To the second person, here's some of the best advice that I've ever heard: "If you're ever scared about being a bad person, just remember that bad people don't care about getting better."
The Problem is that it can be depressing. If you have no Moment of success you get demotivated. Its the same with being too good, it gets boring. The Ideal is to be in the middle, its hard for you but doable.
@@kylemorrison6162 I live in the UK and ours is garbage. I know America's is supposed to be terrible as well, but it's pretty bad in the majority of countries too.
Just my short response to the second question. Best piece of advice my friend has ever told me. You're not a bad person, because bad people don't care about becoming good.
i agree, but he 100% needs to work on it. i think he'd lean more towards being bad if he only feels bad but doesn't change. don't use the fact that you care as an excuse to not fix it
Only if he works to achieve what he wants. You can want to be a great piano player, but until you start working on it, you can’t become a great piano player. I’m not trying to degrade the comment in the video. I wish I agreed with you. I feel like a bad person and I still am a bad person, despite wanting to improve. Until I take the steps I’m not anywhere different than where I started.
I've literally just been binging these videos and I'm on the verge of tears. I don't know why, but it feels like I finally have a good male influence in my life, which I've never really had. I'm really trying not to make this sound weird. Please keep this channel going because it's absolutely wonderful. Edit: Oh my god my barely thrown together 2am comment has 1.3k likes I'm gonna go crawl into a hole & die now. Edit 2: Someone from discord recognised me 💀
You're not weird bro. Not everyone gets that when they're growing up. People who think it's weird just don't understand because they hold up an emotional wall.
Ikr, whenever I hear him talking he's always joking about something or just genuinely being fun and happy, and while I know everyone is their own person and has their own problems, actually hearing him talking about it really hits hard
As someone who related a lot to the second question, I think that it is essential to understand that being a good person doesn’t mean being a perfect person. I’ve done and said a lot of things I’m not proud of, and it still guilts me a lot, but there are some things that have helped me change my cynical attitude. 1: If you have the oppurtunity to make someone’s day, don’t hold it back. This can be a compliment, doing a favor for someone, etc, but holding back also means thinking about how you’re going to be nice. Think about how you want to give a compliment, and think about what you want to do to help someone. Being nice requires vulnerability, and it is hard, but the more you do it, the more you’ll find that it’s easier to do 2. Your good deeds and bad deeds are not in any way connected. A good deed can never justify a bad deed, and you should never see it as such because when you do, you start make being a good person an economy, and it’s not. Being a good person is a charity. 3. No matter how good you are, you will still do bad things, and that is okay so long as you apologize and change. If you can get into the habit of acknowledging your slip-ups, and communicating with the people you have possibly hurt, it means a lot. Changing the way you act means a lot more. 4. Find a way to apologize. Personally, I hate apologizing in person because I get overwhelmed and lose the words, so if I have a big apology, I handwrite a letter so I can get all my thoughts out. When I apologize, I find that I explain what led me to do things, but never justify my actions, and this is tricky, but if you can show that what led you to do something is changing, it helps bridge the connection I feel. 5. Finally, and I’m saying this again because it is so important: being a good person is hard, but it is so rewarding to be selfless. Being vulnerable takes a lot, especially when you’ve been hurt before. If you do find yourself being mean as a defense mechanism, look to yourself about what causes these things? Who has hurt you in the past? I find that the more that I’ve opened up to my friends, I have become a better person. I will end this by saying everyone is capable of being good, and read the poem, “No Man is an Island”. Edit: some grammar.
I really love this show. Every single episode makes me feel hopeful for the future. That any problem I may have is surmountable. The advice you give and the way you talk in these just gives off such a positive feeling that makes me feel like the time I spent watching was time well spent, and more than for just entertainment. Even in the comments you'll see other people talking about their experiences and what we all can learn from them, and then you'll see multiple other people saying exactly what I just did, because it's true. This show makes people feel better, and in a world where, at least for many younger people, nothing matters but the comedy we can pull from a situation, and having serious conversations with friends and even family can become a rarity, hearing real, serious advice is very refreshing. I know you don't like people to idolize you, and that's not what I'm trying to do, rather I'm just trying to express that I think that what you're doing here is really great, and that you're great at it. On another note, to the sender of the first email, or anyone in a similar situation, don't think your friends look down on you. I was never very talkative in high school, so I only really had 2 friends, and both of them were in lower level classes than me. I never thought about how they "weren't as smart as me," or anything like that, rather I was sad that we rarely got to see eachother in school. There were a few years where I had absolutely no classes with them, and school for me those years was almost as monotonous, boring, and mentally draining as my current job as a janitor. At times I even thought about moving down in classes just so I could see them. So don't think your friends look down on you for not being as smart as them. I guarantee that they appreciate being able to see you at school. Just you being there brightens their day, because without friends high school is an awful experience.
I can't believe I've never seen this side to schlatt. It honestly makes me respect him more than I already do. Hearing his advice was like a breath of fresh air from people who just tell you the same thing about every scenario that is even remotely similar. He really takes the time to answer every question honestly and from the heart, and hearing about his past experiences and how he relates to these people really makes him that much more personable
Schlatt, I don’t know much about you. I’m not entitled to know anything about your life. But when I click on these videos, I see a window of the real you. A guy who isn’t a “successful business man,” or an “enigma,” or a RUclipsr with almost a million subscribers. I see an ordinary human with faults, bad days, and most importantly: a man with feelings. Take care of yourself, because I care. And if one person genuinely caring isn’t enough, than just remember that we all care.
In regards to the second question: Around three years ago, I met the person who became my best friend, someone I could not live without. At first it was just a surface level friendship, but then they opened up to me about their own issues. They were depressed, they were self harming, they were suicidal. I cared about them more than I cared about myself, so I did anything I could just to make their day a little brighter. Around a year later, they started dating another person I was close with. The problem was I was mostly close with this person out of fear, because I knew he was a monster deep down. I did everything I could to end that relationship, because every single relationship he had had in the past ended terribly and I couldn't bear subjecting my friend to that too. He turned her against me, turned everyone against me for it. Then he turned everyone against her. He broke up with her to date an underaged chick, relentlessly made fun of her, cost her any fragile friendships she had built up. There was a night she changed her profile picture to the word "Bye" written in blood. I wanted so badly to reach out to her and I was writing a message to her when he messaged me, telling me I couldn't because she was doing it for attention and he had just talked to her and she hated me. Other people texted me the same thing. So I didn't text her that night. She attempted suicide that night. She failed. Me and her are best friends again today, and she has forgiven me for the part I had to play in last year's troubles. I haven't. Not a day goes by that I don't feel overwhelming guilt over what I did, and I can never bring myself to truly think of myself as a good person. There was a time a few months ago that it got so bad I started self harming over it. But here's the real answer to the question. She doesn't blame me, so why should I blame myself? This is sort of tangential, but my point here is that you will always blame yourself for your mistakes. You'll always have things you regret about your past. But if you can work through them in the present, try to find closure if not forgiveness, you don't have to beat yourself up constantly over it. My advice to you is to go to the people you've hurt and apologize. I'm not saying pursue a friendship, but just try to make it known that you are sorry, and then prove you're sorry by not doing it again. Actions speak louder than words do. You can make it through this as long as you recognize the person you've grown to hate, and then move away from him. Become who you want to be, and bury that old self. You can be a better person as long as you recognize what's wrong and actively work to fix it. Change isn't easy, but the things worth doing never are. tl;dr: I've been there man. Apologize to the people you've hurt and actively try to make the changes for the better. Become the person you want to be.
Hey there, i have a similar experience. But around myself. So around 2 years ago, i dated a really really sweet girl. I liked her very much and she seemed to like me back, we had lots of fun together, got really close together, even had plans for the future together. It was all great and dandy until around a year ago where i had to move schools. We were still dating, we were still close. But we were slowly slipping, she had to do her stuff, i had to do my stuff. You get the idea. But then i found out she had been making more and more friends and had more fun over at her side while i had to struggle go adapt to a new school. I felt jealous and cheated on her based off of my emotions alone, jealousy. It didnt work out as i knew it was the wrong thing to do. But she found out about it and didn't give me time to explain. She dumped me and now my friends from the old school turned against me. I've always blamed myself for what had happened, i was so dumb. I regretted everything i did. I see myself in the mirror and just couldn't handle to see what i had done, what i've become. I went on a really down mood for the rest of the month because i really hated myself. Even tried to hurt and kill myself just because of the overwhelming guilt and dissapointment from my old friends. Until i talked with my father. My father gave me the best advice i needed. "You CAN be sad about it, and regret it all you want. Or, you could instead try and learn from it, embrace it. One cannot truly appreciate the good times if they have yet to experience the bad times. " And that's what i did. I really really tried my best to slowly be better. It's all i can do. I can't change my past, i can't change what i've done, but i can change how i act towards it. I can choose to dwell in negativity, or step forwards, no matter how slow it may be. Tl:dr did some bad shit, regretted it. Hated myself. Now trying to be better.
hey schlatt, i don’t know if you’ll ever read this, but i just want to say thank you. lately i’ve been seriously considering suicide a lot more than i ever have before and it scares me. whenever i get in that mood i watch one of these videos and it snaps me out of it. i don’t know what i’m going to do about myself, but thank you for making these. it really means a lot to broken people like me to hear our role model break character and seriously talk about the things we’re all feeling. again, thank you for this. you’re like the dad i never had, lol
Suicide should never be an option. I dont know if you believe in a God or not but there will always be a person that loves you and cares for you it could be a family member a friend or even a random person but just remember that you have a purpose and that you were brought into this world for that purpose. Fulfill it and dont think you cant.
hey, I know it’s been kinda a while since this comment was posted but I hope you’re doing well. if it means anything at all, a random internet person cares about you :))
That second email really gets me, I feel a lot of us had that moment of clarity from being cynical or just being a wet sod and I personally think it's definitely a mark of growing up. I sincerely hope that person talks with their friends as finding out others' opinions open our worlds to more perspectives and makes us more rounded and less likely to lash out out of habit, thanks for the video Schlatt and thank you to who asked this question - it takes a lot of effort to realize you may have an issue
The thing for me is kind if the opposite i was more nice to people then i went to secondary school (dont know what that is for Americans) and most of the people would bully each other but since everyone did it i just started and now that's shaped me into a shitty person
I bullied people too, but i was mindful to never go too far. I made sure it was enough to be funny, but not too much so as to make it cringy. Finding that balance was the entirety of my freshman year, and i have gotten less and less mean since. The key is to make sure the people you are friends with understand your personality.
This video made me realize that I am sometimes too mean, all my friends are dicks but it a light manner but stepping back I think I go to far some times and after this video I can see that. Thanks schaltt
Hey so against my better judgement I want to say a public thank you to schlatt and everyone else in the comments. I was the first comment and having my email read was surreal and crazy. It’s amazing to know how many people struggle with what I’m struggling with and even how many similarity’s me and jschlatt have, we both even moved and went to a new school in 9th grade. So thank you very much your kind words and suggestions everyone and schlatt. It’s kinda weird being a viewer of RUclips and kinda schlatt fir so long and being kinda recognized in a way idk. ❤️❤️
Hey, I'm kind of late to the party on this, and I'm kind of confused, how exactly did you send your question to Schlatt? And does he try to respond to a lot of people or just a few he reads aloud?
