BeReal is a social media app that actually makes me happy, purely for the fact that I only follow my friends. I get to see what people I haven't seen in person for months are up to every day. It actually makes me feel connected.
There's this thing - old skool (sic) - like actually meeting or calling a person....if you haven't seen them in months or called them in months and they haven't done that either - if you're never doing that/they're never doing that - then you're never meeting up in any sense? And then what type of friends are those?
It's the everyday real moments that make up most of our lives. The moments that are truly mundane are often the most meaningful because they are personal and true to ourselves.
I used to like BeReal. But so many time I’ve been hanging out with my friends etc , having a good meaningful conversation, and then “OMG ITS TIME TO BE REAL!!” And the conversation ends and everyone is on their phones. I love the idea of BeReal but it’s really been bugging me when a social media trying to be authentic is interrupting real authentic moments
BeReal made me feel worse than any other social media app has. It never bothers me seeing other people's sensationalised posts on traditional social media, I don't compare myself to them because I know it doesn't represent their real lives. It upset me more when I'd get a BeReal notification and I was lying in the dark on my phone and had nothing interesting to share. I uninstalled it after a few weeks.
@@Itstime1231 The problem is (atleast as far as I have seen) after a few weeks people stop posting those im sitting and working or eating or something like that and just post when ever they do something cool. So it ends even worse than other social media because it is supposed to be "real" and not faked. The only diffrence after a while to other social media I have seen are the both cameras and that its not photoshoped/no filter.
I don't use BeReal (although I barely if at all post on social media), but I enjoy the concept. It's a chance to show each other that our lives aren't as different as we think.
My problem with BeReal is that it actually incentives not using the app properly - in that, if you post late (say, when you're doing something interesting) BeReal send a push notification to your friends telling them you've posted. So you're rewarded for posted late as it guarantees all your friends think about you in that moment, and possibly open and see your photo or react. I really love the concept of BeReal, and it frustrates me to no end when people wait to post theirs - like put that on your Insta stories or Snapchat - so it's frustrating to see the app encourage this.
half agree, but I miss mine so often that it's necessary to post late most of the time. having that option without an instant notification for friends would be fine though
@@norah6954 yeah - i feel like a 1-2 hr window would give a chance for people who miss it to post but would stop people waiting until they're doing something cool later in the day
idk if i really like it personally. i like the concept of an app where everyone is being completely authentic, but it hasn't been great in my experiance. it's gone off a few times when i've been with friends, and it can be quite disruptive. number one, i find that a lot of the time it's not 100% authentic as people tend to spend the whole 2 minutes trying to get the perfect picture and number two, people then scroll through their friends BeReals for ages and judging them for not being out or idk doing homework or something. i also do not like my face being on social media and i know its a risk regardless, but BeReal has made it worse, especially in school when i know theres a time when almost everyone around me will be taking a picture with both cameras AND when im in school uniform? no thank you. anyway, i like the idea but i've found it can very easily be twisted into something quite toxic.
I also hate having my face on the internet, I don't want my internet presents connected to the real life me at all. I don't mind being in photos but most the time I decine because I know by the next day it'll be all over their social media, they don't even ask
interesting take! possibly because I'm older (finished school 6 years ago) this is not my experience at all! We all just have a few close friends on it, take a pic when we notice the notification + then go on with our days!
I still have a hard time understanding why I should care about people's mundane lives😅 I like instagram because its creative, its aestethic and kind of like a photo album where you choose your best shots. This is the same reason I never got into Snapchat. I just dont care enough about people's random snaps that they put zero effort into😅
For me, I like it because it forces me to document my life. Before downloading the app, I thought my life was extremely cyclical and had no variety. But even after a few weeks, looking back at my memories I was pleasantly surprised to see all the fun I have in day to day life. Plus, I only follow my closest friends rather than acquaintances. It's great to see what the people I love and care about are up to in their day to day lives :D. Provides great talking points when I meet up with them, and for someone like myself who just forgets to interact with my friends, it's a great reminder. But I can see how it seems pointless and more stress than it's worth :).
for some, most of my friends have like 20 friends on bereal, all close friends, not people you bother to impress. 90% of photos are unflattering, boring, at work. I like it
I really liked BeReal when I had less friends on there, seeing around 5 mundane pictures was better. Now it feels like any other social media to me, since now I have to scroll much more and people wait until they do something interesting later in the day
emphasis on the last bit it feels counterproductive coz people will wait until they are doing something interesting to take a photo. it’s fine if you are late while it goes off but if it goes off and you specifically wait until later in the day for something interesting to take a photo of it defeats the whole purpose
I recently went to europe, it was so nice to document mundane moments of our trip and be able to show that to my friends. as well as seeing what everyone back home in australia was doing
It sounds so bleak! Maybe it's because I'm autistic, so I don't usually feel peer pressure or post things online to look good; but the idea that people are so fake online now that you need an app to remind you to stop being fake for a minute, is so depressing to me. I get the feeling that rather than everyone being interested in everyone else's business, most people now just have a perception that other people are interested in them so feel a pressure to look good and assure people that they're doing well. But actually everyone is so focused on how they are coming across that they're not very interested in their friends' lives at all. Even with this app, the fact that you get a notification puts pressure on a person, either to be as "real" as possible or to quickly find something interesting. And again it encourages this obsession with output and the perceptions of others.
Another reason why I like BeReal is the amount of time you spend on it. I recently stopped using Social Media because it was really frying my brain and consuming so much of my time, but when all of my friends were on BeReal I felt compelled to try it, since it isn't something that you can really use for hours, it's something that just pops up that time of the day, you check people's photos once and that's it, it's nice to know what my friends are doing right then and there without getting addicted to the screen for more than a few minutes.
The best thing is you can wait with putting on your BeReal and "BeFake" a bit, but then you get nice memory roll and also two cameras at the same time is great.
It honestly just sounds like a more regulated snapchat? (I'm not a snapchat user lmao) but at least in the beginning days of snapchat I think people were invested because you get to tell each other what's going on in that moment, and take a photo of it. So yeah be real sounds more restricted, there being a specific time and probably doesn't allow filters?
