**CORRECTION** 0:32 Firearm deaths surpassed vehicle deaths in 2020 (recent data is unavailable) for ages 1-19 in the US. www.nejm.org/doi/full/10.1056/NEJMc2201761 Vehicle deaths were still the highest among children ages 1-17 by a tight margin www.cdc.gov/injury/wisqars/LeadingCauses.html
That's because legally 18 and 19 year olds are ADULTS but they included them intentionally to skew the data to say "gun bad." Our country needs to focus more on infrastructure for travel other than cars, and let guns just be. They're already out there.
That’s because they raised the age of “children” to include legal adults (18-19) which is also the average age for violent gang members in the US. Obviously done because of the agenda against firearms when in reality the problem is gang violence.
I stopped going outside, because everybody else my age stopped going outside. Walking on the sidewalk by myself, no trees, no grass, just concrete is a special kind of depressing.
There’s nothing out there for us. Sprawl literally as far as the eye can see. The closest thing you can get to identifying another human is, ironically, what car they drive.
Yeah saw somewhere that in some states in canada you can't leave a kid alone till they are 16 or 17. When I was a kid around 10 years old I spend loads of time just playing outside without parent supervision.
I kid you not: I was in my mid-twenties when I was stopped by a cop and asked why I was walking, where I lived, where I was going, and which route I was taking. It was a nice spring day. I had a backpack of books and was trying to return it them to the local library, which was about a mile away. It creeped me out. When you can't even walk a mile to the library on a pretty day without being questioned by police, it kind of makes you not want to walk.
And this is why the pigs will never support human-centric infastructure and will advocate against it at city council meetings. Maybe an individual 1 will support it occasionally but def not the FoP
My neighborhood destroyed every public access beach 20 years ago and only left behind the shitty ones. They had a building and I literally got Rocks to kick now none of the kids in my area would even know that we even had the potential of a nice hangout location in the neighborhood.
Even as an adult driving through suburbia it drives me up a wall. I had a meeting one time in a bland office park and had a few minutes for lunch, which having to drive to the nearest chain restaurants was insufferable in itself with the way these places are laid out. I've been to great suburbs before, but we don't see enough of them.
@@YahNation Gotta love those empty beach houses taking up the coastline that only get visited once a year by whomever owns them. It's especially a shame when you're in a place where the only places you can look at the ocean are all blocked by beach houses, the same with hillsides with great vistas. I know a lot of Caribbean islands are having the same issue where natives can't use their own beaches due to it all being bought up.
As a kid it was uncanny. Id be like 15 and dropped of at my fathers' for the summer. I'd hop on my bike and go look to make friends. I'd ride for a mile in all direction until I fit the main road and NEVER meet another kid 😢💔😪
This is why I won’t live in a suburb. Unfortunately, I grew up in one, and there was rampant drug abuse. Because, as was mentioned in the video, there’s nothing to do in suburbs. So literally, kids are doping up their brains without their parents knowing. Suburbs are just a modern day, disaster, cultureless, and a pathetic excuse for living
this is how they develop street smarts are and able to adapt to harsher living circumstances opposed to sheltered kids who whine and complain about everything
I think a lot of kids still play outside. As someone with no irl friends I go outside on long walks, sit on the swing and hangout with my brother all the time. I’m thinking of getting my bike back in shape so I can go on bike rides. My brother and his friends and other kids around his and my age are always outside.
I'm always nervous out in public. Ever since I was like 8 my mom would always tell me everytime I went outside, even just to play in the yard that people could kidnap me and do bad things to me. That shit fucked me up and made me a massive recluse.
@@dodowner132 the only thing I can see that resulting in is the kind of people who call the police on a kid for playing in the backyard having *more* guns. They're exactly the kind of people who shouldn't be allowed to own a pair of scissors.
I remember being kicked out of the house because “playing video games all day is unhealthy” but I wasn’t allowed to leave our property. So what was I supposed to do? Rub a stick in the dirt?
@@baltakateigot to love childism and youth hate destroying everything good we had as a society 😭😭 Literally been a backbone of our politics since hippies and rebellion and all that. Youth international party. Why is our edication bad? Why does everyone think kids are dumb as rocks? Why is every kid miserable? Idfk its suUuUuch a mystery. Its called being scared of the people who can and did challenge the establishment, the youth. So they make sure through bribery and screwing us over the youth are miserable and systemstically abused and considered subhuman and get no freedom or thought or information other than things like tiktok which at this point they need to be happy because they took everything else away.
A lot of kids are so insecure and self conscious they don’t even want to be seen outside or suffer with severe social anxiety with no help to get things better. Also they just want to play video games all day like I do to escape reality.
which is the sane thing to do because I saw a news report from my city of someone being kidnapped and murdered because she had to buy her mother cigarettes from the machine. I think it is better when we sit inside and watch netflix or play pokemon stadium 2. The virtual world has so much more to offer than the boring real world.
They say he was trying to violate policy that all parents had been well informed of & was being belligerent but he got a $100k settlement outta a couple hours in cuffs so...
It’s mind boggling how the boomers who grew up with outdoor childhoods, stereotypically known as valuing the good old days, loathe the thought of today’s children getting to live how they used to.
im 15 my dad only wants me in our neighborhood but is only a tiny bit alright with me going to other neighborhoods next to mine but the furtherest i can probably go isnt even a mile from the neighborhood but he cant track me and my sister has my location so i just go wherever i physically can but i dont have any friends near me even though ive lived here for almost 10 years 3 months til its 10 years of living here and it gets boring and my original friend group i had all moved away the last person moved about 2 years ago and i wasnt really hanging out with him for the last 3 years since thats when i deicided i wanted to play minecraft on my ps3 rather then go outside so whenever i go out i just ride a scooter and there are people my age around here but none of them really mess wit me that much and then everybody else who goes outside there house are dog walkers and kids 7-13 and since this is a apartment complex if i do make friends in here they move after a few months.
@@Lightwaslost Keep putting yourself out there and if you find someone you wanna be friends with dont be afraid to apply a little pressure and become their friend. My 2 current best friends were not made overnight in fact I kinda didnt like one of them at first but over time with hanging out more I would now die for my buddy. Keep your head up and talk to people. Theres a friend for you out there. People are also generally nicer/more playful than you think. Love you
Fr, i get too scared to just walk around my apartment because i dont want to get in trouble And whenever my mom "takes me outside" she just drives me to restaurants
my dad only lets me around the apartment complex but after almost 10 years here it got so damn boring so now i just go where i want cause my dad cant track me
Omg I’m like you but not I live in a small neighborhood next to a big ish city there’s no kids around my age and there is only like adults and elderly people I can’t go outside by myself because I just find it borinb
I'm 25 and going outside still often feels "wrong." I had a few neighborhood kids around growing up but by the time I was 12 going outside was mostly only for a walk, bike, or skateboard around the empty neighborhood roads. The only interaction was a weird stare from the neighbors or a car passing by.
I live in Ohio I get stared down big time for getting my mail or just standing in my driveway or taking out the garbage or watching the eclipse in April we were stared at big time been living there 40 plus years I asked a neighbor if their electric went out just stared at and said nothing
I actually just went out side today may 14 neighbor across the street was out mowing then saw me stopped and went back inside people are weird she does it all the time when we are out side the best thing about being out side here no one bothers you my house is pretty private in the back yard area is a big plus
The last time I walked into my local library with my 19 year old little brother, the librarian yelled at us from the circulation desk, declaring that teenagers could not come in without supervision or written permission from a guardian. And they wonder why kids are the way they are.
@combos7 I agree. For clarity, he looks younger, and she let us by after learning our ages. It's just that the idea that any kid walking into the library would be turned away is so frustrating.
Right. My teen sister wasn't allowed to go into the teen room at the library so she straight up left. Disinterested in the library thanks to the dumb librarian 🙄
That sucks. I work at a library, and we are a community space - we encourage people to come in and hang out, not just for books or other items we offer to borrow/browse, but to participate in the many different programs we host, or other services like reference questions or computer use and free wifi. We have a dedicated kids section and a thriving kids program - I am being 100% truthful when I say kids love coming to our library, and we love that!
@@moe2000 If they are under a certain age, I can maybe see that. But teenagers...? I think teenagers are old enough to go around on their own without supervision, yeah...? If they're under 10 years old, then *maybe* you'd get someone to watch over them. Or those are the standards I grew up with, so about 15 years ago that was probably how things ran
I'm 25, and remember at 10-12, the highlight of my day was hearing the doorbell and the kids of the neighborhood asking my parents if me and my sister could come out to play. As long as we'd did our homework, we could go. We'd play hopscotch, tag, jump rope, one of the boys taught us how to play with Pokemon cards, and gave us two (I still have my Jolteon and Charizard.) We played without supervision, came home when it got dark, and not a single person worried about getting arrested.
As a teen that doesn't live in the US, I'm experiencing that rn, it's really cool getting along with people I didn't even know their names and now getting invited to play at the park
@@whiteboikev I’m in that new generation, ‘addicted to screens’ and I’d still absolutely love to of all of those things. It’s just a lack of those things being available to us kids, and with the public school system being as awful as it is. Can you imagine a 15 year old going out to a park and playing hopscotch? Well maybe you could, but younger kids will shame you for being childlike because that’s what they’ve been sort of conditioned to do by the school system. Just either be cool or fit in, those are the only rules. I sit in my room for hours at a time, yet I still would prefer to have fun with my friends outside. It’s just a matter of possibility with this new system, and if you’d actually watched the video fully or been in our current situation before you got older, you’d understand.
I miss those days.....playing ding dong ditch did get us in some trouble but it was fun. I would say harmless but everything's harmful these days....so yeah not much to do these days. parks used to be the one place to go to make random friends now a days idk if kids are even doing that?
What always gets me is that looking back at my childhood, I have so many good memories from just walking home from school with my buddies. The walk home was about half an hour, and we'd talk, play, maybe take a detour, stop by a shop for candy, what have you. So many memories. On school buses at least kids sit together, but if you're driven, chances are you ride the car alone with your parents. Kids who get driven to and from school miss out on so many experiences.
Like even at college, no one talks to each other. My mom was surprised that no one in the dorms knows their neighbors. We've been raised that way, we grew up as kids not allowed outside and dont know how to talk to each other
I graduated in 2022 and during that last year the freshmen were literally like NPCs. They rarely interacted with each other so upperclassmen would do the socializing lmao. I think COVID fucked them up
Seriously. I’m Mexican, but this whole situation still applies here (perhaps even more so). Bike lanes are non-existent, side walks are either broken or have cars parked on them, there are aggressive stray dogs everywhere and don’t get me started on crime. There are a few crosses on my street alone (these are placed in hispanic culture to signify exactly where a person died/body was found) and just a few months ago one of my neighbors killed a man! It’s insane here and I absolutely DO NOT blame my mom for never even allowing me to walk alone to the convenience store just a few houses away from my own. Her fear is, sadly, not irrational in any sense of the word. I can’t wait to finally raise enough money to move to the US. At least the government makes an effort to make the place look nice
@@kaleycooper9111omg the sidewalks in my area (north America) are TERRIBLE. There’s mutiple big stroads and even roads that have no crosswalks or sidewalks for pedestrians to cross. There’s literally a bridge I used to walk on when I would go to Walmart with my mom after she picked me up from school (we have no car bc ours is broken and we can’t afford to fix it), and it has no sidewalks so youre just walking next to the cars. It sucks so much
Alot of this is why VR is so appealing to teens and kids in general... it gives them a "physical" space to socialize and play in with out having to leave their homes.
that’s what i did over covid… i would just go on, talk to everyone, make some pretty good friends, one of which i still an in contact with today, and i just felt like i finally belonged somewhere with other people who made me feel welcomed
This is how I felt too when it came to RUclips/Art websites was that people had something more in common with my interests than those in my elementary school. While everyone at Knollwood elementary school in 2005/2006 were into spongebob, they didn't realize I was into the Saw/Hostel/Horror Movie franchises back when I was 9/10 years old, which I've been a fan of horror movies since I was 7 years old in 2003 (20/21 years ago to be exact). Needless to say, my parents thankfully allowed us and my siblings to bike or walk anywhere not because of school, but rather because it was for health and exercise. So thankfully it wasn't because they kicked me out due to video games, but rather they were concerned I wouldn't get much sunlight or activity to feel better and not get sick all the time.
That was legit awesome. I remember one time there was a social event for that VR game Rec Room. it was like a hide and seek game in one of the paintball pvp maps. It was a blast weirdly awesome how a bunch of random online players were able to work together and simulate a real game of hide and seek in a completely virtual world.
I’ve always had a sneaking suspicion that “stranger danger” education in schools and the fear mongering of parents has created a plethora of problems for gen z and millennials and how they interact with others and that it has impacted the problems in loneliness, dating, and the friendship recession. We were taught to be incredibly fearful of each other when the statistics don’t call for it
Yeah, and that’s probably because crime rates have been dramatically increasing in the USA, like my mom said “when I was a kid, I would go outside all the time, now kids can’t because of all the creeps out there, and cars, children can easily be stalked” personally, I mostly agree with her.
I'm 67, and I can damn well tell you why it is. There is nowhere left to go. When I was a kid, we went swimming at the old abandoned gravel pit. We rode our dirt bikes through the woods. Us kids in the neighborhood took an abandoned lot and mowed it, cleaned it up, and used it as our neighborhood baseball field. We didn't need no stinkin' Parks Service! In my home town of Grand Rapids, Michigan, ALL OF THOSE PLACES ARE GONE!
I am 15 and live in a suburb of Des Moines, Iowa. There isn’t any woods here, no empty lots you are allowed to go on, everything is just so boring. We have a couple playgrounds and a tennis court, that’s about it. Also, you can’t go anywhere because there is lethal traffic on 6 lane roads on all sides of the neighborhood. And if you want to go do anything other than that you have to pay for it and have your parents drive you there when they have time.
I live in Winnipeg, Canada. There’s not much to do for teens nearby. You can shop (expensive), go to a park (but all of them are school parks meant for young young children), go for a walk (where? with who?) or stay at home. it’s clear which one is the best option. The closest actual park is kilometres away and hard to walk to. There’s a library close to where I live, but that’s about it, most people don’t have one that close, and it’s closed often when I actually have the time to go visit it. it’s depressing.
The parks service has done some incredible things in my home city of Minneapolis. There's a park within a mile of every home here. I think you picked the wrong enemy in your comment 😅
@Azelf89How and where? People coming in from the border aren't even vaccinated against the most basic things... Stop pushing blatant lies and propaganda
I remember getting a skateboard and wanting to bike more but there were just signs all over town saying no skating and there were no lanes or bike racks. It’s really a car centric world now :( not having a license can completely cripple your ability to go out and be in the world in so many cities
Same, as soon as I turned 14, my parents, my younger brother, and just anyone in my family was begging me to study for my learner permit so I could start learning on how to drive until I turned 16 so I could get a car and start driving myself when I'm not even interested and even slightly scared of driving knowing how reckless some people anymore, I miss where people weren't so independent on driving, I would rather walk 4 miles to a store than do a less than a minute drive thank you very much
Let's be honest, if your kids don't have independence as children they're going to have problems as adults kids nowadays have been conditioned to have dependents on their parents. That's the reality we need to show these kids that they can be independent.
No wonder there's a loneliness crisis in young people. When your infrastructure, laws and helicopter parents discourage you from doing things outside and experience things at a young age you tend to not grow and develop social skills properly, which makes your 20's very difficult. And I feel most people are having to spend their 20's realizing things they could've figured out and should've been taught in their teens. Also, I think it's part of the reason why so many kids wanna go away to college despite the debt while also not knowing what they want to do. It really is mainly for the social aspect, it's their last chance to make up for what they couldn't get out of high school or growing up in general.
That's why I want to go to college. You've read my mind. I grew up in a bad environment and then was taken away from my mother to my gramn. She was a severe helicopter parent and I had undiagnosed autism so the change was super hard on me. Now that I'm 19 I realized how much of life I missed out on. But it's nearly impossible to make friends outside of school now
I love how older people talk about living their glory days so that the young generation didn't have to. I.e. racing bikes down that steep hill off a ramp over a creek type of stuff. There's so much emphasis about becoming a criminal because you had fun that kids don't do anything but play with electronics. Can you get hurt doing physical activities with your friends outside? Yes but it's something you'll cherish until you die.
Yeah this was something that was unfortunate for me as well, I don’t have the urge to always go outside. I’ve gotten a bit better at socializing and trying to manage social interaction with others but it isn’t too easy. My parents only let me use my technology rather than bringing me outside or encouraging me to go outside. Not to mention various other aspects that I had to handle in my life which messed with me a lot. Depression, emotional numbness, anxiety, stress, slight suicidal tendencies, loneliness and many other things in high school didn’t do me much either since the kids there only considered me a psychopath. When I was just always fucking suffering and now I am feeling better as a young adult. And guess who helped me? Barely anyone in my school, only teachers were nice to me and some students or classmates were cool with me but ain’t that many. Even my French Teacher gave me a fucking hug once, I wish I could hug her again and cry into her arms. Because she was a good teacher, as well as a nice woman, the others who helped me are those that were online. And I found my own passion is to help others who may not be so fortunate, thanks to people online which is unlike the cunts outside in society. So I plan to become something like a therapist or a psychotherapist as well as just being someone that other people, especially kids can rely on. Because with the way shit is going, kids don’t have someone to listen to them who’s an adult so if I have to be the adult that other kids can speak to and give them a chance to speak up about anything then that’s what I’ll be. Society can go fuck itself for trying to destroy me and those I love, I’ll be laughing my ass off at all the adults when I’m finished helping children who will be asking for help and need the help.
Watch Not Just Bikes on traffic calming. Just plopping up signs doesn't work. There needs to be physical and logical indicators to why drivers should slow down. Even in this video, Flurf said drivers wouldn't even let kids cross to school. The bus driver had to intervene and protect the kids. Which I'm glad the bus driver did. I saw a comment on Not Just Bikes or Shrifter from a European tourist to America who asked why was America empty of people. Also, check out Not Just Bikes on third places and Cash Jordan on anti-homeless/hostile architecture.
I actually can't believe that kids can't even be alone in a park in the us. I can't believe it dude!!! american children are prisoners!! what!!! land of the free and you can't even walk places!!!!!
Yeah actually if you're a minor from a poor family in the US life is really house arrest until you're way too old to develop independence and critical social skills.
I love the fact that no one takes into consideration how at risk kids are these days if left unsupervised. I don’t trust anyone with my kid, even more so because my kid is a girl.
