MOM OF 5 HOUSE RESET || Cleaning with ADHD
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- If you've always dreaded cleaning, or struggle with the shame of mess, this video is for you.
I have had a long and shame-filled relationship with cleaning my house, and only recently have I begun to truly enjoy it. I hope that by sharing the little things that make cleaning easier for me, it can help you find your way in homemaking, too.
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Quick note! Did this on a Sunday, so my husband was home and mostly took charge of kids so I could clean how I *wanted* to. THEY DO HELP TOO!!!! But since this is a house reset, and not a daily routine, it's much easier to have all the kids out of my space so I can move furniture and clean under everything without little people in the way.
Having kids in the room and having to direct other people on how I need them to clean is mentally taxing and overwhelming, and causes me to lose focus on what I need to do. It can then send me into meltdown, or freeze. Add filming on top of that, and it's just too much.
Aside from that, there are a wealth of privacy reasons for why I don't involve my kids actively in filming what I do. When they wander through? That's fine. The baby shadowing me? Gonna happen. But, it's not my kids' job to be on RUclips - it's MY job. Literal job. So I don't film them actively helping, I don't give them tasks so I can film them doing it, and in general I do these videos when they are elsewhere or I have them do what I need them to do before I start filming.
For the love of all that's holy I don't need to list everything my kids do for a bunch of internet strangers who assume they do nothing because you don't see what they DO. You're going to have to take my word for the fact that they all have tasks. Deep cleaning isn't one of their tasks, believe it or not.
Anyway I'm not here to be a mommy vlogger and exploit my kids for views OK BYE LOVE YOUUUU ;)
Sorry for the silly question, how is your refrigerator working for you? I looked them up and they have great reviews. I wish they came in yellow, I'm all about Sunflowers as you are with Strawberries. We're 4 adults, 2 parents and 2 adult children. I cook a lot and I'd worry about the size...? I think you are an amazing woman! You've helped me so much 💓
It’s an ok refrigerator if you have less food refrigeration needs. I have to be honest and say it’s not large enough for us but it’s what we could afford/what fit in the space because it’s not big enough for a full size fridge. The only big issue I’ve had with it is that the spot for milk jugs has a removable bar that constantly comes out and breaks.
For a smaller household it would work fine though I think!
@@WithLoveKristinaok I was afraid of that, but when we get a new fridge I'm going to have more room so can have it as an immediate fridge in the kitchen (milk, eggs, current libations, cheese, tonight's dinner ingredients etc) and a bigger one in the garage for bulky things. Thank you so much for your time and trouble. You are such an inspiration and helping me clean and organize my mess.
@@WithLoveKristinaI love watchin this video , its soo relaxin an feels calmin..... 😊😊❤❤😊❤😊❤😊❤
@@athenathegreatandpowerful6365 I also have this fridge! It's pretty good, a bit small like she said. I would like to mention that while I really recommend it at its price point by virtue of what a fool proof simple model it is (It has 4 parts, the simplest fridge ever built) It does not have an evaporator or de-icing cycle built in like many large full size models, so periodically you will have to clear out your freezer and leave the fridge portion running to deice your freezer. Also because it's design is a chest fridge that has been stood up you should aviod putting really warm stuff in bc the cycle will take too long to regulate down again, bc all the cold is on the back wall and there are no fans.
I raised 5 kids. A lot of work to say the least. One day husband came home from work and I was crying. I said,I got nothing done around this house today! All I did was take care of this sick baby. My husband said, so you mean to tell me all you did all day was to take care of our sick child!? Yes, I wept. He said, WELL I GUESS YOUR DAY WAS A COMPLETE SUCCESS! It changed my attitude forever. 💙💚✝️💜
That’s a WONDERFUL HUSBAND…..And a KEEPER…..
Oh how I know what you mean. I raised 5 kids too. When they all came down with chicken pox, I'll never forget the day I literally collapsed and sat down on the floor crying from sheer exhaustion, stress and worry from taking care of them. It was SO hard. BTW, what a wonderful husband you have.
Absolutely, a priceless husband to give you words of comfort and praise. It's mentally worrying in case you don't know what's brewing inside the little one
Your husband saw you upset, and gave you the appropriate response. Magic
my husband says these things to me and it feels like the weight instantly falls off my shoulders. the reassurance is relieving
I love the comment "this is a home, not a magazine." This is so true!!
People need real content like this, especially those young moms that feel guilty that everything is not cold and sterile like lots of people like to post.
Young people, and old, need to appreciate that everyone doesn't have a big new home with all the perks. An older, smaller home, (like mine) can definitely be lovely and homey, maybe even more so.
