Rashid Floyd & Symone Redwine Ended Their Relationship | Marriage & Money | DFW 7, E701
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- Опубликовано: 11 июл 2023
- In this episode of the Dear Future Wifey Podcast, Rashid Floyd opens up about his financial struggles and the impact on his engagement with the hilarious Symone Redwine. Join us as they candidly discuss the breakdown of their relationship and the lessons learned. This episode, titled "Marriage and Money," delves into the tough topics that challenge many couples today.
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##⏰ Timestamps:
00:00 Introduction
02:30 Rashid’s financial confession
08:15 Symone’s perspective on their breakup
15:45 Discussing the impact of money on relationships
25:00 The decision to postpone the wedding
35:30 Tough conversations in relationships
42:00 Rashid on vulnerability and growth
50:15 The role of family in relationship dynamics
01:05:00 The significance of financial transparency
01:15:45 How past experiences shape present decisions
01:30:00 The importance of therapy and personal growth
01:40:30 Future plans and moving forward
01:55:00 Closing thoughts and prayer
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When she said she couldn’t submit to him because he wasn’t making good decisions, I felt that. If I can’t trust you in every aspect of our lives, meaning, the physical, the emotional and financial, you can’t lead me.
That's the problem. You all want to be able to trust man utterly and completely. Only trust of that degree can be placed in God. You fail people just like others fail you. We're imperfect and must learn to grow together.
@@Cymplicity-yd2lo That man is supposed to represent CHRIST, though ... meaning that he may have an off day, but his lifestyle is meant to reflect the Faithful and True One. If a man is weak on his financial stewardship (synonym: husbandry!), remember: Christ had plenty to say about that -- he needs to go to the Lord and tighten up. How is a man supposed to lead his wife where he is not leading HIMSELF? All of us have off days ... we are human ... but the lack of Christ-like patterns is a no.
@Cymplicity-yd2lo
That's not what she said. What she said are REASONABLE expectations. There are men out there who ARE trustworthy in these areas. Why do we try and convince people (women) that their standards/desires are unattainable????? Like.... can we promote the RAISING of the bar???? It's so sad. Please.... let's shift our mindsets. This thinking and narrative will forever promote the perpetual SUBPAR mentality that has kept us ALL in mediocrity........ God came so that we might have life more ABUNDANTLY. A man positioning himself to be trustworthy in the areas of finances, spiritual, emotional domain/ protection IS REASONABLE!!!!!! 😩
@@tennilleedmond1344 I heard what she said. There are women out here that are not controlling, vain, or dependent on money or degrees to substantiate their worth. There are financially stable men out here that cheat, embezzle and abuse their mates. He pays their bills a month, has been faithful. Stop expecting anyone to be perfect when you're not that yourself. Symone's problem isn't Rashid. She's had multiple WEALTHY men and they've had her...None of those relationships worked. It's something wrong ...
@@Cymplicity-yd2loas usual, the woman is the probiem😒
Soooooooo I’m watching this episode now as a married woman! After believing I heard God that a certain man was my husband, he ended up getting married. I was left devastated, but two months later, I met this amazing man and two months after that… we got married!!! God did not lie about my promise, I just got the person wrong at first. Our story is crazzzyyy but supernatural! Keep the faith yall!
Can we hear your testimony? This inspiring. I love to see/hear about love.
@@SharewitmeI’m going to record a video on my page by this weekend. It’s truly a testimony.
Now this is deep!
Oh wow I would love to hear too I love Love!!
I love that fact that you said it was supernatural! God placed His super on your natural! Congratulations! Blessings on Blessings to you both
I honestly feel like these two are better off as friends. They're on two different levels. I wish them both the best.
I just can’t imagine paying $3k a month for a car that depreciates while already having excessive debt.. this is a great podcast for anyone getting ready to get married, married and trying to work through issues. I’m so glad she was strong enough to say “I can’t” vs trying to save face ❤
For the singles: This episode reiterates the importance of working on yourself prior to marriage. Thanks, Symone and Rashid, for your transparency!
But remember, even after working on yourself, you STILL WILL BE IMPERFECT and will continue in growth in new areas as your body, hormones, circumstances, and maturity level will all change. You will never be perfect so don't beat yourself down with these larger than life expectations.
I 100% agree. And I believe the most important thing you can bring into a relationship (besides a genuine relationship with Jesus) is complete transparency and that's what Rasheed lacked going in. He gave her what he thought he had to but he withheld what he wanted to and that's where the breakdown happens.
Best post on the video.
@@Cymplicity-yd2loYES!!!!
@@Cymplicity-yd2lothis is true. Self healing brings awareness, deliverance, provides the tools and understanding we need for relationships. Yet we won’t be flawless, we need to know how to manage those flaws that we struggle with.
Symone, it is called grief. You are grieving the death of a dream with a man you love, and don't allow anyone to rush you through it. Don't allow anyone to minimize it. Don't allow anyone to reason it away with comparison. Freeze your eggs and get counseling. I pray he becomes the man HE wants to be so the 2 of you can come together. Promise God that you will do the work "for you" in the meantime. I wish both of you the best under God.❤
Great advice..
❤
Under God🙌🏽
THIS!
She needs to grieve, heal and MOVE ON! She doesn't have time for him to get it together because it could take years.
