The man I was dating will bring up he's ex from time to time. I knew he still had feelings for her. I have now moved on and left him and he can have her. I'm done with him
@mirandlinda.a Whoa...horsey. wait. Now if u say he brought her up,..n didu get involved right away after they split? Did he go bk to her when u splitup? If not..u maybe timed it wrong. He cdve been healing with u, n he might be satisfied with u, did u feel he was happy with u? Cuz if so then u left right when he healed probably. If he was content with u then altho u were a fastfix quick to sex was it? i think sex is where men heal too n bury their feelung from the old relationship...their emotions come out there n he may have bondwd with u n been happy with u so u left just as he healed altho u did hear lots of his x doesnt mwan Nything but hurt ur wmotions if he was happy to stay with you.
@@THENEONARCADE21 Doesnt mean any rule of male action just cuz he did..if aman is healing while with you he may be getting over n past her n ur his therapist. He mightve tried to move on by jumping into sex with u. Men can do this sometimes right away. Its using the woman in some ways but it blocks the pain n he is aiming right at making something new n healthy
If someone still has an emotional tie to a past relationship, it's probably not a good idea to invest your time and emotions in a relationship with them. You don't want to end up getting hurt. It could be a different situation though where you just need to be compassionate and understanding with them if there still hurting. Communication is key.❤
Sometimes you’ve already gone through grief before the divorce is final. Especially in a very long relationship. sometimes grieving has happened over and over again within that those years and due to extenuating circumstances (like children who are having serious problems and became the focus of the relationship; lack of support system; etcyou ended up staying longer than you intended. Sometimes it’s over before it’s over.
This is no excuse to invite a new partner into the midst of your unfinished business. The grieving process isn't everything. The legal process carries ugly, sticky energy with it also that a healthy partner does not deserve to experience.
@@tarawiselove I didn’t say anything about inviting a new partner… I’m just saying sometimes the grieving has been ongoing and there’s nothing left to grieve when the divorce is happening.. and from my personal experience, that’s why the divorce is happening….or happened.
@@KathrynPhx1 I agree that you didn't say anything about inviting a new partner. I mentioned it because the grief cycle is not truly complete until legal ties are broken, too. There is a rare mind that does not feel something when, even after grieving is not so fresh, the dissolution is finally authorized. Until the legal documentation is signed, all intimate interactions with a new partner are adulterous and this could cause unneeded problems.
@@tarawiselove I agree with some of what you said. I also believe that each person has their own personal grief history and experience. My life experience may not align with yours. I do not advocate adultery. I was speaking more about moving on… and some couples do that when the decisions are mutually agreed upon and awaiting final papers… I’m not judging who does what, where, or with who. Adults can make adult decisions. I have had more than my fair share of grief in one lifetime. One lesson that I’ve learned is not to linger too long in grief. And, don’t add alcohol to your grief… unless you want to add needless suffering for everyone involved! After too many losses, acceptance comes sooner than later, for me. Acceptance doesn’t mean i agree or like the outcome. It means accepting that it is what it is and I am going to move thru it and keep living. Life is too precious to be put on hold for very long. Life does not stand still no matter how much pain you are experiencing. I don’t believe closure is a final deal, either. Elisabeth Kübler-Ross created a helpful guide for grief but I do not believe that grief is a linear process.
Just because a man is in a relationship with you or is seeing you or dating you doesn’t mean He loves it just means you’re the one who also agreed to see him too. If he has an emotional tie to someone who broke up with him or dumped him then you may just only be with him because she didn’t want him or she won. Never settle never settle for someone never agreed to be the back up plan no matter where a man is emotionally men are so afraid of being alone that they’d rather be attached to one woman and sleeping with the other just so they don’t have to be alone
Have you heard about limerencing? It's when we put someone on a pedestal and only think about the good, and ignore all the red flags. It can also be when we fantasize about an ex-lover and forget about all the bad in the relationship. It can consume our minds & make us very emotional, until we figure out how to snap into reality and see what is true & not true. Once we do that, the emotional rollercoaster ends and we can move on and think rationally.
Such excellent advice to everyone! This channel is called "Magnetize your Man" but I feel like it is such a help, not only for us females, but guys too! The speaker drives things home & connects w/us viewers when he talks about his own past experiences & what helped him out of that! Thank you for the great info, scenarios, examples (including personal ones) Super helpful! God bless you and your wide Antia for putting this content out there. You are helping many people!
A person is never gonna be honest with the person that they’re seeing about where they are in their emotional state of grief if they have any That the outcome will be that they’ll be alone they would rather be with someone for a little while while they’re grieving another person, then be completely alone, which is sad because that just makes them a us And there’s a whole lotta users out there
I love all of these points. Such a great and informative video! I wish this video came out a long time ago for me. I feel like it would have saved me from so much headache and heart break.
