Something about the reasoning of “tattoos shouldn’t be mainstream and need to have a ✨deep meaning✨ because my relative got one in the military” has similar vibes to “you’re not allowed to feel this way because somebody has it better/worse than you”. I can’t explain it but they have VERY similar levels of ick; other people’s lives and experiences should NEVER dictate the validity of your own.
Exactly. I've been feeling bad about my tattoos because they don't "have meaning". Truth is, all my tattoos mean a lot to me because I've been thru a lot of trauma and it shows that I've overcome a lot. It makes me feel pretty and confident. It makes me feel happy when people notice and compliment my art. I really do work hard for what I get done. Even if it's a silly inside joke tattoo, it probably means something to someone.
Having tattoos actually makes you more qualified for a job because of the fact that you can sit still for hours while a needle is being rapidly poked into your skin. That's how almost every encounter with a customer has felt like for me.
IDK I can take a needle being rapidly poked into my skin for hours while I'm still af than a mean customer. I can take physical pain a lot better than emotional pain lmfao
The 'nipple piercing' parents sound like the type to think normal teenage behavior is 'rebelling' the level of controlling vibes I got were pretty significant even in written form. Those parents are a-holes 'if I can't dictate your every move, I'll make you homeless.' like wtf?!
Yeah, I get the vibe of an ultra conservative Fundy type situation. With the belief that children don't have any rights (especially girls) and don't have the expectation of privacy in the shower
My exes family found his copy of bizarre magazine, in his CLOSED backpack with no reason to open it, and literally said they’ll kick him out if he brings “that filth” into the house again…. I used to read it on the sofa next to my mum and she’d read it too as while she was very much not into anything personally other than the music often featured, she was always fascinated by the strange ways people find enjoyment and was never judgmental about it other than expressing yup, that is pretty bizarre but as long as they aren’t hurting anyone that isn’t consenting it was just interesting to her to read about. The (very common) irony is, he’s now an @busive 50 shade’s style c u next Tuesday who literally stole medicine from his pharmacy job just in case he needed to “end someone’s pregnancy” without consent and is a raging cheater, meanwhile I’m in a happy monogamous committed relationship and looking to start a loving family. What they thought my tattooed,pierced, from the ghetto self was, is their own son in part due to their high expectation, low trust, conservative Christian sheltered life, yet my liberal leftie biker parents who helped and guided me but were never super strict have the child in law and hopefully soon to be grandchild they wanted,but never pressured me in to. Tldr strict parents often make THE WORST kids…
I can't imagine a parent kicking a child out over something as trivial as a piercing. My daughter's style looks exactly like Luxuria except she has piercings like Rolly. Do I miss her natural look? Yes. Did I drive her to the piercing salon? Yes.
the whole argument of "these piercings are okay because *I* think they are pretty. These ones are not okay because *I* think they're ugly." is the most insane thing that so many people still believe is an acceptable thing to say. Imagine telling someone they weren't allowed to wear a T-Shirt, because you thought it didn't look as good as a buton up
The craziest part to me is that it's on her nipple. Like, you're upset cause you don't think your daughter's breasts are pretty???? This is seriously breaking my brain a little bit 😭😭
the parents who kicked their daughter out over her piercings reminds me a lot of my parents. In the sense that: the daughter -could- be rebelling, but it's also just as likely that she's just doing the things that she likes now that she is capable of making those decisions on her own. And because the parents are so used to having control and dislike these choices, they must be teenage rebellion. Pretty much anything that I enjoyed that made my parents uncomfortable was labeled "rebellion" and was a reason to treat me like I was far less thoughtful and intelligent than they knew I was.
The 16yo who was outted by his uncle, I have complete empathy for him. I was 15 when my family found out, and they had the EXACT same response. I hope he knows; he'll survive this and be ok. It's the family who will miss out in the long run if they don't find it within themselves to learn tolerance and acceptance. He is after all, the same person they loved before they knew.
Thank you for highlighting the fact that if someone isn't comfortable talking about their disability, they shouldn't have to. My disability is very visible, so I don't have similar issues, but I know people with invisible disabilities who have these struggles.
This. I am visually impaired. I have adapted to the point most ties you can't tell. I do trip on air hough. So yeag the thought od using a cane to help has crossed my mind. As soon as some people see a cane though they assume you can't see anything. God forbid you use a phone while using a cane around some people. It is not an easy topic to discuss for the visually impaired community. It is sad to think a lot won't use a cane because of what othres think and feel like they would have to constantly eplain themselves.
My father was against tattoos, especially anyone female getting them. I told him I wanted to get a tattoo and he said I could only do it after he died. I did wait, and I got the exact one I talked about with him as a memorial. 😈
That is verbatim what my dad said about tattoos omggg😅 he is alive thankfully, but I got 3 small ones in one go this year, he has yet to see the 3rd tho 👀
Telling your daughter that her nip piercings are "ugly" and that's why you disapprove has got to be the CREEPIEST reason to hate a piercing. Either this guy was looking for an excuse to kick her out or he's effing CREEPY.
Aw that poor 16 year old. My youngest daughter doesn't want children, she's married and that's fine. I wish I could be his mom. I would accept you for you. You did not have to apologize. You did nothing wrong sweetheart. They should be apologizing for treating you the way they are.
i feel so sad about that 16 year old being outed by his uncle and being called disgusting . . . i can empathize, my self-entitled mother still expects me (i'm currently 30 year old woman, and this has been a thing since i came out in high school) to have a grandchild . . . i've never had interest in childbirth, let alone kids. :x
Piercings are not only accepted but are so benign that medical professionals have them. When I had to get a cortisone shot in my arm, the woman performing the procedure had a nose stud and more earrings than me. The older ladies at the reception desk all had nose studs. What century are these parents living in?
I came from a similar origin as you, Roly. Except my mom didn't give us up... but she should have. I was the eldest of four girls. I helped raise my sisters and my mom, essentially. I was abused in every way (one way by a friend of my mom's), while she abused us and various substances. I didn't think I was supposed to become pregnant because of the year long attacks I had endured from that friend of my mom's. So when I did at 18, I was surprised. This was after a solid year of being like a bunny with my fella (who I'm still with today! We met in 97.), and then one day... I had to go to the ER. Found out I had gallstones, because of hormone changes because I was pregnant. I absolutely did the best I could for my daughter, but my Bonus Mom had a home and a car, and could provide better for her. That, and after her birth, I was hit with Postpartum depression on top of my severe depression. I never had urges to hurt her... but because of my PTSD and other issues from growing up, I was afraid I was going to just do 'some thing' wrong and she'd be hurt as a result. Like losing sleep, hyper-paranoia levels. I wanted so badly to be a good mom. And so I was, by admitting I couldn't. I still feel like a failure about it sometimes though. She's a pretty good adult now though. She's been holding down a trying job in a nursing home for a few years now. She is engaged with a bloke from Australia that she will marry soon-ish. COVID set things back for them. She wants to move there with him. She hasn't always made the best choices... but I have always loved her. We've always had a relationship, and we actually have a fair bit in common. She might not always like how blunt I can be, but she has known I am here for her. I'm just still a bit feral, as I call myself. TLDR; I'm a fucked up person because my mom shouldn't have been a mom. I became a mom, and it fucked me up further for a bit. If you don't want to go through any sort of worries... Birth. Control. Make it your bestie. Even you guys.
I just want to say that you sound like the exact opposite of a bad mum! You did the very best thing you could for your child even at the expense of your own feelings because as a mother I can guarantee it hurt deeply to give her to someone else. You did an amazing and completely selfless thing and that shows how amazing you are as a parent ❤
@@Esmealice Thank you for thinking and saying so. She was with my Bonus Mom, so she wasn't far or out of reach. I sometimes have problems building attachments to people, so I was very much a work in progress a lot of her life. But, I still tried my best, and eventually found a therapist that really helped me to better understand myself, and to just be more mindful. That's really helped me grow as a person. I was in my mid 30s when I was finally becoming a better me, but I knew early on that I had issues. And always tried to work with/past them. It's never to late to do better, I think. And just because you were born in a cycle of abuse, doesn't mean you can't break it and do better. I may have been stern or growly at my daughter, and told her hard truths... But I never abused her physically. I never belittled her or called her any sort of bad name. I think my faults might have been exposing her to my potty mouth a bit in general, and again, sometimes I might have been a little to honest in conversations. But they were usually when I was concerned about things she was doing. Like sending things to boys with her cell phone that she shouldn't have. In many states, she, and maybe even Bonus Mom might have been charged with making and distribution of CP. I know a lot of kids are making this stupid mistake, but I didn't want her to be doing it. Once it's on the Internet... That's kinda it. So, I thought it was very important to lay out the why's what she was doing was wrong. I got chastised by her dad and his mom. I just wanted her to be safe. But, this is why after her, I also took steps to not be a surprise mom again. I got the Implanon/Nexplanon. Every three years. If there was one thing my mom did right... She taught me what not to do/be ( ◜‿◝ )♡
@@Dessamator if it makes you feel any better, my 4 year old has literally just copied a bad word that I said lol. It sounds like you have done everything in your power to protect your daughter. They say only good parents worry about being a bad parent. Keep going, it sounds like you are doing an amazing job
@@Esmealice But isn't it just the cutest when a little kid cusses? Or is that just me? (≧▽≦) Thank you again. I actually do feel a bit better. And here, I was trying to have maybe Roly feel less alone in his situation, and give advice to anyone who might need it (◍•ᴗ•◍)❤
I totally agree about people getting so weird about having or not having children. For example: My mother is SO adamant about me having children, specifically biological ones. Like putting aside the fact I don’t want to be pregnant (as of now) and I don’t particularly care if any potential child were biologically mine or not… Girl, you KNOW there isn’t gonna be an easy and cheap way for me to achieve that I’ve told you I’m gay a long time ago! Yet, whenever the topic comes up she acts like I’m stupid and naive.