So proud of Symone for walking away. She poured into him and tried so hard to help him and he kept messing up. She is a brilliant woman with her head on her shoulders. The right man will come when the time is right. His priorities are all messed up.
I am so proud of you Simone! Love is never enough and you deserve NOT to struggle. Many of us see Rashid as a good guy, BUT a financially responsible guy is needed for a healthy marriage. Your courage will certainly inspire others!
Thank you ! ❤️
Yes, because so many marriages break up over money. My ex-hubby wasn't great with money and that eventually made me feel unsafe with him financially. I felt stagnant. It was other issues, but financial responsibility is definitely something to definitely pay attention to.
@@kimberly0717 Yes! Because if one of your goals is to build generational wealth, you can't do it with someone who is in great debt and is committing financial infidelity.
@@annanims7876 Yes!
Really? So our job as men is to supplement a woman's lifestyle otherwise we serve no purpose...women need to understand you are not the prize a man is...I’ve NEVER met a woman that doesn't have a man and isn't a mess
When a woman loses trust and worse, respect for you, the relationship is over because of the choices a man makes, and a man can not be with a woman who doesn’t see him as her leader with gross admiration in him.
This part…
Truth!
imho the first is definitely true, but there are waaaaay more momas boys married to women than women who lack respect for their man though
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I totally agree with you. Going through this
I'm a married woman and I've watched most episodes of Dear Future Wifey. This episode is one that I feel like they both saved themselves from one another. They are both on 2 different pages in life. Both are incredible people, but not for one another. There's still lots of growth needed for them both. Blessings to both of them.
beautifully said
All of this.
I agree 💯
I agree
facts
In this conversation, they appear to communicate in a very healthy and effective way. Despite their issues, it’s very refreshing to see.
The vulnerability of both of them together, the openness and the communication shows the love is there ❤
I’m proud of symone. So many black woman stay for the potential. Potential never comes. Great interview. I hope these two find love again. Even if it’s with someone else.
That's what she did for the last 2 years. She thought that she could change him
Wooooow..... you said something there. I did that unknowingly.
❤️
in christ potential can come especially if God works in a person's heart.
@@mazza8408 sorry but. Never buy potential. Everyone knows that you have to accept all they ARE. not all they would POTENTIALLY BECOME. Tomorrow is not even promised.
She did the right thing. Marriage is sacred and a business. Who u marry is the 2nd most important decision of ur life. That person can truly bless or devastate ur life. Cheating, deception, money mismanagement ...serious. shes hurt and embarrassed. Her parents were involved in helping to finance the wedding. She was doing her part, and he wasnt and it was postponed twice bc he was blowing money. Discipline and integrity are important in marriage. The love is there. The Discipline is not. Run girl.
Yes and discipline is very important. One's ability to have rule over ones self, self control is necessary not only in finances but every area.
This is literally mirroring my current marriage and in the process of D. But the Lord be my peace and protection
@@shesvirtuous God's peace and ease to you.
@@eebz5 thank you sis
@@shesvirtuousGod is in control, continue to let Him guide you and you’ll be just fine. 🙏🏽 🙏🏽 🙏🏽
Pie in the sky dreamer. She dodged a bullet. He need to be by himself and heal. He’s a whole project. That $126,000 car leveled the playing field in the relationship. This why you can’t date down. Don’t go into a relationship seeing potential or feeling like you’re running out of time. At 48, I’m fully prepared to spend the rest of my life alone. I’m not building a man up. I’m not digging him out of debt, and I’m not playing house without being married. Thank you for sharing.
I’m so proud of Rashid!! He’s a good man. I knew that since the season on RTL. I’m glad he’s got support.
As a widow I can say, when you walk down the aisle you have no idea what your marriage will experience. If you’re expecting perfection and nothing but amazing times, maybe you should reconsider your decision to merge your life and family with an imperfect person.
I’m happy I’m not the only one who felt that way listening to this episode….. the whole time I’m listening, I’m thinking really that’s the reason you didn’t get married. He was paying all the bills, you were happy, he was faithful, he just missed manage his money due to insecurity…
So true
Absolutely 💯. The internet has people delusional.
I wonder if she would've been happy and satisfied if he sold his house to pay for her wedding?? I bet she would've had no complaints...
Totally felt like this. I also feel like her side of the flaws were never mentioned....!!! The way she says there is something wrong with her but never went to therapy. 👀👀
I feel like all of us that are not married, as of yet, need to watch every season of this show because each episode is a real look into what goes beyond & in the process leading up to I Do.
Very true
It's an individual problem that becomes a spouse problem.
These two are not matched....they are not aligned.... something is missing.
Correct!
Agreed
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.
@EmilioYepez7 Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach her?
@EmilioYepez7 Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive
I think you may still be stuck on your ex because there is something about yourself that you still need to learn from that relationship…not because you should be getting back with her. Allow yourself the space to heal, cry and opportunity to learn from this relationship and then you will 100% get over her I promise. Or you can choose to go back to the past but best believe it will never be the same
Spiritual counselor is code for voodoo priestess/ black magic. It NEVER ends well! And to recommend that on a platform like this, wow.
