I love that you brought up them having a family "as cover to evil lives they lead." This is SOOOOO true. The psychopath I dealt with did this. Her marriage, I came to find out, was very toxic and unhealthy. She abused other family members on the regular. They'll use anything they can to build up a mask for society to view.
I’m a supervisor and I’ve dealt with them as employees who work for me and as fellow supervisors. The fellow supervisor type will do all they can to show you up and make you look incompetent. They can’t stand change and often are very lazy and they attack fellow employees and supervisors as a way to deflect the fact that they don’t do anything. It’s like a war within the company. We recently had one die and our company is so much happier without this HR manager who divided the company while not doing her job. She was so completely occupied with waging war against her fellow employees that she gave all of our W2’s away in an email spoof. She flat out didn’t do her job and she got away with it because ownership trusted her because she knew how to play them. Ownership itself is needy so she knew how to complement them and portray herself as a protector of the company, protecting the company from all the terrible people that had worked there for years. She recognized early how to manipulate them and she was very successful. Narc employees need to be complemented constantly and need lots of attention, constantly showing off what they’ve done and wanting to hear how great they are and wanting special treatment and elevated status. They feel that the rules that apply to everyone shouldn’t apply to them because they are extra special. Sometimes I have to reject work done by these types of employees, just doing my job and then they become explosive, grown men behaving like 2 year olds. I come to dread dealing with any negative interactions. They’ll also do things like praise me to my face while secretly trying to destroy me by saying terrible things about me to other employees. I’m pretty immune and don’t need their praise so I truly don’t give a shit.
One thing I learned from these types of situation that never go to anyone asking for help when you really need that. The moment people realize that you're in serious trouble they'll do everything to make the situation worse. Instead of solving your problem they'll become those inseparable soulmates of the narcissist. And trust me that doesn't feel good!!! No one will help you if you don't help yourself.
Going through this at this point in my life. Have two supervisors, one covert & one overt narc. I have been documenting what's going on. I actually got a recording of a meeting I had with the covert. It was sickening listening to her talk in circles/word salad BS! If no change by next week, I'm planning to pursue it with my union whom I've already alerted. Thanks for your work!
Freedom Lee - good luck with the union. I hope they can help. It’s so hard to work with Narcissists because many of the worst things they do is not seen by the victim. All the lies and backstabbing ughhhhh
I recognized all the signs months ago with narcissist woman co-worker. There was 3 other people on this team to do production work in a warehouse. I'm a 50 yr old woman . they are 20 yr olds , young , naive who fell for her love bombing techniques . I didn't fall for it . she played the other people against me. Tried to get me fired. I'm a cristian the others are not. I think the wolf in sheep's clothing is all they are . demons trying to influence everyone. She tried saying that I'm racist because of something I said. I know I am not and will not be convinced otherwise. Also only spoke to cell leader for a month. Said I wasn't doing my job , which I know is lies , just pissed because I wouldn't kiss her ass like everyone else. Asked to move to another area. Been in other area for a week -Going good. Should I tell management why I wanted to move or tell people in other department they are being manipulated. Don't feel like people here listen, management and other old co-workers.🙏💝
Thanks for sharing the information! I am doing some research on Narcissism and Psychopathy at work place and found this video very helpful. Everyone should understand what Narcissism is and what are the Redflags as mentioned in the video. Proactively, organizations should make it as part of training in workplaces to educate people what is acceptable and what is not which helps to combat toxicity in the workplace.I am just summarising what you have told in the video..Thanks a lot🙏🙏🙏 • They use charm on others and praise them initially. • Have got allies who re-victimize the victim. • Pushy and demanding. • Use divide and rule policy to manage team i.e., Isolate the victim and then attack. • Self-absorbed - Can’t stand others opinions. They either attack upfront or do the work on back to ensure the opinion giver shuts his mouth for ever. • Emotionally closed /who can’t feel for others in general (don’t confuse selective empathy here). • Pathological liar - Use lies, fake stories to ruin a victim’s career. • They don’t like to be told that they are wrong. • Great actors - use acts of service as a manipulation tool. • Self-Boasting • Use their family as guard/cover • They segregate the people based on the filter - 1. Weak -Those who can be used as “Narcissistic supply” through ruining the target/victim’s career. And 2. Strong- Those that help them to advance their career. • Always Craves Control - always in look for power, connections & knowledge that they don’t possess. Before selecting the target, they test them through their act of kindness. Only groom those people who can be controlled easily (Sycophants) • Someone who recognizes narcissist’s motives will ultimately become the prime target and following things happen o Devaluation of target - through circulation of jokes on victim’s back o Smear Campaign - false accusation, spreading of lies and gossips o Division of teams - deliberate isolation o Finally victim will feel his story of what’s going on is quite unbelievable. • They don’t like authority/ management people. Since they don’t like authority, they don’t trust management people and always flout Company policies and rules. • They are very good at making friends easily. • Complain about everything. • Use emotions to manipulate - fake empathy & friendships. • Recruit people to be against the target. • Always seek validation/admiration. (Seeking periodic feedback is different from seeking validation/admiration.) • They use people and discard them. (They literally hunt for people who can be used for their benefits and then discard them once the benefits stops. Their mind-set operates profit/loss, cost/benefit framework) • If someone catches their lie, immediately they declare war and destroy them. • Name calling - Use verbal abuse as weapon. It usually starts off as a harmless jokes and escalates into bullying and smear campaign
Life isn't fair and the same goes for work. I worked for a HUGE narcissist and the company knew he was a problem but they only cared about showing profit to the shareholders. Best thing to do is get the experience and put your feelers out for another opportunity. Company culture doesn't change and neither do narcissists.