It's a wonderful way for companies (and governments) to have access to private areas where cameras would otherwise be unlikely to be used. Information gathering and surveillance and "big brother is watching". (Do you like my shiny foil hat? I made it myself!)
I never knew I’d be excited for a new social media app lol I find detaching myself from social media the older I get, but this concept of an app sounds indeed exciting. Maybe because for once app is not about showing polished version of our lives but just plain as it is. Raw. This concept speaks to me, I’m going to try it 😅
Honestly, no. In the beginning its exicing, but in the end you're gonna find yourself posting the same content over and over again (in school, in front of your laptop, in bed). Until the moment when you start waiting for something interesting to happen, and thats the point when its not real anymore.
exactly!!! so many of my friends have waited until they are at a concert or out doing something with their family for instance and then it’s like what’s the point then ???
That's interesting cause I have a completely different opinion on it. To me the whole concept of Be Real is creepy and scary. It reminds me so much of the movie "The circle", and I feel like it's an invasion of privacy. I have no issue admitting to my friends that my life is mostly boring and mundane but the whole Be Real take a picture of your surroundings in 2 minutes and post it online seems creepy and intrusive.
Over the last year or so, I recognised that I spend WAAAAAAY too much time on social media / my phone. I noticed it when I realised that I felt this need to check my phone all the time, and two instances prompted this change- I was checking it when I was brushing my teeth and when I was cooking, even if I only had a few seconds to wait! I even developed this second nature instinct to grab my phone and look at it, for no reason entirely. So I started to cut back drastically, by deleting accounts (such as TikTok and Reddit) and deleting apps off my phone. I have IG and Twitter but I only use them on my PC and all I do really is post art then I simply disappear again. The web versions are not as addicting, and they're not that fluid in navigation so I find myself hardly looking for more than a few minutes a day. It was really hard breaking that natural instinct to constantly check your phone, but I started deleting these apps in August and I'm doing just fine now. I'm at a point where I leave my phone somewhere and forget about it for hours, until I'm like 'where is it?' Haha. I also really began to realise that seeing everyone's highlight reel or daily snaps just ... doesn't entice me anymore. Sure, it can help you feel more 'normal' or connected by seeing what everyone's days are like but I think we need to work on trying to find that sense of community IRL and not just online. When BeReal came out, I had no interest in trying it. Mostly because I REALLY hate the idea that at some random point of the day, I would be bothered to take a photo. It sort of feels like they're allowed to bother you at any point in the day, regardless of circumstance. It feels slimy, like I always have to be available for the social media gods lmao. And I could see this landing on times when I'm working, showering, living life offline, etc. So I never downloaded it to begin with. And with the way you describe it, I think that people such as yourself are drawn to it because we live our lives too much online, and we really need to get offline. I don't even have many IRL friends (mainly because I hate the city I live in and I want to move) but simply disconnecting and focusing more on my real life has improved my mental health SO much, I'm honestly surprised. The self comparison and constantly needing to be on top of everything being posted and the anxiety if you don't but depression when you do ... just melted away. I didn't even think I WAS comparing myself, but subconsciously, I was. I didn't even think I'd feel as good as I do now, I didn't think social media really affected me THAT much. Now I set boundaries on when I check my phone, when I look at socials, and when I spend time offline. I still keep apps off my phone for now since I do find myself being too addicted to them, so I'm not sure I'll ever find a happy medium. (I will say that using the browser version is also less addicting! I've been experimenting with posting through that and not through the app.) I'm also trying to implement a 'no screens' day in my week now, mainly because my poor eyeballs need it lol. (As a digital artist, you don't realise how much eye strain you get!) So if you like BeReal, that's cool. :o) Personally, I think society needs to lessen their time online in general and I already love the heck out of the abyss that is living offline. I like to watch RUclips quite a bit, but it's more a listen while working kinda deal. I've been varying what I watch lately too, so that's a nice treat. I'm trying to develop a better skill at watching actual media like tv shows and such but I find them a bit distracting since I always want to watch with my full attention haha. Perhaps one day! Or not. I'm cool with just enjoying music as I paint.
I only use the broswer version of Instagram as well, because every time I had the app downloaded I would use timers but always reset them and spend way too much time on Instagram, now I only spend like 5 mins a day if not every 2nd day just checking a few things on Instagram and not going on the searchpage at all because the web browser design is not good, so it actually doesn't encourage you to spend much time on it. So much better I'm one of the only ones of my peers who doesn't seem to always be on Instagram or Snapchat and homestly I don't think I'm missing out that much, if something interesting happened I can just hear it from one of my friends in a proper conversation. I just have essential apps with notifications on and have my notification volume up and I limit what RUclips subscription notifications I get to ones I only absolutely want to watch. If you're using a laptop to watch RUclips and tou find yourself scrolling the main page, you can save just the subscriptions box web address to your shortcuts bar on the Chrome start page. Made me stop watching random stuff that I really don't care about.
@@oscairfiain4313 YES, same!! I would redownload the apps and reset the timers every time, every day. But the browser version is thankfully bad so I just look at a few posts, a couple of stories, and then I'm on my way again. :) I started favouriting accounts to see them up top as well, I kinda wish it stole Twitter's idea of lists but oh well. I do use Snapchat but it's more of a place where I message 3 of my friends; we don't do stories really, we just chat through the app. I feel much freer not tied to these apps. It's comical to me since now people text me posts and TikToks they want me to see, and I usually don't want to haha but I still do just to be polite. I don't think I'm missing out on anything really; I recently was using Twitter more over the last week because of the AI art discussions, and it only really stressed me out more. I'm actively stepping away from it again. I LOVE that idea for RUclips actually omg. I'm going to have to clear up my subs a little and change my bookmark for RUclips. That's so brilliant honestly. Even lately, looking at my recs doesn't entice me to click on them either lol. They're all just the same regurgitated things. Although I guess I found this video that way too LMAO. It's a weird balance. I find myself saving things to watch and then never bothering to watch them lol.
