Dealing With My Parents' Divorce

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  • Опубликовано: 29 ноя 2024
  • In this vulnerable episode of "On Pointe with Luna Montana," Luna extends a compassionate hand to those who've walked the intricate path of being a child of divorce. Drawing from her own deeply personal experience, Luna shares the challenges she faced when her parents divorced during her formative years. With unwavering vulnerability and wisdom that only comes from lived experience, she delves into the trials and tribulations of that pivotal period in her life. Luna's invaluable advice resonates with listeners as she guides them through the delicate art of setting boundaries with parents while navigating the complex terrain of divorced families. Luna's honest advice and easygoing style make this episode feel like a cozy chat with a trusted friend. So, grab your favorite comfy chair and join Luna as she shares her stories and wisdom, proving that even life's curveballs can be tackled with a warm heart and a great cup of coffee!
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Комментарии • 44

  • @ellouisebadger849
    @ellouisebadger849 Год назад +38

    Shout out to the single parents as well that have to do it all on their own. My mom did it all from day one. I'm very proud of her ❤

  • @samanthab8222
    @samanthab8222 Год назад +20

    Oh man, I’m so sorry Luna. This is a lot. I’m glad you feel like you can talk about it and help others feel less alone ❤️

  • @danirobinson
    @danirobinson Год назад +21

    i relate so much. I remember being young like 10 and always hearing both sides of mom & dad and now as an adult i can't help but feel resentment. I love the person i am but sometimes I wonder what life would look like for me if i didn't deal with so much chaos from such a young age. thanks for sharing your experience Luna

  • @CatieRhoden
    @CatieRhoden 18 дней назад +1

    I just found this and I am going through this right now. Thank you for being a light❤️

    • @S0FIAV
      @S0FIAV 16 дней назад

      me too

  • @ana_yay
    @ana_yay Год назад +9

    My heart goes out to you Luna. I feel the emotions you describe here so deeply. It takes so much strength to process all this and then open up about it.

  • @liz4581
    @liz4581 11 месяцев назад +2

    Thank you for making this video. I am 57 years old, divorced with two kids, ages 22 (girl) and 21 (boy). You are very wise and discerning and mature above words. Thank you for being a voice for children of divorce and for the divorcing. DIVORCE is extremely debilitating to all involved and it's no wonder God says how he hates divorce. You are a beautiful, precious, young adult woman, and I will always be thankful for this video you shared.

  • @MC-pd2ou
    @MC-pd2ou Год назад +6

    Oh Luna, I'm so sorry. Thanks so much for sharing your story and being so vulnerable. Whilst your parents' divorce sounds a fair bit more dramatic than mine was, I resonate so much with everything you've said - the effects of being told too much, hating the new partner from day 1, worrying about my wedding day/graduation/having kids, how upsetting it is to hear bitter remarks about the other parent. When I was going through it I didn't know anyone with separated parents (and still to this day don't), so it felt like my sister and I were going through it alone, which looking back definitely made it all worse. Simply just hearing someone else's story which is so similar to mine has healed my inner child a tiny bit - I think you help far more people than you realise by being so vulnerable and honest in your podcasts. 🤍

  • @stargirl_lee
    @stargirl_lee Год назад +11

    I complete relate to hating being the middle man and hearing the shit talking about the other parent 🥺 sending lots of of love

  • @tilda8990
    @tilda8990 Год назад +4

    Girl don’t be alarmed if I name my child after you. Literally healing me one video at a time. ❤ sending love as always to everyone

  • @tiffanydutson2681
    @tiffanydutson2681 Год назад +7

    i love how honest and real you are. i love you luna!!🩷🩷

  • @Ericaocean30
    @Ericaocean30 11 месяцев назад +1

    This was so therapeutic for me. I have been dealing with a lot of resentment towards my mom (who I still live with while I finish college) because of the near constant shit talking and snide remarks about my dad. It really sucks.