@@Guy96477 Yeah, and kids do it all day long in school and when the summer comes they will read when they DAMN WELL PLEASE, thank you very much, not because someone ordered them to!
This is very validating, even as an adult. It's so hard to find neighborhoods that actually have walkable places. I don't want to HAVE to drive everywhere, I want to be able to walk around and see other people walking around enjoying being outside. It just feels so depressing the way it is right now
@@zarrowthehorsebeing on the computer is fun, of course. but if we had the choice to just walk outside and go have fun with others our age, whether children, teenagers, or even adults, many people would do so. unfortunately, america is built in such a way now that most social places where you can do things like that are upwards of 15-20 minutes away by car, or roughly 8-16x that duration via walking. who in the hell is going to walk several hours, across many lanes of busy traffic, with sometimes few or no crosswalks (let alone safe crosswalks) just to have fun when you could have decent fun just sitting down in your home? the real enemy here is the inconvenience of going out in modern america and trying to find others that will do the same
@@Jvizzlezzim lucky enough to live in a neighborhood that is not built near a major road or highway and have decent enough sidewalks with little to no cars passing by. I can usually just ride my bike to the pool or tennis court and hang out with my friends. I feel like the government of the USA should be focusing more on humans rather than cars, and this is coming from a kid that likes to play videogames pretty often.
The world is honestly horrible right now. Kids have depression because they aren't allowed to go outside because 1. Parents are afraid of them going out. 2. The own governments laws about it It's absolutely insane that kids cannot go into some fast food restaurants without parent supervision etc. ontop of all that kids under the age 16-18 are bejng banned off social media making it even worse. Scientist wonder why our children are so depressed and have such fewer friends in this generation but the world has been making it so hard for them to socialize at all.
@@guelphdeliverygirlwell idk about you but no rules in my country states that kids could get banned from normal establishments except bars, clubs, and liquor stores. Pretty much anywhere is safe for kids just don't let your kids go out past 8pm alone
It's terrible that you can get arrested and have your kids taken for letting them play in your yard unsupervised, or picking them up on foot, but there's still a ton of horrific cases where people straight up abuse their kids and have them live in horrible conditions, and nobody does anything till the kid's name is on a headline and their body's gone cold.
Yep, hey folks why dont you check out the dark web kids being sold, raped and chopped up alive to have their body parts sold. Hey folks remember when it would take a while to get body parts and now during covid 19 it was like I got covid 19 but they just replaced my lungs, heart, liver etc... wow and how many children and adults disappear in America every year many never to be heard from again a lot, so nowadays its best to be safe than sorry.
Getting arrested for walking with your kids is crazy Edit: after seeing all the replies, I’ll never take walking freely for granted again. I grew up and live in the Philippines where walking to anywhere you want is normal (well, as long as you’re in one of the developed suburb communities or cities), very similar to our neighbors in Hong Kong, Singapore, Japan, and basically every Asian country.
Suburbs are also ripe with Karens and paranoia it appears. Apparently walking in your neighborhood looks suspicious as a lot of recorded 911 calls show and from my as well as plenty other people's experiences (far too many examples to put in this comment). It's no wonder why so many Karen videos take place in the suburbs and why so many people in suburbs get killed or harassed over some person's suburb paranoia.
1) Schools and their overwhelming amount of homework take up a lot of the kids time. 2)The commute to and from school can be long and draining. 3) Adding in extracurricular activities add to the time consumption. 4) Parents having a "my child is to be with me and nobody else. No one is being responsible for my child when not in school and I will not be responsible for anyone's child either" mentality. 5) Parents not wanting their children to mix 6) Some kids live in the middle of nowhere 7) There are no mom & pops diners, pizza parlors, ice-cream & soda parlors, community centers, burger joints, arcades or fun zones for kids to go to and hang out. 8) Any park in neighborhoods is usually only for younger kids so many older kids and teens are displaced. 9) If you are bullied, why would you leave your house to face more torment? 10) kids live far away from there schools, so any friend they make are at school only and it would be too costly and hard for them to meet up and hang out. 11) These suburbs/developments being built have nothing but houses as far as the eye can see, on super narrow roads with no space between them. When they should have clinics/doctors offices, multiple parks, movie theatre, convenience stores, mom & pops places, community centers, public pools, comic/dvd/games stores; something to bring some diversity and life to the landscape. 12) A lot of neighbor hoods have in recent years become very unsafe due to criminals, gangs, druggies, dogs. 13) A lot of the time when kids want to go to a local watering hole, a grotto, woodlands, fields, abandoned infrastructure - old people complain and call the cops. 14) People complain and call the cops on kids just playing in their yard, skateboarding or riding their bike. 15) religious people drag their kids to various faith based facilities and events and they may not get back until late at night, exhausted and drained. 16) A lot of fields and lots that kids could go to to play and hang out have been cornered off or turned into housing. 17) Parent buy expensive clothing items for their kids and the kids in turn cannot get them dirty as the parents would pitch a fit when having to clean them, so the kids just stay quiet inside. 18) The only thing the youth have for fun and interaction is there computers, tablets, cells, videogames and tv. 19) A lot of kids have allergies and other health concerns which make it difficult to be outside for too long. 20) Some environments are just too harsh to go outside in - dust, pollution, dangerous animals, heat, cold, rain. 21) Parents don't like to let their kids go outside unless their other siblings can come. which poses challenges when if the other sibling is opposite gender or much younger, so it may be better to stay home. Likewise, some older kids are forced to stay home and keep house/ babysit their younger siblings. 22) A lot of clubs and activities have been hijacked. So kids would rather stay home and avoid that headache. 23) A lot of clubs, activities and programs have become severely underfunded and/or overpriced, so things have been left to degrade to sub par levels of fun and safety. 24) Even if there is somewhere to go, its overcrowded and/or too far away.
I grew up in the sticks myself with no one my age anywhere nearby. Aside from video games and TV, my only other options at home were either exploring the massive forest in my backyard by myself or playing solitaire card games. Granted, once I hit middle school I had access to after-school activities, which I took part in at least 3 of, but after those were done it was straight home.
Finally someone brings light to this problem, if adults want kids to go outside then build a place kids want to be. Suburbia is a pretty boring place outside Edit: a lot of neighborhoods (not all) only have small playgrounds, which can be fun, but older kids would rather be at places like skateparks. Normally a lot of these place are built further away from suburbs so teens would rather just stay inside.
"build a place kids want to be"...wouldnt that be skateparks, malls, amusement/water parks, movie theatres, or anything else yall already have that dont really care about kids being there lol. Give an example
@@CerealKiller669 We used to have these things called "arcades" where you'd go with your friends and pump quarters into machines to play video games. Strangely enough, so many of those have vanished... almost as if the demand for them wasn't there.
I love that whenever i talk about how my parents are hypocrites for always hovering around me after they talk about the crazy shit they did as kids their first argument is "things are different now, you just didn't want to be outside." No, what I didn't want was to be locked to a 2 block radius around my house and allowed to explore and interact with others. "I used to stay out until the streetlights came on!" If I did that i would get grounded. I was actively punished for going out and being social and now my parents wonder why i don't like people and I'm a shut in.
Bro you are so right about being locked in a 2-radius outside the house. I couldn't fucking step one foot on the PARKING LOT outside our apartment block like the other kids because my mom didn't want that when I was 7. I was afraid to walk across the street by myself at age 12 and 13...and they expected me to know how to cross the street on my own after consistently being told I have to stay attached to their hip.
@@bobtheball5384 When I lived with my dad from age 6 to 12, I wasn't allowed to leave the house to play with people. For some reason my dad thought that I would insta-turn into a gang member if I played outside with the other kids💀
I live in Japan and I’m in middle school, everyone walks or bikes to school and even elementary school students walk to school! And there’s always places for kids to hang out in Japan. Even adults bike to work or anywhere. People only use cars if they’re going somewhere far, lol
I live in the suburbs, and there ain't SHIT to do outside. If you go literally 0.2 miles from my house roads, roads, and even more roads. It's awful when I go outside there's some liminal space crap going on. it's creepy as hell.
welcome to my town, im 30 and its a small town, ive never had anything to do here and i wouldnt have minded some good outdoor spaces growing up! it honestly sucks and i really wish the younger generations had something to do outside of home life
exactly! the closest thing to my neighborhood is my school and a plaza, which just has a deli and other pointless shops, and atleast a 30min walk would get you to another neighborhood or a dollar store, 45min and you'll get to the gas station
Social media is another large part of the problem. Parents spend so much time on social media and constantly see stories about people being murdered or dying in an accident outside. Then as a result, they become too paranoid to allow their children to do anything alone.
Agreed. I’m letting my 10 year old daughter go to school by herself even though the walk is known to have drug addicts. If someone won’t step up for our kids, then I will
@@HughMongusJazzhole Now I know this is only trolling, but seriously don't troll like that on a serious video. This whole made up situation is the complete opposite of what they said. They are talking about paranoia about safe environments. That would be an unsafe environment for an adult let alone a child.
@@SecretKeeperForever9 It’s called sarcasm lmao. And serious video? Those memes in the vid sure made me cry. That’s the thing, there’s no such thing as a “safe space” - there’s assholes everywhere and you don’t know which person might mean harm
Finally, someone talking about this issue! Im 14, and I personally wish i could just.. go more places. But i can't drive yet, and also, my parents don't want me out much due to the danger. It took a fair amount of convincing to get my parents to let me walk outside of our neighborhood. Keep in mind that my parents are some of the most chill parents I've ever met.
As a kid. I wanted nothing more than to go outside. But my mom had unresolved trauma and stuff so she kept me hidden and sheltered. Told me I was going to get kidnapped or assaulted. That terrified me. I didn't want to go outside. But she ended up mellowing out. I got to go outside a lot more, but I was always scared and anxious, worried that someone was gonna get me. I still have those fears today. It really is our parents who caused this.
@@3810-dj4qzshit is so annoying. My mom's Christian too, so it's like do you not believe that God's protection applies to me or are you a fake Christian because of a sensationalized news story🤦♀️
This is a great example about how anxious parents make anxious children and it is difficult to grow a sense of safety and personal intuition when told the world is a horrifying place. It happened to me too and I hate it.
depending on your particular age, it might not be your parents but your grandparents. i'd place the fault more on the people who were born pre-1980. this garbage is at least a two generations deep.
I grew up in Vegas and skated for years. I recently moved to Washington state and 20 years after quitting skateboarding I see no one outside skating, unless it’s a longboard for travel.
This might sound silly or off-topic, but I think this is why Animal Crossing resonated with so many people. During a time where these issues were at their worst in lockdown, people were given an opportunity to start a new life (granted, a virtual one), build a perfect town where everybody was together, and have the ability to easily get to places on foot. Animal Crossing was and is the epitome of the good that society is missing.
Then carry that same attitude into your daily life. Get to know your neighbors, have community cook-outs, and get-togethers. Start making your neighborhood more than just a place where your house is, and you'd be surprised how quickly the outside culture would cone back.
My parents kept me inside for 14 years, no friends could come over, I couldn’t go to their houses, I could not leave the single small length of street in front of my house. It has stuck with me my entire life, I’ve had barely any social interaction with people my age since middle school because I was unable to build relationships outside of school Edit: I’m now 19, out of school, working in trades with my best friend, but I truly didn’t start living until I was around 16
It’s a double whammy when you get bullied. I was bullied viciously on top of having very protective grandparents. Death threats and rape threats will make you stay home, rather than have any friends your age at all.
FELT "you had a safe life." Then you introduce me to all the shit you kept me away from cause it was too tempting and "adult" to begin with so now that I'm big and adult and think i know better than people because that stupid kid shit of "I'm not a kid" and now like a magic trick a former gifted student turned hard addict. For clarification I'm clean now and have been for a while but struggled with substance abuse issues as well as horrific mental health issues and this is probably the most traumatic part of my life that most people just don't even seem to think is hard. The worst part is I see it happen SO often. Children with NO lives except content at home and friends get replaced with virtual ones but then those same people make sure to assure you online friends aren't real friends. Its fucking GAY
my mother never let me go to or host sleepovers because "everybody's a murderer" but she did force me to hang out with her friends' kids 🙄she didn't even want to give me a phone number/phone so that I could at least stay in contact with the people I did know.
FR THATS HOW MY PARENTS ARE They asked me why I don’t go outside and I told them that I do but number one they don’t let me go outside because “YoU cAn GeT kIdNaPpEd! And it’s for your safety!”,number two I’m not even allowed to to play in the front of my house even though my neighborhood is a good neighborhood like nothing has happened plus I’m not even able to hang out with my friends anymore! It’s just so ridiculous that kids like me can’t go outside without having parent supervision 🫤
@@WitchKing-Of-Angmarits hard to not get addicted when your parents raised you as an ipad kid, im so thankful for the lockdowns because i got so bored i started a hobby and realised it made me feel way better so many parents really just let their kids sit on their phones etc all day and then get surprised when they do use it all day. Like help them pick up a hobby or anythimg..
@@FemboyKaiSaku Maybe that's why you are trying to escape from being a male or female. For absolutely no reason other than the "whatever" mentality of today... effortlessly charming in its own regard.
As someone who was in highschool in the 2010-2015 era, it really showed the transition from "go hang out outside after school until dark" to "come home after school and stay inside unless you get driven to a friends house" In my opinion it really comes down to how times are changing and people are now more likely to choose safety over hanging out outside all day, as well as proliferation of social media and online gaming. I'll be honest I really miss when people would hang out outside all day. Modern suburbia has no sense of community, you don't meet anyone new randomly, kids don't go to the local skate park/basketball court to make friends. These days kids get less exercise, fresh air, make less friends, experience less of nature, develop worse social skills, experience less of the real world. I've been a big gamer since i was 11 and I'm not very social so I definitely don't blame people for wanting to stay inside, but man the way society is now is lonely. the stereotype of the headphone-wearing blank faced new yorker has grown to encompass society as a whole
As a student in my final year of high-school, I've always wanted to just go and explore. The problem is that there's nothing to really explore without a car anymore. There's barely any sidewalks where I live and it's a far walk to anything that isn't a store. I just want to explore the nooks and crannies of a large city. I find Tokyo very appealing because it's just a big walkable city, so much to explore, so many new things to try.
@@XchampionXFTW Make some friendships and find that friend There is 7 billion people in this world there is no reason to feel alone Make that first step and start a conversation,I guarantee there is another person just like you looking for a friend ❤
Must be your area because kids and teens are still like this in my area. I live Ina low income area and was also part of the 2010-2015 era. Then again I lived in the hood and was a stoner/skater so i was always outside with other teens. Exploring woods, bombing hills, and crusing through streets on skateboards. Not to mention hooking up 😅😂 it has to be a location thing.
As a teenager who lives in a town so small it can be considered a village I agree 10000% with everything you said. All me and my best friend can do that isn't on the internet is shop at the nearby doller general and go to the park which is fun Don't get me wrong but it gets old quick and for a while I was terrified about going anywhere without an adult (I'm less afraid about this now but still)
The 6yo across the street from me plays outside constantly but no one to play w so he hangs out w me on my porch and we chat. He says his friends aren’t allowed but his mom cant stifle his freedom😅 he has confidence and self esteem.
i live in a small town that is very walkable so fortunately my little sisters are able to do these things. i didnt realize how much of a problem this is for larger cities
As a teenager recently moving from mississppi to tennessee, I can't BELIEVE the lack of independence that I am immediately greeted with as soon as i walk outside. The place I live only recently added sidewalks, about a year ago, walking or biking wasn't even an option. As someone who want's to socialize more and get out of the house as I spent my very early years doing NONE of these things, I am completely dissapointed by modern american road and town design.
i live there too and it's awful. even the older parts of cities are not made for walking and despite all the cool natural stuff and monuments nearby, you have to have a car to do anything. i used to walk around my neighborhood a lot but we don't even have sidewalks 😭 i stopped just because it gets boring walking around the same 1-2 mile stretch of suburb for a year or two. i've almost gotten run over a couple of times. i need to go out and do stuff but i can't!!!
@@papelplayz ive been walking/riding in the same 1-2 mile stretch too and also almost gotten ran over alot and ive lived here for almost 10 years so ive seen everything i could possibly see here so i just leave the apartment complex even if my parents dont want me too
Rykusu, you are in a perfect position to be an agent for change. You've experienced an environment where your freedom for movement wasn't as curtailed as in your current place. And you know what you want as far as your social life, the chance to meet and mix with others, is concerned. Don't let the downside of where you're living get to you-- you didn't create the problem. But you can encourage others not to give in to the poor urban/town planning which brings all of you down. Your positive example, living well in spite of conditions, can create the change which could benefit everyone.
It makes me sad that, where I live, an adult on a bicycle is often considered to be an alcoholic or drug addict that lost their license and car. I don't see kids on bicycles- I see several kids in a yard together all with their noses buried in their phones and not talking with each other.
Take comfort in that some of us young ones are trying to be more social, even the more introverted and quiet people like me, it’s difficult for me to start or make conversations, but we are trying, we just have to get past the awkward phase haha
Lack of independence and parental "superprotection" really makes us more lonely... I'm 16, almost 17, and I'm completely dependant on my mom to pick me up from school and basically to drive me everywhere I need to go. Some of my friends are more independent but I can't hang out with them cause my mom is afraid os something happening to me. Result: I barely exit home, except for school everyday.
have you gotten a drivers license or started working towards one? i mean if you have the opportunity to get one it might convince your parents to let you go outside more. or maybe a bike
@@scooby8561 I live in Brazil and can't get a driver's license until I'm 18... But that's not quite the problem. What stops me from going outside more often is my parent's concern about my security. And without this autonomy, I won't be able to learn how to take care of myself in the outside world, you know? It's more than just a practical issue, but I'm working on that, and things are starting to change, though slowly.
yes definitely, i have never rode a bus until this year (im 15 almost 16) so i had to learn all this public transport stuff super late due to my parents wanting to drive me everywhere to ensure "safety"
Chillax I think your parents are protecting you from the world. The world could be dangerous. They dont you to get hurt. Ask to go out with a friend or with them to find spot you can hangout safely with friends. I will pray for you to longer feel/be lonely.
i have friends who want to go outside and their parents would want that too but their parents are simply too busy to drive them around everywhere. going anywhere nowadays takes so much planning and stuff. this is almost 100% due to infrastructure that values the giant moving vehicle more than the human. if our infrastructure was made for civilians, parents wouldnt have to be the ones responsible for making sure their kids can leave the house.
@@scourgatory💯 parents just want to keep their kids safe, the blame lies with planners and people paying and taking bribes to wreck our cities for pedestrians and keep us car dependent.