Dallen Anderson His email is jschlatt@pm.me! I think he used to reply to some emails directly but I'm not sure if he still does since he has such a large viewerbase now, so I think he only responds through this series
Dallen Anderson hey so I emailed him, you can find it on this RUclips page and in the first video. Also I don’t know what he does I think I just git lucky but I can’t say anything fir sure
lemme tell you right now everything those people you think are smarter than you are showing you are all facades. alot of the time they dont feel smart and they wish peopel didnt call them that because its so much pressure so in pursuit to be someone who can be looked up to they try to be this super cool confident smart guy but at night they cant help but to feel worthless. Im a freshmen and i once had someone ask me if there was another person who might be valid Victorian over me. last year i got voted as the most likely to be successful. last year i felt my life was great but nothing felt right i felt bad i didnt like my days i just went through it because everyone else did i was emotionless i just had a good posture, "smart" and that was it nothing else in my life. no one is motivated everyone is forcing a destiny on themselves a destiny to be that 1%. those people you think are smarter than you probably are only more into school because its one of the only things they have someone tells you you are good at something your gonna go to that when you feel like your nothing. everyone is disatisfied with life trying to head toward a different tomorrow a tomorrow they believe they wont feel vulnerable, afraid, empty, or whatever, so they look to someone they admire and wish to be like them but in reality that person might be wishing to be like you everything everyone has problems they have something going on in their life that sometimes makes them feel like their going to break or their weak. Now everyday i try to say hi to people genuinely with emotion true emotion, i try to be a good person, i try to help everyone i can, i like hear about other peoples lives and hearing about what they've been through, i like helping people. be you bro no one is asking you to be someone else and if they are to hell with them walk your own destiny, (i copy pasted this from a different reply, so if it seems confusing or convoluted i have so many thoughts running through my head i cant keep track)
I'm in the same boat as you Mason, in Ireland the SATs or our version of it is based of points, and I'm getting the lowest in my friend group, but just remember that if you're working at the best of your ability that is all that matters xx
I was one of those kids that took all those AP classes and still felt the exact same way. Was close friends with the top 10 in my class, but always compared my intelligence to them. Your level of classes and your report card does not invalidate you AT ALL
Brandon Dew I got a 4, which wasn’t what I was hoping for, but as I mentioned it really wasn’t the end of the world since I ended up getting college credit for it anyways!
Honestly, being a "smart kid" sucks. Everyone always has high expectations of you, there's social pressure on you, you get generally more shit for screwing up on something. Once I made clear to everyone that I'm done being the poster child and started underachieving life suddenly got so much easier and just better in general. Sure, my grades tanked somewhat, but I got out of it better in the end. Less of a twitchy overcaffeinated mess with no free time and more of an actual human being. Just embrace having friends that are better than you at something and help them along if they need your help.
I kind of had a similar problem, I was the “smart kid” in the catholic school I went to all throughout elementary and middle school. The first high school I went I also was pretty high up there and probably could’ve been valedictorian. The in junior year I went to a new high school and I finally met people that were on my level or smarter. It was cool meeting them but was also disheartening to realize how far behind the curve I was in many aspects. And then in college it just completely flipped. Now I’m in engineering school surrounded by many people who are way smarter than me and who can do the material easily while I struggle. It’s caused me to be kinda unmotivated these past few years. I’ve often thought the reason why I’m struggling is cuz I messed around too much as a kid, I wasn’t disciplined enough. But recently I’ve been trying to come to terms with it, and make do with what I have...
I have selective mutism, and my classmates somehow think quiet = smart they actually think I'm some kind of genius and keep talking about it for example: I get put in the worst group projects to "balance it out" but in reality I'm not smart So, yeah, I agree, the high expectations and pressure are terrifying (but if I'm already going through this, I could at least be smart) (pardon my english)
Kinda felt this comment. In 4th grade I was labelled as gifted because i scored 95s in standardized testing. from that point on I kinda tanked, my grades were great but I was bullied and had very few friends. As were things to be expected, not rewarded for my effort. I was never popular, I dont do anything with anyone and Im just kinda an outcast. now in my 2nd year of Highschool I just want to forget about getting 90s all the time and just having fun. Im 15 but have no real memories with my friends. but i am moving schools this year so hopefully I can change that. Good luck all my dudes
my favorite part of watching these is that it makes you realize how similar everyone is. most people can sit here and think of when something happened to them, and if they can’t, to probably one of their friends. i can’t stress how much these videos inspire me, so thank you
yeah its become overly apparent to me recently how similar we are, weird way to say it but the society shapes us like puzzle pieces and we all can tell someone else the words they need to hear because of the way society has shaped them
with the "i feel like a bad person" i kinda want to add onto this discussion a bit. when i realized i was kind of a genuine dick and that i was making fun of my friends to the extent that they actually isolated themselves from me, i thought "if i can analyze these guys and make clever insults about them, i could totally do that but in reverse to say nice things about them." but thats just what worked for me
this is always such an inspirational channel,, it really shows you that schlatt isn’t always a funny cheerful dude, he just like everyone else has feelings and wan to be there for people i love you schlatt,, keep going
I am in the same position that the first guy was in. Sophomore, smart but not amazing, in classes that are as challenging as I can take, with some very intelligent and motivated people in my life. I have always pushed myself to keep up, and I usually do at the expense of a lot of energy and time. I would say that if you are really that worried, work harder, but make sure to stop and not put all of your energy towards a goal that is so hard to define, such as "being smart."
I feel I was once in a similar situation, although I'm a senior in highschool now, my biggest peice of advice to anybody in that situation would be to take advantage of it. What I mean by this is, your friends might be more academically inclined, but they are your friends, they will help you if you ask. For me personally it was always easier to ask one of my friends for help, instead of asking a teacher for help, because a lot of the time the teacher wouldn't always make it so I truly understand, whereas your friends most likely can. And ps, kids who are at the top of their class enjoy many of the topics in school and will not mind helping, so don't feel bad about asking.
lemme tell you right now everything those people you think are smarter than you are showing you are all facades. alot of the time they dont feel smart and they wish peopel didnt call them that because its so much pressure so in pursuit to be someone who can be looked up to they try to be this super cool confident smart guy but at night they cant help but to feel worthless. Im a freshmen and i once had someone ask me if there was another person who might be valid Victorian over me. last year i got voted as the most likely to be successful. last year i felt my life was great but nothing felt right i felt bad i didnt like my days i just went through it because everyone else did i was emotionless i just had a good posture, "smart" and that was it nothing else in my life. no one is motivated everyone is forcing a destiny on themselves a destiny to be that 1%. those people you think are smarter than you probably are only more into school because its one of the only things they have someone tells you you are good at something your gonna go to that when you feel like your nothing. everyone is disatisfied with life trying to head toward a different tomorrow a tomorrow they believe they wont feel vulnerable, afraid, empty, or whatever, so they look to someone they admire and wish to be like them but in reality that person might be wishing to be like you everything everyone has problems they have something going on in their life that sometimes makes them feel like their going to break or their weak. Now everyday i try to say hi to people genuinely with emotion true emotion, i try to be a good person, i try to help everyone i can, i like hear about other peoples lives and hearing about what they've been through, i like helping people. be you bro no one is asking you to be someone else and if they are to hell with them walk your own destiny
Same- I’m a sophomore, and all my friends are in really hard APs and honors and all sorts of advanced classes, while here I am sitting in the easiest AP class in the school and only the honors that come naturally to me, like English and Chinese since I’m a native speaker of both. I don’t know how I ended up in my friend group, because every single person here except for me is ridiculously smart. I have these kinds of thoughts, but then I remember that it’s almost 100% certain that all those people are also feeling the same way. I have to keep reminding myself that everyone is far harsher on themselves than they are on others, and I agree with your advice. “Being smart” is basically undefinable.
To the guy who’s friends were smarter than he was: I was in a similar situation as you but my “friends” actually decided to keep me around to make fun of me and ruin my relationships. I then came to the realization that I shouldn’t be with these people and that they may be smarter then me intellectually, but I am way smarter than them emotionally. So basically what I’m trying to say is even though those people are smarter than you and thankfully are good friends, everyone has their own strong suits and you just gotta find it and embrace it. Sorry for the weird writing I’m Russian
I currently have a group of friends, some nice, yet, some are people I strongly dislike. But, I can’t break off with those bad people. It’s almost like an abusive relationship, because I’ve been hit by some of them. I’m weak, and I also relate to the first one. Yet, im not smart, I’m small, I’m weak, and there is always somebody way better. I envy the smart, strong, role model ones. I find myself below others.
@@fillipitibell4646 Do these people that have hurt you know how you feel? I would give them the benefit of the doubt and say that they may not realise that their behaviour is hurtful to you. Maybe talk to them alone, or if you don't feel comfortable bring it up in group while the nice ones are around, and explain how you feel. Also, the thing with being small and weak I find is very much about how you present and assert yourself. You don't have to go around punching them to assert your dominance, just be sure in yourself and if physical encounters isn't your thing then resolve conflicts verbally. I find that while my muscles aren't the biggest I can usually through speech deter physical encounters while also making my voice heard and standing my ground when I disagree. I kinda started rambling, hope this helps nonetheless.
@@fillipitibell4646 If you get hit by them, let them know that's not okay. If you let them know and they didn't stop with your due warning, just leave them, it's not a good relationship, it's a toxic one. You need to find friends who can relate to you. I'm 17, and 4'9 and it's become obvious that I "should" care that I'm as small as I am, and maybe at some point I did envy it? But I've learnt to appreciate myself and I like myself just the way I am. I'm sure you can do the same. No one's perfect, and if everyone was perfect then the perception of perfection would be moved forward, to a more unattainable goal, because that's the point of perfection. Accept what you have, and learn to love it man, but if you want to workout that's obviously always an option, you don't have to be weak . Make the changes required so you can feel comfortable in your own body. After that, hopefully you can find friends which don't treat you like trash or insignificant - because that relationship probably pushed you into thinking your weak, small, etc all these negative things. Hope I am useful :(
@@fillipitibell4646 Brûh, I am weak as shit as well. People try to indirectly bully us but the thing is if you are mentally more mature, they will be scared of trying to bully you. Some will be your friend and won't do shit and protect you while some wont hit you cause they know they'll look like a pussy. You have to make yourself seem stronger emotionally and mentally so that they wont try to actually hurt you by being more mature.
For the first person - I completely 100% relate. For one of my friend groups, I’m probably one of the smartest people in there. Got the highest SAT score, do better on tests, etc. But for my AP friends, I almost feel inferior? I know I’m still smart, but it’s hard to feel good about a 1470 on the SAT when you have friends that get a 1600, or some that complain about doing “so bad” when getting a 1460. My grades are good, but not compared to my friends who get straight A’s and complain when they get an 80% on a test. I completely and 100% understand your feelings. As schlatt said, there will always be people that are better than you in some way. But if they’re really your friends, they won’t judge you for asking questions. They should want to help you and want you to feel included.
Thanks man, I don’t know if I should do this but I’m the guy who wrote the first email and this helps, people telling me that I don’t have to compare myself or that they shouldn’t judge me really helps❤️
@@masonf.7630 hey man. I dont know if this helps but I would be considered one of the 'smart kids' in my year/grade. Whenever someone asks me a question or anything I never look down on them because they are "inferior" I find joy in the fact I can help someone out. There definitely are people who are assholes and will scoff at you because of their own inflated self importance but they're present in every facet of life, even people with nothing going for them can be superior assholes. If the smart guys really are your friends then there's no need to feel inferior around them because I personally value other things far more than intelligence in my friends. It's not like your social group is a club with a minimum grade entry requirement, you just have been brought together by circumstace because of your ability and interest in science/ computer club in schlatts case. I would recommend that you use this mindset to push yourself because I've kinda lost alot of motivation recently, but I wont get into that here. That seems like a whole other email.
i began to cry during the second part. two years ago, i had the same sort of situation where my best friend called me out all of the sudden for taking it too far. she, too, swore at me, and i immediately went into shock. i admitted to my behaviour and truly wanted to change, but she didn’t give me another chance and it ended a 4 year long friendship. looking back, i realize it’s much more mature to have reflected on my actions rather than to have continued to possibly ruin more relationships. thank you so much schlatt for your anicdotes and advice. i wish i had found this channel sooner!
the first question really resonated with me because i’m in ap classes and feel so dumb being surrounded by super smart people. your advice made me feel way better. thank you schlatt!