This video made me cry. Growing up, my home was a place of fear. Fear of making a mess, not cleaning up after myself quick enough. Guessing what my mother would rage about in the house when she got home from work. You are making my childhood self feel loved and happy!
oh dear, I can so relate!! I had the exact same fear, and we were beaten if not perfectly clean, yelled at, and shamed for bringing pet hair or any mud into the house--it was so terrifying. Hugs, you are safe now
Your home is so cozy. I love the lived-in vibe. So many youtubers are into the boring beige or super sterile personalityless style that their homes look like sad showrooms. Your home has so much personality and tells a story of a life well lived. Your kids are definitely going to look back on their childhood with warm nostalgic feelings when they grow up.
I came here to say the same. I miss the real life houses from the old days on RUclips before people considered themselves “influencers.” I can’t relate to these fancy houses that are so different from the real life place where my family lives. I just discovered this channel, and I think I am in love! 🥰
Can I make an aside comment? I mean it in the most positive & respectful way. Can I say that I really appreciate the way you wear varied necklines? I haven’t noticed before. But, I have been on a modesty deconstruction journey, and it is just so nice to see another mom (esp one I respect) be comfortable with herself just living her life and doing work in a lovely frock that makes her feel happy. Just living your life, ya know? I hope you aren’t hearing me say you’re immodest - that’s not what I mean at all. It’s just a moment of reassurance for me that modesty can mean a lot of things, and it’s safe to try out variations on this theme.
As a fellow “deconstructing modesty culture” gal I know exactly what you mean. ❤️❤️❤️
I’m so glad the comment landed how I intended it to! I love so many aspects of my faith, but this particular facet is definitely getting a re-do!
hahaha sometimes I remind myself that Jesus didn't say "if a woman causes you to stumble, tell her to cover up". He said "if your eye causes you to stumble, rip it out"
;) pretty good verse, that.
But yes, I've had a long journey of deconstructing modesty culture. I grew up in a fairly neutral way with modesty but was still taught that I needed to cover up in order to keep men from sinning. And since then have realized the only thing the bible says about *Dressing* for modesty is "don't show up for worship dressed fancy just because you want attention". Otherwise, I believe all the things about modesty pertain to the heart, and how we treat others!
@@WithLoveKristinaYES!
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dear kristina,
I love your videos.
About the modesty.....let's remember that the Bible says that we are Brothers keepers.
Also please read Romans 12:1-5
with love Dalia
Your channel is the only place on the Internet where I feel safe, not judged and calm. I struggle with something else than you (paralyzing anxiety and self doubt, and panic attacks when I'm overtaken by the intrusive anxious thoughts). I don't have money for therapy or access to it where I live and I also have no friends here, so I feel sometimes so alone and like such a bad mom. Whenever I try to open up about my struggles, all I get is judgement, so I just don't say anything anymore. But when you post a video, I feel warm, and safe, and calmer. So thank you. ♥️
Sending you love friend. I totally understand what you’re saying & you’re not alone. ❤
@@turtzturtson thank you ♥️
can just agree.... you're not alone! I really feel your struggles and also the judgement... got and get it a lot, too. But we do our best and that's what matters. Those videos show me that it is okay to not be perfect and that it is okay to not get everything done in one day... it helps me a lot (cause I have a lot of days I can't do anything). Be sure, you're not alone and if you evere like to speak to someone, no matter about what... here I am. We don't know each other, but we don't need to to be there for each other
@@LeeZetLMG thank you ♥️ reading your message was like a warm hug from a friend!
@@luizahundt You're welcome!
You’re such a breath of fresh air! I’m a ER surgical RN. Needless to say my days can be stressful at times. I watch your videos and listen to your calm voice during breaks. I cannot tell you how much you’ve helped me alleviate stress even for just a few minutes. So many of your videos reminds me of my beloved mom and grandmothers. Thank you!
I love your videos! They are so relaxing and have a way of bringing me peace. Thank you for posting! 😊
Thank you for mentioning that the Proverbs 31 woman worked! Also, from what I understand, Proverbs 31 was not meant to be some sort of impossible standard for women to strive for like a "how to" manual. It is recited by Jewish men on the Sabbath before the evening meal as an expression of praise and appreciation for their wives' hard work. Again, your channel is so affirming and refreshing. ❤
your life is so amazingly chaotic: the shoe in the bassinet, the cat on the blanket pulled from under the table, the stickers on the coffee table... it's so relatable and made me chuckle.
Me too! 😅
Your videos are always so warm…your adorable kiddos and kitties, the nostalgia of your vintage, your sweet motherly ways of cleaning, cuddling, and cooking.❤ I feel like I’ve come home, and it’s sort of bittersweet for me because I miss my parents and grandparents so much!
You are such a lovely, inspiring, positive, hard-working lady! Thank you for all you share with us!🥰
Wow, your comment perfectly expresses why I love this channel. ❤ I always feel better after watching a video. 🙂
I love to hear a cat purr and watch her babies nurse. So precious.
