What to do When Someone's Words Hurt You
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I was once so hurt that i found it difficult to breathe because of how sore my heart felt. Be considerate with your words please ❤
xx xx me too! I know how you feel
I'm the same way. Her advice is excellent. People can only hurt me with their words if I take it in. If I don't catch the ball I can deflect their words is a representative of them not an accurate description of meit means that they're in pain their out of control their unconscious of their actions I won't incorporate that into myself.
Im also like that when a bully’s words hurt me
I watched this because I'm always hurt by what people say. When I've discussed it with them I'm told I'm over sensitive. So when I've tried to stand up for myself I'm met with more negativity.
The lesson I've learned today is to make the choice not to allow their negativity into my space. I don't know how to do thus, I don't know the practical part of not allowing the hurt to happen when I'm not reacting to their words. This is my next lesson, don't react, but find out how not to dwell on the words.
I guess I get frustrated because the person doesn't learn not to behave that way in the first place. But that's more about me.
I was on a competition today and the words the judge said hurt me soo much that I also felt that I could not breathe
They may not realize it's hurtful but it really is
Agreed.
yes it is..
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YOU ARE SO RIGHT"HURT"PEOPLE "HURT PEOPLE!.
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So true. I've noticed that with people who are hurt. When you hurt me I just smile at you.
That’s sad
exactly!!!
And little people belittle people
allow yourself to not like some people
Yes, totally valid, it's okay not to like people :) We're not all designed to "gel" with everyone.
I have always beat myself up because I don't like very many people. Have a few close people I love and trust but don't really care for shallow relationships.Good to read this.
yes! ❤️
I spent all morning crying and my heart was pierced with pain over a few words someone said to me, thank you for putting it in perspective. Its ok to disassociate with people that hurt you though right? Even if it is family?
You're welcome, I am glad this offered some helpful perspectives. And yes it is okay to detach from people that hurt you. That is your free will choice. Sometimes that might be family. Though I would just suggest - be as consciously aware as you can be in making any decisions about that... try to get to a space of calm and stillness (e.g with meditation) and ask your heart what is really the right thing to do, and the timing. Sometimes we want to detach out of pain, or out of ego, and we aren't healed enough yet to find a positive way forward in those relationships. Other times, we are very aware and it's a conscious and peaceful choice to detach from certain people. Only you will know. Also - it helps sometimes if you are moving away from people in your life who hurt you, to know in your heart that you are doing that for now because it serves your peace and wellbeing, but that you might choose to remain open to reconciliation in future if things change. This creates space for the future for new possibilities. It's just a perspective to hold rather than words to be said. I hope that helps. Best wishes, Bernadette
magdelene2001 thank you I want people to to know that most people hurt but you can't let those word hurt you self confidence. Like she say don't let the word sink in take them out so don't take the bait. So positive and do nothing and say nothing because the more you try to get the bait the more those people are going to tough at the line..
Ps: sorry for bad English I'm from Spain 🇪🇸😲
magdelene2001 Iam everyday like that , I hate my life Iam just staying in this life for some resons if their wasn’t anything I would just kill myself 😭 but this vid kinda helped me
magdelene2001 just happened to me and a family member but she was wrong the way she was talking to me. F herself
@@itz_me_joan1347 I wish that you may achieve peace and happiness in your life. May things get better for you and that you may appreciate and love your life. I don't know how helpful this will be, but please try listening to J.Cole - Love Yourz. This song puts a lot of things into perspective, especially on the concept of being grateful.
I stayed silent when people were abusive. Just saying you chose not receive it doesn't help. I believe you should stand up for yourself. Tell people it hurts and you don't want to receive it. I stayed silent for years. It does hurt.