I love this schlatt. I listen to shoegaze music and make csgo maps whilst listening to this and it really chills me. Also I've been on your channel since quite early in your youtube career and it is crazy seeing your live account rack up views. It's great to see you get the recognition you deserve. :)
This series is my favorite on RUclips. I appreciate so much how you are not disconnected from your fans and will compile their emails to give them advice. It’s awesome.
i dont understand why or how Schlatt can be the funniest guy i've ever come across on youtube, but at the same time also be the most wholesome person helping random people he doesn't even know, so wholesome and kind to the point where i can't help but see my own faults and try to go about fixing myself, and i cry. thank you for being who you are, Schlatt
Schlatt, do audible books. Your acting is incredible. You put so much emotion into these words, that I feel like you, yourself wrote, and we're having these crisis's in your life.
You know I remember hearing about the weekly slap once and I completely brushed it off because I thought it was another kind of leafyishere thing, but when I discovered you I eventually found this channel and I am in awe at how if I had just given this a chance, I would of been introduced to you earlier and your wisdom. Goes to show that you shouldn't knock somethin til you try it, fellas.
For the first guy, I have to say I felt the same way for a long time through my high school career. As a Senior, I have friends going to MIT and the Naval academy, and because of that I've had to learn to get over that feeling of inadequacy and fear of not being good enough. One of the main reasons I did is because as Schlatt said, these people wanted to lift me up and help. These people around you 9/10 will be more than happy to try and help you if you have a question, and they wouldn't see you as a lesser, they would see you as a comrade.
schlatt funny-loud mic is incredible to watch from a comedy standpoint,, but this schlatt? nothing beats being able to hear from the genuine person behind the camera. i really appreciate you dude, you've helped me a lot,, and hearing the real you who isn't doing a bit is so nice. thank you
the guy smarter than you appears to be smarter because deep down he isnt sure about himself(or her im a guy so im kinda just talkin bout my self) they try to do things well and try to seem smart because thats almost slowly became apart of their brand they feel vulnerable empty so they try to act smart and better than other people with out really like telling them your better than them to make themselves feel better. we all the same people, i dont wanna tell you their people smarter than you or dumber than you thats just a given just make sure you walk your own path you could force your way down another guys path trying to be like him and maybe it would work but that guy got problems in his life too dont try to be someone else because you feel these negative ways try to be your own good person be that guy that goes to a good college to do something he likes to do not that guy that goes to harvard because he wants to be smart, but this is juts my opinion and im just some freshman
God I never realized how kind and honest Schlatt actually was until this video. The videos I've seen of Schlatt have been of him being an ass in a jokingly way, scamming people in Minecraft and making fun of them. But I see that was all a bit. Schlatt you probably will never see this but I want you to know that I am glad that you exist. Thank you so much for being such a kind and generous and overall BEAUTIFUL person. Please keep making this kind of content, this brings light to my dark days. Who knows? I may email you a question in the future haha! ~I Remain, Big E
I have a bad habit of making jokes about my friends and myself. And I realise sometimes I go to far. But when I go too far I take a step back apologize and explain myself. I think apologizeing and asking how others feel really helps me.
I have almost always been surrounded by friends who’s only source of humor were these types of jokes. I used to have a friend who did this constantly, went over the line almost all the time, never apologized, and I had to drop him. I think he rubbed off on me. Those jokes became my humor and all I did was make these jokes. It gets worse when the entire group you are with does it to one person, like a punching bag. I have always made sure to check up on that person and apologize afterwards if it went too far, but I know how you feel. I feel like I am nice to people I do not know well, but for some reason I am the most annoying and biggest asshole to my friends. Should it not be the other way around? This is not the type of person I want to be, and I have made an effort to change. Because apologizing isn’t enough, you have to actually do something. I feel like this is the world we live in, especially in the internet era. Hurtful jokes to people you consider friends can make an impact even if you don’t mean to. Ironically, the same person I had to drop a long time ago recently came onto my hockey team, and he became the laughing stock. There would be games where he wouldn’t talk to us and sit in silence. And regardless of all the hurtful and terrible things he has done to me and other friends, I checked up on him. I made it known that I cared about him. I find myself apologizing too often, and it is time to make a change. I don’t know if this is true for everyone, but in my experience all good comes from bad. You can find yourself making these jokes once in a while, but don’t let it become more than a playful jab. After realizing that I am doing to others what has been done to me, I have made an effort to stop. Both of us realizing the problem and making an effort to stop is how we become good. I hope you can make your friends lives better and feel better about yourself, because this is how we make the world a better place. Best of luck to you.
@@colinchambless4418 It takes time to change my friend. As long as YOU know you’re working on yourself, then that should matter a lot at the end of the day. I was and am the punching bag for almost every friend I’ve ever had. I’ve never made really offensive jokes to my friends but they’ve always made really across the line jokes about suicide, racial, and about what I have going on myself. Anyways I ended up dropping the relationship between me and that group because I was in a really bad place (and also because I finally graduated and didn’t have to see them anymore). Not only mentally but also the wound on my heart became really huge. Now I’m a bit sensitive but I don’t go out my way to talk shit back or anything i just get hurt easily and become really depress after hitting small matter less bumps in my life.
@@zeal9274 thanks for that. I totally know it can have a drastic impact on somebody if done incorrectly, and thankfully none of the friends I’ve had have appeared to be in a really dark place, except the one who hurt me a long time ago. When I realized this I stopped making jokes about him altogether except for the occasional jab like he would make back at us and talked to him, and he appreciated it a lot. It sucks because I never wanted to be like that, but after almost all the friends I’ve had make jokes like this, it’s hard not to have it rub off on you. I’m working on changing, I really am, but the scars from when I was the butt of a joke taken over the line and my habit of making the jokes have made it so incredibly hard to do this. But, I’m trying. So thank you, because it really means a lot.
@@zeal9274 and it will get better, you will find people who can understand where the line is and if they cross it, they will emphatically apologize, if that is the type of people you want to be around. Or maybe you’ll find people who don’t make these jokes at all, and that’s who you want to spend time with. But you also are going to find the right people for you. The people that no matter what don’t make you feel like shit. It will get better, that wound will heal, trust me. You just gotta take your time and meet new people. I sincerely hope you find the right people for you end that wound heals. Good luck man.
I want to share a little of my experience on the second question. Back when I finished Primary school I had a best friend whom for the first 3 years of his Primary school life never verbally communicated (aside the usual nod) with anyone aside from the teachers which was often in secrecy or whispers that others could never hear. I tried my best to open him up whenever we had classes together or met during recess. Maybe I had an attraction to him (didn't know that I liked guys and yes I'm a guy) but didn't know back then but I really persuaded him to open up. Finally when we were in Primary 4, he started talking to me which I took as a sign that he trusted and wanted me to be his friend. When we finished our PSLE (Primary School Leaving Examinations) I didn't care much about my grades and it was scored below average. I wanted to apply into the same school as he did but I was 1 point short of the Secondary School that he has applied. You can try your best and appeal but my parents fear that I would get bullied if I were thrown into a bad neighborhood school so they didn't risk it. Back then, I took it as a sign that my parents didn't bother to try and appeal. This started a grudge within me that later on shaped my secondary school life. When I reached Secondary School, I started the year making friends and also plotting on how to get back at the school who separated me from my best friend (forgive my thoughts then, I was still very immature). I took the role of a vice-chairperson in the class and thought I was in somewhat of a position of power. Long story short, 6 months down the line, I reported a minor incident about a student that happen during class to my form teacher. He was considered to be a popular kid in class and outting him would be the best way to "get back" at the school. In the end, he shoved me against the wall, questioned why I did I betrayed his trust in front of the entire class and from then I was outcasted from my cohort. No one remembered that I existed if I was gone or sick. I started to become depressed and started to count the days instead of looking forward to anything in general. This stigma stuck with me for 10+ years and I never got out of the mindset that I'm a "scum". Because of it, I let people stepped all over me, sexually harassed and can't stare into a mirror longer than a second not thinking that I'm a terrible person. What I've done to cope in the past is to make crude jokes about me being a scummy person or just admit the fact that I'm a bad person. At the start of this year I decided to stop riding the emotional roller-coaster everyday due to flashbacks or events that trigger those thoughts. I've been writing on my gratitude journal everyday and happy to say that I can look at myself in the mirror and feeling somewhat appreciative of myself. I still think I'm a scum in some sense, but it's been 4 months and the conversation in my head has already progressed a lot more than the past 10 years. If anyone is looking for solace reading this, know that it will get better with the right people, mindset, and attitude. You don't need people, or things to want to be better for yourself. I can say after much self-hatred, you just need you and only you. No matter how good or bad you are, you're still you. People have already decided if they want to accept that side of you or not. You just got to make that jump to accept all facades about yourself.
I never knew schlatt was this relatable I heard the second story and I connected with it because I moved into a new high school freshman year and acted like an ass and got very few friends out of it , I guess everyone is a person no matter how popular they are
I’ve had a really rough few months mentally, and I just wanted to say both questions hit me very close to home and I feel that your advice will, even if it may not seem like much, really help me in the long run. I’m glad that you made this video and just wanted to say how much some people appreciate your advice.
These first guy is the exact opposite of me not that Im smart or some shit. I didn't have a proper friend group that helped better me. And I really regretted the fact I threw away my oppurtunity to be surrounded by people who would be good role models. It fucking hurts me deep inside, but I don't really regret it because I hated being told by my parents to study hard and get one of those medals for four years that I broke down and gave up. I never really recovered from that so it is still fogging my mind and I have a meltdown every night thinking I should have done the right thing but it was done. My parents god bless them are good parents but they never really take me seriously and the only time they would hear me out is if I make a mistake or if I didn't do what they wanted me to do. And when I do have a fit and cry over how I feel my whole family would think I am overreacting or some shit. Now I just keep my mouth shut even if I am uncomfortable with them giving me shit for no reason. The only real escape I have now is youtube, and studying. I'm trying to catch up with old colleagues right now because I just feel like everyone needs to open up even a little and I find it really interesting that everyone I talked to has faced the same dillemma but have different reasons why the dillemma happend and how they try to solve it. Maybe I find it interesting because I want to solve my shit too but cant find a proper solution. And this video just made me want to tell my story to strangers who don't know my name because this quarantine maybe taking a toll off of your psyche. Just speak out the shit in your chest to anyone and maybe the can share their own stories and you can find some comfort that you aren't the only one going eating life's ass. Thank you Schlatt for this video. I went rambling on this my bad.
