These struggles are the same for native people. Once pregnant, you already have to get your unborn on a waiting list for a Kindergarten, same with schools. Many doctors do not take,on new patients, so finding one is also a struggle. And yes, many landlords unfortunately do not want to rent to families with kids. Employers fear that there are too many sick days when they employ a mom with two kids, since you can call in if your kid is sick and stay home. But all these challenges are the same for natives. It is not easy.
I did not know for sure that natives also go through them, thank you for letting us know, you know where I come from they are not there so it comes like a culture shock to me 😊
@Mercysm. very true...I work as a kindergarten teacher, and the Native German must wait on the waiting list. The people who have better chances ( atleast where I work) are children who come from single parent households. They have priority and can usually be taken in immediately- irregardless of their Nationalities ❤
Sweetheart the secret to winning this people is to first of all learn their language. l was once in a foreign a country and l quickly realize that the only way for me to get to this people was to learn their language, communication is important. Plus, this people have a well laid out structure it's not like we Africans you can't blame them. Don't put too much pressure on yourself. l like what you are doing now, connecting with the community is really a big thing, plus don't be shy to talk to people about your plans because that could lead you to the help you are looking for, it might take some time but be patient and positive, otherwise l wish you all the best. Much love from Kenya
I don't know why, but I enjoy watching your videos. Sorry for what you guys go through there. Would love to know how you came to Germany. Do a video. Would love it❤
I am so sorry but are you in Bayern or Thüringen cause I would love to help you with information and complete applications cause is hard if you don't know. If you don't get a school for your child call the Schulamt and ask for appointment they will help you for sure and for kindergeld you apply by Familienkasse and by Rathaus you go and ask for application for Wohngeld they give you and you will be helped. Is hard here but trust me you will make it never give up and if you need any help let me know. God bless you 🙏
Send me your Handy number I contact you if you really need the help. At Diakonie they also help and I am also a African married with 3 children and is legal here and work here.
Thank you so much once again, I managed to contact the Schulamt and they referred me to other people who also referred me to other people and they said my daughter is on the list and we will get feedback in a week’s time, so I don’t know how true that is 🤗 This is my email mercyonyango2020@gmail.com or IG account or TikTok Mercysm So that I can share with you my personal number there Alternatively you can give me your social media handle so that I can reach out to you myself Thank you so much for your help so far 😍
This video is not to discourage you, it’s difficult at the beginning but it does get better you know, I won’t definitely be in this situation a year from now, so pleas don’t feel discouraged 😊
As for the lack of guidance: That might come with the type of visa you have. You mentioned that you came via family reunion, right? That implies that you have a very close family member in Germany (spouse or parent). That family member has been here for a while already --> they are expected to know how things work and explain it to you and guide you. Originally that visa was meant for a German marrying a foreigner and bring them to Germany. The German then would know how things work. For people who come with a work visa, their employer can act as a guide in a lot of things and has to organize at least certain basic things for them. For people who come as refugees (and are recognized as such!): the state has lots of programs for them to get them situated and started, to get their children into schools, and to get the adults into language courses, get them health insurance etc. Apart from that: Germans also don't know how some of that stuff works xD Beurocracy is a monster -.-
The rent is quite high and it also differs from city to city, the bigger the city the higher the rent , yes I’ll definitely make a video thank you for the suggestion
Believe me darling.! I am from the Netherlands and black. I stay there with my husband for a year and we were done, not my place to be. Was a chock for me , I even used the eu law to go back the my own doctor in the Netherlands. For us it was a horrible experience, again our experience. I hope all work out for you.!
@@priscillagichuru6280Short answer: No. Longer answer: If you are not from an EU country you have to get a visa that allows you to work in Germany while you are still in your home country. Via the German embassy in your home country. There are different types of visas for that but you generally have to be a qualified worker to get any of them. That means you need a degree/certification for whatever job you learned and it has to be a qualification that can be recognized as legit + up to standards in Germany. There also is the option to get an apprenticeship in Germany and get your qualifications in Germany. Either way, you need a contract with an employer/the place where you will do the apprenticeship to apply for the visa. There are programs through which German employers look for qualified/specialized workers or even appentices in foreign countries. Those programs help with the visa too. So the steps: get an education --> get an employment contract --> apply for a visa through the embassy. Wrong way: come with a tourist visa and overstay your visa. That will get you deported. Also wrong way: come without any visa and hope to get a work permit once you are there. That takes years and depending on where you are from you may never get it and get deported. Also: there are very few jobs for unskilled workers in Germany. Almost everything requires a qualification. And the few jobs that don't are paid badly and you will not be able to raise a family with that money, you would be dependent on the state in which case the state will reconsider your visa. If you are from an EU country: completely different system. EU citizens can - in general - work everywhere within the EU. The countries have lots of countries that recognize each other's degrees and sort out taxes and contributions to the social systems and stuff.
