Hey schlatt, you took your time answering my email huh? I wrote that to you around september of last year, 2019, and now its nearing september of 2020. And i think you'd love to hear that I'm entirely over her, and have been in a loving relationship with my new girlfriend since Thanksgiving of last year. I thought you'd never read it on air, or i just got the email wrong, but this video made my day. Thanks schlatt.
@Maxwell Hardwick The only people who call other people simps for doing anything less than sucking up to a girl are just jealous that the person they're calling a simp is actually more of a chad than they are. I know it's just a joke though. lol
schlatt, hearing your advice of picturing her going "no 💖" or "💅" is seriously the funniest and most helpful thing i've heard. thank you so much, you've changed my life. thank you
@@rushcap2761 it dosent matter about the time elapsed. What matters is the quality of advice given and i think schlatt really outdoes most people in terms of that.
About the relationship thing I remember a metaphor Michael from vsauce said in one of his videos that went something like this: A carving on a tree deos not change place nor size it might darken a bit but it will remain basically the same but as the tree continues growing it will be smaller compared to the whole tree. Imagine that the carving is the past relationship or the girl/boy, the only way for you to make them seem smaller and less important is by developing your character and making the memories you had a smaller part of your experiences
Imma be real here, I hate talking to girls and an awkward guy in general but I when schlatt said “it’s only 5 seconds of bravery” I paused the video and I thought to my self he’s right and I followed it and just before schlatt hits one mill on jschlatt live I got my first girlfriend thanks to his advice, thanks man if you ever do read this it’s helped me a lot.
Schlatt, Scott Cawthon made fnaf 4 because he knew how much 3 sucked. It was supposed to end at 3 but he wasn't happy with it. Most people agree that 4 is the scariest of them all.
Fr Scott is such a legend he was in such a depressive state and just came up with FNAF and made like 8 games and 10 books and a possible movie in the span of 6 years
"It only takes 1 second of bravery" could not be more true. I'd been really stressed and sad for the last few days over things going on around me and I really wanted to talk to someone about it. I talked to my friends and it helped, but I still felt that disgusting "looming doom" feeling in my stomach. From the beginning, I had wanted to talk to my mom about it since she's my boulder. She makes me feel safe. But I was always scared of her reaction (we don't talk about depression or anxiety in my immigrant Asian household). I wondered if she'd believe me or ridicule me for being stressed over "small things". A few nights ago though I was having a really rough time and finally opened up to her about it. I've been doing better ever since.
i was in a really similar situation a few months ago too. talking about mental health with immigrant asian parents is so stressful and scary. i'm glad you're doing better though! making it through that difficult talk is what counts
I think he meant that it only takes a second of bravery to start that conversation, once you start to tell them you generally get round to the end of it wether that’s through them asking questions or you just going with what you started. But it takes a few seconds or bravery to get the ball rolling type of thing if you get me?
I’ve always noticed it feels better to tell someone about the thing you’re going through, even if they don’t say anything or give you any real advice. Just getting it out there and telling someone is a great feeling, and so relieving
For these last couple of weekly slaps, I swear Jschlatt can read my god damn mind. Whatever I am feeling or fearing, Schlatt has been able to perfectly predict my mood, and it may just be luck, but I really just have to thank him for that :)
Its just you think that your problem is unique and different from everybody else but really many people are going through the same problems. You're not alone even if you may feel it.
Same. Like I've been trying to get courage to tell my dad I'm gay and just as I was worrying about it he answers a question about it. So I think I'm going to tell him the next time I see him face to face.
bro I saw a girl i fancied during 8th grade I'm a sophmore now and jesus christ. She shaved her head and dyed her buzzcut, neon green and put on 20 lbs shes only 5'5 and it shows. She used to be stunningly beautiful.
I was looking for this comment, this is how i think. Im in this place rn, i don't want to get over her, so I can''t. It's like having her there is a comfort that I'm not ready to let go of, i just have to wait for it to pass
It's true, even if I don't want to admit it. I don't want to let go over the years we spent together side by side being the only ones we had. Being our only support. Being the only ones who knew every single thought, fear, love, and opinion of each other. All the small details, the ways we would speak and the jokes we made that no one else could understand. I'm holding onto this anger I have and this pain I feel for her moving on so quickly. I just want her to run back to me and tell me she regrets being with that person. But she won't do it. I have to ACTUALLY accept it rather than just acknowledging it. It's been half a year, I wish I was ready to let her go. But I'm so lonely and I guess I'm scared to let the only person who's ever really known me fully
@@Enfjscrolling hope everything works out for you!!!! it just takes time, for you it might take a little longer but it will get better soon. (lol I'm saying this and im like in a similar place)
@@marinisx3958 then I'm wishing the same things for you ✨ I'm sorry you're going through this -- it really hurts and affects your own self esteem (speaking for myself anyway). Thank you for the encouragement!
to the person who asked the first question: only come out if you are in a safe situation, if you think your parents might throw you out or not really accept you, maybe don't but please be safe :) if they don't accept you, i hope you know, you are accepted by some many people. You are loved, you do matter and you are important.
This is very true, there have been times where I wanted to be truthful to my parents about things. Most of the when I tell them something they are understanding but if you let’s say catch them in bad mood or at a bad time it might not go well.
@@rexdavies5223 ah yeah, that's always fun... I think I've gone through like 3 or 4 rounds of telling my parents I'm ace and I'm pretty sure every time they forget immediately after I tell them haha
If anyone actually needs advice about this I can help, I came out awhile ago to my school but not my family, I’m fully out now so if you need advice please ask me and I might be able to help you
This is my first time commenting and i just wanted to say that this channel is my escape from a shitty home life and it's kept me going through hard times. Thank you for this amazing community and the words of wisdom schlatt. Much love
Hey "I cant get over her", Schlatt threw it to the comments and I wanted to try my hand at this, so let me first start by saying that the reason I even clicked on this video was because I'm going through the same thing. Dated a girl for about a year and half and we pretty recently broke up and I've been pretty torn up by it for the last few months. I recently started seeing someone new, and thankfully she has been super patient and understanding with the whole thing and has been helping me work through a lot of this stuff. From what we've talked about, and what I've personally experienced, Schlatt isn't entirely wrong. Time really does help a lot and while that's hard to conceptualize right now, I promise it really does get better. What I've found is just throwing yourself into a hobby or passion really helps. I started skating again, and I've been working on my art, and also have just been listening to podcasts whenever I can. The brain is a really powerful, painful thing, but it is also EXTREMELY easy to distract. Personally, the key for me has been to just distract, and when I feel a depressive or anxious episode come on, I reach out to someone I trust, whether that's family or my current gf. I am extremely codependent as a person so I really do know that feeling, and I promise you, it sucks. Your feelings are extremely valid, and totally normal, and most importantly, you need to allow yourself to feel and grieve. It sounds like to me you kinda "moved on" but didn't really confront your feelings about the whole thing, just boxed them up, then seeing her triggered the feelings all over again. So, if I could give you one piece of advice, it would be to unpack those feelings, and stay busy while you do it. It seems paradoxical, but it is A LOT easier to work on your past if you focus on your present and future. Anyway, I hope that helps. Much love, and feel better!
I am in the same situation currently. I boxed everything up for months and saw the girl in question yesterday and I just fell apart. Good advice dude, really. Schlatt must be able to read minds or something
For the person coming out: First things first, and this is incredibly important, make sure you're in a safe place. Speaking from experience, it's incredibly important that you're not in any danger emotionally or physically. Secondly, if you really need to tell someone who will accept you, maybe start by coming out to a sibling our cousin. Thirdly, don't stress yourself out if you start to doubt your sexuality. It's a confusing thing, and it's best to think thoroughly about it. So if you already came out with a certain label, it's perfectly fine to change it, you'll just have to go explain to the people around you. And if they accepted you the first time you came out, then great! They'll accept you a second time. nothing to worry about. Finally, surround yourself with the right people. You deserve love and happiness, so if there's any homophobic assholes, it's better to drop them. But again!! Be safe. I cannot stress that enough. I hope this helped anyone out there. Be proud of who you are and take care :)
I doubt you'll see this reply on such an old comment but thank you so much for the advice, especially the last one. I've been so confused on what to call myself, first I was bi but now I'm leaning a little more towards gay, and it was really stressing me out not being able to figure out who I am. That last part really spoke to me and made me realize there's nothing to worry about. Gonna come out to my parents very soon after writing this actually, thank you for the advice once again. ❤
@@ComputerGirlMae personally i wouldn't even worry about what to call yourself because it really doesn't matter. just love who you want to love, human sexuality is so broad there's really no need to stick to a specific label.
@@realimjustjoshing him talkin bout no motivation, anxiety, no confidence and break ups does kinda help knowing other people have the same problems. we are not alone ya feel me :)
This channel is a breath of fresh air. I feel like i have a lowkey drug problem. Alot of issues. Some of em my fault, some just circumstance. But that's life. I feel I've become so cynical and distant to the point that most of the time I'm forcing laughter in front of people just so i don't look out of place. But jschlatt vids and a ton of music and other creators make me feel just a little better. It's like sitting in a cabin with a little fire and there's a blizzard outside and for a moment i can just focus on the warmth of the fire. Nobody will see this i imagine. But there's something cathartic about just saying how I'm feeling. Don't pity me too much I'll probably be fine. Everyone goes through shit. Also if anyone feels the same way, suicide is whack bro. Please stay with us. It'll be good. Even i have thought about that but the idea of a better day keeps me going and bro i hope you get those better days soon man.
I know this was a month ago, but in case you're still going through this shit - Dude, talk to people. Honestly, learning how to open up can change your life. It can be incredibly hard and even embarrasing at times, but if you have good friends and a good family, just open up to them. If you're having a bad day, tell them. If you feel out of place, let someone know. It can really help to ground you and make you feel like you're a part of everything, as opposed to just a seperate entity. I hope this helps, and I hope it all turns out alright my dude. Good luck to you. it's a hard road to walk but learning to share the load can make it a lot easier.
@@tommydappert1331 hey man I'm so glad ur still with us and hope ur doing alot better. The world is a better place with you in it man. Sorry I'm a lil late to this.
@@gazzwars5355 hey man, thank you. I'm doing as well as anyone can do during times like these. I've learned to open up to people alot more recently. Recently came outta the closet too which was huge for me because i wasn't sure if I'd ever have the courage to do it but I've been alot happier without a burden like that on my shoulders and in my head 24/7. I still have alot to work on don't get me wrong but progress is progress. Hope ur doing good too bro with all this crazy shit going on don't forget to check in with yourself
As someone who is still in the process of moving on (not from a gf, from a girl who I liked and was close to who essentially told me permanently fuck off), I can say to the second person/anyone else in a similar situation: Moving on isn't about forgetting or suppressing the past, it's about going forward. Yes, it sucks. It hurts. And it's easy to look back on the days where you two were still together and see it as better times. But the key (at least for me) to moving on is building something new to be proud of to supplant the memories of old. Whether it be making new friends, finding another girl, just try something new (or go back to doing something else) to get your mind off it. That's what works for me though, obviously everyone is different and everyone has different solutions that might work better.
I feel like this is it. Eventually the new memories will replace the old ones. Eventually a new girl will replace the old one. The old memories will sometimes resurface, yeah, but you have to remind yourself that she’s the one missing out, not you.
I don't know if this will help your point but meeting people and making new friends helps a lot it can be a bit hard for certain people but like it gets you to know more people and like maybe you could end up with one of them who knows but like it worked for me and I ended up with one of them so try get new friends not with the intentions of getting a new gf or bf just so you have more people that you can have fun with and just be happy with
I am also in the same situation as you. And I fully agree that it’s about moving forward and I’ve tried that but the memories keep coming back and it’s hard for me to forget about her.
Its all about learning from your mistakes man. And really learning, not seeing what went wrong and repeating them, seeing what went wrong and never doing it again. I believe in you bros.
I was literally just about to email schlatt about this exact topic. Thank you so much for everything you've done Schlatt. My father is very closed off and doesn't like talking about these types of things, you really help me. Thank you.
I was chasing a girl for about 2 years. She had an emotionally abusive boyfriend at the time who I was able to save her from. She was also my first girlfriend who I had turned down several other girls in order to pursue. I finally got her, but about 6 months into the relationship, it was clear that she wasn't putting as much into the relationship as I was anymore. I spent another couple months trying to find the courage to break up with her. I loved her, so it was really fucking hard to turn my back on everything that I had done for her and leave her. I knew in the end it would be healthier for me to separate myself from her, but it took a long ass story with her friend basically telling her that I should kill myself that I'm not going to fully get into. To sum it all up, she neglected me for a while, and she started lying to me and hiding things from me. Two weeks after our anniversary I had to break up with her. She lied to me again, and I couldn't stand it any longer. I started to move on, but a couple weeks later she finds her way back into my life trying to make up for what she'd done. I told myself I wouldn't get attached, but I did. A month or two later, the quarantine starts, and she stops talking to me. I was so lost and confused. No matter how much I tried to talk to her, she just ignored me, so I blocked her for a week or two. My thought process was that I needed time to myself to get her out of my mind. The entire time all I could think about was her. When I unblocked her and messaged her, she was just as distant as before, not caring to talk to me at all. Then I get a message from her friend who is telling me how abusive and manipulative I am and that my ex isn't interested in me and never was. I knew everything she was saying was a lie, but having those kinds of things said about you and being thought about you by someone you once cared for so deeply, it started to feel like that was the truth. All of my friends knew the real situation, and they've helped me move on, but the truth is that over a year after the initial breakup, I can't get over her. I think about her almost every day. I think about what went wrong. I think about what went right. I think of ways that maybe things can be fixed if I ever see her again. I know I shouldn't want her. She hurt me so much so many times, but I can't get over her.
