on yours and gabe’s content 😭😂
omg haha wait that is so sweet 🤣😭 I guess you could always just use the computer/website of instagram if you ever want to check in one someone specifically 🤭
@@JessConte yess that’s exactly what i do in the periods of time i don’t have instagram installed on my phone haha! i’m thinking it would also be helpful if i would go through my following pages and see if i can make a selection there: the less content, the less distraction (right? 🫣)
As a 29 year old who has NEVER had social media…. I am proud of you❤
For me every time I try a digital detox, it's more about having a time limit.
I spend hours scrolling, and if there are timers in place or time limits it helps so much.
As digital creators you and Gabe do need to know what trends are going on and things like that for work reasons.
Jess you are such a kind human being. I pray that u always stay happy and healthy❤❤❤I love you and your family to the moon and back🌙❤️
i pray the same for you 💓💓
@@JessConte ❤️❤️❤️❤️
I always feel a little bad when I watch videos like this, because i really want to take part of the "movement" of not using your phone as much. Bit as i get those feeling, I am sitting in my bed watching youtube. And then I feel bad for watching RUclips, but I don't know what else to do, when i want to relax. The quote about a pre/post iPhone mom really scared me, because I don't remember a pre iPhone me at all. I grew up with a screen and now I don't know how to live without it.
My husband and I are actually going to be doing a 40 day social media detox and a no spending rule. I have noticed myself consumed with social media lately and we are spending a little too much money so praying that the Lord reveals himself and shows us what is important and that we don’t need to spend money to have fun.
I believe our hearts and minds aren’t meant to know about so many peoples lives also. I unfollowed a lot of people (you can always silence them versus unfollowing) , and created a new rule for myself - if I don’t talk to this person in real life I won’t follow them, with the exception of a few bloggers. It’s really minimized my feed and I see the people I want to know about ! I also take around 3 social media breaks a year. Social media has its benefits but I think to use it healthily we need to be okay with taking occasional breaks from it.
i did too a fast on social media and secular music for the whole of may and it was honestly the best. my attention span was improved and i learned a lot about God and just overall had a lot of piece!!
I love you Jess and you are a beautiful individual!!! May God bless you and I pray for a beautiful family like yours some day❤
At the end of last year I decided to take a break from social media for a week and it was hard at first getting used to it because it made you realize how often you mindlessly just open them and I felt like I had fomo too lol but after the first week it felt so good and I ended up staying off for over a month! It was amazing! I recommend to everyone! So good for your mental health and being present with loved ones.
I like how you said that you “can’t delete all your social media apps” but mentioned also that that’s an excuse. It shows that you are very aware. Even our jobs can become an excuse. Ultimately it is still our choice how much we are willing to surrender to do such a challenge but ofcourse no judgment here, it is always our choice between us and God and not for others to judge. But it really challenged me internally when you said that because i realised it is true, it is never that we can’t do something but how much we are really willing to go all out to do it.
Cant say I’ve ever actually deleted the apps 🙈 but I do have some boundaries that I’m finally following that are helpful!
1. 20 min time limit for Facebook and Instagram
2. I also did no RUclips videos for a month! Took me a month to binge yours and the other few families I follow 😅
3. I “muted” a few hundred, and I do mean hundreds, of stories so that I would only see my actual friends stories and I watch about 5-10 before scrolling to catch up on big news (if you’re not on much, the most important news comes up in the first few posts), and then a few minutes answering DMs
4. I pretty much don’t watch TV (but when I do, I binge 😂) but typically watch cozy RUclips videos or working on personal development.
5. Mornings I look at my phones screen to see if there are any main notifications but I have notification settings set so that the badge app doesn’t show if it’s an app I have a set time for (eg emails, socials, etc) but I still see the notification on my homepage. The quick check is just in case of emergency.
6. I use Alexa as an alarm!
7. When I come home from work, I check my emails and finances/budget, but then work on personal projects/hobbies or read!
I’m a bit worried for kids who just watch content rather than get creative themselves and learn skills for themselves! Gotta learn to learn new things haha.
But I’m trying to learn that I can actually rest and not worry if someone needs me one day a week, I would LOVE to be able to actually shut off my whole phone for a day, so that I can’t even be “productive.” I’m working toward that!
But I feel for you, there’s no shame in using socials for work, since it’s your job! Most of us can’t say that 😅
loveeeee the long video, please more long videos 🥲 love you and your content Jess as always 🫶🏽
literally run to your videos whenever you post ❤
Your mental health (as well as Gabe and Makaiah's) is so so important, sending you all my love from Michigan ❤
I deleted TikTok and Instagram a few months ago. Was supposed to be just for a small period of time when I had a lot to study. Never returned though, it's just so much better for my time management and productivity and mental health.
