My son refused to drive and get a license until he turned 18 because at 15 when he could begin driver’s ed, he said it was a huge responsibility and wasn’t ready. I am proud of him that he did not hurry to get his license and did so when he was ready. He has been driving 4 months now and I am glad to see he took driving seriously and realized it is a huge responsibility.
I waited til i was 17 and took the drivers ed classes At 15 i just wasnt ready, interested and had a lot in my plate back then Now at 26 i am a pretty good driver
Congrats, your son has 3 years less driving experience, is less prepared having not had his parents take the time to teach him the skill during key formative years, and will have to pay higher interest rates for having had his license fewer years. He "refused" says everything. Face fears and learn a skill you have to learn at some point anyway or kick the can down the road? Solid parenting.
@Big Matty 💪 I’m a teenager and don’t care about social media? Your developing a bias against all teenagers all because you dislike some of them. I know many intelligent teens who don’t care about social media and choose to go places. You don’t know anything about the good side of the modern generation.
The weight of potentially causing damage, hurting others and killing someone is huge and hard for teens. I understand why they would opt out and wait until later
@@illestvillain1971 why’re u just saying all American teens aren’t concerned? Everyone’s different whoops disregard that message, my brains didn’t see that “some” u typed. My fault bruh 💀I needa go back to sleep
short answer: scary long answer: the price of fuel, buying a car, paying for insurance is so much. no one wants to be sitting in traffic all day, so many of us can’t afford it.
Did you know you can get a remote job and still have a car and it will not be that expensive? The key is to put minimum miles driven for the insurance and it will not be that expensive.
It's ridiculous that in America in order to get anywhere u have to drive or get a driver no matter if ur sick, tired or drunk. Most other countries u could reliably take public transport safely or walk to most places
Don't forget America is BIG. Australia, too, is the same. (which is where I live) In the moment, it is 50kms to get to basic shops, 150kms if you want anything other then the basics. You certainly can't walk that, and while there is one bus a day, you couldn't get there and home again by public transport. The USA is pretty much the same in many cases.
That's not a good excuse for the infrastructure to prioritize cars over people. It's very much a conscious political choice that continues to be supported. It has nothing to do with the size of the country, but more about the size of the wallets of politicians that enable this atrocity.
@@Sussex192And yet, that didn't stop Russia, China, and USA from building their rail network anyway despite their size. Yes, USA does have a rail; they just have to include passenger services as well. Western Europe too. Despite their differences in standards per country, that didn't stop them from offering international train services.
My niece will be 16 shortly and has zero interest and driving even when I offered her a nice little starter car. That is unimaginable for me and my generation growing up in the 90s with wheels
I was a terrible driver, and finally stopped trying to get my license at 31. I’ll be 56 years old soon, and I’m a rare breed in my generation to not be able to drive. So thankful my amazing husband of 33 years takes me where I need to go, and my daughter helps me too. Oh, and whoever invented online shopping is a genius!☺️
I totally relate to this. I just turned 23 and got my license only 5 months ago. I had such bad anxiety about driving, and it always scared me, but I always knew deep down I had to face my fears and go for it. Now I can't imagine not being able to take myself to work or the store. I'm so glad I did it!
I would much rather have a teen who is overly careful about driving, than one who is scared but decided to drive when they knew they weren't ready. And props to these kids for having the maturity to take car safety and theirs and others lives seriously, and admit if they aren't ready. ❤
That’s true. I did wait until I was 19, bc I just wasn’t ready and overly anxious. And out of every single person I know- I’ve never been in an accident, never hit another car visa vera, not even a little fender bender.
How come nobody is mentioning the ridiculous costs of insurance and gas in this age? Coverage for 15-20 year olds is expensive, it's much more affordable to just uber or have ur parent drive.
@@dillon17 If you want to live your life not knowing how to drive, do you. But don't say there's nothing wrong with it. What next, there's nothing wrong with living with your parents?
As an eighteen year old who was in a major wreck this year, I completely understand. The weight of responsibility is huge, and the consequences of a single mistake on the road can change lives for the worst.
I’m 24 and I feel ashamed about not having my license yet. I know it’s scary, but it’s an essential skill. What happens if there’s an emergency and you can’t get an Uber or call someone to pick you up?
Thats okay. Depends on the need as well. I got my license when in was 30 yrs (2020). With covid and wfh, and my employer allowed for employee to claim for Grab ride (like Uber), i never drive since ive got mine. Took it just because my parents made noises for me to get it
@@metasprite5648 Agreed. On the other hand, I’m glad I’m not the only one. ;w; Here’s hoping we get it! Fingers crossed.🤞I really want it now because my step-dad began to have health issues and can’t drive as much anymore. Plus I just think it’d give me more freedom instead of asking my folks for a lift lol
I’m 24- I got my permit at 15, my license by 16, and I’ve gotta say, I could not imagine waiting any longer. I’m so shocked at the number of kids scared of driving, because when I was growing up, all my peers wanted to get their license and drive to school and have their own cars. Sure, it’s a big responsibility, but all of us understood the importance of learning to drive. Some places, you don’t have to drive.
@@unicornpaintings It’s better to conquer your fear and learn earlier than later. It will help you become a better driver. I learned at 15 and have been driving for ten years now
I was in a horrific car wreak with my family causing my mother to be in critical condition 2 days before my 16th birthday, after the accident I wasn't able to go into a car without losing my breath until I was nearly 18. Now 20 I just earned my permit and going to drive soon after working through the trauma and fear. Sometimes everyone's circumstances may be different, especially going through an event at the age your supposed to start driving, some people just need some time to get over a fear or a traumatic event like mine. It's sometimes best to wait than shut down on the road over the fear causing to drive recklessly.
I'm 20, and I don't have my license. I'm mostly afraid to go on the road in fear of crashing or making a mistake. My parents have been trying to encourage me to get on the wheel, but they want me to practice using their cars, and that just adds to the pressure because I don't want to potentially damage their vehicles. I do want the freedom to be able to go anywhere I want and whenever, but that fear is a hindrance. Edit: I'm 21 now and got my adult license. I still don't have my own car as of now, so I do still carry the fear of crashing or making mistakes. For those who struggle to get themselves behind the wheel, it helps tremendously to have someone especially calm and patient with you. Have them take you to a parking lot; the more empty, the better. That way, you can practice and get a feel of the car while going only as slow as 5-10 mph, and you don't have the pressure of slowing traffic on regular roads. Just take your time from there, get a feel of how soft/hard you have to press the gas to accelerate and brake. Get a feel of the steering wheel and how the car turns and how wide. You can even practice parking. Once you're comfortable and confident enough, you can promote yourself to driving around residential areas, and eventually highways. Most importantly, just be patient with yourself and applaud yourself for having the courage to get behind the wheel in the first place.
You're gonna make mistakes and potentially get into an accident, but that's part of learning to drive. Take a driver's education course, and they'll teach you everything you need to know about driving, plus they'll let you get behind the wheel and teach you hands on before you take your driver's exam. Good luck 👍
I have seizures so my fear is a lot more...extreme. But you can start simple. Take a drivers Ed course. To me they were 50x less stressful than family members. And it helps that there's tons of stickers and signs in the car saying you're a student driver. If it wasn't for thr driving courses, I know I would be waaaay more freaked out than I already am. But I do have a license in case there is an emergency. Having a license doesn't mean you have to drive. Just means you're able to in case there's an emergency.
I've been driving regularly since I was 14. I'm 40 now and still very much enjoy it. I'm way more conservative and safe now though. I don't drive aggressively like I used to. People told me I'd get sick of it by the time I was 30, but they were wrong. I'm glad I learned on a manual transmission too because now I can drive almost any vehicle. I agree with the mom who said driving is a very valuable skill to have. However, I also think any teen who really doesn't want to drive shouldn't be forced to learn...
@@04angelbydeath Yes. It wasn't legal though. I got pulled over on my first day because I was struggling to move from a stop on an incline. The officer made me park my car and he gave me a ride home. It was only 2 or 3 miles away so I walked back later today night and drove the car back home. He didn't even give me a ticket. 🙂
@@so12productions Back then, it was 1996 and the legal age for a permit where I live was 15½ and 16 for actual license. I wasn't legal to drive at all, but circumstances at the time were such that I got to drive. I never got a valid license until I was 18 because of all the infractions in the first few years. I kept getting suspended before I even had a chance to get a valid license. Half of the times I was pulled over it wasn't even for moving violations. It was often for a burnt out light or a cracked window or something like that. They would stop me, only then learn I was suspended and the ticket would get me suspended even longer. That's the jist of it anyway. Edit: typo
My grandma woke me up on my 18th birthday and said "get ready, you're getting your license" forever grateful. I hated driving until I was in the car by myself.
I’m 27 and at 18 I COULD NOT WAIT to start driving. Yes I felt anxiety yet anxious at the same time to learn and get behind the wheel like a majority of novices. I’ll never forget when I asked an older woman if it was hard learning how to drive, she said “It’s not hard at all-as long as you pay attention.” That’s all I needed to know.
@@fabienzaca Although highway driving has a slightly more controlled condition than city driving. The caveat is higher speeds mean less margin for error.
@@fabienzacamy advice for highway driving is start learning on the weekends in the morning/early part of the day that way you have less traffic to deal with and very few crazy drivers compared to like a Thursday night
00:31 “a key step towards independence”. In America it is,where everything is designed for cars and not for people to walk, cycle, and everything else.
@@isaactwine But those things aren't stopping people from getting around? Seriously, who's saying they can't get to where they need to go because the sidewalks aren't safe?
I got my learners permit at 15, and my license at 16. It was definitely a rite of passage back then, and a symbol of freedom. My Dad was very proud of me at the DMV, and I showed all my friends my license in the cafeteria. It was also scary at first, but I was able to improve as a driver and drive myself to school and work.
I used to want my license at 16, until I turned 14. I saw how the HS kids used to drive to school down the street, always crashing in front of the school every week.
Learn from their mistakes. There is a lot of idiots on the road but thats does not mean you have to become one of them. Learn to drive safely and you will be able to avoid the situations you observed.
@@snowrocket the way the entrances were, it’s basically gate surrounding the parking lot. They open 2 sides, one to get in/out but there’s enough space for 2 cars to fit. Unpredictable turns and stuff lol, it’s the turn onto the street and ppl turning in.
believe me, I drive with my parents whenever I'm behind the wheel and what my mother does is backseat driving, which made me almost regret my decision to get my license
@@DavidKen878 How's it sad?🤨🧐 They're your parents. Besides, there's also the option of hitching rides with friends, neighbors, older siblings, aunts, uncles, boyfriends/girlfriends etc. Not to mention all the rideshare options like Uber and Lyft.
@@seanluzdeluna8153 Its sad because this new generation is so weak. You're overly sensitive, literally everything offends you, and now you're scared to drive.
It’s ok y’all, don’t freak out. I didn’t get a license until I was 28. I didn’t drive in high school and when I went to college, we had a bus system, I moved to DC and I took the train. I moved back to Houston, I knew I needed a car. I was scared, but I signed up for lessons (yes, I was taking lessons with teenagers lol) but ultimately the real test was my learning to drive because I had no choice but to get in my car and drive off for an emergency. Please if you’re a teen, don’t feel bad, even if you’re in your early 20s. Take your time, learn how to drive, and don’t rush to get an expensive car. It might also help to wait until you get a stable job for car insurance and a car note
I’m almost 24. My parents refused to teach/ or give me to tools to get going. I’m terrified, isolated, and infantilized and they still refuse. I want to leave. I live in a very rural underdeveloped state, everything is an hours car ride away minimum and I live in dense forest with terrible phone signals. There’s no way I could walk to driving school everyday. This is miserable. Being alive isn’t living. Uber is an option, I suppose. But I don’t have $500-$600 to drop on every ride.
