The Wisdom of Dependence - Neufeld Keynote Address
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- Опубликовано: 8 янв 2024
- Keynote address from Neufeld Institute Conference 2023
Gordon Neufeld, PhD - neufeldinstitute.org/
There is nothing that influences our parenting or teaching more than our attitudes towards dependence and independence. We thought the message too important to bury it under a price tag.
In this keynote address, Dr. Neufeld goes right to the heart of the matter to reveal how today's society has been thinking about this all wrong, as opposite states rather than as co-existing dynamics. He reveals that it is in our basic nature as creatures of attachment to depend, not only as children but as adults as well. Yet, the fear of dependence continues to dominate, both in regards to ourselves and our children. Received wisdom for generations has called upon us to strive for independence for ourselves, while pushing for independence in our children and students. In so doing, we not only have become stuck and dysfunctional, but we have thwarted Nature in its attempts to take care of us.
We hope you find this timely address and its follow-up panel informative, inspirational and even transformational.
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This is such an inspiring talk. I will highly recommend this to other families and friends.
Deeply resonates with my felt experience growing up and my own inner knowing. Thank you for putting words to this deep deep truth and naturalness. Could listen to you for days....
So much wisdom, thank you for sharing this.
Genius ! Thank you , Dr Neufeld.
At t=10:50 is the concentrated wisdom: "you can't get to independence without going through dependence ... and some dependencies are forever"
I like the concept but feel like it might be missing the other half of the story. In other words, is one always supposed to be dependent on the others? Is the Alpha always tied to their dependents? In marriage, if one spouse is dependent on the other but the other doesn't have the same level of reciprocity, it seems to me that could be highly problematic. Likewise for parent-child relationships. To use your example of fruit being dependent on the tree, does the fruit not fall off the tree and become its own tree, no longer being dependent on its parent tree?