@@out_spockenIdk about other countries, but at least here in the US, I and many other americans I have known can attest that if you *do* step outside, you will walk in front of one of several cameras, set off an alert on your parent's phones, then they immediately chime in and ask what's wrong/what's happening, and bring you back inside. Parents are simply too paranoid due to mainstream media spreading fear about the "man in a white van" so they don't want their kids exploring anything independently.
Let’s be honest, greedy politicians and corporations won’t change cities policy to be less car dependent since cars are more profitable for them than building efficient train systems.
That's exactly it. If people would think for themselves instead of thinking how corporation backed media wants us to, they'd see that our biggest problems have clear solutions.
Exactly and it's sad but it won't change for years until the older generations die out but even then who knows because the older generations running the country are ruining our younger ones 🥰
Gather together people from your local neighbourhood who feel the same, try to do real politics by activism, if politicians fail to do their good paid jobs...
You’re very observant and insightful. I’m 64. I always thought many of the things you said but was never as articulate and productive as you! I recently sold my overpriced and depressing suburban home, got lucky and moved to a small farm with acreage. Cars are dangerous as you say but people still don’t operate them like farm equipment. Thanks for the great job, young man!
People are so worried about kidnappings and parents are always making sure where their kids are, and so it's just easier to stay inside. It's actually stressful trying to schedule things with people because they have to check with parents first.
FACTS. Up until like about 15 I gave up with hanging out with friends because it was such a pain in the butt. “I have to meet the parents” “Where do they live?” “What class are they in?” Talking about it gets me mad 😅
EXACTLY. Every time I even thought about doing something with my friends my mom got so over protective for no reason. I could have just went out and done it by myself and she wouldn't have cared but as soon as she hears it's with my friends all of a sudden she needs everyone's grandmother's phone number and my exact coordinates every 5 minutes. I basically couldn't do shit with my friends if it wasn't at school. Made no sense. And then she wondered why I never left the house
Modern parents are to blame for this. They are extremely selfish and dont care that they are hurting their children's growth by helicopter parenting. Nobody was doing that to them when they were kids because that wasnt a thing back then. Media is also to blame for this. Making it seem like their is a kidnapper around every corner but if you are dumb enough to believe that you deserve what you get.
I was shut in my whole childhood, carted everywhere. I made only a couple of friends in school that luckily stuck around past high school, but i never really had a reason to explore or meet new people. Its a new skill that i had to learn with my newfound independence. Dont get me wrong, my parents are great parents but that "kidnappers are everywhere" mentality really stunted my social life as a kid
THIS... I couldn't even leave my small culdesac on bike until I was 18, and there was no one on my road that was my age. I chose to become homeschooled in 5 grade cuz of the bullies and horrible teachers, but that also made it so that I couldn't meet literally ANYONE unless they moved onto the road, which never happened. Of course because of that, I sat inside and played videogames instead, which then became "You're so addicted to video games. Why don't you play outside more?" as if riding my bike around the same 75 foot stretch of road by myself is stimulating in the slightest. I wanted to get out. I wanted to explore, but the only way i could do that is in virtual worlds. All because "but the kidnappers!!!" Nowadays I bike all the time, and have come across "shady" people and drug addicts. You know. The people i was told would basically kill me on sight if i looked at them wrong. But I've never had problems with them. I keep to myself, and they keep to themselves mostly. Buncha overblown nonsense perpetuated by people who are protected by the four sides of their cars and houses, who couldn't get out and go wherever if they wanted to. My parents were good parents too 9/10 times (minus the stuff like this imo) but they were extremely paranoid and living in fear because of this stuff.
30 years old here for perspective: I live very rural, and in hindsight am very glad that I had some friends on my street. However, the "kidnappers are everywhere" mentality stunted me too. And not just that, but my mother had a fear of everything. No matter what I did, it was "you're going to die." To this day I'm afraid of driving, afraid of not walking with one foot nearly in the ditch, afraid of technology because breaking something = big expensive, even if it's really not. I was raised to be terrified of anything and everything, and even knowing better as an adult it is *extremely* difficult to get past the rooted predisposition I was forced into. To give just one example that might highlight the intensity in which I was fearmongered to by my mother: I was told not to shoot a basketball because "you might break the net if you miss." Now imagine that but with everything. No matter what I did, I was going to break something or find some way to be led to ruin. And then die, of course. So growing up I had a lot of "Why don't you do more X, Y, Z", followed by me doing X Y Z and being screamed at that I'm going to get myself killed. Thanks, mom.
I feel that, I also wasn't allowed to do anything as a kid because of the news and all of the mass paranoia it spread. There's was so many opportunities and learning experiences and I feel I've missed out on alot.
It just made me afraid of the world. Like yeah I sorta want to go outside but at the same time a lot of the things I like can be obtained without going outside
@@MyDudeman222same here. I got permission to ride my bike around my neighborhood at 16 only because he kids younger than me were asking me to go with them. I still wasn’t allowed to walk to a friends house or knock on doors. I honestly don’t know why.
as someone that has a condition that makes me unable to drive, i’m so hyper aware of the car dependent state of the US. save for a couple of cities, it’s impossible, inconvenient, AND DANGEROUS like you said to try and get around without a car. everyone assumes that everyone can drive, but for anyone that can’t afford it/has medical issues/children, they’re stranded.
And walkable cities can be expensive, like New York. That also shows that they're expensive cause they're on demand. Yeah, car centric design is prejudice against disabled people, kids, and many other people. And the environment and animals. Watch Adam Conover's video on animals and car centric design.
@@user-gu9yq5sj7cNew York isn't really as walkable as people suggest. Some people rave the grid style for walkability, but here's the thing. If there is just one busy arterial lane, yes the cars on it are fast and I have to wait for an opening, but once I am across I am home free on empty roads. If there is a grid, i have to stop every 100m at a stoplight for slow moving evenly dispersed cars because each cross has a stoplight and each stoplight has cars.
@laurabraus and you didn't even get into collecting packages at the post office. Here in Canada a photo ID can be required. Regards fellow odd-ball. But isn't it funny how all the "sheep" behave.
@@demo2823that’s still ultimately an issue caused by cars though. I think New York is also considered more walkable for its public transit (which despite being unsafe, is still better than public transit in the rest of the country). Compare NYC to any rural area and it’s significantly more walkable. If the US adopted a method of public transit and city design closer to that found in European and eastern Asian countries, then we’d finally have truly walkable cities. But cars and traffic are what’s ruining that even in our most walkable cities
I want to go outside so bad, I prefer nature over devices, but my parents get worried about kidnappers, so I can’t go ANYWHERE without supervision, and they barely go outside so that kinda leads to me barely going outside. Trust me, I'd go ride my bike all day rather than being on this phone typing right now. I just feel really isolated from the outside world and it makes me feel sad.
im a techie personally but i hate being forced into one side. I really do want to explore nature and observe those tiny flowing rivers and landscapes or even just basic parks with anything green! theres a lot of small streams in my area, i dont know if they're safe but im not allowed to go out and ask anyone!
Me too! (I mean, I live in a place that turns into a hellishly hot sauna in the summer, so heatstroke is a fair concern. But jeez... I can't at least go in the morning? I hate being cooped up inside.)
Some of those suburban vistas depress me. People spend so much time and money on their LAWNS, but there hardly aren't any TREES! Also, the American idea that public transportation is only for the poor is so ridiculous. Americans are too car-dependent. WAY too car-dependent.
It depends on the location. I live in suburbia, but the State that I live in has an abundance of trees and so does my neighborhood. Most of my backyard is wooded as is part of my front yard and at least one side of my house.
@@the_expidition427 People in America don't realize that 'the poor' doesnt just mean homeless people and bums. It's also most college students and young workers.
@@daniel_4625 Similar situation to original commenter. Everything is either past a road with a grave site for a kid who got hit by a car (people regularly go 60 in a 15 zone, even after the accident) or past a road right off a highway, with people going 50 or so.
Millennial here. I often run into these conversations with people my age and older about how “young people are this and that” and it’s wildly frustrating. YOUNG PEOPLE ARE NOT RESPONSIBLE FOR THE CONDITIONS THEY’RE BORN INTO. It amazes me how the generation(s) that created or perpetuate said conditions love to pass blame onto the generation(s) most affected by their decision-making. It’s happening to us and Gen-Z hard right now in nearly every aspect of our lives. To the older people out there: Don’t build a kid a sandbox and then get angry at the kid for playing in it.
Gen z here, just gonna add Ive been called a millennial more times than I can count because I’m a full adult, when I say I’m Gen Z older people get taken aback. They don’t want to admit that you guys aren’t kids anymore and that Gen z aren’t all kids anymore because it shows that one, we can vote against them, and two, they can’t use “kids these days” as an excuse anymore because none of us are kids and we are having the same problems. “Wages are too low? When I was 15 I made $4/hr!!!” But when they see me and see that I’m an adult they realize Gen Z aren’t working summer jobs in high school anymore, and I’m still being paid less than they were at my age. They can ignore how ongoing your problems have been as Millennials if it’s just you, but now that Gen Z are becoming adults with the same problems they have to start looking at themselves. At this point, as sad as it is to say, im just waiting for them to die off so our votes can count for more. Millennials and Gen Z together can fix this but the boomers are called that because of how many of them there are, and all we can do is wait.
Sounds like a lot of excuses. You aren't responsible for the conditions you are born in to but you are responsible for how you live your life and what you do with it. I know a lot of people born in a lot worse situations than most and still made the best of things rather than throwing in the towel and blaming others. Take accountability.
@@MrKeykeylikesit Search up stuff like inflation, rent rates, student loan debt, how hard it is to get a job after college, and how much the average salary is compared to what should be *basic human rights* like healthcare and food, and *THEN* look us in the eyes and tell us to take accountability.
Every generation in human history had tried to leave a better life for their children. The Boomers are an unnatural generation, the only one that knowingly fleeced their unborn descendants for a better quality of life in the moment. And then they have the nerve to criticize the children they neglected to raise
Arrested because their 9 y.o. was unattended in a public park!?!?!?! The government doesnt even CARE about your KIDS that they will arrest you for giving them ROOM to enjoy A NICE DAY AT THE PARK alone! We are in such dystopian times. Its so unbearably pointless.
In my country (in Europe) most kids go to school by themselves, they go to whatever other activities there are outside of school, they visit their friends, go hang out in the mall - whatever it is, they go to places by themselves. And often times they arrive home before their parents, so they cook when they are hungry. When I was in elementary school, me and my deskmate took horseback riding lessons and that meant that we had to take a bus that went outside the town, to basically nowhere. We had to walk quite a bit to get to the stall. And this was very normal. I don't remember ever complaining about it or ever feeling unsafe. This was part of growing up, being independent to a certain point and being responsible. I remember doing all sorts of stuff that required walking to different places. Stuff like catching small fish with mason jars at the river. Or rescuing homeless puppies from abandoned houses etc. Or hanging out on the beach. It's so sad that so many kids miss out on the real stuff. They either stare at the walls or endlessly scroll TikTok.
I’m 14. It drives me up the WALL when my parents ask me to go do something outside, but I live in the suburbs/city area. What the HELL do you want me to do. I can’t drive, I can’t go anywhere, they won’t let me go farther than the stop sign alone because the actual places like arcades and shit like that are FAR. I can’t bike my way to school as he said, adults are fearful. ADULTS ARE THE PROBLEM. I’m shy and hate talking to people, I hate going anywhere without my phone. WE ARE DOOMED.
Unwanted advice: A stepbrother of mine is 14 (significant age difference between us). He had a similar problem and eventually begged his way into an e-bike/e-scooter. This is because, like you, there is almost nothing within walking distance other than busy streets and sidewalk. (cars are dangerous and you aren't invincible, so this might not be a safe option.) Fortunately he's got a friend group that is into sports that gives him an easy way to spend time outside. Honestly, the landscape has changed. Many social spheres are online as opposed to outside or in-person. Easy for me to say (socially awkward fish that I am), but finding a friend group with similar interests as yourself is literally the key. Even if there's a weird social stigma associated with them. It was 'nerds' and anime when I was in high school, but once you leave that place everything is thrown out the window. The only thing that remains are your interests and the friends who share those interests, because everything and everyone else will pursue what they like, weather that means leaving old friends behind or not. It might sound stupid or irrelevant to you now (as it did to myself at your age), but pursue your passions. You'll find like-minded people who will become your friends. Note that this does not mean your should abandon your current friends.
Im honestly surprised you didnt mention this but, parents tell you to go play some sports outside, but everything is so suburbanised so they tell you to go hangout with your friends, and that sometimes works. Its more likley than not that it wont work out, and even if it does, everything costs money. Anytime I hangout with my friends, one of us usually brings money with us, because you cant do anything in suburban towns without money.
All the old people complaining about kids not being outside had nice places they could go hang out for free. Those places are disappearing for kids and adults. Even coffee shops and the mall aren't options anymore because the employees don't want people spending too much time there and start harassing you if you aren't buying enough stuff. I'm tired of bars being the only places I'm allowed to hang out without the employees making me feel unwelcome. But even there you're expected to keep buying drinks or they start treating you like you're doing something wrong.
You can't play hoops at a suburban court? My high school had outdoor courts available after hours. Or we would play soccer in someone's suburban yard. Lot of free or cheap things you can do. Playing catch with a baseball and a mitt. I only ever needed one mitt. I ran a lot and would jog on high school track, and often colleges have outdoor tracks the public can use during day light. See if a friend has a volleyball net, and some suburban areas have free tennis courts. Once again, some schools have outdoor availability.
@@bl8388 And after school programs, to socialize more with friends, get help on homework from them or through tutoring and better yet, more opportunities to get have more contacts and connections to hang out more often, like party invitations, visits and sleepover at other houses.
I stopped going outside because there is barely anything even cars, and walking in a small sidewalk with few trees and no life around is really depressing
Another part of the problem is the kind of people who drive: criminally irresponsible idiots. I walk to work some nights and back home some mornings, each way takes about 20-30 minutes and every single time I see 2-5 people nearly cause accidents because they're just not paying attention to where the they're driving or what's going on on the road. It's ridiculous. Most drivers I see on the day to day are legitimately bad people once they get behind the wheel.
I was walking down the neighborhood when I came back from school one time and saw a driver practically speeding down the street around 4-6pm which is prime time I usually see small kids playing in the road
or how cars will start automatically turning when it's the pedestrians's turn to cross the road. most drivers should not be behind the wheel, we aren't all meant to have cars
@@padlily2485 especially when there's no turn on red sign too. I literally press both buttons on the crosswalk to prevent people from trying to turn the second they see me come to the edge of the sidewalk to walk.
I had no freedom as a kid so I was hyped to get to college and have a variety of outdoor places I could be with friends. Now, all these locations are shutting down, removing seating areas, or closing at sunset. Those of us without cars don't have the right to do anything but work, go to class, or stay at home.
I remember a post about how gen z got to expect a booming disco and rave scene for when they were adults by all the shows they watched but now all of the discos and raves are shutting down. Really feels like we got scammed a lil.
Most without cars/licenses don’t have the right to work either. These jobs discriminate if u can’t get a license . In NC you can’t get a license without insurance. You can’t get insurance without a job. This is fckng rtrdd
I feel you so much. I lived in a rural area at the edge of a suburb, so it too took long to walk to my friends, and biking on the road was way too dangerous. I never got to hang out and walk around with friends, since I either had to beg my mom to drive me to a friend's house (and make sure the schedules all matched up - at a limit of 2 hours only!) or just hop on the xbox or pc and play online. Now there are very few places where you can just exist, and have fun without paying money. And even then, Covid killed most of the places you'd have to pay to do anything fun in.
It's not just American cities. It's pretty much all cultures that were impacted by the scourge of stranger danger. I met the police officer who started the stranger danger campaign. She was from Queensland, Australia. She said she spent 6 months setting it up and the rest of her career trying to stop it. She said it was the single worst thing she did in her life. She believes many more kids died due to stranger danger (mental health, obesity, etc) than would ever be abducted. 1 in 300,000 chance of being abducted by a stranger... Had to laugh at the arrests. My niece had the police called on her for riding around town on her bike at age 10. The police came, talked to her, then went after the caller. However, the next week another person called it in. She was also on facebook for being unaccompanied. The local teenagers are seen as trouble makers because they sit at the skatepark and talk and swear loudly. Every one of them is a nice kid. As soon as a younger kid walks over they stop swearing, change their music and even coach the little kids on how to skate. But... police have been called on them multiple times.
The stranger danger thing scares me as a 31 year old single man anytime I see kids by themselves in the store I try to give them a wide berth because The last thing I want to be accused of is being a pedo/creep
I grew up in America before the whole stranger-danger thing was a thing. By about age 8 we were biking and taking buses everywhere, long as we were home by the time the street lights came on. Only ONE TIME did I hear about any molestations, but that only affected the kids who hung out at the town dump. Even then it was probably like one dumb kid it happened to. I think its rooted in America's puritanical past with its fears and hangups about sex. The 60s brought unprecedented permissiveness and we're still having conniptions over that. Everyones still scared their kids will get lured away to join the Manson Family. The egos of the boomer gen also play a role. They presumed themselves entitled to so much, not only for themselves but for their kids. They wanted perfect safety for everyone, even at the expense of freedom and liberty. Its worth remembering the words of Benjamin Franklin; "Those who would give up essential Liberty, to purchase a little temporary Safety, deserve neither Liberty nor Safety"
It is not just kids. My bestie from the US visited me and one evening we did a nice leisure stroll around the city (I live in Europe). People were sitting on benches, etc. She looked at me wide-eyed and said, " We don't do this." I looked at her, confused. "What? Take strolls?" "That too, but we don't go outside after dark...that's way too dangerous." It is so sad, really.
@@ariesearthdragon the ones I remember from the 90s/early 2000s did! There was this arm thing out front that swung out to prevent the flow of traffic. No idea what happened to it.
They have the bars and the stop signs on the buses, but cars still disregard them. I literally saw it happen last week to a school bus thankfully the kid did not have to cross the road..
My friend was hit and killed by a speeding vehicle years ago while we tried to cross an 8-lane highway with no crosswalks for tens-of-miles. Tried to petition a pedestrian bridge and was shot down for a full decade. Midwest vibes, cars over kids every time.
I’m in my last semester in my Psychology undergrad and just finished my final research project on this exact subject. The lack of autonomy granted to children coupled with the increased influence of the internet creates a perfect storm for effectively destroying the independence of a generation. We’re wired to need that kind of mobility from a young age for our development, and that is something that has been effectively destroyed.
