It’s my birthday today! It already started off rough and now I’m eating in my room alone. At least I have people like David on RUclips that help me not feel as lonely. Love you David!
I started watching him in 4th grade. Now I'm 21 and in my first relationship. He taught me how to carry myself and have a sense of humorvwhen I'm younger. Now he's helping me through my first relationship. Thank youu
These solo podcast are like a more mature version of OG David videos! Keep this up! However, I don’t think it’s about dating more but dating more intentionally with who/what aligns with your needs.
Love ur take on culture David. I’m Mexican and my fiancé is american and one of the things I love the most about her is that she is so invested in learning the Spanish language and Mexican culture which I hold so dear to me. you put it into words what clicked in my mind when I decided I wanted to marry her. I dated a ton of latinas who were white washed and didn’t speak their native tongue and it always bothered me when I would communicate better with their parents than they ever could! And it wasn’t that they couldn’t speak the language that was the dealbreaker but it’s that they would never try or put in the effort! Like ur mom is the one of the most wisest person I’ve ever met or ur dad is literally the funniest person and you don’t know that cause that barrier you choose not to overcome!
@@itsover9008 Thats very true and i agree alot with that, but one thing I realized for me personally is if I want to have a better understanding and connection with my native tongue I also have to put in the work myself. Cause knowing enough to get around and/or having surface level conversations might be enough for some people but for me i want to dive deeper and understand more so I have to take the responsability to learn the more complicated and different elements of the said language. I personally want to people to assume that im a native speaker in that language so its up to me to bridge the gap between my current level and the level of a native speaker. And while parents are at fault for not teaching their kids i believe at a certain point one has to accept their reality and progress themselves. If that makes sense... lol
25:00 "expounding" was used correctly! 💯 I too have moments where I subconsciously use big words thinking I didn't use them correctly but I end up doing so after I fact check ✅ myself. I hate how sometimes my gut can be wrong, so that idk when to trust it and when not to. But man does it feel good 🎉 when one's gut is correct. Dating in theory and dating in practice are truly night 🌃 and day 🌄 Thank you again for another awesome, wholesome, insightful podcast! 🙏🙏🙏
Great podcast as always David. I think you’re truly blessed to have a relationship with your parents to where it’s important that your partner builds a relationship with them as well. All the best to you and your family.
Just came across this channel & I already love it. Well developed perspectives with your own stories to make it relatable and realistic. Keep these going!
This was a ride - your old content popped into my mind like the koolaid man so I looked your channel up to see how you were doing. I watched this and I burst into tears in the end because I'm struggling with feeling emotionally numb after a relationship that didn't work out and hurt me a lot more than I thought. Thanks David.
Finally founding a podcast that wraps up most of my concerns around interracial relationships. Good to hear someone elaborate this topic this way, Thank you, David!
dude. this is the greatest podcast episode ever. thank you. I resonate with the language thing so much, but beyond just language, i think there's a lot of intangibles and sense of comfort that you can't get from someone outside your ethnicity.
This is exactly my reason why I married within my culture as well. I didn't realize how much I needed to express myself in my mother tongue in order to get my point across Sure, we're from different cities, however, it is enough for me that we're able to communicate further and I believe this helped our marriage thrive Thank you for this! I feel like its a much needed video from a big brother 🙏🏻
David I’ve been following you for years and these solo talks really opened my eye to how much you’ve evolved and how wise you’ve become. I used to take rejection so personal when it came to dating because I had crazy low self esteem. But after working on my internal character and getting my life together, I see dating as fun! It’s really just building connections and getting to know someone. Without the crazy pressure, I’ve actually been enjoying myself and learning a ton about myself and what I want and like.
Love the message and your advice! My husband is my first love and first boyfriend. We have been together for 13 years. Our relationship has worked for us because we communicate when we are feeling good. We comminicate when we are unhappy with each another AND allow each other to have space to express our feelings and thoughts without becoming defensive. We have similar values, we both understand where we stand in our relationship and most importantly, we show each other love and gratitude. Things are not always easy and through the years we have found ways to work together to build a better relationship.
This is the word I needed to hear - I’ve been real scared of late cos I fear being hurt but got to know it’ll happen regardless. But with that also comes growth too. Thanks David this is dope!!!
