Woman Dies from Abusive Relationship : God Shows Her How to Leave (Near-Death Experience)
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- Опубликовано: 30 окт 2023
- Barbara Bartolome shares the story of her Near-Death Experience, occurring during surgery to repair a back injury she suffered at the hands of an abusive husband. During her encounter on the Other Side, she describes being wrapped in a beautiful blanket of love and shares what it was like to feel Absolute Acceptance in the presence of God. Barbara also talks about the strength her Near-Death Experience gave her to change her Life once she returned to her body and how she stays in Contact with the Other Side every day.
“When you open the door to the Other Side, it’s amazing how they’ll come through for you in so many instances” - Barbara Bartolome
Content Warning This video describes some instances of Domestic Abuse. Please be advised
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Please pray for me that I have the courage to leave and stay away from my abusive husband.
I will pray for you - but you can ask your guardian angel and your spirits from the other side for help - always - all the time - 24/7 you are online with help from the other side - so don´t hesitate all they need is that you are asking for their help (free will) and you will get help for sure - promise - found out for myself by asking for help - just listen to your heart - get quiet - they do communicate telepathic - don´t worry.❤🩹❣🙏
I’ve been where you are. The Lord saved and rescued me out of my abusive marriage and he will do the same for you! I am praying that he will rescue you out. Hold on tight. You will survive this. You will be rescued and safe. This is not the end of your story. There is so much hope after abusive & I pray that you will have the strength to divorce him and never look back. God loves you so much.
I am praying right now. Remember you are beloved by your Heavenly Father.
Will pray JESUS helps you and HE will sometimes you need to be wise and take your moment to get to a safe place bless you 🙏
God bless you!🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
"I realized he didn't need to change; I did" was a punch to the gut
Yes… this statement is deep.
"I needed to stop trying to change him. I needed to get away." Amen.
"If you let me go back, I promise you I'll get strong enough to leave him." Wow.
This applies in many ways ❤
For me it was more of a gentle nudge as if saying this to me..."do you see and understand it now?"
What ever happened to her ex? Jail or ??
I was a nurse in the 70’s when my patient had a cardiac arrest. We were able to get him back. The following day I came in and was looking everywhere for my sweater which I had lost. My patient told me he was on the ceiling watching the resuscitation. He informed me that my sweater which I took off before doing CPR had fallen on the floor and was kicked under the desk during resuscitation and was now between the desk and the wall. I checked and there it was! I believe you and I am so glad that your life changed for the better. God opened your eyes and guided you. It wasn’t your children who set you up, it was God working through them. ✝️
Thank you for sharing your adorable story about the sweater. I imagine Heaven smiled when you got it back.
Brilliant 👏 👏 👏 👏
How fortunate you were to experience this wonderful story. To feel love and to see the other side is a miracle. I hope your surgery worked out for you dear lady and I am so happy you met a wonderful man in your life!! God Bless you!!
Thank you for sharing your beautiful story. Your voice is so soothing to listen to.
I know I have encouraged and helped a lot of people. Even a smile is free and can make someone smile back and we both feel happy .
When I was 7, I had an appendectomy, was given too much anesthesia and had a NDE. I also went to the ceiling and watched my surgery and heard and saw everything the doctor and anesthesiologist said and did. I came back into my body before the surgery was over. It was a very peaceful experience. No angelic or light was present. I didn’t talk about it until I was in my 40s, bc I knew no one would believe me. Thank you for validating my experience!
I believe a lot of people have experiences that they are afraid to share.
I had too much anesthesia when having my daughter, I understand. I remember, some of that experience. 🥰
I experienced the same. I saw everything being done to bring me back. I felt peaceful and was disappointed I was brought back. I was 13. I never spoke of it until I was in my late 40s to my father because he told me he had a NDE. I'm 64 and I've thought about it often the last few years, maybe because I've had health issues and a lot of deaths of relatives and friends. When I was very young I had a fear of my parents' deaths. They've both passed in the last few years. I haven't had any fear of death since the NDE.
I remember as a little girl, when I had my tonsils taken out, I woke up during the surgery and tried to talk. I think they must have given me more anesthesia. I remember hovering over my body ( like at the ceiling above)but my body was blurry. I could see the medical people around me but I was blurry. I don’t think it was a NDE but rather an out of body experience. I wonder if that’s what you experienced as well?
Never ever, try to "make it work" with an abuser.
But why don't the abused people understand this ?
@@nicollerochelleofficialBecause they start out VERY nice and caring acting. They have a lot of narratives why they have their issues, sometimes saying they had a bad childhood. They are con artists and manipulate you.
They slowly start eroding your self confidence. They slowly start to break down relationships with people that care about you. They make false promises. They hide their true colors until it’s hard financially or because the victim has already gotten cut off from family, and it’s now not easy to just leave.
After they do something bad, they apologize profusely and they can act better for awhile. Hopefully there’s enough info online that more people won’t get into that situation.
@@nicollerochelleofficial trauma bond
@nicollerochelleofficial Because it's rarely abusive at the beginning. You become bonded to that person and then they show their true colors. By then you're too broken and used and scared to leave. You keep thinking they'll change back to the person you loved at the beginning but they don't. This is where the shift starts to change...you start to decide to get out or stay, knowing it will never get better. Planning to leave is incredibly scary and takes a tremendous amount of courage.
@@nicollerochelleofficial
Abused people often do not leave the abusive person because of insecurities which involve fear....
Lack of financial resources.
Lack of life skills, ie work experience, knowing how to navigate practical issues in the big wider world.