Hi Jess, I have a tip for you, what I usually do with social media is that I use the browser version rather than downloading the apps, what I have found is that since the browser version is super restricted you just give up half way lol, I also noticed once I downloaded the apps it made me feel addicted.
I could easily 'give up' Social Media (fb, ig, tik tok) BUT i must say that i LOVE my RUclips time... RUclips Time has been my version of 'TV Time' for the last 9 years. 💖
I think thats why I love your videos. We are very similar, sometimes I wish we could get back to dumbphones. You can read the book of digital minimalism is so good!
I don't watch TV so I use RUclips. But I do set times for myself on IG. I set a timer on the app, avoid it when I wake up and I use RUclips during lunch and night before I sleep if I don't feel like reading. I try to implement this so when I am not on social media I find my mind is full.
8:02 when you said this it really hit home. Lately I am trying to minimise my usage. I am currently have it at 45 minute every day but I want to reduce. I spend so long viewing people's stories. I think I will also limit to only those who I am really interested in viewing.
Tip for still making content* setting aside intentional time somewhere during the day to go on the app and create but setting boundaries the rest of the time so you’re cutting out the mindless scrolling but still doing work 😊
I have thought about that!! Like literally putting it into my calendar or setting an alarm so i remember to do it 🙈
@@JessConteall about intentionality!!
I actually singed out of all my socials and mannnn lol its hard but 6 days strong and hoping to go 30! Thanks for the inspiration. It started to become toxic and I needed to change the relationship with it. Thanks girl! 💕✌️
Going through a break up right now and its day 7 listening to your new music just breaks my heart even harder 😢😢❤
watching your videos is so relaxing!
I would really love to do it tomorrow. Thanks, Jess for this. God bless your family more.
i've been trying to stay off of my phone(social media) more and it is SO needed and refreshing! It can be hard but it is so worth it. you don't even have to stay off of your phone all the time just limit and it'll get easier. love you jess!!
Such a calming yet interesting video, thank you for the advice and sister like chats Jess I am so thankful for everything you share 💛
So funny I’m on a 30 day fast right now as well!! I am on RUclips since I do have a newborn and felt like it’s different and need a little something to watch! I am LOVING the time off.
Your voice is so soothing to listen to
Hey Jess ❤ that is the best social media breaks I used to do that. I even did it for two years before. I also love your song ❤ listen to it everyday.
Definitely need to do a phone detox 😅
It is pretty crazy though when you think about it how much better you feel off of it. We’re constantly trying to figure out why we feel down/anxious/stressed or just unable to be as happy. But when we were growing up (depending on age 😂😅) we weren’t surrounded by social media and tech nearly as much and were way more present, active and not competing with so many opinions or ideas of how our life should look. Not to mention our attention spans now 😅
I’m keen to try it!
I’m so curious on who you watch on RUclips!
Been watching you, Jess, from the start and wow! You have really grown as a person. You are such a woman of God and I love how comfortable you are now to show your true goofy self 🤪
This is what im trying to do now….i also felt that God was speaking to me about social media….spending to much time on instagram and not on him
I love you and ur videos so much, thank u for being the way u r, u bring me so much peace 💛
16:13 the colour of your jacket compliments your eyes so much!! so pretty hehe 🩵🫶🏼
Thank you for sharing things like this, Jess. 👐 I've found having a detox on Sunday and focusing on the Word, has really added to the Day of Rest. 😌 But definitely need to set more boundaries, though... it's scarily too easy to just 'doom scroll' time away. #BeMoreIntentional ✨
I can delete all apps but i can't go without RUclips. I love watching videos of influencers like you..but you are right it's so toxic. And I do the detox of social media one day per month and painting has really helped. All your tips, paint by numbers, going outside, watching the sunset.. all of it helps. It makes you realise how your brain feels so calm without phones. It's like those old times, the pre phone times, when instant gratification was not a thing.
If you wanna shop, you go to the malls and look for that perfect dress and not online shop.
You want to talk to a friend, you dail it personally and memorize the number after a point 😂
Or if you want food, you ask your dad to get something once he's back from work instead of Uber Eats.
