@@kenrellsellers3750 My dumb ass didn't even go To court I was so pissed she lied on me. Now I got a restraining order on my for a whole year for nothing And we still talk. All she gotta do is get mad at me and I can go to jail. The system is rigged for toxic women.
Thank you for the content. Through these stressful times in my life it makes me feel better to know someone has gone through the same thing. Very useful info my dude
Thanks for the tips. How long was the entire hearing? How long did she present? How long did you present? Did you have a chance for cross-examination? Did you ask her questions? What kind of evidence did you bring? Did her lawyer object to any part of your presentation? Many thanks
It’s crazy how one (man) would think, “dang I bet I’m the only one that has a girl lying about me” but dang there’s way more men out there that this happens to. Great video brother. I have a hearing coming up and I can’t even believe my ears about this. Just like you said in your video. I paid all the bills as well and the home. While she’s there now and I’m sleeping in my car tonight. I started coming up with my game plan and researching to make sure I’m all prepared. I’ve done printed out all my evidence, pictures, screen shots, and will summarize everything to make it super easy for the judge to read with cover sheets on all exhibits. I will now be adding pictures of memories of who I am to the kids, what important part I play in their lives and thanks to you I’m going to also add my game plan with the kids and how important it is to continue being a part of their everyday life. I’m switching the tables on this one cuz I’m going for full 100% custody. All her lies will be backed up with time stamped dated evidence showing different, plus I have even more dirt on the accuser whom thought she wiped my phone out clean so I wouldn’t have any dirt on them. But guess what, gotta thank that iCloud:) amen!! Sorry you went through this, but after my case, I’ll come back and let y’all know how it went. And I should also do like you and share some knowledge with a video on what I went though and how to get ready for this battle that men “GOOD MEN” honest, sincere true men do not and should not have to go through.
Thanks for watching. I wish the best for you, my brother. Remember only facts, no opinions or feelings. I have full confidence that everything will work in your favor. A win for one is a win for all.
I broke up with my ex and he filled a restraining order even though he’s the abuser. I can’t afford an attorney so these videos are helpful. Thank you.
Brother I like you I really do. But my dude chill with the clips and keep the content to the point then maybe here and there add some funny clips. Your layout is distracting to the good information you do have. 🤙🏼
@@justmeandmyboyz3537 I think hes right. most people are not here for the entertainment value. That kinda stuff is all over youtube, to the point where people making more serious content are starting to stand out more. Also, "legit" news sources are not filling this gap currently, so its a craving people have at this point.
dude yall all sound emotional as hell towards the wrong person i think its healing to Fathers thats been recked by false allegations ,kid napping and domestic violence ,and abuse charges by a hateful baby momma 🧐🤨. and the jokes were ice breakers to take the edge off newly affected male youth and elders .
They watch u when u come in they watch u. That's how they decide. The judge watches u on camera. I did not even look in her direction. I did not react. That's how they decide these particular cases. Observation. Don't talk over her. This guy given u the game.
True. Mine stared at me the whole time and kept turning his chair towards me. Said”I’ve changed “ “her safety is very important to me” the cop had to tell him not to look at me three times
Listening to this a day before appearing in court although the defendant will most likely not show up because “she wants nothing to do with it” even though she was the cause of all of this smh. First and last time hopefully dealing with this. Thank you for such an informative video!!
Brother, I got good news! Since my ex filed a TRO, a lawyer I couldn't retain advised me to go file A PETITION IN RECONVENTION at the court house, have it NOTORIZED, CLERKED-IN, and submitted to the judge to grant my RELIEFS. This simply means I counter sued my ex and put a TRO on her as well. Got to court today without a lawyer, her lawyer approached me and we agreed on withdrawing our petitions. Went into the court and the judge granted us DISMISSAL. NOW, we just need to go to mediation to put a custody and Visitation order in place. Win-Win brother. Thank you for EVERYTHING!
This is awesome! I'm glad I was able to assist you in your case. What I'm most proud about, is another father educating himself, and putting that knowledge to use, to win. You didn't just win for you, you've won for all fathers that have lost/loosing to the court system. One love!!!!
@@justmeandmyboyz3537 Thank you sir. Any advice on child support? Ex said she just wants us to co-parent, but my head is screaming "GIFT." I am definitely filing child support on myself whether she likes it or not!
@@geedaytamesthecharts9093 Once Mediation is ordered, child support will be a definite. The court will make sure the children are taken care of. You're only obligated to pay the ordered amount, and in some cases, if you're a responsible parent, you're paying much more, when providing for your child. The only way child support could could be terminated, is if you both come to a mutual agreement, that child support isn't necessary. Given your toxic history, I wouldn't trust anything from the other party just yet.
@Joe R 3four6two69eight70zero Call me. It's very easy. I will be glad to talk to you on the phone if that's fine with you. The information is free. Brothers gotta help brothers! Men gotta help men!
This is good advice . I just got one served on me at work yesterday . It’s for calling her out of her name and using text apps when she had blocked me . Yet she had me at her home the night before she filed on me and only did so because we go into an argument. I stayed at her home and bed a week before that also and she invited me down to the park to see my son 3 days ago . The only time I ever called her out of her name is in retaliation when she would call me all kinds of horrible names first and I have all of the messages .
Bro same situation. My ex put one on me for harrassment and cyber stalking. I was blocked and i was persistent and texting her off textnow with multiple numbers. I never made any threats though. Just tried to get her back. How did your case go? I have court in 2 weeks and im scared
I'm sorry to hear that this happened to you bro. Thank you for sharing the lessons learned, it shows a lot of compassion. I was just served a TRO for harassment by a girl I was casually dating. She's knows that I'm moving to NY in a week for a new career and she's trying to ruin me. I can't believe what we go through in life. Thanks again and I hope all is well
Thanks for watching. My purpose for this channel is to use my real life experiences to help as much people as possible. I will admit reliving these moments are challenging, but if it means helping people, than it's all worth it. My advice to you is to remain calm, stand on your truths, and trust the process. What matters is the end result. It's unfair that you have to deal with this, but this experience is a true character builder. Good luck with your case and keep me posted.
Thanks a lot for the response and kind words! Definitely gained a new fan today. I will definitely keep you up to date on what happens and you may have inspired me to do my own video when it's all over with, either way it goes. Should I just shoot you a comment on this thread when I know?