Honestly I’m glad people open up even if it’s online it makes me happy to see people want to change and be something better it’s the only thing that really keeps me going knowing that someday someone is going to need me in a certain situation which could be life changing I know I’m not the funniest,smartest,or the best looking person but I try and I hope one day it will count for something
If anyone relates to the first question, remember that the only race you’re in is the race with yourself. Do yourself a favor and search for “Sunscreen”, it’s a speech from Baz Luhrmann. It’s what helped me put everything into perspective when I was that sophomore. Your friends, are there to help you, and I’ve learned that it helps to pride yourself on who you choose to align with and what they plan on doing. The track you’re on is uniquely yours and their track is uniquely theirs. Celebrate big moments along those tracks, and remember what’s best for your friend may not be best for you. This next bit is not as well worded as I wish it could be but I’m trying my best so my apologies. As a junior, I’m currently looking for where my track will take me after next year, and I know my friends are too. I have already been offered some amazing opportunities for my undergraduate education, but I have refrained from immediately accepting one over another. I did this, because I know I have options and want to choose the best option, fit for me. Yeah, maybe I can get into my top choice, but how practical is my top choice? As a freshman I wanted to go to the University of Chicago, one of the hardest schools to get into, and upon the most prestigious. I liked it for that reason. Looking back at that, I know that I would never be able to afford UChicago, let alone be admitted. You may think Harvard is the place for you, but as I’m learning, there are so many different variables to what your best school is. I dreamed of Harvard when I was younger, but I dream of smaller, more practical schools now. I don’t mean to diminish Harvard in any way, I plan on applying in the fall, and it would be an outstanding opportunity for me. But I know it’s not the end of the world if I don’t make it, I have other schools to fall back on, and those may come with better options-a full ride versus the cost of Harvard, better academics for what I plan to major in, etc. As for asking for help from your friends, I’m sure there have been times where people have come to you for help, whether it is academic help or not. It feels good to give help, of course; but what a lot of people forget is that it feels really good to get help, too. By getting help you are taking the weight of figuring it out on your own off of your shoulders. It’ll help you, I promise. Taking the leap and asking for it is the biggest step, and once you do it, you should be proud of yourself. And, I know not all schools are the same, but at my high school, we have a part of the library devoted to student tutors, who you can come to with questions. Like Schlatt said, going to the teacher can also help. They’re the ones who know the curriculum like the back of their hands, and can give you the best advice on how to maneuver it. If you ever need some extra help for anything, academic or otherwise, I bet I’ve got some time on my hands, if you’ve exhausted your other resources. I wouldn’t mind giving a hand. :) And seriously, wear sunscreen.
I’m with you on this one. Having been that sophomore as well had proven to be a difficult time. In any field, education, or work, there will always be that competition, as Schlatt said. Those feelings still carry with me to this day- feelings of inadequacy, feeling inferior- but not in the same way. Before, I would let them control me. Instead of using my friends to help build me up, I kept everything to myself. I resented those above me, those in the top percents, because I was so close but never as smart. It took a long time to overcome that. When I first started looking for colleges, prestige meant everything to me. I was looking at some tough schools, Carnegie, Case, and a few others. For some reason, I reached out to some friends. Their ambitions, their plans. I realized is absolutely nothing wrong with other colleges. In fact, prestige means very little, especially in the undergraduate field. I ended up going to a public college, and I have zero regrets. I love it here. Yes, it depends on your major, but as an undergraduate, most educations will be very similar. Don’t write off smaller (or larger) schools for that reason. Granted, I couldn’t exactly afford the private options, but they were there. However the resources and connections in college are what make it special. I’ve found a great group of friends here, who by all means are smarter than me. I’m surrounded by amazing, talented people to look up to. Research opportunities are key as well, and by being around those people they will be sure to come. Being that sophomore is not a curse. It may seem like an infinite middle ground, but it’s really a good opportunity that I am grateful for. Hopefully this helps in some capacity.
Bro I feel like I seen this video already but man does it hit this time around. (How 'recent' it is also shocked me) I relate to both questions (though the bad person one went in a way I wasn't expecting but different experience for the same feeling) Hearing that "I'm not at the end" essentially when it comes to feeling like a bad person is so helpful. If I feel that way and recognize it I still have time and even though I might not know what to do about it (just yet, hopefully) I know that I do indeed want to do something about it (or at least that I should bc it's not a good feeling) and can start figuring out what to do. Thanks Schlatt. This advice does indeed slap.
I like seeing schlatt becoming real for a while comedy isnt just everything sometimes the funniest person is the most serious and hardworking one thats why thank you for the great content schlatt hopefully i might see more from this channel you earn my respect and admiration to you.
Back in middle school, I used to be a sort of class clown and I tried to make people laugh by either making fun of others or myself. On the last day of school in 6th grade I ran away when we were doing a class signing of a card for my math teacher, and I had to stand outside the class while everyone else was having fun. I realized that I wanted to have more self-respect and also respect from others, and the next school year I became a more quiet and studious kid. I stopped talking in situations where I would’ve before, and I distanced myself from social groups (not entirely, but enough to focus on myself). I think sometimes it’s a good idea to take time alone, letting your friends know and thinking about steps you can take to set up better habits.
For 2nd guy: I was the same way when I was younger, until I moved and was in an unfamiliar environment with new people. I was uncomfortable and they could see it, so now I was the one being insulted and bullied constantly. This perspective change really opened my eyes to the way I behaved before, and served to help me mellow out. Friendly insults and joking with friends is one thing and its fine, but now I'm sure to compliment them when I can just so they know that I'm joking and that I see their strengths as well as their weaknesses
To schlatt and everyone that sent in an email, thank you so much for helping me through my junior year of high school. I started out at a really bad place and just watching all these inboxes helped me figure out what I want to do and be the kind of person I want to be. Thank you.
i really hope schlatt does more of these, ive watched them all multiple times and i wish there were more, schlatt if you see this. we love your videos and please make more.
Not super related but it can be hard to deal with feelings of inadequacy. When I was still a child, I understood that I had a harder time with school and learning in general than other kids. My parents made sure never to compare me to other kids and let me know I shouldn’t either, but I’ve always secretly thought to myself, “what is wrong with me?” I’ve never been an honors kid, all regular classes all my life. In high school, I got the chance to take some AP classes and barely scraped by. I spent close to two years studying for the ACT and SAT close to 10 hours a week and managed to pull a high score of 30. I was really proud of myself. When I applied for colleges, case Western seemed like a reach school for me but I was accepted to my delight and surprise. When I started meeting people like friends, roommates, I found out pretty much all of them were honors kids or AP kids. I started to feel like I was really out of place and I’m struggling to maintain a high gpa. But the fact that I still managed to get into this school and am at least passing, is already a miracle and I shouldn’t take that for granted or feel as ashamed about it as I do. It’s always good to remind yourself of all your accomplishments to keep your head up when you feel this sense of inadequacy.
alot of people naturally make themselves seem better than they are for impressions im sure everyone you talked to has had their struggles in life. those kids you talk to you think are better than you probably make them selves seem cooler because they feel they arent good enough. everyone will find something wrong with themselves and look to someone else to be like them, i feel you shouldnt wish to be like these people there are probably different problems that they deal with, if i had any advice i probably cant give good ones youve probably tried it but maybe just enjoy studying study with some friends but make sure you actually study have a good time and you might remember it better i cant tell you whatll work or what to do better than you tho. doesnt really go with what your saying to much im just saying stuff and hoping people take something from it
it may seem weird but alot of these videos have genuinely helped me; from a family death to struggling with friends. thanks schlatt. its nice to see my favorite creator using their platform for good. thank you.
I know no one will see this, and I don't care. I really enjoy this version of schlatt. It's relieving to catch a breath, and hear advice from, if not the only, one of the majorly positive male influences in my life. It's incredible to hear advice and hsvebit actually stick, like actually resonate. I didn't think I would have tear up over a fucking schlatt video at 1:30 Am, but here we are. Anywhoo, have a great life, take care of yourselves, and be good. Cheers🥂
To the second person, here's some of the best advice that I've ever heard:
"If you're ever scared about being a bad person, just remember that bad people don't care about getting better."
Damn.
I love that
Damn, I guess I'm the worst
Thank you, reading this made me feel better with myself
Yeah. Once you realize that you want to be a better person, you've already taken the first step ahead.
How can Schlatt go from twitch Schlatt to friendly neighbourhood dad
L U N C H C L U B
From funny mic to serious mic
true
Hes visiting his roots, this is the schlatt I subbed to
@@jessehammons2816 me too
"If you're the smartest person in the room, you're in the wrong room..."
So that's why my professor is always absent
I can’t handle science class, I’m the smartest and I do everything
FantasticDanner bruh ur like 8
Human Beyblade, I appreciate it bro!
@@itsfantastic3941 www.amazon.com/Quantum-Physics-Dummies-Steven-Holzner/dp/1118460820
I've never heard such a wholesome schlatt,
This is shlatt
Welcome to theweeklyslap, this isn’t Jschlatt this is theweeklyslap. He’s the same guy, but sorta different. He’s the same, but he’s real.
He’s an alternate shlatt
This is schlat when not playing a character
This is also true for me
I love how Jschlatt and jschlattlive are some of the most chaotic channels on yt while this channel is one of the most relaxing.
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I mean well yeah, on those channels the jschlatt is a character which is fucking amazing
I think you can either call this channel the weekly slap or me jschlatt, those two works
For the first guy "If you feel like the dumbest person in a room you are in the right room"
-Some guy i can't remember
The Problem is that it can be depressing. If you have no Moment of success you get demotivated. Its the same with being too good, it gets boring. The Ideal is to be in the middle, its hard for you but doable.
@Bounze the US school system has countless flaws, you don't want our education system
i heard a very similar one ‘if you’re the smartest one in the room you’re in the wrong room’ - Confucius
@@roccobrooks7521 apparently it's better than Europes to this guy, which may very well be true
@@kylemorrison6162 I live in the UK and ours is garbage. I know America's is supposed to be terrible as well, but it's pretty bad in the majority of countries too.
The weekly slap actually being weekly? Impossible!
Moondog11 less than weekly 5 days since last upload?
xd nebz1465 oh shit the (business week)ly slap
We are in the good timeline
its probably because of covid-19 and he has way to much free time
been here since monthly slap
Just my short response to the second question. Best piece of advice my friend has ever told me.
You're not a bad person, because bad people don't care about becoming good.
Damn that’s inspirational.
Damn, that's deep
i agree, but he 100% needs to work on it. i think he'd lean more towards being bad if he only feels bad but doesn't change. don't use the fact that you care as an excuse to not fix it
Only if he works to achieve what he wants. You can want to be a great piano player, but until you start working on it, you can’t become a great piano player.
I’m not trying to degrade the comment in the video. I wish I agreed with you. I feel like a bad person and I still am a bad person, despite wanting to improve. Until I take the steps I’m not anywhere different than where I started.
A good quote. Thanks for sharing :)
I've literally just been binging these videos and I'm on the verge of tears. I don't know why, but it feels like I finally have a good male influence in my life, which I've never really had. I'm really trying not to make this sound weird. Please keep this channel going because it's absolutely wonderful.
Edit: Oh my god my barely thrown together 2am comment has 1.3k likes I'm gonna go crawl into a hole & die now.
Edit 2: Someone from discord recognised me 💀
Thank you. That means a lot.
Same here
Hey, how do we contact him for advice
You're not weird bro. Not everyone gets that when they're growing up. People who think it's weird just don't understand because they hold up an emotional wall.
@@miamcintosh4228 thanks
He brutally cyber bullied minx mere hours after posting this LMAO
dammit i was relaxed WHY DID I HAVE TO SEE THIS HAAH
That One Guy yeah I know, I was joking
HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA
@@marangle7484 minx can cry on command? Oh my god that’s so cool
@@marangle7484 idk but you but I think everyone knows they are joking
Hearing schlatt sounding like he was almost in tears talking about his wake up call really hit me hard.
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Ikr, whenever I hear him talking he's always joking about something or just genuinely being fun and happy, and while I know everyone is their own person and has their own problems, actually hearing him talking about it really hits hard
Yeah. My heart sank listening to his voice break up talking about it.
As someone who related a lot to the second question, I think that it is essential to understand that being a good person doesn’t mean being a perfect person. I’ve done and said a lot of things I’m not proud of, and it still guilts me a lot, but there are some things that have helped me change my cynical attitude.