David you a straight real one man. Always true to yourself, love the honesty and how you’re open to your viewers… so rare to find youtubers like that now and days. Keep the great content going. coming from a fan thats been watching you for 10 years and still going :p
Honestly speaking, even if I had listened to a podcast like this one while with my ex, I still don’t think I would have understood what David’s talking about, until I had actually experienced it first hand. You might think you know what you want. It isn’t until you’re really in it/putting yourself out there that you find out what you really need in your life.
As an older Asian women (Thai). I love listening to you. Your views and your delivery of them are outstanding. You are very intelligent and super funny. I've become a very big fan!
David, its so strange because I've been a subscriber since high school. Now I have a career and a kid and have seen you grown into such a mature and wise person. You're still funny too, glad you didn't lose your sense of humor after all these years.
I used to obsessively watch your vids 10 years ago when you first blew up. This is my first time checking back in a while and damn its crazy how much we all evolve and grow 🥲👏🏽
I've been watching your content since high school and you're one of the realest content creators ever. Love what you do and always looking forward to more!
I use to watch you when my entire developmental years. It’s great to see that you are still genuine to yourself. Glad I found the channel again, great video!
This is so refreshing David, I love this format! Really appreciate your real talk and vulnerability whilst still maintaining the boundaries in your relationship ❤
I was in a 4 year relationship which lasted from the end of high school to a little after we both graduated college. It’s been a bit over 6 months since we broke up. I haven’t “dated” anyone since. The idea of finding another partner feels so weird to me right now because I don’t know where I’ll be living or what I’ll be doing in the next year. I’ve just been existing and praying I get accepted into a school while also being confused about what I want relationship wise right now. Loved this episode.
Been watching you on and off since 2011 my guy. It’s great to see the man you’ve grown into after all these years. Had no idea you didn’t grow up speaking Korean fluently and that you learned it later in life. The petty reasons for that are low-key hilarious. When you mentioned how your parents would yell at you in Korean and then have your brother translate for them while you yelled back in English, that could make for a great dark comedy scene. 😂 But good to see you’re still doing well and imparting great life lessons
I’m Japanese and my gf is Korean. And the language issue came up between us too. My gf speaks Japanese fluently but I was not able to speak Korean at all. She asked me to learn Korean together to communicate with her parents, and I was like ‘yes of course!!’ I mean, for me, it’s something like courtesy to learn my partner’s culture and language in the first place
I like these convos, once in a while i check myself through one of these videos. Always remember ya'll, ya'll aint shit, who do you think you are, and most importantly stop, think, and reflect.
I appreciate you sharing this. I’m Korean American married to a Vietnamese American and my parents were worried that our relationship would not work since they felt our cultures would clash. However, we both took the time to understand where we come from and what our individual family dynamics are. We are lucky that both of our families can communicate in English, but we both take time to learn each other’s languages because it makes us feel more connected. We’ve been together for 10 ten years now and 2 years married going strong 🥰 Also with regards to dating, what I thought I wanted went out the window after I started dating my now husband. He showed me qualities that I even didn’t know I needed. I definitely think dating is sometimes equivalent to becoming best friends.
your 100% right when you mentioned the bonding between the girlfriend and mom. I had dated a latina for 3yrs and im asian so the connection between my girl and my mom was a little rough since my mom didnt speak english fluent and my girl could not speak the same language. I did the best i could to translate but its just not the same when i have to be there to translate. My mom couldnt ask her to help with things just because of the language barrier. Few years after we broke up, i realized this also and its important especially when both parents are alive and cant speak english fluently
This is very true. I'm 28 and have been in two long term relationships, one being 5 years (who I lost my virginity to) and the other being 4 years, so I had never been single as an adult until recently. I wouldn't say I've learned more in this one year, than those 9 but it's surprisingly close. Dating can be draining, but if you're paying attention and being at least semi intentional, you'll learn a lot about yourself.