Thankyou for the advice brother. I haven't seen my baby boy for 102 days do to a No contact order my wife issued. She said I made threats which is all hearsay. It's costed me my relationship with my son for over 3 months now. My Lawyer finally scheduled a Hearing to modify the no contaxt order. Please keep me in yalls prayers.
Thank You for this video. My daughter’s father filed for an Emergency Order of Protection because I exposed his lies to another woman he was cheating on me with. I never knew this was a man’s tactic. I go to court in a few weeks. Wish me luck.
This video is meant for men who are innocent and have had the court system used against them, like me. I'm for protecting the innocent. I'm in no way trying to have men deceive the courts for their own personal gain. Hopefully, your situation turns out well for everyone involved. 🙏🏾🙏🏾
@@justmeandmyboyz3537 I was speaking on my situation. I totally enjoyed your video. I was saying I didn’t know men ran to the courts, especially falsely. I have not done anything to him. I am pissed he was able to obtain an EOP with the stuff he wrote.
I understand. The courts are for everyone. Traditionally, women have used the courts. Men have realized that they having the courts on their side means going first.
More good news brother. Ex refused to file Child support, so I went file one on myself today. She wanted cash... I said nope! Expecting to go to mediation soon. Yay! So glad this ex is off my shoulder!
Stumbled upon this and good to hear that point about keeping emotions in check because all I can think of is what to say against her lies in court but that's not gonna help like you said. Peace to you my man
@@alfthebastard8064 so it was very emotional. I was ok for the most part and stood in my truth. He lied, of course. His lawyer was there so he didnt say anything at all. The worst part was reliving and telling what happened. I got a 6 month restraining order in the end instead a 3yr order. He tried for a 30 day restraining order bc he didnt want to be without his guns. I was thankful for the 6 mos.
Thank you so much for the advice man, I am headed to court tomorrow and was thinking of showing emotions but not now and I just want to work my marriage out.
I have been a victim of order of protection abuse. Used to gain an advantage in a custody battle. There should be negative repercussions for people who lie and misuse the Court system
Wow I’m sorry for all the guys commenting here that have had fake frivolous bc court papers on them from a drama. Queen power trip or to manipulate custody- so messed up.
Bro this helped me so much. I'm going through exactly the same thing. I have a court date coming up for custody of my child. My fiance was dealing with another person and doesn't want me around. She filed an order of protection to keep my son away.
That being polite shit has never worked...we have been respectful and they still sentenced us to longer time...respect is not an issue, the facts should be.....
Just Me And My Boyz loved the video is there a way to reach out to you? I’m about to go into a domestic violence case gone bad. I’m trying to make sure that I have all my ducks in a row before my court date. My ex wants to make sure that I don’t don’t get custody of my son.
Dude my crazy ass step mom filed a DVPO on behalf of my daughter saying i tried to stab her with a butcher knife when she’s never even been in my house. Lmao we have court tomorrow
Sad that men have to go through all this I understand why some men completely walk away and never look back that’s what I’d do kids or wife would never see me again it’s not worth it in the long run. That’s why you never marry women and never have kids.
I always considered filling a restraining order against the girls who spread rumors about me in high school. I never was in a relationship with any of them (or at all) and seriously was depressed since I never texted them or have any documentation they were spreading rumors about me that I knew (and they) would affect my relationships (they were popular). being a man sucks because I doubt a judge would grant a order to protect me , an unfit man against a pretty girl . those times were a long time ago and it's in the past but we were all playing a game who could file a restraining order against each other first . I couldn't lose since a restraining order would make me inedible to possess a firearm and disqualify me from military. maybe it was in all our heads since the only interaction I ever had was shaking their hand in class.
Yo? in a situation were she knew i would get a restraining order and some how beat me to ot first? What are my options do i still get the order of protection toeards her?
Unfortunately I was coerst into signing the consent form for the restraining order against me and she used my children against me and used her father to get me out of the house so I can take him to the ER the same day she decided to leave me and it was the day prior to my birthday, I was heartbroken and devastated and I was already heartbroken by my family whom I grew up with mixing my belongings with my deceased grandmother s estate so I was already emotionally drained and not in my right mind and all I could think about was seeing my children and my children seeing their father to make sure they were taken care of 😢😩 She said that I was abusive but I protected her from the abusive one
Depends on the case. In most cases, if you know you're innocent, then you have a chance. It's all about how you present yourself to the courtroom. Your every move is being watched.
I did in court yesterday. Even know I'm just now seeing this today. My case is different. The mother tried killing the baby. Litterally picked up my mew born daughter by her leg. Holding her up side down with a knife in her hand right in front of her own mother/the grandmother. They didn't lock her up. Just a few days in the hospital. I went to get a restraining order they granted it for 1 year. Then the grandmother went to go get one on me. The judge thur hers out for lack of evidence. A month later the granny has a lawyer. I was told my court date was moved. So on March 10th the grand mother and her lawyer showed up for Court. My court date that was moved was between me and the BM. Not the granny. So her lawyer got her approved for a restraining order against me for 3 years. Apon protective services recommendations can I get monitored visits. I pulled her records. She has had the cops called on her a lot by the grandmother that defending her after sge tried killing the baby. Man its a long story. But I'm trying to find a lawyer that can put my words on paper in away that will let them hear me. Cause they rejected my letter to have the protection order thrown out. U get 14 days to submit in writing if u didnt attend court. Smh
Thanks for this video sir. I plan to get a restraining order issued to my 8 year son mother who has temporary custody of our son. The family court temporary order was made in Texas but the mother and child live in Missouri. My son told me two days ago that his mother had sex in front him in a bed room he was up watching tv in the same room on the same bad. His grandmother stepped in and also caught the act.
You cannot mail a restraining order to anyone. If has to be served by a sherrif or a person over 18 that is not a party to the action or you can hire a civil processor and the server must complete a proof of service form. The police cannot serve a restraining order
I know about this because I live in the state of California and I am in the process of taking my neighbor to civil court because for a whole year she has been calling me psycho bitch------and I am not that at all......she also threatened to kill my dog too
I did all this. My attorney Exposed 4 lies the petitioner said and 2 lies her witness said which contradicted what the petitioner testified. The judge still granted the DVRO. We proved she wasn’t afraid of me by continually passing by my house. She denied ever passing by my house then when we showed her the videos she admitted to them. Lies under oath and still got it granted. It was crazy. She clearly did it to retaliate against me for breaking up with her.