For someone who hasn't done it they might find it weird but that's also how we used to live..... N not just early men but also are parents, our grandparents... They loved their life and it was without social media. Phones were introduced but it wasn't like "you can text in one second to anyone".being off our phones helps us to be more present and for health purpose also it's better
I YAWNED THE SAME TIME AS YOU YAWNED!
I use the Unhook chrome browser extension to limit what gets shown on RUclips. I.e. I have no home page, no recommended videos etc. All I can see are the ~10 channels I subscribe to (I removed like 50 subscriptions) so I can be more intentional with what I watch. So basically youtube is now a very personal channel with only a select number of videos to watch. I have all social media including youtube deleted from my phone. And I only have access to them on my iPad which only stays in one room and becomes a very intentional media device (I have no TV). It's also my business and study device. The good thing about instagram on iPad is that it's not addicting for me and it's easy to forget about (it loses the effect of picking up a phone from boredom and you don't carry it everywhere).
Additionally, I have two phones. My iPhone is what I use for business and back-up (it has social media for my business, editing apps, production etc.), and my Samsung is my personal device. Having a dedicated phone for their own purposes is so useful. It removes the link from "I need my phone on me because it has these apps because it's my business" to having one device just that feels business and doesn't feel addicting (that I don't need to take everywhere, and can leave in a bag or my room if ever), and then my personal phone just becomes texts, quick browsing and all things that I know is me - it gives back so much control, personally. So I recommend two phones - one for business, and one for personal that is your main device you keep on you.
i really liked your song! I hope you're releasing more
I’ve never been this early OMG! I’m normally a silent follower, I love Jess’s videos 🤍
I appreciate you! 🩷
I was just talking with my family about how the kardashians is my guilty pleasure show haha! Glad I’m not the only one! It’s so fascinating for some reason.
Do you have an update on Harper & Willow?❤
I also did a social media cleanse! 😊 I deleted Tiktok, Instagram and Netflix. I kept Snapchat so I could send my daily streaks lol and I don’t really use it that much anyways. Netflix isn’t really social media, but I enjoy watching the romance genre and I need to work on denying flesh 👏🏾👏🏾
I need to work on actually using that time I would spend on social media with God tho, because sometimes I still come on RUclips to help the time go by…
hello Jess!
it makes me cry every time you guys move out
Honestly I deleted Instagram for a year and it was the best decision then I reopened for like 2 months and I was like nope this isn’t for me anymore. I only keep Facebook because of family but I think I’m done with social media there’s no need to know what everyone is doing at all times. I think that if you are not talking to these people at least once a week they probably also don’t need to know everything you are doing with your life? That being said though, I do enjoy RUclips long content because I can sit with some tea or coffee and relax for those 20-25 minutes and then it’s done.
Maybe take a break from caffeine, i.e. tea/coffee if you're still breast feeding so that you're not transferring caffeine to baby. Don't know if it's related with your baby not sleeping well or not, but worth a shot.
I've always wanted to do this, but never made the time! I want to be more intentional, especially as I get older ❤
I couldn’t recommend it enough!! 🥲
I love that your latest vlogs are lengthy. ❤
Thank you!!! Trying to make them longer 🥰
@@JessConte 😍😍❤❤
idk if you’ll see this but i have to ask, what lipstick are you wearing in the beginning of this vid? i absolutely adore the colour😍
I’ve been watching you from the very start xx I was wondering how Milo reacted to your beautiful baby and how you introduced them x
We missed you Jess! 🥹 So excited for this new video and it’s a long one 🥰💛
Missed you guys!! 🫶🏼
Can you make another book video! You helped me get into again. And convinced me to get my kindle. And I would love a updated book video.
Another tip I’d say is muting notifications, it helped me a lot
I hate drama but obsessed with The Kardashians too 😂😂😂 it’s just so intriguing to be honest 😅 my number 1 guilty pleasure
I am actually really interested what you would say differently in your vows today! I just got married a few weeks ago and excited to see if they still apply to future us
Did this for 3 months, best thing I've ever done!
I don't know if this was a coincidence or if it was a sign but in the middle of watching this video the power went out on my street for about 5 minutes and it gave me a chance to think of what do I do now? love watching your content 💝💝
I deleted all my socials a few months ago, the only thing i kept was youtube. It has been so nice and I have way less anxiety. We are so overloaded with information, politics and comparison. Today, I deleted youtube off my phone and I'm only watching it on my laptop (which makes it way harder). I don't want to be scrolling youtube reels infront of my kids anymore.
That is amazing 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
i no longer do Facebook, Instagram and etc. I only do youtube. let me tell you, i feel sooo much better.