@@noktuernal Yeah the amount of stuff I have in my watch later ha, in the end I just brutally got rid of ones I had that I knew in my soul I was never going to watch that were there for months, but yeah I use Snapchat the same I just have proper friends I actually talk to on it for texting and Twitter I started using this last year and yeah I got a bit lost in some of the content and threads there a lot recently, and it gets so overheated and like the rabit hole of a whole discussion and comments, I end up exiting with such a weird judgemental debative state and I'm like jesus what have I become?! That's too much and it will be just over some small event that happened mostly to some random person and yet I've spent like one hour on this one thread alone. So I gotta find a way to regulate that as well ha. I never downloaded TikTok on purpose I didn't want to get addicted to another app even though everyone shows me TikToks but I'm grateful I did because that would be another thing for hours I would've lost on it.
I love BeReal for the same reasons! 90% of the time I'm at my desk, but one time it triggered while I was at a gig for my favourite band and I was super excited about that. It makes everything feel more meaningful.
totally agree! the only problem I have is with those friends who clearly wait till theyre doing something interesting to post late EVERY DAY - like thats the opposite of what the apps for!
Thank you for this. As you have correctly identified, I have been living under a rock (I don't use social media due to fears of being sexually harassed at school carrying over into the online world) and you are the first person who has been able to easily and simply explain my main question: "What the f**k is a bereal?" However, from how I've seen my peers use it, it seems to take away from real life and actual authentic moments. Also, it will go off for someone in class, so a bunch of people will just start yelling"Miss (name) bit we have to do our BeReal!" And such in the middle of class when the teacher is just trying to teach and the rest of us are trying to learn. It disrupts the flow of learning and the teachers have to spend more time arguing with them as to why they can't take photos of their whole class, many of which aren't allowed to be in photos, when they aren't even allowed to use phones in school, in the middle of Maths class.
I don't use it because I don't want to be at the mercy of a notification plus it always goes off for everyone else when we're trying to do something important
Leaving the occasional comment on YT is pretty much the only way I have anything to do with social media. I do in theory have a Facebook page some friends persuaded me into, but I haven't touched it for over a year. I didn't grow up with it and I don't need it in any way. I have no particular desire to 'be seen'. Books, music, films and actual friends are far more important. And, as you say, monetisation (in fact almost any commercial considerations) will inevitably ruin just about every aspect of our lives... if we let it.
I always miss the BeReal time and end up posting the same things when I get home from work. I feel like i cant participate unless im doing something "worthwhile" so thank you for reminding me what the app is for. Its literally called Be Real.
exactly like you just know they get the notification and sit back and go i’m not taking one yet i’ll take one later in the day when i’m doing something more interesting coz then it’s like what’s the point then ??
BeReal has been so beneficial to me and my friends. We downloaded it at the start of the year and it's helped so much with keeping us connected as we started university this september and no longer have our location or education to keep us connected.
No idea why people are so obsessed with images instead of actual information, but there is absolutely no way I would share random photos of what I am doing.
Life is funny how we always want the opposite of what we actually have...at the moment I am going through the early stages of cancer treatment and I absolutely ache for the ordinary! To be able to just sit and watch tv with no fearful thoughts would be blissful..💖
I worry that soon users would need to post more interesting things (the novelty of mundane would end). This could mean people always being anxious of the notification while trying to be in a cool location when it goes off. At least with the other social media applications, you post at your own time. Also, I think for a social media app to be successful, it needs to become addictive, but this app is trying to not be so will probably die once the trend ends.
but you can just post later if you want to, i know it takes away the original point. but its your app and account, its your choice. i tend to wait because i want it for the memories more than the real bit of it personally.
Fuck be real I got my notification while I was literally in a car crash. at that second hanging upside down but you have to be real, so of course I did it…I still can’t believe this actually happened. I also got the notification at my nanas funeral which was horrid
I really like it and I find I’m not on it as much as others. I check it once in the morning to make sure it didn’t come in while my phone was in bedtime, I be real, I check it every time I get a notification, that’s it. My only problem is that since I got it less than a week ago it doesn’t give me the notification yet which is really annoying
This is an incredibly intrusive concept. I almost never post anything to social media any more as I don't have time in my life to waste, though I am wasting some time now to comment on this video . I don't want something to interrupt me while I was doing something else in my life that may of far greater value than some social media post.
It personally makes me really sad to know that people need a reminder that living a "boring" life is fine. I don't use BeReal myself, but I do see people very quickly staging an alternative reality when the notification comes. "BeReal time everyone, quickly clean the table!" No thanks. I post when I have something to share and I perfectly well know most people have TV time in their underwear under a blanket wolfing down a pizza they were not supposed to order yet again because depression keeps them from cooking. I am glad it brings other people joy, and I hope it will stay that way for quite some time.
Sounds interesting. But i don't think enough people are in a simmilar situation to yours to make it the new big thing. But it could be a decent nich app for a dedicated niche community. Not everything needs to be mega big.
I know so many people who are on BeReal. Mostly just my classmates at school, but I know that a lot of my parents friends do it, and even my grandparents take their BeReals. I was hesitant at first cause I didn’t think it would be popular for long, but now as I use it everyday I’ve come to realize that it’s a great app, and is “the new big thing”.
Haven't even downloaded it yet but i'm going to so i can give it a try. from videos i've seen the discovery part of it seems like instagram or other social media apps. The 2 minute concept once a day seems like a good thing. No rehearsing. I'll give it a try.
The concept sounds great but I do worry about advertising where you are are if there is anything people shouldn't be sharing! Lovely insight and ukeleleing though!
As a woman, I don't like the idea of showing everyone where exactly I am at the moment (I've been stalked before and it's scary). I like the option to confuse people when posting on Instagram. Some people don't even know in which country I live and I love that. 😂
Personally I use social media like instagram or tiktok more to enjoy art and creations for fun or inspiration from people. I feel like one of the big issues with most media now is how it's trying to take away as much privacy as possible and have everyone connected. But personally I don't care what other people are doing at some random time of the day and compare myself to that and feel bad I'm not out at a party or doing something actually productive. The people I actually care about I can know what they're doing anyway without some random app forcing it on me with more social pressure attached.