Hey Helen, yes totally, there are situations when you need to set boundaries, communicate clearly what is and is not acceptable. I have other videos for situations that involve ongoing relationship issues, which are more applicable to what you're describing. This video is in the context of general day to day situations, passing moments, not ongoing relationship issues nor abuse, so I appreciate your comment and hope that clarification makes sense. If there are any particular resources you are looking for, let me know as I can share links to other vids if that's useful. Sending best wishes! Bernadette
5th dimension I found setting my boundaries and being honest with how they made me feel changed a lot of relationships in my life. So I'll stand by what I say. I don't find it to be resistance.
Staying silent feels like you are agreeing with them doesn't it?
Helen Williams i totally agree with you. I know what you felt cuz im going through tht now . But the thing is i dont how to stand up for people who hurt me everyday
@@Bernadette_Logue Hi B, I thought this video was very helpful. Can you direct me to the other videos you have for situations that involve ongoing relationship issues? Please and thank you!
sometimes people just say things on purpose to make you upset and thats what has happened to me. most times i stay silent but it really bites at me and i cant stop thinking about it
same with mine. My co-worker makes fun of me and I just laugh with them but with sadness in my heart
Send huge amounts of love to yourself. Keep sending yourself love over and over. Eventually, it won't hurt or bother you what others say.
You can only hurt yourself. There is no word that has power or meaning until you give it that power.
Not true, words can hurt. And it’s not because you gave it permission to hurt you.
It is better to not get pulled into their attitude, but it is hard when it's your family and they always use you as the punching bag emotionally.
This guy that was leading me on said “I don’t want to miss out on my dream girl if I’m tied down to you” I still cry when I say it aloud tbh 😞
I’m so sorry I know just how that feels 😢
He is not worth it he did you a favor. One day you will find a wonderful kind person who loves and respects you.
What??????? I can't even form a coherent response to such cruelty. I'm just blinking at the screen. I hope that you are doing well these days and please know what he said is a reflection on him, not you. That doesn't mean you aren't allowed to be hurt. Sending you so many good thoughts and wishing for so many blessings for you!
Some people end up married to people like that. Afterwhile, I hope it doesn't hurt as badly as it does now. I'm so sorry someone was such a heartless fool.
Since they are a jerk....their dream girl is someone who they think is a catch. But since there are cruel and mean spirited, their dream girl is likely based on his values, which are poor.
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I've been struggling with this for a very long time. This method of detachment is definetely the most helpful in dealing with rude people. Great advice.
Glad this was helpful 😊
I as a rule don't say things to hurt others because it creates negative energy and that reverberates in the zeitgeist....it comes back. Instead I go out of my way to project positivity...hoping that it will likewise reverberate.
tell that to haters they just enjoy hating u cnt help that
When my boyfriend said Bad words to me I don’t say anything bad I just go somewhere and cry alone
You can't imagine how you helped me today. Thank you. You really helped me to heal my heart, I was feeling very hurted. I feel really better now.
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I started this video still shaking from being so upset... By the 7th minute, I felt so much more calm. I hope to remember your advice when the moment arises again...
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Definitely thats the most difficult thing. 😣 I will also try.
As a sales person, I have to say, I do not look to get a rise out of customers... I don't throw them bait. If anything a lot of times I feel like it can be the other way around. I love your videos and use your tips all the time. I listen to the affirmations with my headset on my way to work. It sometimes gets me through the day. Thank you for your amazing leadership. But it goes both ways!! Sometimes people get bad customer service because, frankly they're just bad customers.
Hey Holly, that is so true, and you're spot on. I remember working in retail many, many years ago and experiencing the same thing! Being in customer service certainly requires some conscious presence and patience. I love that you raised that, as every situation, no matter what role we play personally or professionally is an opportunity to practice a) not taking the bait and b) not creating and fishing for reactions. Thank you for being here sharing your insight on my videos. Sending you warmest wishes! B :)
My brother said all hurtful words to me all the time but dr. phil once said "You need to be your own best friend" and thanks to you i'm going to empower myself
That's great wisdom and a powerful choice and I send you very best wishes!
