As a guy in his 30s, currently battling a divorce in 2 courts in 2 different states, with what should have been my "better" half, I completely agree and understand what Archana is talking about. The instituition of marriage in itself is extremely flawed. Throw in a defunct, archaic and obsolete legal system into the mix and you have the perfect recipe for chaos and more importantly, the unfair power for one half to absolutely consume / decimate the life of the other, if he or she so chooses. I have been in court for more than 1.5 years and I'm right where I started. ZERO progress. It feels like someone hit pause on my entire life and threw away the button as a whole. Archana is spot on when she said think twice before marrying. To marry, you only have to sign once - Your signature brings merit. To divorce on the other hand, half the Indian judiciary has to sign off with you. Your signature is worth shit.
As a happily divorced person, I completely agree with what Archana says. People should know the purpose for which they're getting married and shouldn't jump into one because others are also doing it. Each person has their own temperament and it may not suit everyone to be in a married relationship. Especially those people who have grown up in nuclear families with all facilities and emotional support will find it hard to enter into marriage which will require compromises and sacrifices. So, it's better to stay single than to live with a wrong person. I also agree with her when she says she's scared to try marriage again. This is what's happening to me too. I find it difficult to be in a relationship now. A lot of trust issues. Maybe a passing phase but it's better not risk anything till it completely passes.
i love this girl and her growth... For women to speak about their troubles esp from malayalam is unheard of - hats off and thankyou Archana for opening up. Many of us have been there and its difficult but light shines through at the end of the tunnel. Im glad to see you smiling through majority of the interview. Wish you the best in anything that you chose to do. God bless!
Whenever you talk to someone , you know the boundaries and never cross it. You always care the feelings of other person and never make them uncomfortable. Always value everyones perspectives ask sensible questions. I can see the curiosities in your eyes when someone is talking and never disppointed any guest. Good job Dhanya
To be honest it's one of the best episode bcz I was not a fan of archana but this interview is sooo real i loved her and the way dhanya asked the questions it's amazing.
The same thing happens with me and my husband... He wants tooo much discussion and i hate to discuss everything to the core it annoys me😅 but yea that's marriage till you probably want enough of it! But it's so beautiful that she didn't put any mud on her ex and still thinks of their journey in a good way. Glad they are in a happy space.
Going through a divorce but also growing as a human being.... That's what it felt like listening to her ❤️ and that's a huge lesson that the society here needs to understand. Instead of doing some overly emotional and impulsive act like killing each other after a breakup, THIS is also possible. It's a very basic character trait that any sane citizen should develop instead of going for name calling and revenge, that too in public. And then throwing away their lives for a severely primitive society to judge and pass comments.
Abhish Mathew is a super sweet guy.i don't think there was no need for any revenge in her case.usually that's happens when u r in a toxic relationship.in her case i think both were super demanding field they could not hold their relationship.thats what I got from whatever she said
@@arshaq4200 Becoming that sweet guy or girl with a head that works is what is included in the basic character trait mentioned in the above comment. Aka NOT promoting toxic relationships and toxic people. (And if one person is toxic and other decides to take revenge for that, that saga is gonna go on forever and eventually both people will have proven themselves to be toxic). At the end of the day it's not about being sweet to decide if revenge must be taken or not 😅, because no matter how sweet one is, when a break up happens things definitely will turn bitter. At that time, the ability in both partners to discuss (or even scream at each other but ellaathinum oru healthy limit ondu) things in a healthy way demands quality on both parties' sides and like she said, part ways without causing further damage to the friendship that exists is a life skill that the generations here have to learn. Aka learning to take rejection. Aka learning to channel the negative emotions and anger that comes with a break up or divorce so as not to go harm oneself or the other person. Athinu ividuthe naattukaarum veettukaarum space also kodukkanam. Plenty to learn from this relationship and how they have dealt with it. And that dealing is in no way easy because one or both partners are basically sweet people, it's just about choosing the civilized path.
Hey...how do you pick ur guest....each person is a gem and u give them respect, space, and the confidence to open up so that we love each n every guest even more after their conversation with u
I think watching Dhanya s interviews, our perceptions about the guests will totally change ....everyone will open up during their conversion.....and its beautiful....
It's true that men and women are different. Some people will cope up and some will fall through. It's not anyone's fault. Come out from an unhappy marriage..It's the best that you can do for yourself.
wow, she is so genuine, and I loved this interaction; so much to learn, I know dhanya Varma, but I have seen her in this interview only for the right reasons, both are handling the conversations so maturely, and i just loved it.
