Sadly, many fathers would agree with this, and won't see anything disgusting or creepy about it. They would say "It's a man who loves his daughter and doesn't want any guy to use his daughter as a sex object and/or get his daughter pregnant." They think they know what they are talking about. There was a time when fathers did stuff like all of the time like having a gynecologist check their daughter's hymen to see if they were still a virgin or not (the rapper T.I. had that done to his daughter). Stuff like that are disgusting and creepy (and sexist too). If you properly teach your daughter how to be careful and how to be responsible when dating, then most likely everything is going to be ok when she dates. The reason why so many girls tend to get hurt (psychologically or physically or both) and/or get pregnant when dating is because boys and girls are not properly taught about dating and sex by their parents. The key to preventing girls from getting pregnant in high school and to date the right people and be in healthy relationships is to teach them (and boys too) about safe sex and dating and boundaries when it comes to that stuff. A parent needs to be teaching their kids about this stuff instead of the opposite. Sadly, a lot of fathers avoid teaching their daughters about this stuff and try sheltering them from it, and that can actually be harmful because girls are not going to have enough information when they are exposed to this stuff for the first time.
Also, there many fathers who won't allow their daughters to date, but they will allow their sons to date. I believe that the reason why there's a lot of guys who only use girls for sex is because they are not raised right. I think it's mostly the fathers at fault since many of them encourage their sons to date and don't make a big deal about the amount of girls they sleep with, but it's the complete opposite with their daughters. These fathers are both selfish and hypocritical! They're ok with their son dating and sleeping with someone else's daughter and potentially hurting her or/and causing her problems, but it's not ok when someone else's son does that with their daughter. They only care when it's their daughter and not someone else's is. By doing that, fathers are just giving the message that men should be praised for the amount of sex that they have, while women should be shamed for it, and that's wrong. So parents need to be focusing a lot more on teaching their sons about respecting women and to never use them for sex when dating them, and they need to be teaching them more about boundaries when dating or asking girls out.
Where is the male equivalent for moms and sons? Why are the moms excluded from this ritual with their daughters? Why must girls be married to a man their entire lives - first their dads, then their husbands? Why are they teaching their daughters they need male affirmation at all? These people are sick.
I know it's sick. My dad always encouraged me to think for myself and be independent. He never believed that a woman needs to know herself and want a man in her life.
It’s not sick. Girls have a sacred mission given by God to be future mothers when they mature. Besides stay at home moms are statistically proven to be happier than single and childless career women.
@@Concerned_one I believe in Gods purpose and that women have roles just as men do, but shaming them and controlling them isn’t the way to do it. The dad and the mom need to raise the children correctly not whatever this is
They speak the same language as me, yet I feel like an anthropologist watching this. I think Freud might have had a thing or two to say about these dads, as well.
@@simonpedersen9703 Their mindset is not Middle Eastern, it's an American glamourized version of the Christian bigotry that was common in Europe in the past and that you can still find a bit in some bigoted villages/areas in Europe (and clearly also in similar areas in the US).
It isnt actually. Strong Father figures are supposed to ensure their daughters remain chaste until marriage because if chastity isn’t valued in a society then it will lead to moral decay in that society.
To A True and Dedicated Religitard, That's All Their Daughters Are! To Be Married Off or Traded for Some Livestock or Sold to Her Rapist for 50 Gold Shekels According to The Old Testament!
There’s nothing wrong with fathers taking care of their daughter’s chastity. It’s better for the girls since they will not be sucked into toxic and morally degrading hookup culture.
I think it's wrong to make these girls believe that they're nothing more than their virginity and to only believe what men tell them that they are. You're pure, intelligent, beautiful, or worth time unless a man tells you that you are.
@@senister14 You have the right to stay single forever, if no one meets your expectations. And you have the right to be with someone who doesn't match you, if all the ones that would be a good match aren't "special" enough to you because they have already been with someone.
I applaud Shelby, she seems like such a nice, intelligent girl and it's awesome to see her take a stand and take control of her own life. It takes a lot of guts to break free from a lifestyle that's been guilting you since you're child on how to behave and the harsh consequences of disobedience. Well done, girl!
3:33 "Am I beautiful? That's the questions I think every girl wants answered... And Dad's there to give me that affirmation. Otherwise I would be floundering, going... you know hanging on every guy going... Ok am I pretty am I beautiful am I worth pursuing? And that's Dad's role in my life." Wow. That's sad.
@@JFCotman Huh - I don't understand your question. What does "not getting ran through" mean? To be clear - I think the whole idea of looking to a man for you're worth is horrible. I'm wondering if maybe you're reading my above comment backwards. I think this whole purity ball thing and looking for Daddy to say the girls are beautiful is damaging to the girls, to the women they are growing to be, and to society. That's what's sad.
@@TheMusicGuy not as lonely as these girls who will have the dullest sex life after they find out that their rapist husband has a 2 inch dick, waiting all of those years just to be dissapointed
"'Am I beautiful?' that's a question I think every girl wants answered... And dad's there to give me that affirmation, otherwise I would be floundering... hanging on every guy being like, 'Am I pretty? Am I beautiful? Am I worth pursuing?'" These are the questions that plague you as a woman? Are you worth pursuing? I mean really? And all you need in life is to hear a man - ANY man - tell you "yes, you are". These people have so many issues I don't know where to begin. The parents' first mistake is raising their children to believe that a woman's worth (her entire worth as a human being, the one thing that is more important than any other thing) is her beauty and her sexuality (particularly a lack of sexual desire and activity). All other self esteem issues, all other misogynistic issues, stem from that mistake. And to all the people who are shocked that people disagree with this type of belief system: I am not telling people to have sex. If you don't want to, before marriage or ever, THAT'S FINE. I do not care. I am also not telling people to behave irresponsibly. But number one, having sex does not equate to a lack of responsibility. And number two, to be quite honest, the purity movement is irresponsible.
9:17: "Take back territory that the enemy has stolen over the years". 10:14: "Encourage them to rise up as men in war for their families and their children". Men that, in absence of an actual enemy, make up one so that they have something to fight against. So insecure of them.
I love how at 8:04 that man is getting uncomfortable while his wife is talking enthusiastically about explicit and glorious sex talk with their daughers... he's signalling that he doesn't like her talking like that, but she's either choosing to ignore the signs or just genuinely not seeing them, and she keeps talking talking talking... it's probably one of very few times he's not having things his way, and I LOVE IT. It's probably also one of very few times he's being embarrassed by someone talking sex that involves HIS sexuality (I guess the mom told the girls what the two of them do in bed, in detail) but he's not having a say... which is what his daughters and all the other purity movement daughters experience all the time... ah, a tiny spoonful of KARMA. He probably reprimanded his wife soon after though.
