How to Stop Overthinking Part 1: The 4 Subconscious Reasons You Overthink Everything

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    Depressive rumination is a type of overthinking where you create the habit of dwelling on the past. You rehash all the terrible things you can think of over and over and over. Depressive rumination says “Why is life so awful? Why am I such a failure? Why can’t I ever be happy?”
    Rumination is like ruts in a road, whenever you’re not paying attention, you slip back down into thinking about all your regrets. But then you spin your wheels, you think and think but never get anywhere. One of my other clients, Elena, constantly dwelt in the past, she’d Ruminate like this “ Why did I buy this car? I’m such an idiot!” Or she’d say “Why am I so depressed?” and she’d worry about it for hours every day, for months. But she didn’t just dwell in the past, she projected it into the future. In session she’d often say “What if my depression never gets better?”.
    Another type of rumination is dwelling on how you were mistreated. Maybe your dad shamed you when you came out to him as gay, or your boss threw you under the bus at work, or your lover ghosted you, and you spend hours of your day wondering why they did that, alternating between resentment towards them and wondering if it was your fault.
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  • @NallahBrown
    @NallahBrown 2 года назад +122

    Overthinking = a false sense of control (believing that analyzing is controlling) this hits the core of perfectionism

    • @Nightwalker25-m3u
      @Nightwalker25-m3u 11 месяцев назад +1

      Oh big words, but I'm somewhat understanding you.

    • @Nightwalker25-m3u
      @Nightwalker25-m3u 11 месяцев назад

      I must analyze. It's soo terrible.

  • @topazrivera8994
    @topazrivera8994 2 года назад +1112

    Man I so understand this. It’s like a constant hyper awareness of everything. And if there is nothing to think about your mind is uncomfortable with peace so it finds something to worry about.

    • @Fire-Toolz
      @Fire-Toolz 2 года назад +70

      in my view, i would call it hyper vigilance rather than hyper awareness, since awareness has a connotation of seeing something clearly, where hyper vigilance has anxiety to it. ;)

    • @heatherh.197
      @heatherh.197 2 года назад +10

      Same. I do it out loud around people. Especially my kids. I hate that about myself. So does my husband 😒

    • @datcate9116
      @datcate9116 2 года назад +27

      This wtf. Why is it so hard to be in the present moment??

    • @Gerhold102
      @Gerhold102 2 года назад +13

      @@Fire-Toolz I agree on the semantic point you raise. I tie in Emma's work with Polyvagal Theory. Since learning about the states of vagus arousal and retention of trauma in the body, I interpreted my own 'condition' as no longer being an 'anxious person', but having learned to retain fight-or-flight/freeze from day-to-day as protection against experiencing further traumatic events I'd suffered as a child.
      Now I know this hyper-vigilance is an unnatural state to be continually in.
      What I wonder is, why, in what is generally considered an extremely beneficent era to exist in, so many people need drugs (prescribed and 'recreational'), supplements, myriad alternative therapies in order to cope with contemporary life. It's also interesting to me that the most investigation into anxiety/depression and the concomitant data is almost totally American in origin - the most prosperous large country in production of wealth per capita in the world. I've never seen output of the same nature and extent from Switzerland or the Scandinavian countries. We, in the largely industrial and business-oriented (i.e. wealth and high living standard generating) countries seem to have yoked a mass of neuroses around our shoulders. No governments seem to be moved to ask why so it's a societal problem we're largely being left to deal with as individuals.

    • @wendihyd6799
      @wendihyd6799 2 года назад +5

      This comment RESONATES with me!

  • @NallahBrown
    @NallahBrown 2 года назад +361

    "Confident people are more willing to make imperfect choices."
    "Self reflection leads to action, rumination leads to stagnation."

  • @norse_cat
    @norse_cat 2 года назад +386

    I do all of these. I think it comes from people-pleasing and social anxiety.

    • @trburns2
      @trburns2 2 года назад +4

      Me too

    • @Demy1970
      @Demy1970 2 года назад +3

      Yes Norse I do this all the time

    • @johnhipp604
      @johnhipp604 Год назад

      ​@@Demy1970 ask emma to replie back

    • @dystanysam9896
      @dystanysam9896 Год назад +1

      Same here it’s been effecting my job lately since I don’t say anything to anyone when they walked away

    • @chelly2468
      @chelly2468 Год назад

      Me three

  • @shelimeli5183
    @shelimeli5183 Год назад +16

    Signs of overthinking
    1)can’t sleep easily
    2)decision making problems
    3)re-create past events
    4)ask questions like what if or why me
    5)make negative assumptions

  • @donnalubrano2856
    @donnalubrano2856 2 года назад +299

    Overthinking should be my last name-it’s what was taught in my house growing up. It’s so comforting to know it can be unlearned! This is great. Thanks Emma!

