P.S the guests can be overwhelming you’re not rude at all. Sleep deprivation and getting over labour is really hard going. Don’t be afraid to put people off, anyone that’s had children will understand! Xx
I'm so happy you're so open about what it is like after giving birth, a lot of mothers (even those with many children) will never talk about this - I think it is such an important topic and something that needs to b discussed. Thank you, it is very much appreciated ❤️
You should try the anglecare baby monitor for Daisy to help with David’s worrying. Basically it’s a mat that goes under Daisy’s mattress that monitors her breathing so David won’t need to worry as the monitor beeps everytime she breathes and alerts you if there is a pause in her breathing or if god forbid she ever stopped breathing xx
thank you so much for being honest with us. We don't get much of all that 'real' life here on youtube :D you are such an amazing and honest person to look up to and I love every single one of your videos and vlogs! all the love from germany ♥
Your friends shouldn’t be offended if you let them know that it’s not convenient if you are tired, want to sleep or me time. The way our bodies are made I’m just in awe at how much we can go through as women. You look fab.
I'm so glad I'm not alone when it came to people visiting... it was just to much for me. I was living with my partner and his dad and step mum so their friends and family were constantly round, his family would just show up and expect to see my daughter let alone hold her. I was trying to recover from an emergency section also. I moved out 3 months later because I just couldn't do it! Doesn't make you rude, just means you like to adjust x
There are socks you can buy for the baby that monitor oxygen levels and will tell you if the oxygen levels of the baby are low. You definitely shouldn't depend on them 100% but it can help new parents get ease of mind when the baby is sleeping. I heard of them on some other channel. I wish I remembered their name but if David was interested, I'm sure he could find them online!
Yes the owlet sleep sock. Their are many sleep monitors you can get to monitor your babies breathing. Lavana makes a diaper clip and Angel care has a mat you can put under your babies mattress. S.i.d.s is still a very real and terrifying thing. Definitely something to look into.
OMG! You are speaking exactly what my husband & I are feeling! Totally not rude! We’ve said it everyday since our son was born, 3 weeks ago, that we just want people to wait. I would just think that people would try to be somewhat considerate of what had just happened, and give you sometime to rest. People wanted to come over to our house the day we came home from the hospital and I had to tell them no. With two other children, it was hectic when we came home anyways. We’ve only aloud 3 visitors so far, specially with the sicknesses going around. Your feelings are very justified!
Yes feed on demand. Listen to your baby. Don’t stress or compare to what you hear. You’re doing fantastic. And your so refreshing. This is motherhood it’s so tough but just cuddle and hold her as much as you can before she grows oh so fast. I let mine sleep on me for every nap and he co slept with me or my partner for 4 months. Rocked him to sleep until 8 then one day he just didn’t want me there and started to sleep by himself when I left the room peacefully. He never had to cry when he started to self settle, we just listened to his needs. So in my opinion, don’t push anything just do exactly what you’re doing and just listen to when they need something. Good luck ! Love following your journey 😘
Angelcare has a baby monitor that has a sensor pad under baby's mattress that monitors their movement and breathing, and an alarm goes off if they don't breathe for 20 seconds, maybe you (or David really 😂) need something like that! Well done with little Daisy, you two are doing so well! And thank you for keeping your videos so honest and real, I think everyone appreciates it!!
I love how honest you are, I feel like this is the stuff im going to need to know when I eventually have children, I don't want the nice stuff all the time, the complications, the gross stuff, the hard times, this is what we need to know, and I thank you for that and your little family is beautiful! ❤❤
I was in labor for 42 hours with my first and had to have an episiotomy the recovery was awful i lost control of my bladder 🙈 i had to sit on a rubber ring 😅 to ease the pain, I’ve watched so many of your videos and your both doing a great job! I have 2 children now and i’m still trying to get into a routine 🙂 x
I have an 8week old baby girl. Absolutely agree with you on the visitors. Last thing you wanna do is get dressed and entertain. The only ppl I wanted to see were my sister's, mum and best friend. Agree also about lack of info on the after pains. Thanks for the honesty and for keeping it real.
please do a two month update. its really nice to see insights of what its actually like to be a mum. p.s. i love your videos, only recently found your channel and glad i did, your little family are the sweetest!💓
Don’t feel pressured into getting her into routine! She’s still a newborn and just wants feeds/attention on demand so don’t feel bad about that. I started inputting a routine with my daughter when she was about 8 weeks, which is still quite early but we just felt she was ready for it. You guys seem like you’re doing amazing! x
My baby girl was born on 24th Jan and I have been really enjoying listening to Giovanna fletchers podcast during the night time feeds. I would particularly recommend the one with Clemmie Hooper where they discuss managing visitors in the early weeks. It can be totally overwhelming I agree. You are doing amazingly with all the added stress you have had especially. Big love xxx
I absolutely love how honest you are in this, some people don’t let on how tough/gross experiences can be but I seriously appreciate your truthfulness!! 💘💖
There's a lot of info on the lullaby trust website about babies sleeping on there own/own room. One of the topics covered in my antenatal classes was actually about visitors in the days after birth. It wasn't till then I realised how much a problem this can be! I'm hoping for myself people come around then leave us be for a while and won't be offended. Breast feeding can be such a struggle I don't want to be worrying about people turning up. Nobody's ever told me about losing control of bowels. Thank you for being honest and open about that!! Yous are doing fab and the honesty is much appreciated not all new parents get in a routine straight away. Much love x
I LOVE how positive and honest you are. You go through such difficult and traumatic things and you still always manage to be super positive. I think that's sooo inspiring and you are so strong! I saw that David loved the book "live in the now" by eckhart tolle, so if he is into spiritual stuff maybe reading something like "the universe has your back" by Gabby Bernstein would be good too! The reason I'm saying this is because he is so scared that Daisy is not breathing, it might helped to know the universe is always has your back and if you choose love, and have faith that everything will always be okay maybe he won't feel that fear as much!