It's 7 children (9 was referred to children + parents). An in another documentary they say they also had several miscarriages. But you know what? It's ok that they had as much unprotected intercourse as they wanted... providing it was all 100% consensual. That is not the sick part.
as someone that has a lot of painful sexual dysfunction because of a religious upbringing that shamed sex, I don't think a lot of these girls are going to enjoy their wedding night much. Or sex after that, for that matter. You can't just be ok with sex and your body one day after hearing all of these messages from such a young age and thinking it's sinful.
They don’t think that sex within marriage is sinful. In fact it’s better to believe sex outside marriage is sinful than to engage in immoral adultery within hookup culture.
The pseudo incest here is so creepy. Notice how they all kiss their dad on the lips and refer to him as there husband until marriage. If you want to be a virgin you don't need to pledge it to anyone. Surely keeping it classy is keeping it between whatever consenting adults do in their own bedrooms. All children need sex education it is so stupid not too.
I’m lucky to never have a creepy father obsession with my virginity is so incestuous that they don’t seem to teach them the dangers of men and women taking advantage of children my dad taught me at an early age to protect myself from danger
I am a practicing Christian/Catholic, and yet... I find this video disturbing... They make "marriage" look like assurance of a man's right to sexually own/deprive their partner. What even sickens me is that it's between a father and daughter... obvious points aside, why does a father need to assert his role (to aid the mom and to protect/provide for his children) on his daughter and go on to control the decisions and wants for his daughter? It's as if he is telling the kid that her feeble female mind will cause her to sin, and any life choice the girl makes would be a reflection on him, since he is "in control of her mind." Note that this is all about the daughter; you would probably never hear about a parent asserting control of his/her son's mind, since "boys will be boys" and fornication is inevitable. Why this will fail? Because, when the girl is out in the real world without daddy to control her mind, she could get away with anything she wants. In fact, girls who were raised in this environment are more likely to make risky life choices than people raised "normally." Yes, biology plays a role, but if a woman is taught that she cannot control her biology without daddy, then she will be lost and ultimately act on natural impulses, rather than controlling them. Instead of all this masculine display of power and objectification of women, fathers (and, more so, mothers) should educate their daughters to make wise decisions in regards to their bodies and life choices. We don't need to be subjected to this humiliation :o
Dad's do play an important role in every daughter's life-- but this is just way too much... I went to 'daddy daughter dances' when I was younger and we had FUN, danced and laughed. I mean it was like a date, but I was young and that's okay. This is just so so so creepy. These men are creeps. They can treat their daughter like a princess and raise them right without being their creepy ass boyfriend.
Imagine being as concerned about being seen as pretty, as Jordan. My parents gave me way better compliments: smart, hard working, strong, creative, and mature. I’m sure I got you look nice’ from my parents, but I knew pretty was the least valuable of attributes. I don’t care if I’m attractive to people. I’d be way more afraid of being seen as week, stupid, lazy, etc, than being seen as ugly. I feel bad for any girl that thinks feeling ugly is the worst fate for women.
I knew a woman who was upset that her young son learned an offensive term at school. She was more upset at the loss of innocence than anything else, wanting to protect him and keep him from outside (corrupting) influences for as long as possible. I think to some extent this is similar, sexuality plays into it, but it's not so much about being overly concerned with the specifics of the daughters sexual life as it is about the loss of innocence, a father wanting to keep her his 'little girl' for as long as possible. And I realize there is some overlap, but I hope I'm making sense of what I'm trying to get across, that it's not 'just' about sexuality. However, the idea that a girl loses her innocence once she has sex is a very harmful way of thinking, and it comes across as shaming women for being sexual. And also, your kid needs to know about the (corrupting) influences of the world in order to make good decisions later on in their life. Sheltering your kid from stuff like this is not always a good thing and can actually be very harmful in the long run. Also, it's very creepy and disgusting that the fathers who have their daughters be in purity balls will try to be surrogate boyfriends to them. These fathers who have their daughters be in purity balls, they're not being "overprotective". Like many fathers, they just don't want their daughters to ever have sex, deep in the recesses of their minds. Many fathers make jokes about it. You can google "So you want to date my daughter" and come up with endless memes from men who are trying to scare all young men away. However, when you are a father and you have a daughter, you have to accept the fact that your daughter is going to have sex someday, and she needs acknowledge about these kind of things in order to make good decisions when faced with them. Sheltering them from these kind of things can end up actually causing them a lot of harm in the long run. To me, it's very disturbing, creepy, and disgusting when a father obsesses over his daughter's sex life.
The woman looking for affirmation from a man as to whether she is pretty or not is a sad case. Fuck what men think. Only care what you think and build self confidence. Never derive ones self worth nor meaning from another person.
Besides that fact that this is super ultra creepy with the idea that fathers own a girl's "virginity" and decisions regarding her body, but also the fact that the whole purity culture, especially these purity balls, teaches young women that their self worth is tied to the men in their lives (father, than husband). Why not teach our young people to find their OWN self worth, instead of tying it to a person? Teach them that their virginty has no weight on who they are as a person, and that only THEY can make decisions regarding their own bodies. Your body is your's-not anybody else's, and especially not your daddy's.
There's a lot of talk among these people about girls' worth being defined by their beauty and their purity. Well, what about girls who aren't so pretty or who have been "defiled" by things like rape? They're worthless????!!! WTF?! I hope my daughters know that their worth is based on MANY things like intelligence, spunk, kindness, their interests, etc. Beauty is just one part of the equation, and not the largest part. I hope my daughters have autonomy and make their own sexual decisions based on trust and a respect for self and the other (person who they are with). It is not up to a father or a husband where and when and how a female expresses her sexuality.
This sounds like a The Handmaid's Tale thing. Daughters who are "married" with their father because the only important thing they have is their virginity. Very dystopic and creepy.
The part that the girls says: "Every girl wants to know if they are beautiful. And my dad is there to tell me I am beautiful and worth pursuing, until my husband comes along to tell me the same thing." She says something like that. How problematic is that in so many ways? Like her value is in her beauty and also it can only be granted by a male affirmation. Plus, eight-year-old girls promising to stay pure until marriage... Do they even get what they're promising? But, I mean, I respect them doing their thing if that's what they believe. I just can't imagine it working for me or my family.