These two men are trolls who operate in the demonic and are trying to scam others. If you click on the dudes name, you will see these same comments on other videos
These are the type of storylines we need to see on tv, I’m 25 and engaged and this gave me a lot to think about, many people of all ages can learn from this situation it’s brave how honest rashid is being and her feelings are valid I don’t know if they should be together but I appreciate their honesty I wish them both the best of the best
Hear hear...its good that at 25...still young...you are making the right choices in seeking out good information. U r growing up at the right time. Good luck on your journey
This conversation was REAL!!! And marriage counseling is ESSENTIAL!
50:00 Symone told him he was raising his voice...but i never heard a raising of voice...that literally stopped him in his trwcks and the convo ended
Yes it was very rude. And though on the surface it seems symone dodged a bullet, I really believe he dodged the bullet. She seems overbearing, and not just in this episode but in part interviews
@bettyolivia1025 I noticed alot of her talking over is mirroring her actual behaviour in the relationship...she is trying to fix and that is an overtaking spirit
She was the one raising her voice.
Simon has work to do on emotional maturity, your worth isn’t based on his level of financial responsibility. Her crying because he didn’t have the foresight to for the wedding means he is irresponsible, not that he doesn’t love you.
Agreed.
She's a brat, also
I noticed this too. Emotional immaturity......I can tell where this interview was going. He's the dumb immature guy and she is on top of her game. And everythimg being discussed is based on money.
She not crying about the money literally! They had a plan they had and a agreement and he choose himself as she was working as “we”
I don't know yall I have mix feelings
Listening to their story was sooo eye opening to why asking the important questions is so necessary while dating. Applause to Rashid for being so open to talk about this. And maning up about getting help with his finances!❤
I think tough experience like this teaches us what questions to ask , and when we don't know .... Grab a relationship book to gain wisdom as to what to ask. Family, Friends, Fun, Finances.... How to handle all as an individual and essentially as a couple
I'm glad the wedding was called off. Takes maturity to stop a train wreck before it happens. If they are meant to be it will be. More importantly, I hope they both are seeking God on what to do moving forward.
What I admire about Symone is how she holds on to her standards despite the pain it may bring to hold on to it. She knows that it is the right choice and the right thing to do. I also notice how willing she is to help as long as the person she is helping is honest with her. She is very smart and wise. Again, I hope that things can work out. I pray only for the best for both of them.
The only thing is he doesn't need another mother. He needs to be single for now.
Perfectly stated Angela. In the meantime, she should go to counseling as well.
What standards? Playing house and being condescending to a grown man is...
Thank you 🤗
Rashid seems so ashamed and broken but he needs to be proud of himself for showing up and having such an open and honest conversation all in the hopes of one day saving this relationship. Not very many men would ever be brave enough to do this. This is such an honorable man and clearly he’s doing it out of the love he still has for her. His heart was in the right place but he went about it all the wrong way and perhaps out of GOD’s timing.
Bravo Rashid…grown man conversation. This man has bared is entire soul to the public. In the words of Dr. Phil “You can’t change what you don’t acknowledge. FANASTIC road to recovery & getting things on track.
I don’t think she realizes how much she belittles him. I believe it’s unintentional even though it’s a habit she has created.
This man has been verbally beat down.
Man, it hurt my heart to see it. And, I don't think she means to do it, but her habits have likely reared their heads, same as Rashid's. I wish them both the best!
Absolutely
She wants him to be in a place and evolved in a way that hes not ready for!!! She cant assist someone who constantly makes bad financial decisions. She wants for him what he doesn't want for himself! Save yourself girl and just MOVE ON@
This is exactly what I just went through with my ex and I had to choose ME😦
I AGREE 100%
I get the feeling that it is not that he doesnt want it, he prob doesn't know how...the mind/brain is a poweful organ.
chile i will never understand how a man close to 50 still doesnt value money ..sir you are getting older .. why dont you wanna make better decisons for your own self and son ..
@@crystalrubbie9383exactly. By the age 25 that medulla oblongata is fully formed and ain't much going to change. At 50 you have to like that behavior and gotten away with it for too long or you would fight like hell to change. Let that man get with someone willing to live financially disruptive.
The last part of this interview was key 🔑 Her last statements about him dimming her, using her best years resonated with me badly. The host was saying 3 years as if that’s not long, I experienced that in only 1 year. In only one year of dating someone I felt my value was lowered tremendously; age 29-30 years old. But I watch these to gain knowledge and I know I’ll get better for myself and I’ll attract better 🙏🏾
Men can ruin a woman's life.. Move on and remarry younger and have a family they suddenly want. While women every year past 30 that window is closing late 30s and 3 yrs is VITAL time
Giving her best years and investing her time is two different things. She didn't give him her best years.
I dunno but the veil has been lifted over Rashid's eyes over Symone😮 when he glows up, i wonder if he would still be attracted to her😊
🎯💯FACTS
This was difficult to watch. They have very different spirits and without much growth on both sides, a marriage would prove very challenging but not just from a financial standpoint.
Good luck to both.
I’ll keep my ears to the ground for when he makes a massive comeback. Sir, you are destined for greatness. You have to go through and grow through this season for you!
I agree! He will find a beautiful person that will love him for him and not his financial capabilities.