I love that you always put your apron on before you start to cook and clean. Housesife queen.
Gotta use em all I have so many 😂
@@WithLoveKristina Good!
THis was soo real and I have never seen this on any video. My kitchen is old and not perfect and never will be because I dont have to money to totally redo it. I have been too embarassed to share it because of it but you bravely show your imperfect home and even the mess without worry . Your saying messes happen because of positive things we are doing was an amazing insight. Thank you. Your kids are so happy and loved and enjoyed. You are doing a great job. Sadly the house will be easier to clean one day when they are off living their own lives. you are doing great as you are in balancing everything. Let it get messy if it means taking time to enjoy those sweet babies.
you perfectly summarized what I have been feeling and thinking throughout this video.
This is the real relatability we need to see more of on social media. I can look at the not social media ready nature of my own home and…accept that that’s real life. The not applying shame to mess is so freeing! Such incredible points made here. Cleanliness combined with design are often associated with competence, laziness vs protectiveness and charm. But…we need to be careful with these constructs we devise. But God’s view and intention for us. It’s so freeing to be made aware and not feel like your home is controlling YOU. Yes, Queen! That’s going to be my view from now on!!
I’m just halfway through the video but I had to comment at what you said about 17 mins in. I find it ridiculous that people comment ‘just being a mom’ , as if growing babies and raising them well isn’t work. It’s hard and relentless work, beautiful and precious work too. I know lots of moms work outside the home as well as doing so much in the home and they are incredible women. And the moms that stay at home with their children all day and work hard within the home are incredible women! I believe that anyone who has a child and is putting effort in to raising them well, work hard.
I absolutely LOVE your channel. I love that you show a realistic home. You are a beautiful and wonderful person and your family seem so well loved and happy. Your home seems like it’s the one you want to come round and have a cup of tea and be welcomed in. Beautiful ❤
I don’t know anyone who could keep a small home with 5 kids clean consistently. Of course we do what we can… awesome video!❤
Thank you for talking about ADHD. It really helps me navigate me but mostly my eight year old that can't find the correct words sometimes. I'm 46 and I just thought I was weird and lazy my entire life until I was diagnosed 2 years ago.
As a fellow stay-at-home mother and wife who was recently diagnosed with mild inattentive ADD, you are one of my heroes. Watching your videos helps me know I'm not alone and it's okay to not have a perfect home, especially with four children. You help me feel that it is okay to be me! Your tips have helped me so much. You are such a good mother and wife. I also love the Proberbs 31 woman too. Forever grateful to you. ❤
Hey, Kristina. I just wanted to say thank you for your words. I was feeling pretty low about my house and my environment last night. Your words were so needed. I am a working mom who is a college professor, and I love my job. However, at times I feel guilty because I am so inept with cleaning and keeping house. I feel like I am one step away from burning everything down, but I am trying to be better. However, your words and channel bring me comfort and I hope that one day I can be as reflective and forgiving as you. Sorry if my comments seems to just ramble but I just had to say how much your words touched me and how I cried as I watched this video. Thank you so much for sharing with us and taking the time to encourage us. You have no idea how much I appreciate your content.
I love watching your videos. As with all the cleaning/decluttering/50's style channels that I watch, you dont make me feel guilty about my house, but rather inspired to get started. You feel like an old friend by now. That is probably why everytime I see something strawberry in the thrift store, I think of you.
I appreciated you validating us homemakers whose hard work often is silent and thankless. I feel that way everyday and it’s nice to hear that❤
I love your videos because as someone who is also neurodivergent and suffers from an anxiety disorder (most people with neurodivergence does) these are really helpful when it comes to cleaning and for helping me not feel so stressed that my house isn’t perfect! Thank you for sharing your life with all of us!!
I find the less clutter you have the easier it is to tidy. I have my energy in the morning and do all my cleaning right off the bat.
This makes me want to clean & not feel overwhelmed by it. Also, as a cat lover, I absolutely love seeing your cute kitties! 😊
35 years ago I nursed an elderly German lady who told me the secret to having a constantly clean, tidy home was to TOTALLY clean one room each day. This included wiping down doors, walls and windows etc and tidying cupboards and wardrobes. After that she went on to cooking and washing etc. The next day she would totally clean a different room. I wish I had taken that advice on board! Ignore the nay-sayers, you're doing a wonderful job. I only had two children and found it overwelming. Thank you for sharing this video. Lots of love to you and your family. P. S. I love Dean Martin too! Love yourself for the great job you do 💕💖🌹🌹
I do hate when people say “oh, you just stay home” when They find out I’m a homemaker. If they only knew the amount of work and effort goes into it. I also homeschool our 5 children. I don’t get to clock out at the end of my workday. I enjoy my job here at home, I chose it, but it’s hard when people assume I just get to hang out all day.
