For the confused men watching this... this video is by a woman for a woman. Not for men. Not giving men advice. This is NOT about attracting a woman. This is about helping women find men who are keepers. If you're having a problem attracting women, stop whining on comment sections about how unfair things are and go develop yourself into a strong, smart, deserving man. You can do it, I have faith in you. - Matthew Coast
Symmary 8. He's kind and compassionate, not a push over 7. He's patient, with you specifically 6. He's down to earth, doesn't make huge promises he can't deliver on 5. He's reliable and dependable 4. His energy towards you is consistent 3. He shows you he loves you 2. Your feelings are important to him 1. He chooses you and the relationship over being right.
I have a question over point #8. I wonder if what Helena meant to say was he prioritizes me and the relationship over winning arguments. If he thinks something is the right thing to do or say, I believe a worthy man should stand by it. Cheers!
How do men and women romantically bond with each other? I heard that women can build incredible friendships and become very close to each other in a way men can't bond, and I heard that science shows that women can bond very well with each other. I heard that generally, women are even more social than men are. After something bad happens, a woman quickly rushes to talk to all of her female friends to get support, whereas a male can isolate himself and grief alone. I also heard that women tend to be more emotional, more caring, more empathic, more compassionate, more affectionate, more loyal, more nurturing, more sympathetic, more sensitive, more kind hearted, more peaceful, more calmer, more gentle, more expressive, and more outward than men are, and thus bond more with other women in a special way that they can’t with men. Men, on the other hand, are not that emotional, and thus can’t bond with other men in a special way. I also heard that women are more comfortable being around with other women than they are with men. They have a type of bond that usually men with women won’t really have, or with men and men. I also heard that most women like to do affectionate things with their female friends like cuddling with them, while most men would never do affectionate things with their male friends (especially not cuddling with them). Men are usually much lonelier than women are. Men don't often talk about their personal problems with their male friends like how women do with their female friends. I also heard that females produce a lot more oxytocin than males do. And that's a reason why girls tend to hug a lot more and be a lot more physically affectionate than guys do. I also heard that women are very unique creatures, and women feel a lot safer in general with other women than they do with men if either is alone with each other, and it is easier for women to trust other women more than it is to trust a man. I also heard that women are very sociable with each other, so if something goes wrong, they like to speak about it to each other. This is a way to develop trust among women. Women often relate their problems with other women, which makes them feel more connected in a way. I also heard that most daughters have a very strong bond with their mother, while they don’t have one with their father, and most sons don’t have that strong of a bond with neither their mother nor their father. I also heard that most females have a very strong bond with their sisters, while they don’t have one with their brothers, and most males don’t have that strong of a bond with neither their sisters nor their brothers. I also heard that the bond that two females have with each other is the strongest bond of them all, and that's one of the reasons why sayings like “girls always have to stick together” exist. And I also heard that the friendship of males and females can hardly be as good as a female to a female relationship from a woman’s point of view. So if those things are true (which I am not sure at all), then how can a man and woman have a special strong type of bond with each other if women have a special strong type of bond with each other while men don’t have one with each other? Also, men and women are both mentally and physically different from each other (which is true), but would that at all effect the bonding between a male and female?
He doesn't use you to build his ego up. He takes time to understand mutual needs on a relationship. He does not insist on getting his way. He is not selfish. He does not threaten you with other females...you can trust him. He's honest and not a phony.
Once again, this is advice for women, not men. This will only land you in the friend's zone if you're not ALSO a strong, masculine man who goes after what he wants in life.
It is, that's true. Women always want to date someone who is a high social and economic standing than they are, generally speaking. We do have a lot of women who get on here who complain because they only date guys that they end up supporting financially. But my guess is that in the real world, that's a lot more rare than it is on our forums.
Night Rider I disagree. A mature woman who wants a PARTNER IN LIFE is looking for exactly this combination. Add funny to that list, and he could look like Jabba the Hut to the rest of the world, and be absolutely beautiful in my eyes.
Commitment Connection - Relationship Advice No, a man got to be a leader of a family and he is able to lead/support his wife and their family. He also should be able to be responsible taking a care of finances and households. That's our job as a provider/a head of a wife. For a man to be a head of his wife is to be her leader, not her master like a control freak.
No I believe he was saying, ask a man who has been in a long relationship with a good woman, because women believe they know what they want but the man who’s been in a 50 year relationship and they are still happy is who you need to ask.
Can I ask a legitimate question?, why are relationships always geared towards what a man has to do to please a woman? Should both people be working towards treating each other with respect and love? If it’s too balanced to one side the relationship will fail because one person (the woman) has all the benefits and then the man will resent it and look elsewhere. All I’m saying is.....make it 50/50. Women treat your man good, men treat your woman good.
Look at the rest of this channel... we have over 400 videos here on what women need to do to please and get a man. Most of the women on our channel ask the same thing you are in reverse.... "Why is always about what I have to do to get the man?" - You're on a women's dating channel and this is advice for women, not for men. This isn't even about what men have to do to get a woman, jeez.
Can confirm. I'm an absolute psychopath and I can sell people tons of shit. "Oh your car burst into flames and now you're here for a new one? I wonder how that happened?".
Also, the girl specified a more of a real man kind of vibe. Salesmen get the girl but in the end they loose because they cant maintain the "provide" aspect of the relationship
you are better off not having a job, living with your mom, and no driver license and wearing an ankle bracelet, you will have more ladies than you know what to do with if you chose her way you will remain a love tampon for eternity
It has been proven time and again (look at research done by every dating website) - what women SAY they want, and what they actually go for are two different things. Yes, us men can also be shallow, but at least were honest about it.
Hi Josh. You are 100 % correct. I once had a date with a head nurse here in St Petersburg, Florida. At the restaurant where we were dining, she hands me a 6 page questionnaire which she wanted me to finish before we left the restaurant !!! Unbelievable !!!
Good list for making an LTR work. Keep in mind it's a TWO WAY street! She should do the same for him. Which from our point of view would include: 1 Be sexually available more often than not. Essentially it's why we men get into relationships, to have great sex and have it often. Nothing tells a man he's respected and appreciated quite like this. If you are saying "no" more half the time then your relationship is in serious trouble. 2 Look good. Take care of yourself. Always be the girl he fell in love with. Don't put chips and soda ahead of your relationship. 3 Give us space. Give us room to be who we are. Dirt bikes, playing in a band, hockey, whatever. In fact, appreciate and support this. Basically, make your guy feel like a grown man every day of his life and it will work.
I'm a Man! LoL. Black Male age 46. I agree with this list, *except for #1. Being right is not about EGO it's about Truth. A high value man will not live a LIE just to make others happy. With that said, the same man should admit when he is wrong and own up to it. But a Alpha male will never down play his intelligence & integrity just to "appease" a female. *What if he actually IS right most of the time ??!
There's nothing wrong with being right... but being attached to being right, even when you're wrong or holding being right over someone else's head is destructive to both men and women.
That is what is said in the video, maybe it could have been articulated better there but we definitely didn't say that you should pretend like you're wrong when you're actually right.
What you are asking for is a woman. Men do the following: Protect, Provide, and Put Out. Our job is not to make sure your 'feelings' are ok. Feelings change with women every 15 minutes. That's why women don't even get along with other women. From a woman's perspective, it's about nurturing your family despite your feelings. Women in the 1800s didn't worry about feelings, they focused on feeding their kids and making sure their husband had a meal on the table (after a 14 hr day), and giving him sex when he requested it.
Michelle Bowen Divorce rates back in 1800s were literally less than 1%, while today it shoots above 60% (CDC report). So, first off, the model of 1800 marriages show that it was working. Progressives (shrugs), they are such miserable failures that can’t their own family together. Why? Because “feelings” are clearly being elevated over “family.” Again, that’s 60+% divorce rate right now. My gosh... that’s just too sad... way too sad.
P.s. you should read actual letters written by married couples in that time- like with Margaret Davenport Coulter to her husband John Coulter in 1795. All she ever ever desired, in return of being a good wife, was “having the sweet consciousness of knowing myself the best beloved of your heart...” Women back then had something that not all women have today... an EXTREME amount of character, resilience, wisdom, and strength. That’s why divorce was below 1%
Lol, the truth is that you only need money if you have no personality... if you have no personality and you're too lazy to develop one, then yes, you can use money but you'll be left for someone who has more than you. If you have a personality, you don't need to worry about that.
I agree, and i am saying this as a woman, that is in her feminine energies when with her beloved one and masculine/feminine at work. If a man thinks that women r seeking only money, then he probably haven’t met that special one in his life. Today men operate more in feminine energies and to find real masculine high value man is not easy. I am lucky 🍀 to be in a great relationship with that man and no money can change that cos we both know that we r very valuable people .
Ofcourse but in my case that women showed all sign of a high quality women but after 2 n a half years she felt out of love with me n finally left me. Now she says that she still loves me but my mind just changed after this ,, n i had all the above mentioned quality in precession.
We teach this to women too because the same thing happens to them. You need to continually attract your partner to you for the life of your relationship or he(she) will eventually lose interest.
What? Nothing about a scripturally spiritural and noble man. One who follows his Fathers laws commandments and statutes and being an example to others and is passionate about his relationship with his Father in heaven and your salvation. Honey, if you find a man like that in today's corrupt times you hold onto him like elmers glue to wood.
Agreed! Truer words could not be spoken. The Godlier a man is the more the average woman will turn a blind eye!. They are after an image not a real man
James Watson western woman are cancer because they believe that God is a myth. It takes a hell of alot more faith to believe that everything there is just made itself out of nothing. Thus, it would have had to exist before it existed in order to bring itself into existence...now thats no myth, its a retarded fairytale..LOL!!!!
This video is for women who want to know if the guy they're dating is right for them. I have plenty of videos on the channel about how to treat men. In fact, I usually get women complaining about how they are always being told how they should treat men and that it's unfair that we don't tell men how they should be treating women. So while I get your concern, you'd have to watch more than just this one video to get the full scope of what we're doing here.
You, You, You, You, You... Its all about whats best for the woman... - See, the problem here is: That if you become a wimp for the woman in this way & acknowledge every single thing of her wishes: She will start disrespecting you for not being man enough! Why does most females choose the Douchebag over the Gentleman - Theres your answer! - If a woman dosent get controlled, she will not end up respecting her man! End of Story !!!
Commitment Connection - Relationship Advice - Thank you for posting an interesting video. I don’t have much to boast about but I have a very secure job, own my house, my car, love animals and I’m financially independent. So I need to ask an intelligent woman for an honest opinion. I have been with the same woman for seven years. I have had some medical issues but I get by and never give up. However, although she tells me loves me, she never touches me, pushes me away when I try to touch her, plays on Facebook in her free time, rarely cook (I don’t know how. Well, nothing anyone would dare to eat anyway) and never cleans. Since she moved into my house, I feel she has absolutely no respect for it whatsoever. When she lived in her own apartment, it was spotless but not, I can’t remember the last time she even dusted. One room has become nothing but a disgusting dumping ground and to be honest, I really feel lonely. I have expressed how I feel and I won’t try to tell you that I’m perfect because I’m not but never in my life was I ever with a woman so distant, cold and disconcerting. I’m easy going, don’t demand anything and pretty laid back. I’ll clean, food shop and try my best. Since I’m a cancer survivor, I was hoping that she would take time out to make sure that I eat properly but that is non existent. She never wears make up or never dresses lady like and nor does she care. To be honest, I believe her “love” is more of a friend type of love, opposed to actually being in love. Any truthful input would be sincerely appreciated because to be perfectly honest, I feel like I’m stuck. I don’t see any of this changing and yet, the years are passing by and we all know that time lost can never be restored. I hate living like this. All I want is for a woman that would be kind enough to scratch my back once in a while. This is, without a doubt, the most confusing relationship I have ever been in.
Why so many thumb down this girl has a gold attitude she knows how to spot a real good loving man. The thumb down are coming from chauvinist men or women who like abusive men.