@@IAMJEWEL7his “problems” are bigger than financial capabilities. Is that all you got? 😑
Yaaas
@@MissAlomoight. He seems dishonest, egotistical and very irresponsible.
@@MissAlomosometimes we pinpoint one thing. Maybe this is what this person did. Maybe…
In my humble female opinion, she was talking with a raised voice for most of the interview (or maybe it's the high pitch of her voice) and when she criticized him of raising his voice - I was like whaaatt? Did my volume spontaneously adjust? It didn't sound like he raised his voice... I also thought she threw him under the bus bringing up the special ed stuff. I think that is his story to tell... He had such an embarrassed look on his face...... I do however understand her exhaustion of continually bailing him out financially. They both need to do individual work before joining back with each other or anyone else.
He already put all this information out by himself on their youtube page and that is what started all this
Rasheed looks so worried & stressed :(. I think he really loves her but just needs to get his life in order. I hope things work out for them. 🙏🏾
She’s his problem. She is not the one for him. He needs to learn how to select the women for him.
@@queendove6376Exactly
She needs to get her life in order. Man after man, he's not the problem.
I really think he needs both mental health and financial counseling. If a woman AND her mother are trying to help you get out of debt, why would you purchase a $126K car and say “I didn’t owe you an explanation because we weren’t married/engaged”. I think that’s, as he said, CAP.
I also think she had a bit TOO much faith in someone who was not giving her the whole truth.
I pray they both find the peace and purpose partners they need 🙏🏽
I watched this and I had very mixed emotions. I am a very positive man. I am also a girl dad. I showed my daughters that a man must bare the financial weight of his family. I see instability and unstableness. I believe things from our childhood haunt us. Yet, I also know I left things in my childhood because I am now a man. I am going to leave my comments here.
Man I love this comment!
This is the comment I was looking for. MANY of us have childhood trauma. I was taught that it’s not your fault but it is your responsibility. I want to sympathize with him, I want to understand him, I even hope he gets help. But at some point his withholding information and the “I didn’t owe you that” comment is kinda hard to process when this is someone you DESIRE to marry. You can’t wait until the paperwork is filed to start showing the person you say you want to marry that you’re capable of being open and honest about major financial decisions.🤷🏽♀️
@@Shunij Thank you for saying a lot of what I want to say. I felt like he became very disrespectful. I am glad she called him on his tone. I want to say, he is a good guy. But after this interview I have many reservations. He is definitely out of his weight class with this young lady. She has her whole act together. At his age he should be much farther along. As a girl dad he is a no for me.
We’re blessed to be able to hear your perspective as man and a dad. It’s also understandable that you’d be conflicted knowing the ways and challenges of a manhood. #girldad
If she’s going through this as a fiancé I refuse to believe she still wanted to marry him, I don’t want to think how this relationship would turn out being married. If she was working this hard as a fiancé she would be going through it as a wife I’m glad he set her free before going that extra mile !
I’m so with her on this, I was with a man for 10 years that made decisions like this. It’s frustrating and a unsettling life. You don’t know exactly whats the truth and what’s a lie. Very hard to feel secure about your finances present and future. We would come up with a plan and he negates but im the one that has to deal with the fall out. Meanwhile you can’t tell him nothing! The mess gets bigger and You start losing respect for him and see him more as a man child then your “Man”
Unsettling is such a perfect word. ❤
@@zerandrianmorris And that’s exactly how it feels, anxiety provoking.
@@hearme4581 : Makes sense. I’m watching this episode and ain’t no way I would have felt secure. Not a chance. What is good is that she’s smart and Rashid can’t out talk her. She made the right decision. He’s not a business man. He’s a hustler. Just like she said.
@@zerandrianmorris Sadly he’s developed these issues as a result of his short coming growing up. But from experience with a man like this , it’s in him and nothing will change it. That’s how he survived. It’s second nature for him to “come up with something”. Not plan, Not communicate what’s going on and work with his partner. He will automatically lie to her and create unnecessary confusion. It’s not on purpose that what he knows when faced with life.
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Simone please teach a class on finances!!!! It change the trajectory of so many black folks lives!!! SO MANY!! so many of our people have skills to help us!!
When he said : she doesn’t have to submit herself to a life of unhappiness… whew that was heavy and I applaud him
Childhood trauma has a way if showing up when you get into a serious relationship. When I got married my spouse called me out on some things. It hurt to peal off those old bandages but it was needed and my spouse was willing to help me through and now I’m healed of it.
You said the keyword, WILLING TO HELP. She has to be willing.
@@virtuous_committed Not when thier is financial infidelity involved unfortunately.
$2700 a month for a car is wilddddd. Sheesh. That was a horrible financial decision. During engagement season?! 😩😅😅 idk. God may be revealing that he ain’t ready. Don’t internalize it . Don’t say your not worth saving for. He just has serious spending issues and probably validation. He has to mature financially. You may not want to marry that at this exact moment. Let God work on that area a little more, maybe….This episode is great. At least he’s willing to be transparent. This is an issue many married couples are dealing with. So we did all grow from this but I feel sad it had to go like this. It’s hard for a woman whose good with money management to marry such an immature financial person. Too risky. He’s going to put her in “mommy” position and make her remain in her masculine because she won’t trust enough to let him lead.