I love your house. It's comfy and homely. My 2 grandmothers were very different. One was more closer to minimalist the other had stuff. The one with the house full of stuff was the one who's house felt like home. It felt comfy. It was the one the kids ran around in. As a kid I loved going through Grandmas china and looking at the designs on the plates. Sitting under her antique table and running my hands over the nobbly legs. My other grandmother we had to sit. Even as kids. Give me a house with stuff any day. It tells the story of the persons life. It's fun to look at if your a visitor and it can start a conversation
In the years we were cosleeping, I never thought I’d miss it like I do! But that got me in the feels 🥰 I was planning to clean tomorrow - I’ll try your method! I’m also a mom of 5 with a spicy brain. If I clean as I go, I’m literally a crazy person by the end of the day, and I truly spend all energy and creativity cleaning. I never reach homeostasis. I really appreciate your cleaning and home management videos! I used to follow several creators for these topics, but I find yours the most relatable yet helpful
I love cosleeping so much, I'm really going to miss it when my last baby is done!
“Spicy brain” is a great description 😊
I really loved your commentary on women's free choice here 💖 I'm not a mom, and I ended up here because I love your kitchen, stayed for the ADHD relatability. There is a lot in this video I can really relate to and it really made me pause, thinking about the relationship between mess and shame, all this especially as a disabled person who finds it SO HARD to clean. Thank you for the motivation and honesty
Your videos are a godsend. Three years ago, over the span of about six months, I lost my health, moved, got demoted, the love of my life passed, and then lost my job. Needles to say, I'm still recovering. My babies are all grown, but your videos help me to recall my own childrearing years and the joy I found there, and help me to remember it's still worth making a house a home, filled with love and new meaning as I continue on. I thank you from the bottom of my heart. Please keep doing what you're doing. ❤️
I welled up a little watching this. I believe I have ADHD (undiagnosed) I have five children at home and I feel so overwhelmed with the chaos all the time. Thank you so much for this video, I needed it. I feel like I can try and tackle the mess with this method now. Love and hugs x
You soothing voice was a lovely way to wake up to this monday morning - while watching the cat enjoy your newly cleaned table! lol! it doesnt matter how you do it coz youre keeping a healthy happy home for your children to grow, as well as enjoying the house as best as possible. Thankyou for sharing the routine that you enjoy the most.
You work so hard and I think with five kids you do a really good job. ❤
My takeaway from your wonderfully soothing video is to find what works for you and do it. I no longer have the health to clean all day, so I tend to clean as I go, except for the Kitchen. I love to clean the kitchen and make it clean and bright. This may have something to do with having some issues with OCD. I need to clean to have a calm mind. Your house is filled with love, and this is the most important thing.
I just want to say that I always watch your videos twice; once with video when they come out and later with just audio so I can really focus on what you’re saying because it’s so profound and comforting. When I’m done with the first trimester and feel well enough to clean again I’ll put this audio on and clean away. Thanks for all you do.
Me too
Youre doing a great job momma! Also, little babies sitting on the counter..be still my heart! I so miss that❤
🥲 my second and last is now a toddler and Always wants to get up there, I do love It...
I do not just like your videos, I love them :-) You are a most blessed and wise young woman with a loving and lovely family and a beautiful home.
I love how you brought the Proverbs 31 woman. She did work! Her family called her blessed. I was a stay at home mom for most of my kids lives. I always found ways to contribute, whether that was evening cleaning jobs or evening retail work or I just plain worked at saving money so that my husband’s income was enough. We struggled financially a lot but it was very worth it! I will never regret my choices. I now how 3 grown daughters who are well adjusted and I have great relationships with. ❤ You’re are doing awesome!
Well said about the Proverbs 31 wife. Many seem to misunderstand traditional in this regard, especially as of late and with what’s trending. I had been planning on sharing such things too. To me, cleaning as I go means while I’m in the space, I keep my feet planted and take care of cleaning up the mess I’m making as I’m creating. Dinner for instance will be cooking and then I wipe up my mess and do the few dishes I made before leaving the space or room. Of course never leaving a room empty handed helps me to not waste a trip I’m making anyway. You do a great job as a mom of 5 no matter your method and you certainly have a lovely, curated aesthetic that’s uniquely you🌹
Thank you Nikki! I always love your cleaning videos, they are among my favorites and you’ve been so encouraging to watch as you share how you organize and care for your home!
I still love your stove/oven it's sooooo you and fits the personality you've given your home perfectly!
