Stop reacting to everything. Go workout, like yourself more, eat healthy and stop depending on others to make you happy or sad. Move it! Get up and move it. Do you!
As a husband I started pulling away when felt unloved unwanted I was stressed out and emurused myself into work. Because me and our marriage wasn’t a priority to her
I think (at least for me) that we go through a process of grief; that hope and dreams with the wife is not being pursued together, and that is hard. Its grievous.
Hey Diane Camarillo Johnson, so sorry to hear you are going through this. Because of the complexity of this situation, we would strongly advise you reach out to us directly! It's great that you've started to realize what went wrong. Now it's time to start learning what you can do about it! You can call us at 1 (866) 903 0990 and be connected with one of our Client Representatives who will guide you to the best resources we have available for your situation. You can also schedule the call yourself for a time that works best for you by following this link: marriagehelper.com/marriage-strategy-call/ We look forward to speaking with you directly if you will allow it!
Yes, I have been taking care of my mother with Alzheimer's. He started drinking and stopped spending time with me and more time with his best friend which is a girl from highschool.
O . I am so sorry about him. Taking care of a person who has Alzheimer is so painful and it translate you are an amazing caring person. You are a wonderful human being ,take care of your self... And focus on having an amazing life ,as you should have. :) Let him find his way . May god bless you with peace and health .
So you're going to blame the betrayed spouse? How about poor judgement. Entitlement. Lack of communication by the cheater. Stress is a part of life. Every single day. Mabye just stay single is best.
Yes. But intentionally not giving your best self is wrong. You see it all the time. Divorce, then woman works out, loses weight, gets make over to attract another man. Why is that not the in marriage effort? That would pull your husbands to you. It’s like people are blind or lazy
@@benscott6826 If you are/can not give your best self in the first marriage shows they have issues. And those are divorced and change for the second marriage or relationship have issues too. They do this because what they learned in their childhood growing up years or the culture influences. They don't have good foundation. As a Christian my foundation is Christ. So if I do anything wrong and if I humble myself and repent, God is able to change me.
It absolutely can work the other way around. It sounds like you are heading in the right direction. Be the best man you can be. Be a safe place for her. Be patient, loving and kind. Good luck!
Thanks. I am trying to be a safe place for her but as she wants to spend so little time in my company, due to issues we have had previously in the flat that she's still scared will happen again, a water leak from the upstairs flat and she;s scared of water, especially in places it shouldn't be, trying to be a safe place for her is difficult. Due to my being in a wheelchair I struggle to get to where she likes to be as it's so cluttered, the way she likes it. Any advice that you have as to how I can be a safe place for her without actually spending a lot of time with her would be appreciated. I'm sorry that was so long and difficult.
@@kristinetank3959 Most men are addicted to the certain content on the computer screen. If it was drugs or alcohol she would’ve noticed much sooner. The computer stuff is much easier to hide and you can erase the history. Most men use this as a process addiction. They are not very good at seeking help or managing emotions so the manage stress, anxiety, loneliness, depression, pressure, and worry; they go to the screen especially if they want to hide it.
Most men are addicted to the certain content on the computer screen. If it was drugs or alcohol she would’ve noticed much sooner. The computer stuff is much easier to hide and you can erase the history. Most men use this as a process addiction. They are not very good at seeking help or managing emotions so the manage stress, anxiety, loneliness, depression, pressure, and worry; they go to the screen especially if they want to hide it. I’m not certain that this is the case but it’s highly likely.
my husband has no job and sick but still like to pull away bc he doesn't like to be corrected of his infidelity we are ldr and he can't stand without a woman beside
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Stop reacting to everything. Go workout, like yourself more, eat healthy and stop depending on others to make you happy or sad. Move it! Get up and move it. Do you!
As a husband I started pulling away when felt unloved unwanted I was stressed out and emurused myself into work. Because me and our marriage wasn’t a priority to her
As a husband, what you said is very accurate. Very well explained.
Agreed. I am a husband too; I love my wife.
Loss of a parent. I am guilty of pushing him away. Trying to work on pies. Very thankful I found your channel.