    • @anandsharma7430
      @anandsharma7430 2 года назад

      You could look into the Flow Philosophy ruclips.net/video/JtGtqmC5wU4/видео.html
      Alternatively, in popular culture, the movie The Big Lebowski is about a person who lives life so chill that he never worries about anything and accepts anything and everything that life throws at him, which is pretty intense, but he remains calm and "chill" through most of it. It's not about a person with mental / emotional superpowers, it is about a "loser" who smokes weed and "doesn't care". The movie spawned an internet cult movement called Dudeism in which everyone just chills and keeps ambitions at a minimum. Society likes to call these people "unambitious losers" but they have a great life skill - of being able to turn off their brains about any worrisome future event.
      The short version of all this is to let the universe control your life and you just go with the flow doing only what is necessary for you to do to fit in the plans of the universe for you. For example, if you need to live till 70, you need to eat well and that means you actually have to find food and eat it. So you do that. But you let the universe worry about where the food will come from - because the universe wants you to live till 70, not you, so push the responsibility of finding the food source onto the universe. This attitude sounds very lazy or very eccentric, but works as a solid miraculous antidote to anxiety and overthinking. Try it out first in small things in life, then maybe after a year or two of practising, in bigger things. As a bonus you find that destiny is a real thing, and so we don't really need to worry that much about anything.

    • @miyannaable
      @miyannaable 2 года назад +8

      I can relate to this.

    • @newtothisthing
      @newtothisthing 8 месяцев назад

      Why were you taught to do that growing up?

  • @H4rv3ym1Ik
    @H4rv3ym1Ik 2 года назад +71

    Man I remember being confident when I was a teen and being willing to roll with imperfect decisions while knowing my decisions would come with unpredicted things that would go wrong, but I strode on and did stuff anyway. I'd do anything to go back to being like that again, as an adult. Spending my adulthood in decision paralysis, overthinking, and basically wasting years away in depression sucks!

    • @whitebirchtarot
      @whitebirchtarot 11 месяцев назад +5

      I agree with you! I wonder how I was able to do that as a teen, but I was. I’ve wasted so many years in depression and indecision as well. It makes me sick to think of it. Maybe we should all pretend we’re teenagers again. Take care. 💕

    • @JamesSmith-pc6bh
      @JamesSmith-pc6bh 6 месяцев назад

      You and I have had the same life.

  • @ceralith942
    @ceralith942 2 года назад +72

    Finally someone gets it! Rumination is a positive feedback loop with my depression and anxiety- each feeds the other in an attempt to offer some sense of stability and control when I feel physically bad, but it ends up just feeding the depressive episode instead.

    • @whitebirchtarot
      @whitebirchtarot 11 месяцев назад +1

      Exactly. You end up in the place you’re trying to avoid. It’s definitely a loop. And so difficult to break. Good luck to you.

  • @PeaceFan1
    @PeaceFan1 2 года назад +12

    This is SOOO ME!! I overthink and Ruminate about Everything and I am Exhausted!!!

  • @conniemiller5125
    @conniemiller5125 Год назад +9

    I've been told I'm an overthinker, and maybe I am. I'm also a constant worrier. I've been like this my whole life, can't help it. I also think I'm ADHD as an adult. I've always had problems paying attention and listening to whatever is being said to me. I have a very hard time understanding things and following through with completing tasks. I am very distracted also. At 70 years old now, I'm still suffering from everything I've typed here, and feel unworthy, depressed and sad.😢

    • @benben9101
      @benben9101 11 месяцев назад +1

      What is ADHD

    • @whitebirchtarot
      @whitebirchtarot 11 месяцев назад +1

      @@benben9101 I think it’s attention deficit hyperactive disorder if I’m not mistaken. I’m just answering a question you asked on a post about over thinking.

    • @lovebug8482
      @lovebug8482 2 месяца назад

      You are worthy! Please k ow that your post helped me realize that Im not alone. Look. They even made a youtube video about it so we cant be the only ones. I know...i too wish i could change all of my overthinking, regret, negative assumptions etc off

  • @alyssabrown9256
    @alyssabrown9256 2 года назад +34

    I just crossed off all seven. The issue is that I've been doing this since I've been a child. I would love to stop. Can't wait for the next videos

  • @metzdupcounselor
    @metzdupcounselor 2 года назад +18

    I literally LOLed on number 4. And then, I spent the next 6 hours thinking about all the times I could've done something more productive. Lesson learned.

