The Blessing and Curse of the 16 Personalities

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  • Опубликовано: 25 ноя 2024

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  • @AditiSingh-ie6fy
    @AditiSingh-ie6fy 2 года назад +345

    0:04 ESTP & ESFP
    1:47 ISTP & INTP
    3:36 INFJ & INTJ
    5:49 ENFJ & ESFJ
    7:16 ENTP & ENFP
    9:17 ENTJ & ESTJ
    10:53 ISFP & INFP
    12:44 ISFJ & ISTJ
    -INTP

  • @Catherinzsl
    @Catherinzsl 2 года назад +453

    This channel is a blessing for INTPs.

    • @kgv5179
      @kgv5179 2 года назад +36

      Same here for infj, bro UNDERSTANDS us

    • @readerofareader
      @readerofareader 2 года назад +18

      He opened a box that we never knew existed

    • @Zevven
      @Zevven 2 года назад +19

      Well, Nathan is INTP himself

    • @kgv5179
      @kgv5179 2 года назад +6

      @@Zevven no he isn't

    • @readerofareader
      @readerofareader 2 года назад +6

      @@kgv5179 oh? what do you think is his mbti?

  • @ilke3192
    @ilke3192 2 года назад +123

    I love how INTP description reminds me of that scene where Moriarty says "That's your weakness, you always want everything to be clever." to Sherlock. Spot on

    • @Magihyun
      @Magihyun 2 года назад +6

      Sherlock uses Ni, Ne, Ti, Te, Si, Se and Fi. The only function he doesn't show preference for throughout the series is Fe - aka he has no clue what is social harmony and why is it important.

    • @ilke3192
      @ilke3192 2 года назад +2

      @@Magihyun his use of fi is reminiscent of intps deamon mode, though. He behaves like an immature isfp when he employs fi. Through the end of the series, he learns to connect with others on an emotional level, to understand their feelings which is delevoping Fe inf.

  • @johnknight9150
    @johnknight9150 2 года назад +168

    I'm glad you mentioned the potential scientific side of ISFPs and INFPs. As an INTJ, I found INFPs are particularly interesting to talk to regarding the sciences, and are probably the type I am most likely to be in conversation with for hours.

    • @kavya914
      @kavya914 2 года назад +11

      😊
      -infp

    • @puzzlepiece2502
      @puzzlepiece2502 2 года назад +7

      Probably part of the reason why my best friend is an INTJ. The conversations get interesting if not too much and tread on the edge of weird. Still great tho.
      -INFP

    • @yhalou4526
      @yhalou4526 2 года назад +5

      Infp is a curious eager learner😍.

    • @louisejoel
      @louisejoel 2 года назад +2

      "science" follows the money these days

    • @johnknight9150
      @johnknight9150 2 года назад

      @@louisejoel And highly susceptible people (ie. morons) get their information from social media and the internet. Never mind your degree, you haven't seen what I've seen on Facebook! (I am one of the lizard people though, we work out of Hillary Clinton's pizza basement for the lamestream media).

  • @dripstein6130
    @dripstein6130 2 года назад +19

    Existence as a whole for ENTPs is a blessing and a curse 😭

  • @Fikamar27
    @Fikamar27 2 года назад +51

    The INFP is close to home. Today I watch at least 3 horrible news about crimes toward children... yet at the same time neighbor's chicken started to be more friendly to me when I go outside. It feels both blessing and cursed, when both positive and negative intense emotion strike at same time

    • @sibestfunction4400
      @sibestfunction4400 2 года назад +2

      this feels so relatable as an Fi…

    • @sibestfunction4400
      @sibestfunction4400 2 года назад +2

      why do we torture ourselves with the crimes against children crap???

    • @fork7809
      @fork7809 2 года назад +4

      I know, right?!!!
      I was so upset today because of some unpleasant accident that happened with someone I know, but like... today sunset was soooo pretty.... I even cried a bit ngl (that was just a bit embarassing lol).
      It is a blessing when you're at the good place in your life, but when things go off-rails you're just digging yourself a deeeep grave

    • @bonecag3
      @bonecag3 2 года назад +1

      literally this. I experience this on almost a daily basis and it’s both draining and beautiful in a way

    • @allweneedislove965
      @allweneedislove965 Год назад +1

      It's all about feelings😌

  • @Multitudes_
    @Multitudes_ 2 года назад +59

    Very true about the artistry of IxFPs being more of a mindset and not limited to literally making art. Being an artist by nature is a whole way of being, seeing, and living that permeates all of life and can be applied to anything.
    As for the blessing and curse thing, I would say the most obvious one for me has been sensitivity and being very in touch with my feelings, which is related to what you said but also broader. Inevitably, it makes you more deeply affected by everything, for better or worse, and there are many gifts this can bring but also many challenges, especially if you grow up or find yourself in a harmful environment.
    It's important to me to never numb or stunt myself emotionally but also to be strong and resilient, and that can be a difficult balance to strike. For me that has mostly been achieved through very good mental and physical self-care, creating a nurturing environment and life for myself, and minimizing harmful people/things in my life, or in some cases understanding them to the point where they can't really hurt me anymore (e.g., understanding where the toxicity of toxic people comes from and how it isn't personal).