Emotional needs/insecurities.
Dependants/children.
Psychological trauma.
Loneliness.
No family support.
Guilt (usually due to gaslighting, and/or psychological manipulations).
Leaving home because of an abusive relationship would normally require help from a Doctor, Social Services/welfare,
CAB, Solicitor or legal advisors.
Without family support it is so much more difficult to break free especially where dependants are concerned.
One of the things that breaks my heart for my mother when she was married 28 years to my abusive father, she went through a lot of horrible vthings. When she got divirced from him, (he had an affair now someone else's problem!) She held her life together, she worked as a mail delivery person, and raised my little brother until he graduated and went into the Navy. She finally met a good man who she was married to for 23 years. She passed away i hope she is at peace and happy in God's love in Heaven. My mom was a good lady.
God bless you 🙏 ❤️ Thank you for sharing .
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She's proud of you and watches over you. She's happy.
Your story made me cry. I left my narcissist husband a yr ago after 30 yrs and I don't know how ill ever get thru this "aftermath and rebuilding" part or be vulnerable enough ever again, to luv and trust a new partner. But id like to find out one day before I leave this earth. Im 54 w a 19 yr old who also put up w a ton of mental abuse and later discarded just like I was. Your story makes me so very happy and proud of your mother ❤
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May every man, women and child in an abusive relationship, find a way OUT!
Amen 🙏
I met my ex when I was 16 him 23, we had 3 children he beat me everyday when I finally left him i was 30 I had 33 broken bones, he tried to drown me in the bath tub, strangled me until I passed out many times. I'm so happy I got out with my life and my children's lives.
That was a devil in human body.Iam very sorry for what happened to you..May God heal your wounded body and heart..
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Proud of you for having the courage to leave! Hope you're having a great life now.😊
Oh my God, you endured that for 14 years!!!!
Hello how are you doing. God bless you so much. Where are you originally from? I look forward to hear from you stay blessed
I am terminally ill with idiopathic pulmonary fibrosis and when I was first given this diagnosis I was terrified. These experiences really help me to not be so afraid. I am so grateful for those who have shared.
God bless you. I'm going to pray for you. ✝️ ❤
Have you considered red and infrared light therapy? It penetrates the flesh and energises mitochondria (the 'batteries' of our cells).
God bless you❤
Please be repentant before Jesus and hold on to him never let him go. He will guide you and be with you all the way❤❤❤
Heel veel sterkte
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💜 prayed for you. Do not be afraid
Tolerance to any abuse begins in childhood ..we must heal those wounds before we start a relationship..
Yes, most people who experience childhood abuse carry that into adulthood, believing that that's all they deserve!
Yes !
Tolerance as well as the desire to abuse. Let’s be careful not to victim blame
its not about blame, its about taking care of yourself and empowerment, we do have something to do with tha, to deny that is delusional. Its a good thing we do bc how else would you explain people going from one abusive relationship to another until they heal. Its all just our patterns, not who we are. And dare I say, the same goes for the abuser as well, they just werent as strong@@mariaj4239
Not always. I had ZERO abuse as a child. Parents never even cussed. I was spanked one time because I had put myself in danger. Mom wasn't mad. she wanted us to NOT visit the rest area for fun. never did that again.
anyway, I now have a verbally abusive marriage that is somewhat physically abusive as well.
If you have anyone abusive in your life - family, friend, work colleague, neighbour etc, don't waste your time, life and energy trying to change them. Their issues run too deep. They may not even want to face them. Just leave.
I left a job due to an abusive environment.
I knew it was not about me. I stood back and observed that they treated other people just as badly.
You wouldn't deliberately choose to drink poison, so why put up with people who are just as bad for your health.
I work for myself now - best boss I ever had :)
Perfect timing for me. I'm leaving an abusive, toxic work environment. I saw evil in people. Smiling people who play the victim. The sabotage I saw left me feeling helpless. They are leaving me look like I was the failure. I feel ashamed. I'll be honest in 5 weeks. I thought God was going to save my job.
Yes!!! I’m Christian each time I heard a woman be abused and I said leave him, everybody jump on me. We have to love ourself, this is the body where God is, nobody has to abuse it.
This is spot on!
Our body is Gods temple, where he lives, and no one is allowed to abuse us/him.
100% agree
I completely agree with you❤
Thank you for that quote.😇🙏
You are absolutely correct. God does not expect any person to suffer physical or mental abuse. That is an act of the devil. We do not have to abide the devil! We are NOT to tolerate the devil.
She suffered so much and yet retained her warm spirit.
Thank
Thankyou so much
She's an angel. One of the best ndes I ever had. So many life lessons. I applauded her life becoming so wonderful and love that her consciousness lived on. Shes wonderful addition to this world, this amazing planet. Gentle, beautiful soul, thank you for the inspiration. God Bless her @user-ch1zz7rg6d
Thank you God she got out of that bad husband
Bless this woman 🙏
I was also in an abusive marriage and found the courage to finally leave which saved my life. I am now married to my soul mate of 33 years and had two daughters with him ❤ I am truly blessed in every way 🙌
God bless you! ❤
That is so awesome… there are boundaries in marriage and when those are crossed saftey is of great importance
I pray 🙏 for that outcome after 18 yrs of narcissistic abuse. But if it’s just me, I’m OK with that ❤.
So when is it considered adultery?
@@sierrastokes9897 why is leaving an abusive marriage adultery ????