  • @bestiary3208
    @bestiary3208 2 года назад +68

    Your videos make me feel instantly calmer. They’re straightforward. They make me realize I’m spiralling in my thoughts and I can get a grip when I realize that I’m being foolish with my thoughts.

    • @brittanyfegan9888
      @brittanyfegan9888 Год назад

      Same!!!!

    • @malik87breaker
      @malik87breaker Год назад +1

      It’s not foolish. Remember to accept it. I think it will help you get over it easier

  • @monaami555
    @monaami555 2 года назад +7

    I only recently became aware that I ruminate. All my life I was convinced that I was not ruminating - I was only analysing my past actions in order to make better choices in the future. Just that the amount of things to improve increases faster than I can improve them.
    Every psychological phenomenon looks totally different from the outside than from the inside.

  • @emilye126
    @emilye126 2 года назад +4

    I'm 66 years old and I still over think..this video helps a lot..ty I'm ready for the next 5..

  • @sonjaforrester9255
    @sonjaforrester9255 2 года назад +76

    I'm a Premenopausal woman who recently in the last year or so has started ruminating at night. And it's bad. Its like I can't stop. It's often about something I have said or done..I'm a bit mouthy, anyway I will worry for hours. Then in the morning it's really no big deal and I can completely see all sides. I need this series. Thank you!

    • @BreathInSpaceFilmz
      @BreathInSpaceFilmz 2 года назад +15

      The same thing happens to me. There is something about the night that makes me completely detach from the present and enter this timeless dimension where my whole life, past and future, is put under a microscope.

  • @sidpastore4239
    @sidpastore4239 2 года назад +46

    “ruminant-like a cow” is how I always explain it to people too :)
    Every time my one friend calls me when I’m not expecting it I ask him if it’s something bad lol. 99% of the time people don’t call me so it does kinda freak me out.
    Looking forward to the series but I wanted to share-Something that really helped me was the concept of “worry time.” You schedule a certain time to worry as much as you want and the rest of the time you’re like “that’s not what we’re doing right now.” In practice for me it’s like an hour of super negative journal thoughts and then after it’s purged I have to try to be more reasonable. I haven’t needed to do it as often since I started self-compassion and lovingkindness meditation though.

    • @whitebirchtarot
      @whitebirchtarot 2 года назад +1

      Good for you! I need to do that.

    • @Peace-tk3gr
      @Peace-tk3gr Год назад

      Schedule worry time: I think I might try this. Thanks 👍

    • @tracysimon7972
      @tracysimon7972 4 месяца назад

      Same!!!!! Especially when my older kids do it. First thing I think is, something is wrong smh

  • @taranextstop
    @taranextstop 2 года назад +4

    I don't like uncertainties. It's important to me have control so I can get assurance over my comfort.

  • @ladyjosephine5351
    @ladyjosephine5351 2 года назад +122

    Jayzus, you've just totally described me. Sometimes my overthinking is so bad I think I'm going to go mad. I thought I was the only person in the world that was such a friggin idiot. Nine months ago I changed jobs to a manager role and my overthinking has just spiralled and is making me so flipping miserable. Thank you for this series, I think I might end up in a nut house if I can't get a grip.

    • @whitebirchtarot
      @whitebirchtarot 2 года назад +24

      Just tell me which nuthouse you’re going to and I’ll join you there so I’ll have someone to talk to. 😊

    • @ladyjosephine5351
      @ladyjosephine5351 2 года назад +9

      @@whitebirchtarot Thanks it would be nice to have someone to spiral with 😏

    • @byDora
      @byDora 2 года назад +8

      Find help with a terapist. I was like that on my twenties thirties attracted many toxics relationships that made it worse at my fourties I had a nervous break down and with it some health physical and psycologic problems appeared.All my fourties were a spiral down...I am fifty working to manage mind and live a more healthy and happy life. I whish I had known before all that happened. Avoid this road I mistake took, find a therapist and wrok on you mind issues.

    • @ladyjosephine5351
      @ladyjosephine5351 2 года назад +3

      @@byDora Thank you for your encouraging words. My problems have worsened as I've got older, I'm really hoping this series will help.