The understanding part between your family and your gf is so true, my ex never could fit into my family. For context I am part of a big Greek family which are very outgoing (for the most part)
Found you on a TYSO pod, and watched your cameos on Trash Tuesday (love love love your addition to the hen party) and since now you are in my algorithm, it’s an immediate click) kudos to your wordz of wisdom/insights sprinkled with your humour! Watched the solo pod on friendship, now dating /relationships was just what I needed to hear. I was in two long ass relationships, yes learned alot about myself and now…. dating me,myself and I, babee! clearing all the shite that no longer serves me to make room for new Love ❤️
22:15 David, you just described how to communicate in a healthy way! But it is difficult. First, you tried to be "logical", or intellectualize what you were actually feeling. Which is a coping mechanism because you feel SO UNCOMFORTABLE trying to admit to your wifey that you were hurt. Knowing that you are hurt instead of trying to be "logical" is the healthier way to think. Many men do this. I think men are socialized to never admit they feel anything. Especially the vulnerable feelings. When you find a supportive partner, you should be able to open up to those vulnerable feelings without feeling like you're going to ooze out of your skin and slither down a drain lol
Always loved your videos! have been a long time listner and it is so cool to see you grow and continue growing. I learned a lot from you and you continue to inspire me. I have been afraid of putting myself out there but I might go out there and try. Thanks again for always making my day! 😊
I'm trying, man. Zero luck on apps. Conversations go radio silent. Friends are already in relationships and living their own lives, or having kids and starting their own families. You are dog tired after working 10+ hour shifts that all you want to do is go home, eat, and sleep. The "best" dating pools are 2+ hours drive away due to traffic. I'm trying, man. But it's hard...
I just turned 30 & I basically stopped dating after my last relationship 4/5 years ago so this video felt like you was talking to me directly… I’ve become so comfortable in my solitude that I’m very intolerant. I have options & suitors but I choose celibacy & peace but in reality I’m just afraid of being hurt again lol Logically I should be dating & allowing someone in my life but as I’m writing this I’m tensing up, just thinking about it so maybe I should use that better help link 😂 bc idk i just can’t even tho I’m very romantic, listen to love songs 24/7 & watch kdramas whilst wrapped around my blanket hahah
David doing these podcast on his own is so cool. I can hear him talk all day
Yes !!!!
Too bad today he said, "you get 38 minutes, that's it" lol
PERIOD!! That part of “how can you put standards on someone when you haven’t checked yourself”
OH MY GOD
It’s my birthday today! It already started off rough and now I’m eating in my room alone. At least I have people like David on RUclips that help me not feel as lonely. Love you David!
@gizm0 Happy Birthday! Wishing you a better year than you thought possible! Hang in there it does get better!
Happy Birthday! 🎊
Happy Birthday! Wishing you a great year!!!
Happy birthday 🎂 I wish you an amazing new year. Know you are loved and this lonely feeling is temporary.
Happy birthday 🎉
This felt like I was having a much needed, heart to heart conversation with an older brother. Always look forward to your uploads, thanks David!
I started watching him in 4th grade. Now I'm 21 and in my first relationship. He taught me how to carry myself and have a sense of humorvwhen I'm younger. Now he's helping me through my first relationship. Thank youu
I’m currently watching this while going through a breakup and it’s kinda nice to just hear this older brotherly type of advice man
Dude, this format has been my favorite since your previous video, lol. Love it.
These solo podcast are like a more mature version of OG David videos! Keep this up! However, I don’t think it’s about dating more but dating more intentionally with who/what aligns with your needs.
These solo podcasts are just hitting, keep it up man!
Love ur take on culture David. I’m Mexican and my fiancé is american and one of the things I love the most about her is that she is so invested in learning the Spanish language and Mexican culture which I hold so dear to me. you put it into words what clicked in my mind when I decided I wanted to marry her. I dated a ton of latinas who were white washed and didn’t speak their native tongue and it always bothered me when I would communicate better with their parents than they ever could! And it wasn’t that they couldn’t speak the language that was the dealbreaker but it’s that they would never try or put in the effort! Like ur mom is the one of the most wisest person I’ve ever met or ur dad is literally the funniest person and you don’t know that cause that barrier you choose not to overcome!
Parents are at fault for not teaching the native tongue.