SO RESONATE WHAT YOU SAY, IAM MOVING AWAY AND SO HARD. WHEN I FALL FOR SOMEONE I FALL HARD. I DONT ENTER RELATIONSHIPS EASILY. KEEP LOOKING AT MY PHONE TO SEE IF ANY TEXTS ETC. BUT I DO KNOW I AM WORTH MORE THAN THAT.
That was a great video... I'm also looking at myself and my readiness to move towards being opened to a new relationship. I'm going to meditate and go within to let some things go ❤
Thing is religion is based on someones point of view. And wveryone is different. Spirituality is a one on one with God and finding your own truth. We should be honoring each other differences.
That case is worse, it’s very difficult to beat a ghost, usually when someone dies, who surrounded the deceased person erase all their defects, in Venezuela we have a saying for that: "there’s no bad dead". I think the best thing is to walk away from a person who’s still grieving over the death of the person they were in partnership with, and just stand there and waste your time and generate grief and resentment, you end up having him angry and suspicious, not to mention that you can feel that in his heart will never have a place for you, nor love, that you’ll share it forever with that ghost, and that’s neither good nor fair for you
Excellent advice & points to consider! Communication is vital along with honesty about the status of the situation! No one wants to be strung along thinking they are your partner when they are not emotional available, that can complicate a new partnership. With God's Help & guidance this can be worked through but honesty has to be there! When you Love someone, you want to be there to help them heal & let them know they can be safe with you! I trust God & the Universe to guide my path as it has been destined!❤🙏❤🙏
It can hurt if ur new guy talks bout his x and uses u for sex, but if u put in the time as his therapist he may transfer his feelings to you and the payout may be he is yours. Often some kinds of men move on by jumping into SEX right away with a new partner to bury their breakup feelings into a new relationship. Its a toss up where this will lead...possibly he will stay with u if u can take the emotional insult to ur ego and being used sexually for a time. He may be yours then or he cd walk.
Because we live in a patriarchal society. To hell with other people’s opinions - live your life the way you want to! Just keep in mind that younger men usually date older women for sex and resources. Only you know what will work for you.
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The man I was dating will bring up he's ex from time to time. I knew he still had feelings for her. I have now moved on and left him and he can have her. I'm done with him
I was with a guy once who was always talking about his ex. He was not over her. He did go back to her.
@@THENEONARCADE21 I'm glad you left him he does not deserve to have you specially if he was talking about he's ex. Good luck
@@MirandalindaL.A Thankyou. 💖💖💖💖💖
@mirandlinda.a
Whoa...horsey. wait.
Now if u say he brought her up,..n didu get involved right away after they split? Did he go bk to her when u splitup? If not..u maybe timed it wrong. He cdve been healing with u, n he might be satisfied with u, did u feel he was happy with u? Cuz if so then u left right when he healed probably. If he was content with u then altho u were a fastfix quick to sex was it? i think sex is where men heal too n bury their feelung from the old relationship...their emotions come out there n he may have bondwd with u n been happy with u so u left just as he healed altho u did hear lots of his x doesnt mwan Nything but hurt ur wmotions if he was happy to stay with you.
@@THENEONARCADE21
Doesnt mean any rule of male action just cuz he did..if aman is healing while with you he may be getting over n past her n ur his therapist. He mightve tried to move on by jumping into sex with u. Men can do this sometimes right away. Its using the woman in some ways but it blocks the pain n he is aiming right at making something new n healthy
If someone still has an emotional tie to a past relationship, it's probably not a good idea to invest your time and emotions in a relationship with them. You don't want to end up getting hurt. It could be a different situation though where you just need to be compassionate and understanding with them if there still hurting. Communication is key.❤
Sometimes you’ve already gone through grief before the divorce is final. Especially in a very long relationship. sometimes grieving has happened over and over again within that those years and due to extenuating circumstances (like children who are having serious problems and became the focus of the relationship; lack of support system; etcyou ended up staying longer than you intended. Sometimes it’s over before it’s over.
This is no excuse to invite a new partner into the midst of your unfinished business. The grieving process isn't everything. The legal process carries ugly, sticky energy with it also that a healthy partner does not deserve to experience.
@@tarawiselove I didn’t say anything about inviting a new partner… I’m just saying sometimes the grieving has been ongoing and there’s nothing left to grieve when the divorce is happening.. and from my personal experience, that’s why the divorce is happening….or happened.
I couldn’t agree anymore 100%… I’ve never known how to quite say it like you just said it, but you’re right it is over before it’s really over….💯⭐️
@@KathrynPhx1 I agree that you didn't say anything about inviting a new partner. I mentioned it because the grief cycle is not truly complete until legal ties are broken, too. There is a rare mind that does not feel something when, even after grieving is not so fresh, the dissolution is finally authorized. Until the legal documentation is signed, all intimate interactions with a new partner are adulterous and this could cause unneeded problems.