I feel like it also depends on where you live. I grew up in NYC and had no reason to get my license or get a car. I walked, biked and took public transit everywhere. It wasn’t until I moved away from home to an area that didn’t have as good transit that I decided to buy a car (at 21🤷🏾♀️).
I live in New York City right now and i want a car but if i ever need anything its just been ride a scooter, walk or talk public transit. Or just use my parents and brothers who know how to drive. I don’t
Another strange aspect of American culture: the idea that you MUST have a license. In most other developed countries you can easily get around without one.
I mean, good luck with making it easy to get around without a car in a lot of areas. I live in Montana and aside from like maybe 5 towns, there’s nowhere that you could potentially add public transport or improve bike/pedestrian infrastructure for any meaningful difference. Rural areas just can’t function without cars, and that’s why, where i live, it will likely always be a necessity.
I can kind of relate to this. My brother didn't get his driver's license until he was 25. He was introverted and didn't go out much during his teen years, and he did do a course on it in high school but never continued with it. He finally decide to get his license when he was about to graduate college and get a job. I think driving is an ecential skill and can give you independence and privacy, but you should definitely do it when you're mature and ready. In fact, I applaud teens who realize that they aren't ready yet. Too many people these days think their ready and end up losing their license because of poor choices on the road
I didn't get my license until 3 years ago... as someone with high anxiety and a brother who died in a car accident around the time we turned 16... I was wayyyy too scared to be behind a wheel. I was worried I'd change someone's lives the way our lives were changed. I didn't fear for me or my safety. I feared for the safety of others, and I didn't want to be the cause of something horrific. Obviously, I am so glad I have my license now, but at the time, waiting was the right choice for me. 😊
I'm so sorry about your brother. I just can't imagine what you must have gone through. You definitely did the right thing by waiting until you felt safe. 😢
Part of it is that grown people (usually 30-60) have become incredibly reckless, and inconsiderate of other drivers since the pandemic. This causes new drivers to feel extra anxious about learning to drive, especially if they’re teenagers.
I’m 16 and the only thing I’m terrified of about driving is taking the test. I’m not the one to perform well under pressure and it scares me, but I do want to be able to drive eventually. I have a 19 year old brother who hasn’t even gotten his permit yet and relies on our mother to take him everywhere, which is hard in college when you have places to be.
Depending on where you live the test is usually not that bad. I’m in Illinois. When I took it (about ten years ago) the computer part was so easy it was silly (like what do you do at a red light, what is the shape of a stop sign) and I just had to drive around the block and I think I made a small mistake or two. Just relax and do it and if you fail you can retake it again later.
Where I live you can omit the behind the wheel driving test if you have fully completed your learners permit driving log hours before getting the license.
The test is really not that hard you just have to practice. I promise I was in the exact same situation as you procrastinating due to fear of failing, and when I eventually did the test it was a piece of cake. You have to practice though
When I was 16, way back in 2002 I had no desire to get my license either. Of course my experience was a bit different, I didn’t care about having a license because I didn’t care about going anywhere. My parents were never home so I didn’t need to escape from them and I had friends that drove so if I did want to go somewhere they came and got me.
My son is an 18 year old high school senior and started driving on his own a couple of months ago. He wasn't ready at 16 and that's okay, I wasn't going to push him into driving.
Just cause you get your license doesn't mean you can drive. Unless you can comfortably drive in any hand position, park anywhere that your car can fit in, and know the distance between your car and others such as double parkers, then you can't drive.
But it always good to have a car even if you live in a transportation state. I grew up in Boston and relied on transportation for years then moved to Florida and it hit me, having a car is important and it’s never too late
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@@kalanatorres845 Yeah, Live in San Francisco From Middle School until mid 30's. Even if you don't get a car, it is good to have a license just in case of emergencies.
This is really suprising, I am 24 and I remember wanting to drive so bad. Once you drive, its like a new world is totally opened up for you. You get so much freedom to go when and where you want. Learning to drive changed everything for me. It felt like I was truly a child before I could drive. I also live in a very rural area, so that could be it too.
@@citizen565 I am a CDL driver, so I've been everywhere lol. Drove a 53 foot trailer in the Bronx. But I agree, most people out here don't know how to drive.
I didn't learn to drive until I was 24 and I don't regret a thing. They have a reason to be worried about driving, it's not just your driving you need to watch it's every other driver to. They can drive when their ready and confident enough to get behind the wheel. And most importantly that there has to be some to teach them properly how.
sure but the thing is at 24 when you first got your DL, other 24 year olds who started driving at 16 already had almost a DECADE of experience. By 22 I had already driven cross country with friends for fun just because we could. Compared to a brand new 24 year old driver with zero experience in traffic, weather, and etc. I mean everyones life set up is different and as a suburban kid I had no choice. You had to drive to get anywhere where i grew up which is night and day compared to an inner city experience where public trans may be available. But at the end of the day.. that time/experience you lost by waiting is something you can never get back. Like with ANY other skill, the younger you start the more time you have to get better.
@@user-ok8yq6nc6x except you have anxiety IE sweaty hands, fear of accidents.. not knowing how to reverse park or reverse in general... the awkwardness of steering wheel and getting a grip on it in order to maneuver...etc.
I was never interested in driving in high school, but I understood the importance of having a license just in case. Of course I was nervous and scared, but I was 23 or 24 when I first got my license. It's not too late!
@@greengreens6347 It's definitely not hard to learn! What I suggest is getting your permit first, and practice with someone in an empty parking lot late at night or on an empty road. Books can only tell you so much. You will have to get hands on experience to really grasp it. Just remember, it's okay if you mess up. Everyone does!
We all got nervous n scared the first time. Practice practice practice. Drive in an empty parking lot. Learn the rules n signs. Its all based on common sense.
My daughter is in a similar situation. She is 18.5; she has mid-high functioning Autism. She has her learners drivers license and keeps practicing. Thankfully she knew how to drive well enough to drive me to and from the hospital emergency room; in October; after I crushed my fingers in the lawnmower. She keeps practicing driving.🤞
I didn't get my license until I was 21 and I am glad that I waited. Driving in the city is insane as it is and with everything that I already had going on in my life when I was younger, I just didn't feel like I was in the appropriate mental place to be behind a wheel. Also, it was incredibly hard, even at an older age, to find driving classes that worked for me (my first few instructors where terrible people who should not have been teaching) and my parents were not always readily available. I got into a few accidents and, if I had been younger, I believe I never would have gotten over my driving anxiety at that time and probably never would have went behind the wheel again. I still think having your license is important and you should get it by a certain time but I don't think its the end of the world if you do not want to get it when your 16.
Heya! 18 year old here, driving has never been an interest for me: 1.) Buying a car or putting down a down payment has been absolutely expensive, so much more than before and as someone who has no financial dependence on parents it’s been difficult 2) gas prices 😬😬😬 should I say more? 3) I don’t trust my peers considering how many actually drink and drive, it’s not about my own skills, it’s about others (and personally I’d rather wait till I was 18 because then I’ll be moving away and hey then I’ll have ignorance and bliss) 4) I personally enjoy walking and it’s a healthy habit for me, I can walk to and from work in 15 minutes and to school in 20 so I never felt the need to drive a car 5) there’s plenty of others ways to have independence other than driving BUT: I am glad to be able to afford buying a car soon and I’m looking forward to driving (although nervous) I just think that it’s a large pressure put on teenagers nowadays and honestly some people aren’t ready and I’d prefer it if we drove when we were prepared rather than forced to for convenience
@@iiCounted-op5jxcan someone crippled in a wheelchair with dysfunctional legs drive? I don’t think so, they need leg movement to use the clutch, gas, and brakes
I’m 20 and this is exactly how I feel, especially in a state that’s notorious for crazy drivers. I was practicing one day with my father and I had hit the back of someone’s car on accident. I balled my eyes out in the back seat even though I didn’t even dent the lady’s bumper 😭 The only damage done was to my car with a shattered headlight. She was very nice though and told me accidents happen especially with someone who is just learning to drive. But ever since then I haven’t been practicing as much.
and thats how it should go, i was on the same boat. That doesn't mean I'm not going to drive. Not learning to drive will only negatively effect the teens of tomorrow who won't have parents to teach them.
I always felt really bad as a teen constantly asking everyone to give up a chunk of their time to drop me off and pick me up. As soon as I could do my lessons and get my license, I got it the day after I turned 18 (legal driving age here). Till this day, I am so so thankful my family to sponsor my lessons, they truly bought me my independence.
@@kennzfrenzy I mean, whether you're behind a wheel or someone taking you somewhere... I much prefer getting hurt on my own rather than someone else getting hurt for the fact I refused to get a license...
as a teenager, here’s my answer. It’s because it’s terrifying dude, I don’t know how to do any of this 💀 one small accident could cause a tragic and damaging event to happen, i’ll still learn how to drive because I need to in order to go places, but if I had the choice, I’d rather teleport
But why is it terrifying? Driving is so simple. Stay in the lines. Stop at red lights. Be kind and courteous to other drivers. I will never understand how driving could be considered a hard thing to do.
I use to have this same thought process until I actually learned how to drive. When you first start make sure it’s in a parking lot. Then progress to country roads, and then residencial ones. If you think about it, literally everything is dangerous for you. You can die from literally anything at the most unexpected time. You can’t avoid it. Driving just happens to be a tad bit more dangerous than anything else we do on a day to day basis. As long as you follow instructions, wear a seatbelt, and make quick decisions, you’ll be fine.
@@generalwillwelsh7926 it’s terrifying because like I said one small turn could lead to a tragic event, I could get myself paralyzed for the rest of my life, I could end up killing or paralyzing someone else, I could end up killing myself, And if that does Not sound terrifying to you then- i do not know what does. I understand that it will be simple once I get the hang of it but learning it is terrifying man-
With all the traffic incidents being uploaded for the world to see, I understand the hesitation and zero-desire to drive. I'm nearly 30 and I drive my teenage family members everywhere. They're definitely of-age to drive and it does get frustrating at times to rearrange my schedule to drive them around, but I cannot deny the possible consequences of driving that scare them. I am not one to push, but I am one to encourage at one's own pace. It is comforting to know that this issue is not just present with my younger family members.
I remember being terrified of learning how to drive at 16 but I knew I had to learn eventually as I was turning 17 soon & would have to start growing up. I'm 23 now & I am happy I took the plunge, it's completely normal to be scared but I promise you won't regret it!
I'm 55 and it felt like forever waiting to get my license on the day I turned 16! It was rare not to have your license then. My first car was a stick shift. We have several cars and one of them is a stick shift but I prefer an automatic. I've always felt such freedom being able to drive. Times sure have changed! 😊
It’s also very expensive depending on the state you live in. Im not sure about other states but in CA if you’re under 18 you’re required to take driving courses by an accredited driving school which many people can’t afford. Why pay for all that when I can just wait until I turn 18 and I only pay the basic fees, nothing more.
I’m 18 and have my drivers license but I still refuse to buy a car to drive. I rather take my e-scooter to pick up groceries, buy fast food, and other activities.
Same here dude. I didn’t get my own new car until like 5 years later. Way too expensive and all the expenses that come with it (insurance, car cost, maintenance, gas, etc) that is really hard at this age. Having the license for identification purposes has been an absolute life saver.
