Congrats! Q for the q&a: 1) why did u switch jobs - better compensation, fondness for the mission, wanted a new challenge, boredom? 2) do u think ur berkeley degree helped you get a job? 3) does the major of your paralegal coworkers vary or are they all legal studies? (I would like to this when I graduate but I’m not a legal studies major; I’m pol sci)
Hi Harold, thank you! For your third question, I would say that majors/pathways do differ! Some people at my old firm who are around my age majored in Poli Sci, Economics, International Relations etc, so your major of Political Science would be a good fit! This website talks some about popular majors for law school, where Poli Sci is listed - www.publicservicedegrees.org/resources/best-pre-law-majors/#:~:text=Top%208%20Majors%20for%20Future%20Law%20Students%201,Economics%20...%207%20Philosophy%20...%208%20Sociology%20
I found out that no one ever gives the real reason why they left a job and that there are 6 acceptable reasons for leaving a job. The ones that I would always use were school and a long traveling distance. I would tell the old boss that the new job was located right by where I live or that I was planning on taking extra classes in school. The old boss would have absolutely no idea that they were the real reason why I was leaving. I just viewed it as being polite or a making classy exit.
I’m located in California. I was a poli sci major in college and spent 12 months getting a paralegal certificate. While in school, I worked at a small law firm gaining experience then went in house at a corporation after receiving my certificate
I feel like I could make a whole video on this topic! They really do not prepare you for the mundane-ness of post-grad life. In high school and college, you are always working towards some goal, now in a full-time job, sure, there are still goals to strive for, but there is no time limit like 4 years of college. Time is now a weird concept to grapple with haha!
@@rachel_lin Hi Rachel, I would love to see your video on this topic. What are the differences between the adult world vs. college life? There are at least two major differences that distinguish adult and college life. I will share my opinion after you offer your opinion.
@@rachel_lin The major difference between college life verses post-college life is the acceleration of the “intimacy vs isolation” phase of life. During this phase of early adulthood, people are faced with the challenge of engaging in close/intimate relationships with friends and developing romantic relationships verses isolating you themselves away from these intimate relationships. Intimacy can include going to social events like concerts, book readings, regularly meeting with other people and connecting on a deep emotional level such as talking about your successes, struggles and failures. On the other hand, a person who is stuck in isolation will include either preferring to participate in events by themselves or having a strong desire to develop intimate relationships but lack the courage to develop these relationships. A person can be stuck in isolation because they don’t trust relationship because of past hurts, rejections, humiliations and shaming by parents and other close family members.
The isolation can be increased by the fact that this former college student is no longer surrounded by the thousands of people who visit their college campus on a daily basis. Unfortunately, the majority of people who inhabit the daily life of a young adult can mostly consist of coworkers, not friends who share common interest. Hence, life for the new college graduate, who is isolated, can be mundane, unsatisfying and filled with an unrequited longing for relationships that are safe, satisfying and exciting.
So, this is my opinion about the major difference been college life vs post-college life. What is your opinion about this difference??
@@a.m.6847 I really like your analysis here! Is the intimacy vs isolation phase something you thought of or something from a class like Psychology? I think your comments really summarize some of the ideas I am feeling! Gotta really sit down and think about my thoughts on this topic for a video.
@@rachel_lin Hello Rachel, I obtained this information about the “intimacy vs isolation” concept from a developmental psychologist named Dr. Erik Erikson. He created a concept known as the Eight Stages of Psychosocial Development, which describes the stages of life that a person experiences. If you are a recent college graduate, you are leaving the fifth stage of identity vs role confusion and entering the sixth stage named intimacy vs isolation. A short description of this stage is as follows: During the intimacy vs isolation stage, we begin to share ourselves more intimately with others. We explore relationships leading toward longer-term commitments with someone other than a family member. We move away from the family and towards other relationships. Successful completion of this stage can result in happy relationships and a sense of commitment, safety, and care within a relationship. Avoiding intimacy, fearing commitment and relationships can lead to isolation, loneliness, and sometimes depression. Since depression is about losing something very important to us, we can feel depressed because we have loss a vital part of our lives, (i.e. romantic relationship). Sometimes we can fear relationships because we grew up in a home that sent the following messages: “We don’t emotionally connect with other people….we will only connect with you when you perform at a perfect level….I won’t connect with people because I will be hurt, rejected and humiliated.” Childhood abuse and neglect can also impair our ability to connect. Success in this stage will lead to the virtue of love. As I previous stated, intimacy is really about our ability to bond/connect with other people and share our deepest thoughts, dreams, fears and “painful secrets.” As a result of connecting and sharing, we receive the receive love, “healthy” critiquing, support and healing from these painful secrets. The developmental goal of intimacy is love, to feel loved and to be loved. It is this love that fills up our “emotional fuel tanks” and enables us to successfully drive down the bumpy and stressful road of life each day. So once again, what is your opinion?