I’ve been watching you for years, but I never comment. I’ve seen you through 2 pregnancies, maybe 3 lol .. I have watched you grow SO much & I LOVE your videos. Your home has become so warm, vintage, loving & just what it is, a home. I’m glad you stuck with the strawberries in your kitchen! Loving your head wrap in this video. Thank you for your time & I’m always looking forward to the next! 🩷🌹✨
I'm so late watching this video because life has been overwhelming lately, but I really really needed this video today. I struggle with perfectionism and neurodivergencies as well as physical disabilities, and so many homemaking, SAHM and vintage channels are so disheartening because of their "perfect" always spotless aesthetic homes, I NEED beautiful REAL homes and people and I love you so much for being that. Thank you 🖤🖤
Hello. I am a 67 yr old granny in NE Texas. I found you today as i am getting over first spell of vertigo and having so many scans and tests done in hospital to find most likely caused my inner ear problem, so thankful all the major organs that could cause vertigo are not the cause. Back to reason i wanted to comment.. i have mad(awesome) respect for you and how you and hubby are living your life. I only have 1 grown son and 4 grandchildren. My son used to ask me when he was young what would i do if i had more children, i told him i probably would be baldheaded from pulling my hair out. I was a working single mom our whole lives he was growing up. So my hat is off to you, your doing a fantastic life. I also came to realize my limitations in doing it all could not be perfect but i would get to those other things i wanted to get done in the home when i was more able and time permitted. Loving and caring for your family is the most important at the end of the day. My favorite style for women was the 1930's. Your a lovely young woman and thank you for sharing. I am sure your posts will help other young women in their lives in some way. Good luck with your writing of novels. God Bless you and yours.
I am fairly new to your channel and I love your way of getting things done! When my three girls were young (they are now 50, 46, and 40) my house was never 15 minutes away from tidy! I love how you show the reality of living in a home. I am also in the process of hushing some rooms.
Love to you and yours from Texas ♥️🙏
I love your channel! It reminds me of growing up in the 60s/70s. My mom used to have each of us (6 total) help her with dishes on different days so she could talk to us individually and find out about our day or what’s was going on in our life. Dishes took as long as the conversation lasted…. I cherish those days in my memory. Love from Tucson, Az💕
Reading to the cat...how adorable is that? So sweet.
I love your neurodivergent cleaning tips. They help me so much. It's been a really long journey for me attempting to get through the shame and trauma I have around cleaning, but your videos remind me that I'm not alone and I shouldn't feel ashamed about my apartment not being picture perfect. Thank you so much ❤
Sometimes I feel like I'm not making "good enough" progress because I just don't keep house like most people, but comments like yours remind me, also, that I'm not alone and that a homemaking journey is different for everyone. Thank you for being here!
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I was reading a book and it was very helpful, it’s called cleaning at the speed of life, it’s not just a cleaning book but a decluttering book too, she talked about how she would have to do layers of cleaning. Like she had to first go through piles of stuff and put it back in the right places, than go through piles of mail that needed sorting keep/trash etc. than she would finally get to cleaning after those things. She goes through how prioritizing what’s most important is key, balancing clutter along with family things etc.
I had a home like yours, filled to the brim with things, cute things, memory keepers, pictures, an over abundance of clothing (some never worn or not worn in years). I say this all not to be negative but I had no idea the decluttering would drastically cut down my cleaning time and create more time for family. At the end of the day clutter isn’t necessary to have but your family and time with them is.
If you de cluttered 50% of your things you would see how amazing it is to let go of things and it’s very freeing, you also have way more time with your family.
Thank you. I just ordered that book.
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Hope you enjoy it! It was super helpful for me.
@@HarmoniousHome I got it!! Ready to get hauling
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Good luck ☺️ 🧹 📦 🧼 🪣
Thank you so much, i recently found out i have adhd and it’s so comforting to see that i am not alone in being overwhelmed sometimes. I love the realness of the video too. Thank you lovely human♥️
Memories of small children and the constant need to pick up after them. You are so wonderful with your kids! And good for you for being available for your children. So special!
As someone who has similar struggles with cleaning, thank you for the encouragement and honesty, and I had never thought of my brain being like “If You Give a Mouse a Cookie”, but that’s exactly what it’s like. The one room at a time is the ONLY thing that has remotely worked for me. I also have five kids, so yes, some mess is unavoidable. 😂
My husband is from a family of 10 children and I am from one of eight children. The messes in your home look so familiar. Children are mess generators and cleaning is a daily ongoing process. But both of our mothers worked hard to maintain a reasonably clean home. And as we got older they taught us how to do chores. I see that your children are still little and you and your husband are bearing the bulk of the burden. As time goes on I am sure you will do just as our parents (and we) have done and they will share that burden with you. Raising and loving your children is obviously your priority and I believe when you look back like I do, after 50 years of marriage and raising our three children, you and your husband will enjoy the fruit of all your hard work. My father once said, “ Raising a family is the hardest vocation on earth but it is also the most rewarding.” I too chose to stay home to raise our children but always did work that brought in money as I could but that was not my priority. I would always say that we were raising a family and not a bank account.🙂. And God always made a way for us just as I see he is doing for you with this channel. Love and prayers🙏❤️
I have a bin or space that I put things that I don't want or think I don't need. It stays for a year, and if I don't go get it in that year, then I truly don't need it, and off it goes to a homeless shelter or a local store. Love your channel. You keep it so real, thank you.