Why is our society so obsessed with basing women's worth off of men, instead of why they should actually love themselves: their intelligence, creativity, talent, and power.
some of the girls at the purity ball look so young. these girls are being taught that they're valuable objects, that belong to your father or husband. Your body belongs to you, and you have all authority over it
This absolutely disgusts me. Knowing myself, I have read the bible, been to church, been told to stay "pure" until marriage, and have been told on multiple occasions that I'll be considered a slut or a whore if I have sex before "God sends the right man to lead me". Now, let me tell you something I'm probably going to be judged for. I first became sexually active at the age of 14, but not because I felt that I had a choice in the matter. I was pushed (NOT FORCED) to receive and give sexual acts to my first official boyfriend. He said if I didn't do these things that he would tell everyone what he had done to me, that I was a whore, slut, etc. I felt terrified by his threats and harassment, so I did whatever he told me to do. Later on, I decided I didn't need him. He treated me like dirt and I wanted better, so I left him. Later, I found a guy who respected my thoughts and views; a guy who thought I was worth so much more than my body. He never pressured me to do anything I wasn't ready to do. I was in control of what I was to do with my body. I lost my virginity to him at age 15. I was scared to death he would leave me because of all the stories I had heard about guys using girls and then breaking up with them. I am still with him TO THIS DAY. You see, I have a problem with this whole "purity" bullshit. Not only did this petty concept prevent me from having knowledge about my body and how to keep myself safe from unwanted pregnancy and STD's/STI's, it made me feel as if I were useless, worthless, and unwanted because I gave away my "precious gift". I never want anyone to feel the way I did when it was my time to make a decision for myself. I don't want any girl to feel like all they have to contribute to the world is a virginity and a vagina. I don't want any girl to feel like they gave up a part of themselves when all they had to lose was a word, and that word was "virgin". In the future, I plan to teach girls and young women about their bodies, how to have safe (and enjoyable) sex, that their virginity is a social construct rather than an actual thing, and, that being a human being with wants and needs is nothing to be ashamed of.
I marvel at the amount of hateful comment here. Simply because you are used to think of your body as a machine for pleasures and immorality does not give you the right to berate the way of honour and purity.
You don't fucking know us. Sex can be a way to be very intimate and connect with your partner. I'm not saying this is the ONLY way to be intimate and connect, but it's a very strong way to. Once she feels she is ready to give away her virginity, that is HER choice to. Not her father's. Not her god's. Not even her boyfriend's. It's HERS. I just know some people are going to comment saying shit like "You're just saying this because you're a slut" or something about how I'm not Christian.
Eugene Koshanof "That is what I say - people have NO idea of purity and honour, just living for selfish pleasures" We can recognize pathological relationships with clear incestuous overtones when we see them. Read the data, from social researchers to see how these purity balls are damaging your children and your relationships. Feel all gooey and good about it now, wait 10 years and witness the fruits of your folly.
"If my dad doesn't say I'm beautiful then I'll be hanging on every guy for approval." That was a nutty statement! Aren't these girls taught self worth? Is setting them up to be a "princess" really realistic? This is just sad. Poor girls thinking their only worth is their vagina...smh My father would never have expected a man to ask his permission to marry me because my dad never treated me like a possession. He treated me like his little girl and then a strong women that could make my own choices.
I understand that the parents who organize these events have good intentions, but this is going to end badly for a lot of these girls for a plethora of reasons. For starters, the promotion of this subculture goes hand-in-hand with "Abstinence Only" sex ed, which has an abysmal success rate which has raised teen pregnancy and HIV rates in every state its practiced in. Then there's the history these traditions are based on: In several ancient Semitic cultures women were property of their fathers to be sold to their husbands at a premium. The higher the father was in the hierarchy of the village or city-state, the higher the dowry cost. A woman's virginity was meant to entail that any children were the husband's and his alone, and that a lack of virginity compromised that ownership. Of course, I doubt any of the girls in this video were told about this, after all, that would raise questions as to the utility of these balls. What bugs me the most is many of these girls are going to find that the Cinderella ideal they were sold on as the pinnacle of emotional and physical love isnt real. In fact, people raised in these environments have disproportionately high divorce and domestic abuse rates.
I hate how virginity and religion is always tied together. I'm a virgin, but yet i don't go to church nor was i homeschool. Heck i even lived with my boyfriend, who became my ex. I'm scared these girls are going to marry the first man they meet or be scared to end a courtship. Cause failure and that even feels like a sin. They need there life lessons to teach them what to believe, i agree in teaching kids wait till marriage but they need to decide, and i think a purity ball is not going to do it, they need to pledge it within themselves. I had many debates within whats okay, whats crossing the line. Everyone is there own person. These girls aren't own by daddy.
I knew a youngish lady who was forced to go to purity balls.she has gone no contact with her parents and I had a wonderful time at her wedding to my best friend
They called it a "women's movement" at the start. I don't think it's as much of a women's movement rather than religious. Also, it's quite sexist in so many ways. One of the ways it's sexist against men is that it implies sex is something that women give to men and not something that is equal.
Honestly, I kinda like that idea of making girl sure that she is beautiful and her dad "setting a standart for his daughter," but the rest is more than creepy
What strength is there in giving up rights to your body and mind and allowing yourself to become the chattel of your father whose primary function is protecting your vagina until control, under the guise of marriage, is turned over to another male? I do allow that there would be more responsibility for the men as they are responsible not only for themselves but also for the women that they own. The whole concept is perverse beyond belief.
it's not about the fathers loving their daughters, it's about them wanting to be treated like gods. i don't need anyone to validate me, and neither do those girls.
This is solely about male ego! Celebrate your daughters, create memories and bonds, but stop mixing their sexuality in to it. I'm a christian, premarital sex is not right for me, but that is MY choice and not something I chose because I was promised a ball-gown and a cheap tiara, this grosses me out!
Society has taken away the honor of women just being women. This balls allows girls to be honored for just being a women, which I think is something very special. If you have never experienced that, you will never understand.
"Society"? These balls are part of society, and are just as invested in the psychologically predatory practices that pop culture uses to sell women stupid bullshit. Hell this whole "Purity" ideal comes from a culture in which women were property to be bought and sold, and their hymens were the bronze age equivalent of a carfax report.
They claim this is about protecting women. But it’s actually to control women. Being that I was raised Catholic, my church didn’t believe in making love before marriage mainly because sex makes babies and children need stability in their homes and families are important. With that said both men and women where encouraged to save themselves for marriage as well out of respect for your life partner (and yourself). That’s it! Nothing like what these people spoke of and had nothing to do with this “purity” obsession. Good grief!
When I was in college people would ask, Youre a Christian don't you miss drinking, clubbing, eating a lot (pigging out). I would look at them and say, is that really all the world has to offer in exchange for my faith? Im a guy I was a druggy, I was a drunk, I had sex with prostitutes, I behaved awful I had no respect for people really, I was a clown everything was a joke. Now I think I wouldnt trade my faith in God for any of that stuff, I don't miss it, I have no desire to go back, my hearts been changed and even in the comment section, ladies come on do you really have anything worth trading for. When a guy walks past you and sees you with your new boyfriend all he sees is, I already had that, like a meal on the dollar menu. God bless you ladies
No, science, and facts it´s what the world have to offer to people who can grow up and think by their own as an adult, believing in fairy tales, dragons, elves or gods, doesn´t make you better and holier but weaker and dumber Guys, awake, it´s freaking 2014... it´s about time
'Hello !? Girls are not cars ! But if you want to be treated like one then prepare to be dumped every 2 or 5 years, cause that's how cars are treated.. Think about it :)' -Well said, Chris G. :)
The whole purity ball thing is weird to me. I'm a Christian, and I won't be having sex until marriage, but it seems to me that these people are going about it in the wrong way. "Purity" isn't just abstinence, it's a mind thing. I feel like to much emphasis is put on the physical side, like it's the end-all be-all of purity. And I get that dad is the head of the house and there's the whole father/daughter relationship, but it seems odd that girls are pledging to stay pure to/with their dads.