I was threatened TWICE for letting my kids play outside and be alone for 10 minutes! One was a teacher who thought my kids 13/14 needed adult supervision. They were literally ONLY playing on the school playground. I even asked if they were causing trouble and she said no, they just needed adult supervision. The second time, my daughter, 14, was in the ER and she was hungry. The cafeteria was closed and we were waiting on test results that would take 3 HOURS! I asked the nurse on duty if I could run out and get her something to eat. She said yes. I was gone for no more than 10 minutes and when I got back another nurse threatened to call CPS for ABANDONMENT! My daughter was literally sleeping the whole time!
14?! I just don't understand people. The older generations love reminiscing about biking around with their friends as kids, and now they are fighting hard to deprive today's children of basic independence, treating them like prisoners under house arrest.
i feel sorry about those laws, making the situation much more dystopian... i, on the other hand, walk out everywhere to my nearby stores, parks, lakes/river, people here only prefer walking, kids here feel free to move around many blocks without supervision and play wherever they want. In the park, i play with almost 20 local kids everyday, out of which 1-2 are always NEW (while their parents are somewhere in the park). All my childhood, i went to the school with my friends on bicycle, which is on the opposite side of the city, and I see my local kids doing the same, no difference, the same, no school buses, no cars, just bicycles or by foot. Only older gen people prefer city-trams or cars to move around the city.
my parents are always blaming my lack of outside-time on my electronics, but i LOVE to walk places that are pretty or convenient or that just don’t take a car. the real problem is that i never can or i’m never able to feel safe while doing that!
@@SuperKamiGuruuyou won't win a fight with a speeding car. Don't think you'd win if you tried to put your fists up to car barrelling towards you at 60 per hour
I went to a human trafficking awareness seminar and one of the main ideas that they pointed out is that the sensationalized white van kidnapping that you see on the news does happen but very rarely. the more common method that predators take is through grooming and slowly disconnecting the person from their main social circles. Besides snatching can so be prevented by happening the points made in the video. The more people go outside and are present in the community, the less this happens. But one more lane, right guys?
Exactly! Especially with every hang out spot far away, or not being able to hang out with friends, kids will often turn to the internet. And note that some of them are young kids. Which means predators can easily groom one child after another
I’m only 23, born in 2000, and man it’s astonishing different from when even I was growing up in the mid-late 2000s, early 2010s. I was always outside, riding bikes around the neighborhood and exploring the general area with my friends that lived nearby, and our parents never cared as long as we came back before night. I didn’t even realize things had changed so much since then.
When parents get mad at you for wanting to go outside when you were younger and then decide to complain we don't go outside anymore because we were raised this way
agreed, i wasnt allowed to hangout with friends unsupervised until i was 13, which was pretty damn late compared to my friends and other kids in my grade. even then i had very strict boundaries on where i can and couldnt go. my mom also made me call/text her every 20-30 minutes to make sure i was safe and if i didnt, she would always set off that loud ass ring sound from FindMyiPhone. i know she wanted to keep me safe, but somethings are just blatant overkill. im 19 now, going to be 20 in a few months, and although i obviously have way more freedom than i did when i was 13, she still gets panic attacks (not literal panic attacks, i just couldnt find the right term for it) when i go to certain places like the beach, or when i stay out late with my friends (past 12am). like i said before, ik she loves me and just wants me to be safe, but sometimes i feel its too much, im almost 20 and my mom still makes me text her everytime i go from place to place with friends. i know people that are 1-2 years younger than me that are traveling the country and world all by themselves.
@@PascualMorales-py6gd At that point, she doesn't "love" you. You're an object of hers to control and possess. This type of parenting is too common all around the world, and it creates people who can't even walk past the door without thinking they're doing something wrong
As a kid, I can confirm. It just sucks not being able to see my friends outside of school and with my super over protective parents I don't like the idea of arranging a meeting in fear that I'd have to put up with a awkward conversation and a painful lecture from them.
It's such a shame it has to be this way today. In my childhood (in Finland, Europe) it was actually encouraged to go outside to hangout or play sports with your friends. You were "allowed" to come inside & play video games pretty much only if it was raining or too cold outside.
Parents can go to prison for nothing nowadays. Its not the Parents fault for being protective . They are in a bad spot anymore. Its unfair to both modern parents and their kids. It's a tradet
@@kenw2225 I understand there are real dangerous shady neighborhoods in the US as well, where you strongly advice the kids not going there, and it might not be safe even for adults. But we are talking a typical sleepy suburbia here
“We will build a bunch of roads for our cars in mind first and the people last.” “We will keep our children under surveillance literally 24/7 and expect them to be independent.” “Why isn’t anyone going outside anymore?”
The problem that these officials are having is they’re trying to make it easier for some motive they have without considering others and the consequences of their decisions
as an immigrant who is new in the us, one of the worst sides of the country is that city designs are very bad. back in my country everything was close and i did not really have to know how to drive a car, but in here it is almost impossible to go outside and do something if you do not know how to drive.
I'm from Switzerland and at my school parents were NOT ALLOWED to drive kids to school (starting in kinderdarden), they said it's a good way to connect to other kids in the area and also the benefits of being independent. They for sure were right :)
Being straight up not allowed sounds a little authoritarian to me. I think its a good idea to promote the idea and explain why to the people. Suggesting they SHALL is one step away from PAPERS PLEASE. But the neutral Bank nation doesn't have to worry about that i guess.
@@Wassenhoven420 wearing a seatbelt is also authoritarian. What they did is more practical than what most others could even conceive because they're so afraid of their neighbors that they wouldn't allow this to happen. America is deeply broken.
@@Wassenhoven420 I get where you're coming from about it seeming authoritarian at first glance. But honestly, the rule wasn't about exerting control; it was more about fostering independence and community bonds. Plus, let's be real, most parents here wouldn't bother driving their kids everywhere even if they could. And it's not like it's unsafe to ride a bike around here. Sure, my hometown didn't have much in the way of bike infrastructure, but I still pedaled my way to school because who wants to walk haha. My parents and (also the others) weren't stressing about me (us)not showing up right after school either. They knew we'd be out there, exploring, until sunset. It's just the way things are around here.
@@Wassenhoven420 It's also a safety measure. If half the kids walk to school and the other half arrives by car, chances that a drop-off-parent causes an accident involving a kid are comparatively high. That's another reason "parent taxis" are banned in some places.
My sister got CPS called on them because her kids were playing right outside their front door in a small neighborhood with very little car traffic. The kids being 4,5, and 9 my sister watching from inside
That's insane, especially compared to all the playing outside I used to do as a kid in Canada. We would be out for hours without our parents knowing exactly where we were.
That's a terrible thing that ordinary parents who have done nothing wrong fear, unjustly, in the US in places where it goes unchallenged in court, but luckily the Free Range Kids movement is a thing because of things like that.
I saw this dad the first week of school teaching the public bus for the kids to get to school and home. They couldn't be more than 11, I thought it was great. He seemed like a great dad in my eyes. I live in Sacramento California. I never heard of getting arrested for any of this, I'd like to know what states this is going on in.
My parents yelled at me when I told them that I didn’t want to learn to drive. They kept going on about how they got their license as soon as they turned 16 like of course you did. The only way to hang out sound fun stuff with your friends was face to face. Literally the only way I would hang out with my friends before I was 16 was through video games. I literally saw no purpose when I had my parents who could chauffeur me around everywhere. It’s helped me recognize what little independence i actually had and how babying me negatively affected my ability to function in some social settings.
How are you supposed to have a job if you dont drive? Go to the grocery store effectively? Unless you want to be spending ludicrous amounts of money on Ubers or delivery.
OMFG what were those clips of those boomers just having melt downs over people sugesting bikes and other modes of transportation 😭 like they sound like a bunch of preschoolers agruing over what name they should give the new class pet like omfg CALM DOWN let here people sleep?? Did biking kill your grandma or smth? 😭💀
I’m a part of gen z, and my friends and I were walking to each other’s houses throughout the whole neighborhood in elementary school. Our parents trusted us going back-and-forth between houses, we’d walk and bike to the park, and we’d bike to the local gas station for smoothies. Our parents dropped us off at the mall by ourselves in 5th grade. We were allowed to roam a water park alone, as long as we met back up with our parents at a given time frame. I’d call my friends’ home phones to see if they were free to play; I would get so annoyed if my friend didn’t have a home phone because I’d have to awkwardly call their mom’s cell phone to ask. It’s a different time now, kids can’t do anything, they lack independence. Parents are too scared for their kids safety to let them do anything alone. The issue is, you need to build trust in a parent-child relationship in order for the child to develop independence and be smart about it.
As a european, that news pages was trully shocking!! You cant let your kids play in YOUR backyard??? You cant WALK your kids from school??? Land of freedom my @ss.
Right. What happens if your car breaks down, or if you can't afford a car? Or if you can't drive for legal/medical reasons? How on earth do you pick your kids up from school then? America is the land for entitled and wealthy people. Everyone else is criminalized.
Because of overzealous lawmakers and LOTS of "lobbying" (Bribes) lead to benefits for large corpos. Its a endless cycle of late stage capatilism that endlessly feeds itself.
**CORRECTION** 0:32 Firearm deaths surpassed vehicle deaths in 2020 (recent data is unavailable) for ages 1-19 in the US. www.nejm.org/doi/full/10.1056/NEJMc2201761
Vehicle deaths were still the highest among children ages 1-17 by a tight margin www.cdc.gov/injury/wisqars/LeadingCauses.html
Reason 18302 to not go outside:
America moment
That's because legally 18 and 19 year olds are ADULTS but they included them intentionally to skew the data to say "gun bad." Our country needs to focus more on infrastructure for travel other than cars, and let guns just be. They're already out there.
Also, 18 and 19 year olds are legally adults, and nobody went anywhere in 2020 because we were in a global pandemic.
That’s because they raised the age of “children” to include legal adults (18-19) which is also the average age for violent gang members in the US. Obviously done because of the agenda against firearms when in reality the problem is gang violence.
We constantly complain about the lack of independence in young adults, but they were conditioned to lack independence.
yup
Exactly! You've hit the nail right on the head!
Saving this
A lot of us boomers have also always wanted communities that are people-centered, not car-centered.
And 3rd spaces are shrinking/disappearing
I stopped going outside, because everybody else my age stopped going outside. Walking on the sidewalk by myself, no trees, no grass, just concrete is a special kind of depressing.
There’s nothing out there for us. Sprawl literally as far as the eye can see.
The closest thing you can get to identifying another human is, ironically, what car they drive.
The most I do is go do shit with my friends, or sit outside on my patio listening to the rain when it’s raining. Or listening to music.
I relate to this too well
Honestly. They took down so many parks and even my local skatepark. There’s literally nothing anymore
Honestly
Getting arrested for picking up your kids on foot is something i never thought i would read
Yeah saw somewhere that in some states in canada you can't leave a kid alone till they are 16 or 17.
When I was a kid around 10 years old I spend loads of time just playing outside without parent supervision.
WHAT!? That is insane.
"Land of The Free"
@@bd-fp9fbnot anymore ig the way these parents are overprotecting kids
I hate when Ray Bradbury is right.
I kid you not: I was in my mid-twenties when I was stopped by a cop and asked why I was walking, where I lived, where I was going, and which route I was taking. It was a nice spring day. I had a backpack of books and was trying to return it them to the local library, which was about a mile away. It creeped me out. When you can't even walk a mile to the library on a pretty day without being questioned by police, it kind of makes you not want to walk.
Dang that’s messed up
Same thing happened to me, they frisked me to and then tried to give me a ride back home.
Literally the pedestrian :(
I'm brazillian and authorities do this in favelas over here, CRIMINAL AUTHORITIES, drug lords and militiamen, this is not normal at all it's dystopic.
And this is why the pigs will never support human-centric infastructure and will advocate against it at city council meetings. Maybe an individual 1 will support it occasionally but def not the FoP
they really created the most unappealing outdoor environment for actually anything and have the nerve to ask why kids arent going outside anymore
My neighborhood destroyed every public access beach 20 years ago and only left behind the shitty ones. They had a building and I literally got Rocks to kick now none of the kids in my area would even know that we even had the potential of a nice hangout location in the neighborhood.
Even as an adult driving through suburbia it drives me up a wall. I had a meeting one time in a bland office park and had a few minutes for lunch, which having to drive to the nearest chain restaurants was insufferable in itself with the way these places are laid out. I've been to great suburbs before, but we don't see enough of them.
multi-cultural societies in big cities are just unsafe and unpleasent
@@YahNation Gotta love those empty beach houses taking up the coastline that only get visited once a year by whomever owns them. It's especially a shame when you're in a place where the only places you can look at the ocean are all blocked by beach houses, the same with hillsides with great vistas. I know a lot of Caribbean islands are having the same issue where natives can't use their own beaches due to it all being bought up.
Leftist America. Create a problem, refuse to fix it, and then complain at others because of it.
"Kids these days just don't go outside anymore!"
Meanwhile the closest park is 13 miles away with no sidewalks leading to said park
And the people saying this are telling their children they can’t go outside without arranging it or supervision
not to mention the ever increasing climate extremes where summers hit record highs and winters hit record lows or precipitation.
Outside suuucks
As a kid it was uncanny. Id be like 15 and dropped of at my fathers' for the summer. I'd hop on my bike and go look to make friends. I'd ride for a mile in all direction until I fit the main road and NEVER meet another kid 😢💔😪
This is why I won’t live in a suburb. Unfortunately, I grew up in one, and there was rampant drug abuse. Because, as was mentioned in the video, there’s nothing to do in suburbs. So literally, kids are doping up their brains without their parents knowing. Suburbs are just a modern day, disaster, cultureless, and a pathetic excuse for living
curfew laws I got put in a cop car at 17 for walking in my neighborhood even at 21 I still get harassed
One upside of living in a lower income area is a lot of kids still play outside.
this is how they develop street smarts are and able to adapt to harsher living circumstances opposed to sheltered kids who whine and complain about everything
I think a lot of kids still play outside. As someone with no irl friends I go outside on long walks, sit on the swing and hangout with my brother all the time. I’m thinking of getting my bike back in shape so I can go on bike rides.
My brother and his friends and other kids around his and my age are always outside.
fail to see how that's an upside. Yay someone's screaming children are playing outside, being loud and annoying the neighbours. great
@@Vaquix000 You're part of the problem if you think children being excited outside is some big issue.
@@Vaquix000 Children are "loud and annoying" inside the house too, just let them exist and hang out, they aren't going to be outside forever
Parents: Go Outside.
Also Parents: If you go outside alone you will get kidnapped.
Literally my mom
I'm always nervous out in public. Ever since I was like 8 my mom would always tell me everytime I went outside, even just to play in the yard that people could kidnap me and do bad things to me. That shit fucked me up and made me a massive recluse.
> TFW it's usually Family Members who do that, not strangers
@@li-sj4yh Yeah, by Family members.
but then they wont go outside with you.
People are so worried about making sure kids live safe, they aren't allowed to live at all
Safety obsessed society and running away from the smallest problems which leads to feeling the exact opposite of peace and safety.
Benjamin Franklin once said that we should never curb our freedom in the name of security...
You are so on point.
More like an obsession or collective paranoia if you ask me.... .
@JG-MV who? What people did u you see do this, or are you referring to yourself?
Getting arrested for having your kids play in your backyard is insane
I cannot imagine the rage I would feel if I was arrested because my son was playing outside in our backyard by himself.
But I played in my backyard before, but I did not get arrested
Why we need less gun regulations, not more.
@@dodowner132 the only thing I can see that resulting in is the kind of people who call the police on a kid for playing in the backyard having *more* guns. They're exactly the kind of people who shouldn't be allowed to own a pair of scissors.
@@zackakai5173 They are also the kind of people who won't have guns in their homes.
I remember being kicked out of the house because “playing video games all day is unhealthy” but I wasn’t allowed to leave our property. So what was I supposed to do? Rub a stick in the dirt?
You were supposed to use your imagination, and imagine yourself playing videogames whilst playing tic-tac-toe solo.
Except you can’t even dig because then your parents would get mad at you for digging holes in the ground that the mower could hit.
Get a child labor job so you can start paying rent to them to fund their tropical cruise and their next rental empire property?
@@baltakateigot to love childism and youth hate destroying everything good we had as a society 😭😭
Literally been a backbone of our politics since hippies and rebellion and all that. Youth international party. Why is our edication bad? Why does everyone think kids are dumb as rocks? Why is every kid miserable? Idfk its suUuUuch a mystery.
Its called being scared of the people who can and did challenge the establishment, the youth. So they make sure through bribery and screwing us over the youth are miserable and systemstically abused and considered subhuman and get no freedom or thought or information other than things like tiktok which at this point they need to be happy because they took everything else away.
Kick rocks? xD
A lot of kids are so insecure and self conscious they don’t even want to be seen outside or suffer with severe social anxiety with no help to get things better. Also they just want to play video games all day like I do to escape reality.
Couldnt agree more.
I am also in this boat.
Yeah, like me, I have social anxiety
which is the sane thing to do because I saw a news report from my city of someone being kidnapped and murdered because she had to buy her mother cigarettes from the machine. I think it is better when we sit inside and watch netflix or play pokemon stadium 2. The virtual world has so much more to offer than the boring real world.
@@enid9911 Boring real world?
Getting arrested for picking your kids up on foot instead of in a car is..
It feels illegal.
dude i got chills at that part. that's so insane and i can't fathom what's next
@@BlixtwixyA world of Idiocracy. That’s what’s next.
Duuuuude I got chills!!!!!! Muh Idiocracy 🤡
They say he was trying to violate policy that all parents had been well informed of & was being belligerent but he got a $100k settlement outta a couple hours in cuffs so...
@@SteeleJohnson-o7u Never argue against stupid people! They will drag you down to their level and beat you with experience.
It’s mind boggling how the boomers who grew up with outdoor childhoods, stereotypically known as valuing the good old days, loathe the thought of today’s children getting to live how they used to.
im 15 my dad only wants me in our neighborhood but is only a tiny bit alright with me going to other neighborhoods next to mine but the furtherest i can probably go isnt even a mile from the neighborhood but he cant track me and my sister has my location so i just go wherever i physically can but i dont have any friends near me even though ive lived here for almost 10 years 3 months til its 10 years of living here and it gets boring and my original friend group i had all moved away the last person moved about 2 years ago and i wasnt really hanging out with him for the last 3 years since thats when i deicided i wanted to play minecraft on my ps3 rather then go outside so whenever i go out i just ride a scooter and there are people my age around here but none of them really mess wit me that much and then everybody else who goes outside there house are dog walkers and kids 7-13 and since this is a apartment complex if i do make friends in here they move after a few months.