Azure Voltic It sucks to hear that you’re still hung up over her man, but sooner or later i think you’ll realise that the harm she caused you is just not worth any of the time that you spend thinking about her now. If she did that to you she wasn’t the one man, hopefully as more time passes you will be able to fully get her out of your head. All the best man!
It's people like you who I just wanna give a hug to. I've never been in any relationships so I can't relate with your situation but I really hope it gets better for you. Remember that there are people online who can help you if you feel like no one irl can. Stay strong!
Your story seems similar to mine, but also very different, one thing for sure is that we both have the same outcome. I know distancing yourself from her doesn't help, I know that you always feel anxious about her. One friend told me to widen my horizon and find a new one to take my mind off the old one, or just wait and eventually she will just be a memory, but it never worked. I don't really have any advise for you cause you know this whole gf thing isn't my strong suit cause I never had one, yeah I never got her. My whole thing was to actually get her, and It almost worked but, just one miss-step and it all fell flat, that was the bottom card that held the whole tower up and it just collapsed. I will say this though, women are manipulative and corrupt beings in my experience, but eventually you will find the hay in the needle stack. I promise...
Hey, man, just a small thing. Sometimes, the abused becomes the abuser. And from what you've written here, that's what happened with her. And you're not at fault with that. Sometimes, we love the wrong people, the people we would do anything for, even if the favor would never be returned. And that's okay. That's understandable. There is nothing wrong with you. You never made a mistake, you never did anything wrong. The thing about loving toxic people is that we often have good times, times where everything was okay, and they make everything so much HARDER. Because we have loved them, but they hurt us, so, so much. I don't have a magic solution, unfortunately, but I can say that staying away is the better solution. Try some new hobbies. Lean on friends, if possible. Fill up your days, even if it's just playing a game or watching RUclips. And for the nights, when you're trying to sleep but can't, listen to some music. Cuddle a pet, if possible. Take some melatonin if need be. You are always strong enough, and it's okay to remind yourself of it, even if it's a mantra in front of a mirror you say daily. Good luck, man.
@@ar.6968 Thank you. Comments like this mean a lot. I have tried a lot of the things you recommended, but I still think about her. I know our relationship was toxic, and I have thought that she was made toxic by her previous relationship, but I still really miss her when I know I shouldn't. As you can imagine, it's hard to find someone to replace her during quarantine. I've tried with 3 different girls, but for one reason or another, nothing has worked out. I also just don't have the spark with them that I had with my ex. I had a crush in that girl for 2 years before finding the courage to make a move. I wish I could have at least found that courage a bit sooner. Oh how things would have been different.
for the first question: if your parents aren't accepting people, try telling a sibling or a cousin so you can get their support and feel some of the weight come off you shoulders
Daniel Nikitin if you have aunts or uncles that you trust you can talk to them about it, especially because they're adults so they'll be able to give you advice with possibly telling your parents
to the first person: coming out seems like such a daunting thing but i promise it's really not that bad. I came out like 5 years ago and now it all seems like a distant memory. It may seem really scary right now but when it's over it'll be over.
Yes I agree with you 100% but if your parents are homophobic/transphobic you don’t have to come out I made that mistake and my parents don’t trust me now and they think I’m a satanist
Kamryn Edits yeah I agree, my parents are strict and my dad is a little homophobic, but I don’t think they would abandon me or anything. They’re semi-strict parents and I think they would still accept me, over time. I still am questioning my sexuality, but I’m sure my family would accept me, and even if your parents don’t, which can be a burden emotionally, you should talk with someone you trust, or see a therapist. They really help, and don’t be scared!! It’ll be okay in the end.
North Lynx I feel you I actually came out as trans again today over a rantey text lol their just gonna have to accept me or I’ll just stop talking to them
I’m planning to come out to my parents as trans in 12 days, on my birthday. That “one second of bravery” quote was the motivation I needed and now it seems less scary. Thanks for taking time out of your day to help complete strangers. You’re a great person Schlatt.
i really needed something like this. It sounds a bit trivial, but it's true. I met a girl back in 7th grade. Im in 10th now, and I've been crushing on her ever since. Im in love with her, and she knows. During the summer between 7th and 8th, my family fell into deep trouble. We had financial problems, my sister getting pregnant, and my mom being forced to take drugs. I had to move a state over, being the youngest. I wasn't able to talk to her afterwards. I still harbored feelings, and around 5 months afterwards, I moved back but with my aunt. I didn't stay for long; I didn't feel at home and left without say. I left early at 8 am, and was found at 12 am that same day/night. I didn't want to stay. So I went to stay with my dad, having nowhere else to go. I've been here two years now, and last spring, I finally got back in touch with the girl. She'd grown so much, as did I. I shot up to 6'2", and she had seemed so much older; even though she was a bit younger than me. I had not realized I still had feelings for her. I dated a girl when we started talking, and we soon began talking more. My girlfriend at the time left me, and I turned to the girl for comfort and she delivered. When I went to visit my mom that summer, I went to her house. Her parents instantly enjoyed me over there and got to stay there for three days and nights. We slept together on the couch, watched movies together and so on. At that time, I decided to tell her how I felt but never got a definite answer. So I shrugged it off, as naive as it sounds. We kept talking. Every day, every night. Stayed up to 4 am on call, sometimes falling asleep even. I was deeply in love. Come last month, a few days before Christmas, I asked her again. Once again, she dodged the answer. I told a friend about it, and pointed out all the flags I missed. So, the following week, I finally stopped. I told her I wouldn't talk to her until I harbored no feelings, or was able to fall for someone else. I deleted my instagram chat with her and closed our discord dms. I still harbor feelings. Im still deeply in love with her. I miss everything about her, from her smile, the perfume she used, to the way she played with my hair. But I can't bring myself to talk to her again, because I noticed that should would leave me on read or sent sometimes. And I know going back to her would be a bad choice. But, I just miss her. So much. I feel empty without her. She was there whenever I was down, when no one else was. But she isn't right for me. But you're right, I just need to take my time and let myself move on. Find someone new, and realize I don't need her. Im trying, but it's hard. And I feel for anyone else who feels the same way. We're in this together. Stay strong, and we'll finish strong. The moment I know I don't harbor any feelings for her, I will respond to this comment. One day, I hope it comes. I don't want to love her anymore..
Well, it's about time I make a follow up post, aye? Well, I've moved on. I don't love her anymore, and that's a good thing. As insensitive as it sounds, I just don't have feelings for her anymore. I still find her attractive, because she just is. she was the most beautiful person I've ever seen, but that's besides the point. She moved to Missouri, so we don't see each other in person anymore, and we rarely text. Last time I messaged her was two weeks ago, she didn't respond. But, in my eyes, I'm glad she didn't. I don't want to fall for her charm again. But I'm doing better now. A lot better. I have a job with my dad in the septic industry, we install fuel lines, repair/replace septic tanks and grease trap. I'm still new, so I only make $60 a day, but that's $300 a week during the summer and $120 a weekend during school. I'm learning new things, making my own money and currently saving up to buy a Ford F-250 when I get my permit, then my license. I met someone new. She's amazing, beautiful, and just amazing. She's my everything, and she makes me happy. We've been on two dates already, and we've been talking everyday. And she's already expressed feelings for me. I'm happy. I'm very happy. Aside from my first kiss, who was with the other girl, I've done my first... Well, everything with her. She makes me very happy. And I don't want to lose her I managed to ask her thanks to Schlatt's advise. He's right, it just takes a few seconds of bravery or courage, and the rest happens by itself. Thank you, Schlatt, for giving me advice. You're someone I know i can trust, thanks to your advice.
@@jonathanwilliams3552 that's fantastic and I'm so glad you've been able to move forward in your life and always Remember that baby steps are good as long as there their the right direction
not sure if anyone will see this but, i have severe anxiety and i struggle to find that "second of bravery", for me i think about it too much and psych myself out. a therapist i use to have gave me some advice, don't think count to 5 and do it, and that has really helped me out.
Today I feel like sharing, so here goes my story. In my country lockdown started on late March and I was in a 2 year long relationship. In april we broke up in a phone call without a chance of doing so face to face because she was staying in her parents house 3h apart of my city. Later, in May COVID killed my grandfather but luckily i had the chance of saying my last goodbye to him. I'm getting better now but man, some day I just feel like shit. Thanks for reading and I hope you have an awesome day internet stranger. Remember that you are loved.
Hey man, I'm sorry to hear. One of my cousins and my great uncle both have had covid. Neither have died but it's stressful, especially combined with doctors botching a "routine surgery" on my grandfather nearly killing him, and the general stress of having to do college from home. None of what i said is as bad as what you've gone through with actually losing someone, I just wanted to say that everyone is feeling the effects of society right now and that while our pain may not be equivalent, I have a small understanding of where your coming from.
Schlatt, what do you mean you can’t get over her? You just said you were thinking about getting a boyfriend! Make up your mind! Edit: Yes, I’m joking, so stop the wooshing, lmao. But in all seriousness, big thanks to you, Schlatt, for providing such insightful commentary on tough topics.
To whoever the first one was, casually tell them that a (made up) friend of yours came out. You'll have a brief idea about what their reaction would be if you were to come to them. I hope it helps :)
yes, i had one of my friends do this to their parents and the reaction was not good. ive also used this to determine if my dad was homophobic or not and his reaction was golden
@@gracebruhmoment to be honest that slipped my mind, my parents are always pretty distant so when I mentioned it they didn't give it a second thought. But thank you :D
I made it look like I was lowkey homophobic myself so I was like “I don’t really know what to think about it like isn’t it weird.idk what’s your opinion dad?” I was never happier to get scolded on something and I came out like a week later
Sophie Canavan Exactly! I’m doing the same! To me, the most important part of a break up (I’ve only really had one, what am I talking about?) is to understand that the breakup happened for a reason, and that most importantly, your brain is going to play tricks on you in the future. Your brain will make you dream and feel sad, you’ll have nostalgia about the good moments, I onced smelled her perfume even though I was alone at home. Your brain will try to make you go back with her. Don’t. It ended because it wasn’t the best, that’s it. Reminding myself of the worst part, how she was a bit crazy, how her parents were weird etc, helped me combat the nostalgia. That’s not to say no one should ever look at their mistake ever, but, even though I would like to go back with her, hold her in my arms and kiss her, I know it’s wrong, because we weren’t made for one another, and that’s it. After a break up, you kind of level up and the best is to just take your time and avoid doing the same mistakes again. I don’t really know why I replied to your comment, I’m kinda just venting off, but oh well, if you need to talk, I’m here
A few months later and I'm still struggling to find such reasons other than my own failures. Everything seemed perfect between us for around a year. I just don't know what to do in my case other than wait.
@@Aidea._. My man, the thing is that it might've seemed perfect to you, but not to her. If it was perfect to her, she wouldn't have left. You gotta think about what went wrong, on both sides.
@@Aidea._. Then remember this: Don't beat yourself up over it. Acknowledge your mistakes and work on not doing them again. And remember that at that time, you were doing the best you could. You were just trying your best and it's not worth turning against yourself over it. Allow yourself to forgive yourself and work towards being better next time
It’s so jarring seeing Schlatt being a genuinely caring and nice person. I literally came to this video IMMEDIATELY after seeing the videos with him and minx and it’s like 2 different people
To the guy with the second question: I'm going through the same thing you're going through. It's been well over a year and I still miss her sometimes but you have to know that if it didn't work out, then there's a reason it didn't work out. It doesn't matter who's fault it was or what happened, the fact of the matter is is that it didn't work out; therefore it would never have worked out and therefore you didn't lose anything. You only gained experience and hopefully when you find the right one you have the skills necessary to build and maintain a stable relationship
If you're reading this, I hope you have a fantastic day and remember you are loved and cared for! Things will get better I promise! You are beautiful and you can do anything :)
Honestly the advice you gave for getting over someone is really solid. The way I got out of my "relationship blues" was by sitting down and thinking to myself, "well I won't miss this" or "I won't have to worry about that anymore". Of course there will still be things that you'll miss, whether it be the affection, or the time spent together going places, or the similar personalities you may have had, but looking past those at the negatives, the things you shudder to think about, can really help. Just remember that it's a slippery slope from recognizing faults in a relationship, to starting to resent and hate that person. Instead of using negative memories to create hatred, use them instead to understand and still respect that person for who they are, and appreciate the times you spent together, whether they be short or long. And of course, as cliche as it may be, there are plenty of people out there that you can and will click with, you likely haven't even met them yet.
My boyfriend broke up with me today, and at some point I thought about these videos, and how it all motivates me to get through this and maybe grow into a better person as I come out the other side. I'll be listening to all of these again in the meanwhile.
My friend passed away recently and schlatt and especially this channel really helps put me in a better state of mind. So thank you schlatt for making good content and bringing a smile to my face.
It’s been 7 months since I found out my gf of 10 years was talking to another man. Thursday would’ve been our 11th year. I don’t know how to move on, there’s just so much pain that I can’t seem to shake, it’s just so heavy.