  • @clarasong7101
    @clarasong7101 Год назад +2

    totally relate to you Luna! It’s def comforting knowing you are not alone and even if you don’t think it things do get better as you heal. Glad you got out of that dark place ❤

  • @charlotteb7
    @charlotteb7 Год назад +14

    I love you so much I am so glad found that you were ready to talk about this because I also had my parents divorced and it's nice to relate to other people xxxx

  • @laurauzumaki6886
    @laurauzumaki6886 Год назад +2

    Thank you for being so honest with us!
    I’m a child of divorce right now. My parents broke up one year ago, so this whole situation is still new and there is so much going on. But I wanted to thank you, I‘ve never felt so understood because all of my friends never have gone through this kind of situation.
    It also gives me hope, that you can talk about this topic and that you pushed yourself through this!
    We can all be proud of us❤️

  • @fragilefleur
    @fragilefleur Год назад +6

    It is really a difficult situation for you and your mom. Your mom sounds like a survivor and your dad seems like he’s put you and her through the ringer. It’s hard to accept a dad who makes a bunch of bad choices and know he’s still your father. The fact that you are still stuck in it for life for things like weddings and babies is sad. I would prioritize your mom bc she took you and raised you but I understand that you got burned out hearing her and his anger at each other.
    Boundaries are important around what you can deal with hearing.
    Probably best to not get angry at them but separate yourself from their emotions.
    The crappy think is you still love them and need their love. I would now just stick with that you love them and can accept love from them and hold that as important to you. It’s a vulnerability you will always have.
    I am sorry for your mom and you to have had to deal with housing and food instability. You have a healthy perspective on how you can communicate with them individually.
    I don’t know the facts behind their divorce but as the child in the position of no control over things, it def had to cause a ton of anxiety, self esteem issues and fear of change and transition.
    You need to mainly do what is best for you to feel happy now. It’s a lot to have as your foundation and it’s okay to love your dad but feel angry and also afraid that if you show anger that he will leave again. I don’t blame you for feeling upset and super glad you are getting counseling on how to move thru the difficult job of being a child of a rocky divorce. You as a kid sound like your dance was your backup family and I can see why it means so much to you now. It’s your reliable stability or it was for the times when things were less stable.
    I remember watching your mom help you decorate your apartment and how much energy and love she put into it and now I know why. She seemed very invested in helping you make a beautiful home and I really loved that about her. She wants you to have stability and happiness and has busted butt to make it happen. Alas it’s hard to be stuck trying to be loyal to your mom while trying to maintain and respect your dad at this point in all of your lives. I just hope you get some sense of peace and don’t dread things like marriage and babies bc it’s your life and not theirs which can have all the peace you want by creating a set of rules and boundaries on how you want to deal with them and the remove the toxic tension. For weddings you can always have your dad walk you and your mom fill another role or vice versa and babies I would say you will need your mom and kids can visit their grands and learn to love both in their own way. I am sincerely sorry you felt so scared and unstable with family as a child. Seems like these things happen often and are so impactful when kids are in puberty and developing mentally and it can really scar and affect how you want to have your own future love relationships.
    My folks had a bad marriage and I was the stuck in the middle kid and often heard a lot from my mom and it was horribly stressful and forced me to learn to toughen up in the face of potential unstable situations. That said now I’m divorced but no kids so please do all the therapy you need to and can afford so you feel very grounded and capable of distinguishing your own needs, boundaries and what you have and are willing to offer in a marriage or partnership. You deserve to be happy and feel a stable and loving future. Most of all, love yourself and stay open in knowing you have loads of love to give someone. Things don’t always come out for the best but you still will be okay in a long marriage or even in a short one. You are strong and scrappy like your mom and even your dad. And your pj’s are cute. Keep on dancing or enjoying the creative arts in whatever form. I did art to survive my parents’ rocky marriage and personality flaws as well and it was my saving grace. Hold onto it even if you are just an elderly patron of the arts. Big hugs for opening up and unloading this time. ❤

  • @romax3158
    @romax3158 Год назад +1

    I related to this on such a personal level, my mum and dad also has a messy divorce when I was 12 and because I was so young I never really processed it. I’m the only sibling out of 2 others who spend time and see my dad now because they hold so much resentment for the way things were dealt back then. I love your podcasts , thank you for sharing ❤️

  • @alexarea5045
    @alexarea5045 Год назад +2

    wow, I relate to not being able to sleep alone until 13 or 15. My parents got divorced when I was around 5 or 6. I had no idea not being able to sleep alone was probably because of their divorce.