I'm not even joking, I laughed to tears during this entire thing. All statements made are contradicting to the other ones. It is sad that it happens so close to my town
My parents are religious but they never push me to be abstinent, they push me to be safe, like never have sex without a condom and sleep around with a loser I see in the street. They said if I wanted to be abstinent, it a promise I should make for myself and myself only. My dad never waited, he said if he pushed abstinence on me it will make him a hypocrite. While my mom was abstinent, her first marriage ended in a nasty divorce, when my mom married my dad, she didn't wait and they are still married. Plus my parents believed its more important to push a women to get education than stay pure until marriage since my mom always tells me, unlike your virginity, your education is something no one can take from you.
If you never actually try dating, then how do you know what you like in a person? So, youre seriously encouraging young women to never have sex, because of the "side effects", even tho it is entirely possible for a baby to be raised by either a single parent, or by 2 people who are not married, whether they be 16, or 26. Also, if youre having sex with your bf/gf, and it is a consensual partener, you most likely would know if they have an STD or not... so based on your argument, women, not men, because they are the ones who have to deal with the shame of pregnancy, need to sustain from sex until marriage; annd that its totally okay to HAVE said sex, as long as you dont get pregnant or get an std. Great!
This type of thinking teaches young girls that their worth is based on their sexual behavior (or lack thereof), instead of their intelligence, or personality. It teaches them that they're not able to make autonomous decisions about their own bodies and that they are objects to be given to other males. And, with such importance placed on virginity, I can't help but wonder how a victim of rape or sexual abuse is viewed. Is she considered "impure", as though she is damaged goods?
Wow. Nobody can tell me that this provides a happy, healthy and fulfilling sex life afterwards. And I am talking for both sides. I predict that all of these girls are truly terrified of sex in any way (of course, since they are basically trained to feel this way) while the men can't wait. Both sides will never be satisfied. Oh man, have fun with that lol. Also: The way these fathers look at their daughters does not remind me of love. It reminds me of obsession.
I don't find waiting to have sex before marriage or even waiting to kiss until the wedding day wrong at all. But what I do find wrong is the total relationship between Father and daughter. There's nothing wrong with treating your daughter like a princess, all Father's do, but not to this level. At this level, it's pretty much teaching the women to be dependent on a male figure rather then being independent. This is totally taking the growth and strength women gain doing things on their own.
i find that insulting. So as a woman, i am only viewed as some man's property? And the best reasoning they can give to boys is that they need to respect another MAN'S daughter or wife! As a person, i guess i dont deserve respect? The whole concept just sickens me!
Just a bunch of grown men who are far too obsessed with their daughter's hymen.
No shit.
For damn sure!
Sadly, many fathers would agree with this, and won't see anything disgusting or creepy about it. They would say "It's a man who loves his daughter and doesn't want any guy to use his daughter as a sex object and/or get his daughter pregnant." They think they know what they are talking about.
There was a time when fathers did stuff like all of the time like having a gynecologist check their daughter's hymen to see if they were still a virgin or not (the rapper T.I. had that done to his daughter). Stuff like that are disgusting and creepy (and sexist too).
If you properly teach your daughter how to be careful and how to be responsible when dating, then most likely everything is going to be ok when she dates. The reason why so many girls tend to get hurt (psychologically or physically or both) and/or get pregnant when dating is because boys and girls are not properly taught about dating and sex by their parents.
The key to preventing girls from getting pregnant in high school and to date the right people and be in healthy relationships is to teach them (and boys too) about safe sex and dating and boundaries when it comes to that stuff. A parent needs to be teaching their kids about this stuff instead of the opposite. Sadly, a lot of fathers avoid teaching their daughters about this stuff and try sheltering them from it, and that can actually be harmful because girls are not going to have enough information when they are exposed to this stuff for the first time.
Also, there many fathers who won't allow their daughters to date, but they will allow their sons to date.
I believe that the reason why there's a lot of guys who only use girls for sex is because they are not raised right.
I think it's mostly the fathers at fault since many of them encourage their sons to date and don't make a big deal about the amount of girls they sleep with, but it's the complete opposite with their daughters.
These fathers are both selfish and hypocritical! They're ok with their son dating and sleeping with someone else's daughter and potentially hurting her or/and causing her problems, but it's not ok when someone else's son does that with their daughter. They only care when it's their daughter and not someone else's is.
By doing that, fathers are just giving the message that men should be praised for the amount of sex that they have, while women should be shamed for it, and that's wrong.
So parents need to be focusing a lot more on teaching their sons about respecting women and to never use them for sex when dating them, and they need to be teaching them more about boundaries when dating or asking girls out.
Cope, roastie
Where is the male equivalent for moms and sons? Why are the moms excluded from this ritual with their daughters? Why must girls be married to a man their entire lives - first their dads, then their husbands? Why are they teaching their daughters they need male affirmation at all? These people are sick.
My thoughts exactly!!
Motherboy XXX, duh...
I know it's sick. My dad always encouraged me to think for myself and be independent. He never believed that a woman needs to know herself and want a man in her life.
It’s not sick. Girls have a sacred mission given by God to be future mothers when they mature.
Besides stay at home moms are statistically proven to be happier than single and childless career women.
@@Concerned_one I believe in Gods purpose and that women have roles just as men do, but shaming them and controlling them isn’t the way to do it. The dad and the mom need to raise the children correctly not whatever this is
why the hell does an 8 year old need to attend a purity ball?
Same shit I’m saying!
Get them into it while they're young.
I think the biggest treat to her "purity" comes from her father
Little kids are easy to brainwash😐
To protect her purity
I've never seen something more sexualised in my life
I feel like Chris Hansen should be walking out from behind a corner any moment in that place.
They speak the same language as me, yet I feel like an anthropologist watching this.
I think Freud might have had a thing or two to say about these dads, as well.
Because they actually have a middleeastern mindset, not an european western mindset. Thats is why it seems foreign
Freud was a degenerate
@@simonpedersen9703 Their mindset is not Middle Eastern, it's an American glamourized version of the Christian bigotry that was common in Europe in the past and that you can still find a bit in some bigoted villages/areas in Europe (and clearly also in similar areas in the US).
So fathers, male pastors and future husbands are supposed to control
the girl's emotional and sexual life? Creeeeeeeeeeepppppppyyyyy.
Yes, because apparently society isn't already patriarchal enough. /sarcasm
Catholic priests: 👁️ 👄 👁️
@@weronika2463 🤣 😂
Blah blah blah, don’t be mad at the dads for not wanting their daughters to be whores.