Love your honesty!! You are doing a great job with Daisy! Can i recommend some stuff?? 1) a monitor to go under Daisys mattress which keeps and eye on her breathing so David doesn't have to worry 2) As she starts to get older, start tummy time with Daisy to encourage her core strength 3) Look out for some baby massage/relaxing classes that you and Daisy can go to. You may learn techniques that will settle her when she is grizzly! Great job guys x
Totally agree about people coming over. We had our baby last June and spent all of my husbands two weeks paternity leave just waiting in for everyone to come and meet him. It was a waste of his time off and really wish we had taken some time to ourselves to get to know each other as a family of three. It’s difficult because is excited but we’ll do it different,y with our second! Love your honesty xx
Might be strange to say but I am so pleased you talked about poo! I am six weeks postpartum and was saying to my husband the other day how nobody ever told me how different pooing is after birth!! Thanks so much for being so honest :) xxx
Congratulations on the baby! I’m exactly the same as your partner being worried that baby is not breathing. We got the angel care sensor Matt & it’s been a game changer xx
We had the same thing with friends and family over constantly , when we had our first two children.it was exhausting. I’m currently 37 weeks 1 day pregnant, we have already said we would like some time too ourselves for the first week or so. That’s why it’s hard to get a routine, people in and out of your house all the time and off course eating cuddles with the baby. Your doing a great job and you are so lovely. Good luck in the future. X
Ebony you being Soo honest is a gift to other women! I had my son at 19 and I knew nothing about what happens from delivery and after I was scared and shocked at how much we go thru for the like first month! I'm 45 now and to this day women still don't talk about it! You are helping Soo many by telling this! ❤❤❤
It's so nice to see how happy and relaxed u are and how much you're enjoying it. Stay like that! I was a terrible FTM, so stressed about routine and not wanting to get into bad habits that I didn't enjoy a single thing and cried all the time.
It took me until my third baby until I put my foot down and said guests were on my terms when I was ready. We had several days to bond until I was "ok" - then we would allow 1 or 2 per day, when we felt up to it and it was perfect for us!
I love the honesty. I am just under two weeks in with my own baby girl and she also settles so much better with her daddy than me because he doesn’t smell like milk. This has improved for us in the last couple of days but only because she is now combination fed (for health reasons) and not exclusively breast fed. As for sleeping - recommendation is they stay in your room for at least 6 months or until they can push up onto their hands and knees and sit unaided (at which point the Moses basket is no longer deemed safe).
I would love monthly update I'm 36 weeks pregnant with my first baby and these help me alot and I really value how honest you are I don't feel like I'm watching a bs update like I do with some other people
My son still doesn't have a routine and he's 4 months old so don't worry about it :) at a month old she's still establishing her feeds and cluster feeding - it'll all come into place as time goes on x
I absolutely adore your little family and I think it’s amazing that you are so open about things, it’s all human nature and it’s nice to hear someone actually speak about it. I don’t have kids yet and I’m not pregnant but I can imagine this will be so much help for future mums! Can’t wait for more updates! Love and hugs to you all!
Congratulations and welcome Daisy! My son arrived arrived a day before your wee beauty 💕 we have a miniscule routine in that he usually goes for a long 3 hour nap around 1 or 2 in the afternoon and then he's a wee grumpus again around 10pm so I try to settle him in his Chicco crib. I Absolutely agree with you on visitors: I struggled to get River latched and found visitors to be so stressful. When all I wanted to do was to sit with my boobs out! We opted to have 1 family day where extended family and friends could come for cuddles. Before then only very close family and close friends were allowed over. You're doing great lovely! Xx
My little one is 18 weeks now - I only managed to breastfeed for the first 6 weeks but during that time he was exactly the same in that he only settled with my other half! He could definitely smell my milk and just wanted to feed every time I held him. I found it quite frustrating at first, but in hindsight it was quite nice for him to have some bonding time with his daddy - with breastfeeding there isn’t a huge amount that he could do to help! Being a mum is so awesome! There is definitely no better feeling!
My nephew got a routine about 5 months in. This is my sisters first kid and she made sure herself and anyone watching him attempted to keep the same routine on a daily basis to get him adapted to it.
Hi Ebony just to say current SIDS guidelines are that baby should sleep in the same room as you (including naps) for the first 6 months so please don't feel like you should be putting her in her own room. Also 1 month is way too soon for a routine, just enjoy her whilst she's so little!
I remember feeling overwhelmed with guests for our first baby. The day we came home from the hospital 2 of my sisters were already at our house. Then we had a midwife visit and other family members arrived, it was chaotic. But when we had our second child it seemed like no one bothered to show up, it was a little sad. So enjoy this first baby attention, soak it all up. You're doing a great job ☺️
I love your vlogs and really appreciate your willingness to share. If David ever sneaks in to see Daisy sleep he should use a mirror to check her breath if he can't help himself. Peaceful mind for dad and peaceful sleep for Daisy.
Nooo. My daughter had no recognisable routine until 5 months! She’d go through little stints of routine for a few days but not until 5 months did she start settling for naps at regular times! Weaning helped get us into routine I think! My next baby (hopefully), I’m having no visitors for at least two weeks. It was exhausting having so many people coming in when you’ve had zero sleep! 😰 xx
Feeding on demand is the absolute right thing to do. It’s okay not to have a routine, it’s okay to be a mess. It’s okay to not be sure and to just follow your intuition and your baby’s cues. It’s okay to be close to her all the time. It’s all okay Ebony! Coming from a pediatric nurse and a mom of 2 ♥️. Love you.