My first tattoo is a lavender because my dog used to always take naps by our lavender plant in the backyard. It's a memorial for my best bud, and I plan on getting more tattoos to represent my family. I also plan on getting bees, for example, solely because they look nice and I like them. As long as it makes me happy, who cares? The first parent is wildly hypocritical and needs to do some self reflection.
That's such a nice tattoo/meaning! ❤ but ye also agree that tattoos don't HAVE to have special meanings - if you like something enough to want it on your body, then why not! I have a small random flash design of three flowers with stems as 'arms' and 'legs, holding 'hands' and running together - simply because it made me smile and it's cute 😌😆
Your story about being judged on the train by people who didn't see you do the right thing reminded me of an experience I had. My bf at the time and I were visiting his sister in LA and she took us to a pool party. We were in line for the bathrooms to change into our swim trunks and noticed an elderly woman standing nearby. When a bathroom opened, we offered it to her and she quietly said in somewhat broken english that she was just waiting for someone else, so my bf went in. While I waited, another woman lined up behind me. When the next bathroom opened, I started towards it, but the woman behind me started shouting that I should let the elderly lady go first. She wouldn't listen to either of us and just kept telling the older lady to go ahead until she did. The kicker is that when the next one opened up, she cut in line to take it before me. I wish I wasn't so non confrontational at the time. The things I wish I had said to her lol
Clearly suggesting abortion isn't black and white especially when the said person is a child themselves, but deadass imagine being remembered as the one family member that wanted a child in the family to go back to salamander state in the family reunion 💀
Oh Roly, that poor teenager that didn’t come out to the parents? That’s so heartbreaking! With a family like that, it’s no wonder they stayed silent. I also think a lot of adults must forget what high school was like. I was treated horribly, so unfortunately I can never forget. Every little thing has the biggest impact. And we’re not talking about a little thing here. If teens don’t feel unconditionally accepted, how are they supposed to come to you with the really important stuff? Parents need to be aware how they come across. They are often the ones who built the wall in the first place.
As a mother with tattooed kids I can’t believe how vile that mother’s attitude is. I want my kids to love their art, it’s a reflection of them!!! Even if I didn’t particularly like something I wouldn’t say so since it’s not about me. I have my own (:
40:00 Almost the exact same thing happened to me! People unfortunately often don't realise or believe that young people can also have a valid reason to use those seats... They're not "for the elderly", they're for people in need. I hate that young disabled people almost have to 'exaggerate' or 'show off' their disabilities in order for them to be treated properly :( Where I live, the trains even have signs hanging that say "not every disability is visible", but then people and the staff still treat you badly.
I fear the same situation with the person with a prosthetic leg. I'm blind, but you can't really tell just from looking at me. I prefer to sit at the front of a bus because I struggle to see stop numbers, and it's always a worry in the back of my mind that someone will confront me for a seat, not realising my eyes are messed up. Living with a mostly invisible disability (disability in general) is difficult.
Oh my gosh! As a woman who doesn’t want children, I can’t tell you how much I appreciated you talking about the issue surrounding this subject for anyone who doesn’t wish to give birth of have children. This is something that makes me feel like a failure every day, even though I know I’m not. To anyone who feels like me, women especially, you are more than a baby-making machine, more than just an appendage, love your life girls and gays, be you! Above everything! LIVE YOUR LIFE FOR YOURSELF❤❤
My MILindoctrinated my partner that he had to settle down and have children from a very young age. On our first date, i told him out right that I'm never ever having children. First thing, my MIL asked me when we met was about children. Fast forward 6 years to me getting my tube removed, FINALLY, my partner finally got the courage to tell his mother that he never wanted children and would have regretted having them. Fyi his sister gave her three grandchildren she's practically raising, because SIL can't. So yeah young children get told they have to have children
As a mum of 2 boys and 1 boy that really wants tattoos (I have them, so I'm not worried), all I said to him is never tattoo a name on you unless it's your children's name. I would NEVER get the same tattoo as my son to prove a point. That is just weird. That poor 16 year old lad. I would never call my son disgusting or that I'm disappointed in them.
Your tattoos look absolutely stunning!! I’m so over the moon as well, just completed my piercing journey! (Ears, septum, navel, snakebites) sending love to you🖤
The ableism one hits hard. I have an invisible disability and because I'm a young woman, people don't think that I do. But if I try to stand on a bus or train, I will feel awful and may faint or fall over. I feel so self conscious using a disabled seat because I know people will think I dont need it. There was a lovely bus driver once who saw that I could barely walk (I was using my cane that day, so it was more visible than other days) and no one would get up for me so the bus driver parked the bus, came back, and made some people get up. She did her best not to make me feel bad too, she just went up to the boys sitting there and said "these seats are reserved for the pregnant, disabled, and elderly" and stared them down until they got up so I could sit.
Ha! Yes the rant about not wanting children. As a women, who cannot have children the amount of times I get asked when I am going to have children and get judged for saying I’m not is rather annoying. However I do like the look on their faces when I say I am unable to have kids due to medical reasons.
This is why no one should EVER ask someone if they are going to have kids! If they’re childfree they may be just a bit grumpy at being asked, but they could desperately want a child and can’t have one, and you don’t know that. So I would NEVER ask anyone that!
The one with the prosthetic leg reminds me of a situation I witnessed on a bus. A young lad of about 15/16 was sitting quietly in the disabled section. A woman came on and immediately told the young man he needed to move because a "lady" should get priority seating. He didn't say anything, and didn't move. She kept banging on with her sexist rhetoric until finally he, silent as ever, pulled up his trouser leg, pulled off his prosthetic leg, and sat it right in front of her. The driver, who witnessed all of this via the mirror, pulled the bus over and ordered the woman (who turned out NOT to be disabled) off the bus. The young man put his leg back on, she left the bus only after threat of legal action by the transit driver, and the issue was over. No-one has x-ray vision. We should never assume someone is able bodied or healthy just because of how they look. There is enough b.s. and hatred in the world already. It will not kill any of us to just be kind and a little open minded.
It’s so validating to hear you say that nobody is entitled to grandchildren. I’m lucky my dad I I’ll be okay so long as I have a dog someday, but mum will take a bit longer to come around 😅
As a 17 year old female, my mom doesn’t mind my piercings at all, I have two nose piercings and my double lobes, and my belly button… my dad doesn’t know about my belly button (my mom does and just makes fun of me for it cause it’s “very 80s) we plan on not telling him for a long time 😂. My dad is conservative but very open minded. He’s come to terms with my sexuality and loves to go to drag shows with me even if he doesn’t really understand, but he thinks it’s fun. Someday I’ll tell him… after we get the matching tattoos on my 18th birthday 😂 he’s also not too fond of tattoos but he wants to get something meaningful with me, which I’m very thankful for
Re: the young mum - even if everything goes well in the relationship, things can go wrong. My cousin married her boyfriend after she got pregnant at 16, and they had 2 kids and were together for 20 years. And then he was suddenly found to have cancer and died within 6 months and her "extra income job" was all she had to live on. She's worked hard and made herself a career in the years since, but the adjustment was hard for her - even above losing her husband.
About the parents not being entitled to grandchildren thing, I have many health issues that are hereditary. They cause extreme chronic pain and fatigue. They're all incurable, only manageable. My doctor said I can't have children, that I'd have a high chance of dying. When I told my father, he got upset, not that it could kill me, but that I couldn't have a biological child. He later suggested a surrogate, but I said no, my condition is hereditary and I wouldn't want to take the risk. Then he suggested adoption, but I told him with the pain and fatigue I couldn't chase after a child. He's basically ignored everything I've said and is now deluding himself into thinking I'll give him a grandchild eventually. I'm not telling him I'm getting a tubal ligation, that's my business, not his. It's also worse now because my younger brother has a baby on the way...