For the confused men watching this... this video is by a woman for a woman. Not for men. Not giving men advice. This is NOT about attracting a woman. This is advice FOR WOMEN helping them identify men who are keepers. If you're having a problem attracting women, stop whining on comment sections about how unfair things are and go develop yourself into a strong, smart, deserving man. If you don't, you just deserve what you do or don't get.
single by choice just wanted to see how many of the 8 i possess 7 1\2 out of 8 her number one is 50\50 if iam right 90% of the time and she is just crazy , i'm not going to let her be right 90% when she's not just to keep her, this goes back to number 8. kind but not being a pushover .. at that point it becomes my fault for even letting her in to my life. my bad ! i miss women so bad . american women just aren't worth the trouble anymore.!
Matt Ayers American woman! Stay away from meeee. American woman! Mama let me beeee. Dating is tough if end goal is finding one woman to marry. I agree I’ve had some spoiled girlfriends, but I’m not sure I’m ready to give up hope. Nobody’s ever going to be perfect, even abroad. You gotta compromise. That’s not to say compromise where it matters, but figure out what actually does matter and where you’re just being nit-picky lol Also, stupidity is the human condition in general, not unique to Americans as so many would have you believe. Source: looking at the state of the world.
I think confusion is inevitable, so let me elaborate on MC's point - this is about men who are identified as keepers by women, not men who want to attract women. If you try to do things to attract women, you're just a beta orbiter or a simp. You need to do things for YOURSELF to be identified by women as keepers.
@@AnimalMother60 I ought to believe the possibility you are a woman. I have nothing much against a women and as I read the views of above Mr. Matt Ayers, there lies an undignified truth and reality ironically and even simply in a common parlance. Women as we all know are set out towards .........an inquest to accumulate as much as possible from men, by hook or by crook and I am not including every woman is in that format. The malady of shrinking that is profusely miscalculating the code of social conduct with both the genders is currently leaving a very bad taste in each other's mouth. So both genders, honestly and candidly should come together to dismantle this sordid mess that it is definitely eating into the vitals of each aspects; and transform into a just to be an exemplary example for our social futures children, generations because 99 percent of our progeny catch up the good or bad habits from parents and are to become part and parcel of the fabric of our society in the very long run. So both your good self think about it and settle the dust the earliest possible. !! with due respect.. Social Activist, Toronto, Canada.
Commitment Connection - Relationship Advice Weak: -Point 7) Tolerating bad behaviour -Point 1) Prioritizes emotions over facts (if he does it with your emotions, it wont be different with his own) This conflicts with point 6, but no need to stress that too much. Feminine: -Point 2) Bases decisions on emotions... Conclusio: Your specification given in the comment is also part of the traits described in the video. But thank you for the honest agreement with the comment of MaxxG.
This isn't even advice for men. How do you guys not realize that this isn't even for men? How about if you want advice for men you go watch advice for men videos instead of watching this?
@@MatthewCoast Its hard to be masculine if you've never had a father figure arnd you in your life and were brought up by your grandparents. Im masculine, but not to the point i meet ALL 8 of these "qualities", probably about 4 or 5 of them, so i guess i dont make the cut huh? Oh well, atleast i got my house to myself, dont have to pay mortgage or rent, no children/no baggage and have friends with benefits. Im content cause im MGTOW.
MGTOW is the best because it weeds out all of the weak men and allows for stronger men to get all the women... so just keep making excuses, talking about MGTOW, and crying about how hard your life is on forums, it'll keep you single for the rest of your life when you could just take a couple months, learn some social skills and then get women... one keeps you right, the other one gets you women. Your choice.
+Andrew not quite 40+ yrs old. A mature enough women can also be 27+yrs old. And the women will have some good enough eyes to see these traits from a far. It depends the education that she has received in her family.
Commitment Connection - Relationship Advice so you admit that women aren't attracted to this type of man yet you ridicule men that point out that women aren't attracted to these type of men. Guys like you are the worst. In complete denial of reality. At least be honest about it. This video teaches women how to find a sucker. Im just curious as to why you get so defensive when men in the comments say the same thing you just said: that women aren't attracted to these traits. You're only helping nice, vulnerable men get preyed upon by broken women. How do you sleep at night?
Patrick Chargois , sometimes men back off too much. Almost like ghosting, I can't stand ghosting. Stupid flipping game crap that people do. But giving a little space every once in awhile is not bad.
Matthew Coast again with this “masculine shit” . And you think guys have feminine girls? Bitch please , if something that a man does is “not masculine” then everyone judges him and the world is against it . So you telling me woman working security , bus driver , POLICE and even paramedics are feminine jobs? Woman for the past 20 years been very masculine as hell but when a man does something not so “masculine” , then he’s trash and deserved to get friendzoned. gtfoh
@@mateodelacosta7688 In a society which condemns and even imprisons us for "toxic masculinity"? Face it dude, what they really want are: 1) A large wallet, 2) a blue pilled and mindless Mr.Universe type of guy. P.S. In most cases this "ideal guy" is not the same person.
I have a good friend who is definitely a red/black pill guy and he's in a relationship with a hot liberal chick and he's not rich. How? Because he understands that women like strong, masculine men who are fun and interesting... what women think they want and what they respond to are two completely different things... so don't worry about what she wants and do things that she responds to. That's how you get women, not by being a blue pilled money bag... those guys get left for better men.
I will relate what a woman said in a lecture about women choosing men. She said that in addition to a man being physically clean, limit yourself to just two additional qualities in a man. She said that the inclination of a woman is to keep adding to the list as each quality is met by a man. Example. If you want a rich man and that he be taller than you, don't complain if he is bald and older by 15 years. A SF madame once related to a group of women doctors and women lawyers at a luncheon meeting that more than 1/2 the time that men frequent a prostitute all the men want to do is talk. So keep in mind that you should listen if you want to ever develop a relationship with a man. Stop worrying about the 8 or 25 qualities of a man and focus on listening, you will attract and keep them that way.
Maribeth Z You are also right here. Most young couple has to pull theirs income to establish a family. A good provider does not imply a sole bread winner.
Commitment Connection - Relationship Advice this video focuses on the qualities of men, not on those women should have to deserve these men. My point is that nowadays most western women think they are entitled to everything in a man: money, looks, height, status, alpha but beta when it suits them, etc...while offering little in return in terms of looks, femininity or generosity of spirit.
Have you seen that there's a whole channel here of videos? This video focuses on what women should look for in men... the other videos focus on what women need to do to deserve a man like this. You might want to watch some of the other videos.
Excellent list! I would also add: A man who is not easily influenced by other men's opinions is a high value man. He has his OWN values and is not easily swayed by the pressures of other men.
This was very interesting and to the point. I listened carefully to what was said and 45 years ago I aced all of these qualities. But sadly the family I married into thought I was too good to be true. Just recently, during counseling, I discovered that I was a Pathological Altruist, having become one due to an abusive father who, today, would have went to prison for what he did to my 3 much-older sisters. At 66 I'm single, lonely and simply too tired to find anyone else. I gave my very best, but it wasn't good enough.
Keith Lincicum I just read your comment and found it to be so sad. Hopefully, your life has improved somehow, at least a little? I think I understand what your Dad did to your sister's as that happened to me by a family member as well.
Wish I could believe this but 50 shades of grey selling 180,000,000 copies seems to be a pretty strong case of what women really want and what they think is romance.
Commitment Connection - Relationship Advice I'm sorry. You're right. My point had no merrit at all when comes to the obvious phenomenon of women being attracted to hyper masculinity. I suggest you block comments if you can't handle a retort.
Lol, I'm just stating the obvious that you somehow missed. This isn't about what attracts women, it's about helping women identify good men. Women are attracted to masculinity and we're helping them identify good men so they end up with the right guys. It's pretty simple.
+CC-RA - Probably not a good idea for you to be calling out people in the comments section. YT Comments is a cesspool, and if you want to develop a serious channel, you'd do well to keep your feet dry.
Yes. Google " 50 shades psychology " and you will see this type of man leaves women damaged for life, he is a psychopath, or high level narcissist. But it doesn't matter , because he has the 3 qualities women want " he is high social status hanging with famous people, he is rich, and he is very good looking. There are the three qualities.
Wow. This is a sad world we live in when the extremely basic qualities mentioned in this video are needed to be listed. Every man should have these at a minimum. Sad.
"mgtow is feminism with a beard... Not much difference honestly." -DarkSifu Incorrect. MGTOW is about a single concept. Feminism is an umbrella of ideas. In order to get "feminism with a beard" you would have to combine: MGTOW (life without women) PUA (hookups) Lad Culture (being rude and stupid?) the MRM (Advocacy of legal rights) the "Patriarchy" (Fictional entity that supports male superiority and female oppression) no corresponding movement (Redistribution of wealth) no corresponding movement (Affirmative action)
This video was meant to be advice for women, but I do see the point that many point out in the comments. I am a woman myself and even I can see that some women can't make up their minds about who they want, or need. I think is simple basic thing is that you need to be a decent human being, who can be easy to connect with, not every guy is going to be perfect and not all women are going to be perfect either. Also I do agree that there are some gold digging women out there but that doesn't mean that all women are dating somebody just for money. Genuine people do exist out there, but they are very hard to find these days, sadly.
Thank you, this was very refreshing and supportive. It's a wonderful perspective for couples. I have every one of these qualities, however I am 50+ years old and had to really work at it. Non of us are born or raised to have these qualities, they are learned and the more a person practices and more so wants and believes they can become a good man or woman, the more they will become what they are striving to be. In a relationship its important to want to make the love that you both have found the center of your shared life together. Your love is the center, and everything else in life comes second to your love.
Damn all these sad comments make me realize how good I have it. I have a girl that loves me and wants sex all the time, pays for me and does what I say and cooks for me. No friends with exs, no guy friends and doesn’t want marriage or kids. Its great!
I have to say that as a 35 yr old man, I like this video. Everything here is what I have except #2. The country I'm from a lot of women here do not appreciate a man with good qualities but that goes for women too as well. Anyways keep making these sensible videos my friend.
ExterminaTORul DEborati For a person like yourself, I believe you had been sexually abused. That's alright and that's why your ego will lead you to know way. Am in a good mood so I will not used obscene language in this beautiful channel. Good luck homeboy!
@@renzochepar lol i'm so happy that my dad made me a MGTOW, I work hard i chill with my male friends, ride motocycles drink beer and fuck these bitches To sleep, no relationships no marriage, life is good, we men are better off focusing on building wealth and friendships with one another and only using women for sex.
My husband is kind, compassionate, very patient, down to earth, dependable, reliable, interested in me, prioritizes me, sweet, treats me well, vocal about his feelings about me, and very honest in his comments. Even if he knows I don't agree with him, he would tell me that he still thinks he's right but he would give in. He doesn't like arguments. He's 48 and I'm 31, and we've been married for 4 years. He's been consistent.
I have all these qualities and thanks to them I‘m happily married with my wife and I can confirm that the point number one about prioritizing the relationship over the ego is what kept my marriage safe during turbulent times
Yeah but secretly your wife craves to fuck the bad boy dominant thug...What’s the really saved your marriage is that you probably have resources going for you and the BS list in this video had nothing to do with it, absolutely nothing!
Commitment Connection - Relationship Advice a man who is willing to retrospectively judge himself and look into what his flaws are in conjunction to the traits that make a great man. That's usually a balanced set of advice. It's great in thought, but sadly most women do not value these kinds of men. And as social creatures, rejection by society lovers or friends has a way of changing you. And that evolutionarily will not change.
Women are attracted to strong, masculine men. That's it. All the other things are things that WE are teaching them about what kinds of guys to look for to have a long-term relationship. If you asked women, men only want young, hot bimbos. But if you're a man and that's all you focus on, there's a high probability chance that you'll end up heartbroken and broke like a lot of the guys whining in the comment section here. Men don't value these traits any more than women do at the initial stages of courtship. Women want strong men, men want hot women. To say anything else is ridiculous. And to get on here and complain that women don't want these things is just as ridiculous when we're literally on here creating videos teaching women to value these things.
Most women have low self-esteem. I read Wayne dyers book your erroneous zone. It explains everything. The more I work on myself the more women hate me. The better I get the more I am not respected. I am a strong man. I king crab fished in Bering sea. Not many can do that. Women are sick and twisted.
These are excellent traits and any decent man will have them all. Never settle for less and if he doesn't have them then walk. Of course, he will be looking for similar from you.