I'm going through this now and I have quickly realized that I need to ultimately plan my exit. There is no reasoning with them and it won't get better. Mine is the director and only HR person they have there. Any time you have a concern it becomes a manipulative gaslighting and bullying control game.
@@anitaknight3915 Contact a recruiter if you can. Find a new job, preferably for more pay. Two weeks and leave a Glassdoor review but make it factual. That's really all you can do.
@@blake_229 thank you huni, I appreciate it!!! Is there a specific way to best exit. My concern is when they ask why I am leaving, bully/try to terminate you , or give a bad reference to try to damage my work reputation because they are narcissist/well known in the community by media. Anytime I've brought concerns or constructive feedback- I'm met with dismissiveness or severe manipulation gaslighting games and invalidation then accused of lies so there's no hope of reasoning or improvement.
@@anitaknight3915 legally they can't say anything. Just go somewhere new and say it was another opportunity. That's all that needs to be said. Don't worry about getting back at them. Being happy is the best way to do that.
@@blake_229 you are correct that happiness and success is the best revenge!! It takes all of me to not react by showing emotion or defend myself when they are deliberately playing sick manipulative mind games.
Unfortunately it sounds to me like I might be dealing with a narcissist boss. She suddenly is displaying to me many of these red flags. At first we got along well, but as soon as I politely asked for more challenging assignments things began to change. Today was the first time however that I became subjected to what I imagine must have been, or to be, the real person who she is. It's disturbing to me. I was verbally abused today, gaslighted very, very badly, and bullied. It was awful, and I'm blown away. I'm afraid to return to work now, which is sad because I once thought my office was safe for me. But now I feel anything but safe. I'm devastated. Thanks for the information:)
telling people they're wrong is actually a sign of a low EQ, low EQ people talk about somebody being wrong and them being right, which in turn makes them narcissistic themselves high EQ people talk about perspectives - that they have a different perspective than someone else, they don't view opinions/ideas on a binary spectrum (good, bad)
I work with one who is absolutely 100% a narcissist. I am his target but after months of explaining what he was doing they finally started listening to me and made it so he isn't allowed to come around me or speak to me. This was after I had to curse him out twice. It's all good now though. He does his BS still trying to annoy me but I have become very good at ignoring him.
Thanks Tracey 💝. It has motivated me...all day today listening to TED Talks about following ones dream job. I also have an interview tomorrow which should be very easy and nicer manager. Wish me luck. It is propelling me to find happiness at work. Thank you xx
This is my ex manager at work to a T he left a while ago under a cloud but he did all these things and we were all women he was only man. I suspected before he left he was a narcisst he could be very charming then he would switch and be awful and it was never hiis fault, you went through sweet mean cycle over and over with him, am so happy he is gone.
I'm the "strong one" that our narcissist at-work sees as the enemy, and the object of Flying Monkey surveillance and aggravation. Our workplace isn't big-enough to have an HR department, and our general manager is a conflict-averse (and people-pleasing) victim of childhood abuse (by a narcissistic mother?), and won't deal with the guy I've mentioned to him (my immediate supervisor). I've gotten bored of the narcissist's mind-games and harassment, so I've given notice, effective at year-end, but I'd like to do something in the next month to reduce the harm done against new targets...
I am in the exact same situation. I would appreciate to hear how you navigated it. That's my plan too and I've been treated the same exact way. We don't have true HR either(only 1 person who's a carbon copy of the CEO).