That story of the girl with the prosthetic leg hit me personally, I don’t have a prosthetic but I’m very young looking at 35 and often people give me weird looks when in the priority seat or when losing my balance standing. I have arthritis pains often and major balance issues from coordination problems. Like I always need my cane for people to get the hint that I need a seat
I've had horrible times lately and you always cheer me up, I haven't had energy to comment in a long time but I just want to say that your videos are entertaining AND they have big impact on people. Wishing you all the best ❤️🧡💛💚🩵💙💜🩷🌈🌈🌈🌈🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈
I’m sorry you’ve been going through tough times, but hey, you’ve got this, you can get through these times. All bad things end, trust me 🩵 i believe in you 100% 🫂
@RolyWestYT I was 16 and got my first part time job to help pay for uni. My mums response was "if you're so grown up that you have a job, you can get out of my house and never come back". No talk about helping with bills or anything, just bye bye and off I went. Jokes on her though, got into uni, got a great job, got married, and had kids. She now begs to see my kids and to borrow money constantly
thinking of the guilt tripping around having children-- I work at a grocery store, and one of my huuuge pet peeves is children crying in public areas. occasionally, when customers complain or comment on the child screaming in the store, I'll make a joke about not wanting a kid; like "and that's why I don't want one!" or "I'm perfectly fine with my animals". the amount of men that have frowned at me and said "you'll change your mind" and "it'll happen one day, I used to think like that".... love the grossness and mysoginy.
my mental state is at an all time low at this time...but I am so lucky to be able to come to Roly's channel for comfort and laughs🥰 we appreciate you so much I mean I know I do❤
Well now the parent has to explain why they have that tattoo and what the significance is. 😂😂😂😂 There is none! They have become what they ridicule. Hah!
so happy you uploaded Roly! Also, jesus the reactions i've had from past colleagues when the topic of me never wanting children has come up - I totally agree with what you said about them possibly having to convince themselves it was the right thing for them. makes you feel so on the spot and awkward though 🙃
I had a similar thing happen to me at a bus stop. A middle-aged woman came up to me and told me that I need to get up and let her sit because her legs hurt from walking and I look young... I did get up and let her take my seat, but what she didn't know is a few months ago I broke my back in 2 places and had metal screws and plates put in my spine during a 4 hour surgery so walking and standing still hurts quite a lot... it's so frustrating people assume stuff about you 😒
@ilanarhian exactly. I'm 38 and almost ended up on a wheelchair. Doctors say it's a miracle I have feeling in my legs after my accident.. they compared the impact to a bad car crash.. It's the demanding tone that gets me. Anyone can have chronic pain or an invisible disability... but because you don't look it, people immediately assume you're just lazy...
It's so refreshing to hear so many stories that don't have clickbaity titles. I feel like so many are trying to mislead you for some reason, but with these you know where it's going from the start. it's nice, I like it.
I can't even imagine having parents so unaccepting that they'd kick me out for a piercing. I'm almost 26 and still live with them. Since I turned 18, they've had the attitude that I can do what I want, and the consequences are mine, but they'll support me if the consequences happen (well, most things they'll support me 😂)
I'll never understand why people want to dictate others choice in getting a tattoo. Not all of mine need to have meaning. But if they ask, it's apart of my healing journey after all the things I've overcome in life. I was able to cover up my self harm scars this year with a beautiful piece. I'm working on a JoJo's bizarre adventure patch work sleeve. Body modification is my way of coping and it's built up my confidence so much! I love how I look with my tattoos and piercings, and with my confidence I've met the most amazing boyfriend I could ever ask for. He doesn't have mods himself but loves how I look and supports my lifestyle. Also I'm so happy with how your sleeves are coming along! I see them on Instagram and I'm happy for you!
Hello beautiful Roly! So nice to see your smiling face! Seems like a lot of these stories are about parents being confused over how much control they have over their growing children. I have 3 grown babies and I can tell you that most parents have it backwards. When their kids are small, they’re less attentive on a certain level, probably bc the child challenges them less. But once the kid is a teenager and now the parents want to clamp down?? That’s when the young person should be taking on responsibilities, stretching their own wings, going out in the world n trying things(hopefully safe) while still having that solid base of nurturing to check in with, ask questions of, get wisdom from. Like Luxeria says, punishment breeds liars. Clamping down hard on your young adult kills emotional intimacy and separates a parent from their child. Momanddad? Chill. Let them go and learn for themselves (and kids? Pls pls don’t do anything too permanent too early)
the parents upset about the daughter getting piercings probably freak out abt normal teenage behavior. they kinda remind me of my mom who said i would get kicked out if i shaved my head (i think she doesnt want me shaving my head because then ill look like a boy but jokes on her i already get mistaken for a boy at work every day so haha mom)
A few weeks ago I had made a comment on someone’s video just saying something about me being 32 & personally not wanting to have children & literally within the minute it was posted, I had a lady grilling me about WHY I don’t like kids & WHY I have such a resentment towards “innocent sweet little babies”, etc. I was like….dude I simply just don’t want to have kids. Period. She literally took personal offense towards a single 32 year old RANDOM female NOT wanting to birth a litter of crotch fruit that I have to be responsible for for at least 18 years. Like lady, I can hardly keep just myself alive, relax. Lol
The story about the 18 year old getting married and having a child being a disappointment to her father because he “raised her to be independent and make their own choices” and then got upset because she literally lived her life the way she chose to and not live how he wanted her to…. 18 is legally an adult. Her child was wanted, her husband is clearly happy with her being a stay at home mum…. I don’t see what his problem is… seems like his feelings mean more to him than her happiness. Hate parents like that.
YES, I'd love for you to do more of these :) Also, I really appreciate you speaking up about ableism, because it happens A LOT and as someone who has a hidden disability (mental illness) and can't work, I've had several people from my family tell me that I'm "just lazy, attention seeking and want free money", which couldn't be further from the truth and there's definitely still quite a lot of stigma around hidden disabilities, whether it's a mental or physical disability.
I could never understand what it is with adults thinking/feeling entitled to control their children or grandchildrens bodies and what modifications they should or shouldn’t have done to their bodies , like it’s the weirdest thing to me ! My mom wasn’t a fan of piercings , by allowed my big sister to go and get my ears pierced when I was an infant who couldn’t consent to it or even know what was happening 😂.but she would never kick me out she all ways would say when your 15 we’ll talk once I told her I was interested in piercings, I got snake bites when I was 16 and then it was 17-18 you can go wild , but mostly she would use piercings as a reward for good grades and behavior so to motivate me to do good 🤷🏽♀️
Roly, I am in the same boat as you, almost. The only family I have left is my mother, but she lives far away in a nursing home with Alzheimer’s. So I’m already pretty much alone. I do have some anxiety about that. I wish I had the friendship circle and support you have found. That’s huge. ❤ Sending you hugs and love. 😊
God you’re so real with the Valentine’s thing. I get so annoyed at ALL the people with the “what about me!!!!!!!” effect. I’m aromantic, I never want to be in a relationship. But god I love Valentine’s Day. The world does not revolve around you.
My parents threatened to throw me out over my septum. My mother told me I looked like a cow and I screamed at her “FINE ILL BE A COW THEN” I will never understand why people react this way. I don’t tell them anymore when I get piercings because I don’t want to hear it anymore.
My bonus-son comes from a family like that. He couldn't tell anyone he is gay and when his parents found out, his mom didn't stop crying and his dad stopped talking to him. He hasn't seen him in almost 3 years. I am 48 and he is 20. I cannot have children and when i met him and learnt of his story, I just said "I am your mom now". People just suck. He is the most wonderful son any parent could dream of. Their loss.
I am currently on a Roly binge and I absolutely love you. ❤ I have been dealing with a lot of anxiety and stress and your amazing self and personality just immediately lifts my heart! Thank you for being you.
I discovered your channel nearly 3 months ago , and I enjoy your content and advice. I am visably disabled since birth ,I have hemipledgia which effects one side of my body and the amount of times people will sit in the disability seats and watch me struggle to keep standing while the bus is moving is unreal , even having a walking stick doesnt get it through to them .
Being pregnant at 18 is definitely a case-by-case basis, I thought that I could provide for my son but then I realized that I just couldn't so he got adopted into the family. Obviously it is a case-by-case basis but you have to know yourself and know your body and know your responsibility levels to understand what you are able to take care of and it doesn't matter what your parents think it is up to you because it is your child and your body
Most of the time it’s a bad decision. At the least it’s not the best people are against teen pregnancy because teens aren’t fully developed themselves and the child will suffer from their ignorance and neglect in most cases
the tattoo story with the bf & gf... 28:30 THIS. exactly like you said, people get very defensive and view it as a personal attack if you don't like their tattoo. but the thing is, we all like different things and if i don't like what you like, who cares as long as YOU enjoy it? but in a relationship... yeah that can cause issues. my ex got a lot of tattoos while we were together. they would ask for my opinion for them, and some of the ones i really didn't agree with, for example, they got a big tattoo around their neck which i personally think is too much. then they would get upset every time they would be like "it looks so nice!" and i would just not say anything or say something like "good for you!". that was always my strategy with their new tattoos that i didn't like, not commenting on them unless they specifically asked for what i though about them. also now that we're broken up, they continue getting more tattoos, some of which i like and some i think are ugly lol. that being said.. after the neck tattoo it took me a long time to get used to it. i still thought they were attractive in the end but maybe it was because i was blinded by love hahaha
I have a blackberry bush on my inner arm as a memorial to my dad. Mom’s favorite flower will later be added. The blackberry bush was actually my tattoo artist’s idea, instead of my original plan (which was a stupid plan anyways). I love my tattoo and have decided to get more done! Also, can I be your adopted sister?
When my Husband's Mum started talking about grandkids. We went out and bought baby clothes and dressed up the cats and sent her pictures of her "Grandchildren".