I love how she not once had to or did speak loudly or with exaggerating anything . Her soft spoken voice and nature made me feel like the warmest most comfortable blanket you reach for on a cold day to comfort yourself. I'm so happy she got away from him and her story touched me in so many ways. Thank you
What a wonderful & beautiful mom.She knew right away I have to go back to save my kids. God bless her.
The kids are always the reason why many decide to eventually change up.... God bless their dear heats
There is an important message in this clip for me at this moment: don't try to change the person that is hurting you. Just get away!
As fast as possible God will give you the strength 😮
Yes.....run.
Yes!!!
I know it's thé thing to do...run..I did!
Her words are very.powerful, very moving
But I thought God hated divorce??
I am so happy to hear that God will never blame a woman for leaving an abusive husband.
I stayed for 37 years and raised my Daughter and Son and after their Weddings, I continued praying seriously about how I could not stand being with him anymore.
One night I received a clear message in my soul to quietly leave. I walked down the street to a house of people I knew.
They called my children.
My son and his wife came to fetch me and I never went back to him. We are now divorced! Praise the Lord.
I experience peace now❤
But those kids went through years of hell. That's not fair to the kids.
Praise God that peace is priceless!
eveything is god .there is no separation , which means you are god ,, we are all gods .
How dare you judge so many years after she got the strength and circumstances so that she could leave. You don't know. If someone doesn't have the means or anywhere to go. Donna, you. Don't. Know. Don't judge. @donnadiesburg7451
Barbara your story touched me I am where you were 30 plus years ago. I've been married very abusive husband for 19 years. I separated from him yesterday. he locked me around him. I just want to say to every woman out there who is in abusive relationship you could never change them save yourself before it's too late God bless all
I hope you are doing well.
I wish you the VERY best in life. I wish you love, peace and happiness 💯❤️
Hello my name is Jeffery and in the year 2000 I Died in the ER on the table. I started doing the death rattle and I was gone there was so much love peace joy I was happy tell I came back the nurse a old black lady she told me you went to a good place Jeffery the she told me Jeffery I started to pray for you and you came back. when I came back the pillow was wet and I had been crying God Bless you all I love you all.
Oh Jeffery praise be to God for your life God's not done with you and he has do much in store for your life and only he can give life an take it away. The fact that you get a second chance is proof that he loves you so much. May the Lord continue to bless you and keep you and make his face to shine upon you. We serve a living God.
Im so tired SO tired of the abuse. I don’t even tell people. They wouldn’t believe. Some people are evil. Lord .. deliver me
I pray you find the strength to get out. 🙏
Get out of that situation please
I can’t get out. Only God can deliver me from this evil.
Praying for you stranger 🙏🏽💞
I believe you and I believe you have the strength and resilience to get out. ❤
“The other side is listening, all the time” ❤
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Especially the demons.
@@LibbySlaughter101💯
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She is so right. You need to change yourself instead of the abuser. The first time someone tries to control you, puts you down or gaslights you WALK AWAY. ABUSERS NEVER CHANGE.
That is so true ❤
I am so happy for this lady. I was abused in my relationship with my husband and then he left me for another lady and then he left her for some one else. And he was holding her hostage and got shot by the police and died. I have a son by him. I raised him by myself. And he is a child of God like his mom. So glad God came into our life. Amen 🙏
This is one of the best stories I’ve ever heard… not just the NDE, but her life story in general. Such a strong, amazing woman. I have chills as I listen to her speak.
WOW
I feel similar, her life story is inspirational.
Yes, and the peace she exudes is just amazing.
I believe in NDE.
❤❤ God bless you Barbara and all involved ❤
I'm grateful God restored you to full health care 🙏 🙌 ✨️ ❤️ 💛
This woman has a beautiful voice. She should be a speaker telling her story.
That's exactly what she's doing here.
Yes I agree , I think she works with I ands 💜🧡❤️
Thank God that she survived, but you can never change an abuser, they have to want to change. Also, never get involved with someone who has anger issues, because there are always signs, big or small that someone is controlling, manipulative, or a narcissist. Especially if you have children, get out fast. I know, because I was the child who went through this, seeing my mom deal with my alcoholic step dad! Your life is worth living for!🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
Completely agree. I saw small red flags and signs in my ex but ignored them, continuing to give him the benefit of the doubt.
She looks like such a gentle soul.
“People get an intuitive hit and think it’s their intuitive hit; not realizing it’s an intuition from the other side.” Thank you for sharing ❤
Yes, it is, isn’t it?
Exactly! Its Gods guidance. People call in a 6th sense or intuition. But its all the same. God still speaks today.
I'm sensitive and when I tell people 'I have a thought to..' and I say 'It's not me (mine)!', people do not understand me. I finally feel understood. It seems simple, but it is, it's just a knowing, & ignoring worldly noise. And faith.
What her kids did was so sweet and heartwarming. I think parents spend so much time worrying about their kids, that they forget that their kids worry about them as well.
Hello Christine😊
The part where the two kids were setting her up with the girls dad literally gave me tears of joy, in this world the government and the media has brainwashed to seen only the negatives in human and life, but we can be so much more, we can truly be such loving and kind creatures 🥹
It’s like…. I don’t wish a near-death experience on anyone, but I do wish for the enlightenment, the fearlessness, the reassurance, the comfort, and the positive life changes that come as a result of those experiences. This is one of the most incredible stories I’ve ever heard. ❤ thank you.
I love Barbara's story and message. My mother was abused, became ill and passed away at 66. She didn't have the support to leave with five children. Healing from trauma isn't easy. The sooner a parent can leave an abusive relationship, the better it is for themselves and the innocent children.