    • @sensualkiwi1878
      @sensualkiwi1878 Год назад +1

      youre definitely not alone

  • @zen_mindset1
    @zen_mindset1 2 года назад +7

    Lack of money is the reason for my mental health issues. These videos definitely help me better than my own therapist.

  • @LonelyRider87
    @LonelyRider87 Год назад +6

    I literally drove myself nuts with this. I have cptsd & GAD, dysthymia too. I went inpatient & got back on a ptsd cocktail of Zoloft, Seroquel, Gabapentin & 2 PRNs in addition to EMDR & talk therapy & I'm feeling better. For me, this was a learned trauma response from childhood. Absolutely maddening. 💯

  • @Hisdaughter85
    @Hisdaughter85 2 года назад +31

    It’s scary how much of myself I saw in this video. I don’t want to overthink anymore, it’s draining and wastes so much time. I’ve subscribed and look forward to the next video 😊

    • @PaulTavaresEmpowerment
      @PaulTavaresEmpowerment 10 месяцев назад +1

      Great that you have made the firm decision. Saying I dont want to overthibk any more is the first powerful step to success. 😊

    • @Hisdaughter85
      @Hisdaughter85 10 месяцев назад +1

      @@PaulTavaresEmpowerment Aww, thank you! I've improved a lot since writing this comment and feel so much better for it!

  • @Al........
    @Al........ 2 года назад +15

    I stopped therapy this week as after 6 months they had made little or no impact to my mental health other than me having to discuss all the crap that happened to me.
    So glad I found this, thank you.

    • @PaulTavaresEmpowerment
      @PaulTavaresEmpowerment 10 месяцев назад +1

      Sometimes self therapy can be far better. Sometimes, we are the best people for the job. 😊

  • @meleks.4820
    @meleks.4820 2 года назад +18

    I was hit by a car while riding the scooter 2 days ago. I didn't suffer from any major injury, but ever since it happened, I tried to play the scene again and again, it is almost driving me crazy! I found your video very very helpful! Thank you so much for making your videos for free!

    • @anthonyturton8091
      @anthonyturton8091 2 года назад +2

      Same thing hit by a truck on my motorbike . I have ridden for decades ,Was a Despatch rider in London for many years. did 300 miles a day in town. any accidents I had .or witnessed previously I could learn from .But this one was impossible to avoid because of the drivers actions, 6 inches closer I would be dead or crippled.. i cant come up with a scenario where this couldnt happen again. No way I can avoid an idiot like that === no control. so it keeps presenting itself as a topic of thought.. Riding is a combination of Animal and Cerebral .so It is not surprising a threat/ close call triggers this behaviour. but dont let it stop you riding if you enjoyed it . I am guessing that Emma's videos on Locus of control would be a good place to start to put these experiences into perspective . Learn from it if you can it will make you a better rider. "Ride free"

    • @meleks.4820
      @meleks.4820 2 года назад +2

      @@anthonyturton8091 thank you so much for the advice Anthony. I'll definitely watch those videos!

    • @JN-wr9he
      @JN-wr9he 2 года назад +1

      It’s your brain trying to process it, but may end up retraumatising you or getting out of control and turn into PTSD. I would suggest you nip it in the bud by talking to a professional or trying EMDR.

    • @meleks.4820
      @meleks.4820 2 года назад

      @@JN-wr9he it also resulted in physical symptoms, like nausea, diarrhea, tachycardia. Spent an entire day in the ER, just so the doctor would tell me in the end that there was nothing wrong with me.

  • @terrywhite6249
    @terrywhite6249 2 года назад +15

    The one element I wish therapists would cover with overthinking is the problem of neurodivergent individuals trying to cope with the neurotypical world. This is the problem I've had with dealing with therapists because they can't understand why I would worry about certain things. I don't understand neurotypical people, so I try to prepare myself for every social situation or make sure no one can misunderstand an email I send because I'm not normal. And I don't want that to impact me professionally. I worry about why someone said something because I don't understand it.

