THE STRUGGLES OF MOTHERHOOD | EXHAUSTED, LONELY, CONSTANTLY TIRED, WORRIED!
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- Опубликовано: 14 окт 2024
- I’ve made this video for other parents out there to not feel alone and just to keep it real! Always here for a chat guys xx
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Awww lovely video soph well done for being real as so many people aren’t. My girls are 17, 14 and 7 now so through the baby stage. 2.5 was definitely a hard stage for me with my children for different reasons, one had illness and one had awful tantrums and one was fine till 3 and she had tantrums at 3. The hardest thing is at this age they can’t communicate their needs and that’s why it’s so hard. Tiredness never leaves unfortunately. I think what I learnt was that with the first two (I was a lot younger) but I cared and worried about what others thought too much and I always felt like I was failing. Had pnd with the 2nd one badly. But someone said to me that behind closed doors every one is struggling in one way or another, some people are just better at not showing it than others. That always sat as a comfort to me. Behind closed doors we have absolutely no idea what’s going on. How broken some people are. It’s been a comfort again recently as I’m in the midst of teen difficulties. What I did learn was that although while you are in it, it is really hard, the baby days do end and things do get easier and it is short. You will look back only with fondness. When I had my third with a gap I just kept telling myself it’s all a phase so i could enjoy it more. I think I’ve learnt how to mum better in that I only do what matters to us and needs doing rather than what society thinks we should do. and I’m more relaxed with the third one. She is also keeping me going in the teenage challenges. I have learnt how to run my home to what suits us and that’s not what everyone else might think. We don’t have loads of clothes as I don’t want to do loads of washing or store them. I’ve hardly bought any clothes for child 3 as I get hand me downs which I am so grateful for. I’m currently learning now I’m back at work after 15 years of being sahm that we as mums can delicate out. My youngest had a school May Day thing and last minute invited parents. I couldn’t go but I sent my older daughter. A few years ago that would have distraught me as only I could do that. A video taken and she loved that as long as someone goes. That has taken pressure off. Having said that we didn’t have a good support system back in the day but we do now. Just a couple of good friends and family are everything- you definitely need a village and it sounds like you’ve got that. You are such a good mum soph and you and Liam being a team is key!! You’ve got so much nailed already that took me years to learn. Xx ❤
This is what I needed to hear! Thank you so much for your honesty and kindness! We all need to support each other ❤️❤️❤️
Just at the beginning of watching but I really believe if you have an easy newborn, then you get a more challenging toddler to balance things out!
My first son was an incredible newborn. Like you, kept being told to wake him up. Slept through the night from birth pretty much, never cried, could take him anywhere!!
Since he turned two, he refuses to go to bed alone and takes hours to fall asleep (like until way after 10pm). He is the opposite of chilled out and very very high energy/emotion. So exhausting.
My second son was a difficult new born. Colic, never slept, only fell asleep with the boob until a year. Never napped. But he is the easiest toddler! So cuddly and happy. You ask him not to do something, he stops. You ask him to get dressed; he does it. Hence my theory!
That’s so interesting isn’t it!!! I hope it gets easier for us both xx
Agree about the newborn stage being easier! I have a 5 year old and a 16 month old and give me a newborn any day for the easier life 🤣 love the ages my two are at but it’s hard. Totally relate, the tiredness & mental load takes over but still the best thing I’ve ever done & totally worth it ❤ thanks for being so honest & relatable xx
I think the newborn phase was the hardest for me! That first year is a killer, I found postpartum such a struggle 😅 mine are 6,5&1 I totally relate to the constantly tired I can’t remember the last time I wasn’t tired 😂
Yes so hard isn’t it! Sorry I’ve only just seen this comment! You do incredible with 3!!
I have a just turned 4 year old now and I’m not saying it’s easy but it’s much easier than age 2-3!
Awww thanks! I’m hoping it gets easier ❤️❤️