Thank you for this ❤️ I had a negative experience today that has had me reeling for hours. Your video literally has lifted a weight off my chest as you spoke.
💛 love and peace to you. B
Very helpful in my time right now. Thank you! I love that you point out that it takes practice and mental energy. I will try.
Sending best wishes! :)
Thank you for this video. It helped me put things in perspective. As someone who goes out of his way to practice kindness, it's always a shock to me when I come across negative people in business. I forget that they are unconscious and tend to blame myself for their projections.
Glad this was helpful. Best wishes! B
Good teaching, it seems like when am having a certain problem,am always moved to the exact video that I need to hear. Thank you,
Same
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This is good advice even for children. Parents say "Don't pay attention" when their child is teased at school. This lady gave a good explanation of why that should be done.
This was just the message I needed today. Thank you. I love all your videos.
Hi Amy, good to know this hit the mark for you today. So pleased to have you in the community watching the vids. Wishing you a wonderful day. Bernadette :)
Thank you so much! I needed a reminder. God bless you for sharing your gifts for the "greater good" love, love and love your videos.
:) Thanks.
Thank you so much!! Needed this so much right now. Feeling better about the situation.
You're welcome!
Omg thank you. This helps me tremendously. Being an empath and intuitive is a lot and I struggle with this often.
I hear you! 😊💓 so happy to share this with you. B
People may say words of rejection which may be hurtful
Happy to stumble across this, prudent video🙌😍
:) Thanks for stopping by! Happy to share the vid with you.
Her advice is sooo spot on…So glad I found this channel.
Glad to have you in our community 🤗💛
Words hurt but that doesn't stop people from expressing themselves and being mean. It's just life.
I am SO Very grateful for you and this right now! Thank you for transcending that message so completely and beautifully. I have been dealing with a lot of negativity around me and it basically always triggers that reaction in me. I have been trying to practice Presence and being ect. By myself, but when I'm with other people it seems to all go out the window. But you made me realize that it's going to do nothing for me if I can't sustain that state in the presence of others. I am REALLY going to start working on "not taking the bait" so to speak. But I do understand that it comes from a place of pain in that person. This is going to be one of the TOUGHEST things to overcome bc my ego starts to almost scream inside of me. Lol. But thank you so much for this. It was exactly the message I needed today.
+Noelle Harris Great Noelle, yes it can be tough for sure, but well worth the practise, for your own sanity and peace. Sending you best wishes for your journey! B :)
I've watched this more than 20 times already...I love it.
Thank YOU for sharing the video.
You're welcome 😊👍
Thank you I needed to hear this so much.
I appreciate this video .🙏🏾
I only found your channel today but it couldn't have been at a more perfect time. Thank you for sending out your positive messages of hope and how to cope. I just had my 56th birthday just yesterday but it was one of the worst days in my life. Today isn't much better but I see that it's my choice to stop hearing and feeling all this negative talk and feeling all these low vibrations. I'm going to try harder and use your suggestions. Thank you again!
Belated happy birthday Lisa! Welcome to our channel/community. I send you best wishes as you move forward, for rising above any negativity. Love, Bernadette
Thank you! This was very beneficial!
So helpful....thank you, Bernadette!!
Awesome, glad it was useful :)
Hello THANKYOU!!! for your very sound advice.You have brought me back to self worth and inner strength again-Bill Petillo
Hey Bill, so glad to hear that! Sending best wishes to you. Bernadette :)
Thank you so incredibly much, this video was very helpful for me. I will try to carry out these concepts.
Glad to share this with you Holly :)
I really needed to hear this , thank you 🙏 So on point and completely resonates
Glad this was helpful for you. 😊👍 B
thanks so much I ran into this video... I was really looking for an answer on what to do... I have a collegue who constantly hurts my feelings through words and actions...Thank you so much for sharing this.