Congrats! Q for the q&a: 1) why did u switch jobs - better compensation, fondness for the mission, wanted a new challenge, boredom? 2) do u think ur berkeley degree helped you get a job? 3) does the major of your paralegal coworkers vary or are they all legal studies? (I would like to this when I graduate but I’m not a legal studies major; I’m pol sci)
Hi Harold, thank you! For your third question, I would say that majors/pathways do differ! Some people at my old firm who are around my age majored in Poli Sci, Economics, International Relations etc, so your major of Political Science would be a good fit!
This website talks some about popular majors for law school, where Poli Sci is listed - www.publicservicedegrees.org/resources/best-pre-law-majors/#:~:text=Top%208%20Majors%20for%20Future%20Law%20Students%201,Economics%20...%207%20Philosophy%20...%208%20Sociology%20
I found out that no one ever gives the real reason why they left a job and that there are 6 acceptable reasons for leaving a job. The ones that I would always use were school and a long traveling distance. I would tell the old boss that the new job was located right by where I live or that I was planning on taking extra classes in school. The old boss would have absolutely no idea that they were the real reason why I was leaving. I just viewed it as being polite or a making classy exit.
I’m located in California. I was a poli sci major in college and spent 12 months getting a paralegal certificate. While in school, I worked at a small law firm gaining experience then went in house at a corporation after receiving my certificate
80 degrees in phoenix this morning! Highs today 103! I just need it colder
Hot day! I have been loving the 60 degree weather in MD 🤩
So how do you like "adult" life vs college life?
I feel like I could make a whole video on this topic! They really do not prepare you for the mundane-ness of post-grad life. In high school and college, you are always working towards some goal, now in a full-time job, sure, there are still goals to strive for, but there is no time limit like 4 years of college. Time is now a weird concept to grapple with haha!
@@rachel_lin Hi Rachel, I would love to see your video on this topic. What are the differences between the adult world vs. college life? There are at least two major differences that distinguish adult and college life. I will share my opinion after you offer your opinion.
@@rachel_lin The major difference between college life verses post-college life is the acceleration of the “intimacy vs isolation” phase of life.
During this phase of early adulthood, people are faced with the challenge of engaging in close/intimate relationships with friends and developing romantic relationships verses isolating you themselves away from these intimate relationships.
Intimacy can include going to social events like concerts, book readings, regularly meeting with other people and connecting on a deep emotional level such as talking about your successes, struggles and failures.
On the other hand, a person who is stuck in isolation will include either preferring to participate in events by themselves or having a strong desire to develop intimate relationships but lack the courage to develop these relationships. A person can be stuck in isolation because they don’t trust relationship because of past hurts, rejections, humiliations and shaming by parents and other close family members.
The isolation can be increased by the fact that this former college student is no longer surrounded by the thousands of people who visit their college campus on a daily basis. Unfortunately, the majority of people who inhabit the daily life of a young adult can mostly consist of coworkers, not friends who share common interest.
Hence, life for the new college graduate, who is isolated, can be mundane, unsatisfying and filled with an unrequited longing for relationships that are safe, satisfying and exciting.
So, this is my opinion about the major difference been college life vs post-college life. What is your opinion about this difference??
@@a.m.6847 I really like your analysis here! Is the intimacy vs isolation phase something you thought of or something from a class like Psychology? I think your comments really summarize some of the ideas I am feeling! Gotta really sit down and think about my thoughts on this topic for a video.
@@rachel_lin Hello Rachel,
I obtained this information about the “intimacy vs isolation” concept from a developmental psychologist named Dr. Erik Erikson. He created a concept known as the Eight Stages of Psychosocial Development, which describes the stages of life that a person experiences. If you are a recent college graduate, you are leaving the fifth stage of identity vs role confusion and entering the sixth stage named intimacy vs isolation. A short description of this stage is as follows:
During the intimacy vs isolation stage, we begin to share ourselves more intimately with others. We explore relationships leading toward longer-term commitments with someone other than a family member. We move away from the family and towards other relationships. Successful completion of this stage can result in happy relationships and a sense of commitment, safety, and care within a relationship. Avoiding intimacy, fearing commitment and relationships can lead to isolation, loneliness, and sometimes depression. Since depression is about losing something very important to us, we can feel depressed because we have loss a vital part of our lives, (i.e. romantic relationship). Sometimes we can fear relationships because we grew up in a home that sent the following messages: “We don’t emotionally connect with other people….we will only connect with you when you perform at a perfect level….I won’t connect with people because I will be hurt, rejected and humiliated.” Childhood abuse and neglect can also impair our ability to connect.
Success in this stage will lead to the virtue of love. As I previous stated, intimacy is really about our ability to bond/connect with other people and share our deepest thoughts, dreams, fears and “painful secrets.” As a result of connecting and sharing, we receive the receive love, “healthy” critiquing, support and healing from these painful secrets. The developmental goal of intimacy is love, to feel loved and to be loved. It is this love that fills up our “emotional fuel tanks” and enables us to successfully drive down the bumpy and stressful road of life each day. So once again, what is your opinion?
Hi Rachel
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