Sounds like the great app called "Fargate" I had on my iPod Touch 4. 😊 ...That was about 10 years ago. They stopped the app after a year or two that I found it, but not due to lack of interest but probably because no money could be made from it and the creators/managers needed to eat.
I have only 3 of my close friends, my cousin and another friend from high school that I haven't spoken to for ages as my BeReal friends. I kind of love it.
BeReal made me feel worse that any other app because I know TikTok and Instagram aren’t real, they are highlights. But I always saw people’s BeReal and they were always out and seeing friends, whereas I rarely was so then I started to get sad I wasn’t being invited, even though I wouldn’t have known so wouldn’t have cared before
So... It's not meant for people who work in food service, clean rooms, or other jobs where mobile use is restricted for periods of time. And it probably favors normal 9-5 workers sleep schedule.
I do like the concept of it, but some people simply can’t use it. I’m a school teacher and a lot of my life is spent doing things I’m not allowed to share online: teaching, marking etc mean that no matter how good the idea behind be real is, it won’t work for me. 😢
The threat to BeReal is not only monetization and other apps. I already saw many TikToks about “winning BeReal”. Trying to stand out, take the coolest picture in the coolest place. Basically Instagram with extra challenge.
Heard about BeReal last week. So I think I'm still blinking as I come out from under the rock. But I have heard of it. This is always an interesting time.
I dunno I feel like if you share (let's say) that you are at the park and some creep knows exactly where that is... they might come and look for you on purpose
BeReals like the one app i try to update every day even if most of the time its just me doing schoolwork 😂 everyone elses i see is going out to events and im like ‘oh, im boring’ and my friends like ‘ur not- u just use the app like intended’ and the one time i do go out to an event it makes it funnnn
Most people I know only use BeReal when there is something interesting to share as we can post late and turn off notifications. Only one or two people I know actually post everyday
My first thought was that it furthers your attachment to your phone and makes you more of a slave to the sound of a notification, so I wasn’t a fan. I like your perspective though, and I have changed my mind in the sense that if we are going to have a social media like snapchat, Instagram, etc, then it should be BeReal
they are still missing the point. You don’t need to share every detail of your life with people that aren’t there. Screw all social media. Ask yourself why do I need to share this? Then ask it again. After a few times you will realise that there literally is no point in sharing your life to absolutely everybody.
I heard about it first from Americans/from American vlogs, so I think it's at least as popular in the USA, if not more so. Evan does say the other people he was with hadn't heard of it either.
I kinda feel the exact opposite about BeReal. No one actually posted when the notification went out and they just waited until they were doing something interesting. It made me feel even more shitty about my "boring" life. At least with regular social media you kinda expect some level of fakeness so you take everything you see with a grain of salt
I thought it would be a nice idea until I downloaded it and realised that I actually don't spend enough time on my phone for it to work! In a week, I almost never saw my phone notifications in time. So I deleted it. The idea of it is nice. But I find it a little shocking that you literally need to be checking your phone all the time for it to work. If I'm out or at work, I don't check my phone even if it chimes. I personally prefer to keep it that way but each to their own!
TikTok has added it too but it doesn’t sound like they’ve mastered it as well as you’re making it sound. You may be the first person to talk about BeReal to actually get me to download it 😂
i hate bereal. i hate other social media more (tiktok and twitter are infinitely worse). i spend a lot of time indoors because i have severe depression and adhd, and it sucks when im just sat on my own taking a photo of my switch playing pokemon or something, whilst people i know are posting out with their friends. its gotten to the point where i dont post on time because i put it off as long as possible. looking at my face makes me ill, and i hate that it means i need to take a photo of me in the moment. i know thats a symptom of social media as a whole, but that doesnt take away from my experience. if you had literally 2 hours to post it, and you couldnt post it after that point, that might work better :)
I like the concept of bereal however there is one problem that I think younger people need to consider. I work in mental health counseling at a university and these students started taking pictures in the lobby of not only themselves but of others In the lobby. Now these students were there as part of a sport team requirements so they were all friends. But not all of them were doing it and they were taking pictures of others In the lobby. We could have had people whom were not their for the team who would not have likes their pictures online showing that the were at a Counseling center. I think people need to consider others, even friends, before posting pictures of people's faces. It would have been fine if they took pics of the floor or the wall, but not of others there. Just my 2 cents
Never have I been so convinced it's Sunday for a whole 30 seconds
I got confused for a second. Thinking it was Sunday, but he was just throwing us off track.
BeReal is a social media app that actually makes me happy, purely for the fact that I only follow my friends. I get to see what people I haven't seen in person for months are up to every day. It actually makes me feel connected.
All my friends are offline,and the few that are online would block me anyway.
@@janebaker966 I think that’s a you problem.
@@tejshah6083 ha ha just wait till they make you log in at certain times and it's compulsory to comply.
That's exactly what Facebook is.
There's this thing - old skool (sic) - like actually meeting or calling a person....if you haven't seen them in months or called them in months and they haven't done that either - if you're never doing that/they're never doing that - then you're never meeting up in any sense?
And then what type of friends are those?
It's the everyday real moments that make up most of our lives. The moments that are truly mundane are often the most meaningful because they are personal and true to ourselves.
But they are all waiting for the "unexpected moments" - that they are all "camera ready" - absolutely pointless...
I used to like BeReal. But so many time I’ve been hanging out with my friends etc , having a good meaningful conversation, and then “OMG ITS TIME TO BE REAL!!” And the conversation ends and everyone is on their phones. I love the idea of BeReal but it’s really been bugging me when a social media trying to be authentic is interrupting real authentic moments
THIS
BeReal made me feel worse than any other social media app has. It never bothers me seeing other people's sensationalised posts on traditional social media, I don't compare myself to them because I know it doesn't represent their real lives. It upset me more when I'd get a BeReal notification and I was lying in the dark on my phone and had nothing interesting to share. I uninstalled it after a few weeks.
Exactly, it forces you to interact with it whenever it asks.
that's the point. 95% of the posts I see, if posted on time, are people working, eating, or watching tv. The weekend has some hobbies.