Such a nice interview...veena and other many should watch interviews like this and learn from this anchor.Ofcourse everybody have their own style of anchoring but the bottom line is to maintain the respect which you are giving to the guest.
This is too good...too good...wish This has more views at the same time wish it reaches only sensible audience...not ending up as manipulated reels... Too good
What an incredible lady you are Archana! Loved the way you talk as raw as it could be ! Thank you for asking the sensible questions to her Dhanya. You are one of the finest anchors
Exactly happening for me in marriage. I married just because of my partner emotions knowing that this won’t work. Now I’m suffering…😢. I’m trying to stay in it due to my kids.
Have you thought the impact it will have on your kids when they grow up? I grew up in such a marriage and it has harmed me in more ways than anybody will ever know. It has scarred me forever! Do your kids a favour and get divorced if it isn't working out
Dear Dhanya, all your interviews make me so emotional. There is always something to take away. You always put your words correctly and ask the right questions. I have been seeing all your episodes since years now and I appreciate all the effort you put in to put out such quality content.❤
Every human being is different just think even siblings from same family is different so when we are marrying someone first keep in mind that husband and wife might have different personalities only we can do that somehow we should come to a point of agreement in every situation ..both of them should take effort we can never live a life without compromising… its a give and take policy or else partways live your life on your own terms anyhow life has to be move on and one more thing if your partner is physically or mentally abusive person leave then and there
@@ancymaria3907 you are in charge of your life. They are not going to be there forever. So put your foot down for yourself. Find a way to fund yourself. And just move on and live life on your own terms. Its definitely not easy but doable. Hope you find the courage to do it ❤️
Rare thoughts but common in new gen.we old people can't understand what is happening to our children.but in her point of view it is right what she did.parents having children who are getting ready for marriage must listen to her words.nice interview
Listening to dhanya varma interviews are like filling yourself with umpteen sense of awareness and knowledge.. You just sit on the verge of your seat... Just waiting to get all the possible knowledge and light inside you... I mean its soul satisfying to be precise ❤❤❤❤love u dhanya.. Keep going❤
First time ever came across yours interview & I started liking you Archana for being so open & frank in your decisions where most of them try to hide... you made me think is there a better way to deal that's beautiful 🥰 God bless you
If two people love eachother genuine ly that's enough. But we are living in a society where all types of people are living (good, bad, rich, poor,polysexual, homo, hetro,trans, caste, psycho paths).But everyone need a friend or companion .
I have never watched Archana Kavi's recent interviews or works but she seems to be smart and mature from this interview. I love smart and opinionated women.
Dhanya is going way too personal and her interest just piqued when conversation was about divorce..just because she speaks softly and articulate her speech doesn’t make this any less than prying..
Think it helps many who do not know how to handle such situations. As long as the person is willingly opening up, such discussions will help to take the taboo around the topic. Just my thoughts 😊
manasil thonidh paranju… expressing is all the fact you did.. appreciate.. hope in the world all gets good match.. 🙏🏻 respect that u utter a word not disrespectful to your ex… i also watch abish’s son of abish… respect both in the way in online shits..
If divorce happens in arranged marriage i can understand. But after years of dating ...and knowing the person beforehand...y do u think divorces happen ??? Anyone plz answer it. I really wanna discuss.
Always waiting for your vedio first njan kandeth veeneth srinevasantey interview arrirunnuu but I am not lieing I had seen all your interview in this channel . And expecially you are hearing the interviewer that something special ❤️❤️
23:42 Archana you are right. Like you said priesthood is a calling. It’s funny you said that because I know a lot of people in the ministry that are not meant to be there. Some are just amazing.
To all those who got divorced in 2021, we are shifting mindset and setting standard for future generations!
As a guy in his 30s, currently battling a divorce in 2 courts in 2 different states, with what should have been my "better" half, I completely agree and understand what Archana is talking about. The instituition of marriage in itself is extremely flawed. Throw in a defunct, archaic and obsolete legal system into the mix and you have the perfect recipe for chaos and more importantly, the unfair power for one half to absolutely consume / decimate the life of the other, if he or she so chooses. I have been in court for more than 1.5 years and I'm right where I started. ZERO progress. It feels like someone hit pause on my entire life and threw away the button as a whole. Archana is spot on when she said think twice before marrying. To marry, you only have to sign once - Your signature brings merit. To divorce on the other hand, half the Indian judiciary has to sign off with you. Your signature is worth shit.