  • @chiara4243
    @chiara4243 Год назад +2

    My parents are in a similar situation and even as an adult it’s really hard, can’t imagine as a little little kid.
    I think all kids of divorced parents get used to fights and all that but it’s so much harder when lawyers come in

  • @Shasha8674
    @Shasha8674 Год назад +12

    I think the divorce affected you and brother the most maybe. It may affect who you date etc.. Couples should be best friends.....should be able to work together. Lust is not love and being compatible is found out gradually. Date someone for a few years to see if compatible.

  • @laurenschenck5355
    @laurenschenck5355 Год назад +7

    I love you Luna thanks for sharing with us ❤

  • @平-i4f
    @平-i4f Год назад

    I hope you can recover from the trauma! You went through so much rough stuff… I enjoy watching your ballet videos! All the best

  • @timewatch5
    @timewatch5 Год назад +1

    I'm the youngest of three too, it makes you feel like you have super powers

  • @ishitasharma7654
    @ishitasharma7654 Год назад +2

    Im 17 and my parents are getting divorced.i feel really sad like very very upset angry and depressed because my mom's family doesnt let me meet my father whom i miss so much. i hardly ever call my father. When he came to pick me up,my maternal relatives didnt even let me meet him. These people are so cruel and unkind because neither they leave me to papa and nor they let me go to him
    Hope that god makes all things right. May god help me😭😭 ive fever also,im sick

  • @laurenschenck5355
    @laurenschenck5355 Год назад +2

    I am so sorry about your parents divorce Luna 😢

  • @denarendall
    @denarendall Год назад

    Love you and love the pod! Thanks for always bringing us into your life!🫶🏼

  • @LookatMEimLndsyD
    @LookatMEimLndsyD Год назад +3

    As a mama bear, what your dad did is pretty unforgivable. Not supporting his daughter or maintaining a relationship with her absolutely baffles me. I don’t blame your mom for being so angry. I do understand and empathize your frustration with her not respecting your boundaries about sharing too much with you though. 😢

  • @ThatLaurenThing
    @ThatLaurenThing Год назад +1

    hah, I’m from Santa Barbara and my dad worked/lived in LA during the weeks growing up. Didn’t know anyone else who had a similar situation growing up.

  • @lazybeachbum9394
    @lazybeachbum9394 Год назад +1

    My daughter should watch this episode too.

    • @J-tt1lu
      @J-tt1lu Год назад

      Hope you are doing better or that it will work out for the best in the end

  • @audreylenae9762
    @audreylenae9762 Год назад +2

    my experience is soo similar tp yours. besides moving to new york lol, but thank you for sharing your experience!

  • @Stanley-ss3nu
    @Stanley-ss3nu 5 месяцев назад

    I'm crushed. My parents divorced recently and I think because of me. If only I did more...

  • @katieakin9397
    @katieakin9397 11 месяцев назад +1

    Not trying to be snarky, just confused bc it’s different from the regular videos - are the video descriptions for the podcasts written by AI?

  • @Stanley-ss3nu
    @Stanley-ss3nu 5 месяцев назад

    I can't deal with my emotions

  • @eleasy1976
    @eleasy1976 Год назад +3

    Sadly the highest cause of Divorce is money😔

  • @laurenschenck5355
    @laurenschenck5355 Год назад

    You are amazing and so incredible and unbelievable women Luna LUV U ❤

  • @misomiso8228
    @misomiso8228 Год назад +1

    Can somebody clarify - is Luna a professional Ballerina? If so did she go and study anywhere, and is she dancing anywhere at the moment? ty

  • @alzahraajad274
    @alzahraajad274 6 месяцев назад +1

    Do you think that showing this video to my parents is a good idea?

  • @realARTGallery-z4r
    @realARTGallery-z4r Год назад +1

    ❤❤❤❤

  • @Shasha8674
    @Shasha8674 Год назад +1

    Adults can be adult children for the rest of their lives. The whole world is your family. Release the past...no need to bring it up. No one has a perfect life/childhood etc... People learn as they live.

  • @LacedwithLacey2424
    @LacedwithLacey2424 11 дней назад

    Wow. Your dad is a butthole. Or was. I hope y’all have mended things now. 🫂🫂💔 this is prime example of never judge a book by its cover, I would have bet your family had it all together and never had to worry about a thing.😢😢
    I’m sure it’s made you so much stronger & your mom.🫂🫂❤️