    • @kavya914
      @kavya914 2 года назад +6

      Yesss...
      I stand by this 100%.
      - infp

  • @fortune_roses
    @fortune_roses 2 года назад +11

    INTJ who plans *too much.* TOO MUCH, even though I'm well aware @__@

    • @talyahfeigenbaum9486
      @talyahfeigenbaum9486 2 года назад +1

      Yeah... Same here. Years in advance...

    • @cihiiii6447
      @cihiiii6447 2 года назад +4

      It's always better to be prepared I also prepare for the possibility of not being prepared for something.😃

    • @Dsay_Diablo_27s
      @Dsay_Diablo_27s Год назад +1

      I sometimes hate living cause I know roughly 90 percent of what will happen tomorrow or day after that
      Or whole year
      ~infj jumper

  • @Christina-CA
    @Christina-CA 2 года назад +52

    You absolutely nailed this. An INFJ - I plan and prepare for work presentations in advance because it eases my anxiety and helps me to ensure I cover all the material I need to. When someone derails my plan and I need to act in the moment or the group goes in a different direction, it causes WAY more distess than it should. Secretly I just want everything to go according to plan so I won't freeze and stumble presenting.

  • @zeye-_-
    @zeye-_- 2 года назад +22

    No seriously bc as an ISTP, when something or even someone can't be broken down in my head in a way that makes sense for me- it's so frustrating. I don't like saying I can't understand something.

    • @zeye-_-
      @zeye-_- 2 года назад +1

      @@thecod2345 and then not being able to accept you're wrong☠️☠️. It just gets worse

    • @yourplaylist4538
      @yourplaylist4538 2 года назад +1

      Lol ik cuz my brother is an istp
      he's like that too

    • @Chigger
      @Chigger 2 года назад +2

      Can you understand why you can't understand?
      -ENFP

    • @zeye-_-
      @zeye-_- 2 года назад +2

      @@Chigger I don’t let my mind wander that far

    • @Multitudes_
      @Multitudes_ 2 года назад +5

      @@zeye-_- Wow, what a perfect little Ne-dom + Ne-blindspot exchange

  • @marcellava
    @marcellava 2 года назад +45

    My very xSxJ filled family giving me advice: “Curiosity killed the cat”
    An older xNxP family friend: “But do you know the second part, of what happened to the cat soon after? Reward and satisfaction brought it back”
    We may ask questions that’ll get us into trouble here and there from time to time, but one false step does not deter us from our curiosities, and in fact _can_ lead to very gratifying results, we just simply learn how to better ask a question
    And that was a mind boggling revelation to me as a kid ~ Enfp

    • @DeborahG1982
      @DeborahG1982 2 года назад +3

      As an INFP I only heard that important second part as an adult, and I remember my grin of discovery lasting for days. Thank you for reminding me, I got the grin back now. :D

  • @moflyz
    @moflyz 2 года назад +4

    “Boundless curiosity” …not me researching how to recycle carpet while watching this video while also thinking of new design ideas and how I’m going to break it to my professor that my topic I set up a class for was an intense curiosity one afternoon the day of class registration, somehow pitched a business idea for, but now am ready to completely divert to a new and better idea that spurred out of it now a month later

    • @lovewho
      @lovewho  2 года назад +3

      I’m happy that this video made it into your collection of eclectic activities! ~ Nathan

  • @thanhheu4129
    @thanhheu4129 2 года назад +15

    As an ISTJ, I'm aware of the 'Incremental Mastery' as Nathan said. But to actually 'pull a trigger, go on a rapid growth', it needs the fundamentals to do that. We Si doms always have to learn the things in advance to actually get into the field and do them. So I just don't get it, like how we can do that ? It's just we always have to refer to the dominant function to do ... pretty much anything, and it's not ... that rapid to actually understand the principle of things.
    But yeah, with given enough time and space, we can be mastery with our stuff. I'm really grateful for my family condition that allows me to grow peacefully. And i'm sure Si doms appreciates their good foundation/condition for their growth... like not much changes, chaos..., and also appreciates their parents, family that have them fostered well.

  • @solarisan_
    @solarisan_ 2 года назад +70

    Having a father who is an opposite type of my own, I have noticed that his way of thinking is more aligned with: If you obey all the rules, you miss all the fun. In contrast, mine is more about recognizing what the rules/boundaries are ahead of time, so then I can find ways to push against the norm and break barriers. Kinda like Picasso's famous quote goes: Learn the rules like a pro, so you can break them like an artist.

    • @jcortese3300
      @jcortese3300 2 года назад +5

      I agree with you -- you don't have to obey ALL of the rules, just the ones that make sense. And if you observe the system, you can often tell where the rules came from and hence which ones make sense and which ones don't.

    • @oakhoax168
      @oakhoax168 2 года назад

      I'm the opposite lol, I am almost incapable of breaking a rule, if I do it's something that sticks with me for awhile, I remember this one time, I went in through the exit door instead of the enter door, and I felt uneasy all day afterwards.

    • @leamubiu
      @leamubiu 2 года назад +1

      So he says “don’t follow all the rules”, and you say “I pick and choose the rules I follow”. I fail to see a contrast or opposition here.

    • @solarisan_
      @solarisan_ 2 года назад +1

      @@leamubiu Not really. His way and mine in regards to rules (for example) are opposite. He prioritizes the engaging and fun part of activities that would offer him a sense of freedom. My mind begins the process from a different standpoint. I have to learn all the rules, question and re-examine them to know which ones are useful and necessary and which ones are not.