@@anitaknight3915 I went to the GM and confronted him about how badly the guy's abuse had been handled. I made the GM deal with the problem, because I said, if I quit, the narcissist would just find others to abuse. Our GM eventually spoke to the guy, and he left me alone for a couple of weeks, and when he tried to play the games again, I called him out in front of people, to embarrass him, and then threatened to go to the GM again. He left me alone for a while, but eventually got some of his other victims on-side, and turned them into flying monkeys. He's since toned-down the games, but he usually just leaves me alone, because he knows I don't fear, respect, or like him, and never will.
@@barefootanimist good job!! My issue is that the person like this is the CEO. There's a clinical director and 1 main only HR person under him who are doing this controlling sick cult toxic manipulation and lying gaslighting too, therefore I cannot report it since they all do it. They back each other up. I'm concerned how to best leave and the answer I'll give when they ask why once I finally do. I don't want them to try and smear my work reputation with others in the field.
I would never accept a management position again because you get attacked from upper management and your subordinates. It was a no win situation that I still have ptsd from.
I put up with narcissistic abuse at Barnes and Noble for three years(yelling and constant put-downs) because I blamed my ADD, not realizing it was her reaction to a misunderstood quote I'd made and not perceived incompetence.
HIya, some very good insight. Perhaps, this should form a part of the HR 'management training portfolio ?? Maybe, that's something that you guys can look into. But, some essential tools for managers / junior managers,etc.
Who would you recommend I speak with about the narcissist on my team at work? I feel my district manager is in his "web". He fits every Red flag. Can I go to HR? If so, how? Ty
Tracy Malone- so Thankful this monster is your x. Imagine punching someone at work! No wonder you made this and are helping others. So so grateful to you. My frustration was being this would be such an easy job....Wrong!! With such a tiny franchise-company they have opportunities to deal with others very unethically. It us a real shock to me....as I was trained (as a nurse) in our famous NHS (you have a Pay Dept) & Not just an evil single individual in such a wonderful PROFESSIONAL Institution.
Respectfully the statistics are skewed towards overt narcissists. Just as many women have this condition but prevent in covert/vulnerable ways and so are even harder to spot
Gee, how many red flags are there ? One could think it should not be hard to spot the flagparade. Howcome so many people are, or act like their oblivious ? Is it social obedience like Stanly Milgram wrote about ?
Many of the narcissists supporters are flying monkeys who the narcissist grooms by giving them special attention and/or treatment. Some of the people in the company can see the toxic behavior but don't speak up because they know if they get involved they'll be the next target or victim. Some don't see it because they don't interact with the narc enough.
re Red flag no 2 . Tracy I dont agree that The Narcissist in work is a victim of a Narcissist at home. To be a victim of a Narcissist, one is a codependent or empath. A Narcissist's traits would never attract another Narcissist as a victim.
Grace McLoughlin I guess I said that wrong. I was thinking of myself at work. Being abused at home so my behavior as an employee might be affected by the abuse of my husband. Does that make more sense?
If you want to learn more about a narcissistic coworker I have just released a free ebook on the topic. Download it here. narcissistabusesupport.com/how-to-deal-with-a-narcissist-at-work-free-ebook/
NEVER go to HR. They support the company and managers, NOT the employees.
Oooooo thx u so true and right how sick tho wow sad just sad
I totally agree. Sadly, it ‘ll be worse for you !
I found that out 1 week ago, lol
I learned this shit hard
I love that you brought up them having a family "as cover to evil lives they lead." This is SOOOOO true. The psychopath I dealt with did this. Her marriage, I came to find out, was very toxic and unhealthy. She abused other family members on the regular. They'll use anything they can to build up a mask for society to view.
Always remember human resources is always for the company they dont care
I’m a supervisor and I’ve dealt with them as employees who work for me and as fellow supervisors. The fellow supervisor type will do all they can to show you up and make you look incompetent. They can’t stand change and often are very lazy and they attack fellow employees and supervisors as a way to deflect the fact that they don’t do anything. It’s like a war within the company. We recently had one die and our company is so much happier without this HR manager who divided the company while not doing her job. She was so completely occupied with waging war against her fellow employees that she gave all of our W2’s away in an email spoof. She flat out didn’t do her job and she got away with it because ownership trusted her because she knew how to play them. Ownership itself is needy so she knew how to complement them and portray herself as a protector of the company, protecting the company from all the terrible people that had worked there for years. She recognized early how to manipulate them and she was very successful. Narc employees need to be complemented constantly and need lots of attention, constantly showing off what they’ve done and wanting to hear how great they are and wanting special treatment and elevated status. They feel that the rules that apply to everyone shouldn’t apply to them because they are extra special. Sometimes I have to reject work done by these types of employees, just doing my job and then they become explosive, grown men behaving like 2 year olds. I come to dread dealing with any negative interactions. They’ll also do things like praise me to my face while secretly trying to destroy me by saying terrible things about me to other employees. I’m pretty immune and don’t need their praise so I truly don’t give a shit.