It isnt actually. Strong Father figures are supposed to ensure their daughters remain chaste until marriage because if chastity isn’t valued in a society then it will lead to moral decay in that society.
Ugh. Creepy and disgusting. They treat their daughters like personal property.
To A True and Dedicated Religitard, That's All Their Daughters Are! To Be Married Off or Traded for Some Livestock or Sold to Her Rapist for 50 Gold Shekels According to The Old Testament!
There’s nothing wrong with fathers taking care of their daughter’s chastity. It’s better for the girls since they will not be sucked into toxic and morally degrading hookup culture.
I think it's wrong to make these girls believe that they're nothing more than their virginity and to only believe what men tell them that they are. You're pure, intelligent, beautiful, or worth time unless a man tells you that you are.
I see it more as keeping these girls valuable.
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So, a girl has no value unless she's a virgin?
@@senister14 "valuable"?!
@@alicedamiano7718 no guy wants a girl who's been around, makes it less special with him.
@@senister14 You have the right to stay single forever, if no one meets your expectations. And you have the right to be with someone who doesn't match you, if all the ones that would be a good match aren't "special" enough to you because they have already been with someone.
I applaud Shelby, she seems like such a nice, intelligent girl and it's awesome to see her take a stand and take control of her own life. It takes a lot of guts to break free from a lifestyle that's been guilting you since you're child on how to behave and the harsh consequences of disobedience. Well done, girl!
This is so sexist
Only in America..
Girl : Lets "marry" our fathers so they can own us until a man comes along to own us.
Although just another day in Alabama.
Pretty sure the middle east is like this too.
Tbh American Bible belt Christians have a lot in common with Muslims in the middle east lol they should really realize their similarities
Not gonna happen with me. As soon as I can meet my crush, I'm letting him take me to paradise. XD
Nah more like
“Let’s not be whores. Dad protect us!l
Urgh god this is just so creepy.
Don't you worry about that. Their daddies have a set of purity balls each. That is all the protection they need.
God is not creepy. The people that use the name of God to control others are creepy.
Whoring your daughter is “creepy”
Protecting her purity is not
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Ugh. Freud would have a field day with this.
Lmao so true
3:33 "Am I beautiful? That's the questions I think every girl wants answered... And Dad's there to give me that affirmation. Otherwise I would be floundering, going... you know hanging on every guy going... Ok am I pretty am I beautiful am I worth pursuing? And that's Dad's role in my life." Wow. That's sad.
Translation: I have no self-esteem and need a flawed man's opinion dictate how I see myself.
That s really beautiful!!
Not getting ran through by random guys is “sad” to you huh?
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@@JFCotman Huh - I don't understand your question. What does "not getting ran through" mean?
To be clear - I think the whole idea of looking to a man for you're worth is horrible.
I'm wondering if maybe you're reading my above comment backwards. I think this whole purity ball thing and looking for Daddy to say the girls are beautiful is damaging to the girls, to the women they are growing to be, and to society.
That's what's sad.
@@SuzanneTheMagician so young women deciding to wait until marriage is “sad” to you?
WTF ? when i have daughter.. ill teach her to be strong and non dependent of anyone. looks like a scary lifestyle and brainwash
You’re going to raise a lonely women you simp male beta boy
@@TheMusicGuy not as lonely as these girls who will have the dullest sex life after they find out that their rapist husband has a 2 inch dick, waiting all of those years just to be dissapointed
Good. Now F off into your own miserable little corner.
"'Am I beautiful?' that's a question I think every girl wants answered... And dad's there to give me that affirmation, otherwise I would be floundering... hanging on every guy being like, 'Am I pretty? Am I beautiful? Am I worth pursuing?'"
These are the questions that plague you as a woman? Are you worth pursuing? I mean really? And all you need in life is to hear a man - ANY man - tell you "yes, you are". These people have so many issues I don't know where to begin.
The parents' first mistake is raising their children to believe that a woman's worth (her entire worth as a human being, the one thing that is more important than any other thing) is her beauty and her sexuality (particularly a lack of sexual desire and activity). All other self esteem issues, all other misogynistic issues, stem from that mistake.
And to all the people who are shocked that people disagree with this type of belief system: I am not telling people to have sex. If you don't want to, before marriage or ever, THAT'S FINE. I do not care. I am also not telling people to behave irresponsibly. But number one, having sex does not equate to a lack of responsibility. And number two, to be quite honest, the purity movement is irresponsible.
9:17: "Take back territory that the enemy has stolen over the years".
10:14: "Encourage them to rise up as men in war for their families and their children".
Men that, in absence of an actual enemy, make up one so that they have something to fight against. So insecure of them.
The dads touched swords at the balls. LOL
if u read that with a dirty mind it sounds hilarious lmfao
I love how at 8:04 that man is getting uncomfortable while his wife is talking enthusiastically about explicit and glorious sex talk with their daughers... he's signalling that he doesn't like her talking like that, but she's either choosing to ignore the signs or just genuinely not seeing them, and she keeps talking talking talking... it's probably one of very few times he's not having things his way, and I LOVE IT. It's probably also one of very few times he's being embarrassed by someone talking sex that involves HIS sexuality (I guess the mom told the girls what the two of them do in bed, in detail) but he's not having a say... which is what his daughters and all the other purity movement daughters experience all the time... ah, a tiny spoonful of KARMA. He probably reprimanded his wife soon after though.
great observation i noticed this too but you saw it in a way more in depth way
Purity balls emotional destroy these young girls sexuality. So Sad!
Well good for you, I'm so glad you fucking enjoyed it.
Yeah its sickening. I grew up in this shit. Foolish.
Your sexuality destroys young girls' emotions even worse. Even sadder. Nice going, being a mental rapist at any cost.
Nothing says you're a good little girl like a ceremony for Daddy's little princesst.
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I love how the above sentence contains no typos.
nicely done.
Isn't it spelled with a single 's'?
You clever thing, you
AtenRa YEP!
"I'll just wait until my wedding day and eveything will be fine". Honey, the real world doesn't work that way. I know. Stuff happens.
Fundamentalist Christians never bother to research the divorce rate. Oh well.
Right? What if she never gets married? My parents were a year older than me when they got married.
9 children? Seems like that couple couldn't keep their legs together!
It's 7 children (9 was referred to children + parents). An in another documentary they say they also had several miscarriages. But you know what? It's ok that they had as much unprotected intercourse as they wanted... providing it was all 100% consensual. That is not the sick part.
as someone that has a lot of painful sexual dysfunction because of a religious upbringing that shamed sex, I don't think a lot of these girls are going to enjoy their wedding night much. Or sex after that, for that matter. You can't just be ok with sex and your body one day after hearing all of these messages from such a young age and thinking it's sinful.
They don’t think that sex within marriage is sinful. In fact it’s better to believe sex outside marriage is sinful than to engage in immoral adultery within hookup culture.