As a adhd mom of a special needs Son keeping up with cleaning its so hard.
This video helped me a lot. Thank you
Today I started watching you from Russia and I want you to know that your videos give such unusually warm and peaceful vibe that I couldn’t help watching several of your videos at a time😊❤. Thanks a lot for your work❤
As with all your other cleaning videos, I appreciate how real you keep things and how honest you are about things you struggle with. I so enjoy seeing you go through all the tasks one by one. It’s incredibly satisfying and relaxing and I’m always inspired to get on top of things I’ve let go for a bit.
I am a huge believer in doing what works for you rather than a more rigid one-size-fits-all approach. We are all different and there is more than one way to keep house. The goal is to have a clean home (as much as is possible with a busy life and little ones) that is a safe, comfortable, and happy place for your family. It’s an ongoing process not a one time fix. There will always be times when we need to do a reset, right? That’s life.
I was interested in what you said about not cleaning as you go. I can totally see how that makes sense for you and especially like the analogy of If You Give a Mouse a Cookie. I definitely understand where you are coming from.
The only thing I slightly differ on…mostly because of my anxiety…is that I always dealt with clutter throughout the day. Not the cleaning part so much, just the “actioning” of items that I could see were starting to pile up. This is not judgement at all. The piling up of things more than the cleaning aspect is what would overwhelm me and send my anxiety through the roof. My brain could deal more with doing large cleaning tasks all at once more than seeing stuff accumulating on what I always called “catch all” areas.
Please don’t think I treated my house like a museum, though. I definitely wasn’t that strict about everyday items being left out which were actually being used like a few kids toys, a cup of tea, a project in progress, or a book someone was reading.
Anyway, please keep making content like this. It’s so enjoyable to watch and I truly think it helps people.
Ah, yes, the getting down and crawling around on the floor... I remember those days, lol. It saved so much energy. I still do it occasionally. It's just harder to get up from the floor now at my age, lol. I used to sit and put my sons' toys back together, piece by piece. 😅
This video was SPECTACULAR!! I struggle with cleaning so badly, as I do with so many other things that require focus. Your advice is balanced and realistic and your personal experiences are appreciated. Thank you!!
My house is never "15 minutes away from tidy" and it never was as a child either. It was never spotless, but it was always clean but lived in. There are spaces of chaos in our house now, but they are so much less with no kids around. My husband wants perfect, but I work FT as an RN, and I don't have the energy on my days off to clean all day. I've been repeating "mess is morally neutral" since you said it. Another bonus for watching you! I feel so much more relaxed after watching this video and listening to your peaceful voice. Thank you!
This video is gold. I struggle hard with CPTSD and am currently working through healing, those video speaks to my retrovibe, the orphan inside that doesn’t know how the heck to live, and the quiet calm that is so needed since I am really overstimulated by my mental health journey. I’ve been a longtime subscriber…..
I just love this video and will be rewatching/listening as it feels like I have you encouraging me while I do stuff along side you❤️❤️❤️❤️
I always appreciate your tidying videos. As a fellow adhd mom, they mean a lot ❤
There is not a "right" or "wrong" way of cleaning. I was recently listening to someone struggling in cleaning, and they were told something that changed their whole perspective on cleaning.
They were going through a tough mental health period and was upset because because the dishes were piling up. They didn't have the energy to rinse/scrub the dishes before putting them in the dishwasher. The advice was to run the DW twice. This blew their mind. As if you are allowed to run the machine twice!
Cleaning is different for everyone, because we are all different. Not just out brains but also our family dynamics and how a home functions for each of us. I can't tell you how many time i have had to rewash clothes in the washer because i forgot about them. Or I dress for a week from the clothes in the drier.
Maybe it's just while you are filming, but i have never seen your TV on entertaining your kids while you clean - not that it's a bad thing, sometimes we just need an hour or so. Books are always part of the clean-up, so they are often read. But what really stood out is that your family sat down at the dinner table to eat together. That, my friend, is winning!
This video - and your entire channel, really - is *very* refreshing and relaxing to me. The Pinterest-Perfect homes we see all over social media are exhausting and sometimes shame-inducing, so seeing a real, normal person in their real normal person home is an absolutely welcome change. Thanks for sharing! (Also I am so envious of your dress collection! How pretty!!)
Your videos always come at the perfect time for me!!!! As I sit nursing my 5th baby, I look around my home and feel overwhelmed by the mess- it looks like a bomb went off in each room! I feel a little frozen, desperate, and overwhelmed to the point where I am not motivated to begin.