1: If you have the oppurtunity to make someone’s day, don’t hold it back. This can be a compliment, doing a favor for someone, etc, but holding back also means thinking about how you’re going to be nice. Think about how you want to give a compliment, and think about what you want to do to help someone. Being nice requires vulnerability, and it is hard, but the more you do it, the more you’ll find that it’s easier to do
2. Your good deeds and bad deeds are not in any way connected. A good deed can never justify a bad deed, and you should never see it as such because when you do, you start make being a good person an economy, and it’s not. Being a good person is a charity.
3. No matter how good you are, you will still do bad things, and that is okay so long as you apologize and change. If you can get into the habit of acknowledging your slip-ups, and communicating with the people you have possibly hurt, it means a lot. Changing the way you act means a lot more.
4. Find a way to apologize. Personally, I hate apologizing in person because I get overwhelmed and lose the words, so if I have a big apology, I handwrite a letter so I can get all my thoughts out. When I apologize, I find that I explain what led me to do things, but never justify my actions, and this is tricky, but if you can show that what led you to do something is changing, it helps bridge the connection I feel.
5. Finally, and I’m saying this again because it is so important: being a good person is hard, but it is so rewarding to be selfless. Being vulnerable takes a lot, especially when you’ve been hurt before. If you do find yourself being mean as a defense mechanism, look to yourself about what causes these things? Who has hurt you in the past? I find that the more that I’ve opened up to my friends, I have become a better person. I will end this by saying everyone is capable of being good, and read the poem, “No Man is an Island”.
Edit: some grammar.
I love that second point so much.
I really appreciate this comment. Thanks
Thank you for spreading tips and positivity friend. I wish you the best in life
Thank you so much dude
Barrett Smith thank u for this
I really love this show. Every single episode makes me feel hopeful for the future. That any problem I may have is surmountable. The advice you give and the way you talk in these just gives off such a positive feeling that makes me feel like the time I spent watching was time well spent, and more than for just entertainment. Even in the comments you'll see other people talking about their experiences and what we all can learn from them, and then you'll see multiple other people saying exactly what I just did, because it's true. This show makes people feel better, and in a world where, at least for many younger people, nothing matters but the comedy we can pull from a situation, and having serious conversations with friends and even family can become a rarity, hearing real, serious advice is very refreshing. I know you don't like people to idolize you, and that's not what I'm trying to do, rather I'm just trying to express that I think that what you're doing here is really great, and that you're great at it.
On another note, to the sender of the first email, or anyone in a similar situation, don't think your friends look down on you. I was never very talkative in high school, so I only really had 2 friends, and both of them were in lower level classes than me. I never thought about how they "weren't as smart as me," or anything like that, rather I was sad that we rarely got to see eachother in school. There were a few years where I had absolutely no classes with them, and school for me those years was almost as monotonous, boring, and mentally draining as my current job as a janitor. At times I even thought about moving down in classes just so I could see them. So don't think your friends look down on you for not being as smart as them. I guarantee that they appreciate being able to see you at school. Just you being there brightens their day, because without friends high school is an awful experience.
This means a lot, thank you.
@@theweeklyslap did you abandon your main channel? you didnt post for a year
@@Cottonthefox twitch
I can't believe I've never seen this side to schlatt. It honestly makes me respect him more than I already do. Hearing his advice was like a breath of fresh air from people who just tell you the same thing about every scenario that is even remotely similar. He really takes the time to answer every question honestly and from the heart, and hearing about his past experiences and how he relates to these people really makes him that much more personable
Schlatt, I don’t know much about you. I’m not entitled to know anything about your life. But when I click on these videos, I see a window of the real you. A guy who isn’t a “successful business man,” or an “enigma,” or a RUclipsr with almost a million subscribers. I see an ordinary human with faults, bad days, and most importantly: a man with feelings. Take care of yourself, because I care. And if one person genuinely caring isn’t enough, than just remember that we all care.
Well said man
This is a fantastic comment
I love this comment.
The biggest reveal here is that Schlatt didn’t actually go to Harvard
I am totally bamboozled. I've watched this one before but only now do I catch it.
“There’s always a kid in Russia named Dimitri that will beat you at everything.”
Yeah
@@dimitrifrog7845 oh shit
Ive got a kid that goes to my school named Dimitri that beats me.
My name is Dimitri and I feel attacked
@@pizzatime8404 nah even you've got a Dimitri
In regards to the second question:
Around three years ago, I met the person who became my best friend, someone I could not live without. At first it was just a surface level friendship, but then they opened up to me about their own issues. They were depressed, they were self harming, they were suicidal. I cared about them more than I cared about myself, so I did anything I could just to make their day a little brighter. Around a year later, they started dating another person I was close with. The problem was I was mostly close with this person out of fear, because I knew he was a monster deep down. I did everything I could to end that relationship, because every single relationship he had had in the past ended terribly and I couldn't bear subjecting my friend to that too. He turned her against me, turned everyone against me for it. Then he turned everyone against her. He broke up with her to date an underaged chick, relentlessly made fun of her, cost her any fragile friendships she had built up. There was a night she changed her profile picture to the word "Bye" written in blood. I wanted so badly to reach out to her and I was writing a message to her when he messaged me, telling me I couldn't because she was doing it for attention and he had just talked to her and she hated me. Other people texted me the same thing. So I didn't text her that night.
She attempted suicide that night. She failed.
Me and her are best friends again today, and she has forgiven me for the part I had to play in last year's troubles. I haven't. Not a day goes by that I don't feel overwhelming guilt over what I did, and I can never bring myself to truly think of myself as a good person. There was a time a few months ago that it got so bad I started self harming over it. But here's the real answer to the question. She doesn't blame me, so why should I blame myself?
This is sort of tangential, but my point here is that you will always blame yourself for your mistakes. You'll always have things you regret about your past. But if you can work through them in the present, try to find closure if not forgiveness, you don't have to beat yourself up constantly over it. My advice to you is to go to the people you've hurt and apologize. I'm not saying pursue a friendship, but just try to make it known that you are sorry, and then prove you're sorry by not doing it again. Actions speak louder than words do. You can make it through this as long as you recognize the person you've grown to hate, and then move away from him. Become who you want to be, and bury that old self. You can be a better person as long as you recognize what's wrong and actively work to fix it. Change isn't easy, but the things worth doing never are.
tl;dr: I've been there man. Apologize to the people you've hurt and actively try to make the changes for the better. Become the person you want to be.
Thank you for sharing your story and thoughts
You're a better person than I am
Thanks for opening up, I'm sure everyone going through something similar greatly appreciates it.
Hey there, i have a similar experience. But around myself.
So around 2 years ago, i dated a really really sweet girl. I liked her very much and she seemed to like me back, we had lots of fun together, got really close together, even had plans for the future together. It was all great and dandy until around a year ago where i had to move schools.
We were still dating, we were still close. But we were slowly slipping, she had to do her stuff, i had to do my stuff. You get the idea. But then i found out she had been making more and more friends and had more fun over at her side while i had to struggle go adapt to a new school.
I felt jealous and cheated on her based off of my emotions alone, jealousy. It didnt work out as i knew it was the wrong thing to do. But she found out about it and didn't give me time to explain. She dumped me and now my friends from the old school turned against me.
I've always blamed myself for what had happened, i was so dumb. I regretted everything i did. I see myself in the mirror and just couldn't handle to see what i had done, what i've become.
I went on a really down mood for the rest of the month because i really hated myself. Even tried to hurt and kill myself just because of the overwhelming guilt and dissapointment from my old friends. Until i talked with my father.
My father gave me the best advice i needed.
"You CAN be sad about it, and regret it all you want. Or, you could instead try and learn from it, embrace it. One cannot truly appreciate the good times if they have yet to experience the bad times. "
And that's what i did. I really really tried my best to slowly be better. It's all i can do.
I can't change my past, i can't change what i've done, but i can change how i act towards it. I can choose to dwell in negativity, or step forwards, no matter how slow it may be.
Tl:dr did some bad shit, regretted it. Hated myself. Now trying to be better.
u the man
hey schlatt, i don’t know if you’ll ever read this, but i just want to say thank you. lately i’ve been seriously considering suicide a lot more than i ever have before and it scares me. whenever i get in that mood i watch one of these videos and it snaps me out of it. i don’t know what i’m going to do about myself, but thank you for making these. it really means a lot to broken people like me to hear our role model break character and seriously talk about the things we’re all feeling. again, thank you for this. you’re like the dad i never had, lol
You're a real human, man. I love you.
Suicide should never be an option. I dont know if you believe in a God or not but there will always be a person that loves you and cares for you it could be a family member a friend or even a random person but just remember that you have a purpose and that you were brought into this world for that purpose. Fulfill it and dont think you cant.
i hope you’re okay man. have a splendid day
hey, I know it’s been kinda a while since this comment was posted but I hope you’re doing well. if it means anything at all, a random internet person cares about you :))
@@jufli make it three
This channel actually makes me love Schlatt even more. He’s a genuine dude and a good guy.
That second email really gets me, I feel a lot of us had that moment of clarity from being cynical or just being a wet sod and I personally think it's definitely a mark of growing up. I sincerely hope that person talks with their friends as finding out others' opinions open our worlds to more perspectives and makes us more rounded and less likely to lash out out of habit, thanks for the video Schlatt and thank you to who asked this question - it takes a lot of effort to realize you may have an issue
The thing for me is kind if the opposite i was more nice to people then i went to secondary school (dont know what that is for Americans) and most of the people would bully each other but since everyone did it i just started and now that's shaped me into a shitty person
I bullied people too, but i was mindful to never go too far. I made sure it was enough to be funny, but not too much so as to make it cringy. Finding that balance was the entirety of my freshman year, and i have gotten less and less mean since.
The key is to make sure the people you are friends with understand your personality.
Honestly though this was the best one yet
realised that a long time ago and haven't changed
This video made me realize that I am sometimes too mean, all my friends are dicks but it a light manner but stepping back I think I go to far some times and after this video I can see that. Thanks schaltt
Hey so against my better judgement I want to say a public thank you to schlatt and everyone else in the comments. I was the first comment and having my email read was surreal and crazy. It’s amazing to know how many people struggle with what I’m struggling with and even how many similarity’s me and jschlatt have, we both even moved and went to a new school in 9th grade. So thank you very much your kind words and suggestions everyone and schlatt. It’s kinda weird being a viewer of RUclips and kinda schlatt fir so long and being kinda recognized in a way idk. ❤️❤️
Hey, I'm kind of late to the party on this, and I'm kind of confused, how exactly did you send your question to Schlatt? And does he try to respond to a lot of people or just a few he reads aloud?
Dallen Anderson His email is jschlatt@pm.me! I think he used to reply to some emails directly but I'm not sure if he still does since he has such a large viewerbase now, so I think he only responds through this series
Dallen Anderson hey so I emailed him, you can find it on this RUclips page and in the first video. Also I don’t know what he does I think I just git lucky but I can’t say anything fir sure
lemme tell you right now everything those people you think are smarter than you are showing you are all facades. alot of the time they dont feel smart and they wish peopel didnt call them that because its so much pressure so in pursuit to be someone who can be looked up to they try to be this super cool confident smart guy but at night they cant help but to feel worthless. Im a freshmen and i once had someone ask me if there was another person who might be valid Victorian over me. last year i got voted as the most likely to be successful. last year i felt my life was great but nothing felt right i felt bad i didnt like my days i just went through it because everyone else did i was emotionless i just had a good posture, "smart" and that was it nothing else in my life. no one is motivated everyone is forcing a destiny on themselves a destiny to be that 1%. those people you think are smarter than you probably are only more into school because its one of the only things they have someone tells you you are good at something your gonna go to that when you feel like your nothing. everyone is disatisfied with life trying to head toward a different tomorrow a tomorrow they believe they wont feel vulnerable, afraid, empty, or whatever, so they look to someone they admire and wish to be like them but in reality that person might be wishing to be like you everything everyone has problems they have something going on in their life that sometimes makes them feel like their going to break or their weak. Now everyday i try to say hi to people genuinely with emotion true emotion, i try to be a good person, i try to help everyone i can, i like hear about other peoples lives and hearing about what they've been through, i like helping people. be you bro no one is asking you to be someone else and if they are to hell with them walk your own destiny, (i copy pasted this from a different reply, so if it seems confusing or convoluted i have so many thoughts running through my head i cant keep track)
I'm in the same boat as you Mason, in Ireland the SATs or our version of it is based of points, and I'm getting the lowest in my friend group, but just remember that if you're working at the best of your ability that is all that matters xx
I was one of those kids that took all those AP classes and still felt the exact same way. Was close friends with the top 10 in my class, but always compared my intelligence to them. Your level of classes and your report card does not invalidate you AT ALL
So... what’d you get on the APUSH Exam? That one was a toughie for me...