I love how honest and real you are😩 I’m not a mum and won’t be for some time, but watching your videos are such a good insight into what parenthood is, well done hun xx
Please don't be worried about what other people say they do with their kids. Do what suits you, David & Daisy. What other people think isn't relevant. whats important is you're parenting how you want to, don't let others tell you anything different :) you'll get the hang of it soon x
Love the honesty! I’ve never had a baby but I think it’s important to know about this sort of stuff that isn’t really talked about ! I don’t want no surprises 😂
I totally understand you asking visitors to take a step back. More so after Daisy taken ill. You are well within your right to do so. When my two were babies, my in laws would visit and go to pick my babies up with their outdoor coat out (I had a September baby and a March baby, so was cool outside) I hated them doing that and had to say something. You and David enjoy the early stage, she has a lifetime to be shown to family and friends. Those that matter don’t mind and those that mind don’t matter. xx
Such a sweet family! I'm expecting my third very soon now and have been searching out birth stories to occupy myself through all these Braxton hicks and heartburn lol. Thanks for sharing with the world.
Baby is ment to stay next to you in your room for the first 6months so don’t worry about that, and she’s only 4weeks old I would not worry about a routine just yet, my little man has just turned 16weeks and he feeds on demand in the day has a last feed around 10.30pm and sleeps until 5am/6am it all falls into place eventually. Mine also settles better with dad but will settle with me eventually it’s just quicker with him but he held him first when he was born and for a good long time and gave him his first feed as I lost a lot of blood and needed a lot of stitches inside and out so they was busy with me for a good long time before I got to cuddle so I think that’s why,he got dads smell first and finds him comforting. Im a mum of 3 btw. xx
I love that you are so open about your pregnancy! I can’t wait until I have a child (even though that will still be a while from now haha) but I’ve always been scared about everything that happens during and after pregnancy and not many people are so open about the reality’s of it. You and David have both been so strong through this and it’s so lovely to watch you grow as parents and have your own wee family ☺️
Totally understandable you guys dont have a routine for daisy just yet. When I had my first baby she had colic which meant she had bad wind and would cry from about 5pm-11pm every day. It was extremely stressful for me and my partner and we didn't even think about setting a routine at that point in time. Make things worse when she was about 3 weeks old she caught a viral infection and was in the hospital for about 3 days. Was a complete nightmare! She was so unsettled to the point where I just felt so helpless and when we went home it didn't get any better up until she was about 3 months old. What a hard time that was but now she is 2 she is in a routine and happy as ever. I am now pregnant with my 2nd and i dont know but i think I will be ok this time round. I feel so much more relaxed and feel it will be much easier as I already know what I'm doing. You are doing an amazing Job keep up the good work . Every stage is a learning curb. Godbless !
We’ve personally never had a routine with either of our boys. Even now they’re 5 and 7 we still don’t. Personally I like it. When my eldest was born I was given the EASY care routine or something to follow which tells you when to feed, when to put them down etc and I hated it! I breast fed on demand, and just picked them up whenever. Sometimes I would sit for hours just holding them sleep. I wasted much of my time but I’m so glad I wasn’t stressed about following a routine or constantly click watching. I just wanted to be close to them whenever I wanted not when the routine allowed it!
I looooove these videos so much!! I would happily watch any video you post talking about pregnancy/labour/being a mum because I love seeing how happy you are and I find the videos really interesting. I'm sooo happy that you're in such a good place, I hope in a few years I'll be at the same stage in life as you are now. I wish you, David and Daisy all the best!! Can't wait for your next video. P.S. Daisy is the cutest little baby I've ever seen. :) xxx
so not rude, in the netherlands it is completely normal to not have any visitors the first 2 weeks postpartum. You english people are too polite :P (my hubby is from Sheffield) Take your time its your life and your baby every body will understand xx
Thank you so much for making this HONEST video Ebony people do not talk about it enough and it is so important. Loads of love to you all keeping going amazing mumma xxxx
I can’t stand family/friends coming constantly when you have a new baby. Of course family and friends are gonna want to see the baby. However, I think it’s quite rude for family/friends to come over 4+ plus times a week in the beginning for hours on end. If they were here helping with the house or getting a routine down that would be different. In my experience some family would want to come over 4+ times a week for 5 hours at a time. They would disregard feeding and nap times... Then expected us to visit when stuff needs done or you just want to be napping. That kinda of thing makes it really hard on Mom, Dad, and baby. With my second baby I’m gonna be super stick with letting people come over to see the baby etc. I’m also feeding and putting the baby down when it’s the right time regardless of who’s here and if it hurts there feelings. Getting a routine those first few weeks is hard without people not considering your feelings and what’s best for baby.
Thank you so much for sharing this with us. Normalising how the body changes post pregnancy is so important because most people are so uneducated. Love you guys 💕
Love this I was not told what to expect after birth and it was a shock! I found my baby wouldn’t settle on me either as I breastfed and I’m sure it was because he could smell my milk so don’t be too worried! Also I was advised to keep my baby in our room for the first 6 months because it reduces to risk of SIDS as they follow your breathing pattern or something but you’re doing a great job and daisy is a beautiful little girl sending lots of love 💗
Ebony I love so much your honesty and your spontaneous way of being...you are also really funny!! Thank you for sharing your beautiful adventure with us! Lovely greetings from Italy
Girl don’t even worry about a routine right now. Our little girl is 2 months and her pediatrician said that she’s not even able to understand a good routine until around 4 months. I hope that eases your mind :) right now we’re on baby’s routine.