I want to send this to my HR department.
Thank you
MaryLynn I want to teach HR departments 😄
HR departments are usually the worst..
HR are in on it. They work with the managers not the employees.
One thing I learned from these types of situation that never go to anyone asking for help when you really need that. The moment people realize that you're in serious trouble they'll do everything to make the situation worse. Instead of solving your problem they'll become those inseparable soulmates of the narcissist. And trust me that doesn't feel good!!!
No one will help you if you don't help yourself.
i been through this. it was crazy. whats up with this behavior?
I wish I heard this 4 months ago at my current role.
Going through this at this point in my life. Have two supervisors, one covert & one overt narc. I have been documenting what's going on. I actually got a recording of a meeting I had with the covert. It was sickening listening to her talk in circles/word salad BS! If no change by next week, I'm planning to pursue it with my union whom I've already alerted. Thanks for your work!
Freedom Lee - good luck with the union. I hope they can help. It’s so hard to work with Narcissists because many of the worst things they do is not seen by the victim. All the lies and backstabbing ughhhhh
I recognized all the signs months ago with narcissist woman co-worker. There was 3 other people on this team to do production work in a warehouse. I'm a 50 yr old woman . they are 20 yr olds , young , naive who fell for her love bombing techniques . I didn't fall for it . she played the other people against me. Tried to get me fired. I'm a cristian the others are not. I think the wolf in sheep's clothing is all they are . demons trying to influence everyone. She tried saying that I'm racist because of something I said. I know I am not and will not be convinced otherwise. Also only spoke to cell leader for a month. Said I wasn't doing my job , which I know is lies , just pissed because I wouldn't kiss her ass like everyone else. Asked to move to another area. Been in other area for a week -Going good. Should I tell management why I wanted to move or tell people in other department they are being manipulated. Don't feel like people here listen, management and other old co-workers.🙏💝
Thanks for sharing the information! I am doing some research on Narcissism and Psychopathy at work place and found this video very helpful. Everyone should understand what Narcissism is and what are the Redflags as mentioned in the video. Proactively, organizations should make it as part of training in workplaces to educate people what is acceptable and what is not which helps to combat toxicity in the workplace.I am just summarising what you have told in the video..Thanks a lot🙏🙏🙏
• They use charm on others and praise them initially.
• Have got allies who re-victimize the victim.
• Pushy and demanding.
• Use divide and rule policy to manage team i.e., Isolate the victim and then attack.
• Self-absorbed - Can’t stand others opinions.
They either attack upfront or do the work on back to ensure the opinion giver shuts his mouth for ever.
• Emotionally closed /who can’t feel for others in general (don’t confuse selective empathy here).
• Pathological liar - Use lies, fake stories to ruin a victim’s career.
• They don’t like to be told that they are wrong.
• Great actors - use acts of service as a manipulation tool.
• Self-Boasting
• Use their family as guard/cover
• They segregate the people based on the filter - 1. Weak -Those who can be used as “Narcissistic supply” through ruining the target/victim’s career. And 2. Strong- Those that help them to advance their career.
• Always Craves Control - always in look for power, connections & knowledge that they don’t possess. Before selecting the target, they test them through their act of kindness. Only groom those people who can be controlled easily (Sycophants)
• Someone who recognizes narcissist’s motives will ultimately become the prime target and following things happen
o Devaluation of target - through circulation of jokes on victim’s back
o Smear Campaign - false accusation, spreading of lies and gossips
o Division of teams - deliberate isolation
o Finally victim will feel his story of what’s going on is quite unbelievable.
• They don’t like authority/ management people.
Since they don’t like authority, they don’t trust management people and always flout Company policies and rules.
• They are very good at making friends easily.
• Complain about everything.
• Use emotions to manipulate - fake empathy & friendships.
• Recruit people to be against the target.
• Always seek validation/admiration. (Seeking periodic feedback is different from seeking validation/admiration.)