Hey man, I know its been a while since you put up that comment but if u need anyone to talk to please comment below so that i can contact you and talk to you. I hope you're doing well
I don’t know if what I can say is any help but I’ll go for it, now granted, mine was 3 months 😂. I couldn’t imagine the emotional connection that was formed, but we were friends for a long time. In my case I was the one who broke up and it seems you were too, she neglected me, she cheated on you, we both took our big step and ended it, because we knew, we knew it’d be terrible to be complacent with that shit. I’ll tell you man, I wanted her back right away, and when I accepted that we were friends I asked her if we could discuss what had happened and she said “no.” That’s when It clicked in me, even though she was happy I wasn’t, and she claimed to be a friend still, but no friend leaves their friends to deal with their shit alone. I developed an extreme hatred for her, and it boiled in my head all the time, any small attempt of interaction from her I lashed out with vile disrespect, and eventually it led me to tell her to “get out of my life” I told her to delete me on everything, so that when I tried to get a glimpse into the past it was impossible. If the girl you were with wanted you, she wouldn’t have cheated, you don’t want to be with someone that hates you, you want to find someone who adores you the same way you do them. Also try working on yourself too, mentally and physically. Get fit, eat healthy, get enough sleep, have fun with friends, give yourself you time, work hard at your job, do something. Accomplishment is the best treatment for sadness, don’t stay stagnant, because that means your still in the present, allow yourself to move into the future, you don’t know what awaits you friend, I hope your days are bright, or already are ✌🏻.
Its awful. All the thoughts stuck in my head about her doing all the things we did with someone else. All the time spent together for nothing. In 10 days it would be our first year anniversary and she did me dirty and chose my friend. We had so much in common it felt amazing to be in her presence,we had so much compatability but she threw it away because we were having 1 rough week so she left me for my friend and i dont know how to cope with it. My friends are no help either.
for question 2: im going trough almost the exact same right now, i had my first GF too about almost 10 months ago, almost november 2019, i understand perfectly how you feel, its has no one can re-place her, and all of my friends just tell me to get over it and that "its not healthy for you to keep thinking about her", personally im very sentimental, so i did cry a lot about her of course, but my best advice is to have hope, because trough out this months the best thing i could figure out is to avoid thinking about her. find a way to pass time, video games, sports, talking with friends, and do anything to change your mind, because trust me i know the "theres more fish in the sea" seems like total bull shit, but almost after a year of not being with her, i found another person that clicks with me and feel like we love each other a lot. so another advice i could give, find a comunity you can click with, or eveen better find some one to emptize with, some one who you say "this dude understands me" and feel comfortable arround with. i apologize if im not very useful, but if the person who wrote that question reads this, i can promise you your not alone and that its a procees ive been trough too and lots of people have, it all goes away eventually, and i can promise to you this will end, like Schlatt said "time heals all wonds".
Im glad to see im not alone friend! I hope you know you aren't either! You'll find a better one, don't worry too hard about it. They'll come to you. :)
I remember when I was coming out as trans and bisexual to my parents. I was completely terrified of them not supporting it in anyway and having to wait years to start taking meds, or to try dating another gender. From my experience the thing that helped me the most was having another person there (which in this case was my therapist). I told my dad first which to my surprise he didn’t care one bit and then my mom who wasn’t that happy with it but has come around over the years. Looking back 3 years I’ve never been happier that I told them because of how much happier and comfortable I am now.
Hey man, I was hung up on my ex for about 3 years and it was tough I tried everything to get her out of my head and move on. Sex, other relationships and alcohol, I tried so much to move on, but the stages of grief are different for everyone. The best thing I can tell you which sure helped me was to live for yourself and learning to make yourself happy. I worked to be happy on my own and to improve myself as a person and I can finally say nowadays I am 100% over. It does take some time, but I know you can get through it and eventually when the time comes you will find someone else who is even more amazing than your ex, even if that seems hard to believe now. I wish you the best of luck man and we are all here to support each other you are not alone man.
i miss him so much. it's so hard, it's been months and i can't even get over him. he has a new girlfriend and it hurts so bad. how do i stop thinking about him?? i'm sorry i sound so desperate i'm just so hurt.
@@imbunny71 what i said above that was for me the only way to get her out of my head, but for some more specific suggestions to try hang out with your closet friends, even if its over discord or just a phone call spend as much time with other people as you can and while hanging out with those friends do bit bring him up. Make sure your friends don't bring him up either, just talk about literally anything else. If you have some money you can spend, go out by yourself window shop just for the hell of it maybe get yourself something that you really like. Go and buy yourself food from somewhere start with your favorites then switch it up now and then try new things. I drove to some hiking trails and just hiked by yourself. Just doing anything for yourself and your own well being, trying to just be happy on your own was the only way for me to finally forget her, be more confident in myself and be overall more happy. If you need any more suggestions dm me and we can talk good luck to all who see this and all who need to hear it.
To the dude or anyone who had some troubles with a recent breakup, I know exactly what you mean. You think you’re ready to be with yourself or be with someone else and you have convinced yourself that you’re at peace and have gotten over your ex. However, when you see them in person or a picture of them, it’s like the anxiety hits you like a freight train and there’s nothing you can do to stop it. My ex used to make me so anxious that I would throw up. I was getting to a point where everyone knew I was in a bad place, but what could I do to stop it? My father gave me some of the best and most simple breakup advice I have heard to date, “everyone has gone through a breakup. You’re not alone and it’s ok to feel bad about it for a bit, but after a while you have to realize that there are other things to life than just that one person.” Time does heal all wounds, and reminding yourself that you’re not alone in regards to feeling alone and lost is some of the most comforting things that helped me in my past. Eventually you will look back and appreciate how much stronger hard times like that made you. I wish you the best of luck my friend and stay. Strong.
Man my greatest fear is fucking up my relationship with my girlfriend and her dumping me, because I know DAMN well I’m going to be a sad sack of shit..
@@jamsanator0511 Even if somehow that does happen, it's okay! I'm doing good, completely moved on, you one day would be. But that won't be a problem. Some easy advice: The less you stress, the better your relationship is and will be
I confessed to my crush two years ago. I'm not going into specifics but it was super embarrassing on both ends, we ignored each other for two years and then I talked to her. She's a reasonable person and we talked through mistakes and other stuff. Then we started texting fairly regularly during quarantine, Im meeting up with her next week and Im glad we could be friends I really liked this girl beyond any crush and its shitty to move on without that but I can't live with a dream. Instead you take your time maybe even years like me to work it out for yourself and even talk to them. If your lucky you'll be able to get some closure from them but either way you'll move on. My favorite quote I've ever said, "Things will workout or we'll work them out. Whichever comes first."
3/4 of that story hits completely close to home. I've been talking to her casually as of late, as opposed to about a painful year of awkward avoidance. Thank you for your story, and I hope I can get the same closure with no hard feelings
this is really good advice but you're not gonna want to hear it, if she says no the first time probably like 90% of the time she won't say yes the second time. obviously the guy above me is a different story and it can definitely work out that way, but if youre going into this friendship with her with anything but good intentions it's probably not the greatest idea, but hey, I hope it works out.
@@ibrendank5541 Yeah, I liked her for who she was and I can accept that she said no. I'd rather be friends with a person with what I think is a great personality than try to tread the same path again.
This channel is like a warm fuzzy blanket that reminds you of "the good old days". It takes me back to the simpler times of Call of Duty commentary channels and i love it. Thank you
in 8th grade, i was diagnosed with depression and had recently broken up with my boyfriend. i started to miss him a lot, and would have a great deal of breakdowns and crying sessions over him (not worth it, i can assure you). we got back together for a week because i was so hung up on him, but we broke up, etc. after a few weeks, i started to realize he wasn’t worth my time at all, and tbh i actually could make fun of him without feeling remorse. the point is, schlatt’s advice is very strong. time heals a lot of wounds. you just need to take care of yourself. try to avoid thinking about your ex (pinch yourself, put a rubber band on your wrist, etc) and remind yourself that you are worth it, you should be happy. maybe instead of focusing on what you lost, focus on what you learned. what not to do next time, what to do next time. distract yourself. try a new sport, a new club, etc. go shopping, buy a new game, give yourself time and self-care because you deserve it and you are worth more than heartbreak. ❤️
i’ve been going thru a breakup with my first long term partner, 2 years. he “got over it” in a day, it’s been a month for me and i’m still here crying almost every night when i remember something we used to do and how much i love doing those things. love and intimacy is really important to me, so it’s extremely hard to distance myself from wanting those things. but your words, specifically about focusing on what was learned.. that reminds me of my first relationship (of 2 months) i had right before this one. i learned that i deserve someone better than what he (first ex) was. while it was nice at first, it quickly was shown how fragile and insecure he was. i couldn’t deal with that for very long. but… right now… i’m not really sure what i’ve learned about this one. i’ve learned some things about myself, like my values and sorts of things i need in a relationship, i wasn’t getting from him… which is pretty invaluable. but… love is so big for me that i can’t help but want to find someone else soon. i don’t like the idea of being single, not having a crush (fictional or celebrity, i don’t meet enough ppl for irl crushes lmao) this is why it’s so hard to move on for me. i want these things. and yeah, im supposed to have self-love but i already do in a lot of aspects. i have a good base of self esteem. i’m just realizing how insecure i feel when not in a relationship. it’s annoying. anyway sorry for dumping it all in this comment, but yours spoke to me the most
I love the "1 second of bravery" line, because it is true. Any time i've had to be brave like that, all I needed was to be brave for one second to open my mouth and start talking. The rest of the time taken to talk is easy, its just that 1 second to start that is hard.
Schlatt, you don't know how much I needed this advice. I have a deep respect for you and what you do and hope I can one day reach how successful you are.
To the person who asked question 2: I feel you dude, I really do. One way I started getting over someone I used to know I started visiting old video games I loved as a kid, like Terraria, or that old Mario 64 ds port. Trying new games you might not think you like but want to try helps tremendously too, or trying a new hobby or even something like morning or evening jogs to keep yourself fit and keep your mind off things. Hopefully I, like many others, help you get over her
Sport actually helps to free the mind, so it may be the thing that helps you to get distracted in a good way. It may help to get an aim to achieve, which afterwards will build the assurance that the life is not over, and you still can enjoy things
To anyone struggling to come out; I have friends who did, they tell me that if you've already invisioned a worst case scenario (which u probably did when it comes to stuff you're scared of), you're already half way there to be mentally ready. You can already deal with the worst, and i guarantee you 9 times out of 10 the worst cases NEVER happen. Schlatt's advice was good too, if you already have it in your mind that you can handle the answer, all it takes is that simple phrase and the rest will flow through.
@@rexdavies5223 if your parents accept it, word will probably get around and since, well, family is the most biased, they will spread it well and with a good tone. I can't speak for yours because I don't know you but the big leap is always the first line to your father or mom. Once that's done you will definitely feel better about yourself and how you share your sexuality.
My first girlfriend broke up with me two months ago, and it's been rough. I've learned two things that might help someone in their attempt to move on: "There are no red flags when you are looking at someone through rose tinted glasses" and "focusing on yourself more often than not drops someone amazing in your lap, just when you are ready"
For the first question: please make sure it’s safe before coming out. For e.g. If there is a possibility of you getting kicked out you’d need a place to stay and stuff For the second question: I’m sorry dude but it’s just going to take time. It’s worse because you see her rn so maybe pick up an extra hobby to do with your friends but you’ll get over her eventually. Sometimes it’s also just okay to accept what you’re feeling and just let it be.
My girlfriend broke up with me today and this really helped me relax you have been a huge role model recently and i appreciate everything what you do man your a legend
dude i know this is old but holy shit why did that periodt thing help me. ive been stuck on this girl for an embarrassingly long time now but the image of her typing that filled me with so much rage that i completely forgot i had even liked her for a solid ten seconds. thanks schlatt
In my limited romantic experience, the worst thing you can do when trying to get over someone is failing to resist the urge to contact them and talk to them like you used to. Be strong and just keep holding on for one more day, one more week without their direct influence on your life. You might not believe it, and it’ll hurt for a stupid, stupid amount of time, but eventually you will feel better about it. You dont have to shut the person out, always be civil, but just maintain healthy distance, and tell yourself whenever you can that its going to get better. Because it will.
Hearing your advice with this Schlatt really helps a lot. About 2 months ago my engagement got broken off and it absolutely destroyed me. She was away for a few months so it was just me and her dog in the apartment until she got back, she called me out of the blue after some rocky back and forth between the two of us and decided she just didn’t want to continue being engaged anymore. While I was packing up my belongings I ended up having a complete meltdown and proceeded to try to overdose on my mood stabilizers. I ended up being in the hospital for almost a week and then put into a psychiatric hospital for almost another week. We’ve spoke maybe one or two times since then and it’s been extremely stressful when we have spoken. After I got out I ended up moving from Virginia all the way to Mississippi. During this time I’ve taken to watching/rewatching a lot of your old videos as well as new ones while I job hunt. You’ve helped me a lot and taught me a lot as well. You taught me to invest in stocks/an index fund, taught me that cooking momma sucks ass, taught me that my job might suck ass but something better will come along if I’m smart with what I’m doing. Which that video the “I hate my job” one reinforced the message to me that I need to get to college like I was planning and not let this set me back. So, thank you Schlatt for helping me out in a rough spot and teaching me new life lessons along the way.