My dad always comments on how many visitors they had when they had my brother and I (we're fraternal twins). So believe me, you're not alone in how you feel about the visits. I bet it's a common occurrence, something lots of people think and feel too
Thank you for being so brave and honest! You guys are doing great together, I can even hear someone (probably David) singing to Daisy when che cried at the background. 😍
I haven’t had a baby yet, I’m currently having fertility issues and going through a lot. But I just wanted to add that when it comes to visitors after I have a baby, it will only be mine and my husbands parents allowed over and that’s it until I’m ready. I will have gone through so much and also after everything Ive went through to have a baby I need that special first while alone as a close family! And if that seems selfish well I don’t really care! :)
I love your videos! :) Your always so honest and make me laugh, Daisy is so so cute and you guys are doing an amazing job :) my son was also lifting his head the day he was born :). I always would count theyre windy smiles too haha :), my son is still in my room over a year old as its just easier for when he wakes up in the night and otherwise he would wake his brothers up. I found the same with my breast fed babies that they settled not as well on me at first they only wanted me for boob and would only cry for it on me, but like you've said it got better after a while my boys are such mummy boys :) You guys are amazing parents and are such a lovely family :)
Sorry I'm commenting again haha! It's recommended that a baby doesn't sleep in their own room until 6 months because your breathing actually regulates theirs. I'm not sure if you know that so wanted to say. Obviously it's completely personal choice though!! As for the paranoia at nighttime.. PLEASE invest in an angelcare monitor! I was so anxious with my son, I was checking him constantly during the night. I bought a monitor when my daughter was born (it goes under the mattress and basically sounds an alarm if baby stops breathing) and it has been an absolute god send! I sleep so much better this time around and I wouldn't be without it!! Highly recommend!!
I so wish I knew you in person... I’ve just had my first baby (born on Christmas Day) and everything you’ve said is so relatable it’s crazy! I wish you could be my mummy friend! :) you go Mumma, it sounds like you are doing an amazing job! xxx
love these updates, more please :D and you're doing so well, I love despite all the negative things you still love being a mom. Can you make a video on what you expected and the reality of things on all levels like baby wise, how you feel etc? Like I know some ladies who didn't really feel a connection with their baby after birth like they expected to, got very tired of doing mommy things etc. How do you feel about being a mother? What about David? :)
You can get a kind of sock that you put on her when she sleeps that shows her level of oxygen. It connects to your phone and an alarm goes of if theres something wrong. Maybe that can help him relax a bit.
Hi girly! Iv been following your account sense the beginning of my pregnancy and it’s been super helpful, I feel like Iv gone through it all with you. I just had my 9lb baby boy January 18th and you just had daisy January 22nd (my birthday) so I can literally relate to everything. It’s my first born, and me and my hubby have been trying to figure everything out as we go. It is the quite the learning experience! Keep being positive 😁
You look amazing despite the tiredness 😊 Your not supposed to put they into their own room till their 6months plus, but the sleepy head is a fab thing as it helps them feel safe and secure as it mimics how they felt in the womb. Keep up the hard work, your doing fab 👍
My best friend had a Baby Shower for her kids 2 weeks AFTER each baby was born.. She said that it was the greatest decision because all the 'guests' just waited until the baby shower to meet the baby instead of each person popping over at any time... It was all done on the day.
This was absolutely beautiful!! You are just a brilliant mum and Daisy is a very lucky little girl to have both you and David as her parents!! Good luck, of course you are going to be great 💜💜
I think we all appreciate the honesty. My little boy is 9 months now snd we still don’t have much if a routine. Hes started ”talking” a little. Goes dada when he wants daddy and boobbii when he wants me, not mum, mama or anything like that, nope, I’m boobie.
No it's not rude of you to say. The last thing I found I needed was a bunch of people constantly around, I needed quiet relaxing time. Think your suggestion of having a one off visiting session is a better idea. You've done really well , well done :-)
I am 8 weeks postpartum and can totally relate to so much of this. Our boy has sort of started a routine at around 6 weeks but we still feed on demand. It is more that he has started doing things on a similar schedule. Have you tried the baby manager app? I have found it really useful to track his sleep and feeding.x
i think you guys are doing a great job! and i love how honest you are. i'm so happy that you guys are doing these videos and you're being completely honest. Daisy is gorgeous, and you are both fab parents. xx
You’re the cutest sweetest mom ever I’m so so happy I found your channel it makes me so happy I’m due oct 3 with my baby girl Naomi I get so so excited when I watch your videos daisy is just a perfect angel omg 💗
I hated guests! I didn't know when I needed a pee or poo so I had to constantly just take myself. You guys are doing great, it will all fall into place xx
P.S the guests can be overwhelming you’re not rude at all. Sleep deprivation and getting over labour is really hard going. Don’t be afraid to put people off, anyone that’s had children will understand! Xx
Katherine Gibson exactly! ☺️
100% agree!
Absolutely.
I'm so happy you're so open about what it is like after giving birth, a lot of mothers (even those with many children) will never talk about this - I think it is such an important topic and something that needs to b discussed. Thank you, it is very much appreciated ❤️
You should try the anglecare baby monitor for Daisy to help with David’s worrying. Basically it’s a mat that goes under Daisy’s mattress that monitors her breathing so David won’t need to worry as the monitor beeps everytime she breathes and alerts you if there is a pause in her breathing or if god forbid she ever stopped breathing xx
I was trying to remember the name of this to suggest it!
Also the owlet sock is great. Its like a little pulse oximeter sock
We have the angel care mat and the little ticking noise is so reassuring! You get used to it after time and just give you peace of mind
I had one, didnt help me relax tho
Jessica Tew yeah I was so used to hearing the beeping that I’d hear it even if the monitor wasn’t on!😂
thank you so much for being honest with us. We don't get much of all that 'real' life here on youtube :D you are such an amazing and honest person to look up to and I love every single one of your videos and vlogs! all the love from germany ♥
we'll always keep it honest, promise :)
I was thinking just that. It's really amazing when we find honest people in here and the fact that they share it with us.. ❤️
Your friends shouldn’t be offended if you let them know that it’s not convenient if you are tired, want to sleep or me time.
The way our bodies are made I’m just in awe at how much we can go through as women.
You look fab.