@@itsover9008 Thats very true and i agree alot with that, but one thing I realized for me personally is if I want to have a better understanding and connection with my native tongue I also have to put in the work myself. Cause knowing enough to get around and/or having surface level conversations might be enough for some people but for me i want to dive deeper and understand more so I have to take the responsability to learn the more complicated and different elements of the said language. I personally want to people to assume that im a native speaker in that language so its up to me to bridge the gap between my current level and the level of a native speaker. And while parents are at fault for not teaching their kids i believe at a certain point one has to accept their reality and progress themselves. If that makes sense... lol
25:00 "expounding" was used correctly! 💯 I too have moments where I subconsciously use big words thinking I didn't use them correctly but I end up doing so after I fact check ✅ myself. I hate how sometimes my gut can be wrong, so that idk when to trust it and when not to. But man does it feel good 🎉 when one's gut is correct.
Dating in theory and dating in practice are truly night 🌃 and day 🌄 Thank you again for another awesome, wholesome, insightful podcast! 🙏🙏🙏
But seriously thanks for explaining a lot more about the rejection process. I didn't even realize I had a lot of that "no rejection" thinking in me
Worth the watch and listen. Thanks for sharing your gems and insights David. While you’re at it, drop your album. I miss your singing 😂😂
Thanks for being real, dude. I appreciate this. I've recently realized I need to date to learn what I want as well.
Great podcast as always David. I think you’re truly blessed to have a relationship with your parents to where it’s important that your partner builds a relationship with them as well. All the best to you and your family.
David is a real one, thank you for the advice man. Thanks and God bless.
Good podcast david was pretty therapeutic
This was sure a nice and calm conversation. It really put things in perspective for me.
Just came across this channel & I already love it. Well developed perspectives with your own stories to make it relatable and realistic. Keep these going!
This was extremely eye opening🙏🏽💯
This was a ride - your old content popped into my mind like the koolaid man so I looked your channel up to see how you were doing. I watched this and I burst into tears in the end because I'm struggling with feeling emotionally numb after a relationship that didn't work out and hurt me a lot more than I thought. Thanks David.
Finally founding a podcast that wraps up most of my concerns around interracial relationships. Good to hear someone elaborate this topic this way, Thank you, David!
Damn. Watching this just at the right time. Needed to hear this right now.
I honestly really love this format than the other one. I like this!
dude. this is the greatest podcast episode ever. thank you. I resonate with the language thing so much, but beyond just language, i think there's a lot of intangibles and sense of comfort that you can't get from someone outside your ethnicity.
David, I appreciate your vulnerability so much. I really needed this episode right now, thanks!
This is exactly my reason why I married within my culture as well. I didn't realize how much I needed to express myself in my mother tongue in order to get my point across
Sure, we're from different cities, however, it is enough for me that we're able to communicate further and I believe this helped our marriage thrive
Thank you for this! I feel like its a much needed video from a big brother 🙏🏻
Sometimes just that smile and small talk communication is good enough. No drama no headaches between the gf and mom
I miss these. This is like a reunion with an older brother that I never had. Glad you're happy to do these again.
David I’ve been following you for years and these solo talks really opened my eye to how much you’ve evolved and how wise you’ve become.
I used to take rejection so personal when it came to dating because I had crazy low self esteem. But after working on my internal character and getting my life together, I see dating as fun! It’s really just building connections and getting to know someone. Without the crazy pressure, I’ve actually been enjoying myself and learning a ton about myself and what I want and like.
Love the message and your advice! My husband is my first love and first boyfriend. We have been together for 13 years. Our relationship has worked for us because we communicate when we are feeling good. We comminicate when we are unhappy with each another AND allow each other to have space to express our feelings and thoughts without becoming defensive. We have similar values, we both understand where we stand in our relationship and most importantly, we show each other love and gratitude. Things are not always easy and through the years we have found ways to work together to build a better relationship.
David is going to be my single reason for watching youtube videos again. Absolutely loved this.
This is the word I needed to hear - I’ve been real scared of late cos I fear being hurt but got to know it’ll happen regardless. But with that also comes growth too. Thanks David this is dope!!!
David you a straight real one man. Always true to yourself, love the honesty and how you’re open to your viewers… so rare to find youtubers like that now and days. Keep the great content going. coming from a fan thats been watching you for 10 years and still going :p
This was much needed, not just for me, but also the homies who will definitely benefit from your take on this topic
Honestly speaking, even if I had listened to a podcast like this one while with my ex, I still don’t think I would have understood what David’s talking about, until I had actually experienced it first hand.