Thank you for trusting me. Thank you for listening and watching. My purpose is to spread the word then allow the word to spread itself. I'm happy to hear this. This is what motivates me to continue.
Can a RO lead to more? Like, what I’m being accused of on the RO paperwork, can that turn into actual charges? I’m actually not opposed to agreeing with the RO against me, I don’t wanna see this person ever again anyways, but I don’t want to have it turn into more just because I comply with it. What I’m being accused of isn’t even that bad, but I’m working towards a career where an extensive background check will be done, and I can’t have anything against me.
I only know what Ive learned from my own experience as an actual domestic violence survivor who needed an RO for actual real safety but (and im in CA, idk how areas differ) when I filed my request for a "temporary protective order" it had nothing to do w any criminal charges. That would've been a completely seperate process and I would've had to call the police, report that he did some crime against me, assault, etc, then say I desire to press charges and have him arrested and tried for that charge. Those two things are fully different, seperate processes and records. I actually did both for my situation and they never crossed paths actually. Now, both actions (RO or pressing criminal charges) can be in reaction to the same incident like being assaulted, for instance, but they are still seperate legal actions and the girl would have to pursue them seperately. When I filed my RO request, its not like anyone asked me "do u want to press charges for what he did?" Thats a totally seperate thing, she'd have to go thru the police dept and make a police report. But maybe u should fight the RO if ur future job might see it in a background check.
thanks for this video man. My Ex and I dont have any kids but she is definitely making up things because she doesnt want me in the picture anymore. But now she assassinating my character. Tbh im looking at possibly suing for defamation of charater at this point
Don't be nervous, this is normal. The hearing could be intimidating to endure, but remember why you are there. Turn your nerves into positive energy. Remember, only present facts, because they could care less about your opinion. Please check your emotions and feelings before you enter the courtroom. Remain calm at all times, and listen to every piece of detail. Speak with confidence. Please keep me posted. Good Luck!!!
@@justmeandmyboyz3537 thanks for the advice and support 🙏💪just like you said i need to be in my kids life, just focusing on the facts and the evidence.
My gf is 8 months pregnant. And she did that restraining order on me. I can't see the birth of my first child. She didn't even call the police. It was her mom. How can I defend this?? At this point I lost everything
Bro im stressing rn im being completely misunderstood. Okay so i like to go on drives in my car i can't go very far cuz well the car isn't insured or anything. And basically i kept going down this one road where there was one house and i used this ladies driveway to turn around and head home. Sometimes i would sit a bit because i like to listen to music and my car does not have a radio. So i have to fiddle with my phone and just change it. My accuser things im stalking her which is completely false. Ive never gotten into any legal trouble in my life.
Hey guys my name is Daniel I’m in the very heart of all this my emotions are running wild I got a restraining order against me false stuff I need some help guys wise words thank you for your video
Great advice but i did all the above and still lost. If anything they were disrespectful and interrupting me the entire time. I had mounds of exculpatory evidence. Didn't matter. What they are doing is called abuse of process.
There are other factors included in determining the outcome of the case. Of course the judge is key. There's a serious gender bias in the courts, and men continue to be victimized. My video just gives you a better chance at winning.. Giving the nature and your history within the courts also plays a role. Sorry, you lost your case.
Thanks for the vid. I'm trying to find information re restraining order taken out by my fella's adult children in an attempt to get rid of me. I might as well write the book, it's unusual enough to leave me with few resources. Best to you and your Boyz
I'm pretty sure you could. It's depending on the judge. You're able to do whatever's necessary to prove your case, as long as it's not directed towards the petitioner or not disrespectful to the courtroom.
When you're in court for a Restraining Order hearing, you are not permitted to talk, look at or make any statements towards the petitioner. You can only talk to the judge. Hopefully, this clears up my response.
@@justmeandmyboyz3537 Ah yes! Of course. I gotcha. I love my daughter so much, I don't know why she's doing this to her dad. I'll have to Pray before not to be emotional and stay calm and keep focused on the Judge... Thank You Sir😢😎🤟
I understand trust me. Just know the courts could give a dam about how you feel about your daughter. Check your emotions and only present facts. I had to learn the hard way.
Does my babymama need to show proof because I have not seen my daughter in 22 days since she wants to keep her away from me.....also she has no evidence for what she is accusing me of.
Of course she has to show proof. The case will be dismissed is she doesn't. Her proof must me factual as well. Make sure you explain to the judge that you haven't seen your child. I advise you to get a calendar and document all of this. The courts will honor that as evidence to support your case.
im having the opposite problem, where the judge isn't taking my claims seriously, outright dismissing my claim without even telling me why. Im going to provide pictures of the abuse next time, but I was more than thorough with the details, and can't find any resources online about how to deal with this. The only resources I can find are specifically for women getting more ability to win their cases. Im kinda pissed.
The history between the two parties matter. If there has been documented cases against you, this tends to work against you in court. The ruling judge won't take the case seriously unless you are in clear and present danger. It's hard to sway the judge once there mind is made up. My advice is to seek legal representation when things get this complicated. You need to get your case forward to another judge.
@@justmeandmyboyz3537 what if... the first incident which was the worst, I didn't report because I originally wanted to protect them... Legally, do they treat it as though it didn't happen? Do I actually have to press charges in order to get a restraining order taken seriously? P.S. thanks for the response.
If it wasn't documented, it's like it never happened. All the person could say is it's not true and it could hold weight. You have to get in the habit of not letting things blow over. You have to remember that the judge is hearing the case that was given to him. Unless he was the same judge in the prior case, everything becomes hearsay! As men we are viewed as soft when we get the law on our side, but you gotta asked yourself, is your life more important than being viewed as soft.
@@justmeandmyboyz3537 .... what kind of society are we building if the only way to get our concerns treated seriously is to treat others with suspicion and document everything over the line we might do, just in case? In my case I let things blow over because I thought it would be the last time, and I believe in second chances Thanks for the info
you can still file complaints/ reports. even if an arrest, charge and/or conviction doesn’t happen, the incident would be reported. may vary state to state.