I know this video is from last year, but thabk you for the part about "if they kicked you out they don't love you". I was kicked out when I was 19, I never did anything wrong never did drugs or alcohol, always did as a was told (my mum got a new partner & he didn't like me & I think my mother saw me as competion, absolutely gross & disgusting because I was not & am still not interested in anyone old enough to be a grandpatent in this case 🤢). I feel you on the having parents that didn't do what they should have & the trauma that brings, so thank you for that reassurance. Afterwards when I cut contact she would try the "I love you and I care about you and miss you" rubbish. It is hard sometimes, but I know I did the right thing cutting contact altogether & I still think my parents shouldn't have had kids
100% agree No You Are Not The A-Hole For Not Coming Out when you weren't ready or comfortable!! My dad tried to pull that same "you shouldve told me sooner" crap with me when I didn't come out to him as bisexual but he saw a bi pride post on FB. So yeah he was the last to find out, because when I was 16 he told me straight to my face he didn't think bisexuality existed. I purposefully witheld my orientation from him specifically (all my friends knew, everyone in my family knew except for him and unfortunately my Nonna rip) because I knew he'd try to challenge me on my identity, which I had a very hard time coming to terms with since I only really accepted my same-sex attraction once I was in college and just couldn't deny it anymore. I wasn't about to put myself through someone else putting me down after I finally found the courage to say outloud "I'm Bisexual". Wasn't gonna let him tell me "no you're not/that's not real/you're either straight or gay". And he was extremely upset with me, it probably did damage our relationship even more during the lowest point in our relationship as father and daughter, he was *pissed* that I even dared keep something like this from him. He said and I quote "I should've been one of the first people you told". And maybe he would've been, if he wasn't such an a-hole. ☆☆ If your kid doesn't wanna come out to you there is probably a good reason why ☆☆ The way this kids' family reacted is probably the exact reason why he didn't come out tbh. I hope the best for OP going forward, not the a-hole, the family is.
My parents always told me when I was a kid and I would dye my hair that I could do anything with my hair or make up, I couldn't do piercing/tattoos until I was on my own. But I felt very comfortable with just dying and cutting my hair as self expression because even though my dad hated it, his response was always "you can look at dumb as you want" like yes it's degrading, but that was as far as the conversations would go. So in general, id say it's pretty supportive compared to what he could have said. 😅
I kind of love the phrase "you can look as dumb as you want"... It has a weird hidden layer of kindness to it. If you have the self confidence from openly expressing yourself in a healthy way, you don't care as much what others think of you. It gives "I am cringe but I am free" & I dig that.
The mother who got the same tattoo as her son, surely she's making it up cos nobody could follow her deranged thought process. Your tattoos are looking so good, please do a video on them.
I don't know some people's thoughts process is messed up. I told my adult younger brother he should stop grinding his teeth and he responded that I wasn't going to be paying for his dental work so he was going to continue to grind his teeth.
I think that either she saw his tattoo and agreed that it was cool and decided to get it anyway, thinking how cool it would be to have a matching tattoo with her son, and decided to do it but also decided to be dishonest with him about why she got it, because then he would hate it in a different way than hating it as a perceived punishment. As a punishment, it's still rebellious and cool, as a mother son matching tattoo, it's lame af. I don't know I wasn't there.
Okay... So i personally live in the bible belt of the USA. I was in a relationship and got pregnant at 18. I was pressured to get married. Done so. We have another child 2 years later. Long sorry short the marriage didn't last 4 years. We changed so much I'm that little bit of time, and he was a bit abusive. Didn't have my own income. Lost absolutely everything in the divorce because choices were made that we're out of my control and not the best for me and my children. Fell into addiction spiraled out of control temporary lost my children rightfully so I straightened up and I've been clean for years. Got my children back got my life straight. But take it for me please think about these things before you make those decisions they are life-altering and as Rolly has mentioned, make sure the both of you have your own incomes. You do change so much in those few years.
Being on the pensioner seats in AUS and dealing with chronic pain and lots of ailments that dont show on the outside is the worst. Ive had the same thing happen as the last AITA. Especially when everyone glares, and then someone demands to explain why you are sitting there. 😓
Okay, the first story already bothers me, haha. I am someone who ponders about my next tattoo for a long time-I want them to be meaningful, and because I have a lot of moles, the placement is usually an obstacle for me to figure out. I don't really understand getting a tattoo "just because," as I don't want to regret it later or wish I'd put more thought into it. BUT! If people want to get tattoos just to get them or because they find the process cathartic-chatting with my artist while her playlist goes wild is honestly so relaxing, so I get it-then that's fine. This parent just sounds like a judgmental, holier-than-thou type of person. It's fine to tell younger people to think about what tattoo to get because of the permanance, but stealing away their thunder just to be "superior"? What? This person needs to unpack that complex they're carrying around.
I got my nips pierced at 18. I also got my first tattoo, my nose and belly button pierced. I wouldn't dream of consulting my parents opinion or approval for them. It's not their body. I've never consulted or asked their opinion on any of my body mods since. Who on earth thinks like this!? Also, if you can't accept your kids are autonomous beings and will one day be adults and be able to make adult decisions without you, don't have kids.
I really like your videos. AITA is being done by many now a days, but you seem to be the best. Many don't even understand the details they read but you do. Thanks for being you!
That story about the person with the prosthetic leg needing the disabled seat really hits me hard. I am Deaf and have strong symptoms of Meniere’s Disease, which also affects my balance and my hearing. I would need to sit down for the whole ride too, and if someone came up to me and yelled at me for not giving up my seat I would be so mad! It’s dangerous to stand in a moving vehicle if you have balance problems! Why can’t some people understand that? Just because we have an invisible disability doesn’t mean it’s not real 😭
My parents were very homophobic when I was growing up, and I only came out once I'd moved out (to a different country). They said it was fine, but I could tell they weren't okay with it at the time. Glad I waited. When I moved back, after a few years, they seemed to have come around. My younger sister came out as bi later, and she said that me coming out first had really helped her.
The amount of people that say "oh, but what about your mum? Don't you think she wants grandchildren" ... no. 32 yrs ago when she was planning a child I doubt she was thinking "oh if I have a child I'll be able to have grandchildren" I'm greatful I never received that pressure from my parents. Can't say the same for the mother-in-law though 😅
I've just found your channel and would just like to say how wonderfully refreshing and articulate you are. Such a pleasure to watch your videos, and you do make me laugh too. Keep up the wonderful you 😊 xx
The story with the person with the prosthetic leg made me so irritated because I had some older gal get very angry with me because I was using the larger bathroom stall and practically chased me out of the bathroom because she felt like I was being unreasonable using the large stall (I was 19 at the time) and making her wait just a minute. To give context I have no visible signs of problems until I go to sit down I have hip issues (brought on from the hard labor jobs I’ve worked a lot of my life) that make it very painful at times to sit in the smaller stalls especially when the stall is very narrow and has a bunch of bins in there hanging on the sides of the stalls (tampon bin, trash bin and toilet paper dispenser) so I always prefer to use the larger stall so I have space and the pull-up bar when I go to leave so I don’t deal with as much pain. At the time I was fairly shy and didn’t stand up for myself so I left feeling somewhat ashamed, but I know I was never in the wrong to use that stall because I do have issues and if I ever deal with another lady like her I will make it abundantly clear and won’t at all feel ashamed for taking care of myself. I do wish they made stalls in America more reasonable tho.
As someone with an invisible disability, I've actually found having my cane (which I only need sometimes) on public buses. Sad that people need an obvious aid to keep them from being ableist but tis the world
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I loved the underlying music during your rants. Made me feel like I'm listening to a sermon. 😊
loved this video🥰
l like everything about you Roly. These latest contacts are really cool... they just jump out at me, you fabulous woman on the go!!!!
Lotsa love my dear🌺🌸💕❤️
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Something about the reasoning of “tattoos shouldn’t be mainstream and need to have a ✨deep meaning✨ because my relative got one in the military” has similar vibes to “you’re not allowed to feel this way because somebody has it better/worse than you”. I can’t explain it but they have VERY similar levels of ick; other people’s lives and experiences should NEVER dictate the validity of your own.
Oh yes very that!!! 100%
Exactly. I've been feeling bad about my tattoos because they don't "have meaning". Truth is, all my tattoos mean a lot to me because I've been thru a lot of trauma and it shows that I've overcome a lot. It makes me feel pretty and confident. It makes me feel happy when people notice and compliment my art. I really do work hard for what I get done. Even if it's a silly inside joke tattoo, it probably means something to someone.
@@Kakmanmartinez666same!!
Don't care
@@sushiacid Obviously you do since you commented. Go be miserable somewhere else
These insane parents are going to be those "why don't my kids call me?" type of old people.
Oh very that!
Having tattoos actually makes you more qualified for a job because of the fact that you can sit still for hours while a needle is being rapidly poked into your skin. That's how almost every encounter with a customer has felt like for me.
I just audibly wheezed at your comment, so thanks. Have a like.
Hahaha absolutely!! 😂
IDK I can take a needle being rapidly poked into my skin for hours while I'm still af than a mean customer. I can take physical pain a lot better than emotional pain lmfao
🤣🤣🤣😎👍 Yep. Same.
I'd much rather sit through needles poking into my skin than deal with a customer. 😂
The 'nipple piercing' parents sound like the type to think normal teenage behavior is 'rebelling' the level of controlling vibes I got were pretty significant even in written form. Those parents are a-holes 'if I can't dictate your every move, I'll make you homeless.' like wtf?!
Yeah, I get the vibe of an ultra conservative Fundy type situation. With the belief that children don't have any rights (especially girls) and don't have the expectation of privacy in the shower
My exes family found his copy of bizarre magazine, in his CLOSED backpack with no reason to open it, and literally said they’ll kick him out if he brings “that filth” into the house again…. I used to read it on the sofa next to my mum and she’d read it too as while she was very much not into anything personally other than the music often featured, she was always fascinated by the strange ways people find enjoyment and was never judgmental about it other than expressing yup, that is pretty bizarre but as long as they aren’t hurting anyone that isn’t consenting it was just interesting to her to read about.
The (very common) irony is, he’s now an @busive 50 shade’s style c u next Tuesday who literally stole medicine from his pharmacy job just in case he needed to “end someone’s pregnancy” without consent and is a raging cheater, meanwhile I’m in a happy monogamous committed relationship and looking to start a loving family. What they thought my tattooed,pierced, from the ghetto self was, is their own son in part due to their high expectation, low trust, conservative Christian sheltered life, yet my liberal leftie biker parents who helped and guided me but were never super strict have the child in law and hopefully soon to be grandchild they wanted,but never pressured me in to.