I'm 25 and was pressured throughout my teen years - early adulthood to learn how to drive. Still have no license. I got an ebike instead 2 years ago and it was the best purchase I made. Gets me around the city and I enjoy how "in the moment" biking feels vs riding in a car. Makes me appreciate cities more.
I decided not to get my license at 16 because I realized I would just be my family's errand girl if I did. I'm also a really introverted homebody so there aren't many place I want / need to travel to and never have the urge to just leave my house unless there's a reason because I'd rather be reading.
I'm almost 18 and I think that learning to drive as early as possible is the best thing you can do, driving is a life skill and you really need to develop a responsible mindset while doing it. Doing it later on just seems too complicated.
I know how it is. I was 12 driving my papas old beater 1989 Chevy S10 stick shift around in circles in his open half acre lot beside his house. To this day, I’m almost 19 and I still know how to drive a stick.
Learning yes, but actually driving often - no. Most that start driving early tend to have an irresponsible mindset while driving, even as they get older - at least in my personal experience. Having a healthy dose of fear of cars (and the damage they can do) is essential for responsible drivers - but most just do it for the fun aspect of it.
I’m 26. I was very anxious about driving and never chose or learned to do so. Now that I’m 26, it sucks not being able to drive. Also, it does seem like much more of a challenge. Now, if I want to learn, I don’t have my parents with me to teach me or drive with me, and I feel like now that I’ve waited until 26, I may never get my license.
Couldn't wait to get my license as a teen! My highschool sweetheart helped me practice and once surprised me by playing the song from Rocky while I was attempting to parallel park. I almost hit the parked car in front from laughing so hard! 🤣 20+ years later and I'm still parking like a champ 😎🏆 no problem with kids opting out. Let's get the adults who shouldn't be driving off the road!
@Mr.Freethinker2024nahhh I want to be able to have a gf and take her out in my car cause if I Ubered her everywhere that would be embarrassing I would like to leave work when I want to without waiting on someone I would like to go shopping when I want get away from the house when I want literally every reason to have your own car unless you can’t afford one
There is nothing wrong with teens taking their time to get behind the wheel. To me, they know the responsibility it takes to drive a car and how scary it can be for someone that age and if they aren't ready then they shouldn't be pushed into it.
Yeah it should be their decision. I think though some people just don’t want to because they don’t like the process. I have a cousin 16 who doesn’t want to get a linense and he drives. Some people see taking those tests as something scary I guess.
@@I1ght961 your cousin knows that if he get's pulled over, by law, he has to go to jail for not having a license right? Officers discretion can save you a trip to the slammer, but even then, it's a super pricey ticket. Best of luck to lil homie🤣
Kids in small towns or in more rural communities grow up planning to get their drivers license when they reach 16 or 17. If you live where you have easy assess to public transit there seems to be less of a hurry. In very large cities there may be very little need to have a driver’s license.
I’m 27 and I have an extreme fear of driving. Since I was a toddler I’ve had reoccurring dreams of me being in a car, it starts driving and I don’t know what to do. I still have these dreams but they’re a little different now. Now I’m stuck in the middle of town with the car all alone and have to find my way home. This was all because in the 90s my parents thought it was ok to leave me and my little brother alone in a running car while they went into the gas stations and stores.
I used to have the exact same recurring dream. Me and my brother would jack a car and start driving and the break wouldn't work and the gas was stuck to the floor and I'd go down a hill trying to navigate barely seeing above the wheel. Other dreams happened differently they were more driving around trying not to get spotted as a child driving without a license or insurance. The reason I had those dreams is cause when I was a kid I would drive a bit. Grew up in the country my grandad let us loose driving. Definitely helped but also some lingering anxiety.
Oh and speaking on the last thing. My mother forgot the handbrake one time with my sister in it. Car slowly rolled down the street into traffic. Some dude had to stop it and call her. Traumatic I imagine
@@illestvillain1971 wow that is wild! You made me remember I was hanging out with a kid younger than me when I was about 8-9. He hot wired the jeep we were playing in and drove a few meters.
As a 17 year old, i have my permit and sometimes drive home from school. However there have been instances where I almost get into wrecks and kind of panic and that’s what takes away my wanting for driving. A lot of my life I didn’t get many opportunities to be independent because of my life style and where I lived and stuff but honestly I want to drive. It’s that constant fear I have that’s holding me back
I’m 15, and I’m currently working on getting my learners license, the things i have to remember…what certain colors, signs, symbols, types of roads, types of intersections, types of traffic lights, types of markers, all of these laws, all of these car functionalities, all of these rear view mirror, high-beam/low-beam stuff…I mean I wanna drive, but it’s very stressful on how many things we have to remember. I assume it gets easier and you get the hang of it later on, but still, kinda scary ngl.
Honestly, your curiosity should have answered like 90% of these questions before ever setting foot in a driving school. Did you never ask your parent or guardian about driving when being driven around as a kid? Driving school felt redundant to me since I already knew basic traffic laws and signage from observing other's driving for 10+ years at that point. The only thing they taught me there was the actual operation of a vehicle. I also remember every day the teacher would stop class for 30 mins to watch the sitcom King of Queens, very informative lol.
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Lmfao I don’t even look at the signs anymore. When people start driving, the instructors drill in this reality that you follow every single rule that could ever exist on the road. Of course, don’t be driving 90 MPH on a 30MPH limit, but you can go up to like 40 MPH without issue. I’ve seen drivers speed on roads like this and the cops don’t stop them, if anything, you become a liability if your slower than the other cars.
I just got my license last year at 17 and I totally understand the feeling of not wanted to drive and feeling scared. But now that I have started I’m very happy and love to be able to have that freedom.
When I was 18 years and old enough to get my driver's license, I chose not to for medical reasons. I have epilepsy and didn't want to risk having a seizure behind the wheel. Alot of people didn't understand my reasoning behind the decision except for my parents and other family members.
Damnn.. ur reason is quite different from others so it’s understandable if you don’t want to drive. But everyone else is looking at them kids like it’s crazy that they don’t wanna drive 😂
I'm also 18 and don't drive. To be fair I'm from NYC so I don't need one. Even my parents don't have a car so I don't even know where to begin. The only real problem is going to and from college outside the city without a car
@@nerdloser9987 I'm actually almost 32 years old. Some strangers that I see around my hometown in Maryland have issues with my decision not to get my driver's license. Some of them say that I'm lazy and stupid for not learning to drive.
I started driving when I was about 18 then got my first car at 19. Now that I’m 21 I can’t imagine my life not knowing how to drive especially since I live in a rural area. I’ve recently started a new job and I’m surprised by how many people around my age don’t drive because they’re too “anxious” to. I genuinely want all of us in our early 20’s to understand that driving is a part of life and that anyone can do it.
That's all good and all and I'm the same as you but we don't all have the same circumstances and perceptions about it. I think judgment about stuff like driving completely depends on someone's current standing is pointless.
@Oliver Benfield I think you’re right. I guess I’m coming from a place where in a rural area it IS needed and others my age should at least know how to do it in case of emergencies.
Just because anyone can do it doesn't mean that everyone wants to do it or needs it. Why would someone who doesn't need a car waste money on car and maintenance? Just so people would say they drive?
The reason I got my license as soon as I could was to gain independence, my desire for independence took precedent over my anxiety. In other words: I swallowed my fear. Based off my experience. One of the worst things you can do for your anxiety is to avoid what makes you anxious. It’ll fester and grow until it turns into something it never should have become. This was the case for my social anxiety. I was allowed to avoid people for so long that I ended up being unable to leave my room out of fear of interacting with people. It’s gotten better, but only because I needed to expose myself to what made me anxious over and over again. Swallow your fear, you can do it.
I’m 16 years old and I also have a fear of driving, just yesterday my parents decided to show me how to drive with the turns and all. I ain’t lying it was pretty fun and I had a big smile on my face. After that day I wanna do it again because I really wanna do it again. It’s just a fear that can be lost.
Driving is honestly the most fun thing you can do in life. Endless summers driving down back roads to who knows where. It's the little things in life that can bring you joy. It's also a very crucial skill people should learn as soon as possible, before it's too late.
Pandemic era of kids that got so used to ordering everything to the house and family traveling in groups to be safe… some kids used to the comfort of being driven still and not ready to venture out on their own.
For me, I was homeschooled and had no friends at that age. There was no point in spending all that money getting licensed (not to mention insurance + gas) when I had nowhere to go and nobody to see. I feel confident behind the wheel now after driving to work every day, but it took me a long time to even care. I would guess a major factor determining if a kid will opt out vs. eagerly await getting licensed is whether or not they have friends.
brutal, u explained it perfectly, I'm 18 and ion really have friends (at least not ones with the same interests as me) so I don't really have any motivation to get my license
Being able to drive on my own was important to me. I got my Permit at 15, and my license at 16. I’ve been licensed for 4 1/2 years. At 21 years old, driving has become one of my favorite things to do.
Driving on the interstate with your go to playlist and karaoking the songs is a real mind clearer for me. Though the interstate have to be traffic free for that to happen.
I’m 18 and initially I was terrified of driving. In reality, I was interested, but my fear kinda drove me away from driving (pun intended). Then I got a job over the summer last year and I had to start driving more often, and I have to drive to school, and now I feel so much more comfortable and free. It’s a great feeling. I still gotta work on the parkway though. But once you see the independence you get from driving, and how it isn’t actually that bad, you will feel so much better.
Yup I was the same when I first got my driver license my dad make me go to get car parts but I didn’t want to go but now I’m more comfortable of driving so now I go get whenever he needs to.
I'm 28 and still don't have a license. A number of factors played into why I don't have one. I'll get around to getting it one day. I even have a friend that doesn't drive, his wife drives him everywhere.
Sad about your friend having his wife drive him around everywhere. This is taking advantage of her time due to his dependency on something like him refusing to drive.
I too felt it was terrifying to get behind the wheel as a teen especially knowing that I’m the only person who has full control over the vehicle at the time and the risk of a getting into a potential accident. I just looked at operating a vehicle as a very serious situation and did not look at it as a joke which in all honesty I think thats what really boosted my anxiety.
tbh there is a huge difference between countries ...... Here you will see people around 40-50 years old learning to drive....n it's okay here. A huge huge difference
Driving sucks it's much nicer to live car free. New urbanism is promoting car free cities as opposed to the urban sprawl many Americans live in that causes car dependency.
I'm 29 years old and I have a Learner's Permit which means I am allowed to drive but I need to have a passenger with me. I plan on getting my License this year. I've been practicing. However, due to a recent car accident I cannot do the driving test with my car since it has a cracked windshield so I am still working on getting that fixed.
Got my license when I was 18 because I was lucky to be able to walk to school. I was excited at first but it eventually becomes a chore. I would be fine if I never had to drive again, but as an adult it is a necessary part of life in most of America.
I still absolutely have no interest of driving despite getting my licence at 20. My parents forced me to get it for picking up my siblings at school while they’re busy. I don’t see why they call this independence. To me, that’s not my value, it’s completely fine to not drive.
My sons 15, we’ve mentioned it maybe 2x in those years. We stays home and hangs with the family after school, To add $2400 a month in insurance, another vehicle to maintain and the high risk of a teen driver..IM GOOD, we’ll wait! On the flip side my bestfriends son is 16, working, lives far from school and has 2 younger siblings in sports. He needs a car, saved up to buy it before he even got his license. Life is different for everyone, more and more teens have phones and social media to communicate, they don’t need to drive to hang with their friends anymore.