Savvy Feminist right? I wish I looked like this a month after having my baby boy 🙈
I'm so glad I'm not alone when it came to people visiting... it was just to much for me. I was living with my partner and his dad and step mum so their friends and family were constantly round, his family would just show up and expect to see my daughter let alone hold her. I was trying to recover from an emergency section also. I moved out 3 months later because I just couldn't do it! Doesn't make you rude, just means you like to adjust x
There are socks you can buy for the baby that monitor oxygen levels and will tell you if the oxygen levels of the baby are low. You definitely shouldn't depend on them 100% but it can help new parents get ease of mind when the baby is sleeping. I heard of them on some other channel. I wish I remembered their name but if David was interested, I'm sure he could find them online!
swimgirl24 it’s called the Owlet (sp?)
Yes the owlet sleep sock. Their are many sleep monitors you can get to monitor your babies breathing. Lavana makes a diaper clip and Angel care has a mat you can put under your babies mattress. S.i.d.s is still a very real and terrifying thing. Definitely something to look into.
i love how real these videos are - so many people sugar-coat pregnancy and i think that can sometimes take away from just how amazing it is xx
im loving how frequent these videos are because i love you guyss
MEGAN yesss! Me too!
OMG! You are speaking exactly what my husband & I are feeling! Totally not rude! We’ve said it everyday since our son was born, 3 weeks ago, that we just want people to wait. I would just think that people would try to be somewhat considerate of what had just happened, and give you sometime to rest. People wanted to come over to our house the day we came home from the hospital and I had to tell them no. With two other children, it was hectic when we came home anyways. We’ve only aloud 3 visitors so far, specially with the sicknesses going around. Your feelings are very justified!
Yes feed on demand. Listen to your baby. Don’t stress or compare to what you hear. You’re doing fantastic. And your so refreshing. This is motherhood it’s so tough but just cuddle and hold her as much as you can before she grows oh so fast. I let mine sleep on me for every nap and he co slept with me or my partner for 4 months. Rocked him to sleep until 8 then one day he just didn’t want me there and started to sleep by himself when I left the room peacefully. He never had to cry when he started to self settle, we just listened to his needs. So in my opinion, don’t push anything just do exactly what you’re doing and just listen to when they need something. Good luck ! Love following your journey 😘
Angelcare has a baby monitor that has a sensor pad under baby's mattress that monitors their movement and breathing, and an alarm goes off if they don't breathe for 20 seconds, maybe you (or David really 😂) need something like that!
Well done with little Daisy, you two are doing so well! And thank you for keeping your videos so honest and real, I think everyone appreciates it!!
I love how honest you are, I feel like this is the stuff im going to need to know when I eventually have children, I don't want the nice stuff all the time, the complications, the gross stuff, the hard times, this is what we need to know, and I thank you for that and your little family is beautiful! ❤❤
I was in labor for 42 hours with my first and had to have an episiotomy the recovery was awful i lost control of my bladder 🙈 i had to sit on a rubber ring 😅 to ease the pain, I’ve watched so many of your videos and your both doing a great job! I have 2 children now and i’m still trying to get into a routine 🙂 x
I have an 8week old baby girl. Absolutely agree with you on the visitors. Last thing you wanna do is get dressed and entertain. The only ppl I wanted to see were my sister's, mum and best friend. Agree also about lack of info on the after pains. Thanks for the honesty and for keeping it real.
please do a two month update. its really nice to see insights of what its actually like to be a mum. p.s. i love your videos, only recently found your channel and glad i did, your little family are the sweetest!💓
Don’t feel pressured into getting her into routine! She’s still a newborn and just wants feeds/attention on demand so don’t feel bad about that. I started inputting a routine with my daughter when she was about 8 weeks, which is still quite early but we just felt she was ready for it. You guys seem like you’re doing amazing! x
I love you and daisy can’t wait until she is older and gets a personality and walks around with Tilly
My baby girl was born on 24th Jan and I have been really enjoying listening to Giovanna fletchers podcast during the night time feeds. I would particularly recommend the one with Clemmie Hooper where they discuss managing visitors in the early weeks. It can be totally overwhelming I agree. You are doing amazingly with all the added stress you have had especially. Big love xxx
I absolutely love how honest you are in this, some people don’t let on how tough/gross experiences can be but I seriously appreciate your truthfulness!! 💘💖
There's a lot of info on the lullaby trust website about babies sleeping on there own/own room.
One of the topics covered in my antenatal classes was actually about visitors in the days after birth. It wasn't till then I realised how much a problem this can be! I'm hoping for myself people come around then leave us be for a while and won't be offended. Breast feeding can be such a struggle I don't want to be worrying about people turning up.
Nobody's ever told me about losing control of bowels. Thank you for being honest and open about that!!
Yous are doing fab and the honesty is much appreciated not all new parents get in a routine straight away. Much love x
I LOVE how positive and honest you are. You go through such difficult and traumatic things and you still always manage to be super positive. I think that's sooo inspiring and you are so strong! I saw that David loved the book "live in the now" by eckhart tolle, so if he is into spiritual stuff maybe reading something like "the universe has your back" by Gabby Bernstein would be good too! The reason I'm saying this is because he is so scared that Daisy is not breathing, it might helped to know the universe is always has your back and if you choose love, and have faith that everything will always be okay maybe he won't feel that fear as much!
Love your honesty!! You are doing a great job with Daisy! Can i recommend some stuff??
1) a monitor to go under Daisys mattress which keeps and eye on her breathing so David doesn't have to worry
2) As she starts to get older, start tummy time with Daisy to encourage her core strength
3) Look out for some baby massage/relaxing classes that you and Daisy can go to. You may learn techniques that will settle her when she is grizzly!