Had all plus 6 extra but still she left coz she take my kindness as my weakness. No matter what you have yon cannot satisfy women as they don't know what they are looking for
Matthew Coast I do have even extra I served Special Forces for 3 years in the most dangerous place in the earth but women want someone idiot.thats all I am done
you are so spot on- the only thing you can do is be yourself and if no woman wants you, that is her loss. if you want a relationship here is some advice: 1- be a jerk. 2- be an asshole. 3- be unpolite. 4-talk trash 5- treat her like garbage 6-have as unsympathic tone as possible in your voice. And if you have been to prison, and have a tattoo in your face, you a guarantied female company. Then you can get any girl . Have them for yourself, I am done to. @@TASAVIR
All u said is true and u forgot to mention nervous and men feared of women are also Mr Right. But there are things that every women should know how to treat us guys nice. 1. Ego: Avoid having ego when guy explains himself. 2. Stop having negative thoughts: Many women I see thinking negative thoughts when completely not listen what guy says and explains like he comments on u good. 3. Understandings: There should be both side understanding eachothers not oneside. We guys get hurt that only we should understand women not them Understanding us. This is where problems happen. 4. Walking away without sorting out problems and without clearing doubts: We men cannot bare emotional pain for living long all we want is Peace and happiness we get tired getting in emotional pain. So Women should live like sorting out problems and clearing doubts onspot like we try our best to sort out onspot the problems. If not sorted out problems will create more and more. 5. Spending money: Women should be caring and not make us guys too much spend money. We guys love women who takes responsibility of not spending money too much and who cares us. The same way we care and respect women. 6. Being moody and showing attitude: I know lot women likes to see us guys reaction to see how much we love them but there's limit. Women should not do overly and should openly tell the guy feelings so us guys feel peace in heart. Guys if there are more points to tell pls reply on my comments to share.
You are incredibly on point. Thank you. Yes and yes my boyfriend is High Quality. He has said and proven that he Never give me up for the world and he walks extra length to make sure I am secure and provided for.
Robert D Not a bad list of qualities to look for actually, but in answering these questions about prospective suitors the female in this equation should ask herself one more very crucial question: do I deserve such a man? If so, how or why? Do I bring enough to the table to warrant a man willing and capable of jumping through all those hoops? Just as most men would fail this test if passing meant a yes on all 8 questions, most women would fail judged by that 1 question alone. Its been my experience that the default mentality among most women is that yes, they do deserve Prince Charming. Its a given that they don't even question. Men are more realistic in their self assessments (except when dealing with the odd case of Narcissistic Personality Disorder). The average Joe knows he doesn't deserve the unicorn, but the average Jane believes she is the unicorn. Big difference.
Wouldn't be good advice for men too so they can at least have an idea of women WANT? Instead, it is being tailored to one side...? Although, what women want is not always what they need.
Commitment Connection - Relationship Advice advice or putting woman’s mind a unrealistic expectations? That’s bull , give them advice of how reality is and how man is not perfect at all and what you talking about is like 8% of man
This isn't what women want... it's advice to them... which is why you know it's not what they go for... because if they did, there'd be no reason to give them advice about it.
Now if you really want the relandship to last and grow when you do land a good man..... Pray with each other before yall eat and go to bed. Next he reads the Holy Bible to you and describes the word to you and yall talk about the word together. If you know the word more than he does lead him through the verses. Christ 1st all things are possible!
Ryan, A godly woman is so precious to me, a Born-again Christian. I'm so close to the Father that a godly woman would be a real " help meet " to me these day's, since I also have an " end-time " calling which will be a powerful one.
You are 100% correct!! I know a man just like this; he has ALL 8 qualities, which confused me at first because he wasn't like any other guy I had ever interacted with in my life. His personality is perfectly complementary to mine (he's mathematical, I'm literary), and I value him so much that even though we're not a couple yet (we're 2000+ miles apart right now), I have turned down every other guy that's been interested in me because nobody is as good as he is. I know it sounds foolish but I'm happy waiting, because he's a man worth waiting for.
Since it seems important to other commenters here, I have no idea what his finances look like, what kind of car he drives or what kind of place he lives in, nor does any of that matter to me. Also - I really don't know why this matters to people - he's over 6'; I'm short, barely 5', so height doesn't matter to me either. Why are people so focused on these superficial matters anyhow?
Repent for what? Noticing that the story of the Christian god is like an abusive relationship? Anyone in a relationship that is threatened if they don't do exactly what they are told and are expected to worship and believe anything they are told, should get out of that relationship as fast as possible. Are you suggesting people should stay in a relationship like that?
You described me to a T. The problem is that, all of the woman that I’ve dated over the years don’t appreciate the eight qualities that I have here and much more. Instead they want the complete opposite of that in a guy or lets just say boy. Girls would rather have abusers, cheaters with no jobs, no place of there own, absolutely nothing to bring to the table. Well, that’s not me at all so I will just continue to have the eight and much much more. I paid cash for my home, and many other things. I’m a hopeless romantic, but girls done want the nice man, they want the good for nothing punks!
jdfarr45 Sadly the world has turned its back on the proper order of things. We live in a toxic society where female supremacy is encouraged, while at the same time women complain about inequality. Masculinity is condemned, yet supposedly sought after?!? If things weren't hard enough, now homosexuality has gained popularity and men have to battle women for women! Men are being villified by the media and most women buy it. The modern western woman sees a man as an expendable resource, her feelings toward which, determine the extent of his expendability. He must meet all of her requirements for a chance at impending heartbreak, whereas she, as mentioned previously, has all of the options. Not to mention possible divorce rape. The statistics have shown that no woman is worth enduring such horrors. Searching through a sea of harpies for one angel is not relatively worth it. Women ask what men offer!?! Women offer sex and...oh wait, just sex. They believe they are superwomen. Their ability to reproduce has been given to them through God Almighty, yet they take credit for the maker of all things's master design. Their sinful ancestor saw to it that pregnancy would be painful long ago. Christ should always come before all else. That is the root of all issues mentioned above.
Those are fighting words to modern women, but you are right. Regarding some of the responses: read all of scripture. Man is to be Godly and love his wife as himself and as Christ loves the Church, sacrificially. Man is the head as Christ is the head of the Church. Christians are also told to submit one to another in Godly love. Also, Eve was deceived; but Adam knew what he was doing. That is why sin comes through the male and Jesus could be born of a woman and be sinless.
To further demonstrate what is being said by these comments God always meant that the natural order was God Christ and man but because of Israel’s disobedience God Said “ As for my people women shall rule over them and children shall be their oppressors” That is happening today. Men are losing/lost their position as the leaders in their communities and homes Submission by wives to their husbands is a foreign concept
My high quality masculine man is not rich nor poor. He does not like or feel comfortable accepting gifts from me. When he gives me enough money I make sure I get him something he neglects or forgets to get for himself. He blushes when I help dress him up. Then he receives compliments from my social circle about my input, so both our egos are stroked at the same time, esp if he has had a stressful week.
I think the follow up bit is "ok, you've managed to snag a high quality dood, here's what you need to change/improve about yourself to make sure he doesn't let you go." In a nutshell, women want to be taken care of, and men don't want to be undermined. A good relationship has a foundation where if the woman feels left out in the cold or the man feels undermined, there is recourse to get back into good graces without digging a deeper grave for either party. Focusing on what makes a good partner for either sex comes off as turning them into a commodity to be picked at ones leisure.
I carry a gun everywhere I go. Why? To be ready, on a second's notice, to defend myself and maybe defend the lives of other people around me. And I don't care what the law has to say on the matter nor do I care what someone else's opinion on the matter is either. It's simply what I do and nothing will ever change that. Because I value my life. So, a number of years ago, I met this young woman and thought she might be interesting enough to date. And we exchanged numbers and talked a bit on the phone and she was asking me more about myself and she asked me if I was a gun owner out of the blue. I said yes and ended up telling her pretty much exactly what I started with here ending with "because I value my life." Then she said, "well, I won't date anyone who carries a gun on a date" and I said "then we're not dating and there's plenty of other fish in the sea" and I hung up. I never heard from her. Nor did I expect to. Nor do I have any regrets for passing on that relationship. When the video got to point #1 I thought about this little episode or encounter and how I would rather be right than to compromise with somebody who is so afraid of firearms that they demand that I also be an unarmed duck ready to become a victim. Because I've never known any criminal or any lunatic consult with what the law has to say about the proper use of firearms before going on and doing what they're bound to do sooner or later. And I don't mind if other people fail to value their own lives. That's their business. If someone wants to go about unarmed and ill-prepared to defend their life then I say so be it. Because what they're really saying is that their life fails to matter. That's their personal decision and I'm cool with that as long as no one expects me to feel sorry for them should they become a victim or a statistic. What I'm saying is that there are certain things a real man should never compromise on. Especially if he's got his act together and is making plenty of bank. If a woman wants to be in a man's life then she needs to learn to at least understand the logic and reason he used in order to arrive at the destination he's at when he designed his life as a young man. Demanding that the man compromise, for the sake of the relationship, is silly especially when there's no reciprocal compromise from the woman. All deeply meaningful relationships are based upon reciprocity but some things should be left off the table when it comes to compromise and personal safety is one of those things without a doubt. I'm happy I passed on that relationship years ago but perhaps for different reasons than one might suspect. I'm happy to have passed on that relationship simply because she was the kind of woman that didn't want to listen to the man she pretended to be interested in a relationship with. She was a bad actress. Instead, she wanted to begin making demands of me without getting to know me and even understand me. It was her agenda that was important and I suspect she's been married and divorced a time or two since then and has produced some children who have effed up worldviews because she didn't have her act together before she started breeding. But that's just the guess from the hindsight of experience having met and gotten to know so many people over decades and seen what is produced by those who are intellectually dishonest to begin with. Who knows, maybe she learned something from her brief experience with me. I doubt it. But did you?
As Scriptures says, "There is no one so righteous, not even one". Roman 3:10, Ecclesiastes 7:20. It is foolishness try to find good qualities from others, rather than, we must develop good qualities ourselves.
Abel Cerrillo i think when a man is raised out his parent he treats women like a piece of shit...Am a woman indeed women need a man to reacr her very well. imagin a woman you get pregnant and u ve d opportunity to be at the Delivery room seeing her struggling to bring forth ur child in pain is enough to cherish a woman...bt such man forget all those birth pain and still make her cry....pls am begging all men to take it easy with women ok......
Don’t be a pushover, be patient, be forward, be dependable or reliable, be pushy and and persistent, show your cash and future and how she can be apart of it, show your feelings, and be a push over no matter the circumstance.
You work for her and show her what your work is worth. Then there is the work she has you do after she approves your work to get her. Then you must sustain and juggle all the work to have her happy, meet living expectations, and have her looking forward to have sex with you without cheating. This one sided bull shit has got to end. Guys, honestly, if we make it all happen. Can’t we decide who gets our work? There is more of them than us.
He didn't choose me rather than be right, but I feel like I didn't care about his feelings. This is confusing. He said we had a relationship, but I thought it was platonic. I know I love him. I know I miss him. I know I hate him. I know I desire him. I know he's a bad boy and that can't make me happy.
These are the qualities of an alpha male. And like attracts like. This means that to attract that kind of man, you'll need to be an alpha female as well. And therefore all of those qualities you listed goes the same for the female as well. An alpha male does not want a woman that he has to baby and treat like a little princess all the time. There's gotta be an equal amount of give and take from both sides for it to work.
😂4:17 He chooses you over being right. Ei this is difficult: so you can't be right and have this woman happy at the same time. You need to choose one😂😂
Oscar H. what these young girls want nowday's.?? Little "beta" boys... "alpha males"="toxic masculinity"=supports "rape culture"...If you buy into ALL the different, "Politically Correct"... everybody gets special rights ... Bull Shit ... You too, can have a purple haired, SJW girl friend...As a 'baby boomer" i get to date Ladies.,,, And they love an alpha male gentleman... We know what gender we are,, and we know which rest room to use...
High quality man for long term relations 1 kind, compassionate, generous, not pushover 2 patient with you 3 down to earth, not make big promises he cant fulfill 4 relyable, man of his word 5 energy comes to you consistanly 6 shows you he loves you 7 shows your feelings are important, your hapiness 8 chooses you and the relation above being right or getting his way
I'm a guy who has all of the qualities you mention here, but I always get put in the friend zone after meeting some very nice friendly women. With every loss, I loose purpose, and the will to go on. Life is very lonely alone.