Bless you for knowing and understanding that if the conditions aren't right, you can't really leave. Abusive isn't limited to emotional and physical abuse. My narcissist also abused my/our finances. Ruined my credit by opening cards behind my back in my name. Created tax debt that I was legally responsible for half of. I finally left at age 54 after being w that man 30 yrs but married 23.5 of those. My son is 19 and came with me. We are now in the "aftermath phase. Which is a tough place to be. I've had to move us in with a sister and her husband. Im working but was stay at hm mom for half the yrs of my sons life so I'm lacking skills for competitive high paying jobs. This rebuilding stage is painful and grueling. I feel like I'm in a rip tide and keep swimming and swimming but not really going anywhere. And my head is right at waters edge. And God forbid if ill ever be vulnerable enough again to trust another man. romantically.
Let God hear your heart❤@@normaespinoza1228
We are still suffocating traumas from childhood....all of us ...
I'm so glad you got out of the abusive situation, for yourself and your kids, and you did it while he was away...
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I took a class on abuse for work and you are spot on - you can't change the abuser, you can only change yourself.
Beautiful account!
@@Ark-ys2upanger is demonic. Deliverance and psychotherapy are required.
Thank God that you escaped that hell of abuse.
Never Again
So happy you got out of that marriage. My divorce is final this week from an abusive jerk.
I hope you somehow see this! For some reason, I'm not able to comment on my own. I reached out to you on Facebook messenger. I had a NDE and I want to ask you a few questions if I may. If not, God bless ❤
Thank you so much for telling your story. I have been struggling with a question about an abusive relationship and the answer that He gave you, is the answer I’ve been praying for.
I have to change because I can’t change the abuser. It’s okay to leave ❤
Thank you so much and God bless you 🙏❤️
Wishing you the strength to leave and praying for you right now🙏🏻
"The gift of not worrying about death. " Beautiful message. Thanks.
Does anyone have any thoughts on the doctrine of hell teaching?
I'm struggling greatly with this doctrine. 😢
@@cherylwilliams4738I'm a Christian and if you have a relationship with Jesus and accept that he died on the cross for your sins you will go to Heaven. I believe there is a hell but that the people that end up going will not be there forever. It's called annihilation. If you read the Bible it's clear they will be burnt up not suffer forever. But I'd rather know Jesus and live forever with him.
Only by accepting Jesus will you go to Heaven. God is probably showing her the truth in baby steps.
@@user-yz2lx3br7r I see, I suppose no eternal torture is at least a step up, but still distressing to my soul. There are probably many precious people that have passed away without knowing of Jesus!?
Do you think maybe He gives them a second chance? Why is the last breath a point of no return... couldn't He offer Himself to a person on the other side?
@@cherylwilliams4738 I believe God is a just God and everyone will be witnessed to and have a chance to receive him before they die. Just like you know now ahead of time. I believe the Bible teaches annihilation not forever torment but one needs to read the Bible for themselves. Jesus,♥️ you.
Outstanding interview. Very well made. And Barbara is fantastic. God bless everyone who reads this.
Thank you 🙏 so glad you enjoyed it!
Blessings to you as well
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I agree a million times over. Absolutely beautiful! ☮️💗✨️
Her relationship with her husband was similar to mine with my ex boyfriend.
He drank himself to death I spent almost two decades with my unhealthy relationship where he beat me physically and verbally and tried to kill me. I didn't love myself
He finally was diagnosed with cirrhosis 18 years into our relationship after I spent years not loving myself. He passed 6 months later in hospice
I spoke to God and said I can't do this anymore. I'm handing Joe back to you.
The day after he died, I was in our apartment fully awake and heard him crying like he used to when he said he claimed he was sorry after either choking me or throwing me down the stairs
His soul literally returned to our apt I spontaneous. "Go to the light and don't return here."
I was angry for a while after he died but then I realized without this relationship I would never break the unhealthy pattern. I felt we had a karmic contract that was planned before we got here. "What doesn't kill you makes you stronger."
I was fascinated by the reaction the neurosurgeon had when she began to talk about what she had just experienced. His materialistic worldview was threatened to the point that he abandoned his professionalism, got angry, and stormed off.
The ultimate phase of Existence is "material" too: another State of Matter before gas liquid solid.
I hope your husband is in a correction facility and getting the psychiatric help he needs. What a wicked person. You poor lady, having been treated so awfully, you desseeve only the best ❤ You're nde testimony is so uplifting ❤ I think nde's needs to be taught on all nursing/care and medical courses! No patient should ever be gaslighted and told what they experienced wasn't real. I believe you ❤ I'm so happy you found true love ❤️
He doesn't need psychiatric help, he's evil, there's people that are simply evil and will never change, they don't want to change, they like being the way they are, people must start understanding and accepting this to really change and make things for the better, they need to start understanding and accepting that evil is real, unchangable when it's really there and pure and some people are just like that, you can't change them, and some people simply don't seem to be able to understand how someone can be evil and unchangable or can't understand it and they may be afraid of it, of the idea of evil being what it is
@doloresgronenberg5882 your right, some people enjoy being evil and don't want to change for the better x
As soon as someone becomes abusive towards you GET OUT as soon as you can because if you stay it is more likely than not that you will end up dead in the long run. Love yourself and don't tolerate abuse of any kind🥰
It is so hard when you love people who décide to stay inside abusive relationships out of "love" 😢
It's usually years in and often once she's married and had a child......that seems to be an inducer for abuse to start.