Your method of taking everything in bite-sized chunks makes SO much sense to my brain. I love watching you clean. I love seeing your baby snuggling you, and your proud, purring momma kitty with her kittens 🥹
You are my favorite channel on RUclips. You are so real, so kind and compassionate, and I love your vintage lifestyle. It was so special to hear you talk a little about your faith. ❤
As I sit in the rocking chair with my 4 month old baby, I feel a renewed sense of “I can do this”, like Lady Galadriel lifting me up to my feet, and I know I can take on something today and get it done to help bring a sense of calm and cleanliness to my home. ❤
Oh my goodness- I am going to try that method of “hushing” a room!! I’ve followed Dawn the Minimal Mom for a few years but hadn’t watched her videos about this. I’m really struggling with my 2 kids rooms. The bedrooms 👏🏻 cannot 👏🏻 stay 👏🏻 clean, no matter how often I go in to deep clean. It’s not fair to my kids that their area of sleep is a tornado. I am going to spend the next few days trying this method out, it was in the back of my mind but I didn’t know how to go about it. Thank you. ❤❤
I always look forward to your videos as you create such a welcoming, calm and thoughtful experience. I'm a single person living in a small space and I have learned so much from you, though our life circumstances are quite different. Thank you for creating and sharing your wisdom. I clean along with you - you are such an encouragement!
I just found your videos, I really enjoyed your video!! I'm retired and I still have a hard time cleaning, I have a bad back, I was so blessed to stay at home with my 2 daughters and son until they all started school. Then I went to work and believe me I really had a hard time keeping up with my house , but we all survived, and my kids help ! I'm now so blessed with 9 grandchildren!! God is so good!! Thanks for sharing! God Bless You All ❤❤❤❤
I’m watching this again and it’s just so many levels of wonderful.
I also now realize my own doom pile system. It has opened my eyes.
This is what I wish I had grown up with. I can't look at strawberries without thinking about you and your lovely channel. You're my favorite. Thank you for putting in so much effort. God bless you and your family.
You are such a wonderful person and mother. Hugs to all your efforts and the genuine atmosphere which comes through your honesty.
This was a great watch and good time spent. Your footage,voice,and music are relaxing and make me feel welcome. Thank you for your authenticity and experience driven wisdom. I feel hopeful that I will have a better approach and mindset toward home management. Having license to not associate shame is powerful. Thank you again-I appreciate you so much!
Kristina I LOVE your home! It is perfectly imperfect! Older homes have so much character …I too have an older perfectly imperfect home…I think it’s fun…I make little changes here and there and make it my own style..which of course is 1930 and 40’s…I love that era too…love to go to yard sells and junk stores and make my own things as well. What a beautiful family and life..I can feel the love that you have in your home. You are an amazing Woman in all ways❤
28:34 I love that you say this about it taking months/years to get through a process. Sometimes I get so stuck in wanting instant gratification that I won’t even start doing something that needs to be done because I know it can’t be rushed through.
Kristina, thank you for being so frank and open about this. I also have a lot of emotions wrapped up in cleaning and organizing, and it is so refreshing to see someone who has the same struggles as me. I have also started doing a cleaning routine that is similar to yours, and it is so helpful! I find you so relatable! And I want to hear more about your book when you're ready to share!
I'll be chatting about my book again soon! Thank you so much for asking and remembering!
I’ve been a long time watcher but don’t usually comment. I love your channel and especially enjoy seeing your happy healthy family! I’m 63 so no littles at home but your cleaning routines keep me focused. Thank you!
Kristina, I am in complete AWE of how you are raisins FIVE children! With ADHD too! My executive dysfunction and sensory overwhelm are already so clear with one. I'm too old to have a big family now anyway, but I honestly don't think I could manage. So your house gets messy 🤷♀ You have a beautiful family, and beautiful home! ❤
I never replied to your kind answer to my comment a few months ago, I was too overwhelmed at the time, but it was really appreciated and helped me a lot to shift my mindset towards finding what works for me and my baby. Thank you! :)
Now, where do I get a self-cleaning baby? (Also, those kitty trills are too sweet!)
You were on my for you page and I'm in awe! I have ADHD and I've struggled so much trying to stay organized. Thank you for your content!! "This is not a magazine, it's a home" really hit it for me.😭
I’m so glad it resonated! That’s my goal with this channel 🩷🩷🩷
Thank you, Kristina. I am in a similar situation in my life...your videos always make me feel better. It's so nice seeing content I can actually relate to. God bless you and I hope you have a nice week.
Oh my goodness!!! My mom and I used to clean house and play Dean Martin albums in the late 60's. The one you showed was my very favorite! Thank you for sharing your life with us. It takes me back to a simpler way of living, in this chaotic world today.