I live in NJ, but go to high school in PA. Crossing through Philly with a lack of experience seems like such a scary thing. Additionally the different types of chaos between NJ traffic and PA traffic really keeps me from wanting to be behind the wheel.
I’m thinking about opting out of driving as well, even though I'm already in my 20s I just don't think I’m comfortable being on the roads or sometimes fearing of getting into an accident, that’s why I hope one day we have self-driving cars so I can go anywhere without driving myself or having anyone to do with me
Just start with practicing on side roads and work your way up. The more you feel comfortable with the car the better off you will be. You never know when something will happen and when having a car you have a lot more ways to deal with situations. Best of luck!
@@guardian1234561 That can be just as terrifying,and I was born in 1995 and grew up in the early 2000's,am 27,have Asperger's,OCD,and ADD I also, (In my opinion) Live in the city/state with the worst drivers/roads,...Including the small ones! There is a small stretch of road between my subdivision and apartment complexes where people have had plenty of accidents!
I got my license at 20. I knew how to briefly drive before but since I didn't go out often, I didn't find a need to get it. It's scary at first, you'll always bear the risk of crashing or losing control of your car, but it feels good to drive. You get to listen to music, sing along, carpool, go on road trips and just gain more experience. Driving isn't for everybody, but it never hurts to try. I'm afraid of heights so sometimes I'm scared to get on the freeway, but I'll get there eventually. Take everything at your own pace, don't stress.
I respect these teenagers and American needs to move itself from a car run economy to a public transport economy. I'm 30 and rarely drive , because I don't have to and I can choose not to
I personally got my license at 19. Here is part of my story: When I was 17, I got my learners permit (although I wanted to get mine at 16 in NY). I started drivers Ed in the fall, although I prefer the spring season (my high school offered it). I did take my road test, but it took me 3 tries and at 19, I finally passed (I wanted to take my 3rd road test before my trip to Italy, but my grandma suggested that I do so when I returned. I am glad that I listened). I thought that I was going to be like Spongebob squarepants who keeps taking road tests without success. I do understand why today's teens don't want to drive. I personally was afraid of driving, but now I don't fear driving. To the teens (I say this as a 26 year old young man): Time and persistence will pay off in the long run. You'll succeed in getting your drivers license, if you want to succeed. If there is a drivers Ed program offered by your high school, take advantage of it. It will pay off, if you put the time, discipline, and effort into it.
I've been driving since I was a junior in high school and I just turned 36. It is important to learn how to drive because you really can turn off friends and family asking for rides constantly. Relying on Uber, Lyft and UberEats every day, that gets expensive! It does take a lot of practice to learn how to drive and I believe kids these days don't have the patience right away. Learning how to drive is not something you're gonna figure out in a day.
I'm 31. Never bothered getting a driver's license. I ride a motorcycle and a road bicycle. I don't need an enclosed vehicle that will cost too much to repair and maintain. Insurance for four wheel cars is too expensive and we're forced to pay for that insurance.
Gotta push through it, I wanted to learn how to drive at 15 and finally started learning at 16. I was scared but my will to learn pushed me through the anxiety until finally I was confident enough to get on the city highways.
as someone who got stuck doing homeschool and has no friends because of the pandemic, I feel no pressure to get my license any time soon because what's the point lol
I was in the exact same situation at 15 and I still hate driving and it’s absolutely terrifying to me because there’s so many rules to remember and I’m always thinking I’m gonna get in a crash and die. I didn’t even get my permit until I was almost 17 because of anxiety and I still don’t have my license
I’ve been ashamed for years because of this. I’m 21 now, only driven a few times for only like a mile each. I have anxiety attacks everytime afterwards. This is the worst phobia I’ve ever had and I’m constantly pressured by everyone around me to drive on a daily. My parents always remind me I’m a burden on them for driving me places. I feel like a failure.
My advice is to focus on the present. Everyone learns at their own rate, it doesn’t matter that it’s been so long since you were 16 all that matters is what you do now. I highly suggest taking some drivers lessons.
@@jbgibbons3423 I know you’re trying to be helpful so please don’t take this the wrong way but telling someone with a phobia to “just get over it” is way more harmful than it is helpful. But I appreciate your kind words
I didn’t get my license until I was 20. It’s scary man. I understand being scared especially when you don’t feel in control and could hurt yourself and someone else. Definitely not the easiest thing to learn to do but definitely once you get used to it, it helps a lot.
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I just turned 25 and I still don’t have my license. Believe me, I tried to learn when I was in my teen years, mostly because my parents pressured me into it. But no matter how many times I practiced or how many instructors I went through, I just couldn’t get comfortable behind the wheel. There’re just too many instructions to remember and too many things to focus on all at once. It’s so overwhelming!
I’m 23 and I just passed driving school and I’m on my way to getting my license. As much as I am happy to be learning this skill, I do also wish that not having a license wasn’t so looked down upon and that there were more walking and public transit options than what we have now
My son refused to drive and get a license until he turned 18 because at 15 when he could begin driver’s ed, he said it was a huge responsibility and wasn’t ready. I am proud of him that he did not hurry to get his license and did so when he was ready. He has been driving 4 months now and I am glad to see he took driving seriously and realized it is a huge responsibility.
I waited til i was 17 and took the drivers ed classes
At 15 i just wasnt ready, interested and had a lot in my plate back then
Now at 26 i am a pretty good driver
Congrats, your son has 3 years less driving experience, is less prepared having not had his parents take the time to teach him the skill during key formative years, and will have to pay higher interest rates for having had his license fewer years.
He "refused" says everything. Face fears and learn a skill you have to learn at some point anyway or kick the can down the road? Solid parenting.
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@Big Matty 💪 I’m a teenager and don’t care about social media? Your developing a bias against all teenagers all because you dislike some of them. I know many intelligent teens who don’t care about social media and choose to go places. You don’t know anything about the good side of the modern generation.
@@nathanknight2508 well said Nathan! 🙌🏼
The weight of potentially causing damage, hurting others and killing someone is huge and hard for teens. I understand why they would opt out and wait until later
Not for some American teens it isn't.
You must be a democrat. I can tell because the world scares you.
@@illestvillain1971 why’re u just saying all American teens aren’t concerned? Everyone’s different whoops disregard that message, my brains didn’t see that “some” u typed. My fault bruh 💀I needa go back to sleep
@@lashondamiller2982 bro your mind is gonna be blown when you hear about the delete button
@@illestvillain1971 dude.. american teens especially. They already have to worry about being shot.
short answer: scary
long answer: the price of fuel, buying a car, paying for insurance is so much. no one wants to be sitting in traffic all day, so many of us can’t afford it.
the reason my mother doesn't want me to drive even I'm eager to do it. especially through insurance and tow companies
facts
Or the fear of getting in a car accident
Did you know you can get a remote job and still have a car and it will not be that expensive? The key is to put minimum miles driven for the insurance and it will not be that expensive.
People keep asking me to learn how to drive, but where the hell am I getting the money?
It's ridiculous that in America in order to get anywhere u have to drive or get a driver no matter if ur sick, tired or drunk. Most other countries u could reliably take public transport safely or walk to most places
Don't forget America is BIG.
Australia, too, is the same. (which is where I live) In the moment, it is 50kms to get to basic shops, 150kms if you want anything other then the basics.
You certainly can't walk that, and while there is one bus a day, you couldn't get there and home again by public transport.
The USA is pretty much the same in many cases.
That's not a good excuse for the infrastructure to prioritize cars over people. It's very much a conscious political choice that continues to be supported.
It has nothing to do with the size of the country, but more about the size of the wallets of politicians that enable this atrocity.
@@Sussex192And yet, that didn't stop Russia, China, and USA from building their rail network anyway despite their size. Yes, USA does have a rail; they just have to include passenger services as well.
Western Europe too. Despite their differences in standards per country, that didn't stop them from offering international train services.
Hardly. I'm glad I don't have to take disgusting public transportation
@@Anthony-df2ez Don't American vehicles get cleaned at terminus?
My niece will be 16 shortly and has zero interest and driving even when I offered her a nice little starter car. That is unimaginable for me and my generation growing up in the 90s with wheels
Yeah I don't get that I started driving at 15 and I'm 18 now
I was a terrible driver, and finally stopped trying to get my license at 31.
I’ll be 56 years old soon, and I’m a rare breed in my generation to not be able to drive.
So thankful my amazing husband of 33 years takes me where I need to go, and my daughter helps me too.
Oh, and whoever invented online shopping is a genius!☺️
That's strange. I couldn't wait to drive and be independent and drive myself everywhere I needed to
@@elijahevo6859 I started driving at fourteen
@@rosieschweebie That's embarrassing. No offense but it's not that hard
I totally relate to this. I just turned 23 and got my license only 5 months ago. I had such bad anxiety about driving, and it always scared me, but I always knew deep down I had to face my fears and go for it. Now I can't imagine not being able to take myself to work or the store. I'm so glad I did it!
You must be a democrat. You'll probably start investing in your 401k at 58 years old.
I was driving at 13. Stole my dads truck and his Firebird. Yes, I drove a freakin firebird on the reg when I was 13.
@@mrbojangles9841 I love me some Bojangles when I visit NC.
I'm also have bad driving anxiety
@@mrbojangles9841 OK trumpet shut it no one likes trolls
I would much rather have a teen who is overly careful about driving, than one who is scared but decided to drive when they knew they weren't ready. And props to these kids for having the maturity to take car safety and theirs and others lives seriously, and admit if they aren't ready. ❤
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They're democrats. They don't have enough get up and go to get their license.
Theres a difference between being overly careful and outright not wanting to drive. Being scared is a natural reaction. Get over it and start driving.
@@mrbojangles9841 this literally has nothing to do with politics.
That’s true. I did wait until I was 19, bc I just wasn’t ready and overly anxious.
And out of every single person I know- I’ve never been in an accident, never hit another car visa vera, not even a little fender bender.
How come nobody is mentioning the ridiculous costs of insurance and gas in this age? Coverage for 15-20 year olds is expensive, it's much more affordable to just uber or have ur parent drive.
Grow up
@Early90sKidsEntertainment You say that like it's something to be proud of.
@@DavidKen878 Not having a license isn't something bad.. You can easily live without a license. lol
@@dillon17 not true at least here in the UK. if you want any security in your life you HAVE TO be able to drive.
@@dillon17 If you want to live your life not knowing how to drive, do you. But don't say there's nothing wrong with it. What next, there's nothing wrong with living with your parents?
As an eighteen year old who was in a major wreck this year, I completely understand. The weight of responsibility is huge, and the consequences of a single mistake on the road can change lives for the worst.
@@helloimclaudio you didn't even hear the full story to assume it was their fault
@@helloimclaudio why do you assume it’s his fault just because he’s 18. It could’ve been another person’s fault too. Grow up and use your brains bro
@@helloimclaudio Oh grow up who ever said it was their fault?
Wimps
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I’m 24 and I feel ashamed about not having my license yet. I know it’s scary, but it’s an essential skill. What happens if there’s an emergency and you can’t get an Uber or call someone to pick you up?
Hey 24 here as well I don't have it either lol. I need to tho so I can get a better job.😅 let's hope we learn soon.
I don't drive because I have seizures and I'm afraid of having one while driving.