Commitment Connection - Relationship Advice it's not that simple to identify actually after you have wasted a couple of years and left broken, it's kind of impossible to believe in love or trust people these days
It's good to hear and see women like you, post such encouraging true, hopeful videos. I agree, but beware of the comments of the worldly men and women, always discouraging.
Ok.... as a man, these are the qualities I want in a “high value” woman: 1. I want a woman who will bring something to the table so we can grow together and move upward, not a woman who I have to support and take care of financially. 2. I want a woman who can cook at least 3 times a week so I dont have to spend $150 a night eating 3 meals at restaurants. 3. I want a woman who is confident and who trusts me when I say Im with my friends or playing dominoes with my family, that’s exactly what Im doing and I don’t need to check in every hour as if Im on parole. 4. Don’t be a nag. 5. Don’t be a prude in the bedroom. Be willing to be open and uninhibited. It’s me after all, you’re not filming an ABC Special. 6. PAY YOUR OWN BILLS!! Your debt and bad credit is not my problem. 7. Respect me verbally and physically the way you want to be respected. 8. Love me, I don’t ask for much. 9. Most importantly, don’t let your family and girlfriends meddle in our relationship (misery loves company!) If you can do all of this, I will promise to do the same and we will have a great life together. Do you need a video to follow??
Most comments are that "such creature does not exist" but i guarantee he exists because i am certainly one present here, and surely there are more. Rare but Real for sure. But remember "what is universally right or correct can not be ignored or considered wrong because doing so will bring chaos only in future". So honesty is very important.
Rajesh Kumar You are right. we do exist but not all women can recognise and value those traits.And so they think it doesnt exist.Because to be able to do so they first have to become those same traits they are asking for. So yes it is rare for both men and women but yes we do exist.
It is true that all people have at least some of those traits and also in varying degrees.Also true that you choose where to display them. I am also not foolishly "nice" to people that don't deserve it.I try to remain polite non the less.But if for example someone becomes rude to me , then i can mirror it and i have the freedom to become rude too.If someone tries to discount me , i will discount him/her 2 times. You are absolutely right and correct on those things. But ... the things that i disagree with you : Yes there are indeed women that are ungrateful as you said (but there are also men that are like that) and also , not all women are like that.But i am not going to lose my time on those women.I lost it in the past , it can probably happen again in the future but now i think i have more experience and i can quickly recognise and discard those people.I value my self , i know my worth and i know what i have to offer , so i will not give myself to people that i know that are not worthy of me. At least for romantic relationships or for closer friendships.For the rest , i can keep a polite distance and give myself up to the point that they deserve. I strongly disagree with your last phrase , that you don't choose your relationship over anything personally important to you. It is also true that to choose the relationship over anything else is wrong . but also what you said is wrong too. This phrase indicates to me that you might have 1 trait that might be underdeveloped . You can google it , it is called "empathy". You put the relationship as a somehow last priority.That means you stay in somehow distant relationships. I personally can't stay in such relationship . I prefer closer ones but with balance. (by the way ,both men and women want love and respect.everyone wants that) (even you) Maybe this is your compromise. You find women that you are not so much "in love" so to be able to do this. Otherwise it is not possible. You can't ignore something that you love. It comes naturally. I don't deny your experience up to today and probably this is what made you to say those things right now. But i tell you , this is not the only thing that there is out there.And not all people are ungrateful. And as i said in my previous message , it is not meant for everyone. To get what you want , first you have to have the same thing to give back.Otherwise you don't deserve it. And usually , almost always , it is not given to you. Or you will not even see it around and you might even conclude that it doesn't exist. So first look at yourself , what you have , who you are , what you give and then you can ask for the same things that you give. Never more . And if you want something , then be prepared to give the same thing yourself too. (because there are women too , that want this , that or the other but have nothing to give back ,other than maybe their looks , "entitlement" (and sometimes they even don't have that to give) . I hope that somehow i helped you
@ Rajesh Kumar.....I honestly agree with what you've mentioned. We as men/women have to get back to the basics of relationships. As for "future chaos," it's already here. That's why we have these channels ON relationships. People are trying to figure out how to make sense of the chaos. You sound like a "love guru" from the movies. Don't get too soft. Balance yourself with some "toughness" as well.
@ dre ty.....100% truth in one of your comments. Women in general want Love. Men in general want Respect. If we apply it from that angle, everything will work out.
My husband is exactly like this!!! 👩💚💙❤ I love him soo much, and I'm so lucky to have him in my life 💋💋 He really is the best! Honestly, no other man are like him. Others I met before him are usually obnoxious, rude, disrespectful, crazy, and lack self esteem. My husband is not like the rest, he is truly unique! 💖💑👪🌸🌏
It's literally a video telling women TO appreciate these things, not saying that they do. The video wouldn't exist if women already appreciated these things. Snatch your comment down.
8 is nonsense. Truth is too important to dispense with in the face of a relationship. If she can't handle being wrong then she shouldn't be in the relationship.
Sounds like a men menu.....give me a break! The Perfect Man ONE MUST BE. But when it comes to the counter side there are always exceptions to dismiss the nonsense. LOL
8: he takes your shit and doesn't get mad. 7: Takes your shit and doesn't get mad. 6: lets you make all the decisions. 5: makes a lot of money And lets you have it. 4: He takes more of your shit. 3: He takes a stupid amount shit from you. 2: You are always right. 1: He takes every bit of the shit you can throw at him AND gives you control of his money.
showing someone how you feel is not a sign of masculine man its just feelings if we think she's the one. masculinity has nothing to do with feelings. its has everything to do with respect and having balls u know to be responsible etc. in a relationship showing your feelings all the time can lead to being used and woman gets bored in relationship faster than men. ok a real man point of view. help your man and treat him with respect and keep your damn mother out of your relationship, work , cook, dont hold grudges be friendly and supportive is the way to keep a good man long term. i know im married and wished for the same shit. love yall tho. great video.
Quite the opposite actually. I have these qualities but never show them. And I have a literal line of women wanting my attention now. First time in my life I'm not the nice guy and I'm getting whatever I want. Really is stupid thh
I think these are generally good. Do NOT puke your feelings up to her. This will turn her off big time. Do Not over pursue her. Girls don’t like needy behavior.
@@MSBowen-pk6ww one night concept is not romantic at all its player(story teller from Disney land) doing to boost there ego. as far money is concern it is important its like our score card we always want to show we are better then other men. We men are always about competition.
I have seen women looking for life partners who have Money, status, high-lifestyle, stable job, etc. What this lady is talking about works in Romantic stories of books. In the real world, you will find it quite different. More than 70% of relationships start talking when you have (Money, status, high-lifestyle, stable job, etc). They don't care if he is a good man, but he must have good bank balance & stable source of income. You can find love in adult age of 18-24 because in that age both of the man & woman are nobody. They start from Zero. They know each other struggle. They know how much the other will care for them. Maybe it's childish but the love is innocent, as there are not many expectations.
For the confused men watching this... this video is by a woman for a woman. Not for men. Not giving men advice. This is NOT about attracting a woman. This is about helping women find men who are keepers. If you're having a problem attracting women, stop whining on comment sections about how unfair things are and go develop yourself into a strong, smart, deserving man.
You can do it, I have faith in you.
- Matthew Coast
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I don't know anything in regards to MGTOW. However I do know your list is a tad bit cliche.
Wait. Who is Matthew Coast and why is he saying this is a video made by a woman for women? Has this account been hacked?
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I already did prove your assertion concerning MGTOW and feminists incorrect. Thank you.
I'm the guy who owns and runs this channel... believe it or not there's a whole channel here with a series of experts.
OK. It just sounds like someone who would have hacked this channel attacking viewers like that.
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8. He's kind and compassionate, not a push over
7. He's patient, with you specifically
6. He's down to earth, doesn't make huge promises he can't deliver on
5. He's reliable and dependable
4. His energy towards you is consistent
3. He shows you he loves you
2. Your feelings are important to him
1. He chooses you and the relationship over being right.
I have a question over point #8. I wonder if what Helena meant to say was he prioritizes me and the relationship over winning arguments. If he thinks something is the right thing to do or say, I believe a worthy man should stand by it. Cheers!
How do men and women romantically bond with each other? I heard that women can build incredible friendships and become very close to each other in a way men can't bond, and I heard that science shows that women can bond very well with each other.
I heard that generally, women are even more social than men are. After something bad happens, a woman quickly rushes to talk to all of her female friends to get support, whereas a male can isolate himself and grief alone.
I also heard that women tend to be more emotional, more caring, more empathic, more compassionate, more affectionate, more loyal, more nurturing, more sympathetic, more sensitive, more kind hearted, more peaceful, more calmer, more gentle, more expressive, and more outward than men are, and thus bond more with other women in a special way that they can’t with men. Men, on the other hand, are not that emotional, and thus can’t bond with other men in a special way.
I also heard that women are more comfortable being around with other women than they are with men. They have a type of bond that usually men with women won’t really have, or with men and men.
I also heard that most women like to do affectionate things with their female friends like cuddling with them, while most men would never do affectionate things with their male friends (especially not cuddling with them). Men are usually much lonelier than women are. Men don't often talk about their personal problems with their male friends like how women do with their female friends.
I also heard that females produce a lot more oxytocin than males do. And that's a reason why girls tend to hug a lot more and be a lot more physically affectionate than guys do.
I also heard that women are very unique creatures, and women feel a lot safer in general with other women than they do with men if either is alone with each other, and it is easier for women to trust other women more than it is to trust a man.
I also heard that women are very sociable with each other, so if something goes wrong, they like to speak about it to each other. This is a way to develop trust among women. Women often relate their problems with other women, which makes them feel more connected in a way.
I also heard that most daughters have a very strong bond with their mother, while they don’t have one with their father, and most sons don’t have that strong of a bond with neither their mother nor their father.
I also heard that most females have a very strong bond with their sisters, while they don’t have one with their brothers, and most males don’t have that strong of a bond with neither their sisters nor their brothers.
I also heard that the bond that two females have with each other is the strongest bond of them all, and that's one of the reasons why sayings like “girls always have to stick together” exist.
And I also heard that the friendship of males and females can hardly be as good as a female to a female relationship from a woman’s point of view.
So if those things are true (which I am not sure at all), then how can a man and woman have a special strong type of bond with each other if women have a special strong type of bond with each other while men don’t have one with each other?
Also, men and women are both mentally and physically different from each other (which is true), but would that at all effect the bonding between a male and female?
He doesn't use you to build his ego up. He takes time to understand mutual needs on a relationship. He does not insist on getting his way. He is not selfish. He does not threaten you with other females...you can trust him. He's honest and not a phony.
8 qualities that will land a man in the friendzone. But it's good advice for women though.
Once again, this is advice for women, not men. This will only land you in the friend's zone if you're not ALSO a strong, masculine man who goes after what he wants in life.
Yeah it sounds great on paper but the evolutionary default is still hypergamy.
It is, that's true. Women always want to date someone who is a high social and economic standing than they are, generally speaking. We do have a lot of women who get on here who complain because they only date guys that they end up supporting financially. But my guess is that in the real world, that's a lot more rare than it is on our forums.
Night Rider I disagree. A mature woman who wants a PARTNER IN LIFE is looking for exactly this combination. Add funny to that list, and he could look like Jabba the Hut to the rest of the world, and be absolutely beautiful in my eyes.
Commitment Connection - Relationship Advice No, a man got to be a leader of a family and he is able to lead/support his wife and their family. He also should be able to be responsible taking a care of finances and households. That's our job as a provider/a head of a wife. For a man to be a head of his wife is to be her leader, not her master like a control freak.
Never ask a fish how to catch a fish, ask a fisherman.
So... men are the fish and women are the fishermen here... so don't ask a man, ask a woman?
Love your video, you seem very intelligent and very pretty too🤩... Don't mind me.
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No I believe he was saying, ask a man who has been in a long relationship with a good woman, because women believe they know what they want but the man who’s been in a 50 year relationship and they are still happy is who you need to ask.
If a couple argues more than gets laid, there is something wrong.