Wow this is so in-depth, thank you for sharing this with us , the bureaucracy in Germany definitely can't make it easy for you to change a tourist visa into a work visa, you will end up living illegally and so comes poor payment coz you can only manage black market jobs, lets not talk about terrible working conditions for such jobs
CRAZY LIFE!!!!!! WITH A KID WITH A MAN THAT YOU NOT KNEW, PREGNANT TOOOO???? WEIL HE IS MZUNGU??? CRAZY!!!!! KNEW YOUR PARTNER OR GIRLFRIEND FIRST!!!!! IN GERMANY NURSERY SCHOOLS ARE FEW, A PLACE TO GET IS A BIG PROBLEM!!!!!!! CRAZY
@@Mercysm.VERY VERY DIFFICULT!!!!!! I REGISTERED MY BABY GAL, I WAS STILL PREGNANT FOR HER FOR 5 MONTHS!!!!!! THEY CAME HERE AND THINK THE FIRST THING IS TO MAKE KIDS!!!!!!
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These struggles are the same for native people. Once pregnant, you already have to get your unborn on a waiting list for a Kindergarten, same with schools. Many doctors do not take,on new patients, so finding one is also a struggle. And yes, many landlords unfortunately do not want to rent to families with kids. Employers fear that there are too many sick days when they employ a mom with two kids, since you can call in if your kid is sick and stay home. But all these challenges are the same for natives. It is not easy.
I did not know for sure that natives also go through them, thank you for letting us know, you know where I come from they are not there so it comes like a culture shock to me 😊
@Mercysm. very true...I work as a kindergarten teacher, and the Native German must wait on the waiting list. The people who have better chances ( atleast where I work) are children who come from single parent households. They have priority and can usually be taken in immediately- irregardless of their Nationalities ❤
Oooh no then it’s so difficult
Sweetheart the secret to winning this people is to first of all learn their language. l was once in a foreign a country and l quickly realize that the only way for me to get to this people was to learn their language, communication is important. Plus, this people have a well laid out structure it's not like we Africans you can't blame them. Don't put too much pressure on yourself. l like what you are doing now, connecting with the community is really a big thing, plus don't be shy to talk to people about your plans because that could lead you to the help you are looking for, it might take some time but be patient and positive, otherwise l wish you all the best. Much love from Kenya
Hey Asante sana,Thank you for the advice, yes I know the language and I'm still continuing to learn it, sending you lots of love from Germany😍
I don't know why, but I enjoy watching your videos. Sorry for what you guys go through there.
Would love to know how you came to Germany. Do a video. Would love it❤
Wow thank you so much for always coming to watch my videos I appreciate you so much, okay I have to do that video now😊 your request is my command
I also love watching your videos for an unknown reason, I think it's the style
Thank you so much 😚 it means a lot to me, it keeps me going 😍
@@Mercysm. I'm so glad 💙💚❤️
I am so sorry but are you in Bayern or Thüringen cause I would love to help you with information and complete applications cause is hard if you don't know. If you don't get a school for your child call the Schulamt and ask for appointment they will help you for sure and for kindergeld you apply by Familienkasse and by Rathaus you go and ask for application for Wohngeld they give you and you will be helped. Is hard here but trust me you will make it never give up and if you need any help let me know. God bless you 🙏
Thank you so much, I am in Bayern, I literally need all the help🤦🏽♀️ We managed to get the Kindergeld, how can I reach you ?
Send me your Handy number I contact you if you really need the help. At Diakonie they also help and I am also a African married with 3 children and is legal here and work here.
Thank you so much once again, I managed to contact the Schulamt and they referred me to other people who also referred me to other people and they said my daughter is on the list and we will get feedback in a week’s time, so I don’t know how true that is 🤗
This is my email mercyonyango2020@gmail.com or IG account or TikTok Mercysm
So that I can share with you my personal number there
Alternatively you can give me your social media handle so that I can reach out to you myself
Thank you so much for your help so far 😍
Just be happy you there ungekua ke things are not chilling
Wueee I understand but sasa kama nafinywa sifai kuongea😃🤔
Sorry dearest, i have been watching your videos when you're happy but today you're stressed. Am worried bcz am planning to come there
This video is not to discourage you, it’s difficult at the beginning but it does get better you know, I won’t definitely be in this situation a year from now, so pleas don’t feel discouraged 😊
Hello, nice information. Keep it up.
Thank you so much 😊
@@Mercysm. I sent to you a friend request and messages.
❤❤Girl 💪you got this
Yeeees, Thank you 😭😭
I'm so sorry dear, take it one day at a time.
You look stressed 😫
I tell you sometimes it's not easy but we can only hope that it gets better with time
Stand in your prayers my sister, I have been in such situation.
Share tips please , it will be highly appreciated 🤦🏽♀️☺️❤️
As for the lack of guidance:
That might come with the type of visa you have. You mentioned that you came via family reunion, right? That implies that you have a very close family member in Germany (spouse or parent). That family member has been here for a while already --> they are expected to know how things work and explain it to you and guide you.
Originally that visa was meant for a German marrying a foreigner and bring them to Germany. The German then would know how things work.
For people who come with a work visa, their employer can act as a guide in a lot of things and has to organize at least certain basic things for them.