Rightly put.👍
As a happily divorced person, I completely agree with what Archana says. People should know the purpose for which they're getting married and shouldn't jump into one because others are also doing it. Each person has their own temperament and it may not suit everyone to be in a married relationship. Especially those people who have grown up in nuclear families with all facilities and emotional support will find it hard to enter into marriage which will require compromises and sacrifices. So, it's better to stay single than to live with a wrong person.
I also agree with her when she says she's scared to try marriage again. This is what's happening to me too. I find it difficult to be in a relationship now. A lot of trust issues. Maybe a passing phase but it's better not risk anything till it completely passes.
Yeah true that. I too jumped into a marriage that took the hell out f me. Everything was different.
Divorce taught me few things.
I hope you find love and eternal happiness brother❤
Same here 🙂
I hope you wll find love again brother
Relatable
Addicted to dhanya’s interview.I feel like people opens up with dhanya because she doesn’t interfere
And also she doesn't judge or dig the wet ground.
My take away from this conversation is that- remember to recheck Is there a better way to do this when you’re angry or emotional 😊
i love this girl and her growth... For women to speak about their troubles esp from malayalam is unheard of - hats off and thankyou Archana for opening up. Many of us have been there and its difficult but light shines through at the end of the tunnel. Im glad to see you smiling through majority of the interview. Wish you the best in anything that you chose to do. God bless!
She is not afraid of what others think
Good genuine open interview
Value addition
24:32
True. I also don't want a child after marriage. Raising a child is a huge task and I feel I'm not gonna be a good parent.
Whenever you talk to someone , you know the boundaries and never cross it. You always care the feelings of other person and never make them uncomfortable. Always value everyones perspectives ask sensible questions. I can see the curiosities in your eyes when someone is talking and never disppointed any guest. Good job Dhanya
thanks
From her videos i started searching standup, she's the one of first Kerala RUclipsrs
To be honest it's one of the best episode bcz I was not a fan of archana but this interview is sooo real i loved her and the way dhanya asked the questions it's amazing.
I hope this girl finds love again who is emotionaly available..
Mindset in Kerala should definitely change... people are so educated and well read but people are just happy to see others unhappy...
I dont think kerala mindset will change. In fact its going backwards.
I like that phrase thou.."people r just happy to see others unhappy"
*people are only qualified, not educated*
@@heavenlyslices1383 human nature - " only i should be better than the whole world "
Indian mentality, in general.
The same thing happens with me and my husband...
He wants tooo much discussion and i hate to discuss everything to the core it annoys me😅 but yea that's marriage till you probably want enough of it!
But it's so beautiful that she didn't put any mud on her ex and still thinks of their journey in a good way.
Glad they are in a happy space.
Going through a divorce but also growing as a human being.... That's what it felt like listening to her ❤️ and that's a huge lesson that the society here needs to understand.
Instead of doing some overly emotional and impulsive act like killing each other after a breakup, THIS is also possible. It's a very basic character trait that any sane citizen should develop instead of going for name calling and revenge, that too in public. And then throwing away their lives for a severely primitive society to judge and pass comments.
Abhish Mathew is a super sweet guy.i don't think there was no need for any revenge in her case.usually that's happens when u r in a toxic relationship.in her case i think both were super demanding field they could not hold their relationship.thats what I got from whatever she said
@@arshaq4200 Becoming that sweet guy or girl with a head that works is what is included in the basic character trait mentioned in the above comment. Aka NOT promoting toxic relationships and toxic people. (And if one person is toxic and other decides to take revenge for that, that saga is gonna go on forever and eventually both people will have proven themselves to be toxic).
At the end of the day it's not about being sweet to decide if revenge must be taken or not 😅, because no matter how sweet one is, when a break up happens things definitely will turn bitter. At that time, the ability in both partners to discuss (or even scream at each other but ellaathinum oru healthy limit ondu) things in a healthy way demands quality on both parties' sides and like she said, part ways without causing further damage to the friendship that exists is a life skill that the generations here have to learn. Aka learning to take rejection. Aka learning to channel the negative emotions and anger that comes with a break up or divorce so as not to go harm oneself or the other person. Athinu ividuthe naattukaarum veettukaarum space also kodukkanam. Plenty to learn from this relationship and how they have dealt with it. And that dealing is in no way easy because one or both partners are basically sweet people, it's just about choosing the civilized path.