@@Lightwaslost Keep putting yourself out there and if you find someone you wanna be friends with dont be afraid to apply a little pressure and become their friend.
My 2 current best friends were not made overnight in fact I kinda didnt like one of them at first but over time with hanging out more I would now die for my buddy.
Keep your head up and talk to people. Theres a friend for you out there. People are also generally nicer/more playful than you think. Love you
Boomers grew up in a 90% white country. That's not the case anymore.
i wish you all played outside like we did but im gen x. i think you are a bunch of dim w imps. get that straight
@@Lightwaslost im sure your story is great but holy hell use periods
My parents always complain about how I don’t go outside meanwhile I can’t walk around the APARTMENT COMPLEX I LIVE IN without being scolded
Fr, i get too scared to just walk around my apartment because i dont want to get in trouble
And whenever my mom "takes me outside" she just drives me to restaurants
my dad only lets me around the apartment complex but after almost 10 years here it got so damn boring so now i just go where i want cause my dad cant track me
I can relate
thats a lie
Omg I’m like you but not I live in a small neighborhood next to a big ish city there’s no kids around my age and there is only like adults and elderly people I can’t go outside by myself because I just find it borinb
I'm 25 and going outside still often feels "wrong." I had a few neighborhood kids around growing up but by the time I was 12 going outside was mostly only for a walk, bike, or skateboard around the empty neighborhood roads. The only interaction was a weird stare from the neighbors or a car passing by.
I live in Ohio I get stared down big time for getting my mail or just standing in my driveway or taking out the garbage or watching the eclipse in April we were stared at big time been living there 40 plus years I asked a neighbor if their electric went out just stared at and said nothing
I actually just went out side today may 14 neighbor across the street was out mowing then saw me stopped and went back inside people are weird she does it all the time when we are out side the best thing about being out side here no one bothers you my house is pretty private in the back yard area is a big plus
@@SassyFrasponduechusame, I can't do shit without being stared at (this includes literally sitting down on my porch stairs in the sun.)
Yeah, it feels too damn quiet and exposed
@@edythebeast7087 the theaters are always empty
The last time I walked into my local library with my 19 year old little brother, the librarian yelled at us from the circulation desk, declaring that teenagers could not come in without supervision or written permission from a guardian. And they wonder why kids are the way they are.
at 18 your legally an adult so i dont really understand why they would say that.
@combos7 I agree. For clarity, he looks younger, and she let us by after learning our ages. It's just that the idea that any kid walking into the library would be turned away is so frustrating.
Right. My teen sister wasn't allowed to go into the teen room at the library so she straight up left. Disinterested in the library thanks to the dumb librarian 🙄
That sucks. I work at a library, and we are a community space - we encourage people to come in and hang out, not just for books or other items we offer to borrow/browse, but to participate in the many different programs we host, or other services like reference questions or computer use and free wifi. We have a dedicated kids section and a thriving kids program - I am being 100% truthful when I say kids love coming to our library, and we love that!
@@moe2000 If they are under a certain age, I can maybe see that. But teenagers...? I think teenagers are old enough to go around on their own without supervision, yeah...? If they're under 10 years old, then *maybe* you'd get someone to watch over them. Or those are the standards I grew up with, so about 15 years ago that was probably how things ran
I'm 25, and remember at 10-12, the highlight of my day was hearing the doorbell and the kids of the neighborhood asking my parents if me and my sister could come out to play. As long as we'd did our homework, we could go. We'd play hopscotch, tag, jump rope, one of the boys taught us how to play with Pokemon cards, and gave us two (I still have my Jolteon and Charizard.) We played without supervision, came home when it got dark, and not a single person worried about getting arrested.
As a teen that doesn't live in the US, I'm experiencing that rn, it's really cool getting along with people I didn't even know their names and now getting invited to play at the park
this is still possible, i dont get it
@@whiteboikev I’m in that new generation, ‘addicted to screens’ and I’d still absolutely love to of all of those things. It’s just a lack of those things being available to us kids, and with the public school system being as awful as it is. Can you imagine a 15 year old going out to a park and playing hopscotch? Well maybe you could, but younger kids will shame you for being childlike because that’s what they’ve been sort of conditioned to do by the school system. Just either be cool or fit in, those are the only rules. I sit in my room for hours at a time, yet I still would prefer to have fun with my friends outside. It’s just a matter of possibility with this new system, and if you’d actually watched the video fully or been in our current situation before you got older, you’d understand.
@@NotLuaYT “possibility in the new system”? what “system” would that be? actually curious i’d love to know the new system .
I miss those days.....playing ding dong ditch did get us in some trouble but it was fun. I would say harmless but everything's harmful these days....so yeah not much to do these days. parks used to be the one place to go to make random friends now a days idk if kids are even doing that?
Pokemon is a child independence simulator
Yes🎉🎉🎉😊
This is so true it hurts
Earthbound too
Pokémon go*
@@BluLobstaDudenah just the Pokémon series in general, gold and silver, ruby sapphire etc
What always gets me is that looking back at my childhood, I have so many good memories from just walking home from school with my buddies. The walk home was about half an hour, and we'd talk, play, maybe take a detour, stop by a shop for candy, what have you. So many memories. On school buses at least kids sit together, but if you're driven, chances are you ride the car alone with your parents. Kids who get driven to and from school miss out on so many experiences.
Like even at college, no one talks to each other. My mom was surprised that no one in the dorms knows their neighbors. We've been raised that way, we grew up as kids not allowed outside and dont know how to talk to each other
When you are bullied all your life, that makes you not want to interact either.
@@caucasoidape8838depends on the person I think.. I was bullied BAD but I got a job and made friends with my coworkers and hung out with them. 🤷🏽♀️
I graduated in 2022 and during that last year the freshmen were literally like NPCs. They rarely interacted with each other so upperclassmen would do the socializing lmao. I think COVID fucked them up
Kids are growing up with their friends, actually their entire lives in their hands. Texting doesn’t develop social skills, idk it’s so impersonal.
@@ShadowMudkip123 damn can't wait for college then. Covid fucked me up too.
they made the outside hostile and wonder why their children won't play outside
Seriously. I’m Mexican, but this whole situation still applies here (perhaps even more so). Bike lanes are non-existent, side walks are either broken or have cars parked on them, there are aggressive stray dogs everywhere and don’t get me started on crime. There are a few crosses on my street alone (these are placed in hispanic culture to signify exactly where a person died/body was found) and just a few months ago one of my neighbors killed a man! It’s insane here and I absolutely DO NOT blame my mom for never even allowing me to walk alone to the convenience store just a few houses away from my own. Her fear is, sadly, not irrational in any sense of the word.
I can’t wait to finally raise enough money to move to the US. At least the government makes an effort to make the place look nice
It’s not hostile, you’re just scared of your own shadow.
@@GarbageTVoriginal tell that to your predator neighbor
@@GarbageTVoriginalWhat a tough man you are, go back to work please
@@kaleycooper9111omg the sidewalks in my area (north America) are TERRIBLE. There’s mutiple big stroads and even roads that have no crosswalks or sidewalks for pedestrians to cross. There’s literally a bridge I used to walk on when I would go to Walmart with my mom after she picked me up from school (we have no car bc ours is broken and we can’t afford to fix it), and it has no sidewalks so youre just walking next to the cars. It sucks so much
Alot of this is why VR is so appealing to teens and kids in general... it gives them a "physical" space to socialize and play in with out having to leave their homes.
100% agree
that’s what i did over covid… i would just go on, talk to everyone, make some pretty good friends, one of which i still an in contact with today, and i just felt like i finally belonged somewhere with other people who made me feel welcomed
This is how I felt too when it came to RUclips/Art websites was that people had something more in common with my interests than those in my elementary school. While everyone at Knollwood elementary school in 2005/2006 were into spongebob, they didn't realize I was into the Saw/Hostel/Horror Movie franchises back when I was 9/10 years old, which I've been a fan of horror movies since I was 7 years old in 2003 (20/21 years ago to be exact). Needless to say, my parents thankfully allowed us and my siblings to bike or walk anywhere not because of school, but rather because it was for health and exercise. So thankfully it wasn't because they kicked me out due to video games, but rather they were concerned I wouldn't get much sunlight or activity to feel better and not get sick all the time.
It sucks for me since it gives me a headache.
That was legit awesome. I remember one time there was a social event for that VR game Rec Room. it was like a hide and seek game in one of the paintball pvp maps. It was a blast weirdly awesome how a bunch of random online players were able to work together and simulate a real game of hide and seek in a completely virtual world.
I’ve always had a sneaking suspicion that “stranger danger” education in schools and the fear mongering of parents has created a plethora of problems for gen z and millennials and how they interact with others and that it has impacted the problems in loneliness, dating, and the friendship recession. We were taught to be incredibly fearful of each other when the statistics don’t call for it
Yes. Made us paranoid of the outdoors.
Yeah, and that’s probably because crime rates have been dramatically increasing in the USA, like my mom said “when I was a kid, I would go outside all the time, now kids can’t because of all the creeps out there, and cars, children can easily be stalked” personally, I mostly agree with her.
@@Cordray.Except the so called people you think are creeps are just lonely people looking to make a friend. But you let the media rot your brain
I am a millenials and I love it that way because it leads to more people playing video games.
I been experiencing problems of loneliness, dating, and the friendship recession
I'm 67, and I can damn well tell you why it is.
There is nowhere left to go.
When I was a kid, we went swimming at the old abandoned gravel pit.
We rode our dirt bikes through the woods.
Us kids in the neighborhood took an abandoned lot and mowed it, cleaned it up, and used it as our neighborhood baseball field.
We didn't need no stinkin' Parks Service!
In my home town of Grand Rapids, Michigan, ALL OF THOSE PLACES ARE GONE!
I am 15 and live in a suburb of Des Moines, Iowa. There isn’t any woods here, no empty lots you are allowed to go on, everything is just so boring. We have a couple playgrounds and a tennis court, that’s about it. Also, you can’t go anywhere because there is lethal traffic on 6 lane roads on all sides of the neighborhood. And if you want to go do anything other than that you have to pay for it and have your parents drive you there when they have time.
Nice childhood. You lucky you didn’t get kidnapped at the age of 7 like me in 1898
You're 133? @@amazingenzofilipek
I live in Winnipeg, Canada. There’s not much to do for teens nearby. You can shop (expensive), go to a park (but all of them are school parks meant for young young children), go for a walk (where? with who?) or stay at home. it’s clear which one is the best option. The closest actual park is kilometres away and hard to walk to. There’s a library close to where I live, but that’s about it, most people don’t have one that close, and it’s closed often when I actually have the time to go visit it. it’s depressing.
The parks service has done some incredible things in my home city of Minneapolis. There's a park within a mile of every home here. I think you picked the wrong enemy in your comment 😅
"Why dont kids go outside?"
*does nothing to keep the public safe*
We let literally anyone in our country with no background checks.
@@zm1786 YOU are part of the problem
@Azelf89How and where? People coming in from the border aren't even vaccinated against the most basic things...
Stop pushing blatant lies and propaganda
Leftist America 🤣
@@Digger-Nickwot
The second I sold my car to get around via bike skateboard as an adult it really made me realize how pressured you are to have a car
I remember getting a skateboard and wanting to bike more but there were just signs all over town saying no skating and there were no lanes or bike racks. It’s really a car centric world now :( not having a license can completely cripple your ability to go out and be in the world in so many cities
My mom constantly pressures me to get a car
Your friends who have to drive you everywhere want the same.
Same
Same, as soon as I turned 14, my parents, my younger brother, and just anyone in my family was begging me to study for my learner permit so I could start learning on how to drive until I turned 16 so I could get a car and start driving myself when I'm not even interested and even slightly scared of driving knowing how reckless some people anymore, I miss where people weren't so independent on driving, I would rather walk 4 miles to a store than do a less than a minute drive thank you very much
Let's be honest, if your kids don't have independence as children they're going to have problems as adults kids nowadays have been conditioned to have dependents on their parents. That's the reality we need to show these kids that they can be independent.
No they won't because we have AI now. just watch the movie wall-e.
I’m a teenager and I feel it already. I’m so fucked when I turn 20
@@viaxxlfr
They need trees to climb
@enid9911 yes the movie where all the people get fat and can't walk due to the conditioning.
No wonder there's a loneliness crisis in young people. When your infrastructure, laws and helicopter parents discourage you from doing things outside and experience things at a young age you tend to not grow and develop social skills properly, which makes your 20's very difficult. And I feel most people are having to spend their 20's realizing things they could've figured out and should've been taught in their teens.
Also, I think it's part of the reason why so many kids wanna go away to college despite the debt while also not knowing what they want to do. It really is mainly for the social aspect, it's their last chance to make up for what they couldn't get out of high school or growing up in general.
more like when they were 10 or 11
fr man its true. I'm a young adult now and this is like an epiphany to me. I mean im still realizing things and learning to socialize. It's not normal
That's why I want to go to college. You've read my mind. I grew up in a bad environment and then was taken away from my mother to my gramn. She was a severe helicopter parent and I had undiagnosed autism so the change was super hard on me. Now that I'm 19 I realized how much of life I missed out on. But it's nearly impossible to make friends outside of school now
I love how older people talk about living their glory days so that the young generation didn't have to. I.e. racing bikes down that steep hill off a ramp over a creek type of stuff. There's so much emphasis about becoming a criminal because you had fun that kids don't do anything but play with electronics. Can you get hurt doing physical activities with your friends outside? Yes but it's something you'll cherish until you die.
Yeah this was something that was unfortunate for me as well, I don’t have the urge to always go outside. I’ve gotten a bit better at socializing and trying to manage social interaction with others but it isn’t too easy. My parents only let me use my technology rather than bringing me outside or encouraging me to go outside. Not to mention various other aspects that I had to handle in my life which messed with me a lot. Depression, emotional numbness, anxiety, stress, slight suicidal tendencies, loneliness and many other things in high school didn’t do me much either since the kids there only considered me a psychopath. When I was just always fucking suffering and now I am feeling better as a young adult. And guess who helped me? Barely anyone in my school, only teachers were nice to me and some students or classmates were cool with me but ain’t that many. Even my French Teacher gave me a fucking hug once, I wish I could hug her again and cry into her arms. Because she was a good teacher, as well as a nice woman, the others who helped me are those that were online. And I found my own passion is to help others who may not be so fortunate, thanks to people online which is unlike the cunts outside in society. So I plan to become something like a therapist or a psychotherapist as well as just being someone that other people, especially kids can rely on. Because with the way shit is going, kids don’t have someone to listen to them who’s an adult so if I have to be the adult that other kids can speak to and give them a chance to speak up about anything then that’s what I’ll be. Society can go fuck itself for trying to destroy me and those I love, I’ll be laughing my ass off at all the adults when I’m finished helping children who will be asking for help and need the help.
the past few years i've been looking at those "children at play, drive slow" signs and saying to myself...where are these said children
It’s sad 😢
They grew up.
You should still drive slow in residential.
Pedestrians and animals are everywhere.
Sheltering in place.
Watch Not Just Bikes on traffic calming. Just plopping up signs doesn't work. There needs to be physical and logical indicators to why drivers should slow down.
Even in this video, Flurf said drivers wouldn't even let kids cross to school. The bus driver had to intervene and protect the kids. Which I'm glad the bus driver did.
I saw a comment on Not Just Bikes or Shrifter from a European tourist to America who asked why was America empty of people.
Also, check out Not Just Bikes on third places and Cash Jordan on anti-homeless/hostile architecture.
Same, I don't even see adults out unless they are walking their dogs, it's honestly depressing
I actually can't believe that kids can't even be alone in a park in the us. I can't believe it dude!!! american children are prisoners!! what!!! land of the free and you can't even walk places!!!!!
Our country hasn't always been like that but it is now, and the psychological harm it does is only dimly understood.
Yeah actually if you're a minor from a poor family in the US life is really house arrest until you're way too old to develop independence and critical social skills.
America is a sick joke, freedom is nothing more than a nationalist buzzword
Illinois and Chicago there be kidnapping taking place
I love the fact that no one takes into consideration how at risk kids are these days if left unsupervised. I don’t trust anyone with my kid, even more so because my kid is a girl.
Parents when kids stay inside:
“Stop playing video games and go outside!”
Parents when kids go outside:
“It’s too dangerous, come back inside!”
My parents (many, many years ago): Stop playing video games, it's the middle of summer!
Me: "What should I do?"
Parents: "Read a book!"
(Me: Fuck you)
"Read a book!"
My dude i’ve literally almost read every book that I have
@@Guy96477 Yeah, and kids do it all day long in school and when the summer comes they will read when they DAMN WELL PLEASE, thank you very much, not because someone ordered them to!
1st one valid. 2nd point, that might be for night time mostly, since kidnappers and predators mostly come out when It's that time.
Doesn't mean that kidnappers and predators don't come In day time, they come out whenever they want
Thank god to that one kid in every suburb with a basketball hoop infront of their house.
The real mvps of the cul-de-sac
We can't even use ours cuz the driveways to damn small
Unfortunately, that one kid is a complete dick to all the other kids on our neighborhood.
Damn that's sad@@TopixAnimations343
It’s okay if you like basketball
I remember one time in middle school one kid missed the bus and used his bicycle. He was reprimanded rather than praised for coming to school.
That's messed up...my main mode of transportation is walking, biking, and the bus
Reprimanded?🤨
@@freeamericanthinker558 what's the issue
@@freeamericanthinker558You do know what that means, right?
@@freeamericanthinker558makes sense. We weren’t allowed to bike or walk to school either.
This is very validating, even as an adult. It's so hard to find neighborhoods that actually have walkable places. I don't want to HAVE to drive everywhere, I want to be able to walk around and see other people walking around enjoying being outside. It just feels so depressing the way it is right now
To be completely honest, yall just dont want to admit that being on the computer is more fun
@@zarrowthehorsebeing on the computer is fun, of course. but if we had the choice to just walk outside and go have fun with others our age, whether children, teenagers, or even adults, many people would do so. unfortunately, america is built in such a way now that most social places where you can do things like that are upwards of 15-20 minutes away by car, or roughly 8-16x that duration via walking. who in the hell is going to walk several hours, across many lanes of busy traffic, with sometimes few or no crosswalks (let alone safe crosswalks) just to have fun when you could have decent fun just sitting down in your home? the real enemy here is the inconvenience of going out in modern america and trying to find others that will do the same
@@Jvizzlezzim lucky enough to live in a neighborhood that is not built near a major road or highway and have decent enough sidewalks with little to no cars passing by. I can usually just ride my bike to the pool or tennis court and hang out with my friends. I feel like the government of the USA should be focusing more on humans rather than cars, and this is coming from a kid that likes to play videogames pretty often.