For people who come as refugees (and are recognized as such!): the state has lots of programs for them to get them situated and started, to get their children into schools, and to get the adults into language courses, get them health insurance etc.
Apart from that: Germans also don't know how some of that stuff works xD Beurocracy is a monster -.-
Short answer is it’s DIFFICULT 😞 with the German bureaucracy
So its better to be a refugee!
How much is the rent accordingly?
Please make a video on accommodation
The rent is quite high and it also differs from city to city, the bigger the city the higher the rent , yes I’ll definitely make a video thank you for the suggestion
Hi Mercy tell me how I can contact you. I can show you how to crest your CV and navigate the job search a bit 😂… greeting from Munange
Sure, Thank you for offering to help it means a lot to me😊
@@Mercysm. helping out a sis anytime. If you are in African moms in Germany write there and I will reply
Believe me darling.! I am from the Netherlands and black. I stay there with my husband for a year and we were done, not my place to be. Was a chock for me , I even used the eu law to go back the my own doctor in the Netherlands. For us it was a horrible experience, again our experience. I hope all work out for you.!
Hopefully things will work out , thank you
It’s such a horrible experience for sure ,
@@Mercysm. I really hope for you guys to.🙏🏾
For us was a chock because you think like you said the best doctors they and all these other things. But the reality is different
Things are really different in the grounds and you can only know it if you are here
@@Mercysm. so so true, I still have friends there. Who are not German, and are experience the same thing.! But hold on if you believe this .
Hey mercy just came across your video..where are you in germany?
I am in Bayern Bayreuth
@@Mercysm. niko munich
Do people in Africa bring their children them to work?
@@lynnsintention5722 I don't understand this question quite clear? Bring the children to work ? Or come with them to Germany?
Come back home my dear.East, West.....home is best please.
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 no I am not doing that
You told me never to convert into my currency, but my mind is too naughty, I will
😂😂😂😂then you won’t even buy clothes or food😂😂
I'm Kenya living in Munich.which city do u live?
In Nuremberg
What visa did you use??
Family reunion visa
Can one change from visit or tourist visa to work??
Are you married to a German man? Then you should instantly get a working permit.
@@priscillagichuru6280Short answer: No.
Longer answer: If you are not from an EU country you have to get a visa that allows you to work in Germany while you are still in your home country. Via the German embassy in your home country. There are different types of visas for that but you generally have to be a qualified worker to get any of them.
That means you need a degree/certification for whatever job you learned and it has to be a qualification that can be recognized as legit + up to standards in Germany. There also is the option to get an apprenticeship in Germany and get your qualifications in Germany.
Either way, you need a contract with an employer/the place where you will do the apprenticeship to apply for the visa. There are programs through which German employers look for qualified/specialized workers or even appentices in foreign countries. Those programs help with the visa too.
So the steps: get an education --> get an employment contract --> apply for a visa through the embassy.
Wrong way: come with a tourist visa and overstay your visa. That will get you deported.
Also wrong way: come without any visa and hope to get a work permit once you are there. That takes years and depending on where you are from you may never get it and get deported.
Also: there are very few jobs for unskilled workers in Germany. Almost everything requires a qualification. And the few jobs that don't are paid badly and you will not be able to raise a family with that money, you would be dependent on the state in which case the state will reconsider your visa.
If you are from an EU country: completely different system. EU citizens can - in general - work everywhere within the EU. The countries have lots of countries that recognize each other's degrees and sort out taxes and contributions to the social systems and stuff.
Wow this is so in-depth, thank you for sharing this with us , the bureaucracy in Germany definitely can't make it easy for you to change a tourist visa into a work visa, you will end up living illegally and so comes poor payment coz you can only manage black market jobs, lets not talk about terrible working conditions for such jobs
Jogo wachoni nyaka ipir nyathii mochop 18 years eka iyud tich. Jo German go chandonwa nyathii 😂😂
😂😂😂ni nyathi nyaka dhi e college koka iwe pire😂😂😂oteeek
CRAZY LIFE!!!!!! WITH A KID WITH A MAN THAT YOU NOT KNEW, PREGNANT TOOOO???? WEIL HE IS MZUNGU??? CRAZY!!!!! KNEW YOUR PARTNER OR GIRLFRIEND FIRST!!!!! IN GERMANY NURSERY SCHOOLS ARE FEW, A PLACE TO GET IS A BIG PROBLEM!!!!!!! CRAZY
@@Amira1977-y this is true
Finding kindergarten is so difficult
@@Mercysm.VERY VERY DIFFICULT!!!!!! I REGISTERED MY BABY GAL, I WAS STILL PREGNANT FOR HER FOR 5 MONTHS!!!!!! THEY CAME HERE AND THINK THE FIRST THING IS TO MAKE KIDS!!!!!!
Sprechen sie deutsch?
Ja, ich spreche deutsch
Return home.
🤣🤣🤣that’s not an option 🤣🤣
That's her choice to make, not yours.
Because I know why I came here and I'll only go back when I have completed it
@KungfuPanda-kj1ks but I am not you 😀😀
@KungfuPanda-kj1ksAs long as she works here and pays her taxes, I see absolutely no reason to complain.