Great job guys x
Totally agree about people coming over. We had our baby last June and spent all of my husbands two weeks paternity leave just waiting in for everyone to come and meet him. It was a waste of his time off and really wish we had taken some time to ourselves to get to know each other as a family of three. It’s difficult because is excited but we’ll do it different,y with our second! Love your honesty xx
Its just so amazing how honest you are!!!!we need more honest and positive people like you in our life :)
I love how honest you are! I'm sure you will help so many women feel that they're not alone.
Might be strange to say but I am so pleased you talked about poo! I am six weeks postpartum and was saying to my husband the other day how nobody ever told me how different pooing is after birth!! Thanks so much for being so honest :) xxx
Congratulations on the baby! I’m exactly the same as your partner being worried that baby is not breathing. We got the angel care sensor Matt & it’s been a game changer xx
We had the same thing with friends and family over constantly , when we had our first two children.it was exhausting.
I’m currently 37 weeks 1 day pregnant, we have already said we would like some time too ourselves for the first week or so.
That’s why it’s hard to get a routine, people in and out of your house all the time and off course eating cuddles with the baby.
Your doing a great job and you are so lovely. Good luck in the future. X
Was supposed to say wanting cuddles.
Ebony you being Soo honest is a gift to other women! I had my son at 19 and I knew nothing about what happens from delivery and after I was scared and shocked at how much we go thru for the like first month! I'm 45 now and to this day women still don't talk about it! You are helping Soo many by telling this! ❤❤❤
It's so nice to see how happy and relaxed u are and how much you're enjoying it. Stay like that! I was a terrible FTM, so stressed about routine and not wanting to get into bad habits that I didn't enjoy a single thing and cried all the time.
It took me until my third baby until I put my foot down and said guests were on my terms when I was ready. We had several days to bond until I was "ok" - then we would allow 1 or 2 per day, when we felt up to it and it was perfect for us!
I love the honesty. I am just under two weeks in with my own baby girl and she also settles so much better with her daddy than me because he doesn’t smell like milk. This has improved for us in the last couple of days but only because she is now combination fed (for health reasons) and not exclusively breast fed. As for sleeping - recommendation is they stay in your room for at least 6 months or until they can push up onto their hands and knees and sit unaided (at which point the Moses basket is no longer deemed safe).
I would love monthly update I'm 36 weeks pregnant with my first baby and these help me alot and I really value how honest you are I don't feel like I'm watching a bs update like I do with some other people
My son still doesn't have a routine and he's 4 months old so don't worry about it :) at a month old she's still establishing her feeds and cluster feeding - it'll all come into place as time goes on x
thank you so much for the reassurance :) xx
I absolutely adore your little family and I think it’s amazing that you are so open about things, it’s all human nature and it’s nice to hear someone actually speak about it. I don’t have kids yet and I’m not pregnant but I can imagine this will be so much help for future mums! Can’t wait for more updates! Love and hugs to you all!
Congratulations and welcome Daisy! My son arrived arrived a day before your wee beauty 💕 we have a miniscule routine in that he usually goes for a long 3 hour nap around 1 or 2 in the afternoon and then he's a wee grumpus again around 10pm so I try to settle him in his Chicco crib. I Absolutely agree with you on visitors: I struggled to get River latched and found visitors to be so stressful. When all I wanted to do was to sit with my boobs out! We opted to have 1 family day where extended family and friends could come for cuddles. Before then only very close family and close friends were allowed over. You're doing great lovely! Xx
My little one is 18 weeks now - I only managed to breastfeed for the first 6 weeks but during that time he was exactly the same in that he only settled with my other half! He could definitely smell my milk and just wanted to feed every time I held him. I found it quite frustrating at first, but in hindsight it was quite nice for him to have some bonding time with his daddy - with breastfeeding there isn’t a huge amount that he could do to help! Being a mum is so awesome! There is definitely no better feeling!
My nephew got a routine about 5 months in. This is my sisters first kid and she made sure herself and anyone watching him attempted to keep the same routine on a daily basis to get him adapted to it.
Hi Ebony just to say current SIDS guidelines are that baby should sleep in the same room as you (including naps) for the first 6 months so please don't feel like you should be putting her in her own room. Also 1 month is way too soon for a routine, just enjoy her whilst she's so little!
I remember feeling overwhelmed with guests for our first baby. The day we came home from the hospital 2 of my sisters were already at our house. Then we had a midwife visit and other family members arrived, it was chaotic. But when we had our second child it seemed like no one bothered to show up, it was a little sad. So enjoy this first baby attention, soak it all up. You're doing a great job ☺️
I love your vlogs and really appreciate your willingness to share. If David ever sneaks in to see Daisy sleep he should use a mirror to check her breath if he can't help himself. Peaceful mind for dad and peaceful sleep for Daisy.
Nooo. My daughter had no recognisable routine until 5 months! She’d go through little stints of routine for a few days but not until 5 months did she start settling for naps at regular times! Weaning helped get us into routine I think! My next baby (hopefully), I’m having no visitors for at least two weeks. It was exhausting having so many people coming in when you’ve had zero sleep! 😰 xx
Feeding on demand is the absolute right thing to do. It’s okay not to have a routine, it’s okay to be a mess. It’s okay to not be sure and to just follow your intuition and your baby’s cues. It’s okay to be close to her all the time. It’s all okay Ebony! Coming from a pediatric nurse and a mom of 2 ♥️. Love you.
You are looking so beautiful! Daisy is so lucky to have such a kind & happy mumma!!
I love how honest and real you are😩 I’m not a mum and won’t be for some time, but watching your videos are such a good insight into what parenthood is, well done hun xx
How amazing does Ebony look after having a baby 😱😍
Lexie Blyth right?! Just commented that!