You have blown out my ears several times already. Please stop with the random buzzes and loud noises. Please be aware that people are using headphones to listen to your videos~
The mother was granted a 6 month restraining order. My emotions in the courtroom caused the judge to really put something in place, even though there was no history of abuse or wrong doing on my part. The order granted was more a precautionary thing. Also, an order was put in place for me to continue seeing my children. This situation definitely changed the dynamics of our relationship. We haven't been the same since.
highly suggest you balance sound effects and music with dialog, had to turn volume up high to hear your dialog and then the sound effects and clips would come in suuuuuper f***ing loud
I have my son with me currently. My girlfriend caller the police on me for DV said i was drunk and hit her. They came out seen that wasn't true and she was the one drinking. Advised me to leave for 48 hours. Next day she files assault on a female and requested a DOMESTIC VIOLENCE ORDER basically a restraining order but in closed i cant carry my firearms or use them and she requested emergency custody of our son. So on the day of court i have a lawyer. Before roll call my lawyer talks to her lawyer and comes to me and says it was dismissed that i was free to go. 3 days later i get a letter in the mail saying the ex parte was continuing and still in effect to reappear at court in about 2 weeks. I dont see how this can be done but im out 850$ from a lawyer and nothing got done. Unable to pay another attorney i resorted to RUclips school. There is a police report stating that there WAS NO VIOLENCE and 2 police officers that we're subpoenaed to the 1st court date but it was dismissed and now it's not? Im glad i came across your video you seem like a stand up man. But that's my story anyone want to give advice i also live in N.C
Its very emotionally straining to be accused of something like this by the person you love and mothered your child. I pray it isn't granted and i can have the officers in court in time to testify. It will be tough without a lawyer because my anxiety it already high enough.
I sympathize wholeheartedly with you. I could imagine the mental toll this has taken on you and your child. Continuing without a lawyer is not as tough as it may seem, in a restraining order hearing. The judge wants to hear from the two parties, to get a better judgment of character. Having a lawyer doesn't gaurentee you victory, especially, for fathers. In your case, focus on the facts. The courts must honor factual evidence. If you can, get a character witness. Throughout the entire hearing, remain as calm as possible. You're gonna hear something's that's going to upset you. Your facts are what's gonna determine your fate. Read through all the details and statements. Learn your case inside out. When it's time for you to face the judge, you will be confident in presenting your case. Not having a lawyer is a blessing if you allow it to be. If you know you've done nothing wrong, then things will work out for you. Praying for you brother!🙏🏾
@@justmeandmyboyz3537 i won that case!! Now she hits me with the assault charge so i assume it will go as this one did. Only difference is i let my anger over come my calm and txt her. So i am in violation of my bond conditions hopefully she wont use that to have me picked up. Thank you so much again brother.
@@lliweif6320 Just know know, when the circumstances are as bad as yours, the fight is never over. Nomatter how tempted you are, you must keep your cool for the sake of your freedom. I'm glad to hear that you won that case. I'm thankful for you to have allowed me to assist you in some kind of way. Stay strong and free! One love bro✊🏾
Bro I stg I did what u said and I won bro. I stg. I did not look at her react to her and was prepared. I listened to u. Thank u.
Congratulations, I have court tomorrow
I'm glad you won bro, I go in to days trying to find all the help I can because I got lied on
Did you have court via zoom?
@@kenrellsellers3750
My dumb ass didn't even go
To court I was so pissed she lied on me.
Now I got a restraining order on my for a whole year for nothing
And we still talk.
All she gotta do is get mad at me and I can go to jail.
The system is rigged for toxic women.
Thanks man for this video helped me a whole lot. Youre a real one for sharing your personal experiences.
Thank you for the content. Through these stressful times in my life it makes me feel better to know someone has gone through the same thing. Very useful info my dude
Restraining orders can be about trying to humiliate the other partner.
I agree
Thanks for the tips. How long was the entire hearing? How long did she present? How long did you present? Did you have a chance for cross-examination? Did you ask her questions? What kind of evidence did you bring? Did her lawyer object to any part of your presentation? Many thanks
Thank you for sharing your experience! I’m going to use these tips you gave us all.
It’s crazy how one (man) would think, “dang I bet I’m the only one that has a girl lying about me” but dang there’s way more men out there that this happens to. Great video brother. I have a hearing coming up and I can’t even believe my ears about this. Just like you said in your video. I paid all the bills as well and the home. While she’s there now and I’m sleeping in my car tonight. I started coming up with my game plan and researching to make sure I’m all prepared. I’ve done printed out all my evidence, pictures, screen shots, and will summarize everything to make it super easy for the judge to read with cover sheets on all exhibits. I will now be adding pictures of memories of who I am to the kids, what important part I play in their lives and thanks to you I’m going to also add my game plan with the kids and how important it is to continue being a part of their everyday life. I’m switching the tables on this one cuz I’m going for full 100% custody. All her lies will be backed up with time stamped dated evidence showing different, plus I have even more dirt on the accuser whom thought she wiped my phone out clean so I wouldn’t have any dirt on them. But guess what, gotta thank that iCloud:) amen!! Sorry you went through this, but after my case, I’ll come back and let y’all know how it went. And I should also do
like you and share some knowledge with a video on what I went though and how to get ready for this battle that men “GOOD MEN” honest, sincere true men do not and should not have to go through.
Thanks for watching. I wish the best for you, my brother. Remember only facts, no opinions or feelings. I have full confidence that everything will work in your favor. A win for one is a win for all.
I'm in the exact same position, I go to court Friday.
I broke up with my ex and he filled a restraining order even though he’s the abuser. I can’t afford an attorney so these videos are helpful. Thank you.
My current situation
seems like a wonderful, sincere gentlemen.
wish him the best, in the future and now.
I can tell this guy is a great dad.
No lies detected!🙌🏾💪🏾
Good Advice. I'm going to mine later this month. I never been to court ever. Thanks.
Thanks for watching. I pray all goes well. Keep me posted.
Are you going with a lawyer?
Avoid Pro se, if you can.
Brother I like you I really do. But my dude chill with the clips and keep the content to the point then maybe here and there add some funny clips. Your layout is distracting to the good information you do have. 🤙🏼
Thanks for the advice! Just trying something new to keep the viewers engaged. I get your point. Again, thanks for watching.