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The world is honestly horrible right now. Kids have depression because they aren't allowed to go outside because
1. Parents are afraid of them going out.
2. The own governments laws about it
It's absolutely insane that kids cannot go into some fast food restaurants without parent supervision etc.
ontop of all that kids under the age 16-18 are bejng banned off social media making it even worse.
Scientist wonder why our children are so depressed and have such fewer friends in this generation but the world has been making it so hard for them to socialize at all.
It is not the world, it is just the USA. I mean all that you named above.
@@waldorocha604not true, im not from the us and this still affects me
@user-eq8pp2jj4o if it affects you, you need a new hobbie, buddy.
@@guelphdeliverygirlwell idk about you but no rules in my country states that kids could get banned from normal establishments except bars, clubs, and liquor stores. Pretty much anywhere is safe for kids just don't let your kids go out past 8pm alone
Plus, introvert and social anxious people are increasing day by day.
It's terrible that you can get arrested and have your kids taken for letting them play in your yard unsupervised, or picking them up on foot, but there's still a ton of horrific cases where people straight up abuse their kids and have them live in horrible conditions, and nobody does anything till the kid's name is on a headline and their body's gone cold.
if this would be how it works in Belgium (where i'm from) i'd be put in an orphanage when i was younger lmao
@@KamilDeKerelAre the waffles nice there?
Yep, hey folks why dont you check out the dark web kids being sold, raped
and chopped up alive to have their body parts sold. Hey folks remember
when it would take a while to get body parts and now during covid 19
it was like I got covid 19 but they just replaced my lungs, heart, liver etc...
wow and how many children and adults disappear in America every year
many never to be heard from again a lot, so nowadays its best to be safe
than sorry.
Ya because America
Where the heck do you live where you can get arrested for letting kids play in the yard. You're exaggerating! Please tell me you're exaggerating! lol
Getting arrested for walking with your kids is crazy
Edit: after seeing all the replies, I’ll never take walking freely for granted again. I grew up and live in the Philippines where walking to anywhere you want is normal (well, as long as you’re in one of the developed suburb communities or cities), very similar to our neighbors in Hong Kong, Singapore, Japan, and basically every Asian country.
Yeah that was a hard WTF moment.
We live in a dystopian hellscape lmao. Suburban sprawl has ruined the United States.
Suburbs are also ripe with Karens and paranoia it appears. Apparently walking in your neighborhood looks suspicious as a lot of recorded 911 calls show and from my as well as plenty other people's experiences (far too many examples to put in this comment). It's no wonder why so many Karen videos take place in the suburbs and why so many people in suburbs get killed or harassed over some person's suburb paranoia.
@@501isa Agreed, that's just a random wtf moment, I think that's too far at this point.
Thank god i live in canada where kids walking is legal
I swear the parents just picking up their kids getting arrested pisses me off so much
Same. I hope they got a settlement
It‘s turning to a way that smart, good parents are being surpressed
1) Schools and their overwhelming amount of homework take up a lot of the kids time.
2)The commute to and from school can be long and draining.
3) Adding in extracurricular activities add to the time consumption.
4) Parents having a "my child is to be with me and nobody else. No one is being responsible for my child when
not in school and I will not be responsible for anyone's child either" mentality.
5) Parents not wanting their children to mix
6) Some kids live in the middle of nowhere
7) There are no mom & pops diners, pizza parlors, ice-cream & soda parlors, community centers, burger joints, arcades or
fun zones for kids to go to and hang out.
8) Any park in neighborhoods is usually only for younger kids so many older kids and teens are displaced.
9) If you are bullied, why would you leave your house to face more torment?
10) kids live far away from there schools, so any friend they make are at school only and it would be too costly and
hard for them to meet up and hang out.
11) These suburbs/developments being built have nothing but houses as far as the eye can see, on super narrow
roads with no space between them. When they should have clinics/doctors offices, multiple parks, movie theatre,
convenience stores, mom & pops places, community centers, public pools, comic/dvd/games stores; something
to bring some diversity and life to the landscape.
12) A lot of neighbor hoods have in recent years become very unsafe due to criminals, gangs, druggies, dogs.
13) A lot of the time when kids want to go to a local watering hole, a grotto, woodlands, fields, abandoned infrastructure
- old people complain and call the cops.
14) People complain and call the cops on kids just playing in their yard, skateboarding or riding their bike.
15) religious people drag their kids to various faith based facilities and events and they may not get back until late
at night, exhausted and drained.
16) A lot of fields and lots that kids could go to to play and hang out have been cornered off or turned into housing.
17) Parent buy expensive clothing items for their kids and the kids in turn cannot get them dirty as the parents would
pitch a fit when having to clean them, so the kids just stay quiet inside.
18) The only thing the youth have for fun and interaction is there computers, tablets, cells, videogames and tv.
19) A lot of kids have allergies and other health concerns which make it difficult to be outside for too long.
20) Some environments are just too harsh to go outside in - dust, pollution, dangerous animals, heat, cold, rain.
21) Parents don't like to let their kids go outside unless their other siblings can come. which poses challenges when
if the other sibling is opposite gender or much younger, so it may be better to stay home. Likewise, some older
kids are forced to stay home and keep house/ babysit their younger siblings.
22) A lot of clubs and activities have been hijacked. So kids would rather stay home and avoid that headache.
23) A lot of clubs, activities and programs have become severely underfunded and/or overpriced, so things have been left to degrade to sub par levels of fun and safety.
24) Even if there is somewhere to go, its overcrowded and/or too far away.
You made a list of valid points right there
Man I can relate to some of these. Around here, I have no friends to talk to, only 2 friends in high school & otherwise it's just me on the internet.
I grew up in the sticks myself with no one my age anywhere nearby. Aside from video games and TV, my only other options at home were either exploring the massive forest in my backyard by myself or playing solitaire card games. Granted, once I hit middle school I had access to after-school activities, which I took part in at least 3 of, but after those were done it was straight home.
Yeah, and you know why those places are taken down? Because people remove them to build churches so they can get more money.
Tf is a mom and pop
“Go play outside!”
The outside they made:
Wdym? Outside is safe
@@nazomius7033op means that the outside is unfit for people to hang out, with some stores even not allowing individuals under 18 to enter
@@xyippee You can still go outside and have fun without doing alcohol or drugs
@dawidsmigielski1232 i want to move to poland
Top tier comment 🤣
Finally someone brings light to this problem, if adults want kids to go outside then build a place kids want to be. Suburbia is a pretty boring place outside
Edit: a lot of neighborhoods (not all) only have small playgrounds, which can be fun, but older kids would rather be at places like skateparks. Normally a lot of these place are built further away from suburbs so teens would rather just stay inside.
Right on! I agree.
"build a place kids want to be"...wouldnt that be skateparks, malls, amusement/water parks, movie theatres, or anything else yall already have that dont really care about kids being there lol. Give an example
@@CerealKiller669 all of those things are at least 20 minutes away in car, and I don’t even live in a rural area
@@CerealKiller669 We used to have these things called "arcades" where you'd go with your friends and pump quarters into machines to play video games. Strangely enough, so many of those have vanished... almost as if the demand for them wasn't there.
@@beverlykandraceffinger3764some suburbias have slides and swings
I love that whenever i talk about how my parents are hypocrites for always hovering around me after they talk about the crazy shit they did as kids their first argument is "things are different now, you just didn't want to be outside." No, what I didn't want was to be locked to a 2 block radius around my house and allowed to explore and interact with others. "I used to stay out until the streetlights came on!" If I did that i would get grounded. I was actively punished for going out and being social and now my parents wonder why i don't like people and I'm a shut in.
I pooped in the kitchen sink
Bro you are so right about being locked in a 2-radius outside the house. I couldn't fucking step one foot on the PARKING LOT outside our apartment block like the other kids because my mom didn't want that when I was 7. I was afraid to walk across the street by myself at age 12 and 13...and they expected me to know how to cross the street on my own after consistently being told I have to stay attached to their hip.
@@bobtheball5384 When I lived with my dad from age 6 to 12, I wasn't allowed to leave the house to play with people. For some reason my dad thought that I would insta-turn into a gang member if I played outside with the other kids💀
BRO SAME OMG MY PARENTS USED TO NOT LET ME GO PAST 2 HOUSES 💀💀
Wth your parents are way too strict
I live in Japan and I’m in middle school, everyone walks or bikes to school and even elementary school students walk to school!
And there’s always places for kids to hang out in Japan. Even adults bike to work or anywhere. People only use cars if they’re going somewhere far, lol
that's one of the main reasons I want to move there but im just 18 idk how to get started lol
I live in the suburbs, and there ain't SHIT to do outside. If you go literally 0.2 miles from my house roads, roads, and even more roads. It's awful when I go outside there's some liminal space crap going on. it's creepy as hell.
liminal space, thats a great way to describe it
welcome to my town, im 30 and its a small town, ive never had anything to do here and i wouldnt have minded some good outdoor spaces growing up! it honestly sucks and i really wish the younger generations had something to do outside of home life
@@NickSofrankothat IS the description. Did you learn sum new?
exactly! the closest thing to my neighborhood is my school and a plaza, which just has a deli and other pointless shops, and atleast a 30min walk would get you to another neighborhood or a dollar store, 45min and you'll get to the gas station
i live in the suburbs too but I biketo the town center, to my school which has a couple of shops around, and to the park, pools, and ponds around.
Social media is another large part of the problem. Parents spend so much time on social media and constantly see stories about people being murdered or dying in an accident outside. Then as a result, they become too paranoid to allow their children to do anything alone.
fax. Why is paranoia a part of 'merica nowadays? (Probably due to 9/11)
"land of the free" my ass.
Agreed. I’m letting my 10 year old daughter go to school by herself even though the walk is known to have drug addicts. If someone won’t step up for our kids, then I will
@@HughMongusJazzhole Now I know this is only trolling, but seriously don't troll like that on a serious video. This whole made up situation is the complete opposite of what they said. They are talking about paranoia about safe environments. That would be an unsafe environment for an adult let alone a child.
@@SecretKeeperForever9 It’s called sarcasm lmao. And serious video? Those memes in the vid sure made me cry.
That’s the thing, there’s no such thing as a “safe space” - there’s assholes everywhere and you don’t know which person might mean harm
@@HughMongusJazzholeyour clearly one of those ignorant people claming the cyclist was telling lies in the townhall.
Finally, someone talking about this issue!
Im 14, and I personally wish i could just.. go more places. But i can't drive yet, and also, my parents don't want me out much due to the danger. It took a fair amount of convincing to get my parents to let me walk outside of our neighborhood. Keep in mind that my parents are some of the most chill parents I've ever met.
Whenever I go outside, I never see teenagers like me. It’s always little kids. 💀
Same
You can prey on the little ones, I don’t see the issue.
@@Ink_Animsbro is gonna play with the little ones
My mom made me move to the suburbs while all my friends live in the city I don't mind the park because no one really goes there
@@darklordsauron3415might wanna rephrase that 😅
As a kid. I wanted nothing more than to go outside. But my mom had unresolved trauma and stuff so she kept me hidden and sheltered. Told me I was going to get kidnapped or assaulted. That terrified me. I didn't want to go outside. But she ended up mellowing out. I got to go outside a lot more, but I was always scared and anxious, worried that someone was gonna get me. I still have those fears today.
It really is our parents who caused this.
@@3810-dj4qzshit is so annoying. My mom's Christian too, so it's like do you not believe that God's protection applies to me or are you a fake Christian because of a sensationalized news story🤦♀️
This is a great example about how anxious parents make anxious children and it is difficult to grow a sense of safety and personal intuition when told the world is a horrifying place. It happened to me too and I hate it.
depending on your particular age, it might not be your parents but your grandparents. i'd place the fault more on the people who were born pre-1980. this garbage is at least a two generations deep.
We really do be taking therapy because of the people who wouldn't.
@@Abayas. true - the way my grandparents treated their kids o_o
I’m 32 and trying to get back into skateboarding. It feels like no one goes outside at all and no one even wants to see people outside
Fellow skater here, unless you go to the skatepark I know only 4 street skaters, it sucks too cause it’s the only skating you can do.
I grew up in Vegas and skated for years. I recently moved to Washington state and 20 years after quitting skateboarding I see no one outside skating, unless it’s a longboard for travel.
For real, you actually go outside and do something, and people look at you suspiciously.
try an electric longboard. they are a great way to get around and some are scary fast 30+ mph.
My neighborhood paved my local skatepark into a parking lot. I havent skated since
This might sound silly or off-topic, but I think this is why Animal Crossing resonated with so many people. During a time where these issues were at their worst in lockdown, people were given an opportunity to start a new life (granted, a virtual one), build a perfect town where everybody was together, and have the ability to easily get to places on foot. Animal Crossing was and is the epitome of the good that society is missing.
Then carry that same attitude into your daily life. Get to know your neighbors, have community cook-outs, and get-togethers. Start making your neighborhood more than just a place where your house is, and you'd be surprised how quickly the outside culture would cone back.
My parents kept me inside for 14 years, no friends could come over, I couldn’t go to their houses, I could not leave the single small length of street in front of my house.
It has stuck with me my entire life, I’ve had barely any social interaction with people my age since middle school because I was unable to build relationships outside of school
Edit: I’m now 19, out of school, working in trades with my best friend, but I truly didn’t start living until I was around 16
I’m so sorry, friend. I believe in your future having so much more in store for you.
Nothing stops today. Today you can be anything.
It’s a double whammy when you get bullied. I was bullied viciously on top of having very protective grandparents.
Death threats and rape threats will make you stay home, rather than have any friends your age at all.
FELT "you had a safe life." Then you introduce me to all the shit you kept me away from cause it was too tempting and "adult" to begin with so now that I'm big and adult and think i know better than people because that stupid kid shit of "I'm not a kid" and now like a magic trick a former gifted student turned hard addict. For clarification I'm clean now and have been for a while but struggled with substance abuse issues as well as horrific mental health issues and this is probably the most traumatic part of my life that most people just don't even seem to think is hard. The worst part is I see it happen SO often. Children with NO lives except content at home and friends get replaced with virtual ones but then those same people make sure to assure you online friends aren't real friends. Its fucking GAY
my mother never let me go to or host sleepovers because "everybody's a murderer" but she did force me to hang out with her friends' kids 🙄she didn't even want to give me a phone number/phone so that I could at least stay in contact with the people I did know.
Parents really be super strict and not ever allow you to leave the house and then have the nerve to ask you why you dont go outside...
FR THATS HOW MY PARENTS ARE
They asked me why I don’t go outside and I told them that I do but number one they don’t let me go outside because “YoU cAn GeT kIdNaPpEd! And it’s for your safety!”,number two I’m not even allowed to to play in the front of my house even though my neighborhood is a good neighborhood like nothing has happened plus I’m not even able to hang out with my friends anymore!
It’s just so ridiculous that kids like me can’t go outside without having parent supervision 🫤
My kids have always had freedom to run around the neighborhood. Well, when they were old enough to not run in the street and not talk to weirdos.
Don't think this excuses your obsession with phones by 1%.
@@WitchKing-Of-Angmarits hard to not get addicted when your parents raised you as an ipad kid, im so thankful for the lockdowns because i got so bored i started a hobby and realised it made me feel way better
so many parents really just let their kids sit on their phones etc all day and then get surprised when they do use it all day. Like help them pick up a hobby or anythimg..
@@FemboyKaiSaku Maybe that's why you are trying to escape from being a male or female. For absolutely no reason other than the "whatever" mentality of today... effortlessly charming in its own regard.
As someone who was in highschool in the 2010-2015 era, it really showed the transition from "go hang out outside after school until dark" to "come home after school and stay inside unless you get driven to a friends house"
In my opinion it really comes down to how times are changing and people are now more likely to choose safety over hanging out outside all day, as well as proliferation of social media and online gaming.
I'll be honest I really miss when people would hang out outside all day. Modern suburbia has no sense of community, you don't meet anyone new randomly, kids don't go to the local skate park/basketball court to make friends. These days kids get less exercise, fresh air, make less friends, experience less of nature, develop worse social skills, experience less of the real world.
I've been a big gamer since i was 11 and I'm not very social so I definitely don't blame people for wanting to stay inside, but man the way society is now is lonely. the stereotype of the headphone-wearing blank faced new yorker has grown to encompass society as a whole
As a student in my final year of high-school, I've always wanted to just go and explore. The problem is that there's nothing to really explore without a car anymore. There's barely any sidewalks where I live and it's a far walk to anything that isn't a store. I just want to explore the nooks and crannies of a large city. I find Tokyo very appealing because it's just a big walkable city, so much to explore, so many new things to try.
As a person who lives right outside New York City, I have never felt more alone and hopeless despite living in such a gigantic metro area. It's crazy.
@@XchampionXFTW
Make some friendships and find that friend
There is 7 billion people in this world there is no reason to feel alone
Make that first step and start a conversation,I guarantee there is another person just like you looking for a friend ❤
Move then? @@XchampionXFTW
Must be your area because kids and teens are still like this in my area. I live Ina low income area and was also part of the 2010-2015 era. Then again I lived in the hood and was a stoner/skater so i was always outside with other teens. Exploring woods, bombing hills, and crusing through streets on skateboards. Not to mention hooking up 😅😂 it has to be a location thing.
As a teenager who lives in a town so small it can be considered a village I agree 10000% with everything you said. All me and my best friend can do that isn't on the internet is shop at the nearby doller general and go to the park which is fun Don't get me wrong but it gets old quick and for a while I was terrified about going anywhere without an adult (I'm less afraid about this now but still)
The 6yo across the street from me plays outside constantly but no one to play w so he hangs out w me on my porch and we chat. He says his friends aren’t allowed but his mom cant stifle his freedom😅 he has confidence and self esteem.
What "sheep" that do the same as everyone else, don't !
i live in a small town that is very walkable so fortunately my little sisters are able to do these things. i didnt realize how much of a problem this is for larger cities
@@Bayyyroit's such a problem, cities are just suburbs at this point
As a teenager recently moving from mississppi to tennessee, I can't BELIEVE the lack of independence that I am immediately greeted with as soon as i walk outside. The place I live only recently added sidewalks, about a year ago, walking or biking wasn't even an option. As someone who want's to socialize more and get out of the house as I spent my very early years doing NONE of these things, I am completely dissapointed by modern american road and town design.
i live there too and it's awful. even the older parts of cities are not made for walking and despite all the cool natural stuff and monuments nearby, you have to have a car to do anything. i used to walk around my neighborhood a lot but we don't even have sidewalks 😭 i stopped just because it gets boring walking around the same 1-2 mile stretch of suburb for a year or two. i've almost gotten run over a couple of times. i need to go out and do stuff but i can't!!!