You're welcome. I am glad this resource was helpful for you. Best wishes, Bernadette
Very well explained & helpful. Thanks for sharing & keep up the exceptional work!
Thank you and so glad to hear it was helpful for you. Your kind words and energy are appreciated here. With warmest wishes to you, Bernadette
What a wonderful video, you've helped me more than I can express, keep up the excellent work
😊💛 glad this was helpful 👍
Love your energy - it is challenging not to take the bait - but it's the best option to diffuse a toxic situation and more importantly being able to walk away with your self respect
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Thank you so much darling for these great ideas.
Best explanation on RUclips! I just subscribed.
Thankyou so much! This was just what I needed to hear after a conversation with a person who was being very passive aggressive to me. I will remember going forward not to bite the hook! Thanks again
You're welcome Stef. Yes... resist biting that hook! Not always easy, but with practise it's well worth it. Blessings, Bernadette
Such an amazing video. I love the part where she says that unless and until we practice, no book or meditation or affirmation would help! So true.
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I really need to understand how to manage these feelings and how to process them. But again, your words are gold. Thank you so much
Thank you so much, this kinda helps 💗
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Thank you. Keep up the good work.
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Much gratitude out to you Holly for being in service to me and others. What I got out of this is some great tools to not take things personal. It is really a hard thing to do as I easily fall back into the victim/ego role. Throw me the worm and more often than not, I take the bait. People are so good at casting out and wanting me to bite that big juicy chaos/pain worm. I feel like Dory. Just keep swimming. Or just keep practicing. It is hard work looking at myself. I also love that you put an emphasis on practicing. I often give it a go and it doesn't neceassirly work out, like the screenplay in my head, but I do try and give myself credit for what I have worked on each day. I'm Not doing it perfectly, but striving to be better. Great information. Thanks again. Love you.
Practice not perfection... exactly!! 💖💗💖 B
Thank you so much going to start practising from today!
Much love from the United Kingdom.
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😊👍 awesome. Love to you!
Wonderful teaching, with double benefits, thank you so much
You're welcome!
Some good insights to consider in controlling your own emotional state. I struggle with anger so this is very helpful. Thank you !
Glad this was helpful 😊👍
Thank you so much! I needed this video today!
You're very welcome! Have a great day. Bernadette :)
Thank you, it makes a lot of sense!
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Thank you for your awesome tips!! I’m working on it at the moment!!
You're welcome 💛😊👍
I just can’t get those words out of my mind,but this video helps.Thank you!
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thank you so much i really needed to hear this ... much love dear ♥
You're very welcome. Warmest wishes, B
Perfect way to explain this! Don’t take the bait! Choose Love! Yes. It hurts sometimes but after all, it really does Eventually conquer all…
This video help me a lot! I was about to commit suicide because one of my family members said many things of me that hurt me and I just didn't knew how to deal with the pain. But thanks to this video i am more calm and trying not to receive those negative comments in my life! Stay strong everyone and God bless❤
Life needs you, always! If you ever feel in a dark place, always come back here to our community and reconnect. Your life is SO valuable, and you are valued. No matter how tough a situation is, there is ALWAYS hope and light available. Wishing you peace and sending love. Bernadette
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Thank you so much, miss. I needed to hear this now, as I was just hurt really badly by someone I adore to the fullest. I've spent this past year adoring them, which is something I've wanted to do for the past three years (since 2012) but felt too shy to do.
I'm not angry with them though. It just hurts worse if the person is someone that means a lot. Hurts more than a stranger. I've cried three times since it happened yesterday. I'm an Indigo and I always thought they were too, but I don't know after this. Thank you for the guidance, miss.
You're welcome. Best wishes, Bernadette
Very enlightening! Thanks for this piece.
You're welcome 😊
Thank you for making this video. I really needed this today.
You're welcome Katie ☺️
Thank you so much that helped immensely x
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This is so helpful I was hurt by someone negative words. I feel so much better after watching this video. Thank you so much 💕
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This helped me today, thank you so much!