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@@justmeandmyboyz3537 I think hes right. most people are not here for the entertainment value. That kinda stuff is all over youtube, to the point where people making more serious content are starting to stand out more. Also, "legit" news sources are not filling this gap currently, so its a craving people have at this point.
on god
dude yall all sound emotional as hell towards the wrong person i think its healing to Fathers thats been recked by false allegations ,kid napping and domestic violence ,and abuse charges by a hateful baby momma 🧐🤨. and the jokes were ice breakers to take the edge off newly affected male youth and elders .
They watch u when u come in they watch u. That's how they decide. The judge watches u on camera. I did not even look in her direction. I did not react. That's how they decide these particular cases. Observation. Don't talk over her. This guy given u the game.
True. Mine stared at me the whole time and kept turning his chair towards me. Said”I’ve changed “ “her safety is very important to me” the cop had to tell him not to look at me three times
Listening to this a day before appearing in court although the defendant will most likely not show up because “she wants nothing to do with it” even though she was the cause of all of this smh. First and last time hopefully dealing with this. Thank you for such an informative video!!
Brother,
I got good news!
Since my ex filed a TRO, a lawyer I couldn't retain advised me to go file A PETITION IN RECONVENTION at the court house, have it NOTORIZED, CLERKED-IN, and submitted to the judge to grant my RELIEFS.
This simply means I counter sued my ex and put a TRO on her as well.
Got to court today without a lawyer, her lawyer approached me and we agreed on withdrawing our petitions.
Went into the court and the judge granted us DISMISSAL.
NOW, we just need to go to mediation to put a custody and Visitation order in place.
Win-Win brother.
Thank you for EVERYTHING!
This is awesome! I'm glad I was able to assist you in your case. What I'm most proud about, is another father educating himself, and putting that knowledge to use, to win. You didn't just win for you, you've won for all fathers that have lost/loosing to the court system. One love!!!!
@@justmeandmyboyz3537
Thank you sir.
Any advice on child support?
Ex said she just wants us to co-parent, but my head is screaming "GIFT."
I am definitely filing child support on myself whether she likes it or not!
@@geedaytamesthecharts9093 Once Mediation is ordered, child support will be a definite. The court will make sure the children are taken care of. You're only obligated to pay the ordered amount, and in some cases, if you're a responsible parent, you're paying much more, when providing for your child. The only way child support could could be terminated, is if you both come to a mutual agreement, that child support isn't necessary. Given your toxic history, I wouldn't trust anything from the other party just yet.
@@justmeandmyboyz3537
Thank you so much. I completely agree.
I will be filing CS on myself come Monday.
God bless you brother.
@Joe R 3four6two69eight70zero
Call me.
It's very easy.
I will be glad to talk to you on the phone if that's fine with you.
The information is free.
Brothers gotta help brothers!
Men gotta help men!
This is good advice . I just got one served on me at work yesterday . It’s for calling her out of her name and using text apps when she had blocked me . Yet she had me at her home the night before she filed on me and only did so because we go into an argument. I stayed at her home and bed a week before that also and she invited me down to the park to see my son 3 days ago . The only time I ever called her out of her name is in retaliation when she would call me all kinds of horrible names first and I have all of the messages .
Bro same situation. My ex put one on me for harrassment and cyber stalking. I was blocked and i was persistent and texting her off textnow with multiple numbers. I never made any threats though. Just tried to get her back. How did your case go? I have court in 2 weeks and im scared
I'm sorry to hear that this happened to you bro. Thank you for sharing the lessons learned, it shows a lot of compassion. I was just served a TRO for harassment by a girl I was casually dating. She's knows that I'm moving to NY in a week for a new career and she's trying to ruin me. I can't believe what we go through in life. Thanks again and I hope all is well
Thanks for watching. My purpose for this channel is to use my real life experiences to help as much people as possible. I will admit reliving these moments are challenging, but if it means helping people, than it's all worth it. My advice to you is to remain calm, stand on your truths, and trust the process. What matters is the end result. It's unfair that you have to deal with this, but this experience is a true character builder. Good luck with your case and keep me posted.
Thanks a lot for the response and kind words! Definitely gained a new fan today. I will definitely keep you up to date on what happens and you may have inspired me to do my own video when it's all over with, either way it goes. Should I just shoot you a comment on this thread when I know?
Just hit me up at jsmfootball2@gmail.com
I'm curious.whatever happened in your case?
that was the cutest intro ever, i wish i had a father.. like that
Thank You!
I’m here watching to help my case against my loser x 🤣🤓🙏🏼 good advice!
Thankyou for the advice brother. I haven't seen my baby boy for 102 days do to a No contact order my wife issued. She said I made threats which is all hearsay. It's costed me my relationship with my son for over 3 months now. My Lawyer finally scheduled a Hearing to modify the no contaxt order. Please keep me in yalls prayers.
Thank You for this video. My daughter’s father filed for an Emergency Order of Protection because I exposed his lies to another woman he was cheating on me with. I never knew this was a man’s tactic. I go to court in a few weeks. Wish me luck.
This video is meant for men who are innocent and have had the court system used against them, like me. I'm for protecting the innocent. I'm in no way trying to have men deceive the courts for their own personal gain. Hopefully, your situation turns out well for everyone involved. 🙏🏾🙏🏾
@@justmeandmyboyz3537 I was speaking on my situation. I totally enjoyed your video. I was saying I didn’t know men ran to the courts, especially falsely. I have not done anything to him. I am pissed he was able to obtain an EOP with the stuff he wrote.
I understand. The courts are for everyone. Traditionally, women have used the courts. Men have realized that they having the courts on their side means going first.
@@justmeandmyboyz3537 Understood and no one should go under false pretenses. However, your tips will be very helpful for me thanks.
It’s not a man’s tactic it’s a little baby boy’s.
More good news brother.
Ex refused to file Child support, so I went file one on myself today.
She wanted cash... I said nope!
Expecting to go to mediation soon.
Yay!
So glad this ex is off my shoulder!
Why would it be better the file one on there self?
Stumbled upon this and good to hear that point about keeping emotions in check because all I can think of is what to say against her lies in court but that's not gonna help like you said. Peace to you my man
Thanks for watching! My mission is to inform and it's working.