Archana totally nailed the character in Neelathamara ❤️ so beautiful. Can't imagine anyone else in that character 🌷
Have you seen the original
Maturity at its best wish I had seen her talking in my early 20’s.
Dont we all!! Great advice always comes late
Marriage is not for everyone. Sadly, many don't get this..they tend to go with the flow and clog lives - theirs and their partner's.
Marraige is d toughest institution..no course for it..
Hey...how do you pick ur guest....each person is a gem and u give them respect, space, and the confidence to open up so that we love each n every guest even more after their conversation with u
Waiting for supriya menon
Eagerly waiting 🥳
Yesss
Yes
Yesss
Yep
Genuine Interview with right questions and both were pure from heart
Omg.... Such a pure soul🥹🥹I like her very much only because of this interview.... All statements are coming from her bottom of hearts... God bless
I completely agree to her ideology "the concept of marriage which is changing"
I think watching Dhanya s interviews, our perceptions about the guests will totally change ....everyone will open up during their conversion.....and its beautiful....
It's incredibly admirable that you can share your difficult and painfull feelings while yet smiling.
Absolutely! Brave girl! Best wishes to Archana. Stay strong!
It's true that men and women are different. Some people will cope up and some will fall through. It's not anyone's fault. Come out from an unhappy marriage..It's the best that you can do for yourself.
wow, she is so genuine, and I loved this interaction; so much to learn, I know dhanya Varma, but I have seen her in this interview only for the right reasons, both are handling the conversations so maturely, and i just loved it.
Thanks so much
Love both archana and Abish. May both be happy wherever they are .
You can still be friends/keep in touch irrespective of a divorce
Palliyil achan aakan oru vili kittum enn parayunne pole aanu marriage ...aa vili ellavarkum kittila..💯
We need Supriya Menon on stage please.. 😍
Such a nice interview...veena and other many should watch interviews like this and learn from this anchor.Ofcourse everybody have their own style of anchoring but the bottom line is to maintain the respect which you are giving to the guest.
I really like Archana kavi very much😍
Pls watch both parts of the interview ..she is amazing
Just love how honest she is. She is a pure soul it seems.
As a woman, i can definitely understand her.All the best Archana.. Long way to go!
This is too good...too good...wish This has more views at the same time wish it reaches only sensible audience...not ending up as manipulated reels...
Too good
I am obsessed with how Dhanya chechi listens to each and every guest. Listens like a how little kids listen to stories 🖤
Yes... married but going child free
What an incredible lady you are Archana! Loved the way you talk as raw as it could be ! Thank you for asking the sensible questions to her Dhanya. You are one of the finest anchors
I am a sensitive person. I can relate to what she is saying.I love her ❤️Thank you for this interview dhanya chechi
Archana ❤❤
Happy to see her back after soo long.
Keep going dear.. may u hv more opportunities & happiness on ur way..!!❤
Exactly happening for me in marriage. I married just because of my partner emotions knowing that this won’t work. Now I’m suffering…😢. I’m trying to stay in it due to my kids.
Have you thought the impact it will have on your kids when they grow up? I grew up in such a marriage and it has harmed me in more ways than anybody will ever know. It has scarred me forever! Do your kids a favour and get divorced if it isn't working out
Amazing Interview and I think people can relate to whatever Archana told.
Such a genuine conversation ❤
Thanks pls.do share
Dear Dhanya, all your interviews make me so emotional. There is always something to take away. You always put your words correctly and ask the right questions. I have been seeing all your episodes since years now and I appreciate all the effort you put in to put out such quality content.❤
thanks do help spread the word...
Wow, this was an absolute surprise. A very layered conversation.
Thanks for bringing Archana ♥️
I love how much she explained. This will help a lot of people.