You can’t just whore yourself as a teenage girl and expect to enjoy marriage to one man someday either
Doesn’t work like that
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The pseudo incest here is so creepy. Notice how they all kiss their dad on the lips and refer to him as there husband until marriage. If you want to be a virgin you don't need to pledge it to anyone. Surely keeping it classy is keeping it between whatever consenting adults do in their own bedrooms. All children need sex education it is so stupid not too.
"Women were created to need the strength of a man." DO YOU HEAR WHAT IS COMING OUT OF YOUR MOUTH RIGHT NOW?
Ik 🤦🏻♀️🤠🤡
No, because your huge megaphone is drowning it all out.
How can we hear anything? 🤡
This is why I'm a feminist.
omg yes
***** Do you have any logical well thought out arguments. Or do you only have ad hominem arguments?
Well thank you for being Christ like. I can feel the warmth and kindness coming from you. Jesus would be proud.
AstronomyGuru84 yes, hmmmm, me too. I love joining clubs and groups.
No worries there, you'll be pure you're entire life. Most men run the other way when they hear a woman is a feminist.
To me this is really creepy; home schooled, no sex education, and limited interaction with others their own age? What could possibly go wrong!
I’m lucky to never have a creepy father obsession with my virginity is so incestuous that they don’t seem to teach them the dangers of men and women taking advantage of children my dad taught me at an early age to protect myself from danger
A power trip for men.
What's next?
Practice sex with the daughters? Really, who would better prepare their daughter for sex! Sick!
Whoring yourself to random people as a teenage girl
My
What could possibly go wrong
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Christian abstaining before marriage doesn't have to be this weird and backward looking.
If your dad makes your heart skip a beat... Something's not quite right.
Guy literally calls daughters “territory”.
they are setting women back 100 years
I am a practicing Christian/Catholic, and yet... I find this video disturbing... They make "marriage" look like assurance of a man's right to sexually own/deprive their partner. What even sickens me is that it's between a father and daughter... obvious points aside, why does a father need to assert his role (to aid the mom and to protect/provide for his children) on his daughter and go on to control the decisions and wants for his daughter? It's as if he is telling the kid that her feeble female mind will cause her to sin, and any life choice the girl makes would be a reflection on him, since he is "in control of her mind."
Note that this is all about the daughter; you would probably never hear about a parent asserting control of his/her son's mind, since "boys will be boys" and fornication is inevitable.
Why this will fail? Because, when the girl is out in the real world without daddy to control her mind, she could get away with anything she wants. In fact, girls who were raised in this environment are more likely to make risky life choices than people raised "normally." Yes, biology plays a role, but if a woman is taught that she cannot control her biology without daddy, then she will be lost and ultimately act on natural impulses, rather than controlling them.
Instead of all this masculine display of power and objectification of women, fathers (and, more so, mothers) should educate their daughters to make wise decisions in regards to their bodies and life choices. We don't need to be subjected to this humiliation :o
Dad's do play an important role in every daughter's life-- but this is just way too much... I went to 'daddy daughter dances' when I was younger and we had FUN, danced and laughed. I mean it was like a date, but I was young and that's okay. This is just so so so creepy. These men are creeps. They can treat their daughter like a princess and raise them right without being their creepy ass boyfriend.
Why are they teaching girls that they need to have a mans affirmation to make them happy? Shouldn't they have confidence in themselves?
I wish there was a femdom ball for young, beautiful, elegant, dominant girls to prove their dominance to the world.
CHris Henniker would you use a condom for this event?
PrincessKLS DO it!
CHris Henniker Now my mind is full of a hot woman in leather... TY
*****, leather's good, but a cheongsam is even greater.
CHris Henniker lol I like both. ^_^
Imagine being as concerned about being seen as pretty, as Jordan. My parents gave me way better compliments: smart, hard working, strong, creative, and mature. I’m sure I got you look nice’ from my parents, but I knew pretty was the least valuable of attributes. I don’t care if I’m attractive to people. I’d be way more afraid of being seen as week, stupid, lazy, etc, than being seen as ugly. I feel bad for any girl that thinks feeling ugly is the worst fate for women.
"Am I the only one that got chills running up and down my spine after watching this?"
I knew a woman who was upset that her young son learned an offensive term at school. She was more upset at the loss of innocence than anything else, wanting to protect him and keep him from outside (corrupting) influences for as long as possible. I think to some extent this is similar, sexuality plays into it, but it's not so much about being overly concerned with the specifics of the daughters sexual life as it is about the loss of innocence, a father wanting to keep her his 'little girl' for as long as possible. And I realize there is some overlap, but I hope I'm making sense of what I'm trying to get across, that it's not 'just' about sexuality.
However, the idea that a girl loses her innocence once she has sex is a very harmful way of thinking, and it comes across as shaming women for being sexual. And also, your kid needs to know about the (corrupting) influences of the world in order to make good decisions later on in their life. Sheltering your kid from stuff like this is not always a good thing and can actually be very harmful in the long run. Also, it's very creepy and disgusting that the fathers who have their daughters be in purity balls will try to be surrogate boyfriends to them.
These fathers who have their daughters be in purity balls, they're not being "overprotective". Like many fathers, they just don't want their daughters to ever have sex, deep in the recesses of their minds. Many fathers make jokes about it. You can google "So you want to date my daughter" and come up with endless memes from men who are trying to scare all young men away.
However, when you are a father and you have a daughter, you have to accept the fact that your daughter is going to have sex someday, and she needs acknowledge about these kind of things in order to make good decisions when faced with them. Sheltering them from these kind of things can end up actually causing them a lot of harm in the long run.
To me, it's very disturbing, creepy, and disgusting when a father obsesses over his daughter's sex life.
The woman looking for affirmation from a man as to whether she is pretty or not is a sad case. Fuck what men think. Only care what you think and build self confidence. Never derive ones self worth nor meaning from another person.
the fuck are they gonna do if they marry a bad man??
"Purity Balls" sounds like the name of their fathers (men exclusive) club.
Besides that fact that this is super ultra creepy with the idea that fathers own a girl's "virginity" and decisions regarding her body, but also the fact that the whole purity culture, especially these purity balls, teaches young women that their self worth is tied to the men in their lives (father, than husband). Why not teach our young people to find their OWN self worth, instead of tying it to a person? Teach them that their virginty has no weight on who they are as a person, and that only THEY can make decisions regarding their own bodies. Your body is your's-not anybody else's, and especially not your daddy's.
There's a lot of talk among these people about girls' worth being defined by their beauty and their purity. Well, what about girls who aren't so pretty or who have been "defiled" by things like rape? They're worthless????!!! WTF?! I hope my daughters know that their worth is based on MANY things like intelligence, spunk, kindness, their interests, etc. Beauty is just one part of the equation, and not the largest part. I hope my daughters have autonomy and make their own sexual decisions based on trust and a respect for self and the other (person who they are with). It is not up to a father or a husband where and when and how a female expresses her sexuality.