@@Itstime1231 The problem is (atleast as far as I have seen) after a few weeks people stop posting those im sitting and working or eating or something like that and just post when ever they do something cool. So it ends even worse than other social media because it is supposed to be "real" and not faked. The only diffrence after a while to other social media I have seen are the both cameras and that its not photoshoped/no filter.
@@tenkdkme hasn't happened with my friend group, but it's only 15 people,I don't add people I'm not close to
@@tenkdkme been three months since I got the app
I don't use BeReal (although I barely if at all post on social media), but I enjoy the concept. It's a chance to show each other that our lives aren't as different as we think.
My problem with BeReal is that it actually incentives not using the app properly - in that, if you post late (say, when you're doing something interesting) BeReal send a push notification to your friends telling them you've posted. So you're rewarded for posted late as it guarantees all your friends think about you in that moment, and possibly open and see your photo or react. I really love the concept of BeReal, and it frustrates me to no end when people wait to post theirs - like put that on your Insta stories or Snapchat - so it's frustrating to see the app encourage this.
half agree, but I miss mine so often that it's necessary to post late most of the time. having that option without an instant notification for friends would be fine though
@@norah6954 yeah - i feel like a 1-2 hr window would give a chance for people who miss it to post but would stop people waiting until they're doing something cool later in the day
idk if i really like it personally. i like the concept of an app where everyone is being completely authentic, but it hasn't been great in my experiance. it's gone off a few times when i've been with friends, and it can be quite disruptive. number one, i find that a lot of the time it's not 100% authentic as people tend to spend the whole 2 minutes trying to get the perfect picture and number two, people then scroll through their friends BeReals for ages and judging them for not being out or idk doing homework or something. i also do not like my face being on social media and i know its a risk regardless, but BeReal has made it worse, especially in school when i know theres a time when almost everyone around me will be taking a picture with both cameras AND when im in school uniform? no thank you. anyway, i like the idea but i've found it can very easily be twisted into something quite toxic.
I also hate having my face on the internet, I don't want my internet presents connected to the real life me at all. I don't mind being in photos but most the time I decine because I know by the next day it'll be all over their social media, they don't even ask
finally someone who agrees
interesting take! possibly because I'm older (finished school 6 years ago) this is not my experience at all! We all just have a few close friends on it, take a pic when we notice the notification + then go on with our days!
I still have a hard time understanding why I should care about people's mundane lives😅 I like instagram because its creative, its aestethic and kind of like a photo album where you choose your best shots.
This is the same reason I never got into Snapchat. I just dont care enough about people's random snaps that they put zero effort into😅
For me, I like it because it forces me to document my life. Before downloading the app, I thought my life was extremely cyclical and had no variety. But even after a few weeks, looking back at my memories I was pleasantly surprised to see all the fun I have in day to day life. Plus, I only follow my closest friends rather than acquaintances. It's great to see what the people I love and care about are up to in their day to day lives :D. Provides great talking points when I meet up with them, and for someone like myself who just forgets to interact with my friends, it's a great reminder. But I can see how it seems pointless and more stress than it's worth :).
"Good" social media app is an oxymoron
BeReal is just gonna make people figure out new ways to improve their appearance and romanticize life in the minute it takes to take the picture.
for some, most of my friends have like 20 friends on bereal, all close friends, not people you bother to impress. 90% of photos are unflattering, boring, at work. I like it
I really liked BeReal when I had less friends on there, seeing around 5 mundane pictures was better. Now it feels like any other social media to me, since now I have to scroll much more and people wait until they do something interesting later in the day
emphasis on the last bit it feels counterproductive coz people will wait until they are doing something interesting to take a photo. it’s fine if you are late while it goes off but if it goes off and you specifically wait until later in the day for something interesting to take a photo of it defeats the whole purpose
I recently went to europe, it was so nice to document mundane moments of our trip and be able to show that to my friends. as well as seeing what everyone back home in australia was doing
It sounds so bleak! Maybe it's because I'm autistic, so I don't usually feel peer pressure or post things online to look good; but the idea that people are so fake online now that you need an app to remind you to stop being fake for a minute, is so depressing to me.
I get the feeling that rather than everyone being interested in everyone else's business, most people now just have a perception that other people are interested in them so feel a pressure to look good and assure people that they're doing well. But actually everyone is so focused on how they are coming across that they're not very interested in their friends' lives at all.
Even with this app, the fact that you get a notification puts pressure on a person, either to be as "real" as possible or to quickly find something interesting. And again it encourages this obsession with output and the perceptions of others.
Another reason why I like BeReal is the amount of time you spend on it. I recently stopped using Social Media because it was really frying my brain and consuming so much of my time, but when all of my friends were on BeReal I felt compelled to try it, since it isn't something that you can really use for hours, it's something that just pops up that time of the day, you check people's photos once and that's it, it's nice to know what my friends are doing right then and there without getting addicted to the screen for more than a few minutes.
The best thing is you can wait with putting on your BeReal and "BeFake" a bit, but then you get nice memory roll and also two cameras at the same time is great.
It honestly just sounds like a more regulated snapchat? (I'm not a snapchat user lmao) but at least in the beginning days of snapchat I think people were invested because you get to tell each other what's going on in that moment, and take a photo of it. So yeah be real sounds more restricted, there being a specific time and probably doesn't allow filters?
What is people's love affair of wanting to be tracked by these apps?
It's a wonderful way for companies (and governments) to have access to private areas where cameras would otherwise be unlikely to be used. Information gathering and surveillance and "big brother is watching". (Do you like my shiny foil hat? I made it myself!)
I never knew I’d be excited for a new social media app lol I find detaching myself from social media the older I get, but this concept of an app sounds indeed exciting. Maybe because for once app is not about showing polished version of our lives but just plain as it is. Raw. This concept speaks to me, I’m going to try it 😅
Honestly, no. In the beginning its exicing, but in the end you're gonna find yourself posting the same content over and over again (in school, in front of your laptop, in bed). Until the moment when you start waiting for something interesting to happen, and thats the point when its not real anymore.
exactly!!! so many of my friends have waited until they are at a concert or out doing something with their family for instance and then it’s like what’s the point then ???