@@papelplayz ive been walking/riding in the same 1-2 mile stretch too and also almost gotten ran over alot and ive lived here for almost 10 years so ive seen everything i could possibly see here so i just leave the apartment complex even if my parents dont want me too
Hey! Welcome to Tennessee fellow teenager! Yeah it’s like that here.
Rykusu, you are in a perfect position to be an agent for change. You've experienced an environment where your freedom for movement wasn't as curtailed as in your current place. And you know what you want as far as your social life, the chance to meet and mix with others, is concerned. Don't let the downside of where you're living get to you-- you didn't create the problem. But you can encourage others not to give in to the poor urban/town planning which brings all of you down. Your positive example, living well in spite of conditions, can create the change which could benefit everyone.
It makes me sad that, where I live, an adult on a bicycle is often considered to be an alcoholic or drug addict that lost their license and car. I don't see kids on bicycles- I see several kids in a yard together all with their noses buried in their phones and not talking with each other.
Stop giving a shit what some hypothetical other person thinks about something that does not affect them.
Was riding my bike and saw two kids playing in their front yard. No effort st all to play together
You can get a dui riding a bicycle. Problem is too many laws that we are all criminals.
yep. only crackheads ride bikes, that’s the general stereotype
Take comfort in that some of us young ones are trying to be more social, even the more introverted and quiet people like me, it’s difficult for me to start or make conversations, but we are trying, we just have to get past the awkward phase haha
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Not gonna lie, that Bus driver is a good man for protecting the children.
Lack of independence and parental "superprotection" really makes us more lonely... I'm 16, almost 17, and I'm completely dependant on my mom to pick me up from school and basically to drive me everywhere I need to go. Some of my friends are more independent but I can't hang out with them cause my mom is afraid os something happening to me. Result: I barely exit home, except for school everyday.
have you gotten a drivers license or started working towards one? i mean if you have the opportunity to get one it might convince your parents to let you go outside more. or maybe a bike
@@scooby8561 I live in Brazil and can't get a driver's license until I'm 18... But that's not quite the problem. What stops me from going outside more often is my parent's concern about my security. And without this autonomy, I won't be able to learn how to take care of myself in the outside world, you know?
It's more than just a practical issue, but I'm working on that, and things are starting to change, though slowly.
I am also turning 17 soon and am going through pretty much the same thing. I am so sorry that you have to go through this too 🥺
yes definitely, i have never rode a bus until this year (im 15 almost 16) so i had to learn all this public transport stuff super late due to my parents wanting to drive me everywhere to ensure "safety"
Chillax I think your parents are protecting you from the world. The world could be dangerous. They dont you to get hurt. Ask to go out with a friend or with them to find spot you can hangout safely with friends.
I will pray for you to longer feel/be lonely.
A lot of the times it isn't the kids fault that they don't go outside much, it's the parents fault. Change my mind.
i have friends who want to go outside and their parents would want that too but their parents are simply too busy to drive them around everywhere. going anywhere nowadays takes so much planning and stuff. this is almost 100% due to infrastructure that values the giant moving vehicle more than the human. if our infrastructure was made for civilians, parents wouldnt have to be the ones responsible for making sure their kids can leave the house.
Wanted to play outside, roam around a little. Too many gangs in the neighborhood due to living close to low income housing. Very diverse.
@@scourgatory💯 parents just want to keep their kids safe, the blame lies with planners and people paying and taking bribes to wreck our cities for pedestrians and keep us car dependent.
@@scourgatory you literally open the front door and you are outside. You don't need parents to drive you anywhere. Issue of american? society
@@out_spockenIdk about other countries, but at least here in the US, I and many other americans I have known can attest that if you *do* step outside, you will walk in front of one of several cameras, set off an alert on your parent's phones, then they immediately chime in and ask what's wrong/what's happening, and bring you back inside. Parents are simply too paranoid due to mainstream media spreading fear about the "man in a white van" so they don't want their kids exploring anything independently.
Let’s be honest, greedy politicians and corporations won’t change cities policy to be less car dependent since cars are more profitable for them than building efficient train systems.
That's exactly it. If people would think for themselves instead of thinking how corporation backed media wants us to, they'd see that our biggest problems have clear solutions.
Exactly and it's sad but it won't change for years until the older generations die out but even then who knows because the older generations running the country are ruining our younger ones 🥰
BAM!!!!!!! !!!!!! !!!!!!!
Gather together people from your local neighbourhood who feel the same,
try to do real politics by activism, if politicians fail to do their good paid jobs...
Why don't you just, you know, live where the train is?
You’re very observant and insightful. I’m 64. I always thought many of the things you said but was never as articulate and productive as you!
I recently sold my overpriced and depressing suburban home, got lucky and moved to a small farm with acreage.
Cars are dangerous as you say but people still don’t operate them like farm equipment.
Thanks for the great job, young man!
People are so worried about kidnappings and parents are always making sure where their kids are, and so it's just easier to stay inside. It's actually stressful trying to schedule things with people because they have to check with parents first.
FACTS. Up until like about 15 I gave up with hanging out with friends because it was such a pain in the butt. “I have to meet the parents” “Where do they live?” “What class are they in?” Talking about it gets me mad 😅
And most of my friends parents when I was in school were strict or hard to reach fr
EXACTLY. Every time I even thought about doing something with my friends my mom got so over protective for no reason. I could have just went out and done it by myself and she wouldn't have cared but as soon as she hears it's with my friends all of a sudden she needs everyone's grandmother's phone number and my exact coordinates every 5 minutes. I basically couldn't do shit with my friends if it wasn't at school. Made no sense. And then she wondered why I never left the house
Facts
Modern parents are to blame for this. They are extremely selfish and dont care that they are hurting their children's growth by helicopter parenting. Nobody was doing that to them when they were kids because that wasnt a thing back then. Media is also to blame for this. Making it seem like their is a kidnapper around every corner but if you are dumb enough to believe that you deserve what you get.
I was shut in my whole childhood, carted everywhere. I made only a couple of friends in school that luckily stuck around past high school, but i never really had a reason to explore or meet new people. Its a new skill that i had to learn with my newfound independence. Dont get me wrong, my parents are great parents but that "kidnappers are everywhere" mentality really stunted my social life as a kid
THIS... I couldn't even leave my small culdesac on bike until I was 18, and there was no one on my road that was my age. I chose to become homeschooled in 5 grade cuz of the bullies and horrible teachers, but that also made it so that I couldn't meet literally ANYONE unless they moved onto the road, which never happened. Of course because of that, I sat inside and played videogames instead, which then became "You're so addicted to video games. Why don't you play outside more?" as if riding my bike around the same 75 foot stretch of road by myself is stimulating in the slightest. I wanted to get out. I wanted to explore, but the only way i could do that is in virtual worlds. All because "but the kidnappers!!!" Nowadays I bike all the time, and have come across "shady" people and drug addicts. You know. The people i was told would basically kill me on sight if i looked at them wrong. But I've never had problems with them. I keep to myself, and they keep to themselves mostly. Buncha overblown nonsense perpetuated by people who are protected by the four sides of their cars and houses, who couldn't get out and go wherever if they wanted to. My parents were good parents too 9/10 times (minus the stuff like this imo) but they were extremely paranoid and living in fear because of this stuff.
30 years old here for perspective: I live very rural, and in hindsight am very glad that I had some friends on my street. However, the "kidnappers are everywhere" mentality stunted me too. And not just that, but my mother had a fear of everything. No matter what I did, it was "you're going to die." To this day I'm afraid of driving, afraid of not walking with one foot nearly in the ditch, afraid of technology because breaking something = big expensive, even if it's really not. I was raised to be terrified of anything and everything, and even knowing better as an adult it is *extremely* difficult to get past the rooted predisposition I was forced into. To give just one example that might highlight the intensity in which I was fearmongered to by my mother: I was told not to shoot a basketball because "you might break the net if you miss." Now imagine that but with everything. No matter what I did, I was going to break something or find some way to be led to ruin. And then die, of course. So growing up I had a lot of "Why don't you do more X, Y, Z", followed by me doing X Y Z and being screamed at that I'm going to get myself killed.
Thanks, mom.
I feel that, I also wasn't allowed to do anything as a kid because of the news and all of the mass paranoia it spread.
There's was so many opportunities and learning experiences and I feel I've missed out on alot.
It just made me afraid of the world. Like yeah I sorta want to go outside but at the same time a lot of the things I like can be obtained without going outside
@@MyDudeman222same here. I got permission to ride my bike around my neighborhood at 16 only because he kids younger than me were asking me to go with them. I still wasn’t allowed to walk to a friends house or knock on doors. I honestly don’t know why.
as someone that has a condition that makes me unable to drive, i’m so hyper aware of the car dependent state of the US. save for a couple of cities, it’s impossible, inconvenient, AND DANGEROUS like you said to try and get around without a car. everyone assumes that everyone can drive, but for anyone that can’t afford it/has medical issues/children, they’re stranded.
And walkable cities can be expensive, like New York. That also shows that they're expensive cause they're on demand.
Yeah, car centric design is prejudice against disabled people, kids, and many other people. And the environment and animals. Watch Adam Conover's video on animals and car centric design.
@@user-gu9yq5sj7cNew York isn't really as walkable as people suggest. Some people rave the grid style for walkability, but here's the thing. If there is just one busy arterial lane, yes the cars on it are fast and I have to wait for an opening, but once I am across I am home free on empty roads. If there is a grid, i have to stop every 100m at a stoplight for slow moving evenly dispersed cars because each cross has a stoplight and each stoplight has cars.
@laurabraus and you didn't even get into collecting packages at the post office. Here in Canada a photo ID can be required.
Regards fellow odd-ball. But isn't it funny how all the "sheep" behave.
@@demo2823that’s still ultimately an issue caused by cars though. I think New York is also considered more walkable for its public transit (which despite being unsafe, is still better than public transit in the rest of the country). Compare NYC to any rural area and it’s significantly more walkable. If the US adopted a method of public transit and city design closer to that found in European and eastern Asian countries, then we’d finally have truly walkable cities. But cars and traffic are what’s ruining that even in our most walkable cities
Car-centric design also forces the elderly to continue driving even after they can no longer do so safely.
I want to go outside so bad, I prefer nature over devices, but my parents get worried about kidnappers, so I can’t go ANYWHERE without supervision, and they barely go outside so that kinda leads to me barely going outside. Trust me, I'd go ride my bike all day rather than being on this phone typing right now. I just feel really isolated from the outside world and it makes me feel sad.
Same!
im a techie personally but i hate being forced into one side. I really do want to explore nature and observe those tiny flowing rivers and landscapes or even just basic parks with anything green! theres a lot of small streams in my area, i dont know if they're safe but im not allowed to go out and ask anyone!
If you live in such a shitty part of the world, why did your parents have kids?
Me too! (I mean, I live in a place that turns into a hellishly hot sauna in the summer, so heatstroke is a fair concern. But jeez... I can't at least go in the morning? I hate being cooped up inside.)
Same honestly
Some of those suburban vistas depress me. People spend so much time and money on their LAWNS, but there hardly aren't any TREES! Also, the American idea that public transportation is only for the poor is so ridiculous. Americans are too car-dependent. WAY too car-dependent.
Then lets stop looking down on the poor
how many car owners comeplain about not having any money it is because they own a car
It depends on the location. I live in suburbia, but the State that I live in has an abundance of trees and so does my neighborhood. Most of my backyard is wooded as is part of my front yard and at least one side of my house.
@@the_expidition427 People in America don't realize that 'the poor' doesnt just mean homeless people and bums. It's also most college students and young workers.
Most Americans want to live in auto-dominated areas. Why? To keep out the hard-core losers.
As a teenager in the country, I don't go outside because everything is so far away
Walking wont hurt you
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Where do you live
@@barca2227 i live far from most things too but that doesn’t stop me from walking there. It just takes a little longer
@@daniel_4625 Similar situation to original commenter. Everything is either past a road with a grave site for a kid who got hit by a car (people regularly go 60 in a 15 zone, even after the accident) or past a road right off a highway, with people going 50 or so.
Millennial here. I often run into these conversations with people my age and older about how “young people are this and that” and it’s wildly frustrating. YOUNG PEOPLE ARE NOT RESPONSIBLE FOR THE CONDITIONS THEY’RE BORN INTO. It amazes me how the generation(s) that created or perpetuate said conditions love to pass blame onto the generation(s) most affected by their decision-making. It’s happening to us and Gen-Z hard right now in nearly every aspect of our lives.
To the older people out there: Don’t build a kid a sandbox and then get angry at the kid for playing in it.
Like someone once put it, "It's a real powermove from boomers to complain about how badly youths are raised when they're the ones raising them."
Gen z here, just gonna add Ive been called a millennial more times than I can count because I’m a full adult, when I say I’m Gen Z older people get taken aback. They don’t want to admit that you guys aren’t kids anymore and that Gen z aren’t all kids anymore because it shows that one, we can vote against them, and two, they can’t use “kids these days” as an excuse anymore because none of us are kids and we are having the same problems. “Wages are too low? When I was 15 I made $4/hr!!!” But when they see me and see that I’m an adult they realize Gen Z aren’t working summer jobs in high school anymore, and I’m still being paid less than they were at my age. They can ignore how ongoing your problems have been as Millennials if it’s just you, but now that Gen Z are becoming adults with the same problems they have to start looking at themselves. At this point, as sad as it is to say, im just waiting for them to die off so our votes can count for more. Millennials and Gen Z together can fix this but the boomers are called that because of how many of them there are, and all we can do is wait.
Sounds like a lot of excuses. You aren't responsible for the conditions you are born in to but you are responsible for how you live your life and what you do with it. I know a lot of people born in a lot worse situations than most and still made the best of things rather than throwing in the towel and blaming others. Take accountability.
@@MrKeykeylikesit Search up stuff like inflation, rent rates, student loan debt, how hard it is to get a job after college, and how much the average salary is compared to what should be *basic human rights* like healthcare and food, and *THEN* look us in the eyes and tell us to take accountability.
Every generation in human history had tried to leave a better life for their children. The Boomers are an unnatural generation, the only one that knowingly fleeced their unborn descendants for a better quality of life in the moment.
And then they have the nerve to criticize the children they neglected to raise
Its sad knowing some kids cant even ride a bike anymore 😢
I forgot how to ride bikes because I fell down from my bike and got scared enough to never touch it again
Arrested because their 9 y.o. was unattended in a public park!?!?!?!
The government doesnt even CARE about your KIDS that they will arrest you for giving them ROOM to enjoy A NICE DAY AT THE PARK alone!
We are in such dystopian times. Its so unbearably pointless.
"America is the best!"
Americans be like:
Yep
In my country (in Europe) most kids go to school by themselves, they go to whatever other activities there are outside of school, they visit their friends, go hang out in the mall - whatever it is, they go to places by themselves. And often times they arrive home before their parents, so they cook when they are hungry. When I was in elementary school, me and my deskmate took horseback riding lessons and that meant that we had to take a bus that went outside the town, to basically nowhere. We had to walk quite a bit to get to the stall. And this was very normal. I don't remember ever complaining about it or ever feeling unsafe. This was part of growing up, being independent to a certain point and being responsible. I remember doing all sorts of stuff that required walking to different places. Stuff like catching small fish with mason jars at the river. Or rescuing homeless puppies from abandoned houses etc. Or hanging out on the beach. It's so sad that so many kids miss out on the real stuff. They either stare at the walls or endlessly scroll TikTok.
They literally abort babies THATS KILLING THEM and act like they are good parents
Worse was the one who got ARRESTED for their kid playing in their OWN backyard. CRAZINESS!!
I’m 14. It drives me up the WALL when my parents ask me to go do something outside, but I live in the suburbs/city area. What the HELL do you want me to do. I can’t drive, I can’t go anywhere, they won’t let me go farther than the stop sign alone because the actual places like arcades and shit like that are FAR. I can’t bike my way to school as he said, adults are fearful. ADULTS ARE THE PROBLEM. I’m shy and hate talking to people, I hate going anywhere without my phone. WE ARE DOOMED.
Get an E board and enjoy
At age 14, nobody can stop you from biking to school
@@macho.813their parents absolutely can do that lol
@@macho.813 police
Unwanted advice:
A stepbrother of mine is 14 (significant age difference between us). He had a similar problem and eventually begged his way into an e-bike/e-scooter. This is because, like you, there is almost nothing within walking distance other than busy streets and sidewalk. (cars are dangerous and you aren't invincible, so this might not be a safe option.) Fortunately he's got a friend group that is into sports that gives him an easy way to spend time outside.
Honestly, the landscape has changed. Many social spheres are online as opposed to outside or in-person. Easy for me to say (socially awkward fish that I am), but finding a friend group with similar interests as yourself is literally the key. Even if there's a weird social stigma associated with them. It was 'nerds' and anime when I was in high school, but once you leave that place everything is thrown out the window. The only thing that remains are your interests and the friends who share those interests, because everything and everyone else will pursue what they like, weather that means leaving old friends behind or not.
It might sound stupid or irrelevant to you now (as it did to myself at your age), but pursue your passions. You'll find like-minded people who will become your friends. Note that this does not mean your should abandon your current friends.
Im honestly surprised you didnt mention this but, parents tell you to go play some sports outside, but everything is so suburbanised so they tell you to go hangout with your friends, and that sometimes works. Its more likley than not that it wont work out, and even if it does, everything costs money. Anytime I hangout with my friends, one of us usually brings money with us, because you cant do anything in suburban towns without money.
All the old people complaining about kids not being outside had nice places they could go hang out for free. Those places are disappearing for kids and adults. Even coffee shops and the mall aren't options anymore because the employees don't want people spending too much time there and start harassing you if you aren't buying enough stuff. I'm tired of bars being the only places I'm allowed to hang out without the employees making me feel unwelcome. But even there you're expected to keep buying drinks or they start treating you like you're doing something wrong.
I feel the same way. Hell, just opening the door to my house and standing on the porch to look outside feels like it costs me $30
Indeed. It’s a tiny bit hard to really go out and do stuff with friends when only one of us can really afford to go do something.