Coming back to this video after her. We met at a summer camp in August and I got her snap. I had been single for a year and my previous girlfriend was my first and I still didn’t entirely know how a relationship should work. We immediately started talking every day just back and fourth. Eventually we facetimed, and started watching TV shows with eachother over call. She went to the next school over so I didn’t get to see her a lot. I was in love with her, everything about her. She had been the first person in over a year to make me feel a way I had never felt before. We talked and teased eachother and sometimes flirted. I learned from her friend she wanted to ask me out. I had so much hope and happiness, and eventually I asked her to meet up but she was busy. This happened 5 more times. All of them she was busy. We still talked and face timed and snapped eachother. One day she suddenly gave me her friends snap, saying really nothing about it. The day after she just stopped. Our constant texts and conversations just dropped. Her explanation was that she had lots of things to do, but the lack of communcation was so abrupt, surely she would have told me sooner? I tried my best to talk to her, and she would leave me on delivered and opened for hours or days at a time. I went into a panic, my thoughts about her consumed every part of my day. How could someone so close just disappear like that so quickly? After a week or so she DMed me, telling me during camp that she liked me, and out of desperation I told her I liked her too and that I hope she still has the same feelings. She did not. She explained she gave me her friends snap because she thought we would be good together. I felt just….horrible. I was so confused and thousands of questions flooded my mind. Weeks went by, school started and i felt so alone. I feared talking to my closest friend that was a girl who was friends with her because I didn’t want her talking to the person I liked. Countless nights I spent staring blankly at the ceiling just thinking. I missed everything about her. Happy thoughts about camp turned sad when I thought about her. My friends offered little help, doing what they could but they were also going through breakups at the time. I slowly started to get over her. Then recently I just got into a fit of sadness, feeling just down because of school and the lack of things happening in my life. On top of that, my Grandma had just died, and the regret of not spending time with her clogged me up. I suddenly started thinking about the girl again, and here I am. Reading these comments helped a little, I recently deleted the last pictures I had of her on my phone, and i’m trying to forget her. It’s really tough. I’m trying so hard to forget her but I just miss her so much. I know going back to her would be a mistake because she treated me like garbage when I asked her out (She said LOL when I said I liked her). Despite that I will admit I still have feelings for her, and i’m trying to fix that. She was the only person who gave me a chance in a long time, and I feel like nobody will ever give me a chance like that again. She never gave me a reason why she really stopped talking to me. I feel lost. Nobody around me really offers that much help. I’m sure in time this will pass. Maybe in a year I’ll forget about her and have someone else to focus on. This video helped a lot Schlatt. Thanks to whoever read all of this, I just needed to get this out. I doubt that anyone will see this much less read all of it, but to those who do I thank you. Even to those who don’t, I hope if your in the same or similar situation i’m in, that you find what you need and even though I feel down, I know someone else is out there.
Hey man I’m going through a similar thing and that’s why I’m here. All I can say is to surround yourself with people who will be there for you (like friends or family) it’s also good to delete conversations and photos so there’s nothing to look back on. The sooner there gone the easier it is to move on and she doesn’t deserve your time if she was only using you for temporary entertainment. Plus on the bright side of things you two go to different schools so confrontation isn’t a worry. I hope this was some help, if not then I’m sorry.
hey man i’m sorry to hear that but its been a year since your comment. I’m in a similar situation rn and i just wanted to know how you’re feeling rn and how things are going, i hope they’ve improved
@@mewtchie Sorry to hear you're in the same situation. Yes, I did get over her, but countless other situations with other people have come up since then that have been as bad or worse. I'm not sad that they happened, nor do I wish they hadn't happened. I'm glad they did because I get experience from dealing with them, even if they suck. This stuff will always happen for as long as you live, but there will be a time in your life when someone perfect for you comes along and you'll be happy this situation happened because now you have someone better, and you know how to deal with hardship. The best medicine I've come to find is simply time. Time passes. You meet new people, and you form new relationships. Maybe you get a new hobby or move somewhere different, and eventually you forget. Maybe you don't forget, but It'll become significantly less important to you, and then you'll have the satisfaction of looking back and saying "I got through this". The time it takes to let go might be painful, but remember it always, always gets better. You are alive my friend. Choose what deserves your worry. Sorry for the long response lol, I hope it helped just a little. :)
as someone whos lgbt and came out to her parents, the way i did it was through a letter!! it gives more time to figure out the best way to say how you feel, and takes away the stress of having to speak face to face. plus, it gives your parents time to digest the new information and figure out what they want to say as well, so when you do eventually speak about it u can all have ur thoughts collected and not be so anxious :] hope this helps!
For the guy who cant get over the girl, man I have been there. I was dumped by a boy i was totally in love with a year ago and i gotta be honest i'm still struggling with it. Although it may not be the best thing to slag them off to make yourself feel better, its definitely important not to put them on a pedestal or hold them in the exact same regard you may have been done during the relationship. There were obviously flaws there which you didn't see so Schlatt's suggestion does make a lot of sense. It's important to surround yourself with the people and friends who you have currently and appreciate them as much as a girlfriend. Appreciate what you had, what you have now, and whats to come. It will get better, my friend :)
Hey Schlatt, hearing your advice "It only takes 1 second of bravery" really helped me a couple days ago. I wanted to ask my dad about not taking certain classes this year (because I don't know anyone in the classes), but I got extremely stressed. I remembered what you said in this video and it helped me a lot. He didn't give me the answer I wanted, but I'm ready to take on new challenges. Thank you.
I recently, 1 month ago broke up with my first girlfriend, and for a little it felt like it was the worst thing that ever happened to me, but she did use the no❤️ and nail polish emoji so thanks Shlatt that’s a perfect point!
Schlatt, Idk if you will see this, but thanks for doing this weekly again. It sounds corny, but this has made a lot of difference in a few short weeks already. After the investing, I talked to my economics teacher and he taught me about investing over on this side of the world. Also, thanks to your confidence video, as soon as lockdown blows over, I will be starting up multiple committees and on track to get a leading position in my house thingy. So thanks, schlatt, this has been more than helpful.
im going back to school tomorrow, and it's going to be a tough year, but listening to this was hecka comforting for me, and it gave me a huge boost, a feeling of readiness for what's to come. thank you schlatt. thanks for being the coolest!
I’m still hung up on a girl who said no ❤️ and periodt and she ended up being a lesbian. It sucks and I want to be friends with her still but I’m struggling to move on. I know how it feels. I try my best to distract myself and do other things with my time rather than just thinking about her, it’s really the best you can do. Hangout with friends, hit on other girls (in a respectful and appropriate way), she’s not worth your time rn.
Memu It’s even worse when you find out she lied about being a lesbian just because she doesn’t like you. Has happened twice to me, with equally psychotic girls
For the second question, although the person never specifically talked about this, I still think it's important to discuss your perception of your self-worth while you are trying to move on from someone. When the person that you want to be with tells you that they don't feel the same way, it really wears away at your self-worth. It's really easy to think that you don't deserve love or you aren't worthy of being loved by someone else. The best way to combat this and move on at the same time is to focus on yourself. Make yourself a priority. Give yourself the love that you deserve. It's your responsibility to take care of you. It's not easy and it's going to take time, but it's 100% worth it :)
What you said is 100% true, i spent a long time thinking about why she left me because i really thought she was the one, and i talked to friends about it all the time and while i definitely did give her a couple reasons, she gave me more than i could count aswell, and i realized it wasn't entirely my fault at all, and that I shouldn't be so distraught. My way might not work for everyone though, there's tons better advice out there. Thank you for writing this though! :)
with getting over someone, it really does depend on how reliant or "in love" you were with them. so it can vary. but if you really cant get over someone, you need to face it head on. just tell talk to yourself in the mirror and yell and rant about how that person hurt you, matbe the good times, but especially talk about why that person left you feeling the way you do. that usually does the trick, but if not right away, keep doing that tactic every night or every week. and if you were overly reliant on that person, find something new to be reliant on for a while. maybe its a sport, or painting, or working on school work. anything to give you time away from that person and time to reflect on yourself
Man, looking outside his other channels and other places he appears, Schlatt is such a wholesome and helpful guy. And though I never submitted any emails, or had those nonexistant emails read, hearing advice from you actually has helped me look at things from a different perspective. So thank you Schlatt!
Wise Schlatt is best Schlatt. Please keep posting these, although I might not be experiencing some of this stuff but it is still insightful and can help me out with other problems.
Hey schlatt, you took your time answering my email huh? I wrote that to you around september of last year, 2019, and now its nearing september of 2020. And i think you'd love to hear that I'm entirely over her, and have been in a loving relationship with my new girlfriend since Thanksgiving of last year. I thought you'd never read it on air, or i just got the email wrong, but this video made my day. Thanks schlatt.
Haha, good to hear that man. I had it saved from all the way back then I guess.
@@theweeklyslap hi schlatt
Ay you go man!
Good on you mate, hope it works out excellently for ya :)
@Maxwell Hardwick The only people who call other people simps for doing anything less than sucking up to a girl are just jealous that the person they're calling a simp is actually more of a chad than they are. I know it's just a joke though. lol
The fact that this man can go from traumatizing an Irish woman to giving genuine life advice scares me.
'tis the way of the entertainer
Tsar?
he's gay
@@SaidMetiche-qy9hb that's one of his diffrent personalities bruh
@@rezzi8000 We gonna have a second Sodom & Gomorrah soon my friend, you just wait and see
schlatt, hearing your advice of picturing her going "no 💖" or "💅" is seriously the funniest and most helpful thing i've heard. thank you so much, you've changed my life. thank you
It changed your life in 20 minutes?
@@rushcap2761 yes.
@@rushcap2761 it dosent matter about the time elapsed. What matters is the quality of advice given and i think schlatt really outdoes most people in terms of that.
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no 💅
About the relationship thing I remember a metaphor Michael from vsauce said in one of his videos that went something like this: A carving on a tree deos not change place nor size it might darken a bit but it will remain basically the same but as the tree continues growing it will be smaller compared to the whole tree. Imagine that the carving is the past relationship or the girl/boy, the only way for you to make them seem smaller and less important is by developing your character and making the memories you had a smaller part of your experiences
That is beautiful
@@carterg7035 true
Oh wow that's a cool perspective
Great analogy
thank you.
“All you need is one second of bravery” i wish someone would have told me that a lot sooner
It’s great advice
We Bought A Zoo. Best. Movie. Ever. This same advice is featured in that film. Trust me. Give it a watxh
@@Prestonwbradley fucking love that movie
Woodysgamertag used to say this in mail Monday’s :) this is like going back in time
Henry Smith can you link me to the video?
if you ever feel bad about yourself, just remember that some people genuinely think they can win arguments by saying “no ❤️”
@Bounze Win+. brings up the emoji keyboard if ur on windows 10 bro
It’s not about “winning” an argument
@@tigernipe thank you so much
Nickly no ❤️
no ❤
Imma be real here, I hate talking to girls and an awkward guy in general but I when schlatt said “it’s only 5 seconds of bravery” I paused the video and I thought to my self he’s right and I followed it and just before schlatt hits one mill on jschlatt live I got my first girlfriend thanks to his advice, thanks man if you ever do read this it’s helped me a lot.
Omg thanks for reading schlatt and congrats on one million!
@@themasterdebater4251 good luck man :)
Bro how? How did you do it? Teach me your ways
@@teunissenstefan he.... Had one moment of bravery
@@liamdoes8580 But how do you get a moment of bravery? How much does it cost?
there's something weirdly therapeutic about seeing gameplay of the modern warfare 3 m4a1
Especially with a heartbeat sensor.
where are all your videos? :(
Wait, you're alive?
You're watching because of the reloads
Yeah, I really like this model of the M4A1, looks sexy as hell
Schlatt: Gets a 79% on a test an almost has a stroke
Me: Gets 70% and starts praising the lord
passed english with a 61 last year it was cool
He was in middle school tho
W h a t
Ayy terrible grades gang wya?
Heck yeah we’re probably never going to college because we’re too stupid 😎😎
@@jamsanator0511 ayeee I just got a 40 on a quiz lmao
that advice imagining a person doing "no ❤️" or some shit actually works lmao thank you schlatt
I actually used that as my own personal strategy before even watching this and when he gave that advice I was like “HA!”
Schlatt, Scott Cawthon made fnaf 4 because he knew how much 3 sucked. It was supposed to end at 3 but he wasn't happy with it. Most people agree that 4 is the scariest of them all.
i know this was part of the video but theres something really funny about reading this while schlatt talks about getting over a past relationship
Nothing gets you over a breakup better than being mauled by mecha-furries
Fr Scott is such a legend he was in such a depressive state and just came up with FNAF and made like 8 games and 10 books and a possible movie in the span of 6 years
@@Jackpauler4lyfe Ah~
@Jackson Cordes in fnaf 3 only 1 animatronic can kill you but in fnaf 4 you got bonnie nightmare foxy freddy
"It only takes 1 second of bravery" could not be more true. I'd been really stressed and sad for the last few days over things going on around me and I really wanted to talk to someone about it. I talked to my friends and it helped, but I still felt that disgusting "looming doom" feeling in my stomach. From the beginning, I had wanted to talk to my mom about it since she's my boulder. She makes me feel safe. But I was always scared of her reaction (we don't talk about depression or anxiety in my immigrant Asian household). I wondered if she'd believe me or ridicule me for being stressed over "small things". A few nights ago though I was having a really rough time and finally opened up to her about it. I've been doing better ever since.
i was in a really similar situation a few months ago too. talking about mental health with immigrant asian parents is so stressful and scary. i'm glad you're doing better though! making it through that difficult talk is what counts
that's amazing to hear
I think he meant that it only takes a second of bravery to start that conversation, once you start to tell them you generally get round to the end of it wether that’s through them asking questions or you just going with what you started. But it takes a few seconds or bravery to get the ball rolling type of thing if you get me?
cody jamieson i get you!