This sounds like a The Handmaid's Tale thing.
Daughters who are "married" with their father because the only important thing they have is their virginity.
Very dystopic and creepy.
Im Chris Hansen from dateline NBC...
so very, very creepy
The part that the girls says: "Every girl wants to know if they are beautiful. And my dad is there to tell me I am beautiful and worth pursuing, until my husband comes along to tell me the same thing." She says something like that. How problematic is that in so many ways? Like her value is in her beauty and also it can only be granted by a male affirmation. Plus, eight-year-old girls promising to stay pure until marriage... Do they even get what they're promising? But, I mean, I respect them doing their thing if that's what they believe. I just can't imagine it working for me or my family.
Why is our society so obsessed with basing women's worth off of men, instead of why they should actually love themselves: their intelligence, creativity, talent, and power.
This screams “The only man who can sleep with my daughter is me, her father!”
There's something about these fathers treating their daughters' bodies and sexuality like property that just rubs me too much the wrong way.
some of the girls at the purity ball look so young. these girls are being taught that they're valuable objects, that belong to your father or husband. Your body belongs to you, and you have all authority over it
There are no words that can describe how insanely sick and twisted this is.
This absolutely disgusts me. Knowing myself, I have read the bible, been to church, been told to stay "pure" until marriage, and have been told on multiple occasions that I'll be considered a slut or a whore if I have sex before "God sends the right man to lead me".
Now, let me tell you something I'm probably going to be judged for. I first became sexually active at the age of 14, but not because I felt that I had a choice in the matter. I was pushed (NOT FORCED) to receive and give sexual acts to my first official boyfriend. He said if I didn't do these things that he would tell everyone what he had done to me, that I was a whore, slut, etc. I felt terrified by his threats and harassment, so I did whatever he told me to do. Later on, I decided I didn't need him. He treated me like dirt and I wanted better, so I left him. Later, I found a guy who respected my thoughts and views; a guy who thought I was worth so much more than my body. He never pressured me to do anything I wasn't ready to do. I was in control of what I was to do with my body. I lost my virginity to him at age 15. I was scared to death he would leave me because of all the stories I had heard about guys using girls and then breaking up with them. I am still with him TO THIS DAY.
You see, I have a problem with this whole "purity" bullshit. Not only did this petty concept prevent me from having knowledge about my body and how to keep myself safe from unwanted pregnancy and STD's/STI's, it made me feel as if I were useless, worthless, and unwanted because I gave away my "precious gift".
I never want anyone to feel the way I did when it was my time to make a decision for myself. I don't want any girl to feel like all they have to contribute to the world is a virginity and a vagina. I don't want any girl to feel like they gave up a part of themselves when all they had to lose was a word, and that word was "virgin".
In the future, I plan to teach girls and young women about their bodies, how to have safe (and enjoyable) sex, that their virginity is a social construct rather than an actual thing, and, that being a human being with wants and needs is nothing to be ashamed of.
This is so creepy.
These men … yuck. I can’t imagine my father being so “involved” with my sexuality. (I was a teenager in the 1970s.)
I marvel at the amount of hateful comment here. Simply because you are used to think of your body as a machine for pleasures and immorality does not give you the right to berate the way of honour and purity.
Who is the one to decide if bodily pleasures are immoral or not?
You don't fucking know us. Sex can be a way to be very intimate and connect with your partner. I'm not saying this is the ONLY way to be intimate and connect, but it's a very strong way to. Once she feels she is ready to give away her virginity, that is HER choice to. Not her father's. Not her god's. Not even her boyfriend's. It's HERS.
I just know some people are going to comment saying shit like "You're just saying this because you're a slut" or something about how I'm not Christian.
Wow, condescending *and* an idiot!
Religion has no bounds.
Welsh Guy That is what I say - people have NO idea of purity and honour, just living for selfish pleasures
Eugene Koshanof
"That is what I say - people have NO idea of purity and honour, just living for selfish pleasures"
We can recognize pathological relationships with clear incestuous overtones when we see them.
Read the data, from social researchers to see how these purity balls are damaging your children and your relationships.
Feel all gooey and good about it now, wait 10 years and witness the fruits of your folly.
When I grow up im practicing a new religion
"If my dad doesn't say I'm beautiful then I'll be hanging on every guy for approval." That was a nutty statement! Aren't these girls taught self worth? Is setting them up to be a "princess" really realistic? This is just sad. Poor girls thinking their only worth is their vagina...smh My father would never have expected a man to ask his permission to marry me because my dad never treated me like a possession. He treated me like his little girl and then a strong women that could make my own choices.
I'm amazed that people are complaining that girls aren't acting like sluts and fathers are acting like fathers.
I understand that the parents who organize these events have good intentions, but this is going to end badly for a lot of these girls for a plethora of reasons.
For starters, the promotion of this subculture goes hand-in-hand with "Abstinence Only" sex ed, which has an abysmal success rate which has raised teen pregnancy and HIV rates in every state its practiced in.
Then there's the history these traditions are based on: In several ancient Semitic cultures women were property of their fathers to be sold to their husbands at a premium. The higher the father was in the hierarchy of the village or city-state, the higher the dowry cost. A woman's virginity was meant to entail that any children were the husband's and his alone, and that a lack of virginity compromised that ownership. Of course, I doubt any of the girls in this video were told about this, after all, that would raise questions as to the utility of these balls.
What bugs me the most is many of these girls are going to find that the Cinderella ideal they were sold on as the pinnacle of emotional and physical love isnt real. In fact, people raised in these environments have disproportionately high divorce and domestic abuse rates.
The Virginity thing is right though, the less number of girls the better. No guy wants a car everyone else has driven.
I hate how virginity and religion is always tied together. I'm a virgin, but yet i don't go to church nor was i homeschool. Heck i even lived with my boyfriend, who became my ex. I'm scared these girls are going to marry the first man they meet or be scared to end a courtship. Cause failure and that even feels like a sin. They need there life lessons to teach them what to believe, i agree in teaching kids wait till marriage but they need to decide, and i think a purity ball is not going to do it, they need to pledge it within themselves. I had many debates within whats okay, whats crossing the line. Everyone is there own person. These girls aren't own by daddy.
82% Fail Rate! Yes! and the Name has me rolling "Purity Balls"
The crazy thing is that sometimes you don't know you truly like someone UNTIL you kiss.
I knew a youngish lady who was forced to go to purity balls.she has gone no contact with her parents and I had a wonderful time at her wedding to my best friend
They called it a "women's movement" at the start. I don't think it's as much of a women's movement rather than religious.
Also, it's quite sexist in so many ways. One of the ways it's sexist against men is that it implies sex is something that women give to men and not something that is equal.
This is just sick....