You might think you know what you want. It isn’t until you’re really in it/putting yourself out there that you find out what you really need in your life.
As an older Asian women (Thai). I love listening to you. Your views and your delivery of them are outstanding. You are very intelligent and super funny. I've become a very big fan!
Listening to David while studying last minute helped me pass my chemistry quiz. New subscriber here!
David, its so strange because I've been a subscriber since high school. Now I have a career and a kid and have seen you grown into such a mature and wise person. You're still funny too, glad you didn't lose your sense of humor after all these years.
You should date more.... never crossed my mind.
I used to obsessively watch your vids 10 years ago when you first blew up. This is my first time checking back in a while and damn its crazy how much we all evolve and grow 🥲👏🏽
Not sure what I expected when I clicked this video but appreciate the real talk. You the man!
Real talk bro. Appreciate you sharing this with us!
Your wisdom is invaluable
Goodness gracious I really needed to hear this today
I've been watching your content since high school and you're one of the realest content creators ever. Love what you do and always looking forward to more!
Thank you so much for this David!!! This really helped me a lot :^)
This was so soothing for my heart to listen to. Thx
I use to watch you when my entire developmental years. It’s great to see that you are still genuine to yourself. Glad I found the channel again, great video!
Great episode David So
You are doing great with these solo podcasts, very interesting and thought-provoking topics.
This is so refreshing David, I love this format! Really appreciate your real talk and vulnerability whilst still maintaining the boundaries in your relationship ❤
Man, this was such an enjoyable watch. Thank you for this.
I can hear the preacher's son in you in these solo podcasts LOL
I was in a 4 year relationship which lasted from the end of high school to a little after we both graduated college. It’s been a bit over 6 months since we broke up. I haven’t “dated” anyone since. The idea of finding another partner feels so weird to me right now because I don’t know where I’ll be living or what I’ll be doing in the next year. I’ve just been existing and praying I get accepted into a school while also being confused about what I want relationship wise right now.
Loved this episode.
Been watching you on and off since 2011 my guy. It’s great to see the man you’ve grown into after all these years. Had no idea you didn’t grow up speaking Korean fluently and that you learned it later in life. The petty reasons for that are low-key hilarious. When you mentioned how your parents would yell at you in Korean and then have your brother translate for them while you yelled back in English, that could make for a great dark comedy scene. 😂 But good to see you’re still doing well and imparting great life lessons
ty big brother david
I’m sick w covid rn 😩 but a new David So video always helps forget the pain i’m in rn ❤️
I’m Japanese and my gf is Korean. And the language issue came up between us too.
My gf speaks Japanese fluently but I was not able to speak Korean at all.
She asked me to learn Korean together to communicate with her parents, and I was like ‘yes of course!!’
I mean, for me, it’s something like courtesy to learn my partner’s culture and language in the first place
Literally hitting everything I’ve been thinking about😫
Good timing, I was ready to pause dating when this video was posted. I really needed to hear this. Thank you David!
29:26 this made me so sad 😭 glad y'all worked through this and didn't give up
Thanks for helping me get through my day David . Much appreciated 🫡
i'm loving theses 1 on 1s
I agree with you David this video opened my eyes dude excuse the deleted comment
Honestly i love the solocasts way more than the guests.
I like these convos, once in a while i check myself through one of these videos. Always remember ya'll, ya'll aint shit, who do you think you are, and most importantly stop, think, and reflect.
Shiiii man really appreciate the message here
Thanks for the episode David. Wish you the best.
I appreciate you sharing this. I’m Korean American married to a Vietnamese American and my parents were worried that our relationship would not work since they felt our cultures would clash. However, we both took the time to understand where we come from and what our individual family dynamics are. We are lucky that both of our families can communicate in English, but we both take time to learn each other’s languages because it makes us feel more connected. We’ve been together for 10 ten years now and 2 years married going strong 🥰 Also with regards to dating, what I thought I wanted went out the window after I started dating my now husband. He showed me qualities that I even didn’t know I needed. I definitely think dating is sometimes equivalent to becoming best friends.