I like showing and seeing the best, not the mediocrity of 95% of our time
That's interesting cause I have a completely different opinion on it. To me the whole concept of Be Real is creepy and scary. It reminds me so much of the movie "The circle", and I feel like it's an invasion of privacy. I have no issue admitting to my friends that my life is mostly boring and mundane but the whole Be Real take a picture of your surroundings in 2 minutes and post it online seems creepy and intrusive.
Over the last year or so, I recognised that I spend WAAAAAAY too much time on social media / my phone. I noticed it when I realised that I felt this need to check my phone all the time, and two instances prompted this change- I was checking it when I was brushing my teeth and when I was cooking, even if I only had a few seconds to wait! I even developed this second nature instinct to grab my phone and look at it, for no reason entirely. So I started to cut back drastically, by deleting accounts (such as TikTok and Reddit) and deleting apps off my phone. I have IG and Twitter but I only use them on my PC and all I do really is post art then I simply disappear again. The web versions are not as addicting, and they're not that fluid in navigation so I find myself hardly looking for more than a few minutes a day. It was really hard breaking that natural instinct to constantly check your phone, but I started deleting these apps in August and I'm doing just fine now. I'm at a point where I leave my phone somewhere and forget about it for hours, until I'm like 'where is it?' Haha. I also really began to realise that seeing everyone's highlight reel or daily snaps just ... doesn't entice me anymore. Sure, it can help you feel more 'normal' or connected by seeing what everyone's days are like but I think we need to work on trying to find that sense of community IRL and not just online.
When BeReal came out, I had no interest in trying it. Mostly because I REALLY hate the idea that at some random point of the day, I would be bothered to take a photo. It sort of feels like they're allowed to bother you at any point in the day, regardless of circumstance. It feels slimy, like I always have to be available for the social media gods lmao. And I could see this landing on times when I'm working, showering, living life offline, etc. So I never downloaded it to begin with. And with the way you describe it, I think that people such as yourself are drawn to it because we live our lives too much online, and we really need to get offline. I don't even have many IRL friends (mainly because I hate the city I live in and I want to move) but simply disconnecting and focusing more on my real life has improved my mental health SO much, I'm honestly surprised. The self comparison and constantly needing to be on top of everything being posted and the anxiety if you don't but depression when you do ... just melted away. I didn't even think I WAS comparing myself, but subconsciously, I was. I didn't even think I'd feel as good as I do now, I didn't think social media really affected me THAT much.
Now I set boundaries on when I check my phone, when I look at socials, and when I spend time offline. I still keep apps off my phone for now since I do find myself being too addicted to them, so I'm not sure I'll ever find a happy medium. (I will say that using the browser version is also less addicting! I've been experimenting with posting through that and not through the app.)
I'm also trying to implement a 'no screens' day in my week now, mainly because my poor eyeballs need it lol. (As a digital artist, you don't realise how much eye strain you get!)
So if you like BeReal, that's cool. :o) Personally, I think society needs to lessen their time online in general and I already love the heck out of the abyss that is living offline. I like to watch RUclips quite a bit, but it's more a listen while working kinda deal. I've been varying what I watch lately too, so that's a nice treat. I'm trying to develop a better skill at watching actual media like tv shows and such but I find them a bit distracting since I always want to watch with my full attention haha. Perhaps one day! Or not. I'm cool with just enjoying music as I paint.
I only use the broswer version of Instagram as well, because every time I had the app downloaded I would use timers but always reset them and spend way too much time on Instagram, now I only spend like 5 mins a day if not every 2nd day just checking a few things on Instagram and not going on the searchpage at all because the web browser design is not good, so it actually doesn't encourage you to spend much time on it. So much better I'm one of the only ones of my peers who doesn't seem to always be on Instagram or Snapchat and homestly I don't think I'm missing out that much, if something interesting happened I can just hear it from one of my friends in a proper conversation. I just have essential apps with notifications on and have my notification volume up and I limit what RUclips subscription notifications I get to ones I only absolutely want to watch.
If you're using a laptop to watch RUclips and tou find yourself scrolling the main page, you can save just the subscriptions box web address to your shortcuts bar on the Chrome start page. Made me stop watching random stuff that I really don't care about.
@@oscairfiain4313 YES, same!! I would redownload the apps and reset the timers every time, every day. But the browser version is thankfully bad so I just look at a few posts, a couple of stories, and then I'm on my way again. :) I started favouriting accounts to see them up top as well, I kinda wish it stole Twitter's idea of lists but oh well. I do use Snapchat but it's more of a place where I message 3 of my friends; we don't do stories really, we just chat through the app.
I feel much freer not tied to these apps. It's comical to me since now people text me posts and TikToks they want me to see, and I usually don't want to haha but I still do just to be polite. I don't think I'm missing out on anything really; I recently was using Twitter more over the last week because of the AI art discussions, and it only really stressed me out more. I'm actively stepping away from it again.
I LOVE that idea for RUclips actually omg. I'm going to have to clear up my subs a little and change my bookmark for RUclips. That's so brilliant honestly. Even lately, looking at my recs doesn't entice me to click on them either lol. They're all just the same regurgitated things. Although I guess I found this video that way too LMAO. It's a weird balance. I find myself saving things to watch and then never bothering to watch them lol.
@@noktuernal Yeah the amount of stuff I have in my watch later ha, in the end I just brutally got rid of ones I had that I knew in my soul I was never going to watch that were there for months, but yeah I use Snapchat the same I just have proper friends I actually talk to on it for texting and Twitter I started using this last year and yeah I got a bit lost in some of the content and threads there a lot recently, and it gets so overheated and like the rabit hole of a whole discussion and comments, I end up exiting with such a weird judgemental debative state and I'm like jesus what have I become?! That's too much and it will be just over some small event that happened mostly to some random person and yet I've spent like one hour on this one thread alone. So I gotta find a way to regulate that as well ha. I never downloaded TikTok on purpose I didn't want to get addicted to another app even though everyone shows me TikToks but I'm grateful I did because that would be another thing for hours I would've lost on it.