Waiting for Supriya Menon 🥳🥳🥳. Please
An interview Worth watching.❤ Never skipped a bit. ✨💥🔥
please do share
Glad that you have brought Archana Kavi 😍♥️
Archana❤️ expecting Nithya Menen on this show
Every human being is different just think even siblings from same family is different so when we are marrying someone first keep in mind that husband and wife might have different personalities only we can do that somehow we should come to a
point of agreement in every situation ..both of them should take effort we can never live a life without compromising… its a give and take policy or else partways live your life on your own terms anyhow life has to be move on and one more thing if your partner is physically or mentally abusive person leave then and there
What if our parents and siblings also don't understand & support us? Where to go then😓
@@ancymaria3907 you are in charge of your life. They are not going to be there forever. So put your foot down for yourself. Find a way to fund yourself. And just move on and live life on your own terms. Its definitely not easy but doable. Hope you find the courage to do it ❤️
Rare thoughts but common in new gen.we old people can't understand what is happening to our children.but in her point of view it is right what she did.parents having children who are getting ready for marriage must listen to her words.nice interview
Huge respect 🔥
Listening to dhanya varma interviews are like filling yourself with umpteen sense of awareness and knowledge.. You just sit on the verge of your seat... Just waiting to get all the possible knowledge and light inside you... I mean its soul satisfying to be precise ❤❤❤❤love u dhanya.. Keep going❤
Waiting for manju warrier and navya nair
Brave & smart girl 🤝all the best
First time ever came across yours interview & I started liking you Archana for being so open & frank in your decisions where most of them try to hide... you made me think is there a better way to deal that's beautiful 🥰 God bless you
Brave girl! Best wishes to Archana. Stay strong!
If two people love eachother genuine ly that's enough. But we are living in a society where all types of people are living (good, bad, rich, poor,polysexual, homo, hetro,trans, caste, psycho paths).But everyone need a friend or companion .
I have never watched Archana Kavi's recent interviews or works but she seems to be smart and mature from this interview. I love smart and opinionated women.
Plsss dddoo interview wid supriya prithvraj
Eagerly waitingggg
Archana❤️❤️❤️❤️ after watching her vlogs and videos, I became a fan 😇 she's honest and genuine ❤️ especially her dad🔥🔥🔥
10:28 the way Archana replied to the question, hats off 👏👏👏👏👏
Such a genuine conversion and kudos to Dhanya from brining in such pure souls who are very transparent and able to connect with the wider audience.
Dhanya is going way too personal and her interest just piqued when conversation was about divorce..just because she speaks softly and articulate her speech doesn’t make this any less than prying..
Think it helps many who do not know how to handle such situations. As long as the person is willingly opening up, such discussions will help to take the taboo around the topic. Just my thoughts 😊
Yea may be..
I think she was respectful, not looking for gossip but just understanding the situation
Veetile orale pole aane archana de samsaram thonuka..love you both
Seriously loved this lady ❤ Archana is so real ❤
Love her Dad. Total gem of a person
Such a good interview! :)
Bring Meera Jasmine with you to the interview, please.
We are quite excited to watch it since it would be so fascinating❤
Very nice conversation, love to see many strong and talented women in your platform Dhanya 😍
Correct
So true....marriage is not everybody's cup of tea
manasil thonidh paranju… expressing is all the fact you did.. appreciate.. hope in the world all gets good match.. 🙏🏻 respect that u utter a word not disrespectful to your ex… i also watch abish’s son of abish… respect both in the way in online shits..
I know this interview is going to be filled with a lot of wisdom even before starting it .
Genuine answers 🥰 wonderful women ❤️ luv u dear
Absolutely in love with these two ladies🥰🥰Keep rocking!!💯 💯
Loved this Archana!
Idea of marriage is same but people started changing... People take other people granted
I love this girl starts from Neelathamara😍😍😍
Archana kavi, great being open. Waiting for the second part. You were really inspiring
She is smart
If divorce happens in arranged marriage i can understand. But after years of dating ...and knowing the person beforehand...y do u think divorces happen ???
Anyone plz answer it. I really wanna discuss.
Very sincere conversation. Love u Archana ❤
Could you do an interview with news reader " Alakananda"
Archana Kavi’s subscriber from her beginning. Love her❤
Always waiting for your vedio first njan kandeth veeneth srinevasantey interview arrirunnuu but I am not lieing I had seen all your interview in this channel . And expecially you are hearing the interviewer that something special ❤️❤️
genuine answers, loved this chat.. waiting for 2nd part
An eye opener for relationships
Hugs for u Archana..
Mummy and me yile jewel character adipoli aayirunnu♥️♥️
Broh i just love @archanakavi conversation ♥️
Please provide subtitles for Malayalam conversations. Please be kind enough for Hindi speakers as well.
23:42 Archana you are right. Like you said priesthood is a calling. It’s funny you said that because I know a lot of people in the ministry that are not meant to be there. Some are just amazing.
Is there a better way to do this?❤
An interview worth watching ❤
Genuine answers 😊😊
Was worth watching.. genuine one❤
Really enjoyed hearing this conversation..
Archana, you are super women. I respect your taughts