Can I ask a legitimate question?, why are relationships always geared towards what a man has to do to please a woman? Should both people be working towards treating each other with respect and love? If it’s too balanced to one side the relationship will fail because one person (the woman) has all the benefits and then the man will resent it and look elsewhere. All I’m saying is.....make it 50/50. Women treat your man good, men treat your woman good.
Look at the rest of this channel... we have over 400 videos here on what women need to do to please and get a man. Most of the women on our channel ask the same thing you are in reverse.... "Why is always about what I have to do to get the man?" - You're on a women's dating channel and this is advice for women, not for men. This isn't even about what men have to do to get a woman, jeez.
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David, unfortunately we also feel the same.
it is just horebol advise
David Coleman AMEN😎
Guarantee a women will never leave you if you have these qualities narcissistic, psychopathic, compulsive liar, cheater and a player.
if man has money in the bank who cares.
Can confirm. I'm an absolute psychopath and I can sell people tons of shit. "Oh your car burst into flames and now you're here for a new one? I wonder how that happened?".
Also, the girl specified a more of a real man kind of vibe. Salesmen get the girl but in the end they loose because they cant maintain the "provide" aspect of the relationship
Nah, here are the 8 qualities. 1) Money. 2) Money. 3) Money. 4) Money. 5) Money. 6) Big Dick. 7)Money. 8) Money.
@@MrSloika and then she cheats
Then you friendzone him. SMH
Lol
Emmhmm exactly
guensmk Lol just my thought. This wonderful man dies in her friendzone while she hops on with the wife beater thug next door.
guensmk 🤣
you are better off not having a job, living with your mom, and no driver license and wearing an ankle bracelet, you will have more ladies than you know what to do with if you chose her way you will remain a love tampon for eternity
I wish women had these qualities.
Agreed
One Way Correct is right.
Some women do, just like some men do. If you want a great man, you have to be a great woman and vice versa.
Your advice is faulty(fantasy), and you are doing women and men a great disservice.
it's real, we see it all the time. Men and women need to become better partners for each other.
Because they say 8 qualities they look for, and end up falling for the opposite. #tDONTtrusthem
Nobody said they were looking for these qualities... this is advice for women on what kind of a man they should keep.
GENIUS - I OWE YOU A LIFETIME BEER SUPPLY!!
It has been proven time and again (look at research done by every dating website) - what women SAY they want, and what they actually go for are two different things. Yes, us men can also be shallow, but at least were honest about it.
It's true... it's also true for men too... they say they want one thing and go after something else. It's true for everyone.
No, men are not honest about things, they just reduce communication and lack emotional integrity.
Guys, if she has a checklist a mile long before you even meet her ... RUN 🏃
Hi Josh. You are 100 % correct. I once had a date with a head nurse here in St Petersburg, Florida. At the restaurant where we were dining, she hands me a 6 page questionnaire which she wanted me to finish before we left the restaurant !!! Unbelievable !!!
@@MSBowen-pk6ww I had dreams about you on my face.....
@@TheIdiots499 hey, me too
No bro first do her. Then run
they all do
My husband has all this traits, have been married for 24 years and still going strong.
Shua Deamer: poor guy
24 yrs. so beautiful 💍💋❤️
your probably a good woman and didnt cheat on him at the beginning
That is beautiful. Blessed you are. ♥️
Count yourself lucky
Good list for making an LTR work. Keep in mind it's a TWO WAY street! She should do the same for him. Which from our point of view would include:
1 Be sexually available more often than not. Essentially it's why we men get into relationships, to have great sex and have it often. Nothing tells a man he's respected and appreciated quite like this. If you are saying "no" more half the time then your relationship is in serious trouble.
2 Look good. Take care of yourself. Always be the girl he fell in love with. Don't put chips and soda ahead of your relationship.
3 Give us space. Give us room to be who we are. Dirt bikes, playing in a band, hockey, whatever. In fact, appreciate and support this.
Basically, make your guy feel like a grown man every day of his life and it will work.
Tim Challenger truth brotha, truth ! ✊🙌👍
Amen brother good luck finding one though haha
Sounds like a lot to ask but that's the realistic truth...
Rather just have a sexbot, interchangeable hardware, upgradeable software, and a mute button.
Women need 8 and men only 3. Why is that?
For me this just shows that majority of women just wants to take and take but not give.
I'm a Man! LoL. Black Male age 46. I agree with this list, *except for #1. Being right is not about EGO it's about Truth. A high value man will not live a LIE just to make others happy. With that said, the same man should admit when he is wrong and own up to it. But a Alpha male will never down play his intelligence & integrity just to "appease" a female. *What if he actually IS right most of the time ??!
Communism...... women are right even when they’re wrong. I just stopped giving a fuck and continue on to whatever it was I was doing.
There's nothing wrong with being right... but being attached to being right, even when you're wrong or holding being right over someone else's head is destructive to both men and women.
I agree, but that's not what you said in the video.
That is what is said in the video, maybe it could have been articulated better there but we definitely didn't say that you should pretend like you're wrong when you're actually right.
vellstorm4705 I like your honesty
What you are asking for is a woman. Men do the following: Protect, Provide, and Put Out. Our job is not to make sure your 'feelings' are ok. Feelings change with women every 15 minutes. That's why women don't even get along with other women. From a woman's perspective, it's about nurturing your family despite your feelings. Women in the 1800s didn't worry about feelings, they focused on feeding their kids and making sure their husband had a meal on the table (after a 14 hr day), and giving him sex when he requested it.
Michelle Bowen Divorce rates back in 1800s were literally less than 1%, while today it shoots above 60% (CDC report). So, first off, the model of 1800 marriages show that it was working.
Progressives (shrugs), they are such miserable failures that can’t their own family together. Why? Because “feelings” are clearly being elevated over “family.” Again, that’s 60+% divorce rate right now. My gosh... that’s just too sad... way too sad.
P.s. you should read actual letters written by married couples in that time- like with Margaret Davenport Coulter to her husband John Coulter in 1795. All she ever ever desired, in return of being a good wife, was “having the sweet consciousness of knowing myself the best beloved of your heart...”
Women back then had something that not all women have today... an EXTREME amount of character, resilience, wisdom, and strength. That’s why divorce was below 1%
8 quality man must have
1)money
2)money
3)money
4)money
5)money
6)money
7)money
8)money
or else forget that girl will impress by you
This is a comment from someone who has no game, no confidence, no courage, no idea how to get women
Matthew Coast I guess you cant deal with the truth
Lol, the truth is that you only need money if you have no personality... if you have no personality and you're too lazy to develop one, then yes, you can use money but you'll be left for someone who has more than you. If you have a personality, you don't need to worry about that.
U must be boring then
I agree, and i am saying this as a woman, that is in her feminine energies when with her beloved one and masculine/feminine at work.
If a man thinks that women r seeking only money, then he probably haven’t met that special one in his life. Today men operate more in feminine energies and to find real masculine high value man is not easy. I am lucky 🍀 to be in a great relationship with that man and no money can change that cos we both know that we r very valuable people .
This type of men change when a low quality women cheats him
Ishaan Sarma very true
Maybe stop dating low quality women?
Ofcourse but in my case that women showed all sign of a high quality women but after 2 n a half years she felt out of love with me n finally left me. Now she says that she still loves me but my mind just changed after this ,, n i had all the above mentioned quality in precession.
We teach this to women too because the same thing happens to them. You need to continually attract your partner to you for the life of your relationship or he(she) will eventually lose interest.
Exactly
What? Nothing about a scripturally spiritural and noble man. One who follows his Fathers laws commandments and statutes and being an example to others and is passionate about his relationship with his Father in heaven and your salvation. Honey, if you find a man like that in today's corrupt times you hold onto him like elmers glue to wood.
John Squire well said
Agreed! Truer words could not be spoken. The Godlier a man is the more the average woman will turn a blind eye!. They are after an image not a real man
James Watson western woman are cancer because they believe that God is a myth. It takes a hell of alot more faith to believe that everything there is just made itself out of nothing. Thus, it would have had to exist before it existed in order to bring itself into existence...now thats no myth, its a retarded fairytale..LOL!!!!
...how do you figure?
+John Squire ssshhh! Don't mention God to the average woman, that would mean accountability for her actions
Basically its all about YOU.
Don't you want to be treated well by a woman?
What you don't say is, it works both ways.
This video is for women who want to know if the guy they're dating is right for them. I have plenty of videos on the channel about how to treat men. In fact, I usually get women complaining about how they are always being told how they should treat men and that it's unfair that we don't tell men how they should be treating women. So while I get your concern, you'd have to watch more than just this one video to get the full scope of what we're doing here.
You, You, You, You, You... Its all about whats best for the woman... - See, the problem here is: That if you become a wimp for the woman in this way & acknowledge every single thing of her wishes: She will start disrespecting you for not being man enough! Why does most females choose the Douchebag over the Gentleman - Theres your answer! - If a woman dosent get controlled, she will not end up respecting her man! End of Story !!!
Commitment Connection - Relationship Advice - Thank you for posting an interesting video. I don’t have much to boast about but I have a very secure job, own my house, my car, love animals and I’m financially independent. So I need to ask an intelligent woman for an honest opinion. I have been with the same woman for seven years. I have had some medical issues but I get by and never give up. However, although she tells me loves me, she never touches me, pushes me away when I try to touch her, plays on Facebook in her free time, rarely cook (I don’t know how. Well, nothing anyone would dare to eat anyway) and never cleans.
Since she moved into my house, I feel she has absolutely no respect for it whatsoever. When she lived in her own apartment, it was spotless but not, I can’t remember the last time she even dusted. One room has become nothing but a disgusting dumping ground and to be honest, I really feel lonely. I have expressed how I feel and I won’t try to tell you that I’m perfect because I’m not but never in my life was I ever with a woman so distant, cold and disconcerting.
I’m easy going, don’t demand anything and pretty laid back. I’ll clean, food shop and try my best. Since I’m a cancer survivor, I was hoping that she would take time out to make sure that I eat properly but that is non existent. She never wears make up or never dresses lady like and nor does she care. To be honest, I believe her “love” is more of a friend type of love, opposed to actually being in love. Any truthful input would be sincerely appreciated because to be perfectly honest, I feel like I’m stuck. I don’t see any of this changing and yet, the years are passing by and we all know that time lost can never be restored. I hate living like this. All I want is for a woman that would be kind enough to scratch my back once in a while. This is, without a doubt, the most confusing relationship I have ever been in.
Why so many thumb down this girl has a gold attitude she knows how to spot a real good loving man. The thumb down are coming from chauvinist men or women who like abusive men.
For the confused men watching this... this video is by a woman for a woman. Not for men. Not giving men advice. This is NOT about attracting a woman. This is advice FOR WOMEN helping them identify men who are keepers. If you're having a problem attracting women, stop whining on comment sections about how unfair things are and go develop yourself into a strong, smart, deserving man. If you don't, you just deserve what you do or don't get.
single by choice just wanted to see how many of the 8 i possess 7 1\2 out of 8 her number one is 50\50 if iam right 90% of the time and she is just crazy , i'm not going to let her be right 90% when she's not just to keep her, this goes back to number 8. kind but not being a pushover .. at that point it becomes my fault for even letting her in to my life. my bad ! i miss women so bad . american women just aren't worth the trouble anymore.!
Matt Ayers American woman! Stay away from meeee. American woman! Mama let me beeee.
Dating is tough if end goal is finding one woman to marry. I agree I’ve had some spoiled girlfriends, but I’m not sure I’m ready to give up hope. Nobody’s ever going to be perfect, even abroad. You gotta compromise. That’s not to say compromise where it matters, but figure out what actually does matter and where you’re just being nit-picky lol Also, stupidity is the human condition in general, not unique to Americans as so many would have you believe. Source: looking at the state of the world.
I think confusion is inevitable, so let me elaborate on MC's point - this is about men who are identified as keepers by women, not men who want to attract women. If you try to do things to attract women, you're just a beta orbiter or a simp. You need to do things for YOURSELF to be identified by women as keepers.