Thats okay. Depends on the need as well. I got my license when in was 30 yrs (2020). With covid and wfh, and my employer allowed for employee to claim for Grab ride (like Uber), i never drive since ive got mine. Took it just because my parents made noises for me to get it
I’m 23 and I don’t have mine … I’ve been tryna get it for 5 years
@@metasprite5648 Agreed. On the other hand, I’m glad I’m not the only one. ;w; Here’s hoping we get it! Fingers crossed.🤞I really want it now because my step-dad began to have health issues and can’t drive as much anymore. Plus I just think it’d give me more freedom instead of asking my folks for a lift lol
I’m 24- I got my permit at 15, my license by 16, and I’ve gotta say, I could not imagine waiting any longer. I’m so shocked at the number of kids scared of driving, because when I was growing up, all my peers wanted to get their license and drive to school and have their own cars. Sure, it’s a big responsibility, but all of us understood the importance of learning to drive. Some places, you don’t have to drive.
I'm 15 and I'm terrified to drive I also do absolutely nothing but go to school so I also don't feel a need to learn
@@unicornpaintings It’s better to conquer your fear and learn earlier than later. It will help you become a better driver. I learned at 15 and have been driving for ten years now
I was in a horrific car wreak with my family causing my mother to be in critical condition 2 days before my 16th birthday, after the accident I wasn't able to go into a car without losing my breath until I was nearly 18. Now 20 I just earned my permit and going to drive soon after working through the trauma and fear. Sometimes everyone's circumstances may be different, especially going through an event at the age your supposed to start driving, some people just need some time to get over a fear or a traumatic event like mine. It's sometimes best to wait than shut down on the road over the fear causing to drive recklessly.
it's probably just the video making it seem worse because i could not wait to drive and all my friends got their license when they turned 16
@@unicornpaintings same. Just go to school and go back home
i am sick of people pretending that driving is the only way to get around. more public transit.
@@Artur-kp4hjJust clean it at terminus, as what the Japanese and Swiss do.
Over here in America it IS.
@Artur-kp4hj also, people hacking up phlegm and sneezing coughing all over you!🤧🤮
@@Stephanie-vn6ir Don't you have conductors or security onboard?
That’s not available in a lot of areas in the country. Like where I live you absolutely have to have a car to get around.
I'm 20, and I don't have my license. I'm mostly afraid to go on the road in fear of crashing or making a mistake. My parents have been trying to encourage me to get on the wheel, but they want me to practice using their cars, and that just adds to the pressure because I don't want to potentially damage their vehicles. I do want the freedom to be able to go anywhere I want and whenever, but that fear is a hindrance.
Edit: I'm 21 now and got my adult license. I still don't have my own car as of now, so I do still carry the fear of crashing or making mistakes. For those who struggle to get themselves behind the wheel, it helps tremendously to have someone especially calm and patient with you. Have them take you to a parking lot; the more empty, the better. That way, you can practice and get a feel of the car while going only as slow as 5-10 mph, and you don't have the pressure of slowing traffic on regular roads. Just take your time from there, get a feel of how soft/hard you have to press the gas to accelerate and brake. Get a feel of the steering wheel and how the car turns and how wide. You can even practice parking. Once you're comfortable and confident enough, you can promote yourself to driving around residential areas, and eventually highways. Most importantly, just be patient with yourself and applaud yourself for having the courage to get behind the wheel in the first place.
I understand you too, I’m your age as well and I have my license but I refuse to drive in the fear of someone else crashing into me and killing me.
Me too I have my license but I don’t drive
First time riding a bike is scary. Practice somewhere safe and away from traffic.
You're gonna make mistakes and potentially get into an accident, but that's part of learning to drive. Take a driver's education course, and they'll teach you everything you need to know about driving, plus they'll let you get behind the wheel and teach you hands on before you take your driver's exam. Good luck 👍
I have seizures so my fear is a lot more...extreme. But you can start simple. Take a drivers Ed course. To me they were 50x less stressful than family members. And it helps that there's tons of stickers and signs in the car saying you're a student driver. If it wasn't for thr driving courses, I know I would be waaaay more freaked out than I already am. But I do have a license in case there is an emergency. Having a license doesn't mean you have to drive. Just means you're able to in case there's an emergency.
I've been driving regularly since I was 14. I'm 40 now and still very much enjoy it. I'm way more conservative and safe now though. I don't drive aggressively like I used to. People told me I'd get sick of it by the time I was 30, but they were wrong. I'm glad I learned on a manual transmission too because now I can drive almost any vehicle. I agree with the mom who said driving is a very valuable skill to have. However, I also think any teen who really doesn't want to drive shouldn't be forced to learn...
14!?!?!?
@@04angelbydeath back then the legal age to drive was younger according to my parents.
@@04angelbydeath Yes. It wasn't legal though. I got pulled over on my first day because I was struggling to move from a stop on an incline. The officer made me park my car and he gave me a ride home. It was only 2 or 3 miles away so I walked back later today night and drove the car back home. He didn't even give me a ticket. 🙂
@@so12productions Back then, it was 1996 and the legal age for a permit where I live was 15½ and 16 for actual license. I wasn't legal to drive at all, but circumstances at the time were such that I got to drive. I never got a valid license until I was 18 because of all the infractions in the first few years. I kept getting suspended before I even had a chance to get a valid license. Half of the times I was pulled over it wasn't even for moving violations. It was often for a burnt out light or a cracked window or something like that. They would stop me, only then learn I was suspended and the ticket would get me suspended even longer. That's the jist of it anyway.
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@@bubzilla6137 oh wow!
My grandma woke me up on my 18th birthday and said "get ready, you're getting your license" forever grateful. I hated driving until I was in the car by myself.
Well, you couldn't be forced into getting one.
Maybe they'll push more for walkable cities and better public transit.
Doubtful the age of first timme drivers would influence this change
I’m 27 and at 18 I COULD NOT WAIT to start driving. Yes I felt anxiety yet anxious at the same time to learn and get behind the wheel like a majority of novices. I’ll never forget when I asked an older woman if it was hard learning how to drive, she said “It’s not hard at all-as long as you pay attention.” That’s all I needed to know.
How long before you got on the freeway or highway? That's driving but amped up a few notches.
@@fabienzaca Although highway driving has a slightly more controlled condition than city driving. The caveat is higher speeds mean less margin for error.
@@fabienzaca ll😊
@@fabienzacamy advice for highway driving is start learning on the weekends in the morning/early part of the day that way you have less traffic to deal with and very few crazy drivers compared to like a Thursday night
@@george9686 That's cap. You have to be at least 25 to drive a bus, let alone getting the required license for operating a bus.
00:31 “a key step towards independence”. In America it is,where everything is designed for cars and not for people to walk, cycle, and everything else.
So to fix that issue cities should be designed where everything is within a 1 mile radius?
This is true.
@@DavidKen878 Probably making more safe sidewalks and bike lanes so people can use another source of transport for free.
@@isaactwine But those things aren't stopping people from getting around? Seriously, who's saying they can't get to where they need to go because the sidewalks aren't safe?
Before I had my license I did all of the above with no problem, driving is superior though
I got my learners permit at 15, and my license at 16. It was definitely a rite of passage back then, and a symbol of freedom. My Dad was very proud of me at the DMV, and I showed all my friends my license in the cafeteria. It was also scary at first, but I was able to improve as a driver and drive myself to school and work.
Fr I was 15 And finished the class before 15 1/2
Don’t you have to be at least 16 to get the DJ permit or is it different in every state?
@@willc5723 Might be different in every state.
Driving is a privilege not a right of passage. I drove when I was able to pay for own car , insurance and gas.
I used to want my license at 16, until I turned 14. I saw how the HS kids used to drive to school down the street, always crashing in front of the school every week.
"Every week"?? I don't believe that for a second.
Learn from their mistakes. There is a lot of idiots on the road but thats does not mean you have to become one of them. Learn to drive safely and you will be able to avoid the situations you observed.
@@snowrocket the way the entrances were, it’s basically gate surrounding the parking lot. They open 2 sides, one to get in/out but there’s enough space for 2 cars to fit. Unpredictable turns and stuff lol, it’s the turn onto the street and ppl turning in.
At my school it was every week😭
They had to create parking rules cause a kid jacked up a teachers car@snowrocket
@@snowrocketthen you haven’t seen nothing😂 same situation at my high school as well.
Wow, this is really weird. The last thing I wanted to do at age 16 was ride around with my parents.
It's not weird, it's sad.
believe me, I drive with my parents whenever I'm behind the wheel and what my mother does is backseat driving, which made me almost regret my decision to get my license
@@DavidKen878 How's it sad?🤨🧐 They're your parents. Besides, there's also the option of hitching rides with friends, neighbors, older siblings, aunts, uncles, boyfriends/girlfriends etc. Not to mention all the rideshare options like Uber and Lyft.
@@seanluzdeluna8153 Anything to avoid responsibility
@@seanluzdeluna8153 Its sad because this new generation is so weak. You're overly sensitive, literally everything offends you, and now you're scared to drive.
It’s ok y’all, don’t freak out. I didn’t get a license until I was 28. I didn’t drive in high school and when I went to college, we had a bus system, I moved to DC and I took the train. I moved back to Houston, I knew I needed a car. I was scared, but I signed up for lessons (yes, I was taking lessons with teenagers lol) but ultimately the real test was my learning to drive because I had no choice but to get in my car and drive off for an emergency.
Please if you’re a teen, don’t feel bad, even if you’re in your early 20s. Take your time, learn how to drive, and don’t rush to get an expensive car. It might also help to wait until you get a stable job for car insurance and a car note
Im 28 and dont have mine. I failed the writtem test 5x. Plus my anxiety I don’t trust ppl on the road too
I didn’t got my driver license until I’m 21 now it been 1 year of having it but I a lot ever since I got my car which also 1 year ago.
28 is ridiculous don’t encourage others do to that
@@Marcell.Lovett It doesn't matter. Everyone goes at their own pace
@@Marcell.Lovett I didn't encourage anyone to do anything
I’m 24 & cannot relate to this. I remember being 16 & getting my license and the feeling was insane.
I'm 27 and still can't drive lmao.
I’m almost 24. My parents refused to teach/ or give me to tools to get going. I’m terrified, isolated, and infantilized and they still refuse. I want to leave. I live in a very rural underdeveloped state, everything is an hours car ride away minimum and I live in dense forest with terrible phone signals. There’s no way I could walk to driving school everyday. This is miserable. Being alive isn’t living.
Uber is an option, I suppose. But I don’t have $500-$600 to drop on every ride.
Same. Ever since a kid, always looked forward to being old enough to drive.
26 and i remember my parents restricting me from getting it till i was 18, man was that a setback
@@dangercat9188 ooof
I feel like it also depends on where you live. I grew up in NYC and had no reason to get my license or get a car. I walked, biked and took public transit everywhere. It wasn’t until I moved away from home to an area that didn’t have as good transit that I decided to buy a car (at 21🤷🏾♀️).
True. I grew up in the suburbs of Pittsburgh, PA. Public transportation is sporadic there. Driving makes sense for most people.
I live in New York City right now and i want a car but if i ever need anything its just been ride a scooter, walk or talk public transit. Or just use my parents and brothers who know how to drive. I don’t
Another strange aspect of American culture: the idea that you MUST have a license. In most other developed countries you can easily get around without one.
We must expand the carbon footprint as much as possible!
I’m surprised by how few comments about urbanism this video has. Took me five minutes of scrolling just to find this one.
uh yeah it’s the reason it’s America and not “other developed countries”
Except, America isn't really developed. Its going backwards since y2k
I mean, good luck with making it easy to get around without a car in a lot of areas. I live in Montana and aside from like maybe 5 towns, there’s nowhere that you could potentially add public transport or improve bike/pedestrian infrastructure for any meaningful difference. Rural areas just can’t function without cars, and that’s why, where i live, it will likely always be a necessity.