I had only heard of Bereal in the last week or two when Philip DeFranco mentioned it. I had no idea what it was. Thank you for enlightening me :)
I love BeReal for the same reasons! 90% of the time I'm at my desk, but one time it triggered while I was at a gig for my favourite band and I was super excited about that. It makes everything feel more meaningful.
totally agree! the only problem I have is with those friends who clearly wait till theyre doing something interesting to post late EVERY DAY - like thats the opposite of what the apps for!
Thank you for this. As you have correctly identified, I have been living under a rock (I don't use social media due to fears of being sexually harassed at school carrying over into the online world) and you are the first person who has been able to easily and simply explain my main question: "What the f**k is a bereal?"
However, from how I've seen my peers use it, it seems to take away from real life and actual authentic moments. Also, it will go off for someone in class, so a bunch of people will just start yelling"Miss (name) bit we have to do our BeReal!" And such in the middle of class when the teacher is just trying to teach and the rest of us are trying to learn. It disrupts the flow of learning and the teachers have to spend more time arguing with them as to why they can't take photos of their whole class, many of which aren't allowed to be in photos, when they aren't even allowed to use phones in school, in the middle of Maths class.
I don't use it because I don't want to be at the mercy of a notification plus it always goes off for everyone else when we're trying to do something important
Leaving the occasional comment on YT is pretty much the only way I have anything to do with social media. I do in theory have a Facebook page some friends persuaded me into, but I haven't touched it for over a year. I didn't grow up with it and I don't need it in any way. I have no particular desire to 'be seen'. Books, music, films and actual friends are far more important. And, as you say, monetisation (in fact almost any commercial considerations) will inevitably ruin just about every aspect of our lives... if we let it.
I always miss the BeReal time and end up posting the same things when I get home from work. I feel like i cant participate unless im doing something "worthwhile" so thank you for reminding me what the app is for. Its literally called Be Real.
No-one's actually really using it for real moments though, people still fake their posts
exactly like you just know they get the notification and sit back and go i’m not taking one yet i’ll take one later in the day when i’m doing something more interesting coz then it’s like what’s the point then ??
I think BeReal will be one of those things that we look back on fondly in a few years and think, "Mm, that was a nice little thing we used to do."
BeReal has been so beneficial to me and my friends. We downloaded it at the start of the year and it's helped so much with keeping us connected as we started university this september and no longer have our location or education to keep us connected.
No idea why people are so obsessed with images instead of actual information, but there is absolutely no way I would share random photos of what I am doing.
Life is funny how we always want the opposite of what we actually have...at the moment I am going through the early stages of cancer treatment and I absolutely ache for the ordinary! To be able to just sit and watch tv with no fearful thoughts would be blissful..💖
I hope you're doing ok
I worry that soon users would need to post more interesting things (the novelty of mundane would end). This could mean people always being anxious of the notification while trying to be in a cool location when it goes off. At least with the other social media applications, you post at your own time. Also, I think for a social media app to be successful, it needs to become addictive, but this app is trying to not be so will probably die once the trend ends.
but you can just post later if you want to, i know it takes away the original point. but its your app and account, its your choice. i tend to wait because i want it for the memories more than the real bit of it personally.
Fuck be real I got my notification while I was literally in a car crash. at that second hanging upside down but you have to be real, so of course I did it…I still can’t believe this actually happened. I also got the notification at my nanas funeral which was horrid
I really like it and I find I’m not on it as much as others. I check it once in the morning to make sure it didn’t come in while my phone was in bedtime, I be real, I check it every time I get a notification, that’s it. My only problem is that since I got it less than a week ago it doesn’t give me the notification yet which is really annoying
Today in class, we did a bereal as it was our last lesson with that teacher. It is blurry but it's great
Omg my bereal went off while watching this, it's like the stars collided.
I don't want strangers knowing what I'm up to.
This is an incredibly intrusive concept. I almost never post anything to social media any more as I don't have time in my life to waste, though I am wasting some time now to comment on this video . I don't want something to interrupt me while I was doing something else in my life that may of far greater value than some social media post.
idk as a woman i just can't shake the fear of being stalked
It personally makes me really sad to know that people need a reminder that living a "boring" life is fine.
I don't use BeReal myself, but I do see people very quickly staging an alternative reality when the notification comes.
"BeReal time everyone, quickly clean the table!"
No thanks. I post when I have something to share and I perfectly well know most people have TV time in their underwear under a blanket wolfing down a pizza they were not supposed to order yet again because depression keeps them from cooking.
I am glad it brings other people joy, and I hope it will stay that way for quite some time.
That's a lovely mug. Le Creuset?
Sounds interesting. But i don't think enough people are in a simmilar situation to yours to make it the new big thing.
But it could be a decent nich app for a dedicated niche community.
Not everything needs to be mega big.
I know so many people who are on BeReal. Mostly just my classmates at school, but I know that a lot of my parents friends do it, and even my grandparents take their BeReals.
I was hesitant at first cause I didn’t think it would be popular for long, but now as I use it everyday I’ve come to realize that it’s a great app, and is “the new big thing”.
Haven't even downloaded it yet but i'm going to so i can give it a try. from videos i've seen the discovery part of it seems like instagram or other social media apps. The 2 minute concept once a day seems like a good thing. No rehearsing. I'll give it a try.
I mostly use it for its journal-ness, I like tha fact that I have a photo of every day and I can go back to them
The concept sounds great but I do worry about advertising where you are are if there is anything people shouldn't be sharing! Lovely insight and ukeleleing though!
Why no internet out video frame on round play
i love BeReal, sad though when i saw “TikTok Now” following close there after
As a woman, I don't like the idea of showing everyone where exactly I am at the moment (I've been stalked before and it's scary). I like the option to confuse people when posting on Instagram. Some people don't even know in which country I live and I love that. 😂
Personally I use social media like instagram or tiktok more to enjoy art and creations for fun or inspiration from people.
I feel like one of the big issues with most media now is how it's trying to take away as much privacy as possible and have everyone connected. But personally I don't care what other people are doing at some random time of the day and compare myself to that and feel bad I'm not out at a party or doing something actually productive.
The people I actually care about I can know what they're doing anyway without some random app forcing it on me with more social pressure attached.