I totally agree! Hes not ready. Shes definitely internalizing how he is, but it has nothing to do with her. He has to want to do better for HIMSELF....NOT FOR HER
@@shedagirl1726 Well said, agreed!
I absolutely love how they bared their souls and in no way could this have been easy.
Rashid is a man who set his ego aside, realized his downfalls and seems to be willing to change. Unfortunately, he felt he needed to be deceitful to meet her standards and that will never work. His insecurities can only be healed by doing the work himself outside of a relationship.
Simone in her expression emasculates him and is speaking ego because she's hurt and ashamed. I understand the disappointment of him not being all the way together financially, but he's putting it all on the line to save this relationship. Helping a man does not give permission to step on his chest as she does by interrupting and trying to be right.
She is book smart but lacks the appreciation of a man who tolerates her intelligence while using it to make him wrong. I don't hear or see any empathy or compassion from her when she's determined to be right. She felt she could love him enough to change him.
Even with all that I believe she's a good person and should stand on her standards and boundaries. That should've included not getting this deep with someone who acknowledged in the beginning does not share the same sentiment.
Blessings to them on their journeys.
You absolutely NAILED it! She is trained to debate and win - she absolutely wants to win in this conversation and others. I applaud him for his patience during this interview because she was definitely controlling. That must be very difficult for a man while he’s trying to be vulnerable while opening up to the world about his mistakes and poor choices. She talks too much!
He’s a man of image and shiny new things so I can see why he chose her. Men, be aware of those shiny new things - all glitter ain’t gold.
Be well 😘❤️🙏🏼
ABSOLUTELY, Sis!
This man is a MASTER CON. Everything has been a lie….he’s DANGEROUS. Even his confession was manipulative.
He’s very cunning!
Wow. Very well said. I agree 100% with your observation.
@@thatbemefool Do you know him personally to say these things about him and can you prove what you say?
The hollowness behind Rashid’s eyes is sad because it was self inflicted. I can tell he is NOT the same confident man as he was before. However, his composure, vulnerability and integrity is commendable. Self reflection comes with so many costs.
And the reason he’ll be fine and heal from this is because he saw the things HE did and decided to stop it because he knew it could get worst. That’s the marking of an emotionally sound man…NOT a manipulator who tried to pull the wool over her eyes.
he definitely looked drained at the end.
Rasheed is still not taking full accountability but when this guy said "until you go back to therapy, I'm not going", he shows his immaturity and his manipulation! If he really valued therapy, no oje could stop him from going! He has a long way to go.
Therapy fixes nothing
@@moneylineparlay105 please explain.
Sometimes soulmates are meant to be life long friends. Symone chose herself and I'm happy for her. Rashid and Symone went through this season to learn from each other. Their person is coming.
Nope this is love. Sometimes it comes only once in a lifetime. Sometimes it never comes. These two put the money BS aside. Go get married. Work it out Rashid and Simone. Simone sit on his neck and be happy with Rashid. Don’t give up.
@@cjamison_1 She can still love him. I said they were soulmates. You should only get married if it makes sense. Finance is the top reason people get divorce. And sitting on someone's neck for a lifetime does not sound appealing when that grown man knows right from wrong. This is not the first woman he has had this issue with. His wife and one other woman from his college days had the same issues.
Exactly 💯
If you want perfection in marriage go find Jesus and marry him. The vows say better or worse. No physical abuse, no other woman here. Just love and a man trying to be something he is not. At the end of it all what is marriage about? That’s why so many of us are single? Standards we put on people that are ridiculous.
@@cjamison_1 Symone never asked for perfection, she asked for respect and consideration in making decisions that will ultimately affect her. Those debts will affect both of them if she gets married. Asking for a solid financial foundation in a relationship is not too much to ask. Especially, considering home girl Symone is killing on her own. Why should she risk everything she has worked so hard for. Marriage is a business. Marriage is about building wealth just as much as love.
I would have loved to have this open, honest and non confrontational conversation with my ex. It would have been healing for us both
Laterras you really gave this couple hope. You literally spoke life to a wounded situation. You have a true gift. Please go obtain your counselors license. You were awesome in this episode. You pulled your optimism from the gut. I felt it.
I really feel like they'll be back on DFW a 3rd time. However, the 3rd time will be a testimony of how God fixed their relationship, individual issues & blessed their union. Thank God Rashid finally came clean & told her what was going on b4 they got married!!
Her standards have been set. If they work this out he will definitely know better next time. He won’t disappoint Symone again that’s for sure. God work this out for them.
Absolutely not. She needs to run. Change her number and not look back.
I appreciate Rashid. He does not have ADHD to the point that lessens him as a man or eradicates commonsense. He is not selfish or full of bull. He is accountable and taking responsibility. He is human. Many commenting cannot figure out or acknowledge their own traumas but are experts in diagnosing his in a very belittling way. It's so easy to analyze others yet we cannot even discipline ourselves by what we put in our mouths, weight gain, weed smoking, alcohol consumption, gossiping, or getting enough sleep. We try to control other's lives but can't even control our emotions or student loan balances.
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Amen!