I can kind of relate to this. My brother didn't get his driver's license until he was 25. He was introverted and didn't go out much during his teen years, and he did do a course on it in high school but never continued with it. He finally decide to get his license when he was about to graduate college and get a job. I think driving is an ecential skill and can give you independence and privacy, but you should definitely do it when you're mature and ready. In fact, I applaud teens who realize that they aren't ready yet. Too many people these days think their ready and end up losing their license because of poor choices on the road
I didn't get my license until 3 years ago... as someone with high anxiety and a brother who died in a car accident around the time we turned 16... I was wayyyy too scared to be behind a wheel. I was worried I'd change someone's lives the way our lives were changed. I didn't fear for me or my safety. I feared for the safety of others, and I didn't want to be the cause of something horrific.
Obviously, I am so glad I have my license now, but at the time, waiting was the right choice for me. 😊
I'm so sorry about your brother. I just can't imagine what you must have gone through. You definitely did the right thing by waiting until you felt safe. 😢
Part of it is that grown people (usually 30-60) have become incredibly reckless, and inconsiderate of other drivers since the pandemic. This causes new drivers to feel extra anxious about learning to drive, especially if they’re teenagers.
Nobody has become more reckless since the pandemic. The reckless oeople you see were always that way.
bingo! this is the reason
no law enforcement
Huh?
I’m 16 and the only thing I’m terrified of about driving is taking the test. I’m not the one to perform well under pressure and it scares me, but I do want to be able to drive eventually. I have a 19 year old brother who hasn’t even gotten his permit yet and relies on our mother to take him everywhere, which is hard in college when you have places to be.
Depending on where you live the test is usually not that bad. I’m in Illinois. When I took it (about ten years ago) the computer part was so easy it was silly (like what do you do at a red light, what is the shape of a stop sign) and I just had to drive around the block and I think I made a small mistake or two. Just relax and do it and if you fail you can retake it again later.
Where I live you can omit the behind the wheel driving test if you have fully completed your learners permit driving log hours before getting the license.
Think positive and you will do fine! Study the book and especially go on RUclips to take practice written tests.
The test is really not that hard you just have to practice. I promise I was in the exact same situation as you procrastinating due to fear of failing, and when I eventually did the test it was a piece of cake. You have to practice though
I had a hard time too but taking deep breaths during the test helped me pass it.. take your time and don't rush
When I was 16, way back in 2002 I had no desire to get my license either. Of course my experience was a bit different, I didn’t care about having a license because I didn’t care about going anywhere. My parents were never home so I didn’t need to escape from them and I had friends that drove so if I did want to go somewhere they came and got me.
@@JuneBug_87 That’s too funny. Those were some of my favorite shows😂.
when 2002 is "way back"
ugh
I wish.
@@Meilk27 I was 16 in 2014, and kids now call that “way back” 😭
I was 16 in 2002, honestly I feel like it was last year.
My son is an 18 year old high school senior and started driving on his own a couple of months ago. He wasn't ready at 16 and that's okay, I wasn't going to push him into driving.
Just cause you get your license doesn't mean you can drive. Unless you can comfortably drive in any hand position, park anywhere that your car can fit in, and know the distance between your car and others such as double parkers, then you can't drive.
Their is a lot people with a license who don’t know how to drive
I am 50 and know how to drive. I don't have a regular license but motorcycle. But I am planning to get my regular license this year.
Exactly, you also need to be good at defensive driving
No , it’s the $300+ you have to pay for required driver’s school in MD.
1200$+ in Canada
My parents would rather pay that than drive me everywhere lol
@@moederkoekjes3380 what do they teach you in, a ferrari?
@@truslo On average you pay about 2600-3500€ in Germany to get your drivers license.
2000€ in Belgium man for a goed focus...@@truslo
23 and never learned to drive, honestly in New York there’s no need. No regrets!!!
But it always good to have a car even if you live in a transportation state. I grew up in Boston and relied on transportation for years then moved to Florida and it hit me, having a car is important and it’s never too late
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@@kalanatorres845 Yeah, Live in San Francisco From Middle School until mid 30's. Even if you don't get a car, it is good to have a license just in case of emergencies.
me either. lol
I’m glad you’re being responsible then
This is really suprising, I am 24 and I remember wanting to drive so bad. Once you drive, its like a new world is totally opened up for you. You get so much freedom to go when and where you want. Learning to drive changed everything for me. It felt like I was truly a child before I could drive. I also live in a very rural area, so that could be it too.
I mean for what it's worth most suburban teens don't have much within bike/walking distance but I'm sure the rural part effects it
Nah if you live in a rural area you still don't know how to drive 😂😂😂 try a 9 million city traffic and then we talk
@@citizen565 I get their sentiment, but yeah, driving in the country is a cakewalk compared to driving in a major city
nah im good
@@citizen565 I am a CDL driver, so I've been everywhere lol. Drove a 53 foot trailer in the Bronx. But I agree, most people out here don't know how to drive.
Not me, but stay safe y'all!
Grow up 😂
@Early90sKidsEntertainment The hell is a NPC normie?
@@DavidKen878 a NPC normie would ask that
These kids come up with new slang every week @@DavidKen878
@@jamescoleman1473 do you drive?
I didn't learn to drive until I was 24 and I don't regret a thing. They have a reason to be worried about driving, it's not just your driving you need to watch it's every other driver to. They can drive when their ready and confident enough to get behind the wheel. And most importantly that there has to be some to teach them properly how.
sure but the thing is at 24 when you first got your DL, other 24 year olds who started driving at 16 already had almost a DECADE of experience. By 22 I had already driven cross country with friends for fun just because we could. Compared to a brand new 24 year old driver with zero experience in traffic, weather, and etc. I mean everyones life set up is different and as a suburban kid I had no choice. You had to drive to get anywhere where i grew up which is night and day compared to an inner city experience where public trans may be available. But at the end of the day.. that time/experience you lost by waiting is something you can never get back. Like with ANY other skill, the younger you start the more time you have to get better.
@@Eric_Bassett It doesn't really matter, it takes very little actual skill to drive
@@user-ok8yq6nc6x except you have anxiety IE sweaty hands, fear of accidents.. not knowing how to reverse park or reverse in general... the awkwardness of steering wheel and getting a grip on it in order to maneuver...etc.
@@Eric_Bassett Driving's not that difficult dude lmao everyone does it, you just gotta know the signs honestly
I was never interested in driving in high school, but I understood the importance of having a license just in case. Of course I was nervous and scared, but I was 23 or 24 when I first got my license. It's not too late!
Is it hard to learn? Or is it a lot easier than it looks?
@@greengreens6347 It's definitely not hard to learn! What I suggest is getting your permit first, and practice with someone in an empty parking lot late at night or on an empty road. Books can only tell you so much. You will have to get hands on experience to really grasp it. Just remember, it's okay if you mess up. Everyone does!
We all got nervous n scared the first time. Practice practice practice. Drive in an empty parking lot. Learn the rules n signs. Its all based on common sense.
My daughter is in a similar situation. She is 18.5; she has mid-high functioning Autism. She has her learners drivers license and keeps practicing. Thankfully she knew how to drive well enough to drive me to and from the hospital emergency room; in October; after I crushed my fingers in the lawnmower. She keeps practicing driving.🤞
I feel a bit better about being 22 and not have a driver's license yet.
I didn't get my license until I was 21 and I am glad that I waited. Driving in the city is insane as it is and with everything that I already had going on in my life when I was younger, I just didn't feel like I was in the appropriate mental place to be behind a wheel. Also, it was incredibly hard, even at an older age, to find driving classes that worked for me (my first few instructors where terrible people who should not have been teaching) and my parents were not always readily available. I got into a few accidents and, if I had been younger, I believe I never would have gotten over my driving anxiety at that time and probably never would have went behind the wheel again. I still think having your license is important and you should get it by a certain time but I don't think its the end of the world if you do not want to get it when your 16.
Heya! 18 year old here, driving has never been an interest for me:
1.) Buying a car or putting down a down payment has been absolutely expensive, so much more than before and as someone who has no financial dependence on parents it’s been difficult
2) gas prices 😬😬😬 should I say more?
3) I don’t trust my peers considering how many actually drink and drive, it’s not about my own skills, it’s about others (and personally I’d rather wait till I was 18 because then I’ll be moving away and hey then I’ll have ignorance and bliss)
4) I personally enjoy walking and it’s a healthy habit for me, I can walk to and from work in 15 minutes and to school in 20 so I never felt the need to drive a car
5) there’s plenty of others ways to have independence other than driving
BUT: I am glad to be able to afford buying a car soon and I’m looking forward to driving (although nervous) I just think that it’s a large pressure put on teenagers nowadays and honestly some people aren’t ready and I’d prefer it if we drove when we were prepared rather than forced to for convenience
yeah well at least u CAN walk
so basically youre broke
@@iiCounted-op5jxcan someone crippled in a wheelchair with dysfunctional legs drive? I don’t think so, they need leg movement to use the clutch, gas, and brakes
Get ur money up
Heya!
I’m 20 and this is exactly how I feel, especially in a state that’s notorious for crazy drivers. I was practicing one day with my father and I had hit the back of someone’s car on accident. I balled my eyes out in the back seat even though I didn’t even dent the lady’s bumper 😭 The only damage done was to my car with a shattered headlight. She was very nice though and told me accidents happen especially with someone who is just learning to drive. But ever since then I haven’t been practicing as much.
Foo get behind the wheel
Keep practicing don’t let fear take control of you
@@OrphicB err haha
everyone in this comment section is a bot. no doubt.
@@OrphicB yea I’m starting to get back into it slowly but surely
I was terrified at 16 to be driving anywhere. But this was before Uber and these delivery apps. My parents went slow with me, yet persistant.
and thats how it should go, i was on the same boat. That doesn't mean I'm not going to drive. Not learning to drive will only negatively effect the teens of tomorrow who won't have parents to teach them.
And I’m terrified to get an Uber that’s not an Uber black and that’s expensive so
@@moniquewrites9046 what's an Uber black?
"Terrified"? Why? Who convince you to be so scared?
I always felt really bad as a teen constantly asking everyone to give up a chunk of their time to drop me off and pick me up. As soon as I could do my lessons and get my license, I got it the day after I turned 18 (legal driving age here). Till this day, I am so so thankful my family to sponsor my lessons, they truly bought me my independence.
Somewhere in the future I'mma ride a motorcycle
for me it has nothing to do with that. im scared to operate a 3000 pound hunk of metal
@@bubblelaydy Yknow, that 3000 pound hunk of metal DOES have airbags and stuff
@@BeesKneesBenjamin ppl still get super hurt though in crashes😭
@@kennzfrenzy I mean, whether you're behind a wheel or someone taking you somewhere... I much prefer getting hurt on my own rather than someone else getting hurt for the fact I refused to get a license...
as a teenager, here’s my answer.
It’s because it’s terrifying dude, I don’t know how to do any of this 💀 one small accident could cause a tragic and damaging event to happen,
i’ll still learn how to drive because I need to in order to go places, but if I had the choice, I’d rather teleport
But why is it terrifying? Driving is so simple. Stay in the lines. Stop at red lights. Be kind and courteous to other drivers. I will never understand how driving could be considered a hard thing to do.
Honestly better if you don’t drive if your not confident, you’re more likely to cause an accident out of fear
I use to have this same thought process until I actually learned how to drive.
When you first start make sure it’s in a parking lot. Then progress to country roads, and then residencial ones.
