My worst toxic/negative/dark trait is paranoia/anxiety. My ex-wife caused me betrayal trauma that manifested into Paranoid Personality Disorder on top of having Borderline Personality Disorder. I fear betrayal and abandonment the most. I constantly feel like my girlfriend is cheating on me. I don't trust anyone nor do I have any friends or family because I door slammed them. What really sucks is that my girlfriend is my favorite person but being deluded by my PPD thinking she's always betraying me. I overthink/overanalyze everything. Her voice, body language, tone, etc. She could say something in a different way or a choice of words and I'll get that feeling. I start connecting ideas, making assumptions/conclusions, questioning everything. It's like a movie in my head playing like a premonition or something. I can't shake the feeling, either. It's hard to articulate what I'm conceptualizing in my head during these instances. Everything is abstract and not easily converted to concrete tangible information for others to understand. I know that I'm highly neurotic and unhealthy but I'm at least self-aware and take accountability for my actions and behavior. I hold grudges even towards perceived slights and can be petty, spiteful, vengeful and vindictive. I feel compelled to get one over on whoever wronged me. I understand cognitive empathy to which I can employ to achieve a goal or outcome but deep down in regards to Affective/Emotional Empathy and Compassion, I disregard them because they're repulsive and disgusting. "Empath" is just a social construct for people to feel better about themselves because validation and admiration isn't enough. Plus, most self-proclaimed "empaths" and "victims" of narcissistic abuse online communities are unaware covert narcissists who virtue signal their victimhood for validation to strangers in echo chambers. Question them about anything and see how fast they receive a narcissistic injury and rage on you with their flying monkey community members. The same people convincing you they're empathetic immediately resort to threats to unalive you and other horrible things. They're so far into denial that they're oblivious to being just as toxic if not worse than pathological narcissists. TL;DR: Paranoia.
This looks like a description of a human being that is not very good and then call him/her an INFJ which can be replaced by other labels. The point is, you don't know if the person is an INFJ. I think human beings can learn and change their behaviour. It is possible for a calculating person with empathic traits to evolve into a non-calculating person.
My worst toxic/negative/dark trait is paranoia/anxiety. My ex-wife caused me betrayal trauma that manifested into Paranoid Personality Disorder on top of having Borderline Personality Disorder. I fear betrayal and abandonment the most. I constantly feel like my girlfriend is cheating on me. I don't trust anyone nor do I have any friends or family because I door slammed them. What really sucks is that my girlfriend is my favorite person but being deluded by my PPD thinking she's always betraying me. I overthink/overanalyze everything. Her voice, body language, tone, etc. She could say something in a different way or a choice of words and I'll get that feeling. I start connecting ideas, making assumptions/conclusions, questioning everything. It's like a movie in my head playing like a premonition or something. I can't shake the feeling, either. It's hard to articulate what I'm conceptualizing in my head during these instances. Everything is abstract and not easily converted to concrete tangible information for others to understand. I know that I'm highly neurotic and unhealthy but I'm at least self-aware and take accountability for my actions and behavior. I hold grudges even towards perceived slights and can be petty, spiteful, vengeful and vindictive. I feel compelled to get one over on whoever wronged me. I understand cognitive empathy to which I can employ to achieve a goal or outcome but deep down in regards to Affective/Emotional Empathy and Compassion, I disregard them because they're repulsive and disgusting. "Empath" is just a social construct for people to feel better about themselves because validation and admiration isn't enough. Plus, most self-proclaimed "empaths" and "victims" of narcissistic abuse online communities are unaware covert narcissists who virtue signal their victimhood for validation to strangers in echo chambers. Question them about anything and see how fast they receive a narcissistic injury and rage on you with their flying monkey community members. The same people convincing you they're empathetic immediately resort to threats to unalive you and other horrible things. They're so far into denial that they're oblivious to being just as toxic if not worse than pathological narcissists.
TL;DR: Paranoia.
Yo I’m INFJ but some of these traits I don’t have 😓😓
This looks like a description of a human being that is not very good and then call him/her an INFJ which can be replaced by other labels. The point is, you don't know if the person is an INFJ. I think human beings can learn and change their behaviour. It is possible for a calculating person with empathic traits to evolve into a non-calculating person.
Thank you for this awesome contribution. I appreciate
Sounds like covert narcissists
Thanks for your observation
Dang, it makes it sound like we INFJs are all cold, calculating, and manipulative. Not every INFJ has a dark side!
You could be right