    • @prettypuppy6752
      @prettypuppy6752 2 года назад +3

      Yes! I second that! Being on the Autism Spectrum seems to be synonymous with constant overthinking! You expressed this so well and every therapist bar one completely overlooked the ways my Autism feeds in to my over thinking. It’s part of our ability to hyperfocus

    • @sarahholland9201
      @sarahholland9201 Год назад

      I'm on the spectrum myself and currently working on moving past the whole overthinking and a fear of judgement.. It's so annoying because there are times where I have a negative social interaction or experience and then my brain won't shut up about blowing it up again and again... Ive done alot of inner work on myself and managed too get anxiety under control with tools I use but experiencing the fear of judgement and overthinking ties in with social anxiety and apparently being on the Spectrum... Far out!! I don't want to live with that unhealthy overthinking etc.. I won't!! I mediate and do breath work too but the overthinking has been bad at times where it creeps in while I'm relaxing! There's got to be a way where I can heal from it as I already have the knowledge and understanding but theres a miscommunication in a wire in my brain somewhere that's trying to resist and stick too the negatives etc... So I'm determined as heck to work on this until I find that beautiful healing and release and then peace will be restored.. 🙏🙏

  • @ieshanjaiswal9405
    @ieshanjaiswal9405 2 года назад +69

    I can't thank you enough mam🥺🥺🥺🥺. I was struggling to find what is wrong with myself, why i overthink so much. And deep down i needed someone to tell me real information and reasons behind this. You did. God bless you and your family , i wish you healthy and wealthy life. Keep coming up with this type of video and please try to upload upcoming videos on overthinking parts soon🥺🥺☺️☺️☺️

  • @euls02
    @euls02 2 года назад +13

    I can truly relate to this. I have realized recently that a lot of my overthinking stem from perfectionism. Even if I know that it's ok to make mistakes because most of the time they're not a big deal, there is so much shame and fear in not being "perfect." I'm really looking forward to this series, Emma and hoping I can get tips to work on this struggle.

  • @heatherdeavalon
    @heatherdeavalon 2 года назад +13

    I think about a situation that happened in 1997 that I regret. I can't wait for the rest of this series. Thank you.

    • @CBReptiles1
      @CBReptiles1 2 года назад

      Must have been a big one. Sorry :(

  • @Jo-lp1px
    @Jo-lp1px 2 года назад +12

    So important to overcome. I think mine comes from a unpredictable violent mother with no empathy, and no protection from my father, only child. I have a subconscious hypervigilance from childhood where I protect myself to avoid “punishment” and “unsafe situations.” It was true then, but now I project my toxic upbringing everywhere I go. Awareness (and of other similar dysfunctions I have) I gained a year ago was most powerful. Now working to break down these compulsions and heal so I don’t keep on replaying trauma responses ❤️🙏 walking out healing with Jesus

    • @Jo-lp1px
      @Jo-lp1px Год назад

      @youtubeee thank you so much! You as well ❤️🙏

  • @lilnlaurenvaladein6124
    @lilnlaurenvaladein6124 2 года назад +1

    Almost half the year I’ve been struggling with this already. It feels great getting an explanation for this behavior.

  • @mariehaverty8209
    @mariehaverty8209 Год назад +8

    I was addicted to overthinking and it was killing me, most of it wasn’t even true. As soon as I got this, change this habit and learned to let go. Not there yet, but struggling less. Love this thank you 👏❤️🙏🇮🇪

  • @SWAGGERBOYXL
    @SWAGGERBOYXL 2 года назад +1

    I just want to say thank you I just recently discovered your channel and videos and I really felt alone and like I was the only one going through these thoughts and constant battles in my head until now watching these videos gave me hope I can fix myself and do better and that I'm not alone please don't stop what you're doing you really are changing lives even if was just mine I will forever be grateful

  • @duartelucas8129
    @duartelucas8129 2 года назад +40

    Really like your way of communicating. It is positive, constructive, sound “advice”. Thanks for helping us think!

  • @wisecanadianwoman
    @wisecanadianwoman 2 года назад +2

    Your videos are so helpful. Thank you so much for taking the time to record them. ❤️

  • @argenteaaaa
    @argenteaaaa 2 года назад +3

    I feel like I'm overthinking all the time, so I'm really looking forward to your next videos. You have such a nice soothing voice and I also loved how well structured this video was, not a second to fast forward or skip. Thank you)

  • @mars9582
    @mars9582 Год назад +2

    Thank you so so much Emma!! You have no idea how much your videos help me get through these tough times. It’s not easy work, but with your guidance it’s doable. I’m so grateful to you!