When my dad died it was such a sense of relief to be away from him. I suffered from PTSD and had a nervous breakdown because of all the psychological abuse. It took 12 years to free myself from the demons.
Im so sorry you went through all that. Its so much more common than I care to think about. I hope your doing ok now lots of love to you🤗@@adrienneterzen2604
Yes, they can keep up the false face for a long time but not forever. That's why as soon as there is any sign of abuseive behaviour it's best to get out.@@AG-nn8lp
What a wonderful thing to happen. I am 73 i havent been well since the Covid virus. I had blood clots in my lungs all 4 quadrants. Over 2 years later, i lived througj it although my health never totally came back. Every time i get an infection i get worse. The Bible gives me peacee. Im sure the NDE is something. I miss my mom, my husband and my 42 year old brother. We need to Trust God for peace in our lives. God must be wonderful!
I will pray for you
You will be fine ❤❤❤ stay strong mentally, your never alone ❤ 🙏🇨🇦
Prayers that you feel better 🙏❤
Suffering is a great teacher of compassion and mercy of others. Thank God for His mercy and grace
NDE’s are more common than what hospital staff wish to acknowledge. Face it, the truth is our soul never dies, but many people are not ready to believe. Awesome story with a beautiful ending. ❤
When I heard how she met the love of her life I cried in hope for myself! ❤ I love this story! Thanks for sharing
Same here, May God make it easy and bless us with what our heart desires so much
I just thought the same.
I thought that part was magic. Her nightly writing good attributes of a possible future true love in the journal is so, so sweet. Seems to me it was a kind of prayer, because so deep and heartfelt. She was incredibly brave to pick up a pen each night and write in such a way, daring to hope for true love in the face of so much terrible pain and heartbreak she'd been through.
Agreed. Gave me hope. Scared to leave and ashamed, too.
Beautiful soul! So happy you found your soul mate. My soul mate just passed but is sending so many signs. He passed peacefully at home with me taking care of him. His last words were of love and gratitude for me. I love him so much! ❤
What kind of signs?
I feel like my soul mate left me also
Thank you for that I lost my dad about 2 months ago
And it has affected all of us
He got to be home with us
And my mom took care of him
After he passed
My dad put it in my heart to buy her a outfit
Because she deserved it for taking care of him
And a thank you from him
I will never forget that
My mom is really going through it
We all are
We miss him
My first husband passed away within 3 months from being diagnosed with pancreatic cancer I believe he is around me
Hello Tanja how are you doing. God bless you so much. Where are you originally from? I look forward to hear from you stay blessed
Mine left on a business trip to Huston.I had plenty of time to pack up and leave the abuser. My three sons and I never looked back. I'm an advocate today working with victims of domestic violence. I did remarry a great guy .Going strong 20 years❤
When my dad died he wasn't on drugs either. Was non religious and he had people come and get him to take him over.. he was so at peace.. he talked about it all the way through.. it was wild and soooo cool. My dad wasn't on morphine NOTHING..❤❤❤
Hey its my old friends step mom! I grew up around her. Loved the story, I never heard it completely from her.
Lady they did not want to tell you that you had a near death experience because you died through their fault and they did not want to get sued by you. I’m happy you made it through and that you had a wonderful experience.
My dad passed away very recently and these stories are carrying me through the hardest times
I did not have a NDE, however, I relate to this story in that I experienced first-hand abuse by a covert narcissist. This was eye-opening to me as an empath and it seemed like my spirit was opened to a greater reality that I was not previously protecting myself from harmful people. Truly, it is a blessing when an empath can learn to love themselves as well as others.
Amen!
I left years of marriage after the last physical attack. He tried to kill me.
As a husband of 33yrs, this video is a hard pill to swallow. Being far from perfect, I pray for forgiveness from our Lord, Father, my wife, my family for my imperfect ways over the decades❤️❤️❤️🙏😞 I feel for this woman and her struggles❤️ This world is a rotten place
Please repent your sins to God and to your confessional father. It is critical if you want to save your soul. You sound repentant. Apologize to your wife and those you hurt and start anew. This time is given to you so can use it for repentance. There is no sin that Our Lord Jesus Christ can’t forgive. Even the reason you came across this video is a calling to you. May God be with you through this journey.
I really hope you haven't been putting your wife and kids through the hell of physical abuse. There is help out there.
Nobodys perfect. Day to day we have to try
@@mimigm6595Saving repentance has absolutely nothing to do with turning from sins whatsoever.
Jonah 3: 10 calls turning from sins," works."
"And God saw their *works* that they turned from their wicked way and God repented of the evil that He would do unto them and He did it not."
Furthermore, sin is transgression of the law, therefore, repentance of sins is law keeping and is certainly a lifetime of works and has never saved anyone or contributed in any way to salvation.
If repentance of sins helps save you in any way then it had better be perfect repentance.
God's standard is absolute perfection not your best efforts.
Trying doesn't count.
Not even one sin is allowed to be in Heaven.
The book of James says that if you follow the whole law and offend in one point you are guilty of all.
Oops so much for helping out with your salvation by attempting to repent of your sins.
God grants repentance unto the acknowledgement of the truth.
*Saving repentance is realizing that you are a sinner deserving of God's just punishment in Hell and turn (repent) from whatever you trusted in before, if indeed you trusted in anything; to trusting in the person and finished work of Christ alone for salvation.*
I serve God faithfully out of love and gratitude for the free gift of salvation.
Salvation is absolutely free and not conditional upon service to God.