There’s nothing better than Dean Martin playing in the background!
Cleaning up with kids. Is like clearing snow. You kids are happy,mess is what they do. Love your videos x
Your amazing at what you can get done with 5 children and pets...Bless You!
Oh my, how lovely. Your home looks so warm and loved. God bless you and your family.🙏🏼❤️🙏🏼
Hallo from Sweden! 🇸🇪🇸🇪🇸🇪So fun! My name is also Kristina and I was also diagnosed with ADHD, but a "little" later, at 55 years old. Me I am very much struggling with the cleaning part of all the household chores so thank you for this video and all your advises.
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Thank you for this video. I appreciate your words that my morals are not tied to the cleanliness of my house. I am a mother of 8. I work full time outside of the home. I suffer from ADHD. Recently, several of my children have commented the mess and clutter. Your words reassured me that I am doing my best and it is okay to not be picture perfect.
It sounds like you are doing a fantastic job, with all that you have on your plate!
WOW! I don't think I have ADHD, but my husband was in ill health for 7 years. He kept me running in all directions. So things got out of control. He was also a hoarder so the house is over full and he had storages. He passed 4 months ago. His son and I are still doing dump runs. I sat down this morning for a few minutes and turned on your video. During which I realized I had only put half the dishes in the rack away. So I got up and started the kitchen. You hit home when you were talking about how one things leads to another. I put the things that belonged somewhere else in a spot that I would take care of when I'm done. Thank You! My kitchen is so much better. This was my method of cleaning before the chaos of my husband. I know it will take some practice to get back where I was, but you have giving me the answer to getting back my sanity. I enjoy you so much! Thank You Again, things will be better for me, because of your insite.
I'm so very sorry for your loss. Take time to get back to yourself and give yourself grace...
Beautiful kittens
Love your videos ❤ so calming and authentic. It's the little things that create memories and that matter. It reminds me when I was a young mum. How I wish I could have those times again ❤
Messes are a part of life. You do a great job getting everything cleaned up. ❤
Your house is so lovely! Just watching your videos and seeing your beautiful home so full of life and color is like a little spot of sunshine in my day. Thank you for sharing these glimpses of your home.
Thank you so much for posting this video! I cannot explain how and why all it touched me, but I had a good cry I didn't realize I needed.
I hope you and your family have a wonderful rest of your week.
Not to take away from those women who do work, all mother’s are working mothers. I raised 5 kids and still support them through my commitment to my grandkids. I often feel like I don’t “contribute” like I used to and get kind of down about it sometimes. My husband is so awesome and reminds me that I’m in semi-retired (semi because I still do house work and cooking). While we never really retire from worrying and wishing for their happiness, we do retire from keeping them alive! I’m blessed with 12 grandchildren so I don’t really miss those “mom” days…life is beautiful. Thank you for sharing the story of the woman in the scriptures…work looks different for everyone!
I am also ADHD as well as severely Bipolar I. I had a mental break when my children were very small. I have worked my rear off getting healthier mentally. I have taken the reigns at church and organized a seminar focusing on mental health. We also have an ongoing emotional resiliency class! The support is there and if it isn’t create it! There are others in your community that struggle, even if it’s not evident!
Just keep going!
I walk through my home to put eyes on everything that needs be done and make a list. As I complete the task I cross it off of my list. There is something about crossing things off of a list that is so motivating. I have a basket that I carry with me to put the things that need to be put away in another room and put them away as I get to that room so I’m not walking back and forth and getting distracted. I also make sure that I start the things that don’t need my constant attention to get done before I do anything, such as start a load of laundry or the dishwasher so they can be working while I’m working.
Do whatever works, for you personally, and family. Your family is adorable. ❤
Really love the retro, cozy, lived-in vibe of your home
Just found Your channel today ❤ it. I like the fact that You are letting Your kids be kids. I need to practice alot of Your tips Thank You.
Your house is lovely! I am glad you have stuck with it and figured out what works for you!
Your videos, both here and on what you share on insta, have increasingly become like a soothing balm as I navigate learning how to manage a household and also battle inner struggles. They are in equal measures inspiring and intensely comforting and cosy. Thank you Kristina, I truly appreciate you sharing your work and creativity.
I (more than likely) have adhd too. My sister has it, my cousin has it, etc. I have long struggled to get a cleaning routine. I clean in phases - once I start, I have to get all of it done cause once I sit down I'm not starting again. It doesn't all get done, like dusting, but I get a lot done and that makes me feel good. Thanks for posting this, it helps a lot. I too have attached a lot of shame to not being able to keep up with a cleaning routine.
Yes! To all your thoughts on your role in your family and the full value of a Prov 31 woman! Absolutely❤️
I love that your videos have entered my lists. You have taught me a lot. Thanks