Tldr strict parents often make THE WORST kids…
Also nothing against polyamory it’s just not my thing. One SO is plenty enough 😅
@@elaexploreryeah, this. You don't just accidentally see your kid's naked body in the shower. Gtfo of the bathroom while they're showering.
Yeah I hate that just any decision I made for myself is seen as "rebelling" like I was literally just being an autonomous person.
I feel for the16 year old so deeply, he needs to find supportive people asap. Horrible family 🤬
Yeah same! I’m sure he’ll be okay in the end
I can't imagine a parent kicking a child out over something as trivial as a piercing. My daughter's style looks exactly like Luxuria except she has piercings like Rolly. Do I miss her natural look? Yes. Did I drive her to the piercing salon? Yes.
Good on you for supporting your daughters preferred style, it’s actually important for a parent/child relationship ❤
This^
the whole argument of "these piercings are okay because *I* think they are pretty. These ones are not okay because *I* think they're ugly." is the most insane thing that so many people still believe is an acceptable thing to say.
Imagine telling someone they weren't allowed to wear a T-Shirt, because you thought it didn't look as good as a buton up
My parents are like this and it’s so annoying😭
thats so true, like its not their choise its the person doing its choice, if she thinks it pretty thats all that matters… end of story
The craziest part to me is that it's on her nipple. Like, you're upset cause you don't think your daughter's breasts are pretty????
This is seriously breaking my brain a little bit 😭😭
the parents who kicked their daughter out over her piercings reminds me a lot of my parents. In the sense that: the daughter -could- be rebelling, but it's also just as likely that she's just doing the things that she likes now that she is capable of making those decisions on her own. And because the parents are so used to having control and dislike these choices, they must be teenage rebellion. Pretty much anything that I enjoyed that made my parents uncomfortable was labeled "rebellion" and was a reason to treat me like I was far less thoughtful and intelligent than they knew I was.
That actually makes a lot of sense
The 16yo who was outted by his uncle, I have complete empathy for him. I was 15 when my family found out, and they had the EXACT same response. I hope he knows; he'll survive this and be ok. It's the family who will miss out in the long run if they don't find it within themselves to learn tolerance and acceptance. He is after all, the same person they loved before they knew.
Sorry you had to experience that as well. I hope you and everyone who's been through that the best in life. You deserve the best and good luck!
My son was outed at school by one of his friends, it’s still affecting him today. Why couldn’t they just let him decide what to do in his own time
Thank you for highlighting the fact that if someone isn't comfortable talking about their disability, they shouldn't have to. My disability is very visible, so I don't have similar issues, but I know people with invisible disabilities who have these struggles.
This. I am visually impaired. I have adapted to the point most ties you can't tell. I do trip on air hough. So yeag the thought od using a cane to help has crossed my mind. As soon as some people see a cane though they assume you can't see anything. God forbid you use a phone while using a cane around some people. It is not an easy topic to discuss for the visually impaired community. It is sad to think a lot won't use a cane because of what othres think and feel like they would have to constantly eplain themselves.
My father was against tattoos, especially anyone female getting them. I told him I wanted to get a tattoo and he said I could only do it after he died. I did wait, and I got the exact one I talked about with him as a memorial. 😈
Oh wow 😅
That is verbatim what my dad said about tattoos omggg😅 he is alive thankfully, but I got 3 small ones in one go this year, he has yet to see the 3rd tho 👀
Telling your daughter that her nip piercings are "ugly" and that's why you disapprove has got to be the CREEPIEST reason to hate a piercing. Either this guy was looking for an excuse to kick her out or he's effing CREEPY.
Aw that poor 16 year old. My youngest daughter doesn't want children, she's married and that's fine. I wish I could be his mom. I would accept you for you. You did not have to apologize. You did nothing wrong sweetheart. They should be apologizing for treating you the way they are.
i feel so sad about that 16 year old being outed by his uncle and being called disgusting . . . i can empathize, my self-entitled mother still expects me (i'm currently 30 year old woman, and this has been a thing since i came out in high school) to have a grandchild . . . i've never had interest in childbirth, let alone kids. :x
Piercings are not only accepted but are so benign that medical professionals have them. When I had to get a cortisone shot in my arm, the woman performing the procedure had a nose stud and more earrings than me. The older ladies at the reception desk all had nose studs. What century are these parents living in?
As a teacher I am so pained to see how the world is treating children. Absolutely awful
I love how roly says how he feels but also respects other peoples different decisions. And is not insulting anyone
I came from a similar origin as you, Roly. Except my mom didn't give us up... but she should have. I was the eldest of four girls. I helped raise my sisters and my mom, essentially. I was abused in every way (one way by a friend of my mom's), while she abused us and various substances.
I didn't think I was supposed to become pregnant because of the year long attacks I had endured from that friend of my mom's. So when I did at 18, I was surprised. This was after a solid year of being like a bunny with my fella (who I'm still with today! We met in 97.), and then one day... I had to go to the ER. Found out I had gallstones, because of hormone changes because I was pregnant.
I absolutely did the best I could for my daughter, but my Bonus Mom had a home and a car, and could provide better for her. That, and after her birth, I was hit with Postpartum depression on top of my severe depression. I never had urges to hurt her... but because of my PTSD and other issues from growing up, I was afraid I was going to just do 'some thing' wrong and she'd be hurt as a result. Like losing sleep, hyper-paranoia levels. I wanted so badly to be a good mom. And so I was, by admitting I couldn't. I still feel like a failure about it sometimes though.
She's a pretty good adult now though. She's been holding down a trying job in a nursing home for a few years now. She is engaged with a bloke from Australia that she will marry soon-ish. COVID set things back for them. She wants to move there with him. She hasn't always made the best choices... but I have always loved her. We've always had a relationship, and we actually have a fair bit in common. She might not always like how blunt I can be, but she has known I am here for her. I'm just still a bit feral, as I call myself.
TLDR; I'm a fucked up person because my mom shouldn't have been a mom. I became a mom, and it fucked me up further for a bit. If you don't want to go through any sort of worries... Birth. Control. Make it your bestie. Even you guys.
I just want to say that you sound like the exact opposite of a bad mum! You did the very best thing you could for your child even at the expense of your own feelings because as a mother I can guarantee it hurt deeply to give her to someone else.
You did an amazing and completely selfless thing and that shows how amazing you are as a parent ❤
@@Esmealice Thank you for thinking and saying so. She was with my Bonus Mom, so she wasn't far or out of reach. I sometimes have problems building attachments to people, so I was very much a work in progress a lot of her life. But, I still tried my best, and eventually found a therapist that really helped me to better understand myself, and to just be more mindful. That's really helped me grow as a person. I was in my mid 30s when I was finally becoming a better me, but I knew early on that I had issues. And always tried to work with/past them.
It's never to late to do better, I think. And just because you were born in a cycle of abuse, doesn't mean you can't break it and do better. I may have been stern or growly at my daughter, and told her hard truths... But I never abused her physically. I never belittled her or called her any sort of bad name. I think my faults might have been exposing her to my potty mouth a bit in general, and again, sometimes I might have been a little to honest in conversations. But they were usually when I was concerned about things she was doing. Like sending things to boys with her cell phone that she shouldn't have. In many states, she, and maybe even Bonus Mom might have been charged with making and distribution of CP. I know a lot of kids are making this stupid mistake, but I didn't want her to be doing it. Once it's on the Internet... That's kinda it. So, I thought it was very important to lay out the why's what she was doing was wrong. I got chastised by her dad and his mom. I just wanted her to be safe.
But, this is why after her, I also took steps to not be a surprise mom again. I got the Implanon/Nexplanon. Every three years. If there was one thing my mom did right... She taught me what not to do/be ( ◜‿◝ )♡
@@Dessamator if it makes you feel any better, my 4 year old has literally just copied a bad word that I said lol.
It sounds like you have done everything in your power to protect your daughter. They say only good parents worry about being a bad parent.
Keep going, it sounds like you are doing an amazing job
@@Esmealice But isn't it just the cutest when a little kid cusses? Or is that just me? (≧▽≦) Thank you again. I actually do feel a bit better. And here, I was trying to have maybe Roly feel less alone in his situation, and give advice to anyone who might need it (◍•ᴗ•◍)❤
I totally agree about people getting so weird about having or not having children. For example: My mother is SO adamant about me having children, specifically biological ones. Like putting aside the fact I don’t want to be pregnant (as of now) and I don’t particularly care if any potential child were biologically mine or not… Girl, you KNOW there isn’t gonna be an easy and cheap way for me to achieve that I’ve told you I’m gay a long time ago! Yet, whenever the topic comes up she acts like I’m stupid and naive.
My first tattoo is a lavender because my dog used to always take naps by our lavender plant in the backyard. It's a memorial for my best bud, and I plan on getting more tattoos to represent my family. I also plan on getting bees, for example, solely because they look nice and I like them. As long as it makes me happy, who cares? The first parent is wildly hypocritical and needs to do some self reflection.
That's such a nice tattoo/meaning! ❤ but ye also agree that tattoos don't HAVE to have special meanings - if you like something enough to want it on your body, then why not!
I have a small random flash design of three flowers with stems as 'arms' and 'legs, holding 'hands' and running together - simply because it made me smile and it's cute 😌😆
The meaning can simply be "I saw it, it was cool, and I wanted it on me forever". That's more than deep enough on its own.