Brandon Dew I got a 4, which wasn’t what I was hoping for, but as I mentioned it really wasn’t the end of the world since I ended up getting college credit for it anyways!
Bruh took an AP class then decided never taking one ever again.
I think my heart stopped for a second when he said “I fucking hate you”
Same
Wait when?
@@clemsytine 6:22 I think
Jschlattlive: breaks the keyboard
Theweeklyslap: fixes the keyboard
He tells us to stay indoors
*you are a good RUclipsr, thank you*
Wholesome 100 big Chungus reddit
Honestly, being a "smart kid" sucks. Everyone always has high expectations of you, there's social pressure on you, you get generally more shit for screwing up on something.
Once I made clear to everyone that I'm done being the poster child and started underachieving life suddenly got so much easier and just better in general.
Sure, my grades tanked somewhat, but I got out of it better in the end. Less of a twitchy overcaffeinated mess with no free time and more of an actual human being.
Just embrace having friends that are better than you at something and help them along if they need your help.
I kind of had a similar problem, I was the “smart kid” in the catholic school I went to all throughout elementary and middle school. The first high school I went I also was pretty high up there and probably could’ve been valedictorian. The in junior year I went to a new high school and I finally met people that were on my level or smarter. It was cool meeting them but was also disheartening to realize how far behind the curve I was in many aspects. And then in college it just completely flipped. Now I’m in engineering school surrounded by many people who are way smarter than me and who can do the material easily while I struggle. It’s caused me to be kinda unmotivated these past few years. I’ve often thought the reason why I’m struggling is cuz I messed around too much as a kid, I wasn’t disciplined enough. But recently I’ve been trying to come to terms with it, and make do with what I have...
I have selective mutism, and my classmates somehow think quiet = smart
they actually think I'm some kind of genius and keep talking about it
for example: I get put in the worst group projects to "balance it out" but in reality I'm not smart
So, yeah, I agree, the high expectations and pressure are terrifying (but if I'm already going through this, I could at least be smart)
(pardon my english)
I still am that person but I don’t try I get 100% of chemistry and physics tests and don’t study an I feel like people resent it me for it
Kinda felt this comment. In 4th grade I was labelled as gifted because i scored 95s in standardized testing. from that point on I kinda tanked, my grades were great but I was bullied and had very few friends. As were things to be expected, not rewarded for my effort. I was never popular, I dont do anything with anyone and Im just kinda an outcast. now in my 2nd year of Highschool I just want to forget about getting 90s all the time and just having fun. Im 15 but have no real memories with my friends.
but i am moving schools this year so hopefully I can change that. Good luck all my dudes
Lol the exact same thing happened to me, went from perfect grades to far from it and became a lot happier
my favorite part of watching these is that it makes you realize how similar everyone is. most people can sit here and think of when something happened to them, and if they can’t, to probably one of their friends. i can’t stress how much these videos inspire me, so thank you
yeah its become overly apparent to me recently how similar we are, weird way to say it but the society shapes us like puzzle pieces and we all can tell someone else the words they need to hear because of the way society has shaped them
In regards to the first guy:
Other people's success isn't your failure.
I feel very much like this is the "truest" version of schlatt we will all ever see
petition to change the channel name to:
"theweeklyschlapp"
Id preffer the channels to be sperate.. but why not
slocjspdcyebryts they all have different tones; it’s like sorting songs in playlists based off of mood
AMAAAZING idea
Yes
@@ctrlpea7058 THAT IS EXACTLY IT
the weekly slap is actually weekly, who would’ve thought
This title resonates so heavily with me damn
i don’t know you, but i am absolutely positive that you are not a bad person
filmsbylydia thanks man I’ve been talking to my friends a lot recently and it’s helped. Cheers for the comment
Can this become a spotify podcast, where you just do this?
pleassse i wanna listen to this while trying to fall asleep at 2am
this would be awesome holy shit
@@shadowreaper3000 there is one bud :]
@@joyfulbee4390 other than chuckle sandwich, im not aware of any other podcast schlatt is regularly on
Don't know if you've seen it yet but in a recent video he said it's now all now on Spotify
with the "i feel like a bad person" i kinda want to add onto this discussion a bit. when i realized i was kind of a genuine dick and that i was making fun of my friends to the extent that they actually isolated themselves from me, i thought "if i can analyze these guys and make clever insults about them, i could totally do that but in reverse to say nice things about them." but thats just what worked for me
this is always such an inspirational channel,, it really shows you that schlatt isn’t always a funny cheerful dude, he just like everyone else has feelings and wan to be there for people
i love you schlatt,, keep going
I am in the same position that the first guy was in. Sophomore, smart but not amazing, in classes that are as challenging as I can take, with some very intelligent and motivated people in my life. I have always pushed myself to keep up, and I usually do at the expense of a lot of energy and time. I would say that if you are really that worried, work harder, but make sure to stop and not put all of your energy towards a goal that is so hard to define, such as "being smart."
I feel I was once in a similar situation, although I'm a senior in highschool now, my biggest peice of advice to anybody in that situation would be to take advantage of it. What I mean by this is, your friends might be more academically inclined, but they are your friends, they will help you if you ask. For me personally it was always easier to ask one of my friends for help, instead of asking a teacher for help, because a lot of the time the teacher wouldn't always make it so I truly understand, whereas your friends most likely can.
And ps, kids who are at the top of their class enjoy many of the topics in school and will not mind helping, so don't feel bad about asking.
lemme tell you right now everything those people you think are smarter than you are showing you are all facades. alot of the time they dont feel smart and they wish peopel didnt call them that because its so much pressure so in pursuit to be someone who can be looked up to they try to be this super cool confident smart guy but at night they cant help but to feel worthless. Im a freshmen and i once had someone ask me if there was another person who might be valid Victorian over me. last year i got voted as the most likely to be successful. last year i felt my life was great but nothing felt right i felt bad i didnt like my days i just went through it because everyone else did i was emotionless i just had a good posture, "smart" and that was it nothing else in my life. no one is motivated everyone is forcing a destiny on themselves a destiny to be that 1%. those people you think are smarter than you probably are only more into school because its one of the only things they have someone tells you you are good at something your gonna go to that when you feel like your nothing. everyone is disatisfied with life trying to head toward a different tomorrow a tomorrow they believe they wont feel vulnerable, afraid, empty, or whatever, so they look to someone they admire and wish to be like them but in reality that person might be wishing to be like you everything everyone has problems they have something going on in their life that sometimes makes them feel like their going to break or their weak. Now everyday i try to say hi to people genuinely with emotion true emotion, i try to be a good person, i try to help everyone i can, i like hear about other peoples lives and hearing about what they've been through, i like helping people. be you bro no one is asking you to be someone else and if they are to hell with them walk your own destiny
Same- I’m a sophomore, and all my friends are in really hard APs and honors and all sorts of advanced classes, while here I am sitting in the easiest AP class in the school and only the honors that come naturally to me, like English and Chinese since I’m a native speaker of both. I don’t know how I ended up in my friend group, because every single person here except for me is ridiculously smart. I have these kinds of thoughts, but then I remember that it’s almost 100% certain that all those people are also feeling the same way. I have to keep reminding myself that everyone is far harsher on themselves than they are on others, and I agree with your advice. “Being smart” is basically undefinable.
bruh why schlatt give good advice doe .. i’d love to be friends with this dude
maddie it’s all friendly and everything until he hits you with the funny mic
@@comradekarlvonschnitzelste8218 Oh God, the funny Mic
Comrade SKYSVR not the fucking funny mic oh no
Why does this show always put me on the verge of tears
I just love how Schlatt can go from being really chaotic to being the most humbling person ever.
The title of this video shows up while I’m crying about if I’m a shitty person- w o w
you'll be fine, friend. i don't think shitty people care enough to cry over if they're good.
TheRedVelveteer i really needed this, thank you
@@theredvelveteer4721 oh hey red i know you from twitter :)
Self evaluation can be easily warped. Try asking someone else, like a friend or a peer. Keep your head up!
To the guy who’s friends were smarter than he was: I was in a similar situation as you but my “friends” actually decided to keep me around to make fun of me and ruin my relationships. I then came to the realization that I shouldn’t be with these people and that they may be smarter then me intellectually, but I am way smarter than them emotionally. So basically what I’m trying to say is even though those people are smarter than you and thankfully are good friends, everyone has their own strong suits and you just gotta find it and embrace it. Sorry for the weird writing I’m Russian
I currently have a group of friends, some nice, yet, some are people I strongly dislike. But, I can’t break off with those bad people. It’s almost like an abusive relationship, because I’ve been hit by some of them. I’m weak, and I also relate to the first one. Yet, im not smart, I’m small, I’m weak, and there is always somebody way better. I envy the smart, strong, role model ones. I find myself below others.
@@fillipitibell4646 Do these people that have hurt you know how you feel? I would give them the benefit of the doubt and say that they may not realise that their behaviour is hurtful to you. Maybe talk to them alone, or if you don't feel comfortable bring it up in group while the nice ones are around, and explain how you feel. Also, the thing with being small and weak I find is very much about how you present and assert yourself. You don't have to go around punching them to assert your dominance, just be sure in yourself and if physical encounters isn't your thing then resolve conflicts verbally. I find that while my muscles aren't the biggest I can usually through speech deter physical encounters while also making my voice heard and standing my ground when I disagree. I kinda started rambling, hope this helps nonetheless.
@@fillipitibell4646
If you get hit by them, let them know that's not okay. If you let them know and they didn't stop with your due warning, just leave them, it's not a good relationship, it's a toxic one. You need to find friends who can relate to you. I'm 17, and 4'9 and it's become obvious that I "should" care that I'm as small as I am, and maybe at some point I did envy it? But I've learnt to appreciate myself and I like myself just the way I am. I'm sure you can do the same. No one's perfect, and if everyone was perfect then the perception of perfection would be moved forward, to a more unattainable goal, because that's the point of perfection. Accept what you have, and learn to love it man, but if you want to workout that's obviously always an option, you don't have to be weak . Make the changes required so you can feel comfortable in your own body. After that, hopefully you can find friends which don't treat you like trash or insignificant - because that relationship probably pushed you into thinking your weak, small, etc all these negative things. Hope I am useful :(
@@fillipitibell4646 Brûh, I am weak as shit as well. People try to indirectly bully us but the thing is if you are mentally more mature, they will be scared of trying to bully you. Some will be your friend and won't do shit and protect you while some wont hit you cause they know they'll look like a pussy. You have to make yourself seem stronger emotionally and mentally so that they wont try to actually hurt you by being more mature.