@@mimigm6595there was no mention of Jesus or repentance in this nde experience
They doctor freaked because you could have sued them for that error they made during the surgery. It wasn't because you had an NDE. You were right, and they did not want to validate you.
My mother, may G_D rest her soul, said the time to leave a marriage is at the first abusive act (punch, slap, kick, etc.).
Hello beautiful lady Monica how are you doing😇
It is a beautiful story. Barbara is a nice narrator, soft voice and great wisdom. God bless you.
Thanks for listening
Yes a lovely voice and story
I'm a survivor of domestic violence. Finally left when I heard a rifle bullet whiz by my left ear. His second wife was not as lucky. 💔
Had an NDE for something else and, like most others who have them, I find it difficult to describe the immense Love on the other side.
Blessings to Barbara for her life. To others who are enduring abuse, please try to get help: it's out there. Extra angels to your side.
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❤❤❤ sendin love your way
Been there got out just in time thanks to God 😢
I have to assume this is true and it's a beautiful story.
Either way, I'm glad you're ok.
I hope my son had a beautiful experience like this.
I lost him in November 2018, he was my only kid and I miss him with every beat of my broken heart 😢💔
I am so so sorry for your loss. I believe he is waiting to see you again, as I'm sure you are waiting to see him again.
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I look forward to it 🌳
So agonising for you I can't imagine
For anyone who goes through domestic abuse be strong n get out - you & ur children - if u have them, deserve much better
My abusive Spouse was dying of cancer, and it felt like he was trying to kill me with his emotional , verbal , & mental abuse-the worse he got, the more he upped the threats. It felt like he was trying to take me with him. A voice in the back of my head told me I was no longer the safe around him. And I wasn’t-I had to call 911 on him twice , and my bp was out of control from the fights. But I guess it wasn’t my time-his narc abuse for 18 years has done its damage, though. I’m 59; he’s been dead for 3 years ❤.
You are free to be now. Be at peace and live your best life.
I hope you find peace. I pray that you refined the steps that you have already set for yourself with your creator before you came into this world. You will rise, you have already. It takes time to take those steps. Babysteps…
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I met Barbara and she is wonderful. She tells her story so beautifully.❤
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What actually caused her near death? What was “the wrong button?”
I was with my 47year old daughter when she took her last breath on jan 29 2024. I know she is with God. When she was in hospice she said that her grandpa was there in her room. I knew she would be safe and is having a beautiful life. No abuse or worry from her divorced husband anymore.
Thank you for sharing your story; one of my best friends had an NDE also; It always profoundly effects people. I'm so glad it's going more mainstream. The power of God, of love is just a veil away. Peace to you always ~
God bless you Tracy😇
This ND was amazing. Thank you Barbara! Her voice is so calming. God Bless her and her family!
Thank you for your feedback. Glad you enjoyed it!
She went through hell
And back and met the DIVINE ONE. That is what her calm presence is. She is radiating that love.
Yes so true her voice is so soft and calming.
I live in a tower apartment complex (public housing) filled with active alcoholics, drug addicts and people who just got out of prison, having served decades. Sometimes I feel so unsafe, even though I pray for them and myself. Because I am a disabled, poor senior, I don't feel that I have many choices to get out.
I am sorry to hear that. I hope you will be safe. Maybe someone you trust can help you with shoping etc.
I live in a very rural area surrounded by forest so i can't imagine how difficult it is for you to go out of that tower🙏🏻...
I am so sorry to hear that..... :)
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Yes, I am grateful to have an outstanding aide to help me with shopping, laundry and cleaning, etc.
Am sorry you are going through this. I lived in a tower block similar to yours after i lost everything. Had no money only good family around kept me sane. I Just kept praying to God to find a way out and he answered my prayers, got a nice flatwith good neighbours. Keep asking and don't give up and pray for those druggies and jakeys cause we don't know what terrible things caused them to get that way.
Do you have a local Area Agency on Aging?? Or something to that effect? Perhaps they can help you find different housing……
Remarkable interview. I believe 100% in these out of body experiences. They're all the same experiences - from up above, looking down. And the same feeling of warm love.
Welcome back and glad you're okay 😊
What a blessing to have that new man brought to her and to find that he was the very person she had listed character traits of and prayed about. That brought tears to my eyes.
Cried my eyes out at this one, wanting to go back because of her children and save them. Also very inspiring, it's not about changing him, but changing yourself. Thank you!
Thank the Lord for your testimony & thank God you got away from that abusive man. I have been there & the abuser has my child. I mean he has physical custody please pray for her, her name is “Alana” she is 10 years old. I’ll pray for your children as well. Bless you lady of heaven.
This lady is telling the truth. I had a similar thing happen to me, it honestly feels like utmost love and all ur worrying just goes it's calming and peaceful
What an amazing woman. I absolutely believe her. Good for her for getting away from the husband. I hope all good things come to her.❤
I love Barbara, I’ve heard her recount her NDE numerous times, this is one of the best. It’s amazing to see her progression, in her younger years she didn’t reveal the being next to her to be God, I’m so glad she came to that conclusion. I also hope that neurosurgeon came to terms that God exists and it’s actually HIS divine inspiration that allows the surgeon to do what he does. It really bothers me that they tried to intimidate her into not questioning the fact that they killed her, I wonder if she sued them.