I’ve always noticed it feels better to tell someone about the thing you’re going through, even if they don’t say anything or give you any real advice. Just getting it out there and telling someone is a great feeling, and so relieving
For these last couple of weekly slaps, I swear Jschlatt can read my god damn mind. Whatever I am feeling or fearing, Schlatt has been able to perfectly predict my mood, and it may just be luck, but I really just have to thank him for that :)
Schlatt is omnipotent
Its just you think that your problem is unique and different from everybody else but really many people are going through the same problems. You're not alone even if you may feel it.
Same with me dude
That or this is a coma
Same. Like I've been trying to get courage to tell my dad I'm gay and just as I was worrying about it he answers a question about it. So I think I'm going to tell him the next time I see him face to face.
I had a girl that i wasn’t over yet. Then i saw she changed her instagram account to a kpop trading account. I’m definitely over her now.....
Even if I'm not over her if anything this comment section is making me laugh my ass off which just makes it a tiny bit better
bro I saw a girl i fancied during 8th grade I'm a sophmore now and jesus christ. She shaved her head and dyed her buzzcut, neon green and put on 20 lbs shes only 5'5 and it shows. She used to be stunningly beautiful.
@@pigman-nl7fg now thats a bruh moment if i've ever seen one
@@KelpDaJuice so literally she just deleted one photo.
pigman999999999 hey just cause her new look isn’t your type doesn’t mean she isn’t still stunning :)
"You can't get over her"
you can... you just dont want to right now. it will pass
I was looking for this comment, this is how i think. Im in this place rn, i don't want to get over her, so I can''t. It's like having her there is a comfort that I'm not ready to let go of, i just have to wait for it to pass
ok i felt that
It's true, even if I don't want to admit it. I don't want to let go over the years we spent together side by side being the only ones we had. Being our only support. Being the only ones who knew every single thought, fear, love, and opinion of each other. All the small details, the ways we would speak and the jokes we made that no one else could understand. I'm holding onto this anger I have and this pain I feel for her moving on so quickly. I just want her to run back to me and tell me she regrets being with that person. But she won't do it. I have to ACTUALLY accept it rather than just acknowledging it. It's been half a year, I wish I was ready to let her go. But I'm so lonely and I guess I'm scared to let the only person who's ever really known me fully
@@Enfjscrolling hope everything works out for you!!!! it just takes time, for you it might take a little longer but it will get better soon. (lol I'm saying this and im like in a similar place)
@@marinisx3958 then I'm wishing the same things for you ✨ I'm sorry you're going through this -- it really hurts and affects your own self esteem (speaking for myself anyway). Thank you for the encouragement!
Why is this such a perfect timing i broke up with my girlfriend yesterday
Damn, hope you’re ok bro. :)
hey, hope you’re doing okay man
hope you’re okay man
stay strong m8
its okay, the bois got your back
to the person who asked the first question: only come out if you are in a safe situation, if you think your parents might throw you out or not really accept you, maybe don't but please be safe :) if they don't accept you, i hope you know, you are accepted by some many people. You are loved, you do matter and you are important.
^^^^^^^^ I cannot agree with this more
This is very true, there have been times where I wanted to be truthful to my parents about things. Most of the when I tell them something they are understanding but if you let’s say catch them in bad mood or at a bad time it might not go well.
Jesus I feel that last bit. I'm pretty sure my parents forgot that I'm pan, so I think my second round is coming up.
@@rexdavies5223 ah yeah, that's always fun... I think I've gone through like 3 or 4 rounds of telling my parents I'm ace and I'm pretty sure every time they forget immediately after I tell them haha
@@r_kayne Hey, fellow asexual! And yeah, that's not the best feeling.
Yes finally, i can have some dad advice
jschaltt is everyone’s father figure
LudoCrypt damnit I was too late to write it
Subscriber : “I’m gay and I have problems coming out to my parents”
Schlatt : “Well, I once scored 79 points on a test!”
Schlatt"that is the same thing right?"
There was an attempt
Schlatt can’t really talk about coming out because he hasn’t come out yet I mean he won’t come out I mean just kidding he is but no but yea
If anyone actually needs advice about this I can help, I came out awhile ago to my school but not my family, I’m fully out now so if you need advice please ask me and I might be able to help you
@@jakeer1554 thanks for offering
"all it takes is one second of bravery and the rest takes care of itself" that's some good life advice man
This is my first time commenting and i just wanted to say that this channel is my escape from a shitty home life and it's kept me going through hard times. Thank you for this amazing community and the words of wisdom schlatt.
Much love
Glad we could help brother
I hope things turn around for the better! Much love from Belgium :)
W4LT3R Much love from the U.S :)
❤️❤️❤️
Thanks for taking the time to reply guys I appreciate it ❤
Ok PERFECT, really needed this right now.
Yes
Me too. Going through mental breakdown over same issue.
Same
Same
Same 😀👍
Hey "I cant get over her",
Schlatt threw it to the comments and I wanted to try my hand at this, so let me first start by saying that the reason I even clicked on this video was because I'm going through the same thing. Dated a girl for about a year and half and we pretty recently broke up and I've been pretty torn up by it for the last few months. I recently started seeing someone new, and thankfully she has been super patient and understanding with the whole thing and has been helping me work through a lot of this stuff. From what we've talked about, and what I've personally experienced, Schlatt isn't entirely wrong. Time really does help a lot and while that's hard to conceptualize right now, I promise it really does get better. What I've found is just throwing yourself into a hobby or passion really helps. I started skating again, and I've been working on my art, and also have just been listening to podcasts whenever I can. The brain is a really powerful, painful thing, but it is also EXTREMELY easy to distract. Personally, the key for me has been to just distract, and when I feel a depressive or anxious episode come on, I reach out to someone I trust, whether that's family or my current gf. I am extremely codependent as a person so I really do know that feeling, and I promise you, it sucks. Your feelings are extremely valid, and totally normal, and most importantly, you need to allow yourself to feel and grieve. It sounds like to me you kinda "moved on" but didn't really confront your feelings about the whole thing, just boxed them up, then seeing her triggered the feelings all over again. So, if I could give you one piece of advice, it would be to unpack those feelings, and stay busy while you do it. It seems paradoxical, but it is A LOT easier to work on your past if you focus on your present and future.
Anyway, I hope that helps. Much love, and feel better!
Good advice man!
I am in the same situation currently. I boxed everything up for months and saw the girl in question yesterday and I just fell apart. Good advice dude, really. Schlatt must be able to read minds or something
Thank you man that felt like professional help I've never felt better
this is genuinely super helpful, esp since i broke up with my gf a couple months ago. will def try, thank you so much.
I respect u a lot
This guys got 79% and was almost in tears. Me and my friends get like 50% and we feel nothing.
Overachiever attitude vs underachiever attitude to be honest. Such is life.
For the person coming out: First things first, and this is incredibly important, make sure you're in a safe place. Speaking from experience, it's incredibly important that you're not in any danger emotionally or physically.
Secondly, if you really need to tell someone who will accept you, maybe start by coming out to a sibling our cousin.
Thirdly, don't stress yourself out if you start to doubt your sexuality. It's a confusing thing, and it's best to think thoroughly about it. So if you already came out with a certain label, it's perfectly fine to change it, you'll just have to go explain to the people around you. And if they accepted you the first time you came out, then great! They'll accept you a second time. nothing to worry about.
Finally, surround yourself with the right people. You deserve love and happiness, so if there's any homophobic assholes, it's better to drop them. But again!! Be safe. I cannot stress that enough. I hope this helped anyone out there.
Be proud of who you are and take care :)
No
Yes!
Very good advise
I doubt you'll see this reply on such an old comment but thank you so much for the advice, especially the last one. I've been so confused on what to call myself, first I was bi but now I'm leaning a little more towards gay, and it was really stressing me out not being able to figure out who I am. That last part really spoke to me and made me realize there's nothing to worry about.
Gonna come out to my parents very soon after writing this actually, thank you for the advice once again. ❤
@@ComputerGirlMae personally i wouldn't even worry about what to call yourself because it really doesn't matter. just love who you want to love, human sexuality is so broad there's really no need to stick to a specific label.
I swear this comment section actually kinda warms my heart to just sit n read
same :) its quite nice
Yea
Facts, it’s not the “nobody: “ format, but like actual conversations. :))
Schlatt, could you stop spying on my personal life? These past few videos hit home real hard.
Same dude lol
@@realimjustjoshing him talkin bout no motivation, anxiety, no confidence and break ups does kinda help knowing other people have the same problems. we are not alone ya feel me :)
Same, I feel that no motivation thing and it sucks. Plus I really relate to that school assignment analogy lol
“Is Ludwig the only person who cares about that stuff, I know he is an english major might upset him.” I’m glad I caught that lmao
I dont even think lid cares.
Edit: Lud.
Lud would be disappointed in Schlatt
Lud is crying right now because we all know he bought his degree off of eBay
He's an English major and still sucks at speaking the English language.
There was a teacher at my school named ms Ludwig and she was an English teacher
This channel is a breath of fresh air. I feel like i have a lowkey drug problem. Alot of issues. Some of em my fault, some just circumstance. But that's life. I feel I've become so cynical and distant to the point that most of the time I'm forcing laughter in front of people just so i don't look out of place. But jschlatt vids and a ton of music and other creators make me feel just a little better. It's like sitting in a cabin with a little fire and there's a blizzard outside and for a moment i can just focus on the warmth of the fire. Nobody will see this i imagine. But there's something cathartic about just saying how I'm feeling. Don't pity me too much I'll probably be fine. Everyone goes through shit. Also if anyone feels the same way, suicide is whack bro. Please stay with us. It'll be good. Even i have thought about that but the idea of a better day keeps me going and bro i hope you get those better days soon man.
I was extremely suicidal about two years ago and this is exactly how I got rid of it, just the right music and RUclips.
Tommy Dappert It’s amazing what music can do for you
I know this was a month ago, but in case you're still going through this shit -
Dude, talk to people. Honestly, learning how to open up can change your life. It can be incredibly hard and even embarrasing at times, but if you have good friends and a good family, just open up to them. If you're having a bad day, tell them. If you feel out of place, let someone know. It can really help to ground you and make you feel like you're a part of everything, as opposed to just a seperate entity.
I hope this helps, and I hope it all turns out alright my dude. Good luck to you. it's a hard road to walk but learning to share the load can make it a lot easier.
@@tommydappert1331 hey man I'm so glad ur still with us and hope ur doing alot better. The world is a better place with you in it man. Sorry I'm a lil late to this.
@@gazzwars5355 hey man, thank you. I'm doing as well as anyone can do during times like these. I've learned to open up to people alot more recently. Recently came outta the closet too which was huge for me because i wasn't sure if I'd ever have the courage to do it but I've been alot happier without a burden like that on my shoulders and in my head 24/7. I still have alot to work on don't get me wrong but progress is progress. Hope ur doing good too bro with all this crazy shit going on don't forget to check in with yourself
I will no longer be using “no❤️”
periodt and the sarcastic ❤ and 💅 are so funny to me fr 😭😭
character devolpment
Thank you 🙏
As someone who is still in the process of moving on (not from a gf, from a girl who I liked and was close to who essentially told me permanently fuck off), I can say to the second person/anyone else in a similar situation: Moving on isn't about forgetting or suppressing the past, it's about going forward. Yes, it sucks. It hurts. And it's easy to look back on the days where you two were still together and see it as better times. But the key (at least for me) to moving on is building something new to be proud of to supplant the memories of old. Whether it be making new friends, finding another girl, just try something new (or go back to doing something else) to get your mind off it. That's what works for me though, obviously everyone is different and everyone has different solutions that might work better.
I feel like this is it. Eventually the new memories will replace the old ones. Eventually a new girl will replace the old one. The old memories will sometimes resurface, yeah, but you have to remind yourself that she’s the one missing out, not you.
I don't know if this will help your point but meeting people and making new friends helps a lot it can be a bit hard for certain people but like it gets you to know more people and like maybe you could end up with one of them who knows but like it worked for me and I ended up with one of them so try get new friends not with the intentions of getting a new gf or bf just so you have more people that you can have fun with and just be happy with
I am also in the same situation as you. And I fully agree that it’s about moving forward and I’ve tried that but the memories keep coming back and it’s hard for me to forget about her.
thank you so much, this helped a lot
Its all about learning from your mistakes man. And really learning, not seeing what went wrong and repeating them, seeing what went wrong and never doing it again. I believe in you bros.
"how is it going boys my name is jschlatt and welcome to inbox*
whenever i hear this sentence i'm happy
I was literally just about to email schlatt about this exact topic. Thank you so much for everything you've done Schlatt. My father is very closed off and doesn't like talking about these types of things, you really help me. Thank you.
Hope you're doing well man.
Wishing you all the best man!! Good luck!
mkson more like mgayson
@@boxie5938 good one boxie
Boxie gottem
I was chasing a girl for about 2 years. She had an emotionally abusive boyfriend at the time who I was able to save her from. She was also my first girlfriend who I had turned down several other girls in order to pursue. I finally got her, but about 6 months into the relationship, it was clear that she wasn't putting as much into the relationship as I was anymore. I spent another couple months trying to find the courage to break up with her. I loved her, so it was really fucking hard to turn my back on everything that I had done for her and leave her. I knew in the end it would be healthier for me to separate myself from her, but it took a long ass story with her friend basically telling her that I should kill myself that I'm not going to fully get into. To sum it all up, she neglected me for a while, and she started lying to me and hiding things from me. Two weeks after our anniversary I had to break up with her. She lied to me again, and I couldn't stand it any longer. I started to move on, but a couple weeks later she finds her way back into my life trying to make up for what she'd done. I told myself I wouldn't get attached, but I did. A month or two later, the quarantine starts, and she stops talking to me. I was so lost and confused. No matter how much I tried to talk to her, she just ignored me, so I blocked her for a week or two. My thought process was that I needed time to myself to get her out of my mind. The entire time all I could think about was her. When I unblocked her and messaged her, she was just as distant as before, not caring to talk to me at all. Then I get a message from her friend who is telling me how abusive and manipulative I am and that my ex isn't interested in me and never was. I knew everything she was saying was a lie, but having those kinds of things said about you and being thought about you by someone you once cared for so deeply, it started to feel like that was the truth. All of my friends knew the real situation, and they've helped me move on, but the truth is that over a year after the initial breakup, I can't get over her. I think about her almost every day. I think about what went wrong. I think about what went right. I think of ways that maybe things can be fixed if I ever see her again. I know I shouldn't want her. She hurt me so much so many times, but I can't get over her.