    • @solarisan_
      @solarisan_ 2 года назад +1

      @@oakhoax168 That could have been out of fear of external judgement. Did you feel uneasy because you really thought that you have broken a rule that shouldn't be broken or because a certain fear of people assuming things about you in that situation?

  • @JokerCrowe
    @JokerCrowe 2 года назад +9

    INFJ here.
    I understand what you're saying, and I've been trying to get better at being less "planful" in certain ways and with certain events, but like you said; this way of thinking simply makes sense to me.
    I don't _Need_ adventure, and I get this overwhelming feeling that while ESTPs and ESFPs might be able to handle a chaotic, life or death situation with ease, I would most likely mess it up and just... die. Not everyone is suited for "fieldwork" and I accept my role.

    • @Kiwi-np3sy
      @Kiwi-np3sy 2 года назад

      I’m also an INFJ and I relate to what you said

  • @Mirmirsor_Sunback
    @Mirmirsor_Sunback 2 года назад +1

    INFJ married to an INTJ. The number of detailed plans we've made......
    Current obsession: Getting land in Maine and building an off grid monolithic dome house. We've set Zillow alerts to possible land parcels, researched the price of well digging, septic tank installation, solar installation and backup power methods, possible high speed internet, and price of said dome house.
    We've even discussed floor plans, greenhouse space, and what crops to plant in what season to maximize our off-grid-ness.
    All we need is to save up enough money to be sure to afford at least 3x what we estimate it'll cost.
    What? Y'all don't do this?

  • @veritasvanburen_
    @veritasvanburen_ 2 года назад +12

    I’m an ESxP (not sure if F or T) and oh my god that one was SPOT ON. The amount of bad situations I have talked myself out of that I could have just done a bit of preparation to avoid, I feel sooo called out 😂😂

  • @ShalomSimplified
    @ShalomSimplified Год назад +1

    An an ISTP, I fully agree. I actually love people, but... especially when dealing with those with very different worldviews, it gets very frustrating. It's one of the reasons we can be so cruelly blunt. We're trying to knock sense into people. Sometimes, it's just thoughtlessness, but sometimes we're doing it on purpose because people need to be jarred out of their delusions.
    Not that this is the best approach. With most people, it isn't. We probably just need more patience (with people). On the positive side of things, if an ISTP or INTP sees value in this, they can be just as dogged in learning to deal with people as they are in learning anything else.
    And if either of these personalities develops their FE enough to do that, watch out world!

  • @elizabethleach6346
    @elizabethleach6346 2 года назад +3

    As I was listening to your insights "...is not a word" caused a mental tangent about thinking of how every word was at one point not a word. 🤔

    • @lovewho
      @lovewho  2 года назад +2

      I wasn’t prepared for this linguistic crisis… ~ Nathan

    • @elizabethleach6346
      @elizabethleach6346 2 года назад

      @@lovewho It's fun to realize all words are made up 😁

  • @monito3575
    @monito3575 2 года назад +12

    I can confirm that my ESFP father is very confident in his abilities. But his competence gives him the right to be that confident

  • @christophjanssen9324
    @christophjanssen9324 2 года назад +32

    As an INTP who hasnt had the best mental development, that I now attempt to fix, it is so frustrating for me to get into an emotional situation that I cannot yet explain by the biological processes.
    It is so frustrating to not be able to explain something- especially if its something you are supposed to fix!

    • @spiritlevelup1036
      @spiritlevelup1036 2 года назад +4

      Emotions are supposed to be felt with the whole body and allowed to pass naturally, not fixed, not in others, not in oneself. Attempting to fix an emotion is a recipe for disaster.

    • @Multitudes_
      @Multitudes_ 2 года назад +1

      @@spiritlevelup1036 I think he's talking about psychological issues and/or poor emotional development that actually need to be fixed.

    • @christophjanssen9324
      @christophjanssen9324 2 года назад +3

      @@Multitudes_ Yes!
      That is what I meant.
      Not fixing an emotion, but the underlying cause of an emotion that isnt "appropriate" for the situation and isnt a normal reaction that would happen in a healthily developed nervous system. Stuff like extreme anxiety with fight/flight activation in everyday life situations.
      (To explain more for the person above, I think you got the idea of it perfectly.)
      But I see how my first comment can be misunderstood because I wrote something about understanding emotional situations and then fixing it - Which I perhaps shouldve discerned more clearly from another; The emotional situation as a symptom of the wrong goings of my development that I attempt to fix. Instead the last few sentences makes it seem like I am trying to fix the symptom.
      And perhaps I shouldve noted that these "emotional situations" appear to be abnormal from a healthy nervous system.