@@AnimalMother60 I ought to believe the possibility you are a woman. I have nothing much against a women and as I read the views of above Mr. Matt Ayers, there lies an undignified truth and reality ironically and even simply in a common parlance. Women as we all know are set out towards .........an
inquest to accumulate as much as possible from men, by hook or by crook and I am not including every woman is in that format. The malady of shrinking that is profusely miscalculating the code of social conduct with both the genders is currently leaving a very bad taste in each other's mouth. So both genders, honestly and candidly should come together to dismantle this sordid mess that it is definitely eating into the vitals of each aspects; and transform into a just to be an exemplary example for our social futures children, generations because 99 percent of our progeny catch up the good or bad habits from parents and are to become part and parcel of the fabric of our society in the very long run. So both your good self think about it and settle the dust the earliest possible. !! with due respect.. Social Activist, Toronto, Canada.
This is the type of advice that will get fast track to friendzone..
Only if you're a weak, feminine man
Commitment Connection - Relationship Advice
Weak:
-Point 7) Tolerating bad behaviour
-Point 1) Prioritizes emotions over facts (if he does it with your emotions, it wont be different with his own)
This conflicts with point 6, but no need to stress that too much.
Feminine:
-Point 2) Bases decisions on emotions...
Conclusio: Your specification given in the comment is also part of the traits described in the video. But thank you for the honest agreement with the comment of MaxxG.
This isn't even advice for men. How do you guys not realize that this isn't even for men? How about if you want advice for men you go watch advice for men videos instead of watching this?
@@MatthewCoast Its hard to be masculine if you've never had a father figure arnd you in your life and were brought up by your grandparents. Im masculine, but not to the point i meet ALL 8 of these "qualities", probably about 4 or 5 of them, so i guess i dont make the cut huh?
Oh well, atleast i got my house to myself, dont have to pay mortgage or rent, no children/no baggage and have friends with benefits. Im content cause im MGTOW.
MGTOW is the best because it weeds out all of the weak men and allows for stronger men to get all the women... so just keep making excuses, talking about MGTOW, and crying about how hard your life is on forums, it'll keep you single for the rest of your life when you could just take a couple months, learn some social skills and then get women... one keeps you right, the other one gets you women. Your choice.
I hit all 8 of those no joke, but women of today are not looking for that kind of man. Different in today's world. But your video is much appreciated.
the girls are not looking for the se traits. the womans do.
+Andrew not quite 40+ yrs old. A mature enough women can also be 27+yrs old. And the women will have some good enough eyes to see these traits from a far. It depends the education that she has received in her family.
That's why this video exists...
Question: If a man does 80% of theses thing y do he still end up lonely
Because these aren't traits that attract women. This video is advice for women, not men.
Commitment Connection - Relationship Advice so you admit that women aren't attracted to this type of man yet you ridicule men that point out that women aren't attracted to these type of men. Guys like you are the worst. In complete denial of reality. At least be honest about it. This video teaches women how to find a sucker. Im just curious as to why you get so defensive when men in the comments say the same thing you just said: that women aren't attracted to these traits.
You're only helping nice, vulnerable men get preyed upon by broken women. How do you sleep at night?
Because he isn't cute.
W. Gordon exactly he thinks it will gain him sex.
Patrick Chargois , sometimes men back off too much. Almost like ghosting, I can't stand ghosting. Stupid flipping game crap that people do. But giving a little space every once in awhile is not bad.
A lot of what you are describing just got me Friend Zoned. But, hey, nice to hear that you like those qualities...
That's not what got you friend zoned... not being masculine is what got you friend zoned. This is completely different than that.
Matthew Coast again with this “masculine shit” . And you think guys have feminine girls? Bitch please , if something that a man does is “not masculine” then everyone judges him and the world is against it . So you telling me woman working security , bus driver , POLICE and even paramedics are feminine jobs? Woman for the past 20 years been very masculine as hell but when a man does something not so “masculine” , then he’s trash and deserved to get friendzoned. gtfoh
@@mateodelacosta7688 In a society which condemns and even imprisons us for "toxic masculinity"? Face it dude, what they really want are: 1) A large
wallet, 2) a blue pilled and mindless Mr.Universe type of guy.
P.S. In most cases this "ideal guy" is not the same person.
I have a good friend who is definitely a red/black pill guy and he's in a relationship with a hot liberal chick and he's not rich. How? Because he understands that women like strong, masculine men who are fun and interesting... what women think they want and what they respond to are two completely different things... so don't worry about what she wants and do things that she responds to. That's how you get women, not by being a blue pilled money bag... those guys get left for better men.
@@mateodelacosta7688 I know what the red and blue pills mean but what about the black pill?
I will relate what a woman said in a lecture about women choosing men. She said that in addition to a man being physically clean, limit yourself to just two additional qualities in a man. She said that the inclination of a woman is to keep adding to the list as each quality is met by a man. Example. If you want a rich man and that he be taller than you, don't complain if he is bald and older by 15 years.
A SF madame once related to a group of women doctors and women lawyers at a luncheon meeting that more than 1/2 the time that men frequent a prostitute all the men want to do is talk. So keep in mind that you should listen if you want to ever develop a relationship with a man. Stop worrying about the 8 or 25 qualities of a man and focus on listening, you will attract and keep them that way.
He must be a good provider. That top the list for every woman.
There's definitely something primal and biological to it.
@@rickytan3483 then women should also not give a damn if a man is not a good provider, what's wrong if she earns more? You cannot be half traditional.
yup i said
No brainer
Huh, you wish a man could be a sole provider these days! It's way to expensive!
Maribeth Z
You are also right here. Most young couple has to pull theirs income to establish a family.
A good provider does not imply a sole bread winner.
if only women spent more time thinking about the qualities they should have to deserve a quality man, they would have better options.
That's why this video exists
Commitment Connection - Relationship Advice this video focuses on the qualities of men, not on those women should have to deserve these men. My point is that nowadays most western women think they are entitled to everything in a man: money, looks, height, status, alpha but beta when it suits them, etc...while offering little in return in terms of looks, femininity or generosity of spirit.
Have you seen that there's a whole channel here of videos? This video focuses on what women should look for in men... the other videos focus on what women need to do to deserve a man like this. You might want to watch some of the other videos.
I just had a quick look, and I see lots of videos on a whole range of topics so I will happily shut up.
Still waiting for a girl to display these 8 qualities, men want a high value woman too!
That's a different video
Amen Ian! Women never give what they’re asking for!
Excellent list! I would also add: A man who is not easily influenced by other men's opinions is a high value man. He has his OWN values and is not easily swayed by the pressures of other men.
This was very interesting and to the point. I listened carefully to what was said and 45 years ago I aced all of these qualities. But sadly the family I married into thought I was too good to be true. Just recently, during counseling, I discovered that I was a Pathological Altruist, having become one due to an abusive father who, today, would have went to prison for what he did to my 3 much-older sisters. At 66 I'm single, lonely and simply too tired to find anyone else. I gave my very best, but it wasn't good enough.
Keith Lincicum I just read your comment and found it to be so sad. Hopefully, your life has improved somehow, at least a little? I think I understand what your Dad did to your sister's as that happened to me by a family member as well.
1 he is over six feet
2 he is hot
3 you wont care about the other 8
Superficial attributes will make you a single mama in no time!! Good luck Edd Aimes
4 Lots of money!!!!!!!
This is a comment from someone who has no game, no confidence, no courage, no idea how to get women
Wish I could believe this but 50 shades of grey selling 180,000,000 copies seems to be a pretty strong case of what women really want and what they think is romance.
That's because this video isn't for men looking to attract women, it's advice for women.
Commitment Connection - Relationship Advice I'm sorry. You're right. My point had no merrit at all when comes to the obvious phenomenon of women being attracted to hyper masculinity. I suggest you block comments if you can't handle a retort.
Lol, I'm just stating the obvious that you somehow missed. This isn't about what attracts women, it's about helping women identify good men. Women are attracted to masculinity and we're helping them identify good men so they end up with the right guys. It's pretty simple.
+CC-RA - Probably not a good idea for you to be calling out people in the comments section. YT Comments is a cesspool, and if you want to develop a serious channel, you'd do well to keep your feet dry.
Yes. Google " 50 shades psychology " and you will see this type of man leaves women damaged for life, he is a psychopath, or high level narcissist. But it doesn't matter , because he has the 3 qualities women want " he is high social status hanging with famous people, he is rich, and he is very good looking. There are the three qualities.
Wow. This is a sad world we live in when the extremely basic qualities mentioned in this video are needed to be listed. Every man should have these at a minimum. Sad.
It is sad.
satanicalien Absolutely correct.
satanicalien mgtow is feminism with a beard... Not much difference honestly.
"mgtow is feminism with a beard... Not much difference honestly." -DarkSifu
Incorrect. MGTOW is about a single concept. Feminism is an umbrella of ideas. In order to get "feminism with a beard" you would have to combine:
MGTOW (life without women)
PUA (hookups)
Lad Culture (being rude and stupid?)
the MRM (Advocacy of legal rights)
the "Patriarchy" (Fictional entity that supports male superiority and female oppression)
no corresponding movement (Redistribution of wealth)
no corresponding movement (Affirmative action)
Agreed. Few do.
This video was meant to be advice for women, but I do see the point that many point out in the comments.
I am a woman myself and even I can see that some women can't make up their minds about who they want, or need.
I think is simple basic thing is that you need to be a decent human being, who can be easy to connect with, not every guy is going to be perfect and not all women are going to be perfect either.
Also I do agree that there are some gold digging women out there but that doesn't mean that all women are dating somebody just for money. Genuine people do exist out there, but they are very hard to find these days, sadly.
I have these qualities but I can't find a perfect women would u mind if I have a chat with you asking about some question
Lmao wtf . Yeah thats weird.
Thank you, this was very refreshing and supportive. It's a wonderful perspective for couples. I have every one of these qualities, however I am 50+ years old and had to really work at it. Non of us are born or raised to have these qualities, they are learned and the more a person practices and more so wants and believes they can become a good man or woman, the more they will become what they are striving to be. In a relationship its important to want to make the love that you both have found the center of your shared life together. Your love is the center, and everything else in life comes second to your love.
Damn all these sad comments make me realize how good I have it. I have a girl that loves me and wants sex all the time, pays for me and does what I say and cooks for me. No friends with exs, no guy friends and doesn’t want marriage or kids. Its great!
Lucky you
Does she have a sister?
I have to say that as a 35 yr old man, I like this video. Everything here is what I have except #2. The country I'm from a lot of women here do not appreciate a man with good qualities but that goes for women too as well. Anyways keep making these sensible videos my friend.
ExterminaTORul DEborati For a person like yourself, I believe you had been sexually abused. That's alright and that's why your ego will lead you to know way. Am in a good mood so I will not used obscene language in this beautiful channel. Good luck homeboy!
Been watching mgtow vids all day, then this pops up. Lol!
Comrade Trollavitch lol
The video is about. How to catch a good beta male after hitting the wall. (In MGTOwn language)
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@@renzochepar lol i'm so happy that my dad made me a MGTOW, I work hard i chill with my male friends, ride motocycles drink beer and fuck these bitches To sleep, no relationships no marriage, life is good, we men are better off focusing on building wealth and friendships with one another and only using women for sex.
Did anyone listening to her, i was busy looking for a mgtow comment
My husband is kind, compassionate, very patient, down to earth, dependable, reliable, interested in me, prioritizes me, sweet, treats me well, vocal about his feelings about me, and very honest in his comments. Even if he knows I don't agree with him, he would tell me that he still thinks he's right but he would give in. He doesn't like arguments. He's 48 and I'm 31, and we've been married for 4 years. He's been consistent.
I have all these qualities and thanks to them I‘m happily married with my wife and I can confirm that the point number one about prioritizing the relationship over the ego is what kept my marriage safe during turbulent times
But does she do the same or only you?
Yeah but secretly your wife craves to fuck the bad boy dominant thug...What’s the really saved your marriage is that you probably have resources going for you and the BS list in this video had nothing to do with it, absolutely nothing!
You are a nice lady. But what you say is not what most women want.
This is advice for women, not for men.
Commitment Connection - Relationship Advice a man who is willing to retrospectively judge himself and look into what his flaws are in conjunction to the traits that make a great man. That's usually a balanced set of advice. It's great in thought, but sadly most women do not value these kinds of men. And as social creatures, rejection by society lovers or friends has a way of changing you. And that evolutionarily will not change.