If you think about it, literally everything is dangerous for you. You can die from literally anything at the most unexpected time. You can’t avoid it. Driving just happens to be a tad bit more dangerous than anything else we do on a day to day basis. As long as you follow instructions, wear a seatbelt, and make quick decisions, you’ll be fine.
@@Chadius_Thundercock Exactly bro
@@generalwillwelsh7926 it’s terrifying because like I said one small turn could lead to a tragic event, I could get myself paralyzed for the rest of my life, I could end up killing or paralyzing someone else, I could end up killing myself,
And if that does Not sound terrifying to you then- i do not know what does.
I understand that it will be simple once I get the hang of it but learning it is terrifying man-
With all the traffic incidents being uploaded for the world to see, I understand the hesitation and zero-desire to drive. I'm nearly 30 and I drive my teenage family members everywhere. They're definitely of-age to drive and it does get frustrating at times to rearrange my schedule to drive them around, but I cannot deny the possible consequences of driving that scare them. I am not one to push, but I am one to encourage at one's own pace. It is comforting to know that this issue is not just present with my younger family members.
I remember being terrified of learning how to drive at 16 but I knew I had to learn eventually as I was turning 17 soon & would have to start growing up. I'm 23 now & I am happy I took the plunge, it's completely normal to be scared but I promise you won't regret it!
I tried to learn at one point and regret it even 15+ years later as I still have nightmares.
I'm 55 and it felt like forever waiting to get my license on the day I turned 16! It was rare not to have your license then. My first car was a stick shift. We have several cars and one of them is a stick shift but I prefer an automatic. I've always felt such freedom being able to drive. Times sure have changed! 😊
It’s also very expensive depending on the state you live in. Im not sure about other states but in CA if you’re under 18 you’re required to take driving courses by an accredited driving school which many people can’t afford. Why pay for all that when I can just wait until I turn 18 and I only pay the basic fees, nothing more.
I’m 18 and have my drivers license but I still refuse to buy a car to drive. I rather take my e-scooter to pick up groceries, buy fast food, and other activities.
I use my license as an id
@@gameaddict-9873 plus it is expensive
Same here dude. I didn’t get my own new car until like 5 years later. Way too expensive and all the expenses that come with it (insurance, car cost, maintenance, gas, etc) that is really hard at this age. Having the license for identification purposes has been an absolute life saver.
I'm 25 and was pressured throughout my teen years - early adulthood to learn how to drive. Still have no license. I got an ebike instead 2 years ago and it was the best purchase I made. Gets me around the city and I enjoy how "in the moment" biking feels vs riding in a car. Makes me appreciate cities more.
I got my license when I was 16, and it was terrifying. I am 23 and I still don't feel comfortable driving in some areas.
I decided not to get my license at 16 because I realized I would just be my family's errand girl if I did. I'm also a really introverted homebody so there aren't many place I want / need to travel to and never have the urge to just leave my house unless there's a reason because I'd rather be reading.
I’m almost 29 and just got my license… driving anxiety is real and can be severe. The last thing you want is a nervous new driver on the road!
I'm almost 18 and I think that learning to drive as early as possible is the best thing you can do, driving is a life skill and you really need to develop a responsible mindset while doing it. Doing it later on just seems too complicated.
I know how it is. I was 12 driving my papas old beater 1989 Chevy S10 stick shift around in circles in his open half acre lot beside his house. To this day, I’m almost 19 and I still know how to drive a stick.
Literallyy I started driving at 15 and now I can drive with so much ease at 18
@@LeslietheFakeEmo same. Now at 24 the car feels like an extension of myself. It takes zero effort to drive now that it's all muscle memory.
Learning yes, but actually driving often - no. Most that start driving early tend to have an irresponsible mindset while driving, even as they get older - at least in my personal experience. Having a healthy dose of fear of cars (and the damage they can do) is essential for responsible drivers - but most just do it for the fun aspect of it.
I’m 26. I was very anxious about driving and never chose or learned to do so. Now that I’m 26, it sucks not being able to drive. Also, it does seem like much more of a challenge. Now, if I want to learn, I don’t have my parents with me to teach me or drive with me, and I feel like now that I’ve waited until 26, I may never get my license.
Couldn't wait to get my license as a teen! My highschool sweetheart helped me practice and once surprised me by playing the song from Rocky while I was attempting to parallel park. I almost hit the parked car in front from laughing so hard! 🤣 20+ years later and I'm still parking like a champ 😎🏆 no problem with kids opting out. Let's get the adults who shouldn't be driving off the road!
i love comments like these, that’s such a wonderful memory
Sound like a Facebook mom 😂
HIGHSCHOOL SWEETFART
@Mr.Freethinker2024yikes
@Mr.Freethinker2024nahhh I want to be able to have a gf and take her out in my car cause if I Ubered her everywhere that would be embarrassing I would like to leave work when I want to without waiting on someone I would like to go shopping when I want get away from the house when I want literally every reason to have your own car unless you can’t afford one
There is nothing wrong with teens taking their time to get behind the wheel. To me, they know the responsibility it takes to drive a car and how scary it can be for someone that age and if they aren't ready then they shouldn't be pushed into it.
Yeah it should be their decision. I think though some people just don’t want to because they don’t like the process. I have a cousin 16 who doesn’t want to get a linense and he drives. Some people see taking those tests as something scary I guess.
@@I1ght961 your cousin knows that if he get's pulled over, by law, he has to go to jail for not having a license right? Officers discretion can save you a trip to the slammer, but even then, it's a super pricey ticket. Best of luck to lil homie🤣
Kids in small towns or in more rural communities grow up planning to get their drivers license when they reach 16 or 17. If you live where you have easy assess to public transit there seems to be less of a hurry. In very large cities there may be very little need to have a driver’s license.
I’m 27 and I have an extreme fear of driving. Since I was a toddler I’ve had reoccurring dreams of me being in a car, it starts driving and I don’t know what to do. I still have these dreams but they’re a little different now. Now I’m stuck in the middle of town with the car all alone and have to find my way home. This was all because in the 90s my parents thought it was ok to leave me and my little brother alone in a running car while they went into the gas stations and stores.
Google maps and other maps apps helps...its not the 1990s
I used to have the exact same recurring dream. Me and my brother would jack a car and start driving and the break wouldn't work and the gas was stuck to the floor and I'd go down a hill trying to navigate barely seeing above the wheel.
Other dreams happened differently they were more driving around trying not to get spotted as a child driving without a license or insurance.
The reason I had those dreams is cause when I was a kid I would drive a bit. Grew up in the country my grandad let us loose driving. Definitely helped but also some lingering anxiety.
Oh and speaking on the last thing. My mother forgot the handbrake one time with my sister in it. Car slowly rolled down the street into traffic. Some dude had to stop it and call her.
Traumatic I imagine
What a pansy
@@illestvillain1971 wow that is wild! You made me remember I was hanging out with a kid younger than me when I was about 8-9. He hot wired the jeep we were playing in and drove a few meters.
I love how being independent in this generation means to be dependent on others to drive you and get you food
frfr
Have you seen drivers now days? It's scary
Seriously 😂
Do I sense jealousy?
@@tacobell1299people have always driven bad, just drive bro you can’t avoid it because you’ll regret it one day
As a 17 year old, i have my permit and sometimes drive home from school. However there have been instances where I almost get into wrecks and kind of panic and that’s what takes away my wanting for driving. A lot of my life I didn’t get many opportunities to be independent because of my life style and where I lived and stuff but honestly I want to drive. It’s that constant fear I have that’s holding me back
Got to get that experience only way to learn.
Only way out of that fear is through. Keep working on it & try to improve. It gets easier. Keep going!
65$ for a permit
350$ Drivers ed
4000$ for a starter car
Hundreds for registration
100$ inspection
300+$ a month insurance
60$ week on gas.
I’m 15, and I’m currently working on getting my learners license, the things i have to remember…what certain colors, signs, symbols, types of roads, types of intersections, types of traffic lights, types of markers, all of these laws, all of these car functionalities, all of these rear view mirror, high-beam/low-beam stuff…I mean I wanna drive, but it’s very stressful on how many things we have to remember. I assume it gets easier and you get the hang of it later on, but still, kinda scary ngl.
Im 22 and I got my license at 17. Driving will become so easy and most signs you’re probably not going to see them once lol. You got this bro!
Honestly, your curiosity should have answered like 90% of these questions before ever setting foot in a driving school. Did you never ask your parent or guardian about driving when being driven around as a kid? Driving school felt redundant to me since I already knew basic traffic laws and signage from observing other's driving for 10+ years at that point. The only thing they taught me there was the actual operation of a vehicle. I also remember every day the teacher would stop class for 30 mins to watch the sitcom King of Queens, very informative lol.
@@ryanwilhite it definitely gets easier. A motor vehicle has a lot of responsibilities but I think you will be just fine. You got this.
God Bless turn to God. You should also read and spread the Gospel. God Bless you and your family. Repent and accept Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior who died on the cross for our sins. Turn to the Lord ask for forgiveness and sin no more. Thanks, Faith, Trust, Love, Focus in God. Trust and have faith in God’s plan. Don’t use Gods name in vain or call yourself and worship other Gods for it is a sin. Repent for all your sins even one’s you may not know and ask God to show you those sins. I am nothing without God and his Goodness. Foul language is also a sin. Praying for you.
Lmfao I don’t even look at the signs anymore. When people start driving, the instructors drill in this reality that you follow every single rule that could ever exist on the road. Of course, don’t be driving 90 MPH on a 30MPH limit, but you can go up to like 40 MPH without issue. I’ve seen drivers speed on roads like this and the cops don’t stop them, if anything, you become a liability if your slower than the other cars.
My 27 yr old daughter still don't have her license. She states it's because how crazy the other drivers appear.
I just got my license last year at 17 and I totally understand the feeling of not wanted to drive and feeling scared. But now that I have started I’m very happy and love to be able to have that freedom.
As an almost 18 year old I wish I got my learners permit at 15 and then my license at 16! It definitely would have helped a lot.
When I was 18 years and old enough to get my driver's license, I chose not to for medical reasons. I have epilepsy and didn't want to risk having a seizure behind the wheel. Alot of people didn't understand my reasoning behind the decision except for my parents and other family members.
Damnn.. ur reason is quite different from others so it’s understandable if you don’t want to drive. But everyone else is looking at them kids like it’s crazy that they don’t wanna drive 😂
Finally a valid reason other than “omg I can Uber eats my Starbucks for $30 on daddy’s credit card instead of driving all the way there myself”
I'm also 18 and don't drive. To be fair I'm from NYC so I don't need one. Even my parents don't have a car so I don't even know where to begin. The only real problem is going to and from college outside the city without a car
@@nerdloser9987 I'm actually almost 32 years old. Some strangers that I see around my hometown in Maryland have issues with my decision not to get my driver's license. Some of them say that I'm lazy and stupid for not learning to drive.
Do you have one now? I have the same issue
I started driving when I was about 18 then got my first car at 19. Now that I’m 21 I can’t imagine my life not knowing how to drive especially since I live in a rural area. I’ve recently started a new job and I’m surprised by how many people around my age don’t drive because they’re too “anxious” to. I genuinely want all of us in our early 20’s to understand that driving is a part of life and that anyone can do it.
That's all good and all and I'm the same as you but we don't all have the same circumstances and perceptions about it. I think judgment about stuff like driving completely depends on someone's current standing is pointless.
Driving while convenient isn’t sustainable whatsoever we’ve become so reliant on it what will we do when a century or two passes and we’re out of it?
@Oliver Benfield I think you’re right. I guess I’m coming from a place where in a rural area it IS needed and others my age should at least know how to do it in case of emergencies.