You can't play hoops at a suburban court? My high school had outdoor courts available after hours. Or we would play soccer in someone's suburban yard. Lot of free or cheap things you can do. Playing catch with a baseball and a mitt. I only ever needed one mitt. I ran a lot and would jog on high school track, and often colleges have outdoor tracks the public can use during day light.
See if a friend has a volleyball net, and some suburban areas have free tennis courts. Once again, some schools have outdoor availability.
@@bl8388 And after school programs, to socialize more with friends, get help on homework from them or through tutoring and better yet, more opportunities to get have more contacts and connections to hang out more often, like party invitations, visits and sleepover at other houses.
I stopped going outside because there is barely anything even cars, and walking in a small sidewalk with few trees and no life around is really depressing
Another part of the problem is the kind of people who drive: criminally irresponsible idiots. I walk to work some nights and back home some mornings, each way takes about 20-30 minutes and every single time I see 2-5 people nearly cause accidents because they're just not paying attention to where the they're driving or what's going on on the road. It's ridiculous. Most drivers I see on the day to day are legitimately bad people once they get behind the wheel.
I was walking down the neighborhood when I came back from school one time and saw a driver practically speeding down the street around 4-6pm which is prime time I usually see small kids playing in the road
or how cars will start automatically turning when it's the pedestrians's turn to cross the road. most drivers should not be behind the wheel, we aren't all meant to have cars
That's a symptom of the infrastructure. You can't fix this unless you go after the root of the problem.
@@padlily2485 especially when there's no turn on red sign too. I literally press both buttons on the crosswalk to prevent people from trying to turn the second they see me come to the edge of the sidewalk to walk.
As a truck driver this is straight facts, I’d say about 10% of drivers actually understand how to drive
I had no freedom as a kid so I was hyped to get to college and have a variety of outdoor places I could be with friends. Now, all these locations are shutting down, removing seating areas, or closing at sunset. Those of us without cars don't have the right to do anything but work, go to class, or stay at home.
I remember a post about how gen z got to expect a booming disco and rave scene for when they were adults by all the shows they watched but now all of the discos and raves are shutting down. Really feels like we got scammed a lil.
Most without cars/licenses don’t have the right to work either. These jobs discriminate if u can’t get a license . In NC you can’t get a license without insurance. You can’t get insurance without a job. This is fckng rtrdd
I feel you so much. I lived in a rural area at the edge of a suburb, so it too took long to walk to my friends, and biking on the road was way too dangerous. I never got to hang out and walk around with friends, since I either had to beg my mom to drive me to a friend's house (and make sure the schedules all matched up - at a limit of 2 hours only!) or just hop on the xbox or pc and play online.
Now there are very few places where you can just exist, and have fun without paying money. And even then, Covid killed most of the places you'd have to pay to do anything fun in.
ive never had freedom as a kid, alwayys stayed at home
It's not just American cities. It's pretty much all cultures that were impacted by the scourge of stranger danger.
I met the police officer who started the stranger danger campaign. She was from Queensland, Australia. She said she spent 6 months setting it up and the rest of her career trying to stop it. She said it was the single worst thing she did in her life. She believes many more kids died due to stranger danger (mental health, obesity, etc) than would ever be abducted.
1 in 300,000 chance of being abducted by a stranger...
Had to laugh at the arrests. My niece had the police called on her for riding around town on her bike at age 10. The police came, talked to her, then went after the caller. However, the next week another person called it in. She was also on facebook for being unaccompanied. The local teenagers are seen as trouble makers because they sit at the skatepark and talk and swear loudly. Every one of them is a nice kid. As soon as a younger kid walks over they stop swearing, change their music and even coach the little kids on how to skate. But... police have been called on them multiple times.
The stranger danger thing scares me as a 31 year old single man anytime I see kids by themselves in the store I try to give them a wide berth because
The last thing I want to be accused of is being a pedo/creep
@@TheVisualDigitalArts I'm exactly the same way. 29 y/o. I refuse to acknowledge the existence of other peoples' kids.
it's more like one in a million. only a couple hundred cases a year in the US.
and there's 6 million car accidents a year in the US. maybe the kids should walk everywhere!
I grew up in America before the whole stranger-danger thing was a thing. By about age 8 we were biking and taking buses everywhere, long as we were home by the time the street lights came on.
Only ONE TIME did I hear about any molestations, but that only affected the kids who hung out at the town dump. Even then it was probably like one dumb kid it happened to.
I think its rooted in America's puritanical past with its fears and hangups about sex. The 60s brought unprecedented permissiveness and we're still having conniptions over that. Everyones still scared their kids will get lured away to join the Manson Family.
The egos of the boomer gen also play a role. They presumed themselves entitled to so much, not only for themselves but for their kids. They wanted perfect safety for everyone, even at the expense of freedom and liberty. Its worth remembering the words of Benjamin Franklin;
"Those who would give up essential Liberty, to purchase a little temporary Safety, deserve neither Liberty nor Safety"
It is not just kids. My bestie from the US visited me and one evening we did a nice leisure stroll around the city (I live in Europe). People were sitting on benches, etc. She looked at me wide-eyed and said, " We don't do this." I looked at her, confused. "What? Take strolls?" "That too, but we don't go outside after dark...that's way too dangerous." It is so sad, really.
My jaw dropped learning about the mom who was arrested for letting her kids play in her own backyard alone even though she was keeping an eye on them
Same. Also was shocked by the dad getting the same for picking his kids up at school by walking smh.
We don't call it "Clownworld" for nothing!
In texas that would not slide.
@@CosmoTheCat0_0 no wonder why our slogan is "don't mess with texas."
@@vibrantgleam true
Props to that school bus driver for preventing those cars from potentially running the kids over. 👏🏼
I'm surprised school buses don't have long bars that can be swung out to block traffic like bars at railroad crossings.
@@ariesearthdragon the ones I remember from the 90s/early 2000s did! There was this arm thing out front that swung out to prevent the flow of traffic. No idea what happened to it.
@@jules9669I think you can see the bar on the front of the bus, but the roads have just widened too much for it to be effective at all.
They have the bars and the stop signs on the buses, but cars still disregard them. I literally saw it happen last week to a school bus thankfully the kid did not have to cross the road..
Florida is fucking wild! I just moved to Florida last month and I have never seen so many school bus passers in my life! Disgusting!
My friend was hit and killed by a speeding vehicle years ago while we tried to cross an 8-lane highway with no crosswalks for tens-of-miles.
Tried to petition a pedestrian bridge and was shot down for a full decade.
Midwest vibes, cars over kids every time.
im very very sorry for your loss, and hope youre doing ok now. that really is depressing
Was it eventually built?
I call bullshit
@@Redmirage47explain how this is unrealistic
Yeah, your friend got filtered out by darwinism.
I’m in my last semester in my Psychology undergrad and just finished my final research project on this exact subject. The lack of autonomy granted to children coupled with the increased influence of the internet creates a perfect storm for effectively destroying the independence of a generation. We’re wired to need that kind of mobility from a young age for our development, and that is something that has been effectively destroyed.
I was threatened TWICE for letting my kids play outside and be alone for 10 minutes! One was a teacher who thought my kids 13/14 needed adult supervision. They were literally ONLY playing on the school playground. I even asked if they were causing trouble and she said no, they just needed adult supervision.
The second time, my daughter, 14, was in the ER and she was hungry. The cafeteria was closed and we were waiting on test results that would take 3 HOURS! I asked the nurse on duty if I could run out and get her something to eat. She said yes. I was gone for no more than 10 minutes and when I got back another nurse threatened to call CPS for ABANDONMENT! My daughter was literally sleeping the whole time!
14?! I just don't understand people. The older generations love reminiscing about biking around with their friends as kids, and now they are fighting hard to deprive today's children of basic independence, treating them like prisoners under house arrest.
When my brother was 14 he went to school to a different town everyday lol
Their generation were running away from home at that age 😂😂😂
(Probably a gross exaggeration)
i feel sorry about those laws, making the situation much more dystopian... i, on the other hand, walk out everywhere to my nearby stores, parks, lakes/river, people here only prefer walking, kids here feel free to move around many blocks without supervision and play wherever they want. In the park, i play with almost 20 local kids everyday, out of which 1-2 are always NEW (while their parents are somewhere in the park). All my childhood, i went to the school with my friends on bicycle, which is on the opposite side of the city, and I see my local kids doing the same, no difference, the same, no school buses, no cars, just bicycles or by foot. Only older gen people prefer city-trams or cars to move around the city.
american life seems miserable
my parents are always blaming my lack of outside-time on my electronics, but i LOVE to walk places that are pretty or convenient or that just don’t take a car. the real problem is that i never can or i’m never able to feel safe while doing that!
Lift and fight
@@SuperKamiGuruuyes, fight the suv
@@SuperKamiGuruui can just picture a jacked 8 year old squaring up against a SUV lol
@@Plumjet09 Cars have no opposable thumbs. gg
@@SuperKamiGuruuyou won't win a fight with a speeding car. Don't think you'd win if you tried to put your fists up to car barrelling towards you at 60 per hour
I went to a human trafficking awareness seminar and one of the main ideas that they pointed out is that the sensationalized white van kidnapping that you see on the news does happen but very rarely. the more common method that predators take is through grooming and slowly disconnecting the person from their main social circles. Besides snatching can so be prevented by happening the points made in the video. The more people go outside and are present in the community, the less this happens. But one more lane, right guys?
There’s a lot of predators online too unfortunately especially discord
I heard about this, too, but online and not from a class. Glad you came and pointed it out for others.
This needs to be top comment
Exactly! Especially with every hang out spot far away, or not being able to hang out with friends, kids will often turn to the internet. And note that some of them are young kids. Which means predators can easily groom one child after another
@@railroadforest30 That's another problem. We made social media the digital hangout spot and that means more predators.
I’m only 23, born in 2000, and man it’s astonishing different from when even I was growing up in the mid-late 2000s, early 2010s. I was always outside, riding bikes around the neighborhood and exploring the general area with my friends that lived nearby, and our parents never cared as long as we came back before night.
I didn’t even realize things had changed so much since then.
When parents get mad at you for wanting to go outside when you were younger and then decide to complain we don't go outside anymore because we were raised this way
agreed, i wasnt allowed to hangout with friends unsupervised until i was 13, which was pretty damn late compared to my friends and other kids in my grade. even then i had very strict boundaries on where i can and couldnt go. my mom also made me call/text her every 20-30 minutes to make sure i was safe and if i didnt, she would always set off that loud ass ring sound from FindMyiPhone. i know she wanted to keep me safe, but somethings are just blatant overkill. im 19 now, going to be 20 in a few months, and although i obviously have way more freedom than i did when i was 13, she still gets panic attacks (not literal panic attacks, i just couldnt find the right term for it) when i go to certain places like the beach, or when i stay out late with my friends (past 12am). like i said before, ik she loves me and just wants me to be safe, but sometimes i feel its too much, im almost 20 and my mom still makes me text her everytime i go from place to place with friends. i know people that are 1-2 years younger than me that are traveling the country and world all by themselves.
@@PascualMorales-py6gd At that point, she doesn't "love" you. You're an object of hers to control and possess.
This type of parenting is too common all around the world, and it creates people who can't even walk past the door without thinking they're doing something wrong
Same parents who complain about a lack of grandkids 😂
As a kid, I can confirm.
It just sucks not being able to see my friends outside of school and with my super over protective parents I don't like the idea of arranging a meeting in fear that I'd have to put up with a awkward conversation and a painful lecture from them.
Bro my mom wont even let me or my little brother go hang out with friends because shes afraid we finna do drugs or sum shit
It's such a shame it has to be this way today. In my childhood (in Finland, Europe) it was actually encouraged to go outside to hangout or play sports with your friends. You were "allowed" to come inside & play video games pretty much only if it was raining or too cold outside.
Parents can go to prison for nothing nowadays. Its not the Parents fault for being protective . They are in a bad spot anymore. Its unfair to both modern parents and their kids. It's a tradet
@@kenw2225 I understand there are real dangerous shady neighborhoods in the US as well, where you strongly advice the kids not going there, and it might not be safe even for adults. But we are talking a typical sleepy suburbia here
@@SuspendedFlameI’m not allowed to hang out with friends because I was bitten by a dog
“We will build a bunch of roads for our cars in mind first and the people last.”
“We will keep our children under surveillance literally 24/7 and expect them to be independent.”
“Why isn’t anyone going outside anymore?”
The problem that these officials are having is they’re trying to make it easier for some motive they have without considering others and the consequences of their decisions
Jesus loves yall, died for us, and rose again! Jesus calls for all of us to repent! He's coming back!!!
@@highestpeeqs9532Too eurocentric
Not to mention that a 12 year old will get arrested for ding dong ditching, whereas a few decades ago kids could get away with much worse
Then why were the roads built 60 years ago when kids spent there entire life outside. What a joke. You don’t have a clue what your talking about
as an immigrant who is new in the us, one of the worst sides of the country is that city designs are very bad. back in my country everything was close and i did not really have to know how to drive a car, but in here it is almost impossible to go outside and do something if you do not know how to drive.
Then, and not to sound rude, why are you still in the US, and not back home?
I'm from Switzerland and at my school parents were NOT ALLOWED to drive kids to school (starting in kinderdarden), they said it's a good way to connect to other kids in the area and also the benefits of being independent. They for sure were right :)
Being straight up not allowed sounds a little authoritarian to me. I think its a good idea to promote the idea and explain why to the people. Suggesting they SHALL is one step away from PAPERS PLEASE. But the neutral Bank nation doesn't have to worry about that i guess.
@@Wassenhoven420 wearing a seatbelt is also authoritarian. What they did is more practical than what most others could even conceive because they're so afraid of their neighbors that they wouldn't allow this to happen. America is deeply broken.
@@Wassenhoven420 I get where you're coming from about it seeming authoritarian at first glance. But honestly, the rule wasn't about exerting control; it was more about fostering independence and community bonds. Plus, let's be real, most parents here wouldn't bother driving their kids everywhere even if they could. And it's not like it's unsafe to ride a bike around here. Sure, my hometown didn't have much in the way of bike infrastructure, but I still pedaled my way to school because who wants to walk haha. My parents and (also the others) weren't stressing about me (us)not showing up right after school either. They knew we'd be out there, exploring, until sunset. It's just the way things are around here.
I’m 13 and my parents let me go alone to school, go back home alone and do my own things with my friends. Geneva is really nice
@@Wassenhoven420 It's also a safety measure. If half the kids walk to school and the other half arrives by car, chances that a drop-off-parent causes an accident involving a kid are comparatively high. That's another reason "parent taxis" are banned in some places.
My sister got CPS called on them because her kids were playing right outside their front door in a small neighborhood with very little car traffic. The kids being 4,5, and 9 my sister watching from inside
That's insane, especially compared to all the playing outside I used to do as a kid in Canada. We would be out for hours without our parents knowing exactly where we were.
It was a Karen neighbor that thought they were being too loud. They weren't afraid for their safety.
That's a terrible thing that ordinary parents who have done nothing wrong fear, unjustly, in the US in places where it goes unchallenged in court, but luckily the Free Range Kids movement is a thing because of things like that.
I saw this dad the first week of school teaching the public bus for the kids to get to school and home. They couldn't be more than 11, I thought it was great. He seemed like a great dad in my eyes. I live in Sacramento California. I never heard of getting arrested for any of this, I'd like to know what states this is going on in.
@@Josh-vc2ulit's a good idea but the name is kinda funny since free range is also a marketing term for chickens and eggs 😂
My parents yelled at me when I told them that I didn’t want to learn to drive. They kept going on about how they got their license as soon as they turned 16 like of course you did. The only way to hang out sound fun stuff with your friends was face to face. Literally the only way I would hang out with my friends before I was 16 was through video games. I literally saw no purpose when I had my parents who could chauffeur me around everywhere. It’s helped me recognize what little independence i actually had and how babying me negatively affected my ability to function in some social settings.
Yeah specially because now we have ubers too, but i do encourage you to at least get your license, you wont regret it really
Learn to drive. Crazy reasoning.
you're kinda stupid.
Get your license. You won’t have your parents driving you around in the future. Better get used to getting around by yourself
How are you supposed to have a job if you dont drive? Go to the grocery store effectively? Unless you want to be spending ludicrous amounts of money on Ubers or delivery.
I feel like this whole issue got worse when the pandemic passed. It really killed a lot of people’s social skills
OMFG what were those clips of those boomers just having melt downs over people sugesting bikes and other modes of transportation 😭 like they sound like a bunch of preschoolers agruing over what name they should give the new class pet like omfg CALM DOWN let here people sleep?? Did biking kill your grandma or smth? 😭💀
Reminded me of the seagulls from Finding Nemo lol
How old are you? 16 ? OMFG LOL !!!
@@althunder4269Did you even watch the video? Or will you just do personal judgements?
@@onrchboth.
Why is bigotry like that applauded by 54 people? Wow.
I’m a part of gen z, and my friends and I were walking to each other’s houses throughout the whole neighborhood in elementary school. Our parents trusted us going back-and-forth between houses, we’d walk and bike to the park, and we’d bike to the local gas station for smoothies. Our parents dropped us off at the mall by ourselves in 5th grade. We were allowed to roam a water park alone, as long as we met back up with our parents at a given time frame. I’d call my friends’ home phones to see if they were free to play; I would get so annoyed if my friend didn’t have a home phone because I’d have to awkwardly call their mom’s cell phone to ask. It’s a different time now, kids can’t do anything, they lack independence. Parents are too scared for their kids safety to let them do anything alone. The issue is, you need to build trust in a parent-child relationship in order for the child to develop independence and be smart about it.
As a european, that news pages was trully shocking!!
You cant let your kids play in YOUR backyard???
You cant WALK your kids from school???
Land of freedom my @ss.
Yea, i feel slovenia is more deserving of the title "land of the free"
Right. What happens if your car breaks down, or if you can't afford a car? Or if you can't drive for legal/medical reasons? How on earth do you pick your kids up from school then? America is the land for entitled and wealthy people. Everyone else is criminalized.
Because of overzealous lawmakers and LOTS of "lobbying" (Bribes) lead to benefits for large corpos. Its a endless cycle of late stage capatilism that endlessly feeds itself.
@@justjesse4276 endlessly feeds itself? That sounds like something im into...
Plant cells.
*realizes this comment is a mistake*
The US is about down to 24 in terms of being a "free country." "1984" is a reality in the US.
Im from Brazil, i always see kids in the streets, being happy, walking to the school.
(Sorry my broken english)
Thats actually not bad for broken english
Hi (sorry for bad English)