7 Tips for Long Distance Relationships (2020 Rerun)
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- Опубликовано: 28 окт 2024
- [Rerun] Dr. Kirk Honda discusses the scientific research on long distance relationships and provides 7 tips to improve chances of success.
August 3, 2020
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This was extremely accurate to my long-distance relationships and I can attest that from my own experience, all the main issues mentioned (ex: uncertainty, lack of sufficient communication and/or follow-through on plans, jealousy, etc.) was immensely difficult and damaging to the relationship(s). Very interesting and as always I hope everyone remember to take care of themselves and others and please be kind to one another! (Thank you Psychology in Seattle for reposting this and for your constant work; I hope yall are doing amazing!)
I have been in a long distance relationship since 2014 and in the next year we might end up physically together for longer periods of time because his life situation keeping us long distance is kinda changing. Not much but we will be able to see each other more. I have only seen him twice since 2017. I have a lot of anxiety about the changing dynamic of relationship over the next couple months to the next year but I’m so excited to see this posted now.
Well… I was at this situation for two years and I have to say that a lot of things that you mentioned weren’t true for us particularly. We met abroad and we immediately started texting (without any previous agreement about how we will communicate) them he came to visit and we were seeing each other every month and a half. Pandemic was the most difficult part, especially with us planning a wedding, after which we were living apart for 4 months without seeing each other. It was all due to pandemic and restrictions and suffered a great deal. The hardest part was not knowing how long we would have to wait, but it all came together and we are happily married for almost 3 years in which we have not separated not even for an hour. I won’t lie and tell it was always easy but we always faced our problems.
43:22 Dr Kirk's tips start here
I only live 1.5 hours away from my partner but setting up when we can see each other is usually once sometimes twice a week with our busy work schedule conflicting sometimes. Its been like this for 2 years, One of the biggest challenges has been missing alot of events in each others lives, quality time together is what makes us feel close. We manage to stay feeling close over the phone. It is hard if we misunderstand each other over text as clearing up the misunderstanding feels so distant and hard, it's hard not to get in your head when doubts slip in. I also like physical touch to feel close and my partner isnt as much so i feel physically needy when i do see him
I actually prefer when you do podcasts on your own.😅
thank you
I have been long distance from my partner for a year now, we are due to be reunited soon but I'm concerned that it will be challenge to live together again. We went from being with each other every single day of the pandemic to being in different continents literally overnight.
Interesting stuff. Being an introvert and detached personality I feel very comfortable in LDRs. My love and I just celebrated 4 years together. No jealousy or infidelity issues, and also no plans to marry or live together. We see each other 3-4 times a year.
please direct me to the 7 tips?
I am finding it almost impossible since I haven't seen my husband for far too long. He keeps getting delayed - over 100 times of rebooking his flight, and I feel so lonely and helpless - I have no control over where anything is going. I have depression and long covid so there is a lot of tears in my end. I am being accused of putting a lot of pressure on him. This past year and 1/2 i have thought he would be coming almost every second day. I feel my physical and mental health has slipped further than ever. I now have agoraphobia and can't really go out by myself. It is really hard.
Shii for me anything above 45 mins is long distance 😭
Tip 1: don’t do it. Lol. I would say make sure it’s time limited. There are couples that like being apart though and don’t want to give up their alone time so for them permanent long distance ness might actually work.
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Take my advice vet your partner carefully, you can think everything is fine until the day it suddenly isn't, women these days aren't worth the effort especially those you can't see every day
He can make an entire episode unpacking this misogynist comment 😂
who hurt you, Bradley?
Damm boi you ok? 💀
@@lastilnovista my current ex, I thought we were on a path to marriage, we had everything planned out then it wasn't, nothing I did was ever good enough, everything wrong became my fault, I actually breathed a sigh if relief when she broke up with me, I wanted to do counseling but apparently I wasn't worth it anymore so that's my story, thought I was going to get married until suddenly I wasn't. Did I make mistakes sure I take responsibility for the things I did wrong but I always gave her my best, but at the end my best was never good enough it turned me into a cynical person, I see marriage as a fools errand and only a lucky few will ever find real happiness from relationships
@@vida2459 truth hurts, if the truth is deemed misogynistic then I will proudly wear that label, women have life on recruit difficulty it is the man that is expected to lead, to provide etc, most of the time they will wait to find a guy that has already built himself into something instead of doing the work of building something with a guy from the ground up, get a prenup fellas if you choose to get married.