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Always those people!! We just have to face that the world is totally different now, and social media has taken full control. Although love is just never enough, people need each other more and more these days. Being alone is not the origin for humanity! The master didn't create us that way. One major simple fact a woman needs a man just like a man who needs a woman! The complicated piece is making it everlasting avoiding outside distractions. Social media is destroying relationships and lives cause of the need to be something YOU are not! Everything evolves around social media. It's like an ongoing battle for platforms like this one versus FB, Twitter, IG, etc. People are just sleep in the their fake persona. All too sad. It's just something about literally touching hands and praying in a home. It makes a difference. Money and status would never equate to the peace of God. God bless you all.
@@leesha4u I agree but understand, people have always tried to keep up with the Joneses. Social media intensified much that was going on. Since the Word was mentioned, so many of us play wife, play husband or momma or daddy before marriage or in it that we have forgotten our design, our roles. We do all need each other. Man was designed to be with woman and vice versa. Men were more respected back when and were not expected to be "internet" perfect. We condemn people when they, in fact, are trying so hard to change or evolve.
Lawd, I really tried to watch this and I continued to say he dodge a bullet.
Omgsh yes!! When she used the "why you raising your voice?" To shut him up i was thinking BULLET Dodged 🤣🤣🤣
I really like Symone and she did the right thing to call off the wedding. This is a serious matter. She may have learned this already but she can never love him out of trauma. This is a very dangerous myth. Thank you for your honesty!
She may have learned this already but she can never love him out of trauma. #FACTS
She is unstable as well on soooo many levels.
The hardest truth is that the decisions your partner makes affect you both. This episode demonstrates that in the most beautiful way. You can love someone but if they consistently make decisions that negatively affect you…you have to decide if that is the kind of love you want.
Rashid is growing and evolving and Symone is doing the same. They are both beautiful people and I wish them the best!
So true
Note: too many people over emphasize having a wedding and not the marriage. Wedding is a ceremony to show others. You’re bound to fail when your focus is on the wedding instead of building your relationship-marriage.
Edit: This non-couple is clearly financially unequally yoked and will be bound to divorce if married. Finances are primary reason marriages end and these two are not on the same page. An old leopard doesn’t change its spots
Note...this was never about the wedding. It was really about the marriage. If he's not fiscally discipline now why do you think he'd be a good provider after you get married
EXACTLY
@@TM-se5jfthank you
@@TM-se5jf He was not disciplined and he was dishonest. It seems like she was willing to work with the issues of discipline but his deception seems to be the deal breaker. Where his money is is where his heart is. When times were tough. He put his money into his pride, instead of their union. I think that's why she's so heartbroken.
I agree with @afrikurl She proved that she was willing to work with him. They both stated that she asked him to be honest about what he could budget and he was not. Yes, she had the goal or marker of the wedding there, but she clearly used that to demonstrate his area of weakness in that area. He wasn’t showing that he cared for her desires with the way he was operating. He was operating from selfishness. She became a travel agent to do her part to save money on the travel plans! So she was not unwilling to make sacrifices.
She also stated that she was a finance major, I think that is a HUGE piece that has been brushed over for their specific dynamics. I believe she could really be a good helpmate for him b/c she has a strength in an area that he still needs to develop. And that’s how it should be in marriage. But both parties have to be willing to accept their roles.
This is a lesson!! Whose listening & learning 💁🏾♀️
Blessings to both Symone & Rashid! Their vulnerability, honesty & courage is amazing!
Laterras, can we just talk about how you ministered to them towards the end!!!! I love how you were able to see both sides and hopefully help them push forward - individually & collectively.
Thank you for this platform
This level of communication and transparency takes years to build. Most married couples never reach this point. I commend you both on creating a solid foundation. Hopefully, you can build on it. If not, you will have learned something priceless to take into your next relationship.
If Laterras thinks that I'm going to sit and watch a 2 hour video at 10 pm...he's completely right 😅!
Financial red flags can't be ignored, this whole financial convo gave me a headache but also transparency. Hope they can make it🙏🏾
Same.😂😂😂
Chiiiiile I just started at midnight 😣 but I don’t want to wait 🤪
Me starting it at 0057am and yes I gotta wake up by 5 😂.. that's why redbul exist
It’s 2something in da mernin my time… opened YT for something to help me sleep. 🥱😴🥱nope!
I’m not on social media so (somewhat) SURPRISED they are back and in this type of way… less than 10 minutes in… oh my!👀👀👀
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As much as they love each other this type of problem is very serious. And love is not enough. Getting into a marriage partnership with someone who has these habits is terrifying.
Chemistry and compatibility should be both present
I absolutely agree …they have love and care for each other, but the underlying dysfunctional patterns are toxic…when more kids come along this situation will get worse…they both need to heal and move on
Love is enough! It’s just that most people do not understand what love is and limit it to a feeling. It is patience, kindness, support, strength, encouragement etc. It is sacrificial and is a deep commitment that is not based on self gratification but on endeavoring to bring the best out of others just as they seek to bring the best out of you. Many of us are not ready to give or receive love because we have no idea what it is.
Absolutely! 28 years In, very similar situation, love him more now than before, but those decisions nearly wrecked us, GID bless you both❤
Please dont overlook her bad habits . They come across clearly. She was annoying to me for the whole show. She is an overbearing person and control freak. Again, he dodged more of a bullet than her
I’m usually not a fan of couples airing out their dirty laundry publicly…but this is such a powerful conversation! This is going to help so many couples. Thank you for your transparency, and I pray these two can resolve their issues ❤
Thank you I was so nervous about how this episode would turn out bc my emotions were so new and raw.