Sounds like the great app called "Fargate" I had on my iPod Touch 4. 😊 ...That was about 10 years ago. They stopped the app after a year or two that I found it, but not due to lack of interest but probably because no money could be made from it and the creators/managers needed to eat.
I have only 3 of my close friends, my cousin and another friend from high school that I haven't spoken to for ages as my BeReal friends. I kind of love it.
BeReal made me feel worse that any other app because I know TikTok and Instagram aren’t real, they are highlights. But I always saw people’s BeReal and they were always out and seeing friends, whereas I rarely was so then I started to get sad I wasn’t being invited, even though I wouldn’t have known so wouldn’t have cared before
I assume a way they could monetize it is, after you post your be real you get a ad.
So... It's not meant for people who work in food service, clean rooms, or other jobs where mobile use is restricted for periods of time. And it probably favors normal 9-5 workers sleep schedule.
why did i only just realise that bereal doesn't have ads to make money lol
I do like the concept of it, but some people simply can’t use it. I’m a school teacher and a lot of my life is spent doing things I’m not allowed to share online: teaching, marking etc mean that no matter how good the idea behind be real is, it won’t work for me. 😢
be real does one thing better than any other app, it actively forces you to use it, which is actually worse than other social media
Being primarily bedridden, I don't think I would feel comfortable with this.
honestly be real consists of me and my cat doing nothing most days.
The threat to BeReal is not only monetization and other apps. I already saw many TikToks about “winning BeReal”. Trying to stand out, take the coolest picture in the coolest place. Basically Instagram with extra challenge.
Heard about BeReal last week. So I think I'm still blinking as I come out from under the rock. But I have heard of it. This is always an interesting time.
...but then I will have to take a picture of myself. Every. Single. Day - no thank you
I dunno I feel like if you share (let's say) that you are at the park and some creep knows exactly where that is... they might come and look for you on purpose
BeReals like the one app i try to update every day even if most of the time its just me doing schoolwork 😂 everyone elses i see is going out to events and im like ‘oh, im boring’ and my friends like ‘ur not- u just use the app like intended’ and the one time i do go out to an event it makes it funnnn
I love BeReal! I’m making it as un-Instagram as possible. I look drunk in most of them 😂
BeReal really has taken over Northern Ireland (at least my area) and I'm absolutely here for it.
Most people I know only use BeReal when there is something interesting to share as we can post late and turn off notifications. Only one or two people I know actually post everyday
My BeReal is a real rollercoaster. I'm a nude photographer, so you get anything from a photoshoot backstage to my cat or me at traffic lights
My first thought was that it furthers your attachment to your phone and makes you more of a slave to the sound of a notification, so I wasn’t a fan. I like your perspective though, and I have changed my mind in the sense that if we are going to have a social media like snapchat, Instagram, etc, then it should be BeReal
they are still missing the point. You don’t need to share every detail of your life with people that aren’t there. Screw all social media. Ask yourself why do I need to share this? Then ask it again. After a few times you will realise that there literally is no point in sharing your life to absolutely everybody.
Now BeLate sounds like my kind of app! Lol
This is the first I've heard of this app. Is it more popular in the UK than the US? Or am I old?
I heard about it first from Americans/from American vlogs, so I think it's at least as popular in the USA, if not more so. Evan does say the other people he was with hadn't heard of it either.
So is it like snapchat and BEME ?
Apparently I have been living under a rock
Well pitched. I guess I’ll give it a try
I tried BeReal, no one used it, I stopped using it.
You could watch tv in the different language
why is this how i learned banal wasnt pronounced. anal. with a b in front
I kinda feel the exact opposite about BeReal. No one actually posted when the notification went out and they just waited until they were doing something interesting. It made me feel even more shitty about my "boring" life. At least with regular social media you kinda expect some level of fakeness so you take everything you see with a grain of salt
TikTok stole the concept too actually
BeReal? More like Big Brother demanding to know what you're doing every random moment of your life. If an app is free, you are the product.
Hope this works out for you. Sounds interesting
Well I guess I’ve been living under a rock 😂
Didn't Casey Niestat try to create this concept a few years ago, and kind of fail?
I thought it would be a nice idea until I downloaded it and realised that I actually don't spend enough time on my phone for it to work! In a week, I almost never saw my phone notifications in time. So I deleted it. The idea of it is nice. But I find it a little shocking that you literally need to be checking your phone all the time for it to work. If I'm out or at work, I don't check my phone even if it chimes. I personally prefer to keep it that way but each to their own!
First time hearing of this application. I need make more videos on this thing so I can make money on it.
Interesting concept. I have a blog, (I'm not trying to promote it) and it's kind of the same idea only with words... and sometimes random pictures.
Thank crunchie it’s friyay!!
For some reason everyone finds my BeReals hilarious. More or less everyone is loving a picture of me eating a curry.
TikTok has added it too but it doesn’t sound like they’ve mastered it as well as you’re making it sound. You may be the first person to talk about BeReal to actually get me to download it 😂
Great Video!
6pm radio time
i hate bereal. i hate other social media more (tiktok and twitter are infinitely worse). i spend a lot of time indoors because i have severe depression and adhd, and it sucks when im just sat on my own taking a photo of my switch playing pokemon or something, whilst people i know are posting out with their friends. its gotten to the point where i dont post on time because i put it off as long as possible. looking at my face makes me ill, and i hate that it means i need to take a photo of me in the moment. i know thats a symptom of social media as a whole, but that doesnt take away from my experience. if you had literally 2 hours to post it, and you couldnt post it after that point, that might work better :)
I'm living my boring life, and I don't need an app to tell me that!
I like the concept of bereal however there is one problem that I think younger people need to consider. I work in mental health counseling at a university and these students started taking pictures in the lobby of not only themselves but of others In the lobby. Now these students were there as part of a sport team requirements so they were all friends. But not all of them were doing it and they were taking pictures of others In the lobby. We could have had people whom were not their for the team who would not have likes their pictures online showing that the were at a Counseling center.
I think people need to consider others, even friends, before posting pictures of people's faces. It would have been fine if they took pics of the floor or the wall, but not of others there. Just my 2 cents
Dude, have you tried Reddit yet?