  • @chuckprindiville1246
    @chuckprindiville1246 2 года назад +1

    Emma, I recently discovered overthink and this vid came up 2 weeks later. This series will change my trajectory in life. Thank you

  • @marsireid
    @marsireid 2 года назад +2

    Wow oh wow. This one touched me deeply and I’m grateful to see and hear the reasons that I might further process my “stuff.” Tears, tenderness, and insight. Thank you Emma. 🙏🏼💞

  • @mikmik1855
    @mikmik1855 2 года назад +8

    Looking forward to this series! This gave me so much hope. Thank you ❤️

  • @GGG-gf1wf
    @GGG-gf1wf 2 года назад +3

    I can’t wait next videosss!!! I can not contain myself out of excitement because I was just on this topic.I say thinking comes with solutions on the other hand overthinking comes with new problems

  • @lesleythompson5377
    @lesleythompson5377 2 года назад +2

    I thought I would listen for a minute through curiosity and then probably get bored. Or get nothing from it. It’s absolutely spot on. Delivered really well. One of the few rare real understandings of psychology ! Great

  • @sonyxperia7881
    @sonyxperia7881 2 года назад +17

    Can't wait for learning the skills to avoid overthinking. Thank you so much for the video 🙏

  • @lizzydog5728
    @lizzydog5728 2 года назад +3

    I also had a problem with overthinking. If you practice meditation instead of over thinking things. It just takes practice (like most things!). I promise you will find peace and develop a healthy relationship with yourself! MINDFULNESS

  • @shawnwabrams
    @shawnwabrams 2 года назад +2

    Great video, over thinking has become a new habit which I was having trouble identifying. It has been creating struggles for me the last few months. Now that I’ve identified what it is, I’m excited to see the next few videos.

  • @cmcorson5610
    @cmcorson5610 2 года назад

    I find your videos very helpful & relatable. This video hit very close to home & I can't wait for the other five in this series!

  • @chelly2468
    @chelly2468 Год назад +2

    Wow you described me lately. Actually made me cry…It’s exhausting and I can never get my heart to stop beating so fast when I experience this. 😞

  • @dhirajshetty483
    @dhirajshetty483 2 года назад

    Very very happy this video got made ! Thank you ! Can’t wait for the next one

  • @anjav3464
    @anjav3464 2 года назад +1

    I can hardly wait to see your next videos!! Thank you so much for this. I am a 56 year old woman, but I am still ruminating too much..... And I love the way you speak. Clear, calm, positive and happy 😄

  • @titaniaaquilla5502
    @titaniaaquilla5502 2 года назад

    What a great explanation! Cant wait for the full playlist release!

  • @Rich-wi7dn
    @Rich-wi7dn Год назад +1

    I’m now older than the ages in the pie charts and I’ve been a chronic overthinker and worrier since I was a very little kid. I still haven’t shaken it yet. I’m hoping to change my brain.

  • @claudiad.p.639
    @claudiad.p.639 Год назад +6

    Hi Emma,
    THANK YOU! You are a GIFT. If all therapists would be more like you, patients would make so much progress so much quicker.

  • @ManlyHK1
    @ManlyHK1 Год назад

    I am an acute sufferer of overthinking and worrying. I found your channel and the info you provide has helped me a lot - your voice is different from many others and it has a soothing effect on me - thank you so much!

  • @leebertee
    @leebertee Год назад +5

    Thank you, Emma, you just made me realize why I need an explanation for every minor health issue I’m having. So I consult Dr. Google then spend the day overthinking. I so need to STOP this! 🙏🙏

  • @Pk-ft5dl
    @Pk-ft5dl 2 года назад

    This video has been so helpful! I struggle with everything that was mentioned! Thankyou for sharing! Just knowing that I’m not alone and that there is help is game changer!

  • @whitebirchtarot
    @whitebirchtarot 2 года назад +26

    I worry about everything. You’re absolutely right; I’m trying to control things because I have never felt safe. And I cannot tolerate uncertainty, even though the older I get the more I realize that everything is uncertain. I can’t wait for your next video. Do I see the Chronicles of Narnia behind you? 💕

  • @asuzuki9439
    @asuzuki9439 2 года назад

    Hi Emma, I can’t wait for watching the next video! I’m struggling to overcome overthinking, knowing it’s totally a waste. Your video is always practical.

  • @rhondamcloughlin3773
    @rhondamcloughlin3773 2 года назад +5

    I wish I could have “liked” this video so much more. Very valuable.

  • @conork4110
    @conork4110 2 года назад

    Thank you so much for your videos. I’m gaining massive insights. I’m so happy to have found your material. I’m so grateful you are providing this service to humanity that’s easily accessible and free. This is better than any self help book or counselling session I’ve experienced! You’re a gift to the world.

  • @alinds1
    @alinds1 2 года назад +11

    Just started to cover this with my therapist yesterday -- she even assigned me homework to find three things to distract me from rumination. The timing of your video series is uncanny! Thank you!