Women are attracted to strong, masculine men. That's it. All the other things are things that WE are teaching them about what kinds of guys to look for to have a long-term relationship. If you asked women, men only want young, hot bimbos. But if you're a man and that's all you focus on, there's a high probability chance that you'll end up heartbroken and broke like a lot of the guys whining in the comment section here. Men don't value these traits any more than women do at the initial stages of courtship. Women want strong men, men want hot women. To say anything else is ridiculous. And to get on here and complain that women don't want these things is just as ridiculous when we're literally on here creating videos teaching women to value these things.
Most women have low self-esteem. I read Wayne dyers book your erroneous zone. It explains everything. The more I work on myself the more women hate me. The better I get the more I am not respected. I am a strong man. I king crab fished in Bering sea. Not many can do that. Women are sick and twisted.
I think most people, men and women, have low-self esteem... at least that's been my observation. Men tend to be better at hiding it than women are.
These are excellent traits and any decent man will have them all. Never settle for less and if he doesn't have them then walk. Of course, he will be looking for similar from you.
Had all plus 6 extra but still she left coz she take my kindness as my weakness. No matter what you have yon cannot satisfy women as they don't know what they are looking for
No, you just also have to be a masculine man... if you don't have that basic down, nothing else matters.
Matthew Coast I do have even extra I served Special Forces for 3 years in the most dangerous place in the earth but women want someone idiot.thats all I am done
you are so spot on- the only thing you can do is be yourself and if no woman wants you, that is her loss.
if you want a relationship here is some advice:
1- be a jerk.
2- be an asshole.
3- be unpolite.
4-talk trash
5- treat her like garbage
6-have as unsympathic tone as possible in your voice.
And if you have been to prison, and have a tattoo in your face, you a guarantied female company.
Then you can get any girl . Have them for yourself, I am done to.
@@TASAVIR
Shan Kh really serves in special forces? What branch did you serve in and what was your call sign? Hmm 🤔
S M yes yes I did serve... and I am not from US man.
All u said is true and u forgot to mention nervous and men feared of women are also Mr Right. But there are things that every women should know how to treat us guys nice.
1. Ego: Avoid having ego when guy explains himself.
2. Stop having negative thoughts: Many women I see thinking negative thoughts when completely not listen what guy says and explains like he comments on u good.
3. Understandings: There should be both side understanding eachothers not oneside. We guys get hurt that only we should understand women not them Understanding us. This is where problems happen.
4. Walking away without sorting out problems and without clearing doubts: We men cannot bare emotional pain for living long all we want is Peace and happiness we get tired getting in emotional pain. So Women should live like sorting out problems and clearing doubts onspot like we try our best to sort out onspot the problems. If not sorted out problems will create more and more.
5. Spending money: Women should be caring and not make us guys too much spend money. We guys love women who takes responsibility of not spending money too much and who cares us. The same way we care and respect women.
6. Being moody and showing attitude: I know lot women likes to see us guys reaction to see how much we love them but there's limit. Women should not do overly and should openly tell the guy feelings so us guys feel peace in heart.
Guys if there are more points to tell pls reply on my comments to share.
You are incredibly on point. Thank you. Yes and yes my boyfriend is High Quality. He has said and proven that he Never give me up for the world and he walks extra length to make sure I am secure and provided for.
You're welcome! Sounds like you've met your match Goddess!
wow no wonder so many guys are single. who is all those things. I lost patience just listening to her fantasy guy
Robert D
Not a bad list of qualities to look for actually, but in answering these questions about prospective suitors the female in this equation should ask herself one more very crucial question: do I deserve such a man? If so, how or why? Do I bring enough to the table to warrant a man willing and capable of jumping through all those hoops?
Just as most men would fail this test if passing meant a yes on all 8 questions, most women would fail judged by that 1 question alone. Its been my experience that the default mentality among most women is that yes, they do deserve Prince Charming. Its a given that they don't even question. Men are more realistic in their self assessments (except when dealing with the odd case of Narcissistic Personality Disorder). The average Joe knows he doesn't deserve the unicorn, but the average Jane believes she is the unicorn.
Big difference.
This is advice for women, not for men. The rest of our channel is about how to treat men and deserve a man like this.
Wouldn't be good advice for men too so they can at least have an idea of women WANT? Instead, it is being tailored to one side...? Although, what women want is not always what they need.
Commitment Connection - Relationship Advice advice or putting woman’s mind a unrealistic expectations? That’s bull , give them advice of how reality is and how man is not perfect at all and what you talking about is like 8% of man
This isn't what women want... it's advice to them... which is why you know it's not what they go for... because if they did, there'd be no reason to give them advice about it.
Now if you really want the relandship to last and grow when you do land a good man.....
Pray with each other before yall eat and go to bed.
Next he reads the Holy Bible to you and describes the word to you and yall talk about the word together. If you know the word more than he does lead him through the verses.
Christ 1st all things are possible!
Ryan, A godly woman is so precious to me, a Born-again Christian. I'm so close to the Father that a godly woman would be a real " help meet " to me these day's, since I also have an " end-time " calling which will be a powerful one.
Most important is thst he is not a narcist or psychopath
You are 100% correct!! I know a man just like this; he has ALL 8 qualities, which confused me at first because he wasn't like any other guy I had ever interacted with in my life. His personality is perfectly complementary to mine (he's mathematical, I'm literary), and I value him so much that even though we're not a couple yet (we're 2000+ miles apart right now), I have turned down every other guy that's been interested in me because nobody is as good as he is. I know it sounds foolish but I'm happy waiting, because he's a man worth waiting for.
Since it seems important to other commenters here, I have no idea what his finances look like, what kind of car he drives or what kind of place he lives in, nor does any of that matter to me. Also - I really don't know why this matters to people - he's over 6'; I'm short, barely 5', so height doesn't matter to me either. Why are people so focused on these superficial matters anyhow?
So you're right when you're wrong, so your #1 quality in a man is to say he's wrong when he's right, What a man.
God comes first. Period.
Rusty Appling yes god should always be first before your spouse , freinds , and yourself
Marry a Muslim then if that's how you feel.
Religion is an abusive relationship. It's all one way and if you do anything wrong, you burn forever.
@@jollyandwaylo repent for it , unless you do it on purpose.
Repent for what? Noticing that the story of the Christian god is like an abusive relationship? Anyone in a relationship that is threatened if they don't do exactly what they are told and are expected to worship and believe anything they are told, should get out of that relationship as fast as possible. Are you suggesting people should stay in a relationship like that?
I have six of those qualities and I still can’t find a woman. You think being ugly and old is my problem ?
To funny !!!😂😂
Yes big problem
She must just got dumped by her ex!!! Now she like "okay fanasty world this is what I want..."
Dude a whopper sounds so good.
You described me to a T. The problem is that, all of the woman that I’ve dated over the years don’t appreciate the eight qualities that I have here and much more. Instead they want the complete opposite of that in a guy or lets just say boy. Girls would rather have abusers, cheaters with no jobs, no place of there own, absolutely nothing to bring to the table. Well, that’s not me at all so I will just continue to have the eight and much much more. I paid cash for my home, and many other things. I’m a hopeless romantic, but girls done want the nice man, they want the good for nothing punks!
My dad told me about women he said.. when your wrong apologize... when your right ..say nothing...
How about a man as an alpha male , protector, can defend himself and his loved ones in a crisis and a meat eater , courage , gallantry , etc ...geez
Lol, fair enough. Thanks for the contribution.
Heirarchy is God, Christ, man, woman, children. Wife is to submit to her husband in all ways.
jdfarr45 Sadly the world has turned its back on the proper order of things. We live in a toxic society where female supremacy is encouraged, while at the same time women complain about inequality. Masculinity is condemned, yet supposedly sought after?!? If things weren't hard enough, now homosexuality has gained popularity and men have to battle women for women! Men are being villified by the media and most women buy it. The modern western woman sees a man as an expendable resource, her feelings toward which, determine the extent of his expendability. He must meet all of her requirements for a chance at impending heartbreak, whereas she, as mentioned previously, has all of the options. Not to mention possible divorce rape. The statistics have shown that no woman is worth enduring such horrors. Searching through a sea of harpies for one angel is not relatively worth it. Women ask what men offer!?! Women offer sex and...oh wait, just sex. They believe they are superwomen. Their ability to reproduce has been given to them through God Almighty, yet they take credit for the maker of all things's master design. Their sinful ancestor saw to it that pregnancy would be painful long ago. Christ should always come before all else. That is the root of all issues mentioned above.
This
Man! You nailed it. Well spoken! Christ is Lord. This video is secular feminist nonsense.
Those are fighting words to modern women, but you are right.
Regarding some of the responses: read all of scripture. Man is to be Godly and love his wife as himself and as Christ loves the Church, sacrificially. Man is the head as Christ is the head of the Church. Christians are also told to submit one to another in Godly love.
Also, Eve was deceived; but Adam knew what he was doing. That is why sin comes through the male and Jesus could be born of a woman and be sinless.
To further demonstrate what is being said by these comments God always meant that the natural order was God Christ and man but because of Israel’s disobedience God Said “ As for my people women shall rule over them and children shall be their oppressors” That is happening today. Men are losing/lost their position as the leaders in their communities and homes Submission by wives to their husbands is a foreign concept
I found this video to be very useful. I went MGTOW many years ago. So, now I know what to avoid to keep myself safe.
My high quality masculine man is not rich nor poor. He does not like or feel comfortable accepting gifts from me. When he gives me enough money I make sure I get him something he neglects or forgets to get for himself. He blushes when I help dress him up. Then he receives compliments from my social circle about my input, so both our egos are stroked at the same time, esp if he has had a stressful week.
I think the follow up bit is "ok, you've managed to snag a high quality dood, here's what you need to change/improve about yourself to make sure he doesn't let you go." In a nutshell, women want to be taken care of, and men don't want to be undermined. A good relationship has a foundation where if the woman feels left out in the cold or the man feels undermined, there is recourse to get back into good graces without digging a deeper grave for either party.
Focusing on what makes a good partner for either sex comes off as turning them into a commodity to be picked at ones leisure.
I carry a gun everywhere I go. Why? To be ready, on a second's notice, to defend myself and maybe defend the lives of other people around me. And I don't care what the law has to say on the matter nor do I care what someone else's opinion on the matter is either. It's simply what I do and nothing will ever change that.
Because I value my life.
So, a number of years ago, I met this young woman and thought she might be interesting enough to date. And we exchanged numbers and talked a bit on the phone and she was asking me more about myself and she asked me if I was a gun owner out of the blue. I said yes and ended up telling her pretty much exactly what I started with here ending with "because I value my life."
Then she said, "well, I won't date anyone who carries a gun on a date" and I said "then we're not dating and there's plenty of other fish in the sea" and I hung up. I never heard from her. Nor did I expect to. Nor do I have any regrets for passing on that relationship.
When the video got to point #1 I thought about this little episode or encounter and how I would rather be right than to compromise with somebody who is so afraid of firearms that they demand that I also be an unarmed duck ready to become a victim.
Because I've never known any criminal or any lunatic consult with what the law has to say about the proper use of firearms before going on and doing what they're bound to do sooner or later.
And I don't mind if other people fail to value their own lives. That's their business.
If someone wants to go about unarmed and ill-prepared to defend their life then I say so be it. Because what they're really saying is that their life fails to matter.
That's their personal decision and I'm cool with that as long as no one expects me to feel sorry for them should they become a victim or a statistic.
What I'm saying is that there are certain things a real man should never compromise on. Especially if he's got his act together and is making plenty of bank. If a woman wants to be in a man's life then she needs to learn to at least understand the logic and reason he used in order to arrive at the destination he's at when he designed his life as a young man.
Demanding that the man compromise, for the sake of the relationship, is silly especially when there's no reciprocal compromise from the woman.
All deeply meaningful relationships are based upon reciprocity but some things should be left off the table when it comes to compromise and personal safety is one of those things without a doubt. I'm happy I passed on that relationship years ago but perhaps for different reasons than one might suspect.
I'm happy to have passed on that relationship simply because she was the kind of woman that didn't want to listen to the man she pretended to be interested in a relationship with. She was a bad actress. Instead, she wanted to begin making demands of me without getting to know me and even understand me. It was her agenda that was important and I suspect she's been married and divorced a time or two since then and has produced some children who have effed up worldviews because she didn't have her act together before she started breeding.