Azure Voltic It sucks to hear that you’re still hung up over her man, but sooner or later i think you’ll realise that the harm she caused you is just not worth any of the time that you spend thinking about her now. If she did that to you she wasn’t the one man, hopefully as more time passes you will be able to fully get her out of your head. All the best man!
It's people like you who I just wanna give a hug to. I've never been in any relationships so I can't relate with your situation but I really hope it gets better for you. Remember that there are people online who can help you if you feel like no one irl can. Stay strong!
Your story seems similar to mine, but also very different, one thing for sure is that we both have the same outcome. I know distancing yourself from her doesn't help, I know that you always feel anxious about her. One friend told me to widen my horizon and find a new one to take my mind off the old one, or just wait and eventually she will just be a memory, but it never worked. I don't really have any advise for you cause you know this whole gf thing isn't my strong suit cause I never had one, yeah I never got her. My whole thing was to actually get her, and It almost worked but, just one miss-step and it all fell flat, that was the bottom card that held the whole tower up and it just collapsed. I will say this though, women are manipulative and corrupt beings in my experience, but eventually you will find the hay in the needle stack. I promise...
Hey, man, just a small thing.
Sometimes, the abused becomes the abuser. And from what you've written here, that's what happened with her.
And you're not at fault with that. Sometimes, we love the wrong people, the people we would do anything for, even if the favor would never be returned.
And that's okay. That's understandable. There is nothing wrong with you. You never made a mistake, you never did anything wrong. The thing about loving toxic people is that we often have good times, times where everything was okay, and they make everything so much HARDER. Because we have loved them, but they hurt us, so, so much.
I don't have a magic solution, unfortunately, but I can say that staying away is the better solution. Try some new hobbies. Lean on friends, if possible. Fill up your days, even if it's just playing a game or watching RUclips. And for the nights, when you're trying to sleep but can't, listen to some music. Cuddle a pet, if possible. Take some melatonin if need be. You are always strong enough, and it's okay to remind yourself of it, even if it's a mantra in front of a mirror you say daily.
Good luck, man.
@@ar.6968 Thank you. Comments like this mean a lot. I have tried a lot of the things you recommended, but I still think about her. I know our relationship was toxic, and I have thought that she was made toxic by her previous relationship, but I still really miss her when I know I shouldn't. As you can imagine, it's hard to find someone to replace her during quarantine. I've tried with 3 different girls, but for one reason or another, nothing has worked out. I also just don't have the spark with them that I had with my ex. I had a crush in that girl for 2 years before finding the courage to make a move. I wish I could have at least found that courage a bit sooner. Oh how things would have been different.
Why does schlatt seem like he can actually be a counseler
for the first question: if your parents aren't accepting people, try telling a sibling or a cousin so you can get their support and feel some of the weight come off you shoulders
sometimes that's worse and siblings tell to homophobic parents and it goes downhill
What If you dont have siblings and your Cousins hate you 🤔
@@panzermaus664 friends or online support
Daniel Nikitin if you have aunts or uncles that you trust you can talk to them about it, especially because they're adults so they'll be able to give you advice with possibly telling your parents
@@kailyn2759 What If they also hate you 🤔
to the first person: coming out seems like such a daunting thing but i promise it's really not that bad. I came out like 5 years ago and now it all seems like a distant memory. It may seem really scary right now but when it's over it'll be over.
@@audreyistyping I'm glad ❤️ I am really bad at putting my thoughts into words so I'm glad it made some sense
Yes I agree with you 100% but if your parents are homophobic/transphobic you don’t have to come out I made that mistake and my parents don’t trust me now and they think I’m a satanist
@@roachdoggjr2988 yes yes but I do feel like *usually* people know already how their parents will react
Kamryn Edits yeah I agree, my parents are strict and my dad is a little homophobic, but I don’t think they would abandon me or anything. They’re semi-strict parents and I think they would still accept me, over time. I still am questioning my sexuality, but I’m sure my family would accept me, and even if your parents don’t, which can be a burden emotionally, you should talk with someone you trust, or see a therapist. They really help, and don’t be scared!! It’ll be okay in the end.
North Lynx I feel you I actually came out as trans again today over a rantey text lol their just gonna have to accept me or I’ll just stop talking to them
I’m planning to come out to my parents as trans in 12 days, on my birthday. That “one second of bravery” quote was the motivation I needed and now it seems less scary. Thanks for taking time out of your day to help complete strangers. You’re a great person Schlatt.
I hope it all goes well! Much love :)
It will be worth it
good luck :) it will go well
How did it go?
How did it go?
i really needed something like this. It sounds a bit trivial, but it's true. I met a girl back in 7th grade. Im in 10th now, and I've been crushing on her ever since. Im in love with her, and she knows. During the summer between 7th and 8th, my family fell into deep trouble. We had financial problems, my sister getting pregnant, and my mom being forced to take drugs. I had to move a state over, being the youngest. I wasn't able to talk to her afterwards. I still harbored feelings, and around 5 months afterwards, I moved back but with my aunt. I didn't stay for long; I didn't feel at home and left without say. I left early at 8 am, and was found at 12 am that same day/night. I didn't want to stay. So I went to stay with my dad, having nowhere else to go. I've been here two years now, and last spring, I finally got back in touch with the girl. She'd grown so much, as did I. I shot up to 6'2", and she had seemed so much older; even though she was a bit younger than me. I had not realized I still had feelings for her. I dated a girl when we started talking, and we soon began talking more. My girlfriend at the time left me, and I turned to the girl for comfort and she delivered. When I went to visit my mom that summer, I went to her house. Her parents instantly enjoyed me over there and got to stay there for three days and nights. We slept together on the couch, watched movies together and so on. At that time, I decided to tell her how I felt but never got a definite answer. So I shrugged it off, as naive as it sounds. We kept talking. Every day, every night. Stayed up to 4 am on call, sometimes falling asleep even. I was deeply in love. Come last month, a few days before Christmas, I asked her again. Once again, she dodged the answer. I told a friend about it, and pointed out all the flags I missed. So, the following week, I finally stopped. I told her I wouldn't talk to her until I harbored no feelings, or was able to fall for someone else. I deleted my instagram chat with her and closed our discord dms. I still harbor feelings. Im still deeply in love with her. I miss everything about her, from her smile, the perfume she used, to the way she played with my hair. But I can't bring myself to talk to her again, because I noticed that should would leave me on read or sent sometimes. And I know going back to her would be a bad choice. But, I just miss her. So much. I feel empty without her. She was there whenever I was down, when no one else was. But she isn't right for me. But you're right, I just need to take my time and let myself move on. Find someone new, and realize I don't need her. Im trying, but it's hard. And I feel for anyone else who feels the same way. We're in this together. Stay strong, and we'll finish strong. The moment I know I don't harbor any feelings for her, I will respond to this comment. One day, I hope it comes. I don't want to love her anymore..
Im wating for your solution bud
o7 man I going through similar stuff at this moment hope you find the ending you want
Well, it's about time I make a follow up post, aye? Well, I've moved on. I don't love her anymore, and that's a good thing. As insensitive as it sounds, I just don't have feelings for her anymore. I still find her attractive, because she just is. she was the most beautiful person I've ever seen, but that's besides the point. She moved to Missouri, so we don't see each other in person anymore, and we rarely text. Last time I messaged her was two weeks ago, she didn't respond. But, in my eyes, I'm glad she didn't. I don't want to fall for her charm again.
But I'm doing better now. A lot better. I have a job with my dad in the septic industry, we install fuel lines, repair/replace septic tanks and grease trap. I'm still new, so I only make $60 a day, but that's $300 a week during the summer and $120 a weekend during school. I'm learning new things, making my own money and currently saving up to buy a Ford F-250 when I get my permit, then my license. I met someone new.
She's amazing, beautiful, and just amazing. She's my everything, and she makes me happy. We've been on two dates already, and we've been talking everyday. And she's already expressed feelings for me. I'm happy. I'm very happy. Aside from my first kiss, who was with the other girl, I've done my first... Well, everything with her. She makes me very happy. And I don't want to lose her
I managed to ask her thanks to Schlatt's advise. He's right, it just takes a few seconds of bravery or courage, and the rest happens by itself. Thank you, Schlatt, for giving me advice. You're someone I know i can trust, thanks to your advice.
@@jonathanwilliams3552 that’s amazing. i’m really proud of you dude.
@@jonathanwilliams3552 that's fantastic and I'm so glad you've been able to move forward in your life and always Remember that baby steps are good as long as there their the right direction
"you owe it yourself not to care more about your past than your future"
"It only takes 1 second of bravery" god DAMN. We all need to hear that.
He really flexing on us with his 6th grade grades
so glad that the”weekly”slap is now theweeklyslap
not sure if anyone will see this but, i have severe anxiety and i struggle to find that "second of bravery", for me i think about it too much and psych myself out. a therapist i use to have gave me some advice, don't think count to 5 and do it, and that has really helped me out.
Very good advice
Today I feel like sharing, so here goes my story.
In my country lockdown started on late March and I was in a 2 year long relationship. In april we broke up in a phone call without a chance of doing so face to face because she was staying in her parents house 3h apart of my city. Later, in May COVID killed my grandfather but luckily i had the chance of saying my last goodbye to him. I'm getting better now but man, some day I just feel like shit.
Thanks for reading and I hope you have an awesome day internet stranger. Remember that you are loved.
Hey man, I hope you're doing better now if you're still in quarantine :) You seem like a great person, have a good day.
Hey man, I'm sorry to hear. One of my cousins and my great uncle both have had covid. Neither have died but it's stressful, especially combined with doctors botching a "routine surgery" on my grandfather nearly killing him, and the general stress of having to do college from home. None of what i said is as bad as what you've gone through with actually losing someone, I just wanted to say that everyone is feeling the effects of society right now and that while our pain may not be equivalent, I have a small understanding of where your coming from.
@@Emkito thanks for reading! We are still in quarantine but now I'm much better. Have a merry christmas!
@@JosephSmith-lm4ri Hey! Thanks for reading and sharing! I hope you and your family are fine :) I'm much better now. Have a merry christmas!
@@tolaieltolas2393 Glad to hear you're doing alright. Have a merry christmas yourself as well!! :D
Schlatt, what do you mean you can’t get over her? You just said you were thinking about getting a boyfriend! Make up your mind!
Edit: Yes, I’m joking, so stop the wooshing, lmao. But in all seriousness, big thanks to you, Schlatt, for providing such insightful commentary on tough topics.
AVOID THE WOOOOSH, AVOID THE WOOOOSH, YOU DONT NEED IT, YOU DONT NEED IT.
haha homosexuality is funny haaaa
@@alanzheng9777 10 Big Men
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To whoever the first one was, casually tell them that a (made up) friend of yours came out. You'll have a brief idea about what their reaction would be if you were to come to them. I hope it helps :)
yes, i had one of my friends do this to their parents and the reaction was not good. ive also used this to determine if my dad was homophobic or not and his reaction was golden
I did this and my parents immediately knew what was going on lol, just make sure you're very subtle about it.
@@gracebruhmoment to be honest that slipped my mind, my parents are always pretty distant so when I mentioned it they didn't give it a second thought. But thank you :D
I made it look like I was lowkey homophobic myself so I was like
“I don’t really know what to think about it like isn’t it weird.idk what’s your opinion dad?”
I was never happier to get scolded on something and I came out like a week later
About the last question, I know Schlatt was kind of laughing when he said about the "periodt" and "no
Sophie Canavan Exactly! I’m doing the same! To me, the most important part of a break up (I’ve only really had one, what am I talking about?) is to understand that the breakup happened for a reason, and that most importantly, your brain is going to play tricks on you in the future. Your brain will make you dream and feel sad, you’ll have nostalgia about the good moments, I onced smelled her perfume even though I was alone at home. Your brain will try to make you go back with her. Don’t. It ended because it wasn’t the best, that’s it. Reminding myself of the worst part, how she was a bit crazy, how her parents were weird etc, helped me combat the nostalgia. That’s not to say no one should ever look at their mistake ever, but, even though I would like to go back with her, hold her in my arms and kiss her, I know it’s wrong, because we weren’t made for one another, and that’s it. After a break up, you kind of level up and the best is to just take your time and avoid doing the same mistakes again.
I don’t really know why I replied to your comment, I’m kinda just venting off, but oh well, if you need to talk, I’m here
A few months later and I'm still struggling to find such reasons other than my own failures. Everything seemed perfect between us for around a year. I just don't know what to do in my case other than wait.
@@Aidea._. My man, the thing is that it might've seemed perfect to you, but not to her. If it was perfect to her, she wouldn't have left. You gotta think about what went wrong, on both sides.