    • @Multitudes_
      @Multitudes_ 2 года назад +2

      @@christophjanssen9324 Yeah, pathological anxiety doesn't really work like normal emotions and may need to be dealt with in different ways. Often there's a chemical imbalance element that needs to be sorted out. In some cases, something as simple as a nutrient deficiency can actually cause anxiety. And sometimes it's more complicated, but your diet and lifestyle do have a big impact on your brain chemistry, so it's definitely something to try and educate yourself about and get right. Of course, sometimes medication can also help, but IMO that's a last resort and is usually more of a band-aid solution than really addressing the source of the problem. I found it comforting to have some medication prescribed when I had anxiety in case I ever spiraled so badly that I really needed it, but I never actually ended up taking it.
      Another factor in unexplained anxiety can be unresolved trauma or other issues from your upbringing that might cause you to be triggered by relatively harmless things. Which is something that a good therapist could potentially help with.
      Then there's your current life circumstances and whether there are people or things in your life that are overwhelming or chronically stressing you out, which could then spill over to other more harmless things.
      And finally there's your thinking patterns, which can exacerbate anxiety if you have overly negative or unconstructive ones. There are some unhealthy thinking patterns and cognitive distortions that are common in people with anxiety. So that's also something to look into and try and work on (and again a therapist can help with this too, particularly a cognitive behavioral therapist in this case).
      So yeah, this is kind of the main stuff you should be looking at when trying to get anxiety under control. It's really best to try and tackle it from every angle, and you have to be patient because it can take a while to rewire your brain. Things like journaling and meditation can also be helpful, as well as anything that helps relax you and/or cultivate some positive feelings.

    • @christophjanssen9324
      @christophjanssen9324 2 года назад +2

      @@Multitudes_ Thank you for the comment! Its really helpful and kind of you to share your knowledge about the topic at hand.
      I luckily do have a therapist since some months and we talked about some of my issues, recognized a few new ones, I learned some new coping mechanisms and made some life adjustments here and there.
      I still do think that your comment is helpful however, for anyone who will read it and needs help! And to remind me of the possibilities, since I often neglect some areas, especially diet and sports, how stereotypical.
      My first comment was a little too personal and thats why I edited it out now, ye.

  • @EresirThe1st
    @EresirThe1st 2 года назад +5

    It’s true that we Ni doms plan so extensively that there’s bound to be something that ruins it, but I don’t see how abandoning plans is any kind of solution. Sounds like a way to explode from stress to me.

  • @Wrestling_Is_Weird
    @Wrestling_Is_Weird 2 года назад +11

    You got the ESFP spot on. I just gotta power through everything and it'll be fine. And through dumb luck and a little bit of skill, it almost always is.

  • @ceilinh6004
    @ceilinh6004 2 года назад +9

    As an INTP, I found myself also relating to a degree, with the comments about ENTPs/ENFPs. Given that INTPs have Ne as our second function, we also tend to be quite curious individuals. Following this curiosity, I have picked up many hobbies/skills over the years, some of them because my ENFP child initially expressed interest in that topic or pursuit. I do find though, that I am less likely to become bored with my hobbies, or to become bored in general, than these types since, as do many INTPs, I enjoy my comforts and routines.
    One of the things I'm currently learning is how to play DnD. The gradual leveling up and building of skills seems to line up fairly well with the INTP approach to life. The more you learn, and can do (which is to say, the more you level up) the more fun you have with everything. I am having fun.

    • @WCKD.LY44
      @WCKD.LY44 2 года назад +1

      I agree completley I feel like a Jekyll and Hyde situation. On one hand I want everything to be logical and to make sense. By on the other my curiosity and drive to learn thrives off the disorderly. I have so many hobbies its ridicuolus. I'll want to learn something so I'll practice it untill it makes since or until I find something else to dive deep into.

    • @Chigger
      @Chigger 2 года назад +6

      INTPs are an underrated treasure. This ENFP appreciates you.

  • @whatthetart
    @whatthetart 2 года назад +7

    Damn, I'm an ESFJ and this hits me so hard
    Thank you

  • @mlandry491
    @mlandry491 2 года назад +3

    Truth. The realities of life these days are not only bleak but increasingly grim and i can just literally feel the darkness as it increases. Instead of allowing it to strangle and stifle me, I fight it with focusing on beauty. Watching sunflowers grow in the rubbish heap is proof that good cannot be completely smothered by the bad. Seeing potential beauty in the ugliness of this world grows hope when things seem hopeless. This perspective switch is a matter of survival. Creating beauty is a matter of survival. Like growing your own food. Necessary for existence. And two fingers to sadness. lol

  • @pr0nar3ff
    @pr0nar3ff 2 года назад +23

    I love how spot-on and accurate he is with his description of each type in his videos, and also giving us advice and reassurance. He's great at describing each type. I love his videos.

  • @julie_plays
    @julie_plays 2 года назад +5

    isfp and totally agree with mine! i sometimes do like thinking about what will happen in the future like the infj/intj but a lot of the time i just end up thinking, "ah whatever" and just decide that i'll adapt to whatever happens then lol

    • @bradleyj7801
      @bradleyj7801 2 года назад

      As an INTJ, ISFPs are interesting because we share all the same cognitive functions but they are stacked differently, INTJ's will tend to look at and have a decent perspective of the future create a system to achieve possibilities but only act (haphazardly at times) upon it if it aligns with our limited array of values and feeling, for ISFPs, it's basically backwards, you live and act according to your deep set of personal values and feelings and in the midst of your action do you see some, not all future implications of your actions where you settle on a couple potential outcomes and work to rig a system to achieve the objective or get out of a jam, in the end, we both either achieve our future objective or we are left holding a bag of good intentions at least

  • @kristlecasey9506
    @kristlecasey9506 2 года назад +5

    Im an infj and I agree with the fact that I stay in my head a lot and get stimulated in my head. But I love adventure and mystery just as much. I like being on the fly and pushing myself to the limit.
    The thing is this it just depends on the situation. If its something important it has to be planned out and i want it to run as smooth as possible.