• They use people and discard them. (They literally hunt for people who can be used for their benefits and then discard them once the benefits stops. Their mind-set operates profit/loss, cost/benefit framework)
• If someone catches their lie, immediately they declare war and destroy them.
• Name calling - Use verbal abuse as weapon. It usually starts off as a harmless jokes and escalates into bullying and smear campaign
Life isn't fair and the same goes for work. I worked for a HUGE narcissist and the company knew he was a problem but they only cared about showing profit to the shareholders. Best thing to do is get the experience and put your feelers out for another opportunity. Company culture doesn't change and neither do narcissists.
I'm going through this now and I have quickly realized that I need to ultimately plan my exit. There is no reasoning with them and it won't get better. Mine is the director and only HR person they have there. Any time you have a concern it becomes a manipulative gaslighting and bullying control game.
@@anitaknight3915 Contact a recruiter if you can. Find a new job, preferably for more pay. Two weeks and leave a Glassdoor review but make it factual. That's really all you can do.
@@blake_229 thank you huni, I appreciate it!!! Is there a specific way to best exit. My concern is when they ask why I am leaving, bully/try to terminate you , or give a bad reference to try to damage my work reputation because they are narcissist/well known in the community by media. Anytime I've brought concerns or constructive feedback- I'm met with dismissiveness or severe manipulation gaslighting games and invalidation then accused of lies so there's no hope of reasoning or improvement.
@@anitaknight3915 legally they can't say anything. Just go somewhere new and say it was another opportunity. That's all that needs to be said. Don't worry about getting back at them. Being happy is the best way to do that.
@@blake_229 you are correct that happiness and success is the best revenge!! It takes all of me to not react by showing emotion or defend myself when they are deliberately playing sick manipulative mind games.
Unfortunately it sounds to me like I might be dealing with a narcissist boss. She suddenly is displaying to me many of these red flags. At first we got along well, but as soon as I politely asked for more challenging assignments things began to change. Today was the first time however that I became subjected to what I imagine must have been, or to be, the real person who she is. It's disturbing to me. I was verbally abused today, gaslighted very, very badly, and bullied. It was awful, and I'm blown away. I'm afraid to return to work now, which is sad because I once thought my office was safe for me. But now I feel anything but safe. I'm devastated. Thanks for the information:)
Corey Anderson Do you have any update to your situation? Do tell as it helps so much.
HR is usualy the main cuase of the issue 100% true that there are more female naccicists
Awful humans.
telling people they're wrong is actually a sign of a low EQ, low EQ people talk about somebody being wrong and them being right, which in turn makes them narcissistic themselves
high EQ people talk about perspectives - that they have a different perspective than someone else, they don't view opinions/ideas on a binary spectrum (good, bad)
Wow thx u. Well said.
I work with one who is absolutely 100% a narcissist. I am his target but after months of explaining what he was doing they finally started listening to me and made it so he isn't allowed to come around me or speak to me. This was after I had to curse him out twice. It's all good now though. He does his BS still trying to annoy me but I have become very good at ignoring him.
Good for you they are very useless narcissistic people in general nothing good about them just toxic and evil.
You should do one on narcissistic neighbors.
yes, especially when in an llc, cohousing or intentional community
Thanks Tracey 💝.
It has motivated me...all day today listening to TED Talks about following ones dream job. I also have an interview tomorrow which should be very easy and nicer manager. Wish me luck. It is propelling me to find happiness at work. Thank you xx
Judith Mendelsohn - good luck! Good luck. Be strong and keep your heart open to peace at work. Hugs 🤗
Thank you. Dealing with this at work....
This is my ex manager at work to a T he left a while ago under a cloud but he did all these things and we were all women he was only man. I suspected before he left he was a narcisst he could be very charming then he would switch and be awful and it was never hiis fault, you went through sweet mean cycle over and over with him, am so happy he is gone.
k h I am glad he is gone too but he has moved to to somewhere else to ruin others. Peace
I'm the "strong one" that our narcissist at-work sees as the enemy, and the object of Flying Monkey surveillance and aggravation. Our workplace isn't big-enough to have an HR department, and our general manager is a conflict-averse (and people-pleasing) victim of childhood abuse (by a narcissistic mother?), and won't deal with the guy I've mentioned to him (my immediate supervisor). I've gotten bored of the narcissist's mind-games and harassment, so I've given notice, effective at year-end, but I'd like to do something in the next month to reduce the harm done against new targets...
I am in the exact same situation. I would appreciate to hear how you navigated it. That's my plan too and I've been treated the same exact way. We don't have true HR either(only 1 person who's a carbon copy of the CEO).