You're welcome 🙂
Really needed that, thank you for those insights. Going to use them for sure. 🙏
You're so welcome!
Wow you are so calming and beautiful! Also great words! Thankyou
You're welcome 😊
Thank you so much. Used this today with my middle school social study students. We were working on giving and receiving constructive feedback and this went brilliantly hand in hand.
Tina Wiggins Hi Tina, thanks so much for your comment and how wonderful to hear the students get that type of support with communication. What a great school and teacher! Warmest wishes to you. Bernadette
Feeling a little low just a while ago.this is what I needed.thank you!
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I was repeating over and over again, in my head, what this person said to me throughout this whole video. I just can't let it go, or even believe that they said it! Let alone I didn't even think that they were thinking it!
Hi Sister Rose! I hear you. Some words seem to stick like glue! I highly recommend in that situation to use Tapping (EFT). If you're not familiar you can check out info here: www.bernadettelogue.com/eft-tapping/
"Even though this person said (insert), and I'm in shock and can't even believe they said it, I really want to let this go and I'm choosing to release it" (example set up statement).
With love!
B
TY Bernadette, right on! I needed to hear this :^)
Hey Lisa, great to hear that! Wishing you well :) Bernadette
Thank you Bernadette I try practising this all though sometimes I have taken the bait . I will try to be more aware because I hate negativity it is too much of a drain on your energy.
Wow thank you for that it was very helpful!
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Thank you so much for this video. ☮️
You're welcome ☺️
what a great video! I wonder how ppl utter painful words ! ohhh so they ARE INSECURE! IF only people had control of their words the world would have been a better place to live!! Positive vibration!
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Fabulous advice. I MUST LEARN
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This was incredibly helpful! Thank you so much!
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I was looking for something short and productive to watch while eating my leftover thanksgiving food and this is by far one of the better and more eye opening breaks I have given myself from school while eating my dinner
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Thankuu so much this was really helpful!
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Thank you for sharing your ideas, this helps me a lot! God bless your spirit 😇
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This helped me more than any other video on this subject.
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Nicely put thank you for the video ❤️
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Thank you so much! I recently had a big argument with my cousin but he brings all these random cussing words at me. But now I'm smiling a thinking,wow I am so sorry for him.
Glad this was a helpful resource for you.
"B"....love your videos! Thank you for all the free advice! Your videos are spectacular!
You're welcome Cindy, happy New Year!
Thank you so much for recommending this video..... Iam feeling peace after watching this 😊💓
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When someone says something hurtful to me I either keep silent and give them a stoic stare, or I say something like
“You have hurt me with those words before, but you’re no longer able to hurt me...because I won’t take the bait.!”
This is exactly what I needed, thank you 💘
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You have helped me,changed my life.Thank You!
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so you are a real person. i heard you first at pinch me living. positive affirmations... thNk you so much for your great videos.. this video is an eye opener... im stuck in this situation. now i know how to turn it around. ill keep you posted. tbank you thank you!🙋♀️
Yep, a real person! :) And glad this vid was helpful for you. Wishing you well!! Bernadette :)
no one can give offense. you can only take it.
This was really good! Thank you!
You're welcome.😊
LOVE this!!
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Thank you for sharing this. This has been very helpful, and I learned so much from this.
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Thankssssssss very much . Keep motivating i got my answer
Totally helpful! thank you so much!
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Thank you so much for this video. I really needed it. I hate getting trapped in my own pain. This has helped 💗
🧡✨ glad this was helpful.
Thanks for making this video. This girl insulted me about me being an adult and I got hurt from it.
You're welcome. Glad the video was helpful for you.
My nurse at school is very hard on me but my family is working on getting her another job.
You help me & giving me hope some times i can’t sleep thinking about the hurtful words that being said to me for no reason . Thank you
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