Please don't be worried about what other people say they do with their kids. Do what suits you, David & Daisy. What other people think isn't relevant. whats important is you're parenting how you want to, don't let others tell you anything different :) you'll get the hang of it soon x
You are a delightful girl. So honest and down to earth. Love watching your little family. God bless you.
no routine and nearly 8 weeks
Love the honesty! I’ve never had a baby but I think it’s important to know about this sort of stuff that isn’t really talked about ! I don’t want no surprises 😂
I totally understand you asking visitors to take a step back. More so after Daisy taken ill. You are well within your right to do so. When my two were babies, my in laws would visit and go to pick my babies up with their outdoor coat out (I had a September baby and a March baby, so was cool outside) I hated them doing that and had to say something. You and David enjoy the early stage, she has a lifetime to be shown to family and friends. Those that matter don’t mind and those that mind don’t matter. xx
Such a sweet family! I'm expecting my third very soon now and have been searching out birth stories to occupy myself through all these Braxton hicks and heartburn lol. Thanks for sharing with the world.
I love how honest you are and how real life you are it’s amazing and don’t worry you won’t be in a good routine with a newborn yet ❤️
Baby is ment to stay next to you in your room for the first 6months so don’t worry about that, and she’s only 4weeks old I would not worry about a routine just yet, my little man has just turned 16weeks and he feeds on demand in the day has a last feed around 10.30pm and sleeps until 5am/6am it all falls into place eventually. Mine also settles better with dad but will settle with me eventually it’s just quicker with him but he held him first when he was born and for a good long time and gave him his first feed as I lost a lot of blood and needed a lot of stitches inside and out so they was busy with me for a good long time before I got to cuddle so I think that’s why,he got dads smell first and finds him comforting. Im a mum of 3 btw. xx
Loved the honesty Ebony! So refreshing on RUclips, you’re doing amazing and your family are gorgeous xxx
I love that you are so open about your pregnancy! I can’t wait until I have a child (even though that will still be a while from now haha) but I’ve always been scared about everything that happens during and after pregnancy and not many people are so open about the reality’s of it. You and David have both been so strong through this and it’s so lovely to watch you grow as parents and have your own wee family ☺️
Completely relatable. We didn't see anyone properly for babies first month and even after that we don't see them every day x
Totally understandable you guys dont have a routine for daisy just yet. When I had my first baby she had colic which meant she had bad wind and would cry from about 5pm-11pm every day. It was extremely stressful for me and my partner and we didn't even think about setting a routine at that point in time. Make things worse when she was about 3 weeks old she caught a viral infection and was in the hospital for about 3 days. Was a complete nightmare! She was so unsettled to the point where I just felt so helpless and when we went home it didn't get any better up until she was about 3 months old. What a hard time that was but now she is 2 she is in a routine and happy as ever. I am now pregnant with my 2nd and i dont know but i think I will be ok this time round. I feel so much more relaxed and feel it will be much easier as I already know what I'm doing. You are doing an amazing Job keep up the good work . Every stage is a learning curb. Godbless !
We’ve personally never had a routine with either of our boys. Even now they’re 5 and 7 we still don’t. Personally I like it. When my eldest was born I was given the EASY care routine or something to follow which tells you when to feed, when to put them down etc and I hated it! I breast fed on demand, and just picked them up whenever. Sometimes I would sit for hours just holding them sleep. I wasted much of my time but I’m so glad I wasn’t stressed about following a routine or constantly click watching. I just wanted to be close to them whenever I wanted not when the routine allowed it!
Just had my baby boy today via emergency c-section and this has got me through the night so THANK YOU! 😍👶🏼
I looooove these videos so much!! I would happily watch any video you post talking about pregnancy/labour/being a mum because I love seeing how happy you are and I find the videos really interesting. I'm sooo happy that you're in such a good place, I hope in a few years I'll be at the same stage in life as you are now. I wish you, David and Daisy all the best!! Can't wait for your next video.
P.S. Daisy is the cutest little baby I've ever seen. :) xxx
so not rude, in the netherlands it is completely normal to not have any visitors the first 2 weeks postpartum. You english people are too polite :P (my hubby is from Sheffield) Take your time its your life and your baby every body will understand xx
Thank you so much for making this HONEST video Ebony people do not talk about it enough and it is so important. Loads of love to you all keeping going amazing mumma xxxx
I can’t stand family/friends coming constantly when you have a new baby. Of course family and friends are gonna want to see the baby. However, I think it’s quite rude for family/friends to come over 4+ plus times a week in the beginning for hours on end. If they were here helping with the house or getting a routine down that would be different. In my experience some family would want to come over 4+ times a week for 5 hours at a time. They would disregard feeding and nap times... Then expected us to visit when stuff needs done or you just want to be napping. That kinda of thing makes it really hard on Mom, Dad, and baby. With my second baby I’m gonna be super stick with letting people come over to see the baby etc. I’m also feeding and putting the baby down when it’s the right time regardless of who’s here and if it hurts there feelings. Getting a routine those first few weeks is hard without people not considering your feelings and what’s best for baby.
What a refreshing dose of honesty! :) I am so glad I stumbled upon your channel a few months back.
Thank you so much for sharing this with us. Normalising how the body changes post pregnancy is so important because most people are so uneducated. Love you guys 💕
Your lipstick is beautiful 😍
I agree!
I totally agree. Ebony what lipstick are you wearing please?
I’m obsessed with your hair and makeup! Being a momma looks great on you 💕
Love this I was not told what to expect after birth and it was a shock! I found my baby wouldn’t settle on me either as I breastfed and I’m sure it was because he could smell my milk so don’t be too worried! Also I was advised to keep my baby in our room for the first 6 months because it reduces to risk of SIDS as they follow your breathing pattern or something but you’re doing a great job and daisy is a beautiful little girl sending lots of love 💗
Ebony I love so much your honesty and your spontaneous way of being...you are also really funny!! Thank you for sharing your beautiful adventure with us! Lovely greetings from Italy
I would really enjoy monthly updates on how things are going with you.