  • @Defaulted123
    @Defaulted123 2 года назад +6

    This channel is my ASMR.

  • @otheusrex2190
    @otheusrex2190 2 года назад +13

    Really amazing video. Your content is always going beyond the obvious and superficial. I'm particularly appreciative of your observations of fi, which never lean on the childish oversimplifications (and often unhelpful/unrelateable) stereotypes many mbti practitioners do.
    Thank you

  • @Kiwi-np3sy
    @Kiwi-np3sy 2 года назад +5

    This is spot-on. I am an INFJ and everything you said is true, it’s exactly what I do

  • @astericks53
    @astericks53 2 года назад +2

    5:23 *Injt*
    If im going to putt the effort forward to plan things out, it’s almost always because I perceive drastic and horrible consequences for failure. You make it sound like we go “o boy how are we going to brush our teeth today lets pull out the calendar” its almost always emotionally charged, i will plan out and set the ground works for approaching someone i like, i planned out and set the groundworks to go to the store alone for the first time, because I always think of the most emotionally negative consequence and the solution 9/10 times is having thought of what could go wrong before i started so im spared having to be vulnerable in those situations.
    I don’t always know what to say or what to do, but if its my idea of how it worked thats wrong then its not my fault i can work with the new information, but if it’s something inherently wrong with the way I personally believed and hoped it would be, its the same as there being something fundamentally and unchangingly wrong about me, its like being exposed and you have no clothes too shield what’s sensitive its *me* thats wrong.
    It has the same principle as why we have debit cards, you dont give your checking account information even though it can technically work because if its compromised its a much more intrinsic damage then a debit card that’s replaceable.

  • @bradleyj7801
    @bradleyj7801 2 года назад +11

    My ISFJ wife absolutely "loves" the weird ways I (INTJ) get things done, or the thoughtful plan I provide her to strategically accomplish the task "efficiently" at the last minute

    • @noamchemla
      @noamchemla 2 года назад +2

      efficiently at the last minute is the best contradiction to describe us INTJs lmao

    • @bradleyj7801
      @bradleyj7801 2 года назад

      @@noamchemla yes, the greatest efficiency built in to doing things last minute is that no matter how or when I do something, the ISFJ wife will instantly find a spot I missed so with time run out, it's too late to fix it, it ends up being a win win for both of us because she still gets a good, not great job, I only have to do it once, and then we can debate whether the added conflict was worth the time savings (debates always fun for INTJ), or if she refuses to debate, I have more time to dwell upon the rationalization behind my methods to be better able to convince her over time how the output was maximized for the group even if the distribution of benefit may not have been totally even

    • @noamchemla
      @noamchemla 2 года назад

      @@bradleyj7801 thats interesting to hear! As a young INTJ i wonder how the parts that make INTJs INTJS will affect my relationships/marriage

    • @bradleyj7801
      @bradleyj7801 2 года назад

      when I was younger, I thought I thought differently than most because I had it figured out and nobody else did, now I realize I think differently than most people (INTJ = 2%, intuitives as a whole only about 14% give or take) and nobody has it figured out. the book "Please Understand Me II" by Keirsey was very helpful for me

    • @noamchemla
      @noamchemla 2 года назад +1

      @@bradleyj7801 I'll definitely check it out

  • @dorottyadesi208
    @dorottyadesi208 2 года назад +4

    This channel is so underrated. But I really appreciate it. ☺

  • @mariyabardarska5895
    @mariyabardarska5895 2 года назад +7

    I love love love your way of expressing and wording ideas. It's both endlessly informing, descriptive, captivating , inspiring and thought provoking. Keep it up. ☺

  • @kymelatejasi
    @kymelatejasi 2 года назад +4

    For an INFJ, I am pretty bad at planning things. 😅 I feel like my curiosity is mine, like the ENT/FPs.

    • @LadyIarConnacht
      @LadyIarConnacht 2 года назад

      Beware, you might be a closet ENFP living in your INFJ shadow - like me. It took me a long, long time to realize I was a wannabee INFJ.

  • @inaany3344
    @inaany3344 2 года назад +1

    Yes, the art is not just painting or composing, it is much, much more. It is the way you approach life, the way your mind freely flows, ideas and connections appear, it is the way you are moving, breathing, living, existing. - INFP

  • @bardibul4194
    @bardibul4194 2 года назад +3

    The curse of intp are their rational mind.
    You can't rationalize the sence of life.
    Leading to the damnation of comptempting your own fate.

  • @oogabooga2008
    @oogabooga2008 2 года назад +3

    As an infp I definitely agree, on one hand I understand very much that the world is a horrible place at times but on the other hand I cannot understand why one would do something so bad and whenever I am hit with the realization I cry for hours😀👍

    • @christophjanssen9324
      @christophjanssen9324 2 года назад +3

      We need more people like you :')
      Your comment sounds so sad but kinda sweet I mean, in the fact that you have these morals and empathy

    • @oogabooga2008
      @oogabooga2008 2 года назад +1

      @@christophjanssen9324 I dumped a lot that's been on my mind onto u lol┗(・ω・;)┛

  • @richsackett3423
    @richsackett3423 2 года назад +2

    ENTP - "Cross-contextual thinking" is a clunky MBTI-ism which could be bettered. Gosh you'd hope so, anyway.