I think (at least for me) that we go through a process of grief; that hope and dreams with the wife is not being pursued together, and that is hard. Its grievous.
I know exactly what happened when he started to pull away. And I know what I did to push him away more.
Hey Diane Camarillo Johnson, so sorry to hear you are going through this. Because of the complexity of this situation, we would strongly advise you reach out to us directly! It's great that you've started to realize what went wrong. Now it's time to start learning what you can do about it! You can call us at 1 (866) 903 0990 and be connected with one of our Client Representatives who will guide you to the best resources we have available for your situation. You can also schedule the call yourself for a time that works best for you by following this link: marriagehelper.com/marriage-strategy-call/
We look forward to speaking with you directly if you will allow it!
Marriage helper is a great ministry.
Yes, I have been taking care of my mother with Alzheimer's. He started drinking and stopped spending time with me and more time with his best friend which is a girl from highschool.
O . I am so sorry about him. Taking care of a person who has Alzheimer is so painful and it translate you are an amazing caring person. You are a wonderful human being ,take care of your self... And focus on having an amazing life ,as you should have. :) Let him find his way .
May god bless you with peace and health .
So you're going to blame the betrayed spouse? How about poor judgement. Entitlement. Lack of communication by the cheater. Stress is a part of life. Every single day. Mabye just stay single is best.
Loss of a very loved aunt; our eldest moving out to attend higher education; his own health; his job; and I am a terrible pusher who is controlling
For better or worse vows.
Yes. But intentionally not giving your best self is wrong. You see it all the time. Divorce, then woman works out, loses weight, gets make over to attract another man. Why is that not the in marriage effort? That would pull your husbands to you. It’s like people are blind or lazy
@@benscott6826 If you are/can not give your best self in the first marriage shows they have issues. And those are divorced and change for the second marriage or relationship have issues too. They do this because what they learned in their childhood growing up years or the culture influences. They don't have good foundation. As a Christian my foundation is Christ. So if I do anything wrong and if I humble myself and repent, God is able to change me.
My husband had an affair and we are trying to work through this but he will get close then pull away, I'm just an emotional roller coaster
Is he still sleeping with that person
My husband left bcoz of another woman pregnant twin, now its already one year.
Does it work the other way around, trying to get wife back. I'm trying to be the best me that I can.
It absolutely can work the other way around. It sounds like you are heading in the right direction. Be the best man you can be. Be a safe place for her. Be patient, loving and kind. Good luck!
Thanks. I am trying to be a safe place for her but as she wants to spend so little time in my company, due to issues we have had previously in the flat that she's still scared will happen again, a water leak from the upstairs flat and she;s scared of water, especially in places it shouldn't be, trying to be a safe place for her is difficult. Due to my being in a wheelchair I struggle to get to where she likes to be as it's so cluttered, the way she likes it. Any advice that you have as to how I can be a safe place for her without actually spending a lot of time with her would be appreciated. I'm sorry that was so long and difficult.
What was his addiction????
@@kristinetank3959 Most men are addicted to the certain content on the computer screen. If it was drugs or alcohol she would’ve noticed much sooner. The computer stuff is much easier to hide and you can erase the history. Most men use this as a process addiction. They are not very good at seeking help or managing emotions so the manage stress, anxiety, loneliness, depression, pressure, and worry; they go to the screen especially if they want to hide it.
Most men are addicted to the certain content on the computer screen. If it was drugs or alcohol she would’ve noticed much sooner. The computer stuff is much easier to hide and you can erase the history. Most men use this as a process addiction. They are not very good at seeking help or managing emotions so the manage stress, anxiety, loneliness, depression, pressure, and worry; they go to the screen especially if they want to hide it. I’m not certain that this is the case but it’s highly likely.
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new friends
Why only men doing so.
They probably focus on one video at a time..
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Loss of income
my husband has no job and sick but still like to pull away bc he doesn't like to be corrected of his infidelity we are ldr and he can't stand without a woman beside
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This should come with a trigger warning
Why?
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I've caused part of our problem
@@ivahasty5384 me too and I am going through the course and working on being the best version of me.