  • @josietoney5354
    @josietoney5354 2 года назад +2

    100% me. My therapist and I are working on my analyzing as an answer to some need - likely my need to control a scenario for a favorable outcome and also just anxiety, ADHD, and perfectionism.

  • @tiller6750
    @tiller6750 2 года назад +8

    Just wanted to say thank you, Emma. I always get so much out of your videos. I can't wait to watch this series!

  • @kevinburrell3359
    @kevinburrell3359 2 года назад +31

    I'm too curious to learn everything. it's a blessing and curse I won't get rid of but I'll learn how to control it. Anyways, just accepting the intrusive and ruminating thinking helps alot!

    • @XYZZ2112
      @XYZZ2112 2 года назад +2

      Same here , bro
      Instead of spending too much time thinking in a certain object , dedicate some time to listening and watching stuffs about the same object from different sources
      Let's say you wanna know about psychology (CBT)
      rather than thinking too much about a lecture you have watched on RUclips, think a little and go watch another video about the same topic but from a different Doctor
      That way you make the new information strong in your head without suffering from over thinking and what comes out as a result of it .

    • @kevinburrell3359
      @kevinburrell3359 2 года назад

      @@XYZZ2112 Interesting. I've heard something about that before but forgot. Thank you!

  • @truelovezhayte6486
    @truelovezhayte6486 Год назад

    I feel like you saved my life. No joke! Thank you so much for spending your time helping people like me. It’s beautiful…

  • @sammirolo
    @sammirolo 2 года назад

    With health anxiety....its literally consuming. This video was so helpful. Thank you 🙏

  • @rosco92
    @rosco92 2 года назад +1

    This is my therapy.....her voice... how clear she is...relaxing

  • @miyannaable
    @miyannaable 2 года назад +1

    This couldn't have appeared in my feed at a better time. Thank you!

  • @ricardo68
    @ricardo68 2 года назад

    This video helped me. Thank you. I unexpectedly lost my job recently and was going into the overthinking cycle. This video alerted me to focus on finding a new job rather than dwelling on something I don’t control.

  • @lizalzate637
    @lizalzate637 2 года назад +31

    Thank you for sharing this videos !! It’s helping me heal my depression and much more .. I value you and I love you for doing this … may God bless you for doing this video… 🤗 please keep going, never stop !! You healing many hearts 💕 and brains 🧠 out there !! Counting mine 🙌

  • @azucarmorena1117
    @azucarmorena1117 2 года назад

    Thank you!.. I so much needed to hear this. I overthink everything. It is so debilitating.

  • @ask_danielle
    @ask_danielle 2 года назад

    I needed this, I’ll look out for the other episodes when posted.

  • @tyeohno
    @tyeohno 2 года назад

    THANK YOU for this video! I'm going to rewatch it because I was too preoccupied with overthinking things as it was playing.

  • @misskatiescarlett6395
    @misskatiescarlett6395 2 года назад

    WOW! You hit the proverbial nail on the head. I perseverate for all the reasons you stated. Fear is the underlying factor. I will try your suggestions as something's got to give.

  • @silmarilasmr6801
    @silmarilasmr6801 2 года назад +4

    Holy schmoly. This was a video that helped me out quite a bit. I’m determined to make the imperfect choice and not ruminate over my course of actions. Thanks!

  • @nickfrazier8013
    @nickfrazier8013 2 года назад

    Perfect timing for you to drop this series. 💙💙💙

  • @BeckyB751
    @BeckyB751 2 года назад +15

    Thank you so much Emma for another great video! 💚 I'm excited for this series. I definitely over think too much! I just need to say to myself I am not a cow! Haha

  • @melwills3822
    @melwills3822 2 года назад

    Excellent Emma ! Thank you so much for making it very clear how this does actually play out!

  • @aligator9552
    @aligator9552 2 года назад

    Emma, your friendly yet direct videos are very helpful. Thank you! You have helped more people than you know. God bless you.

  • @bigfoottoo2841
    @bigfoottoo2841 Год назад +1

    Like many, over thinking almost destroyed me. Went from an A student to a C student.