Thank you, David. I appreciate this episode.
David so is one of my mentors
Great episode David I completely agree with you
David, this is so healing as always, and always relevant. So much love!!! Ty
Damn, I needed this. Thanks!
your 100% right when you mentioned the bonding between the girlfriend and mom. I had dated a latina for 3yrs and im asian so the connection between my girl and my mom was a little rough since my mom didnt speak english fluent and my girl could not speak the same language. I did the best i could to translate but its just not the same when i have to be there to translate. My mom couldnt ask her to help with things just because of the language barrier. Few years after we broke up, i realized this also and its important especially when both parents are alive and cant speak english fluently
This is very true. I'm 28 and have been in two long term relationships, one being 5 years (who I lost my virginity to) and the other being 4 years, so I had never been single as an adult until recently. I wouldn't say I've learned more in this one year, than those 9 but it's surprisingly close. Dating can be draining, but if you're paying attention and being at least semi intentional, you'll learn a lot about yourself.
I like this bro it’s raw it’s real, keep this up✊
Yes yes yes!!! Agree agree agree!!! I love this format and it’s so true!!
ppl need to note like David said, speaking the same language is a huge factor for David himself, not for everyone.
Love this!! Looking forward to your next one!
Love these one on one podcast eps!
Thanks David, I needed this specific topic today❤
No need to apologize for the heat at the end, because your were spitting fire 🔥 ❤
The understanding part between your family and your gf is so true, my ex never could fit into my family. For context I am part of a big Greek family which are very outgoing (for the most part)
LMFAOOO "they haven't paid me yet so I won't say their name." REAL
Thank you David once again for good advice! It came at a point in my life that I needed this 😢❤
miss these one on one talks. thank you sir David
Found you on a TYSO pod, and watched your cameos on Trash Tuesday (love love love your addition to the hen party) and since now you are in my algorithm, it’s an immediate click) kudos to your wordz of wisdom/insights sprinkled with your humour!
Watched the solo pod on friendship, now dating /relationships was just what I needed to hear. I was in two long ass relationships, yes learned alot about myself and now…. dating me,myself and I, babee! clearing all the shite that no longer serves me to make room for new Love ❤️
22:15 David, you just described how to communicate in a healthy way! But it is difficult. First, you tried to be "logical", or intellectualize what you were actually feeling. Which is a coping mechanism because you feel SO UNCOMFORTABLE trying to admit to your wifey that you were hurt. Knowing that you are hurt instead of trying to be "logical" is the healthier way to think. Many men do this. I think men are socialized to never admit they feel anything. Especially the vulnerable feelings. When you find a supportive partner, you should be able to open up to those vulnerable feelings without feeling like you're going to ooze out of your skin and slither down a drain lol
i’m here for the comment from your story 😂
Such a great episode! 🙌🏽
Always loved your videos! have been a long time listner and it is so cool to see you grow and continue growing. I learned a lot from you and you continue to inspire me. I have been afraid of putting myself out there but I might go out there and try. Thanks again for always making my day! 😊
Ahh I love this solo ep
The talk about Halle Berry is so true, you can never find the "perfect" person, just find one willing to grow with you!
Solo episodes are my fav
Missed these solo convos 2020 memories
I'm trying, man. Zero luck on apps. Conversations go radio silent. Friends are already in relationships and living their own lives, or having kids and starting their own families. You are dog tired after working 10+ hour shifts that all you want to do is go home, eat, and sleep. The "best" dating pools are 2+ hours drive away due to traffic.
I'm trying, man. But it's hard...
Family, communication, and intellectual for. Religion doesn't matter to me as long as you have a good heart
I just turned 30 & I basically stopped dating after my last relationship 4/5 years ago so this video felt like you was talking to me directly… I’ve become so comfortable in my solitude that I’m very intolerant. I have options & suitors but I choose celibacy & peace but in reality I’m just afraid of being hurt again lol Logically I should be dating & allowing someone in my life but as I’m writing this I’m tensing up, just thinking about it so maybe I should use that better help link 😂 bc idk i just can’t even tho I’m very romantic, listen to love songs 24/7 & watch kdramas whilst wrapped around my blanket hahah