Amen
@@Aidea._. Then remember this: Don't beat yourself up over it. Acknowledge your mistakes and work on not doing them again. And remember that at that time, you were doing the best you could. You were just trying your best and it's not worth turning against yourself over it. Allow yourself to forgive yourself and work towards being better next time
It’s so jarring seeing Schlatt being a genuinely caring and nice person. I literally came to this video IMMEDIATELY after seeing the videos with him and minx and it’s like 2 different people
Reading all these titles, it feels like these were meant for carsons recovery.
Yoooooooo your on to something
Nah this wasn’t like 6 odd months ago
Yeah all of them actually feel kinda connected to carson
To the guy with the second question:
I'm going through the same thing you're going through. It's been well over a year and I still miss her sometimes but you have to know that if it didn't work out, then there's a reason it didn't work out. It doesn't matter who's fault it was or what happened, the fact of the matter is is that it didn't work out; therefore it would never have worked out and therefore you didn't lose anything. You only gained experience and hopefully when you find the right one you have the skills necessary to build and maintain a stable relationship
Hey man, thanks for sharing your story. People like you warm my heart to know we're not alone :)
If you're reading this, I hope you have a fantastic day and remember you are loved and cared for! Things will get better I promise! You are beautiful and you can do anything :)
Same to you bruther
@@crowmagnon thank you :)
Nice pfp
@@cicadamp3152 thank you lol
@@kurini4585 much thanks! :)
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Honestly the advice you gave for getting over someone is really solid. The way I got out of my "relationship blues" was by sitting down and thinking to myself, "well I won't miss this" or "I won't have to worry about that anymore". Of course there will still be things that you'll miss, whether it be the affection, or the time spent together going places, or the similar personalities you may have had, but looking past those at the negatives, the things you shudder to think about, can really help. Just remember that it's a slippery slope from recognizing faults in a relationship, to starting to resent and hate that person. Instead of using negative memories to create hatred, use them instead to understand and still respect that person for who they are, and appreciate the times you spent together, whether they be short or long. And of course, as cliche as it may be, there are plenty of people out there that you can and will click with, you likely haven't even met them yet.
My boyfriend broke up with me today, and at some point I thought about these videos, and how it all motivates me to get through this and maybe grow into a better person as I come out the other side. I'll be listening to all of these again in the meanwhile.
My girlfriend broke up with me about 3 days ago after 2 years of dating , I did the same thing Schlatt really can give some good advice
I think the answer of "dont think about her" is a lot better a year after than right away. Thanks for answering.
My friend passed away recently and schlatt and especially this channel really helps put me in a better state of mind. So thank you schlatt for making good content and bringing a smile to my face.
I was nervous we weren’t getting one this week
It’s been 7 months since I found out my gf of 10 years was talking to another man. Thursday would’ve been our 11th year. I don’t know how to move on, there’s just so much pain that I can’t seem to shake, it’s just so heavy.
Hey I hope you're doing okay!
Hey man, I know its been a while since you put up that comment but if u need anyone to talk to please comment below so that i can contact you and talk to you. I hope you're doing well
I don’t know if what I can say is any help but I’ll go for it, now granted, mine was 3 months 😂. I couldn’t imagine the emotional connection that was formed, but we were friends for a long time. In my case I was the one who broke up and it seems you were too, she neglected me, she cheated on you, we both took our big step and ended it, because we knew, we knew it’d be terrible to be complacent with that shit. I’ll tell you man, I wanted her back right away, and when I accepted that we were friends I asked her if we could discuss what had happened and she said “no.” That’s when It clicked in me, even though she was happy I wasn’t, and she claimed to be a friend still, but no friend leaves their friends to deal with their shit alone. I developed an extreme hatred for her, and it boiled in my head all the time, any small attempt of interaction from her I lashed out with vile disrespect, and eventually it led me to tell her to “get out of my life” I told her to delete me on everything, so that when I tried to get a glimpse into the past it was impossible. If the girl you were with wanted you, she wouldn’t have cheated, you don’t want to be with someone that hates you, you want to find someone who adores you the same way you do them. Also try working on yourself too, mentally and physically. Get fit, eat healthy, get enough sleep, have fun with friends, give yourself you time, work hard at your job, do something. Accomplishment is the best treatment for sadness, don’t stay stagnant, because that means your still in the present, allow yourself to move into the future, you don’t know what awaits you friend, I hope your days are bright, or already are ✌🏻.
Its awful. All the thoughts stuck in my head about her doing all the things we did with someone else. All the time spent together for nothing. In 10 days it would be our first year anniversary and she did me dirty and chose my friend. We had so much in common it felt amazing to be in her presence,we had so much compatability but she threw it away because we were having 1 rough week so she left me for my friend and i dont know how to cope with it. My friends are no help either.
@@fuzzyfoodfrenzy damn man it sucks to hear that... If u need anyone to talk to I'm ready to do so I'll drop my socials if u need a friend
for question 2: im going trough almost the exact same right now, i had my first GF too about almost 10 months ago, almost november 2019, i understand perfectly how you feel, its has no one can re-place her, and all of my friends just tell me to get over it and that "its not healthy for you to keep thinking about her", personally im very sentimental, so i did cry a lot about her of course, but my best advice is to have hope, because trough out this months the best thing i could figure out is to avoid thinking about her. find a way to pass time, video games, sports, talking with friends, and do anything to change your mind, because trust me i know the "theres more fish in the sea" seems like total bull shit, but almost after a year of not being with her, i found another person that clicks with me and feel like we love each other a lot. so another advice i could give, find a comunity you can click with, or eveen better find some one to emptize with, some one who you say "this dude understands me" and feel comfortable arround with. i apologize if im not very useful, but if the person who wrote that question reads this, i can promise you your not alone and that its a procees ive been trough too and lots of people have, it all goes away eventually, and i can promise to you this will end, like Schlatt said "time heals all wonds".
Im glad to see im not alone friend! I hope you know you aren't either! You'll find a better one, don't worry too hard about it. They'll come to you. :)
I remember when I was coming out as trans and bisexual to my parents. I was completely terrified of them not supporting it in anyway and having to wait years to start taking meds, or to try dating another gender. From my experience the thing that helped me the most was having another person there (which in this case was my therapist). I told my dad first which to my surprise he didn’t care one bit and then my mom who wasn’t that happy with it but has come around over the years. Looking back 3 years I’ve never been happier that I told them because of how much happier and comfortable I am now.
AspyGaming oh sick - it’s actually my last name and I’ve usually only seen people spell it with one “t” lol
this is the closest advice I will get to my dads advice damn i wish he was still here
you ain’t alone, i never got much advice from mine as i was very young but things move on. gotta learn to live with what you have
Easton Conway great way to look at it brotha
same dude
Hey man, I was hung up on my ex for about 3 years and it was tough I tried everything to get her out of my head and move on. Sex, other relationships and alcohol, I tried so much to move on, but the stages of grief are different for everyone. The best thing I can tell you which sure helped me was to live for yourself and learning to make yourself happy. I worked to be happy on my own and to improve myself as a person and I can finally say nowadays I am 100% over. It does take some time, but I know you can get through it and eventually when the time comes you will find someone else who is even more amazing than your ex, even if that seems hard to believe now. I wish you the best of luck man and we are all here to support each other you are not alone man.
i miss him so much. it's so hard, it's been months and i can't even get over him.
he has a new girlfriend and it hurts so bad. how do i stop thinking about him?? i'm sorry i sound so desperate i'm just so hurt.
@@imbunny71 what i said above that was for me the only way to get her out of my head, but for some more specific suggestions to try hang out with your closet friends, even if its over discord or just a phone call spend as much time with other people as you can and while hanging out with those friends do bit bring him up. Make sure your friends don't bring him up either, just talk about literally anything else. If you have some money you can spend, go out by yourself window shop just for the hell of it maybe get yourself something that you really like. Go and buy yourself food from somewhere start with your favorites then switch it up now and then try new things. I drove to some hiking trails and just hiked by yourself. Just doing anything for yourself and your own well being, trying to just be happy on your own was the only way for me to finally forget her, be more confident in myself and be overall more happy. If you need any more suggestions dm me and we can talk good luck to all who see this and all who need to hear it.
To the dude or anyone who had some troubles with a recent breakup,
I know exactly what you mean. You think you’re ready to be with yourself or be with someone else and you have convinced yourself that you’re at peace and have gotten over your ex. However, when you see them in person or a picture of them, it’s like the anxiety hits you like a freight train and there’s nothing you can do to stop it. My ex used to make me so anxious that I would throw up.
I was getting to a point where everyone knew I was in a bad place, but what could I do to stop it? My father gave me some of the best and most simple breakup advice I have heard to date, “everyone has gone through a breakup. You’re not alone and it’s ok to feel bad about it for a bit, but after a while you have to realize that there are other things to life than just that one person.”
Time does heal all wounds, and reminding yourself that you’re not alone in regards to feeling alone and lost is some of the most comforting things that helped me in my past. Eventually you will look back and appreciate how much stronger hard times like that made you. I wish you the best of luck my friend and stay. Strong.
She dumped me last month and I'm still feeling hard. thank you so much. God bless you.
Man my greatest fear is fucking up my relationship with my girlfriend and her dumping me, because I know DAMN well I’m going to be a sad sack of shit..
@@jamsanator0511 Even if somehow that does happen, it's okay! I'm doing good, completely moved on, you one day would be. But that won't be a problem. Some easy advice:
The less you stress, the better your relationship is and will be
@@3seven5seven1nine9 thanks for the advice :)
I confessed to my crush two years ago. I'm not going into specifics but it was super embarrassing on both ends, we ignored each other for two years and then I talked to her. She's a reasonable person and we talked through mistakes and other stuff. Then we started texting fairly regularly during quarantine, Im meeting up with her next week and Im glad we could be friends I really liked this girl beyond any crush and its shitty to move on without that but I can't live with a dream. Instead you take your time maybe even years like me to work it out for yourself and even talk to them. If your lucky you'll be able to get some closure from them but either way you'll move on. My favorite quote I've ever said, "Things will workout or we'll work them out. Whichever comes first."
Thank you for your words man, and im happy that your story got the end it deserved! You are a lucky guy
3/4 of that story hits completely close to home. I've been talking to her casually as of late, as opposed to about a painful year of awkward avoidance. Thank you for your story, and I hope I can get the same closure with no hard feelings
Bro you have balls, when I confessed to my girlfriend the first time, she said said no, and I was a sad sack of shit for months.
this is really good advice but you're not gonna want to hear it, if she says no the first time probably like 90% of the time she won't say yes the second time. obviously the guy above me is a different story and it can definitely work out that way, but if youre going into this friendship with her with anything but good intentions it's probably not the greatest idea, but hey, I hope it works out.
@@ibrendank5541 Yeah, I liked her for who she was and I can accept that she said no. I'd rather be friends with a person with what I think is a great personality than try to tread the same path again.
This channel is like a warm fuzzy blanket that reminds you of "the good old days". It takes me back to the simpler times of Call of Duty commentary channels and i love it. Thank you
in 8th grade, i was diagnosed with depression and had recently broken up with my boyfriend. i started to miss him a lot, and would have a great deal of breakdowns and crying sessions over him (not worth it, i can assure you). we got back together for a week because i was so hung up on him, but we broke up, etc. after a few weeks, i started to realize he wasn’t worth my time at all, and tbh i actually could make fun of him without feeling remorse. the point is, schlatt’s advice is very strong. time heals a lot of wounds. you just need to take care of yourself. try to avoid thinking about your ex (pinch yourself, put a rubber band on your wrist, etc) and remind yourself that you are worth it, you should be happy. maybe instead of focusing on what you lost, focus on what you learned. what not to do next time, what to do next time. distract yourself. try a new sport, a new club, etc. go shopping, buy a new game, give yourself time and self-care because you deserve it and you are worth more than heartbreak. ❤️
i’ve been going thru a breakup with my first long term partner, 2 years. he “got over it” in a day, it’s been a month for me and i’m still here crying almost every night when i remember something we used to do and how much i love doing those things. love and intimacy is really important to me, so it’s extremely hard to distance myself from wanting those things.
but your words, specifically about focusing on what was learned.. that reminds me of my first relationship (of 2 months) i had right before this one.
i learned that i deserve someone better than what he (first ex) was. while it was nice at first, it quickly was shown how fragile and insecure he was. i couldn’t deal with that for very long.
but… right now… i’m not really sure what i’ve learned about this one. i’ve learned some things about myself, like my values and sorts of things i need in a relationship, i wasn’t getting from him… which is pretty invaluable. but… love is so big for me that i can’t help but want to find someone else soon.
i don’t like the idea of being single, not having a crush (fictional or celebrity, i don’t meet enough ppl for irl crushes lmao)
this is why it’s so hard to move on for me. i want these things. and yeah, im supposed to have self-love but i already do in a lot of aspects. i have a good base of self esteem. i’m just realizing how insecure i feel when not in a relationship. it’s annoying.
anyway sorry for dumping it all in this comment, but yours spoke to me the most
I love the "1 second of bravery" line, because it is true. Any time i've had to be brave like that, all I needed was to be brave for one second to open my mouth and start talking. The rest of the time taken to talk is easy, its just that 1 second to start that is hard.
that " it only takes 5 seconds of bravery " rlly hit me
Schlatt, you don't know how much I needed this advice. I have a deep respect for you and what you do and hope I can one day reach how successful you are.