Just because anyone can do it doesn't mean that everyone wants to do it or needs it. Why would someone who doesn't need a car waste money on car and maintenance? Just so people would say they drive?
It's not about how you drive, it's about how other people drive.
The reason I got my license as soon as I could was to gain independence, my desire for independence took precedent over my anxiety. In other words: I swallowed my fear. Based off my experience. One of the worst things you can do for your anxiety is to avoid what makes you anxious. It’ll fester and grow until it turns into something it never should have become. This was the case for my social anxiety. I was allowed to avoid people for so long that I ended up being unable to leave my room out of fear of interacting with people. It’s gotten better, but only because I needed to expose myself to what made me anxious over and over again.
Swallow your fear, you can do it.
I’m 16 years old and I also have a fear of driving, just yesterday my parents decided to show me how to drive with the turns and all. I ain’t lying it was pretty fun and I had a big smile on my face. After that day I wanna do it again because I really wanna do it again. It’s just a fear that can be lost.
Driving is honestly the most fun thing you can do in life. Endless summers driving down back roads to who knows where. It's the little things in life that can bring you joy. It's also a very crucial skill people should learn as soon as possible, before it's too late.
Pandemic era of kids that got so used to ordering everything to the house and family traveling in groups to be safe… some kids used to the comfort of being driven still and not ready to venture out on their own.
For me, I was homeschooled and had no friends at that age. There was no point in spending all that money getting licensed (not to mention insurance + gas) when I had nowhere to go and nobody to see. I feel confident behind the wheel now after driving to work every day, but it took me a long time to even care. I would guess a major factor determining if a kid will opt out vs. eagerly await getting licensed is whether or not they have friends.
brutal, u explained it perfectly, I'm 18 and ion really have friends (at least not ones with the same interests as me) so I don't really have any motivation to get my license
Being able to drive on my own was important to me. I got my Permit at 15, and my license at 16. I’ve been licensed for 4 1/2 years. At 21 years old, driving has become one of my favorite things to do.
Driving on the interstate with your go to playlist and karaoking the songs is a real mind clearer for me.
Though the interstate have to be traffic free for that to happen.
Right👍you should try it in a Jeep with the top down..
@@Tingling10 agreed
I’m 18 and initially I was terrified of driving. In reality, I was interested, but my fear kinda drove me away from driving (pun intended). Then I got a job over the summer last year and I had to start driving more often, and I have to drive to school, and now I feel so much more comfortable and free. It’s a great feeling. I still gotta work on the parkway though. But once you see the independence you get from driving, and how it isn’t actually that bad, you will feel so much better.
Yup I was the same when I first got my driver license my dad make me go to get car parts but I didn’t want to go but now I’m more comfortable of driving so now I go get whenever he needs to.
I'm 28 and still don't have a license. A number of factors played into why I don't have one. I'll get around to getting it one day. I even have a friend that doesn't drive, his wife drives him everywhere.
Sad about your friend having his wife drive him around everywhere. This is taking advantage of her time due to his dependency on something like him refusing to drive.
@@BKME19She doesn't seem to mind. He takes care of the house and they work together really well.
@@BKME19its not sad
@@tacobell1299 No, it’s disgraceful. Be a man..
@@TerpLord710 There’s nothing inherently masculine about driving.
This is because of so many aggressive/bad/impatient drivers on the road putting people in danger.
As a mom to it scary the cost is huge to have a sixteen year old behind the wheel.
I too felt it was terrifying to get behind the wheel as a teen especially knowing that I’m the only person who has full control over the vehicle at the time and the risk of a getting into a potential accident. I just looked at operating a vehicle as a very serious situation and did not look at it as a joke which in all honesty I think thats what really boosted my anxiety.
Scared of driving a car? Wait until the reality of being an adult kicks in.
I'm afraid of that already and I'm not even 18 yet!
Driving anxiety is real bro!
tbh there is a huge difference between countries ......
Here you will see people around 40-50 years old learning to drive....n it's okay here.
A huge huge difference
Driving sucks it's much nicer to live car free. New urbanism is promoting car free cities as opposed to the urban sprawl many Americans live in that causes car dependency.
I'm 29 years old and I have a Learner's Permit which means I am allowed to drive but I need to have a passenger with me. I plan on getting my License this year. I've been practicing. However, due to a recent car accident I cannot do the driving test with my car since it has a cracked windshield so I am still working on getting that fixed.
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Got my license when I was 18 because I was lucky to be able to walk to school. I was excited at first but it eventually becomes a chore. I would be fine if I never had to drive again, but as an adult it is a necessary part of life in most of America.
I still absolutely have no interest of driving despite getting my licence at 20. My parents forced me to get it for picking up my siblings at school while they’re busy.
I don’t see why they call this independence. To me, that’s not my value, it’s completely fine to not drive.
My sons 15, we’ve mentioned it maybe 2x in those years. We stays home and hangs with the family after school, To add $2400 a month in insurance, another vehicle to maintain and the high risk of a teen driver..IM GOOD, we’ll wait!
On the flip side my bestfriends son is 16, working, lives far from school and has 2 younger siblings in sports. He needs a car, saved up to buy it before he even got his license. Life is different for everyone, more and more teens have phones and social media to communicate, they don’t need to drive to hang with their friends anymore.
I live in NJ, but go to high school in PA. Crossing through Philly with a lack of experience seems like such a scary thing. Additionally the different types of chaos between NJ traffic and PA traffic really keeps me from wanting to be behind the wheel.
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I’m thinking about opting out of driving as well, even though I'm already in my 20s
I just don't think I’m comfortable being on the roads or sometimes fearing of getting into an accident, that’s why I hope one day we have self-driving cars so I can go anywhere without driving myself or having anyone to do with me
That is a bad idea
Well I hope you can wait untill 3023 for that to be perfected.
Just start with practicing on side roads and work your way up. The more you feel comfortable with the car the better off you will be. You never know when something will happen and when having a car you have a lot more ways to deal with situations. Best of luck!
It’s not really about comfort more about getting to where you need to be lol
@@guardian1234561 That can be just as terrifying,and I was born in 1995 and grew up in the early 2000's,am 27,have Asperger's,OCD,and ADD I also, (In my opinion) Live in the city/state with the worst drivers/roads,...Including the small ones! There is a small stretch of road between my subdivision and apartment complexes where people have had plenty of accidents!
I got my license at 20. I knew how to briefly drive before but since I didn't go out often, I didn't find a need to get it. It's scary at first, you'll always bear the risk of crashing or losing control of your car, but it feels good to drive. You get to listen to music, sing along, carpool, go on road trips and just gain more experience. Driving isn't for everybody, but it never hurts to try. I'm afraid of heights so sometimes I'm scared to get on the freeway, but I'll get there eventually. Take everything at your own pace, don't stress.
I respect these teenagers and American needs to move itself from a car run economy to a public transport economy.
I'm 30 and rarely drive , because I don't have to and I can choose not to
I personally got my license at 19. Here is part of my story: When I was 17, I got my learners permit (although I wanted to get mine at 16 in NY). I started drivers Ed in the fall, although I prefer the spring season (my high school offered it). I did take my road test, but it took me 3 tries and at 19, I finally passed (I wanted to take my 3rd road test before my trip to Italy, but my grandma suggested that I do so when I returned. I am glad that I listened). I thought that I was going to be like Spongebob squarepants who keeps taking road tests without success. I do understand why today's teens don't want to drive. I personally was afraid of driving, but now I don't fear driving.
To the teens (I say this as a 26 year old young man): Time and persistence will pay off in the long run. You'll succeed in getting your drivers license, if you want to succeed. If there is a drivers Ed program offered by your high school, take advantage of it. It will pay off, if you put the time, discipline, and effort into it.
I've been driving since I was a junior in high school and I just turned 36. It is important to learn how to drive because you really can turn off friends and family asking for rides constantly. Relying on Uber, Lyft and UberEats every day, that gets expensive! It does take a lot of practice to learn how to drive and I believe kids these days don't have the patience right away. Learning how to drive is not something you're gonna figure out in a day.
I'm 31. Never bothered getting a driver's license. I ride a motorcycle and a road bicycle. I don't need an enclosed vehicle that will cost too much to repair and maintain. Insurance for four wheel cars is too expensive and we're forced to pay for that insurance.
as a 15 year old girl who already struggles with awful anxiety and homeschool because of it, driving absolutely terrifies me :(
Gotta push through it, I wanted to learn how to drive at 15 and finally started learning at 16. I was scared but my will to learn pushed me through the anxiety until finally I was confident enough to get on the city highways.
Skill issue
as someone who got stuck doing homeschool and has no friends because of the pandemic, I feel no pressure to get my license any time soon because what's the point lol
@@VTXHobbies 😂
I was in the exact same situation at 15 and I still hate driving and it’s absolutely terrifying to me because there’s so many rules to remember and I’m always thinking I’m gonna get in a crash and die. I didn’t even get my permit until I was almost 17 because of anxiety and I still don’t have my license
I’ve been ashamed for years because of this. I’m 21 now, only driven a few times for only like a mile each. I have anxiety attacks everytime afterwards. This is the worst phobia I’ve ever had and I’m constantly pressured by everyone around me to drive on a daily. My parents always remind me I’m a burden on them for driving me places. I feel like a failure.
Not being able to drive does not make you a failure!
My advice is to focus on the present. Everyone learns at their own rate, it doesn’t matter that it’s been so long since you were 16 all that matters is what you do now. I highly suggest taking some drivers lessons.
Skill issue
You're just gonna have to face your fears and get over it. I see you as a strong and capable person so I'm sure you'll be able to get over it.
@@jbgibbons3423 I know you’re trying to be helpful so please don’t take this the wrong way but telling someone with a phobia to “just get over it” is way more harmful than it is helpful. But I appreciate your kind words
I didn’t get my license until I was 20. It’s scary man. I understand being scared especially when you don’t feel in control and could hurt yourself and someone else. Definitely not the easiest thing to learn to do but definitely once you get used to it, it helps a lot.
I'm 26, work from home with a really good salary, never even touched a steering wheel in my life, uber everywhere I go.
My mom always made fun of this she said in her time kids would be excited to drive now they’re lazy and don’t wanna grow up she says
I was SO NERVOUS on driving when I was 16, and I'm getting my license at 18. For me, I just wasn't ready and now I'm ready to do it.
I think it's great that you waited until you were really comfortable with it.
God Bless turn to God. You should also read and spread the Gospel. God Bless you and your family. Repent and accept Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior who died on the cross for our sins. Turn to the Lord ask for forgiveness and sin no more. Thanks, Faith, Trust, Love, Focus in God. Trust and have faith in God’s plan. Don’t use Gods name in vain or call yourself and worship other Gods for it is a sin. Repent for all your sins even one’s you may not know and ask God to show you those sins. I am nothing without God and his Goodness. Foul language is also a sin. Praying for you.
@@jenniferhansen3622 right!
@Camryn D I mean ppl that learn it can also be from different countries so it’s understandable.
I just turned 25 and I still don’t have my license. Believe me, I tried to learn when I was in my teen years, mostly because my parents pressured me into it. But no matter how many times I practiced or how many instructors I went through, I just couldn’t get comfortable behind the wheel. There’re just too many instructions to remember and too many things to focus on all at once. It’s so overwhelming!
I’m 23 and I just passed driving school and I’m on my way to getting my license. As much as I am happy to be learning this skill, I do also wish that not having a license wasn’t so looked down upon and that there were more walking and public transit options than what we have now