Bro what the hecc
Love seeing you come back to RUclips with such consistent uploads across multiple channels
Schlatt got a 1410 on the SAT?? I didn't realize how truly smart this man is
The first one had no business hitting that close to home. Thanks Schlatt, I needed to hear this. :)
Thanks for this channel Schlatt , it’s nice to see RUclipsrs be real with their viewer base. :)
For the first person - I completely 100% relate. For one of my friend groups, I’m probably one of the smartest people in there. Got the highest SAT score, do better on tests, etc. But for my AP friends, I almost feel inferior? I know I’m still smart, but it’s hard to feel good about a 1470 on the SAT when you have friends that get a 1600, or some that complain about doing “so bad” when getting a 1460. My grades are good, but not compared to my friends who get straight A’s and complain when they get an 80% on a test. I completely and 100% understand your feelings. As schlatt said, there will always be people that are better than you in some way. But if they’re really your friends, they won’t judge you for asking questions. They should want to help you and want you to feel included.
Eli Rahamim my brother got a 1510 on the SAT and I have troubles in many of my classes. Lmao I’m kind of in a bad situation
Thanks man, I don’t know if I should do this but I’m the guy who wrote the first email and this helps, people telling me that I don’t have to compare myself or that they shouldn’t judge me really helps❤️
@@masonf.7630 hey man. I dont know if this helps but I would be considered one of the 'smart kids' in my year/grade. Whenever someone asks me a question or anything I never look down on them because they are "inferior" I find joy in the fact I can help someone out. There definitely are people who are assholes and will scoff at you because of their own inflated self importance but they're present in every facet of life, even people with nothing going for them can be superior assholes. If the smart guys really are your friends then there's no need to feel inferior around them because I personally value other things far more than intelligence in my friends. It's not like your social group is a club with a minimum grade entry requirement, you just have been brought together by circumstace because of your ability and interest in science/ computer club in schlatts case.
I would recommend that you use this mindset to push yourself because I've kinda lost alot of motivation recently, but I wont get into that here. That seems like a whole other email.
Baberino Good brain you have, keep using it
And as quickly as he came...he vansished
When they needed him the most he vanished
i began to cry during the second part. two years ago, i had the same sort of situation where my best friend called me out all of the sudden for taking it too far. she, too, swore at me, and i immediately went into shock.
i admitted to my behaviour and truly wanted to change, but she didn’t give me another chance and it ended a 4 year long friendship. looking back, i realize it’s much more mature to have reflected on my actions rather than to have continued to possibly ruin more relationships.
thank you so much schlatt for your anicdotes and advice. i wish i had found this channel sooner!
the first question really resonated with me because i’m in ap classes and feel so dumb being surrounded by super smart people. your advice made me feel way better. thank you schlatt!
I love this schlatt. I listen to shoegaze music and make csgo maps whilst listening to this and it really chills me. Also I've been on your channel since quite early in your youtube career and it is crazy seeing your live account rack up views. It's great to see you get the recognition you deserve. :)
Loveless, Souvlaki, GoE, or Moondiver?
@@moondiver1987 Souvlaki and Loveless ;)
damn I'm listening to souvlaki right now, great minds truly do think alike
@@2Pii I enjoy DIIV's stuff too. They have some shameless MBV worships on their new album and I love it
This series is my favorite on RUclips. I appreciate so much how you are not disconnected from your fans and will compile their emails to give them advice. It’s awesome.
i dont understand why or how Schlatt can be the funniest guy i've ever come across on youtube, but at the same time also be the most wholesome person helping random people he doesn't even know, so wholesome and kind to the point where i can't help but see my own faults and try to go about fixing myself, and i cry.
thank you for being who you are, Schlatt
Schlatt, do audible books.
Your acting is incredible. You put so much emotion into these words, that I feel like you, yourself wrote, and we're having these crisis's in your life.
don't stop making these
i’m realizing that i relate to a lot of these people, i don’t even need to send in my own problems they got it all covered for me lmao
Thank you for doing these, I really do love listening to them.
You know I remember hearing about the weekly slap once and I completely brushed it off because I thought it was another kind of leafyishere thing, but when I discovered you I eventually found this channel and I am in awe at how if I had just given this a chance, I would of been introduced to you earlier and your wisdom. Goes to show that you shouldn't knock somethin til you try it, fellas.
Godamn I didn’t know Schlatt was such a nice guy out of character. Whenever I’m feeling down, I’m gonna watch another of these. These are so great.
I'd like to know how those people actually write to Schlatt.. I mean I want to write to Schlatt and take his advice because I really need an advice
@PyremagiiKKriimson yeah but whats his email
jschlatt@pm.me
@@hattu7924 Thank you!! I've been looking for his email for months :')
@@ezrahuszti7764 no worries :D
@@hattu7924 yass i was looking for his email too tysm
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For the first guy, I have to say I felt the same way for a long time through my high school career. As a Senior, I have friends going to MIT and the Naval academy, and because of that I've had to learn to get over that feeling of inadequacy and fear of not being good enough. One of the main reasons I did is because as Schlatt said, these people wanted to lift me up and help. These people around you 9/10 will be more than happy to try and help you if you have a question, and they wouldn't see you as a lesser, they would see you as a comrade.
Listening to you talking about stuff like this genuinely helped with life man thank you
schlatt funny-loud mic is incredible to watch from a comedy standpoint,, but this schlatt? nothing beats being able to hear from the genuine person behind the camera. i really appreciate you dude, you've helped me a lot,, and hearing the real you who isn't doing a bit is so nice. thank you
that first question kinda hit where it hurts, i’m in the exact same situation and that advice really helped
the guy smarter than you appears to be smarter because deep down he isnt sure about himself(or her im a guy so im kinda just talkin bout my self) they try to do things well and try to seem smart because thats almost slowly became apart of their brand they feel vulnerable empty so they try to act smart and better than other people with out really like telling them your better than them to make themselves feel better. we all the same people, i dont wanna tell you their people smarter than you or dumber than you thats just a given just make sure you walk your own path you could force your way down another guys path trying to be like him and maybe it would work but that guy got problems in his life too dont try to be someone else because you feel these negative ways try to be your own good person be that guy that goes to a good college to do something he likes to do not that guy that goes to harvard because he wants to be smart, but this is juts my opinion and im just some freshman
God I never realized how kind and honest Schlatt actually was until this video. The videos I've seen of Schlatt have been of him being an ass in a jokingly way, scamming people in Minecraft and making fun of them. But I see that was all a bit. Schlatt you probably will never see this but I want you to know that I am glad that you exist. Thank you so much for being such a kind and generous and overall BEAUTIFUL person. Please keep making this kind of content, this brings light to my dark days. Who knows? I may email you a question in the future haha!
~I Remain, Big E
man, i always love listening to schlatt's advice and reading the extremely wholesome comments
You're like the dad that everyone wishes they had growing up
"I got a 1410 on the SAT" casually. I think my school average is like 950 or something.
Just like the Avatar, he leaves when we need him most
He’s finally living up to the name WEEKLYslap
Now Schlatt, don’t you be making me cry this early on a Monday morning
I have a bad habit of making jokes about my friends and myself. And I realise sometimes I go to far. But when I go too far I take a step back apologize and explain myself. I think apologizeing and asking how others feel really helps me.
I have almost always been surrounded by friends who’s only source of humor were these types of jokes. I used to have a friend who did this constantly, went over the line almost all the time, never apologized, and I had to drop him. I think he rubbed off on me. Those jokes became my humor and all I did was make these jokes. It gets worse when the entire group you are with does it to one person, like a punching bag. I have always made sure to check up on that person and apologize afterwards if it went too far, but I know how you feel. I feel like I am nice to people I do not know well, but for some reason I am the most annoying and biggest asshole to my friends. Should it not be the other way around? This is not the type of person I want to be, and I have made an effort to change. Because apologizing isn’t enough, you have to actually do something. I feel like this is the world we live in, especially in the internet era. Hurtful jokes to people you consider friends can make an impact even if you don’t mean to. Ironically, the same person I had to drop a long time ago recently came onto my hockey team, and he became the laughing stock. There would be games where he wouldn’t talk to us and sit in silence. And regardless of all the hurtful and terrible things he has done to me and other friends, I checked up on him. I made it known that I cared about him. I find myself apologizing too often, and it is time to make a change. I don’t know if this is true for everyone, but in my experience all good comes from bad. You can find yourself making these jokes once in a while, but don’t let it become more than a playful jab. After realizing that I am doing to others what has been done to me, I have made an effort to stop. Both of us realizing the problem and making an effort to stop is how we become good. I hope you can make your friends lives better and feel better about yourself, because this is how we make the world a better place. Best of luck to you.
@@colinchambless4418 It takes time to change my friend. As long as YOU know you’re working on yourself, then that should matter a lot at the end of the day. I was and am the punching bag for almost every friend I’ve ever had. I’ve never made really offensive jokes to my friends but they’ve always made really across the line jokes about suicide, racial, and about what I have going on myself. Anyways I ended up dropping the relationship between me and that group because I was in a really bad place (and also because I finally graduated and didn’t have to see them anymore). Not only mentally but also the wound on my heart became really huge. Now I’m a bit sensitive but I don’t go out my way to talk shit back or anything i just get hurt easily and become really depress after hitting small matter less bumps in my life.
@@zeal9274 thanks for that. I totally know it can have a drastic impact on somebody if done incorrectly, and thankfully none of the friends I’ve had have appeared to be in a really dark place, except the one who hurt me a long time ago. When I realized this I stopped making jokes about him altogether except for the occasional jab like he would make back at us and talked to him, and he appreciated it a lot. It sucks because I never wanted to be like that, but after almost all the friends I’ve had make jokes like this, it’s hard not to have it rub off on you. I’m working on changing, I really am, but the scars from when I was the butt of a joke taken over the line and my habit of making the jokes have made it so incredibly hard to do this. But, I’m trying. So thank you, because it really means a lot.
@@zeal9274 and it will get better, you will find people who can understand where the line is and if they cross it, they will emphatically apologize, if that is the type of people you want to be around. Or maybe you’ll find people who don’t make these jokes at all, and that’s who you want to spend time with. But you also are going to find the right people for you. The people that no matter what don’t make you feel like shit. It will get better, that wound will heal, trust me. You just gotta take your time and meet new people. I sincerely hope you find the right people for you end that wound heals. Good luck man.
I want to share a little of my experience on the second question.
Back when I finished Primary school I had a best friend whom for the first 3 years of his Primary school life never verbally communicated (aside the usual nod) with anyone aside from the teachers which was often in secrecy or whispers that others could never hear. I tried my best to open him up whenever we had classes together or met during recess. Maybe I had an attraction to him (didn't know that I liked guys and yes I'm a guy) but didn't know back then but I really persuaded him to open up. Finally when we were in Primary 4, he started talking to me which I took as a sign that he trusted and wanted me to be his friend.
When we finished our PSLE (Primary School Leaving Examinations) I didn't care much about my grades and it was scored below average. I wanted to apply into the same school as he did but I was 1 point short of the Secondary School that he has applied. You can try your best and appeal but my parents fear that I would get bullied if I were thrown into a bad neighborhood school so they didn't risk it. Back then, I took it as a sign that my parents didn't bother to try and appeal. This started a grudge within me that later on shaped my secondary school life.
When I reached Secondary School, I started the year making friends and also plotting on how to get back at the school who separated me from my best friend (forgive my thoughts then, I was still very immature). I took the role of a vice-chairperson in the class and thought I was in somewhat of a position of power. Long story short, 6 months down the line, I reported a minor incident about a student that happen during class to my form teacher. He was considered to be a popular kid in class and outting him would be the best way to "get back" at the school. In the end, he shoved me against the wall, questioned why I did I betrayed his trust in front of the entire class and from then I was outcasted from my cohort. No one remembered that I existed if I was gone or sick. I started to become depressed and started to count the days instead of looking forward to anything in general.