  • @dalal-v4d
    @dalal-v4d 2 года назад +4

    It totally resonated with me an an ENFP.

  • @kavya914
    @kavya914 2 года назад +1

    I have to say...I LOVE ur channel man! Pls PLS never stop making videos. U are one of the very very few people who actually gets on my level while explaining and not just say the same old stereotypical shit out there. THANK YOU.

  • @PsychologyRefresh
    @PsychologyRefresh 2 года назад +14

    It's a blessing to know your curse! Great video.

  • @suburbohemian
    @suburbohemian 2 года назад +2

    INTJ, feeling amusingly nailed...thank you

  • @leamubiu
    @leamubiu 2 года назад +2

    The more of these videos I watch and the less sheer INTP I feel. I’m more shuttling in the whole area between ENTP (curious, argumentative) and INFP (dreamy, caring).

    • @Multitudes_
      @Multitudes_ 2 года назад +4

      Yeah, it's pretty normal to have things in common with adjacent types. As an INFP, I also often relate to ENFPs and INTPs.

  • @purplemind93
    @purplemind93 2 года назад +10

    I cant begin to describe how beautiful and grim it is to listen to the words for isfp. It’s really like that. I think back on past relationships and I mourn the fact that they suddenly went from being to disappearing into nothing. How one person can mean so much under a brief period of time and then you will most likely never see them again. It’s quite soul crushing

    • @louisejoel
      @louisejoel 2 года назад

      such is life you get used to it with time

  • @iamjmcha
    @iamjmcha 2 года назад +1

    estp: i'll figure this out myself
    my mindset as an estp in front of a difficult situation: if i can't figure out my own problems, how will other people be of any help? who knows me better than me? who knows my life, values, priorities, capabilities better than me?

    • @LadyIarConnacht
      @LadyIarConnacht 2 года назад

      My ESTP son seems to be doing some form of eenie-meenie-miney-moe but it always works out for him in the end.

  • @christineherrmann205
    @christineherrmann205 2 года назад +2

    Yeah... if you skate over a lot of arguments, the issue is still underneath.

  • @ikarugaxx3749
    @ikarugaxx3749 5 месяцев назад

    Your observation at 1:59 is brilliant.
    How much of my ill-feeling has been due to things being not... consistent, and sense-making.

  • @Amanita._.Verosa._.
    @Amanita._.Verosa._. 2 года назад +8

    The trick with Ni is not only seeing the most likely outcome, but keeping one eye on the other possibilities so as to navigate efficiently in case something changes our plans.
    -INFJ

    • @Kiwi-np3sy
      @Kiwi-np3sy 2 года назад +1

      As another INFJ I agree

  • @nmercenary
    @nmercenary 2 года назад

    INFJ here. I like planning for potential problems, however, i don’t mind being thrust into unknowns. It can be fun to improvise on the spot while also being spontaneously creative. I find that not having something planned and being annoyed depends greatly on my mood. Unknowns are more tolerable too when it engages my insatiable curiosity.

  • @jaroslaval9159
    @jaroslaval9159 2 года назад

    That...was...amazing! Can you imagine being an INFP working in Caritas in Ukraine right now?

  • @ciawang8347
    @ciawang8347 2 года назад

    The choice of color for this video is brilliant!

  • @SoniaJbrt
    @SoniaJbrt 2 года назад

    So spot on with INFP. Sometimes I laugh, sometimes I cry...

  • @classictowers668
    @classictowers668 2 года назад +1

    INFP: 1% better is a lot for each day, maybe .5%... no .25%

  • @sherriewilson4837
    @sherriewilson4837 2 года назад

    Being an ENFJ is like being a safe-cracker, but with people instead of locks. When we are working with people, we can just hear when everything falls into place and the lock (people or situations) can be opened. But just because we can do something, doesn’t mean we should. Sometimes we have to let people work out their own problems. Learning is in the struggle. It also means we can see opportunities to be manipulative or selfishly save some time, but we have to learn to hold back.

  • @rauliuxaa
    @rauliuxaa 2 года назад +2

    I'd kinda disagree with isfp one, as much as we see beauty, we also have high Se, so we're aware of reality, if to make it more accurate, i'd say isfp can see something positive in most situations, but def not romanticise, that's more of infp i think.

  • @MYVOICESHALLBEHEARD
    @MYVOICESHALLBEHEARD 2 года назад

    I love the color scheme of this video!!!

  • @luminyam6145
    @luminyam6145 2 года назад

    Thank you so much, that was great.

  • @johnmelverdiez9050
    @johnmelverdiez9050 2 года назад

    Me as an istp this maybe true i can't stop to make sense even in an event that they say you have no control over or trying to explain or understand things which is they see as it is,its funny coz they tell me that i'm in denial on some aspects in which i explain on how i understand it

  • @twingal1978
    @twingal1978 2 года назад

    Most excellent, well done!

  • @fashionforwarddd
    @fashionforwarddd 2 года назад +1

    I really enjoy your videos and the way you explain things!