Your story about being judged on the train by people who didn't see you do the right thing reminded me of an experience I had. My bf at the time and I were visiting his sister in LA and she took us to a pool party. We were in line for the bathrooms to change into our swim trunks and noticed an elderly woman standing nearby. When a bathroom opened, we offered it to her and she quietly said in somewhat broken english that she was just waiting for someone else, so my bf went in. While I waited, another woman lined up behind me. When the next bathroom opened, I started towards it, but the woman behind me started shouting that I should let the elderly lady go first. She wouldn't listen to either of us and just kept telling the older lady to go ahead until she did. The kicker is that when the next one opened up, she cut in line to take it before me. I wish I wasn't so non confrontational at the time. The things I wish I had said to her lol
I'm very pro choice but Jessssuuss suggesting an abortion to someone who is already convinced of having the child is very disrespectful
Agree!!
The whole point of pro choice is that the option is there, not that you have to use it.
@@girlybirb I know, but my point in saying that is that I'm not against abortion
Clearly suggesting abortion isn't black and white especially when the said person is a child themselves, but deadass imagine being remembered as the one family member that wanted a child in the family to go back to salamander state in the family reunion 💀
Also, suggesting is one thing, insisting on it is definitely tooooo much
Please make this a recurring thing! It's so fascinating and love hearing about all the crazy situations people get into!
Fr!!! My mom pesters me about having a baby and I'm like 'you got baby money?' I can barely pay my bills and she KNOWS that 🙄 The audacity
Oh Roly, that poor teenager that didn’t come out to the parents? That’s so heartbreaking! With a family like that, it’s no wonder they stayed silent.
I also think a lot of adults must forget what high school was like. I was treated horribly, so unfortunately I can never forget.
Every little thing has the biggest impact. And we’re not talking about a little thing here.
If teens don’t feel unconditionally accepted, how are they supposed to come to you with the really important stuff? Parents need to be aware how they come across. They are often the ones who built the wall in the first place.
As a mother with tattooed kids I can’t believe how vile that mother’s attitude is. I want my kids to love their art, it’s a reflection of them!!! Even if I didn’t particularly like something I wouldn’t say so since it’s not about me. I have my own (:
40:00 Almost the exact same thing happened to me! People unfortunately often don't realise or believe that young people can also have a valid reason to use those seats... They're not "for the elderly", they're for people in need. I hate that young disabled people almost have to 'exaggerate' or 'show off' their disabilities in order for them to be treated properly :( Where I live, the trains even have signs hanging that say "not every disability is visible", but then people and the staff still treat you badly.
I fear the same situation with the person with a prosthetic leg. I'm blind, but you can't really tell just from looking at me. I prefer to sit at the front of a bus because I struggle to see stop numbers, and it's always a worry in the back of my mind that someone will confront me for a seat, not realising my eyes are messed up. Living with a mostly invisible disability (disability in general) is difficult.
Oh my gosh! As a woman who doesn’t want children, I can’t tell you how much I appreciated you talking about the issue surrounding this subject for anyone who doesn’t wish to give birth of have children. This is something that makes me feel like a failure every day, even though I know I’m not. To anyone who feels like me, women especially, you are more than a baby-making machine, more than just an appendage, love your life girls and gays, be you! Above everything! LIVE YOUR LIFE FOR YOURSELF❤❤
My MILindoctrinated my partner that he had to settle down and have children from a very young age. On our first date, i told him out right that I'm never ever having children. First thing, my MIL asked me when we met was about children. Fast forward 6 years to me getting my tube removed, FINALLY, my partner finally got the courage to tell his mother that he never wanted children and would have regretted having them. Fyi his sister gave her three grandchildren she's practically raising, because SIL can't. So yeah young children get told they have to have children
As a mum of 2 boys and 1 boy that really wants tattoos (I have them, so I'm not worried), all I said to him is never tattoo a name on you unless it's your children's name. I would NEVER get the same tattoo as my son to prove a point. That is just weird.
That poor 16 year old lad. I would never call my son disgusting or that I'm disappointed in them.
Your tattoos look absolutely stunning!! I’m so over the moon as well, just completed my piercing journey! (Ears, septum, navel, snakebites) sending love to you🖤
Oh amazing! So glad you have completed what you wanted! I bet they look awesome!
The ableism one hits hard. I have an invisible disability and because I'm a young woman, people don't think that I do. But if I try to stand on a bus or train, I will feel awful and may faint or fall over. I feel so self conscious using a disabled seat because I know people will think I dont need it. There was a lovely bus driver once who saw that I could barely walk (I was using my cane that day, so it was more visible than other days) and no one would get up for me so the bus driver parked the bus, came back, and made some people get up. She did her best not to make me feel bad too, she just went up to the boys sitting there and said "these seats are reserved for the pregnant, disabled, and elderly" and stared them down until they got up so I could sit.
Ha! Yes the rant about not wanting children. As a women, who cannot have children the amount of times I get asked when I am going to have children and get judged for saying I’m not is rather annoying. However I do like the look on their faces when I say I am unable to have kids due to medical reasons.
This is why no one should EVER ask someone if they are going to have kids! If they’re childfree they may be just a bit grumpy at being asked, but they could desperately want a child and can’t have one, and you don’t know that. So I would NEVER ask anyone that!
The one with the prosthetic leg reminds me of a situation I witnessed on a bus. A young lad of about 15/16 was sitting quietly in the disabled section. A woman came on and immediately told the young man he needed to move because a "lady" should get priority seating. He didn't say anything, and didn't move. She kept banging on with her sexist rhetoric until finally he, silent as ever, pulled up his trouser leg, pulled off his prosthetic leg, and sat it right in front of her. The driver, who witnessed all of this via the mirror, pulled the bus over and ordered the woman (who turned out NOT to be disabled) off the bus. The young man put his leg back on, she left the bus only after threat of legal action by the transit driver, and the issue was over. No-one has x-ray vision. We should never assume someone is able bodied or healthy just because of how they look. There is enough b.s. and hatred in the world already. It will not kill any of us to just be kind and a little open minded.
It’s so validating to hear you say that nobody is entitled to grandchildren. I’m lucky my dad I I’ll be okay so long as I have a dog someday, but mum will take a bit longer to come around 😅
As a 17 year old female, my mom doesn’t mind my piercings at all, I have two nose piercings and my double lobes, and my belly button… my dad doesn’t know about my belly button (my mom does and just makes fun of me for it cause it’s “very 80s) we plan on not telling him for a long time 😂. My dad is conservative but very open minded. He’s come to terms with my sexuality and loves to go to drag shows with me even if he doesn’t really understand, but he thinks it’s fun. Someday I’ll tell him… after we get the matching tattoos on my 18th birthday 😂 he’s also not too fond of tattoos but he wants to get something meaningful with me, which I’m very thankful for
Re: the young mum - even if everything goes well in the relationship, things can go wrong. My cousin married her boyfriend after she got pregnant at 16, and they had 2 kids and were together for 20 years. And then he was suddenly found to have cancer and died within 6 months and her "extra income job" was all she had to live on. She's worked hard and made herself a career in the years since, but the adjustment was hard for her - even above losing her husband.
About the parents not being entitled to grandchildren thing, I have many health issues that are hereditary. They cause extreme chronic pain and fatigue. They're all incurable, only manageable. My doctor said I can't have children, that I'd have a high chance of dying. When I told my father, he got upset, not that it could kill me, but that I couldn't have a biological child. He later suggested a surrogate, but I said no, my condition is hereditary and I wouldn't want to take the risk. Then he suggested adoption, but I told him with the pain and fatigue I couldn't chase after a child. He's basically ignored everything I've said and is now deluding himself into thinking I'll give him a grandchild eventually. I'm not telling him I'm getting a tubal ligation, that's my business, not his. It's also worse now because my younger brother has a baby on the way...
That story of the girl with the prosthetic leg hit me personally, I don’t have a prosthetic but I’m very young looking at 35 and often people give me weird looks when in the priority seat or when losing my balance standing. I have arthritis pains often and major balance issues from coordination problems. Like I always need my cane for people to get the hint that I need a seat
I've had horrible times lately and you always cheer me up, I haven't had energy to comment in a long time but I just want to say that your videos are entertaining AND they have big impact on people. Wishing you all the best ❤️🧡💛💚🩵💙💜🩷🌈🌈🌈🌈🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈
Sending lots of love to you!!
I’m sorry you’ve been going through tough times, but hey, you’ve got this, you can get through these times. All bad things end, trust me 🩵 i believe in you 100% 🫂
You are having a hard time, but you're still here and fighting. Be super proud of yourself!