Thanks for the video, Brother. Love that SHIRT!
Hey thank you very much for this video. Very helpful. 🙏🏾
"u have to show the court u are not the person u are portrayed to be" ommfl.
Thank you for telling your experience. My court hearing is in a couple days. The hardest part will be my emotions. Thank you.
NP! Good luck!
Update
@@alfthebastard8064 so it was very emotional. I was ok for the most part and stood in my truth. He lied, of course. His lawyer was there so he didnt say anything at all. The worst part was reliving and telling what happened. I got a 6 month restraining order in the end instead a 3yr order. He tried for a 30 day restraining order bc he didnt want to be without his guns. I was thankful for the 6 mos.
Thank you so much for the advice man, I am headed to court tomorrow and was thinking of showing emotions but not now and I just want to work my marriage out.
How did it work out for you
Did it work out?
Thanks my guy! You’re killing it!
Great video thanks for the tips brotha
Appreciate you sharing your experience with us. Thanks man. Hope you find your self a better women. We got this #singledads
I already have and happily remarried! Thanks for watching.
They use them as a sword instead of a shield!
I have been a victim of order of protection abuse. Used to gain an advantage in a custody battle. There should be negative repercussions for people who lie and misuse the Court system
Thank u my brother thanks for looking out .
I feel sad to all the fathers who have been and going through such indescribable pain
It's pure evil
I agree totally. It's pure evil. A law that abuses fatherhood and relationship with their children. Wicked law.
Wow I’m sorry for all the guys commenting here that have had fake frivolous bc court papers on them from a drama. Queen power trip or to manipulate custody- so messed up.
Had mine today to fight the order. Judge said he will make the rulling later. 🙏
Bro this helped me so much. I'm going through exactly the same thing. I have a court date coming up for custody of my child. My fiance was dealing with another person and doesn't want me around. She filed an order of protection to keep my son away.
Keep fighting bro...keep...we need to get all men together and fight the system too...
That being polite shit has never worked...we have been respectful and they still sentenced us to longer time...respect is not an issue, the facts should be.....
Really your emotions....really they care nothing about us....we need protection as fathers, who helping us....
Good content brother. Keep pressing 💯
Thanks for watching!🙏🏾🙏🏾
Just Me And My Boyz loved the video is there a way to reach out to you? I’m about to go into a domestic violence case gone bad. I’m trying to make sure that I have all my ducks in a row before my court date. My ex wants to make sure that I don’t don’t get custody of my son.
Like he said u gotta sway the judge. Judges are open minded.
Man I need to send you a friend request I have so many questions
Thanks for the tips, and focusing on helping others.
Thank you. I’m a women dealing with it too.
me, too
@@francescasala6746 sorry it’s tough! Hugs 🤗
Dude my crazy ass step mom filed a DVPO on behalf of my daughter saying i tried to stab her with a butcher knife when she’s never even been in my house. Lmao we have court tomorrow
Good advice thanks! I will use the tips tomorrow.
Thanks 4 sharing the good advice bruh.
Sad that men have to go through all this I understand why some men completely walk away and never look back that’s what I’d do kids or wife would never see me again it’s not worth it in the long run. That’s why you never marry women and never have kids.
That’s why you will be forgotten and never have a legacy
@@roadmoney8712 at least I’ll be happy with money to spend on myself
@@Tye2Solo96 👍🏽
Please try to win your Restraining Order if you have one. It can make a difference!
Yes, Your Honor. No, Your Honor
Bid bless u the spirits told me this but still open to knowledge got court in 4 hrs wish me luck
Thanks for this much needed my man!!!!
I always considered filling a restraining order against the girls who spread rumors about me in high school. I never was in a relationship with any of them (or at all) and seriously was depressed since I never texted them or have any documentation they were spreading rumors about me that I knew (and they) would affect my relationships (they were popular). being a man sucks because I doubt a judge would grant a order to protect me , an unfit man against a pretty girl . those times were a long time ago and it's in the past but we were all playing a game who could file a restraining order against each other first . I couldn't lose since a restraining order would make me inedible to possess a firearm and disqualify me from military. maybe it was in all our heads since the only interaction I ever had was shaking their hand in class.
Yo? in a situation were she knew i would get a restraining order and some how beat me to ot first? What are my options do i still get the order of protection toeards her?
@@jaredstone9487 yes always
Bro! can’t believe you went into court not knowing about #2! lol... Glad you learned and came through. Good for you.
Unfortunately I was coerst into signing the consent form for the restraining order against me and she used my children against me and used her father to get me out of the house so I can take him to the ER the same day she decided to leave me and it was the day prior to my birthday, I was heartbroken and devastated and I was already heartbroken by my family whom I grew up with mixing my belongings with my deceased grandmother s estate so I was already emotionally drained and not in my right mind and all I could think about was seeing my children and my children seeing their father to make sure they were taken care of 😢😩
She said that I was abusive but I protected her from the abusive one
Great video Brotha Ty..
It's always good to have trips to win a restraining order hearing.
Man big of you for this video
Thank you so much for your best advice!!!
GUILTY AS SOON YOU WALK INTO THE COURTROOM
Depends on the case. In most cases, if you know you're innocent, then you have a chance. It's all about how you present yourself to the courtroom. Your every move is being watched.
Respect, I love that advise. I need that
I did in court yesterday. Even know I'm just now seeing this today. My case is different. The mother tried killing the baby. Litterally picked up my mew born daughter by her leg. Holding her up side down with a knife in her hand right in front of her own mother/the grandmother. They didn't lock her up. Just a few days in the hospital. I went to get a restraining order they granted it for 1 year. Then the grandmother went to go get one on me. The judge thur hers out for lack of evidence. A month later the granny has a lawyer. I was told my court date was moved. So on March 10th the grand mother and her lawyer showed up for Court. My court date that was moved was between me and the BM. Not the granny. So her lawyer got her approved for a restraining order against me for 3 years. Apon protective services recommendations can I get monitored visits. I pulled her records. She has had the cops called on her a lot by the grandmother that defending her after sge tried killing the baby. Man its a long story. But I'm trying to find a lawyer that can put my words on paper in away that will let them hear me. Cause they rejected my letter to have the protection order thrown out. U get 14 days to submit in writing if u didnt attend court. Smh
Great video.. thank you!!!!!