  • @matiasse
    @matiasse 2 года назад

    Exactly what I needed at this point, thank you Emma. All things related to dating make me overthink a lot and even if they are usually great thoughts I find it to be a problem. Really looking forward to upcoming videos :)

  • @TaleenMclean01
    @TaleenMclean01 Год назад

    You’re amazing! I just hope you know that. This is the exact video I needed today as I was overthinking and needed to stop 🙏🏼

  • @apurvijoshi8395
    @apurvijoshi8395 Год назад

    Thank you so much for making this video. This was one of your videos that helped me realize that I experience alot of the things you talked about and to understand them better. Waiting for the next videos in the series

  • @lindatruex4518
    @lindatruex4518 2 года назад

    Wow! This is me all my life ruminating. These short videos are wonderful. Thanks Emma wish you were my therapist.

  • @drdevikakhanna4979
    @drdevikakhanna4979 2 года назад

    Thank you so much. I feel blessed to have been directed to watch this video. Thank you for asking for our views a few days ago- you actually used them ☺️. I’m eagerly awaiting the next video so I can learn practical steps 🌹🙏

  • @topgeer
    @topgeer 2 года назад

    This is so good. So clear and well laid out. Thank you

  • @freddiesawyer910
    @freddiesawyer910 2 года назад

    Yup. Overthinking definitely is part of my anxiety & indecision!

  • @bookie7316
    @bookie7316 2 года назад +9

    I recently had an incident with my boss when he said I was only doing 50%of my work even though my husband had passed away and I was trying to "soldier on". I was so upset about our discussion that I kept replaying it in my mind and felt anxious. It was horrible!

    • @PBHlovesJesus
      @PBHlovesJesus 2 года назад +5

      What an insensitive cad

    • @BebehCookieIcecream
      @BebehCookieIcecream 2 года назад +1

      That's absolutely awful, I'm sorry you went through that and you definitely deserve better (as anyone would).

  • @cheryl8493
    @cheryl8493 2 года назад +6

    This was FANTASTIC, Emma!!! I shared with a couple other friends who are also in recovery because it was so Spot On, pertinent & helpful! Thanks so much!! Hope you’re feeling good! You do look Great! 🌺 Cheryl R

  • @noishpa7
    @noishpa7 2 года назад

    I work with the public to help people who have lost their jobs to deal with their situation and find new employment. I just met a new client that is 79 years old and unfortunately need to continue to work to supplement her income. She is paralyzed by fear, anxiety and short term memory loss. I have also, just today found your channel and I have to tell you it is a Godsend! You are describing her condition to a tee and your content/strategies ARE going to make a huge difference for her. You content is also helping me to understand her condition and come up with approaches to help her. I cannot not thank you enough.

  • @karenbutcher5921
    @karenbutcher5921 Год назад

    I needed this today! Thanks

  • @pinkelation853
    @pinkelation853 Год назад

    Thank you for these videos. I have been in therapy multiple times but I have sadly never gotten this kind of mental help for overthinking until now.

  • @shirleyhk3326
    @shirleyhk3326 2 года назад +8

    I was so serious in this issue and after I learned about self-compassion and self-reaffirmation, it has helped me a lot. However, it takes a lot of constant practice after increasing your awareness about self-compassion. It is about rebuilding your neural network so that new, healthy neurons can be formed in the brain.

  • @spacepanda420
    @spacepanda420 2 года назад +1

    I really love and enjoy your RUclips channel! Thank you for everything that you do! I'm happy to grow as a person!

  • @descendantofsomeone
    @descendantofsomeone 2 года назад

    Thank you for always sharing your knowledge and empathy, all of it in a way that's easy for me to understand!

  • @maksymushka
    @maksymushka 2 года назад

    Just in time - literally needed this.

  • @maureenskinner5382
    @maureenskinner5382 2 года назад

    Looking forward to the next parts - I struggle with this for sure!

  • @markspence3295
    @markspence3295 2 года назад +2

    Sums me up quite nicely at the moment.

  • @sharoncooper2630
    @sharoncooper2630 2 года назад

    Thank you so much Emma ! Very helpful! You’ve got that glow😊

  • @kismita1
    @kismita1 2 года назад

    Thanks a lot, Emma. Waiting for 2nd video of this series.

  • @suprememaz
    @suprememaz 2 года назад +2

    Thank you. I really needed this video! I’m a high functioning autistic, so I keep overthinking my situation and worried I’m misreading everyone else. It’s in my recent position I’m realizing it’s okay to be human, and the importance is that you continue to grow.

    • @allieeverett9017
      @allieeverett9017 2 года назад +1

      Thank you for sharing that Michael...I'm an Aspie, and actually used to apologize to God for being human. Sigh. Learning...and Emma helps ☺️

  • @artsyweirdo
    @artsyweirdo 2 года назад

    This is so astronomically important for me right now. Especially being in eating disorder recovery.