This stigma stuck with me for 10+ years and I never got out of the mindset that I'm a "scum". Because of it, I let people stepped all over me, sexually harassed and can't stare into a mirror longer than a second not thinking that I'm a terrible person. What I've done to cope in the past is to make crude jokes about me being a scummy person or just admit the fact that I'm a bad person.
At the start of this year I decided to stop riding the emotional roller-coaster everyday due to flashbacks or events that trigger those thoughts. I've been writing on my gratitude journal everyday and happy to say that I can look at myself in the mirror and feeling somewhat appreciative of myself. I still think I'm a scum in some sense, but it's been 4 months and the conversation in my head has already progressed a lot more than the past 10 years.
If anyone is looking for solace reading this, know that it will get better with the right people, mindset, and attitude. You don't need people, or things to want to be better for yourself. I can say after much self-hatred, you just need you and only you. No matter how good or bad you are, you're still you. People have already decided if they want to accept that side of you or not. You just got to make that jump to accept all facades about yourself.
Thanks for the advice man, I hope you’re doing well now
I never knew schlatt was this relatable I heard the second story and I connected with it because I moved into a new high school freshman year and acted like an ass and got very few friends out of it , I guess everyone is a person no matter how popular they are
Schlatts voice is so nice to just sit and listen to.
"Alt" girls: schlatt is a bad guy
Schlatt:
I’ve had a really rough few months mentally, and I just wanted to say both questions hit me very close to home and I feel that your advice will, even if it may not seem like much, really help me in the long run. I’m glad that you made this video and just wanted to say how much some people appreciate your advice.
These first guy is the exact opposite of me not that Im smart or some shit. I didn't have a proper friend group that helped better me. And I really regretted the fact I threw away my oppurtunity to be surrounded by people who would be good role models. It fucking hurts me deep inside, but I don't really regret it because I hated being told by my parents to study hard and get one of those medals for four years that I broke down and gave up. I never really recovered from that so it is still fogging my mind and I have a meltdown every night thinking I should have done the right thing but it was done. My parents god bless them are good parents but they never really take me seriously and the only time they would hear me out is if I make a mistake or if I didn't do what they wanted me to do. And when I do have a fit and cry over how I feel my whole family would think I am overreacting or some shit. Now I just keep my mouth shut even if I am uncomfortable with them giving me shit for no reason. The only real escape I have now is youtube, and studying. I'm trying to catch up with old colleagues right now because I just feel like everyone needs to open up even a little and I find it really interesting that everyone I talked to has faced the same dillemma but have different reasons why the dillemma happend and how they try to solve it. Maybe I find it interesting because I want to solve my shit too but cant find a proper solution.
And this video just made me want to tell my story to strangers who don't know my name because this quarantine maybe taking a toll off of your psyche. Just speak out the shit in your chest to anyone and maybe the can share their own stories and you can find some comfort that you aren't the only one going eating life's ass. Thank you Schlatt for this video. I went rambling on this my bad.
Honestly I’m glad people open up even if it’s online it makes me happy to see people want to change and be something better it’s the only thing that really keeps me going knowing that someday someone is going to need me in a certain situation which could be life changing I know I’m not the funniest,smartest,or the best looking person but I try and I hope one day it will count for something
If anyone relates to the first question, remember that the only race you’re in is the race with yourself. Do yourself a favor and search for “Sunscreen”, it’s a speech from Baz Luhrmann. It’s what helped me put everything into perspective when I was that sophomore. Your friends, are there to help you, and I’ve learned that it helps to pride yourself on who you choose to align with and what they plan on doing. The track you’re on is uniquely yours and their track is uniquely theirs. Celebrate big moments along those tracks, and remember what’s best for your friend may not be best for you.
This next bit is not as well worded as I wish it could be but I’m trying my best so my apologies.
As a junior, I’m currently looking for where my track will take me after next year, and I know my friends are too. I have already been offered some amazing opportunities for my undergraduate education, but I have refrained from immediately accepting one over another. I did this, because I know I have options and want to choose the best option, fit for me.
Yeah, maybe I can get into my top choice, but how practical is my top choice? As a freshman I wanted to go to the University of Chicago, one of the hardest schools to get into, and upon the most prestigious. I liked it for that reason. Looking back at that, I know that I would never be able to afford UChicago, let alone be admitted. You may think Harvard is the place for you, but as I’m learning, there are so many different variables to what your best school is. I dreamed of Harvard when I was younger, but I dream of smaller, more practical schools now.
I don’t mean to diminish Harvard in any way, I plan on applying in the fall, and it would be an outstanding opportunity for me. But I know it’s not the end of the world if I don’t make it, I have other schools to fall back on, and those may come with better options-a full ride versus the cost of Harvard, better academics for what I plan to major in, etc.
As for asking for help from your friends, I’m sure there have been times where people have come to you for help, whether it is academic help or not. It feels good to give help, of course; but what a lot of people forget is that it feels really good to get help, too. By getting help you are taking the weight of figuring it out on your own off of your shoulders. It’ll help you, I promise. Taking the leap and asking for it is the biggest step, and once you do it, you should be proud of yourself.
And, I know not all schools are the same, but at my high school, we have a part of the library devoted to student tutors, who you can come to with questions. Like Schlatt said, going to the teacher can also help. They’re the ones who know the curriculum like the back of their hands, and can give you the best advice on how to maneuver it.
If you ever need some extra help for anything, academic or otherwise, I bet I’ve got some time on my hands, if you’ve exhausted your other resources. I wouldn’t mind giving a hand. :)
And seriously, wear sunscreen.
I’m with you on this one. Having been that sophomore as well had proven to be a difficult time. In any field, education, or work, there will always be that competition, as Schlatt said. Those feelings still carry with me to this day- feelings of inadequacy, feeling inferior- but not in the same way. Before, I would let them control me. Instead of using my friends to help build me up, I kept everything to myself. I resented those above me, those in the top percents, because I was so close but never as smart. It took a long time to overcome that. When I first started looking for colleges, prestige meant everything to me. I was looking at some tough schools, Carnegie, Case, and a few others. For some reason, I reached out to some friends. Their ambitions, their plans. I realized is absolutely nothing wrong with other colleges. In fact, prestige means very little, especially in the undergraduate field. I ended up going to a public college, and I have zero regrets. I love it here. Yes, it depends on your major, but as an undergraduate, most educations will be very similar. Don’t write off smaller (or larger) schools for that reason. Granted, I couldn’t exactly afford the private options, but they were there. However the resources and connections in college are what make it special. I’ve found a great group of friends here, who by all means are smarter than me. I’m surrounded by amazing, talented people to look up to. Research opportunities are key as well, and by being around those people they will be sure to come. Being that sophomore is not a curse. It may seem like an infinite middle ground, but it’s really a good opportunity that I am grateful for. Hopefully this helps in some capacity.
Holy... the first email really resonated with me too, thanks for the advice, I love watching these videos.
The bad person one and your response really resonated with me well. Thank you Successful business man Jschlatt.
Bro I feel like I seen this video already but man does it hit this time around. (How 'recent' it is also shocked me)
I relate to both questions (though the bad person one went in a way I wasn't expecting but different experience for the same feeling)
Hearing that "I'm not at the end" essentially when it comes to feeling like a bad person is so helpful. If I feel that way and recognize it I still have time and even though I might not know what to do about it (just yet, hopefully) I know that I do indeed want to do something about it (or at least that I should bc it's not a good feeling) and can start figuring out what to do.
Thanks Schlatt. This advice does indeed slap.
this is the part of schlatt that Twitter stans don't see. truly makes me upset
“There’s some kid out there working harder than me and will probably beat me one day”
Tommyinnit be like B)
I like seeing schlatt becoming real for a while comedy isnt just everything sometimes the funniest person is the most serious and hardworking one thats why thank you for the great content schlatt hopefully i might see more from this channel you earn my respect and admiration to you.
Back in middle school, I used to be a sort of class clown and I tried to make people laugh by either making fun of others or myself. On the last day of school in 6th grade I ran away when we were doing a class signing of a card for my math teacher, and I had to stand outside the class while everyone else was having fun. I realized that I wanted to have more self-respect and also respect from others, and the next school year I became a more quiet and studious kid. I stopped talking in situations where I would’ve before, and I distanced myself from social groups (not entirely, but enough to focus on myself). I think sometimes it’s a good idea to take time alone, letting your friends know and thinking about steps you can take to set up better habits.
For 2nd guy: I was the same way when I was younger, until I moved and was in an unfamiliar environment with new people. I was uncomfortable and they could see it, so now I was the one being insulted and bullied constantly. This perspective change really opened my eyes to the way I behaved before, and served to help me mellow out. Friendly insults and joking with friends is one thing and its fine, but now I'm sure to compliment them when I can just so they know that I'm joking and that I see their strengths as well as their weaknesses
I genuinely miss the weekly slap. A lot of these commentary videos helped me, particularly through these recently grim times.
there's this saying for the first question, if you're the smartest person in the room, you're in the wrong room.
To schlatt and everyone that sent in an email, thank you so much for helping me through my junior year of high school. I started out at a really bad place and just watching all these inboxes helped me figure out what I want to do and be the kind of person I want to be. Thank you.
I always come back to this video, I relate to the second question
i really hope schlatt does more of these, ive watched them all multiple times and i wish there were more, schlatt if you see this. we love your videos and please make more.
oh boy
@@sketroux4580 this comment has really aged fast
Not super related but it can be hard to deal with feelings of inadequacy. When I was still a child, I understood that I had a harder time with school and learning in general than other kids. My parents made sure never to compare me to other kids and let me know I shouldn’t either, but I’ve always secretly thought to myself, “what is wrong with me?” I’ve never been an honors kid, all regular classes all my life. In high school, I got the chance to take some AP classes and barely scraped by. I spent close to two years studying for the ACT and SAT close to 10 hours a week and managed to pull a high score of 30. I was really proud of myself. When I applied for colleges, case Western seemed like a reach school for me but I was accepted to my delight and surprise. When I started meeting people like friends, roommates, I found out pretty much all of them were honors kids or AP kids. I started to feel like I was really out of place and I’m struggling to maintain a high gpa. But the fact that I still managed to get into this school and am at least passing, is already a miracle and I shouldn’t take that for granted or feel as ashamed about it as I do. It’s always good to remind yourself of all your accomplishments to keep your head up when you feel this sense of inadequacy.
alot of people naturally make themselves seem better than they are for impressions im sure everyone you talked to has had their struggles in life. those kids you talk to you think are better than you probably make them selves seem cooler because they feel they arent good enough. everyone will find something wrong with themselves and look to someone else to be like them, i feel you shouldnt wish to be like these people there are probably different problems that they deal with, if i had any advice i probably cant give good ones youve probably tried it but maybe just enjoy studying study with some friends but make sure you actually study have a good time and you might remember it better i cant tell you whatll work or what to do better than you tho. doesnt really go with what your saying to much im just saying stuff and hoping people take something from it
how does he go from hanging a baby to this motivational talk oh my god
wow. this might actually be weekly ... thank you
it may seem weird but alot of these videos have genuinely helped me; from a family death to struggling with friends. thanks schlatt. its nice to see my favorite creator using their platform for good. thank you.
You honestly have great advice its relaxing to hear someone giving advice thats not just an empty message this is real world scenarios, your amazing
I know no one will see this, and I don't care. I really enjoy this version of schlatt. It's relieving to catch a breath, and hear advice from, if not the only, one of the majorly positive male influences in my life. It's incredible to hear advice and hsvebit actually stick, like actually resonate. I didn't think I would have tear up over a fucking schlatt video at 1:30 Am, but here we are. Anywhoo, have a great life, take care of yourselves, and be good. Cheers🥂