Last time the judge dismissed my baby mamas restraining order he said he was going to throw her in jail, Thursday should he interesting then... lmao
Thanks for this video sir. I plan to get a restraining order issued to my 8 year son mother who has temporary custody of our son. The family court temporary order was made in Texas but the mother and child live in Missouri. My son told me two days ago that his mother had sex in front him in a bed room he was up watching tv in the same room on the same bad. His grandmother stepped in and also caught the act.
Legit thank you . thank you
My ex threaten me with one.. this helps me put me at ease :,)
She finally did. Going to a hearing and building my case
When someone serves you a restraining order do you get it in the mail, or get served by a police officer?
It is hand delivered, by either a police officer or process server.
You cannot mail a restraining order to anyone. If has to be served by a sherrif or a person over 18 that is not a party to the action or you can hire a civil processor and the server must complete a proof of service form. The police cannot serve a restraining order
I know about this because I live in the state of California and I am in the process of taking my neighbor to civil court because for a whole year she has been calling me psycho bitch------and I am not that at all......she also threatened to kill my dog too
My exes buddy served me and he didn’t even live in the state. He was super happy to serve me to have me kicked out of the house.
This video helped alot thanks bro
Thanks for watching!🙏🏾
I did all this. My attorney Exposed 4 lies the petitioner said and 2 lies her witness said which contradicted what the petitioner testified. The judge still granted the DVRO. We proved she wasn’t afraid of me by continually passing by my house. She denied ever passing by my house then when we showed her the videos she admitted to them. Lies under oath and still got it granted. It was crazy. She clearly did it to retaliate against me for breaking up with her.
U helped me brotha.
Thank you for trusting me. Thank you for listening and watching. My purpose is to spread the word then allow the word to spread itself. I'm happy to hear this. This is what motivates me to continue.
Im sure your tips will work for dvo's aswell. Cheers brother ✌
I use the same concepts in the video dealing with mines, and I did well.
Can a RO lead to more? Like, what I’m being accused of on the RO paperwork, can that turn into actual charges? I’m actually not opposed to agreeing with the RO against me, I don’t wanna see this person ever again anyways, but I don’t want to have it turn into more just because I comply with it. What I’m being accused of isn’t even that bad, but I’m working towards a career where an extensive background check will be done, and I can’t have anything against me.
I only know what Ive learned from my own experience as an actual domestic violence survivor who needed an RO for actual real safety but (and im in CA, idk how areas differ) when I filed my request for a "temporary protective order" it had nothing to do w any criminal charges. That would've been a completely seperate process and I would've had to call the police, report that he did some crime against me, assault, etc, then say I desire to press charges and have him arrested and tried for that charge. Those two things are fully different, seperate processes and records. I actually did both for my situation and they never crossed paths actually. Now, both actions (RO or pressing criminal charges) can be in reaction to the same incident like being assaulted, for instance, but they are still seperate legal actions and the girl would have to pursue them seperately. When I filed my RO request, its not like anyone asked me "do u want to press charges for what he did?" Thats a totally seperate thing, she'd have to go thru the police dept and make a police report. But maybe u should fight the RO if ur future job might see it in a background check.
Good video man, I also cannot believe my wife is doing this to me but I still want them back.
Thanks for watching. Keep fighting my brother.
This music destroy my mode
thanks for this video man. My Ex and I dont have any kids but she is definitely making up things because she doesnt want me in the picture anymore. But now she assassinating my character. Tbh im looking at possibly suing for defamation of charater at this point
Thanks for the advice nervous about my hearing
Don't be nervous, this is normal. The hearing could be intimidating to endure, but remember why you are there. Turn your nerves into positive energy. Remember, only present facts, because they could care less about your opinion. Please check your emotions and feelings before you enter the courtroom. Remain calm at all times, and listen to every piece of detail. Speak with confidence. Please keep me posted. Good Luck!!!
@@justmeandmyboyz3537 thanks for the advice and support 🙏💪just like you said i need to be in my kids life, just focusing on the facts and the evidence.
What would suggest if it's neighbor threatening you and how do you win it
Excellent editing choices!
My gf is 8 months pregnant. And she did that restraining order on me. I can't see the birth of my first child. She didn't even call the police. It was her mom. How can I defend this?? At this point I lost everything
Bro im stressing rn im being completely misunderstood. Okay so i like to go on drives in my car i can't go very far cuz well the car isn't insured or anything. And basically i kept going down this one road where there was one house and i used this ladies driveway to turn around and head home. Sometimes i would sit a bit because i like to listen to music and my car does not have a radio. So i have to fiddle with my phone and just change it. My accuser things im stalking her which is completely false. Ive never gotten into any legal trouble in my life.
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Thanks bro
Wow! I can't tell u enough that u are fucking spot on! Like literally!
Thanks for this video!
You're Welcome! Thanks for watching
Man thank yu !!!
Thanks for watching!🙌🏾
What about if you don’t have evidence of that specific issue but have evidence of other abuse that’s happened?
It's up to the judge in the case. They are there for the specific case. That evidence could help as far as showing their character.
Hey guys my name is Daniel I’m in the very heart of all this my emotions are running wild I got a restraining order against me false stuff I need some help guys wise words thank you for your video
Great advice but i did all the above and still lost. If anything they were disrespectful and interrupting me the entire time. I had mounds of exculpatory evidence. Didn't matter. What they are doing is called abuse of process.
There are other factors included in determining the outcome of the case. Of course the judge is key. There's a serious gender bias in the courts, and men continue to be victimized. My video just gives you a better chance at winning.. Giving the nature and your history within the courts also plays a role. Sorry, you lost your case.
I had to put one on my girl for hitting me 🤷🏾♂️
Thanks for the vid. I'm trying to find information re restraining order taken out by my fella's adult children in an attempt to get rid of me. I might as well write the book, it's unusual enough to leave me with few resources. Best to you and your Boyz
Dude I just had a harassment charge against me and im so nervous
What happened?
info! same situation for my roommate
And That's All I Want. I Jus Want My Daughters Names Lifted Off The Order Protection.
Are you allowed to read an opening statement so the judge understands the petitioner isn't telling the whole story?
I'm pretty sure you could. It's depending on the judge. You're able to do whatever's necessary to prove your case, as long as it's not directed towards the petitioner or not disrespectful to the courtroom.