@GirlIsThatLegal I'm proud of you.
Wow. He wasn't even raising his voice.....😢 I'm shaken because THIS is the type of female that you see in the courts... Impracticle and hyper sensitive.
Never kick a man when he is down/at his lowest...he will never forget it.
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HEAR ME OUT: Symone is DRAMATIC, but it is to cover up her extreme lack of self worth and insecurities. Just as Rashid needs work… she has some INTENSE work and healing to do.
I agree with you. And I was rather disturbed at how that was overlooked.
I felt the same way.
Oh please! She knows her worth! That’s why she demands a modicum of respect and transparency!
I got that as well.
Yes because she's concerned about the optics, if not she could've eloped and had a nice reception instead of an engagement party
I am single and never been married. I have really learned alot from this episode, my first time watching and commenting. Wow there's so much to unwind before taking on a new partner and going forward. I believe and pray that this session will give that potential couple the healing and financial freedom to move forward. This was so educational and inspirational on every level. Wow. Wonderful episode. 🎉 my dear future husband to come 😊😊
This doesn't even cover the stuff that will only come out after marriage. Relationships will stretch you to grow and this 2 becoming 1 is not even healthy. I had 24 years and the more I became myself the better we both were for it.
They could be such a powerhouse couple if they are able to be successful and get through this. They can then teach our community!!! about love, finances, law so many things!!!
This is very cringing, I really see both sides, Rashid’s expression looks like he’s being degraded as Symone talks about his challenges, that saying…ITS NOT WHAT YOU SAY BUT HOW YOU SAY IT, but I understand she’s speaking from a painful emotion. A man wants to please a woman so all the superficial things he tried to provide, Symone doesn’t understand the pressure for a man to please. Majority of the conversation she spoke on was the things he did wrong and all the things she did right and what she has….degrees, a lawyer, finance major, her 10k for the wedding, how to manage business…etc. Wow Wow Wow, this is an unfortunate journey, two people are in two different places. She has to be in control because that’s her nature and she likes the lavish life that he cannot afford right now. When a woman provides peace for a man, he operates directly without withholding financial secret’s and he doesn’t want a woman to solve his struggles as he feels controlled, they will start shutting down and withdraw…that’s what he did to gain relief.
This!
this comment was on point. Was thinking the same thing 💯❤
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I don’t think they are compatible. It seems like he will feel like he’s in her shadow.
This
This is actually my first time hearing of Rashid and Symone. I never watched their episode from season 6. So, their journey is new to me. 20 minutes into this episode, and I can tell they're on 2 different sides of a spectrum.
Agreed
Whew!! 💯
Very nicely put lol. God bless them both, separately.
What do you mean by that, I'm so interested??
what did you observe that gave you that perspective?
This was such a mature conversation. Thank you Symonne and Rashid for letting us into the conversation.
This was such an amazing interview! I am so proud of Rashid’s accountability. God Bless both him and Symone.
Rashid, get your confidence up, change financial behaviors, Symone get therapy for your fears y’all forgive one another and grow together. That’s a beautiful outcome. Great episode. So much beauty here.. Good luck y’all!!
The communication here is a blessing, so much openness and acceptance. They both have clarity of what happened, not debating the facts. They both take accountability. They are listening to each other. And they seem to agree on what the problems/issues are. When you add all that to the love they clearly have for each other, it seems like a setup for a recovery and a beautiful love story.
A Whole Extended THERAPY Session!!! Multiple sessions needed individually and together for the relationship to work!! Good luck to both of you🙏🏾
I agree. They will be back
Questions. What is she bringing to the table? What her Financials looks like? He took care of her or at least he try
@@stan020265 She is an attorney with her own practice in addition to a thriving real estate business. She's good.
@@stan020265always ready to question what a woman brings. What she doesn’t being: financial irresponsibility, materialism that she needs someone else to support.
She is getting married for the first time and she deserves to get that one thing once in a lifetime.
This was so wholesome, raw, and loving! I pray that God will continue to equip Rashid with strength to endure this season. I cancel out all self sabotage in his process. Heavenly Father, please help Symone to heal from this but allow her love to cover their friendship. I sincerely pray for their friendship to grow and evolve into marriage if it be in Your will Father. Please grant grace, mercy, and favor. In Jesus’ name Amen.
I ❤ Rashid respect his vulnerabilities and truly hope he can grow beyond this. It’s clear from his demeanor how hard this is for him! It’s a BIG deal, most men WILL NOT allow themselves to go thru this, the male ego couldn’t take it.
He has to get the help he needs for himself. Although she compliments, she can’t fix the issues for him. He has to learn has to manage his financials.
This relationship dynamic is all too relatable and it’s helping me heal and gain understanding. Thank you for sharing this.
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This story is sadly common for many of us, men&women. The importance of healing. Love the fact they were so opened to us.
We just witnessed love with two humans. They need to be celebrated. Let’s pray for them ❤
Amen.
Amen to that! ❤
We also witnessed a woman who wants a PERFECT mate! No such thing.
❤️❤️❤️ thank you!