Yes I’m sure Jesus will reveal himself to her soon
Jesus is the Way
I am glad someone mentioned that neurosurgeon. Clenched fists and storming out of the operating room...wow. I suspect what angered him most was that no, it was not HE who played God and 'saved' her, but that a higher power that is everything and everywhere. He was just the tool. At the time she had that experience, there was no internet and very, very few books available about spirituallity, NDE or reincarnation. And to talk about it to hard core Christians would have been difficult. I remember well back in the 70's, such works were considered 'devils work'.
the surgeon mustve been rather worried if she had seen the whole process, he could be in trouble
I've not had a near-death, but was in a very abusive first marriage, and wasn't planning to ever marry again, but same thing happened to me--our kids worked to put us together. May you have many, many happy years that fully make up for the sad years.
wow!!!Barbara..it is real..I did not have a near dead experience..but I did have an experience..I was injured i an accident and had so much pain..and I pray to Him and fall asleep and in my sleep i felt someone touching my neck(that was injured) and turn my neck slowly for 4 times..when i woke up my neck was cured..And Barbara i am so proud of you that you walked out of that abusive relationship..You are a beautiful soul❤
As a mother it’s our job to raise strong children, not fix broken men. 💙💙💙
Thank you Barbara Bartolome for sharing your breathtaking story. Thank you to the wonderful film makers who deliver these beautiful gifts. Bless all of you who share in this experience together.
Thank you 🙏 we think Barbara’s story is amazing too 😊
Such a beautiful soothing voice, melodic and loving. I could listen to her forever. Thank you for sharing this, it elevated my soul.
So glad you enjoyed it!
It reflects her inner beauty :)
I found her voice extremely soothing to listen to. I'm so happy for her getting out of a dangerous relationship and into a safe loving relationship she and her children deserved. Her NDE wss a blessing in disguise. She came back for her children. It would have been easier to walk away but she didn't. I feel sorry that no one believed her. I'm glad she spoke up in the hospital instead of them letting authority figures dismiss her. Can you imagine how NDEs people have never seen spoken about because of this type of attitude. Even to this day, a lot of people are afraid to talk about their NDE or simply like to be private. Only the people who have expressed it can tell you if it was real or not. Anyone who says it's not real or they are making it up for attention or publicly, have no rights to say it isn't true just because they have never experienced it. I had a close nde if you can call it one. I had a cardiac arrest during a serious operation. It was a few hours after the surgery and I'd not long finished a cup of tea and toast that my lung started collapsing. At first I thought it was the toast had gone down the wrong way, but I could feel bubbles I'm my chest. It was like checking for a puncture in a tyre when you put it in water to see if bubbles come out. This continued and I tried to get a nurse by the call button. It was then I realised if I moved it was starting to push to the other side, so I stayed still and waited for the nurse. I was unable to scream or call for help because I was barely able to breath. I was in the end bed of the ward when the nurse was doing her rounds. She had the standard test equipment for heart beat, blood pressure etc. I told her what was wrong. She looked at me and picked up the equipment and walked away. I was relieved because I thought she was going to get help. I was trying to stay as calm as possible because the more I panicked, the harder it was breathe. The pain was indescribable. I know a few hours had past because the dinner lady had asked me what I wanted and I was trying to respond loud enough to hear, but she must not of heard me and thought I was ignoring her. So, I knew another while passed. I just remember sitting up in the first bed of the ward with a warm orange glow around me and it was like I was being an actual photo album of people but images were nearly like a 3D image. Only the happiest moments of my life and the people I love and cared for were being shown to me. I was feeling content, warm, blissful. I didn't feel any pain at all. I don't know how long this lasted, but it wasn't until 10pm that night someone noticed there was something wrong. This was 10 hours after I had first felt the bubbles in my lungs. It took a further two hours before the xray was imspected by the surgeon who did the surgery. I could hear him calling my name really loudly throughout the corridor in a rushed and panicked way. He tapped on my chest and back with his fingers, listened to my lungs and asked me to point to which lung. I could still speak but I must have been barely barely able to whisper at that stage. He brought in a portable xtay machine into the ward and x rayed me on the bed. We both knew that if I had to sit up it was game over. The second the tub😢went in and the liquid came out. The doctor asked me when did i first notice the lug collapsing and i told him 12oclock that day. I had been lying on the bed dying and not one person noticed! I heard him going ballistic at the nurses. They said they were not on shift at the time it happened and he said you were on shift for the last 4 hours and didn't know? She has been lying there for 12 hours with a collapsed lung and not one nurse noticed? You did no post operation stats on the patient? I had to have a drain for a few days and the recovery was excruciating. But I think I got a partial nde.. I don't know if I died during them 12 hours but what I did experience was not a hallucination or lack of oxygen. I believe to this day that God in his loving wisdom helped me to continue to fight to live for the people I care about and how much they cared for me too. You don't always see the people who care about you but I know that you are always in their hearts. I wouldn't have survived them 12 hours without God's "little NDE". I truely believe this woman. You might not see God but you can feel his love. Like a father we all want to have an amazing relationship with. I hope this lady talks to a few more media interviews to let people know that life doesn't end when the body dies, its just a learning experience we chose for ourselves, even the most horrendous lives. We come back to help other souls who are younger to grow in pure love. I'm so happy that lovely lady had the wonderful life she deserves.
She is such a beautiful person, and I can sense her peace and kindness. God Bless her for sharing her NDE.
She has a very nice way about her.
When she said, “and I realize he was the person I was writing about 30 years after he still is that person”… I had incredible goosebumps all over my body, and my tears just started in my eyes..