@@justmeandmyboyz3537 What do you mean by not directed at the petioner, their the person you're trying to make a point about. Help me understand.
When you're in court for a Restraining Order hearing, you are not permitted to talk, look at or make any statements towards the petitioner. You can only talk to the judge. Hopefully, this clears up my response.
@@justmeandmyboyz3537 Ah yes! Of course. I gotcha. I love my daughter so much, I don't know why she's doing this to her dad. I'll have to Pray before not to be emotional and stay calm and keep focused on the Judge... Thank You Sir😢😎🤟
I understand trust me. Just know the courts could give a dam about how you feel about your daughter. Check your emotions and only present facts. I had to learn the hard way.
Does my babymama need to show proof because I have not seen my daughter in 22 days since she wants to keep her away from me.....also she has no evidence for what she is accusing me of.
Of course she has to show proof. The case will be dismissed is she doesn't. Her proof must me factual as well. Make sure you explain to the judge that you haven't seen your child. I advise you to get a calendar and document all of this. The courts will honor that as evidence to support your case.
I have one in 1 month please I wanna talk to you for consultation. Please
good job
im having the opposite problem, where the judge isn't taking my claims seriously, outright dismissing my claim without even telling me why. Im going to provide pictures of the abuse next time, but I was more than thorough with the details, and can't find any resources online about how to deal with this. The only resources I can find are specifically for women getting more ability to win their cases. Im kinda pissed.
The history between the two parties matter. If there has been documented cases against you, this tends to work against you in court. The ruling judge won't take the case seriously unless you are in clear and present danger. It's hard to sway the judge once there mind is made up. My advice is to seek legal representation when things get this complicated. You need to get your case forward to another judge.
@@justmeandmyboyz3537 what if... the first incident which was the worst, I didn't report because I originally wanted to protect them...
Legally, do they treat it as though it didn't happen? Do I actually have to press charges in order to get a restraining order taken seriously?
P.S. thanks for the response.
If it wasn't documented, it's like it never happened. All the person could say is it's not true and it could hold weight. You have to get in the habit of not letting things blow over. You have to remember that the judge is hearing the case that was given to him. Unless he was the same judge in the prior case, everything becomes hearsay! As men we are viewed as soft when we get the law on our side, but you gotta asked yourself, is your life more important than being viewed as soft.
@@justmeandmyboyz3537 .... what kind of society are we building if the only way to get our concerns treated seriously is to treat others with suspicion and document everything over the line we might do, just in case?
In my case I let things blow over because I thought it would be the last time, and I believe in second chances
Thanks for the info
you can still file complaints/ reports. even if an arrest, charge and/or conviction doesn’t happen, the incident would be reported. may vary state to state.
You have blown out my ears several times already. Please stop with the random buzzes and loud noises. Please be aware that people are using headphones to listen to your videos~
You can't please everybody! Thanks for watching. Hopefully, you got something out of the video other than rambling noises.
What happen afterwards with the mother
The mother was granted a 6 month restraining order. My emotions in the courtroom caused the judge to really put something in place, even though there was no history of abuse or wrong doing on my part. The order granted was more a precautionary thing. Also, an order was put in place for me to continue seeing my children. This situation definitely changed the dynamics of our relationship. We haven't been the same since.
@@justmeandmyboyz3537 with you and mother? Did she come around? Can i reach out to you? I can pay foe your time
Came here cause i got a Court date this Tuesday!
Goodluck. Came here to file one against my mother.
highly suggest you balance sound effects and music with dialog, had to turn volume up high to hear your dialog and then the sound effects and clips would come in suuuuuper f***ing loud
Thanks for watching.
I have my son with me currently. My girlfriend caller the police on me for DV said i was drunk and hit her. They came out seen that wasn't true and she was the one drinking. Advised me to leave for 48 hours. Next day she files assault on a female and requested a DOMESTIC VIOLENCE ORDER basically a restraining order but in closed i cant carry my firearms or use them and she requested emergency custody of our son. So on the day of court i have a lawyer. Before roll call my lawyer talks to her lawyer and comes to me and says it was dismissed that i was free to go. 3 days later i get a letter in the mail saying the ex parte was continuing and still in effect to reappear at court in about 2 weeks. I dont see how this can be done but im out 850$ from a lawyer and nothing got done. Unable to pay another attorney i resorted to RUclips school. There is a police report stating that there WAS NO VIOLENCE and 2 police officers that we're subpoenaed to the 1st court date but it was dismissed and now it's not? Im glad i came across your video you seem like a stand up man. But that's my story anyone want to give advice i also live in N.C
Its very emotionally straining to be accused of something like this by the person you love and mothered your child. I pray it isn't granted and i can have the officers in court in time to testify. It will be tough without a lawyer because my anxiety it already high enough.
I sympathize wholeheartedly with you. I could imagine the mental toll this has taken on you and your child. Continuing without a lawyer is not as tough as it may seem, in a restraining order hearing. The judge wants to hear from the two parties, to get a better judgment of character. Having a lawyer doesn't gaurentee you victory, especially, for fathers. In your case, focus on the facts. The courts must honor factual evidence. If you can, get a character witness. Throughout the entire hearing, remain as calm as possible. You're gonna hear something's that's going to upset you. Your facts are what's gonna determine your fate. Read through all the details and statements. Learn your case inside out. When it's time for you to face the judge, you will be confident in presenting your case. Not having a lawyer is a blessing if you allow it to be. If you know you've done nothing wrong, then things will work out for you. Praying for you brother!🙏🏾
@@justmeandmyboyz3537 i won that case!! Now she hits me with the assault charge so i assume it will go as this one did. Only difference is i let my anger over come my calm and txt her. So i am in violation of my bond conditions hopefully she wont use that to have me picked up. Thank you so much again brother.
@@lliweif6320 Just know know, when the circumstances are as bad as yours, the fight is never over. Nomatter how tempted you are, you must keep your cool for the sake of your freedom. I'm glad to hear that you won that case. I'm thankful for you to have allowed me to assist you in some kind of way. Stay strong and free! One love bro✊🏾
File a PETITION IN RECONVENTION ... You can go to the court house and file it yourself.
Does it goes on a person background check?
No it don't. It's not a conviction. It's just an order placed on you by the courts.