Girl don’t even worry about a routine right now. Our little girl is 2 months and her pediatrician said that she’s not even able to understand a good routine until around 4 months. I hope that eases your mind :) right now we’re on baby’s routine.
My dad always comments on how many visitors they had when they had my brother and I (we're fraternal twins). So believe me, you're not alone in how you feel about the visits. I bet it's a common occurrence, something lots of people think and feel too
Thank you for being so brave and honest! You guys are doing great together, I can even hear someone (probably David) singing to Daisy when che cried at the background. 😍
I haven’t had a baby yet, I’m currently having fertility issues and going through a lot. But I just wanted to add that when it comes to visitors after I have a baby, it will only be mine and my husbands parents allowed over and that’s it until I’m ready. I will have gone through so much and also after everything Ive went through to have a baby I need that special first while alone as a close family! And if that seems selfish well I don’t really care! :)
I love your videos! :) Your always so honest and make me laugh, Daisy is so so cute and you guys are doing an amazing job :) my son was also lifting his head the day he was born :). I always would count theyre windy smiles too haha :), my son is still in my room over a year old as its just easier for when he wakes up in the night and otherwise he would wake his brothers up. I found the same with my breast fed babies that they settled not as well on me at first they only wanted me for boob and would only cry for it on me, but like you've said it got better after a while my boys are such mummy boys :) You guys are amazing parents and are such a lovely family :)
Sorry I'm commenting again haha! It's recommended that a baby doesn't sleep in their own room until 6 months because your breathing actually regulates theirs. I'm not sure if you know that so wanted to say. Obviously it's completely personal choice though!! As for the paranoia at nighttime.. PLEASE invest in an angelcare monitor! I was so anxious with my son, I was checking him constantly during the night. I bought a monitor when my daughter was born (it goes under the mattress and basically sounds an alarm if baby stops breathing) and it has been an absolute god send! I sleep so much better this time around and I wouldn't be without it!! Highly recommend!!
Amy 1103 glad u Said that i forgot to Say on my Post 😂
I second both these things!
I so wish I knew you in person... I’ve just had my first baby (born on Christmas Day) and everything you’ve said is so relatable it’s crazy! I wish you could be my mummy friend! :) you go Mumma, it sounds like you are doing an amazing job! xxx
love these updates, more please :D and you're doing so well, I love despite all the negative things you still love being a mom. Can you make a video on what you expected and the reality of things on all levels like baby wise, how you feel etc? Like I know some ladies who didn't really feel a connection with their baby after birth like they expected to, got very tired of doing mommy things etc. How do you feel about being a mother? What about David? :)
You can get a kind of sock that you put on her when she sleeps that shows her level of oxygen. It connects to your phone and an alarm goes of if theres something wrong. Maybe that can help him relax a bit.
I love your new hair? Can I ask what colouring you had done? Hope Daisy and David are well xxx
Hi girly! Iv been following your account sense the beginning of my pregnancy and it’s been super helpful, I feel like Iv gone through it all with you. I just had my 9lb baby boy January 18th and you just had daisy January 22nd (my birthday) so I can literally relate to everything. It’s my first born, and me and my hubby have been trying to figure everything out as we go. It is the quite the learning experience! Keep being positive 😁
I'm wondering if everything down there has gotten better? Is it like it was before or are there any changes?
Well done ebony you’re doing great and I think it’s wonderful that you’re talking about these things that can happen and do get better with time
Check out the owlet baby sock monitor. It monitors the baby's heart rate and oxygen levels. You can find them on Amazon.
I love your videos! And that you’re so honest with everything! You guys are such a cute family and I enjoy following you in every step
You look amazing despite the tiredness 😊 Your not supposed to put they into their own room till their 6months plus, but the sleepy head is a fab thing as it helps them feel safe and secure as it mimics how they felt in the womb. Keep up the hard work, your doing fab 👍
My best friend had a Baby Shower for her kids 2 weeks AFTER each baby was born.. She said that it was the greatest decision because all the 'guests' just waited until the baby shower to meet the baby instead of each person popping over at any time... It was all done on the day.
This was absolutely beautiful!! You are just a brilliant mum and Daisy is a very lucky little girl to have both you and David as her parents!! Good luck, of course you are going to be great 💜💜
I think we all appreciate the honesty. My little boy is 9 months now snd we still don’t have much if a routine. Hes started ”talking” a little. Goes dada when he wants daddy and boobbii when he wants me, not mum, mama or anything like that, nope, I’m boobie.
I love this video!
No it's not rude of you to say. The last thing I found I needed was a bunch of people constantly around, I needed quiet relaxing time. Think your suggestion of having a one off visiting session is a better idea. You've done really well , well done :-)
This video made me smile so hard. Thank you for being so honest and relatable 💕 being a mom is embarrassingly comical
I am 8 weeks postpartum and can totally relate to so much of this. Our boy has sort of started a routine at around 6 weeks but we still feed on demand. It is more that he has started doing things on a similar schedule. Have you tried the baby manager app? I have found it really useful to track his sleep and feeding.x
How could I forget..and poo as well! Haha. Happy parenting x
Did anyone else hear David singing to Daisy towards the end of the video!? 💖☺️🌼 so cute! You are both doing so well, such amazing parents!
i think you guys are doing a great job! and i love how honest you are. i'm so happy that you guys are doing these videos and you're being completely honest. Daisy is gorgeous, and you are both fab parents. xx
You’re the cutest sweetest mom ever I’m so so happy I found your channel it makes me so happy I’m due oct 3 with my baby girl Naomi I get so so excited when I watch your videos daisy is just a perfect angel omg 💗
I hated guests! I didn't know when I needed a pee or poo so I had to constantly just take myself. You guys are doing great, it will all fall into place xx
Also NHS say to keep them in your room till they are at least 6 months old. Far safer xx