I needed this emotionally/spiritually. I’m adopted from Korea and never bonded with my adoptive family-well my adoptive father I did. My mom kicked me out of the house at 15 and a lot of bad things happened to me. Now I’m 52 and I ache and miss the mother who birthed me. Sometimes I talk to her or her grandparents in prayers hoping they can see me and hear me. Thank you for sharing your experience. I believe you.
Those people at the hospital were horrible to her, especially the neurosurgeon. They almost killed her but didn't even apologize, didn't acknowledge what happened to her and even screamed at her after she had just came back to life! She should have sued them.
Yeah i was thinking that aswell, clenching his hands and having a literaly tantrum infront of her for asking real questions
I hope she changed her doctors as well as her husband
@@jordanhenderson3307sounds like he was a stubborn atheist who carried his whole weight behind him, I wish people could realize there's life after death and to not dismiss things so quickly just because we merely cannot comprehend
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She should still sue them.
So great that she found a great guy. What a life story. She is so soft spoken and loving so rare these days. I want to give her flowers.
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When she said "It wasn't him who needed to change, it was me"--I clapped my hands. You have to love yourself!
"I realized [...] it wasn't him that needed to change... it was me." 💧
What a beautiful soul. I also wrote down a very specific manifestation list. So specific that it included items like "loves animals but doesn't have any animals" because my son was having allergies to dogs and cats. Without going into too much detail, there was a divine intervention and I met him about 6 months later when I least expected it. And he had also written his own list with sketches of me! We've been together for 10 years now and I cannot imagine my life without him.
I don’t mean this in any rude way at all, but I used to be into the new age witchcraft stuff and manifesting is included in that even if it seems harmless. Im 17 yo and raised as a christian but became athiest (im now saved and christian again) but please stay away from manifesting, it’s not from God.
Professor. I made manifestation list too. It worked.
There is a Difference between Manipulation and manifestation. Ask and it shall be given!
Wow ☺️ congrats ❤
@@brookeparker4193 I think you can also just write a list praying in your mind and heart, praying to Jesus about what your heart desires not just manifesting to the universe.
Loved this ladies story. She seems like the nicest person. I'm so glad she left her abusive partner and found someone to love and who loves her.😊
Im so sorry this had happened you didn't deserve that, this is heartbreaking 😢 ..abuse is evil.. no one has the right to abuse anyone... unfortunately this happens everyday to a lot of innocent people... God will keep you going strong , he will always be there for you because he is the most greatest love❤
I was so blessed to watch this. It speaks to me, personally, as if God meant for this to be his last instruction to me in my own situation. What a beautiful, warm, kind soul she has! She was strong, even before the NDE, because she put the pressure on herself to try and help her spouse change. It's just that she couldn't, and she had to come to the realization of that, thus God took her through that near-death experience to basically help her see it was okay to leave him and He would help her do that. That shows us that God doesn't want a woman to always stay in a long-term abusive marriage...each case being different, of course. The church-at-large has done a lot of damage by putting lots of pressure on women to stay in these kinds of marriages and say that they'll be out of the will of God if they don't! The guilt gets put on the woman instead of the abuser! His sins get covered up and tolerated. This has gone on for a long time, even if the couple are not in church... that's the mentality. God knows best how to protect His own and He will rescue that person, if need be. This is how He rescued this woman. And he made a way for her by taking her husband out of town, so she could get a restraining order and pursue the divorce.
"To rise above being just human, and become something even more beautiful" - Thank you Barbara. This one had me in tears in the most beautiful way.
Those are incredible words!! If only everyone could think of this every now and then!
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in heaven we will be glorified and perfect. I believe it takes the power of Jesus to do it though, so we must receive him. This lady already believed in him as she was going to church, all we have to do is believe and make sure we do the right things
Wow, that was incredible. I feel so sorry for her old life with that horrible, abusive husband, my God I can’t believe some people are like that. But it’s incredible that she was shown how to leave him and she did and that she found love again and now she’s sharing her incredible experience with all of us. Thank you so much beautiful lady, God bless you. 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻💜
God will show the way if you listen. ❤️🙏
Hello how are you doing. God bless you so much. Where are you originally from? I look forward to hear from you stay blessed
Barbara is the host of the Santa Barbara IANDS (International Association of Near Death Studies) meeting. She has a lot of warmth and is very welcoming.
Yes.. people need to know spiritual world. There are angels guiding us. Demons spoiling and troubling people. God is within us. Seeing, feeling knowing everything about us. Thanks for the testimony. God bless you and your family 🙏🏻
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❤What a beautiful soul, So pure and sweet. Thank you so much for sharing your story. So happy her life changed for the good
I believe you because I've seen his light when he saved me from death and he spoke unto me .. 😢 Blessings to all of you that believe the truth . ❤
This woman is very impressive. You can just tell that she is 100% genuine. I'm sorry she had to go thru that abuse, but God brought her thru it.
Very glad I watched this (at midnight 😊).
This was the best account of an NDE I've ever heard. Barbara's telling of her story was not only believable, but her delivery was outstanding. The woman is very well spoken.
This is the most beautiful NDE I ever listened to. I was in a domestic violence relationship for about 10 years and it almost killed me. When I changed my life I was able to finally keep me and my son safe. I felt like I was somehow doing something wrong but it was just a new feeling for me. A feeling of freedom.
I dont know if you ever gonna read my comment ammoung so many but if you do i just wanna tell you how im so happy for you and for what i listen. Thank you for sharing with us. Youre blessed
That neurosurgeon sounds like he's really full of himself. I'm glad she left that abusive partner. We can't change anyone, those people don't want to change, nor would they be capable of changing.
😊Exactly, this is why we need a Savior!