  • @luna.aurelius
    @luna.aurelius 2 года назад +1

    11:03 "capture the booty of life" 💀lmaooo

  • @allmight1359
    @allmight1359 2 года назад +1

    As an ENFJ, I have been exposed.

    • @karenhanson359
      @karenhanson359 2 года назад +1

      Omg an ENFJ commented! We love watching, but we don’t often comment on things on the internet 😆 We had better start or he won’t make videos for us! Haha

  • @solalandis
    @solalandis 2 года назад +1

    Since I'm still not sure whether I'm an intp or an istp I can confirm nothing make sense and everything makes sense at the same time idek
    Edit: People in general doesn't make sense I always find myself saying "Why? It doesn't make sense"

  • @Cameron_Maguire
    @Cameron_Maguire 2 года назад +2

    I love your content.

  • @simplenotes2393
    @simplenotes2393 2 года назад +1

    Love love love the like button!

  • @berliant7121
    @berliant7121 2 года назад

    "these two types simply think a things a lot in advance, they're imagine themselves doing things"
    *I can't imagine I felt really seen in my so far life*
    Having 'INTJ brain' is no joke, i guess...

  • @oakhoax168
    @oakhoax168 2 года назад

    Great video!

  • @nerysghemor5781
    @nerysghemor5781 2 года назад

    I like how you point out that Fi-doms don’t HAVE to have the stereotypical career path. David Attenborough is a great example of this…he’s an INFP and a scientist, and he wears his love of the beauty of nature and his childlike sense of wonder on his sleeve. He combines that with being humble, and never overbearing about his beliefs, unlike a lot of scientists who lord it over people.
    For example, it’s obvious he’s concerned about the environment but he doesn’t berate people like, say, Greta Thunberg, or try to shove one particular political solution down people’s throats. He shows people why nature and the environment are beautiful and worth caring about instead, and that’s an approach that is FAR easier for me to take. Similarly, he is extremely humble in his agnosticism and doesn’t force his views or tell people they’re stupid for disagreeing. Though I am a Christian, we actually have very similar lines of thinking and I greatly respect him for his approach. When people are angry, strident, or domineering, I just absolutely shut down and Attenborough avoids every single one of those buttons for me and gets me to listen every time.
    Finding out he was an INFP explained a LOT in why his stuff clicks so much for me, as an INFP myself. :-)
    (Note: When an INFP shuts down it’s not necessarily just because of not liking being told what to do, being afraid of getting hurt in a confrontation, or being “unable to handle criticism.” For me there is also a very strong element of knowing that when I’m that heated and strident, I am likely to either unconsciously or deliberately be pushing aside external facts and observations that refute my position. When someone else acts like that then I get suspicious of what they are either hiding from or deliberately trying to divert attention from. Basically, it trips my Te’s attention, not just my Fi, to want to do a reality/sanity check. A lot of things can sound nice in theory but backfire horribly when implemented and I get suspicious that the authoritarianism or loss of temper/composure is a warning flag for one of those scenarios. I was brought up by an ENTJ dad and ESTJ mom, so I have had more exposure to and schooling in the art of using Te than some INFPs and that is definitely a school of thought where blowing your stack as opposed to having a rational conversation is NOT a good thing.)

  • @cainwilson8564
    @cainwilson8564 Год назад

    9:06
    “Curiosity killed the cat, but satisfaction brought it back.”

  • @imarizah3906
    @imarizah3906 2 года назад

    as for the intp and istp curse its somewhat incorrectly explained in the video because there is a reason why people act inconsistent and irrational at times.......but the actual problem is that people in general and their decisions in general dont really make much sense because often times people are influenced[primed] by things that dont really have much relation to the decision.

  • @exnihilonihilfit6316
    @exnihilonihilfit6316 4 месяца назад

    You say "beauty" as "booty". 😂 Cute. (in the IxFP segment mainly)

    • @lovewho
      @lovewho  4 месяца назад +1

      Perhaps I meant booty the whole time... ~ Nathan

  • @confused7970
    @confused7970 2 года назад +2

    Wanna know what i've concluded about my type _ENTP_ after many studies and observations
    We are the most useless people ever. I know... I know... Curiosity.. Visions.... Inventions... Novelty...... I know all of these things but life is just hard, people are always astonished by me but also very disappointed in me, and they're right i'm disappointed at myself as well because i can't get what's on my head into reality or worse i get started but never finish.... I've no discipline whatsoever i really wish i can keep a simple daily routine but it's so damn hard for me and no one believes that....
    P. S. I've just realized i had mental breakdown on the internet lmao

    • @christophjanssen9324
      @christophjanssen9324 2 года назад +1

      INTP here, doing the same thing, got a full brain but no hands.
      You could give in to the chaos of life though and make some bliss of it.
      Or find schedules that are realistic for you.
      I have long tried doing what other people do, but I just cannot do it. My psychological history is way different.
      But I started to adjust my schedule to fit my needs and that was good.
      For example, my vacation day consists of waking up, doing one household task, walking my dog (which is the most difficult task of my day) and then reading.
      And thats it.
      And during the days that im occupied with working and studying, I only walk my dog and do one chore if it fits.
      And for some that might be nothing, but for me thats enough.