But that's just the guess from the hindsight of experience having met and gotten to know so many people over decades and seen what is produced by those who are intellectually dishonest to begin with. Who knows, maybe she learned something from her brief experience with me. I doubt it. But did you?
Mine has them all and I love him very much
Nice
Mine too! 😍🤴🤗💓
Question why if men did 100% of these He Still end up lonely and broken hearted 💔💔💔
As Scriptures says, "There is no one so righteous, not even one". Roman 3:10, Ecclesiastes 7:20. It is foolishness try to find good qualities from others, rather than, we must develop good qualities ourselves.
Really nice to see a woman who appreciates a good man.
I met this man many years ago. I married him!
Maybe a man gets all these qualities from being raised by both parents.
Could be
Abel Cerrillo i think when a man is raised out his parent he treats women like a piece of shit...Am a woman indeed women need a man to reacr her very well.
imagin a woman you get pregnant and u ve d opportunity to be at the Delivery room seeing her struggling to bring forth ur child in pain is enough to cherish a woman...bt such man forget all those birth pain and still make her cry....pls am begging all men to take it easy with women ok......
Women huh?
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Always want the Superman instead of Clark...
exactly....
Clark can definitely have these qualities.
Don’t be a pushover, be patient, be forward, be dependable or reliable, be pushy and and persistent, show your cash and future and how she can be apart of it, show your feelings, and be a push over no matter the circumstance.
You work for her and show her what your work is worth. Then there is the work she has you do after she approves your work to get her. Then you must sustain and juggle all the work to have her happy, meet living expectations, and have her looking forward to have sex with you without cheating. This one sided bull shit has got to end. Guys, honestly, if we make it all happen. Can’t we decide who gets our work? There is more of them than us.
He didn't choose me rather than be right, but I feel like I didn't care about his feelings. This is confusing. He said we had a relationship, but I thought it was platonic. I know I love him. I know I miss him. I know I hate him. I know I desire him. I know he's a bad boy and that can't make me happy.
These are the qualities of an alpha male. And like attracts like.
This means that to attract that kind of man, you'll need to be an alpha female as well. And therefore all of those qualities you listed goes the same for the female as well.
An alpha male does not want a woman that he has to baby and treat like a little princess all the time.
There's gotta be an equal amount of give and take from both sides for it to work.
😂4:17 He chooses you over being right. Ei this is difficult: so you can't be right and have this woman happy at the same time. You need to choose one😂😂
Unfortunatly, you described a Nice Guy or a Monk. I wish you good luck!
Oscar Hoff hahahahaha a monk 😂
Haha well said.
Oscar H. what these young girls want nowday's.?? Little "beta" boys... "alpha males"="toxic masculinity"=supports "rape culture"...If you buy into ALL the different, "Politically Correct"... everybody gets special rights ... Bull Shit ... You too, can have a purple haired, SJW girl friend...As a 'baby boomer" i get to date Ladies.,,, And they love an alpha male gentleman... We know what gender we are,, and we know which rest room to use...
High quality man for long term relations
1 kind, compassionate, generous, not pushover
2 patient with you
3 down to earth, not make big promises he cant fulfill
4 relyable, man of his word
5 energy comes to you consistanly
6 shows you he loves you
7 shows your feelings are important, your hapiness
8 chooses you and the relation above being right or getting his way
I'm a guy who has all of the qualities you mention here, but I always get put in the friend zone after meeting some very nice friendly women. With every loss, I loose purpose, and the will to go on. Life is very lonely alone.
Just a question. Why don't you women want me, when i have all these qualities ?
It's because they not care us good guys when we treat them like queen and respect them.
What you are saying is really nice, some how most women I have met in my life, for them money is all that matters
Maybe you should stop hanging out with gold diggers
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"8 Qualities Of A Good Friend."
Exactly.
It's good to hear and see women like you, post such encouraging true, hopeful videos. I agree, but beware of the comments of the worldly men and women, always discouraging.
Ok.... as a man, these are the qualities I want in a “high value” woman:
1. I want a woman who will bring something to the table so we can grow together and move upward, not a woman who I have to support and take care of financially.
2. I want a woman who can cook at least 3 times a week so I dont have to spend $150 a night eating 3 meals at restaurants.
3. I want a woman who is confident and who trusts me when I say Im with my friends or playing dominoes with my family, that’s exactly what Im doing and I don’t need to check in every hour as if Im on parole.
4. Don’t be a nag.
5. Don’t be a prude in the bedroom. Be willing to be open and uninhibited. It’s me after all, you’re not filming an ABC Special.
6. PAY YOUR OWN BILLS!! Your debt and bad credit is not my problem.
7. Respect me verbally and physically the way you want to be respected.
8. Love me, I don’t ask for much.
9. Most importantly, don’t let your family and girlfriends meddle in our relationship (misery loves company!)
If you can do all of this, I will promise to do the same and we will have a great life together.
Do you need a video to follow??
Most comments are that "such creature does not exist" but i guarantee he exists because i am certainly one present here, and surely there are more. Rare but Real for sure. But remember "what is universally right or correct can not be ignored or considered wrong because doing so will bring chaos only in future". So honesty is very important.
Rajesh Kumar You are right. we do exist but not all women can recognise and value those traits.And so they think it doesnt exist.Because to be able to do so they first have to become those same traits they are asking for.
So yes it is rare for both men and women but yes we do exist.
dre ty and i bet that you wrote this , cause you feel but hurt , cause you are not that kind of man. Well... try to become. It is not that difficult .
It is true that all people have at least some of those traits and also in varying degrees.Also true that you choose where to display them.
I am also not foolishly "nice" to people that don't deserve it.I try to remain polite non the less.But if for example someone becomes rude to me , then i can mirror it and i have the freedom to become rude too.If someone tries to discount me , i will discount him/her 2 times. You are absolutely right and correct on those things.
But ... the things that i disagree with you : Yes there are indeed women that are ungrateful as you said (but there are also men that are like that) and also , not all women are like that.But i am not going to lose my time on those women.I lost it in the past , it can probably happen again in the future but now i think i have more experience and i can quickly recognise and discard those people.I value my self , i know my worth and i know what i have to offer , so i will not give myself to people that i know that are not worthy of me.
At least for romantic relationships or for closer friendships.For the rest , i can keep a polite distance and give myself up to the point that they deserve.
I strongly disagree with your last phrase , that you don't choose your relationship over anything personally important to you. It is also true that to choose the relationship over anything else is wrong . but also what you said is wrong too. This phrase indicates to me that you might have 1 trait that might be underdeveloped . You can google it , it is called "empathy".
You put the relationship as a somehow last priority.That means you stay in somehow distant relationships. I personally can't stay in such relationship .
I prefer closer ones but with balance. (by the way ,both men and women want love and respect.everyone wants that) (even you)
Maybe this is your compromise. You find women that you are not so much "in love" so to be able to do this. Otherwise it is not possible. You can't ignore something that you love.
It comes naturally. I don't deny your experience up to today and probably this is what made you to say those things right now.
But i tell you , this is not the only thing that there is out there.And not all people are ungrateful.
And as i said in my previous message , it is not meant for everyone. To get what you want , first you have to have the same thing to give back.Otherwise you don't deserve it.
And usually , almost always , it is not given to you. Or you will not even see it around and you might even conclude that it doesn't exist.
So first look at yourself , what you have , who you are , what you give and then you can ask for the same things that you give. Never more .
And if you want something , then be prepared to give the same thing yourself too. (because there are women too , that want this , that or the other but have nothing to give back ,other than maybe their looks , "entitlement" (and sometimes they even don't have that to give) .
I hope that somehow i helped you
@ Rajesh Kumar.....I honestly agree with what you've mentioned. We as men/women have to get back to the basics of relationships. As for "future chaos," it's already here. That's why we have these channels ON relationships. People are trying to figure out how to make sense of the chaos.
You sound like a "love guru" from the movies. Don't get too soft. Balance yourself with some "toughness" as well.
@ dre ty.....100% truth in one of your comments.
Women in general want Love.
Men in general want Respect.
If we apply it from that angle, everything will work out.
Would be nice if woman also have such good qualities
It would be!
*Walks in on gf being nailed by friend....*
"Must have patience with her, guys..."
Interesting I hit every quality, “it’s about being yourself,” Good Advice thanks Helena.
😢 finally found 1 with every single quality 😊, great video ‼️
Yay! We're thrilled that you like this video:)
If A Man Has These 8 Qualities..................................he's MGTOW.
My husband is exactly like this!!! 👩💚💙❤
I love him soo much, and I'm so lucky to have him in my life 💋💋
He really is the best!
Honestly, no other man are like him. Others I met before him are usually obnoxious, rude, disrespectful, crazy, and lack self esteem.
My husband is not like the rest, he is truly unique!
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Ask yourself this question: "Do you do the same for him"?
@@6Whodini exactly
You are living a fantasy. Everything you're requesting, is everything you don't appreciate. Snatch this video down.
It's literally a video telling women TO appreciate these things, not saying that they do. The video wouldn't exist if women already appreciated these things. Snatch your comment down.
@@mateodelacosta7688 calm down Romeo. She's all yours. Take off your cape. 😂🤣😂
@Moses - I'll take my cape off as soon as you replace your diapers with big boy pants. 😂
@@mateodelacosta7688 you are so corny my dude. It's not that serious for me.
@Moses - Are you coming on to me bro, because that's just not my thing. XD
Yes, I am 74 and he is 59 we have all so much compatibility and he has all 8 qualities. I feel God has sent him to me
Important is connectivity, communication on the heart level,no egos, this normally gets it done!
Do a video on what you have to offer
Most of our channel is about helping women learn how to offer more to a relationship in a way that is attractive to men
8 is nonsense. Truth is too important to dispense with in the face of a relationship. If she can't handle being wrong then she shouldn't be in the relationship.
Sounds like a men menu.....give me a break! The Perfect Man ONE MUST BE. But when it comes to the counter side there are always exceptions to dismiss the nonsense. LOL
Males, you only need 1 quality
*money*
Only if you don't have a personality... and want her to leave for more money.
8: he takes your shit and doesn't get mad.
7: Takes your shit and doesn't get mad.
6: lets you make all the decisions.
5: makes a lot of money
And lets you have it.
4: He takes more of your shit.
3: He takes a stupid amount shit from you.
2: You are always right.
1: He takes every bit of the shit you can throw at him AND gives you control of his money.
showing someone how you feel is not a sign of masculine man its just feelings if we think she's the one. masculinity has nothing to do with feelings. its has everything to do with respect and having balls u know to be responsible etc. in a relationship showing your feelings all the time can lead to being used and woman gets bored in relationship faster than men. ok a real man point of view. help your man and treat him with respect and keep your damn mother out of your relationship, work , cook, dont hold grudges be friendly and supportive is the way to keep a good man long term. i know im married and wished for the same shit. love yall tho. great video.
i hope it isnt all over for men who dont have all of these qualities
Quite the opposite actually. I have these qualities but never show them. And I have a literal line of women wanting my attention now. First time in my life I'm not the nice guy and I'm getting whatever I want. Really is stupid thh
I think these are generally good. Do NOT puke your feelings up to her. This will turn her off big time. Do Not over pursue her. Girls don’t like needy behavior.
Neither do men,and today's women are needy as fuck.
That's right, always have her ask for more. Don't go all out from the start.
well i disagree on the basis of my experience. girls always go with wealthier guy. And friend zone you.
@@MSBowen-pk6ww one night concept is not romantic at all its player(story teller from Disney land) doing to boost there ego. as far money is concern it is important its like our score card we always want to show we are better then other men. We men are always about competition.
I have seen women looking for life partners who have Money, status, high-lifestyle, stable job, etc. What this lady is talking about works in Romantic stories of books. In the real world, you will find it quite different. More than 70% of relationships start talking when you have (Money, status, high-lifestyle, stable job, etc). They don't care if he is a good man, but he must have good bank balance & stable source of income. You can find love in adult age of 18-24 because in that age both of the man & woman are nobody. They start from Zero. They know each other struggle. They know how much the other will care for them. Maybe it's childish but the love is innocent, as there are not many expectations.
This isn't supposed to work for men, this video is ADVICE for women on who they should keep... not facts about what women are attracted to.
@@mateodelacosta7688 I got that its advice for women. But the real question is will they even follow it?