Honestly, I kinda like that idea of making girl sure that she is beautiful and her dad "setting a standart for his daughter," but the rest is more than creepy
This video is the most creepiest and cultist thing I ever seen
What strength is there in giving up rights to your body and mind and allowing yourself to become the chattel of your father whose primary function is protecting your vagina until control, under the guise of marriage, is turned over to another male? I do allow that there would be more responsibility for the men as they are responsible not only for themselves but also for the women that they own. The whole concept is perverse beyond belief.
it's not about the fathers loving their daughters, it's about them wanting to be treated like gods. i don't need anyone to validate me, and neither do those girls.
8:23 (husband clears voice) (wife looks at him, awkwardly laughs) 😂
all these dads are ignorant and gross
I’m a Satanist and I’m watching this laughing
This is solely about male ego! Celebrate your daughters, create memories and bonds, but stop mixing their sexuality in to it. I'm a christian, premarital sex is not right for me, but that is MY choice and not something I chose because I was promised a ball-gown and a cheap tiara, this grosses me out!
Society has taken away the honor of women just being women. This balls allows girls to be honored for just being a women, which I think is something very special. If you have never experienced that, you will never understand.
"Society"? These balls are part of society, and are just as invested in the psychologically predatory practices that pop culture uses to sell women stupid bullshit.
Hell this whole "Purity" ideal comes from a culture in which women were property to be bought and sold, and their hymens were the bronze age equivalent of a carfax report.
I'm certain every single one of those girls got knocked up before she turned 20.
They claim this is about protecting women. But it’s actually to control women. Being that I was raised Catholic, my church didn’t believe in making love before marriage mainly because sex makes babies and children need stability in their homes and families are important. With that said both men and women where encouraged to save themselves for marriage as well out of respect for your life partner (and yourself). That’s it! Nothing like what these people spoke of and had nothing to do with this “purity” obsession. Good grief!
Wonder how many of these girls, are just trying to please dad, but inside they are thinking " dad has lost it".
When I was in college people would ask,
Youre a Christian don't you miss drinking, clubbing, eating a lot (pigging out).
I would look at them and say, is that really all the world has to offer in exchange for my faith?
Im a guy I was a druggy, I was a drunk, I had sex with prostitutes, I behaved awful I had no respect for people really, I was a clown everything was a joke.
Now I think I wouldnt trade my faith in God for any of that stuff, I don't miss it, I have no desire to go back, my hearts been changed and even in the comment section, ladies come on do you really have anything worth trading for.
When a guy walks past you and sees you with your new boyfriend all he sees is, I already had that, like a meal on the dollar menu.
God bless you ladies
No, science, and facts it´s what the world have to offer to people who can grow up and think by their own as an adult, believing in fairy tales, dragons, elves or gods, doesn´t make you better and holier but weaker and dumber
Guys, awake, it´s freaking 2014... it´s about time
So just because you were a royal fuck up in your earlier life anyone who doesnt believe in your skyfriend is bad?
'Hello !? Girls are not cars ! But if you want to be treated like one then prepare to be dumped every 2 or 5 years, cause that's how cars are treated.. Think about it :)' -Well said, Chris G. :)
The whole purity ball thing is weird to me. I'm a Christian, and I won't be having sex until marriage, but it seems to me that these people are going about it in the wrong way. "Purity" isn't just abstinence, it's a mind thing. I feel like to much emphasis is put on the physical side, like it's the end-all be-all of purity. And I get that dad is the head of the house and there's the whole father/daughter relationship, but it seems odd that girls are pledging to stay pure to/with their dads.
“Oh! We long for men to be men, we are desperate for manly men, to lead in a way that it’s healthy and honouring to women”. What a major red flag..
My body belongs to someone I haven't met yet.
I wish I could go to a Purity Ball. I think anybody who criticizes it is stupid.
And what happens if people don't want to get married?
I'm not even joking, I laughed to tears during this entire thing. All statements made are contradicting to the other ones. It is sad that it happens so close to my town
Where's Chris Hansen when you need him?
My parents are religious but they never push me to be abstinent, they push me to be safe, like never have sex without a condom and sleep around with a loser I see in the street. They said if I wanted to be abstinent, it a promise I should make for myself and myself only. My dad never waited, he said if he pushed abstinence on me it will make him a hypocrite. While my mom was abstinent, her first marriage ended in a nasty divorce, when my mom married my dad, she didn't wait and they are still married. Plus my parents believed its more important to push a women to get education than stay pure until marriage since my mom always tells me, unlike your virginity, your education is something no one can take from you.
Excuse me while I go throw up.
Soooo daughters date their fathers until the father begrudgingly allows her to marry one man, of his choosing, for life. Strange and incestuous
More men need to raise their children this way. It would reduce out of wedlock births and the spread of stds
No. Contraception will reduce out of wedlock births and condoms will help reduce the spread of stds.
HOW WOULD YOU KNOW, Turd?
Leticia Gormley because abstinence works every time it is tried. Can you get knocked up while abstaining and waiting for marriage? I think not.
If you never actually try dating, then how do you know what you like in a person? So, youre seriously encouraging young women to never have sex, because of the "side effects", even tho it is entirely possible for a baby to be raised by either a single parent, or by 2 people who are not married, whether they be 16, or 26. Also, if youre having sex with your bf/gf, and it is a consensual partener, you most likely would know if they have an STD or not... so based on your argument, women, not men, because they are the ones who have to deal with the shame of pregnancy, need to sustain from sex until marriage; annd that its totally okay to HAVE said sex, as long as you dont get pregnant or get an std. Great!
This type of thinking teaches young girls that their worth is based on their sexual behavior (or lack thereof), instead of their intelligence, or personality. It teaches them that they're not able to make autonomous decisions about their own bodies and that they are objects to be given to other males. And, with such importance placed on virginity, I can't help but wonder how a victim of rape or sexual abuse is viewed. Is she considered "impure", as though she is damaged goods?
its like a damn cult
I honestly don't get this, it's just sex what is so fucking wrong with having sex. It's the most wonderful and exhilarating thing You'll ever do.
Wow. Nobody can tell me that this provides a happy, healthy and fulfilling sex life afterwards. And I am talking for both sides.
I predict that all of these girls are truly terrified of sex in any way (of course, since they are basically trained to feel this way) while the men can't wait. Both sides will never be satisfied. Oh man, have fun with that lol.
Also: The way these fathers look at their daughters does not remind me of love. It reminds me of obsession.
handmaid's tale type vibes
Disturbing!
I don't find waiting to have sex before marriage or even waiting to kiss until the wedding day wrong at all. But what I do find wrong is the total relationship between Father and daughter. There's nothing wrong with treating your daughter like a princess, all Father's do, but not to this level. At this level, it's pretty much teaching the women to be dependent on a male figure rather then being independent. This is totally taking the growth and strength women gain doing things on their own.
The mom sounds ( and looks) like Miss Mann from Scary Movie
i find that insulting. So as a woman, i am only viewed as some man's property? And the best reasoning they can give to boys is that they need to respect another MAN'S daughter or wife! As a person, i guess i dont deserve respect?
The whole concept just sickens me!