It is clear Rashid is on the path to healing, wholeness and restoration by being transparent and vulnerable.
He’s doing very well for most men, he handled himself very very well and took accountability.
@@afarongordonhe took accountability AFTER the fact.
@@ka8204 I agree and it should have been done years before but at least he’s trying at you can tell it’s authentic since he made the decision to change without Simone tell him to
I have so much respect and love for this couple especially Rashid ❤
Thanks for sharing your journey with us
Rashid looks emotionally exhausted. He's barely talking. Well at least she knows wats wat before getting into marriage
Lord… before I hit play… may this be what You need to Your children to hear, learn from, and grow. ❤
Maybe it's just me but...he was not mentally or financially ready to marry and she was focused on the social aspects of marriage and ignored the financial red flags.👑💔👑
I was stuck on her vision for a $17k wedding! I’m like girllllll, that was your focus 🤯🤷🏾♀️
Bingo! She talked about his concern with image. She's equally as concerned.
Nope, she didn't ignore. She helped him with a plan, took actions to help further, respected him in spite of his behavior...But all that wasn't enough to break HIS HABIT, his addiction because its his battle to overcome.
I agree she ignored and I’m not sure how she helped but moved into his home and paid not a bill. If she knew the gravity of his mess then why would you move in while someone is still trying to fix their finances.
@@baharrisonfulBINGO!
I’m sad this has happened to them, this was a real conversation and I loved them both for this. Praying for healing.
I love the transparency & vulnerability between these two. Definitely sending them healing energy & rooting for the best outcome for them both. Asé🥰🙏🏾💖
What I can appreciate and respect is the honesty and vulnerability of opening up publicly. We always see the highlight reel but never our romantic blooper reel. Wishing them the absolute best!🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
Amen
I feel her. She dodged a bullet. It would have gotten worse. He plays the victim. He’s selfish and he’s a manipulative. Girl, just be friends. You been his counselor, creditor, teacher, accountant, mommy, daddy, girlfriend, travel agent, financial aid advisor…. No, that’s not healthy. When can you just be Simone and his wife? You’re mental health will be at stake. Your happiness will be at stake. If you move forward, you will have no one to blame but yourself. You marry him and you have future years of misery.
He is a broken man.....run run and don't look back
Yeah I’m not even 25mins in and that’s what I picked up. She’s an intelligent and beautiful woman, there is someone way better for her out there because this guy is not going to change. Sorry to say but I don’t see it, too many excuse ingredients in his recipe for life.
I keep seeing praise for him being open. When I heard that car story I started laughing . Like she better get on her knees she didn't combine finances with him.
Yo, this is a powerful & insightful interview! Wow, I see I need to get rid of childhood trauma & get better financial understanding. To help me prepare for my next relationship & marriage. Thanks man for bringing them on & tell them I said thank you for sharing!
I skipped around their interview and I’ll just say kudos to them for sharing this publicly and being vulnerable enough to talk about the uncomfortable but very real truths that they dealt with. Let this be an example to many
It makes me so sad to see them hurting like this - I wish Symone didn't have to cry and Rashid is clearly hurting to see her hurt... man this is heartbreaking... wishing them the very, very best.
It's odd that Ready to Love wouldn't just pay for the wedding.... it would've made big ratings to display someone actually getting married from this show 😆
You're the first person that said this comment....great insight
Ready to loves budget can allow a restaurant and a few light bites. That’s it lol
@pheoliasmith4325 Right! 🤣 But I'm sure they could've found a ton of vendors in Houston who would've worked with them for limited amounts to free. Just for the national promotion they'd receive! They missed a huge opportunity. Unless Symone & Rashid are about to get a spin-off about their relationship troubles...🤔
But that's placing a bandaid on the issues and they will still be there after the wedding. He's financially irresponsible and she can't trust him.
@@ccpitts770 that part
This is exactly what needs to be on tv! I truly enjoy your show. ❤
Rasheed looks so defeated😢
Marriage > Wedding. Praying for the best for all.
This is why this is My favorite podcast!!!!! This is a component of ministry!!
Love the positivity and intentional conversation on this podcast. Refreshing to see someone who doesn’t just want to air out peoples business but wants to help heal people.
So true and so rare ❤️
This was an outstanding interview. I appreciate the transparency. Symptomatic of real ish in relationships we experience, but would more than likely NEVER bare to our family and friends, let alone on social media. We should see people as who they ARE not who we want them to BE.
I appreciate how you spoke life over them. It’s unfortunate how some folks have used their story as gossip and clickbait
This season and episode sounds like Miracles and Manifestations reloaded. We are yet to see this couples growth. It maybe that they won’t get back together again but Symone would have played a part in Rashid’s healing process. You were that piece that was missing for him to get the true healing. I wish them true healing, happiness and true love. That’s what love is all about. You will both come out stronger and better. With love from Zambia 🇿🇲.
Great episode! Very insightful about the issues that cause stress & strife in relationships. My 22yr marriage suffered (in part) due to financial issues. But I’m glad this episode highlights that the lack of sound money management OFTEN is a result of deeper issues. Kudos to both of them for their transparency and utilizing this awesome platform.
This episode ministered to me. May God Bless the work of your hands. Thank you for what you do. 🙏🏾