To the person who asked question 2: I feel you dude, I really do. One way I started getting over someone I used to know I started visiting old video games I loved as a kid, like Terraria, or that old Mario 64 ds port. Trying new games you might not think you like but want to try helps tremendously too, or trying a new hobby or even something like morning or evening jogs to keep yourself fit and keep your mind off things. Hopefully I, like many others, help you get over her
Thanks man :) and I've been really into team fortress for awhile, maybe you should give it a try?
Sport actually helps to free the mind, so it may be the thing that helps you to get distracted in a good way. It may help to get an aim to achieve, which afterwards will build the assurance that the life is not over, and you still can enjoy things
To anyone struggling to come out; I have friends who did, they tell me that if you've already invisioned a worst case scenario (which u probably did when it comes to stuff you're scared of), you're already half way there to be mentally ready. You can already deal with the worst, and i guarantee you 9 times out of 10 the worst cases NEVER happen. Schlatt's advice was good too, if you already have it in your mind that you can handle the answer, all it takes is that simple phrase and the rest will flow through.
I live in a big family and the problem with me is that I can't muster up the courage to do it multiple times or in a group.
@@rexdavies5223 if your parents accept it, word will probably get around and since, well, family is the most biased, they will spread it well and with a good tone. I can't speak for yours because I don't know you but the big leap is always the first line to your father or mom. Once that's done you will definitely feel better about yourself and how you share your sexuality.
Rex Davies I came out to my parents and then had them announce it to the rest of the family.
Word spreads quickly anyways
omg picturing an ex just typing out “no ❤️” is 100% the best way to get over them lol
This guy really deserves a lot more recognition.
My first girlfriend broke up with me two months ago, and it's been rough. I've learned two things that might help someone in their attempt to move on: "There are no red flags when you are looking at someone through rose tinted glasses" and "focusing on yourself more often than not drops someone amazing in your lap, just when you are ready"
That is an amazing quote
Everyone in the comments are being so warm and considerate while i’m trying to find someone with the mw prestige logo next to their username
did you find anyone?
For the first question: please make sure it’s safe before coming out. For e.g. If there is a possibility of you getting kicked out you’d need a place to stay and stuff
For the second question: I’m sorry dude but it’s just going to take time. It’s worse because you see her rn so maybe pick up an extra hobby to do with your friends but you’ll get over her eventually. Sometimes it’s also just okay to accept what you’re feeling and just let it be.
“All you need is one second of bravery” literally how I asked out my crush and got my first gf lol
My girlfriend broke up with me today and this really helped me relax you have been a huge role model recently and i appreciate everything what you do man your a legend
Schlatt talking about a high c grade and saying he almost failed upset me
dude i know this is old but holy shit why did that periodt thing help me. ive been stuck on this girl for an embarrassingly long time now but the image of her typing that filled me with so much rage that i completely forgot i had even liked her for a solid ten seconds. thanks schlatt
In my limited romantic experience, the worst thing you can do when trying to get over someone is failing to resist the urge to contact them and talk to them like you used to. Be strong and just keep holding on for one more day, one more week without their direct influence on your life. You might not believe it, and it’ll hurt for a stupid, stupid amount of time, but eventually you will feel better about it. You dont have to shut the person out, always be civil, but just maintain healthy distance, and tell yourself whenever you can that its going to get better. Because it will.
Hearing your advice with this Schlatt really helps a lot. About 2 months ago my engagement got broken off and it absolutely destroyed me. She was away for a few months so it was just me and her dog in the apartment until she got back, she called me out of the blue after some rocky back and forth between the two of us and decided she just didn’t want to continue being engaged anymore. While I was packing up my belongings I ended up having a complete meltdown and proceeded to try to overdose on my mood stabilizers. I ended up being in the hospital for almost a week and then put into a psychiatric hospital for almost another week. We’ve spoke maybe one or two times since then and it’s been extremely stressful when we have spoken. After I got out I ended up moving from Virginia all the way to Mississippi. During this time I’ve taken to watching/rewatching a lot of your old videos as well as new ones while I job hunt. You’ve helped me a lot and taught me a lot as well. You taught me to invest in stocks/an index fund, taught me that cooking momma sucks ass, taught me that my job might suck ass but something better will come along if I’m smart with what I’m doing. Which that video the “I hate my job” one reinforced the message to me that I need to get to college like I was planning and not let this set me back. So, thank you Schlatt for helping me out in a rough spot and teaching me new life lessons along the way.
Coming back to this video after her. We met at a summer camp in August and I got her snap. I had been single for a year and my previous girlfriend was my first and I still didn’t entirely know how a relationship should work. We immediately started talking every day just back and fourth. Eventually we facetimed, and started watching TV shows with eachother over call. She went to the next school over so I didn’t get to see her a lot. I was in love with her, everything about her. She had been the first person in over a year to make me feel a way I had never felt before. We talked and teased eachother and sometimes flirted. I learned from her friend she wanted to ask me out. I had so much hope and happiness, and eventually I asked her to meet up but she was busy. This happened 5 more times. All of them she was busy. We still talked and face timed and snapped eachother. One day she suddenly gave me her friends snap, saying really nothing about it. The day after she just stopped. Our constant texts and conversations just dropped. Her explanation was that she had lots of things to do, but the lack of communcation was so abrupt, surely she would have told me sooner? I tried my best to talk to her, and she would leave me on delivered and opened for hours or days at a time. I went into a panic, my thoughts about her consumed every part of my day. How could someone so close just disappear like that so quickly? After a week or so she DMed me, telling me during camp that she liked me, and out of desperation I told her I liked her too and that I hope she still has the same feelings. She did not. She explained she gave me her friends snap because she thought we would be good together. I felt just….horrible. I was so confused and thousands of questions flooded my mind. Weeks went by, school started and i felt so alone. I feared talking to my closest friend that was a girl who was friends with her because I didn’t want her talking to the person I liked. Countless nights I spent staring blankly at the ceiling just thinking. I missed everything about her. Happy thoughts about camp turned sad when I thought about her. My friends offered little help, doing what they could but they were also going through breakups at the time. I slowly started to get over her. Then recently I just got into a fit of sadness, feeling just down because of school and the lack of things happening in my life. On top of that, my Grandma had just died, and the regret of not spending time with her clogged me up. I suddenly started thinking about the girl again, and here I am. Reading these comments helped a little, I recently deleted the last pictures I had of her on my phone, and i’m trying to forget her. It’s really tough. I’m trying so hard to forget her but I just miss her so much. I know going back to her would be a mistake because she treated me like garbage when I asked her out (She said LOL when I said I liked her). Despite that I will admit I still have feelings for her, and i’m trying to fix that. She was the only person who gave me a chance in a long time, and I feel like nobody will ever give me a chance like that again. She never gave me a reason why she really stopped talking to me. I feel lost. Nobody around me really offers that much help. I’m sure in time this will pass. Maybe in a year I’ll forget about her and have someone else to focus on. This video helped a lot Schlatt. Thanks to whoever read all of this, I just needed to get this out. I doubt that anyone will see this much less read all of it, but to those who do I thank you. Even to those who don’t, I hope if your in the same or similar situation i’m in, that you find what you need and even though I feel down, I know someone else is out there.
Hey man I’m going through a similar thing and that’s why I’m here. All I can say is to surround yourself with people who will be there for you (like friends or family) it’s also good to delete conversations and photos so there’s nothing to look back on. The sooner there gone the easier it is to move on and she doesn’t deserve your time if she was only using you for temporary entertainment. Plus on the bright side of things you two go to different schools so confrontation isn’t a worry. I hope this was some help, if not then I’m sorry.
hey man i’m sorry to hear that but its been a year since your comment. I’m in a similar situation rn and i just wanted to know how you’re feeling rn and how things are going, i hope they’ve improved
@@mewtchie Sorry to hear you're in the same situation. Yes, I did get over her, but countless other situations with other people have come up since then that have been as bad or worse. I'm not sad that they happened, nor do I wish they hadn't happened. I'm glad they did because I get experience from dealing with them, even if they suck. This stuff will always happen for as long as you live, but there will be a time in your life when someone perfect for you comes along and you'll be happy this situation happened because now you have someone better, and you know how to deal with hardship. The best medicine I've come to find is simply time. Time passes. You meet new people, and you form new relationships. Maybe you get a new hobby or move somewhere different, and eventually you forget. Maybe you don't forget, but It'll become significantly less important to you, and then you'll have the satisfaction of looking back and saying "I got through this". The time it takes to let go might be painful, but remember it always, always gets better. You are alive my friend. Choose what deserves your worry. Sorry for the long response lol, I hope it helped just a little. :)
as someone whos lgbt and came out to her parents, the way i did it was through a letter!! it gives more time to figure out the best way to say how you feel, and takes away the stress of having to speak face to face. plus, it gives your parents time to digest the new information and figure out what they want to say as well, so when you do eventually speak about it u can all have ur thoughts collected and not be so anxious :] hope this helps!
For the guy who cant get over the girl, man I have been there. I was dumped by a boy i was totally in love with a year ago and i gotta be honest i'm still struggling with it. Although it may not be the best thing to slag them off to make yourself feel better, its definitely important not to put them on a pedestal or hold them in the exact same regard you may have been done during the relationship. There were obviously flaws there which you didn't see so Schlatt's suggestion does make a lot of sense. It's important to surround yourself with the people and friends who you have currently and appreciate them as much as a girlfriend. Appreciate what you had, what you have now, and whats to come.
It will get better, my friend :)
Thank you for writing this! All of the genuine love and advice from this comment section really makes me smile :)
Hey Schlatt, hearing your advice "It only takes 1 second of bravery" really helped me a couple days ago. I wanted to ask my dad about not taking certain classes this year (because I don't know anyone in the classes), but I got extremely stressed. I remembered what you said in this video and it helped me a lot. He didn't give me the answer I wanted, but I'm ready to take on new challenges. Thank you.
I recently, 1 month ago broke up with my first girlfriend, and for a little it felt like it was the worst thing that ever happened to me, but she did use the no❤️ and nail polish emoji so thanks Shlatt that’s a perfect point!
What does the no❤️ mean and the nail polish emoji i have never met someone who says that
@@sageayello604 good
“Can’t get over her”
When you like girls
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Did you ask that 1st question
shady name no I didn’t haha but ya know I was just saying🙃
Schlatt, Idk if you will see this, but thanks for doing this weekly again. It sounds corny, but this has made a lot of difference in a few short weeks already. After the investing, I talked to my economics teacher and he taught me about investing over on this side of the world. Also, thanks to your confidence video, as soon as lockdown blows over, I will be starting up multiple committees and on track to get a leading position in my house thingy. So thanks, schlatt, this has been more than helpful.
im going back to school tomorrow, and it's going to be a tough year, but listening to this was hecka comforting for me, and it gave me a huge boost, a feeling of readiness for what's to come. thank you schlatt. thanks for being the coolest!
I’m still hung up on a girl who said no ❤️ and periodt and she ended up being a lesbian. It sucks and I want to be friends with her still but I’m struggling to move on. I know how it feels. I try my best to distract myself and do other things with my time rather than just thinking about her, it’s really the best you can do. Hangout with friends, hit on other girls (in a respectful and appropriate way), she’s not worth your time rn.
"she ended up being a lesbian" that's one of the wordt scenarios because you can't even get mad at her
Memu It’s even worse when you find out she lied about being a lesbian just because she doesn’t like you. Has happened twice to me, with equally psychotic girls
@@tonythemage oof
TonyTheMage lmao that’s tuff maybe they just needed away to break up lol
If she says “no❤️” and “periodt”, then she’s not worth it
This really hits home. Out of all of the videos you've put out on this channel, this one is the most important to me.
For the second question, although the person never specifically talked about this, I still think it's important to discuss your perception of your self-worth while you are trying to move on from someone. When the person that you want to be with tells you that they don't feel the same way, it really wears away at your self-worth. It's really easy to think that you don't deserve love or you aren't worthy of being loved by someone else. The best way to combat this and move on at the same time is to focus on yourself. Make yourself a priority. Give yourself the love that you deserve. It's your responsibility to take care of you. It's not easy and it's going to take time, but it's 100% worth it :)
What you said is 100% true, i spent a long time thinking about why she left me because i really thought she was the one, and i talked to friends about it all the time and while i definitely did give her a couple reasons, she gave me more than i could count aswell, and i realized it wasn't entirely my fault at all, and that I shouldn't be so distraught. My way might not work for everyone though, there's tons better advice out there. Thank you for writing this though! :)
@@takefive5607 no problem, I'm really glad to hear that you're in a much better place now :)
with getting over someone, it really does depend on how reliant or "in love" you were with them. so it can vary. but if you really cant get over someone, you need to face it head on. just tell talk to yourself in the mirror and yell and rant about how that person hurt you, matbe the good times, but especially talk about why that person left you feeling the way you do. that usually does the trick, but if not right away, keep doing that tactic every night or every week. and if you were overly reliant on that person, find something new to be reliant on for a while. maybe its a sport, or painting, or working on school work. anything to give you time away from that person and time to reflect on yourself
Pretty good advice man. Thanks
Man, looking outside his other channels and other places he appears, Schlatt is such a wholesome and helpful guy. And though I never submitted any emails, or had those nonexistant emails read, hearing advice from you actually has helped me look at things from a different perspective. So thank you Schlatt!
Wise Schlatt is best Schlatt. Please keep posting these, although I might not be experiencing some of this stuff but it is still insightful and can help me out with other problems.
love your attitude surrounding question two. Although if people aren't ready for that path they just wont take it
Schlatt: *Makes a whole video about using money responsibly*
Also Schlatt: *BIG DUCK BIG DUCK*