    • @christophjanssen9324
      @christophjanssen9324 2 года назад +1

      May I ask why you feel the need to do something? I mean finishing things or having a routine.
      Its a personal question, I am aware, so If you dont wanna answer, thats okay.
      Just curious and wanna give you some space to talk about it, thats all.

    • @confused7970
      @confused7970 2 года назад +1

      @@christophjanssen9324 For some reason i can't answer.... I don't know... I guess i'm achievement oriented _or surrounded by ones_ and i need to do anything to finish anything to prove to myself that i'm not stupid and i realize it's a toxic mindset but i don't know how to change it. Nevertheless, i need to live so i need money and to get it i need to work so i need to get my life organized in order to function properly..... No matter how i look at it, i need to get that Ne to calm down and Si take the lead

    • @rositatomashevska6136
      @rositatomashevska6136 2 года назад +1

      @@confused7970 I feel like that is exactly what my husband is going through... He's also ENTP... I'm an ISFP, we have 2 amazing daughters... He's trying to provide for our family (does a good job), but I see that it is hard for him to do monotonous work... It's also hard for him to finish the countless amount of ideas and projects that he starts... I sometimes become frustrated and annoyed for this reason... But I love him soooo much for putting himself last, and trying his best to take care of us... Even though he loves being the one who's cared for 💖.
      I don't know if any of this made sense, but I saw your comment and wanted to share my observations... ENTPs may look tough and may seem clown-like... Picking on people... But they're such softies on the inside, caring for everything they said or did that may have hurt someone.
      P.S. sorry for making this so long😅

    • @confused7970
      @confused7970 2 года назад +1

      @@rositatomashevska6136 i'm not sure whether i'm soft because you cared enough to reply to me or because you realize your husband's weakness but understands and supports him.... I don't know what to do but i know i'm okay when i have good people around me supporting me and that's might be your husband too.... Thanks for the reply, it's somehow uplifting

  • @DeeDeex007o
    @DeeDeex007o 8 месяцев назад

    "Running secret Empires in their basements." LOL
    🤣🤣🤣🤫

  • @Esiaa
    @Esiaa 2 года назад +4

    I guess I am a slightly different ISTP as I don't mind a bit of madness from time to time. However, at work this 'making sense thing' can hinder my progress or even worsen relationships as I'm unwilling (or even refusing) to do something that doesn't make sense.

  • @conscript900
    @conscript900 2 года назад

    Its a gift... and a curse.

  • @suealeen
    @suealeen 2 года назад

    That's why I always avoid 'people' - ISTP

  • @_.Z.E.K.E._
    @_.Z.E.K.E._ 2 года назад

    Being an intp is just a curse, unless you are a genius and can be a good researcher, a scientist who discoveres important things with his intellect, but statistically it's nearly impossible to be a genius, so...

  • @moonglow5808
    @moonglow5808 2 года назад +3

    💖

  • @catherinemartinelli4758
    @catherinemartinelli4758 Год назад

    This is EXACTLY how Ni works.

  • @1classikai
    @1classikai 2 года назад

    Wow that
    That hit me.

  • @daisyang4636
    @daisyang4636 2 года назад

    Life is a never ending cycle of “wow interesting!!”, until “meh! i’m bored.” -pov of enfp

    • @LadyIarConnacht
      @LadyIarConnacht 2 года назад +1

      As an ENFP I really like to take jobs where something is different every day and it's a bonus if there's progress. But to stay there year after year is just a treadmill.

  • @troublec9619
    @troublec9619 2 года назад

    Interdisciplinary polymath

  • @livingcodex9878
    @livingcodex9878 2 года назад +3

    おはようございます

  • @Oilofmercy
    @Oilofmercy 2 года назад

    Bootiful. 😉

  • @pugninja7037
    @pugninja7037 2 года назад

    Yes very restless entp.

  • @geojay9855
    @geojay9855 2 года назад +1

    Whoops!

  • @yall.didnt.see.me_
    @yall.didnt.see.me_ 2 года назад

    2:20 dw about this

  • @MrEvans1
    @MrEvans1 2 года назад +1

    Wow im early

  • @jpfitness2242
    @jpfitness2242 2 года назад

    Can we get the uncomfortable video about ENxPs having a hard time being satisfied with a romantic interest?

  • @paperlessclips
    @paperlessclips 2 года назад

    Polymapathy

  • @kavya914
    @kavya914 2 года назад +1

    What is your type? I'm really curious...

  • @staryuko7780
    @staryuko7780 2 года назад +1

    Hi

  • @joshuavanderrheede4469
    @joshuavanderrheede4469 2 года назад

    ENTJs have no curses.

  • @ely915
    @ely915 2 года назад

    I'm so confuse sometimes i am an intp sometimes i am an istp

    • @louisejoel
      @louisejoel 2 года назад

      in theory you don't have to be one or the other and could be between two types

  • @Explodivebunz2648
    @Explodivebunz2648 10 месяцев назад

    Intj

  • @palelilac197
    @palelilac197 2 года назад

    Why was I banned on the discord server or whatever happened to me?

    • @lovewho
      @lovewho  2 года назад

      Send me a DM on discord ~ Nathan

    • @palelilac197
      @palelilac197 2 года назад

      @@lovewho how?

  • @maknaestyle1758
    @maknaestyle1758 2 года назад

    This channel is a curse for enfps