It’s cold and rainy today where I am, so Roly uploading is exactly what I needed to get comfy with some hot tea. 😌
I do sometimes love the cold rainy cosy inside days! 🥰🥰 hope you enjoy the video x
@@RolyWestYT 🤗🤗
My mum kicked me out for getting a job, couldn't imagine what would happen if I got a piercing or tattoo 😅
You were kicked out because you got a job? What? I’m so confused 😂😂😂
@RolyWestYT I was 16 and got my first part time job to help pay for uni. My mums response was "if you're so grown up that you have a job, you can get out of my house and never come back". No talk about helping with bills or anything, just bye bye and off I went. Jokes on her though, got into uni, got a great job, got married, and had kids. She now begs to see my kids and to borrow money constantly
thinking of the guilt tripping around having children-- I work at a grocery store, and one of my huuuge pet peeves is children crying in public areas. occasionally, when customers complain or comment on the child screaming in the store, I'll make a joke about not wanting a kid; like "and that's why I don't want one!" or "I'm perfectly fine with my animals". the amount of men that have frowned at me and said "you'll change your mind" and "it'll happen one day, I used to think like that"....
love the grossness and mysoginy.
my mental state is at an all time low at this time...but I am so lucky to be able to come to Roly's channel for comfort and laughs🥰 we appreciate you so much I mean I know I do❤
Well now the parent has to explain why they have that tattoo and what the significance is. 😂😂😂😂
There is none! They have become what they ridicule. Hah!
so happy you uploaded Roly! Also, jesus the reactions i've had from past colleagues when the topic of me never wanting children has come up - I totally agree with what you said about them possibly having to convince themselves it was the right thing for them. makes you feel so on the spot and awkward though 🙃
I love rolys outros "ooooo jesus was a BOTTOM!" 😂 you are the coolest person with great comedy ilysm ❤
I had a similar thing happen to me at a bus stop. A middle-aged woman came up to me and told me that I need to get up and let her sit because her legs hurt from walking and I look young... I did get up and let her take my seat, but what she didn't know is a few months ago I broke my back in 2 places and had metal screws and plates put in my spine during a 4 hour surgery so walking and standing still hurts quite a lot... it's so frustrating people assume stuff about you 😒
Yes you never know if someone has an invisible disability! I’m 54 and I have dodgy knees but I wouldn’t expect anyone to stand for me.
@ilanarhian exactly. I'm 38 and almost ended up on a wheelchair. Doctors say it's a miracle I have feeling in my legs after my accident.. they compared the impact to a bad car crash.. It's the demanding tone that gets me. Anyone can have chronic pain or an invisible disability... but because you don't look it, people immediately assume you're just lazy...
It's so refreshing to hear so many stories that don't have clickbaity titles. I feel like so many are trying to mislead you for some reason, but with these you know where it's going from the start. it's nice, I like it.
Yes!!! It’s always a great day when Roly gives us an AITA! ❤️
I would love to make these on here more often
@@RolyWestYT I’m sure I can speak for everyone here and say that we’d love that too!
I can't even imagine having parents so unaccepting that they'd kick me out for a piercing. I'm almost 26 and still live with them. Since I turned 18, they've had the attitude that I can do what I want, and the consequences are mine, but they'll support me if the consequences happen (well, most things they'll support me 😂)
To kick a child to the kerb over a removable, hidden piercing. To kick any of your offsprings to the kerb is disgusting.
I'll never understand why people want to dictate others choice in getting a tattoo. Not all of mine need to have meaning. But if they ask, it's apart of my healing journey after all the things I've overcome in life. I was able to cover up my self harm scars this year with a beautiful piece. I'm working on a JoJo's bizarre adventure patch work sleeve. Body modification is my way of coping and it's built up my confidence so much! I love how I look with my tattoos and piercings, and with my confidence I've met the most amazing boyfriend I could ever ask for. He doesn't have mods himself but loves how I look and supports my lifestyle.
Also I'm so happy with how your sleeves are coming along! I see them on Instagram and I'm happy for you!
Hello beautiful Roly! So nice to see your smiling face!
Seems like a lot of these stories are about parents being confused over how much control they have over their growing children. I have 3 grown babies and I can tell you that most parents have it backwards.
When their kids are small, they’re less attentive on a certain level, probably bc the child challenges them less. But once the kid is a teenager and now the parents want to clamp down?? That’s when the young person should be taking on responsibilities, stretching their own wings, going out in the world n trying things(hopefully safe) while still having that solid base of nurturing to check in with, ask questions of, get wisdom from. Like Luxeria says, punishment breeds liars. Clamping down hard on your young adult kills emotional intimacy and separates a parent from their child. Momanddad? Chill. Let them go and learn for themselves (and kids? Pls pls don’t do anything too permanent too early)
Couldn't possibly have said it better!!❤
the parents upset about the daughter getting piercings probably freak out abt normal teenage behavior. they kinda remind me of my mom who said i would get kicked out if i shaved my head (i think she doesnt want me shaving my head because then ill look like a boy but jokes on her i already get mistaken for a boy at work every day so haha mom)
A few weeks ago I had made a comment on someone’s video just saying something about me being 32 & personally not wanting to have children & literally within the minute it was posted, I had a lady grilling me about WHY I don’t like kids & WHY I have such a resentment towards “innocent sweet little babies”, etc. I was like….dude I simply just don’t want to have kids. Period. She literally took personal offense towards a single 32 year old RANDOM female NOT wanting to birth a litter of crotch fruit that I have to be responsible for for at least 18 years. Like lady, I can hardly keep just myself alive, relax. Lol
The story about the 18 year old getting married and having a child being a disappointment to her father because he “raised her to be independent and make their own choices” and then got upset because she literally lived her life the way she chose to and not live how he wanted her to…. 18 is legally an adult. Her child was wanted, her husband is clearly happy with her being a stay at home mum…. I don’t see what his problem is… seems like his feelings mean more to him than her happiness. Hate parents like that.
Post screams misogyny, which I suppose is meant to be ironic with the focus on "independent women" (who do exactly what their daddy says.)
YES, I'd love for you to do more of these :) Also, I really appreciate you speaking up about ableism, because it happens A LOT and as someone who has a hidden disability (mental illness) and can't work, I've had several people from my family tell me that I'm "just lazy, attention seeking and want free money", which couldn't be further from the truth and there's definitely still quite a lot of stigma around hidden disabilities, whether it's a mental or physical disability.
I could never understand what it is with adults thinking/feeling entitled to control their children or grandchildrens bodies and what modifications they should or shouldn’t have done to their bodies , like it’s the weirdest thing to me ! My mom wasn’t a fan of piercings , by allowed my big sister to go and get my ears pierced when I was an infant who couldn’t consent to it or even know what was happening 😂.but she would never kick me out she all ways would say when your 15 we’ll talk once I told her I was interested in piercings, I got snake bites when I was 16 and then it was 17-18 you can go wild , but mostly she would use piercings as a reward for good grades and behavior so to motivate me to do good 🤷🏽♀️
Roly, I am in the same boat as you, almost. The only family I have left is my mother, but she lives far away in a nursing home with Alzheimer’s. So I’m already pretty much alone. I do have some anxiety about that.
I wish I had the friendship circle and support you have found. That’s huge. ❤
Sending you hugs and love. 😊
God you’re so real with the Valentine’s thing. I get so annoyed at ALL the people with the “what about me!!!!!!!” effect. I’m aromantic, I never want to be in a relationship. But god I love Valentine’s Day. The world does not revolve around you.
Main character syndrome!! ☠️☠️☠️
My parents threatened to throw me out over my septum. My mother told me I looked like a cow and I screamed at her “FINE ILL BE A COW THEN” I will never understand why people react this way.
I don’t tell them anymore when I get piercings because I don’t want to hear it anymore.
*reads title* oh no, Calum kicked out Roly! 😁 no Roly, you are NOT the a-hole 🤪❤️
He’s trying to kill me
My bonus-son comes from a family like that. He couldn't tell anyone he is gay and when his parents found out, his mom didn't stop crying and his dad stopped talking to him. He hasn't seen him in almost 3 years. I am 48 and he is 20. I cannot have children and when i met him and learnt of his story, I just said "I am your mom now". People just suck. He is the most wonderful son any parent could dream of. Their loss.
I am currently on a Roly binge and I absolutely love you. ❤ I have been dealing with a lot of anxiety and stress and your amazing self and personality just immediately lifts my heart! Thank you for being you.
Yes! AITA has made a full recovery just like JESUS❤
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I discovered your channel nearly 3 months ago , and I enjoy your content and advice. I am visably disabled since birth ,I have hemipledgia which effects one side of my body and the amount of times people will sit in the disability seats and watch me struggle to keep standing while the bus is moving is unreal , even having a walking stick doesnt get it through to them .
Being pregnant at 18 is definitely a case-by-case basis, I thought that I could provide for my son but then I realized that I just couldn't so he got adopted into the family. Obviously it is a case-by-case basis but you have to know yourself and know your body and know your responsibility levels to understand what you are able to take care of and it doesn't matter what your parents think it is up to you because it is your child and your body
Most of the time it’s a bad decision. At the least it’s not the best people are against teen pregnancy because teens aren’t fully developed themselves and the child will suffer from their ignorance and neglect in most cases
I left home at sixteen, the straw that broke the camels back was getting my nose piercing... But yeah there's usually a lot more to it 💜
the tattoo story with the bf & gf... 28:30 THIS. exactly like you said, people get very defensive and view it as a personal attack if you don't like their tattoo. but the thing is, we all like different things and if i don't like what you like, who cares as long as YOU enjoy it? but in a relationship... yeah that can cause issues. my ex got a lot of tattoos while we were together. they would ask for my opinion for them, and some of the ones i really didn't agree with, for example, they got a big tattoo around their neck which i personally think is too much. then they would get upset every time they would be like "it looks so nice!" and i would just not say anything or say something like "good for you!". that was always my strategy with their new tattoos that i didn't like, not commenting on them unless they specifically asked for what i though about them. also now that we're broken up, they continue getting more tattoos, some of which i like and some i think are ugly lol. that being said.. after the neck tattoo it took me a long time to get used to it. i still thought they were attractive in the end but maybe it was because i was blinded by love hahaha
I have a blackberry bush on my inner arm as a memorial to my dad. Mom’s favorite flower will later be added. The blackberry bush was actually my tattoo artist’s idea, instead of my original plan (which was a stupid plan anyways). I love my tattoo and have decided to get more done! Also, can I be your adopted sister?