@@anitaknight3915 I went to the GM and confronted him about how badly the guy's abuse had been handled. I made the GM deal with the problem, because I said, if I quit, the narcissist would just find others to abuse. Our GM eventually spoke to the guy, and he left me alone for a couple of weeks, and when he tried to play the games again, I called him out in front of people, to embarrass him, and then threatened to go to the GM again.
He left me alone for a while, but eventually got some of his other victims on-side, and turned them into flying monkeys. He's since toned-down the games, but he usually just leaves me alone, because he knows I don't fear, respect, or like him, and never will.
@@barefootanimist good job!! My issue is that the person like this is the CEO. There's a clinical director and 1 main only HR person under him who are doing this controlling sick cult toxic manipulation and lying gaslighting too, therefore I cannot report it since they all do it. They back each other up. I'm concerned how to best leave and the answer I'll give when they ask why once I finally do. I don't want them to try and smear my work reputation with others in the field.
@@anitaknight3915 That's a precarious situation to be in. I'm not sure how I'd go about handling it...
You nailed it!!! Thank you for this post.
I would never accept a management position again because you get attacked from upper management and your subordinates. It was a no win situation that I still have ptsd from.
Very good info here...going through this right now..
I put up with narcissistic abuse at Barnes and Noble for three years(yelling and constant put-downs) because I blamed my ADD, not realizing it was her reaction to a misunderstood quote I'd made and not perceived incompetence.
HIya, some very good insight. Perhaps, this should form a part of the HR 'management training portfolio ?? Maybe, that's something that you guys can look into. But, some essential tools for managers / junior managers,etc.
Best damn video on the subject I've seen! Thank you!
Who would you recommend I speak with about the narcissist on my team at work?
I feel my district manager is in his "web". He fits every Red flag.
Can I go to HR? If so, how? Ty
Not every company has an HR department, especially a small one
My trecy dear..you are the best...💝
Cachanilla Vaja - thank you! 🤩😊
Awesome vidd!
Liar liar pants on fire.
Temper tantrums galore.
I'm not leaving 😂
MaryLynn - my xhusband actually punched a friend of mine at work. But because of his position nothing happened.
+Tracy Malone May karma be with him.
Tracy Malone 😲
Tracy Malone- so Thankful this monster is your x. Imagine punching someone at work! No wonder you made this and are helping others. So so grateful to you. My frustration was being this would be such an easy job....Wrong!! With such a tiny franchise-company they have opportunities to deal with others very unethically. It us a real shock to me....as I was trained (as a nurse) in our famous NHS (you have a Pay Dept) & Not just an evil single individual in such a wonderful PROFESSIONAL Institution.
Respectfully the statistics are skewed towards overt narcissists. Just as many women have this condition but prevent in covert/vulnerable ways and so are even harder to spot
Looks good on paper.
Gee, how many red flags are there ? One could think it should not be hard to spot the flagparade. Howcome so many people are, or act like their oblivious ? Is it social obedience like Stanly Milgram wrote about ?
Many of the narcissists supporters are flying monkeys who the narcissist grooms by giving them special attention and/or treatment. Some of the people in the company can see the toxic behavior but don't speak up because they know if they get involved they'll be the next target or victim. Some don't see it because they don't interact with the narc enough.
Tracy they really dont care
So what do you do when your the victims
re Red flag no 2 . Tracy I dont agree that The Narcissist in work is a victim of a Narcissist at home. To be a victim of a Narcissist, one is a codependent or empath. A Narcissist's traits would never attract another Narcissist as a victim.
Grace McLoughlin I guess I said that wrong. I was thinking of myself at work. Being abused at home so my behavior as an employee might be affected by the abuse of my husband. Does that make more sense?
Tracy Malone Ah of course Tracy. Tks.x
Grace McLoughlin see this is why I don't write a book, my grammar and spelling are terrible. #hugs
HR does nothing for sure. We need more practical advice, HRin most cases is not acoubtable
Sadly HR protects the Narcs.🙄
If you want to learn more about a narcissistic coworker I have just released a free ebook on the topic. Download it here. narcissistabusesupport.com/how-to-deal-with-a-narcissist-at-work-free-ebook/
I went through this at my last job. HR made fun of me when I reported it.
Joyce Chenn - I am sorry. I believe HR personal needs more education
Most certainly. I know that the truth has set me free. Spreading this information is VITAL in saving lives.
Joyce Chenn - workplace bullies suck but being free is priceless