@@tarawiselove I agree with some of what you said. I also believe that each person has their own personal grief history and experience. My life experience may not align with yours. I do not advocate adultery. I was speaking more about moving on… and some couples do that when the decisions are mutually agreed upon and awaiting final papers… I’m not judging who does what, where, or with who. Adults can make adult decisions. I have had more than my fair share of grief in one lifetime. One lesson that I’ve learned is not to linger too long in grief. And, don’t add alcohol to your grief… unless you want to add needless suffering for everyone involved! After too many losses, acceptance comes sooner than later, for me. Acceptance doesn’t mean i agree or like the outcome. It means accepting that it is what it is and I am going to move thru it and keep living. Life is too precious to be put on hold for very long. Life does not stand still no matter how much pain you are experiencing. I don’t believe closure is a final deal, either. Elisabeth Kübler-Ross
created a helpful guide for grief but I do not believe that grief is a linear process.
Just because a man is in a relationship with you or is seeing you or dating you doesn’t mean He loves it just means you’re the one who also agreed to see him too. If he has an emotional tie to someone who broke up with him or dumped him then you may just only be with him because she didn’t want him or she won. Never settle never settle for someone never agreed to be the back up plan no matter where a man is emotionally men are so afraid of being alone that they’d rather be attached to one woman and sleeping with the other just so they don’t have to be alone
Yep
Have you heard about limerencing? It's when we put someone on a pedestal and only think about the good, and ignore all the red flags. It can also be when we fantasize about an ex-lover and forget about all the bad in the relationship. It can consume our minds & make us very emotional, until we figure out how to snap into reality and see what is true & not true. Once we do that, the emotional rollercoaster ends and we can move on and think rationally.
💯💯👏👏👏
You really need to check your self-esteem if just mentioning your past bothers them.
Such excellent advice to everyone! This channel is called "Magnetize your Man" but I feel like it is such a help, not only for us females, but guys too! The speaker drives things home & connects w/us viewers when he talks about his own past experiences & what helped him out of that! Thank you for the great info, scenarios, examples (including personal ones) Super helpful! God bless you and your wide Antia for putting this content out there. You are helping many people!
Thanks and glad you're liking it!
A person is never gonna be honest with the person that they’re seeing about where they are in their emotional state of grief if they have any That the outcome will be that they’ll be alone they would rather be with someone for a little while while they’re grieving another person, then be completely alone, which is sad because that just makes them a us And there’s a whole lotta users out there
Thank u so much. This is wht I really needed to hear...
I love all of these points. Such a great and informative video! I wish this video came out a long time ago for me. I feel like it would have saved me from so much headache and heart break.
SO RESONATE WHAT YOU SAY, IAM MOVING AWAY AND SO HARD. WHEN I FALL FOR SOMEONE I FALL HARD. I DONT ENTER RELATIONSHIPS EASILY. KEEP LOOKING AT MY PHONE TO SEE IF ANY TEXTS ETC. BUT I DO KNOW I AM WORTH MORE THAN THAT.
This video found me at the perfect time 🙏 thank you so much, this really helped me ❤
❤ thank you so much for sharing great job ❤
That was a great video... I'm also looking at myself and my readiness to move towards being opened to a new relationship. I'm going to meditate and go within to let some things go ❤
Thing is religion is based on someones point of view. And wveryone is different. Spirituality is a one on one with God and finding your own truth. We should be honoring each other differences.
Excellent content! Thank you...
Glad you enjoyed it!
Awesome 👏! Very well said!🙏 ♥️ it.
My ex talked about his ex ... But she was deceased.
That case is worse, it’s very difficult to beat a ghost, usually when someone dies, who surrounded the deceased person erase all their defects, in Venezuela we have a saying for that: "there’s no bad dead". I think the best thing is to walk away from a person who’s still grieving over the death of the person they were in partnership with, and just stand there and waste your time and generate grief and resentment, you end up having him angry and suspicious, not to mention that you can feel that in his heart will never have a place for you, nor love, that you’ll share it forever with that ghost, and that’s neither good nor fair for you
Yes Thank You !!!!
Excellent advice & points to consider! Communication is vital along with honesty about the status of the situation! No one wants to be strung along thinking they are your partner when they are not emotional available, that can complicate a new partnership. With God's Help & guidance this can be worked through but honesty has to be there! When you Love someone, you want to be there to help them heal & let them know they can be safe with you! I trust God & the Universe to guide my path as it has been destined!❤🙏❤🙏
Very true
You all in the comment sectioned ruined it for me 😅
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It can hurt if ur new guy talks bout his x and uses u for sex, but if u put in the time as his therapist he may transfer his feelings to you and the payout may be he is yours. Often some kinds of men move on by jumping into SEX right away with a new partner to bury their breakup feelings into a new relationship. Its a toss up where this will lead...possibly he will stay with u if u can take the emotional insult to ur ego and being used sexually for a time. He may be yours then or he cd walk.
Why is it socially acceptable for young girls to date older men
But its not socially acceptable for younger men to date older woman
Yes I agree. I don't get this at all.
Because we live in a patriarchal society. To hell with other people’s opinions - live your life the way you want to! Just keep in mind that younger men usually date older women for sex and resources. Only you know what will work for you.
Very helpful ⭐️