Lovely 🥰❤️
When my Husband's Mum started talking about grandkids. We went out and bought baby clothes and dressed up the cats and sent her pictures of her "Grandchildren".
This is a beautiful response and totally something I would do too! Pets are much better than kids!❤
I LOVE your contacts! They make it look like your eyes are glowing!
Thank you!
Love your energy I am not part of the LBGTQ+ comunity but am slowly learning about it through you and Jammidodger. Thankyou
I know this video is from last year, but thabk you for the part about "if they kicked you out they don't love you". I was kicked out when I was 19, I never did anything wrong never did drugs or alcohol, always did as a was told (my mum got a new partner & he didn't like me & I think my mother saw me as competion, absolutely gross & disgusting because I was not & am still not interested in anyone old enough to be a grandpatent in this case 🤢). I feel you on the having parents that didn't do what they should have & the trauma that brings, so thank you for that reassurance. Afterwards when I cut contact she would try the "I love you and I care about you and miss you" rubbish. It is hard sometimes, but I know I did the right thing cutting contact altogether & I still think my parents shouldn't have had kids
100% agree No You Are Not The A-Hole For Not Coming Out when you weren't ready or comfortable!!
My dad tried to pull that same "you shouldve told me sooner" crap with me when I didn't come out to him as bisexual but he saw a bi pride post on FB.
So yeah he was the last to find out, because when I was 16 he told me straight to my face he didn't think bisexuality existed.
I purposefully witheld my orientation from him specifically (all my friends knew, everyone in my family knew except for him and unfortunately my Nonna rip) because I knew he'd try to challenge me on my identity, which I had a very hard time coming to terms with since I only really accepted my same-sex attraction once I was in college and just couldn't deny it anymore.
I wasn't about to put myself through someone else putting me down after I finally found the courage to say outloud "I'm Bisexual".
Wasn't gonna let him tell me "no you're not/that's not real/you're either straight or gay".
And he was extremely upset with me, it probably did damage our relationship even more during the lowest point in our relationship as father and daughter, he was *pissed* that I even dared keep something like this from him.
He said and I quote "I should've been one of the first people you told".
And maybe he would've been, if he wasn't such an a-hole.
☆☆ If your kid doesn't wanna come out to you there is probably a good reason why ☆☆
The way this kids' family reacted is probably the exact reason why he didn't come out tbh.
I hope the best for OP going forward, not the a-hole, the family is.
My parents always told me when I was a kid and I would dye my hair that I could do anything with my hair or make up, I couldn't do piercing/tattoos until I was on my own. But I felt very comfortable with just dying and cutting my hair as self expression because even though my dad hated it, his response was always "you can look at dumb as you want" like yes it's degrading, but that was as far as the conversations would go. So in general, id say it's pretty supportive compared to what he could have said. 😅
I kind of love the phrase "you can look as dumb as you want"... It has a weird hidden layer of kindness to it.
If you have the self confidence from openly expressing yourself in a healthy way, you don't care as much what others think of you. It gives "I am cringe but I am free" & I dig that.
The mother who got the same tattoo as her son, surely she's making it up cos nobody could follow her deranged thought process.
Your tattoos are looking so good, please do a video on them.
Honestly at this point and seeing the shit I do this would not surprise me if it was true
I don't know some people's thoughts process is messed up. I told my adult younger brother he should stop grinding his teeth and he responded that I wasn't going to be paying for his dental work so he was going to continue to grind his teeth.
I think that either she saw his tattoo and agreed that it was cool and decided to get it anyway, thinking how cool it would be to have a matching tattoo with her son, and decided to do it but also decided to be dishonest with him about why she got it, because then he would hate it in a different way than hating it as a perceived punishment. As a punishment, it's still rebellious and cool, as a mother son matching tattoo, it's lame af. I don't know I wasn't there.
Okay... So i personally live in the bible belt of the USA. I was in a relationship and got pregnant at 18. I was pressured to get married. Done so. We have another child 2 years later. Long sorry short the marriage didn't last 4 years. We changed so much I'm that little bit of time, and he was a bit abusive. Didn't have my own income. Lost absolutely everything in the divorce because choices were made that we're out of my control and not the best for me and my children. Fell into addiction spiraled out of control temporary lost my children rightfully so I straightened up and I've been clean for years. Got my children back got my life straight. But take it for me please think about these things before you make those decisions they are life-altering and as Rolly has mentioned, make sure the both of you have your own incomes. You do change so much in those few years.
Being on the pensioner seats in AUS and dealing with chronic pain and lots of ailments that dont show on the outside is the worst.
Ive had the same thing happen as the last AITA. Especially when everyone glares, and then someone demands to explain why you are sitting there. 😓
Love your content - really cheers me up when I’ve had a stressful day ❤
Thank you!! 🙏🏻
Love the Koudelka soundtrack in the background 💫
Final Fantasy IV Theme of Love in the background? Truly, you are a man of taste.
I love that I can hear Melodies Of Life from FFIX in the background, great soundtrack
Okay, the first story already bothers me, haha. I am someone who ponders about my next tattoo for a long time-I want them to be meaningful, and because I have a lot of moles, the placement is usually an obstacle for me to figure out. I don't really understand getting a tattoo "just because," as I don't want to regret it later or wish I'd put more thought into it. BUT! If people want to get tattoos just to get them or because they find the process cathartic-chatting with my artist while her playlist goes wild is honestly so relaxing, so I get it-then that's fine.
This parent just sounds like a judgmental, holier-than-thou type of person. It's fine to tell younger people to think about what tattoo to get because of the permanance, but stealing away their thunder just to be "superior"? What? This person needs to unpack that complex they're carrying around.
Oh totally!! He’s clearly got some issues going on and it’s showing in weird ways
I got my nips pierced at 18. I also got my first tattoo, my nose and belly button pierced. I wouldn't dream of consulting my parents opinion or approval for them. It's not their body. I've never consulted or asked their opinion on any of my body mods since. Who on earth thinks like this!? Also, if you can't accept your kids are autonomous beings and will one day be adults and be able to make adult decisions without you, don't have kids.
I really like your videos. AITA is being done by many now a days, but you seem to be the best. Many don't even understand the details they read but you do. Thanks for being you!
I have friend who are child free and i dont blame them with how our society has turned out n the cost of living crisis xx ❤ love you rolly
All ways enjoy you and your various guests reactions to reddit stuff its always such a fun take!
Thank you! I love making these
That story about the person with the prosthetic leg needing the disabled seat really hits me hard. I am Deaf and have strong symptoms of Meniere’s Disease, which also affects my balance and my hearing. I would need to sit down for the whole ride too, and if someone came up to me and yelled at me for not giving up my seat I would be so mad! It’s dangerous to stand in a moving vehicle if you have balance problems! Why can’t some people understand that? Just because we have an invisible disability doesn’t mean it’s not real 😭
My parents were very homophobic when I was growing up, and I only came out once I'd moved out (to a different country). They said it was fine, but I could tell they weren't okay with it at the time. Glad I waited. When I moved back, after a few years, they seemed to have come around. My younger sister came out as bi later, and she said that me coming out first had really helped her.
The amount of people that say "oh, but what about your mum? Don't you think she wants grandchildren" ... no. 32 yrs ago when she was planning a child I doubt she was thinking "oh if I have a child I'll be able to have grandchildren" I'm greatful I never received that pressure from my parents. Can't say the same for the mother-in-law though 😅
Never had that either, when I was single a long time my mum told me to get a dog instead of a man😂 because dogs are better 😉
@@ilanarhian your mum is wise 😊 mum always said to live my life and make sure I do stuff before settling down if I even want to settle down.
I've just found your channel and would just like to say how wonderfully refreshing and articulate you are. Such a pleasure to watch your videos, and you do make me laugh too. Keep up the wonderful you 😊 xx
The story with the person with the prosthetic leg made me so irritated because I had some older gal get very angry with me because I was using the larger bathroom stall and practically chased me out of the bathroom because she felt like I was being unreasonable using the large stall (I was 19 at the time) and making her wait just a minute. To give context I have no visible signs of problems until I go to sit down I have hip issues (brought on from the hard labor jobs I’ve worked a lot of my life) that make it very painful at times to sit in the smaller stalls especially when the stall is very narrow and has a bunch of bins in there hanging on the sides of the stalls (tampon bin, trash bin and toilet paper dispenser) so I always prefer to use the larger stall so I have space and the pull-up bar when I go to leave so I don’t deal with as much pain. At the time I was fairly shy and didn’t stand up for myself so I left feeling somewhat ashamed, but I know I was never in the wrong to use that stall because I do have issues and if I ever deal with another lady like her I will make it abundantly clear and won’t at all feel ashamed for taking care of myself. I do wish they made stalls in America more reasonable tho.
We need more abled allies like Roly 💜
As someone with an invisible disability, I've actually found having my cane (which I only need sometimes) on public buses. Sad that people need an obvious aid to keep them from being ableist but tis the world
Roly, you are not the A-hole, you are the handsome and gorgeous hunk that comes up on my notifications all the time and I’m loving it - and you do have a genuine, caring side as well 😍😍😍😍😍😍
I just recovered from a quick but ridiculously painful stomach bug, perfect way to recover,
Thanks rolyyyy